October 17, 2025 • 30 mins
Change starts within — but it’s not always easy. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to let go, embrace change, and walk boldly in your purpose. From corporate life to motherhood and faith, we share how to adapt when God is calling you into a new season. Expect laughter, honesty, and those “I needed to hear this” moments that remind you it’s okay to evolve.
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SPEAKER_02 (00:00):
Be careful what you attach yourself to and then
calling it your purpose.
Like it could be a gift, but isit your purpose?
SPEAKER_03 (00:11):
Yeah, it really was mind-boggling because I just
couldn't understand.
My mind wasn't processing.
Why would you do that?
Telling you that we could getget it like this and like this.
Why aren't you trying?
SPEAKER_02 (00:25):
Because sometimes we'd be expecting someone with a
broken leg to run as fast as us.
SPEAKER_00 (00:30):
Yep.
SPEAKER_02 (00:31):
It's like we don't know their traumas, we don't
know their triggers.
We don't know theircapabilities.
SPEAKER_03 (00:37):
You can say all you want, like you know, God this,
God that.
You can know the whole Bible.
You can know the word.
But if you don't apply the word,you don't believe in that word,
you don't have faith in thatword, and you don't trust his
word, all you have is somewords.
SPEAKER_01 (00:53):
Where am I shooting?
Woman in black is where we putdown the case and pick up the
mic, being authentically who weare, where we are, unmasked,
unfiltered, and unapologetic.
SPEAKER_03 (01:07):
So today is the day that the Lord has made.
Let us be glad.
Rejoice in it.
Okay.
Every day is the day that he hasmade.
Did you want me to sing withyou?
You don't have to.
SPEAKER_02 (01:26):
I ain't saying.
I feel like you was looking atme like when you gonna sing it.
Oh I well, I was gonna do thatanyway.
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (01:36):
Anyway.
How are you today, Desiree?
I'm good.
Look at those bars.
How are you today, Desiree?
Damn.
I probably should start writingsome.
SPEAKER_02 (01:50):
Hey, sometimes you don't know what your gift is
until you just slide into it.
And you be like, Jesus.
I didn't know as good as this.
Anyway.
Um sorry.
So today, I'm I'm good.
I'm feeling empowered.
I'm feeling more clear on thedirection God wants me to move
in my life.
Um, a lot of change ishappening.
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Uh change, change is goodthough.
Like some people see change asbeing so bad or they don't like
change.
Maybe maybe because of pastcircumstances or, you know, just
set in their ways.
But I'm embracing this newseason in my life and I'm not
upset about it.
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Wow.
SPEAKER_03 (02:33):
I just got to chill.
SPEAKER_02 (02:35):
Well, yeah, because God will interrupt.
God will literally interruptwhat you're doing and say, do
this because somebody needs tohear it.
Or do this because I need I needto release you in this moment.
But how are things with you?
How things going.
SPEAKER_03 (02:50):
I'm chilling.
Chilling.
I got some great confirmation.
Right.
But I'm good.
Um, I'm just I'm so grateful.
Even the little things.
It's like the little, I've justbeen so grateful lately.
Right.
Guys like that.
He likes that all the time.
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He really is.
So yeah, I'm just grateful.
So I want to put a disclaimerout there.
Okay.
Okay.
When we are on our podcast, ourcapes are down.
We are our natural selves.
Like what you guys are seeing iswhat our kids see.
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What our family see.
Not what corporate America sees.
But do not get it twisted.
We get the job done.
And we get paid.
And we are extremelyprofessional.
Right now, we are in our atwork, we're comfortable.
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But when we're home, we are inour when we down here at PP's
lounge, we are comfortable.
You see her?
She kind of looked dead.
But we are comfortable.
So I just wanted to throw thatout there.
Like, just because wecomfortable, we got our hoodies
on, we know how to throw on thatcollar shirt with them heels and
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them dress pants and thatblazer.
SPEAKER_02 (04:26):
Right.
When we have to.
When we have to.
So just wanted to throw thatout.
Yeah, because sometimes andsometimes, you know, I was in
this um McKenzie LeadershipAcademy.
It's a uh um, most people knowMcKenzie and Company.
It's like a large uh consultingcompany.
So I went through their theirleadership academy, and one
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thing they always ask was, areyou being authentically you at
your job?
People was getting on me becauseI said, no, no, unless I could
come come to work withsweatpants on and sneakers, no.
And I I don't, I think thatquestion means different things
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to different people, but it getstiring sometimes with to have to
perform, to always have to beon, to always have to be just
like professional days.
Like it without a balance, yeah,it is hard.
Like I understand the respectthat comes with looking a
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certain way and presentingyourself a certain way.
All those things are important.
I will never discount them in aprofessional environment.
I do feel they are importantdepending on what type of
business you're doing, whetherthat importance is because it's
what's ingrained in our societyor not, it's important because
that's what the world we live insays is important.
Period.
Like it is what it is.
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Now, I be needing a break.
I mean need a break.
And so this is our break.
And it's important for people toknow like there is a space for
the women who need to take theircape off, for the men who need
to take their cape off.
SPEAKER_03 (06:12):
Who need that break?
SPEAKER_02 (06:13):
Who need the break because it had the pendulum has
to be able to sway both ways.
You can't, it's just you're notalways up.
That's just not the force.
That what goes up must comedown.
Like you have to keep a balancein your life.
You need that balance for tosurvive.
SPEAKER_03 (06:30):
And it's okay to take a break.
We're not robots, we're not.
It's okay to take a break.
So if you you guys are followingus and subscribe to us, come on,
come on in and take that breakwith us.
SPEAKER_02 (06:44):
Right.
We need it, we need it.
So, you know, love y'all,McKenzie.
We'll work together again in thefuture.
Authentic, everything that comesout my mouth will be from
Desiree.
Who I am will never be fake.
SPEAKER_03 (06:59):
Right, absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (07:00):
But them clothes in corporate, when I start being
able to go to work like this,then I'll say I'm authentic.
SPEAKER_03 (07:07):
Now, let me tell you something.
Sometimes, no, I have never worna hoodie to work.
Who could wear not in corporate,but I do have dressed down days
where I wear jeans.
Exactly.
SPEAKER_02 (07:18):
What could you imagine?
I would love it.
What?
I'd be wiggling my toes and Iwould be so happy to wear my
toes.
No, my toes would be in freedom.
Because I listen, culture shift.
