Back in the Stood!

Becca is BACK in studio for the first time in YEARS! And we have a lot to cover from pet birthdays to pet peeves!
 
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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it.

Speaker 1 (00:13):
We are, yes, indeed we are, and we are live.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
Well we are not alive, but we're live in the studio.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
You mean in real life.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
We're all in the same room for the first time
in almost three years.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Yeah, that's wild.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
This is great. This takes me back. I picture you
sitting there with Jason George from Grayson Anatomy in that
same chair.

Speaker 2 (00:36):
I don't love it well to be a little bit closer.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
So this is very far, like I cannot touch you.
That's great for who not you?

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Not you?

Speaker 1 (00:48):
You know you like it when we're next to each other.

Speaker 2 (00:51):
It's wonderful to be back with the crew all in here.

Speaker 1 (00:55):
And be back in general. Because I've been gone.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
For a minute.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
That has been globe trotting, I would say I have.

Speaker 2 (01:01):
Yeah, I've been globe trotting. I went to Hawaii for
my birthday.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yeah, and it was great.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
We went to Kawai and it was just like beautiful.
I think I may have broken my toe on a hike,
which that happened day one, so like we landed, had
like a nice night at our Airbnb and then the
next day we went on like a waterfall hike and
I slept on like a rock and I think I
broke my toe, which toe number four.

Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yeah, and toes are hard to like really figure out
if you did something too.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
And even if there because Hayley was like, you should
get it next rain and I'm like, why they don't
do they don't press it.

Speaker 1 (01:37):
They'll be like it's broken. They'll probably be like, don't
walk the rest.

Speaker 2 (01:42):
Yeah, and I'm like, well, I'm going to New York
with my mother, so there's no time for resting.

Speaker 1 (01:49):
And we had a lovely time.

Speaker 2 (01:50):
It was great. Definitely missed you.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
Missed you.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
I don't know if you'll ever be able to go
on a birthday trip again, because you that's your anniversary.

Speaker 1 (01:58):
But why don't we do it on your actual birthday?
Isn't that we do the Halloween party? Well, we don't
have to do a Halloween party. We can do your
birthday weekend. Well that's up to you. Yeah, yeah, I can't.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
I don't know if I can rearrange the whole Halloween
birth Halloween party thing for your anniversary specifically, but maybe.

Speaker 1 (02:16):
I will, and maybe my anniversary will change.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
Oh that's so, don't get married on that weekend please, right.

Speaker 1 (02:27):
Yeah, November doesn't feel like my month anyway.

Speaker 2 (02:30):
What does feel like your mom?

Speaker 1 (02:31):
More like May?

Speaker 2 (02:32):
Interesting?

Speaker 1 (02:33):
A spring, spring time, springtime, spring fleeing.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
Do we feel like that's on the horizon or anything?
You're just hypothetically yeah, just hypothetic, hypothetically speaking. Okay, great,
So so like, is that what happens like once you
because would you no longer celebrate.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
Your dating anniversary? Probably not. I feel like you once
you get married, you celebrate your marriage.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
I tried to sync them up. I asked my wife
a year out from our fifth anniversary. The plan was,
I asked her on our fourth anniversary, we get married
on our fifth anniversary, but we just have one anniversary.
I even made sure our fifth anniversary was a Saturday.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (03:12):
It didn't work out because she had to start school
because she was going back to school to work with
exotic animals. We ended up getting married about a month earlier.
So now the dataversary is just completely forgotten except by me,
and I always say to her on that day. I
would say happy anniversary, and then she always freezes, like,
what did I forget? And then she remembers the dataversary.

Speaker 1 (03:28):
See, I kind of wanted to synk them up too,
because I like that it's that that's just like our date,
you know, and like it's it's a hinge, like it's
in writing, and like, I don't know, I just like that.
But I just don't see myself getting married in November.
November is so beautiful, though. Oh it's like it's cold.
I can't go. My shoulders cannot be exposed in this weather.

Speaker 3 (03:51):
It's seven.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
It's summer year round.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
This is not summer. I was outside last night with
a parka and a sweatshirt and a long sleeve underneath it.
It is it is like cooler one. Yeah, so I
need yeah, I need a little bit warmer, all right.
So that's great food for thought.

Speaker 2 (04:08):
And I'm gonna be thinking about that because I was
thinking on the Hawaii trip. I was like, I'm never
gonna get to have Tanya. If we do this weekend,
If we do the Halloween party every year and then
we do my birthday trip and it happens to be
that next weekend, you.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Don't have to do a birthday trip every year. Yeah,
it's fun. You could have a birthday party.

Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah right, you're right. Yeah yeah, Well
we'll get We'll get there next year. Yeah yeah. And
then I went to New York with my mom and
it so I.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
Just went through Hawaii that past. Yeah, well Hawaii broke
my toe and then.

Speaker 2 (04:43):
Goodbye broke my toe. We went to the beach. It
was just beautiful. Like I love Kawai because it's so
lush and there's.

Speaker 1 (04:53):
Something about serene.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
Yeah, there's something about like the rain. It rains almost
every day and then and it's like there's this newness
that comes after the rain and you get to experience
that every day.

Speaker 1 (05:05):
It to muse that too when it rains in La Like,
I have this sense of like rebirth.

Speaker 2 (05:10):
It reminds me of clean by Taylor Swift.

Speaker 1 (05:12):
Yes, like the roads. There's no more oil on the road.
It's like clean roads, and the sky looks crisp.

Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah yeah, so I just there's something about Hawaii in general,
but specifically Kwi that like really invigorates me.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
Did you do a lot of thoughts about this new
year of life? No, no thinking.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
I tried not to think about it, tried to just
not think, you know, just wanted to relax. Got it
not overthink.

Speaker 1 (05:37):
Any stay nice.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, well I'll do that at New Year's only, you know,
talk about our man of you know whatever, vision boards
and stuff. That's when I really kick in the thinker. Yeah,
but it was really fun to just go and my sister,
her girlfriend Arden Laura, who's been my best friend since
freshman year of high school. We have known each other
for twenty years, which really that really struck a chord

(06:00):
with me this birthday because twenty years, Like we met
in high school, it's it's been twenty years since then.
And I was like, oof, it's really good enough this
swallow And this certainly was a.

Speaker 1 (06:14):
Large pill to swallow.

Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah, but that was really fun to be with her.
And then obviously Haley and Marla came, and Marla is
Hailey's best friend, makeup artist who's also become one of
my best friends.

Speaker 1 (06:27):
Yeah, so it was really funny. I feel very significant
that you were on you were on your birthday trip
and Ali Grant was at my dog's birthday party. Oh well,
so I was like, this is a moment, this is
a moment.

Speaker 2 (06:40):
It was really you know, I didn't think that I
would have fomo missing sunny a dog's birthdays, Like I
just was never that was never in my plan. Like
when I was thinking about being in Hawaii, I was like,
all right, have fun, but my not like that birthday party.
I I need like the details for the next party
I planned. And I literally was thinking, I wonder Phoebe

(07:03):
was thinking, my mom has never done anything like this
for me.

Speaker 1 (07:06):
It was like. The funniest thing is like I was
on poop patrol because at some point one dog was
always pooping and so we didn't want anybody step in it.
So I was like constantly just like picking up poop
and putting in this like bag that we had. It
was so funny because like the doctor was running around,
so it wasn't like, you know, it wasn't my eyes
weren't always on sunny, so she could have been pooping.
But I was like on poop patrol.

Speaker 2 (07:26):
Yeah, I mean it was a dare I say, the
party of the Honestly, we were every detail that you
kept posting. I was like, she well, I was just
laughing because we had done a fitting for a photo shoot,

(07:46):
which we'll talk about in a little bit, and we
were talking about I had there was a sweater that
this style was pulled. It was like a really expensive sweater,
but it was like beautiful, and I was like, I'm
just gonna do it, like I'm gonna going to New York.
I work to New York, which I didn't even end
up taking it anyways. Tony was like, I can't believe
he'd spend that much on a sweater, and I was thinking,

(08:07):
after seeing that birthday party, I was like, we spend
our money differently.

Speaker 1 (08:11):
Yeah, Like I would never spend that money on that sweater,
like literally ever, but I would spend it on my
dog's birthday, no, no problem, Like no questions asked.

Speaker 2 (08:18):
So is this going to be an annual thing or
is this just like a one year old birthday party?

