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August 15, 2025 68 mins

What happens when two people who love each other discover they're fundamentally incompatible? This question lies at the heart of countless relationship struggles, yet few address it head-on until it's too late.

In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Beatrice welcomes Pastor Jean-Ducarmel Brevil to tackle the taboo subject of character incompatibility in marriage. With candor and wisdom drawn from years of counseling couples, Pastor Breville unpacks how differences in social preferences, educational backgrounds, and financial priorities can create seemingly insurmountable barriers between partners.

The discussion reveals why dating serves as a critical period for identifying potential incompatibilities – a time when small disagreements over coffee preferences or social media habits might signal deeper issues. Pastor Brevil shares compelling real-life examples, including couples who discovered their incompatibility only after marriage, and the painful consequences that followed.

Most powerfully, this episode challenges common misconceptions about love and compatibility. As Pastor Brevil explains, "Love is not manifested by symbols. It is manifested by action." Listeners will gain practical insights for addressing incompatibility, whether they're single, dating, or already married and struggling with differences that feel irreconcilable.

From navigating educational disparities and financial expectations to handling age gaps and social differences, this conversation provides a roadmap for transforming potential relationship deal-breakers into opportunities for deeper connection. If you've ever wondered why relationships that begin with passion often end in frustration, or if you're currently facing compatibility challenges with your partner, this episode offers both hope and practical guidance for building a relationship that thrives despite differences.

Listen now and discover how addressing character incompatibility early and honestly can save your relationship from becoming another statistic. Share your thoughts and experiences with us – we'd love to hear how these insights impact your relationship journey.

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Speaker 1 (00:21):
Hello everyone.
I'm Dr Beatrice Hippolyte, whocame to us to embrace the idea,
but today we have a very specialshow and with a special guest.
Today we have the privilege ofwelcoming in the studio Pastor
Jean-Ducarmel Breville.

(00:43):
Pastor Breville, good evening.

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Good evening, dr Beatrice, and good evening to
all the friends and friends whohave watched this show.
It's a pleasure to be in thestudio with you today.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
It's been a long time since I've had the idea to make
a show about the incomp thatyou earned from your marriage,
but I want to give you anopportunity to join us, to avoid
the work that you have to do,the money that you have to spend
, all the auditors who arewaiting or who are watching this

(01:18):
program to make you happy.
This is an opportunity that Ihave gained.
I am lucky to to participate ina retreat and find that one of
the speakers was Pastor Breville.
Ah no, to tell you the truth,he was a real jackal.
Without losing too much time, Ipassed through Pastor Breville

(01:43):
to really understand the reasonfor the incompatibility that
exists in marriage who is thepartner, how do we address it?
What impact, what are theconsequences?
And then I thought that therewas a positive aspect to Pastor
Breville.

Speaker 2 (02:01):
So when we had the opportunity to talk to you about
the subject that has somethingto do with character
incompatibility, we said that wehad to take advantage of the
opportunity to make of characterwithin the marriage.
There is a problem that hasbeen raised by our great, great

(02:28):
great parents for a long timewhich is not solved.
They have come to us with ataboo subject because not
everyone wants to have thisincompatibility of character and
we believe that in the futurethey will find a way for
everyone to see that the subjectof this taboo is no more taboo

(02:48):
than that that no one is able tounderstand.
It is enough that the womenunderstand that there is
incompatibility and young peoplewho can marry the subject of
this will be useful Very, verywell, because we will see
incompatibility before, duringand after in a relationship, but

(03:09):
especially a relationship thathas a relationship with marriage
.
Okay, okay so that's all we canhear so that we can, and the J
dossier.
We are here to help you andhelp you to get out of this
situation.
I think this is a good thingfor you and your family.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
I am already very happy to see that everyone's
causes that they share with us.

Speaker 2 (03:47):
So first of all, one of the things that Dr
Bayat-Christina is asking aboutthe incompatibility is that,
first of all, there are peoplewho don't understand us very
well.
We have to find a language thateveryone can understand,
without even using scientificlanguage.

(04:09):
Incompatibility is what makesus walk together, between two
things that make us walktogether and then not much that
can make them walk together.
And that's why we talk aboutincompatibility, the two
incompatible things.
Not many people can see themtogether.

(04:29):
When we see a spiritual aspectthat has a relationship with
faith, then we can see itworking.
But if we take it in ascientific way, we will see that
there are three things that canbe done to make two things
incompatible become compatible.

(04:49):
So, in relation to Is it true?
that we need to make personaleffort, but it is only if you
believe that people realize thatthey gain either as concubines,

(05:10):
as husband and wife, or as ahousewife, or as a
daughter-in-law.

(05:33):
It's not everyone who knows thatthey are compatible, because I
always thought that over time,people who came to me in a
relationship, people who came tome when, who came to the
marriage and so on, who came tothe marriage and so on, who came
to the marriage and so on, whocame to the marriage and so on,
who came to the marriage and soon, who came to the marriage and
so on, who came to the marriageand so on, who came to the

(05:57):
marriage and so on, who came tothe marriage and so on, who came
to the marriage and so on, whoit's because there is an
incompatibility problem.
There is no one to identifythem, since when a boy or a girl
has a problem with another,they don't have to deal with it.
That's why the movement ofbeing that we talked about in
the 21st century, which is morefashionable, has replaced it,

(06:22):
because it allows us to identifythe incompatibility that exists
between them.

Speaker 1 (06:30):
But we are talking about a dating movement.
We are talking about datingmovements where people go as if
they had chosen to live togetherafter 3-4 months, or at least
dating, because even in ourrelationship people have been
dating.
People have been dating for 1year, 2 years, three years, even
before we get married.

Speaker 2 (06:48):
We take this with a lot of respect, dr Beatrice,
because in the period when weremarry, we are not even related
.
We are not even related, it'strue, because the interest we
have with the world is not onlywith our husband and her or
marry her, but the goal is toknow if I want to marry her or

(07:13):
not.
Is she a partner for me tomarry her?
We can take two steps to follow.
We can be a husband, a wife, ora husband and wife.
The advantage of being ahusband is that when you are

(07:36):
with someone, you know exactlywhat kind of person they are.

Speaker 1 (07:48):
So you know if they are loved.

Speaker 2 (07:52):
Yes, if they are loved, okay.
So it's not that you aresitting under a bush that could
fall into impudicity.
So we can use biblical themesanyway.
It's not a type of debt,because since we have debt, we
have to put it on the table.
We don't want to talk about it.
We want to talk about what ismore classic, what is more

(08:14):
modern or what is morerespectful.
So, for example, dr Beatrice, aboy invites a girl to go on a
date.
That is to start with herincompatibility.
And then on that date, the boysaid that the girl he was no.

