Scrub-aissance

It’s 2023 and time for the Scrub-aissance!! Becca and Tanya are back with big plans for the new year!

Hear all about our big re-brand and what we’re leaving behind in 2022! 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Beccatelly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio Podcast.
Hello everybody, it is twenty twenty three. It is a
new year, and it is a new era of scrubbing in.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
It is a scrub aissance.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
It is a scrub aissance.

Speaker 2 (00:20):
What does that mean?

Speaker 4 (00:21):
We never discussed what the scrub aissance meant, like, we
never said, like what that entailed?

Speaker 2 (00:27):
Is it anything?

Speaker 3 (00:28):
It's a revival, it's a rebirth.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
It's a rejuvenation, and it is exemplified in our what
do you call that thing that we just updated our logo,
our logo, and it is represented in our logo. Well,
the thing is twenty fifteen is not us anymore. We
are twenty twenty three scrubbing in.

Speaker 4 (00:51):
That's right, that's right. Well we didn't start in twenty fifteen, so.

Speaker 3 (00:57):
That scrubbing it is out I'm so glad.

Speaker 4 (01:00):
Not scrubbing in never existed, so therefore it's definitely out right.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
So twenty seventeen, twenty seventeen, scrubbing in is no longer.

Speaker 5 (01:07):
You're two thousand and late, isn't that thing?

Speaker 4 (01:10):
Fergie said that, Yes, Fergie said that about twenty years ago.

Speaker 6 (01:13):
Right exactly.

Speaker 5 (01:14):
So don't be that pink logo was.

Speaker 3 (01:16):
Two late two thousand night.

Speaker 4 (01:18):
But seriously, it is crazy because the original scrubbing in
photo was just me because I it was just me
when we started, and we had that for a while,
just me. Yeah, and then we did me and you
and that was twenty eighteen and that was right, I
meant Haley, And that was up against a wall.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
I remember, we were like up against a white wall
in the break.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
Room right here, back to back in our scrub, back
to back.

Speaker 3 (01:40):
In our scrubs, and you know, it was cute.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
It was like two gals find two gal pals finding
their way around town, you know, romping around town, romping
around around.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
In our scrubs.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
And those two gal pals have blossomed, they have cocooned,
they have butterflied, and they are women now in suits.

Speaker 2 (01:59):
We are women in suits.

Speaker 7 (02:00):
Yeah, and you know, like modern women in suits, modern
women in suits, you know, in like how doctors go
from wearing scrubs every day and then they they start
wearing like once they get to a certain level, they
wear like nice dress clothes.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yeah, that's what we did.

Speaker 8 (02:14):
We became.

Speaker 3 (02:16):
Attending attending lead surgeons. No longer interns.

Speaker 4 (02:21):
I just want you all to know that when you
Google my name, it says healthcare professional next to it,
so yes, wow, you can look it up right now.

Speaker 2 (02:28):
Someone pointed out on the scrubbing and Facebook.

Speaker 3 (02:30):
Group, it's so good.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
Professional and you know, it's funny.

Speaker 4 (02:36):
And before I went on The Bachelor, I was a
chiropractic assistant, which basically no, because like I didn't do
anything healthcare related.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
Like I in the healthcare world, there were healthcare adjacent.

Speaker 4 (02:50):
Yeah, I was definitely adjacent to the Google search. Yeah
they should say healthcare professional adjacent. Yeah, but yeah, I
just felt like we needed to.

Speaker 2 (03:00):
It was just time.

Speaker 3 (03:01):
It was time. And you know, you know what comes
with time.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
Wis change and change, wisdom and change hand in hand.

Speaker 2 (03:10):
What do you feel wiser about going into twenty twenty three?

Speaker 3 (03:14):
So many things?

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Oh my gosh, had I know now in twenty twenty three,
In twenty eighteen, I probably would have done everything the same,
But I just feel a lot more knowledgeable now.

Speaker 2 (03:27):
You would have done everything the same, probably.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
Because I don't regret anything.

Speaker 2 (03:31):
I like that self awareness.

Speaker 4 (03:33):
Yeah, Like you know yourself enough to like you wouldn't
necessarily have done anything different, right, but you would be
aware of the things that maybe you could have done different.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
Correct, I'd be like, girl, this storm is not lasting forever.
The sunshine's coming out tomorrow. Yeah, I feel.

Speaker 2 (03:48):
Like that's Is that not how you lived your life?

Speaker 1 (03:51):
Yeah, there was some dark times. It sprinkled in. There's
some dark moments.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
So what is twenty twenty three hold in your mind?

Speaker 3 (03:58):
I'll tell you what twenty twenty three holds. Can get
a drum roll? Please?

Speaker 5 (04:01):
Absolutely you can.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
Here it comes, get ready and we are one step
closer to this project.

Speaker 4 (04:14):
Patrick Dempsey, why was I thinking like your book, like
all these things and Patrick.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
I mean personally, there's a lot going on twenty twenty
three podcast wise, I think my biggest goal is to
get Patrick Dempsey on this podcast in the flesh in
the studio, back to back.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
Well, we did have an update on this.

Speaker 3 (04:36):
Yes, so we have a lead.

Speaker 4 (04:38):
So we know a guy who knows a.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
Guy who knows no hold on this is the connection.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
So this guy, yeah, no, he knows the guys who
did like he endorses this water and it's a sister
company to the water that I endorsed at Kiss like
last year or something. And this is real this is real,
this is legit, And so he said he's going to

(05:05):
tell these people about scrubbing in to get Patrick on.

Speaker 6 (05:11):
Listen Wood.

Speaker 1 (05:16):
I don't want us to share his name because I
don't know if he wants me to share his name.
But he works for iHeartMedia on the East Coast. He's
like an on air personality. I was like, so, I
was like, how did you know I did that endorsement?
You know, but it makes me feel like we're one
step closer to Patrick Depsy Patrick deps.

Speaker 4 (05:33):
And it might just be one literally one step, like
I think it's just maybe one step closer, but it's
closer than we were before.

Speaker 1 (05:40):
That was closer than we were in twenty twenty two. Yeah,
and you know what one step closer, just one step
forward is fine? Oh you it's progress progress, Yeah, and
that's all.

Speaker 3 (05:51):
We're looking for.

Speaker 5 (05:52):
Will we settle for a zoom interview with Patrick Dempsey?

Speaker 1 (05:55):
It's not the goal, right, it's not the goal.

Speaker 4 (05:58):
But yes, but yes, they answer to that, we'll settle.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
Well, you know that brings up an interesting point about settling.

Speaker 4 (06:06):
Oh wow, okay, I also want to talk about you
and Robbie's gas station.

Speaker 1 (06:11):
That's what I was going to talk about because I
feel like when we settle in life, when we're desperate, Yes, Mark,
can I help you? No?

Speaker 5 (06:20):
No, No, I just make sure my off because I
was clearing my.

Speaker 3 (06:26):
You know, we were on this I was gonna say
cross country road trip.

Speaker 1 (06:30):
We were not. We were just on a road trip
to northern California. But we were desperate for gas and
it was cold times outside and we were desperate. We
hadn't seen a gas station in a very long time.

Speaker 5 (06:42):
This isn't California cold. This is legitimate winter cold.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
Yeah, but I mean yeah, you're in the mountains.

Speaker 3 (06:49):
In the mountains.

Speaker 1 (06:50):
So we pull over and this like gas station. The
gas thing is like like making all these like like
it looks like it's going to explode. I'm like, what
are we putting in our cars? This gasoline? I'm not
quite sure. Go into the bathroom, there's no bathroom. That's
a porta potty. There's no toilet paper in there. So
I had a pee in the woods with a napkin
from our own car, from our own snacks that I packed.
And I was like, that was a treacherous experience and

(07:13):
like crazy, right, we get back in the car, and
we start making our way back. One foot in front
of us is a glorious seventy six station and a
glorious mobile station with bright lights, welcoming signs, snacks, functioning bathrooms.
And I was like, this is such a metaphor for life.

(07:34):
If you're desperate and you just pull over to the
next best thing that you see, you're gonna end up
at this rickety gas station wiping your vagina with a.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
Rough napkin from sprouts up the street.

Speaker 1 (07:47):
Yeah, which is probably biodegradable, yes, for sure. Or you
can have your standards high and not settle, and right
up the road you're gonna get a nice, shiny partner.

Speaker 5 (08:00):
Mm hm, I'm not sure this ANALOGI work.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
See, I think it.

Speaker 4 (08:06):
I think both of y'all's analogies really resonated with me.

