I Quit with Mark L. Walberg

Aloha! We’re live from our auxiliary O.R. in Hawaii, straight from the set of Temptation Island! We sit down with the host, Mark L. Walberg, and he shares some MIND BLOWING advice he gave Tanya. 

Becca is currently obsessed with Temptation Island, and Mark helps her understand why on Earth anyone would want to go on the show. 

Plus, we play a spicy round of “Truth or Drink”, and both Becca and Tanya reveal secrets they’ve never shared before.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Scrubbing in with Decatilli and Tan your Bad I Heart
Radio and People's Choice Award winning podcast Wow Eastern that
was special. That was so good. I would also like
to say that Easton and his lovely wife Allison decorated

(00:24):
our little table where we're doing our podcasts. There's chocolate Macadamion.
It wasn't chocolate Macadamians, chocolate chocolate covered Macadamians, lays a
pineapple wine. We've got it all. Yeah, truly, because we're
in Howai or ger Muda. Did you see that Tommy

(00:48):
was singing, you know, uh, Bahama, come on pretty, but
you didn't sing one word right, no one? And I
was stick sobers four o'clock sober. And we were not
going to any of those islands because we're why. I
don't know why. I have no idea how that came
to my mind. Yeah, the people really, I mean we

(01:10):
got I got a big response from that video Germuda.
So we're in Jermuda also known as Maui on the
set of Temptation Island, Becca's Latest Obsession. Okay, So I
found out we were coming here, and I thought I'm
gonna watch an episode or two and then get the concept,
so I know what I'm singing or what I'm talking about.
Binge the whole season. It's a new guilty pleasure. I

(01:34):
watched everyone about it. I do want to watch it,
just because she's so obsessed. And then we went on
this like pineapple tour today with a lot of other
press people and they were all just as obsessed with Becca.
So I was like, Okay, this show is worth a binge.
It was really fun. And then we got to meet
some of the new cast members. I can't say anything
more than that, except that one of the girls was like,
you have some advice because you were on reality TV

(01:56):
and I was like, no, this is very different than
what I did. This show. They're canncept Yeah, but anyways, um,
it's something we have. The host of the show, he's
going to be on later on in this podcast, which
I'm very thrilled about because I had an epiphany with
him today at the Pineapple Farm and I feel as

(02:18):
though I have a connection to him for the rest
of my life. Like he really said something that made
me go, oh, that's it. That is flipping. Well, can
we go into what what started you even having these
meeting Eureka moment. So I was went on a few

(02:40):
dates with Mr D and he ended up canceling like
our last date because he long story short, had client
stuff and it was totally fine. I didn't think he
was lying to me, Like I was really chill about it.
And he's like, can we go out next week when
I get back? And I said, yeah, sounds good. I
might be going to Hawaii on Thursday, So how about Wednesday?
Wednesday's great, you know whatever, So I put on my coundar.

(03:02):
I put everything in my coundar. When isn't I date
with Mr D? What do you do to prepare? So
here's the thing. The weekend goes by, and like I
didn't hear from him really like or like a couple
yeys ago, but I don't hear from him. He sends
me a photo. It's a weird it's like a random photo.
I didn't really say anything to it because I didn't
warrant a response. So I'm like, I haven't talked to
him in a while. So I made a spray tan

(03:24):
appointment for Wednesday night and then Mark Mark is not
here Marcus Son's Hawaii. But Mark said, Tanya, you know
you doing that is like putting into the world that
he's not going to call you when like, you're not
gonna go on this date. And I said, you know what,
you know what, Mark, You're right. So guess what Tanya did.

(03:44):
She moved her spray tan, moved my spray tan. I
could not. So I was the day before I was
supposed to get a wax Brazilian wax because we were
coming to Hawaii. Okay, I called to make my appointment earlier.
They cannot fit me in. So I was like, I
can't go to whole Why with the hairy badge? I
say that sure. So I proceed to pluck tweets tweets

(04:10):
my bikini line so that every hair, every hair along.
I didn't do a great job, as I showed back
up so s se today. I was like, Okay, I
don't know how many you actually did, but you didn't.
It wasn't a clean job. You know. It was a
lot more labor intensive than I actually had anticipated. Because

(04:31):
plucking like your random stray eyebrows is one thing. Plucking
your entire bikini line is another. It makes me shiver, yeah,
and painful. I am like going on the record saying
I do not recommend anybody do this. However, I was
committed to getting my spray tan the day before so
that I could be free Wednesday night, So I went

(04:53):
through something. I went through some things, texting Becca during
the whole thing, being like I'm gonna time myself and
like see how long this takes and like maybe in
a game, like because you're wondering of our riveting text conversation.
So um, all this goes down and then Wednesday comes

(05:14):
and just crickets and even Mark was like, you know what,
let's give him till three three pm and then that's
when we cut it off and walk away. Three pm
comes and goes nothing. So by like five six pm
that night, I'm gonna spiral. And I have to say
this as like a woman, that is I'm very confident
and I'm very happy and I'm in a good place

(05:36):
in life. It rocked me. I was not well Wednesday night,
Like not in a good spot because you would tweezed
for this five So yeah, yeah, like truly, I'm like,
I plucked my bikini line to be free tonight and

(05:58):
I'm sitting here drinking sock by myself hair frashly spray
tand with no date on my couch. So it really like,
and I say jokingly now, but I was like not
in a good spot. So um, and I actually really

(06:21):
have a lot. I have more empathy now for people
that say they got ghosted and things like that because
I thought I was like good and that really took
me down. So now I'm just like, I couldn't imagine
if I was not in a good spot and that
happened to me. It's just not good. So anyways, Um,
I've been kind of like reeling from that. And what

(06:44):
do I do When I meet Mark Wahlberg. She starts
asking about his son. Hey seven, good looking pilot army,
great fami Navy, great family, Orange County, right, And then
he told me this and I'll save it for when

(07:06):
he comes because it is. It was a Eureka moment
and I will never And basically my new thing is
I quit, and you guys will find out why keep listening.
So I'm no longer pursuing. I'm deleting every app and
I'm just living. Don't try and set me up with

(07:26):
someone because I quit. Um, you want to set you
up with someone? No, I think I think the thing
that you quit is asking to be set up. I
think if someone brings that to you, you don't, that's
not your quitting. He has to earn it, right, he
does have to earn it, but by asking you out
that correct. Yeah. I don't need people setting me up. No, No,

(07:48):
you can be set up, don't. You're not asking everyone? Yeah,
we need maybe we need to tidy this. I don't.
She's sitting with tweezed Bikini lives right. Danya's had wine.
This is our first time we've ever drink on the podcast,

(08:10):
because we're normally doing it like in the late morning,
and I have the I have the microphone on my belly. Anyone.
She's comfortable though, I'm very comfortable. Um so, yeah, we
we got to Hawaii. Tanya wore sandals that literally she
has gaping wounds in and as we're walking, this is

(08:32):
like the middle of the day yesterday, we've been at
the beach. We're walking to go to the set, She's like, oh, yeah,
I might need a band aid. My my shoes are
starting to give me a blister. And I'm like, what
it's like, no skin there. I'm like, it is not
starting to give you a blister. You might have an infection.

