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Others have a way of
just handing to you large bounce
of the truth.
And I mean, not alwaysnecessarily the thing that you
want to hear, nor do you alwaysagree with it, but I remember a
couple of years ago after I'dbeen through a breakup.
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I was just hurting.
And it was a hurting that hadbeen there forever.
And it was like oh no, the thethe whole, the heart is getting
bigger.
It's bigger.
It's as big as it's ever been.
And I and I had thought that Ihad that I had healed that
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thing, you know, and I realizedI was just filling it with these
things that, you know, could bepeople, could be, could be
moments that made me feelbetter, loved, or wanted, or
validated, or whatever bouquetof belonging you can have for a
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minute until it just withersaway and just dies.
Um and my mom has said, youknow, she was like, you know,
Mama, you think you can fixeveryone.
You think you have this beliefthat you have to fix people.
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And I will show up in ways thateven imply that there is
something to fix, or that I havedone that for uh a long time.
And I think I've sat with thatfor I mean, at least a couple of
years now, and it was it was itwas real and it was true, and it
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was one of those pieces that Iwas happy to be shown about
myself.
Because I you I think when yourintentions are in a place of
what you think is like the rightplace, a place of like love and
and wanting above anything to beable to show up for someone,
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even when they're not doing thething that you think that they
should be doing or feel, andlike you want to you want you
want to support them andbecoming the best version of
themself, um, which happenedoften in the past for me.
I I was thinking about thistoday um in yoga.
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There is there is I I enjoy yogaclasses when a mirror is in
front of you.
Um and I'm never really theperson that will go and sit
right in front of the mirror,like first row mirror type
thing, unless it's a really darkroom, because I'm not there for
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that reason.
You know, like I want to putdown the part of me that's
always correcting thisreflection, and yet I want to
see my form and I want to seethe grace that I bring to yoga
by seeing my reflection frommaybe one row back or or
whatever it is, but I'd want afull-body glimpse of my body in
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the mirror because it makes mefeel good and connected.
And today I was on my mat and Igot into the room first.
There's nobody else in the room.
The studio was pretty hotalready, and I just chose a new
spot.
I chose a new spot because Iwanted some new energy.
And when I was laying my matdown, you know, I got up to get
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my my water filled and probablyturn my phone off and then get a
block.
And when I got back to my mat,there was a guy sitting right in
front of my mat.
Like he put his mat in the firstrow in front of me, you know,
sat down, looked straight athimself, and I could not see
myself beyond him.
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And this was really infuriatingand annoying and rude to me
because, like, hello, there's awhole room in front of you.
Like, I, you know, maybe it's myresponsibility to like
accommodate, but I he literallyput his like just in line with
my yoga mat.
And I was like, What fuckingdecade are you in?
Like you know, you're apractitioner, like you shouldn't
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block the person behind you.
Like, we all want to look at thefucking mirror, and I was so
annoyed.
And I pinched my yoga mat overand I huffed and I puffed and I
looked at him in the mirror andI looked at my mat and I looked
at him again, and then I senthim very bad vibes.
I did, I looked at his mat and Iwas like, I hope you have a
terrible practice.
And I don't regret doing that.
Maybe a part of me was like,Morgan, love and light.
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Send him love and light, but Ididn't want to send him love and
light because he's big dummyhead, and I hate his gut.
And I hope I hope that when wedo some side body stretching and
some and some knee across yourchest, you know, like that, like
maybe he would just let out agiant fart.
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Like that's what I wanted forhim.
That's what I wanted for hispractice.
And clearly I still want it,even after a particularly
challenging yoga class.
And so that being that, we getinto the flow, and I am pretty
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close to my reflection in themirror, and I'm not I'm not in
love with the person that I seestaring back at me today.
Like I uh I have I have bangsright now, and I was pretty
gung-ho about getting these badboys, and I feel that way.
I, you know, this is the age oldbang story, but it they just
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didn't look great today.
Like, I didn't feel the way thatI felt looking at them recently,
which is that they're adorable,and I am also adorable.
