December 5, 2025 • 23 mins
This week on Women in Black, we’re talking about something we are deep in this season: RELEASE — letting go of old mindsets, pressure, stereotypes, expectations, and anything that was only meant to be temporary.
We share what release looks like for us as women, moms, and creators navigating transition while trying to protect our peace. We break down the meaning behind the word, talk about releasing hustle culture and who people said we “should” be, and returning to our true selves. Even Coach Dominique “Dom” Williams pops in to share his take 👀😂.
If you're in a season of letting go, this one will sit right in your spirit.
Breathe. Release. Step into your new season with your head high.
Then meet us in the comments and let us know what YOU’RE releasing.
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SPEAKER_03 (00:00):
Like, who are you?
(00:01):
I am Josh.
I am Josh.
I'm Duty Mom, Jalen mom, Tylermom, Jace mom.
But I'm Josh.
Right.
So there's a difference.
It's so easy to just fall intoI'm a mom.
SPEAKER_02 (00:12):
And then once our kids are out the house, we don't
know what to do with our It'sthat mindset that, oh my
goodness, I gotta, I gotta doeverything.
I have to grind it out.
I have to accept that I'msupposed to be doing everything
and living to this ridiculousstandard that society says that
(00:33):
women and people in generalshould live up to.
SPEAKER_03 (00:36):
Stereotypes again.
What a single mom is supposed tolook like to people, how a
single mom is supposed to grind,how a single mom is supposed to
carry the weight by herself.
SPEAKER_02 (00:47):
I am released from all of the visions or dreams
that I had for myself thatweren't mine.
What I noticed about myself isthat I allowed people to tell me
what I should do based off mygifts and talent.
(01:19):
Hey y'all, let's check in.
Girl, how was your day?
How was your week?
SPEAKER_03 (01:26):
It's going.
So blessed.
SPEAKER_02 (01:29):
And highly favored.
SPEAKER_03 (01:30):
Period.
It's going.
It's going.
So somebody had got me upset.
Not upset this week, but alittle bit like it just kind of
caught me off guard, like at oneof my previous places that I
used to get money.
And I told her, if you don'tgive me a straight answer, I'm
(01:54):
gonna talk about you on mypodcast.
And she said, Go ahead and sendme the link.
Will you do?
And I said Friday, 8 a.m.
So this is me talking about youon the podcast.
Hi, okay.
Keep that in there so she cansee that I wasn't playing.
(02:14):
Because y'all, y'all ain'tright.
But God is always bigger.
I am so bad at y'all.
No, no, I was dead serious.
And Ty was like, you serioustoo.
Cause I am.
SPEAKER_02 (02:29):
Don't make Josh bad, okay?
Okay.
Lock it.
SPEAKER_03 (02:34):
Yo, other than that, but that's like a jokey joke.
But anyway, the week has beengoing.
The week has been going.
What about you?
SPEAKER_02 (02:44):
Um, uh, yeah.
Yesterday was hard, girlfriend.
It was hard.
But I'm good.
I'm good today.
I mean, I was getting some workdone, and you gotta remember how
blessed you are.
For real.
Like, you gotta take a moment ofgratitude and be like, okay, I
got my mind.
I have a roof over my head, Ihave clothes on my back, my kids
(03:05):
don't want for nothing.
You have to say all those thingssometimes to remember.
Just going through a transitionperiod.
I'm going through a transition,and yesterday I was
transitioning, okay.
Uh, but all in all, I'm good.
And sometimes you just gottaremember good.
And I'm good, yeah.
(03:26):
But that don't mean we don't gotthe moments in yesterday.
SPEAKER_03 (03:28):
I had a moment for real.
Yep.
This season, because we're aboutto jump right into it, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (03:34):
But that clicking and clacking, oh my god.
I know you ain't talking aboutclicking and clacking, Miss
Widget over there.
Oh my thing, but I try not to, Idid, I tried not to.
This is one of my um consulting.
I saw I told you I had a littlefire earlier for one of my
clients.
I was like, um, and I had tojump online and fix something,
(03:57):
something technology related.
It got fixed and stuff, but shewas just saying thank you.
So I'm like, all right, I'llrespond with them, but yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (04:09):
In the season that I'm in, right?
Release is really big for meright now for saying that.
So my question to you guys, myquestion is to you.
What what do you feel likeyou've released?
What could you release?
(04:31):
And what's your definition ofrelease?
Like, what does that mean toyou?
What does that look like foryou?
Because it means somethingdifferent, it looks different
for everyone.
It's such release is sopowerful, like release is just
so powerful if we keep goingoff.
(04:51):
But we'll see.
SPEAKER_02 (04:53):
All right, release.
