February 23, 2022 • 10 mins
Bobby’s day-to-day manager, Morgan Massengill aka Morgan1, talks about some full circle moments she’s had in her career and gives advice to a follower who is having some dating trouble.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey guys, Bobby here. This is not a Bobby cast obviously,
but last week we debuted new content that was called
mid Days with Morgan and saw a pretty good response,
which is pretty cool. So I think people are liking it.
But it's Morgan Number one, who used to be on
the radio show but now she works with me in
a different capacity. But she just does this segment on Instagram.
We thought it was funny and interesting, and so here
she is. It was the set. We just saved a
(00:21):
bunch of it initially and we didn't load it all
up in the first time. I don't know if we'll
do another one or not. You can let me know
if you like it. But it's her talking about life,
social media, dating and everything in between. You can follow
Morgan on Instagram and actually watch them for yourself at
Morgan mass and Gil or I follow her. You can
find her over there or find the link in the
episode notes. But here you go one more, maybe the last,
(00:42):
maybe not. Who knows. It's mid Days with Morgan. So
today I want to take a little box you down
memory lane and talk about some full circle moments that
I've had in my career, like I've heard up in
a very small town called Mile in Tennessee. If you
had told me when I was is a freshman in
high school that I would have gotten to do and
(01:04):
meet all the people don't do the people do things
and meet people that I've met, I wouldn't have believed it.
I just wouldn't have been able to wrap my little
people in around it, you know. Um, But one story
I want to share, uh, was for my I think
I was a freshman in high school. So grew up
in Milan and the neighboring city was Jackson. It was
(01:25):
a little bit bigger, and Dirt Spentley was coming to
play a show at the Jackson Civic Center. And I
was lucky enough that my uncle Andy worked at the
Jackson Civic Center and he lent me and my sister
into the show early, so we were able to get
into the very front front row of this Dirt Spentley show.
And being thirteen year old made with my lip bumper
and my graphic roo and just you know it, not
(01:49):
a cute kid be in front row and just like
absolutely drooling over Dirt Spentley. It's funny to think about
he comes out, things come a little closer. I'm like
come a little low, but you know, like just not anyway.
But it was a core memory for me. I will
never forget it. And Luke Bryan was opening for him
on this tour, so this is I think it was
(02:10):
one of Luke's very first tours. It was he he
was singing. I remember him doing country Man and all
those songs that are now huge hits, but before they
were huge like they are now crazy. But we're in
the front row of this show. I remember grabbing Luke's hand.
I remember, I mean, just a really good freaking show.
(02:32):
Fast forward all these years later, and I have since
been able to meet both Dirk's and Luke on numerous occasions,
but one that stuff into my memory was a day
that Dirk's was coming into the Morning show to do
some sort of segment. I think he was surprising Amy
with something for a birthday. I could be wrong, but
(02:53):
he pulled into the garage and his kids were with him,
and when I was helping him in side, I remember
him just making small talk with me and call me
by my name, like saying Morgan at one point, and
I remember just in my mind, can you set back
and going who would have fought like who would have
(03:16):
thought that little lip bump for big gas tooth Morgan
would be here right now in front of Dirt's and
he's he knows my name. That may sound silly, but
it's just one of those moments for me that I
was like, Wow. And I've had some similar things with
Luke of like I had to interview him once. I'll
see if I can find a picture and share it
(03:36):
my story. But I had to interview him once at
i Heeart Country Festival, and it was another one of
those moments where I was just like I literally was
holding your hand trying to pull you up my thirteen
year old house was story I'll pull you on stage
at the Jagon Civic Center and now I'm standing here
talking to you one on one. What in the world?
(03:57):
So anyway, life is weird, y'all. And if you think
something is implausible and very well could be possible, that's
the moral of the story is. I am very grateful
for the blessings that the Lord has bestowed on me
because I just couldn't never envision this life for myself. Yeah,
(04:19):
a little strolled on memory Lane. I hope you enjoyed it.
