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Hey, everybody, and welcome back to another episode of Unrelated Sisters Truth and Grace Conversation. I'm Shannon.
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and I'm Deb.
I'm going to pray right now.
Lord, we love you today.
We thank you for everythingthat you're doing in our lives,
God.
Lord, I just pray for everyperson listening today, God,
that as we talk about promisesfrom you, Lord, that we'll be
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able to dig in and find out whatpromises you have for us, Lord.
And I just pray that you wouldspeak through us with boldness
and confidence.
In Jesus' name, amen.
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A today's episode is
called Open When.
Because we believe God haswritten personal promises just
for you.
And some of them are meant tobe opened at just the right
time.
So this week I was...
On my way to work, and I drivequite a ways to work, so I
listen to the radio.
And they've been talking aboutgraduations all week and about,
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you know, their childrengraduating, going into the
world, becoming adults.
And they were talking about howdo you give them the perfect
gift.
And it got me to thinking, oneof the callers called in, and
she said for each of herchildren that had graduated, she
wrote them a letter.
And on the outside of theenvelope, it would say, open
when you're sad.
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Open when you're homesick.
Open when you're hungry.
And in each envelope, therewould be something in that
envelope, a letter from mom andthen something like a gift card
when you're hungry and differentthings like that.
So I got to thinking about Godand the promises that he's given
us.
And we have open when foreverything.
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Every situation in life, foreverything that happens to us,
for every emotion that we gothrough, there's an open win,
right?
And why is it so hard for us todo that?
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I don't know.
I think that we just, I don'tknow why it's hard for us to do
that, to be honest with you.
I don't know.
What do you think?
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Well, you know,
sometimes it's one promise at a
time for real-life moments.
And I think the reason we can'tdo it is because we don't trust
the promises that He gives us,right, sometimes?
And when you're in the middleof it, right, when you're in the
middle of what's happening orwhen you're in the middle of
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being sad, being depressed,being lonely, we're in a season
of dryness, right?
when you're in a season of loveor in a season we forget where
we're at if we're at our highesthigh we forget where we're at
and we're at our lowest low weforget where we're at and we
don't reach for god until we'reat our lowest low right but the
promises are there regardless ofwhether we're in a high place
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or a low place
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i think sometimes
too that um especially for early
christians or new believers ornot believers at all that we
don't even know what Right.
Right.
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So our first open
wind letter today, we're going
to talk about when you feelalone.
So in Isaiah 41 10, the versesays, so do not fear for I am
with you.
Do not be dismayed for I amyour God.
And that verse right there,that promise lets you know that
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he will never leave you alone,that you will all, he will
always be there for you.
But loneliness, you know,especially in your times of,
when you're in the bottom,right?
Loneliness is all you have, orthat's what you feel like that's
all you have, you know?
And so Phil and I, and eventoday as a Christian, I mean,
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there's moments I've been in, Iwas in a dry season until we
started this podcast and I was,I knew there was something God
wanted me to do.
I knew it, but I wanted to, todo, and when what I wanted to do
didn't work out, I felt leftalone.
I remember sitting on the couchand I told my husband, I said,
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I don't have any friends.
I don't have anybody to hangout with.
I just don't have any friends.
That's a lie.
I mean, when it boils down toit, that's a lie, right?
I've got you.
I've got my friend Frannie.
I've got people at work.
that call and check on me if Idon't go to work, you know.
And so I have friends.
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But at that moment, I felt soalone because I wanted to do
something and it wasn't time.
You know, so we feel lonelywhen we feel like God is off
somewhere else.
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You know, something
that resonated with me as I was
reading this, where it saysloneliness doesn't always
mean...
being by yourself, it's thatache of feeling unseen.
A lot of times we feel likewe're doing so much.
We're like, is anybody evennoticing?
Or, you know, I'm beingoverlooked.
I feel, I don't even feel avalue.
