December 9, 2022 • 39 mins
Aurora Culpo is back in the O.R. and she’s ready to spill it all!
She gets real about her divorce and how it felt to through that difficult time while filming a reality show.
Plus, Tanya reveals why she slept with a mop and Aurora explains the “Hall Pass” agreement!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing it in with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and
I Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it.
I don't know if Becca sounds different to you, but
she looks different to me. I chopped so much haird
how many inches? I have no idea, so many, so
(00:21):
many inches. I just was ready to do it, and
I just I did it. It makes me want to
do it. No, you can't do it, not right now? Yeah,
not right now? Yeah, but I do. We did talk
about I think you look so cute with short hair.
It's like it just gives you're just like cool girl.
Like it's like, who's that. That's a cool girl. You
know what's weird is that my hair short looks cuter
with hats, so I'm excited. We're like beanies and stuff
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for the winter. Cuter, yeah, hats, Like I just looked
like you always were out. I just like a mop
with no no. But I did have like a moment
as she was about to cut it. Or do you
feel like a new woman though? I do. I feel fresh.
I feel like I cut off like the year and
it's like onto the Yeah, Like do you feel like
a renaissance of sorts? Renaissance, in fact, so renaissance that
(01:05):
I ran out of gas this morning and that was
that was exciting. I don't know how you do that.
Like life just went on and I'm panic because i
still have like fifty more miles and I'm like panicked.
This was one of those like I rarely worry about
running out of gas. Today I was like it could happen,
and it did and luckily. Um, I look over as
like every car is honking at me because I'm in
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the turning lane on the busy street. And Graham Bunn,
who was like a friend of ours, it's like makes
eye contact with me in this massive truck and he's
like laughing. So he pulls over. We put my car neutral.
He pushes me over to the side of the road.
Sam Bun is a night and shining is an angel
sent from above, and he drove me to get gas.
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We caught up on life and he got me. I
was like less than a I would say, less than
half a mile from my house when I Becca just
loves grand Bun and so she called me to tell
me said story, and I said, let's have him on
the pod. Yeah, he's single. You're missing the lead I
was learning out of gas. It's such an interesting thing,
like I've never ever, ever, ever done. You're lucky you've
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never been in a position where you did that to yourself.
You just get gas. When your light goes on. Like
your light goes on, it tells you you have today
counting down the miles zero for a long time. Guys,
we cannot, we cannot. We have company right now. I
can't get into the fight. Yeah, no fight today, but
we do have a very exciting guess And last time
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she was here with her sisters. Yeah, but now she's songs,
she's solo. It is Aurora Colpo in the waiting room.
Oh r. And we'll be right back with her. I'm excited.
Why am I so kitty? It's the hoops hid my.
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I was trying to have a holiday background, but it
didn't work out. Do you have a sweater? Is? Actually
this is from a line that we did. I was
gonna say, I feel like this is your line. I
feel like I've owned that wow, remaining pieces um can
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you guys hear me on time and everything. I feel
like there's like a little bit of a drag. You
sound looks great, So from our end, great news. Okay, cool,
We're gonna do a quick intro and then we'll get
you in. Okay, all right. As we said before, we
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have a very special guest today. We have a royal
Colpa scrubbing. So happy to be here. We're so happy
to have you. We are so happy to have you.
I know, I'm like, I'm very excited about this because
last time you were on, you were with your sisters,
and we love all three of you. We love the show,
the Colpo sisters. But I feel like a kindred spirit
(04:10):
connection to you, Aurora, totally. I feel the same way.
It's like wants of those other two girls around anyway,
But I feel like I have this connection to you
on many levels. But I also feel like you're having
like a little bit of a renaissance of life right now,
Like you stopped drinking. You're doing all this like reflection
on life, and I just I don't know, I just
feel very drawn to your life era right now. Yeah.
(04:33):
I like you call it a renaissance and not like
a mental breakdown. That's very kind of you. I think
that it's kind of the same thing. Um. Yeah, I
mean there's I feel like when there's so much change
happening at once. You can go that way or that way,
and you just have to be all in and whichever
way you go. And I don't want to you know,
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I don't know. I don't want to go the wrong way,
so I really have to cut out. Yeah, I stopped drinking.
I had to cut out all of my kind of crutches,
which I found out where there was kind of there's
a lot of them. So interesting. I find it interesting
that I think I'm seeing a lot more people talk
about giving up alcohol and drinking and that like lifestyle
because too, I'm seeing it a lot more of And
(05:16):
it's like young like people in our age range, and
like young people too like that are in like just
getting into the age where they're like legal to drink,
and I feel like they're like, listen, the healthier lifestyle
just makes more sense to like what I want to
do and like the direction I see myself going. Have
you had moments like especially I feel like doing a
show and with your sisters and there's like events and NonStop.
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Have you had any moments where you're like why am
I doing this? Yes? Well that's the forgetting why you're
doing it is a real obstacle and something you kind
of have to like set up for because it's easy
to stop when you remember how bad your hangover was
last weekend, or you know, or you're to lose ten pounds.
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I don't know, but during the show I was drinking.
It's actually funny to look back because I literally have
a glass of wine like every scene and it's very
clear to me. Um. But but yeah, like especially during
Thanksgiving and everybody, like there's a lot of comments people
being like, oh, like what's one glass? You know you
weren't an alcoholic, so what's the Like, It's not like
(06:23):
it's not like one sip you're gonna go on a
bender and like leave your kids. Um. So yeah, it's
hard to remember sometimes. But what I've been doing that's
really been helping me is you're right, there is this
movement of sober curiosity, and so there's a lot of
resources now. There's a lot of podcasts that are talking
about it. One of the Andrew Human podcast is one
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that I listened to sometimes, and he talks a lot
about basically the science like what alcohol does to your body.
There's a lot of people who there's a lot of
Instagram accounts that you can follow that basically just remind you,
like what happens if you are drinking wine every single night,
which is what I was doing. I was drinking it
like one to two glasses every single night and really realized,
(07:08):
and I because I was brought up Italian, like a
glass of red wine is good for your heart. It's
like it's all of that is a myth, but but
basically the I just feel better without it, and to
say that I'll that I'll never ever drink again. But
now I know the facts that like if you have
more than two glasses a week, that's when it starts
to affect your health the wrong way. So I also
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think there there's something to giving up something that you
think you need and then realizing that you can go
without it and feel better and you don't need it,
so that when you do maybe want to reintroduce it,
there's not this like I need it. It's just like,
oh yeah, sure, like I'll have a glass and I'll
just have a glass whatever. That was like my one
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of the biggest experiments that I'm still working with is
how to do things that I would normally have drunk
with going not just going to concerts, and how to
like relearn how to have fun doing those activities without drinking.
When I was drinking, it would be like how much
am I going to drink? Like when are we going
to start drinking? Should I stop now? Like how should
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I space it out? So it's kind of freeing not
to even have to worry about all that. And when
I ended up realizing with all these events in like
fashion Week that I did with my sisters and um
Press tours, is that I'm the only one who can
still hang on some day like everyone else is burnt out,
Like I'm in it for the long games. It's so
true though, like even when I have just like a
glass of wine or two during the week, like I
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feel the next morning like I really, I genuinely do
no matter what, even if I drink a little bit,
I still feel it, but I still do it. To myself. Well,
that's like four am. It's hard. It's hard. It's hard
certain times in your life. I feel like it's harder
like when you're newly in love. I feel like it's
so hard not to get fat and just drink so much.
Please for me, that's always how it worked for me,
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um And like you, because you just want to go
out to eat, like enjoy things just makes everything feel better.
But so I almost feel like it's easier when you're
going through something hard to be like, Okay, I'm just
gonna like gear up and take away the things that
I would normally lean on, because in a way, it
allows you an opportunity to be proud of yourself. Well
you know, actually I read that like, Um, when you
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are going through like moments of life of like turmoil
or a lot of change in your life, that is
really beneficial to like do something that you can actually control,
Like that is something that you can control yourself, and
that has a lot of like mental benefits because as
you control, as you keep controlling, you start to feel
like better. Yeah, that's so funny because now that you're
mentioning that, it's like I randomly started doing keto and
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then I got really like looking into keto. I started
looking into like I'm really into intermittent fasting right now.