Speaker 1 (08:24):
Annual? Oh? Wow? Every year just going to get bigger
and bigger. I mean I have a bigger and bigger
I mean we definitely could probably done more dogs. And
I think it needs to be earlier in the day
because it was chilly. Okay, yeah, but you know, I
learned a lot from that experience and I will take
that into her next one. And Robbie's just like loves it.
He's totally do you see the matching sweaters?

Speaker 2 (08:42):
Well, yeah, him wearing the matching sweater doesn't actually equal
like loves it.

Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh, you know, just like wearing it like he does that.
I asked him before I ordered them, and he was
just like absolutely, and he's like, yeah, sunny sweater. I
love that for you.

Speaker 2 (08:59):
Yeah, me too, but you did get me a sweater.

Speaker 1 (09:01):
Phoebe actually went to the party with.

Speaker 2 (09:05):
Heidi, who is babysitting her, and I just thought it
was so funny because every photo I saw Heidi was
holding Phoebe like like in like representing me.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
I got so many dms of people being like I
love that Becca's not there, but Phoebe wouldn't miss it. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (09:22):
I was like exactly, it's like when your mom is
you know, like when your mom would have like I
remember being invited to THINGU and if my other siblings
had things, it would be like I don't know if
I'm gonna be able to get you there, but like
my friend's mom would take me. It was like that. Yeah,
like she was still going to the party whether I
was there or not.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
Yeah, she was there.

Speaker 2 (09:40):
So it was sending appreciative like did she understand.

Speaker 1 (09:43):
So happy that Phoebe was there? Would not have been
her birthday without her?

Speaker 2 (09:46):
Oh, I just met in general, like did she Do
you think she knew that it was for her?

Speaker 1 (09:50):
No, I don't think so. I'm not happy for.

Speaker 2 (09:54):
You to acknowledge that.

Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, but it was a good time. You were missed.
So we were missed on each you know. Yeah you
missed me.

Speaker 2 (10:02):
I missed you, and I missed Sunny in her birthday.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
And I missed you in Hawaii.

Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yeah, what else has happened?

Speaker 1 (10:11):
Then you went to New York and.

Speaker 2 (10:12):
Then I went to New York? So my mom, is
it just as coold.

Speaker 1 (10:15):
In New York as it is in La?

Speaker 2 (10:16):
It was like, I feel like it was equal, if
not warmer, in New York.

Speaker 1 (10:20):
Right, No, think last week I thought so too.

Speaker 2 (10:24):
So right, basically the week that COVID shut everything down,
we were supposed to go as a family. It was
like a whole thing. We were going, I think both
my parents and then all my nephews or no, I
don't think my nephews are going, but everyone was going
to go to New York for the first time together.
And everything shut down obviously, and it just kind of
was like hard to replan. And my mom's always wanted

(10:45):
to go, and so I was like, I'm determined to
make this.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
Happen, and I.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
Really wanted to go during this time of the year
because it's just so beautiful and you see the leaves,
and she lives in Florida, so it's like, you know, Sonny,
and she sees the you know, hot weather and human weather.
So I wanted to take her during this time. So
I was like, I need you to ask work off,
and we're going to go and we're gonna do like
all the everything that you've dreamt of seeing that you

(11:12):
want to see, We're going to do it all.

Speaker 1 (11:14):
So we went and we stayed.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
We stayed in a really cute hotel in Time Square,
which I don't know that I do that again because
it was happening o chaos, but I will say it
was very convenient to everything. Like we were able to
walk to Central Park and like we kind of walked
everywhere except for one of the days.

Speaker 1 (11:30):
And your toe was fine. No, no, no, I mean
my toe is broken. Definitely not well. I did notice
that you were wearing flat boots a lot.

Speaker 2 (11:38):
Well that's just because you're walking so much. I mean, what, yeah,
it was all the reasons I probably would have worn
flat cheese.

Speaker 3 (11:47):
Are you in pain? With every step?

Speaker 2 (11:48):
I'm not comfortable. I wouldn't say I'm not. I wouldn't
say I'm like in pain. But when I first did it,
I was limping everywhere in Hawaii, like I could barely
walk away.

Speaker 1 (11:57):
It was fun, and I saw videos everybody was like
getting bitten from mosquitos, and then I was like, I.

Speaker 2 (12:03):
Really felt bad because I was the one who was like, no,
like last time we went on this hike, we didn't
get bit. Well I don't think I get bit by mosquitos,
so I didn't get bit, but everyone else got destroyed.
So I harbored some guilt for that. Anyways, but my
mom had never been and it's been on her bucket list,
and you know, she cried when she.

Speaker 1 (12:23):
Saw the Statue of Liberty.

Speaker 2 (12:25):
She was like, I just you know, you see this
in the movies and you see it in photos, and
then you know, I'm sixty almost sixty years old, and
I finally got here, you know, and so it was
really special to get to experience that with her. We
went and saw Wicked and just amazing, like every touristy
thing you can think of. We met and it was

(12:45):
really fun because normally when I go to New York.
Now I go for like two days, yeah, for work,
and then I'm back and I don't get to like
enjoy enjoy. And it was fun to do like the
things that are so like New York.

Speaker 1 (12:57):
Yeah, so it was really cool.

Speaker 2 (12:58):
Highly recommend doing like it didn't have to be an
elaborate trip, you know, for your parents, but just you know,
doing things like that that my mom wanting to experience.

Speaker 1 (13:10):
That was really cool. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (13:11):
So yeah, now I'm back and I'm going to Disneyland today,
so my toe might never heal.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
She is booked and busy.

Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah. Well I committed to it before I knew I
broke my toe, and tickets were bought and it's Haley's
nieces first time, so gonna go. They're already down there.

Speaker 3 (13:29):
Is different Now you got to make a reservation. You
can't just go whenever you feel like it, right.

Speaker 1 (13:32):
You have to plan it.

Speaker 3 (13:33):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (13:33):
Well, and it's like it's Holidays at Disney, so it's
like even cuter right now.

Speaker 2 (13:37):
I'm very excited. And I even bought some new shoes
specifically for walking. Are they Hoka They're not, but they're Brooks,
which is like, oh, similar.

Speaker 1 (13:47):
To like a sister brother. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (13:50):
I tried the hookahs on it and my foot didn't
like it. Really Oh really yeah, maybe it's a different
style or it's.

Speaker 1 (13:56):
Funny because like I used to always work out Nike's
and I remember I went to this like store somewhere
here local Burke, and they like, do like this three
D mock up of your foot and they're like, oh
my gosh, like you need to be in these like
pediatric shoes or whatever. They look horrendous, but they say shoes. Yeah,
what did I say? Pediatric orthopedic shoes the Children's House
in children's foot seas. But they really make such a

(14:19):
big difference. And now I'm like I would only wear
them running, and I wear them to like run my
errands and bop around town. Yeah. Yeah, how's the.

Speaker 2 (14:29):
New gluten free life going?

Speaker 1 (14:31):
The g free life is? You know, it's not as
easy as I thought, Like, oh, I live in LA,
It's going to be like so easy. Everybody every place
has like gluten free options. It's not really Yeah, And
like I got sushi last night and I didn't realize
like they wash the fish and like rice vinegar which
has gluten in it, and like there's so much there's

(14:52):
they cook the rice and rice vinegar which has gluten
in it. So it's like they're just things that you
don't realize today. I don't know, I don't really know.
I'm I'm having issues and I'm having bathroom issues today.
It could be my period. It's like hard to say,
but but I'm at it, like I'm going at it.
I am like really trying to like attack this how

(15:13):
she motos. But the gluten free thing is like a
lot more challenging than I had anticipated.

Speaker 2 (15:17):
And you're right, Like we live in la you would
think this is probably the easiest city to be gluten free,
and because we have so many options and like a
lot of people have food restrictions, imagine living so like
where I grew up, if I would have been gluten intolerant,
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (15:34):
What I would have done. Yeah, And then here's the thing,
like you, and there are things obviously you can have
like salads and you know, chicken and fish and like
stuff like that. Like you, there are things that you
can't have, but it's like if you want a pizza, yeah,
you know what I mean. Like there are places that
have a lot of places have gluten free pizza. But
then there's some places who just like don't do it
or like gluten free pasta. Dominoes has gluten free pizza,
so does Fresh Brothers. Yeah, Fresh Brothers, it's so good.

