He told his wife he wasn’t straight. Then became a father. Then came out as pansexual and gender-fluid. At 34 years old, Shawn Lim spent most of his life taking the arduous journey of navigating sexuality, gender, identity, marriage, and the emotional toll of suppressing who he truly is.
From gang fights and getting arrested twice as a young teen, to building a new path forward as a husband, father, and now starting his own company—this isn’t just a story about coming out. It’s about courage, self-love, redemption, and choosing to live with truth.
What ultimately pushed him to stop hiding? His daughter. Because if he wanted to raise her to be confident, authentic, and free—he had to first give himself that same permission.
If you’re curious about what the journey can be like for someone who is LGBTQ+, the struggles they face, and what it takes for someone to embrace their inner truth despite the odds—this episode is for you. I hope it finds you exactly when you need it.
Chapters:
00:00 How are you feeling today?
03:12 What is pansexual and gender-fluid?
06:45 Hiding his truth
10:00 Gangs, rebellion, and getting arrested
14:15 Growing up under strict control
19:10 What if you never rebelled?
22:45 The wake-up calls
26:20 Starting over by leaving his secondary school
29:40 Meeting his wife
33:10 Becoming a father
36:55 Coming out publicly
41:30 Honest conversations in marriage
46:15 Faith, freedom, and authenticity
51:00 Choosing truth and showing authenticity for his daughter
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Nicole
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