(08:39):
The girl said no.
The boy said tea.
The boy said the girl saidcoffee.
The boy said the girl said thegirl said coffee.
And the girl said the boy saidcoffee.

(09:01):
I told you it's the little, butI don't know what he did.
I don't know if it's the samething that happens all the time
in the world.
And then the discussion startedand the boy himself he got up
and ran away.
He was very excited.
He said well, I'm going to go.
It was his action that happened.
We'll talk about reactionslater.

(09:22):
In the reactions we talkedabout the fact that the boy came
to my daughter.
His name is David Hildet.
He came to me to apologizebecause he was acting like that,
etc.
Etc.
And then the girl herself cameto him to apologize to him that
the boy was in the bar.
He came to me, he came to marryme, but they got married while

(09:47):
the girl was sitting at thetable with the boy.
The girl was drinking coffee andthe boy said Pablo, you're not
going to let me go to bed withyou.
I don't want to drink thatcoffee.
Discussion broken.
They put him in the cellbecause you have incompatibility
.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
So you have to make sure that you are able to
connect, that you don't havepeople to address.

Speaker 2 (10:09):
Very well, you have to be addressed Since our second
date.
When a boy says to you darling,excuse me, because I reacted
like that.
After the excuse you have tosay, yes, I apologize, but who
is going to treat me like that?
Because I am, because you don'twant to hurt them.
So that's what happens in arelationship.

(10:32):
You take a small detail andthen you see a lot of people who
are miserable because there isa constant discussion about
their relationship.

Speaker 1 (10:44):
I would like to take an example from the past.
A couple met and said thattheir daughter met a man who was
married to a woman, who wasmarried to a man who was married
to a woman.
And then they come to marry andthen the life plan changes.
And then when we go there wehave tensions.
I know myself, I don't want togo out, I don't want to enjoy it

(11:09):
, I don't want to go out.
And then when we go there, somepeople say well, you don't want
to go out, you're doing badthings.
I take it that way.
Anyway, it's a big agreementwith us.
As if the problem is that fromthe beginning there are no
people who consider you, no oneto address you, or at least no
one to treat you.

Speaker 2 (11:26):
Any incompatibility that arises between a
relationship which is nottreated and for which the
relationship is broken it is aman who is unhappy or a
relationship in general.
It is not a relationship thatis futile because there is
suffering in it, because theprimary goal for whatever

(11:47):
relationship there is with theworld, we have to find a better
life, we have to find a lifethat is happy, while if we have
a series of little things, drBeatrice, which we have been
dealing with since the beginning, we have not been dealing with
it.
So she tells us that if that'sis why the problem is so big in
the relationship, whether it isa relationship with a spouse or

(12:10):
with someone else, we are not ina relationship anymore.

Speaker 1 (12:14):
Or we see people who say, well, we need to get
married.
We hear the expression, we getout, we take the bag and then we
will solve the problem that wehave.

Speaker 2 (12:24):
False movement.

Speaker 1 (12:26):
Yes, practically.

Speaker 2 (12:27):
False movement because you have to put a bag in
your hand and then at somepoint you have to take the bag
and throw it away.
But maybe society doesn't wantyou to throw it away, maybe
religion doesn't want you tothrow it away.

Speaker 1 (12:40):
And you make all of you unhappy.

Speaker 2 (12:42):
Definitely.
We met together with severalcouples who fell in love.
So it's important to talk abouttheir incompatibility in their
relationship.
So it's important to talk abouttheir incompatibility in their
relationship, theirincompatibility from an

(13:05):
educational point of view orfrom a spiritual point of view.
There are two important thingsthat are incompatible it is
financial incompatibility andsexual incompatibility was born
under a lot of divorces andsexual incompatibility has come

(13:35):
down to a lot of diseases inwomen.

Speaker 1 (13:43):
Because of infidelity .

Speaker 2 (13:44):
Not only because of infidelity.
We'll start with that later.
It's because the girl doesn'tlike it, and the boy doesn't
like it either, madam.
And then there's the excessthat comes to a series of
diseases.

(14:05):
And that means that, above all,they fall into infidelity which
has to do with porn, it meanssexual infidelity.
And then they come to realizethat they are going to have
concubines and then, sooner orlater, they will fall into the
same genre because there issexual incompatibility that

(14:27):
occurs in the relationship.
So when there isincompatibility, it is necessary
that we can have it.

Speaker 1 (14:37):
Okay, so we have to jump.

Speaker 2 (14:39):
So the first part we always like to talk about is
incompatibility.
We like to talk about socialincompatibility.
We take something simpler, forexample.
We are in the age of technologyTikTok, instagram, facebook,

(15:03):
youtube, snapchat, all thatstuff and then in the
relationship, and then he wouldgo to bed, and then the boy

(15:31):
would go to bed, or even if hedidn't sleep, he would watch
football on TV or NBA playoffs,and then he would watch these
things on TikTok, instagram, it,she took a selfie, all that
stuff, and then she didn'tconnect with the other.

(15:53):
So we have to ask ourselveswhat is incompatibility in life,
in a society where people live,everyone has something
important to do, and that's whycommunication is the fundamental

(16:14):
basis of any relationship.
Indeed, that's why we say thatif we talk to a series of people
who already exist and then havea fertile discussion, they will
always have the sameincompatibility that they have
with others.
They just need to have someonewho can submit together with

(16:35):
them Exactly.
So, from a social point of view,in the incompatibility movement
we always have the same example.
Example we are talking about Doboys like social media, Even
girls like social media?
Or do girls like sportsactivities, Even boys like

(16:57):
sports activities?
These are series of things thatcan be treated in advance and
that's why I'm explaining to youthe objective of being there,
Because being there, if you arewith someone, you don't put the
charm of the pleasure of themouth in your head, you don't

(17:20):
put it as something that can betaken away.
It's easy to get to understandpeople very well, Because do
people even reme dance?
Does the other person not remedance?
Do people even reme dance inthe ball?
Does it not reme dance in theball?

(17:41):
Do people reme dance in thenight, in the morning, in the
activities of all time?
Does he himself not agree?
So when you do not treat firstand then we use the expression
of debate earlier, it is Baglakimportant for us, Baglak has
finally, and then, wheresuffering is with it, they can

(18:03):
withdraw the bagla.
As I said earlier, the peoplewho are not allowed to withdraw.
The religion is not allowed towithdraw, and then society is
not allowed to withdraw, becausethe people who are not allowed
to withdraw are not treatedproperly.