If you ask me, I might have adifferent perception of
workplace culture and what couldreally allow people to elevate
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and do their best work.
SPEAKER_03 (07:41):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (07:42):
I'll be honest with you.
My perception of it is like,let's meet in the middle.
That's my perception.
Like, look well groomed, lookpresentable, but I don't need
you in a suit and tie.
SPEAKER_03 (07:56):
That's that's how I think ever since um COVID
happened, a lot of franchiseshave like brought it brung it
down a little bit.
Because I I haven't worn a dresssuit, a pair suit in a long
time.
In a long time.
So yes, but I know there aresome engagements that do require
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me to dress dress up more.
You know what I mean?
Um, but yeah, I just want tothrow that out there to let
y'all know, like we are her.
She's her, I'm her, we are hers.
But right now, we tired.
We need up right now.
We freak.
Yes, yes.
So just to jump right in, todaywe are going to discuss how
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change starts within.
Wow.
What are some possibly oldtraits that you had um or
behaviors that you've changed orstill need to change, and why
it's important, why the changeis important.
SPEAKER_02 (09:03):
That's so crazy.
Um especially since I'm not evenreally over the past two years.
Um we've been about to talkabout work, but I'm gonna say
this part real quick.
Um I had to create a changemanagement framework and change
management playbook um for ourcompanies.
We have a a conglomerate ofcompanies um so that we can
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excel at change.
Um, even when I think of some ofthose principles, they're they
really get to the core of justhumans, like who we are, how we
uh respond to things and what weneed.
And so when I think about mylife right now, I'm thinking
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about I have that playing in theback of my head because I'm a
people's person.
So when something big ishappening, whether it be in a
world at work, at home, I'malways worried about well, how's
this gonna affect, you know, mykids?
How's it gonna affect this?
How's it gonna affect?
Like, I I need people to feelcomfortable with change.
And then sometimes you don't geta forewarning, it just happens.
(10:15):
Right.
Like change is is is crazy.
But um when we talk about whatwe need to change, like just
being specific, I I needed tochange how I was attacking my
gift, how I was executing mygift in the world.
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Because I used to speak likeeverything could be a business.
I know.
Like I really feel that way.
Like I say, if I'm eating it,I'm gonna buy it.
I'm gonna have stock in it.
If I like this, maybe I shouldown it or create my own.
If I if I talk about this, we'retalking about it anyway.
(10:57):
Might as well set up a cameraand make it a podcast.
We're gonna talk about it withthe same level of passion on or
off camera.
Like, that's how my brain works.
Like everything is seen as anopportunity.
There's not a lot that I seethat's not an opportunity.
Where the change came in wasthat doesn't mean it's your
opportunity.
That doesn't mean what I want,that's what I want you to do.
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That doesn't mean that that'syour purpose in this earth.
Be careful what you attachyourself to and then calling it
your purpose.
Yeah.
Like it could be a gift, but isit your purpose?
And so I know I have a gift ofstrategy, like just looking at
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things as ooh, but just becauseI could buy a Rolls Royce
doesn't mean I you should.
SPEAKER_03 (11:44):
I want that I need to.
SPEAKER_02 (11:45):
Yeah, that I need to, or that I even should.
And what's your reasons forwanting to?
Right.
So I I think that's the realityI'm sitting in right now.
Because I really, really alwayson.
God says, sit your behind Daleand chill out and talk to me.
Let's have a conversation aboutyour purpose.
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And he stopped me in my tracks.
And so now I'm havingconversations with God about my
purpose.
That'll do it.
The soft hustle.
Gotta chill, gotta sit down,gotta walk in purpose.
That's my shift.
My change is understanding youcould go nowhere fast if you
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don't be obedient to the callthat's on your life.
Obedience versus that sacrifice,that grind, sacrificing my time.
So I'm about to get this money.
Oh, I see this object.
No.
What you working on?
SPEAKER_03 (12:50):
I had to stop my changes.
I had to stop expecting everyoneto think like me, to understand
like me, to have the heart likeme.
Like I had to change thatmentality.
Right.
Because things would happen.
I and it really wasmind-boggling because I just
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couldn't understand.
My mind wasn't processing.
Why would you do that?
Or why, if you see, if I'mtelling you that we could get
get it like this and like this,why aren't you trying?
Like me expecting other peopleto be like hustlers and
go-getters, just like me, likefor cause.
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I excuses when people say, Oh, Ican't get the job, or there's no
jobs, or it's so hard for me.
That I'm still working onunderstanding when people say
that because I'm like, what'swrong with you?
All you have to do is this,this, this, this, and this.
So it's hard.
I'm I'm literally working onthat because that's hard for me
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to not understand why peopledon't think like.
Can I say something about that?
SPEAKER_02 (14:02):
Because sometimes we be expecting someone with a
broken leg to run as fast as us.
It's like we don't know theirtraumas, we don't know their
triggers, we don't know theircapabilities.
Everybody is not capable, theyweren't gifted with that measure
of grace that God gave you to docertain things.
And we keep expecting this one.
SPEAKER_03 (14:23):
We keep expecting it.
SPEAKER_02 (14:24):
And they weren't created to.
Exactly.
They were created to be thattype type of person that's gonna
work for you.
SPEAKER_03 (14:31):
That's exact exactly.
There we go.
Everyone was not meant to be aleader.
No, everyone can't be a chief.
We gotta have some Indians outthere, and that's okay, and
that's okay, but for a longtime, I'm starting to see like
the last year or so, I'm juststarting to really feel
comfortable with the change, uh,with understanding that that's
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okay.
Because it was just like, what'swrong?
Like, I'm like, y'all crazy.
Like, what's wrong with y'all?
And one of my brothers said tome one time, like, the thing is,
is like you go hard and then youexpect other people to go hard
just like you, right?
And when they don't go hard justlike you, you cut them off
immediately.
SPEAKER_02 (15:12):
Oh, because you were lacking the understanding at the
time, yes, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (15:16):
Um, so that it's just like because like even it
and that goes for anything,right?
But yeah, it was just like,you're right.
And did you have to cut themoff?
Understanding people for whothey are and accepting them for
who they are is huge.
Accepting things for how theyare.
SPEAKER_02 (15:35):
Well, I think there's a difference.
You don't have to accept thingsfor how they are, but still
accept them for who they are.
SPEAKER_03 (15:42):
Well, let's say in the in the workplace, right?