Speaker 3 (08:09):
Oh so, then Robbie's counter.

Speaker 4 (08:11):
You know, lawyers love to counter, and he loves counter.

Speaker 1 (08:16):
He was like, or is it you're always looking for
the next best thing. You're not happy satisfied? We got gas,
Our car got gas, great gas. We're driving, we're on
the road. We got to use the restroom. There's a
reliable gas station. We got what we needed. You can
get what you need? Are you gonna waste your time?
Just go into the bigger, better thing?

Speaker 4 (08:36):
Which is interesting because your whole thing throughout the years
of this podcast has been steady Eddie.

Speaker 3 (08:43):
Yes, yes, that is correct. I want steady Eddie, but
I don't want rickety Rick.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
I'm not sure what he's spewing out of his hose.

Speaker 3 (08:52):
I don't know what's fine.

Speaker 2 (08:54):
Y'all got home.

Speaker 3 (08:54):
We didn't get home.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
It happened to be gas gasoline, but I wasn't sure
at the moment.

Speaker 3 (08:59):
I was like, this feels.

Speaker 4 (09:01):
I just feel like depending on where you are in
life depends on whose analogy resonates with you the most,
because I've been in both. You know, I think we've
all experienced where we're like, if I had just been
a little more patient, I could have gotten something maybe better.

Speaker 3 (09:16):
Yes, yes, in so many ways.

Speaker 4 (09:18):
But you know what, those new gas stations are gonna
be old one day, and are you going to be
looking for the next newest thing?

Speaker 1 (09:26):
Yes, okay, no, I'm just joking, totally loyal, but you know,
for the purposes, yes, for the purposes of this debate, yes, yes, yeah,
it was interesting.

Speaker 4 (09:38):
It was funny to see and that is the most
Robbie thing I've ever seen him, taking your hopeful analogy
and being like, let me lawyer this real quick.

Speaker 8 (09:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:47):
It was funny because I shared a little bit of
a thing in the instagram cut him off, and so
many people were dming me like I wanted to hear
his side, and I was.

Speaker 3 (09:55):
Like, oh, here, give them, give them what they want.

Speaker 8 (10:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (10:02):
You also brought up the snacks that y'all had, yes,
which was a lot of snacks, healthy pre packed snacks.

Speaker 3 (10:11):
Mostly from the earth.

Speaker 2 (10:13):
Yeah, mostly from the earth.

Speaker 4 (10:15):
I had an interesting experience on my Haley and I
went to Joshua Tree and by the way, it takes
two and a half hours to get there.

Speaker 1 (10:24):
To take you six hours. Oh yeah, yeah with Phoebe.

Speaker 2 (10:29):
Car it was really bad. We left on Friday. It
was so bad.

Speaker 4 (10:34):
Well, I don't know if people were Yeah, I think
people were just like leaving la.

Speaker 2 (10:38):
I don't know if Vegas. Is that the same way
you go?

Speaker 1 (10:42):
Yeah, it took us like eleven to get back from Tahoe.

Speaker 5 (10:47):
Eleven hours from Tahoe.

Speaker 4 (10:49):
That would send me eleven hours from Tahoe, I think
would send me into.

Speaker 1 (10:53):
But it's like double triple what it should have been
like yours.

Speaker 2 (10:57):
Yeah, that's bad.

Speaker 4 (10:58):
Yeah, But Haley had ordered all of our groceries because
we just got an airbnb and like we normally just
like stand and cook and stuff. And it was all
from like sprouts, which in Whole Foods, which is like healthy,
you know. So I was like browsing the snacks on
the app when she was ordering, thinking, my god, we're
starting off the new year with organic only. I I

(11:19):
got like pizza rolls and bagel bites, but they were
like all natural ingredients.

Speaker 2 (11:24):
They're just still great.

Speaker 4 (11:26):
So that was like it kind of made me think
like maybe I can do it, like not as so
much a healthier life, not like a step up, a
step a step forward.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
Progress progress, yes, Mecca.

Speaker 4 (11:38):
But I was thinking about how I love road trips
and I love like the snacks on road trips, and
I was thinking about Rob. Yeah, but he's healthy, so
he is he is like he do.

Speaker 1 (11:50):
We are very similar. We're like food compatible. We do
enjoy eating kind of the same way. But it is
funny because I think I'm I'm like on the totally
opposite of the pendulum right now because of my hashimotos.
I'm so aware of like every little thing that I'm
eating and I'm trying to just eat super like whole foods,
not processed, super clean, and I like threw out all

(12:11):
of our plastic tupperware and he was trying to like
find tupperword to put the stuff in, and he was like,
where's all of our stuff?

Speaker 2 (12:19):
I was like, so what are you using instead?

Speaker 1 (12:21):
Glass jars and like just like glass containers and.

Speaker 5 (12:24):
Why is that for anyone who's not familiar with the
reasons to get rid of their tupperware.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
There's a lot of toxins and plastic anything, and so
it's really bad when it's touching your food. So I
donated it to the dog shelter with a lot of
other Sunnies things. I didn't want to just toss in
the trash. But it was really funny because he was
like rummaging through and he was just like, where's all

(12:48):
of our Yeah, you can use these amazing glass jars,
Mason jars.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
He was not prepared for Tanya twenty three.

Speaker 4 (12:56):
Not prepared, but happy about it. Yeah, yeah, sure, he bumming.
He's very willing to go along with all your things.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
Yeah my antics.

Speaker 2 (13:04):
Yeah, Yeah, he's in.

Speaker 4 (13:05):
It for because he knows he'll probably last for three
to six months and then you're on to the next thing.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
So not true, Becca Tilly, Not true, Not with this one.

Speaker 1 (13:14):
This is gonna last a full year. Oh good, Yeah,
that's how long I have to give it.

Speaker 4 (13:18):
Well, I had the weirdest holiday season I think ever.
This is the first well there's been one Christmas where
I wasn't with family, but I was with my well
I was with family, just like not my whole family.
This is the first Christmas I wasn't with any family
on Christmas.

Speaker 3 (13:34):
What do you want to tell us about that?

Speaker 4 (13:36):
In the second you mean after a break, yeah, yeah, break, Yeah,
we can do that. So I think everyone had interesting

(13:59):
Christmas holiday season this year, with like the winter storm
in the Midwest and the eastle flights canceled flights like,
oh my gosh.

Speaker 5 (14:07):
We were supposed to fly back from Wisconsin on Southwest
and we panicked and just canceled it and bought a
flight home on American. And I gotta say, because every
airline will screw you at some point, it couldn't have
gone smoother. Both flights left on time, bags were waiting
for us when we got there. It was phenomenal. And
our original Southwest flights that we canceled left three hours late,

(14:28):
led to a half an hour before our connecting flight,
and so I don't know that we would have made it.
We may have gotten stranded in Phoenix all night.

Speaker 1 (14:35):
So yeah, it was wild. That's why I saw this happening.
Our trip to Tahoe was like last minute, and Robbie's like,
let's just fly into Reno, and I'm like, I am
not flying anywhere right now because this is just mayhem.

Speaker 4 (14:47):
Well, I had booked my flight and was supposed to
get their Christmas Eve in the morning, and then my sister, Heink,
who's in Denver, her flight got canceled going out. So
I was like, well, why don't you fly to l
so that you're at least with me if anything happens,
You're not like alone in Denver. So we book her
flight on Southwest the night before that one gets canceled,

(15:10):
and I had rebooked us to go on a flight
together separate from my fight, So I canceled my original flight.
That one made it to Louisiana. By the way, I
wasn't on it because I canceled it so that I
could be with my sister. She never made it to
LA the flight. The flight I booked for us got canceled,
and so I was like, you know what, I'm not

(15:32):
going to stress about it. I'm with Haley's family, Like,
I'm excited to spend Christmas with Haley. I'm not going
to like panic. I'll see my family after Christmas. So
I booked my flight to go home the day after Christmas.
I on Christmas Day come down with the worst sore throat.
I am not kidding. I have ever felt as an adult.

(15:52):
I may have felt bad when I was a kid.

Speaker 2 (15:54):
I had that.

Speaker 4 (15:54):
Yeah, I am not kidding. I cannot remember the last
time my throat felt like this. I had no other symptoms,
just like, didn't you want to speak, didn't even want
to swallow my own spit.

Speaker 2 (16:02):
It was horrible. So this happens on Christmas night.

