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SPEAKER_01 (00:00):
Like we play all day
long.
All day long.
And the thing about us that I dolike is that we ain't on here
trying to tell y'all that weholier than thou.
Yeah, no.
None of that.
Every day.
Every day.
Like we're just gonna try alittle harder.
But we know where our ourstrength comes from.
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Yes.
And we pray.
And we play about God.
There's no amount of money thatI ever want to have and be busy.
SPEAKER_02 (00:27):
Nope.
And that's that's where I am,where I'm like, not happening.
I need freedom.
Peace.
All of the things.
SPEAKER_01 (00:37):
Because there is no
certain type of way to pray.
You don't have to say our fatherheaven.
God accepts you how you are.
All he wants to do is hear fromhis kids.
That's it.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (00:49):
I think prayer is so
important.
I just wish you know more peopleunderstood the power of prayer.
SPEAKER_01 (00:57):
And honestly, if we
never needed prayer as a nation,
we need it right now.
SPEAKER_00 (01:05):
Woman in Black is
where we put down the cake and
pick up the mic, beingauthentically who we are, where
we are, unmasked, unfiltered,and unapologetic.
SPEAKER_02 (01:17):
Alright, okay, so
checking in real quick.
How you feeling?
I am blessed by the best.
SPEAKER_01 (01:26):
I feel like I'm
always chilling though.
I'll just be chilling.
Yeah, I guess.
I need to ask chat.
What's some other expression?
How how else am I feelingbesides chilling?
Oh.
SPEAKER_02 (01:42):
Maybe because we be
so comfortable down here.
SPEAKER_01 (01:44):
Yeah, that's why I'm
always chilling.
Ask me that before while I'm inthe car.
Driving to Philly.
SPEAKER_02 (01:51):
Yeah, that might be
a different response.
Yeah.
We be in our hoodies down here.
We'd be relaxing.
But yeah.
How are you?
I'm good.
I am creating the life I want.
There you go.
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Me too.
Designing the life.
Designing it.
Yes, you're right.
I saw that from Dom actually.
That's what he told me to do.
SPEAKER_01 (02:21):
Okay, well, I'm
still in it.
No, for real.
SPEAKER_02 (02:26):
We really are.
SPEAKER_01 (02:28):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (02:28):
Yeah.
Because I was um I wasn't havingdecision fatigue because I said
I was gonna write down a bunchof ideas and I was gonna pray.
I told you that, like I I I havean idea of what God wants me to
do, but I wasn't gonna pull thetrigger this time until I really
prayed through it and reallyfelt comfortable in my spirit
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because I know that I'm giftedto do a lot of things, but what
am I purposed to do?
And so I need to be able,because that's been my job for
so long, to come up with allthese innovative ideas and put
them into practice and into playwhere it makes sense for this
business.
And it's like, okay, Des, yougotta do what makes sense for
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your life.
SPEAKER_01 (03:10):
Yeah, yeah, because
you could do all like you say,
yeah, you could run fast andstill not get anywhere.
Anywhere or get where you don'twant to be.
SPEAKER_02 (03:20):
I don't there's no
amount of money that I ever want
to have and be miserable.
Nope.
And that's that's where I am,where I'm like, not happening,
Captain.
I need freedom, peace, peace,all of the things.
I need to be able to move how Iwant to move when I and that's
that's a blessing to be able todo that, to even be able to
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contemplate what that look like,um to be able to kind of feel
and see it and reach for it.
So I know I'm blessed to be ableto be in that season of my life,
but I have to keep God first.
And that's that's where I am isGod, you take the first step,
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and I'll I'll just go from therewith you.
Yep, step in step.
You take the first step, I takethe next.
SPEAKER_01 (04:11):
Yep.
I don't know, you remember thatstep by step, uh-huh.
Day by day.
That came to mind that's crazy.
That's my gift.
Music, y'all don't even knowthat.
But today we're gonna discusspraying.
Sis, do you pray?
SPEAKER_02 (04:30):
I pray all day every
day.
Why do you why do you pray?
I feel like there is ascientific reason to this and a
biblical reason.
Okay.
Um, do you know that people livelonger who have trust and hope?