And you know my um, not my premy current job, but my previous
job, um, I had someone say tome, if you're looking for a
place that makes sense, it's nothere.
Yeah.
They told me that day two, mebeing who I am, it was not
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processing that what she saidwas what she meant.
SPEAKER_02 (16:11):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (16:11):
So I came in still trying to change everything
because it didn't make sensewhen she already told me it
didn't make sense.
So I because it's not how Iexpected it to be, right?
And y'all like, what's wrongwith y'all?
That y'all don't know that thesepolicies don't make sense.
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Like, what's wrong with youpeople?
What is wrong with y'all?
So what I did was I put morefrustration on myself because
they already told me exactly whothey were.
They told me that.
Yeah.
So why didn't I why didn't Ijust say, okay, they already
told me?
No, I always want to changeother people.
SPEAKER_02 (16:53):
Cause you that because that's the problem,
right?
And I hear you now.
So you're saying, okay, yeah,that approach ain't gonna work.
You rely on it, yeah.
You gotta change yourself, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (17:05):
I did.
I had to change the environment.
I had to change myself, I had toget myself up out of that
environment instead of goingthere every day, like because
only two ways you it's only twoways you can do it.
SPEAKER_02 (17:18):
Yeah.
You can either you can eitherchange your perspective of it
and say, okay, this is mypaycheck, let me level up.
Because I can't, it's notworking for me.
You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_03 (17:32):
Um, or you can start moving exactly how they're
moving.
So changing your perspectiveagain, but to their perspective.
SPEAKER_02 (17:41):
Well, I would never probably no, I wasn't even gonna
give that as a suggestion.
SPEAKER_03 (17:45):
Oh, I I was gonna say I can't do that.
SPEAKER_02 (17:47):
No, because I no, no.
When I say the how, like I couldsay I like the who versus the
how.
I understand that people are whothey are, but I don't have to
accept that.
And so that's where the howchanges in.
So it's like either I'ma sithere and work this job for what
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it is and have an exit plan, orI'm gonna sit here and I'ma
change it, but not probably notthe way you went about it,
right?
Cause I'll probably I only saythat because of what I had to
change.
SPEAKER_03 (18:22):
Yeah, you it was so this particular company, there
was no changing.
Yeah, and you know, places likethat, like real old schoolstone,
and you probably tried to changeit for too long.
And but and the thing is, Iwasn't the only person, and what
that what and they would say,like, you know, such and such,
you know, before she left, yeah,she was trying to do the same
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thing you were trying to do,right?
And for me, I'm like, becauseI'm really when it comes to my,
you know, what I do for aliving, I'm really passionate
about it.
So to come in and just to seey'all just like y'all don't want
to change with the time.
SPEAKER_02 (19:01):
And you know, it's nothing wrong with anything that
you said or that you did,because you did what you were
supposed to do.
SPEAKER_03 (19:07):
I did, and I left I let what, and this is one thing
about me.
Um, not that I'm not too in myown horn, but if you come across
anyone that I've worked with,you know, come across anybody
that I haven't gotten into itwith, and probably they could
probably say it too.
But I leave a little razzledazzle wherever I any room that
I step out of, I leave a littlerazzle dazzle behind.
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So, yeah, although they didn'twant to change, my razzle dazzle
is still in the meetings.
Well, Josh said this, but that'sexactly like that's where I was
almost like trying to get towith that.
SPEAKER_02 (19:43):
Is we talked about this with football a little bit.
It might not have been yourpurpose or your call to do that
part, but maybe it was your callto open the door.
Yeah, maybe, and because somethings require levels of it, and
but yeah, it really does, butalso like God's not gonna keep
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you in confusion and all ofthat.
So he's like, You served yourpurpose, yep.
It's time to move on, yep.
And then you and but the goodthing is your name is still
echoing, right?
And so as Josh is moving up andthey hearing Josh, Josh, Josh,
Josh, dang, I knew that girl wason to something.
The next person comes in andthey like maybe we'll listen to
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them.
You know what I'm saying?
Because it really that type ofstuff does happen.
I have worked on projects whereI'm like I said this five years
ago, and it didn't happen tothat person, said it.
Y'all know what I'm talkingabout.
It didn't happen to that person,said it, but God told me you did
exactly what you were supposedto do.
It wasn't even been a seed intheir mind.
It wasn't even they wouldn'teven been pushed to go to that
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next level if they weren'tintroduced to it by you.
SPEAKER_03 (20:52):
It's like it just it's interesting.
And you just said something theweek before last, maybe the
week, maybe two weeks ago, threeweeks ago, when I went to church
in Englewood, um, he he talkedabout how when the church they
were celebrating their churchanniversary.
The church has been around for aminute, I forget how long, but
the first pastor in there, hebuilt the church for like 1800
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people.
But the committee could not seewhy he was building that church
for that many people, right?
He didn't get to bring thosepeople in there, but the next
pastor brung that crowd inthere, right?
And then the current pastorkeeps the crowd, and it's
currently you get what I'msaying, adding on top.
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So it's levels, like you said,it's different layers.
Like his purpose was to buildit, the next ones was to get
them in there, and the currentis keeping them and adding on,
so and that's change management,like that really is.
SPEAKER_02 (21:55):
And if we can apply it to ourselves, we'll
understand life better.
Like, because it's like I said,there's so many parallels for me
because God has been speaking tome through my job for years
because it's a lot that Icouldn't understand.
We God gifted us with theability to look at things and
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maybe see the finish linebetween before a lot of other
people can.
Like, that's just a gift He gaveus.
Yes, but it's a gift that Hegave us.
SPEAKER_03 (22:25):
So that is that was a part of my problem.
Like, why can't y'all see it?
And I can like why can't y'allsee it?
And then that's like doses.
Um, people wear glasses for areason.
Yes, if they take those glassesoff, they can't see, right?
So we all can't see the samething, but that was a big
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problem.
Like, why why can't y'all seeit?
And I can like why can't you seethat you have this in you, but I
can see it.
Like that was that's that hasbeen the toughest thing for me.
Like, because I can lay out aplan for anybody, yeah.
unknown (23:04):
Why didn't you do it?
SPEAKER_03 (23:05):
Why why you think this so hard?
And and all I see is Uno Dolph,Uno Dolce.
That's all I see, but you don'tsee that because they can't
speak, they can't read Spanish.
SPEAKER_02 (23:18):
There you go.
SPEAKER_03 (23:19):
There you go.