Um that's layered because itcould mean so many different
things.
Uh for me, when I think of theterm release, I think of letting
go.
I think of um ease.
(05:18):
Okay.
So, and I wonder with that tothrow the phone out the window.
Oh goodness, but I wonder likelike the dictionary definition.
What what does re and least andyou know that part of ease like
(05:39):
come together?
What does it say?
Like, what does it mean?
Me, right?
Yeah, look it up.
Yeah, because that prefix andthat root word, it it gotta mean
something.
If I had to say I would be likere-living ease or something.
(05:59):
But lease, lease is somethingshort term.
It is so yeah, we need adefinition.
SPEAKER_03 (06:10):
Mm-hmm.
I gotcha.
So a literal breakdown, re pluslease.
You can break it, you can breakit symbolically into parts to
give a really deep meaning.
It means re means again, remeans back, and re means return.
(06:33):
Spiritually, it can representrestoration, renewal, or
returning to your true self.
Not permanently.
(06:53):
Symbolically, a lease canrepresent a season, a
relationship, a chapter, aburden, an emotion, and a
mindset you were holding.
The symbolic meaning of releasetogether is to return and let go
of what was temporary.
SPEAKER_02 (07:15):
God was speaking to me in my heart about it, but
that gave it all of the colorand meaning.
So, okay, let's go from there.
Because that was a lot tounpack.
SPEAKER_03 (07:26):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (07:27):
That's a lot.
So you mentioned season.
We mentioned re meaning return,that least part.
Hmm.
Well, I'm letting go of certain,and this season, I'm releasing
certain mindsets that I had.
That's definitely one.
(07:48):
Um, the grind hustle mindset outthe window.
Ain't for me.
Certain visions or dreams that Ihad for myself that weren't
mine.
Not for me.
Um, because I think what Inoticed about myself is that I
(08:10):
allowed people to tell me what Ishould do based off my gifts and
talents.
SPEAKER_03 (08:16):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (08:16):
And I accepted it because gifts and talents.
And I felt like, honestly, likein a Bible, when you think of
the gifts, then I can't rememberthe exact passage, but a number
of a different number of giftswas given to each.
Was it the wise man?
I'm not sure.
Don't quote me.
All right, back up.
(08:37):
So a number of gifts were givento these individuals, and the
person with one gift buried it.
No, the person with three, I'mmessing that up.
SPEAKER_03 (08:46):
It's okay.
It's alright.
SPEAKER_02 (08:48):
Yeah, we're not buried.
SPEAKER_03 (08:49):
But this is it's okay.
SPEAKER_02 (08:50):
But this is where my mindset goes, right?
It's like, okay, do I bury mygift or do I put it out there
because my gift isn't for me, isto share, right?
And so I was struggling withthat when people will notice a
gift that I have and say, Oh,you should, we had a similar
conversation earlier.
But they'll say, Oh, you shoulddo this or you should do that.
(09:12):
And it's not that I shouldn't doit, but maybe not the way that
the normative, you know, uhperspective in society.
Like I love to write, right?
I love to write, I love to sing,I love to dance, I love all
these different things.
But I do feel that God allowedfor me to do certain things in
different seasons.
SPEAKER_03 (09:31):
Yes, absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (09:33):
And so uh, like when I think about just doing it all,
like women who do it all, yeah,you don't gotta do it all at
once.
You don't have to like releasethat mindset that, oh my
goodness, I gotta, I gotta doeverything.
I have to grind it out.
I have to accept that I'msupposed to be doing everything
(09:55):
and living to this standard,this this ridiculous standard
that society says that women andpeople in general should live up
to.
SPEAKER_03 (10:04):
Yeah.
Yeah, because who did that?
SPEAKER_02 (10:06):
I don't know who did it, but y'all could take it
back.
Because I'm sending it to thephilosophical sending that one
to the pits of hell.
And so my season of releaselooks like me owning who I am,
um, getting back to the root ofwhat I want, where I am in my
life.
(10:27):
Um and truly just embracing, youknow, the life I want.
I'm embracing the life I want.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (10:39):
That's that's good.
That's good.
Release for me is um free,freedom, which they didn't
mention, but basically summingit up, like release for me looks
like freedom, right?
Um stereotypes again, what asingle mom is supposed to look
(10:59):
like to people, how a single momis supposed to grind, how a
single mom is supposed to carrythe weight by herself.
I am released from all of that.
You hear me?
Like, I'm gonna get to this bag,I'm gonna get to my education,
I'm releasing myself frompausing my own life and not
(11:19):
living just to watch my kidslive.
I'm releasing that because I'veseen so many older women, and
I'm not knocking anybody becauseyou do what works for you,
right?
