Are you ready to shift, pivot and learn how to change during uncertain times? Constance shares how to pivot, adapt, adjust and advance both in your personal and professional life. You will learn 5 steps to pivot and shift in any area of your life including: 1) Accept Your Current Reality, 2) Reflect and Assess 3) Discover your New Path 4) Biblical Insight and 5) New Life and New Direction. Constance shares personal stories of people who have thrived and prospered during challenging times and you can too.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're listening to the Law of Attraction Radio Network. International
success coach and noted author Constance Arnold delivers life changing
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life you've been dreaming of. And now here's Constance Arnold.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Well, hello, powerful creator, and welcome to the Law of
Attraction Radio Network. And of course I am Constance arm
the host Other Things Believe In Manifest talk show, and
today I am coming from Beautiful Almost Fall, Atlanta. Joy Ja.
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I am so excited, so grateful, so thankful that you
chose to join me today to tune in and guess what.
As I say every week, I believe that the spirit
has attracted you here so that you can hear and
receive the inspiration, the downloads, the insight that you've been
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praying about. Well, I hope you are having a great day.
I would say, good morning, good evening, what else, good afternoon,
whatever time it is, it is the right time for you.
Well for all my international listeners in the US it
is Labor Day weekend. That is a holiday for us.
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It is the holiday just before we begin to move
into the fall, the autumn, which is really I just
love that season of the year. I can kind of
tell I've been getting up a little early to walk
and it feels so good that the humidity is so low.
The other morning I had to put on a sweater,
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but it's all good. I am teaching to day Wow,
and I am teaching you on how to pivot or change,
doing times of uncertainty, doing disruptions, doing a change in
relationship during transitions. You know, all over the world things
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are changing. All of us on some level or in
some form. We are experiencing change. And I've done a
lot of study and work in prayer on this. So
you're going to receive what you've really been praying about
and thinking about. You know, God wants us to really
expand and grow and receive things beyond our own comprehension.
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I'm going to read a powerful prayer that doctor Bobara Franklin.
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on social media. I'm gonna talk a little bit about
this when I start teaching. But if you're ready for coaching,
if you're in the middle of change, and most people are,
if you're in the middle of a major disruption, either
personally or professionally, your relationships have changed. If you're in
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the middle of a big transition, you're feeling uncertain your
money has changed, your marriage or the lack of relationship,
your health, your age, anything that's changing. You know I'm
really your spiritual coach doing changing times. And what I
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really I've shifted and changed a lot because God has
given me so much wisdom over the years. I believe
that's the person The Bible says that for times like these.
I believe that for times like these, all the wisdom
and knowledge that God put on the inside of me spiritually, psychologically,
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and emotionally, but also just principal centered strategy, it is
just for you. And I'm going to really help you
to adapt if you feel like everything around you is shifting,
and in many people's lives, it is to get grounded
and stay grounded and move forward with a new mindset,
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move forward with a new dream. I'm a certified dream
coach because when you've been working in a position for
thirty years and then all of a sudden, you're not that,
who are you? So help you to develop a new
identity and help you to make the latter part of
your life better than your former. You know, the Bible says,
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your latter years shall be greater than your former And
if you desire that, I know in my life I'm
doing that. I am shifting my business in all areas
and I have two new coaches. Why constance because they're
giving me insight relation, they already have the experience, They
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already are where I want to be and to go.
So email me constants at Fulfilling Yourpurpose dot com. Let's
do a discovery car What is that gonna look like.
That's gonna look like a twenty minute session. Katie's gonna
send you a zoom link, or we can do FaceTime.
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I'm gonna listen to you. I'm not trying to sell
you anything. I tell people already got a waiting list,
but I'm gonna listen to you just to see who
you are, where you are, and if we are a
vibrational match. The people that are in my life right now,
I believe that God has placed them there to help
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push and catapult me to the next level, not just
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Speaker 2 (08:27):
Well, everybody, I am back and I am excited. I
want you to open up your heart and open up
your spirit because I am talking to you. I'm going
to be talking about how to pivot doing changing times
how to pivot when it looks like your whole world
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has been shaken around you? How do you pivot during
major disruption in your life? Both professional and also personally.
So I'm gonna break it all the way down biblically, professionally,
and then give you some tips. Are you ready? I
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wanna pray over you first, though, I'm gonna pray this
prayer that doctor Barbara Franklin really put together. I'm gonna
pray it here at the beginning and at the end.
So I want you to put your name in the
place where I say then so no mater them. So,
no matter what's happening in your life, I want you
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to take this personally. God, surprise them with the depth
of your love. Overwhelm me with the evidence of your affection.
Astonish me with your goodness, Show me how extravagantly you
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care for me. Exceed my expectations with your faithfulness. Show
me wonders of your love that I could have never
imagined before. Lord, move beyond human limits, improve your covenant
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of love in ways that will put me in awe. Lord,
do something in my life that only love can explain.
In Jesus' name, Amen, and so it is meditate on
that for a second. That is so powerful. You see,
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I changed it to me because with everything that is
going on, everybody is going through something. If you watching
this guy's I'm trying to get my hair out of
my eye, everybody is going through some kind of change.
A change in your lifestyle, maybe you having to move,
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change in your mindset what you used to believe. You know,
you've gotten more knowledge and wisdom. You've expended your consciousness.
A change in your health, a change in your career.
I know many people who've gotten downsized, fired from the government,
are forced to retire. What people was doing in the
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past is not working Now people are moving to new locations.
You know, every time you wake up, it's a change.
You go to bed with one thing and then money
systems has changed. It's no more just the dollar bill,
it's coins and crypto. Churches have changed. Everybody used to
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go to church on Sunday. Now people are online. Just
recently this week, the Atlanta Journal Constitution, which is the
main paper in Atlanta and in Georgie, says we're going digital.
Why this is a one hundred plus year old paper.
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Why because they understand changes. Marriages are changing the demographics
for people over fifty who are getting divoices is astounding.
It's amazing. Why because people are saying, I ain't gonna
stand this toxic relationship. I want to be happy chat
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GPT has brought about change. You know, I wanted to
find out what the word pivot meant and I just
went to check GPT and said, what does this mean?
So check GPT is taking over folks jobs. A one
is just dealing with people in college. So there's change
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their disruption, there is, there is shifting, but what is God?
I'm saying about all of this and I'm going to
walk you through that. So why are Before I do that?
I want you to think about in your life right now,
where is the big pivot and where is the change?
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So in my life personally, there's been a big change
in business. What I used to do professionally with leadership
training is changing. You know. I used to fly in,
they put me up in a luxury hotel. I'm there
for two or three days. But now a lot is virtual.
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A lot of what I do are pre recordings, and
so I've had to shift and change that. So what's
happening in your life? I want you to take a
second and just think about that. Take a deep breath
in to think about that. So what is the major
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area in your life for change? So these are some
reasons some more reason that folks are having to pivot
and change. They're burned out or they're just not satisfied.
This isn't working for me anymore. Maybe a life event.
It might be a death, it might be an illness.
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It might mean you having to take care of your parents.
I don't know what it is done, but it is
a life crisis. It might be as I said earlier,
personal growth or awakening. You just realize I don't want
to work a nine to five anymore. I want my freedom.
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You know, people want freedom, baby Boehmers. We used to
work on a job for thirty or forty years. The Millennias,
gen Z, they ain't doing that. They want purpose, they
want to have fun, and they want freedom. So a
personal growth, even spiritually, maybe you used to go to
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church and now you realize you're more spiritual and expanded.
