Single (not spiraling)

Single (not spiraling)

Welcome to Single Not Spiraling with Lauren—the podcast for women who are done waiting, done performing, and done pretending they’re not whole on their own. This is your space for honest conversations about decentering men, ditching the shame spiral, and building a life that turns you on—with or without a partner. We’re talking nervous system healing, unlearning the bullshit, dating without self-abandoning, and becoming the partner you’ve always wanted. It’s not about fixing you—it’s about finally accepting exactly who you are. So if you’ve ever felt behind, too much, or not enough—put your headphones in. You’re exactly where you’re meant to be!

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Shrekking Dating Trend: Why Dating Less Attractive Guys Isn't the Fix | EP. 127

September 10, 2026 • 20 mins
There's a new dating trend everywhere right now, and on the surface it sounds like solid advice: date the guy who's less conventionally hot, because he'll treat you better. Lauren stumbled on it mid-scroll while hunting for this week's topic, and had a lot of thoughts. This episode breaks down where the trend actually falls apart, what you should be watching for instead in the first few dates, and how to tell the difference between...
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What Season Are You In? Celibacy, Hoe Phase, Community, and How to Actually Know | EP. 126

August 21, 2026 • 19 mins
Not every season calls for celibacy. Some call for community. Some call for a hoe phase. This one's about figuring out which season you're actually in, and why the advice going around right now isn't one-size-fits-all.

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Staying Off the Apps When You Want Attention | EP. 125

August 14, 2026 • 20 mins
Why is it so hard to just sit with yourself for one Tuesday night? This week I'm getting into what's actually happening when you reach for the dating apps — because half the time it's not about dating at all. It's about wanting proof someone's paying attention, wanting to feel wanted, wanting anything other than the quiet of being alone with yourself. I'm breaking down what you're really chasing when you open that app, and wh...
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How to Get Out of Your Single Girl Slump Era | EP. 124

August 7, 2026 • 14 mins
Okay, real talk — you think you're not a creative person. You're wrong, and this episode is me proving it. Not another "get back out there and date" ep — this one's about getting out of your slump by making stuff instead of waiting to feel inspired. Creativity is why we're alive, and I want you to create your world. And creativity has nothing to do with art — it can, but there's so much more you're creating. Your ...
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How to Make Friends as an Adult While You're Single and Decentering Men | EP. 123

July 31, 2026 • 16 mins
You're doing the work of decentering men, but who's actually in your corner while you do it? This week Lauren gets into the friendship gap nobody talks about — why it happens, why it's harder to fix than you'd think, and what it actually takes to build real community as an adult. Spoiler: it involves leaving your couch.

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The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Why You Stay Long After You Know | EP.122

July 24, 2026 • 17 mins
Why is it so hard to walk away from something once you've put time into it — even when you already know it's not right? This week we're getting into the sunk cost fallacy, the concept that explains why staying can feel safer than leaving, even when staying is the actual cost. Inspired by a section in Amanda Montell's The Age of Magical Overthinking, we're talking about where this thinking comes from, how it shows up in dating...
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The Fear of Aging Is a Lie. Here's What Getting Older Actually Gives You | EP.121

July 17, 2026 • 24 mins
You've been told your whole life that getting older is something to fight off. That your value has a shelf life. That younger is better, more desirable, more worth something. And most of us absorbed that without even questioning where it came from or who it was built to benefit. In this episode Lauren is blowing that up. We're getting into why the fear of aging makes complete sense given what we were taught — and why what we ...
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The Relationship You're Already In (Whether You Notice It or Not) | EP. 120

July 3, 2026 • 8 mins
You're already in a relationship, whether you've clocked it or not — the one with yourself. This episode is about what happens when you start treating that relationship with the same attention you'd give someone you're dating, and what actually shifts when you do.

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Information Overload and the Single Woman: When Self-Help Stops Helping | EP. 119

June 26, 2026 • 20 mins
We are consuming more than ever. More content, more frameworks, more steps, more systems. And a lot of it is genuinely useful — but at some point the volume of it stops helping you and starts working against you. Especially when you're a single woman who is already trying really hard.In this episode, Lauren breaks down what's actually happening when self-improvement content starts to feel like a project that never ends &mdash...
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Putting Yourself First: Codependency, Conditioning, and Learning to Make Yourself the Priority | EP.118