Speaker 4 (16:05):
So I don't even say bye to everyone because I'm
so sick that I'm like, I don't even want to
be near anybody. And all night I was just writhing
in pain. And I got a doctor's appointment and went
in immediately that morning, I had to cancel my flight.
I was like, Okay, I can't even speak Haley was
standing outside of the doctor's office and she heard me talking,

(16:27):
but she was like, I'm not sure if this is
Becca's room because that is not Becca's voice. And the
doctor was asking Haley. She was like, I don't know
if she tipped. Is this her normal voice? And she
was like no, I've.

Speaker 1 (16:37):
Literally never heard this before.

Speaker 4 (16:39):
So she did, like a throat swab, give me a
steroid shot, give me antibiotics, and within the next day,
I was like significantly improved, but it was horrible. It
with strep throat, which I got as a kid, like
all the time. I haven't had it since then, and
I'm just so grateful that I was able to get
in and get medicine because I would have been like,

(17:01):
it would have been worse. So I might go home tomorrow,
I'm not sure.

Speaker 1 (17:06):
Unexpected plot twist.

Speaker 3 (17:08):
I got out of here.

Speaker 4 (17:10):
Bye, But it was it was a it was just
like a different holiday, Like it was kind of weird.

Speaker 1 (17:16):
It was like hot here. Yeah, it was weird. Look,
So we were going up to Tahoe the night before.
We were driving. I'm up all night, every hour, I'm
going to the bathroom and I'm like, are you freaking kidding? Me,
I have a UTI the night before We're about to
drive to Tahoe. I was like texting back at three
o'clock in the morning.

Speaker 3 (17:39):
Used to get these all the time, all the time,
but it's been so long.

Speaker 5 (17:42):
Knock on wood, the Uti is come.

Speaker 8 (17:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (17:50):
It was very it was very unexpected plot twist, and
happy that it happened to twenty twenty two because I
am not bringing that energy into twenty twenty three. Ugh no,
but I like powered through. I like called my GUYO
right away and like, these doctors are amazing. Like I
called her office and then I was like, if it's
an emergency, press eight, and I pressed eight. She's like hello,

(18:12):
doctor Collins, And I was like what what.

Speaker 7 (18:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (18:16):
I was like, wow, it's pretty amazing.

Speaker 3 (18:19):
I've never had like that before. I always got urgent care,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 5 (18:22):
Yeahs call center.

Speaker 1 (18:25):
Yeah, but no, it wasn't after hours. I called like
in the morning. It was like nine am or something.
But yeah, it was pretty amazing. So I got my
meds and I was like, you know what, I'm gonna
do this. We're gonna do this. We're gonna we're gonna
get there. We get there, Robbie. So excited ski. He
like loves skiing. Veniver ski just the two of us
because last time we had the kids.

Speaker 3 (18:41):
And we get there.

Speaker 1 (18:43):
The first day we get there, it's raining and like
I don't know if you, I don't really know much
about skiing and stuff, but you can't ski in the
rain because it like it gets really slushy and I'm
not like a good skier, and so everything was like closed.
The wind was crazy, so they were closing all the
whatever the thing's gondolas go through. So it's like it's fine, well,
ski tomorrow. So we like played cards, got drunk and

(19:04):
just had like a fun snow day. Right the next day,
we won't wake up and it's like a blizzard.

Speaker 2 (19:10):
It is crazy.

Speaker 1 (19:12):
They're getting so they're getting pounded. Nothing is working on
the mountains, geez. So we're snowed in again day two.
So that day we actually like went like frolicked and
like made like did all that.

Speaker 5 (19:23):
Like pictures are from Yeah, yeah, I got scrubbers. I
heard from saying Tanya need to stop posting pictures.

Speaker 2 (19:29):
He's engaged.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
Yeah, yeah, so I'm not engaged. I'm not hiding it
would never hide that. We'll be very excited to not
hide that.

Speaker 4 (19:40):
Say, like, out of all the people who would hide it.

Speaker 5 (19:43):
It was never gonna no anything.

Speaker 6 (19:47):
No.

Speaker 1 (19:48):
So yeah, so no, I'm not engaged, but you know,
still really just feeling it, just feeling the energy, you know,
just feeling the bejeweled energy, you know, manifestation.

Speaker 2 (20:01):
Yeah. Yeah, I have high plans.

Speaker 1 (20:05):
I have a lot of plans for twenty twenty three.
So it's time to get.

Speaker 3 (20:09):
The show on the road. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (20:11):
Yeah, I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (20:11):
I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (20:12):
I know what I'm saying. No, I can't do those
plans until we got till we got joy.

Speaker 3 (20:15):
Yeah, till we're jeweled.

Speaker 1 (20:17):
So you know, okay, no pressure or anything, but sure,
no pressure, No, no, no pressure.

Speaker 2 (20:22):
He's yeah, I'm sure you chill.

Speaker 3 (20:24):
Yeah, super chill.

Speaker 1 (20:25):
I'm like, I'm basically like ice Queen, like the ice cool. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (20:32):
We So every time we go on a New Year's trip,
we typically just do nothing in rest, and it was
this year was we did nothing. Like Caroline, my sister
had gotten Haley, this paint by numbers thing for which
is first all.

Speaker 1 (20:46):
The fact that your sister got Haley that like made
me emotional.

Speaker 2 (20:49):
Yeah, it was really that it's really cute.

Speaker 4 (20:50):
She got it for her in April for her birthday,
and when we opened it, it was so many tiny
numbers that we both kind of just rolled it back
up and we're like, we'll revisit, and so I was
we were talking about it and Haley before we left,
she was like, we should bring like a puzzle or
something to work on. I was like, what about that
paint by numbers thing? So we opened it, and Haley's
very much like she loves painting, but she doesn't like

(21:12):
any rules or restrictions, so like that was very stressful
for her, whereas I like rules and like borders, like
I always did well in art if I had.

Speaker 1 (21:22):
Like color inside.

Speaker 4 (21:24):
Yeah, yeah, So I just like I'm talking for however
long five days, I just would like sit and work
on it, like while we were just relaxing, listen to music,
and it is the coolest thing. We finished it last
night and I'm gonna frame it. But it was like
I had the best time, and I was thinking if
I was if I lived alone and I was just
like single, and I would make myself dinner and get

(21:45):
one of those things and just sit and listen to
music and or listen to podcasts and just really I
loved it.

Speaker 2 (21:51):
I learned a lot about myself on this trip.

Speaker 1 (21:54):
What did you What else did you learn?

Speaker 4 (21:55):
I also started reading this book called The Untethered Soul. Oh,
I'm I need you to read it after I'm done.
Was I'm just on chapter I'm like on the first
couple chapters. It's just about like learning about yourself and
like finding peace. The first chapter is talking about your
inner voice, like do y'all I'm assuming y'all have like
inner dialogue, like if you're in a situation. I did

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this a lot while I was like dealing with difficult
things in my relationship with Haley, like navigating telling people
or whatever. I would have these internal conversations about how
it would go, and I would play both roles.

Speaker 2 (22:30):
Do you'll do that? I do this with everything?

Speaker 1 (22:33):
And how's exhausting.

Speaker 2 (22:35):
I think you if you're once, you're aware of it.
I think you realize you do it.

Speaker 4 (22:39):
But he's talking about your inner voice and how if
if you personified your inner voice, like if you like
personified that person, gave it a name, and you pretended
that you were hanging out with him, you would be
like I am so annoyed by this person.

Speaker 2 (22:55):
They have a thought on everything.

Speaker 4 (22:56):
They're always like doubting or not trusting something, or they
always have like a negative response if something's like you
should you know? For me, my inner voice sometimes is
like don't do that, like what if it goes wrong
or what if someone has reaction to it? And so
it was saying like if you personified that voice, you
would never keep them around. You'd be like, I gotta

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give this person out of my life. And how annoying
it is and how crucial it is that we like
listen to that voice so often and there's no truth
to it.

Speaker 2 (23:26):
It's like our own thing made up.

Speaker 4 (23:29):
Yeah, but it's so fascinating and I can't wait to
finish it. I saw this girl that I love on Instagram,
Amber filler Up, and she recommended she's like a changed
my life.

Speaker 1 (23:38):
I would love to change my life. That's part of
the renaissance. Pass that book on over red Rover.

Speaker 4 (23:42):
But anyways, I'm I really enjoyed reading. I just loved
being I was on my phone, like I took photos
and stuff, and like I was on social media but
not I like spent so much time off of it,
and I loved it. I had the best time.

Speaker 3 (23:55):
Great, I love that.

Speaker 1 (23:57):
Can't wait to get the book, can't wait to give
it to you. No, another book is coming out in January.

