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Speaker 1 (00:02):
All right, So right now, we are an hour away
from my actual wedding ceremony, and we did not plan
to do a podcast, but we have an hour to
just sit and we're actually in the area where the
podcast is. We're all dressed very nicely. I do add
it's the best we've ever looked in the podcast as
a group. And here it was in here. It's the
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entire group of Grosman, Mike, d Eddie Arkansas, keith A,
mod Andy and Courtney Um all obviously friends from all
different years and and you know parts of my life.
Eddie is my best man. So here we are our out, Like,
what what's happening in your mind right now? Before I
tell you what's happening to mine? Um, I just see
a lot of scrambling, a lot of scrambling outside, people
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moving around in different directions. Uh, you were writing your vows.
I wasn't writing them. Well, I have known them. I
shut your mouth. I have memorized mine. But here's the problem.
Last night at our rehearsal, as I was just saying
thank you to people, I got choked out up. I
wasn't even anything emotional. I was just going, hey, thank you,
and I went there and I was like, oh my god,
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I need to have these written down because if I
get emotional, I won't be able to remember what I
have planned to say. And so I believe in and
I think probably and he can speak to this about sports,
but I believe and putting myself in the environment of
where I'm about to perform. So I used to walk
in the backyard and go stand at the tree and
be like, all right, this is what I'm gonna see.
When she wasn't here, you did this like in the
last last month, the last couple of weeks. I would
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go stand where we're going to have the ceremony, trying
to envision myself at happening so I could be in control.
And it's not gonna happen. And so I sat in
here and I typed them out right, and so that's
what I did. It took me like fifteen minutes to
type them all out. And I do think that's unfair
of you. So you're now and then and welcome to
the best man. And then then you came back and
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then you said, uh, hey, is it shorter of than
ten minutes? Longer tally long, really long? But yes, I
was gonna say by the way, we're talking about like
Kayla was trying to get like. He's like, how on
your vows? She's like one minute, two minutes, and I
didn't want to interject, but I'm like, I don't know
how long they are, but Vegas has the over. I'm
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just telling you that right now. We were driving back
from the rehearsal and Caitlin was like, okay, but at
least tell me. Are they like I promise you? Or
is it like a story? And I'm like, why don't
you just let me do the vowels and we'll just
see you up there? Okay, you don't have to tell anything?
But how long are they? She's like, what would you say? Though?
You like? Best estimate? Um, Keith, here we are, You're here,
you're you're you're you know, dressed up looking good, fancy suit. Um,
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how are you feeling an hour out about me finally
getting married? Did you ever think you'd see it happened?
I did not? And why not? Too much work and
too much play and not enough Bobby serious time? But
I was wrong? How about that? And what do you
think about Kitlin? Caitlin's wonderful, she's great. You couldn't do
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better man saying you know, she's as sweetie. Last night
when people were giving speeches, Amad got up and I
had had a couple of notes, and then he kind
of threw the notes away, and then you just decided
to go from from your heart? Um, like, how much?
Like what did you want to say? I'm always curious
about people want to say, like what was your intention
when you got up to talk? Because I had asked you,
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I said, hey, would you mind saying a few things,
because we didn't want everybody feeling they had to stand
up and say something that's always awkward. Who were looking
around going all right, do I stand up? So we
had asked you people specifically, and you and I have
been friends as long as almost anybody in this room.
What was your intention with what you had to say? Well?
I wanted to kind of tell the story about how
me and Caitlin spent some time and how I got
to know where and how great she was. And then
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I also wanted to illuminate that you were just ready
to be giving so much love to somebody, And I
wanted to kind of tied all up in a biblical
sense as well. So I think I kind of got
nervous a little bit, but like you said, I threw
the way of the notes and so from the I
just went from the heart. Everybody said it was cool.
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I saw you out there laughing a couple of times.
That made me comfortable. Kitlyn came up, she was like,
that's so sweet. I was like, I mean that's the truth.