But I've seen so many women justnot take care of themselves,
fall victim of being a mom.
Like, who are you?
(11:40):
I am Josh.
I am Josh.
I'm duty mom, Jalen Mom, I'mTyler Mom, Jace mom, but I'm
Josh.
Right.
So there's a difference, andI've seen people fall victim.
It's so easy to just fall intoI'm a mom.
And then once our kids are outthe house, we don't know what to
do with ourselves.
I know some grown older womenthat are out here looking a hot
(12:01):
mess right now because they didjust that, they lost a house, a
hot mess because you just outhere doing stuff and it's
embarrassing.
You know what I mean?
Because you didn't know anybetter, you put your life on
hold for your kids, you didn'tlive with your kids.
Me and my boys are livingtogether, right?
So I'm released from those kindof stereotypes that well, you're
(12:24):
a mom, you can't do this.
SPEAKER_02 (12:25):
Who said I ain't gonna lie, I think I this is
what happened to me because Iwas 100% released when Tristan
was Tristan, you go out on theroad with me.
He was at my shows, he was at myeverything, and my mom was my
momager, she was right there, mysister right there sitting on
her lap.
You know what I'm saying?
(12:45):
Like that didn't hold me.
That didn't hold me.
I think what um, but sometimes Ithink other some people in that
situation also get judged umwhen they are living their life.
So I hope I want people to kindof pull like you know that whole
(13:06):
facade down, like let's break itdown.
Yeah, and we can't tell peoplehow to live, so to speak, you
know what I'm saying?
Because you live the way thatworks for you, like you said,
you know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_03 (13:16):
Because I'll I people like who at home with the
baby?
Don't worry about it.
And my one friend always says,Don't ask me about nobody you
don't see me with.
Because Britt take care of themkids.
So she's like, Don't you seethem with me?
Don't ask me about them.
Like, don't ask me about nobodyyou don't see me with.
So, yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (13:40):
Hey.
SPEAKER_03 (13:45):
No.
Okay, I'm releasing this.
I'm releasing this that justwalked in.
Do you really want to be in ourpodcast?
SPEAKER_02 (13:52):
Because we record it right now.
We we talk about what wereleased in in this season.
SPEAKER_03 (13:57):
About what what's it mean to okay?
SPEAKER_02 (13:59):
Yeah, might as well.
Come on, husband.
Take your badge off before youcome over here, please.
SPEAKER_03 (14:04):
We don't need people knowing where you everybody
don't know you.
SPEAKER_02 (14:09):
We got subscribers now.
SPEAKER_03 (14:11):
Yeah, we do.
Okay, what does release looklike for you?
SPEAKER_00 (14:14):
Oh, I'm getting questioned all the time.
SPEAKER_03 (14:16):
You are here.
SPEAKER_02 (14:16):
Just project your voice because you ain't getting
my microphone.
SPEAKER_00 (14:19):
Um thank you, Auntie Josh.
What does release look like forme?
Question?
Y'all come back to me on thatone.
SPEAKER_02 (14:28):
All right, let's you want to hear what we learned
about release?
SPEAKER_00 (14:31):
What'd y'all learn?
SPEAKER_02 (14:32):
So I you know me.
I start trying to break downwords.
So Josh was looked it up, andyou could go into what is it?
Let's see if we have um, what isit called?
Like telepathy.
SPEAKER_04 (14:47):
Two different words.
SPEAKER_02 (14:50):
Can you read my body?
Do you know what I might havesaid?
Telekinesis.
Telekinesis is a moving object,I think.
SPEAKER_00 (14:58):
According to that definition, that's probably not.
SPEAKER_02 (15:02):
But what would you say?
What you would think?
SPEAKER_00 (15:04):
Releases for me, it's simple.
It's letting go.
SPEAKER_02 (15:06):
You know, oh my god.
SPEAKER_00 (15:09):
I'm I'm letting I'm letting go.
That's super generic.
But it actually means it's notjust me letting go.
That's not the focus of it.
Carrying me to where I want tobe.
SPEAKER_02 (15:26):
I'm out.
You said it a lot better.
And we're releasing you.
That's hilarious.
SPEAKER_03 (15:39):
Yeah.
Well, that was our our ourguest, our first guest, Coach
Daddy Boo Boo Dumb.
That's him.
That is him.
But yeah, so release.
Yeah, letting freedom freedom.
It's like setting my release issetting me free from a lot of
(16:00):
things.
And it's just not me.
Let's back it up.
Let's clarify.
Am I saying that I don't makesacrifices for my kids and stuff
in that instance as a mom?
No, that's not what I'm saying.
So don't get under thosecomments, like, well, we all as
a mom, we all momming out here.