SPEAKER_02 (23:20):
We're not even speaking, listen, we we
gossipren, we speak in thelanguage of God.
We have our faith glasses on, wedon't know what glasses they got
on.
Exactly.
You feel me?
Yeah, but God really gave us theability.
One thing I learned aboutpeople, I see you got something
on your mind.
SPEAKER_03 (23:35):
Go ahead.
SPEAKER_02 (23:36):
Hold it.
I'm holding it.
Go ahead.
One thing that I learned aboutpeople is a lot of people have
to take things in doses andstages and bits and pieces.
Like, and God will give everypart of that picture to somebody
else sometime for all y'all tocome together and create the
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bigger picture.
But sometimes that vision, ifyou're a visionary and you're a
strategist, you're gonna see thebeginning, the middle, and the
end.
But some people only catch on toone piece or the other.
And so that should tell you oneof the gifts that God gave you,
like that gift to create, thatgift to see what other people
can't see.
You you got your glasses on, yougot your gift, you got, you know
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what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_03 (24:20):
Like God gifted you with that, but unfortunately,
everyone, that's not everyone'sgift, and I think it comes a
part of it comes with umspiritual maturity.
Um, because somebody can pretendthat they're seeing what I'm
seeing.
Yo, give me cracker yet, becauseI know you're for real.
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Like I've had somebody pretendthat they saw exactly what I was
seeing, but you can only pretendfor so long.
Yeah.
So meanwhile, you waspretending, you thought, because
okay, because Josh is doingthis, I gotta come with, I gotta
just sound like I'm doingsomething.
So I gotta sound like this andthat.
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And then once God reallyrevealed who you were, that was
hard for me.
Because you came in here actinglike you seen through my vision
goggles.
Yeah, right, right.
And you don't see nothing.
I see color, you see black andwhite.
Yeah.
So it's this, and I'm and I'mspiritually mature.
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Everybody isn't spirituallymature.
SPEAKER_02 (25:26):
No.
SPEAKER_03 (25:26):
So I have to always take that in account too,
because you can say all youwant, like, you know, God this,
God that.
You could know the whole Bible,you could know the word, but if
you don't apply the word, youdon't believe in that word, you
don't have faith in that word,and you don't trust his word,
all you have is some word.
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Where are my shoes?
That's all you have is some wordon paper.
Yeah, that's all you have.
SPEAKER_02 (25:53):
Word without relationships.
SPEAKER_03 (25:54):
I tell you all the time, I don't know why people be
scared.
I ain't scared of nothing.
That's how God built it.
Like, I'm really I try my wholetrust.
Like, I'm not saying like Idon't get weary sometimes
because I do, that's normal.
But once I get up, God, I knowyou got it.
Even in it, God, I know you gotit, but let me feel this right
now.
SPEAKER_02 (26:14):
Yeah, because I mean, we're in a human body for
a reason.
So, I mean, there's Godunderstands there's gonna be
times like that, but he's gonnaremind us of who we are.
SPEAKER_03 (26:22):
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (26:23):
So, yeah, girl, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (26:25):
Everybody don't see.
So, what's something that youyou guys need to change or have
changed, or you know, want to orin the process of changing?
Yeah, what is it?
We wanna know.
I'm about to change from havingfour kids in the house to three.
Oh, child, you'd be about to goto college.
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Are you gonna be okay?
You're like, am I?
Listen, I'm not gonna give y'allthat fairy tale that's gonna be
like, I miss my kid so much.
I'ma miss my kid when he goes tocollege, but he ain't gonna,
he's not gonna.
We already had this discussionwhere he can't go too far where
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I can't drive to him.
Okay.
So if I want to go see him, BB,exactly.
Or, you know, of course, we'lltalk every day, but am I gonna
miss him being in the house?
Getting on my nerves?
He don't get on my nerves, buthe does some other things that
get on my nerves.
No, I'm not.
I know, girl.
(27:28):
No, I'm with you in that one.
I'm almost at the finish line.
No, I'm not.
I almost would have been thelast one.
SPEAKER_02 (27:37):
Jace just wanted to pop us on the pop up.
SPEAKER_03 (27:40):
Like, yeah, I almost would have been finished, but
no, he's about to go to college,so we're about to change.
And I pray for the people thatdon't know how to change because
that's a gift for me.
I can adapt.
Yeah, it's very easy for me toadapt in any room.
It's hard for me to understandwhy people don't change and
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people don't think like me, butI can adapt any room you put me
in, except a farm, except likebeing on a farm ground.
I don't think I ever can adapt.
SPEAKER_02 (28:11):
Like, yo, I gotta send you this real under taking
care of these far animals,acting like he a southern black
woman.
Not even listen, he was asouthern black woman mixed with
a ratchet black woman from thehood.
Yo, he was cursing them animalsout.
Like, oh, you wanna poop them?
(28:31):
I got something for you.
I got like but I can see thatthough.
SPEAKER_03 (28:36):
Can't you see how we just act up with our can you
imagine?
First of all, that's how I bedoing the dogs now.
This is how I talk to the dogsnow.
Like, you knew better than that.
Why you gonna sit and let themmake a noise?
Especially that chopper, likeyou wanna sit here and do that
chopper, and here go the kids.
He knows what you're sayingbecause he does.
(28:59):
Like, what's wrong with you,boy?
I am cracking.
Yeah, so let us know.
Change starts within.
That's what I'm gonna leavey'all with.
SPEAKER_02 (29:07):
It does.
It's a lot that we need torealize about ourselves and be
okay with.
Like, you have to recognizethese things before you're even
able to change it.
Able to change it, yeah.
You have to be able to reallytake some time to reflect and
ask yourself, well, why do Ifeel this way?
Why do I feel that way aboutthem?
SPEAKER_03 (29:26):
Yeah, you know, and it doesn't even have to be that
deep.
Yeah, it doesn't.
Because what I had to change wasI had to stop drinking coffee.
That's why I need y'all to buyme a tea.
Because coffee gives me thejitters, yeah.
So I had to change it.
So now I drink like chai tea andstuff like that.
SPEAKER_02 (29:45):
Yeah.
And it's gonna be okay.
Yeah, it's the methylationpathway, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (29:50):
So yeah, so yes, let us know what you got.
SPEAKER_02 (30:01):
Yes, let us know.
We're here for it.
Yeah, I got this.
See ya.
SPEAKER_03 (30:07):
Hey.
Be careful what you attach yourself to and then
calling it your purpose.
