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April 23, 2025 50 mins

Are You Healing from Purity Culture? Purity culture can leave deep emotional scars that impact our understanding of sexuality, relationships, and self-worth. In this powerful episode, sexuality educator Lauren Elise Rogers joins us to explore how individuals can reclaim their sexual identity and find healing through the transformative power of erotic imagination.


Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator, Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, and the founder of Sex Ed For You, where she provides clear, compassionate, and comprehensive guidance on intimacy, relationships, and sexual health. 

Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like: Long-Term Partnerships, Purity Culture Obstacles, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Life Transitions, Mismatched Libido, & LGBTQIA+ issues. Despite growing up in "Purity Culture," where dating and physical intimacy were forbidden, Lauren now proudly centers agency and autonomy in her redemptive love story with her partner.


In this episode, we're discussing:

  • Sexual fantasies are a normal and healthy way to explore your desires safely, with women typically placing themselves at the center of their erotic imagination.
  • Purity culture creates harmful beliefs that tie personal worth to sexual purity, limiting individual sexual expression and self-understanding.
  • Erotic literature can be a powerful tool for sexual healing, allowing individuals to explore fantasies and understand their core erotic themes without judgment.
  • Communication with partners about sexual fantasies and desires can strengthen relationships and create deeper intimacy.
  • Parents play a crucial role in sex education, and addressing personal sexual shame is essential to providing healthy guidance for children.
  • Solo sexual exploration is a valuable journey of self-discovery that can help individuals understand their desires and build sexual confidence.
  • The four core erotic themes (longing, prohibition, power dynamics, and overcoming ambivalence) can help people understand their unique sexual preferences.

Your sexual journey is uniquely yours. Start reclaiming your narrative today by exploring literature that speaks to your experiences, and remember: healing is a personal, powerful process of self-discovery and liberation.


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BOOKS/AUTHORS MENTIONED:

Lauren on the Pleasure in the Pause Podcast

The Erotic Mind By Jack Morin (Amazon)

Ep 9 - Asexuality, Aromanticism, and the Spectrum of Identity with Margherita Scialla

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