You're letting go of your fixed identity who you used
to be. You're not that anymore. Even when it comes
to my dressing. You know, I used to be very business.
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I can't even think of the name of the designer
that I used to wear. But now I'm more Boho sheikh,
you know, which is freedom for me, which is flowing
from me. So even my clothes identify who I am. Now.
Maybe you used to work at a university. I'm working
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with some folks who used to work at a university.
So what do you do with yourself when you've been
doing something for a lifetime and you're no longer doing that?
All right? So you're embracing growth, vulnerability, and a new
way of being. Even the fact a lot of people
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they like working remotely, but now they're having a gold
back in. I know some places in California they're having
to do that. And so all of this is changing,
and right in the middle of that, we're saying, well
where is God? You know, if you like me? When
something is working good, I like it. And in the
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past I have stayed in stuff too long. You know,
I would stay because it's working, it's powerful. But don't
be like Blockbusters. Do y'all know what blockbusters is? Some
of my millennials might not, but Blockbusters was a store
where you could go and rent a movie and take
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it home, keep it for X number of days, pay
for it. So when they had an opportunity to tap
into something like netflex, they didn't do it. So what
Blockbusters had to shift and change. Even my podcasting, I'm
going to be having more of you on here so
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that I can answer your questions. So podcasting has changed.
Maybe what you thought was success was not successful. You
might feel stressful. I had somebody ask me the other
day about taking a big financial lead and more responsibility,
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and I asked her, you got to define for yourself
what is success? Is success more money? Is it more responsibility?
Because with that amount of money, you're gonna have more
folks that you gotta deal with, etc. I had a
former client CEO. He lived in the US, but most
of his client were in India, Asia and in all
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of those places, and he wasn't getting any sleep. Why
because he would have to get up in the middle
of his night and work with his managers in other countries.
And the question is is that success? You know? Somebody
says success is the new peace. So if everything is
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shifting around you in some area, it is in all
of our lives. I'm gonna help you today. So if
you're divorced, like I said, an empty nester, you're taking
care of a parent, then you can relate to this.
I'm gonna give you a story out of the Bible.
So whether you believe the Bible or not, this is
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just a parable and I'm just gonna share with you
how God sees change. And I want to remind you
that no matter what you are going through, that you're
not alone. You got to remember that. I always say
God loves to be with us and is with us
during the low places of our lives. A lot of
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times when we're going through something, we feel I'm so
all alone. But remember you're not separate from God. I
love what doctor Wayne, the late great doctor Wayne Drish said.
He said, the biggest lie we've ever been told is
that we are separate from God. So this is in
the Bible. Whether you believe the Bible or not, just
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see it as a parable. So there was a prophet
named Eliza, and he he was God's prophet and he
spoke out against what was going on doing that time,
and he was sort of put in exile. And so
what God spoke to him was said, I'm paraphrasing. He said,
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I'm gonna take care of you, my brother paraphrasing. So
Elijah just prophesied, it's not gonna be in the run.
It's not going to be a lot happening here. It's
gonna be a famine that comes across the land. And
so of course, you know, the king got mad at that.
So after he had made that declaration, the spirits said
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to him, go and hide. It said, go and hide
by this brook, and it gave specific directions as to
where the brook was. Go ten miles go left, go
and buy and hide by the brook. And I'm going
to provide for you drink and I'm going to supply
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your food. So God, what's the first principle? God is
going to give you specific directions and instructions when it's
time to change. Now, it may not happen overnight, because
when I take you to some through some steps, you're
gonna see that. Usually when when it's a time of pivoting,
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there's a time also a reflection. So the analogy is, okay,
this guy had this guy had declared his truth, and
the king got mad and upset. So God said, go
down here by the brook. He gave him specific times.
He said, I'm going to provide for you, and you
can drink water from the brook. So every day God
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provided food and provision for him. So okay, so here
comes the drama part. And then in the Bible it
said and it said for him to rest. So you know,
when you go through a breakup, any kind of change,
you need to wrestle. It looked like this prophet was
just chilling, resting. God was feeding him not only spiritually
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but physically. He was getting his water or his nourishment
from the brook because God gave him specific directions to
go there. And some of y'all who are hollering and
screaming and like I have in the past, you know,
has God ever given you directions before? I know? When
I was in Nashville, Tennessee, I just start thinking about Atlanta.
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I'm a country girl. I went from Chattanooga, Tennessee to Nashville, Tennessee.
I grew up in the country. I don't know anything
about it Atlanta, but I start getting that in my
spirit Atlanta. I start researching it, I start thinking about it.
And then one time I came to the atl and
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back in the day, it was the place to come,
and I thought I was going to be a flight attendant.
So I flew down here and I applied at Delta
Airlines and got turned down. How dare they turned me down?
I was so upset, so mad, But guess what I
was being drunk or pulled to Atlanta. That was the
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spirit giving me directions and I come here, you got
no story, and got my masteristory, got married, etc. So
then the Bible said, the brook dried up. Uh uh,
your job dried up, your relationship dried up, your friendships.
You no longer can relate to them. You don't want
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to gossip anymore. Where you used to go dried up
because you have awakened. And so God said to him,
get up, Okay, this is another direction. Okay the brook
dried up. So that means that there was no provisions there.
He couldn't drink, no water, no food, wasn't coming, and
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he had to get up and move. But God gave
him specific directions and told him where to go, and
he said, there you will find another miracle. So what
happened in that story that you can relate to? Number one?
God provided provision for him. So I'm going to say
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to you, wherever you are now, maybe your ground is
really shaky right now. But has God provided provision for you,
either through relationships, through work, through maybe marriage, through the
home you're living in, all of the above. So you've
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been provided with unexpected ways and resources in your life.
Is that? Yes? Everybody? Raise your hands, all right? Provisions?
The Bible says there are times and seasons in our lives,
but we don't like to change. But I'm saying to
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you that the season in your life is changing and
it is time to pivot. So in this parable, provisions
were made for him for Elijah. Sometimes things are seasonal,
sometimes resources, relationships, where you live the way you used
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to think, your mindset is not the same, and so
you're going to have to make a decision to shift
and change. One of the hardest decisions that I've ever
had to make was when I made a decision that
I was going to leave my church. I wasn't mad
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at anybody, I wasn't upset with anybody, but I knew
it was time to change. I mean, that was my
whole life. I bought a condo around in the community
of where the church was. I was in major leadership positions.
I had been taught there, and I'm so grateful for
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everything that I learned that, But I knew in my
heart that it was time to change. When I was
on the road training, I would leave training and teaching,
making so much money I didn't even have time to
deposit my checks in the bank. Somebody else had to deposit.
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The man that I was dating, he deposited my checks
for me while I was gone. I was on the road.
I had the grace for it. I had the energy
for it. I would leave on a Monday or a
Sunday and come back on a Friday, unpack my suit,
collect case, wash my clothes, and go to the next city.
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I had the grace for that. I was making so
much money, I was connecting, I was shifting and changing.
But the season for that change. I would not want
to do that now. Okay, this is a drummroll. Please,
when you lose the grace to be or do something
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that means that your season has changed, I don't have
the grace for that now. I don't have the desire
for that. Now. Now, if I want to speak at
your company, by the way, I would love to do that.