So I think I am kind of doing all these
control like how can I control what I have control? Yeah? Um,
and I didn't. I didn't really realize I was doing that,
But at least I'm doing it a healthy way and
not you know, yeah, at least you're putting that energy
(10:04):
into something good for you. UM, I was curious. Um,
Tony and I were talking about this before you came on,
and I was saying, we were talking about you, um
talking about your divorce and how what did you have
like anxiety or stress going into the show knowing that
that was going to be a topic and something that
like was spoken about and like having this, I mean,
(10:27):
I know you posted like you talked about on your
social media, but having it on such a huge platform,
was there like anxiety around that or were you kind
of like, this is my story and I'm I'm just
gonna put it out there. So we we filmed our
pilot in October, and I didn't actually we didn't decide
that we were getting divorced until Thanksgiving end of November.
So when the pipe picked up, this was an April
(10:49):
that we like picked up and filmed the remaining episodes,
and they were like what's changed in everybody's lives? And
I'm like, I'm not married anymore. So if you watched
some of the episodes, UM, I have a ring on
in the from like the pilot, we didn't actually end
up like airing a pilot and just took scenes right. Yeah,
So so yeah, I was It wasn't like I was
(11:11):
gonna be like, no, I don't want to film anymore
because I don't want to have to talk about this,
and so I just kind of made the commitment that
I was going to just try to portray my side
as authentically it's possible without dragging any bay through mud.
And yeah. But the thing that I really admire about
you is that, like I remember we had you on
the Morning Show and you were saying, how like there
(11:34):
there was this feeling and I think I forget how
old you were. You were like twenty five, Oh probably,
I don't even remember. You said you were twenty five
and you felt like you needed to like have the
kids and do all this stuff by like a certain age.
So you kind of, um, you maybe did things that
you didn't necessarily. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I thought you meant
when I was twenty five. On the Morning show, I
was like, really, no, no. Last week we were talking
(11:56):
about this pressure that you had when you were twenty five,
and maybe you made some decisions that weren't necessarily you
didn't think them all the way through. But it's because
we as women have this like time stamp on our
foreheads like no matter even if anybody says they're not
thinking about it, like we're I mean, we're just like
constantly thinking about it. And so I think it's really
cool that you're kind of opening up and sharing these
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things because I think, like, if you could go back
and tell your twenty five year old self anything, like,
what would you say to her? I would be I
would say, I mean, it's always hard to be like, oh,
to be like I don't regret the moves that I made,
but I think just knowing that there's just no what
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I think what I would say is that the things
they are that are like the red flags to you
right now, the things that don't feel right, those things
don't go away, and you can't just wish. You can't
just kind of assume or count that things are going
to work out in your favor favor, especially when they
involve other people and you're banking on them going along
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with your idea of what life should be. You know,
I think what I've like overarching lesson for all life
is just you can't control other people. You can't you
can't predict the future. You can't you can't force like
around peg in a square hole or whatever that expression is.
I think what I really tried to do is kind
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of play God in that way, like this person is
gonna they're gonna work out for me one way or another.
We're just gonna make it happen. I was listening to
a podcast that y'all did, and um, I want to
say the podcast was called pretty Smart, Pretty Smart? Oh yeah,
and she y'all were talking about like who has the
(13:44):
It's really funny. Y'all all sound so similar. So while
I was listening to the podcast a lot, I was like, wait,
who's speaking? Who speaking? Who's doing this right now? But
y'all were talking about like who has the worst taste
of men? And I want to say that you and
Olivia were both like we're tied, like you were. We
were like, y'all kind there was no like actual like
(14:04):
who's the best or the worst, But y'all are all
kind of like, Yeah, do you still like now that
you have been through this with your marriage, do you
feel like you have this new set of like what
you're looking for and like things that you're going to
listen to, like moving forward and dating definitely. I mean
I don't. I think, I think if it does feel
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I'm a firm believer and like you have a lot
of your answers right off the bat when you meet somebody.
Don't know if you remember that book Blinked by Malcolm Gladwell,
and it was basically all of that. It's basically all
about like that we know all of the answers to
our questions within like the split second that we meet somebody,
we know, like you have to trust your body and
your gut and what all of that tells you, and
like really be tuned in in order to know, in
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order to hear what your body and your gut telling you.
And that's another reason why I feel like being clear,
like not being hungover, not drinking, not going on these
first dates and relying on alcohol to ease up, because
then you're not able to hear that voice inside you
being like this is not clicking, Like I think honestly,
for the first year of my relationship, way back when
(15:11):
when I was twenty five, that's like all we did
was drinking party and it's like now when you have kids,
it's like, Okay, what do we have a common what
do we have a comming from you can't do all that,
like what time do you go to bed? Like yeah,
that's always like that was always my thing, Like what
time do you go to bed on the weekdays? What
do you like to do for fun on the weekends?
How do you eat? Like all of those things, because
(15:33):
it's like compatibility, you know, like lifestyle compatibility. Actually, that's
so interesting because the dates I went on, so before
I went on The Bachelor, I went on like a
slew of like uh dating, like tender dates. So yeah,
I kind of like, oh my god when tender first
got popular, so I was like, this is interesting. I
love I love that app I hated having a year ready.
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I well, I didn't drink at the time, so like
I would know right off the bat. I would be like,
you know, like there was like an immediately like no feeling.
And that's so funny that you say that, because I
wonder if I had been like, oh, let's get a drink,
if I would have been more like, oh, this guy's cute,
Like let me tell you. Because I drank every first day,
(16:18):
like I would get slosh and I would just make
out with anybody that had a pulse. So like he
was awesome. He was awesome. I think fund like we
made out so definitely was good. At some point I
(16:49):
wanted to talk about the deal that you had where
what he had a hall pass or what was the
what was and this was from your this this was
your deal, right, this is my deal. So the hall
past was an interesting thing. We It was based on
the premise that it's like sex is something. Sex is sex,
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it's different from a relationship, and that men like haven't
urge to Basically, it's like a biological thing where men
are more wired to want to hook up with different
people and just want it more. Yeah, and just wanted
more and like want that excitement of like the variety.
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And I was like okay, well and and also when
I end he was forty and he had had never
been married, and I think I thought that he and
I was right and assuming so he had never been
married because I never wanted to be I never really
wanted to be in that monogamy that's like objective, objectively
not something that I judge or thought was bad. But
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I'm like, this is the person that I want to
have kids with it and I want to be with,
so I'm gonna have to make this work for him somehow,
like it doesn't really bother me that much. Like I
don't really think sex is that big of a deal.
So it's like, as long as I don't know about it,
and if it's something that you need and we're so
close and we get along so great that like it's
not going to jeopardize anything within our arrangement. That I
was like, Okay, that's fine, you can take it. M
(18:20):
not the best deal I should, you know. I think
I didn't look at the longevity and I think if
he had used the past during like that first year,
I made it for the second year, I might not
have like I might have been okay with it, Like
it might have been fine. But I think when you start,
when you have kids and once there are different pressures
on the relationship and you've been together for so long
and you do need that like reassurance from each other
(18:44):
just to keep the spark alive. It's just it was
just it was just like a nail and a coffin
I do. It wasn't the reason we decided to end
the marriage. It was just another reminder of like that
we're just not in it. You were there, what were
the parameters. Was it like he can like you don't
see that person more than once, or like, was it yeah,
(19:06):
you can't like exchange numbers, you can't see that person
more than once. You have to use protection and can't
be anybody we know. And what happened was somebody on
Instagram reached out to me. Yeah, somebody from Utah and
they were like they were really religious and they're like,
my friend, look up with your husband. And I'm whispering
(19:28):
because they think, like might actually downstairs. What's fine? We
still share how so he had them on a show.
I mean that would be great. Um, he might walk
up and want want to share his side. Let's bring
about not here. But let me tell you here's the
thing that's interesting. So we were like talking about this
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and they asked me. They were like, what would Tanya,
what would you do if if like your boyfriend approached
you with this deal? And I was like I really
had to like sit and think about it because like
off the bat, you hear that and you're like there's
no way, like I would never be okay with that.
