Ep 20 - The Values Problem: Why Your Happiness Depends on Alignment

Do you feel discontent in your relationships, career, or daily life at times, despite outwardly having what you want? The answer often lies in a values problem - a misalignment between what we truly value deep down, and how we actually live. When our behaviours don't match our core values, we can experience tension, which can look like unhappiness, stress, or even physical symptoms. 

In this episode, we discuss why this happens, give some examples to illustrate, and suggest how you can close the gap.

Key Points

• Our behaviour reveals our actual values, regardless of what we claim to value.
• Values conflicts are often the root cause of relationship problems and career dissatisfaction.
• Signs of values misalignment include persistent unhappiness, stress, and sometimes physical symptoms.
• Two main solutions: either adjust your stated values to match reality or change your situation to align with your values.
• The importance of brutally honest self-reflection in identifying what’s truly important to you.
• How to navigate values differences in relationships through communication and compromise.
• Why temporary discomfort during values realignment leads to long-term fulfilment.
• Practical steps for bringing your daily choices into harmony with what matters most to you.

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Thanks for listening! See you again soon.

Rob

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