After yesterday's mid Day's where I gave advice. I got
a d M from another girul and I really want
to talk about it. I have so much to say,
but this is what she sent me. She said, Morgan,
I've been dating this guy for three months and could
really use your advice. When I asked what we are,
he said he wants to take things slow. His last
(04:41):
relationship didn't end well, and he's not ready to put
a label on what we are just yet. How long
should I give him to let his feelings catch up
to mine. Okay, I'm making some assumptions here, but I'm
assuming that you guys have a physical relationship, and I
(05:04):
think that that was a mistake if you do. What
I mean by that is, I don't think that this
guy is struggling to decide if he wants a day
you're not. I think he knows that he doesn't, and
I think he's getting some sort of need met from
you and wants to keep it to what it is,
(05:26):
because three months is not five minutes. If you've been
consistently seeing someone for three months and they can't determine
if they want to be in a relationship with you
or not by that point, up they don't. And I
know that that's a hard truth to hear, but I
would walk. If I were you, I wouldn't give him
one more second of time to let his feelings catch
up two yours. I would walk. I'm also curious of
(05:48):
how it started, Like did this guy's tell you the
very beginning that he had just gotten out of bad
relationship and really wasn't looking for anything serious, and then you, well,
maybe I could change his mind, because if that's the case,
that was also a mistake. When a guy is up
front and says he's not looking for anything, take that
(06:09):
for what it is. You don't think, Oh, I'm gonna
be even one to just be the exception to that rule,
Like I'm gonna make him fall for me. No, you're not. Um,
you're not. He isn't in a place where he wants
to be in a relationship if he's saying those things
and what he's wanting is casual hookup And maybe that's
where you guys haven't landed and you're not liking it. Um.
(06:34):
I personally, Man, I'm gonna really out myself here, but
I personally don't have sleepovers with guys that we haven't
clearly defined what's going on. Meaning I find it extremely
important and I'm probably gonna sound really old school and
prudish right now. Um, I've had it extremely important to
build the emotional relationship first. Physical is important, for sure,
(06:59):
but it a guy needs a chase. Oh my god,
I feel like I'm gonna get somebody, you know, because
I'm so old school. But a guy needs a chase,
he truly does. And if you're making it so easy
to get to that physical place with you, I think guys,
just even if it's subconscious, I think that guys just
(07:22):
put you one you in a different category. At that
point of there's there's wicky material and then there's took
up material in a guy's mind, and you might disagree,
you might disagree, and that's probably fun. This is how
I see it. And once you cross that line of oh, like,
I'm just on the second day, like we how to
sleep over, Like I think it's hard to other feelings
(07:46):
catch up. It's always so much better for me personally
when I know a guy is just like truly he
likes me for me, and he's wanting to define it,
say we're in a relationship, and then the good physical
stuff comes later. I don't know. I just think you've
(08:06):
you've most likely mess this one up, and if you're
wanting a relationship, you need to move like someone who
is wanting a relationship. If you're showing up being like
you just can't hook up. Culture is so rough, and
I get it, Like, if you want to just be
(08:28):
hooking up, go do that, more power to you. But
if you're wanting a relationship, you have to move like
you're wanting a relationship. I have definitely been on dates
with guys, and that's what I'm saying, like this weeds
out the ones that just want to hook up. I've
definitely dated guys who were not into waiting around for
the physical stuff, and it was no sweat off my back,
(08:50):
like Okay, we're not gonna be a match, move on.
So I think you just have to understand your worth,
your value, and have some pretty pretty define mind boundaries
about around the physical stuff. Yeah, I think that you
just if you it's three months in, you've been seeing
(09:10):
this guy, You've been giving him the girlfriend package with
the uh we're not anything um subscription Like, it's just
I don't know that there's any salvaging it. I think
that you walk and if he realizes that, oh my god,
like she's not just gonna be here to fulfill my
(09:31):
every women need. I'm gonna have to really step up,
then great. But if not, he wasn't your person. And
if you're not, if it isn't life or death, If
he wants to be in a relationship and you just
are cool, carrying all the way, you are cool. But
if not, if you want to be something more and
he's not there, he would have been here by now.
Like I'm just saying, take it for what it is.
(09:54):
He's not your person if he's not caught up the ship.
And guys will use a past relationship, I mean they
will run that stuff into the ground. And if it
doesn't matter, if a guy's had his heart broken before,
he's gonna know when he's gonna know if you're someone
he wants to be with and sister, the second that
you walk away from this man, you're gonna know because
(10:16):
if he comes running back of oh, like, I don't
want to lose you, okay, but I don't think he's
going to sadly, and I hope, I hope I'm not
being too blunt. If you want a relationship, you gotta
move like you want a relationship in life. You can't
settle for for these guys that just want to hook
up and get give them that piece of it. And
your emotions are getting all tied up in the mix,
(10:37):
and there's aren't like that's not benefiting your sister. Walk
that would be my advice. Walk and see what happens.