And then I was like I'm so I'm knee deep
in this is the guy for me, Like I know,
he's my guy, if that's what he needed, Like, I
would really have to think about it, like if it's not,
(20:12):
especially when you feel like that clock when you're like
I've already invested over like I don't have time for that. Yeah,
I'm like, I've already invested three years. You're You're an
amazing dad. I see that, you know what I mean?
Like I was like, I really would have to to
like think about it. As wild as that sounds for
me to say, Like I was like I would actually
have to think about it. I think I would end
up on you. I appreciate that somebody kind of sort
(20:34):
of understand a little bit where I was coming from.
I think people tell the people at like these swinger
convention where are they. They're not coming out to be like, oh,
that's normal. I know. I actually feel bad, Like did
you receive a lot of like crazy d m s
after that episode. There's one person that was like, that's normal.
Nobody had my back on that one. I mean, people
(20:55):
just felt bad for me. Really, They're like, wow, what
will self esteem you must have had? But really I
think it was not most self esteem. I think it
was just it was just it was like bad foresight
more than I. Yeah, I was gonna say, I I
agree with you. I think right off the back, think
about it right now, like you invested four years into
Haley and she comes to But I know myself, like
(21:17):
I could never. I just know I would not. But
you wouldn't just say okay, by we're done. I would
say about Scorpio and like evil about it, like I
just could never. I just know myself. But I do
think that people don't realize that just I mean, it's
the same thing as if someone did something that was
like a red flag or like super toxic. You don't
just walk away. You go You're like, oh, I love them,
(21:40):
like I want to try to make it work. So
I don't think people. I think people just hear that
and think like, oh, I could never, But I don't
think if they were faced with that, do I keep this,
Do I get to keep the love in my life?
Or do I have to let them go? Like that's
a that's in a lot of ways, it's like I
might have I might still have done it the same
way because I did want kids at that time, and
(22:02):
I'm glad that I had kids at that time. Like
I I'm going through the nitty gritty of the divorce
right now, and so that there are some things that
would have done a little differently. I'm not gonna lie
like just the way everything was laid out time wise
and all that, um, you know, buying property. There's a
lot of things that get sticky, but um but time wise,
like I'm happy, I feel I feel a lot less
(22:24):
pressure now to find a person that can help me
fulfill my dream of other because I already am a mom,
I have my kids, and now it's like, if you
don't if you don't make me, if you don't bring
like joy into my life, help me be a better
version of myself, I'm out. And I think I think
that's going to also help you meet like a really
amazing partner, because that's how my boyfriend was, Like it
(22:46):
was he It's almost like you did the thing you
had the kids, Like you're good, so you only want
somebody that's going to be so amazing to bring into
your kids lives, Like you're not just gonna bring anybody
around your kids, like you need someone that's gonna be
like amazing for them. So it's almost gonna like elevate
you just by Yeah, that's so true. I didn't even
think of it really that way, because it's true and
(23:09):
a lot of times, like like the things that we
would put ourselves through never put our kids through higher
standards for them. So way, even if I did have
really low self steaming poorly at myself, I would have
to elevate my standard because you know, I don't. I
wouldn't put just anybody around my kids. So I'm feeling
(23:30):
feeling good about Rocky Road. I don't know, So I'm like,
I want to be friends with you, Like I'm like,
I like, I know you're busy, and I know you
have kids. I know you live, like I know, I
think you live far away from me, and I know
that like I know I know you well literally you
know where I live. We live like forty five minutes away,
which you're like, so it will never work out. We
can never hang out, I know, but I could see us.
(23:52):
I could see us like working out together and like
doing things like not drinking together totally, you know, yeah,
like playing board games or like vision boarding together. Like
I don't know why vision boarding vision boarding. You seem
like a vision boarder. We oh, yeah, I feel we
because me Olivia and Sophie have made many a vision
(24:13):
board together. Um, yes, I love it boarding. Actually, no,
I see, I get it. I feel like Aurora and
I are like, well I meant to be, I will say,
Roora like I I'm like, so, I love the sisterhood
that y'all have with like you, Sophie and Olivia. Like,
I'm just so fascinated by all because you're all like Sophia,
(24:36):
they call her Sophie, so I called her Sophie. So
that's how That's how it is when you're like part
of the group, you know. Um, but I just love
like the dynamic and I'm just like fascinating. You'll are
also funny, you're smart, you're stunningly beautiful, and I love
that y'all are so close. But has there been any
Because I have three sisters, so I was curious, like
(24:58):
in this world that y'all are in, which is just
constant like attention and glam and like getting dressed up,
has there been any moment where there's just like conflict
or you're just like I do not want to see
you guys anymore. I don't want to work with you anymore.
Have there been any of those moments? Yeah? I mean,
we definitely need our breaks, but there's there's never been
(25:20):
a time where we're like we don't want to ever
see each other again. We're way too cold to anyway,
like we we do love each other, so but yeah,
we get in fights. We gotta fights like quarterly, maybe
by yearly a really big one maybe, But what are
the fights about? Like when it's because my sisters and
I when they lived with me, it was about like
(25:42):
clothes and stuff. That's where I was just like, you're
driving me insane. But like, we've never had any like
fights where it was like we didn't talk for a
period of time. The biggest fight Livian and I got
into was like after I had I gave birth to
both my children, actually both the two type of times.
If birth, my mom came to like help me, but
(26:03):
then it was like the height of COVID and my
brother Gus brought like nine friends to my house and
then Sophie wanted her boyfriend to sleep in my couch.
I had just given birth to a baby, and I
was like, I don't want all these people in my space.
It's COVID. I don't know who they are, and my
family is just like that like my brother Gus, like
he just travels with like nine strangers that I never know. Literally,
(26:25):
last there was a parent teacher conference like open house
at my school. Gus wanted to bring a friend and like,
I'm like, you can't. And Olivia always sticks up for
She's always trying to tell me that I need to
like let Gus's friends sleep at my house, or that
I'm not grateful enough for the help that my mom
gives me. She's just it's because she doesn't want them
(26:46):
at her house. That's like if those are the fights
we get into, if we get into fights about what
you want to bring a friend to parent teacher and
I are back to school, it was the most bizarre thing,
Like so like I'm like, why do you guys even
want to come? Um, Like it's like it's like my
son wanted to show my brother his uncle some of
his work that he's done. It's like, who is this
(27:08):
friend at what time? That what I need to know?
Like first of all, that's kind of red flag enough,
like like I'm pretty sure he's not allowed within like
feet of the school. So that I listened on that podcast,
ya were saying, um, they were saying that you were
(27:28):
the most like you're not scared of confrontation like you
will like you're you're not scared of it, and he
was saying like, I don't like confrontation, and I personally
hate confrontation. And I think part of why I I
was trying to say earlier, I love your sister as
a family, but I am I am so like drawn
to you as a person because I feel like you're
so just like yourself. I think I see things in
(27:52):
you that I wish I had a little more of
it myself, which is like the like I don't want
to say confrontational, but like the confident and so like
knowing who you are and standing up for yourself and
things that you believe in. Whether they get like a
positive feedback or not, I don't know. I'm just like, well,
thank you. I appreciate that. I mean, I do think
that that's something that gets me in trouble and is
(28:15):
like my one of my biggest assets. Like I I
you should some of the texts threads, it's like I
probably should have waited twenty four hours before answering I
get myself in problem like that a lot, like's impulsive
with with with answering, and I do call people out
before I have all the facts that are embarrassing. You know,
there's things that can go wrong. But but yeah, I
(28:39):
appreciate that. Thank you. I feel like it is a
Scorpio trade too, because Sophie's a Scorpio and she does
not like confrontation at all, and she and one of
my other friends to also scorpio. Yeah, so I feel
like it's a good week. Yeah, it's a good way.
What's your sis? I'm an aries? Oh my girlfriends in
the area is like the most known, like asshole's scary scary.