(08:54):
So she has them bandage, but she's been limping around
every It's so good. We got in a fight yet
last night, Yeah we did. Yeah, but we resolved it
this morning, but I did. I let her sleep on
it because it felt like a little of a reactive

(09:15):
fight and I was like exhausted, and I was like,
she wants to talk about it, let her call me.
And she never called me. Yeah, because I was too tired.
I was. I asked, we have been together all day.
I came up to the room because we we were
actually going to record the podcast last night, and um,

(09:38):
I was like, I'm going to get ready for it
and I had to go to the restroom and I
haven't been able to go since we got here, So
I was like, can you leave while I go to
the restroom and then come back down. We'll have dinner
together in my room. That upset her that I asked
her to leave me for a few moments. But what
I explained to Becca is it wasn't just that action.

(09:59):
I think it was like all day and like she
always kind of jokes like, oh, like TNA is so annoying,
Like I don't, I don't. I actually rarely, I don't
think I've ever said you're annoying. I'm very careful about
that because I think that's mean. But I do joke
a lot about you needing a lot of attention, which
you also admit. But I think I took it too
far in the sensitive state that you're in. Yeah, I

(10:21):
think it all stems from my, um, vulnerable state that
I have been in this week. So I was just like,
my best friend doesn't even want to hang out with
me like this, This just the pits, like I have
hit rock bottom. So it really went bad. Yeah, so
we we we fixed it and everything's great. Um, And

(10:42):
so yeah, I felt like today was a great day.
We walked the Pineapple field, got to see meet the couples,
and then we're gonna we're gonna get to talk to Mark.
But something I feel like a lot of you are
very excited about is the game that we're playing later
on the Oh. Yeah, there's some good questions there. I'm
nervous because we don't know the questions. We have shots

(11:03):
of Rum Malibu Rum because we're classy. I just didn't
think I could take shots of anything, multiple shots of
anything else. Hopefully I'm not going to have to take
shots but just in case. Yeah, I mean I think
the impetus impetus, that's correct. Wow, Tanya is smart, smart girl.

(11:24):
The impetus is for us not to drink, but to be,
but to open up a bit more, right, Yeah, I
just don't know if there's any question that Tanya won't
open up about. I feel at a disadvantage here. Here's
the thing. We're going to these questions. And yes, a
lot of the times we're Mark and I were working
on these and there's a lot of questions. We're like, oh,

(11:46):
ta is no problem answering this, but I'm excited for
that answer. So that's why, Like, we have some that
you probably won't want to answer. We're just you know, surprising,
but we found some. We found something. But but the
other ones, I'm like, she she will answer this and
the answer will be a lot of fun. Okay, good,
that's fun. Okay, great, great. So that's the impetus of

(12:07):
the game is to to share. Is the thing you're
pronouncing correctly? Don't think you're using it correctly? Oh oh shoot,
what's the word I'm looking for? The meaning of the game.
I mean, I think the goal of the goal. The
goal is a good word. Yeah, the the impetus means

(12:27):
what inspired it? Right? Which catalyst? I'm looking at Alison
who has a has a literature degree. This is pretty
legit though, Like where does it? Like Becca's room at
the hotel? Like this is pretty chill. I'm like vibing this. Yeah,

(12:48):
we're vibing it. Maybe we should just do all of
our podcasts here from now on. We'll try. I heard
on board with that. We're gonna wake up tomorrow. We're
gonna get some waves, body, sir, Okay, the waves in
front of our hotel are the biggest ways I've ever
seen in my own life. And um, Easton and Alison

(13:08):
saw someone almost drowned today. Yeah, it was nuts. We
were out there in the ocean bobbing around and then
all of a sudden, everyone starts running out of water
and this guy screams everyone out of the water. So
we think there's a shark or something out there, so,
you know, and we're we'd try to make our way
in at that point. It takes several minutes when you're
far out there, so uh. And we saw this saw

(13:29):
this guy laying down and everyone crowding around him, and
someone was giving him CPR and I think he was okay,
but a very close call and really scary. Yeah, the
waves here on the north shore of Mau we are
no joke. Well, we were watching I rarely get in
the water because I'm so scared of sharks, and and
I just because of my e T I s yeah,

(13:51):
has to have a dry, slim suited all times, all
times for her freshly tweezed batch situation down there, it's
very high made um. But we were watching people just
get like slammed. And I will admit I'm the type

(14:11):
of person when someone falls, like my initial reaction is
to laugh, but I started to actually feel genuine concerned
because people were I felt getting injured out there. My
initial reaction is like, that is gnarly, and I do
not want to be any part of that. But you
want to go, you want to go serve somewhere. Yeah,
but I'm hoping that they're like not as intense as

(14:32):
they were today. I think that's just how it is ocurate. Well,
you'd be out there. You told me you were a
professional surfer one shreds and are I used to Yeah,
I used to be good, but yeah, yeah, longboard shortboard,
like yeah, can you picture Tania on a longboard like
with like in the squat position, like do as the

(14:55):
locals do. Well, yeah, it's funny. I don't picture it.
But interesting fact, toyed about you. I wish that while
we were here we would have done a surfing lesson
like they did on Temptation Island, because I feel like
you would have really thrived. I would have. I've served
once I got up the first time. But it's I
did what I needed to do, and I've done. I
don't ever need to do it again. Okay, Well, speaking

(15:17):
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(16:50):
have a very special guest in the hotel room right now.
We have the Mark Wahlberg of Temptation Island, my new
favorite show in the building. Thank you I love that
you call me the Mark Walberg when I'm just a
Mark Walberg. But I'll take your you have now become
the Mark Wallberger. Me um. I started watching I binge

(17:13):
Temptation Island this past week, so I felt like I
knew you before I got to meet you, and now
you're even better than I thought. Thank you. Well, yesterday
on the beach when we're shooting, somebody came off of
another boat and they're like, oh my god, are you
shooting Temptation Island to one of our crew and we're
like yeah. He says, oh, that's the show with Mark Walberg,
not not the short one, And that to me was
like the greatest thing. That's who I am. Now that's

(17:36):
my designator. So maybe your interest should be we're with
the tall Mark Wallberg. So people are really sure respect
and we are all drinking. This is our first podcast
that we've ever done with alcohol, because we are normally
in studio at like ten forty five in the morning.
I understand. I'm just like, that's the reason. It's not

(17:56):
that you needed to kind of drink it up to
handle me. No, no, but really excited. So this is great.
We already drink a little bit today because we were
at the pineapple farms and we had some pineapple infused
was pineapple infused vodka. Yeah, I'm so glad you're telling
the listeners are not me because I was there with
you them that we already drink some today had pineapple vodka,

(18:21):
and we might have had some pineapple blended whiskey, might
have had some pineapple rum, and we had the other
one that tasted like Coco puffs and the other one
that tastes like pog for your listeners. That's Passion Food
orange and guapa. It was delicious, So it was a
good thing they cut us off when they did Okay
before because I know Becca has like a Bazilian temptation

(18:44):
island questions. So before we get into that, I would
like to share a sidebar conversation that we had earlier,
if you feel comfortable. I thought we were in the
safety zone, but you're welcome to share. No, because this
was like Rebecca can attest this. This was like a
eurek A moment for me. No, I'm not I'm not
even kidding you because and I'm very open on the