I think I know what's gonna happen, but walk and
see what happens.
Hey guys, Bobby here. This is not a Bobby cast obviously,
but last week we debuted new content that was called
mid Days with Morgan and saw a pretty good response,
which is pretty cool. So I think people are liking it.
But it's Morgan Number one, who used to be on
the radio show but now she works with me in
a different capacity. But she just does this segment on Instagram.
We thought it was funny and interesting, and so here
she is. It was the set. We just saved a
(00:21):
bunch of it initially and we didn't load it all
up in the first time. I don't know if we'll
do another one or not. You can let me know
if you like it. But it's her talking about life,
social media, dating and everything in between. You can follow
Morgan on Instagram and actually watch them for yourself at
Morgan mass and Gil or I follow her. You can
find her over there or find the link in the
episode notes. But here you go one more, maybe the last,
(00:42):
maybe not. Who knows. It's mid Days with Morgan. So
today I want to take a little box you down
memory lane and talk about some full circle moments that
I've had in my career, like I've heard up in
a very small town called Mile in Tennessee. If you
had told me when I was is a freshman in
high school that I would have gotten to do and
(01:04):
meet all the people don't do the people do things
and meet people that I've met, I wouldn't have believed it.
I just wouldn't have been able to wrap my little
people in around it, you know. Um, But one story
I want to share, uh, was for my I think
I was a freshman in high school. So grew up
in Milan and the neighboring city was Jackson. It was
(01:25):
a little bit bigger, and Dirt Spentley was coming to
play a show at the Jackson Civic Center. And I
was lucky enough that my uncle Andy worked at the
Jackson Civic Center and he lent me and my sister
into the show early, so we were able to get
into the very front front row of this Dirt Spentley show.
And being thirteen year old made with my lip bumper
and my graphic roo and just you know it, not
(01:49):
a cute kid be in front row and just like
absolutely drooling over Dirt Spentley. It's funny to think about
he comes out, things come a little closer. I'm like
come a little low, but you know, like just not anyway.
But it was a core memory for me. I will
never forget it. And Luke Bryan was opening for him
on this tour, so this is I think it was
(02:10):
one of Luke's very first tours. It was he he
was singing. I remember him doing country Man and all
those songs that are now huge hits, but before they
were huge like they are now crazy. But we're in
the front row of this show. I remember grabbing Luke's hand.
I remember, I mean, just a really good freaking show.
(02:32):
Fast forward all these years later, and I have since
been able to meet both Dirk's and Luke on numerous occasions,
but one that stuff into my memory was a day
that Dirk's was coming into the Morning show to do
some sort of segment. I think he was surprising Amy
with something for a birthday. I could be wrong, but
(02:53):
he pulled into the garage and his kids were with him,
and when I was helping him in side, I remember
him just making small talk with me and call me
by my name, like saying Morgan at one point, and
I remember just in my mind, can you set back
and going who would have fought like who would have
(03:16):
thought that little lip bump for big gas tooth Morgan
would be here right now in front of Dirt's and
he's he knows my name. That may sound silly, but
it's just one of those moments for me that I
was like, Wow. And I've had some similar things with
Luke of like I had to interview him once. I'll
see if I can find a picture and share it
(03:36):
my story. But I had to interview him once at
i Heeart Country Festival, and it was another one of
those moments where I was just like I literally was
holding your hand trying to pull you up my thirteen
year old house was story I'll pull you on stage
at the Jagon Civic Center and now I'm standing here
talking to you one on one. What in the world?
(03:57):
So anyway, life is weird, y'all. And if you think
something is implausible and very well could be possible, that's
the moral of the story is. I am very grateful
for the blessings that the Lord has bestowed on me
because I just couldn't never envision this life for myself. Yeah,
(04:19):
a little strolled on memory Lane. I hope you enjoyed it.
