Will My Estranged Adult Child EVER Come Back?

Will My Estranged Adult Child EVER Come Back? Will my estranged adult child ever come back? It’s one of the hardest questions a mother can face, and the uncertainty can feel overwhelming. In this episode, we’ll talk about how to navigate this heartbreaking reality, how to release the need for control, and what it means to find peace—even when reconciliation feels far away. Through gentle steps, we’ll explore: 

1️⃣ Acknowledging and grieving the pain.

2️⃣ Letting go of what you can’t control.

3️⃣ Shifting your focus to your healing journey.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of waiting and wondering, this episode will help you take the first steps toward reclaiming your life and your peace. 💌 Don’t forget to subscribe for more guidance and encouragement for moms walking this difficult path. You’re not alone.

 

Episode Transcript

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Have you ever asked yourself, willmy child ever come back to me?
That is a question that can be soconsuming, and it consumes your
heart, it consumes your mind,and it leaves you heartbroken.
navigating estrangement from an adultchild, is one of the most painful
experiences that a mom can face.
But what if finding peace in theprocess doesn't depend on their return?

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today I want to talk about threethings that you can do now, even when
the future with them feels uncertain.
I know that it is hard to wonder dayafter day if they will come back, right?
And like I said, it's heartbreaking,it's confusing, and it feels
like that's all you think about.
But what if that key to peace isn'tnecessarily in their return, but in how

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you take care of yourself in the meantime?
today I want to talk about how tonavigate that because you need to find
healing even when answers are not clear.
Number one is I want youto acknowledge the pain.
Because we need to be real here,accepting that your adult child

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might not come back feels unbearable.
And it's okay to feel the weight of thatand to sit in that for a while, right?
Grief shows up in somany ways, as you know.
If you're watching this video, Iguarantee you're in some stage of grief.
You might be sad, you might beangry, you might be feeling guilty,
and it's normal to go throughall of it over and over, right?

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So I want you to think about how youwould comfort a friend through this.
if you had a friend coming to you,as much as possible, again, unless
you've been through this, it's hardto empathize, but I have a feeling you
would tell her that it's okay to cry,it's okay to feel upset, and it's okay
to miss what could have been, likethe time that you've lost, but I want

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you to give yourself that same grace.
Because you do not have to haveit all together to start healing.
God will use every single tear.
I promise you that.
And he's going to put people in yourlife to help you navigate this process.
Number two is let go ofwhat you can't control.
We talk about this all the time, butas moms, we want to fix everything,

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especially when it comes to our kids.
We do it out of love.
Most of us are doing it out of love,but the hard truth is you cannot
control their choices or when they'regoing to be ready to reconnect.
So remember, letting godoesn't mean giving up hope.
It means releasing the constantneed to figure it all out, right?
Schedule that worry time, sit init for a little while, but then

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you got to get back up and startmoving forward in your own life.
So, it's kind of like tryingto control the weather, right?
We hope for sunshine, butwe can't stop the rain.
But you can grab an umbrella, Andtake care of yourself in the storm.
This is no difference.
This is probably the biggeststorm you've experienced.
And so we need to be kind to ourselves.

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For those of you that are ready totake the courageous step, I will
say, because it is very courageous totake this step toward taking care of
yourself during this difficult time.
It's not easy.
But if you're looking for a lifelineand you're committed to finding
peace and support, then I want toexplore with you how I can help.
I have an opportunity, for a discoverycall, it will be linked below, it

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is an opportunity to focus on yourneeds, your journey, and see if we're
the right fit for coaching together.
Spots are limited, and I know a lotof you have reached out to me, so
please only sign up if you're seriousabout prioritizing your well being,
embracing your own personal growth,and investing in your healing.
So if that is you, I lookforward to chatting with you.
You can click the link in the pinnedcomment or in the description, and

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then we can schedule that call.
lastly focus on healing yourself.
I feel like a broken record, but trulymy friends, this has to be done because
as hard as it is to stop focusing onyour child and what they're doing,
but what happens if we stop thatand you turn that focus back on you?
Because the truth is yourhealing does not depend on them.

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It's something you can start today,no matter where your relationship is.
Because I can promise you something, frompersonal experience, had I not worked on
myself, while my daughter was gone, andnavigating her own journey, I realize,
after a long time, a lot of mistakes, sodon't get me wrong, it's not like I didn't

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make all these mistakes, I did, but that'swhy I'm here to help you, you can't pour
from an empty cup, had I not navigated myown journey, and got my own healing, and
health back, you can't pour from an emptycup, you're always pouring out energy
to everyone else, even emotional energyyou need to take time for self care.
You need to, whether it's taking a walk,prayer, quiet times, you know, plug

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yourself back into your life because a lotof you are unplugging and you're isolating
and that's what a lot of people do.
But you'll feel stronger and more at peacein a very short amount of time because
when you start feeling better physically.
You're going to start feeling betteremotionally and things are going to start
coming together, but sitting there doingnothing and just complaining about it or

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staying in the pit will not serve you.
I hope this helped.
I'll see you in the next video.
God bless.