(19:05):
podcast about everything that's going okay life, So every like
everybody that is not for me. Yeah, yeah, no, no, no,
I'm like, no holds bar um. And I've been having
ever since Wednesday, I've been feeling like really really really
low and God goes with this guy. It's just been
like one bad guy. She got ghosted by this guy,
is what she said. I got ghosted by that guy

(19:30):
Mr D. By the way, that's a good hook for
a song. So m But now I have realized, um,
because of something that you told me, that you had
the exact same experience in terms of like career. I'm
just saying your experience is not unlike all of us
and experiences we have when we don't get what we

(19:50):
think we want, and why is it always the same
thing that is not happening. The thing we want gets
further way and not closer. But the way that you
put it, I can you used to use the analogy
of the like light switch, because that really like But
for your listeners, I was a little drunk, so let's
just try this. But you know, truthfully, I mean, I'm
here and joking and all that, but on the real tip,

(20:12):
as your children would say, UM, my experience that I
went through applies to relationship and everything else, and it
was simply this, you know, I found in my life.
There was a point where, you know, in show business
you never know where you're next paychecks coming, and I'm
I'm a dad with a wife and two kids, so
like feeding the family is always this grind of a
thought and a worry in my mind all day long.

(20:33):
And there was a point where, you know, you know,
our careers, there's great moments and then there's these long
stretches of horrible And at one point, I'm like, you know,
I worry about this every day. So I decide, now
I just for the sake of my life and my
marriage and my kids, I quit. I choose to quit
that worry thing. And let's rather than spending my whole

(20:54):
day going I want more television show business paychecks, I say,
guess what, I quit it. I'm done, and let's let's
just take that off the table. As soon as I
did that, two weeks later, I'm hired back. This is
the craziness A show I did eighteen years ago when
I was really young. I get hired back to host

(21:16):
a reboot of a show like twenty years later, and
it makes no sense. And so what I was saying
to you, is the light switches were when you're younger.
Wherever we are, there's all these things we want. Let's
say that's on the right panel of light switches, like
all these switches and all the things we fear and
we don't want, or on the left time. And so
what we're kind of doing is like we're turning on

(21:38):
the switch of of money and and and relationship and
health and happiness and and um travel and home and
but we'll get two of them on and three I'll
switch back off. And you can't figure out how why
would they won't stay on right? And what I was
saying is that's a lot of work. And so I
came to imagine a whole wall of switches, and on

(21:58):
the top is a big switch, and on the other
side there's a big switch. And on the left, the
big switch says fear, and the right one says bliss.
And you can switch all the other ones all you want,
and they're gonna come on and off and on and off.
And if you can just switch the bliss switch and
stay there, the rest of the switches will stay on
for a while and you don't have to make the plan.
It's like a a macro look like zoom out, don't
try to fix any of it, don't make any plan,

(22:19):
and just be Find what it is that makes you
happy and go there. Every time you're not, find the
sentence you say over and over again that sabotages you.
For me, it was like, I'm never gonna work again.
I can't you know, there's not enough for this, there's
not enough for that, I'm not good enough. Or it's
like I can never get a man, I can never
get the right boyfriend, they never hang out. Even more
specific because we don't go that big. We go into

(22:40):
specifics and find that trigger sentence and then write a
sentence that's not even true for you that you're going
to replace. So for me, any time a thought came up,
I said, I have plenty of money for everything I want.
So every time it's like somebody calls and says, you know,
you gotta buy this three thing, but your credit on
this is doing and you can't do this, And I'd say,

(23:01):
I have plenty of money for everything I want, and
I'm lying to myself, I thought, but that became and
oh there's any You have to have an action, So
you say that and then go move yourself physically to
something that brings you joy. For me to help me,
and I'm not gonna be I'm going from like almost
cool to complete nerd. But for me, I grow a

(23:21):
big vegetable garden and I have chickens and I like
to build stuff. So for me, when I'm in my head,
if I go get some wood and build something, or
I dig dirt or move something around, or I hang
out with my chickens, I feel better. And I decided
I'm not playing with any of the rest of the stuff.
I'm gonna do that, and you figure it out, and
you know, I could go deeper. But two weeks later,

(23:43):
I have plenty of money for everything I want and
I'm living a really really happy life and all that's
really really good. So what my wife has taught me
is that the things you want, the more you want it,
the more you want it, the further way it goes.
It's like mercury. You try to grab it and pushes
away right and as soon as you don't want it
and you're like, I got everything I need and everything
I want, then everything comes they wanted. It wants to

(24:04):
come to you. And literally what I feel like I've been.
I've been like in this hamster wheel of like just
like going through like I'm going on to flipping through
the dating apps, asking every person that I meet to
set me up with somebody, like truly, it's like literally
And then I said, nothing about you was broken. There's
nothing lacking in you that you need to change to

(24:27):
make that fictitious dude come and stay that the guy
who goes to you. Maybe I shouldn't have talked about work.
Maybe I should have stayed out past ten o'clock because
I gotta get up at four. But that doesn't work
for relationships. So I can make these compromises because there
must be something I'm doing to create this ghosting. And
I kind of was trying to tell you to have
the swagger of that's all BS, and everything about you

(24:50):
is empowered and gorgeous and healthy and working and in
this great job with all this stuff. And he's lucky
if he gets a cheap as to go out with
you and then ghost you. And if he ghost you,
he's the loser, making room for whoever gets to be
whoever gets to be that dude that maybe you get
the ghost if you're not feel enjoy I mean, it's

(25:13):
just so good. Antonia was just grinning. Her eyes were wide.
It was like a new light headed. It literally was
like a new light. She was like, did you hear this?
My new hashtag is I quit quit Like I'm done.
I'm done, Like no more, like, do not ask me
if I've gone on any dates, do not ask me
if if if you can set me up with a

(25:34):
friend past like I am I'm done, Like I'm taking
a beat and like really just being me. Well, people
when they see the new hashtag, they'll have to listen
to this podcast to understand, so they don't think you're
like quitting everything. I'm not called. It's a natural thing
to let other people define who we are, right, That's
what we do all the time. It's like if somebody

(25:55):
tweets something awesome about like on Temptation. And when the
show came out, there was a regression of the of
Twitter for me because I did the show back in
UM two thousand one. I think it was right and
it was huge. And then it's eighteen years later and
now I'm hosting it again and so the tweets I'm
getting in the beginning are, what is this ridiculous trashy

(26:16):
show and who is this? This is a quote this
Walmart knockoff of Chris Harrison. He's stealing Chris Harrison's act. Now,
what I could have done is because I wanted something.
I could have said that's not true. I was there
before him and he's stilling. But instead I'm like, listen,
if there's an act of steal, I'm stealing Chris's because
he's awesome, right, because I don't care. That's not going

(26:38):
to define me. My definition of me is my wife
and kids and my chickens on my garden. I don't
I quit totally quickit right, And so, by the way,
that's much better than the switches. I'm gonna go with
the eye quick um. But then as it went on,
the more I sort of stood in that the whole
language changed to wow, this show is really about emotional
intelligence and and Walbert you know, you know, they thought