(29:04):
Oh yeah, my so my girlfriend's and aries and she
I'm not. I don't think of her as scary at all,
but I do. She is bossy, like she is definitely
like likes being in control, Like it's something she's passionate about.
She has no problem confronting anyone about it. I cannot
date in aerieses. I follow her on Instagram and I
and she give me aries by fire sign. What's your sign?
(29:29):
I'm a cancer and I'm like the most cancers cancer
you could ever mean, Like I'm super sensitive, very emotional,
so sentimental, Like every gift I give has to have
some sort of meaning. It gets like weird. Oh my god,
that's I feel like that's the opposite of me. That's
why I could never date in aries. It would be
very bad. Yeah, you'd offended a lot. My boyfriend's a
(29:52):
water sign, and so it's like like we're a good
match in that sense because he's very emotional sensitive too.
I know. It's like, who am I supposed to date
a leo? I don't know somebody who doesn't think I'm
a jerk for not being sentient sentimental. I think that's
also plays into like how I made that deal. People
don't understand it, maybe like more areas would understand it
(30:13):
because not sentimental, Like we're not right, it's transactional. It's
more it's more um uh, not transactional is not the
right word, but it's more like, um, I feel like
transactional does. And I'll leave that there. Then it's not personal, right.
(30:35):
Do you still feel that way though, Like do you
feel like if you like, when you fall in love again,
that you would like I feel like it's there's just
too many there's too many human conditions that I didn't
take into account that I think from from every like
(30:55):
we're different from one day to the next. It's just
not sustainable. And also, no, I don't want I don't
I don't want somebody to need that. Like, I just
feel like I should be enough, like I did it
at least try, you know, if I don't know, like,
and if I'm not then maybe then then they like
I just move on to the next person. You know,
I don't know. Yeah, like, instead of being like, because
(31:17):
I I do think of a big part of the
conversation that we had was that you wanted kids. So
I think, like, not feeling that pressure, you're able to
go Okay, even if I fell in love with this person,
if they need something from me that I'm not willing
to give again, I can walk away, as opposed to
being like I need to make it work totally. Yeah,
there's not that. There's not that pressure anymore, which really
bumps me out for the people who feel like like,
(31:39):
I don't want to sound like I'm validating the pressure
for people who don't have kids that want kids, Like,
it's still not a valid reason to try to make
something work that's not working, but it's a pressure that's there, Like,
and actually it's interesting and I'm seeing a lot more women.
I'd say the last six months, I've met three separate
women like randomly that I've had babies on their own,
like god a sperm don't and just said like I
(32:01):
want kid and I'm going to do it on my own.
And I feel like I haven't heard that many in
years past. Like I feel like it's becoming more the norm,
and it's good that people are like starting to just
take matters into their own hands. It's like, you know,
you don't need Yeah, I think that the pressure, it's
it's not right that we feel that way about certain things,
(32:23):
Like I don't think it's fair because I don't know
that I don't think I definitely don't think that men
have that pressure they're falling out of bed. I think
that your story is just very relatable to so many
women that like, yeah, oh I don't have to sacrifice
something that I really want in a relationship because of
the pressure that I feel. I also just like have
(32:44):
a really big problem with so my ex is he's
like forties seven now, and his friends who are saying
they set there like tinder age at like thirty, you know,
so it's like there's a whole there's like an expiration.
Like there's a whole up with women over forty single
probably you know, either have never been married been married before,
(33:05):
who have very slim pickings because all these old men
set their age rage so low and it's just not
I don't know, it's hot when they're older, and women
like are just like written off. No, I'm I'm so
much better of a catch now than it was at
twenty five. Let me tell you, Like I am, Like
(33:26):
my boyfriend is a lucky man because he met me
when I was five, was whack when I was twenty,
and I am so much better and now as a partner,
like honestly, like the way I handle things now are
so much better. I'm like, oh my gosh, if you
would have met me ten years ago, Like, no, it
would not have worked. I agree, Yeah, I agree, Why
(33:47):
don't It's I think that's one of the problems in
society is like that we don't give the time to
like really mature, Like by the time they're matured, their
physically out of a line. It was what like men, Yeah,
it's gross, gross, not functional clearly because it's like the
(34:08):
divorce rate is just climbing. Yeah, it's not working. Wait,
I want to ask you if you have any like
goals or plans or anything for I feel like you're
(34:30):
like that kind of gal. Yeah, I have goals, I
got I got some plans. Hopefully we'll stick to them.
I want to do another clothing line with my sisters.
We were were a brainstorming ideas that we didn't love
your clothes. I literally I a wore this. I was like,
I'm putting it into the universe. I'm just love all
your stuff all the time. Like I was the like
(34:51):
I feel like I can remember you. Yeah why, I
just could see you in the And this all the
sweat outfits too. I was like, I rocked this one
Offits like it was my job. Yeah, we need more
fancy sweat outfits, that's for damn sure. Yeah. Um yeah,
So just that. And I'm still just the everything with
(35:11):
separating lives. And I've never lived by myself before, so
I'm kind of scared to do that. I don't really
want to live by myself, but I'm gonna have to
be a big girl, just like learning how to be
comfortable being alone. I don't know, we're doing fifty fifty,
so there's gonna be days when I'm just I don't
have any kids, and I don't really know what I'm
gonna do at that time. So I think there's gonna
(35:33):
be a lot of growing pains, but I was hoping
that I can get through it. Like I don't know,
I think you're gonna thrive. I honestly, I feel like
this is gonna be like the new phase of your life,
and I think you're gonna just like it's only up
from here. Thank you. I can give you some tips
on living alone. I did it for many years. Yeah,
and like I feel like the first day I slept
(35:53):
by myself on my own, I like had a what
was it not a broom like a mop. I have
like a mop that I left with because I didn't
have locks on my door door, my bedroom door, like
I have walked to the house, but like not like
my bedroom door didn't have one. And I would hear
things and I would just like I get I got
them to bang somebody. Yeah, I always hear about I
(36:17):
need to learn some I don't know, I to actually
take jiu jitsu. I started taking jiu jitsu son more skills, um, yeah,
but I don't know. Yeah, just learning how to be
single and alone. I haven't been that ever that I
can remember, So yeah, I think I think growing pains
(36:38):
is very like a and honestly, it might happen faster.
You might like adapt to the quiet, living alone and
be like I never even gave myself a tip to
like this. Possibilities are endly Well, we are rooting for you,
and thank you so much for coming back and scrubbing in.
We obsessed with you the show, and you're a new website.
(37:01):
I mean you have like all the things I'm like
watching all your baking and like everything that you're doing.
I subscribe to the news letter. Thank you so much
for getting lots of recipes here. You know how to cook. Yeah,
I'm just like an Aurora Colpo stand so I appreciate it.
I just I love that, always here to support you.
So for you ever want to come back or you
(37:21):
want to be friends, we're here, just coming on totally.
That's an unnegotiable. If you need someone to come sleep
with you in your house, Tanya, I am here, I'm available. Yeah,
I love a sleepover. Yeah. Well, we're always supporting you
and so happy that you came on. And yeah, thanks
for being so just yourself and open. Thank you. And
(37:43):
if you guys have not yet watched our finale, um,
we had a two episode finale Aaron on Monday, so
you can still catch it on Discovery Plus or tlc
um And I think poste episodes were the best. So
where can people follow you on social media too? Yeah?
Aurora Colpo on Instagram and then Aurora ontur Culpo on TikTok.
(38:04):
But I needed to do better try and with the
TikTok's I'm the same thing. I'm like, I tried. I'm
trying to make a space for myself and the TikTok
land and it just doesn't. It's not like there's no
for me. It does not come naturally. Instagram I can do,
(38:25):
it comes naturally, but TikTok is not. It does not
come naturally to me. It feels like I'm trying to
put like I'm trying to put a sandal on when
I'm wearing socks, do you know what I mean? Like,
I'm like, it's just not like learn how to TikTok
retreat for old people. Okay, well, here are all of
our goals for will involve being better on TikTok. We'll
(38:48):
try our best thank you so much. Bye. You're the best.
Call me
Scrubbing it in with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and
I Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it.