Like it could be a gift, but isit your purpose?
SPEAKER_03 (00:11):
Yeah, it really was mind-boggling because I just
couldn't understand.
My mind wasn't processing.
Why would you do that?
Telling you that we could getget it like this and like this.
Why aren't you trying?
SPEAKER_02 (00:25):
Because sometimes we'd be expecting someone with a
broken leg to run as fast as us.
SPEAKER_00 (00:30):
Yep.
SPEAKER_02 (00:31):
It's like we don't know their traumas, we don't
know their triggers.
We don't know theircapabilities.
SPEAKER_03 (00:37):
You can say all you want, like you know, God this,
God that.
You can know the whole Bible.
You can know the word.
But if you don't apply the word,you don't believe in that word,
you don't have faith in thatword, and you don't trust his
word, all you have is somewords.
SPEAKER_01 (00:53):
Where am I shooting?
Woman in black is where we putdown the case and pick up the
mic, being authentically who weare, where we are, unmasked,
unfiltered, and unapologetic.
SPEAKER_03 (01:07):
So today is the day that the Lord has made.
Let us be glad.
Rejoice in it.
Okay.
Every day is the day that he hasmade.
Did you want me to sing withyou?
You don't have to.
SPEAKER_02 (01:26):
I ain't saying.
I feel like you was looking atme like when you gonna sing it.
Oh I well, I was gonna do thatanyway.
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (01:36):
Anyway.
How are you today, Desiree?
I'm good.
Look at those bars.
How are you today, Desiree?
Damn.
I probably should start writingsome.
SPEAKER_02 (01:50):
Hey, sometimes you don't know what your gift is
until you just slide into it.
And you be like, Jesus.
I didn't know as good as this.
Anyway.
Um sorry.
So today, I'm I'm good.
I'm feeling empowered.
I'm feeling more clear on thedirection God wants me to move
in my life.
Um, a lot of change ishappening.
(02:13):
Uh change, change is goodthough.
Like some people see change asbeing so bad or they don't like
change.
Maybe maybe because of pastcircumstances or, you know, just
set in their ways.
But I'm embracing this newseason in my life and I'm not
upset about it.
(02:33):
Wow.
SPEAKER_03 (02:33):
I just got to chill.
SPEAKER_02 (02:35):
Well, yeah, because God will interrupt.
God will literally interruptwhat you're doing and say, do
this because somebody needs tohear it.
Or do this because I need I needto release you in this moment.
But how are things with you?
How things going.
SPEAKER_03 (02:50):
I'm chilling.
Chilling.
I got some great confirmation.
Right.
But I'm good.
Um, I'm just I'm so grateful.
Even the little things.
It's like the little, I've justbeen so grateful lately.
Right.
Guys like that.
He likes that all the time.
(03:13):
He really is.
So yeah, I'm just grateful.
So I want to put a disclaimerout there.
Okay.
Okay.
When we are on our podcast, ourcapes are down.
We are our natural selves.
Like what you guys are seeing iswhat our kids see.
(03:36):
What our family see.
Not what corporate America sees.
But do not get it twisted.
We get the job done.
And we get paid.
And we are extremelyprofessional.
Right now, we are in our atwork, we're comfortable.
(03:59):
But when we're home, we are inour when we down here at PP's
lounge, we are comfortable.
You see her?
She kind of looked dead.
But we are comfortable.
So I just wanted to throw thatout there.
Like, just because wecomfortable, we got our hoodies
on, we know how to throw on thatcollar shirt with them heels and
(04:23):
them dress pants and thatblazer.
SPEAKER_02 (04:26):
Right.
When we have to.
When we have to.
So just wanted to throw thatout.
Yeah, because sometimes andsometimes, you know, I was in
this um McKenzie LeadershipAcademy.
It's a uh um, most people knowMcKenzie and Company.
It's like a large uh consultingcompany.
So I went through their theirleadership academy, and one
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thing they always ask was, areyou being authentically you at
your job?
People was getting on me becauseI said, no, no, unless I could
come come to work withsweatpants on and sneakers, no.
And I I don't, I think thatquestion means different things
(05:11):
to different people, but it getstiring sometimes with to have to
perform, to always have to beon, to always have to be just
like professional days.
Like it without a balance, yeah,it is hard.
Like I understand the respectthat comes with looking a
(05:33):
certain way and presentingyourself a certain way.
All those things are important.
I will never discount them in aprofessional environment.
I do feel they are importantdepending on what type of
business you're doing, whetherthat importance is because it's
what's ingrained in our societyor not, it's important because
that's what the world we live insays is important.
Period.
Like it is what it is.
(05:54):
Now, I be needing a break.
I mean need a break.
And so this is our break.
And it's important for people toknow like there is a space for
the women who need to take theircape off, for the men who need
to take their cape off.
SPEAKER_03 (06:12):
Who need that break?
SPEAKER_02 (06:13):
Who need the break because it had the pendulum has
to be able to sway both ways.
You can't, it's just you're notalways up.
That's just not the force.
That what goes up must comedown.
Like you have to keep a balancein your life.
You need that balance for tosurvive.
SPEAKER_03 (06:30):
And it's okay to take a break.
We're not robots, we're not.
It's okay to take a break.
So if you you guys are followingus and subscribe to us, come on,
come on in and take that breakwith us.
SPEAKER_02 (06:44):
Right.
We need it, we need it.
So, you know, love y'all,McKenzie.
We'll work together again in thefuture.
Authentic, everything that comesout my mouth will be from
Desiree.
Who I am will never be fake.
SPEAKER_03 (06:59):
Right, absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (07:00):
But them clothes in corporate, when I start being
able to go to work like this,then I'll say I'm authentic.
SPEAKER_03 (07:07):
Now, let me tell you something.
Sometimes, no, I have never worna hoodie to work.
Who could wear not in corporate,but I do have dressed down days
where I wear jeans.
Exactly.
SPEAKER_02 (07:18):
What could you imagine?
I would love it.
What?
I'd be wiggling my toes and Iwould be so happy to wear my
toes.
No, my toes would be in freedom.
Because I listen, culture shift.
If you ask me, I might have adifferent perception of
workplace culture and what couldreally allow people to elevate
(07:40):
and do their best work.
SPEAKER_03 (07:41):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (07:42):
I'll be honest with you.
My perception of it is like,let's meet in the middle.
That's my perception.
Like, look well groomed, lookpresentable, but I don't need
you in a suit and tie.