Speaker 1 (18:16):
Yes, because if you pay attention to that to
consider yourself and addressyourself and people who are
supposed to, you can avoid thebagla.
That means from a social pointof view, and address them and
people who are supposed to avoidviolence.

Speaker 2 (18:25):
It means that, from a social point of view, when you
talk to people, you have to saythat, from a social point of
view, what you are trying to dois to show them what you are
doing.
It's not just saying it outloud, but it's trying to live it

(18:46):
as a reality and I'm talkingabout sexual activity, far from
it.

Speaker 1 (18:53):
And then we say it as if it's practically discussing
it together.

Speaker 2 (18:57):
Discussing it and then living it together.
For example, if you likepleasure we always talk about
pleasure or to go to the movieswith your friends to see if they
like movies.
Or if you go to the lounge towatch music or to dance with
your friends to see if they aresocial people.

Speaker 1 (19:23):
It all depends on the season, the country you are in
or the sea.

Speaker 2 (19:28):
Exactly you have to go to the sea with us Is that we
are people who can marry youwhen you get married, when you
have a wife or when you have ahusband.
So you have to pay attention tothat.
And then, when you get married,it's their turn to say I invite

(19:48):
you to do this, etc.
And then the bride says I don'tknow what to do.
And then the husband says, well, if you don't want to go, I'll
go.
There are many problemssometimes that the bride doesn't
want to go out, or the bridedoesn't want to go out.
So, my dear, where are yougoing?
Or we can say, my dear, whereare you going, but it's not in
discussion.
It's not because I don't wantto go that I have to go, but

(20:10):
it's because I don't want to goor I don't feel like going,
where can I go?

Speaker 1 (20:14):
We don't have the disposition to do that Exactly
we don't have the confidence.

Speaker 2 (20:18):
So, from a social point of view, we have to know
that the so where is the socialschool for the people of the
country?
For example, the fact that wedo diplomacy?
I'll tell you that we dodiplomacy and we can work in the
embassy and the embassy membersinvite us to tea.
They invite us to activitieslike that, and the reason why

(20:40):
they invite us to that is it'snot easy to say that you have to
come with me.
You have to come with mebecause the space is a have to

(21:00):
move forward.
We have to be able to passthrough this because for a long
time we knew that I was doingdiplomacy, I was in the
diplomatic field, so there was aside that invited me or that I
had to go through.

Speaker 1 (21:20):
But you have to have confidence, but you have to be
able to talk about it before.

Speaker 2 (21:24):
Definitely, and when you are able to talk about it to
them before Definitely, andwhen they are able to talk about
it to you before you have to beable to agree with them, you
can do it.

Speaker 1 (21:33):
But not only in my town.
Here it's like we're together,we're engaged Because we have
people we meet, and during thistime we go to school.
Here.
It's between us that weunderstand that diplomacy is a
field that we are committed to,and it's between us that that we

(21:54):
come into the profession.

Speaker 2 (21:56):
It's easier now.
It's easier because we knowwhat we want.
We don't agree on the fact thatwe can't do it.
For example, when I was at NDC,I had a weekend of motivation
and orientation in diplomacy Ihad to do three days away from
Calico.
So I was very angry becausesince the first three weekends

(22:20):
three days that he was away fromCalico I was not in agreement.
The society didn't like itbecause I was not there three
days away with my classmates,with my teacher, with Victor.
So I was like, if he's married,he won't change.
It means that I have a businesstrip and you say, no, you're
not going to be married, you'regoing to be married, you're

(22:40):
going to be married, you'regoing to be married.
You can even say that you'regoing to be married.
When you're on the weekend,when you're going to go to the
movies, you say, darling, I'mgoing to be with you on the
weekend, I'm going to be withyou on the weekend.
If you are always angry, if youare jealous, if you don't have
a girlfriend or a boyfriend, ifyou are always angry, if you are
always angry, you can go to thepolice station and leave.

Speaker 1 (23:01):
That's right.
You take the next question.
Do I have to suffer becausepeople in the same place have a
space that is not comfortable?

Speaker 2 (23:10):
Yes, that's a lot of love.
A lot of love, yes, exactly Alot of love.
But if you want to get married,you have to address it in
another way.
There is a big authority onthat part.
So that's the problem.
If you have two wives and youhave to treat them the same way,
and then the one who getsmarried, there is a lot of
misunderstanding.
If I tell you that you are notin agreement with our program

(23:35):
because you have various reasons, you will say no, it's not true
.
Even if you agree withoutconsent, we will say no, it's
disobedience.
There is no submission.

Speaker 1 (23:43):
It's valid for both parties.

Speaker 2 (23:48):
Yes, and that makes me say, if I say, I don't agree
if you don't agree, it'sreciprocal.

Speaker 1 (23:53):
I'm glad you added that because, once, once again,
the mentality is that we alwayshave to understand that the
imbalance is like a man whoweighs more weight, and that
there is a series of sacrifices,there is a series of
commitments, as if what a womanhas done that society has
sometimes shown that it is, arenot the ones who saved them.

Speaker 2 (24:17):
So, Guillaume, the truth is that.
The reality is that these guysare the ones who are able to do
what they want to do.
They are able to do what theywant to do.

Speaker 1 (24:29):
Yes, in terms of infidelity, we know that society
has these four white men who'swhite card?
Which is bad?
It's very bad you understandBecause whatever the
relationship is, suppose werespect one another.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
But we call upon reality between a boy who has
several daughters with a girlwho has several boys.

Speaker 1 (24:50):
Oh, boys are mature for society, but for girls
themselves forget about it.

Speaker 2 (24:56):
Well, I don't say more than that.
That's why, even when you don'tlearn in the Bible or there are
several men in the Bible whohave gained 999 girls, who have
gained a thousand girls, theyapproached.
David Solomon and people saidthey had gained, but they said
that they had another girl whohad slept with another man and
the girls had manipulated theirlives.
So when we turn to what we justtalked about, it means that

(25:18):
social incompatibility is theprelude to which profession is
the girl, which profession isthe boy, who is the one who is
in charge, who is the one whosurrounds him.
So in advance we have to treatthem In the opposite case the
husband must have a goodreaction to not despair and the

(25:41):
same daughter-in-law to have agood reaction to not despair.
So it has to be able to treatthe incompatibility itself.
But if we are already married,as we said earlier, it we have
to establish this communicationand it's communication to
communicate.
It's communication tocommunicate and rather to

(26:02):
explain to us who is married,who is married, who is married.
For example, I must take anexample between myself and my
current relationship with mywife.
I thought that I would be ableto do this in the free market
because I had a discussion withthem.
I was very happy to be amaestro, an artist, a popular

(26:26):
man, a man of the people.
So if I had a passion like that, I would have.
A husband or a wife is not atraitor to the people.