(15:57):
And we actually we went to Italy and they have
like they make it with rice flour and that was sensational. Wow.

Speaker 2 (16:03):
I have some spots that Haleya seed at because of
her all her dietary restrictions. So I also do you
some like sushi places Japanese restaurants have like brown rice options.

Speaker 1 (16:13):
Yeah, yeah, we washed the fish with rice in girls. Huh,
it's not.

Speaker 2 (16:18):
This is I did see? Are you kind of cutting
out dairy or is that still dairy?

Speaker 1 (16:23):
Is still on the table at the moment, I.

Speaker 2 (16:25):
Notice there was either a shake or some ice cream.

Speaker 1 (16:28):
A lot of sugary treats are like a hard no too, huh.
Those are a lot Those are more difficult for me
to step away from. Those are your weak That's like
my kryptonite. Yeah, Like if you offered me a tub
of ice cream or any dinner option, I would choose
a tub of ice cream.

Speaker 2 (16:47):
M Yeah, that's interesting. I just I love both, Like
I really feel like I need the savory and the sweet,
and they only are good if I get to have
the other.

Speaker 1 (16:59):
Interesting.

Speaker 2 (17:00):
Yeah, yeah, what's your favorite savory when I'm sober or high?

Speaker 3 (17:05):
Good question. Let's start with sober?

Speaker 2 (17:07):
Okay, sober like pizza? Yeah, I just And the thing
with pizza for me is like, pizza is always good.
There's always there could always be a better pizza, but
pizza consistently is delicious.

Speaker 3 (17:20):
You can't go wrong. Like, just a couple of weeks ago,
because long story short, my wife's the boosters at school
said that she had to feed the whole cast of
Mama Mia, which is the high school production mam Mia.
So she brought you know, twenty Costco pizzas. There's a
bunch of leftos. Brought them home. They're delicious.

Speaker 1 (17:34):
These are great.

Speaker 3 (17:35):
It's just Costco mass produced pizza. I was happy as
can be.

Speaker 1 (17:38):
I love it. I love I love like a frozen pizza.

Speaker 3 (17:41):
Yeah, great, fantastic. Is it delivery or is it dijornal?
I don't know, I can't tell.

Speaker 1 (17:46):
All I know is it's delicious.

Speaker 2 (17:48):
Oh wow, yeah, delivery, don't know, delicious, but yeah, that
would probably be my savory.

Speaker 3 (17:56):
Anything about un and high Darita.

Speaker 2 (18:03):
I could eat an entire supersized family size bag.

Speaker 1 (18:10):
Damn.

Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yeah, that's why I'm like, if I'm trying to be
like somewhat healthy, I just have to cut out edibles
I have No I don't have, like I don't have
strong willpower in general to stay away from junk food.

Speaker 3 (18:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (18:27):
Yeah, when I take an edible.

Speaker 3 (18:30):
Goodbye, forget it, You'll go.

Speaker 2 (18:32):
I think you're going to have a stomach ache. So
I would really suggest not I go. Thank you for
the suggestion. You worry about yourself.

Speaker 1 (18:40):
You know what's so funny, Remember you were telling me
about JoJo's friend that also has HOW motives. Yeah, so
I didn't realize, like it's so common, and so many
people that follow me also have HOW she models like
I've been getting dms like crazy, and so I'm like, okay,
i'mnna start sharing a little bit more about kind of
the journey when I'm taking what I'm cutting out blah
blah blah. And so I linked up with with Catherine
and she was hot. We were talking about the like

(19:03):
no no sugar, no processed sugar and the gluten free
how that's just like those are the two things to
like no no, no, no, and it's her birthday. She
posted She's eating a buttered pop tart and I was like,
that feels like it's not the best thing for your
hashimotos and She's like, I can't right now, it's your
birthday and I just got to live my life. And
I was like, okay, I.

Speaker 2 (19:23):
Mean a butter pop dog own your birthday is like,
I know you can't.

Speaker 1 (19:26):
Not I know, yeah, I know. I'm committed to. I'm
like really committed to six months of like really seeing
if I can.

Speaker 2 (19:33):
Do you feel better? Like, have you noticed the difference yet?

Speaker 4 (19:35):
No?

Speaker 2 (19:35):
Oh? How long has it hit?

Speaker 1 (19:38):
Like a month? Oh?

Speaker 3 (19:39):
And what would have you had a buttered pop tart
right now? What would happen to you?

Speaker 1 (19:42):
I have no idea. Oh wow, probably I have no idea.
I mean you can have like hot flare ups, and
the flare ups make you just like really really fatigued
and like crash and like all that kind of stuff.
So we'll see. I haven't had a flare up, so
I don't know. But I'm committed to like six months
of this and then if things don't pan out the
way I hope, then I can maybe take medication or something.

Speaker 2 (20:02):
Oh yeah, yeah, all right, well stay tuned for the
next six months.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
Yeah. I posted about like I can't use Brita filters
anymore because they like apparently are really bad. They like
do not filter your water at all, and people were
shook to the core. I've never received more DMS in
my life about anything than the Brita filter.

Speaker 5 (20:22):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (20:23):
I could see where that would like trigger trigger somethingle
I've been using.

Speaker 1 (20:26):
A Brita filter for my whole life.

Speaker 3 (20:28):
Well, And I would also like to stand up for
tap water if I could, please, just for a moment.
There's nothing wrong with it. It's delicious, it's fine. Everything's
fine with tap water. We have this image that's been
put in our heads by the bottled water industry that
tap water is disgusting. It's not. It's fine.

Speaker 1 (20:42):
No, there's a lot of chemicals in it, that.

Speaker 3 (20:46):
Hashimotos argument, But generally speaking, it's really just fine.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
I grew up drinking water all the hose.

Speaker 6 (20:56):
I did that too. I did that too healthy as
a horse. I can withstand buttered pop tarts. You got
to build your immune system, is the thing maybe tap.

Speaker 1 (21:07):
Water is at tap water is how our.

Speaker 2 (21:11):
Immune systems get stronger and we are being told that
we have to only drink this certain very expensive type
of water. Listen, I don't make the rules here.

Speaker 1 (21:22):
No, Now you have an autoimmune disorder?

Speaker 2 (21:25):
Yeah, but that that's suspicious. Why are we having Why
are we getting these disorders?

Speaker 1 (21:31):
Like?

Speaker 2 (21:31):
Why are we having to not be specific about what
kind of water we drink? Because what's going into our food?
Why can't you go to Europe and eat bread and
cheese and not be affected by it? And then here
it's like people have to avoid it.

Speaker 1 (21:42):
I have no idea.

Speaker 2 (21:43):
It's crazy.

Speaker 1 (21:43):
It's going the wrong girl, But.

Speaker 2 (21:45):
I'm proud of you for avoiding it because we live
in a society that is not easy for people to
be healthy and is also it costs money to.

Speaker 1 (21:56):
Ye, Like, what is it fifteen ninety nine and this
new one that I bought was like eighty dollars. Is
it a new Bretta filter? No, it's a new filtration.
It's like it's the same vibe, like it's a picture
and it has like a thing. But I guess the
filter is like much stronger. Yeah, all right, stay tuned, folks.

Speaker 2 (22:14):
We're gonna take a journey and then I want to
come back. Have you watched from scratch.

Speaker 1 (22:19):
No, did you finish Love Is Blind? No? But I've
been saying a lot about it.

Speaker 2 (22:23):
But we can discuss it because I watched enough of
it that I think I can hold a conversation about it.
But first we're going to.

Speaker 1 (22:28):
Take a break. We'll be right back.

Speaker 2 (22:43):
All right, We're back. So I didn't watch Love Is Blind.

Speaker 1 (22:48):
I'm not finished yet. Oh, but I'm.

Speaker 2 (22:50):
Just been seeing stuff about the reunion. What are your
thoughts on it?

Speaker 1 (22:53):
I'm obsessed with the season.

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Who do you like? Who has lasting power?

Speaker 1 (22:57):
No? Oh, well, no, so I don't. I don't know
their names. So well, I don't know their name. So well,
there's one couple I really don't know. I know Raven
and sk and that's about it.

Speaker 3 (23:11):
Yeah, they're going to make it.

Speaker 1 (23:13):
I don't know that. I don't think they're going to
make it. She's the Plates, the Plates. Yeah, but there
is one couple that I think could make it. Were
they the first couple that? Yes, I think they have
lasting power? Out of all of them?