SPEAKER_03 (07:56):
That's that's how I think ever since um COVID
happened, a lot of franchiseshave like brought it brung it
down a little bit.
Because I I haven't worn a dresssuit, a pair suit in a long
time.
In a long time.
So yes, but I know there aresome engagements that do require
(08:17):
me to dress dress up more.
You know what I mean?
Um, but yeah, I just want tothrow that out there to let
y'all know, like we are her.
She's her, I'm her, we are hers.
But right now, we tired.
We need up right now.
We freak.
Yes, yes.
So just to jump right in, todaywe are going to discuss how
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change starts within.
Wow.
What are some possibly oldtraits that you had um or
behaviors that you've changed orstill need to change, and why
it's important, why the changeis important.
SPEAKER_02 (09:03):
That's so crazy.
Um especially since I'm not evenreally over the past two years.
Um we've been about to talkabout work, but I'm gonna say
this part real quick.
Um I had to create a changemanagement framework and change
management playbook um for ourcompanies.
We have a a conglomerate ofcompanies um so that we can
(09:29):
excel at change.
Um, even when I think of some ofthose principles, they're they
really get to the core of justhumans, like who we are, how we
uh respond to things and what weneed.
And so when I think about mylife right now, I'm thinking
(09:51):
about I have that playing in theback of my head because I'm a
people's person.
So when something big ishappening, whether it be in a
world at work, at home, I'malways worried about well, how's
this gonna affect, you know, mykids?
How's it gonna affect this?
How's it gonna affect?
Like, I I need people to feelcomfortable with change.
And then sometimes you don't geta forewarning, it just happens.
(10:15):
Right.
Like change is is is crazy.
But um when we talk about whatwe need to change, like just
being specific, I I needed tochange how I was attacking my
gift, how I was executing mygift in the world.
(10:35):
Because I used to speak likeeverything could be a business.
I know.
Like I really feel that way.
Like I say, if I'm eating it,I'm gonna buy it.
I'm gonna have stock in it.
If I like this, maybe I shouldown it or create my own.
If I if I talk about this, we'retalking about it anyway.
(10:57):
Might as well set up a cameraand make it a podcast.
We're gonna talk about it withthe same level of passion on or
off camera.
Like, that's how my brain works.
Like everything is seen as anopportunity.
There's not a lot that I seethat's not an opportunity.
Where the change came in wasthat doesn't mean it's your
opportunity.
That doesn't mean what I want,that's what I want you to do.
(11:18):
That doesn't mean that that'syour purpose in this earth.
Be careful what you attachyourself to and then calling it
your purpose.
Yeah.
Like it could be a gift, but isit your purpose?
And so I know I have a gift ofstrategy, like just looking at
(11:39):
things as ooh, but just becauseI could buy a Rolls Royce
doesn't mean I you should.
SPEAKER_03 (11:44):
I want that I need to.
SPEAKER_02 (11:45):
Yeah, that I need to, or that I even should.
And what's your reasons forwanting to?
Right.
So I I think that's the realityI'm sitting in right now.
Because I really, really alwayson.
God says, sit your behind Daleand chill out and talk to me.
Let's have a conversation aboutyour purpose.
(12:09):
And he stopped me in my tracks.
And so now I'm havingconversations with God about my
purpose.
That'll do it.
The soft hustle.
Gotta chill, gotta sit down,gotta walk in purpose.
That's my shift.
My change is understanding youcould go nowhere fast if you
(12:32):
don't be obedient to the callthat's on your life.
Obedience versus that sacrifice,that grind, sacrificing my time.
So I'm about to get this money.
Oh, I see this object.
No.
What you working on?
SPEAKER_03 (12:50):
I had to stop my changes.
I had to stop expecting everyoneto think like me, to understand
like me, to have the heart likeme.
Like I had to change thatmentality.
Right.
Because things would happen.
I and it really wasmind-boggling because I just
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couldn't understand.
My mind wasn't processing.
Why would you do that?
Or why, if you see, if I'mtelling you that we could get
get it like this and like this,why aren't you trying?
Like me expecting other peopleto be like hustlers and
go-getters, just like me, likefor cause.
(13:35):
I excuses when people say, Oh, Ican't get the job, or there's no
jobs, or it's so hard for me.
That I'm still working onunderstanding when people say
that because I'm like, what'swrong with you?
All you have to do is this,this, this, this, and this.
So it's hard.
I'm I'm literally working onthat because that's hard for me
(13:56):
to not understand why peopledon't think like.
Can I say something about that?
SPEAKER_02 (14:02):
Because sometimes we be expecting someone with a
broken leg to run as fast as us.
It's like we don't know theirtraumas, we don't know their
triggers, we don't know theircapabilities.
Everybody is not capable, theyweren't gifted with that measure
of grace that God gave you to docertain things.
And we keep expecting this one.
SPEAKER_03 (14:23):
We keep expecting it.
SPEAKER_02 (14:24):
And they weren't created to.
Exactly.
They were created to be thattype type of person that's gonna
work for you.
SPEAKER_03 (14:31):
That's exact exactly.
There we go.
Everyone was not meant to be aleader.
No, everyone can't be a chief.
We gotta have some Indians outthere, and that's okay, and
that's okay, but for a longtime, I'm starting to see like
the last year or so, I'm juststarting to really feel
comfortable with the change, uh,with understanding that that's
(14:52):
okay.
Because it was just like, what'swrong?
Like, I'm like, y'all crazy.
Like, what's wrong with y'all?
And one of my brothers said tome one time, like, the thing is,
is like you go hard and then youexpect other people to go hard
just like you, right?
And when they don't go hard justlike you, you cut them off
immediately.
SPEAKER_02 (15:12):
Oh, because you were lacking the understanding at the
time, yes, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (15:16):
Um, so that it's just like because like even it
and that goes for anything,right?
But yeah, it was just like,you're right.
And did you have to cut themoff?
Understanding people for whothey are and accepting them for
who they are is huge.
Accepting things for how theyare.
SPEAKER_02 (15:35):
Well, I think there's a difference.
You don't have to accept thingsfor how they are, but still
accept them for who they are.
SPEAKER_03 (15:42):
Well, let's say in the in the workplace, right?
And you know my um, not my premy current job, but my previous
job, um, I had someone say tome, if you're looking for a
place that makes sense, it's nothere.
Yeah.
They told me that day two, mebeing who I am, it was not
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processing that what she saidwas what she meant.