June 19, 2026 • 17 mins
Putting yourself first sounds simple until you actually try to do it. If you've ever said yes when you meant no, shrunk your own needs down before anyone even asked you to, or felt a wave of guilt the second you did something for yourself — this episode is for you. Lauren breaks down why so many women struggle to make themselves the priority in their own lives, and why it has nothing to do with being weak or not knowing bette...
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Why You Keep Spiraling Over Men And How the Empowerment Dynamic Finally Stops It | EP. 117

June 12, 2026 • 21 mins
You've been spiraling and you know it — the overanalyzing, the waiting, the feeling like you have zero control over how your own life feels. This episode hands you the framework that changed everything for me and for so many of my clients. We're talking about the Drama Triangle, why you're probably living inside it right now, and the Empowerment Dynamic — the tool that actually gets you out. This is the episode I wish s...
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Why a Secure Man Won't Be Threatened By You Being a Man Hater | EP: 116

June 5, 2026 • 20 mins
If you've been holding back from fully doing this work, this episode is for you. Today Lauren is getting into why a capable, secure man is not going to be threatened by you being a self-proclaimed man hater, where male insecurity actually comes from and why it has nothing to do with you, and why the version of you that keeps shrinking herself is not landing the relationship you actually want. Because the goal was never really a rel...
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Your Relationship Just Ended. Here's Exactly What to Do. | EP. 115

May 29, 2026 • 25 mins
Something Lauren keeps noticing: when women go through a breakup, they find themselves again. They go back to the things they'd stopped doing — the hobby, the book, the version of themselves that got a little buried somewhere in the relationship. This episode is a guide for anyone who's newly out of something, mid-way back to themselves, or reflecting on how they've come back before and wondering if there's a little more work...
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Single in Your 30s and 40s: What It Really Takes to Stop Spiraling and Come Home to Yourself | EP: 114

May 22, 2026 • 30 mins
In this episode Lauren gets real about what the work actually looks like — not the highlight reel version, not the "I healed and now everything is great" version, but the real thing. She walks you through the specific areas she works on with her clients every single day: breaking the fantasy of who you want someone to be, building self worth through values work, inner child work and what it actually means to reparent yourself...
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Decentering Men Q&A: Your Biggest Questions, Answered | EP. 113

May 15, 2026 • 17 mins
You've been asking Lauren questions about decentering men — how to talk about it, what actually changed first, whether your relationships survive it — and today she's answering them. If you're on the fence about decentering men or you're already doing the work and want to go deeper, this is a must-listen. These are the questions women are actually sitting with, and Lauren's not holding back on the answers.

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Now That You've Decentered Men, Whimsy The F*ck Out Of Your Life | EP. 112

May 8, 2026 • 24 mins
You've been doing the work. Decentering men, healing, growing, showing up for yourself. But when's the last time your life actually felt magical? In this episode we're talking about whimsy — what it actually is, why your space matters more than you think, and how to stop living inside your Pinterest board and start building the life that's already on it. Lauren gets into why being away from her own space cracked something ope...
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Dating a Woman Who Has Decentered Men: A Man's Perspective | EP. 111

May 1, 2026 • 74 mins
What does it actually look like to date a woman who is decentering men? My boyfriend Joey joins me to answer that — from his side. He's confident, he's not threatened, and he has some honest opinions about what being a good partner actually means (spoiler: it's not doing the dishes). If you've ever wondered whether decentering men and being in a relationship can coexist, this one's for you.

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Does Your Life Actually Suck Or Are You Just On Social Media Too Much | EP. 110

April 24, 2026 • 18 mins
Does your life actually suck or are you just on social media too much? Because I think for a lot of women it's the second one and we don't even realize it's happening. In this episode I get into what comparing yourself to everyone online is actually costing you, why it keeps getting mistaken for self improvement, and how to figure out which parts of your life are actually yours versus things you absorbed from a screen.

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Is It Rational to Be Afraid of Men? Fear, Dating, and Discernment |EP. 109

April 17, 2026 • 24 mins
This week's episode is Single (not spiraling), I'm answering a question a listener wrote in with — she'd seen a lot of manosphere content come across her feed, found it useful at first, and then realized she was just scared of men and didn't know how to navigate dating anymore. We get into why that fear is valid and not something to fix or push past, what's shifting in the world right now, and how to actually build discernmen...
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Why Women Who Hold Space For Everyone Burn Out The Hardest | EP. 108

April 10, 2026 • 20 mins
If you've been feeling flat, uninspired, and like everything — even the things you used to love — has started to feel like a chore, this episode is for you. Lauren recorded this one burnt out, seven clients deep into her week, because sometimes the most honest thing you can do is talk about the thing you're actually in. This episode is a real conversation about what burnout is, what it feels like in your body, and why i...
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