And loneliness is a hard placeto be at.
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When you feel like nobodyunderstands you, nobody gets
what you're going through.
It really does your lives fromthe enemy.
And, you know, the Bible saysthat he'll stick closer than a
brother.
You know, me and my brothersare pretty tight.
And when you get in there andthink, you know what, I'll
always have a friend in Jesus.
I'll never be alone.
That's one of His promises.
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He'll never leave you orforsake you.
He's always with me.
Even though I feel lonely inthis season in my life right
now, I know that God's with me.
Even though I can't hear Himall the time, but I can see Him
working in different areas.
Even though I can't Don'talways hear that audible voice.
I see him working through otherpeople, you know, being
encouragement to me.
You know, I'm lonely right now.
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I'm feeling, you know, feelingthis way.
He always, always will bringsomebody in my path to encourage
me, to let me know that I'm notalone.
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Oh, I agree 100%.
You're never abandoned.
His presence is not based onyour emotions.
It's based on his promises, andwe can't forget that.
And sometimes I feel like wedo.
I feel like sometimes we forgetthose promises, and it's not
trying to forget it.
I don't know.
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Sometimes if you've ever feltalone in a full room, you know,
comment, let us know how youfeel.
Let us know what you need totalk about.
Let us know what we can do tomake you not feel lonely.
I mean, I feel like a part ofthis podcast was started because
I feel like a lot of peoplefeel lonely in their path,
right?
You don't know what yourpurpose is or you don't know
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where you're headed.
You don't know what's next.
And sometimes I feel like thatcould cause loneliness.
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Yeah.
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you
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know where it says
his presence is not based on
your emotions but on his promiseyou know a lot of times we base
our actions on our feelings youknow what i mean we get so
caught up in our feelings but ifwe can finally if we can grasp
that and i say this all the timeto young people no feeling is
final what you're feeling rightnow you may feel lonely you may
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feel discouraged but that's notfinal That's not the final
thing.
And God's not changing.
His presence is still there.
Whether you feel lonely or not,He's there with you.
And if you can grasp that, it'sa game changer.
It
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is.
Our second part, we're going totalk about open wind.
You're anxious about thefuture.
And this has to do with God'splan for your future.
And as a young Christian, youdon't know what your plan is.
You don't know what God's planis as a person.
Christian that has been walkingin faith for some years now, I
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still don't know what the planis, right?
The plan happens day by day.
It happens one day at a time.
I still don't know.
And it's hard to know God'splan.
Because that means you have tolisten to God.
And that doesn't always flow.
But He has a plan for you.
And you just need to know thatHe has a plan for you.
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In Jeremiah 29, 11, it says,Just one of my favorite
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verses.
It's easy to obsess over theoutcomes and the future and what
this is going to happen andthat's going to happen.
Sometimes we want to do theplans our way and that normally
don't turn out too good.
But if we can just trust God'splan, trust His process, it'll
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change your life.
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I was listening to a
podcast the other day by Sadie
Robertson Huff from DuckDynasty.
And she was talking, she waskind of talking about being
anxious about the future.
They're about to have theirthird child.
And a lot has happened over thelast year for her and her
husband.
And she was, she goes, my greatgrandmother used to tell me,
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you know, she said I used to askquestions for birthdays.
And she said, I asked my greatgrandmother, you know, what do
you, what do you worry about themost from yesterday?
And what do you think about themost for the future for the
next day?
And she said, she said, hergreat grandmother said, I don't
live in yesterday.
What happened yesterdayhappened yesterday.
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And I don't think much abouttomorrow because I'm going to
miss the moment of today.
And when she said that, I waslike, Oh yeah.
Like that's just, Oh, you know,because, and, and, when I was
in addiction and when I wasn't,you know, doing the things that
I should be doing, the momentsthat I've missed, you know, and
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that's not, you know, with mychild, with my family, with just
everyday life in the graces ofGod, the blessings that I miss.
