August 16, 2025 • 7 mins
"In this episode, we’re going to uncover how silence can be weaponized as a tool of control by narcissists, explore the spiritual implications, and provide you with strategies rooted in Scripture to reclaim your voice and your power. If you’ve ever felt silenced or manipulated in your relationships, this episode is for you."
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome. Hi guys, I'm gonna be recording in two different spaces,
so work with me, okay, So welcome to you are
the God that sees me this podcast that brings healing,
clarity and spiritual guidance to women overcoming trauma and abuse.
I'm your host, Nicolette, and I'm here to empower you
(00:25):
with the biblical truths and practical tools to break free
from the chains of narcissis abuse. Today's episode, let's dive
deep into a powerful topic. Let's talk about the silent treatment,
Like what is silent treatment? And I can remember in
my own journey, I did not have the language of
(00:48):
what was going on in my life at the moment,
but I just knew something was off, something was weird,
something was not feeling good about this silence. It was
not a silence of peace, but it was quiet. So
(01:09):
in this episode, we're going to uncover how silence can
be weaponized as a tool of control by narcissists. So
let's explore the spiritual implications and provide you with strategies
rooted in the scripture to reclaim your voice and your power.
And if you've ever felt silenced or manipulated in your relationship.
(01:32):
This episode is for you, so again, work with me.
I'm going back and forth with between my screens. But
what is silent treatment. It's not a peaceful pause, okay,
It's a manipuli tactic that is used to punish you,
to control you. It's an emotional abuse. And so the
(01:56):
person knows that you want to communicate, you want to talk,
want to you know, do these things, and they'll be like,
you know, give me a minute. They're using it as
a weapon on you as it's a spiritual thing, like
give me a minute, I need a pause, you know,
and think over stuff. But they never come back to
you and talk about anything. They just go on about
(02:18):
like as if nothing else happened. So a person suddenly
refuses to speak to you or even acknowledge you, they
are ignoring you. This is an emotional abuse. They ignore
your texts, your calls, or attempts to reconcile for any
extended period. They use this as a physical distance or
(02:41):
a coldness as a weapon to punish you from like
perceived as an offense, like you said, you said something
to them that offended them, so give them a minute.
So you sitting here back and forth mentally trying to
figure out what did you say? What did you trigger?
So you're trying to to again reconcile or have a
(03:02):
conversation like or even reword what you needed to say.
But in the scripture it says in Proverbs fifteen to one,
a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word
stirs up anger. See. Psychologically, it creates intense anxiety and
(03:23):
self doubt. It makes you feel invisible, unloved, and worthy
of the response. This can be a deeply damaging mental health. Spiritually,
it can cause you a sense of spiritual confusion and isolation.
It makes you question your own value and in your
relationship with God. It creates a spirit of fear and bondage.
(03:48):
And that's how you know that if this silence is
from God, or is this silence is from the enemy.
Another scripture I want you to go over is tecod
Timothy one in seven. For God gave us a spirit
not of fear, but of power, of love and self control.
(04:11):
So some practical things we can do is name the behavior,
identify it as a form of emotional abuse. See we're
so used to we can identify when it's a physical abuse.
We can see scars when it's a physical abuse. I
can understand if it's a physical abuse if someone is
(04:33):
yelling at me, But when it's formed in silence, we
do not understand or recognize and realize it's an emotional
abuse that's going on. Let's anger yourself in God's truth.
Remind yourself of the worth you have in him. If
(04:54):
you always or don't understand or have a question, always
go to God. Always ask the Holy Spirit to check
your spirit. Check yourself first before you like, before you
go and engage to find out what is going on.
Refuse to chase this person, don't beg don't apologize or
(05:18):
try to fix a silence that is not even your fault.
That's calmly state that you will not engage until the
person is ready to communicate respectfully. Okay. Another thing is
how the silent treatment makes you feel. Those are questions
you can ask yourself. Begin to journal, Begin to also
(05:45):
when you go in different atmospheres, begin to check and
see when this happens. Is it all the time, So
you're doing a tracing thing by journaling, and then also
begin to set boundaries for yourself so the next time
this happens, you are aware of what's going on, and last,
at least, I'm going to leave you. The scripture is
(06:07):
Psalms thirty four and eighteen. The Lord is near to
the broken hearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Again, guys,
what is silent treatment? We are breaking free from this control.
We are allowing God to heal our hearts. We are
(06:32):
allowing him to mend are broken pieces. So in this episode,
if it resonated with you, it's time to take action.
The healing and the growth requires intentional guys, intentional steps.
It requires for you to do the work. So join
(06:52):
me from You can either join me for a one
on one a client for a client program cater to
your needs. I also have a community where we are
a group of women who have gone through this. Not
necessarily everyone understands it, but they understand the fact that
(07:13):
something emotionally and psychologically is going on. So I also
invite you to become a part of our mentor or.