I mean, that's where we went through. That's what that's
what I learned from or not learned from you, but
that's what I saw from you when I first met you.
And that was it. And I really had to come
through that speech last night because he missed rehearsal completely
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the wedding. I called him. We were all drewary to
go go through. What do the actual rehearsal of the wedding?
This goes here? And when I call him, Eddie called
him me that n answer. I called him an answer.
I call him again, he goes yo yo, that was up.
I said, hey, where are you going? I'm chilling And
I was like, what do you mean you're chilling? It's
like I'm at the hotel of my underwear. I'm like,
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we're going on all right, right, right? But to be fair,
I wasn't given any time that the rehearsal dinner was
the different my house like two hours prior to that
earlier in the day about the rehearsal dinner, pairing through
the rehearsal itself. Right. But the funny thing is that
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when I was when I came here, after I was
here late, I get a text from you with a
card saying the rehearsal is at five, but I'm sitting
right by you. So then Caitlin told my wife, Oh,
don't worry about it, because a lot of people on
the Arkansas side didn't get the information that they need
to get. I think I'm making up stories last night.
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We're driving back said uh. And Andy would not sit
in the front seat, even though he's six ft four
or five or eight whatever he is. He demanded to
sit in the back seat like Caitlyn sit up front.
And as he's back there, he goes, Hey, I just
want to be honest with you, guys. Um, I was
never worried about Bobby professionally. He's like, I don't don't
worry about that. He goes seriously like I was really
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worried about him as a human and as funny as
that is like, I think that was an extremely um,
authentic way to describe how you have felt about me
and even inside of our friendship the last ten years. Yeah,
and we don't I don't know that we've ever had
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the friendship where we need each other's attention all the
all the time. Um. And so honestly, like how far
you've you all have gotten and team effort largely in
this room with the people that that work with you. Um,
but that was there. How psychotic you are about you
have to do this and you have to do that,
and you don't you say yes before you think it through.
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That was always gonna work on on some level. Um,
you're kind of the opposite when it comes to relationships.
You need a little bit of space, you need a
little time to think, You need U, X, Y and Z.
So for me, UM, that the happiest part about this
for me is you actually committing to like being a
whole person and not like just kind of driving traffic
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through uh, the professional side of yourself and letting that
be your identity. I think having your identity outside of
that without of getting too deep is gonna be a
great thing for you When it makes me happy, kind
of looking in from the outside. I have a lot
less worry because of this. Well and two, I mean
I saw in your early stages, because right after you
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and Brooke got married, you and I became friends, and
I saw you change into a family like that guy
that I didn't think I would ever see, you know,
and you know, to see you go hey like my kids,
that's the most important thing. That wasn't who you were
when you and I met at all. And you know,
I obviously look up to you in a lot of ways.
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And you know, we talked about again, we don't need
each other's attention, so we don't say good morning and text.
But you know, for for you to say that last
night was hilarious but also the most true thing anyone
had said the entire night. And I give you too
much craps. So I actually had to qualify to Caitlin, Like, no,
I'm actually being serious right now, Like I was really worried. Well,
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my like first week of college, I wore my high
school letterman jacket from playing football into a communications class
and it was cold. It's the only code I had.
You know, it's no secret. I've only said it ten
million times, and I know that where this is going.
You know that It's not like I had a bunch
of coats. We didn't have a lot of money. And
so I wore my one coat that I had to school.
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And this one, this this prepu looking kid who played
quarterback on the football team was like, hey, guy, well
we don't where a high school jack as to college.