Speaker 2 (24:02):
Yeah, let's talk about it. Should we take a break
and come back?

Speaker 8 (24:05):
And I know there's so.

Speaker 1 (24:06):
Much that I feel like, there's so much more that
I want to talk about, because like we haven't seen
each other in like a really long time, and like
there's just so much to get to. Like I don't
know what order to go in, but I guess we always.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
Have next week.

Speaker 2 (24:16):
There's always next week.

Speaker 3 (24:17):
Yeah, that's the good thing.

Speaker 2 (24:19):
Let's take a break and we'll come back with the
sunshine mine.

Speaker 8 (24:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (24:38):
So before we went on a break, we were saying,
there's another book coming out soon.

Speaker 1 (24:42):
There's another book coming out soon jan thirty one, Jan
three to one.

Speaker 5 (24:46):
That's four weeks from today to you and me, it's
so crazy.

Speaker 2 (24:51):
It's happening.

Speaker 1 (24:52):
It's happening. It's like so crazy. Because I was kind
of gearing up for stuff around the holidays. I took
time off. I took like a the two weeks from
Christmas to New Year, and I was like, I really
need to get some book stuff done off my plate
because come Jan, come Jen one, it's gonna be full
steam ahead. And I'm really glad I did that because
now it's like not so overwhelming, but it's like so like,

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we just have so much coming up.

Speaker 3 (25:16):
We're gonna do a book signing at the.

Speaker 2 (25:18):
Grove that is so cool.

Speaker 3 (25:21):
It's gonna be so cool.

Speaker 1 (25:23):
So that's gonna happen, and then we're gonna be on
Good Morning America.

Speaker 2 (25:27):
I mean that was so epic, I know.

Speaker 1 (25:30):
So it's like just kind of gearing up for all
of all of the fun of it, the excite, I mean,
all of it's like really fun and exciting, but it's just, yeah,
the release, the release, it's like so much build up,
so much time, so much energy, so much effort into
this project, and like now it's like here, Yeah, it's
like happening. It's almost like I'm giving birth, you know.

Speaker 2 (25:50):
Yeah, it really you're giving birth.

Speaker 4 (25:54):
Yeah, because you've been working on this for a long
time years and it's finally come to fruition.

Speaker 1 (25:59):
It has come to ruition. Twenty twenty three, twenty twenty three,
I'm going to be a published author. Wow, New York
Times best selling auth that's right, that's right. Fingers crossed.
But I did have a confession to make okay, so
I said on the podcast, which was like, I can't remember.
A couple of months ago, I was like, oh my gosh, Oh,
I thought you're gonna do the drum roll. No, it's

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really not that big of a yeah, it's a little
bit of.

Speaker 5 (26:24):
A long drum roll.

Speaker 1 (26:31):
I think I have more gray hairs than I thought.
A couple of months ago, I was getting my hair
and I was like, oh my gosh, I found my
first gray.

Speaker 3 (26:42):
This is so exciting.

Speaker 1 (26:43):
Oh my god, you were excited.

Speaker 3 (26:45):
Yeah, I cut it out.

Speaker 1 (26:47):
I had tawny like cut it out of my head.
I was like, oh yeah, I saved that sucker. And
I did a melt before the holidays to give my
hair a break from the bleach before I like ramp
up because I'm gonna go full blue each for the
book release. Oh wow yeah yeah, yeah, she's gonna be
real blonde for a book launch week. But so I
did give my hair a break over the holidays, and

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so my roots are like really brown, and I'm seeing
so many more.

Speaker 3 (27:12):
Grays in there now.

Speaker 1 (27:13):
I'm like, yeah, maybe it's because my hair is darker.
I can see them more, and I couldn't see them
before because my hair was so blonde. But there's like
a lot of grays in there. Well, I mean I
don't even welcome, like definitely a handful or more.

Speaker 4 (27:29):
Well, yeah, I mean, I'm sure when your hair is
like bleach blonde, you don't see gray hair.

Speaker 8 (27:34):
I know.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
But it made me more aware of I guess my
age because I always feel like I'm twenty five too.

Speaker 4 (27:38):
Well, I feel twenty seven. That's like my age, That's
what I say, twenty six.

Speaker 1 (27:43):
Yeah, I feel twenty five like I feel twenty five.
And then I saw those hairs and I was like,
oh my gosh, I'm in my thirties.

Speaker 2 (27:50):
We are indeed in our thirties.

Speaker 3 (27:52):
Mid thirties.

Speaker 1 (27:53):
I am in my mid thirties, and here we are.

Speaker 4 (27:57):
You may I got my first gray hairs a like
twenty three, So I'm like way wiser than you, et cetera.

Speaker 2 (28:07):
Way wiser, so way wiser.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
So that was my confession. And then I also watched
a lot of stuff over the holidays.

Speaker 2 (28:16):
What I just remembered? What did you watch?

Speaker 3 (28:18):
What did you remember?

Speaker 1 (28:20):
I watched so many things, like we could watch we
could talk about the Harry and Meghan documentary. We could
talk about the Recruit, we.

Speaker 5 (28:25):
Could talk about Glass Onion.

Speaker 1 (28:27):
Glass Onion, we could talk about Matilda the musical. We
could talk about else. I watched, Oh, we started watching
the show you posted about Sisters. Yeah, and then we're
going to watch Kaleidoscope too.

Speaker 4 (28:35):
Okay, I want to watch Kaleidoscope. The only thing I
watched that you listed was Glass Onion. I saw that
in theaters a few so lame.

Speaker 1 (28:42):
I hated it too. I loved fun.

Speaker 5 (28:50):
Yeah, I know, I had no issue with the second one.
I thought it was really fun.

Speaker 1 (28:53):
I do have a confession about that movie, which won
the first one, the second, the.

Speaker 2 (28:57):
Second one, the Glass Onion.

Speaker 4 (28:59):
We saw it in theaters and I may or may
not have taken an edible before, thinking like this could
be fun. I got so anxious in the theater and thought,
what if I I literally I don't do this normally
want to take an edible because I think I'm just
at home, comfortable in my house. I was like, what
if I can't get out of here in the theater,

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Like what if I can't get out of the theater?
Like and then we were in the middle section, like
we were right in the middle of the road, So would.

Speaker 1 (29:25):
To be able to get out of the theater that's
like there's doors.

Speaker 4 (29:28):
I don't know I could. I just my brain was
like doing its thing. So I had the worst experience
watching that movie. So and then on top of that,
I hated the movie.

Speaker 5 (29:37):
So I was just like all of it was like
this you or was you the edible responsible for the movie?

Speaker 4 (29:42):
That's a good question, But I Haley also didn't like it,
So I wonder if also those expectations, like when you
pay money and go to a theater, you have a
certain amount of expectation.

Speaker 5 (29:50):
I watched it on a plane on Netflix on my
iPad and I found it delightful because I'm just killing
time on Yeah, so that might be a difference there.

Speaker 3 (29:57):
Yeah, I watched it at home and it was bad.

Speaker 4 (30:00):
But I'm kind of like when I go to a theater,
my expectations really, I'm like, I have popcorn and candy
and a drink. I'm chilling, like I'm honestly happy, no
matter what the problem was. I ate all my food
before we were even like halfway through the movie, So
then I was just anxious and like full, what's.

Speaker 5 (30:18):
Your beef with it. Tony didn't really articulate properly.

Speaker 3 (30:20):
What like articulated because it's so so bad.

Speaker 5 (30:24):
I like, you're not part of this discussion.

Speaker 7 (30:27):
I know.

Speaker 6 (30:27):
I loved it. I love the Yes. I watched it
on Netflix and my wife and I loved it every
second of it. I thought it was such a fun
improvement from the first movie.

Speaker 2 (30:37):
Fun improvement. Interesting, that was a step up.

Speaker 6 (30:41):
Wow, the tone had changed completely, Yes, and it was
I mean much like the first movie was making fun
of like old money and stuff like that. I thought
this was a really fun way to make fun of,
like you know, the the Tesla's and then netflixes and things,
the disruptors I love.

Speaker 3 (30:57):
Yeah, I did like that.

Speaker 6 (30:58):
Take an air out of those things. I thought it
was really funny. And I love who Done It's. I
love mysteries. I love that kind of garbage. I love
those kind of archetypes, all of those characters. I had
a great time.

Speaker 4 (31:09):
Wow, all right, well, fifty to fifty here in the
scrubbing in room.

Speaker 1 (31:12):
Maybe sound off scrubbers, yea.

Speaker 5 (31:16):
But she was laying on the beach. I probably not.