Speaker 2 (23:26):
Why, what about them makes you feel like they just.

Speaker 1 (23:28):
Seem genuinely compatible? You don't think so? From different worlds?

Speaker 2 (23:35):
Well, I just remember when they first saw each other.

Speaker 1 (23:40):
I was like, I did not look like, oh really
that's how I felt.

Speaker 2 (23:45):
Oh no, but maybe she maybe she's grown to all
the rest of them.

Speaker 1 (23:49):
I just feel like are having issues aside from them.

Speaker 4 (23:52):
So I too would have issues if I got paired
up with someone and then was like, oh, now we're
moving in together and I don't even know your last name.

Speaker 1 (24:03):
I know, but one of the girls, it was funny.
They were having dinner and she was like saying how
she has to like compromise on a lot in the
relationship because he like leaves the towels on the floor
and leaves his dirty laundry in the scene or not
the sink for like whatever, all these things. And I'm like,
to me, those are just like superficial things that you
can like work on and like, you know what I mean,

(24:23):
that's not like the root of issues, right, But.

Speaker 3 (24:27):
It's only going to get worse. I mean they've known
each other, what three days?

Speaker 1 (24:32):
No, I think a week It okay, it's only going to.

Speaker 3 (24:34):
Get worse from there. If TV's already doing that a
weekend when he's on his best behavior, you're in that
really exciting honeymoon kind of period. I think she's got
I think that's a red flag.

Speaker 1 (24:43):
Listen, he's already a red flag.

Speaker 2 (24:44):
I am so in love with Haley. But do I
have to tell her every time she pours something out
in the sink that she needs to rinse out the sink. Yes,
it doesn't annoy me every time.

Speaker 1 (24:56):
Yes. My favorite is Robbie like takes his like I'll
pick a his sweatpants off the floor and like the
socks are still in them. Like I'm like, how is
this even? Like do you just disrobe with like your
just take everything off all at once? I'm like, how
does this even happen? Like I take off my socks,
put them in the hamper, pants, put it in the hamper, underwear,
put it in the hamper, and it's just like he

(25:17):
like jumps out of his clothes. It's so funny.

Speaker 3 (25:22):
It's funny.

Speaker 1 (25:22):
Now, No, still annoying?

Speaker 3 (25:26):
Okay, okay, good. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (25:28):
I mean there's things where I'm just like, you know,
the Helen and I used to have this argument about
She would say that I was so messy, which I don't.
I consider myself messy, but like you're messy, I know,
but like I'm very you know away, and I just
get a lot of stuff. So it's like I constantly
am needing to like go through and purge and organize,
and but she won't take accountability that she too is messy.

(25:51):
And so I'll have my house clean, I'll take the
time to like clean put everything up, and she'll come
home and it'll be like all her stuff in the
front corner and like multiple pairs of shoes, and I'm like,
which ones are you wearing?

Speaker 1 (26:05):
Because I don't need all of them out here. Like
it's so funny because I think I am I'm like
very clean, Like my apartment looks like a museum, Like
it looks like nobody lives in it, because I am
like that big of a need for you. But even
when I, even when I was living in it, it
looked like nobody lived in it. You have to agree,

(26:26):
Like it's like my all my blankets are rolled up,
all my pillows are fluffed, like my my stuff is clean,
and I have had to unclench a lot and like
learn to compromise in many ways. And I think he's
also doing the same thing, you know what I mean,
Like he is putting like the same shoes are all
over the place. He's like starting to kind of but
it is interesting. I feel like it's been a very

(26:47):
good uh unclencher for me because I think I was
very tightly wound for a long time, and I think
it was it was good. I needed to kind of
like relax also because throwing kids in the mix, like
things are just not it's not museum, no, no.

Speaker 2 (27:02):
And like the the whole thing about being a kid
is like letting them be messy, right, you know yeah,
because like they're gonna have to clean up eventually, so
let this time be where they get to be. Obviously
have rules and boundaries, but like they can be messy.

Speaker 5 (27:16):
My favorite thing is Robbie Leaves, like the cabinet drawers,
Like every cabinet drawer is like open, Like I'm like,
isn't that hard to like just close this one and
push that one in? Like it's there's four or five
open partially open at all times. And He's like, you know,
just you never know if you're gonna need to like
go back in there, and I'm like he always tries
to justify it, and I'm.

Speaker 2 (27:37):
Like, no, just close them and then open it.

Speaker 1 (27:42):
Cabinets made it very easy to taste safe yet two
point five seconds.

Speaker 2 (27:47):
I also I'm like, I would rather her leave whatever,
like the cheat. Whatever she eats in the bowl, just
like in the sink, not pour it out. I'd rather
just be sitting there. She's gonna put it in the sink,
Just leave it in the bowl and I'll I'll cleanly
pour it down the disposal.

Speaker 1 (28:03):
You know, it is saying all the random like little
tiny things.

Speaker 2 (28:08):
But I'm saying, imagine meeting someone you don't even know
if you like them yet.

Speaker 1 (28:15):
What they're all love, Tanya, I know what they are.
They've all said I love you.

Speaker 3 (28:22):
They've all that does not you said they've known each
other a week, then you're not in love after a week,
says who says the world, that's you're not in love.

Speaker 2 (28:31):
I will say I I was definitely in something with Haley,
but I was with her. They fell in love through
a wall and then they saw each other and they're like,
hold on.

Speaker 1 (28:40):
Hold on, I don't know about this. I don't know guys.

Speaker 2 (28:45):
Okay, okay, well, well we don't have to get into that.
So one couple has lasting power.

Speaker 1 (28:52):
That's it. That's my prediction as of date.

Speaker 2 (28:55):
I'm gonna watch it because I heard the reunion's crazy
and that's a reason.

Speaker 1 (28:59):
Why I were watching too, just to get to the reunion.

Speaker 2 (29:01):
Well, I started watching the series from scratch and my
sister had told me it's devastating, so I knew it
was gonna be sad going into it.

Speaker 1 (29:11):
See, I can't do that to myself.

Speaker 2 (29:14):
I cried so hard last night that like my eyes.
I told Haley, I can't watch the next episode because
my my head hurts from crying so hard.

Speaker 1 (29:23):
I'm not gonna stary. And it's a true.

Speaker 2 (29:24):
Story, not for me, and I won't give anything away,
but I will say it's very sad and the fact
I don't know, there's something about like the story about
someone falling in love with someone and it being such
a like soul connection, and.

Speaker 1 (29:40):
Then someone dies tragedy, and you're just.

Speaker 2 (29:43):
Like, it's not fair, and it's like, obviously the story
is sad in itself, but then knowing it's someone's experience
and what they went through, it's devastating. I would say,
if you're gonna watch it, just just no, and I'm
going to make you feel good. But it's also beautiful.
It does make you feel good, Like there are parts

(30:04):
of it where you're like, wow, this is so beautiful
and it's like it's based around like yummy food and
like travel, and there's something about that that's really beautiful.

Speaker 1 (30:12):
But it's so sad.

Speaker 3 (30:13):
A lot of buzz on that show, and I was
considering it, but that puts me off.

Speaker 2 (30:16):
I must say, well, okay, it's no sadder than what
we've gone through for nineteen seasons on Gray's Anatomy.

Speaker 1 (30:23):
Let me tell you what I just watched, and it's amazing.
I cannot shut up about it. Is Black Panther Waconda Forever. Ohoh,
it was so good. I thought I was going to
be bored because it's two hours and forty minutes and
that's very long me and I was glued to the screen.
I was so obsessed with it, and like, I can't

(30:43):
shut up about it.

Speaker 2 (30:44):
Did you cry?

Speaker 1 (30:47):
I didn't cry. I cried at the end. I cried
at the end, but just like a little cry, like
a little like tear, not like sobbed. Okay, but it
was so good, Like it's so good type praise.

Speaker 3 (31:00):
Because you're not the target audience for Black Panther Wakanda Forever.

Speaker 1 (31:04):
Yeah, but she also liked.

Speaker 2 (31:07):
Sonic the Hedgehog.

Speaker 3 (31:08):
Good point.

Speaker 1 (31:09):
I forget good. Yeah, I keep you on your toes
with the with what I'm watching. Yeah, this is more
of like we were going to a movie with the boys.
So I did not pick this movie, but I was like, whatever,
it's fun, cute, I'll have a glass of wine before
And I really really loved it, like really really loved
it rave review. Yeah, like I would see it again. Wow.