I believe that.
SPEAKER_01 (04:48):
I didn't know like
that was a scientific fact.
Yeah, but no, I bel Iwholeheartedly believe that
because the ones that don't havetrust and hope, guess what they
have?
Stress and misery.
Right.
And stress leads to heartattacks, strokes, all of that.
My my alarm just came on to tellme to pray.
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Um, yep.
It must be 115.
Yep.
Okay, so crazy.
Yeah, but no, I believe thatbecause the people that be
stressing be stroking.
Yeah, I didn't even mean tolaugh.
SPEAKER_02 (05:21):
It's just how things
come out your mouth.
They do, and it's unintentional.
SPEAKER_01 (05:28):
It just happens, it
just they be stroking.
The people that be dressing,they be stroking, or they be
having breakouts, or they justbe depressed.
And listen, them spirits is notfrom God.
SPEAKER_02 (05:41):
No, they're not.
No, they're not, and so becausethe enemy, listen, the enemy
comes to kill, steal, anddestroy, okay?
Like you really have to be inalignment with God to make sure
you're not being manipulated,deceived, and all the other
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things that come with him.
You know what I'm saying?
So, why I pray?
I pray because uh I want to behealthy, I want to keep my
sanity, you know.
I meditate on the word, Imeditate on the word, you know
what I'm saying?
People meditate in the world,like you could meditate on the
word as well.
Um, same theory there, but youjust got that extra dose of God
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on top.
SPEAKER_01 (06:27):
There you go.
So I'm really just I'm creatingthat relationship and
communication pathway with God,and prayer is different for for
everybody, yeah.
Because there is no certain typeof way to pray.
Nah, like those people that getup there, get somewhere and
think that you're supposed topray for 10 minutes for God to
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get what you're saying.
That ain't it.
Because you don't have to, youcould say a simple prayer just
to get to God, just to for himto understand, I'm your child, I
am here.
I need you, I need you, or Ithank you, yes, or protect us,
whatever it is, like it could bea 10-second prayer.
There, there is nowhere thatstates you have to pray for four
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minutes and 17 seconds for it toreach God, right?
Like, and if y'all out therepreaching that, y'all need to
stop.
You heard I mean that.
I want y'all to know everythingI say on here, I mean.
We know, we know, and I meanthat, but no, prayer is so
important, and I'm so glad thatum I I'm not perfect, I haven't
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ever been perfect, haven't evertried to be perfect, but growing
up, prayer was instilled in me.
Yeah, and I have um instilled itin my kids, not even just by
telling them, um, by them, byshowing them.
Right every morning before wedrive off, before we go
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anywhere, we have this oneprayer that we say every single
day.
Jace can say it by himself,everybody can say it by
themselves because this is whatwe do, like this is our thing.
And right, I've seen my kidsseparately praying, just
catching them off guard praying,or you know what I mean?
So prayer is important, and Iexpress that to my boys too.
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You don't there is no prayer,you don't have to say our
father, which heaven.
God accepts you how you are, allhe wants to do is hear from his
kids.
That's it.
Like you don't have to, there'sno written prayer that you have
to say to get to God.
So if you just want to say, HeyGod, that's how I start my
journaling.
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Hey God, it's me again.
Right, and that's my time ofprayer too.
Journaling, that's my time ofprayer, and it's just so it's
just so important.
That connection, it's just Irather pray half the time than
talk to people.
Sometimes I gotta pray before Italk to people every time.
Because your ministry angelsbefore me.
SPEAKER_02 (09:10):
Right.
I remember when um my10-year-old was, he probably was
like three or four.
I love her heart.
Now she she she's gonna pray.
She's gonna pray for you,herself, and everybody else.
She's gonna come to the table.
She said, I actually got videoof this.
She was like, Do Tristan knowGod?
(09:32):
I said, Oh, where's this going?
That's my oldest.
She was like, I just wanna makesure he knows God.
She was like, I've been prayingfor him.
Okay.
I say he knows God, he knowsGod, right?
But she had me questioningstuff, so I'm going, Tristan,
you know God, right?
SPEAKER_01 (09:53):
If you had to run
back, like, let me go make sure
he didn't.