How you mom, how I mom, how shemom, differently because we're
(16:22):
doing what works for us.
But I'm releasing any stereotypeof what momhood is supposed to
look like.
Right.
Like, I'm releasing the point ofyou gotta wait till your kids to
grow up to enjoy life.
No, I'm not fair.
Like, right, that's not fair.
Right.
Like, my mom shouldn't have beenthis old just going to a winery
a couple years ago.
(16:43):
She should have been going towineries and enjoying that
stuff.
You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_02 (16:46):
Like, I need to take my mom out.
SPEAKER_03 (16:49):
Seriously.
So that's why again, my mom'smom wasn't the best.
So she didn't know any betteranyway.
So that's why I include her in alot.
But I'm not waiting for nobodyto grow up to live.
And that's just what it is.
SPEAKER_02 (17:06):
Yeah, and I I think I believe hearing what you said
and and resonating with me thatI need to bring my mom out, um,
different generations, right?
Um, I think my mom losing hermom early in life, she just
wanted to make sure we wereokay.
SPEAKER_03 (17:25):
Yeah, and and that's a part of it.
That's a big part of it.
SPEAKER_02 (17:28):
Like so, what do we in that, right?
Because everybody may havedifferent um realities.
So, in that, how can you stillnot lose you?
Like, and I think that's at theend of the day, we're trying to
figure out however you parent,however, you mom, how do you
(17:49):
also make sure that you don'tlose you?
SPEAKER_03 (17:52):
I got something I'll help you because I'm about to
let's let's let's put that foranother podcast.
Yeah, yeah, like maintaining whowe are.
SPEAKER_02 (18:02):
Yeah, but don't worry, cuz my self-care journal,
listen, because if you don't getanything else, I don't care.
Five minutes of self-care.
I don't care if you gotta walkout on a deck and just let the
sun hit your face, need to getyour seasonal call.
This ain't even nothing crazythough.
But I just came to mind likesometimes it's as little as I'm
(18:27):
gonna make me a drink for thisseason that I just make every
morning to make me feel good.
I love the aromas, I love that.
Oh, let me make me a peppermintcoffee.
And when I want to feel like Ineed a hug, I'm gonna drink my
peppermint coffee.
You know, I can get a littleextra, so we can keep moving
along.
But I'm just saying, don'tforget about you.
SPEAKER_03 (18:46):
Yeah, so freedom is that for me, and freedom is also
letting go.
Releasing is my freedom ofletting go, being set free, like
emotionally, I'm in a season ofrelease, gratefulness, and
release.
So I'm also in a season, everyseason of God don't make no
(19:10):
mistakes.
So if I gotta releaserelationships, if I gotta
release myself from old habits,like Boo Boo said, I'm gonna do
that because I don't have noother choice but to let God do
his thing.
Right.
And if when you honestlysurrender, release, you feel so
(19:33):
good, like letting go.
And I'm telling you, listen, Idon't care who you gotta release
yourself from and what you gottarelease yourself from, do it.
Do it, like it might hurt, itmight make you feel away, it
might be hard because a lot ofit comes with consistency and
(19:54):
discipline.
SPEAKER_02 (19:56):
Do it, delete his number out your phone.
That's what's
SPEAKER_01 (20:00):
Somebody that's hard, but do it.
SPEAKER_03 (20:07):
Do it.
Okay.
Doing nothing but holding youback.
They are subtracting.
Do it.
If those emotions and thoseburdens that you're carrying are
not adding to your life, they'resubtracting.
Release.
Breathe.
Release.
SPEAKER_02 (20:26):
So what we're leaving them with?
I think we left them withrelease.
I honestly.
Like it's okay to let people,things, situations, and
environments go.
Yes.
For your better good.
Release all of that.
Walk into your new season withyour head held high.
Understanding that you'readopting a new mindset.
We don't care what nobody elsegot to say.
(20:48):
But we need to check in in thecomments and be like, besties,
like this is what it is, thencheck in because sometimes when
you change, yeah, you lose a lotof people.
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (20:59):
No, for real.
SPEAKER_02 (20:59):
So just know that you gained us.
SPEAKER_03 (21:03):
Bring it in.
Bring it in.
And let us know what y'all outhere releasing.
Because the things that I'vebeen releasing, like, are not
just physical.
They're spiritual.
And the more I'm talking to likeco-workers and just random
people, you see that a lot ofpeople out here releasing.
(21:23):
And we in the season of Lego.
Just being free.
So let us know what y'all bereleasing and how.
How are you going about that?
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
So until next time, release, buyme a coffee.
Buy Des of coffee.
Buy me a bottle of water.
I ain't forget.
I hope y'all ain't forget.
I'm still trying to lose thisweight.