I'm a keynote and a keynote plus speaker. What's a
keynote speaker, you know what that is. Keynote plus is
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I'm gonna give you a powerful speech that aligns with
your mission statement and your organization. But I will either
come early or stay one day later and train your staff,
train your employees in a specific area. Now I fly
first class. I'm gonna give you one hundred percent first
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class life changing info for your company, how you can
execute the plans. You're gonna get powerful takeaways. Then I'm
gonna spend the night and I'm gonna fly back. Why
because that is the season that I am in. So
my question to you is what season are you in?
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All right? So, when one door closes, when something shuts down,
and we know a lot of stuff is shutting down
career wise, personal wise. The statistics show that people fifty
years are older are getting more divorces than any other
age bracket. Why is that, they're saying. Because people are saying,
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I'm not gonna be unhappy the rest of my life.
And so the door of staying in toxic relationships in
your heart has changed because you have awakened. So are
you in a dry place right now? Has your brook
dried up? Maybe it's a job let's talk about financial stability.
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So many people depending on their four one K. Let
me tell you what I feel like spirit is really doing.
We need to see God as our unlimited source and supply,
not our for one K, not our savings, not our
not our bonds, not our cities, not our investment. Certainly
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that is a channel, but God is your unlimited source
and supply. Now, that is one thing that I have.
Do I know it all the way? Absolutely not. But
when I was contracting I had to learn that. So
are you in a dry place financially? What about in
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a relationship? What about professionally? What about? Are you in
this big, old, gigantic house. I have a friend who
lives in a big, old million dollar house. Her kids
are grown and gone. She used to have all of
the events there, she used to have everything there, but
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now things are really different and she feels like maybe
I need to downsize. So the brook of what she's
always experienced is gone. All right, But the good news is,
remember God really gave us guidance. So within your heart,
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do you know that it is time for change? Think
about that. I'm gonna take a deep breath. Then everybody
take a deep breath. Then lady, I want you to
meditate on that before I continue teaching. Okay, here we go.
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So what can you do? Who do you need to become?
What's happening in your life? If everything is just shifting
and changing. I told somebody the other day, I've even
had to change my coach, and I'm looking at I'm
your spiritual coach doing changing times. What does that mean
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that I'm here to guide you leave you through times
of uncertainty, times of I don't know who I am,
times of what is my identity now? Times of major disruption,
whether they or either personally or professionally. And so I
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can't coachre like I used to coach, because what times
are different? And God has certainly made me for such
a time as this. So what are some things that
you can do, y'all? Love? Steps that you can begin
to do or be if you're in the middle of
one of these really difficult places. Number One, acknowledge the reality.
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So somebody said to me, well if I if I
admit it, I'm working with somebody right now who's going
through a really major disappointment. She said, Well, I don't
really want to talk about disappointment. I said, well, we're
not going to live there. But the first thing you
got to do is acknowledge your current reality. Acknowledge Wow,
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I feel sad, I feel scared, I feel uncertainty. This
is not working for me, This marriage is not working
for me. I feel betrayed by my company because I
gave them twenty five years. You got to acknowledge your feelings.
You got to acknowledge that, Wow, I don't have a
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paycheck coming in every month or every week. Wow. The
marriage that I thought would last forever is over. Wow,
my children are gone. I poured my whole life into
my kids. And who am I? And now what is
my new identity? Wow? I'm getting older and I thought
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by now I would have whatever that is. Acknowledge that reality. Now,
we're not gonna live there, but there has to be
an honesty about what's not working. Avoiding or or standing
denial is going to keep you there. But when you
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acknowledge it whatever's happening, clarity begins to come to you.
I know someone right now who is really upset because
something did not happen for him. He is mad, he's upset.
I said, go ahead and stay there. But after we
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finished that, we realized he's in business, that there were
many steps that he could have taken differently, with certain
details that he overlooked her. Tyler Perry say something profound.
They were interviewing him. Y'all know who Tyler Perry is.
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They said, what are the greatest your greatest failures? He said,
I've had no failures, only lessons. WHOA, that's a mic
drop moment. So I want to say to you right now,
like I said to my client, he said, oh my god,
I should have known better? Should have would have? Could him?
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I say, really, you can make a decision. Are you
going to allow this one situation to frame your whole
business life? I mean, this guy multi multime millionaire? Or
are you going to say? What lesson can I learn
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from this situation? Y'all it's a choice that you can make.
What lesson can you learn from being in this relationship?
We're talking about acknowledging the reality of it. This no
longer serves me allowing yourself to fear your feelings and
to be open to Like the prophet, what does God
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I got piece of Harry my mouth? If you're watching it,
what is God saying to me? Now? You know you
may not get out of the answer. So my client,
it was in the stillness that he began to say, Okay,
I could have done a b F and j I'm
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gonna take this as lessons learned and on my next
big project, That's what I'm going to do. There should
be no condemnation, no no judging yourself, only observing. And
so if you are in the middle of evil determining
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where am I professionally, I know so many people are
at that place of While I work for this company,
this university, this agency, my identity was tied to this
who am I now? So could it be that in
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the middle of this major disruption that God is speaking?
Could it be that even though you have to pivot.
As you pivot and you move through your fear, as
you reflect, as you acknowledge while this is who I am,
as you deal with your fear, could it be that
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God could be taken you to a higher, bigger, bolder
place than you could have ever imagined. And so this client,
he's allowed me to share this. I know he's listening.
I'm giving him a shout out. Now that he's on
an another major project he is implementing. Remember what Tyler
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said Tyler Perry said. He said, no failures, only lessons
learned in relationships. You know, ladies, I'm speaking the ladies
and Genmal. When a relationship is not working, you already
know when you have outgrown a friendship, you already know
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that you cannot You've chosen not to show your bright
light and when you are around certain people that you
just keep your mouth closed and sort of dim your light.
If you are in a toxic relationship that drained you,
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that diminishes you where you cannot be your full on,
awesome self, is that the will of God for you?
I'm gonna say absolutely not. So this is a time
to really pause and reflect. That's the second thing. Pause
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and reflect. Who am I now? What is my identity?
Why did this change? What's in my control? What can
I change? What's next? And I want to say this
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before you make another big move. I think there really
needs to be a time. I'm looking at my time. Boy,
speaking of time, there needs to be a time of reflection. God,
what are you saying to me? What do I really
love doing? Have I been working on a job just
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for money? Where do I want to live? What would
bring me joy? I used to like this these designer clothes,
but I don't anymore. So it's a time of reflection.
You've heard me say be still, and no, be still
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and know what, know everything that you need to know.
This is a question that you can ask yourself. What
have I awakened to? Wow? I think it was Einstein
that says, once you expand your consciousness, you can never
go back. I can never go back to religion. I
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can never go back to a punitive god. I can
never go back to a god of punishment, etc. And
so sit still, don't rush out and take action. I
know another person who was downsided by the government. She
loved her job, she was she had been there twenty
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something years, and she has the money. So she ask me,
and I said, take the time to enjoy your life.
Don't just go out and get another job. What what
is spirit speaking to you? What is that dream that's
on the inside of you, that's been lying dormant all
of these years? Let me move on. So you're gonna
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pause and reflect and sit in stillness. That that that
is so major. It is in stillness that stuff is
revealed to you. It is in stillness. I know of
someone who whose company had collapsed. He said, Constant, all
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I can do is walk. He said, I lost my routine.
You know, guys, you guys, are you know all about
the routine? He said, I lost my routine. All I
can do is get up and walk. That's the only
thing I look look forward to, and sit and meditate.