I don't know if Becca sounds different to you, but
she looks different to me. I chopped so much haird
how many inches? I have no idea, so many, so
(00:21):
many inches. I just was ready to do it, and
I just I did it. It makes me want to
do it. No, you can't do it, not right now? Yeah,
not right now? Yeah, but I do. We did talk
about I think you look so cute with short hair.
It's like it just gives you're just like cool girl.
Like it's like, who's that. That's a cool girl. You
know what's weird is that my hair short looks cuter
with hats, so I'm excited. We're like beanies and stuff
(00:42):
for the winter. Cuter, yeah, hats, Like I just looked
like you always were out. I just like a mop
with no no. But I did have like a moment
as she was about to cut it. Or do you
feel like a new woman though? I do. I feel fresh.
I feel like I cut off like the year and
it's like onto the Yeah, Like do you feel like
a renaissance of sorts? Renaissance, in fact, so renaissance that
(01:05):
I ran out of gas this morning and that was
that was exciting. I don't know how you do that.
Like life just went on and I'm panic because i
still have like fifty more miles and I'm like panicked.
This was one of those like I rarely worry about
running out of gas. Today I was like it could happen,
and it did and luckily. Um, I look over as
like every car is honking at me because I'm in
(01:26):
the turning lane on the busy street. And Graham Bunn,
who was like a friend of ours, it's like makes
eye contact with me in this massive truck and he's
like laughing. So he pulls over. We put my car neutral.
He pushes me over to the side of the road.
Sam Bun is a night and shining is an angel
sent from above, and he drove me to get gas.
(01:48):
We caught up on life and he got me. I
was like less than a I would say, less than
half a mile from my house when I Becca just
loves grand Bun and so she called me to tell
me said story, and I said, let's have him on
the pod. Yeah, he's single. You're missing the lead I
was learning out of gas. It's such an interesting thing,
like I've never ever, ever, ever done. You're lucky you've
(02:12):
never been in a position where you did that to yourself.
You just get gas. When your light goes on. Like
your light goes on, it tells you you have today
counting down the miles zero for a long time. Guys,
we cannot, we cannot. We have company right now. I
can't get into the fight. Yeah, no fight today, but
we do have a very exciting guess And last time
(02:33):
she was here with her sisters. Yeah, but now she's songs,
she's solo. It is Aurora Colpo in the waiting room.
Oh r. And we'll be right back with her. I'm excited.
Why am I so kitty? It's the hoops hid my.
(03:00):
I was trying to have a holiday background, but it
didn't work out. Do you have a sweater? Is? Actually
this is from a line that we did. I was
gonna say, I feel like this is your line. I
feel like I've owned that wow, remaining pieces um can
(03:21):
you guys hear me on time and everything. I feel
like there's like a little bit of a drag. You
sound looks great, So from our end, great news. Okay, cool,
We're gonna do a quick intro and then we'll get
you in. Okay, all right. As we said before, we
(03:45):
have a very special guest today. We have a royal
Colpa scrubbing. So happy to be here. We're so happy
to have you. We are so happy to have you.
I know, I'm like, I'm very excited about this because
last time you were on, you were with your sisters,
and we love all three of you. We love the show,
the Colpo sisters. But I feel like a kindred spirit
(04:10):
connection to you, Aurora, totally. I feel the same way.
It's like wants of those other two girls around anyway,
But I feel like I have this connection to you
on many levels. But I also feel like you're having
like a little bit of a renaissance of life right now,
Like you stopped drinking. You're doing all this like reflection
on life, and I just I don't know, I just
feel very drawn to your life era right now. Yeah.
(04:33):
I like you call it a renaissance and not like
a mental breakdown. That's very kind of you. I think
that it's kind of the same thing. Um. Yeah, I
mean there's I feel like when there's so much change
happening at once. You can go that way or that way,
and you just have to be all in and whichever
way you go. And I don't want to you know,
(04:54):
I don't know. I don't want to go the wrong way,
so I really have to cut out. Yeah, I stopped drinking.
I had to cut out all of my kind of crutches,
which I found out where there was kind of there's
a lot of them. So interesting. I find it interesting
that I think I'm seeing a lot more people talk
about giving up alcohol and drinking and that like lifestyle
because too, I'm seeing it a lot more of And
(05:16):
it's like young like people in our age range, and
like young people too like that are in like just
getting into the age where they're like legal to drink,
and I feel like they're like, listen, the healthier lifestyle
just makes more sense to like what I want to
do and like the direction I see myself going. Have
you had moments like especially I feel like doing a
show and with your sisters and there's like events and NonStop.
(05:38):
Have you had any moments where you're like why am
I doing this? Yes? Well that's the forgetting why you're
doing it is a real obstacle and something you kind
of have to like set up for because it's easy
to stop when you remember how bad your hangover was
last weekend, or you know, or you're to lose ten pounds.
(06:00):
I don't know, but during the show I was drinking.
It's actually funny to look back because I literally have
a glass of wine like every scene and it's very
clear to me. Um. But but yeah, like especially during
Thanksgiving and everybody, like there's a lot of comments people
being like, oh, like what's one glass? You know you
weren't an alcoholic, so what's the Like, It's not like
(06:23):
it's not like one sip you're gonna go on a
bender and like leave your kids. Um. So yeah, it's
hard to remember sometimes. But what I've been doing that's
really been helping me is you're right, there is this
movement of sober curiosity, and so there's a lot of
resources now. There's a lot of podcasts that are talking
about it. One of the Andrew Human podcast is one
(06:45):
that I listened to sometimes, and he talks a lot
about basically the science like what alcohol does to your body.
There's a lot of people who there's a lot of
Instagram accounts that you can follow that basically just remind you,
like what happens if you are drinking wine every single night,
which is what I was doing. I was drinking it
like one to two glasses every single night and really realized,
(07:08):
and I because I was brought up Italian, like a
glass of red wine is good for your heart. It's
like it's all of that is a myth, but but
basically the I just feel better without it, and to
say that I'll that I'll never ever drink again. But
now I know the facts that like if you have
more than two glasses a week, that's when it starts
to affect your health the wrong way. So I also
(07:30):
think there there's something to giving up something that you
think you need and then realizing that you can go
without it and feel better and you don't need it,
so that when you do maybe want to reintroduce it,
there's not this like I need it. It's just like,
oh yeah, sure, like I'll have a glass and I'll
just have a glass whatever. That was like my one
(07:53):
of the biggest experiments that I'm still working with is
how to do things that I would normally have drunk
with going not just going to concerts, and how to
like relearn how to have fun doing those activities without drinking.
When I was drinking, it would be like how much
am I going to drink? Like when are we going
to start drinking? Should I stop now? Like how should
(08:14):
I space it out? So it's kind of freeing not
to even have to worry about all that. And when
I ended up realizing with all these events in like
fashion Week that I did with my sisters and um
Press tours, is that I'm the only one who can
still hang on some day like everyone else is burnt out,
Like I'm in it for the long games. It's so
true though, like even when I have just like a
glass of wine or two during the week, like I
(08:36):
feel the next morning like I really, I genuinely do
no matter what, even if I drink a little bit,
I still feel it, but I still do it. To myself. Well,
that's like four am. It's hard. It's hard. It's hard
certain times in your life. I feel like it's harder
like when you're newly in love. I feel like it's
so hard not to get fat and just drink so much.
Please for me, that's always how it worked for me,
(08:58):
um And like you, because you just want to go
out to eat, like enjoy things just makes everything feel better.
But so I almost feel like it's easier when you're
going through something hard to be like, Okay, I'm just
gonna like gear up and take away the things that
I would normally lean on, because in a way, it
allows you an opportunity to be proud of yourself. Well
you know, actually I read that like, Um, when you
(09:19):
are going through like moments of life of like turmoil
or a lot of change in your life, that is
really beneficial to like do something that you can actually control,
Like that is something that you can control yourself, and
that has a lot of like mental benefits because as
you control, as you keep controlling, you start to feel
like better. Yeah, that's so funny because now that you're
mentioning that, it's like I randomly started doing keto and
(09:42):
then I got really like looking into keto. I started
looking into like I'm really into intermittent fasting right now.