(21:44):
Buy Des some coffee.
She likes coffee.
Give me some tea.
Or some water.
No sugar.
No honey.
No nothing.
SPEAKER_02 (21:53):
I alternate my coffees and teas.
So definitely the other.
I'm here for it.
SPEAKER_03 (22:00):
Okay.
Bye, guys.
Like, who are you?
(00:01):
I am Josh.
I am Josh.
I'm Duty Mom, Jalen mom, Tylermom, Jace mom.
But I'm Josh.
Right.
So there's a difference.
It's so easy to just fall intoI'm a mom.
SPEAKER_02 (00:12):
And then once our kids are out the house, we don't
know what to do with our It'sthat mindset that, oh my
goodness, I gotta, I gotta doeverything.
I have to grind it out.
I have to accept that I'msupposed to be doing everything
and living to this ridiculousstandard that society says that
(00:33):
women and people in generalshould live up to.
SPEAKER_03 (00:36):
Stereotypes again.
What a single mom is supposed tolook like to people, how a
single mom is supposed to grind,how a single mom is supposed to
carry the weight by herself.
SPEAKER_02 (00:47):
I am released from all of the visions or dreams
that I had for myself thatweren't mine.
What I noticed about myself isthat I allowed people to tell me
what I should do based off mygifts and talent.
(01:19):
Hey y'all, let's check in.
Girl, how was your day?
How was your week?
SPEAKER_03 (01:26):
It's going.
So blessed.
SPEAKER_02 (01:29):
And highly favored.
SPEAKER_03 (01:30):
Period.
It's going.
It's going.
So somebody had got me upset.
Not upset this week, but alittle bit like it just kind of
caught me off guard, like at oneof my previous places that I
used to get money.
And I told her, if you don'tgive me a straight answer, I'm
(01:54):
gonna talk about you on mypodcast.
And she said, Go ahead and sendme the link.
Will you do?
And I said Friday, 8 a.m.
So this is me talking about youon the podcast.
Hi, okay.
Keep that in there so she cansee that I wasn't playing.
(02:14):
Because y'all, y'all ain'tright.
But God is always bigger.
I am so bad at y'all.
No, no, I was dead serious.
And Ty was like, you serioustoo.
Cause I am.
SPEAKER_02 (02:29):
Don't make Josh bad, okay?
Okay.
Lock it.
SPEAKER_03 (02:34):
Yo, other than that, but that's like a jokey joke.
But anyway, the week has beengoing.
The week has been going.
What about you?
SPEAKER_02 (02:44):
Um, uh, yeah.
Yesterday was hard, girlfriend.
It was hard.
But I'm good.
I'm good today.
I mean, I was getting some workdone, and you gotta remember how
blessed you are.
For real.
Like, you gotta take a moment ofgratitude and be like, okay, I
got my mind.
I have a roof over my head, Ihave clothes on my back, my kids
(03:05):
don't want for nothing.
You have to say all those thingssometimes to remember.
Just going through a transitionperiod.
I'm going through a transition,and yesterday I was
transitioning, okay.
Uh, but all in all, I'm good.
And sometimes you just gottaremember good.
And I'm good, yeah.
(03:26):
But that don't mean we don't gotthe moments in yesterday.
SPEAKER_03 (03:28):
I had a moment for real.
Yep.
This season, because we're aboutto jump right into it, yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (03:34):
But that clicking and clacking, oh my god.
I know you ain't talking aboutclicking and clacking, Miss
Widget over there.
Oh my thing, but I try not to, Idid, I tried not to.
This is one of my um consulting.
I saw I told you I had a littlefire earlier for one of my
clients.
I was like, um, and I had tojump online and fix something,
(03:57):
something technology related.
It got fixed and stuff, but shewas just saying thank you.
So I'm like, all right, I'llrespond with them, but yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (04:09):
In the season that I'm in, right?
Release is really big for meright now for saying that.
So my question to you guys, myquestion is to you.
What what do you feel likeyou've released?
What could you release?
(04:31):
And what's your definition ofrelease?
Like, what does that mean toyou?
What does that look like foryou?
Because it means somethingdifferent, it looks different
for everyone.
It's such release is sopowerful, like release is just
so powerful if we keep goingoff.
(04:51):
But we'll see.
SPEAKER_02 (04:53):
All right, release.
Um that's layered because itcould mean so many different
things.
Uh for me, when I think of theterm release, I think of letting
go.
I think of um ease.
(05:18):
Okay.
So, and I wonder with that tothrow the phone out the window.
Oh goodness, but I wonder likelike the dictionary definition.
What what does re and least andyou know that part of ease like
(05:39):
come together?
What does it say?
Like, what does it mean?
Me, right?