(27:01):
they were going to go home together, but Walbart should
hold my beer, and you know, you like, so it
became a whole different trip, none of which I created.
I just surrendered and let it happen. Right, It's like
so good, Like truly, I'll probably be like talking about
you in six months from now. Oh yeah, she does.
She's like, thank you. But my hope is that you're
so busy with all this new love and stuff in

(27:22):
your life is so huge that you don't have time
to remember who I was. And you taught me a
Chris Harrison knockoff. It's all good chance because literally, Chelsea
Handler told me something like my second week on the job.
She's so smart. I still talk about it till this day.
So like, you just I have the same like kind
of like euphoric moment with you, so like we will
touch base to hear that, because I really, I really

(27:43):
had a great time hanging out with you guys. And
and even though we were hanging out of the bar,
I literally said like, we're gonna go deeper. Are we
cool with this? Because I'm good with it if you're
good And um, you know, I was like over there
doing shots of Coco Puff vodka and they're having a
heart to heart. I was like, I need to get
in on what's going on here. It was a little
bit of that drunk I love you man moment. We

(28:04):
might have chest bumped after it was over. I don't know.
There were high fives. We didn't high fives. I remember
that throwing up the rock. I don't know that didn't happen.
I would never remember that. Um, sorry to switch gears,
but there's something which important for me to talk about.
Talk about that temptation Island bring it so becas obsessed. Okay,

(28:27):
I'm flattered by I The only reality show I have
watched was The Bachelor, and even before I was on
the Bachelor, I didn't watch The Bachelor, so that was
kind of a recent It wasn't really like your it
wasn't your bowl of cereal. Yeah, I just never you know,
all my friends were like super into it, but I never.
I never caught onto it. So when I heard we

(28:49):
were coming here, I was like, I'm gonna watch the
show and see what it's about. I thought i'd watch
a couple of episodes to get the concept. I had
the most worthless but successful day of my life where
I watched all eleven episodes. Nice. I had a lot
of emotions watching the whole understand So the new the

(29:13):
new cast has arrived on the island. You'll about to
start filming. You've started filming, do you wonder, like in
your head when you're meeting these people like what are
you doing? What have you committed to? You know, that's
a good question, and I'll answer by saying, the way
I like to approach this is and all the shows

(29:34):
that I've done in my life that I've had edged
to them, and there's been a few, but the way
I like to approach it is like, if you were
going to ask me what I do this, I'd be
like Hilton, then no, right, this is the stupidest idea.
Who in the right mind will do this? But as
the host of it for these young couples who are
in a rut and having trouble, who are choosing to
do this? If I'm not buying what I'm selling, it's

(29:59):
just fake. Now, after the show airs and air all
the smoke clears, I can see it for what it
is sometimes and kind of laugh at the drama and
it's TV and all that. But I even say to
them on camera sometimes they cut it out of the
show or off camera. I did it back in two
thousand one, I do it now. I say. Look, I
would say to them sometimes why do you think you're here?
And they'll say something like we have problems with our
relationship that we really feel like we need to work

(30:19):
out and then maybe this will be good. And I'll say, well,
that may be the reason, but probably the reason you're
here is because you have problems with your relationship and
this is gonna make your Twitter go crazy, your Instagram
is gonna get verified, and you might start this business
right and you're gonna be real famous. So I think
that's probably why you're here. But it doesn't matter because
as crazy as this right is, I don't know how

(30:41):
it happens. It becomes real really quickly, and you're gonna
find out the answers to those questions you said you
came here with. But what you don't know is all
the questions are going to change that you didn't even
know you needed to ask. So I sit back in
this is a crazy ride. I would hate anybody else
to host this because I trust me getting you through it,
and I'm afraid for somebody, like if I were a

(31:01):
guy who wringing my hand, going let's see if we
can get them to cheat. It's gross. But from my seat,
you know in August, if if she picks up my option,
it'll be all because it'll be uh thirty two years
of marriage. She could kick me out any time. Right now,
it's looking good because I brought out to mallis kind
of man, so I think I'm gonna get it to

(31:21):
But but from my seat, I say exactly that, Look,
this isn't Maybe therapy or talking to family or talking
to one another might be a healthier way to do this,
But all right, let's do this. And if you do it,
I can guarantee you, even if you resist it, you're
definitely gonna get the answers. You're gonna find out how
you feel about the other person, and then I'm gonna
help you figure out what decision to make right. So

(31:42):
for me, my stance has always been I have no judgment,
and I say this to them. I said, look, I
already like you, all of you, and I'm here as
best I can to be an advocate for whatever you
think you want to get out of this, and that's
gonna require sometimes tough love, and I'm gonna always be
straight with you. They're gonna be times where you're really
gonna hate me. But my intent is never anything but

(32:04):
you're better good whatever you want it to be, not
what I think it should be, what you wanted to be.
And that's how I go into this and I probably
take that even more serious than the contestants do, right,
because I think they come into it and they get
sucker punched, and even worse for a second season, because
first season get sucker punched because oh god, what do

(32:25):
we sign up for? Second season signed up thinking I
got this, I've seen it, let's do this, and then
they're gonna get double sucker punched. Just was saying to
Tony at dinner. I was like, this season seems even
more intense because they know what can happen. They think
they know, well they think they know, but they've seen
other you know, they've seen it happen, and they there

(32:48):
was this confidence. When we've got to meet the couples today,
there was this confidence in a lot of them and
I you almost look at him like you realize you're
going to battle tomorrow, right, but you're you're right about that.
But again, I always I think about this on other shows,
like why would anybody have gone on moment of truth
this light detective show. I did, But for some people
it's jumping off the cliff. I can't do this by myself.

(33:10):
So if I throw myself in arena, that's gonna force
me to do this in a big you know, the
rule spectacle whatever. I've already left off the bridge and
there's no way out, so that it's like they have
to do that to make it happen. I'm assuming, and
I always say to them, I don't care why you
came here. I don't I don't care why you think
it came here. All I care about is that you're

(33:30):
here now. And and as crazy as this silly, stupid
process is, it can't help but become real. So whatever front,
whatever agenda, whatever posturing you have, melts away, usually on
the beach at two in the morning while you're crying,
But it melts away and you get to think something
that you, as young people, may not have even experienced,
which is your authentic self self. So why you think

(33:53):
it's about figuring out if he'll be true or if
she will stray? The question becomes and I say this
to them, Well, unfortunately, as you share this with me,
you can't control what's happening on the other island. All
you can do is look inward. And so what it
happens is it's not about is our relationship going to
be better? But you start to remember, wait a minute,

(34:14):
what is it. I maybe my inner young person wants
what is it I really want? I think I want,
and I think I want to ring I think on
this and then all of a sudden, the person that
declared that on day one you don't even recognize. You're like,
that's not even who I am right now. And I
think the audience really saw the growth of these people

(34:34):
that at first you're like, oh, Sharry and Javan are
going to make it a night, and then by the
end of you're like, wow, that's real real, And now
I'm not so sure if it is. I don't know,
but you know what I mean. So I kind of
trust the process, as crazy as it as it is.
I can't wait for Tanya to watch the first season
so we can really go into great deep discussions about
you haven't seen it, are breaking up? Told her everything,