It was doing his meditationation, guys, that an ideal was
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downloaded to him that really changed his life. Now he
could have been like, I'm gonna look for another job.
He had a very high power position. But he said
in stillness, could it be? The Bible says there are
times in season that if you would just sit still
and wait to hear the voice of God or wait
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for your intuition to reveal to you what your next
spiritual mindset, change and shift should be. All right, so
we're gonna pall, reflect and sit still. So let me
give you some Bible some of y'all. You said, well, Constance,
what does the Bible say? Well, you know we're talking
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about when you're in a difficult shifting changing times, times
of transition. What can you do versus in the Bible,
trusting the Lord with all your heart and lean not
to your own understand that we know your heart is
we forty times more powerful than do your thinking alone.
You a finite God is infinite, and it said, then
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all of your ways submit to him, and he shall
direct your past. That was my father's favorite verse when
he was alive. So God is going to direct your past.
Why would a loving giving spirit not tell you, all
of y'all who have children, if your kids came to
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you and said, Mama, what is the quickest way to
get to another city? Would you withhold that information from them?
Absolutely not. Next verse, God says, forget the former. Behold,
I do a new I do a new thing. Could
it be that doing this turbulent, disrupting, shifting season in
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your life? God said, I'm doing a new thing. And
the interesting thing, he said, and forget the former. That
means you ain't thinking about what you used to do.
You're looking forward. Next thing. If any of you lacks wisdom,
you should ask God, who gives generously to all, without
finding fart, it would be given to you. I don't
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need to explain that. God show me, teach me. Just
like in the prayer that I prayed. Love wants to
give to you, Love wants to serve you. Love wants
to help you. I already talked about bestealing know that
I'm God. Then it says, but when the spirit of
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truth has come, that spirit is on the inside of you.
He will guide and teach you in all truth. So
those are some biblical verses. Your answer is not outside
of you. It ain't with your girlfriend, it ain't with
your it ain't with your boys, it ain't with the brods.
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It would be you. So the next thing is what
is your heart saying to you? What is your new
journey or pathway? Now you may not know the entire
answer to that, but like you've heard me quote before,
doctor Martin Luther King says, take the first step, and
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then your first step of faith. I want to quote
it correctly, and then your next step will be revealed
to you. I am what's the word. I'm revamping and
redesigning my business step by step by step. So that
means my website is changing. That means my content is changing.
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That means the way that I do things. And I
don't know the whole vision. But as I take a step,
then the spirit is revealing to me what I should
do next. You are not alone. So in your heart,
what do you love, what would make you happy, what
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would bring you joy. My mentor says something profound to me.
He said, never make major decisions when you're in the
middle of a crisis. Never make major decisions without wise counsel.
The Bible says that in a multitude of counselors there
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is safety. And so if you're in a crisis, I
tell people, don't say I'm gonna say I'm my home
and move to Europe. Think about that. Get some wisdom,
get some coach, and get some counsel around that. So
you're gonna pray and seek wisdom and direction from God.
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I think you need a coach. I don't think it.
I know it. Right now. I have two additional coaches
just to help me with the revamp thing of my
business and what I'm doing because my identity has shifted.
Like I'm shifting in this chair if you're watching me,
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my identity has shifted who I am over the past
seventeen years. I'm not the same person, the same woman
that I was when I started podcasting seventeen years ago.
And so seek and get the help that you need,
invest in yourself. And what else do I want to say.
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I want you to once you get a hint, oh,
this is what I'm gonna do. I would really even
brainstorm with people that have wisdom. I said to somebody
who's in a really high position, she said, I'm gonna
have to leave my old friends. And I said to her, well,
you know, you're not mad at them. People are just
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where they are. But usually when you go to another level,
you're probably gonna meet people there. Are you gonna need
somebody on your level or higher. Somebody's smarter than you,
sharper than you. You know, the Bible says iron sharpens iron.
What does that mean? That means that if Serena Williams
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when she was playing, she said she would always practice
with people that were better, faster, and that could really
hit the ball harder than she could, and so really
steak wisdom and counsel from wise people not wanna be
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but people who've been there, done that, got a T shirt.
So once you know that, begin to take baby steps,
because once you have clarity, once you are clear about something,
then you can start taking steps. And then the last thing,
do I have time for the last thing? You're gonna
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know that you're not gonna be alone. See the biggest
issue that I see is that folk are by themselves.
They're isolated, they're in their homes. They feel shamed, they
might feel by now you should have They're judging themselves.
They might be saying, well, you knew better, you should
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have done this, you should have done more of this.
Why didn't you? Why didn't you save more money? But
you need support. The Bible says if any too show
agree as touching or having anything, that they should have it.
There is power in collaboration, There's power in insight. There
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is power in getting just different ideas. Now, doctor Michael
Mosley and I we meet once a month at the
country club and we just brainstorm just different ideas. What
about this? What's going on with you? It's a coaching
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session from him to me and from me to him,
and it's a business meeting, all right. And then the
last thing I thought, the other thing was the last thing.
Could it be that this could be a wonderful new experience.
All of this change, all of this pivoting, all of
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this disruption. Could it be that you could experience something different,
a new experience, a new adventure. Could it be that
this is a great opportunity for you to get out
of your comfort zone, use all of your talents and
gifts that have been lying doring it. Could it be
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that that job that let you go, that now you
have so many transferable skills in a new position that
you could freelance if you want to, and use all
of the creative ability on the inside of you. Could
it be that you could find love again and experience
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love in a way that you could never have ever imagined.
Could it be that your mindset leads you to a lifestyle.
Could it be beyond your wildest dreams? Could it be
that your health scare would really put you in a
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position where you would make your health a really powerful priority.
And so are things changing? Absolutely? Do we have a
different worldview? Yes, But there is a God, an unlimited universe,
a spirit. There is unlimited money. You know. I always
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remember what James Sterling said, Ya know, James Sterling is
the money guru guy. He always says constants. Every second,
trillions of dollars are being exchanged all over the world.
And all we need to do is to begin to
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tap into that with our wealth, prosperity and abundance mindset. Wow,
that is so powerful, and begin to develop that consciousness.
So I'm gonna say that during these difficult times, doing
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these shifting times, it's really good times. There's a song
called good Times. These are so good times. I hit
the wrong note, but y'all know what I'm talking about.
And so open yourself up to the unlimitedlessness. I don't
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know if I made that up of God. Open yourself
up to the unlimited possibilities because at this very moment,
just like doctor Barbara Franklin said, I'm glad I called
her name out because I'm gonna say that prayer that
at every moment, unlimited possibilities, all possibilities exist, and it's
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with your consciousness and with your focus and observation that
you bring it in. You can begin to say, these
are the best times of my life. I'm gonna move
through this. My best years are ahead of me. Whatever
you want to say, all right, So let me read
this to you before I read it to you. If
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in fact you know that you're ready for change, I
would love to be your spiritual coach doing changing times.
And as I said, that means that I'm going to
help guide you through a shaky ground, through an unexpected disruption,
through the transition that you're going through through uncertainty. Who
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am I both personally and professionally, and I'm going to
help you to adapt, to get really grounded and move
forward and create dreams that you would have never imagine.
Email me for a a free twenty minute coaching discovery call.
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That call is just to see for me to listen
to you. I'm not trying to sell you anything so interesting.
I have to tell people that I'm not trying to
sell you anything. But it's for me to listen and
for you and not to decide if we are a
vibrational match. So I'm going to read to you again
what doctor Barbara Franklin said. I want you to remember
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this right in the middle of your pivot. Put your
name in there. God, surprise me with the depth of
your love. Overwhelm me with the evidence of your affection.
