This episode of To Be Clear features Melyssa Ford, award-winning podcast host, mental health advocate, and former video model, in an unfiltered talk about therapy culture, self-care, aging, and women’s health. At 1:39, we start with a mental health check-in as Melyssa talks anxiety, burnout, and staying grounded in high-pressure spaces. At 4:35, she shares what it’s really like being the only woman on the Joe Budden Podcast, and how she’s learned to speak up in male-dominated rooms. By 10:51, she talks about winning a Gracie Award for Best Online Show, and how she built Hot & Bothered into a platform focused on Black women’s wellness, confidence, and aging gracefully. At 12:30, we respond to hate toward Michelle Obama, therapy podcasts, and emotional women. (Yes, we clap back.) At 19:00, she explains how Hot & Bothered creates space for women to talk openly about menopause, hormone therapy, and body changes over 40. At 23:05, we get into why men need to understand perimenopause too—because they’re living with it whether they know it or not. By 26:01, Melyssa shares her personal journey with grief, hormone replacement therapy, and how she took her health into her own hands. At 33:11, we talk confidence after 40, beauty standards, and what aging looks like when you do it on your own terms. Then at 39:00, it’s all about the mental health practices that helped her reparent her inner child, manage depression, and show up for herself. We close at 45:11 with her flowers: a celebration of legacy, reinvention, and staying consistent in a world built to distract you. Timestamps 0:00 - Cold Open - Melyssa's Rick And Morty Quote 0:46 - Introducing Melyssa Ford: From Video Model to Female Podcast Powerhouse 1:39 - Temperature Check: Melyssa Opens Up About Anxiety and Mental Health 4:35 - Being the Only Woman on The Joe Budden Podcast 10:51 - Winning a Gracie Award & Being Misunderstood in the Industry 12:30 - Clapback Culture: Responding to Hate on Michelle Obama & Therapy Pods 19:00 - Building ‘Hot & Bothered’ and Prioritizing Black Women’s Health 23:05 -Educating Men on Perimenopause: A Platform for Everyone 26:01 - Melyssa’s Personal Perimenopause Journey and Hormone Therapy 33:11 - Confidence, Aging & Self-Care in the Public Eye 39:00 - Mental Health, Therapy & Reparenting After Loss 45:11 - Giving Melyssa Ford Her Flowers: Legacy, Growth & Gratitude