Speaker 1 (26:34):
It's a big deal and a lot of people, a lot of faith,
are doing that.

Speaker 2 (26:40):
Yes, that's what it is.
That's why I came to see you,to see your faithfulness.
I think you're doing a good joband when I grew up, when I
became a pastor in the church,when I became a man of the
people, that's when we heard thename of a man of the people.
So we hear the name to bedecanted and Pastor Breville and
for Breville and Breville.

(27:02):
Pastor Breville for the churchand for Breville for Kaila.
Breville is for everyone who isa classmate everyone who is a
student in school in theneighborhood who is not able to
complete their work.

Speaker 1 (27:15):
They say I don't see my dad, my aunt, etc.

Speaker 2 (27:17):
Exactly because they can't take them out.
So if they don't treat you wellbefore marriage, they can fall
in there.
They can have a big problem.
They can have a big problem.
On the other hand, if they cansocialize, the best thing they
can do to manage socializationis that people who are not we
see it as a consequence, as aresult for people who gain

(27:39):
social incompatibility when theywant to leave, they have to go
back to their own society.
They have to leave.

Speaker 1 (27:48):
But it's the same time that the father wants to
embrace it.

Speaker 2 (27:51):
He wants to embrace it.

Speaker 1 (27:53):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (27:54):
This approach is what we are talking about.
With this approach, we aretalking about educational
incompatibility.
We are facing a problem thatmakes us not be socially
connected.
I hope we will not failtogether.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
No, it's education that has to do it.

Speaker 2 (28:13):
Because, at the level of education we are, that's
where people don't learn, peoplewho are suffering because they
know that they are in trouble.
So let me give you a few wordsfor that you can explain all
that existed.
If it's in a spiritual sectorwhich is based on Christianity,

(28:34):
does not end with prayer,because it is based on a method
for the soul, because there isan evangelist who preached and
then he says fish, not.
You want to fly in the air.
If you want to welcome them,you have to be in the water, but

(28:59):
you can't be stuck with thebirds Until both of them are
forced to separate for eachperson to live.

Speaker 1 (29:07):
It doesn't happen.

Speaker 2 (29:11):
It means that if you want to treat with the treatment
, I have to divorce.
I myself, in my faith, withinmy church, I don't preach much.
Divorce is something that we doin prenuptial counseling.
But I have chosen to go to theHoly Mary, to all the pastors,

(29:33):
to the Holy Mary, to go tocounseling, because counseling
is the best, even before wedrink it.

Speaker 1 (29:38):
I remember when Pastor Bueville said that.
I remember that the high priestsaid that, but there are some
people who were there on Sundayduring the Mass and they were
preaching and then he said well,look, mary, you have to teach
me how to look for my own way.
Because, look, I'm here todaybecause I want to share with you
this problem that is happeningin the world, and I want to say

(30:01):
that we must not be afraid.
We understand that the level ofeducation we have gained, the
advice we have received, we haveto be able to read it.
The level we have gained, wehave to be able to see it.

(30:27):
In the group we are attendingthe.
I told her that I was going topresent her with a problem.
I told her that I was going tosell her.

Speaker 2 (30:35):
Her husband is free.

Speaker 1 (30:37):
You understand, and I felt that she was the one who
was not able to accompany herbecause she was embarrassed.

Speaker 2 (30:46):
Because she was not able to enter the house.

Speaker 1 (30:48):
She was not able to enter the house.
But people in the same placethey do that.
There are conversations thatthey can't enter.
So on both sides we have tounderstand that.
But unfortunately it's not easyfor both sides to understand
that.
People say that love is love.

(31:09):
I recently saw on social mediathat there are people who say
that marriage is not supposed toinvolve love 100%, so I don't
say how much, but they say thatlove is not supposed to be based
on love to marry, because thereis another aspect that is

(31:30):
needed to consider thatsometimes we don't consider and
it's there that we end upmarrying and then we want to
consider that aspect.

Speaker 2 (31:40):
I don't know what to say, because aspect doesn't mean
anything.
I think I should pray insteadwhat I want to pray for.
Because people say that?
Because they don't understandlove, because love?
Sometimes we understand lovewhen we say I love you or I love

(32:02):
you or I love you, far from it.
We must first know thedefinition of the word love In
the Bible.
The Apostle Paul explains thisin Exodus, chapter 13, that love
is not difficult.
The Apostle Paul says that loveis patient, love supports

(32:25):
everything.
Love is not a threat, love isnot proud.
He believes in everything.

Speaker 1 (32:35):
He hopes for everything.

Speaker 2 (32:39):
So I always say this to my children and my church
when someone says I love you toyou, you should ask that person
do you really know what doesthat mean love?
Because sometimes people saythat they love me yes, it's true

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, they love me and others say,dr Beatrice, you know, I love
you there.
The other thing he says withtenderness, with affection, in
other words, he say they readwords in knowledge of the cause,
but most often they say I loveyou.

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They say it with a tick.
We say that all the time.
In some conferences we do.
My name has to be written withI love you.
It's I L instead of putting I UI love you.
I love you means I love you.

(33:46):
I love you means I love you isI-L-O-V-E-Y-O-U.
We don't have any symbols inlove.
Love is not manifested bysymbols.
It is manifested by action.
So if we don't understand themeaning of love, it is normal to

(34:13):
say that nowadays,relationships have to be put
aside for love.
It's not because we made love,but because people have to talk
about it themselves.
They need love in everything.
So we left that aside.
We went to another topic whichis age-related, to talk about
love and other things.
We continue with theincompatibilities of character.