Speaker 4 (31:18):
Hana was living her best life in the life, She's
living her best life now she was.

Speaker 3 (31:23):
Still another podcast.

Speaker 2 (31:27):
Okay, well we watch.

Speaker 4 (31:29):
Let me just say, since I think my attention span
has clapped since I've had TikTok, which I'm trying to limit.

Speaker 3 (31:35):
As well, Yeah, I have something too.

Speaker 1 (31:38):
I'll get to after you, okay.

Speaker 4 (31:40):
And so we started watching, and so Haley will start
a series and if I'm not instantly hooked, I can't
like pay attention, so I'll just like play on my
phone or something and she'll watch the whole thing and
I'll just like to jime in when I can or
want to. But we started Bad Sisters. It's on Apple TV,
you guys. It was one of the best shows I

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have watched in a very long time because then I
watched it.

Speaker 1 (32:04):
So we watched the first episode and I was hooked.

Speaker 3 (32:06):
I was like, I want to watch it.

Speaker 4 (32:07):
It is everything. It has everything you could want to show.
It has everything that I would want to show. It
had like the sisters, the sister relationship, which I thought
was so funny.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
They're all Irish, so like the accents for great.

Speaker 4 (32:21):
I just love that it's funny, but it's dark and
like it is just incredible.

Speaker 3 (32:26):
I really like the first episode.

Speaker 4 (32:28):
I can't recommend the show enough if you have time
and want to binge a show Bad Sisters on Apple TV.

Speaker 3 (32:33):
Yeah, give yeah. I'm excited to finish.

Speaker 2 (32:36):
And like, I think there's gonna be a season two.

Speaker 4 (32:38):
But I have mixed feelings about it because I'm like,
it was so good.

Speaker 2 (32:42):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (32:43):
I always get weird about like sequels and season twos.
So that's a little bit about me.

Speaker 8 (32:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (32:52):
Yeah, the list is going to go on and on
and on, but this one. So in my new person
suit of my health, health is wealth in twenty twenty three,
healing from the inside out.

Speaker 3 (33:06):
You are what you eat. Yeah, okay, it's my mentality.

Speaker 2 (33:09):
It's not always been is this, but it's.

Speaker 3 (33:12):
Newer because I'm so.

Speaker 2 (33:13):
Focused on like something specific.

Speaker 1 (33:17):
Something specific like beating my hashimotos okay, like in a
non medical way.

Speaker 2 (33:23):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (33:25):
So I started, I was like, I we were in
Tahoe and this like pizza place had all there. They
were like, we can do any of our pizzas gluten
free for you, Like they were so accommodating, and I
was like, first of all, I think the waiter that
we had was the best waiter I've ever had my
entire life.

Speaker 3 (33:42):
I love that yeah, gave him like the biggest no boot.

Speaker 8 (33:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (33:46):
Oh yeah, it was this shoot tied on no better
than no boot because he was just so like not
just on it, but like kind and courteous and just
like all I was like, wow, like we literally robb me.

Speaker 3 (34:00):
I could stop talking, like remember.

Speaker 5 (34:01):
His name because you should shout this guy out.

Speaker 1 (34:03):
It was two there was two guys on the he
wrote like two names. I think it was like Brian
and Evan on the bill, so.

Speaker 5 (34:10):
I don't know which one was.

Speaker 1 (34:12):
But I was like we were eating our eating it
and we were like, oh my gosh, this gluten free
pizza was like amazing.

Speaker 3 (34:19):
It was so good.

Speaker 1 (34:21):
And I was like, after I've been like doing all
this stuff and I've been posting about it, people are
very curious and want to know more about like gluten
free options and like all this gluten free stuff, and
it's like very undersaturated, Like there's not like I have
to do all this research. I'm just doing it on
my own. Like I'm just buying all the different things
and seeing what I like best. And so I'm like
going to be the gluten free gal. Might start a

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TikTok of gluten free gal and like rate all my
experiences at different places that I go to about like
how gluten friendly they are, best products that I'm consuming,
Like I'm going to be one of those TikTokers that's
like rating my gluten free life.

Speaker 4 (35:00):
I love that for you. I love it for me too,
great idea. I think it's very helpful.

Speaker 1 (35:04):
It's so helpful because I've been doing all this research.
I'm like doing all this research and I can't find anything.
So I'm like, I'll just be the guinea pig and
start doing it myself.

Speaker 2 (35:13):
And you know what's crazy is like Blaize new Child.

Speaker 1 (35:16):
Yeah, watch, there's like fifty others going free lifestyle has
been around for a minute.

Speaker 8 (35:22):
But I love that.

Speaker 2 (35:23):
You'll have your own take on it, the Tanya take.

Speaker 3 (35:25):
The Tanya take. Yeah, but it was I don't know.

Speaker 1 (35:27):
I'm very like into it, like very very interested in
this whole world.

Speaker 2 (35:33):
Do you know who Alex Earl is?

Speaker 8 (35:35):
Yes?

Speaker 1 (35:35):
Why do I know her? I follow her on Instagram?

Speaker 2 (35:38):
Oh on Instagram? Yeah, she's blown up on TikTok. She's
are you talking about that?

Speaker 1 (35:44):
She's like young Montera. She was just like on a
yacht somewhere. Yeah, it has.

Speaker 4 (35:51):
Been fascinating because I am a thirty four year old
woman and she's like twenty two or twenty three, I
don't know.

Speaker 2 (35:57):
She's like he's young, still in college.

Speaker 4 (36:00):
And I find myself watching every video she makes, and
there's nothing like it's like get ready with me videos.
There's nothing like groundbreaking about what she does, right, But
I think it's a fact that she does it in
a way that's very like she's very open about like
anything she's had done, she has, like she's struggled with acne.

Speaker 2 (36:18):
She talks about her acne shows. You know, she's just
very like it feels like you're with.

Speaker 1 (36:21):
Your friend, Yeah that's nice, or a young yeah, young galpal.

Speaker 2 (36:27):
But it's fascinating, like she's just blown up.

Speaker 4 (36:29):
And she did a live where she was talking about
her breakup with her boyfriend who's a major league baseball player.

Speaker 8 (36:34):
Oh my, and she.

Speaker 4 (36:36):
Was just talking like she was just talking like she
was on FaceTime with her best friends, but she's on
a TikTok live and she was just basically saying like
he wouldn't post photos of her on his Instagram, like
they went to.

Speaker 2 (36:46):
A wedding and he posted throw me.

Speaker 4 (36:48):
He posts like they took a bunch of photos together
and he posted just a photo of himself, and she
was like, what the heck?

Speaker 2 (36:55):
Like why won't he post me?

Speaker 4 (36:56):
And I think he he had she she mentioned, like
he had a hard time with like the social media
world like her blowing up so fast, and and then
all these people are now like dragging this guy who
probably was just like I don't know what his story is,
but she and so she releases it.

Speaker 2 (37:12):
She's like, don't be mean to him.

Speaker 4 (37:13):
Like I'm still getting used to this world of like
being having these this many So.

Speaker 3 (37:19):
Are you saying that I should.

Speaker 1 (37:22):
Talk to emulate my freaking out like I would like
Alex Earl.

Speaker 4 (37:26):
Yeah, very different vibe what y'all will be doing, but
like I think the same tone of just like it
being your just your experience and not making it too
aesthetic or whatever.

Speaker 3 (37:38):
I'm not an esthetic.

Speaker 1 (37:39):
I know that about you, So I don't have an aesthetic.
Let me tell you, I think you'll do really well
with that.

Speaker 3 (37:46):
Wow, Like that unabridged is that the right word?

Speaker 2 (37:51):
Unfiltered?

Speaker 3 (37:52):
Varnished, unfiltered?

Speaker 2 (37:54):
Did you know unfiltered was my word for last year?

Speaker 3 (37:56):
I didn't even know that.

Speaker 2 (37:57):
Yeah, I didn't remember. I went back and listened to
a podcast.

Speaker 5 (38:00):
What's your Word for twenty three? I know Tanya's renaissance.

Speaker 2 (38:08):
I think that mine. I don't have a word.

Speaker 5 (38:12):
Wow, no word, it's just don't.

Speaker 1 (38:14):
Know word, no no direction. Well I just didn't have
lessly living through twenty twenty three.

Speaker 3 (38:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (38:19):
But I also I think if a word comes up
where I'm like, that's my word, it doesn't have to
be like right now, like it can.

Speaker 2 (38:26):
I don't want to just throw out a word. To
throw out a word.

Speaker 3 (38:28):
You know you know it? Though?