Speaker 3 (31:31):
On that Rihanna song too.

Speaker 1 (31:32):
Yeah, and I did the Rihanna songs that is it's
like ends the movie and now I'm like obsessed with
the Rihanna song, like obsessed with it.

Speaker 2 (31:39):
You don't like it before?

Speaker 1 (31:40):
No?

Speaker 2 (31:40):
Why it was like slow? Oh yeah, I think people
thought she was gonna come out with the really fast song.

Speaker 4 (31:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (31:46):
Bangers can be slow.

Speaker 1 (31:47):
Though, Like, which, where's a slow banger? Give me a
slow banger? All too well? Banger, banger, it's a banger.
It's not a bank ten minute version.

Speaker 3 (31:56):
I think we have different definitions.

Speaker 1 (31:58):
Yeah, I think banger is not bang. You're not banging.
Oh you have to be. A banger is like a bop,
like a Megan Trainer made you look. Oh that's a
good one. That's a banger.

Speaker 3 (32:09):
Okay, But here's the top definition. An Urban Dictionary of
banger A super awesome song, the kind you listen to
for three hours on repeat.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
A banger all too well.

Speaker 3 (32:18):
To well as a banger by that definition, but it's
not a banger. They have to be upbeat. Does it
have to be a club banger?

Speaker 2 (32:25):
A banger, Tanya, A banger has to be upbeat?

Speaker 1 (32:28):
Yeah, A banger needs to be like a club banger. Yeah,
like they're not banging all too well.

Speaker 3 (32:33):
He needs to be banged.

Speaker 1 (32:34):
Yeah, a part of the body.

Speaker 2 (32:37):
My head bangs when it gets to that, like one
spot so casually cruel in the name of being all but.

Speaker 1 (32:44):
It's not really a bang. That's like a sway like.

Speaker 6 (32:46):
Oh no, I'm banging really, not like I'm so casually cruel.

Speaker 3 (32:52):
It's all too well. Slap related question, okay it Slapscott.

Speaker 1 (32:56):
Also what slaps could have? Would have? Should have? Yeah?
I told you about that.

Speaker 2 (33:00):
Of should have, and I know everyone did. Everyone was like,
where is this on your top? It was like I
would say, the one of the lower songs.

Speaker 1 (33:10):
It's like my number three right now. Wow, I just.

Speaker 2 (33:15):
The bridge of that song. Really it hits that slaps.

Speaker 1 (33:19):
Yeah, that's a banger.

Speaker 2 (33:21):
That's okay. I remember this part of the correct would have,
could have.

Speaker 3 (33:33):
Should have?

Speaker 1 (33:34):
Oh yeah, right, yeah, yeah that song and that's about
allegedly about John Mayer, allegedly but not Jake Jollenhall. What
are your top two still seduled? Is still number one?
And Karma's number two?

Speaker 2 (33:54):
Oh? Is that a new number two? No?

Speaker 1 (33:57):
I was always up there, and then three is to
what it should and then oh my god, and then
sweet nothing interesting.

Speaker 2 (34:08):
That might be my last one.

Speaker 1 (34:10):
I know, it's so good. It's cute.

Speaker 2 (34:14):
Yeah, I'm not like, I don't know. Yeah, I don't know,
though it could come out of its.

Speaker 1 (34:21):
Still your number one. It's up there.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
Yeah, But they've stayed pretty consistent, like Midnight Rain, I
love you know what I love is a Mastermind when
she says I I couldn't lose, checkmate, I couldn't lose.

Speaker 1 (34:37):
Yeah, I do like master That one's growing up anymore too.

Speaker 2 (34:40):
All right, great, all right, we'll do another check in
in a couple of.

Speaker 1 (34:42):
Weeks on that. It's consistently changing, honestly, I know.

Speaker 2 (34:47):
But that's what's so great about the album is that.

Speaker 1 (34:49):
Bigger than the whole Sky too is pretty up there
for me, so sad, I know.

Speaker 2 (34:53):
Especially if the Oh my gosh, don't listen to that
after you watch from scratch. Wow, I could cry just
thinking about it. We are going to take a break
and we'll be back with emails. All right, Well, we

(35:23):
just discussed that we have not all caught up on
grades except for Mark, thank you. But I did see
what was the all the news about Ellen Pompeo.

Speaker 1 (35:33):
Oh yeah, we know where her last episode is gonna
be or something.

Speaker 2 (35:36):
So she's just gone.

Speaker 1 (35:38):
She's gonna be.

Speaker 2 (35:38):
She was just gonna be like scattered in and out
of the season.

Speaker 3 (35:41):
Well, I don't know what I should say, because it
would spoil things for you.

Speaker 2 (35:45):
Does she leave with what's his name? Back to wherever
they came from?

Speaker 3 (35:48):
Well, she's not gone gone, right, Is she gone gone?

Speaker 1 (35:51):
That's what they're saying.

Speaker 3 (35:51):
Well, i'm watching the show, you're not.

Speaker 1 (35:54):
Yeah, yeah, no, These are their articles written on the interweb.

Speaker 3 (35:57):
All right, Well, she's moving to Boston to continue Alzheimer's search.
But I know that meant she was out of the show.
I assumed that I was initiating her light her role
for the next of the rest of the season. I
assume we'll check in and see how things.

Speaker 2 (36:09):
Are going but I thought there was this thing that
said that she was only going to be in nine
episodes this season or something. Okay, yeah, and she's been
in what four or five? How many have there been?

Speaker 1 (36:18):
Four?

Speaker 3 (36:19):
Not sure? Five?

Speaker 1 (36:20):
So that feels like we have limited She's really going
to be sprinkled.

Speaker 3 (36:25):
In staying behind us.

Speaker 1 (36:28):
Now that's god speedman.

Speaker 3 (36:29):
Yeah, Scottie speeds.

Speaker 1 (36:31):
So what was that whole set up for?

Speaker 3 (36:33):
Well, we'll see, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (36:34):
We'll see how this relationship. You guys are.

Speaker 3 (36:37):
Reading an article on Good Housekeeping dot com and then
you're just like taking that as gospel. Watch the show
and see how it plays out.

Speaker 2 (36:43):
I'm just saying they've been teasing this.

Speaker 1 (36:46):
Are we aren't we?

Speaker 2 (36:47):
Are we going to live? Is it going to be
a thing for like a year? Two seasons? Now?

Speaker 3 (36:51):
Maybe that's maybe it's going to pay off handsomely.

Speaker 2 (36:54):
I just missed the days where it was dear mayor forever.

Speaker 1 (36:58):
Right, like, let's commit to each other and let's go
full speed ahead.

Speaker 2 (37:01):
Even when Derek and Meredith weren't together, they still felt
like they were together, and you were just like longing
for moments of them in the elevator together.

Speaker 1 (37:09):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (37:10):
Anyways, all right, February twenty third is supposedly her last
show as a full time cast member. That she's gone
right right, right, right, right right, but that's when she
cuts back. Great, I'm all for it. I like the
new crew.

Speaker 1 (37:21):
February is going to be here before you know. Let
me just tell you, Okay, yeah, it's the end of
the year, like we're done. Twenty twenty two is no.

Speaker 4 (37:29):
Oh.

Speaker 2 (37:29):
I wanted to get y'all's opinions on this because I
have mixed feelings about like, for instance, I still have
my pumpkins on my front porch because it's still like
harvest time, right we have Thanksgiving, and like.

Speaker 1 (37:42):
Yeah, you can still have but not those like orangee
like halloweeny ones, but you can have like those weird
small ones.

Speaker 2 (37:47):
Small ones are on my front porch and that's just
because I literally have been gone since Halloween. But I
was like, oh, I'm going to keep them up through Thanksgiving.
And now I'm getting like even the packages i'm getting
are all Christmas, and I feel so rushed, and I'm like,
oh my gosh, I'm behind. But we haven't even hit Thanksgiving.
So I'm like, I love Christmas is my favorite time.

Speaker 1 (38:08):
Of the year. I love it, but I.

Speaker 2 (38:10):
Also there's something about that being that like special time,
and I feel like it feels rushed right now, like
we're and we're skipping through Thanksgiving.

Speaker 1 (38:19):
Do you feel that anyone?

Speaker 3 (38:21):
I like that me too.