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And then we haveincompatibilities in the
educational field, which is themarriage education, together
with social.
I like to take a series ofexamples because there are a
series of experiences that Igained because I didn't go to

(34:56):
the hospital, because I didn'twork when I entered here for a
period of time, I was chosen todo security guard, 8 hours, 16
hours.
Security guard that means basic.
So when I talk about thedecisions I make, I take it for
security and then, because Ican't do it myself, if someone

(35:19):
does security, tell me sorry, Iwill come back with security
guards Because I can do anythingif I need it.
I can call security guards orcriminal justice or go to
Homeland Security or go to thesecurity department.
Even for the president it'salways the same security.
He always has to be in thatclass.
But that's what Dr Beatricesaid People factor age into the

(35:44):
relationship.
To get married, to get married,to get married.
The more time you spend atschool to get a degree in your
own, if you don't get married ordon't have a daughter, the less
chance you have to get atschool to get a degree, whether
it's for boys or girls, the lesschance you have of getting a
degree to become a lady.
Please repeat that for me again,please, the more time you spend

(36:05):
at school to get a degree, toget a bachelor's degree,
master's degree, doctor's degree, or even to become a boy, or
even to become a lady, the lesschance you have of have a boy or
a girl.
Why?
Good question, because in thetime you have to prepare

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yourself to go to all levels,the person you are going to have
is already going to havesomeone.
So what I want to say is that Isaid it before educational and
social incompatibility is what Iwant to say.

Speaker 1 (36:43):
I hope you will pay attention to it and I hope that
your friends and listeners willpay attention to it.

Speaker 2 (36:50):
Yes, we hope so too, because I don't know, because I
don't able to take it, because Iwas in a bad situation.
But then people, you aresupposed to have a job, a job, a
little love, a partner.
But after 24 years, later, youare supposed to start to have

(37:10):
ideas in your head.
If people start at 22 years old, it does not pose a problem.
They can stop at 22 years old.
It won't be a problem.
They won't stop.
But at 22 years old, if youcome to school, maybe you'll end
up with a bachelor's degree.
You do a bachelor's degree, youdo a master's degree.
You don't have to go to school.

(37:30):
You don't need people who areon the same level as us.
Do these people already havethe ability to find people?
Do these people already havethe ability to find people in
the city?
And that's why, dr Beatricedegree, master's degree,

(37:52):
doctorate yes, yes, you have tocharge everything to join.
You don't think you won't join,do you?
You have to be prepared.

Speaker 1 (38:07):
Yes, because when you go to a standard school, you
have to be prepared.

Speaker 2 (38:11):
And when you go to another school, you able to go
down to the next level.
If you don't have a good levelof education, will you still
have a boy who will never beable to go to the next level?
Do you mean a boy who is 28, 30, 32 years old?

Speaker 1 (38:28):
Never it will not be possible.
And the other level ofeducation is not only about
education, it's about financiallife.

Speaker 2 (38:38):
No, we don't want to talk about that.
Financial life no I am nottalking about financial life
with sex, and that's not myproblem, no, so to answer your
question no, I don't want to askyou a problem.
When we arrive in this.
We have a dream that we have,because when you say that, I
just want to say that I want tokeep this for ourselves the

(38:58):
important thing to prepare forthe future with the people in
our hands, instead of preparingthe future for the people who
are in it, is to prepareourselves.

Speaker 1 (39:07):
Because choice is not easy.

Speaker 2 (39:09):
It's not easy.
So when we say that we will beresilient, when we use the word
resilient, when you use the wordresume, I know exactly what
you're saying.
When you arrive, you talk aboutthe film.
You end up saying when you'renot in the right place, you have
to look down To see if you canlearn.
When you're in the right placeto learn, you have to have a

(39:31):
problem.
Can you go up with?
You are all the same.
If you are a blooper, you cantake a bar and go up and say
that you are very nice.
But you have to see that peoplewho speak to you are bad people
.
They speak to you like amanipulator.
It's the same for girls tooMany's the same for girls too,

(39:53):
because girls often have a badreputation.
It's at this level.
It's a statistical proof.
Yes, it's a statistical proof,because Because girls are not
trained in this field.

Speaker 1 (40:06):
The world movement is doing this?

Speaker 2 (40:08):
Who makes girls train boys?
They don't need boys to be paidfor it.
They don't need boys to be paidfor it.
They are independent, but theyare independent.
They don't want to be like meand have to buy a boy.

Speaker 1 (40:21):
Which is not easy.

Speaker 2 (40:22):
no, it's not easy for people to take the teacher's
advice.
They are profitors.
Or if they are not profitors,they can come to the manipulator
.
They can take the stepfather'sadvice, because it's not enough.

Speaker 1 (40:37):
It's like the end of the day, as if the parents
freeze to death for the samething they did.

Speaker 2 (40:42):
But the husband and wife are the same.
Because that's why we talkabout education with society,
because education allows us toadjust ourselves in society.
So that's why we say if someonehas been looking for someone
since they were in college, theystarted to find us.
Not only that, they have twodegrees, three degrees in the
world.
If they have to find, if theyhave to find, they always have
to join and that means that theyuse K.

(41:06):
They always have to join orsupposedly join.
But it is not easy becausethere are more than 100 to 200
people like you who are lookingfor the same thing.
But when you have done yourbachelor's degree for two years
now, you are always talking topeople like sir.
You are always talking topeople like miss.

(41:28):
For those who are coming withsecurity.
Dr Beatrice, I did it, or I tookit all the time.
I went to school.
I went to school.
I went to school, I got aMaster's degree.
I got a Master's degree andthen, in a good time, I found

(41:49):
someone who was able to help mein a security guard.
I want to be a security guardin society because I have
experience in security.
So, even though I have abachelor's degree in diplomacy.
I want to be a security guard.
I want to go to Haiti.
I want to go to the city andthe fact that I'm going to Haiti
I'm going to Haiti, I'm lookingfor something that allows me.

Speaker 1 (42:11):
I don't want to show that I can't go to Haiti all the
no, but I don't want to leavepeople with courage, with
dignity, with respect, becausewhen you say that you have to
lower your degree to be asecurity officer, I do the same
thing in the morning when Ilower my degree, so I know
exactly what you're talkingabout.

Speaker 2 (42:31):
Let's go faster.
I don't think that I'm asecurity officer.
I'm going to say that foreveryone who wants security.
I'm not minimizing it, but thereality of life is the reality
of the period.
People who have a doctorate orwho have a master's in mental
health are not compatible withthe security of the period.

(42:51):
Educational incompatibility,social incompatibility, because
if you invite a man to dinner,to go to the wedding or to go
out with a lady, who will makeyou enter the conversation,
because the person will presentto we present to Mrs me such and

(43:16):
such thing, or we present Drone such and such, or we present
one such and such, one such andsuch, and that makes us a good
example to go to the fish or thepark and that they were brought
out in the country because theyhad a good education.