Speaker 2 (38:30):
Do you know it?

Speaker 3 (38:31):
I think you do?

Speaker 4 (38:32):
Do you know?

Speaker 2 (38:33):
One? For me is that you're thinking about?

Speaker 1 (38:35):
No, I think in your gut you know one right now? No,
I really don't have I think you do.

Speaker 4 (38:41):
Okay, Well, if it comes to me like it's come to.

Speaker 1 (38:45):
You, like think about like that water works that you
were doing Paint by numbers. Yeah, you're in this. You're
in a very content place.

Speaker 2 (38:56):
I like contentment.

Speaker 4 (38:57):
That was like one word I was thinking about the
whole time I was in Joshua Trees a contentment.

Speaker 1 (39:01):
It's like I'm a a w S wizard wordsmith. Yeah,
I just know you.

Speaker 2 (39:07):
Yeah, I told you.

Speaker 3 (39:08):
Oh, I'll say it for next week.

Speaker 2 (39:10):
I told, well, that's a tease. I'm curious, what is it?

Speaker 1 (39:15):
Well, because I haven't given you your Christmas gift yet.
Your Christmas gift was not ready in time, doesn't have
a word on it for me. Yeah. So what I
did this year for like my best friends is I
thought of a word that I saw for them in
twenty twenty three, the word that I want, like that
I saw for them, like in their lives. And I

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spent a lot of time thinking about these words for them,
and so I got, well, I don't tell you what
it is, but it has the word on it time.

Speaker 5 (39:42):
This is the New Year's show. Shouldn't you tell her?

Speaker 1 (39:44):
Yeaht me tell you what it is. The word that
I fiked for you harmony.

Speaker 2 (39:48):
Oh wow, I love that. That's a great word. Maybe
that's maybe I just take your.

Speaker 1 (39:55):
Thought for me and and I would be honored if
you took it.

Speaker 2 (39:59):
Harmony.

Speaker 1 (39:59):
I love that, I know, because it's just like really
embodies I feel like where you're at. But also your goal,
Like your goal is just like harmony. Everybody getting along,
everybody like Yeah, wow, I love that.

Speaker 2 (40:14):
I can't wait to see what.

Speaker 1 (40:15):
Robbie helped a lot with that one, because I was
like I had like the essence I just couldn't think of,
like I couldn't condense it down.

Speaker 3 (40:20):
Thanks Robby Ying and Yang.

Speaker 1 (40:22):
You know, yeah, that's what we are, A team, team,
a team where team team partners.

Speaker 3 (40:27):
Yeah, partners.

Speaker 2 (40:29):
Yeah, he's a partner.

Speaker 3 (40:30):
He's a partner.

Speaker 2 (40:32):
What are things you're leaving behind in twenty twenty three.

Speaker 1 (40:34):
That's a great question, Becka. I'm leaving gluten behind.

Speaker 2 (40:37):
No gluten behind. Yeah, yeah, gone, Yeah, she's really gone.

Speaker 1 (40:42):
Yeah. I'm also trying to like be less stressy. I
get very stressy about stuff. Like even when we were
driving back from Tahoe, I was like the roads were
all closed and took us eleven hours, and I was
like panicking that we're gonna to spend the night and
then I'm going through my brain of like I'm gonna
have to send my trending reports to Sam to type
up and send into Mark and like I'm going just

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so far down the line. And we ended up getting
home the same day, you know what I mean. So
I was just like panicking, and I got mad at Robbie.

Speaker 4 (41:09):
And this is the thing about this book I'm reading
that's what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (41:13):
Tell me what is it?

Speaker 2 (41:14):
What's talking about?

Speaker 4 (41:15):
How that inner voice is just like always a like
it's always there and you can't like once you're able
to separate it from yourself and go like you're not real,
Like what you're what you're doing is not actually happening
right now, it's.

Speaker 1 (41:28):
Let me tell you, guys, this is the Okay, I'm
gonna set the scene for you. We pull up and
there's about one hundred cars stopped right and there's like
a little police I don't know, it's not a car,
but it's like a little police stop, and one by one,
the first car in the row is stopping at the
policeman stop and then turning right around and going back,
so basically meaning we'd have to go back the two
and a half hours we already drove back into town

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and I'm sitting here and we're like one hundred cars deep.
So I'm like and Robbie's like, should we just turn
around now? And why are we waiting to get to
the front to then turn around, you know, And He's like, no,
let's just wait it out. Let's see cause they're was
like one car that went You're like hmm, one out
of like a hundred. And then we roll up, roll
down the window, and uh, Robbie's like, tell me the
good news first, and he's like, where are you guys headed?

(42:11):
And we're like la, and he goes go on, oh wow,
let's us through. And I was like this whole time,
that whole weight in that line. I'm sitting here thinking
how stressed I am. I have to like all this
stuff with Sonny. You have to can't talk to her babysitter,
make sure that they're you know. I mean like I'm
going through all these things. We're not getting home. We're
not getting home. And I didn't need to do any
of it. And I was getting mad at him. I

(42:32):
was like, we're never coming up to the mountain fountains.

Speaker 3 (42:35):
Again, Like this is so dumb.

Speaker 1 (42:38):
And my I could have saved myself twenty minutes of
the like panic, Yeah, I just been chill. Yeah, I
need more chill in my life.

Speaker 4 (42:47):
It's like kind of like letting go of control really,
because like you didn't have control over the situation right
regardless of what happened, So it's kind of like you
don't have control like everything that's gonna happen is going
to happen, whether you're you're like ready for it or not.

Speaker 1 (43:05):
Yeah, but I think my mind was in like I said,
we should just go to Santa Barbara, And I'm like,
if we would have gone Santa Barbara had this problem,
it would have been snowed in and like you know
what I mean, not where like my mind goes. But
it's again, it's not a good place to be because
like we're here, you know. Yeah, it's interesting, it's interesting,
our little new one. You're leaving stress behind.

Speaker 3 (43:24):
I'm trying.

Speaker 1 (43:25):
Okay, she's trying.

Speaker 2 (43:27):
She's got a tight gruss, she got really hold on.

Speaker 1 (43:30):
I live my life being high strong, So this is
gonna be tough. Yeah, well on clench.

Speaker 5 (43:36):
Well, I have something for us that might be a
nice way to wrap up the New Year's show. This
from Caitlin Shippy, who sent this to me as a
DM on Instagram just before Christmas. She said, I just
wanted to email in to say that the podcast had
to mention in my wedding speech yesterday. Wow, I I

(43:57):
as the South African Tanya stood by myself African Becca,
as she said, I do. I thank her for being
the Beckett and my Tanya in my wedding speech, I
just wanted to say thank you for touching our hearts
on a weekly basis. We have often discussed how we
listen to your podcast if we're having a bad day.
Here is the audio from the actual wedding speech in
South Africa.

Speaker 1 (44:16):
And also, thank you for always being made me.

Speaker 2 (44:18):
Your friendship does mean.

Speaker 8 (44:19):
A lot to see.

Speaker 6 (44:21):
And last but not least, my Dix, thank you for
being the becket to my Tanya.

Speaker 1 (44:25):
You are the most selfless person on this planet.

Speaker 8 (44:28):
I don't know what I would do without you.

Speaker 2 (44:31):
My He's ask everyone to raise their glasses.

Speaker 6 (44:33):
To toast the new couple.

Speaker 5 (44:35):
Congratulations, Hi, congratulations. I think that's so sweet. Is just
the best And you can almost hear the crowd going, who.

Speaker 2 (44:51):
Mark, that doesn't matter?

Speaker 1 (44:53):
Mark, that was so unnecessary, Like what a blow to
the end of the show.

Speaker 5 (44:57):
No, it's so sweet.

Speaker 3 (44:58):
I'm very out of our say.

Speaker 5 (45:00):
I thought that was really nice. I love the effect
that you two have had on your listeners all over
the world. Have you ever been to South Africa, either
one of you? No, Well, look at that there are
South Africans praising you. Guys. Is the inspiration for their relationship.
And I love that South African.

Speaker 1 (45:15):
Actually, I know.

Speaker 4 (45:16):
It'd be so nice. It's just so peaceful, it's so sweet.
I love that so much.

Speaker 1 (45:23):
You know what, scrubbing in or scrubbers. We are going
to deliver in twenty twenty three. We are going to deliver.

Speaker 2 (45:29):
Yeah, we are, We're going to deliver.

Speaker 4 (45:31):
Speaking of, one thing I'm leaving behind in twenty twenty
three is not getting fast food delivered. Like, if I
want to have fast food, then I have to get
up and go get it.