And I was like, what he goes, you don't where
your high school jacket of college. People don't think you're
a lose their. I was like, it's the only code
I had. And so the next day I didn't wear
a coade at all, and I was really cold the
all day long because I didn't have another coat. Well
that got that got it was coordinay. And so that's
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how Courtney and I met. And you know, Courtney, him
and I were stuck at the hip from freshman year
of college and until a couple of years after. And
you know, I saw Courtney meet his wife and get
married and have kids, and you know, um, for you
to be here today and heck, I'm forty one now,
you know, it's not it's not like the nineteen Hey
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we are, You're forty one with a couple of kids,
and like what what what do you tell me? At
this point, I'm about to do this today five minutes
from now, Like, what what do you tell me? There's
no way to get ready for this. There's there's nothing
that I can possibly say, I think, to completely prepare
you for what's about to happen. Um. It's kind of
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funny you bring that up, though, because I've probably spent
the entire day reminiscing about me and you, and I'm
not trying to you too must about it, but oh
I'm happy before you man really to say, you know,
Keithan talking about whether or not would with this happen
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for you? I didn't think so I really didn't know, Carrie.
I've been talking about today and all day and sorry
about that. Um actually wide a speech. I didn't know,
you know, if we're going through it or not, but
um I did, UM just thinking about um gonna get together. UM.
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It's so weird because you know, you're not really aren't
this emotional? Right, Like we don't really show our emotions. Um,
we're gotting tough guys and things like this, these big
events right like this, it kind of um, it brings
it out at times, right, And I guess I'm just
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having that this moment right now. But I thought about
probably three times in our lives that you've really shown
me emotion. And the first time I was thinking about
with this when uh, you got hired on at Kiss
that film and um, you were going to leave the
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queue go to Austin and there was this huge ice
storm at that time. I don't know if if anyone
remembers it, even Austin saw ice. I think that year
and Bobby needed someone to help him move from Arkansas
at Austin and he asked me to do it. It's
and I'm just like, there's Bobby, it's impossible, there's no
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way we're going to get this done right. But he
gives me this look. And it's really hard for me
to articulate the look that he gave me. But I guess,
if you know, having kids now, the way I would
say that look would would be someone that you know,
like your kid that first Christmas morning when Christmas is
real to him, you know, and it's just, you know,
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there's there's nothing that they want more, right, And he
gave me that look and I couldn't tell him, no, Yeah,
I didn't know, how are we gonna get there, but
as dad, if we can borry his trailer. I told
him it was for and you know, he's like, all right, man,
you know I know how much of a friend he
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is to you. That's what we're gonna do this And uh,
that drive is like a seven hour drive. It took
us twenty one hours to get there, and we didn't sleep.
And when um, the relevance of this story is when whenever, um,
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you and Kaylen come to visit me and Okay, see
uh and you know I'm meeting him for the first time.
You had that look. Man, you had that look. And
and when y'all left, you know, immediately text you because
kind of like what Andy was saying, you know, I'm
our relationship. I know, I know professional you are, but
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knowing relationships because your life has been tough, you know,
and I know that you would overthink it or maybe
even think that you don't deserve it, you know, And
so I wanted to I just text you as I
want you to know that you do deserve it, okay,
and I'll want you to know that you go as
I've support this and I think you deserve it, and
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I'm happy for you. I'm sorry we've just uh friends
for over twenty years now, and I know we don't
talk as much, you know, because our lives, you know,
me having kids and I'm and I'm in Houston now,
and it's you know, things are different. It's not like
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the same. But you know what, when we get together,
you're my friend or your brother, it's like, IM meanly
go back to that place with you. No, maybe because
these tears have already fallen, they won't fall later. That's
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the goal, right, Maybe the seals already been broken. I
mean maybe, And I had no ideas just gonna happen.
I mean, as soon as you come to me, you
and you brought those stories like it just it just
overwhelmed me, you know, and I wasn't expecting it. You know.
It's kind of like what you're talking about last night.