Speaker 1 (43:40):
For example, I was brought out in the country
because I had a good education,because I had a job, and then,
when I came here, I was toldthat I had to do this or that.
But I was a person with a goodeducation, but I didn't have an
education in a country where Ilive.
But I educate myself in otherthings, as if to To be able to

(44:03):
educate myself on a plan that isenlightened and then, socially,
to have a long series of sides,to know how to speak, how to
walk, how to present myself, howto sit at the table.
And if people have done allthat, is it a problem?

Speaker 2 (44:19):
No, it's not a problem.
Education we're not talkingabout education in the United.
States oh okay, it's because,as I said, we're talking about
financial issues.
We're not even talking aboutthat.
Because the United States has nopossibility.
Many possibilities.
Let's do three things.
Let's talk about the financial,educational and social aspects.

(44:39):
First, someone who has a PhD inpsychology here, and then there
are many possibilities for apsychology teacher in a high
school or college A PhD.
And then many people who have aheart attack.
When they work in the hospital,they have a heart attack.

(45:04):
They are associated with aheart attack.
You don't have a heart attack,that's easier do you?
No, because the line is the mostdifficult.
Do you see the difference?
Yes, it's the same for everyonewho is a teacher at school, who
has a master's degree and thenworks at school, etc.

(45:30):
And then Mary makes a black caras a driver, a taxi driver.

Speaker 1 (45:37):
Mary made her a black car.

Speaker 2 (45:38):
Mary made her a black car Because she was a master.
So that's another aspect offinance.
Is finance more important thanall the other needs in a
relationship?
Because at the end of the day,she will feel uncomfortable when
they invite her somewhere tointroduce her to her husband,

(46:06):
because the feeling, the reality, is that she will introduce her
husband as a taxi driver.
She will miss him.
Taxi driver is missing.
There is a moral level, becauseI have a moral level that is
completely high.
I have a problem myself so thatif I have to go to work, I have

(46:28):
to go to work early, becauseevery day is always useful in
society.

Speaker 1 (46:35):
And they supposed to complete the other.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
That's it.
It means that there is noproblem to present it, but it
does not show any problem.
But society has a problem withit.

Speaker 1 (46:45):
They have always left us influenced by society, by
society.

Speaker 2 (46:47):
They have always influenced by society until the
world ends, because it's not mewho is going to correct it.
So if we have a very greateducation in Haiti and then we
come here, we have to adjust asmuch as possible.
But if there is no possibility,we have always been security

(47:12):
guards.
If it is not that I can't moveforward.
I will be a perfectionist sothat I can come to a home-guard.
When I was in school, I alwaysentered the college for 2-3
years and then I entered NYPD.
That means that the line haschanged, but it is necessary to

(47:36):
adjust it, to stop it at thatlevel, because that level that
you are gaining and that you arenot gaining on your own, that
level that you are gaining isthe same.
So that's what makes it so thatwhen we talk about
incompatibility, the reason weknow incompatibility is because
we have never treated it at thebase.
But if we treat it at the base,it will them as a base.

(47:56):
As a base, ok, but if wetreated them as a base, they
wouldn't have come to us to askus for help, because our problem
is very particular.
I grew up in education in Haiti.
I came here, I did the researchor I did security.
I had to stay for a number ofyears because I knew people who
were going to finish school.
So we have an entourage with DrBeatrice, because if we don't

(48:18):
surround ourselves with peoplewho go to school all the time,
we won't be able to go to school.
And that's why, without havingto do anything, we have to make
sure that it's ourselves whosurround ourselves, because
people from school encouragepeople from school.
People from home encouragepeople from home.
People who come to churchencourage people to come to
church.
People who have a stablemarriage they encourage people

(48:40):
to have a stable marriage.
So there are a series oflanguages.
Many people don't know thelanguage.
For example, when we preach, wesay learn from your friends.
You must have good friends whoare good for you.
But the language needs toprogress.
If you don't progress, youdon't need to be good, but we
have to be good.

Speaker 1 (49:00):
Yes, we always have to greet them, we have to be
kind to them, but the point youjust made is very important.
I thought I would share myexperience with 11 friends.
They said, oh, you're going tobe a doctor.
I said, no, I'm not going to bea doctor, even if I have the

(49:22):
spirit.
I came to the country in 2004,and that's when I met a young
man who was in his last year ofmedical school.
I thought that a young man, agood young man, educated,

(49:42):
intelligent.
The first question he asked mewas I want to learn that I live
in a country where I can plan mylife for the next five years.
And then I shared this with myfriends, but the person who
called me said no, it was avision.
If he didn't ask me thatquestion, I would have stopped

(50:07):
talking to him like friends,because he is honest, he is the
last one to graduate from themedical school.
I myself came to the country,so for him, I won't win If I
have to go to the hospital, Iwill represent him.
Do you understand?
Did he invite me to a meetingin medicine?

(50:29):
Did I get the caliber to campin his place?
And, the important thing, Isuppose that it is I who should
know that we vomited whilewaiting knows how to vomit in
the meantime to make the placelook good.
That's really to illustrate thatwe can do it before, which is

(50:51):
very important.

Speaker 2 (50:53):
So, to continue in the same way, we have to connect
all three together.
We connect the social,educational and financial
lessons together.
We say that we are in arelationship, and then there is
someone else who has a business.
And then there is someone elsewho has a business.

(51:14):
There is someone who loves meso much, he will start my
business too.
I don't care, since I started.
Everyone who loves me hasstarted their business.
Everyone who loves to spendmoney has started their business
.
Everyone who loves to dance.

(51:38):
They are the ones who are bornto be a father.
The father watches who is bornto be a mother and who is born
to be a father.
I was going to stop by and say,ah, beatrice, I went to the

(52:00):
grocery store and bought this.
I went to the grocery store andsaid, ah, I want to buy a
burger.
I bought this for you.
I thought you would like a hotwings.
I bought it for you.
I didn't have time to run,because someone gets a gift.
They don't have time to go out,because people who get gifts,

(52:22):
it's the fact that they havegifts.
It's when they go out togetherwith people who are like them.
You have to follow them.
You have to talk to the peoplewho get them, the people who
love them.
You have to follow them a longtime and then they do it again.
They do it again all the timeto stay there all the time why?

(52:42):
Because people have developedin the world.
Do people take care of itafterwards?
Because there are people whogive gifts all the time to
people but they don't give itback.
If we are here, to be here, wehave to go to the restaurant

(53:03):
where we are going to eat.
How we are going to eat.
That's what Bill said.
He didn't make any move to saywe are going to eat here.
He said no, no, no, no, no, no,no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,no, no, no, no, no, no.
Everything for fun.
Deuxième tournée d'unrestaurant.