Speaker 2 (45:41):
And I just think, thank you because I think that.

Speaker 4 (45:43):
If it's not fast enough for me to get in
my car and sit in a drive through to get it,
then I don't need it.

Speaker 2 (45:49):
Good for you, Thank you so much.

Speaker 5 (45:50):
You're gonna save money, You're gonna save calories in the
long term. I like it.

Speaker 6 (45:54):
It tastes better when it's fresh.

Speaker 2 (45:57):
It's so much better. Fries bye, Yeah, Saggia Frieser bye.

Speaker 5 (46:02):
They're twenty two, twenty.

Speaker 1 (46:04):
Two two and late two thousand lame.

Speaker 5 (46:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (46:08):
So that was just you've set me up with the
delivery delivering.

Speaker 1 (46:12):
Wow. I mean, what a great goal.

Speaker 4 (46:15):
Thank you so much for I have other goals too,
but I was just one that felt, what are you
all leaving behind?

Speaker 2 (46:19):
Mark and Easton?

Speaker 4 (46:22):
What's one thing you're leaving behind and one thing you're
wanting to do in twenty twenty.

Speaker 6 (46:27):
Three, I am leaving behind doing saying yes to everything
that comes across my desk because I don't need to.
And you know, I said no to someone this morning
and it felt so good. It may have involved another
podcast that we do, and I was very happy to
say no to that. And what is something I'm bringing
into twenty twenty three As I'm going to bed earlier?

(46:49):
Dang it, I'm getting more sleep. I went to bed
early last night. It felt so good when I woke
up at four am today and getting sleep is number
one baby.

Speaker 3 (46:58):
You know what's so funny?

Speaker 1 (46:59):
I had that like giddy feeling last night because we've
been off for like two weeks and so I like
get I get that giddy like first day back at
school thing. Like last night, I couldn't go to sleep
till like eleven PM, and like Robbie was like, you
need to go to sleep. We're waking up early.

Speaker 3 (47:12):
I was like I can't.

Speaker 1 (47:13):
Like but what if it's what if the roads are
you know, still wet in the morning and there's any
more traffic.

Speaker 4 (47:19):
Sho.

Speaker 1 (47:19):
I set my alarm earlier, like, I'm like, I've never
done this before.

Speaker 3 (47:21):
It's so funny.

Speaker 2 (47:23):
I love that. That means you're doing something you love.

Speaker 1 (47:26):
Yeah, I was very giddy last night, but now I'm
tired because.

Speaker 4 (47:28):
I imagine most people had like the well Monday scaries
of like going back, you know.

Speaker 2 (47:33):
Yeah, I imagine most people felt that. But I love
that you were giddy.

Speaker 1 (47:37):
Oh yeah, I was like packed all my stuff. I
packed my you know, like my normally my clothes in
the bathroom so that I could like change, you know,
I did my whole routine.

Speaker 3 (47:44):
It was fun.

Speaker 2 (47:45):
Mark.

Speaker 5 (47:45):
I'm looking for simplicity in twenty twenty three, a little
bit more calmness, because having two teenagers is very hectic,
especially when one they're both performers and they've got shows
and rehearsals and fittings and all this kind of crazy
stuff going on. It can be very hectic in house.
So I want things to be simple, calm.

Speaker 1 (48:03):
People are wanting a lot more peace and calmness in
the new year. I find that to be a theme.

Speaker 2 (48:07):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 5 (48:08):
Yeah. It was a lovely break, very relaxing, We had
lots of fun stuff in Wisconsin. It was really fun.
We went duck pin bowling. You probably don't even know
what that is. Nobody seems to. It's like bowling, but miniature.
It's like miniature bowling. Nope, no ducks involved.

Speaker 6 (48:22):
Really tiny ball right, like a shot put.

Speaker 5 (48:23):
Tiny ball like a shot put, tiny pins, short lane
and actual teenagers behind the pins setting them back up
for you. And it was so fun. We lost every
went sledding, we built the Snowman. We did really fun stuff.
We watched about one hundred episodes of Family Food because
my god, there is never a time of day family
feud is not on television.

Speaker 1 (48:39):
I know it's we should make that a goal of
if they do not though they do some sort of
family feuds, but like show style, we should get on it.

Speaker 2 (48:48):
I feel like that's a that's achievable.

Speaker 1 (48:50):
You think so, yeah, I think it'd be so fun
like the podcast, Yeah, Family, Yeah, it'd be so fun.

Speaker 5 (48:58):
Steve Harvey is very good.

Speaker 1 (49:00):
Yeah, he's really really Yeah.

Speaker 3 (49:02):
So timing is just like perfect.

Speaker 5 (49:04):
Yeah, a lot of family feud, a lot of crossroad puzzles,
very chilling, and want to pull that chill into the
new year.

Speaker 4 (49:10):
Yeah, that's all I felt too, of like the like
because Haley and I both said, it's just been so
nice to rest.

Speaker 2 (49:16):
I can do nothing, and I was like, we should
do this more.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
Like I know, I feel like it's so we jam
pack our schedule.

Speaker 3 (49:23):
Yes, it's why.

Speaker 2 (49:24):
It's like not you can't say no, but you really can.

Speaker 1 (49:28):
Like it's but you can't, so then you do, and
then you run yourself tired, and then you're running on empty.

Speaker 2 (49:34):
Then you have strap throat on Christmas Day and now to.

Speaker 1 (49:36):
Go to the dingy gas station. Yeah, just a bad cycle.
Dingy dingy rickety chicken rickety rick rickety slickety rick well
rinckety dick.

Speaker 2 (49:47):
I don't think we have time for emails.

Speaker 5 (49:49):
I don't do it either.

Speaker 3 (49:50):
It's okay.

Speaker 2 (49:51):
I mean, it's up to you do whatever we.

Speaker 5 (49:54):
Want, right, we do want emails. We have to take
another break up to you guys, but it's twenty three.
I don't know one of the I feel like.

Speaker 1 (50:00):
Describers would like an email.

Speaker 3 (50:02):
Yeah, I love you.

Speaker 2 (50:03):
We'll take another break and we'll be back with email.

Speaker 1 (50:05):
You're right back, really.

Speaker 5 (50:22):
All right?

Speaker 4 (50:22):
We can't in the first episode of the year without
an email.

Speaker 3 (50:26):
Nope, we can't.

Speaker 5 (50:27):
Anonymous says advice needed. Should I break up with my boyfriend? Well, honestly,
if just the fact that you're asking us that question
is probably a yes. But let's look at the evidence.
I've been dating my boyfriend two and a half years.
We moved in to get the last year into a
new house that he bought. We haven't had the most
stable relationship. We've had fights where we've said mean things
to each other when we were drunk. Other than that,

(50:48):
I'm starting to realize we have nothing in common. I
love to watch movies and TV shows and read books.
He can't stand movies or TV shows and is not
interested in reading. What odd like typical night looks like
me watching TV alone. My boyfriend's in the other room
gaming there it is Additionally, he does not know how
to communicate with me, whether it's planning things or expressing

(51:09):
his feelings. He cannot communicate with me. I feel like
he'll never say I love you first or show me
any affection. These are things I don't think I would need,
but now that I'm getting older, I feel like it's
non negotiable for me. I have a lot of self
esteem issues where I think that I will never have
anyone else like me physically, and worry that his relationship
and this relationship is the best I can do.

Speaker 1 (51:30):
Oh No, A couple of.

Speaker 5 (51:31):
Things and there were interesting. I don't know how old
you are, but you mentioned that you're older, but that
could be in anything from twenty to sixty, honestly, And
I will never have anyone else like me physically. What
does that mean?

Speaker 1 (51:43):
Like she says she has low self esteem, so she
doesn't feel maybe she'sn't desirable or.

Speaker 5 (51:48):
Worthy or so she's seeking out other fours. But you
are not a four to somebody else, You're an eight.

Speaker 4 (51:54):
Well, It's also like I think the thing is not
having things in common isn't a deal breaker to me
because I think having different interests. To be honest, Haley
and I have a lot of similar interests, but we
also have a lot of different interests and it's only
opened to me up to liking new things and same
for her. But I think if he's not will the
problem that I'm seeing is that he's not willing.

Speaker 2 (52:15):
To meet you.

Speaker 4 (52:17):
And I think I really have seen like so much
improvement with couples therapy in this area of like communication
and like meeting each other in the middle. But I
think that he has to be willing to do that.
And I think that you know that you're settling for
a relationship that's not great because you're worried you can't
do better.

