Surprise! The Bride was Pregnant

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Ever wondered what surprises lurk beneath those winter wedding parkas? Let's wraps up the "We Listen and Don't Judge" series with a heartwarming tale of unexpected revelations and thoughtful timing. 

This episode features a seemingly straightforward winter elopement that took a surprising turn when the bride removed her heavy coat after the ceremony to reveal a beautiful baby bump. The quick-to-plan, private ceremony suddenly made perfect sense—the couple wanted to announce both their marriage and pregnancy to family during Christmas gatherings, presenting their loved ones with the complete picture rather than facing questions about timing.

I reflect on how pregnancy often influences wedding plans, sharing stories of couples who reschedule ceremonies, plan strategic elopements, or even orchestrate surprise weddings at gender reveal parties to navigate family expectations. Remember -  "first babies come whenever, but second babies take nine months"!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:04):
Welcome to the Wedding Wear with officiating by
Amanda.
The Wedding Wear Surprise thebride was pregnant.
The bride was pregnant.
Hey everyone, amanda here andwelcoming you back to the

(00:30):
Wedding Wear.
We are wrapping up our weListen and Don't Judge series.
I think last time I called itthe no Judgment June.
We love that no Judgment Juneseries with this episode.
If you find this one fun,please go back to the last

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couple.
We've got some real interestingones from the groom having a
black eye, the mother of thebride being drunk, the father of
the groom going on a long, longwinded speech at the reception
and the couple that was alreadymarried to other people.
So please note that these werenot all one wedding.
They were separate weddings.
I think if they had all beenone wedding that would have just

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been far too much for me.
I don't think I would have beenable to not judge.
So this week's story is shortand sweet and quite literally
surprising.
So it's the wedding where thebride was pregnant, but I didn't
know that until right after theceremony.

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So a lot of times a couple ispregnant or planning to be, or
recently found out that theywere by the time of their
wedding and they let me knowthey either want a line included
in the speech or they have justhad a baby, so they certainly

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want more than one line changedin the speech.
I in fact had a bride once.
I'd been booked like a year anda half in advance and we got to
like two months out and Ihadn't heard anything from her
and I emailed and said, hey,what's going on?
She's like oh my gosh, I knewwe forgot somebody.
I'm like what do you mean?
Forgot somebody?

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And she's like I'm pregnant,I'm due the week of the wedding.
We've moved the wedding outanother year and a half Awesome.
She's like I totally forgot totell you Like we changed the
venue, we changed the DJ, likewe've done a lot of stuff.
You good with this date now, ayear and a half in advance.
I'm like yes, I am, let's moveit.
So a lot of times I get filledin, which is really awesome and

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really cool.
It's not needed, it's notrequired at all, but there's
some really cute touches thatcan be done.
If I know about a pregnancy, soI didn't obviously know about
this one the couple found meonline and it was very quick and
very clear.

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They need to elope, just goingto be the two of them and me.
No photographer, no one zoomedin, nothing like that.
Between Thanksgiving andChristmas I was reached out, I
think, like the week ofThanksgiving.
So we had to work really fast.
We booked fast, we worked fastand we did a chilly winter day

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outdoors.
It was just me and the couple,and did I mention it was cold?
So big, puffy, michelin man,marshmallow guy, parkas, big
parkas.
They had their own vows.
They had the ceremony recorded.
A lot of times for quickelopement.

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I don't really have that.
A couple kind of just wants tosay I do and a few pictures.
They don't really do itrecorded because maybe they've
got something bigger going ondown the line, a bigger ceremony
, something more formal, not aproblem.
And after the ceremony theywere like were like hey, can you

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just take a few pictures?
I'm like, yes, of course it'syou, me and the trees here.
Friend, I will gladly take somepictures for you.
And I grabbed the camera thatthey wanted me to use and I'm
doing the transitioning.
You know, I'm looking down,clicking buttons to make sure
I've got the right lighting andthe zoom and all that jazz.
And as I'm prepping, the bridetook off her parka, coat.

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And when I looked up, well,there it is A big, beautiful
round like a basketball babybump, beautiful, absolutely
beautiful.
And it clicked.
I went oh, I understand nojudgment over here, just

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understanding the timing, therush, the winter date.
It turns out that they were notgoing to be seeing their family
at Thanksgiving but they wouldfor Christmas, and so they
wanted to have all of thesepieces kind of brought together
for Christmas of we got married,we are pregnant, we are happy

(05:13):
and not have anybody question.
Well, wait, when exactly didyou get married?
When exactly?
Or you do just kind of let itbe as it is and really good for
them.
They were really happy with thepictures.
They're happy that they'regoing to be able to show their

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child someday that like, look,there you are.
And they just wanted the momentto be theirs, without any sort
of judgment or pressure, withoutanyone saying you you know you
shouldn't get married justbecause you're pregnant, or
someone encouraging you to do itfar earlier in a pregnancy when
you might not be feeling up toit.

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It's just what they wanted andkind of having everything in
place for when they would nextsee their family members was
very important to them.
Surprises at weddings happenmore than I thought that they
would, and maybe that's becauseI'm a planner and in my realm
not a lot happens with surprise.
But there have been reallysurprising elements in a lot of

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weddings that I've been a partof, either for the couple, for
the families or for myself, andI have found over the last 11
years is that pregnancy is oneof many reasons that people will
do an elopement or move up awedding, move back a wedding, do

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something quietly for just thecouple and a party leader.
I actually had a couple thattheir family had some really
deep thoughts about themexpecting but not being married.
They were engaged but thefamily was very like, oh, a
child born out of wedlock.
And so the couple worked withme to plan a surprise wedding to

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be done at the gender revealparty so that it would kind of
pacify everybody and reallyreally kind of cool.
You don't have to, it's yourlife.
You do not have to take anyoneelse into account or what
families think or feel.
But if you want to, there'sways that we can do that and
take care of that, and I, withthis wedding, I certainly

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laughed a little bit.
I was remembering of a saying offirst babies come whenever, but
second babies take nine months,and that's just life, and I'm
sure that that might be a littlebit more of how they explain it
to their family or to somepeople.
It was very common in the oldendays, you know, to cover up

(07:58):
that there was a little bit ofpremarital fun going on, was
that?
Oh yes, first babies, they canbe born after four or five
months, but wait, that's not aproblem.
First babies come whenever.
It's second kids, third kids,fourth kids, all future kids
Once you are married andestablished.
They all take nine months.
Yep, they have to, they have tocook that long.

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And so as I took pictures ofthis beautiful bride and her
husband, I started thinking like, okay, they'll go for Christmas
, they'll talk with their family, and she maybe, maybe, had
three more months left.
So someone's like, wait, okay,if you guys got married sometime

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in the fall, fall before we sawyou for the holiday, that still
would only put the kid at likeseven months.
I mean, somebody's going to domath they all do but it just
reminded me of the saying thatfirst babies come whenever and
all the rest take nine months.
What else I like having some ofthese little themes throughout a

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couple of episodes.
Are there other themes you'dwant me to do Like you want me
to do a whole one into unityceremonies and talk about a
different one each time?
Do you want me to dive on intovows and just be talking about
the good, the best, the ugly,the worst?
Let me know through comments oremails what you would like to

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see, because I could definitelydo something up for July and
August.
Until next time, this has beenAmanda.
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Amanda.
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