When family chooses a stranger over you

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello everyone, and welcome back to Uncensored and Unapologetic. I
am your host, Cassandra Valentine, your safe space for honesty, healing,
and growth. Today we're addressing a painful truth that many

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of us experience when family would rather help a stranger
than a struggling family member. If you've ever felt overlooked, dismissed,
or unsupported by those closest to you, this episode is
for you. It's heartbreaking when the people who are supposed

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to have your back turn their energy elsewhere. You see
them giving resources, time, or love to others while you're
struggles are ignored. This doesn't mean you're unworthy. It often
reflects the limitations, patterns, or misplaced priorities. Family dynamics can

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be complicated. Some people are emotionally unable, unavailable, some are
trapped in their own issues, and some simply have different
values or blind spots. When they choose a stranger over you.

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It stings, but also teaches a vital lesson. You cannot
rely on everyone, even blood relatives, for your support and validation.
This realization can be painful, but it also is very empowering.

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Is an invitation to reassess where your energy goes, Establish
your boundaries, find or create for your chosen family people
who lift, support, and celebration. Here are some steps to
cope and protect yourself. Acknowledge your feelings, allow yourself to

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fill hurt without guilt. Set boundaries. Protect your energy from
people who drain or dismiss you. Seek supportive circles. Friends, mentors,
or community members can be your tribe. Focus on self relying,

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strengthen your skills, resources and independence, and alast forgive, but don't forget.
Forgiveness frees your heart. It doesn't mean you allow repeated harm.
Here's an affirmation I would like for you to repeat
after me. I am worthy of love, support and care.

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I honor myself even when others do not. I choose
people who uplift and value me. Family isn't always who
you're born with. It's who shows up for you, who

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supports you, and who uplifts your spirit. When blood relatives
turn away, remember your value isn't diminished. Protect your energy,
build your chosen family, and surround yourself with people who
celebrate you. Thank you for tuning in to uncensored and unapologetic.

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If this episode spoke to you, share it with some
one who might need the remainder. You deserve support, even
if it doesn't come from family. Until next time, honor yourself,
protect your energy, and keep choosing love that nourishes you.