The Common Thread: Communicating Across Every Part of Your Life

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Summary

In this conversation, Dr. Nashay Lowe explores the nuances of communication, emphasizing the importance of adaptability without losing authenticity. She identifies three foundational elements of effective communication: clarity, curiosity, and care. Dr. Lowe discusses how communication patterns are often consistent across different areas of life and provides practical reflections for real-time application. Ultimately, she presents communication as a practice that evolves with us, highlighting its significance in various relationships and settings.

Key Takeaways

We all adapt our communication based on context.
Adaptability is a sign of emotional intelligence.
The goal is to communicate from the same center.
Clarity, curiosity, and care are foundational to communication.
Communication is co-created, not a monologue.
Patterns in communication repeat until addressed.
Building skills is about noticing yourself.
Intention, emotional data, and self-awareness are key.
Communication evolves as we do.
Mastering a few strategies is more effective than learning many.

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Episode Transcript

Dr. Shay (00:19):
Welcome back to the Resolution Room, where we turn
tension into transformationthrough clarity, connection, and
consistency.
I'm your host, Dr.
Nashay Lowe, and this is aspace where we explore what's
really underneath the momentsthat challenge us and how they
can lead to something morehonest, more human, and more
whole.
So let's get into it.

(00:41):
We all adapt our communication.
The way you speak in a strategymeeting isn't the same way you
talk to your partner or yourbest friend, and it shouldn't
be.
Context matters, culturematters, safety and belonging
matter.
But underneath those shifts,there's a common thread, a set

(01:02):
of transferable skills thattravel with you everywhere you
go.
In this episode, I want to talkabout those skills, the ones
that remain constant no matterwhere you are or who you're
with.
Because when you understandwhat mixed communication work,
you don't lose yourself intranslation.
You simply learn to move withintention.

(01:22):
Segment one adaptation versusauthenticity.
Let's start here.
Adaptability is not the enemyof authenticity.
It's actually a sign ofemotional intelligence.
We all shift our tone andlanguage across settings, and
for good reason.
Some environments requireprecision, others require

(01:43):
warmth, some moments call forbrevity, and others for
vulnerability.
But what gets tricky is when weconfuse style with substance.
When we overadapt, we riskleaving our voice behind.
When we underadapt, we risk notbeing understood.
The goal isn't to speak thesame everywhere, it's to

(02:04):
communicate from the samecenter.
That inner consistency is whatallows your communication to
feel aligned even as your outerexpression adjusts.
Because if you can't bring yourcore values and clarity with
you across contexts, you end upperforming communication instead
of practicing it.

(02:24):
Segment two, the transferablefoundations.
Across every domain,professional, personal,
familiar, and relational, threefoundations hold steady clarity,
curiosity, and care.
Clarity is about knowing whatyou want to say before you say
it and being able to communicateyour intent clearly.

(02:48):
It's the discipline of meaningwhat you say and saying it in a
way that others can understand.
Curiosity is about recognizingthat communication is
co-created.
It's not a monologue, it's amirror.
When we approach others withgenuine interest instead of
premature conclusions,conversations become
collaborative instead ofcompetitive.

(03:10):
And care is what allows truthto land.
It's what softens the edge ofdifficult feedback or helps a
disagreement become a dialogue.
No matter the setting, thosethree qualities hold.
Clarity keeps you honest,curiosity keeps you open, and
care keeps you connected.

(03:30):
Segment three, communication asa pattern, not a performance.
Here's what I've learned fromworking with people across
sectors and relationships.
How you communicate in one areaof your life is often a preview
of how you communicateeverywhere else.
If you tend to avoid conflictat work, you probably struggle
to address it at home.

(03:50):
If you over-explain in yourfriendships, you might do the
same with your team.
And if you have trouble askingfor help personally, you may
resist delegatingprofessionally.
The patterns repeat until youdecide to work on them.
That's why buildingtransferable communication
skills isn't about masteringscripts, it's about noticing

(04:11):
yourself.
Because the skills that makeyou a more grounded leader at
work are the same ones that makeyou a more compassionate
partner, parent, or friend.
Segment four, applying this inreal time.
Here's a reflection you can usewhen a conversation feels tense
or misaligned, whether it's atwork, at home, or somewhere in

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between.
Ask yourself, one, what's myintention here?
Not what I want to win, butwhat I want to understand or
build.
Two, what's the emotional datain this moment?
What's being said, but alsowhat's being felt?
And three, what version of meis leading this conversation?

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Is it the reactive one, thefearful one, the grounded one?
Those three questions can helpyou start to shift from reacting
out of habit to responding outof alignment.
Segment five, a closingreflection.
At its best, communication isn'ta skill, it's a practice.

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It evolves as we do.
And when we build it withawareness, it travels with us
across boardrooms, classrooms,and even kitchen tables.
The same clarity that improvesyour leadership will strengthen
your marriage.
The same curiosity that helpsyou manage conflict at work will
deepen your friendships.

(05:41):
And the same care that softensa family argument will make your
team more resilient.
That's the real work.
Not learning a thousand newstrategies, but mastering the
few that never expire.
If this conversation resonatedwith you and you're ready to
strengthen how you communicateacross all parts of your life,
this is the work I do every daywith leaders, teams,

(06:04):
individuals, and organizations.
You can explore my programs,workshops, or community
offerings at Lowinsights.com.
More information are in theshow notes.
Because the more transferableyour communication becomes, the
less you need to code switchyour values to belong.

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