Speaker 1 (38:23):
I'm like skipping through things, not skipping it. But it's
like you don't, Decker. I mean I don't. I've never
been like a Thanksgiving decoratur So to me, it's just
like making a winter wonderland or just making a winter wonderland.

Speaker 2 (38:35):
But it's fall though it's not winter yet, says who. Well,
like California.

Speaker 1 (38:43):
Once the the time changes and it's like dark at
three pm, like it's wintertime, I'm a little the parka
and throw up your Christmas trap.

Speaker 2 (38:50):
I'm all like, do what Like if you want to
leave your Christmas lights up till January, that's what I do.
Then you go for it if that brings you joy.
But I guess growing up, it was always like we
didn't even put out Christmas decorations or anything until Thanksgiving
day or like the day after.

Speaker 1 (39:05):
Yeah, times are changed now, I know, I guess.

Speaker 2 (39:08):
I'm like you know, when you have something stuck in
your head and you're just like, wait, this feels so soon.
That's how I feel. I feel like Easton's with me
on this.

Speaker 1 (39:14):
Yes, yes, we have Thanksgiving decorations at our house.

Speaker 3 (39:18):
We have a nice little scarecrow.

Speaker 1 (39:20):
Yeah, oh, scarecrow's cute. Actually, I like this time. I
want to go as long as possible, uh, because I
don't know, you just get.

Speaker 3 (39:29):
So many more seasons that way.

Speaker 1 (39:32):
That's how I feel.

Speaker 2 (39:33):
It's like we have this time of like fall and
harvest and gratitude, and then it moves into joy and
Christmas and the holidays.

Speaker 1 (39:44):
But the thing is, once Thanksgiving happens, it's like Christmas
is basically done. Like the year. No, the year is
like gone. I don't think you guys understand, Like.

Speaker 2 (39:55):
It goes so fast, but everything has gone fast.

Speaker 1 (39:59):
Summer went fast, so like why not enjoy it for longer?

Speaker 2 (40:02):
But that's what I'm saying. But I personally, I'm feeling
like rushed, and I'm like it's okay that I'm still
hot pumpkins, Like it's okay.

Speaker 1 (40:08):
Yeah, you do you there's a lot more promotion of
Christmas more. I think I want to get a real wreath, well,
like a living wreath, because I have fake ones like
I have like one like holiday one and one non
holiday one. But I think I want a real, like
smelling one.

Speaker 2 (40:27):
Oh, do you to get a real tree?

Speaker 1 (40:30):
I usually do a real tree. Okay, yeah, same, I
love a real tree. But that the thing is that
real trees don't come up till they don't sell them
to after Thanksgiving. Are you sure about that? No?

Speaker 3 (40:42):
No, I'm pretty sure that's right.

Speaker 1 (40:44):
But I'm pretty sure that. Yeah, so that limits my
make tree time. And I was thinking about doing it
this weekend.

Speaker 2 (40:51):
So well, you could get the real wreath maybe.

Speaker 1 (40:55):
I know, yeah, and then just do a fake tree
so we'll live that long.

Speaker 2 (40:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (40:59):
I think I probably lived through January.

Speaker 2 (41:01):
That's the other thing. Is like keeping a tree, if
I were to decorate now, keeping a tree alive for
almost two months is like, that's hard work. I can
barely keep a plant. I can't keep plants alive, so.

Speaker 1 (41:13):
I just put water in it.

Speaker 2 (41:14):
That's a little bit about me what I've been feeling personally.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
Wait, there was something that I was gonna say when
you brought up the Christmas stuff, and I totally forgot.

Speaker 2 (41:22):
Do you remember when Brad thought I was beca Tobin.

Speaker 3 (41:25):
That was hilarious.

Speaker 1 (41:26):
It was so funny, like it really caught me off guard.
And I know Beca Tobin well and he said Bradley Tobin.
I was like, what, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (41:35):
The video was so funny because if you heard it,
it was funny. But then seeing the video of the
confidence in his face when he said it was like
he never had a doubt that he was.

Speaker 1 (41:44):
Saying the wrong one. Yeah, And then I was like,
oh my gosh, yeah, Brad's gonna be canceled from the Scrubbers.

Speaker 2 (41:51):
No, no, because we love Beca Tobin, so it was
it was fair game then.

Speaker 1 (41:55):
Yeah. But I will say that it did.

Speaker 2 (41:58):
Seem like there's demand for Brad and we used to
have him on like regularly on the Man all I know,
we got to have that frequent guess. So I'm glad
to know he's still into being.

Speaker 1 (42:11):
Part of the podcast. Yeah, he loves the Scrubbers. He's
booked and busy. He's kind of a lot going on,
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (42:17):
I just was like, you know, maybe he's moved on
to bigger and better, but I'm glad to see he
still makes time. Yes, still takes time when we need him.

Speaker 1 (42:25):
The scrubbers really have a place in his heart. You
know that can never be replaced by anything.

Speaker 2 (42:29):
No, it really can't, No, by nothing.

Speaker 1 (42:31):
Nothing.

Speaker 2 (42:33):
Shall we get into email.

Speaker 3 (42:35):
This is from Anonymous. A little backstory. She says, my
husband and I have been having problems since the end
of September. I thought those problems were because he's been
through so much trauma with his own parents. His mom
just got remarried for these seventh time. His dad just
got divorced for the fourth time. I'd like to have
a side conversation about that in a few minutes, but
that's not why I'm emailing. I found out today from

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phone records that he received and called my my new
sister in law multiple times a day since the end
of September. When he's on the way to work, he
calls her. When he's leaving work, he calls her. She
comes over to our house numerous times to see my son. Supposedly,
he says it once a week, it's every day, and
they've been hiding it because there's no record of the

(43:17):
calls on his phone. Mind you, I've been working my
ass off to fix our marriage. It got us into
counseling two weeks ago. I'm doing my best to talk
with him, but he keeps saying, I've got nothing to say.
He does a therapist. I don't like talking to people.
Keep in mind, we're living with my parents, my brother
and her live across the street, So my questions are,
what the heck do I do? He says, all that's

(43:39):
happening is she is complaining about my family and my brother,
which I don't love. But I haven't sat down with
him yet because I honestly don't want to hear more
about it or know the full truth. How would you
go about sitting down with him? How would I handle
all of this with my brother moving forward? Would you
think it got to an emotional connection? I mean, how
can you not?

Speaker 2 (43:58):
Like?

Speaker 1 (43:59):
This is like red fly?

Speaker 2 (44:02):
Yes, all over the place, because I mean, where do
where does one Because.

Speaker 1 (44:08):
If they're both just bitching about their fa and delete it? Like,
why would bad? In general?

Speaker 2 (44:14):
It's bad, that's bad, But like and then if it wasn't,
if it was only that, like complaining about the family
or whatever, why would you hide it? Why would you
delete it off the phone?

Speaker 1 (44:26):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (44:28):
Clearly has something to hide. Clearly he knows he's in
the wrong. Here, and clearly a line has been crossed.
I'm not saying it's a physical line, but a line
has been crossed.

Speaker 1 (44:35):
It's bad. What does she do? Does she?

Speaker 2 (44:39):
It doesn't seem like he's even it seems like he's
very much like not down to have a conversation.

Speaker 3 (44:44):
I hate that he's going to therapy and just shutting
his mouth and sitting there with his arms crossed. I
mean that's awful. Yeah, you're not going to get anywhere
that way. I'm surprised he's even agreed to go.

Speaker 2 (44:53):
Well, he probably thinks that he's like, well, I'm going
to therapy.

Speaker 3 (44:56):
Yeah, you know right, the this is bad.

Speaker 2 (45:01):
Does she talk to the brother first and say like, hey,
have you noticed.

Speaker 3 (45:04):
The brother should definitely be involved in this because she's
not His wife isn't treating him well either. Whatever they're
doing together, even if it's just conversation, lines are being crossed,
So you go to the brother first.

Speaker 2 (45:18):
I just feel like I'm.

Speaker 1 (45:19):
I would try and try, and I would try and
like bug the phone somehow hear what they're saying.

Speaker 3 (45:25):
I do that? How do you do that?

Speaker 1 (45:27):
I don't know. Twenty two.

Speaker 2 (45:31):
Yeah, I don't know if that would be my first step.

Speaker 1 (45:34):
Well, clearly she's tried other steps, like she's tried talking
to him, she's tried asking him, Like, clearly now she
needs answers.

