When Your Adult Child Makes You Feel INVISIBLE (4 Signs)

Does your adult child make you feel invisible? Maybe they roll their eyes, talk over you, or act like your voice doesn’t matter. This kind of subtle dismissal can wear you down—but you are not imagining it, and you are not alone.

In this episode, I’m walking you through 4 signs your adult child is dismissing you—and how you can respond with strength, clarity, and self-respect. We’re not talking about lashing out or giving up. We’re talking about standing firm, protecting your peace, and reclaiming your worth—one choice at a time.

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
If you're watching this video,your adult child has probably made
you feel invisible, unheard, ormaybe even completely dismissed,
and maybe you get the eye rolls.
Maybe when you speak, maybe they'reinterrupting you constantly.
For those of you that are incontact, or maybe you just feel
like your feelings don't matter.

(00:21):
And so I want you to know something thatthis is not about you being too sensitive.
This is about them showing you no respect.
And today I wanna change that for you.
I have four points for you.
So let's dive right in.
Number one is startnoticing the subtleness.

(00:43):
You know, there are subtle put downsthat people do, and I think once I name
a few of these, you're probably gonnarealize that oh yeah, I have noticed that.
Or I did notice that in the past.
And it's not always this loudor dramatic yelling or arguing.
Sometimes it's the sigh, The sarcasm,the way they scroll their phone or

(01:05):
their eyes, and when you're trying tospeak and they're not paying attention.
when someone tells you that you'retoo emotional or you're always
making things about you, now grantedthere might be some truth in that.
Are you making thingsabout you all the time?
Maybe.
Maybe you're not.
Those are some things that youneed to consider for yourself.

(01:26):
But what happens here typically is whenyou feel yourself almost shrinking.
That's not you being overly sensitive.
That is you picking up onthis pattern of dismissal.
And so when I say that, I want you tothink about internalizing, you know,
rather than internalizing that shame of.

(01:46):
Oh, I'm shrinking down, or I'm tooemotional, or I'm making things about me.
I want you to start identifyingwhat's really happening.
And so maybe it is just like,Hey, I feel like my concerns
are just being brushed off.
And we have to remember, thisis also how we say things.
It's not just the words.
You know, we always talk about our kidsand how, they're rude or disrespectful.

(02:09):
We have to make sure that we arespeaking respectful to them as
well, no matter what we have to say.
It can be said in love, even whenyou're expressing boundaries or even
if you're expressing some thingsthat you're really struggling with.
Like when you interrupt melike that, it really shuts me
down or it hurts my feelings.
So you don't have to yell, you don'thave to argue, but you have to name it.

(02:31):
You have to tell them what you'refeeling and you start by doing
that to yourself first, right?
number two is, this is somethingthat moms do all the time, is stop
explaining yourself over and over.
so many moms tell me I just want tobe understood by them, but really in
hopes of that, you start overexplaining.

(02:52):
You tell, you start telling themyour side of things again and again
maybe you try to change your tone.
Maybe you're even getting to thepoint where you're scripting your
word because you don't want them totwist anything on you because you've
had that happen a million times.
you don't have to do all that.
You are allowed to say, listen, I'veexplained how I feel about this, and

(03:16):
I don't need to keep repeating myself.
I love you.
That's not being rude.
It's healthy.
every time you try to convince someonewho is not open to listening, if
that's the case, you're handing overa piece of your own piece, literally.
And so it's just you get in thiscycle and you can love your child,

(03:37):
but you don't need permission, right?
you matter just as you are as a mom.
if this is resonating with you if youare a mom tired of explaining yourself,
maybe you're tired of feeling dismissedand holding it all together by yourself.
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(03:58):
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So I just wanna tell you what makesthis year incredibly special for me

(04:21):
is for the first time my daughteris going to be joining us after
everything that we've been throughestrangement, my addiction, our pain.
And God's healing hand.
Now she is going to join us for asession at the retreat where she's
gonna do a live q and a with you, themoms, and she's going to be answering

(04:42):
your questions and showing youfirsthand that restoration is possible.
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If you have any questions, just email us.

(05:03):
We'll be happy to answer those for you.
number three is Be willing tohit pause when it gets ugly.
If every conversation turns intothis tug of war, you know what,
my friend, it's okay to step back.
It's actually healthy.
And remember, you're not doingit out of spite, but you're
doing it out of self-respect.

(05:25):
You could even say, you know what?
This isn't productive.
Let's revisit this when we'reboth calm, If something's not
productive, why continue to do it?
So maybe you're even having to say,depending on, on what's being said to you.
I'm not okay with beingspoken to like that.
So I'm gonna end thisconversation for now.
Not forever, just for now.

(05:46):
But then you have to follow through.
you need to walk away.
You need to hang up the phone.
You need to postpone the visit.
You need to do what you need to do,but that is not being difficult.
It's being grounded in who youare, and you're showing them how to
treat you by how you treat yourself.
lastly, number four is don't lettheir voice be louder than God's.

(06:09):
maybe they've said thingsthat broke you to your core.
maybe they've labeled you,ignored, you, blamed you.
Been super disrespectful, buttheir words don't get to define
you because you are loved and youare seen, and you are still worthy,
even if they're not telling you so.
spend some time reconnecting withtruth, Surround yourself with the

(06:32):
voices that build you up, becausewe all know there's a lot of voices
that we can listen to, right?
They're not all good.
They're not all positive.
be very discerning on what voices youare listening to and just remember
that their dismissal says moreabout their pain than your value.
you are still here.

(06:53):
You are still whole, and you get tochoose how you take it from here.
I hope this helped.
I will see you in the next episode.
God bless.