After yesterday's mid Day's where I gave advice. I got
a d M from another girul and I really want
to talk about it. I have so much to say,
but this is what she sent me. She said, Morgan,
I've been dating this guy for three months and could
really use your advice. When I asked what we are,
he said he wants to take things slow. His last
(04:41):
relationship didn't end well, and he's not ready to put
a label on what we are just yet. How long
should I give him to let his feelings catch up
to mine. Okay, I'm making some assumptions here, but I'm
assuming that you guys have a physical relationship, and I
(05:04):
think that that was a mistake if you do. What
I mean by that is, I don't think that this
guy is struggling to decide if he wants a day
you're not. I think he knows that he doesn't, and
I think he's getting some sort of need met from
you and wants to keep it to what it is,
(05:26):
because three months is not five minutes. If you've been
consistently seeing someone for three months and they can't determine
if they want to be in a relationship with you
or not by that point, up they don't. And I
know that that's a hard truth to hear, but I
would walk. If I were you, I wouldn't give him
one more second of time to let his feelings catch
up two yours. I would walk. I'm also curious of
(05:48):
how it started, Like did this guy's tell you the
very beginning that he had just gotten out of bad
relationship and really wasn't looking for anything serious, and then you, well,
maybe I could change his mind, because if that's the case,
that was also a mistake. When a guy is up
front and says he's not looking for anything, take that
(06:09):
for what it is. You don't think, Oh, I'm gonna
be even one to just be the exception to that rule,
Like I'm gonna make him fall for me. No, you're not. Um,
you're not. He isn't in a place where he wants
to be in a relationship if he's saying those things
and what he's wanting is casual hookup And maybe that's
where you guys haven't landed and you're not liking it. Um.
(06:34):
I personally, Man, I'm gonna really out myself here, but
I personally don't have sleepovers with guys that we haven't
clearly defined what's going on. Meaning I find it extremely
important and I'm probably gonna sound really old school and
prudish right now. Um, I've had it extremely important to
build the emotional relationship first. Physical is important, for sure,
(06:59):
but it a guy needs a chase. Oh my god,
I feel like I'm gonna get somebody, you know, because
I'm so old school. But a guy needs a chase,
he truly does. And if you're making it so easy
to get to that physical place with you, I think guys,
just even if it's subconscious, I think that guys just
(07:22):
put you one you in a different category. At that
point of there's there's wicky material and then there's took
up material in a guy's mind, and you might disagree,
you might disagree, and that's probably fun. This is how
I see it. And once you cross that line of oh, like,
I'm just on the second day, like we how to
sleep over, Like I think it's hard to other feelings
(07:46):
catch up. It's always so much better for me personally
when I know a guy is just like truly he
likes me for me, and he's wanting to define it,
say we're in a relationship, and then the good physical
stuff comes later. I don't know. I just think you've
(08:06):
you've most likely mess this one up, and if you're
wanting a relationship, you need to move like someone who
is wanting a relationship. If you're showing up being like
you just can't hook up. Culture is so rough, and
I get it, Like, if you want to just be
(08:28):
hooking up, go do that, more power to you. But
if you're wanting a relationship, you have to move like
you're wanting a relationship. I have definitely been on dates
with guys, and that's what I'm saying, like this weeds
out the ones that just want to hook up. I've
definitely dated guys who were not into waiting around for
the physical stuff, and it was no sweat off my back,
(08:50):
like Okay, we're not gonna be a match, move on.
So I think you just have to understand your worth,
your value, and have some pretty pretty define mind boundaries
about around the physical stuff. Yeah, I think that you
just if you it's three months in, you've been seeing
(09:10):
this guy, You've been giving him the girlfriend package with
the uh we're not anything um subscription Like, it's just
I don't know that there's any salvaging it. I think
that you walk and if he realizes that, oh my god,
like she's not just gonna be here to fulfill my
(09:31):
every women need. I'm gonna have to really step up,
then great. But if not, he wasn't your person. And
if you're not, if it isn't life or death, If
he wants to be in a relationship and you just
are cool, carrying all the way, you are cool. But
if not, if you want to be something more and
he's not there, he would have been here by now.
Like I'm just saying, take it for what it is.
(09:54):
He's not your person if he's not caught up the ship.
And guys will use a past relationship, I mean they
will run that stuff into the ground. And if it
doesn't matter, if a guy's had his heart broken before,
he's gonna know when he's gonna know if you're someone
he wants to be with and sister, the second that
you walk away from this man, you're gonna know because
(10:16):
if he comes running back of oh, like, I don't
want to lose you, okay, but I don't think he's
going to sadly, and I hope, I hope I'm not
being too blunt. If you want a relationship, you gotta
move like you want a relationship in life. You can't
settle for for these guys that just want to hook
up and get give them that piece of it. And
your emotions are getting all tied up in the mix,
(10:37):
and there's aren't like that's not benefiting your sister. Walk
that would be my advice. Walk and see what happens.
I think I know what's gonna happen, but walk and
see what happens.
Host
Bobby Bones
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