Speaker 2 (45:40):
That's why I'm saying, like I think going to the
brother and being like, hey, I've tried to talk to
my husband about this, but he won't talk. I'm wondering
if if you've noticed anything going on with.

Speaker 1 (45:51):
And then he's just say no, I haven't. I don't know.
I'm just saying it could be a dead end street.

Speaker 3 (45:57):
Yeah, and he's dumb. I mean, guys are dumb in general.
I said that many times in this show, And so
I think it's good to have the the boundaries conversation.
You got to sit down with you your husband and
make some boundaries. You talking to her about us is unacceptable.
Her talking to you about her marriage is unacceptable. You
deleting phone calls and hiding things from me is unacceptable.
And maybe you can get a place of a restart,

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but you got to be clear, and you got to
sit down with him and you got to find out
what's going on.

Speaker 2 (46:24):
I how much effort does one person put into relationship
for how long she said she's working like she's looking.

Speaker 1 (46:33):
Too, but I guess it's November two months.

Speaker 2 (46:36):
But to go to therapy, like to be putting in
that work and it just be one sided is annoying,
not fair? No, And like if he won't even open
up in a therapy session, he's gonna shut her down
in two seconds. So I think you just do what
Mark said, like you have the conversation. And if he's
not respectful to you and like gets defensive or mad,

(46:58):
then I think that very telling that he will he will.

Speaker 3 (47:02):
You control who I talk to?

Speaker 2 (47:05):
Now?

Speaker 3 (47:06):
Oh, I can't talk to people have to win everybody.
I talked to a bout you first.

Speaker 1 (47:09):
Does she talk?

Speaker 2 (47:10):
Does she have a conversation with the sister in law?

Speaker 1 (47:13):
No?

Speaker 2 (47:14):
No, No?

Speaker 3 (47:15):
Maybe I think maybe a woman like, hey, what's going
on here?

Speaker 1 (47:21):
Like it makes me feel uncomfortable?

Speaker 2 (47:23):
And you come to our home and I see that
y'all are talking all the time and he's deleting it,
like what's going on? I think I think she'd get
further with the other the sister in law than she
would with her husband.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
Maybe maybe you talk to your brother and then all
four of you have to get together.

Speaker 2 (47:38):
Maybe you have an intervention.

Speaker 1 (47:40):
Better than one offs.

Speaker 2 (47:43):
There's no way everyone's just gonna be sitting quiet. If
you bring everyone into a room together, someone's gonna break.

Speaker 1 (47:51):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (47:51):
I'm really sorry you're in this situation because beyond like,
obviously he has trauma with his parents, which seven marriages
and four divorces is I that's a lot to imagine
as a child. But that doesn't mean that he gets
to treat you bad.

Speaker 3 (48:13):
All right, it's a side note. You meet somebody, you're hinging,
You meet somebody, you find out that mom has been
married seven times, dad's been divorced four times.

Speaker 2 (48:22):
Is that a red flag for the son or daughter
of that person.

Speaker 3 (48:27):
Yeah, you're dating, You've meet somebody new highness to meet,
you having dinner, a couple of drinks, you go out
a couple of times, and you find out that mom
and dad have eleven marriages between them.

Speaker 1 (48:35):
I think it's easy to say, yes, it's a red flag.
But like if you put your person, like let's say
you put the person you're with your wife, your wife,
like you put your people in the situation, Like if
I met Robbie and he said, my mom dad's been
married seven times and whatever, Yeah, I still had that
interconnection with him, I don't think it would be a
red flag.

Speaker 2 (48:53):
Well, I just think that he I think that they
would be different people if they had that experience.

Speaker 1 (49:02):
But we don't know that. I don't know anybody.

Speaker 2 (49:04):
I would just think I would clock in my head like,
this could be.

Speaker 1 (49:09):
We could have some attachment issu attachment issues here, rightfully so,
but you know what, attachment issues are not the worst
thing in a relationship, coming from an anxious attachment expression,
coming from an ancient, ancient anxious attachment herself. Yeah, it's

(49:30):
not the worst thing in the world. You can work
through it. Yeah, but that is Yeah, I think I would.

Speaker 2 (49:38):
I think I would note it in my ya.

Speaker 3 (49:40):
I think so. I mean, none of us make it
out of childhood unscathed, but I feel like that person
we learn. We learn from what we see from our
parents always. So I think, yeah, you'd have to file
that away, that this could be an issue down the line.

Speaker 2 (49:51):
What if you were hinging and you met someone and
they had been divorced four times, but you had an
instant connection with it.

Speaker 1 (49:58):
That's different because then that's them red flag. Yeah, I
think so.

Speaker 3 (50:03):
Yeah, I think so too. But hey, this guy's mom
found love for the seventh time. I hope you.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
Know not everyone can find it more than.

Speaker 1 (50:14):
I've never been in love seven times, So get on you.

Speaker 3 (50:20):
Husband number seven didn't see the other six of the
red flag.

Speaker 2 (50:23):
No, well that makes sense to me, like a man
not seeing the red flag and that he's like, Wow,
she's a hot commodity.

Speaker 1 (50:30):
Ye left six guys for me. Yeah, we were meant
to be a big wang. That was fun. That we're
all going in that direction. Clearly not we.

Speaker 2 (50:49):
Rarely all go in that direction. I will say, you're
typically the leader of that direction.

Speaker 1 (50:54):
Proud of which we love. A pioneer. Pioneer, say a leader, trailblazer.
Trail blazer, Yeah, go where the path has not been discovered,
but where the path, where the trail is rogue.

Speaker 2 (51:09):
That's what they say. That's what they say, always saying
that it's poetic. Yeah, I think, Waltman, I think, Okay,

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what's the next few months? So specifically, Tanya, this is from.

Speaker 3 (51:40):
Winter, which, by the way, Winter is here, Dear Winter.
I hope you like your name the song anyway. Yeah,
I hope this person likes their name. I need your advice, specifically, Tanya.
I started talking to someone about a month ago, and
he still hasn't asked me on a date, even though
we talked daily. He was previously married with two boys,
and he's the best dad. We're both in our early thirties.

(52:02):
We met at church a few months ago. Our conversation
began organically. I've heard from his family, who I know
from church, that he's planning and asking me out. Well.
I know that because of his previous relationships and his kids,
he's being super cautious. But I really like him. He's
so different from the other guys i've dated. Usually I'm
not scared to shoot my shot, but I've been intentionally
letting him take the lead. How long do I wait, though?

(52:22):
Should I shoot my shot? I know dating with kids
is different, but I'm trying to figure out how different.
I don't know the rules.

Speaker 1 (52:29):
The thing is, there are no rules, and I think
what I the mistake I made when I first when
we first started dating, was like, Okay, it's been this long,
like we should be doing this by now, or like
you should be doing that, And I think that's like
those rules are out the window. It's really just like
what feels good to you and your partner in this
case you don't have a partner yet. But I think

(52:49):
like I've had to kind of lead the way a
little bit, especially in the early days, Like I had
to kind of basically say, like when we were dating
and I want to be exclusive, I was like, I'm
ready to be exclusive. If you're not, that's fine, I'm
going to date other people then. And then you know,
he came around. But I think you kind of have
to take the lead and take charge and kind of
say what you want because it's just that's where he

(53:10):
is in life, you know what I mean. It doesn't
mean it's for lack of wanting you. I think there's
just like a lot of stuff there, and I think
maybe he's like scared to take that step, and I
think you just do it for him. That's my personal opinion.

Speaker 2 (53:24):
I agree, though, I think I think taking the shot
because he probably is hesitant and scared and if he
isn't ready or it's not the right time, be like
I totally respect that, but I'm.

Speaker 1 (53:34):
Gonna, you know, move on and do my own thing.

Speaker 2 (53:36):
And I can't like, you know, that's kind of what
you did where you were like, I'm totally get it.
If you're not ready for this, but I'm I'm moving on, and.