Yeah, look it up.
Yeah, because that prefix andthat root word, it it gotta mean
something.
If I had to say I would be likere-living ease or something.
(05:59):
But lease, lease is somethingshort term.
It is so yeah, we need adefinition.
SPEAKER_03 (06:10):
Mm-hmm.
I gotcha.
So a literal breakdown, re pluslease.
You can break it, you can breakit symbolically into parts to
give a really deep meaning.
It means re means again, remeans back, and re means return.
(06:33):
Spiritually, it can representrestoration, renewal, or
returning to your true self.
Not permanently.
(06:53):
Symbolically, a lease canrepresent a season, a
relationship, a chapter, aburden, an emotion, and a
mindset you were holding.
The symbolic meaning of releasetogether is to return and let go
of what was temporary.
SPEAKER_02 (07:15):
God was speaking to me in my heart about it, but
that gave it all of the colorand meaning.
So, okay, let's go from there.
Because that was a lot tounpack.
SPEAKER_03 (07:26):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (07:27):
That's a lot.
So you mentioned season.
We mentioned re meaning return,that least part.
Hmm.
Well, I'm letting go of certain,and this season, I'm releasing
certain mindsets that I had.
That's definitely one.
(07:48):
Um, the grind hustle mindset outthe window.
Ain't for me.
Certain visions or dreams that Ihad for myself that weren't
mine.
Not for me.
Um, because I think what Inoticed about myself is that I
(08:10):
allowed people to tell me what Ishould do based off my gifts and
talents.
SPEAKER_03 (08:16):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (08:16):
And I accepted it because gifts and talents.
And I felt like, honestly, likein a Bible, when you think of
the gifts, then I can't rememberthe exact passage, but a number
of a different number of giftswas given to each.
Was it the wise man?
I'm not sure.
Don't quote me.
All right, back up.
(08:37):
So a number of gifts were givento these individuals, and the
person with one gift buried it.
No, the person with three, I'mmessing that up.
SPEAKER_03 (08:46):
It's okay.
It's alright.
SPEAKER_02 (08:48):
Yeah, we're not buried.
SPEAKER_03 (08:49):
But this is it's okay.
SPEAKER_02 (08:50):
But this is where my mindset goes, right?
It's like, okay, do I bury mygift or do I put it out there
because my gift isn't for me, isto share, right?
And so I was struggling withthat when people will notice a
gift that I have and say, Oh,you should, we had a similar
conversation earlier.
But they'll say, Oh, you shoulddo this or you should do that.
(09:12):
And it's not that I shouldn't doit, but maybe not the way that
the normative, you know, uhperspective in society.
Like I love to write, right?
I love to write, I love to sing,I love to dance, I love all
these different things.
But I do feel that God allowedfor me to do certain things in
different seasons.
SPEAKER_03 (09:31):
Yes, absolutely.
SPEAKER_02 (09:33):
And so uh, like when I think about just doing it all,
like women who do it all, yeah,you don't gotta do it all at
once.
You don't have to like releasethat mindset that, oh my
goodness, I gotta, I gotta doeverything.
I have to grind it out.
I have to accept that I'msupposed to be doing everything
(09:55):
and living to this standard,this this ridiculous standard
that society says that women andpeople in general should live up
to.
SPEAKER_03 (10:04):
Yeah.
Yeah, because who did that?
SPEAKER_02 (10:06):
I don't know who did it, but y'all could take it
back.
Because I'm sending it to thephilosophical sending that one
to the pits of hell.
And so my season of releaselooks like me owning who I am,
um, getting back to the root ofwhat I want, where I am in my
life.
(10:27):
Um and truly just embracing, youknow, the life I want.
I'm embracing the life I want.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (10:39):
That's that's good.
That's good.
Release for me is um free,freedom, which they didn't
mention, but basically summingit up, like release for me looks
like freedom, right?
Um stereotypes again, what asingle mom is supposed to look
(10:59):
like to people, how a single momis supposed to grind, how a
single mom is supposed to carrythe weight by herself.
I am released from all of that.
You hear me?
Like, I'm gonna get to this bag,I'm gonna get to my education,
I'm releasing myself frompausing my own life and not
(11:19):
living just to watch my kidslive.
I'm releasing that because I'veseen so many older women, and
I'm not knocking anybody becauseyou do what works for you,
right?
But I've seen so many women justnot take care of themselves,
fall victim of being a mom.
Like, who are you?
(11:40):
I am Josh.
I am Josh.
I'm duty mom, Jalen Mom, I'mTyler Mom, Jace mom, but I'm
Josh.
Right.
So there's a difference, andI've seen people fall victim.
It's so easy to just fall intoI'm a mom.