I can't think about thosetoday.
Right.
Because if I do, then herecomes the whispers.
Right.
So I remember a story one timethat I heard and I don't know
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where I heard it out, but a guycame home and his wife asked
him, she says, you know, do younot ever have a hard day?
Do you not, are you not ever,you know, stressed out or do you
not ever get mad?
Because when you come home inthat door, she's like, you're
always happy.
You always, you know, you seemhappy to see me.
You're always, do you not everhave a bad day?
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She said, because some days youcome in and after dealing with
the kids and the cleaning andall of this, she says, I'm so
frustrated.
And then when you walk in, itjust all goes away.
And he says, well, you knowthat bush outside, the one
that's always dead?
And she's like, yeah.
He goes, when I get out of mytruck every day, I yell at that
bush and I tell it every Hesaid, so that way when I come
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into the house, I don't bring itinto you and to the kids.
And when I first started in myfaith, you know, trying to find
my faith, I would do that.
Like when I would get out of mycar at our apartment, I would
yell at this person.
bush that we had I would tellit all the problems right and
then when I would go in and Istill do that today sometimes
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like before I get out of my carsometimes I'll get home and
it'll take me 10 or 15 minutesto get out of my car because I
just need to let that out forthe day and I don't do it on my
way home because on my way homeI'm in prayer and I'm in worship
and you know I'm talking to Godand sometimes I'm telling him
about the day you know but Idon't want to bring that home
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into my home, right?
And we can't, you know, thispromise declares us that we have
to, you know, not to do that.
You know, because it's easy toobsess over what's going to
happen.
And with everybody graduatingthis year and, you know, a lot
of changes happening in familiesand things, don't obsess over
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it.
Just know that God's got it andHe has that plan for us.
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I think when you get
to the point where you say,
okay, God, I don't have to haveit all figured out.
You got this.
You got this.
I don't have to have a big,because trying to figure it out
on my own, you get frustratedand, you know, it usually don't
work out too well.
So it's hard to say, okay, God,I trust you.
I know your plans be your mind.
And when you know that thatpromise is in there and you can
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open it up and hang on to it.
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Yeah.
Our third promise that we, thatI chose today, the open wound
when you've messed up.
So God's forgiveness andrestore and restores.
If we confess our sins, he isfaithful and just and will
forgive us.
First John one nine.
And I chose this promisebecause I feel like this
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resonates with a lot of thepeople that listen to our
podcast.
And I know it resonates with meand Deb as far as our stories
go.
It's OK to mess up.
You know, it's okay.
It's no different than whenyour kid messes up, right?
Like when your kid messes up,you don't hate them, right?
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You may be disappointed for aminute, but you don't hate them
and you don't disown them andyou don't turn them away.
You stand there, you give themthe nod and the finger pointing
or whatever you got to do,right?
And then you let them know howmuch you love them and then you
move on.
And God is the same way, I feellike.
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Yeah.
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You
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know, I know Kelsey,
I share a lot of her story, but
she don't mind.
She's here with us tonight andshe don't mind.
So when she was going throughwhat she was going through here
a few months ago, I would texther quite often and she can
attest to this and say, you knowwhat?
No matter what you're goingthrough, God hasn't changed his
mind about you.
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No matter what you're doingright now, you might be living
out in sin.
You might have messed up.
I just want you to know thatGod still loves you, and He
hasn't changed His mind aboutyou.
Because people need to knowwhen they're messed up.
But the last thing they need isfor somebody to come in behind
them, shaming them.
They're already feelingshameful.
And telling them what they'redoing wrong.
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You can speak the truth inlove.
But you can also share in God'spromises to them.
I think that is the best weaponagainst the tactics of the
enemy to take that shame fromthem.
To let them know that, hey, youknow what?
It don't matter that you messedup.
God still loves you.
I mean, I'm not saying to goout.
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Grace is not a license to gosin.