SPEAKER_02 (16:11):
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (16:11):
So I came in still trying to change everything
because it didn't make sensewhen she already told me it
didn't make sense.
So I because it's not how Iexpected it to be, right?
And y'all like, what's wrongwith y'all?
That y'all don't know that thesepolicies don't make sense.
(16:32):
Like, what's wrong with youpeople?
What is wrong with y'all?
So what I did was I put morefrustration on myself because
they already told me exactly whothey were.
They told me that.
Yeah.
So why didn't I why didn't Ijust say, okay, they already
told me?
No, I always want to changeother people.
SPEAKER_02 (16:53):
Cause you that because that's the problem,
right?
And I hear you now.
So you're saying, okay, yeah,that approach ain't gonna work.
You rely on it, yeah.
You gotta change yourself, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (17:05):
I did.
I had to change the environment.
I had to change myself, I had toget myself up out of that
environment instead of goingthere every day, like because
only two ways you it's only twoways you can do it.
SPEAKER_02 (17:18):
Yeah.
You can either you can eitherchange your perspective of it
and say, okay, this is mypaycheck, let me level up.
Because I can't, it's notworking for me.
You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_03 (17:32):
Um, or you can start moving exactly how they're
moving.
So changing your perspectiveagain, but to their perspective.
SPEAKER_02 (17:41):
Well, I would never probably no, I wasn't even gonna
give that as a suggestion.
SPEAKER_03 (17:45):
Oh, I I was gonna say I can't do that.
SPEAKER_02 (17:47):
No, because I no, no.
When I say the how, like I couldsay I like the who versus the
how.
I understand that people are whothey are, but I don't have to
accept that.
And so that's where the howchanges in.
So it's like either I'ma sithere and work this job for what
(18:08):
it is and have an exit plan, orI'm gonna sit here and I'ma
change it, but not probably notthe way you went about it,
right?
Cause I'll probably I only saythat because of what I had to
change.
SPEAKER_03 (18:22):
Yeah, you it was so this particular company, there
was no changing.
Yeah, and you know, places likethat, like real old schoolstone,
and you probably tried to changeit for too long.
And but and the thing is, Iwasn't the only person, and what
that what and they would say,like, you know, such and such,
you know, before she left, yeah,she was trying to do the same
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thing you were trying to do,right?
And for me, I'm like, becauseI'm really when it comes to my,
you know, what I do for aliving, I'm really passionate
about it.
So to come in and just to seey'all just like y'all don't want
to change with the time.
SPEAKER_02 (19:01):
And you know, it's nothing wrong with anything that
you said or that you did,because you did what you were
supposed to do.
SPEAKER_03 (19:07):
I did, and I left I let what, and this is one thing
about me.
Um, not that I'm not too in myown horn, but if you come across
anyone that I've worked with,you know, come across anybody
that I haven't gotten into itwith, and probably they could
probably say it too.
But I leave a little razzledazzle wherever I any room that
I step out of, I leave a littlerazzle dazzle behind.
(19:30):
So, yeah, although they didn'twant to change, my razzle dazzle
is still in the meetings.
Well, Josh said this, but that'sexactly like that's where I was
almost like trying to get towith that.
SPEAKER_02 (19:43):
Is we talked about this with football a little bit.
It might not have been yourpurpose or your call to do that
part, but maybe it was your callto open the door.
Yeah, maybe, and because somethings require levels of it, and
but yeah, it really does, butalso like God's not gonna keep
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you in confusion and all ofthat.
So he's like, You served yourpurpose, yep.
It's time to move on, yep.
And then you and but the goodthing is your name is still
echoing, right?
And so as Josh is moving up andthey hearing Josh, Josh, Josh,
Josh, dang, I knew that girl wason to something.
The next person comes in andthey like maybe we'll listen to
(20:28):
them.
You know what I'm saying?
Because it really that type ofstuff does happen.
I have worked on projects whereI'm like I said this five years
ago, and it didn't happen tothat person, said it.
Y'all know what I'm talkingabout.
It didn't happen to that person,said it, but God told me you did
exactly what you were supposedto do.
It wasn't even been a seed intheir mind.
It wasn't even they wouldn'teven been pushed to go to that
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next level if they weren'tintroduced to it by you.
SPEAKER_03 (20:52):
It's like it just it's interesting.
And you just said something theweek before last, maybe the
week, maybe two weeks ago, threeweeks ago, when I went to church
in Englewood, um, he he talkedabout how when the church they
were celebrating their churchanniversary.
The church has been around for aminute, I forget how long, but
the first pastor in there, hebuilt the church for like 1800
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people.
But the committee could not seewhy he was building that church
for that many people, right?
He didn't get to bring thosepeople in there, but the next
pastor brung that crowd inthere, right?
And then the current pastorkeeps the crowd, and it's
currently you get what I'msaying, adding on top.
(21:41):
So it's levels, like you said,it's different layers.
Like his purpose was to buildit, the next ones was to get
them in there, and the currentis keeping them and adding on,
so and that's change management,like that really is.
SPEAKER_02 (21:55):
And if we can apply it to ourselves, we'll
understand life better.
Like, because it's like I said,there's so many parallels for me
because God has been speaking tome through my job for years
because it's a lot that Icouldn't understand.
We God gifted us with theability to look at things and
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maybe see the finish linebetween before a lot of other
people can.
Like, that's just a gift He gaveus.
Yes, but it's a gift that Hegave us.
SPEAKER_03 (22:25):
So that is that was a part of my problem.
Like, why can't y'all see it?
And I can like why can't y'allsee it?
And then that's like doses.
Um, people wear glasses for areason.
Yes, if they take those glassesoff, they can't see, right?
So we all can't see the samething, but that was a big
(22:45):
problem.
Like, why why can't y'all seeit?
And I can like why can't you seethat you have this in you, but I
can see it.
Like that was that's that hasbeen the toughest thing for me.
Like, because I can lay out aplan for anybody, yeah.
unknown (23:04):
Why didn't you do it?
SPEAKER_03 (23:05):
Why why you think this so hard?
And and all I see is Uno Dolph,Uno Dolce.
That's all I see, but you don'tsee that because they can't
speak, they can't read Spanish.
SPEAKER_02 (23:18):
There you go.
SPEAKER_03 (23:19):
There you go.
SPEAKER_02 (23:20):
We're not even speaking, listen, we we
gossipren, we speak in thelanguage of God.