Instead, they seemed very poofyon my head, and all my hair felt
poofy, and I felt like I justlooked poofy, and and they were
just parts of my practice that Iusually enjoy watching in the
mirror.
Like, I enjoy watching my mywaistline and like my legs
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stretch in certain poses.
Like, I like watching glimpsesof that because I feel strong in
my body and I feel like I likethe silhouette of my movement,
and if that makes me intomyself, then I am so into
myself.
But at the same time, I just Iwas trying to just be okay with
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the fact that maybe I didn'twhat you know didn't feel like
the person looking back to metoday was the sexiest person in
the room.
I like to feel that way, and I'mnot saying that that's the
truth, but I do like to feelthat that is the truth because
it makes me feel good.
And I'm like, what why can't youfeel that even if it doesn't
look that way?
And I have this weird thingwhere I'm like, can you not just
enjoy it no matter what?
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Why do you have to feel and looka certain way?
Like, why does your hair have tobe doing a certain thing?
Why do you why why does yourexpression have to be a certain
way?
Why does why does your stomachhave to look like all of these
things?
Like, why did that have tothat's not yoga, you know?
And I was thinking about thisguy standing in front of me,
meaning the class.
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Maybe wanting to like, you know,he was blocking me, and yet at
the same time, maybe it was ablock that I needed.
Like, maybe I needed a littlebit of grace today, and not to
be like what I want to be ableto do is stand in front of that
mirror and not feel as thoughlike I I didn't want to have to
fix myself, you know, that it'syou came to your mat for a
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reason, and there's nothing elseto do other than to be in the
room, and I could feel myself,you know, like adjusting my
bangs.
I could feel myself, you know,the practice got pretty heated.
Honestly, today is a it's a it'sone of the largest supermoons.
It's the largest supermoon ofthe year, it's a very large full
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moon.
And to think that that hasnothing that that has no effect
on us is just absolutelybonkers.
Like it it like this class isfull of a bunch of fit yogis,
was just demolished by thispower hour selection of yoga.
Like it was, you know, we'rehalfway through, and it wasn't
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even a hot, it wasn't even thathot, but it was just like the
bodies around me, you just feelit were all just kind of dense
and lethargic, and and she hadus go, she just had us keep
building on this practicebecause you're going through the
motions once, and then you haveyour second set, and you go
again and you add something on,you go again and you add a
little bit of flair, a littlebit of your own exploration, and
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then and then you go again.
And it was that last time that Iwas like, dude, I I mean, I was
like, I don't, I don't think Ican, I don't think I want to.
And for any for any athlete, Ithink for anybody who likes to
push themselves or to arrive andto that and anyone that knows
that sometimes growth comes fromthe endurance that is necessary
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in order to you know buildmuscle or or see how long you
can keep at it the pace at whichyou're going.
But I I had that moment where Iwas like, I don't feel like
that's my practice today.
Like, I think my practice todayis to actually just sit.
Maybe I'll sit this round out,which is really hard.
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It's a different type of hard tonot do it, you know, to sit and
like breathe.
And it wasn't even that I wasout of breath, it was just that
like my body was just reallylike kind of hurting from some
of the things we were doing, youknow.
Like we were doing a lot of sameleg movements and poses, and we
did three rounds of that.
So like my ankle was just like,I'm good right now.
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I don't, and I already felt thatway going into the class that I
was kind of feeling just likejust this deness, and I thought
I could power through it, andyet it just was the reminder
that maybe the lesson today wasoh, just um sit.
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And you know, the word rest hasbeen coming up a lot, and words
will do that for you, they willcome up and they will have new
bits of wisdom with them.
Um I think sometimes I stillsubscribe to the idea that I
have to earn rest.
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And like if things aren't going,if I'm not where I thought I
would be, as far as you know,the amount of clients that I
want to have, or the places thatyou know where I thought I would
physically be right now, or ifI'm not if I haven't seen
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radical change around me, then Ican't rest.
Rest is very challenging becauseI'm like, no, we gotta keep
going.
We gotta keep going, we gottakeep going.
Like on to the next project, onto the next thing.
You have, you know, on to thenext website update, onto the
next article that you're gonnawrite, onto the next painting.