But it is a...
restored her back to the peaceand back home?
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Well, you know,
growing up, I feel like I was
raised with fire, hail, andbrimstone.
And once you messed up, therewas no coming back.
I don't believe that's true,right?
I believe that there's beautyin the ashes of what we've been
through.
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And I truly believe that nomatter what you have done, in
your life as long as you don'tcontinue to repeat it, right?
Like, you can mess up, youknow, you know, I'm not getting
high anymore.
Oh, I messed up and got high,right?
But it can't continue to be acrutch.
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And that's, you know, grace isstill there and he loves us
regardless.
You know, and to me, this isfunny, but God's not afraid of
our mess.
He's not.
He already knows.
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He knew this was
going to happen.
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He knew your mess
was coming when it came.
And, you know, even the 12disciples that he had in the
Bible, the 12 people he chose totell his story after he went
back to heaven, every one ofthose people were messed up
before they started.
Every one of them.
You know, and...
Some of them did the worst ofthe worst back in those times,
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right?
You had the tax collectors andyou had, you know, you had a
Jezebel and you had all thesedifferent, you know, different
people.
And in that day and time, theywere the worst of the worst,
right?
They were the unclean.
They were the untouchables.
And, but yet that was who hechose to tell the story.
So today is our time to tellthe story.
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And that's why we're here.
Yeah.
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So what's something
God has redeemed in your life?
If you'd like to share that,you can comment and let us know.
I feel like He's redeemed a lotof stuff in my life and is
still redeeming things in mylife.
Every day?
Yeah, so we want to hear whatHe's doing in yours.
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So the next promise
is open when you're waiting on a
breakthrough.
And that one's hard, right?
So when you're, no matter whatseason of life you're in, and
you're waiting...
That, to me, feels likepunishment.
And I know that's not what Godintends it to be, right?
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But sometimes you have to waitto get the true blessing or to
find the true grace.
But I don't like to wait.
I am impatient.
You know, driving home today, Iwas driving home today and I
was behind a car.
You know, we're going down 75and we're in the fast lane and
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they can't decide if they wantto do 70 or 80.
You know, and most days thatwill just irritate me to death.
Right.
And finally, I'll just goaround on, you know, kind of
kind of be ugly.
I feel like sometimes, but nottoday.
For some reason today, it wasjust OK.
Yeah.
And I think it's where I'vebeen praying over this all
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week.
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Oh, yeah.
That instead of gettingfrustrated today on the
interstate, it was just kind oflike, okay.
And I think that has to do withthe waiting or the whatever.
I don't know.
Romans 8, 28.
And we know that in all things,God works for the good of those
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who love him.
That was so
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powerful.
Yeah, that's one of my veryfavorite verses that I always go
back to.
No matter what I'm goingthrough, I'm like, all right,
Lord, you're going to work itout.
We know that you workeverything for the good if we
allow you to.
Breakthrough season is hardwhen you're going through things
and you're praying and you'refasting and you're doing all the
things.
You're tithing.
You've got the three-chordthing going on.
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Lord, I'm doing it all, but I'mnot hearing you.
But I'm going to wait on you.
It's hard.
That waiting season is veryhard because I spoke on this
Sunday.
When you're praying forsomething and you're believing
God for something and you're notseeing the fruit of it, it's
very frustrating sometimes.
And you're like, I know for me,I'm like, okay, God, are you
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even hearing me?
I feel like I'm doingeverything you're asking me to
do.
What am I missing here?
But you know what?
God...
During those times of waiting,he was doing a work in me is
what he was doing.
He was always doing a work inme.
We're the microwave generation.
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We want it right then.
Okay, God, I'm asking, I'mbelieving, I'm saying all the
right things, I'm doing all theright things.
I want it right now.
Sometimes it don't work likethat.
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No, no.
Oh, and we do.
I mean, instant gratificationhas a lot to do with the
technologies that we, you know,that we've come up in,
especially this coming upgeneration.