We have our faith glasses on, wedon't know what glasses they got
on.
Exactly.
You feel me?
Yeah, but God really gave us theability.
One thing I learned aboutpeople, I see you got something
on your mind.
SPEAKER_03 (23:35):
Go ahead.
SPEAKER_02 (23:36):
Hold it.
I'm holding it.
Go ahead.
One thing that I learned aboutpeople is a lot of people have
to take things in doses andstages and bits and pieces.
Like, and God will give everypart of that picture to somebody
else sometime for all y'all tocome together and create the
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bigger picture.
But sometimes that vision, ifyou're a visionary and you're a
strategist, you're gonna see thebeginning, the middle, and the
end.
But some people only catch on toone piece or the other.
And so that should tell you oneof the gifts that God gave you,
like that gift to create, thatgift to see what other people
can't see.
You you got your glasses on, yougot your gift, you got, you know
(24:20):
what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_03 (24:20):
Like God gifted you with that, but unfortunately,
everyone, that's not everyone'sgift, and I think it comes a
part of it comes with umspiritual maturity.
Um, because somebody can pretendthat they're seeing what I'm
seeing.
Yo, give me cracker yet, becauseI know you're for real.
(24:41):
Like I've had somebody pretendthat they saw exactly what I was
seeing, but you can only pretendfor so long.
Yeah.
So meanwhile, you waspretending, you thought, because
okay, because Josh is doingthis, I gotta come with, I gotta
just sound like I'm doingsomething.
So I gotta sound like this andthat.
(25:01):
And then once God reallyrevealed who you were, that was
hard for me.
Because you came in here actinglike you seen through my vision
goggles.
Yeah, right, right.
And you don't see nothing.
I see color, you see black andwhite.
Yeah.
So it's this, and I'm and I'mspiritually mature.
(25:24):
Everybody isn't spirituallymature.
SPEAKER_02 (25:26):
No.
SPEAKER_03 (25:26):
So I have to always take that in account too,
because you can say all youwant, like, you know, God this,
God that.
You could know the whole Bible,you could know the word, but if
you don't apply the word, youdon't believe in that word, you
don't have faith in that word,and you don't trust his word,
all you have is some word.
(25:46):
Where are my shoes?
That's all you have is some wordon paper.
Yeah, that's all you have.
SPEAKER_02 (25:53):
Word without relationships.
SPEAKER_03 (25:54):
I tell you all the time, I don't know why people be
scared.
I ain't scared of nothing.
That's how God built it.
Like, I'm really I try my wholetrust.
Like, I'm not saying like Idon't get weary sometimes
because I do, that's normal.
But once I get up, God, I knowyou got it.
Even in it, God, I know you gotit, but let me feel this right
now.
SPEAKER_02 (26:14):
Yeah, because I mean, we're in a human body for
a reason.
So, I mean, there's Godunderstands there's gonna be
times like that, but he's gonnaremind us of who we are.
SPEAKER_03 (26:22):
Absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (26:23):
So, yeah, girl, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (26:25):
Everybody don't see.
So, what's something that youyou guys need to change or have
changed, or you know, want to orin the process of changing?
Yeah, what is it?
We wanna know.
I'm about to change from havingfour kids in the house to three.
Oh, child, you'd be about to goto college.
(26:45):
Are you gonna be okay?
You're like, am I?
Listen, I'm not gonna give y'allthat fairy tale that's gonna be
like, I miss my kid so much.
I'ma miss my kid when he goes tocollege, but he ain't gonna,
he's not gonna.
We already had this discussionwhere he can't go too far where
(27:07):
I can't drive to him.
Okay.
So if I want to go see him, BB,exactly.
Or, you know, of course, we'lltalk every day, but am I gonna
miss him being in the house?
Getting on my nerves?
He don't get on my nerves, buthe does some other things that
get on my nerves.
No, I'm not.
I know, girl.
(27:28):
No, I'm with you in that one.
I'm almost at the finish line.
No, I'm not.
I almost would have been thelast one.
SPEAKER_02 (27:37):
Jace just wanted to pop us on the pop up.
SPEAKER_03 (27:40):
Like, yeah, I almost would have been finished, but
no, he's about to go to college,so we're about to change.
And I pray for the people thatdon't know how to change because
that's a gift for me.
I can adapt.
Yeah, it's very easy for me toadapt in any room.
It's hard for me to understandwhy people don't change and
(28:02):
people don't think like me, butI can adapt any room you put me
in, except a farm, except likebeing on a farm ground.
I don't think I ever can adapt.
SPEAKER_02 (28:11):
Like, yo, I gotta send you this real under taking
care of these far animals,acting like he a southern black
woman.
Not even listen, he was asouthern black woman mixed with
a ratchet black woman from thehood.
Yo, he was cursing them animalsout.
Like, oh, you wanna poop them?
(28:31):
I got something for you.
I got like but I can see thatthough.
SPEAKER_03 (28:36):
Can't you see how we just act up with our can you
imagine?
First of all, that's how I bedoing the dogs now.
This is how I talk to the dogsnow.
Like, you knew better than that.
Why you gonna sit and let themmake a noise?
Especially that chopper, likeyou wanna sit here and do that
chopper, and here go the kids.
He knows what you're sayingbecause he does.
(28:59):
Like, what's wrong with you,boy?
I am cracking.
Yeah, so let us know.
Change starts within.
That's what I'm gonna leavey'all with.
SPEAKER_02 (29:07):
It does.
It's a lot that we need torealize about ourselves and be
okay with.
Like, you have to recognizethese things before you're even
able to change it.
Able to change it, yeah.
You have to be able to reallytake some time to reflect and
ask yourself, well, why do Ifeel this way?
Why do I feel that way aboutthem?
SPEAKER_03 (29:26):
Yeah, you know, and it doesn't even have to be that
deep.
Yeah, it doesn't.
Because what I had to change wasI had to stop drinking coffee.
That's why I need y'all to buyme a tea.
Because coffee gives me thejitters, yeah.
So I had to change it.
So now I drink like chai tea andstuff like that.
SPEAKER_02 (29:45):
Yeah.
And it's gonna be okay.
Yeah, it's the methylationpathway, yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (29:50):
So yeah, so yes, let us know what you got.
SPEAKER_02 (30:01):
Yes, let us know.
We're here for it.
Yeah, I got this.
See ya.
SPEAKER_03 (30:07):
Hey.
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