So I think I am kind of doing all these
control like how can I control what I have control? Yeah? Um,
and I didn't. I didn't really realize I was doing that,
But at least I'm doing it a healthy way and
not you know, yeah, at least you're putting that energy
(10:04):
into something good for you. UM, I was curious. Um,
Tony and I were talking about this before you came on,
and I was saying, we were talking about you, um
talking about your divorce and how what did you have
like anxiety or stress going into the show knowing that
that was going to be a topic and something that
like was spoken about and like having this, I mean,
(10:27):
I know you posted like you talked about on your
social media, but having it on such a huge platform,
was there like anxiety around that or were you kind
of like, this is my story and I'm I'm just
gonna put it out there. So we we filmed our
pilot in October, and I didn't actually we didn't decide
that we were getting divorced until Thanksgiving end of November.
So when the pipe picked up, this was an April
(10:49):
that we like picked up and filmed the remaining episodes,
and they were like what's changed in everybody's lives? And
I'm like, I'm not married anymore. So if you watched
some of the episodes, UM, I have a ring on
in the from like the pilot, we didn't actually end
up like airing a pilot and just took scenes right. Yeah,
So so yeah, I was It wasn't like I was
(11:11):
gonna be like, no, I don't want to film anymore
because I don't want to have to talk about this,
and so I just kind of made the commitment that
I was going to just try to portray my side
as authentically it's possible without dragging any bay through mud.
And yeah. But the thing that I really admire about
you is that, like I remember we had you on
the Morning Show and you were saying, how like there
(11:34):
there was this feeling and I think I forget how
old you were. You were like twenty five, Oh probably,
I don't even remember. You said you were twenty five
and you felt like you needed to like have the
kids and do all this stuff by like a certain age.
So you kind of, um, you maybe did things that
you didn't necessarily. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I thought you meant
when I was twenty five. On the Morning show, I
was like, really, no, no. Last week we were talking
(11:56):
about this pressure that you had when you were twenty five,
and maybe you made some decisions that weren't necessarily you
didn't think them all the way through. But it's because
we as women have this like time stamp on our
foreheads like no matter even if anybody says they're not
thinking about it, like we're I mean, we're just like
constantly thinking about it. And so I think it's really
cool that you're kind of opening up and sharing these
(12:18):
things because I think, like, if you could go back
and tell your twenty five year old self anything, like,
what would you say to her? I would be I
would say, I mean, it's always hard to be like, oh,
to be like I don't regret the moves that I made,
but I think just knowing that there's just no what
(12:38):
I think what I would say is that the things
they are that are like the red flags to you
right now, the things that don't feel right, those things
don't go away, and you can't just wish. You can't
just kind of assume or count that things are going
to work out in your favor favor, especially when they
involve other people and you're banking on them going along
(13:01):
with your idea of what life should be. You know,
I think what I've like overarching lesson for all life
is just you can't control other people. You can't you
can't predict the future. You can't you can't force like
around peg in a square hole or whatever that expression is.
I think what I really tried to do is kind
(13:23):
of play God in that way, like this person is
gonna they're gonna work out for me one way or another.
We're just gonna make it happen. I was listening to
a podcast that y'all did, and um, I want to
say the podcast was called pretty Smart, Pretty Smart? Oh yeah,
and she y'all were talking about like who has the
(13:44):
It's really funny. Y'all all sound so similar. So while
I was listening to the podcast a lot, I was like, wait,
who's speaking? Who speaking? Who's doing this right now? But
y'all were talking about like who has the worst taste
of men? And I want to say that you and
Olivia were both like we're tied, like you were. We
were like, y'all kind there was no like actual like
(14:04):
who's the best or the worst, But y'all are all
kind of like, Yeah, do you still like now that
you have been through this with your marriage, do you
feel like you have this new set of like what
you're looking for and like things that you're going to
listen to, like moving forward and dating definitely. I mean
I don't. I think, I think if it does feel
(14:26):
I'm a firm believer and like you have a lot
of your answers right off the bat when you meet somebody.
Don't know if you remember that book Blinked by Malcolm Gladwell,
and it was basically all of that. It's basically all
about like that we know all of the answers to
our questions within like the split second that we meet somebody,
we know, like you have to trust your body and
your gut and what all of that tells you, and
like really be tuned in in order to know, in
(14:49):
order to hear what your body and your gut telling you.
And that's another reason why I feel like being clear,
like not being hungover, not drinking, not going on these
first dates and relying on alcohol to ease up, because
then you're not able to hear that voice inside you
being like this is not clicking, Like I think honestly,
for the first year of my relationship, way back when
(15:11):
when I was twenty five, that's like all we did
was drinking party and it's like now when you have kids,
it's like, Okay, what do we have a common what
do we have a comming from you can't do all that,
like what time do you go to bed? Like yeah,
that's always like that was always my thing, Like what
time do you go to bed on the weekdays? What
do you like to do for fun on the weekends?
How do you eat? Like all of those things, because
(15:33):
it's like compatibility, you know, like lifestyle compatibility. Actually, that's
so interesting because the dates I went on, so before
I went on The Bachelor, I went on like a
slew of like uh dating, like tender dates. So yeah,
I kind of like, oh my god when tender first
got popular, so I was like, this is interesting. I
love I love that app I hated having a year ready.
(15:55):
I well, I didn't drink at the time, so like
I would know right off the bat. I would be like,
you know, like there was like an immediately like no feeling.
And that's so funny that you say that, because I
wonder if I had been like, oh, let's get a drink,
if I would have been more like, oh, this guy's cute,
Like let me tell you. Because I drank every first day,
(16:18):
like I would get slosh and I would just make
out with anybody that had a pulse. So like he
was awesome. He was awesome. I think fund like we
made out so definitely was good. At some point I
(16:49):
wanted to talk about the deal that you had where
what he had a hall pass or what was the
what was and this was from your this this was
your deal, right, this is my deal. So the hall
past was an interesting thing. We It was based on
the premise that it's like sex is something. Sex is sex,
(17:12):
it's different from a relationship, and that men like haven't
urge to Basically, it's like a biological thing where men
are more wired to want to hook up with different
people and just want it more. Yeah, and just wanted
more and like want that excitement of like the variety.
(17:33):
And I was like okay, well and and also when
I end he was forty and he had had never
been married, and I think I thought that he and
I was right and assuming so he had never been
married because I never wanted to be I never really
wanted to be in that monogamy that's like objective, objectively
not something that I judge or thought was bad. But
(17:56):
I'm like, this is the person that I want to
have kids with it and I want to be with,
so I'm gonna have to make this work for him somehow,
like it doesn't really bother me that much. Like I
don't really think sex is that big of a deal.
So it's like, as long as I don't know about it,
and if it's something that you need and we're so
close and we get along so great that like it's
not going to jeopardize anything within our arrangement. That I
was like, Okay, that's fine, you can take it. M
(18:20):
not the best deal I should, you know. I think
I didn't look at the longevity and I think if
he had used the past during like that first year,
I made it for the second year, I might not
have like I might have been okay with it, Like
it might have been fine. But I think when you start,
when you have kids and once there are different pressures
on the relationship and you've been together for so long
and you do need that like reassurance from each other
(18:44):
just to keep the spark alive. It's just it was
just it was just like a nail and a coffin
I do. It wasn't the reason we decided to end
the marriage. It was just another reminder of like that
we're just not in it. You were there, what were
the parameters. Was it like he can like you don't
see that person more than once, or like, was it yeah,
(19:06):
you can't like exchange numbers, you can't see that person
more than once. You have to use protection and can't
be anybody we know. And what happened was somebody on
Instagram reached out to me. Yeah, somebody from Utah and
they were like they were really religious and they're like,
my friend, look up with your husband. And I'm whispering
(19:28):
because they think, like might actually downstairs. What's fine? We
still share how so he had them on a show.