Like I said, the group is a safe space for
women like you who are walking through healing and discovering
their God given strength. Together, we can learn, we can grow,
We can support each other through every step and of
(07:35):
every journey. I will talk to you guys later.
Welcome. Hi guys, I'm gonna be recording in two different spaces,
so work with me, okay, So welcome to you are
the God that sees me this podcast that brings healing,
clarity and spiritual guidance to women overcoming trauma and abuse.
I'm your host, Nicolette, and I'm here to empower you
(00:25):
with the biblical truths and practical tools to break free
from the chains of narcissis abuse. Today's episode, let's dive
deep into a powerful topic. Let's talk about the silent treatment,
Like what is silent treatment? And I can remember in
my own journey, I did not have the language of
(00:48):
what was going on in my life at the moment,
but I just knew something was off, something was weird,
something was not feeling good about this silence. It was
not a silence of peace, but it was quiet. So
(01:09):
in this episode, we're going to uncover how silence can
be weaponized as a tool of control by narcissists. So
let's explore the spiritual implications and provide you with strategies
rooted in the scripture to reclaim your voice and your power.
And if you've ever felt silenced or manipulated in your relationship.
(01:32):
This episode is for you, so again, work with me.
I'm going back and forth with between my screens. But
what is silent treatment. It's not a peaceful pause, okay,
It's a manipuli tactic that is used to punish you,
to control you. It's an emotional abuse. And so the
(01:56):
person knows that you want to communicate, you want to talk,
want to you know, do these things, and they'll be like,
you know, give me a minute. They're using it as
a weapon on you as it's a spiritual thing, like
give me a minute, I need a pause, you know,
and think over stuff. But they never come back to
you and talk about anything. They just go on about
(02:18):
like as if nothing else happened. So a person suddenly
refuses to speak to you or even acknowledge you, they
are ignoring you. This is an emotional abuse. They ignore
your texts, your calls, or attempts to reconcile for any
extended period. They use this as a physical distance or
(02:41):
a coldness as a weapon to punish you from like
perceived as an offense, like you said, you said something
to them that offended them, so give them a minute.
So you sitting here back and forth mentally trying to
figure out what did you say? What did you trigger?
So you're trying to to again reconcile or have a
(03:02):
conversation like or even reword what you needed to say.
But in the scripture it says in Proverbs fifteen to one,
a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word
stirs up anger. See. Psychologically, it creates intense anxiety and
(03:23):
self doubt. It makes you feel invisible, unloved, and worthy
of the response. This can be a deeply damaging mental health. Spiritually,
it can cause you a sense of spiritual confusion and isolation.
It makes you question your own value and in your
relationship with God. It creates a spirit of fear and bondage.
(03:48):
And that's how you know that if this silence is
from God, or is this silence is from the enemy.
Another scripture I want you to go over is tecod
Timothy one in seven. For God gave us a spirit
not of fear, but of power, of love and self control.
(04:11):
So some practical things we can do is name the behavior,
identify it as a form of emotional abuse. See we're
so used to we can identify when it's a physical abuse.
We can see scars when it's a physical abuse. I
can understand if it's a physical abuse if someone is
(04:33):
yelling at me, But when it's formed in silence, we
do not understand or recognize and realize it's an emotional
abuse that's going on. Let's anger yourself in God's truth.
Remind yourself of the worth you have in him. If
(04:54):
you always or don't understand or have a question, always
go to God. Always ask the Holy Spirit to check
your spirit. Check yourself first before you like, before you
go and engage to find out what is going on.
Refuse to chase this person, don't beg don't apologize or
(05:18):
try to fix a silence that is not even your fault.
That's calmly state that you will not engage until the
person is ready to communicate respectfully. Okay. Another thing is
how the silent treatment makes you feel. Those are questions
you can ask yourself. Begin to journal, Begin to also
(05:45):
when you go in different atmospheres, begin to check and
see when this happens. Is it all the time, So
you're doing a tracing thing by journaling, and then also
begin to set boundaries for yourself so the next time
this happens, you are aware of what's going on, and last,
at least, I'm going to leave you. The scripture is
(06:07):
Psalms thirty four and eighteen. The Lord is near to
the broken hearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Again, guys,
what is silent treatment? We are breaking free from this control.
We are allowing God to heal our hearts. We are
(06:32):
allowing him to mend are broken pieces. So in this episode,
if it resonated with you, it's time to take action.
The healing and the growth requires intentional guys, intentional steps.
It requires for you to do the work. So join
(06:52):
me from You can either join me for a one
on one a client for a client program cater to
your needs. I also have a community where we are
a group of women who have gone through this. Not
necessarily everyone understands it, but they understand the fact that
(07:13):
something emotionally and psychologically is going on. So I also
invite you to become a part of our mentor or.
Like I said, the group is a safe space for
women like you who are walking through healing and discovering
their God given strength. Together, we can learn, we can grow,
We can support each other through every step and of
(07:35):
every journey. I will talk to you guys later.
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