Speaker 1 (53:18):
Troisième tournée d'un restaurant pour et qu'ils
avaient fait depuis lacommissaire ou était tout après
cinq, après dix ans, prévientdes carnes d'organisation mais,
moniotou, y'a qu'on approche,que confère et pasteur breville
et que, pour justifier action,yo yo dit mon qui t'invite et
que tu fais invitation, c'estlui-même qui and the action you
do.
You say, the one who invitedyou, who made the invitation, is

(53:39):
the same one who paid the bill.

Speaker 2 (53:41):
Well, that's why I have a lot of people in me who
have invited me to find goodwords to tell me, let's say,
that you invited a girl to cometo your house.
It's a shame.
It's the only big word I'veheard.
That's simple.
It's a shame that you invited apity to look at your daughter
and say I'm going to buy you anew car to make you come to the

(54:03):
studio and everything.
It's not parasitology.

Speaker 1 (54:06):
No, it's not a pity.
It's my wife who's going totake care of my daughter.

Speaker 2 (54:11):
Well, there are other people who are concerned about
you, or even your daughter, whois going to do the laundry for
you, because Agui was going topass the test.
In the end, he would havepassed everything for you.
He would have passed everything, but he would have looked at
whether you wanted to make agesture.
It's not because he wanted tomake a gesture, but he wanted to
have a generous aspect.
It's the same as when you saythat all the girls are open to

(54:33):
you to go to the toilet, in thesame way that the girls are
woman.
if a man opens the door to theother woman, the other woman has
to open the door for him, theother woman has to keep an eye
on him and if he opens the doorbecause we have to be careful
with that, because it's thereciprocity that makes them not

(54:54):
gain the incompatibility.
But if you agree one, I don'tneed to open the machine.
Second, I don't need to openthe machine.
It's not like I can't open themachine.
It's more than a princess orqueen aspect.

Speaker 1 (55:10):
When you go to the restaurant you need chairs.
To put a chair.

Speaker 2 (55:13):
Exactly.
So all of that in done to get aminimum.
We have to be able to treatthem so that the boys can wake
up and they can have a good lifeafter 5 years, after 2 years,
after 10 years.

Speaker 1 (55:30):
But routine is routine.
That's what we do on dates.
And then the boys start todisappear in 1 year, 2 years, 3
years, and then I think that twomonths thought that they were
very pleasant.
I was joking with Maria.
She said, oh, when I'm withMaria, we're having a date.
It's an open door for me.

(55:50):
It's a pleasure to be with you.
I was thinking that I was goingto be with you.
I was going to be with you andthat's a habit I've lost.

Speaker 2 (56:02):
I have a couple that I like, they are the same as me
I don't open the car, etc.
Until now I can't say until now, because I've lost control.
But in the long run, when I goout to open the door, I said I'm
going to film your car.
She said yes, yes, yes, thelady is going to open the door.
I said you're going to film mycar.

(56:25):
She said if you want to go,I'll take you to the door.
I said I'm going to film ablack car, because the black car
is a special service.
There's no way to open themachine for her.
I told her that I had to openthe machine for her.
I told her that I had to openthe machine for her.
I told her that I had to openthe machine for her.
I told her that I had to openthe machine for her.
I told her that I had to openthe machine for her.

(56:45):
I told her that I had to openthe machine for her.
I told her that I had to openthe machine for like.
We have to come more often.
We have to remember what wehave to do.

Speaker 1 (57:03):
When we are comfortable, we have new
behaviors to remember.
We don't have to stop.

Speaker 2 (57:11):
We don't have to stop .
So, as we said earlier,communication is the basis of
all relationships, it's thepillar of relationships.
It's not communication, drBeatrice.

Speaker 1 (57:27):
No, not at all.

Speaker 2 (57:30):
Financial incompatibility means that the
person poses a problem and youhave to look at whether you have
a partner who is also more thanyou.
That's not the case, andmeanwhile you have to follow all
the barriers that exist,Because the one who has to
overcome more is the one whoneeds to overcome more barriers,

(57:54):
or the one who has to overcomemore, that's the.
If I go to the grocery store, Ihave to go to work.

Speaker 1 (58:04):
You don't have to go to work at all.

Speaker 2 (58:08):
I have to go to work.
Because I have to go to work, Ihave to go to work.
Yes, I don't go to restaurantsto say I'm going to work or to
say I have.
You go to a restaurant and sayto a young man that you want to
pay for a girl to go to arestaurant with a girl, you will
have to pay.

Speaker 1 (58:28):
Because I have a problem.
There was a time when there wasa challenge, and it was always
with expectations, as if for aboy in a relationship, you had
to be like Jean Bagalante, undera big name, or even since 1814.

(58:48):
But it was as if there was anobligation for a boy, for a boy
to pay all the bills, for a boyto pay the rent for these girls.
Pay the bills that exist.
They don't even pay bills.
But while they want to doeverything they can to help the
girls in the village, they don'teven have a place to live.

(59:10):
They don't even have food forthemselves.
I don't even have food formyself.
I don't even have this for thegirls.
And I think that's the problemand that people, as if they were
married, married as if theywere doing it as a job.
It's an apartment that we livein which costs 1,500 or 2,000

(59:31):
dollars, but you want to buy it.
You only have to pay themortgage for 5,000 or 6,000
dollars.
But the boy?
What can we do about it?
We have to go back to reality.
We have to understand that.
We have to learn to go back tothe way we were.
It's not because we came toPasteur-Bréville.
I went to Pasteur-Bréville,chita, with this lady.

(59:54):
I automatically went to thesame place I wanted to go.
We have to know who is going toteach us.
I automatically put the sameamount of money I want to save.
I have to know who is going totake care of us.
Who is going to take care of us?
Otherwise, if it's only myhusband who has to work, I know
I'm going to save the otheramount of money, the mortgage
that came to me, 5,000-6,000dollars.
I'm going to have to work, doyou understand?

(01:00:15):
I'm going to take care of theother part, my daughters.
One day they complained I haveto work hard to get back to the
party.
But here they are complainingthat the boy is not taking
responsibility for the bill,while they want to take it.
I don't want to offend anyone,but we have to be honest and
balance the situation.

Speaker 2 (01:00:35):
So there are boys who look after my daughter.
They treat her like a princessbecause a princess is crazy,
even personally.
But there are boys who alwaystalk to my daughter.