I mean that would be great. Um, he might walk
up and want want to share his side. Let's bring
about not here. But let me tell you here's the
thing that's interesting. So we were like talking about this
(19:49):
and they asked me. They were like, what would Tanya,
what would you do if if like your boyfriend approached
you with this deal? And I was like I really
had to like sit and think about it because like
off the bat, you hear that and you're like there's
no way, like I would never be okay with that.
And then I was like I'm so I'm knee deep
in this is the guy for me, Like I know,
he's my guy, if that's what he needed, Like, I
would really have to think about it, like if it's not,
(20:12):
especially when you feel like that clock when you're like
I've already invested over like I don't have time for that. Yeah,
I'm like, I've already invested three years. You're You're an
amazing dad. I see that, you know what I mean?
Like I was like, I really would have to to
like think about it. As wild as that sounds for
me to say, Like I was like I would actually
have to think about it. I think I would end
up on you. I appreciate that somebody kind of sort
(20:34):
of understand a little bit where I was coming from.
I think people tell the people at like these swinger
convention where are they. They're not coming out to be like, oh,
that's normal. I know. I actually feel bad, Like did
you receive a lot of like crazy d m s
after that episode. There's one person that was like, that's normal.
Nobody had my back on that one. I mean, people
(20:55):
just felt bad for me. Really, They're like, wow, what
will self esteem you must have had? But really I
think it was not most self esteem. I think it
was just it was just it was like bad foresight
more than I. Yeah, I was gonna say, I I
agree with you. I think right off the back, think
about it right now, like you invested four years into
Haley and she comes to But I know myself, like
(21:17):
I could never. I just know I would not. But
you wouldn't just say okay, by we're done. I would
say about Scorpio and like evil about it, like I
just could never. I just know myself. But I do
think that people don't realize that just I mean, it's
the same thing as if someone did something that was
like a red flag or like super toxic. You don't
just walk away. You go You're like, oh, I love them,
(21:40):
like I want to try to make it work. So
I don't think people. I think people just hear that
and think like, oh, I could never, But I don't
think if they were faced with that, do I keep this,
Do I get to keep the love in my life?
Or do I have to let them go? Like that's
a that's in a lot of ways, it's like I
might have I might still have done it the same
way because I did want kids at that time, and
(22:02):
I'm glad that I had kids at that time. Like
I I'm going through the nitty gritty of the divorce
right now, and so that there are some things that
would have done a little differently. I'm not gonna lie
like just the way everything was laid out time wise
and all that, um, you know, buying property. There's a
lot of things that get sticky, but um but time wise,
like I'm happy, I feel I feel a lot less
(22:24):
pressure now to find a person that can help me
fulfill my dream of other because I already am a mom,
I have my kids, and now it's like, if you
don't if you don't make me, if you don't bring
like joy into my life, help me be a better
version of myself, I'm out. And I think I think
that's going to also help you meet like a really
amazing partner, because that's how my boyfriend was, Like it
(22:46):
was he It's almost like you did the thing you
had the kids, Like you're good, so you only want
somebody that's going to be so amazing to bring into
your kids lives, Like you're not just gonna bring anybody
around your kids, like you need someone that's gonna be
like amazing for them. So it's almost gonna like elevate
you just by Yeah, that's so true. I didn't even
think of it really that way, because it's true and
(23:09):
a lot of times, like like the things that we
would put ourselves through never put our kids through higher
standards for them. So way, even if I did have
really low self steaming poorly at myself, I would have
to elevate my standard because you know, I don't. I
wouldn't put just anybody around my kids. So I'm feeling
(23:30):
feeling good about Rocky Road. I don't know, So I'm like,
I want to be friends with you, Like I'm like,
I like, I know you're busy, and I know you
have kids. I know you live, like I know, I
think you live far away from me, and I know
that like I know I know you well literally you
know where I live. We live like forty five minutes away,
which you're like, so it will never work out. We
can never hang out, I know, but I could see us.
(23:52):
I could see us like working out together and like
doing things like not drinking together totally, you know, yeah,
like playing board games or like vision boarding together. Like
I don't know why vision boarding vision boarding. You seem
like a vision boarder. We oh, yeah, I feel we
because me Olivia and Sophie have made many a vision
(24:13):
board together. Um, yes, I love it boarding. Actually, no,
I see, I get it. I feel like Aurora and
I are like, well I meant to be, I will say,
Roora like I I'm like, so, I love the sisterhood
that y'all have with like you, Sophie and Olivia. Like,
I'm just so fascinated by all because you're all like Sophia,
(24:36):
they call her Sophie, so I called her Sophie. So
that's how That's how it is when you're like part
of the group, you know. Um, but I just love
like the dynamic and I'm just like fascinating. You'll are
also funny, you're smart, you're stunningly beautiful, and I love
that y'all are so close. But has there been any
Because I have three sisters, so I was curious, like
(24:58):
in this world that y'all are in, which is just
constant like attention and glam and like getting dressed up,
has there been any moment where there's just like conflict
or you're just like I do not want to see
you guys anymore. I don't want to work with you anymore.
Have there been any of those moments? Yeah? I mean,
we definitely need our breaks, but there's there's never been
(25:20):
a time where we're like we don't want to ever
see each other again. We're way too cold to anyway,
like we we do love each other, so but yeah,
we get in fights. We gotta fights like quarterly, maybe
by yearly a really big one maybe, But what are
the fights about? Like when it's because my sisters and
I when they lived with me, it was about like
(25:42):
clothes and stuff. That's where I was just like, you're
driving me insane. But like, we've never had any like
fights where it was like we didn't talk for a
period of time. The biggest fight Livian and I got
into was like after I had I gave birth to
both my children, actually both the two type of times.
If birth, my mom came to like help me, but
(26:03):
then it was like the height of COVID and my
brother Gus brought like nine friends to my house and
then Sophie wanted her boyfriend to sleep in my couch.
I had just given birth to a baby, and I
was like, I don't want all these people in my space.
It's COVID. I don't know who they are, and my
family is just like that like my brother Gus, like
he just travels with like nine strangers that I never know. Literally,
(26:25):
last there was a parent teacher conference like open house
at my school. Gus wanted to bring a friend and like,
I'm like, you can't. And Olivia always sticks up for
She's always trying to tell me that I need to
like let Gus's friends sleep at my house, or that
I'm not grateful enough for the help that my mom
gives me. She's just it's because she doesn't want them
(26:46):
at her house. That's like if those are the fights
we get into, if we get into fights about what
you want to bring a friend to parent teacher and
I are back to school, it was the most bizarre thing,
Like so like I'm like, why do you guys even
want to come? Um, Like it's like it's like my
son wanted to show my brother his uncle some of
his work that he's done. It's like, who is this
(27:08):
friend at what time? That what I need to know?
Like first of all, that's kind of red flag enough,
like like I'm pretty sure he's not allowed within like
feet of the school. So that I listened on that podcast,
ya were saying, um, they were saying that you were
(27:28):
the most like you're not scared of confrontation like you
will like you're you're not scared of it, and he
was saying like, I don't like confrontation, and I personally
hate confrontation. And I think part of why I I
was trying to say earlier, I love your sister as
a family, but I am I am so like drawn
to you as a person because I feel like you're
so just like yourself. I think I see things in
(27:52):
you that I wish I had a little more of
it myself, which is like the like I don't want
to say confrontational, but like the confident and so like
knowing who you are and standing up for yourself and
things that you believe in. Whether they get like a
positive feedback or not, I don't know. I'm just like, well,
thank you. I appreciate that. I mean, I do think
that that's something that gets me in trouble and is
(28:15):
like my one of my biggest assets. Like I I
you should some of the texts threads, it's like I
probably should have waited twenty four hours before answering I
get myself in problem like that a lot, like's impulsive
with with with answering, and I do call people out
before I have all the facts that are embarrassing. You know,
there's things that can go wrong. But but yeah, I
(28:39):
appreciate that. Thank you. I feel like it is a
Scorpio trade too, because Sophie's a Scorpio and she does
not like confrontation at all, and she and one of
my other friends to also scorpio. Yeah, so I feel
like it's a good week. Yeah, it's a good way.
What's your sis? I'm an aries? Oh my girlfriends in
the area is like the most known, like asshole's scary scary.