(34:57):
So I don't even know. So when we've on that,
we found up semi recent we were coming here, it's
like probably a week ago. Yeah, And I have like
a very um schedule gets a little shouldn't have eleven hours?
I don't, I don't have, and I think we discussed
this in our stupid earlier So I will, I will,
I do plan on watching jobs. I don't care if

(35:19):
you watch or not, but I want to because she,
like literally won't shut up about it, and I think
she you have a good, like a good taste of
what I will like as I viewer. Here's the thing.
Everybody who worked on this show, everyone from the p
A to the top of the the whole thing, came
in it with the same like sort of energy to

(35:40):
let's make this great, let's be all about it. And
I think so while I am the face of some
of it and I say things and you're like, wow,
that was cool, that's after they edit all the other
stuff out. So full team effort. But you've got a
team of a hundred fifty people here in Maui who
are dedicated for these couples to get what they want
out of it. And the couple that with and I
know this sounds ridiculous, the Maui vibe. There's a loja

(36:03):
spirit which is totally legit if you're coming here, and
that kind of adds as like other level. And I
know that sounds crazy, but when you're watching the show
you can't figure out what's going on. That's part of
it too, So enjoy it all right everyone. Temptation Island
highly recommend catching up on the first season. They're about
to start filming the second season, and I will be
talking about that NonStop once it premieres in the fall. Um,

(36:26):
thank you so much for your family, Like y'all have
just been amazing since we got here. So I hope
that's not the Rose talking. No, no, I don't. I
don't feel anything right now. I feel very sober. I
feel the same and love you and the best of
both of you. And uh, that guy comes back and
then goes to you again. I'm on it. I'll bring

(36:51):
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I am nervous about this guy. I've been I've been
like anxiously ready to get this game over with. I
mean and it's like I've just been like ready for
it to get here, not get it over with. That

(40:50):
was a wrong word, but kind of tony. When you're
an open book like you, stuff like this isn't intimidating
or daunting. When you're are private like myself, it's scary
and intimidating. But this is going to be good because
our listeners want to know more information, yeah about one thing.

(41:12):
Hopefully they'll get some answers. Maybe they will, maybe they will,
maybe I'll be drunk, maybe I'll be sober. So the
rules of this game is I'm gonna ask a question
and if you you can do the Like the Mark
Wahlberg of the show, I'm going to be the Mark
Wahlberg of this show. We're here for one thing and
one thing only, and that's to get information out of

(41:33):
you two or watch you get drunk. So either you
can answer the question, or if you choose not to answer,
you can take a shot of this very fine malbou
Caribbean rum with coconut liqueur Uh. We've arranged for ten
questions for each of you. Yeah, and we're not leaving
until each one is asking. I literally thought five math Oh, well,

(42:00):
I think some of them, I would assume are like
quick answers, right, like would you rather lose a toe
or lose an ear or something exactly exactly now. The
first question, though, is who is going to go first?
Depends on the rock paper scissors, because if you lost
your big toe it would be harmful for the balance. Yeah,
you want to rock paper scissors? I mean I'm also

(42:21):
happy to like, do you want me to go first?
Happy to want to go first? So I can be like,
there you go getting things done. Okay, Okay, here we go.
We got these from most of them from the Facebook group,
which are oil and our loveliest of loveliest of listens.
So I'm gonna give a first and last name of

(42:42):
the people who submit these questions so you can go
to them if you have a problem with it. I will.
This is from Samantha Elizabeth. This first question for you, Beckham.
If you had to choose between never seeing or talking
to Tanya again, or being handcuffed to her for the
next ten years, which one would you choose? Years? I

(43:04):
feel like it was two years when I saw the
original comments. I'm handcuffed, handcuffed to seven you never see
her again, or you never talk to her again. But
she exists. You'll hear about things she's doing. You just
can never see her talk to her. She's probably so upset.

(43:27):
This is taking me so yeah, I'm like any day before,
but like that would mean everything I do. She's like there,
so like me asking her to leave so I could
take you go to the bathroom. She's she's eyeing me
down right now. The fact that this is even a debate, Tanya,

(43:48):
that is a tough question. He's not saying you have
to be handcuffed like an inch away from me. They
could be lengthy handcuffs. Nobody said in the rule that
ncuffs are pretty standard. One side, well, we could make
them longer. Can I make the handcuffs along? I mean
I think you can, like it had we have to
be in the same home, but like, yeah, some blocks.

(44:11):
I mean it's ten years versus forever. Trying to influence
the answer. Okay, I'm choosing ten years incuff begrudgingly. It's tough.
That's a big commitment. I would choose handcuffed any day
for you. You would because but we're very different people.
You don't need space. She's angry. I mean, it would

(44:33):
be it would be rough tain years. You have to
learn a lot about yourselves and read each other in
that time. But but I guess I'd rather have that
than never talked to her again. Okay, Dania, your turn,
can't wait. Name name a celebrity you have met that
you really did not like other than Owen Hunt. I

(44:54):
love it. That was like I didn't know Hunt, you
didn't like? Yeah, I remember when you met him and
were like, when we meet, Oh, Owen? I was thinking
Owen Wilson. No remember? At thet came up a lot,
By the way, it was probably the most popular question
because you never talked bad about anyone. I don't because

(45:16):
here's the thing. When they come into like meet anybody
that I'm around, they're on their best behavior, do you
know what I mean? Like they're going to be happy,
They're gonna be nice and polite. Um. But I I
did have an experience with Busy Phillips on a carpet

(45:37):
very early on in my career that I will never forget.
Tell us more. I don't need to go into the details,
but I was treated very um, not nicely. And you
have to understand also that I'm maybe it was like
a month or two into the morning show gigs. So

(45:57):
I was really just trying to do my best job.
I didn't you know what I mean, Like I was
still pretty green and granted I probably um was overly
zealous and excited and like whatever, but I will never
forget it and are one of our producers how their
monday was there with me also and she loved her

(46:18):
And I don't know how they had the same reaction
as I did because I was on the actually like
have you know said the words? But yeah, so um
it's left him not a great taste in my mouth. Yeah,
but you know, I also have to, um, I think
everybody is allowed to have like a bad day. So

(46:38):
it's like I don't judge her, but you know, forgiveness. No.
I honestly feel like if you met her, get into
a super pleasant you, you would probably have a different
opinion about totally totally as of now, this is where
you stand. She sucked and she was rude, do you Yeah,
I didn't enjoy the experience. And yeah, I wasn't saying
she might have been having a bad day. She might

(46:58):
be have a good good day. I don't know her.
I've only had one experience and that was it and
it wasn't great. Sometimes the first impression is the only impression. Yeah, okay, Becca,
some of these are hard hitters. I'm gonna build up
to those. So here's here's uh, here's one. I didn't
enjoy answering that. By the way, I could tell her,

(47:20):
there's a lot of pain behind your eyes. Pain. Yeah, okay,
there's a couple of kiss Mary kills in here. Kiss
Mary kill Dean Anglert Wells, Adams and Ben Higgins. Oh yeah,
I've done this before. Yeah, this is an easy one. Um,
I'm going to kill I'm going to kiss Wells. I'm

(47:50):
gonna marry Ben. I'm gonna kill Dean. Sorry, love you Dean.
Yaikes are you Tanya? You have a you have a
kiss Mary kill as well? Uh? Mr d dr W
and Mr Tippler. Uh, I'm gonna marry Mr Tippler. What unexpected?