SPEAKER_02 (09:57):
Yeah.
Because we would growing up, mymom was the type of mom who was
gonna pray for you in your sleepand put that oil on your
forehead, scare you half todeath, all that.
You just like, oh geez, but youget used to it.
Um little trauma as you getolder, like, but that would
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that's who my mom was.
She was she was a prayerwarrior.
She gonna we're gonna we'regonna pray, gonna pray through
everything.
Um, I think with with my kids, II do pray.
I cover them.
I think where I could be moreintentional is like praying more
out loud with them, likecollectively, like they'll hear
me pray.
Yeah, but we're about to passthe mic, you know what I'm
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saying?
Like something like that,because I want them to be more
confident in their relationshipwith God.
Um, because I know Tristan couldbe a little bit more
standoffish, he views the worldvery differently than most
people, and that's a topic thatI think um spiritually, yes,
cover everything.
I think he tries to he wants theBible to be as realistic and as
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applicable.
And I have to express to himlike we we're not always gonna
be able to see the world thesame way God sees it.
There's it's infinite, there'sso much in this universe that we
don't know and don't understand.
Right.
Um, and so for you with yourhuman mind and human brain to
try to like pick this apart tothe extent that you try, it is
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gonna disturb you more than youknow, lead you and heal you.
So, you know, just trying tospeak to him about his
relationship and understandingof the universe and what science
says versus you know our livedexperiences.
Yeah.
Um, so I think what will help inthat as well is just building up
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his confidence and hisrelationship with them um by
praying more out loud together.
So I I want to do better there,yeah for sure.
SPEAKER_01 (11:51):
I think prayer um
prayer gets confused sometimes,
right?
We think sometimes people thinkbecause I prayed, it's done.
Which it is, like, right?
You ask God, it's done.
But God needs us to do our parttoo when we pray.
Yeah, you know what I mean?
Like we have to do our part.
(12:12):
He told us to have the faith ofa mustard seed, you gotta have
that, and you have to apply yourprayer.
Like you can't just say, God, Igot I'm sick.
I need you to heal me.
Yes, we want God to heal us, butGod also wants us to do what
we're supposed to do.
Like, if that means, and this isme, if that means you need to go
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start working out more and beingconsistent with it, can't say,
God, I want to lose weight, butI'm gonna sit here and I'm gonna
eat these sandwiches.
I pray I lose weight, God.
Drink that cup of sugar, anddrink my cup of sugar over here,
but then don't go to the gym andwalk on that treadmill or walk
that track, you know what Imean, or do those squats,
whatever it takes.
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So it takes two, like yes, anyrelationship, yes, yes, it takes
two.
So you can pray, you can pray,you can pray, but faith without
works is dead, so you can havethat faith that God's gonna lead
you to it, but you gotta do yourpart too.
SPEAKER_02 (13:09):
Yeah, a lot of
people are um they pick what
they want to believe out theBible, yeah.
But uh pray, believe, and Ishall receive when you know two
of us agree, two or three of usagree, you know, like it's done.
It's another verse, anotherverse in the Bible that you
probably should make.
You probably should like go readthat one too.
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You ain't gonna make a recipeand only like make a cake and
only use three of theingredients that's supposed to
be in the recipe when there'sfive.
SPEAKER_01 (13:38):
Or you're gonna get
the cake if you don't put it in
the oven.
You're not, you're not likeyou're just picking and choosing
what you want, and then youdon't get the outcome you expect
because you're cherry picking,yes, so I was going through for
like a year and a half um inthis one situation, and I was
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praying, but God also showed melike if you better do something
else too, like you gotta do yourpart, right?
And when I tell you this is justmy testimony, everything has
turned around tremendously inthis situation with my son, like
like the whole perspective, hiswhole perspective.
And I I constantly let this boyknow, did you pray?
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Do you believe in God for it?
Are you applying his word?
Are you doing this?
And now you can't get the boy tostop saying, because mom, you
can't tell me that wasn't God.
I can't tell me that wasn't God,and I'm just like, Yeah, so
happy that you're not in, butnow he just won't stop.