And when you're a new believerand when you're in, you know,
you're in those first seasons oftrying to figure out who you
are in God and who your identityin God, you always have that
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one thing you want to pray for.
Right.
And mine was my daddy.
Right.
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Yeah.
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Before we fell from
grace as a family, my daddy was
a preacher and he was a man ofGod and you felt God's presence.
And then I remember timesgetting high with him and he
would get to talking about Godand you could still, even though
we're all sitting there passingthe pipe around, you could
still feel the presence of Godwhen he started talking about
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it.
And so when I finally come backto my faith, I wanted him to
come too, right?
I wanted him to come too.
And so, you know, I startedpraying and, you know, I asked
my church to pray and I asked,you know, over and over the
years, you know, I still pray,but I didn't pray like I did
when I started for him.
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And, but when I truly let goand truly surrendered to God, I
started praying again and itwasn't, you know, it wasn't a
year later, it wasn't two yearslater, but when I started
praying again, I run into himone time, and this is, you know,
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after I'd surrendered, and Irun into him at Walmart, and I
told him I'd been praying forhim, and he told me to stop.
He said, I need you to stoppraying for me.
He's like, and he startedtelling me all these things that
had happened to him, and, like,he'd caught his kitchen on
fire, and, you know, his trucktore up and all these different
things that happened to him.
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And he's like, just stoppraying for me.
He's like, it's not ever goingto be.
And I'm like, oh, no.
Oh, no, no, no.
It still took eight years fromthat day to get him to where he
is today.
So it's not like...
It was one and done.
I had to continue.
And did I pray every day forhim?
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No.
But when he came on my heart, Iwould get on my knees and I
would pray for him.
And just because it wassomething that I wanted and I
felt like God wanted it too.
You pray for it once and thenyou pray for it when it's on
your heart after you get throughthat season of praying.
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Although it says
delays doesn't mean denial.
I love that.
Oh, yeah.
I love that.
Just because it's delayeddoesn't mean it's denied.
And so we have to rememberthat.
Just because it's not coming onour time doesn't mean he's not
here and doesn't mean he's notworking.
We just have to be patient andknow that he's working it out
for the good.
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Oh, yeah.
It says God moves on his time,not yours, and his timing is
perfect.
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Always.
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Always.
Always.
So our fifth one that we'regoing to talk about today is
open when you need strength.
And as Christians in this dayand time, in this environment,
you need strength every day,right?
I mean, just the environmentthat we live in right now, as
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Christians, you need strengthevery day.
You need strength when you'renew.
When you're a young born-againChristian, you need strength
when you've been doing it for 50years.
And in 2 Corinthians 12, 9, Mygrace is sufficient for you, for
my power is made perfect inweakness.
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You might feel weak, but that'sexactly where God does his best
work.
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The joy of the
Lord's our strength.
that you make bad decisions,you make bad choices, you're
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more vulnerable.
So why not get some joy, getsome praise on those weak
moments when you feel like, youknow, I'm not going to make it.
You know, this is the joy ofthe Lord's strength.
Get some joy.
Sometimes you've got to justchoose joy.
Choose to be happy.
It's a choice sometimes.
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Sometimes it is.
It definitely is.
And, you know, we're notdiscounting any of the times
that you're in grief or thatyou're in sadness for a
particular reason.
But sometimes, I mean, andsometimes I still wake up today.
Like, you know, the last coupleweeks, you know, I'm usually, I
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wake up, as soon as my eyesopen up, I say my prayer, my
feet hit the floor, and I'm upand gone.
Unknown (25:35):
Yeah.
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I've been working to
work every day for two weeks.
Every day.
I just can't get up out of bed.
I don't feel sad.
I don't feel depressed.
I don't feel unhappy.
But there's something there.
Because that's not who I am.
And so I've been praying overthat since the last time we got
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together because it's just beenweird.