Speaker 2 (52:35):
But you can do better. This is the gas station analogies.

Speaker 1 (52:38):
This is littering gas analogy because you don't think you
can get better.

Speaker 3 (52:45):
But that's the thing, Like you can.

Speaker 1 (52:48):
And the thing is you don't want the rinkity dickity
gas station and you could be on a throne right
up the road. Yes, but no, in all honesty, I
don't think having some different interests is that big of
a deal because a, yeah, like you can kind of
me in the middle and you can do different things,

(53:09):
and like you're never going to find somebody that is
exactly like you and like to spend their time doing
exactly what you like to do, you know what I mean?
Like I same with me and Robbie, Like we don't
necessarily like when we were driving up, we wanted to
listen to different things and we met in the middle
and we found me we both liked. But so it's
not so much of a different interest to me. It's
the fighting, and like if you're questioning it so much,

(53:29):
Like I just to me, why would you settle and
marry this person now and then spend the rest of
your life in this miserable type of relationship? Like wouldn't
you rather be single? Like doing what you want all
the time, and like getting to enjoy your time and
your space and like not having to deal with that,
Like I would rather be single than in a relationship

(53:51):
like that.

Speaker 5 (53:51):
Picture yourself in five years. This is an exercise.

Speaker 8 (53:55):
Married.

Speaker 5 (53:56):
When I was dating. As I did this, I pictured
myself in five years married to her, I pictured myself
in five years. We were totally not part of each
other's lives, and the idea of not being part of
each other's lives and not seeing her on a daily
basis was ludicrous to me. It was laughable. That's when
I knew it's time to propose. So think about that,
your life in five years married to him, kids with him,

(54:16):
or your life in five years and you don't even
know him, Yeah, which sounds more appealing, Which sounds more ludicrous?
Just think about that. Because I don't love this. I mean,
maybe you can make a compromise. You know, you watch
White Lotus together and then he teaches you one of
the games that he likes and you can do it
each other together.

Speaker 3 (54:33):
I mean, I wouldn't want to play any gaming games if.

Speaker 2 (54:36):
That's important to him, Yes, exactly, I think. But he
has to be willing to do that for her too.

Speaker 4 (54:41):
And I just the non affection, not saying I love you,
like that's a big deal. I mean that's like, if
that's important to you, then I think that you need
to be with someone who's able to fulfill those things
that you need. And I think, right off the bat,
Mark said the fact that you're emailing asking I think
you know the answer.

Speaker 1 (54:58):
Yeah, I think you know the answer to and you're
ceramic what is it? Ceramic throne is right around the corner,
it really is. And you have to believe what was
her name? This is an anonymous, anonymous, beautiful name. You
have to believe it for yourself, like you really really do.

(55:19):
I think a lot of people struggle with self esteem issues.
And it's like because I think you're just constantly comparing
to this these perfect like I think it happens a
lot on social media unfortunately, because you're just bombarded with
these like beautiful, perfect images. But none of it's reality,
and it's like it's really causing people to have, you know,
insecurity and self worth issues when it's just not the

(55:39):
reality and it's not the case. So I think you're
gonna meet an amazing match. You sound like an awesome
world if you listen to this podcast.

Speaker 5 (55:46):
You're cool, so agreed, and you are not. I don't
know what you think about yourself physically, it's not that.

Speaker 1 (55:53):
I hope this gives you the courage or the empowerment
that you need to make the right step.

Speaker 4 (55:59):
I also think last thing I'll say with the self
esteem thing.

Speaker 2 (56:02):
You really have to learn to love.

Speaker 4 (56:06):
The person that you are before you can expect someone
else to do that for you.

Speaker 2 (56:09):
And I think that preach Becca, No, I think it's
so important.

Speaker 4 (56:13):
Like I don't think people realize, like, you can go
from the next relationship to relationship a relationship and you're
always gonna have that same issue of feeling like you're
not good enough if you don't love yourself. So I
think you learn to be alone and enjoy the things
that you love and learn to love who you are
and find someone who can make.

Speaker 2 (56:32):
You feel that way.

Speaker 4 (56:33):
Yeah, all right, Well on that note, happy twenty twenty three.

Speaker 2 (56:37):
Excited for this year with you all going into our
sixth year. It'll be six coming up.

Speaker 3 (56:44):
Sweet six.

Speaker 4 (56:46):
Yeah you know what they say this sweet six. All right,
here's to a new scrubbing in era.

Speaker 3 (56:54):
Cheers everybody, We love you.

Speaker 6 (57:01):
Watch we.

Speaker 5 (57:05):
Can keep going.

Speaker 1 (57:06):
Okay, Wow, we just kidding.

Speaker 3 (57:11):
When we say bye doesn't mean bye. We're still here.

Speaker 4 (57:13):
Wait, so don't forget to watch the Easti's go ahead Easton.

Speaker 6 (57:17):
Thank You Easty Awards are an or show I do
every year on Instagram Live. There's Sunday, January eighth at
five pm. Everyone in this room has done the East
Awards before. We so kind of present. We have a
lot of really fun celebrity guests this year.

Speaker 1 (57:29):
Yeah we were not asked back. Yeah, we were a
great dog.

Speaker 6 (57:31):
I don't want to bug you guys.

Speaker 3 (57:33):
A book to promote.

Speaker 5 (57:35):
Oh my gosh, that's the place.

Speaker 8 (57:38):
Viewers.

Speaker 5 (57:38):
Then no, thank you, Good morning America.

Speaker 6 (57:41):
Yeah, if you want to do it, there's a room.

Speaker 5 (57:44):
Why was it moved off of New Year's for the
first time ever?

Speaker 6 (57:46):
New Year's is always really hectic. I I just wanted
to move it. I've been wanting to move it and
I always forget to.

Speaker 5 (57:53):
So this is there a specific person who couldn't do
it on New Year's and that's why you moved it
to accommodate that person.

Speaker 6 (57:58):
No, I'm doing it. I decided to do it on
a Sunday, which is when other award shows do it.
We're doing it at night like other award shows. It's
a real award show.

Speaker 8 (58:07):
Uh.

Speaker 6 (58:07):
And all the celebrity things are pre recorded, so I
don't have to worry about their us.

Speaker 4 (58:11):
Uh.

Speaker 3 (58:12):
There you go.

Speaker 6 (58:12):
Yeah, nothing's live. But we got some really big names.
I got some big musical numbers planned performed by me,
and I'm really excited. I did a lot of extra
stuff this year I don't normally do.

Speaker 4 (58:24):
We should rent out like the iHeart Studio or iHeart
Theater one day and like self like literally do like
a raffle, sell tickets and stuff and and like have
do a full thing.

Speaker 6 (58:35):
I would love.

Speaker 1 (58:35):
I mean, but like, who's gonna come up to accept
the award for like Fruit of the Year or whatever.

Speaker 4 (58:39):
We'll have the fruit decorated or someone holding us like
someone yeah.

Speaker 1 (58:44):
Yeah, probably could be your hand model.

Speaker 6 (58:47):
Oh yeah I did this at the here it kissed one. Yeah,
there was so much fun. I wanted to do it.
You know, maybe we will do this that hasn't been
that hasn't been announced yet.

Speaker 5 (59:00):
Maybe maybe will come fun.

Speaker 6 (59:03):
Yeah, if you're discovering you want to come, let me
know because we can make this happen. But yeah, it's
gonna be a lot of fun. And uh again, I
just want to thank all you guys. You guys have
all done begging time don multiple times and it means
so much to me. It's when I call in all
the favors from everyone we do podcasts with and they're
also kind. But I'm really excited and it thinks a
lot of fun.

Speaker 5 (59:23):
Can you tease any celebrity involvement surprises?

Speaker 6 (59:27):
You know, here's the what I can tease icons from
the nineties to two thousands.

Speaker 2 (59:34):
I have an idea. I have an idea.

Speaker 3 (59:38):
Our stars blind potentially.

Speaker 2 (59:44):
Do they meet anything?

Speaker 6 (59:49):
Yes, yes they do.

Speaker 5 (59:51):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (59:52):
Do they work in coffee shops?

Speaker 6 (59:54):
No? Okay, absolutely not.

Speaker 2 (59:59):
It's like Tanya has on right now. I think that's
the same person.

Speaker 3 (01:00:04):
I don't even know.

Speaker 6 (01:00:07):
No, tune in.

Speaker 2 (01:00:11):
Enough spoilers.

Speaker 6 (01:00:12):
Yes, all right.

Speaker 2 (01:00:13):
On that note, we're officially out by