Things I meant to say naked

Today’s episode features an anonymous letter from a listener navigating the blurry, emotionally charged terrain of a situationship that refuses to stay casual. After a recent divorce and a firm decision to “take things slow,” what begins as an easy reconnection slowly turns into daily check-ins, intimacy, emotional support, and mixed signals that don’t quite line up with the label nothing serious.

Together, we unpack what it means w...

Today's episode wraps up our three-part series on situationships.
(And if you haven’t heard the first two yet, I highly recommend you give them a listen first.)

Now that you know what a situationship is, let’s talk about what happens when you realize… you’re actually in one. In this final chapter, we’ll explore your options—whether you choose to stay, redefine the relationship, or walk away.

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Welcome to part 2 of our three-part series on situationships.
Today, we’re diving into the long-term psychological effects of situationships—and why so many of us leave one only to slip right into another. Cue: “ReLEase ME!”

Situationships are relationships that form and maintain themselves with ambiguity. 

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Welcome to part 1 of our three-part series on situationships.
Today's episode dives into why they happen and why they are so common. This episode is part one of a three-part series exploring the dating phenomenon of situationships. 

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Citation and stuff I read:

Delizo, S. K. ...

In today's episode, we go into the inglorious history of the glory hole, its queer cultural significance, and what it reveals about ourselves — changing what we mean by 'vulnerable'. 

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citation and things I read in preparation for today's episode:

 Ashford, C., & Longst...

Maybe you love horror—or maybe you’ve even AI’d yourself into your favorite final girl. Or… you’ve got a thing for masked men. In this episode, Figs dives into the rising interest in predator/prey play and mask play (a.k.a. the “Ghostface kink”). Play hide and seek with figs as she tries to understand: why the chase can feel hot, how fear flips into desire, and what consent, context, and safety look like when you want to be caught.

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The dick pic. Or should I call it: genital gerrymandering?

Today's episode focuses on just how common are dick pics? Why our penis princes send them? And what to consider before concocking a photo creation.

Citation and things I read for this episode:

Anderson, K. J. (2010). Benign bigotry: The psychology of subtle prejudice. Cambridge University Press.

Beres, M. A., Herold, E., & Maitland, S. B. (2004). Sexual consent be...

Just because we are healing doesn't mean life catches up with us. Today, we will talk about how you can be in therapy, journaling, and setting boundaries… and still repeating toxic patterns. You’ll get: red flags to watch in yourself, antidotes, and maybe learn how to call in softness to yourself and your relationships. 

Things I’ve read and citations:

Gottman, J., & Schwartz Gottman, J. (2016). Level 1 clinical trainin...

It sounds funny, but for many couples, pets in the bedroom can spark real tension around intimacy. Do you let them stay? Do you kick them out? And what does each choice say about us? Figs dives into our desire, boundaries, and relationship with pets in “Do we let the dogs out?”

citations and things read in preparation for today's episode:

Bancroft, J., & Janssen, E. (2000). The dual control model of male sexual response...