And I know I know That's theway the devil gets me, right?
He makes me.
Because if I'm late for work,then it stresses me out, and
then the day goes on.
And then when I come home, likeon my days off, I normally take
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two or three hours, and I comeup here, and I turn on my
worship music, and that's when Ipray over the podcast, and I
talk with God.
And then usually the next dayis when he throws something on
the radio, and I'm like, okay.
That's what we need to talkabout.
Like, I have a notebook in mycar, and you can tell I'm
driving right now in a notebook,right?
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I'm going to die one day.
No, we're not.
We'll
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rebuke
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that.
Yeah, we'll rebuke that.
We don't say that out loud.
I'm sorry.
But you know what I mean?
But, like, this week was hard.
Like, this week was just hard.
And that's not like me.
Like, I don't know.
And sometimes it's hard to askfor strength.
It's hard to be like, why am Ifeeling so weak in my faith?
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Because the daughter of God,that's who I am.
That's my identity.
So that was hard for me thisweek to ask for that strength
and to ask for that prayer.
I also find out that sometimesI'll call and ask for prayer
before I pray for myself.
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Why
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do we do that?
Yeah.
We have the same
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ability,
Speaker 00 (27:32):
yeah.
To pray for ourselves.
So, I don't know.
You might feel weak, but that'sexactly where God does His best
work.
You're not holding everythingtogether, and He is.
It's okay.
He's got you.
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He never gets tired.
Speaker 00 (27:47):
No, He doesn't.
Today, episode you know hasbeen a lot about the promises
but there are so many morepromises in the Bible so many
that God gives to us right hegives us the promise of love and
he gives us the promise ofalways being there for us and he
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gives us the promise of afamily and of you know and it's
not always what we think itshould look like you know He
promises that He'll take care ofus, but just because that's the
way we think it should be,that's not always how it is.
You have to find the glory inthe moment.
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Yes.
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You have to find the
glory in the moment, and
there's always a reason to givethanks.
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Always.
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Sometimes we pray in
need when we should be praying
in thanks.
As a mom, sometimes it's hardwhen our young kid is
constantly, Mama, Mama, Mama,Mama.
I remember those days.
And you're like, you just wantto go to the bathroom because
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you just want two minutes.
And they're standing at thedoor the whole time.
Mama, Mama, can I have this?
Mama, can I do this?
Mama, can I get this?
Mama, right?
And when we pray together, allthe time in need and not in
thanks, then we forget thepromises that God has given us.
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Yes.
So today we just want to take aminute to give God thanks for
being the God of ever.
open wind moments we thank himfor your promises that speak to
us again and again we thank himfor the mercy that he has given
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each and every one of us wethank him for his blessings and
most and foremost i thank himfor his grace grace is what has
brought me to where i am andgrace is what will continue to
lead me and give me strength towhere i'm headed I want the
women who listen to us and whofeel alone, who have anxiety,
who are stressing or worryingabout tomorrow.
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I want to speak grace over themtonight.
I want them to feel hispresence and to ignore the
noise.
Sometimes that's all it is.
It's just noise.
You know, Lord Jesus, we praiseyou today and we thank you.
And we know that you have theanswers tonight.
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In Jesus' name we pray.
Amen.
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Amen.
I just want to encourage youthat no matter what you're going
through, dig in.
Dig into your Bible and findout what the promise is.
Find out what God says aboutit.
Whether you're lonely ordepressed or waiting on
something, find you somescriptures to declare
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and
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speak it.
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That's right.
So if today's episode hastouched your heart, we want to
hear from you.
What's your open wind seasonright now?
Tag us at Unrelated Sisters anduse the hashtag Open Wind God
Showed Up.
You can also send us yourprayer requests.
We're here to stand with
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you.
Yes.
And remember, when life feelsheavy, go to His Word.
Open it up.
And remember, He already wrotethe answer.
We love you.