Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering

In this podcast episode, Scott discusses the anxious attachment style and unmet needs that go with it. Transformation happens when we find safety and love within. The anxious attachment style sabotages itself by looking outside of itself. The process of self compassion and skillfulness ends the suffering for the anxiously attached. But there are a lot of bumps and hurdles along the way. Only the earnest end up truly discovering aut...

Scott and Dan, the co-developers of KI Emotional Repression Inquiry, are reuniting for an electrifying and groundbreaking podcast episode that you won't want to miss! This time, they’re tackling the provocative topic of dying paradigms, diving deep into how traditional structures are crumbling as individuals engage in transformative somatic work. The concept of existence independent of us is being annihilated from every angle, and ...

In this episode, Scott explores Barbara Oakley’s concept of Pathological Altruism and dives deep into the world of repression inquiry. Scott explains how many acts of service, often perceived as altruistic, are actually driven by a hidden need to feel safe and gain love or approval. By burying these unconscious motivations along with difficult emotions, we create false identities based on being “good” or “altruistic.” However, once...

Scott is taking a break from podcasting for a while as he feels called to explore other endeavors. The work is now accessible for everyone to start for FREE at repressiontest.com. He is focusing on one-on-one mentorship and is in the process of developing a new six-month course titled "Becoming Unbound," which will be released soon.

In the future, you might hear a short episode announcing his return to podcasting, but for now, S...

In this episode, Scott delves deeper into his Tik Tok series growing in popularity called, "The Insiders' View of an Avoidant." He reflects on his lifelong tendencies to avoid emotional intimacy and how his most recent relationship transformed his perspective. Through this partnership, he discovered the value of secure connections and experienced firsthand what it means to be with someone who also engages in avoidance. This experie...

In this episode, Scott and Toshi talk about how emotional repression can cause you to see, hear, and believe only what feels safe—protecting you from feeling or expressing certain emotions. This can make it difficult to hear or understand work that addresses emotional repression, as the mind filters out anything that might threaten the protective barrier against those emotions.

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In this podcast episode, Scott explores the common experience of oscillating between “I’ve got it” and “I’ve lost it” on the healing journey. He discusses how seeking intense experiences can trigger survival mechanisms due to unresolved emotions, leading to a cycle of temporary relief followed by suffering. This cycle is a natural part of our evolution for survival. Scott emphasizes that transformative practices, such as pursuing n...

In this episode, Scott uncovers the often-overlooked self-sabotage associated with the anxious attachment style. He discusses how individuals with this attachment style struggle to process their emotions independently, which hinders their personal growth. People report having difficulty doing this work on their own when they have this attachment style. This emotional repression not only affects their self-awareness in a path or hea...

In this episode, Scott explores the profound connection between unmet needs and buried emotions. He reveals how our lifelong defenses shield us from confronting core suffering, leading us to seek fulfillment through false means. This compulsion to gain validation from others stems from holding back our authentic selves since childhood. Drawing on powerful insights from spiritual traditions, Scott invites listeners to discover the t...

Scott and Toshi talk about their experiences with mindfulness and how it can serve as a form of bypassing. They discuss the pitfalls and limitations of mindfulness, particularly when it is used to avoid emotional repression.

Mindfulness is explored as a practice that can be beneficial, but also potentially limiting if not approached with an awareness of its shortcomings.

Practiced alone, mindfulness can lead to the avoidance of burie...