Speaker 1 (53:45):
Yeah, I mean, like every step in the beginning, I'd say,
like the first six months of our relationship was like
he was always a little bit not behind me because
we were always on the same page and feelings, but
he was not He couldn't express them as quickly as
I did. Does that make sense? So it was always
like I said I love you first, but I know
he felt it and I knew he wasn't ready to
say it, so I just kind of like said it,

(54:06):
and I was like take your time, you know, because
there's stuff there that like we don't understand, when we
may never understand. There's all these things that come with that.
But I think that if you guys have obviously you
have a nice bond, and like that's what really matters,
and that's what's going to shine through, and that's like
what kept you know, Robbie along with me. He's like
you were just so amazing and I knew we had

(54:27):
something so special, So I just kind of I kept
at it, you know what I mean, then like kept
going through those things I needed to go through, and like,
you know, like it's just you kind of have to
know you're always going to be a little bit of
a step ahead in terms of expressing things.

Speaker 2 (54:40):
I think yeah, And I would say if you're not,
if you're not feeling impatient about it, like, if you're
willing to wait for him to get to the same place,
then express yourself and if he's not ready, maybe he'll
get there. And if you're if you're not, like, oh,
I need to go on and move move on to
date people like I think if he's on his own
time schedule because of what he's gone through, that's okay too.
I think it's okay to wait for him if you

(55:01):
have the patients and want to.

Speaker 1 (55:03):
But if you don't want to wait, just ask him out.

Speaker 3 (55:05):
Yeah, how should Hey, I got an extra ticket for
the you know, imagine Dragons show. Maybe we can go together.

Speaker 1 (55:12):
No tickets, Like, hey, let's go grab sushi.

Speaker 3 (55:16):
See. I think that's that's a bigger I don't know.
I feel like there's a more casual way to do
it that will make him let feel less threatened, to
make her feel more comfortable.

Speaker 1 (55:24):
Do you have plans this weekend? What are those plans? Oh? Like, okay,
I was gonna go hike whatever about a coffee before church.
Yeah or maybe yeah, I enjoy a warm treat before service.

Speaker 3 (55:36):
Okay, I think that would be a red flag, right.

Speaker 1 (55:40):
Warm, warm coffee, warm treaty. Maybe like cold brew though.

Speaker 2 (55:45):
You know, it's like I think if you just keep
it casual, like, hey, I would love to see you
outside of church, would you even before service? Want to
get a coffee together? It's not threatening.

Speaker 3 (55:56):
Keep it cash cash.

Speaker 1 (56:00):
That was so cool. Yeah, I played it so cool
the first three months of our relationship. It's like he
didn't even know that I wanted him.

Speaker 2 (56:07):
He had no idea, no idea, no, none of it
was new.

Speaker 1 (56:10):
He was begging for it, you know.

Speaker 2 (56:13):
He was like, Tony, you please give me a hint
that you're into me.

Speaker 1 (56:17):
Just a just a teen yeah, yeah, sliver of your
time for you. Yeah, we are this. I think he's
sounds like a good guy.

Speaker 2 (56:26):
He sounds like a good guy.

Speaker 1 (56:29):
Well that's it. Wow, that'll be it for today. It's
time for you to kick up your heels and head
to dissit them.

Speaker 2 (56:36):
Oh my gosh, I'm going to Disney.

Speaker 1 (56:40):
I'm recording my audiobook this week. That is so exciting,
I know, and I'm going to like a recording I'm
so I can't wait to hear about this because I'm
always so fascinated because we mean two studio sessions booked
four thirty to eleven PM. No, sorry, three two sessions

(57:01):
or four thirty to eleven PM. Raquel's taking the later
shifts because Mama goes to bed. Oh okay, okay, and
then nine thirty am to four pm.

Speaker 2 (57:10):
But like you have to read it with the cadence
you want it to be hurt.

Speaker 1 (57:14):
I mean that is I'm interested to hear about that.
I know, are you gonna add lib any, like add
stuff that's not in the book? I think probably a
little bit. I'm sure I will. But also, like some
of the book is like workbookie, where we like left
people to like fill in the blanks, you know, like
I may not have blank, but I'm grateful that I
have blank, and so I have to fill those in.

(57:35):
So I was doing that for the weekend, just like
filling in my own I was like, well, this.

Speaker 3 (57:38):
Most bonus content for the audiobook. That's always appealing, right
right right?

Speaker 1 (57:44):
Wow, Yeah, that's very exciting.

Speaker 2 (57:46):
I'm excited to hear, like if it's hard, because just
thinking about how like when we read things or like
you know, if something has to be read verbatim, and
how sometimes it can take a minute to get it
the right cadence or the right.

Speaker 1 (57:58):
I think I want to do it like Peppy, like
I wanted to be like the chill.

Speaker 2 (58:05):
Oh not like this?

Speaker 1 (58:07):
Do what should it be like this?

Speaker 2 (58:08):
I think you want it to be you like how
you would have a conversation because I don't think you
want to like I just my brain just went to
when you do trying your new walk? You know, walk
was just you.

Speaker 1 (58:21):
It was like casual, it was effortless.

Speaker 2 (58:23):
But then your other walk felt very forced.

Speaker 1 (58:28):
That was a good walk. I might bring that back
in twenty three.

Speaker 2 (58:32):
Yeah, but we never saw it in its natural form,
and I felt very forced.

Speaker 1 (58:37):
Yes, yeah, you know what, that's a great I'm not
gonna have a new walk in the new year. I
pick my word because I'm really torn between two words.
You do have some time? Two are They're very different paths.

Speaker 2 (58:52):
So that's why I'm like, and you not have two words?

Speaker 1 (58:55):
No, because they're very different words. They don't like go
together like all in you know, it's like two words,
but it's like one sentiment. They're very different paths. And
I don't know which path I want to take in
twenty three, so I'm really just waiting.

Speaker 2 (59:07):
So you're gonna you have to decide between two words,
A new walk, gluten free lifestyle. Like, there's a lot
of commitment you've taken on.

Speaker 1 (59:15):
It's a lot.

Speaker 2 (59:17):
We also had a photo shoot right before I left
for Hawaii.

Speaker 1 (59:20):
Yeah, when are we going to reveal that?

Speaker 2 (59:22):
I don't know, are we even a lot to talk?
The Hanna said, tease what it is, but I don't
know what that means.

Speaker 1 (59:27):
She has a renaissance of sorts.

Speaker 2 (59:29):
Yeah, obviously, and I think we agreed on a few
of the photos we liked together.

Speaker 1 (59:34):
So that was an unexpected moment.

Speaker 3 (59:38):
Yeah, the ones I saw were really great.

Speaker 2 (59:39):
Thank you, thank you very much.

Speaker 1 (59:41):
The renaissance of sorts, we'll reveal.

Speaker 5 (59:45):
Scrubbisance, but yeah, a stategical procedure.

Speaker 1 (59:50):
M from the inside out. Oh a new face.

Speaker 2 (59:56):
Yeah that's good. I like a new face plastic.

Speaker 1 (01:00:03):
Not quite yeah, but you know what we were trying
to say.

Speaker 2 (01:00:06):
It's like in whatever season that was when Alex Krareb
fell in love with the fairy patient.

Speaker 1 (01:00:13):
No, does that mean the way to birth?

Speaker 3 (01:00:15):
No? Yeah, in the in the uterus.

Speaker 2 (01:00:17):
Yeah, so she was not in utero and neither was he,
but she was injured and couldn't be recognized, so they
basically reconstructed her face.

Speaker 3 (01:00:27):
That was great, good.

Speaker 2 (01:00:29):
But anyways, that's what we did with scribing him.

Speaker 1 (01:00:31):
Yeah, so I don't know when that I'll be ready.
Actually do we know. I don't think we know. We
don't know, but I promise when we know, you'll know,
you'll know. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:00:40):
And on that note, I have to go see the
you know, Mickey and the gang and walk a lot
on my broken toes.

Speaker 1 (01:00:46):
And Nicky and the gang. Well, it was a pleasure.

Speaker 2 (01:00:48):
It was such a pleasure being back in the stewed
with y'all and a stude in the stew in the stude.

Speaker 3 (01:00:54):
Yeah, yeah, let's have it down.

Speaker 2 (01:00:57):
So well, I said stewed, but then I it's probably Stu.

Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
Yeah really stud.

Speaker 3 (01:01:05):
Kind of like Stude.

Speaker 1 (01:01:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:01:06):
I think I'm team.

Speaker 2 (01:01:07):
Stud Okay, team It's been fun being back in the
stude with you guys.

Speaker 1 (01:01:11):
And uh, we'll see you next stage later.

Speaker 2 (01:01:17):
Yeah, we always go.

Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
Longer in the studio. This was like an hour and
a half, right, all right, Well we were all excited,
but we'll be back next week, so