(29:04):
Oh yeah, my so my girlfriend's and aries and she
I'm not. I don't think of her as scary at all,
but I do. She is bossy, like she is definitely
like likes being in control, Like it's something she's passionate about.
She has no problem confronting anyone about it. I cannot
date in aerieses. I follow her on Instagram and I
and she give me aries by fire sign. What's your sign?
(29:29):
I'm a cancer and I'm like the most cancers cancer
you could ever mean, Like I'm super sensitive, very emotional,
so sentimental, Like every gift I give has to have
some sort of meaning. It gets like weird. Oh my god,
that's I feel like that's the opposite of me. That's
why I could never date in aries. It would be
very bad. Yeah, you'd offended a lot. My boyfriend's a
(29:52):
water sign, and so it's like like we're a good
match in that sense because he's very emotional sensitive too.
I know. It's like, who am I supposed to date
a leo? I don't know somebody who doesn't think I'm
a jerk for not being sentient sentimental. I think that's
also plays into like how I made that deal. People
don't understand it, maybe like more areas would understand it
(30:13):
because not sentimental, Like we're not right, it's transactional. It's
more it's more um uh, not transactional is not the
right word, but it's more like, um, I feel like
transactional does. And I'll leave that there. Then it's not personal, right.
(30:35):
Do you still feel that way though, Like do you
feel like if you like, when you fall in love again,
that you would like I feel like it's there's just
too many there's too many human conditions that I didn't
take into account that I think from from every like
(30:55):
we're different from one day to the next. It's just
not sustainable. And also, no, I don't want I don't
I don't want somebody to need that. Like, I just
feel like I should be enough, like I did it
at least try, you know, if I don't know, like,
and if I'm not then maybe then then they like
I just move on to the next person. You know,
I don't know. Yeah, like, instead of being like, because
(31:17):
I I do think of a big part of the
conversation that we had was that you wanted kids. So
I think, like, not feeling that pressure, you're able to
go Okay, even if I fell in love with this person,
if they need something from me that I'm not willing
to give again, I can walk away, as opposed to
being like I need to make it work totally. Yeah,
there's not that. There's not that pressure anymore, which really
bumps me out for the people who feel like like,
(31:39):
I don't want to sound like I'm validating the pressure
for people who don't have kids that want kids, Like,
it's still not a valid reason to try to make
something work that's not working, but it's a pressure that's there, Like,
and actually it's interesting and I'm seeing a lot more women.
I'd say the last six months, I've met three separate
women like randomly that I've had babies on their own,
like god a sperm don't and just said like I
(32:01):
want kid and I'm going to do it on my own.
And I feel like I haven't heard that many in
years past. Like I feel like it's becoming more the norm,
and it's good that people are like starting to just
take matters into their own hands. It's like, you know,
you don't need Yeah, I think that the pressure, it's
it's not right that we feel that way about certain things,
(32:23):
Like I don't think it's fair because I don't know
that I don't think I definitely don't think that men
have that pressure they're falling out of bed. I think
that your story is just very relatable to so many
women that like, yeah, oh I don't have to sacrifice
something that I really want in a relationship because of
the pressure that I feel. I also just like have
(32:44):
a really big problem with so my ex is he's
like forties seven now, and his friends who are saying
they set there like tinder age at like thirty, you know,
so it's like there's a whole there's like an expiration.
Like there's a whole up with women over forty single
probably you know, either have never been married been married before,
(33:05):
who have very slim pickings because all these old men
set their age rage so low and it's just not
I don't know, it's hot when they're older, and women
like are just like written off. No, I'm I'm so
much better of a catch now than it was at
twenty five. Let me tell you, Like I am, Like
(33:26):
my boyfriend is a lucky man because he met me
when I was five, was whack when I was twenty,
and I am so much better and now as a partner,
like honestly, like the way I handle things now are
so much better. I'm like, oh my gosh, if you
would have met me ten years ago, Like, no, it
would not have worked. I agree, Yeah, I agree, Why
(33:47):
don't It's I think that's one of the problems in
society is like that we don't give the time to
like really mature, Like by the time they're matured, their
physically out of a line. It was what like men, Yeah,
it's gross, gross, not functional clearly because it's like the
(34:08):
divorce rate is just climbing. Yeah, it's not working. Wait,
I want to ask you if you have any like
goals or plans or anything for I feel like you're
(34:30):
like that kind of gal. Yeah, I have goals, I
got I got some plans. Hopefully we'll stick to them.
I want to do another clothing line with my sisters.
We were were a brainstorming ideas that we didn't love
your clothes. I literally I a wore this. I was like,
I'm putting it into the universe. I'm just love all
your stuff all the time. Like I was the like
(34:51):
I feel like I can remember you. Yeah why, I
just could see you in the And this all the
sweat outfits too. I was like, I rocked this one
Offits like it was my job. Yeah, we need more
fancy sweat outfits, that's for damn sure. Yeah. Um yeah,
So just that. And I'm still just the everything with
(35:11):
separating lives. And I've never lived by myself before, so
I'm kind of scared to do that. I don't really
want to live by myself, but I'm gonna have to
be a big girl, just like learning how to be
comfortable being alone. I don't know, we're doing fifty fifty,
so there's gonna be days when I'm just I don't
have any kids, and I don't really know what I'm
gonna do at that time. So I think there's gonna
(35:33):
be a lot of growing pains, but I was hoping
that I can get through it. Like I don't know,
I think you're gonna thrive. I honestly, I feel like
this is gonna be like the new phase of your life,
and I think you're gonna just like it's only up
from here. Thank you. I can give you some tips
on living alone. I did it for many years. Yeah,
and like I feel like the first day I slept
(35:53):
by myself on my own, I like had a what
was it not a broom like a mop. I have
like a mop that I left with because I didn't
have locks on my door door, my bedroom door, like
I have walked to the house, but like not like
my bedroom door didn't have one. And I would hear
things and I would just like I get I got
them to bang somebody. Yeah, I always hear about I
(36:17):
need to learn some I don't know, I to actually
take jiu jitsu. I started taking jiu jitsu son more skills, um, yeah,
but I don't know. Yeah, just learning how to be
single and alone. I haven't been that ever that I
can remember, So yeah, I think I think growing pains
(36:38):
is very like a and honestly, it might happen faster.
You might like adapt to the quiet, living alone and
be like I never even gave myself a tip to
like this. Possibilities are endly Well, we are rooting for you,
and thank you so much for coming back and scrubbing in.
We obsessed with you the show, and you're a new website.
(37:01):
I mean you have like all the things I'm like
watching all your baking and like everything that you're doing.
I subscribe to the news letter. Thank you so much
for getting lots of recipes here. You know how to cook. Yeah,
I'm just like an Aurora Colpo stand so I appreciate it.
I just I love that, always here to support you.
So for you ever want to come back or you
(37:21):
want to be friends, we're here, just coming on totally.
That's an unnegotiable. If you need someone to come sleep
with you in your house, Tanya, I am here, I'm available. Yeah,
I love a sleepover. Yeah. Well, we're always supporting you
and so happy that you came on. And yeah, thanks
for being so just yourself and open. Thank you. And
(37:43):
if you guys have not yet watched our finale, um,
we had a two episode finale Aaron on Monday, so
you can still catch it on Discovery Plus or tlc
um And I think poste episodes were the best. So
where can people follow you on social media too? Yeah?
Aurora Colpo on Instagram and then Aurora ontur Culpo on TikTok.
(38:04):
But I needed to do better try and with the
TikTok's I'm the same thing. I'm like, I tried. I'm
trying to make a space for myself and the TikTok
land and it just doesn't. It's not like there's no
for me. It does not come naturally. Instagram I can do,
(38:25):
it comes naturally, but TikTok is not. It does not
come naturally to me. It feels like I'm trying to
put like I'm trying to put a sandal on when
I'm wearing socks, do you know what I mean? Like,
I'm like, it's just not like learn how to TikTok
retreat for old people. Okay, well, here are all of
our goals for will involve being better on TikTok. We'll
(38:48):
try our best thank you so much. Bye. You're the best.
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