You're like, you know, probably every five years, right, and
and man, we've we've shared so much, you know, like
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so many first first relationships, first breakups. I mean we've
had you know, there were so many times you know,
like I remember, it's just us you were just talking
about just sitting up just talking about hardships or goals
or whatever we want life, you know, and um, it
was always great having someone, you know, a friend like
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you that we could talk about things like that, you
know together, m thank god. I mean, how many years
has it been, you know, we're going on like twenty two,
twenty three years now, friendship. I mean, it's and I
know that, you know, if I was having some kind
of hardship tomorrow, I could call you about the blue
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even if we hadn't sweeen each other in years, and
you would talk. You know, you don't no matter how
long you need, you know that we need to talk
to each other. You do it, you know. And dude,
I don't think you seem more I can say, you know,
no idea what's gonna happen, But I appreciate that. Man. Well,
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Mike d who's producing it and who was probably with
me more than anybody else except for Caitlin right now,
who by the way, we're in this room. And I
said Mike, I said, hey, Mike had a girlfriend and
at the time, and I had a girlfriend at the time,
and I was like, I'm gonna beat you. I'm gonna
propose on Saturday or a week from Saturday. And he goes,
I'm proposing this Saturday and I was like, you son
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of a gun. We did. It was right here we
talked about he jailed me by a week. Um, Mike,
you are the newest kind of member of this very
close brotherhood. You know that that that is all of us,
and you know the same. I guess the one common
theme is that I'm not the best at being that communicative.
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But luckily for me, you don't talk much either. I
think that's why we get along so well. Um, but
I just appreciate you, know, your ability one to just
put up with me, but also to just to always
be there, like if there is one constant person that
is there all the time, regardless if it's a text
or phone or work or like, it's always you, and
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that I hope you kind of feel that same love
in this room, you know, as as I'm about to
walk down the aisle. And you know, for for you
to say yes to be a part of this group
meant a lot to me as well. I'm happy to
be a part of it, dude. And that's what he says,
and that's that's that's Mike right there. And then that's
always like thank you, thank you, thank you. Well listen, uh,
somebody beat on the door and said something like somebody's
on fire. I think you need to get Yeah. But
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and this one, we were just gonna pop in and
say afe you thanks because we were killing time. But
I genuinely appreciate the words you guys said here. And
you guys know it doesn't matter what it is from me,
you will always get it. And I know the sam
about you, so uh. I love you all. This about
to be a crazy night. May not talk to you
guys much more. Everybody keep saying it's gonna flash by,
and I'm not really going to get to talk to
anybody except everybody. But just appreciate all you guys. Love
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you guys. One thing, this is like your your day
and your night, Like you said, advice advice for tonight,
do what makes you happy and not what you feel
like you need to do tonight, like say you're hellos
and say your old thing, but also take time to
enjoy it with Caitlin. Don't get separated and not actually
share the night because you're going through whatever people think
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the ritual of a wedding and a reception ship. You're
not working a night man, You're off tonight. I don't
think you're not hosting tonight. Just the last thing I'll
say is you know, um, we're having the wedding at
my house, and I'm pretty sure that that's going to
be said publicly and um, but you know, traditionally the
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wedding is where you leave in a car and you
drive away. Nobody wishes you could buy, and they're sparklers
and stuff. What I had pitched to Caitlin was that
we her and I have sparklers and everybody else leaves
and then we just stay. She would have been the
most on brand. She didn't accept. After that was my goal.
We said everybody else away, well even last night quickly
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to last night, I mean truly Bobby fashion, Like it
was nine o'clock, like all right, you don't have to go,
but you can't stay. Honestly, God that we saw like
dirty minutes left in that place. But I was like,
we gotta go on the start getting charged more so
we got to get out of here. So I ran everybody, Okay,
I love you guys. I like to say real al right, right,
I mean you've been like a brother. No, but I
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would like to say, real quick, let the emotions come tonight.
Don't try to not let them or block them. Let
them all come, feel them all, accept them all, and
show Caitlin how much you really feel and show yourself.
Let it all out, man, accept it be there. Not
as much as I did, because be hard to get
the words out. Okay. So and as always, this was
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