(48:16):
I'm gonna kiss Mr It's it's actually kind of touched. Okay,
you know what, Let me rethink that I'm surprised some time.

(48:40):
I know most because a lot of them are sliding
back into the picture. So I feel as though I
need to be You need a drink right now? No,
because I can answer it. Um, I'm going to is

(49:07):
actually kind of hard. Okay, I'm going to who is
off you? There's one who you know is off the table? No?
Who w Yeah? I thought that would be an instant kill.
Instant kill, however, Okay, yeah, you're probably right. I should

(49:28):
that should be an instant kill. Okay, we'll do that,
and then um we'll kiss d and Mary to Blair,
I did not think or was marriage material, but here
we are. I didn't think he was either, but here
we are sons sons things. Okay, Becca, are you currently

(49:53):
in love? Yes? Oh I was so you. I feel
like mine's in the same pain. Do would you like
to ask me? It's kind of okay, in all seriousness,
if Ryan Seacrest secretly asked you on a date and

(50:15):
no one would know, would you go on that date?
It's so hard to answer that because it would never
happen in a million do you know what I mean? Like,
it's hard to like play that out because a if
some if he ever did ask me on a date
and we went, I would tell like it would not
be like a secret, you know what I mean, Like

(50:36):
it would just be like the funniest thing ever so
I'd probably say yes, all right, but even if you
like send over like contracts to sign so dumb. No,
there's no way I couldn't keep it here, and I'd
be like, oh my gosh, that'd be like, um, like
tubs asking me on a date. It's great content. Yeah, yeah,

(50:59):
I mean it is is a content? Um? All right? Cool.
At some point we're gonna get to a question you
guys aren't gonna answer. I'm just warning you, Okay, Um, Becca,
this uh, this question is from Brooke Russell from our
Facebook group. You were a virgin when you started The Bachelor.
What is the current number of people you have slept with? Or?

(51:21):
Are you still urging? Can I have answered this? Can
I have answered this question? What does that mean? Like?
I can answer one part of it not the other.
Depends on the part. What was the second part of
the question? Well, okay, technically the question is what's the
current number of people you've slept with? I guess I

(51:43):
added these. I was trying to give you an outlook,
but I feel bad. I I have to be the
host here. You have to if you have to either
answer the number or you have to take a shot.
All right, It's not that mini. It's just there's a
reason why I don't want to oh that I know

(52:09):
it's the same person in mine. That was really hefty.
I appreciated that poor though. The first shot of the night,
who did that? Brooke Russell? Brooke Russell, I'm coming for you.
I like unintentionally shared my number ones. Yeah, that's one

(52:32):
of my favorite moments from the morning show of all time,
of all time. I know we've mentioned this podcast before,
but it was so I want my husband to be
going like my double digits or whatever. No, it was
like some some study that said, like before the age
of thirty, I can't remember something Ryan read and he

(52:54):
was like it's it's uh, the numbers. I can't remembers
ten or something. And he's like, Tanya, is that accurate?
And I was like, well kind of, and I was like, well,
I'm not at ten. I can't remember exactly how it happened.
It was something like that. It was and You're like, well,
I'm not there. And then he's like, well, is the
number higher than nine? And you're like yeah, no, I

(53:15):
was like, no, it's it's it's not higher than what
was it? It was nine? Was like but it's higher
than eight. Wow, so good. She's just not good at secrets,
which is so refreshing. It wasn't even like I was
trying to keep it a secret, but like the fact

(53:35):
that what came out of my mouth was just like
me giving my number without giving it. I was just like, cool, Okay, Tanya,
here's your question. So some means I'm I'm uncomfortable lasting it,
but I have to do it. I feel like Mark
came up with these because he knew he wouldn't have to.

(53:55):
Mark's like laughing listening. Okay, uh, name someone you have
thought about while practicing self love and that can mean
so good Mark had do right now, that is a
dad question. Practicing self love means masturbating, right yeah, Okay,

(54:19):
Well I was gonna say it's like self love like
I listen to like Oprah and like as your coworker
who is under the purview of our HR department. I
just wanted to say that definition is quite vague. Right. Um,
Let's see, maybe you can answer both Oprah for like
inward self love Oprah Davon Franklin like when I'm you know,

(54:44):
doing that type of like just enriching my mind. Um,
and if you're enriching your body, enriching my body. Who
have I thought about I'm trying to think recently. It

(55:06):
has to be a reason or just like ever, whatever
you want. Oh, I could go wherever, I could even
go to like dot w Okay, he's getting a lot
of screen time tonight, air time whatever. Okay back in
Alaska that I like, I dated, that makes sense. Let's

(55:26):
do this one. Pick one a life where you were
never on the Bachelor, or when where you never had
this podcast with Tanya. This is from Natalie Vosburg. It's
tough because I want to have this podcast with Tania
without having been on the Bachelor. Is this a hypothetical
world where I just ended up on a podcast with Tanya? Yeah, okay,

(55:48):
I guess I take that right? You were that you
were never on the Bachelor? Or yeah, okay, I think
because good answer. I felt like I ever needed to
redeem myself from the funny Okay, Tana, Um, what is
your grossest habit? Grossest? I mean it's not a habit,

(56:12):
but plucking my bikini line was pretty gross. I don't
feel like that's gross self care self care. Um, I'd
like to uh uh, what's the word um angrown hairs.
I like to pick up my angrown hairs all over
my body. Unnecessary, gross, above and beyond. For the question, Yeah,

(56:37):
well I get you get them in your bikini line?
Where else? I get them on my legs a little bit?
What else do you get them? It's pretty much it
like I can't see my armpits. I don't know. You
just want just let him go? Alright, Becka? What number
we're on? A? We're like a third of the way done.
We're about halfway. Uh, kiss Mary kill Jojo Haley and Robert?

(57:03):
Oh interesting three? Yea, interesting three. I'm gonna kiss Jojo,
I'm gonna marry I'm gonna kill Robert. That's good, solid choices.
Something I love about the kiss Mary kill, like making
it like safer work, is that like we don't have
a problem just saying we're murdering somebody, but we have

(57:25):
to kiss them and it doesn't make me laught. Okay, Tanya,
you have a kiss Mary kill as well? Uh, Ryan Seacres,
Mark Monitski, and Eastern Allen. I saw this one. I
was like, this is so good. I can't kill any

(57:46):
of you. Shot shot Okay. So here's what I would do.
I would sacrifice myself. This is okay, this is not
You don't get to weasel out of this one. Try
to weasel every time we do a kiss Mary kill?
Can I will you? Don't you take a shot? How
can I kill any of you? Guys? Kill Ryan? He's

(58:06):
not part of this podcast. I can't kill Ryan. It's
like my other half. I can't kill Easter Mark, can't
kill Eastern or kill can't kill Mark. Do you want
me to pour it? Oh? I can't sacrifice myself on us.
I can't kill any of them. I can't kill any
of you. It's not bad. I can't kill any of you.

