Work From Bed Friday

"I'm thinking something, what am I thinking?"

In fact, there is no thinking at all. Just action, sensation, and a new understanding occurring at a subterranean level. Chapter 11 of Miranda July's All Fours is a veritable feast of subconscious mystery: sex dreams, uncharted intimacy, and the perilous territory of goodbye. Amy & Tommy dig right into the middle of it, excavating juicy bits of their own...

Unbridled emotion, soul-connected dance, and strobe lights as sex toys—Amy and Tommy don’t miss any of it in their discussion of Chapter 10 in Miranda July’s All Fours. Amy calls it the “love chapter” and perhaps it is, sprinkled with the tension of fraught desire and the finitude of time.

A strange irony exists in the very best moments both in love and in sex: the deep desire to stay right there in that very feeling forev...

When our character learns that Davey’s first sexual encounters were orchestrated by his mother with his mother’s very experienced friend, she is, understandably, flabbergasted. But the thought that emerges later has morphed into something of a motto or a mantra for Amy and Tommy.  Miranda July writes, “An overly skilled lover was kind of icky—desire should make you clumsy.” Indeed. Clumsy indeed.

In Amy & Tommy’s romp through Ch...

"He reached across the table and touched the back of his hand to the back of mine..." and so begins the erotically charged emotional affair between our main character and Davey. As readers, Amy and Tommy are pulled into the weightless madness that comes the realization that our feelings are mirrored by the object of our desire. As a long-time married couple, they examine this hilarious and sexy chapter from a healthy dist...

In Chapter 7 of Miranda July’s All Fours, our character wrestles with two realities: her sudden and unhinged desire for Davey's body AND her grim awareness of her aging self. Amy & Tommy use this chapter as a framework to discuss the surprise of primal desire, inner voices,  and the intersection of life and art. They also realize that solo orgasms are like cookies.

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In Chapter 6 of Miranda July’s All Fours, our character enters a world of mirrors in which the women of Monrovia and beyond reflect the different seasons of her life. Amy & Tommy can’t stop analyzing the relatively minor character of Helen—wise woman, pleasure seeker, housekeeper.

And then there are secrets—which ones do we keep and which ones do we divulge?  Are the transgressions of our past selves titillating or better kept u...

Is the universe just a big wonky pinball machine? As our character keeps the ball in motion without making much forward progress toward her destination, Amy & Tommy discuss a magical land called Monrovia, interactions with strangers, and the Piña Colada song, to which Amy gets the concept right, but bungles the lyrics and details.

In Chapter 5 of Miranda July’s All Fours, the action of the road trip is interspersed with our char...

Our character prepares to leave on her cross country road trip, checking off a list of mundane tasks, including marching into her husband's room wearing nothing but high heels. Which begs the question: why is intimacy with our partner sometimes so hard? Even when once you get going you find yourself "sex's biggest fan??"

Amy & Tommy dive into Chapter 4 of Miranda July's All Fours to find themselves buste...

In Chapter 3 of Miranda July’s All Fours, our character sips clandestine strawberry milkshakes with her bestie before sneaking back into her house like a thief. This episode is about secrets and disclosure, fantasy and reality, mind-rooted and body-rooted fucks—so many binaries! Where do you find yourself?

Amy & Tommy find themselves embarking on a spicy discussion featuring childhood favorite food treats, fantasies, connection,...

Chapter 2 of Miranda July’s All Fours is rather short. Which might have meant a short episode trying to figure out who is a parker and who is a driver or if it's all bullshit if it weren’t for that darn can of worms: what DOES happen to relationships and identities when a couple has a child?

Amy & Tommy talk about transformative experiences, first dates, parenting, and standing ovations for a simple dinner of spaghetti and ...

Amy and Tommy kick off their Season 1 discussion of Miranda July’s All Fours with an in-depth look at Chapter 1, which they’ve both read (and listened to) multiple times by now!

Do we all have an imaginary telephotographer peering into our lives? Or is that just Amy’s younger self? Who do you send your sexy selfies to? Or to whom? How do we manage our constantly evolving selves in the context of a long term relationship? Is it ...

In their debut episode, Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden give a quick history of their 30-year relationship and the recent breakthrough that changed everything. They start with their meet-cute at a polka-dot party in San Francisco’s Marina district in 1994 and sprint through their long-distance courtship to trailer living, marriage, children and moving eight times in three years before settling in Portland, OR where they finally learn...

A committed couple of 30+ years, Amy and Tommy get ready to launch their first podcast! Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

Their two-person way-better-than-a-bookclub discussion starts by analyzing Miranda July's All Fours. They dissect one chapter per episode, using it as a jumping off point for thoughts o...