What what else can you do?
What else can you do?
Have you made any content?
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Like, you know, and it's justnon-stop.
And the more that you do, themore that voice will just be
like whipping it and andcracking it, hoping that one of
these things is gonna get you towhere you want to go so that you
can just rest.
And when I think of theembodiment that one needs to,
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you know, especially whenthere's talk of manifestation,
we talk about to act as if youalready have it.
And one of the feelings that Ithink I would feel if let's say
everything was going my waywould be that I would probably
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feel pretty good about doingabsolutely fucking nothing for a
day.
I mean, just a day.
Just be like, no, I'm good.
Like I actually am gonna layaround and do nothing.
And I I remember I was I wasdating a martial artist for a
while, and they would havemonths of training and of you
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know, either you're eithertrying to bulk up or you're
trying to like drop down whenyou're competing.
So you're gonna eat a lot andgain a little bit of weight and
muscle, mostly water weight, oryou're going to starve yourself
and make everybody in yourhousehold hate you because you
are a demon version of yourselfand you're hungry and you're
frightening.
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And I remember at the end ofthat experience that he would
always have a fat week.
Like that there would be likeafter the after the competition,
no matter if he did, if you knowhe won or he lost, it was like
it was just it was called fatweek.
And he would just fucking eat abunch of terrible food.
I mean, just an excessive amountof food, really.
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And he wouldn't, he wouldn't betraining, you know, and he would
just kind of be around the housedoing whatever the fuck he
wanted.
And it was like, yeah, I earnedthis, you know, and I and that's
probably an extremity, but likealso it's not terrible.
Like, I think that's a goodmanageable bite and something to
consider because rest is likevery necessary.
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And it's oh, there was even alot, there was even fucking she,
the instructor even saidsomething during class where I
was like, mmm, that was good.
And it was about knowing when torest is a power move, you know.
And fuck it is like it it isknowing when to rest is the most
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powerful thing.
And I think knowing when torest, the critique is probably
the big thing that is reallyhard for me to do towards myself
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and especially maybe the thereflection of myself, because
you know, you you're alwaysgonna be crafting the next
version of yourself.
There's always gonna besomething to perfect if you have
learned how to craft andperfect.
And to say that it's perfectbecause you feel days that you
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feel pretty perfect, which is apretty wonderful thing to feel.
Like you also have to be able tosay that it is good enough when
it doesn't feel perfect, likeputting it to rest that there's
not, you know, at the end ofthis class, I was like, you
know, I take all my Bobby Vinsout.
I was trying to fix my hair, andI could feel my like I could
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feel the fixation of it, where Iwas like, now I will like my
reflection.
And I'm just like, no, you no,no, it doesn't matter.
Like, why can't you just befine?
Like you're still you're stillworthy to be here, no matter
what.
Kiddo, sorry.
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There will be days where onewill have great hair days, there
will be days where you willreally like the way the light is
hitting your mat and maybesparkling on your freshly shaved
legs.
There will be days where you'llhave a perfect sheen of sweat in
all the right places, and youwill feel madly in love with
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yourself.
And then there are days whennothing is inherently wrong, but
it's just not the best thereever was.
And that is good enough too, butwhy does it feel like a lie when
I say that?
You know?
I don't want it to feel like alie, I don't want to feel
forced.
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But that's just what it is, andthat's just what it is.
This is just where we are.
I think I I had one of thosedays where that heaviness and
that that need to fix, itdoesn't matter how much I fix
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that, it still wouldn't befixed.
And it was like, oh, this willnever actually stop.
And then there's a feeling ofjumping ahead and of overwhelm
of this is actually forever.
And so when do you decide tostop?
When have you fixed all that youcan fix?
When are you fixed?
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There's probably days in whichone does not have to look at
their reflection in yoga, andit's not because you don't think
you're gonna enjoy yourreflection, but because you
would much rather enjoy yourpractice and not expose yourself
to that shadow side of you.
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You know, like there is a momentwhere perfection is just very
much the devil, and yeah, if Ican I can shield myself from
that, then that's pretty lovely.