Astonish me with your goodness while show me how extravagantly
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you care for me. Exceed my expectations with your faithfulness,
show me wonders of your love that I've never imagined before. Lord,
move beyond human limits and prove your covenant of love
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in ways that leave me in awe. Lord, do something
in my life that only love can explain. Wow, how
powerful is that. I want you to listen to this
over and over again and take notes as the spirit
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to really move in your life. And I'm just expecting
the unprecedented in your life. And as I say every week,
you are the creator, author, scriptwriter, and producer of your
own life. Enjoy your week.
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I am so excited, so grateful, so thankful that you
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As I say every week, I believe that the spirit
has attracted you here so that you can hear and
receive the inspiration, the downloads, the insight that you've been
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praying about. Well, I hope you are having a great day.
I would say, good morning, good evening, what else, good afternoon,
whatever time it is, it is the right time for you.
Well for all my international listeners in the US it
is Labor Day weekend. That is a holiday for us.
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It is the holiday just before we begin to move
into the fall, the autumn, which is really I just
love that season of the year. I can kind of
tell I've been getting up a little early to walk
and it feels so good that the humidity is so low.
The other morning I had to put on a sweater,
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but it's all good. I am teaching to day Wow,
and I am teaching you on how to pivot or change,
doing times of uncertainty, doing disruptions, doing a change in
relationship during transitions. You know, all over the world things
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are changing. All of us on some level or in
some form. We are experiencing change. And I've done a
lot of study and work in prayer on this. So
you're going to receive what you've really been praying about
and thinking about. You know, God wants us to really
expand and grow and receive things beyond our own comprehension.
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I'm going to read a powerful prayer that doctor Bobara Franklin.
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if you're in the middle of change, and most people are,
if you're in the middle of a major disruption, either
personally or professionally, your relationships have changed. If you're in
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the middle of a big transition, you're feeling uncertain your
money has changed, your marriage or the lack of relationship,
your health, your age, anything that's changing. You know I'm
really your spiritual coach doing changing times. And what I
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really I've shifted and changed a lot because God has
given me so much wisdom over the years. I believe
that's the person The Bible says that for times like these.
I believe that for times like these, all the wisdom
and knowledge that God put on the inside of me spiritually, psychologically,
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and emotionally, but also just principal centered strategy, it is
just for you. And I'm going to really help you
to adapt if you feel like everything around you is shifting,
and in many people's lives, it is to get grounded
and stay grounded and move forward with a new mindset,
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coach because when you've been working in a position for
thirty years and then all of a sudden, you're not that,
who are you? So help you to develop a new
identity and help you to make the latter part of
your life better than your former. You know, the Bible says,
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your latter years shall be greater than your former And
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you are, where you are, and if we are a
vibrational match. The people that are in my life right now,
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Speaker 2 (08:27):
Well, everybody, I am back and I am excited. I
want you to open up your heart and open up
your spirit because I am talking to you. I'm going
to be talking about how to pivot doing changing times
how to pivot when it looks like your whole world
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has been shaken around you? How do you pivot during
major disruption in your life? Both professional and also personally.
So I'm gonna break it all the way down biblically, professionally,
and then give you some tips. Are you ready? I
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wanna pray over you first, though, I'm gonna pray this
prayer that doctor Barbara Franklin really put together. I'm gonna
pray it here at the beginning and at the end.
So I want you to put your name in the
place where I say then so no mater them. So,
no matter what's happening in your life, I want you
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to take this personally. God, surprise them with the depth
of your love. Overwhelm me with the evidence of your affection.
Astonish me with your goodness, Show me how extravagantly you
(09:56):
care for me. Exceed my expectations with your faithfulness. Show
me wonders of your love that I could have never
imagined before. Lord, move beyond human limits, improve your covenant
(10:17):
of love in ways that will put me in awe. Lord,
do something in my life that only love can explain.
In Jesus' name, Amen, and so it is meditate on
that for a second. That is so powerful. You see,
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I changed it to me because with everything that is
going on, everybody is going through something. If you watching
this guy's I'm trying to get my hair out of
my eye, everybody is going through some kind of change.
A change in your lifestyle, maybe you having to move,
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change in your mindset what you used to believe. You know,
you've gotten more knowledge and wisdom. You've expended your consciousness.
A change in your health, a change in your career.
I know many people who've gotten downsized, fired from the government,
are forced to retire. What people was doing in the
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past is not working Now people are moving to new locations.
You know, every time you wake up, it's a change.
You go to bed with one thing and then money
systems has changed. It's no more just the dollar bill,
it's coins and crypto. Churches have changed. Everybody used to
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go to church on Sunday. Now people are online. Just
recently this week, the Atlanta Journal Constitution, which is the
main paper in Atlanta and in Georgie, says we're going digital.
Why this is a one hundred plus year old paper.
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Why because they understand changes. Marriages are changing the demographics
for people over fifty who are getting divoices is astounding.
It's amazing. Why because people are saying, I ain't gonna
stand this toxic relationship. I want to be happy chat
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GPT has brought about change. You know, I wanted to
find out what the word pivot meant and I just
went to check GPT and said, what does this mean?
So check GPT is taking over folks jobs. A one
is just dealing with people in college. So there's change
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their disruption, there is, there is shifting, but what is God?
I'm saying about all of this and I'm going to
walk you through that. So why are Before I do that?
I want you to think about in your life right now,
where is the big pivot and where is the change?
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So in my life personally, there's been a big change
in business. What I used to do professionally with leadership
training is changing. You know. I used to fly in,
they put me up in a luxury hotel. I'm there
for two or three days. But now a lot is virtual.
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A lot of what I do are pre recordings, and
so I've had to shift and change that. So what's
happening in your life? I want you to take a
second and just think about that. Take a deep breath
in to think about that. So what is the major
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area in your life for change? So these are some
reasons some more reason that folks are having to pivot
and change. They're burned out or they're just not satisfied.
This isn't working for me anymore. Maybe a life event.
It might be a death, it might be an illness.
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It might mean you having to take care of your parents.
I don't know what it is done, but it is
a life crisis. It might be as I said earlier,
personal growth or awakening. You just realize I don't want
to work a nine to five anymore. I want my freedom.
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You know, people want freedom, baby Boehmers. We used to
work on a job for thirty or forty years. The Millennias,
gen Z, they ain't doing that. They want purpose, they
want to have fun, and they want freedom. So a
personal growth, even spiritually, maybe you used to go to
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church and now you realize you're more spiritual and expanded.
You're letting go of your fixed identity who you used
to be. You're not that anymore. Even when it comes
to my dressing. You know, I used to be very business.
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I can't even think of the name of the designer
that I used to wear. But now I'm more Boho sheikh,
you know, which is freedom for me, which is flowing
from me. So even my clothes identify who I am. Now.
Maybe you used to work at a university. I'm working
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with some folks who used to work at a university.
So what do you do with yourself when you've been
doing something for a lifetime and you're no longer doing that?