And then once our kids are outthe house, we don't know what to
do with ourselves.
I know some grown older womenthat are out here looking a hot
(12:01):
mess right now because they didjust that, they lost a house, a
hot mess because you just outhere doing stuff and it's
embarrassing.
You know what I mean?
Because you didn't know anybetter, you put your life on
hold for your kids, you didn'tlive with your kids.
Me and my boys are livingtogether, right?
So I'm released from those kindof stereotypes that well, you're
(12:24):
a mom, you can't do this.
SPEAKER_02 (12:25):
Who said I ain't gonna lie, I think I this is
what happened to me because Iwas 100% released when Tristan
was Tristan, you go out on theroad with me.
He was at my shows, he was at myeverything, and my mom was my
momager, she was right there, mysister right there sitting on
her lap.
You know what I'm saying?
(12:45):
Like that didn't hold me.
That didn't hold me.
I think what um, but sometimes Ithink other some people in that
situation also get judged umwhen they are living their life.
So I hope I want people to kindof pull like you know that whole
(13:06):
facade down, like let's break itdown.
Yeah, and we can't tell peoplehow to live, so to speak, you
know what I'm saying?
Because you live the way thatworks for you, like you said,
you know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_03 (13:16):
Because I'll I people like who at home with the
baby?
Don't worry about it.
And my one friend always says,Don't ask me about nobody you
don't see me with.
Because Britt take care of themkids.
So she's like, Don't you seethem with me?
Don't ask me about them.
Like, don't ask me about nobodyyou don't see me with.
So, yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (13:40):
Hey.
SPEAKER_03 (13:45):
No.
Okay, I'm releasing this.
I'm releasing this that justwalked in.
Do you really want to be in ourpodcast?
SPEAKER_02 (13:52):
Because we record it right now.
We we talk about what wereleased in in this season.
SPEAKER_03 (13:57):
About what what's it mean to okay?
SPEAKER_02 (13:59):
Yeah, might as well.
Come on, husband.
Take your badge off before youcome over here, please.
SPEAKER_03 (14:04):
We don't need people knowing where you everybody
don't know you.
SPEAKER_02 (14:09):
We got subscribers now.
SPEAKER_03 (14:11):
Yeah, we do.
Okay, what does release looklike for you?
SPEAKER_00 (14:14):
Oh, I'm getting questioned all the time.
SPEAKER_03 (14:16):
You are here.
SPEAKER_02 (14:16):
Just project your voice because you ain't getting
my microphone.
SPEAKER_00 (14:19):
Um thank you, Auntie Josh.
What does release look like forme?
Question?
Y'all come back to me on thatone.
SPEAKER_02 (14:28):
All right, let's you want to hear what we learned
about release?
SPEAKER_00 (14:31):
What'd y'all learn?
SPEAKER_02 (14:32):
So I you know me.
I start trying to break downwords.
So Josh was looked it up, andyou could go into what is it?
Let's see if we have um, what isit called?
Like telepathy.
SPEAKER_04 (14:47):
Two different words.
SPEAKER_02 (14:50):
Can you read my body?
Do you know what I might havesaid?
Telekinesis.
Telekinesis is a moving object,I think.
SPEAKER_00 (14:58):
According to that definition, that's probably not.
SPEAKER_02 (15:02):
But what would you say?
What you would think?
SPEAKER_00 (15:04):
Releases for me, it's simple.
It's letting go.
SPEAKER_02 (15:06):
You know, oh my god.
SPEAKER_00 (15:09):
I'm I'm letting I'm letting go.
That's super generic.
But it actually means it's notjust me letting go.
That's not the focus of it.
Carrying me to where I want tobe.
SPEAKER_02 (15:26):
I'm out.
You said it a lot better.
And we're releasing you.
That's hilarious.
SPEAKER_03 (15:39):
Yeah.
Well, that was our our ourguest, our first guest, Coach
Daddy Boo Boo Dumb.
That's him.
That is him.
But yeah, so release.
Yeah, letting freedom freedom.
It's like setting my release issetting me free from a lot of
(16:00):
things.
And it's just not me.
Let's back it up.
Let's clarify.
Am I saying that I don't makesacrifices for my kids and stuff
in that instance as a mom?
No, that's not what I'm saying.
So don't get under thosecomments, like, well, we all as
a mom, we all momming out here.
How you mom, how I mom, how shemom, differently because we're
(16:22):
doing what works for us.
But I'm releasing any stereotypeof what momhood is supposed to
look like.
Right.
Like, I'm releasing the point ofyou gotta wait till your kids to
grow up to enjoy life.
No, I'm not fair.
Like, right, that's not fair.
Right.
Like, my mom shouldn't have beenthis old just going to a winery
a couple years ago.