(58:28):
That makes me happy. I was afraid for him on
the chopping block. I was looking forward to this because
I'm like, I'm gonna look her in the eye and
watch her say I would kill We were reading I
would kiss Ryan and add Mary Mark. Alright, No, I
would never. I would not kill any of you. We
were reading these on the plane and I was like,

(58:50):
could you answer this one? She was like, I might
have to take I think I'm gonna have to take
a shot for that one. I can't. Oh, I love
you all so much. I could never kill even in
like ipe that to take the full shot poured. I'm
sorry half, I poured half of mine that was in there,
and then like a drip. No you did not, Becca,
This was double the amount you took for years. No,
it's not. If you're not going to play play fair,

(59:12):
then we don't play. But then I'm gonna start pouring
years from now. I mean, that's fine, So take the
rest of that. I can't kill any of them. She's
still saying she can't kill you. There's still more you
just you just wait, Okay, we'll take the rest of
them and then I'll just wait. Wow, she still left them.

(59:37):
It's like coconut. You barely can taste them, so foul.
She would have killed you, have killed you. Name every
former Bachelor contestant you have fooled around with off camera? Oh,

(01:00:00):
what's fooled around with? Anything? More? Kissing and such, kissing, etcetera.
I know some of these two, so you better not
miss any of them. How many do you know offcamp?
That's not That's what I'm trying to figure out. A
few I know, but I'm trying to I'm asking you,
how many say I remember? Okay, well, Robert, including is three. Yeah.

(01:00:28):
M hmmm, I'm so tempted to take a shot on
this one, but I'm just gonna do it. Um Chase McNairy,
yep Ding, Robert Ding and I had a very drunken
this is a kiss with Dean. Alright, my pan picture

(01:00:51):
is coming true. This is so enlightening. All right, let's uh, oh,
I will say all of them, not that I don't
think they're amazing guys, but I was drunk for all
of them. But Robert true fact, all right? Telling you

(01:01:14):
what is what is the largest object you've ever had
in your rear end? I not coming Um what have

(01:01:36):
I had in my rear end? Um question? Maybe one
to two options? There are two options? Uh. The comparisons
going on in your head right now are m I um,

(01:02:10):
I'm so embarrassed to like even tell it. But I
have tried putting, um something up there. An eggplant, an eggplant, yes,
and I think the eggplant got maybe too like half
of an inch its way in and I freaked out

(01:02:31):
and started crying because it hurts so that so I
cannot believe you to take a shot hero embarrassed listening
to this, I'm kind of embarrassing because my mom listened.

(01:02:53):
Sorry mom, but it was with a really nice boy.
Yeah you trusted, I trusted. Yeah, I don't why. Alright, Becca,
tell us the name of the person you're currently in
a relationship with. Here we go. I've been waiting for

(01:03:13):
this moment some time. Bring the shot, and you have
to take the whole thing. Okay, but like, oh no,
it's going to be equal as to what I just did.
That is no, No, it's not much more than I poured.
But it's not let me say fair is fair? No,
it's like what I have comparing. I know I had

(01:03:35):
the visual in mind. We're almost to the end, you guys,
So is not the last one like this? Yes? Actually great.
I just was wondering if there's one. There's one more
that might be spicy. But bring it, but I think
you'll answer it, hopefully you will. All right, Beca needs

(01:03:55):
to finish hers before I go down to finish finish
before I answer mine. She made me do it and
you all witnessed it. Let's because you put yoursel on
the table. M hum, it is oh like watching you
do that actually hurt for future boyfriends. What parts of

(01:04:17):
your body are most sensitive and drives you crazy when
a partner touches it. If Mark rot that, Um, I
am very sensitive around my neck weird PG answer, Well,
I mean it's yeah, it's an Uh what is the

(01:04:39):
word phrodisiac? Yeah, that's for sure. That's Tanya's a rogin
his own. However, I have heard I have not experienced this,
but I have heard sucking on toes is very erotic.
I have not experiencing myself, but I'm very down to try.
So futured boyfriend toes telling me the impetus fetish right here?

(01:05:03):
I heard? Did you not? Have you not heard this?
I just something about the way you say things makes
everything like a little bit grosser. You know, I don't know.
Have you ever had your toe cucled? No? I hate
sucked licked. No, I'm telling you. Everybody says it's like

(01:05:25):
the best thing ever. Well, what happened to let us
know what it happens to you? Well, it won't happen
for a while because I quit, but I will once
it happens. Alright, Becca, have you ever gotten caught engaging
in sexual activity? This is from Sharon Williams on the
Facebook group Uh no, no, no, you've never been caught?

(01:05:47):
All right? Good for you. That was like a deep
sigh of relief being able to just answer that quick.
There's only one more for each of you. Oh wait, sorry,
Tanya you have you have one extra. Tanya has one extra. Um,

(01:06:08):
if you had to marry one of your ex is,
who would you choose? You have to marry them ex boyfriends? Um,
well I would say one, but he's like married to
somebody else, So I feel like that's like, well, I
mean this is messed up, right, Yeah, but you have

(01:06:30):
to do it. Yeah, I would say I dated this
guy in college. I'm pretty sure he's dating somebody now.
But we had a brief romance and it was good
and he didn't screw me over or like do you
know what I mean? Like, he didn't really cause a

(01:06:50):
lot of trauma to me, So I would open that
door again. His name is Tyler, the one that you
were like kind of like whatever about. Yeah, it was
like getting over the it was a rebound a little bit,
a little bit. Yeah, so he never did he didn't. Yeah. Well,
Like it's like if you go back to like all
my boyfriends, they all have created some sort of trauma

(01:07:10):
to me. So I feel like I want to go
to the one that's he's the safest. Yeah, I feel
like one. No, he did, but peacefully songs songs heartbreak. Yeah. Okay,
back at last question, and I'm sorry this is similar
to an earlier one, but the people want to know.

(01:07:31):
This is from Aubrey g no time here for a
year or no Phoebe for a year. The long pause
is slightly concerning. I might have to drink, and we

(01:07:53):
have to drink happy to poor one break. I can't
give up Phoebe for a year, and it's fine. I
couldn't kill Eastern Mark or Ryan. So there you go.
Drink up Buttercup. Oh my god, I'm like, I'm not

(01:08:16):
gonna feel well tomorrow. Drink up girl. It was a
simple answer. It wasn't I'd give up Phoebe. She's not
your dog. Of course you would, and she'll be okay.
I think she's gonna Dania will be okay. I actually debatable.

(01:08:41):
I think Phoebe would be more okay than Tanya would
be true. All right, last one, Tanya, you've had one shot.
Do you understand that I don't drink flavor to anything.
So the fact that we were on the pineapple farm
drinking pineapple infused rum and tequila and vodka. And now
this it's doing something to me and to my brain.

(01:09:08):
And we kind of got the best of both worlds
on this one because she did kind of answer. She
didn't answer at all. You don't want to know, you
don't you don't want to believe what you heard. I
don't want to You were in another dimension. It went
by a second for you. I'm chose phoebe drinking. M
h oh, it actually hurts No. One gave me shivers.