All right? So you're embracing growth, vulnerability, and a new
way of being. Even the fact a lot of people
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they like working remotely, but now they're having a gold
back in. I know some places in California they're having
to do that. And so all of this is changing,
and right in the middle of that, we're saying, well
where is God? You know, if you like me? When
something is working good, I like it. And in the
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past I have stayed in stuff too long. You know,
I would stay because it's working, it's powerful. But don't
be like Blockbusters. Do y'all know what blockbusters is? Some
of my millennials might not, but Blockbusters was a store
where you could go and rent a movie and take
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it home, keep it for X number of days, pay
for it. So when they had an opportunity to tap
into something like netflex, they didn't do it. So what
Blockbusters had to shift and change. Even my podcasting, I'm
going to be having more of you on here so
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that I can answer your questions. So podcasting has changed.
Maybe what you thought was success was not successful. You
might feel stressful. I had somebody ask me the other
day about taking a big financial lead and more responsibility,
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and I asked her, you got to define for yourself
what is success? Is success more money? Is it more responsibility?
Because with that amount of money, you're gonna have more
folks that you gotta deal with, etc. I had a
former client CEO. He lived in the US, but most
of his client were in India, Asia and in all
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of those places, and he wasn't getting any sleep. Why
because he would have to get up in the middle
of his night and work with his managers in other countries.
And the question is is that success? You know? Somebody
says success is the new peace. So if everything is
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shifting around you in some area, it is in all
of our lives. I'm gonna help you today. So if
you're divorced, like I said, an empty nester, you're taking
care of a parent, then you can relate to this.
I'm gonna give you a story out of the Bible.
So whether you believe the Bible or not, this is
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just a parable and I'm just gonna share with you
how God sees change. And I want to remind you
that no matter what you are going through, that you're
not alone. You got to remember that. I always say
God loves to be with us and is with us
during the low places of our lives. A lot of
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times when we're going through something, we feel I'm so
all alone. But remember you're not separate from God. I
love what doctor Wayne, the late great doctor Wayne Drish said.
He said, the biggest lie we've ever been told is
that we are separate from God. So this is in
the Bible. Whether you believe the Bible or not, just
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see it as a parable. So there was a prophet
named Eliza, and he he was God's prophet and he
spoke out against what was going on doing that time,
and he was sort of put in exile. And so
what God spoke to him was said, I'm paraphrasing. He said,
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I'm gonna take care of you, my brother paraphrasing. So
Elijah just prophesied, it's not gonna be in the run.
It's not going to be a lot happening here. It's
gonna be a famine that comes across the land. And
so of course, you know, the king got mad at that.
So after he had made that declaration, the spirits said
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to him, go and hide. It said, go and hide
by this brook, and it gave specific directions as to
where the brook was. Go ten miles go left, go
and buy and hide by the brook. And I'm going
to provide for you drink and I'm going to supply
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your food. So God, what's the first principle? God is
going to give you specific directions and instructions when it's
time to change. Now, it may not happen overnight, because
when I take you to some through some steps, you're
gonna see that. Usually when when it's a time of pivoting,
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there's a time also a reflection. So the analogy is, okay,
this guy had this guy had declared his truth, and
the king got mad and upset. So God said, go
down here by the brook. He gave him specific times.
He said, I'm going to provide for you, and you
can drink water from the brook. So every day God
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provided food and provision for him. So okay, so here
comes the drama part. And then in the Bible it
said and it said for him to rest. So you know,
when you go through a breakup, any kind of change,
you need to wrestle. It looked like this prophet was
just chilling, resting. God was feeding him not only spiritually
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but physically. He was getting his water or his nourishment
from the brook because God gave him specific directions to
go there. And some of y'all who are hollering and
screaming and like I have in the past, you know,
has God ever given you directions before? I know? When
I was in Nashville, Tennessee, I just start thinking about Atlanta.
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I'm a country girl. I went from Chattanooga, Tennessee to Nashville, Tennessee.
I grew up in the country. I don't know anything
about it Atlanta, but I start getting that in my
spirit Atlanta. I start researching it, I start thinking about it.
And then one time I came to the atl and
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back in the day, it was the place to come,
and I thought I was going to be a flight attendant.
So I flew down here and I applied at Delta
Airlines and got turned down. How dare they turned me down?
I was so upset, so mad, But guess what I
was being drunk or pulled to Atlanta. That was the
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spirit giving me directions and I come here, you got
no story, and got my masteristory, got married, etc. So
then the Bible said, the brook dried up. Uh uh,
your job dried up, your relationship dried up, your friendships.
You no longer can relate to them. You don't want
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to gossip anymore. Where you used to go dried up
because you have awakened. And so God said to him,
get up, Okay, this is another direction. Okay the brook
dried up. So that means that there was no provisions there.
He couldn't drink, no water, no food, wasn't coming, and
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he had to get up and move. But God gave
him specific directions and told him where to go, and
he said, there you will find another miracle. So what
happened in that story that you can relate to? Number one?
God provided provision for him. So I'm going to say
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to you, wherever you are now, maybe your ground is
really shaky right now. But has God provided provision for you,
either through relationships, through work, through maybe marriage, through the
home you're living in, all of the above. So you've
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been provided with unexpected ways and resources in your life.
Is that? Yes? Everybody? Raise your hands, all right? Provisions?
The Bible says there are times and seasons in our lives,
but we don't like to change. But I'm saying to
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you that the season in your life is changing and
it is time to pivot. So in this parable, provisions
were made for him for Elijah. Sometimes things are seasonal,
sometimes resources, relationships, where you live the way you used
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to think, your mindset is not the same, and so
you're going to have to make a decision to shift
and change. One of the hardest decisions that I've ever
had to make was when I made a decision that
I was going to leave my church. I wasn't mad
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at anybody, I wasn't upset with anybody, but I knew
it was time to change. I mean, that was my
whole life. I bought a condo around in the community
of where the church was. I was in major leadership positions.
I had been taught there, and I'm so grateful for
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everything that I learned that, But I knew in my
heart that it was time to change. When I was
on the road training, I would leave training and teaching,
making so much money I didn't even have time to
deposit my checks in the bank. Somebody else had to deposit.
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The man that I was dating, he deposited my checks
for me while I was gone. I was on the road.
I had the grace for it. I had the energy
for it. I would leave on a Monday or a
Sunday and come back on a Friday, unpack my suit,
collect case, wash my clothes, and go to the next city.
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I had the grace for that. I was making so
much money, I was connecting, I was shifting and changing.
But the season for that change. I would not want
to do that now. Okay, this is a drummroll. Please,
when you lose the grace to be or do something
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that means that your season has changed, I don't have
the grace for that now. I don't have the desire
for that. Now. Now, if I want to speak at
your company, by the way, I would love to do that.
I'm a keynote and a keynote plus speaker. What's a
keynote speaker, you know what that is. Keynote plus is
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I'm gonna give you a powerful speech that aligns with
your mission statement and your organization. But I will either
come early or stay one day later and train your staff,
train your employees in a specific area. Now I fly
first class. I'm gonna give you one hundred percent first
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class life changing info for your company, how you can
execute the plans. You're gonna get powerful takeaways. Then I'm
gonna spend the night and I'm gonna fly back. Why
because that is the season that I am in. So
my question to you is what season are you in?
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All right? So, when one door closes, when something shuts down,
and we know a lot of stuff is shutting down
career wise, personal wise. The statistics show that people fifty
years are older are getting more divorces than any other
age bracket. Why is that, they're saying. Because people are saying,
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I'm not gonna be unhappy the rest of my life.
And so the door of staying in toxic relationships in
your heart has changed because you have awakened. So are
you in a dry place right now? Has your brook
dried up? Maybe it's a job let's talk about financial stability.