(16:43):
She should have been going towineries and enjoying that
stuff.
You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_02 (16:46):
Like, I need to take my mom out.
SPEAKER_03 (16:49):
Seriously.
So that's why again, my mom'smom wasn't the best.
So she didn't know any betteranyway.
So that's why I include her in alot.
But I'm not waiting for nobodyto grow up to live.
And that's just what it is.
SPEAKER_02 (17:06):
Yeah, and I I think I believe hearing what you said
and and resonating with me thatI need to bring my mom out, um,
different generations, right?
Um, I think my mom losing hermom early in life, she just
wanted to make sure we wereokay.
SPEAKER_03 (17:25):
Yeah, and and that's a part of it.
That's a big part of it.
SPEAKER_02 (17:28):
Like so, what do we in that, right?
Because everybody may havedifferent um realities.
So, in that, how can you stillnot lose you?
Like, and I think that's at theend of the day, we're trying to
figure out however you parent,however, you mom, how do you
(17:49):
also make sure that you don'tlose you?
SPEAKER_03 (17:52):
I got something I'll help you because I'm about to
let's let's let's put that foranother podcast.
Yeah, yeah, like maintaining whowe are.
SPEAKER_02 (18:02):
Yeah, but don't worry, cuz my self-care journal,
listen, because if you don't getanything else, I don't care.
Five minutes of self-care.
I don't care if you gotta walkout on a deck and just let the
sun hit your face, need to getyour seasonal call.
This ain't even nothing crazythough.
But I just came to mind likesometimes it's as little as I'm
(18:27):
gonna make me a drink for thisseason that I just make every
morning to make me feel good.
I love the aromas, I love that.
Oh, let me make me a peppermintcoffee.
And when I want to feel like Ineed a hug, I'm gonna drink my
peppermint coffee.
You know, I can get a littleextra, so we can keep moving
along.
But I'm just saying, don'tforget about you.
SPEAKER_03 (18:46):
Yeah, so freedom is that for me, and freedom is also
letting go.
Releasing is my freedom ofletting go, being set free, like
emotionally, I'm in a season ofrelease, gratefulness, and
release.
So I'm also in a season, everyseason of God don't make no
(19:10):
mistakes.
So if I gotta releaserelationships, if I gotta
release myself from old habits,like Boo Boo said, I'm gonna do
that because I don't have noother choice but to let God do
his thing.
Right.
And if when you honestlysurrender, release, you feel so
(19:33):
good, like letting go.
And I'm telling you, listen, Idon't care who you gotta release
yourself from and what you gottarelease yourself from, do it.
Do it, like it might hurt, itmight make you feel away, it
might be hard because a lot ofit comes with consistency and
(19:54):
discipline.
SPEAKER_02 (19:56):
Do it, delete his number out your phone.
That's what's
SPEAKER_01 (20:00):
Somebody that's hard, but do it.
SPEAKER_03 (20:07):
Do it.
Okay.
Doing nothing but holding youback.
They are subtracting.
Do it.
If those emotions and thoseburdens that you're carrying are
not adding to your life, they'resubtracting.
Release.
Breathe.
Release.
SPEAKER_02 (20:26):
So what we're leaving them with?
I think we left them withrelease.
I honestly.
Like it's okay to let people,things, situations, and
environments go.
Yes.
For your better good.
Release all of that.
Walk into your new season withyour head held high.
Understanding that you'readopting a new mindset.
We don't care what nobody elsegot to say.
(20:48):
But we need to check in in thecomments and be like, besties,
like this is what it is, thencheck in because sometimes when
you change, yeah, you lose a lotof people.
Okay.
SPEAKER_03 (20:59):
No, for real.
SPEAKER_02 (20:59):
So just know that you gained us.
SPEAKER_03 (21:03):
Bring it in.
Bring it in.
And let us know what y'all outhere releasing.
Because the things that I'vebeen releasing, like, are not
just physical.
They're spiritual.
And the more I'm talking to likeco-workers and just random
people, you see that a lot ofpeople out here releasing.
(21:23):
And we in the season of Lego.
Just being free.
So let us know what y'all bereleasing and how.
How are you going about that?
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
So until next time, release, buyme a coffee.
Buy Des of coffee.
Buy me a bottle of water.
I ain't forget.
I hope y'all ain't forget.
I'm still trying to lose thisweight.
(21:44):
Buy Des some coffee.
She likes coffee.
Give me some tea.
Or some water.
No sugar.
No honey.
No nothing.
SPEAKER_02 (21:53):
I alternate my coffees and teas.
So definitely the other.
I'm here for it.
SPEAKER_03 (22:00):
Okay.
Bye, guys.
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