(01:09:33):
What's the most annoyed you've ever been with, Beccah, like
like last night. I don't think it's hard. That's a
not hard to answer. Um, I'm the most annoyed I've
ever been at you when remember that time you like
stopped talking to me for like a few days. Yeah,
but what what what prompted that I probably didn't text

(01:09:54):
you back or something like an hour? No? What was that?
I literally think it was something like I hadn't responded
to your text or something. There was something I do remember.
There was like one No, there was something where like
I cant was it the check? No, there was something

(01:10:15):
where like I needed an answer from you and I
texted you and like hours on by no response, and
I literally kept a question mark question where you know me?
And just like rapid fire, and she wasn't texting me back,
and yet she was like on Instagram posting stories and stuff,
and I was like, are you flipping kidding me? Like
I was so pissed, but I can't remember what I needed.

(01:10:37):
It was an answer, Yeah, the most annoying thing I've
ever done. Yeah, I think it's a good sign. Yeah, yeah,
I feel pretty good about that. So those are all
of our truth or their questions. Those were not bad. Yeah,
I'm actually surprised. I mean, you took so you took

(01:10:57):
one shot that it took pick three? What were they?
What did I take you about? How many people have
slept with Tanya and Phoebe and who I'm dating? Yeah,
I answered some questions that I like normally would not
speak about, but it is what it is. I mean
I did too. I just said I put a eggplant

(01:11:19):
up my ask. Um. I'm also like concerned that you
guys were like, what was number two? I know what
number two was? The enema or whatever? One are those
things like the lax that I was a singing finger. No, okay, no,

(01:11:39):
I had to put a laxative because obviously I have
pooping issues, and I had to put a laxative up
there ones and that was not enjoyable. See, I assumed
it was just matter, because that's not what you've played.
It's just it said, what's the largest object you've ever
had in your room? The other thing? The other thing
was actually larger than fecal matter, which I don't like saying.

(01:12:04):
That's okay. Dannie always guys above and beyond. That's that's
what I do. It's my nickname. Al Right, should we
answer some emails? Was that game good? Like? As a
listener alson, you do I really do? Okay? I think so.

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Just Textbecca to thirty. You're going to text and the
word is Specca. I can't feel my lips. The fact
that I was able to read sentences right then, shall

(01:14:35):
we call Mr d and see what he's up to?
There is an update with that that I will give
on our next podcast. Um, because I still like to
dive into some territory. But it's a teaser and I'm
still quitting. Oh, this is so dramatic because now I
feel like you're going to go into like a whole

(01:14:55):
extreme because you love extremes. I do. But you know
what's fun is when he said the whole like, uh,
turn on the like we're constantly turning on, turning on
these lights. I'm not skinny enough, I'm not pretty enough,
I'm not far enough in my career. I'm not uh
confident enough. I'm not you know, you're constantly flipping some
stuff on and then other things are getting turned off.

(01:15:17):
It's like this constant battle and every everybody deals with it.
I'm not making enough money. I am making I'm making
good money. I'm not losing I'm losing my friends, Like
do you know what I mean? That's this constant thing.
And it's like, if I just make sure that my
bliss that I'm just happy as I am, it's gonna
come in the way that it's supposed to, in a

(01:15:38):
different way than I would even think that. But it
could come. If someone going, I have this amazing guy
I want you to meet, would you be interesting going
out with him? Right? But it's just saying no. If
you're saying, I'm not desperately trying to make this happen
on my own exactly, I'm drunk right now. Let's do
an email for about This is from anonymous. UH. I

(01:16:02):
assume it's a she. UH twenty three years old. A
few months ago, I went through the worst thing I've
ever experienced. My boyfriend of almost nine years broke up
with me. We've been together since we were fourteen. We
grew up down the street from each other, went to
high school together. We did long distance for a few years.
In college, we ended up moving in together. We got
two cats, graduated college together. I know we were going
through something bad, but I hoped it would pass. However,

(01:16:24):
my boyfriend decided it would be best to end things.
He's about to start medical school and we're about to
sign a new year lease on our apartment, and he
felt like he had a choice to make. He told me,
this is the hardest thing he's ever had to do,
and then maybe we can get back together in the future.
If I'm being honest with you, the only thing getting
me through this is the hope we'll get back together.
I'm taking advantage of this time alone. I started counseling.
I'm trying to focus on me. I believe him when

(01:16:44):
he says he loves me and that he would love
if we worked out one day. But am I being
naive by believing that we'll get back together. I just
want to say that I'm very proud of you for
taking this time to focus on yourself. Like, getting counseling
is really brave, because a lot of people don't even
give themselves the option to do that. I feel like,

(01:17:05):
but I also don't think it's fair to him for
him to break up with you and then say, but
maybe we'll get back together, Like he's choosing to end
things because he doesn't want to be with you right now.
Whether he does come back around, you have no obligation
to wait for him to do that. Yeah, I mean
I think, uh, you can't live your life and operate

(01:17:27):
from a place of hoping you're going to get back
together with somebody. It's not a healthy place to be.
I've been there, and it's just like not a good
place to be. So I think that you need to
um be in the mindset that like, you're done and
if you are meant to be together and you happen
to get back together, then that's one thing. But I

(01:17:48):
think you can't operate from that headspace because it really
it changes the way that you act, it changes the
way that you do things. So I think just like
changing your mental state for sure. Yeah, I think it
limits you to really being able to live your life
just hoping and praying because you're closed off to other
people and other opportunities. And I just think that I
really don't think it's fair that he did that. So

(01:18:09):
if he wanted to be with you, he would be
with you. He wouldn't end it with the hope of
you'll be waiting for him when if he's ready, So
I think you move on, focus on yourself, be open
to the possibility of someone else coming along, but really
focus on being single because you've been single through some
like really crucial I mean, you've been in a relationship
through some really crucial years of your life. Yeah, I mean,

(01:18:33):
I will be very surprised if he comes, if he says, like,
now's the time, let's get back together. I don't think
that's happening. I think he's having a hard time making
that decision. That's a very hard thing to do, and
he's trying to soften it by well, you know, maybe
we can get back to you. And I think that's
really unfair of him to do that. I think it
was to make him feel better that it was like,

(01:18:53):
it was like to make him feel better that he
was ending things with you, which was a very selfish thing.
And I don't I don't think that he did it
in a way of like trying to hurt you, But
that's ultimately what he did. And I'm really sorry that
you're going through this because nine years with someone is
a very long time. Wow, this has been quite the episode. Guys.

(01:19:14):
I can't feel my lip. We've had we have a
we've had a lot this episode to drink and to
talk about. I think the title should be I quite well,
one of the questions that something like, um, what if
Gray's Anatomy ends, will this podcast in? No, that's what

(01:19:35):
I mean. Yeah, so you think we have two more
seasons locked in? Everybody, but you said the title being
I Quit. It's a good little teaser. I quit, I
can't feel my lim and Malli. Yeah, so I go
off of the time here right, Yeah, Okay, so that's

(01:19:58):
the point. Um No, it's twenty two time a day,
two thirty six, I think. Yeah, yeah,