Speaker 1 (01:00:56):
Do you have a reason for that?
I?

Speaker 2 (01:00:59):
don't have a reason, but it was crazy and there were
girls who didn't agree with theboy, but they were always there
to make people feel sorry and itended up very badly, I have to
say.

Speaker 1 (01:01:13):
Yes, it depends on the person who is going to kiss
you.

Speaker 2 (01:01:14):
Even if he is out in the open.

Speaker 1 (01:01:16):
You understand, I don't know if I would have been
able to do it.

Speaker 2 (01:01:18):
I don't know, Because If you keep on losing girls all
the time, all the time, all thetime, so that they don't have
to do anything, in the endyou'll see that they're getting
closer.
They're getting closerCompletely Because they don't
have to show that they're doinganything.

Speaker 1 (01:01:38):
It's because she was, but you can't even take the
dignity of a woman or thedignity of a girl, you have to
have pride to be able to sayeverything.

Speaker 2 (01:01:45):
We can't even try to take the dignity of a girl,
because women of value we alwaysneed to preach in the church.
The virtuous woman that Salomonspoke of herself in Proverbs,
chapter 31, it was a laboriouswoman.
A woman who is a woman is alaborious woman and that's why,

(01:02:10):
when they came withglobalization, they sought the
equality of women with men,without their bodies being
linked.
Because that's what we've beendoing for a long time in the
Bible.
Because people who read theBible, who read Proverbs 51, who

(01:02:32):
are people who have explainedthe virtuous woman.
They are people whose wiveswork hard but has the same job,
who doesn't even have a domesticduty.
That means that he does not dothat, but he does not eat.
If you have someone who lives ina countryside, I would say that
when you have a cultivator whoplants, who grows vegetables, it

(01:02:54):
is not the same as the one whoplants the grass.
The one who rots the hay is notthe same Calvany.
It's the woman in Calvany in myhouse, who has a head of the
same size as mine, who has neverbeen to another farm.
It's the Calvany, not theCalvany man.
That's the globalization thathas been there for a long time
and the woman herself islaborious.

(01:03:14):
So it's for a woman to say thatwho would join the?
You have to go to the net toget your pension Because you
don't have a passport.
So we have 5 million.

Speaker 1 (01:03:25):
It's not supposed to be like that and to end it all
with the cost of living.
It's not feasible.

Speaker 2 (01:03:35):
So it's not can't do that If we fall into this
financial incompatibility, wewill see that money is not
easily compatible.
So if we don't have love, if wedon't have a nuptial

(01:03:56):
understanding, we will see whatwill happen.
Because in politics we say thatIf there is no nuptial
understanding then there is aproblem.
Because in politics we say thatthey finance the commode.

Speaker 1 (01:04:04):
But it's dirty.
No they want to do it.

Speaker 2 (01:04:07):
They don't want to do it, it's dirty, yes, but there
is a problem Because theglobalization between the
equality of men with women, inreality, that finance commodes.
But in reality, whether we takea primitive reality or a

(01:04:29):
current reality, it is noteverything that is in the girl's
mind and that's why we aretalking about the American
reality that girls have to bemore like men than boys, but
that doesn't mean that girlshave to be more like boys than
boys.

Speaker 1 (01:04:49):
I think that mentality is like nowadays.
That's what you are remembering.
Nowadays we see that a girl whois younger, you feel more
comfortable with her because youhave someone who is 10 or 15
years younger than you, becauseyou have work.
You have a job and then youngmen like that you have to

(01:05:11):
provide everything that someoneneeds and then young men stop
Because even when you are there,they feel that they are
commenting as if they want toreverse reality of life, there
are letters that say that youare without a boy.
But in fact I say that as if youare 50 years old, right?

(01:05:33):
And that, unfortunately, ayoung man who is 35 years old, a
young man who is 35 years old,people comfort him.
He is 25 years old, right?

Speaker 2 (01:05:43):
Yes, he is, do you understand?
50, 35, 25.

Speaker 1 (01:05:46):
And that whoever is there, that I myself, I offer
him from a financial point ofview.
When someone says the money isgone, he has accumulated it, but
the money is gone.
But it's not a plan, it's not afuture project for me.

Speaker 2 (01:06:02):
No, sometimes all the people don't need a future
project.
They simply need someone to puttheir success in their lives.

Speaker 1 (01:06:09):
Yes, but it happened.
But there are some people inyou who are going to fall into
the illusion that a young manhas made a living with you.

Speaker 2 (01:06:17):
Yes, it's an illusion .
Thank you very much for tellingme that it's an illusion,
because I don man like thatlives with you.
Yes, it's an illusion.
Thank you for telling me that,Because young men don't live
like that, but you have to becrazy to stop it.

Speaker 1 (01:06:25):
Besides, at 50 years old, you will start to have
problems.
You will have problems that youwill have the capacity to
create and start to reduce, tonot say that you will reduce it
completely, I will say that Iwill not, if that's the case,
have done it.

Speaker 2 (01:06:38):
He would have done it .
He would have done it all thetime If he had not been in
sexual incompatibility.
We would have been in it.
Because 30 years old poses aproblem in this incompatibility.
Because, even if someone comesto me and says, pastor, I want
to marry someone, or marrysomeone who is 50 years old and

(01:07:01):
who has 35 years of marriageexperience, I don't want to
explain to anyone what I have asa vision during my marriage.
If you are 50 years old andyour husband is 35 years old and
you have a partner, do youthink you can adopt a partner?

(01:07:24):
What would you do?

Speaker 1 (01:07:28):
We have to have a plan to have a partner.
We have to have a partner whocan be a partner and who can be
a partner for both partners.
We have to be able to agreethat we are married but we don't
need to be in a relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:07:40):
So that's what we saw earlier when we didn't have
communication.
It's simply communication,communicating who we are and how
we react.
So when these girls are olderthan boys, the more danger they
have for themselves, for examplewhen they are 35.

(01:08:04):
Because at that age they haveto be able to talk about the
incompatibilities that they have, the incompatibilities of
character.
Forget that.
It means that character is notallowed to walk at all.
It is made of character to beable to walk.
If we take the other, we almostdon't have the same vision in

(01:08:25):
one.
We almost don't have the samevision when it's a girl with 50,
a little girl.
In her own she's 35.
So the good incompatibilitythat we have to walk in our
relationship because you or Icould be there whatever are, the
one who has to be there, nomatter what people say about you
.
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