Thank you, God, but noweverything, mom, you're gonna
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tell me that wasn't God.
You know, I'm gonna give you anexample, right?
He lost his ID badge for school,so he's like, Mom, going down
there, get me a new ID badge.
You know, the same time I'mgoing down there, some lady
walking up with my ID badge, myold one.
You can't tell me that wasn'tGod.
You're right, son.
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I love this, you're right.
So I pray, I pray, I pray, Ipray nonstop.
I pray, I pray for not just me,not just my kids, and I pray for
everything attached to me,everything that I want detached
from me, everything that I don'tever want to attach itself to
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me.
Right, I just pray.
And the thing is, another partof prayer, we just can't pray
for ourselves all the time.
Right, don't be a selfishprayer.
Like, you gotta pray for otherpeople and other things, just
don't pray for material things,you know what I mean?
Like, you have to no, I'm notperfect, no, I didn't write the
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Bible, no, no, no.
But I trust God and I believewhat I'm saying is what I
wholeheartedly believe.
You know what I mean?
So, prayer, you have to extendthat prayer, you have to get a
little bit more deeper, andeverybody, it's it takes time to
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know exactly what you need tosay to God in a moment.
Yeah, so um, you guys could takethis from me.
I always say, every time I endmy prayer, I'm asking God,
whoever, whatever I have notprayed for that you wanted me to
pray for, Lord God, I lift thosepeople or those things up to
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you.
Take them.
You know what I mean?
Like that's what I doconstantly.
So we have to extend thoseprayers to the people around us,
to our jobs, to everything.
So don't be a selfish prayer.
We know God know what you need,girl.
God know what you need.
SPEAKER_02 (16:49):
I will add that, you
know, like prayer for me is like
a daily practice.
Um, like it's just how Icommunicate with him.
So I could be cooking orcleaning up, and I'm just
talking to God and communingwith him.
And yeah, and just having thatconversation.
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And uh, it could be a thank you.
It could be, you know, littlethings, but really building my
relationship and my confidencein him, and you know, just
trying to understand my path andmy purpose a little bit more and
better.
Um, but also understand thatit's very important to be
intentional, like create, createthat time where it's just you
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and him, where you've given himundivided attention because it
is just like any otherrelationship.
You have to pour into it to, youknow, to get something out of
it, something meaningful,something with longevity.
Yep.
Um, and so I'm just years ago, Iwas like, okay, I gotta be more
intentional, gotta be moreintentional when it comes to
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prayer.
So I have my alarm on my phonewhen I'm praying.
Mine is like eight o'clockthough.
Um, um, and then you know,setting up routines and other
times of day as well.
But yeah, I think prayer is soimportant.
I just wish, you know, morepeople understood the power of
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prayer.
SPEAKER_01 (18:15):
And honestly, if we
never needed prayer as a nation,
we need it right now.
Sis, bro, uncle, auntie,grandma.
Because people out heremanipulating the Bible.
Oh my gosh.
People out here are manipulatingthe Bible.
SPEAKER_02 (18:33):
Yeah, they bringing
us, they're giving me memories
of um when I learned about theslave Bible.
So can we pray?
SPEAKER_01 (18:40):
Because we all need
to pray.
Like as a nation, we need topray for each other.
We need to just keep our andthis goes back to not being
selfish with your prayers.
Pray for those kids at theschools, don't just pray for
your kids, pray for all the kidsin the schools.
Pray for your spouses and theircolleagues that work in those
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prisons.
Pray for the people who areoverseas fighting for our
country.
Like, don't be selfish withthose prayers, like, because we
all need it.
I don't know about y'all, butwhen stuff happens, certain
things happen, I feel I feelcompelled to like pray more for
the world.
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Because I'm gonna tell you alittle bit.
I 85% of me don't really careabout what's going on because my
trust is in God.
So I just like I that's none ofthat is gonna affect me.
You know what God has for me andmy people is not gonna miss us,
and God gonna keep us protected.
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And I keep saying it, weaponsmay form, but they will not
prosper in Jesus' name.
So I don't really be too muchworried about what y'all
president out there be talkingabout.
I don't be too much worried.