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So many people depending on their four one K. Let
me tell you what I feel like spirit is really doing.
We need to see God as our unlimited source and supply,
not our for one K, not our savings, not our
not our bonds, not our cities, not our investment. Certainly
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that is a channel, but God is your unlimited source
and supply. Now, that is one thing that I have.
Do I know it all the way? Absolutely not. But
when I was contracting I had to learn that. So
are you in a dry place financially? What about in
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a relationship? What about professionally? What about? Are you in
this big, old, gigantic house. I have a friend who
lives in a big, old million dollar house. Her kids
are grown and gone. She used to have all of
the events there, she used to have everything there, but
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now things are really different and she feels like maybe
I need to downsize. So the brook of what she's
always experienced is gone. All right, But the good news is,
remember God really gave us guidance. So within your heart,
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do you know that it is time for change? Think
about that. I'm gonna take a deep breath. Then everybody
take a deep breath. Then lady, I want you to
meditate on that before I continue teaching. Okay, here we go.
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So what can you do? Who do you need to become?
What's happening in your life? If everything is just shifting
and changing. I told somebody the other day, I've even
had to change my coach, and I'm looking at I'm
your spiritual coach doing changing times. What does that mean
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that I'm here to guide you leave you through times
of uncertainty, times of I don't know who I am,
times of what is my identity now? Times of major disruption,
whether they or either personally or professionally. And so I
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can't coachre like I used to coach, because what times
are different? And God has certainly made me for such
a time as this. So what are some things that
you can do, y'all? Love? Steps that you can begin
to do or be if you're in the middle of
one of these really difficult places. Number One, acknowledge the reality.
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So somebody said to me, well if I if I
admit it, I'm working with somebody right now who's going
through a really major disappointment. She said, Well, I don't
really want to talk about disappointment. I said, well, we're
not going to live there. But the first thing you
got to do is acknowledge your current reality. Acknowledge Wow,
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I feel sad, I feel scared, I feel uncertainty. This
is not working for me, This marriage is not working
for me. I feel betrayed by my company because I
gave them twenty five years. You got to acknowledge your feelings.
You got to acknowledge that, Wow, I don't have a
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paycheck coming in every month or every week. Wow. The
marriage that I thought would last forever is over. Wow,
my children are gone. I poured my whole life into
my kids. And who am I? And now what is
my new identity? Wow? I'm getting older and I thought
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by now I would have whatever that is. Acknowledge that reality. Now,
we're not gonna live there, but there has to be
an honesty about what's not working. Avoiding or or standing
denial is going to keep you there. But when you
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acknowledge it whatever's happening, clarity begins to come to you.
I know someone right now who is really upset because
something did not happen for him. He is mad, he's upset.
I said, go ahead and stay there. But after we
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finished that, we realized he's in business, that there were
many steps that he could have taken differently, with certain
details that he overlooked her. Tyler Perry say something profound.
They were interviewing him. Y'all know who Tyler Perry is.
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They said, what are the greatest your greatest failures? He said,
I've had no failures, only lessons. WHOA, that's a mic
drop moment. So I want to say to you right now,
like I said to my client, he said, oh my god,
I should have known better? Should have would have? Could him?
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I say, really, you can make a decision. Are you
going to allow this one situation to frame your whole
business life? I mean, this guy multi multime millionaire? Or
are you going to say? What lesson can I learn
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from this situation? Y'all it's a choice that you can make.
What lesson can you learn from being in this relationship?
We're talking about acknowledging the reality of it. This no
longer serves me allowing yourself to fear your feelings and
to be open to Like the prophet, what does God
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I got piece of Harry my mouth? If you're watching it,
what is God saying to me? Now? You know you
may not get out of the answer. So my client,
it was in the stillness that he began to say, Okay,
I could have done a b F and j I'm
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gonna take this as lessons learned and on my next
big project, That's what I'm going to do. There should
be no condemnation, no no judging yourself, only observing. And
so if you are in the middle of evil determining
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where am I professionally, I know so many people are
at that place of While I work for this company,
this university, this agency, my identity was tied to this
who am I now? So could it be that in
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the middle of this major disruption that God is speaking?
Could it be that even though you have to pivot.
As you pivot and you move through your fear, as
you reflect, as you acknowledge while this is who I am,
as you deal with your fear, could it be that
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God could be taken you to a higher, bigger, bolder
place than you could have ever imagined. And so this client,
he's allowed me to share this. I know he's listening.
I'm giving him a shout out. Now that he's on
an another major project he is implementing. Remember what Tyler
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said Tyler Perry said. He said, no failures, only lessons
learned in relationships. You know, ladies, I'm speaking the ladies
and Genmal. When a relationship is not working, you already
know when you have outgrown a friendship, you already know
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that you cannot You've chosen not to show your bright
light and when you are around certain people that you
just keep your mouth closed and sort of dim your light.
If you are in a toxic relationship that drained you,
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that diminishes you where you cannot be your full on,
awesome self, is that the will of God for you?
I'm gonna say absolutely not. So this is a time
to really pause and reflect. That's the second thing. Pause
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and reflect. Who am I now? What is my identity?
Why did this change? What's in my control? What can
I change? What's next? And I want to say this
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before you make another big move. I think there really
needs to be a time. I'm looking at my time. Boy,
speaking of time, there needs to be a time of reflection. God,
what are you saying to me? What do I really
love doing? Have I been working on a job just
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for money? Where do I want to live? What would
bring me joy? I used to like this these designer clothes,
but I don't anymore. So it's a time of reflection.
You've heard me say be still, and no, be still
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and know what, know everything that you need to know.
This is a question that you can ask yourself. What
have I awakened to? Wow? I think it was Einstein
that says, once you expand your consciousness, you can never
go back. I can never go back to religion. I
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can never go back to a punitive god. I can
never go back to a god of punishment, etc. And
so sit still, don't rush out and take action. I
know another person who was downsided by the government. She
loved her job, she was she had been there twenty
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something years, and she has the money. So she ask me,
and I said, take the time to enjoy your life.
Don't just go out and get another job. What what
is spirit speaking to you? What is that dream that's
on the inside of you, that's been lying dormant all
of these years? Let me move on. So you're gonna
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pause and reflect and sit in stillness. That that that
is so major. It is in stillness that stuff is
revealed to you. It is in stillness. I know of
someone who whose company had collapsed. He said, Constant, all
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I can do is walk. He said, I lost my routine.
You know, guys, you guys, are you know all about
the routine? He said, I lost my routine. All I
can do is get up and walk. That's the only
thing I look look forward to, and sit and meditate.
It was doing his meditationation, guys, that an ideal was
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downloaded to him that really changed his life. Now he
could have been like, I'm gonna look for another job.
He had a very high power position. But he said
in stillness, could it be? The Bible says there are
times in season that if you would just sit still
and wait to hear the voice of God or wait
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for your intuition to reveal to you what your next
spiritual mindset, change and shift should be. All right, so
we're gonna pall, reflect and sit still. So let me
give you some Bible some of y'all. You said, well, Constance,
what does the Bible say? Well, you know we're talking
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about when you're in a difficult shifting changing times, times
of transition. What can you do versus in the Bible,
trusting the Lord with all your heart and lean not
to your own understand that we know your heart is
we forty times more powerful than do your thinking alone.
You a finite God is infinite, and it said, then
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all of your ways submit to him, and he shall
direct your past. That was my father's favorite verse when
he was alive. So God is going to direct your past.
Why would a loving giving spirit not tell you, all
of y'all who have children, if your kids came to
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you and said, Mama, what is the quickest way to
get to another city? Would you withhold that information from them?
Absolutely not. Next verse, God says, forget the former. Behold,
I do a new I do a new thing. Could
it be that doing this turbulent, disrupting, shifting season in
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your life? God said, I'm doing a new thing. And
the interesting thing, he said, and forget the former. That
means you ain't thinking about what you used to do.
You're looking forward. Next thing. If any of you lacks wisdom,
you should ask God, who gives generously to all, without
finding fart, it would be given to you. I don't
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need to explain that. God show me, teach me. Just
like in the prayer that I prayed. Love wants to
give to you, Love wants to serve you. Love wants
to help you. I already talked about bestealing know that
I'm God. Then it says, but when the spirit of
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truth has come, that spirit is on the inside of you.
He will guide and teach you in all truth. So
those are some biblical verses. Your answer is not outside
of you. It ain't with your girlfriend, it ain't with
your it ain't with your boys, it ain't with the brods.
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It would be you. So the next thing is what
is your heart saying to you? What is your new
journey or pathway? Now you may not know the entire
answer to that, but like you've heard me quote before,
doctor Martin Luther King says, take the first step, and
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then your first step of faith. I want to quote
it correctly, and then your next step will be revealed
to you. I am what's the word. I'm revamping and
redesigning my business step by step by step. So that
means my website is changing. That means my content is changing.
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That means the way that I do things. And I
don't know the whole vision. But as I take a step,
then the spirit is revealing to me what I should
do next. You are not alone. So in your heart,
what do you love, what would make you happy, what
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would bring you joy. My mentor says something profound to me.
He said, never make major decisions when you're in the
middle of a crisis. Never make major decisions without wise counsel.
The Bible says that in a multitude of counselors there
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is safety. And so if you're in a crisis, I
tell people, don't say I'm gonna say I'm my home
and move to Europe. Think about that. Get some wisdom,
get some coach, and get some counsel around that. So
you're gonna pray and seek wisdom and direction from God.
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I think you need a coach. I don't think it.
I know it. Right now. I have two additional coaches
just to help me with the revamp thing of my
business and what I'm doing because my identity has shifted.
Like I'm shifting in this chair if you're watching me,
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my identity has shifted who I am over the past
seventeen years. I'm not the same person, the same woman
that I was when I started podcasting seventeen years ago.
And so seek and get the help that you need,
invest in yourself. And what else do I want to say.
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I want you to once you get a hint, oh,
this is what I'm gonna do. I would really even
brainstorm with people that have wisdom. I said to somebody
who's in a really high position, she said, I'm gonna
have to leave my old friends. And I said to her, well,
you know, you're not mad at them. People are just
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where they are. But usually when you go to another level,
you're probably gonna meet people there. Are you gonna need
somebody on your level or higher. Somebody's smarter than you,
sharper than you. You know, the Bible says iron sharpens iron.
What does that mean? That means that if Serena Williams
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when she was playing, she said she would always practice
with people that were better, faster, and that could really
hit the ball harder than she could, and so really
steak wisdom and counsel from wise people not wanna be
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but people who've been there, done that, got a T shirt.
So once you know that, begin to take baby steps,
because once you have clarity, once you are clear about something,
then you can start taking steps. And then the last thing,
do I have time for the last thing? You're gonna
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know that you're not gonna be alone. See the biggest
issue that I see is that folk are by themselves.
They're isolated, they're in their homes. They feel shamed, they
might feel by now you should have They're judging themselves.
They might be saying, well, you knew better, you should
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have done this, you should have done more of this.
Why didn't you? Why didn't you save more money? But
you need support. The Bible says if any too show
agree as touching or having anything, that they should have it.
There is power in collaboration, There's power in insight. There
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is power in getting just different ideas. Now, doctor Michael
Mosley and I we meet once a month at the
country club and we just brainstorm just different ideas. What
about this? What's going on with you? It's a coaching
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session from him to me and from me to him,
and it's a business meeting, all right. And then the
last thing I thought, the other thing was the last thing.
Could it be that this could be a wonderful new experience.
All of this change, all of this pivoting, all of
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this disruption. Could it be that you could experience something different,
a new experience, a new adventure. Could it be that
this is a great opportunity for you to get out
of your comfort zone, use all of your talents and
gifts that have been lying doring it. Could it be
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that that job that let you go, that now you
have so many transferable skills in a new position that
you could freelance if you want to, and use all
of the creative ability on the inside of you. Could
it be that you could find love again and experience
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love in a way that you could never have ever imagined.
Could it be that your mindset leads you to a lifestyle.
Could it be beyond your wildest dreams? Could it be
that your health scare would really put you in a
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position where you would make your health a really powerful priority.
And so are things changing? Absolutely? Do we have a
different worldview? Yes, But there is a God, an unlimited universe,
a spirit. There is unlimited money. You know. I always
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remember what James Sterling said, Ya know, James Sterling is
the money guru guy. He always says constants. Every second,
trillions of dollars are being exchanged all over the world.
And all we need to do is to begin to
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tap into that with our wealth, prosperity and abundance mindset. Wow,
that is so powerful, and begin to develop that consciousness.
So I'm gonna say that during these difficult times, doing
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these shifting times, it's really good times. There's a song
called good Times. These are so good times. I hit
the wrong note, but y'all know what I'm talking about.
And so open yourself up to the unlimitedlessness. I don't
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know if I made that up of God. Open yourself
up to the unlimited possibilities because at this very moment,
just like doctor Barbara Franklin said, I'm glad I called
her name out because I'm gonna say that prayer that
at every moment, unlimited possibilities, all possibilities exist, and it's
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with your consciousness and with your focus and observation that
you bring it in. You can begin to say, these
are the best times of my life. I'm gonna move
through this. My best years are ahead of me. Whatever
you want to say, all right, So let me read
this to you before I read it to you. If
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in fact you know that you're ready for change, I
would love to be your spiritual coach doing changing times.
And as I said, that means that I'm going to
help guide you through a shaky ground, through an unexpected disruption,
through the transition that you're going through through uncertainty. Who
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am I both personally and professionally, and I'm going to
help you to adapt, to get really grounded and move
forward and create dreams that you would have never imagine.
Email me for a a free twenty minute coaching discovery call.
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That call is just to see for me to listen
to you. I'm not trying to sell you anything so interesting.
I have to tell people that I'm not trying to
sell you anything. But it's for me to listen and
for you and not to decide if we are a
vibrational match. So I'm going to read to you again
what doctor Barbara Franklin said. I want you to remember
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this right in the middle of your pivot. Put your
name in there. God, surprise me with the depth of
your love. Overwhelm me with the evidence of your affection.
Astonish me with your goodness while show me how extravagantly
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you care for me. Exceed my expectations with your faithfulness,
show me wonders of your love that I've never imagined before. Lord,
move beyond human limits and prove your covenant of love
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in ways that leave me in awe. Lord, do something
in my life that only love can explain. Wow, how
powerful is that. I want you to listen to this
over and over again and take notes as the spirit
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to really move in your life. And I'm just expecting
the unprecedented in your life. And as I say every week,
you are the creator, author, scriptwriter, and producer of your
own life. Enjoy your week.
Speaker 1 (55:40):
Thank you for listening to think, Believe in manifest Constance.
Arnold will be back next week with another great show
just for you. For more information, please visit Fulfilling youourpurpose
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