I don't be too much worried, butwe need to come together and
pray.
SPEAKER_02 (20:04):
Some of us are
called to, you know, prayer,
like and some people, I mean,everyone should have a prayer
life to some extent.
Um, but yeah, you may find likein this time, you being called
to to do that.
Like, there's been moments in mylife where God called me to do
certain things, even aroundprayer.
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Um, I remember I lost a veryclose friend of mine, and um, we
used to call him nine and uh E9.
Wow, memories.
But I did a nine day of prayerafter his fasting.
Um, and I was called to do that.
So I opened up the phone lines,got, you know, the community and
people on the phone, and just,you know, had pastors and
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ministers that I haverelationships with to jump on
and pray.
Um, it was healing for mepersonally because it was a
friend.
I know it was healing to othersas well.
Yeah.
Because you just God like whenGod calls us to do something,
sometimes you just gotta do it.
SPEAKER_01 (21:10):
Yeah, even when you
don't want to.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Even when you don't want to.
I feel like he's speaking toyou.
He's speaking to you.
And there's been situationswhere you know there there can
be situations where you know Godhas called you to do it, but you
get a no from the people thatyou have to you have to get the
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approval from, right?
To do it.
SPEAKER_02 (21:39):
So you gotta find
another way to do it.
Yeah, but sometimes God justwants to see if we're gonna be
obedient.
SPEAKER_01 (21:45):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (21:45):
So you just ask
them, you want me to still do
this or what?
SPEAKER_01 (21:47):
Yeah.
Uh-huh.
So, you know, and in thoseinstances, I found other ways to
get to get to, you know, whatGod wanted me to do.
SPEAKER_02 (21:58):
Okay.
And if he if he calls you tosomething, he'll make a way.
Yeah.
He'll make a way.
He said a tunnel.
SPEAKER_01 (22:06):
Yep.
Got right through there.
Got right through that tunnel.
Sure did.
But yes, we all need to pray.
It's so important.
Like, we play all day long, allday long.
And the thing about us that I dolike is that we ain't on here
trying to tell y'all that weholier than thou.
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Yeah, no, none of that.
We every day is every day.
SPEAKER_02 (22:32):
Like, we're just
gonna try a little harder.
SPEAKER_01 (22:35):
But we know where
our our strength comes from,
yes, and we pray, and we don'tplay about God, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (22:41):
Cause that turn the
other cheek one was hard for a
long time.
I said, now who's supposed to dothat?
Like, is they I'm looking forthe rest of the chapter, girl.
I was like, so when do you startturning the other cheek?
Like, what God?
So supposed to have somebodyjust laughing.
SPEAKER_01 (23:04):
And you gotta pray
for your enemies.
SPEAKER_02 (23:06):
Yeah, true, because
the level of prayer God gave me
for some people in my life whowasn't even yes, you gotta pray
for enemies, but who wasn't evenan enemy yet.
But I had to knew he knew, heknew, and I had to, I had to,
you know, the level ofprotection God gives you when
you do that, bro.
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He oh Jesus, he will reroutesomething else coming towards
you, reroute it right aroundyou.
SPEAKER_01 (23:32):
Yep, I pray for my
my main enemy, Erica.
You have the devil.
I'll be praying for you, Satan.
Get up off me, get away from me,Satan.
Get behind me.
SPEAKER_02 (23:44):
Which y'all, what
how y'all prayer life look?
I um actually knew somebody whohad um created their whole
prayer room.
I don't have like an extra roomto like maybe my craft room
should have been my prayer.
God, I'm sorry.
SPEAKER_01 (23:56):
In Jesus' name,
please give me that when I buy
when I close on my house in thenext couple months.
God, in Jesus' name.
I need a space.
I'm about to make a corner.
SPEAKER_02 (24:05):
I'm just saying, got
my corner for you.
SPEAKER_01 (24:14):
I got PTSD.
SPEAKER_02 (24:16):
Oh, sorry.
Oops.
Oh, you really thought I wasgonna throw this hard thing at
you?
Yes, that's PTSD.
If I was, it's gonna be realsoft.
It was gonna hurt though.
I wouldn't have if I threw it,it'll be like PTSD deactivate.
If I was gonna throw it.
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I wouldn't throw that at you,though.
If it was like a soft littleball, Jesus.
Okay, well, if we learnsomething new every day,
domestic violence highlights.
Okay, it's gonna be okay.
Yeah, we're gonna take the wholethe whole part out with it.
SPEAKER_01 (24:58):
Yes, please.
Okay, yeah, but anyway, um,yeah, you need to create that
space for yourself, yeah.
Maybe get you a she shed.
SPEAKER_02 (25:14):
I thought about she
sheds.
You know how people got a prayercloset?
My closet got way too much stuffin it.
But when I had started redoingmy closet, I was in love with my
closet so much that I was like,this is gonna be my prayer
closet.
So I'm gonna go in my closet.
I turn around, I look around, Isaid, No, it ain't closet.
Nope.
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I like everything in here, but Ican't be here praying.
I might be in there praying formore clothes or something.
SPEAKER_01 (25:39):
Pray for a bigger
closet.
No, this is what we're gonna do.
I got a corner though.
When I close my house, mywherever my prayer closet is,
just let me know when you uhneed it.
You can go in there.
I am cracking.
SPEAKER_02 (25:53):
That's all you could
just use mine.
Well, my prayer would be thatwell, I have I can get more
space.
There's ways to get more space,so um, yeah, I think that God
will make a provision for it.
But I mean, it's house.
Listen, it's it's little nooksand crannies in it.
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Yeah, like little closets likethat.
Mm-hmm.
I should not be complainingabout space.
It's the most space I ever had.
It's freaking fire.
SPEAKER_01 (26:22):
You have different
closets that you could do, a
prayer closet.
SPEAKER_02 (26:26):
Yeah, I do.
I do it in the garage.
Well, actually, I did thinkabout that because I was um, I
told you I wanted to clean outand like make a gym area.
Because Dom literally has allthe stuff, but when we're
consolidating and move andstuff, it's just like, yeah,
it's not junk.
I don't want to call it junk,but some of our stuff.
(26:47):
Yeah.
So, but um, because I I like tolike I need a space, I want to
say to do yoga, but like to juststretch, meditate, and stuff,
put my mat down and everything.
I'm thinking that I might beable to use that as that,
honestly.
Um, and I want to get my garageinsulated.
SPEAKER_01 (27:06):
My current prayer
closet is my car.
Girl, I can sit in my car allday long.
Right.
SPEAKER_02 (27:14):
And something about
it, it's just so peaceful.
God be doing that.
I be in there watching moviessince TV sometimes.
SPEAKER_01 (27:21):
I don't know.
I just be in here like this.
It just be so peaceful.
Then I look in my rearviewmirror, there goes Tyler.
Like Candyman.
Gary.
Just pop up.
Yeah.
Who told you to come out hereand to write my face?
I wasn't even ready for you.
Exactly.
But yes, so um, we're gonnaleave you with all right.
SPEAKER_02 (27:45):
This, all right,
yes, all right.
SPEAKER_01 (27:47):
Make sure you pray.
SPEAKER_02 (27:48):
You got this, and it
don't gotta be perfect, but you
gotta.
There's no such thing as aperfect prayer.
Nope.
Just start that conversation,start spending time with God,
build that relationship, buildthat prayer muscle.
You got it, you talk to him,he's gonna speak back.
SPEAKER_01 (28:03):
Maybe not right
away, but he will.
And then sometimes he'll speakback so fast, you'll be like,
Dang God.
Right.
That was you, big bro.
He be doing stuff.
SPEAKER_02 (28:18):
Yeah, all right.
SPEAKER_01 (28:20):
Well, everybody have
a great week.
Um stay prayed up.
Don't forget to buy me a buy hera coffee.
Buy me a tea.
Or just buy her a coffee.
We're gonna dilute it.
SPEAKER_02 (28:34):
Girl, I got my tea
right here.
So I don't know if I'm gonnawant a coffee or a tea.
But buy us a coffee, and if wedon't want a coffee that day,
we'll get a tea.
We'll get a tea.
There you go.
SPEAKER_01 (28:46):
All right, bye.