The Ween Sock with Kristin Cavallari

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Beca Tilly and Tanya Red and iHeartRadio
and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in. It's Monday.

Speaker 3 (00:15):
It's like the best Monday ever.

Speaker 4 (00:18):
We're actually recording the podcast in the morning. We normally
do the afternoon, but today we're doing a morning morning show.

Speaker 3 (00:25):
Yeah, which I'm enjoying. I like this. I'm like repped up.
I'm ready.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
It's like post morning show. I have my full caffeine
and my body. I just did at Olivia Rodrigo dance party,
so I'm feeling good.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (00:39):
So Olivia Rodrigo is just like breaking records all over
the place.

Speaker 3 (00:44):
Uh huh.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
She's releasing her album.

Speaker 4 (00:46):
Do you feel like it's gonna meet our expectations or
do you feel like, how does it?

Speaker 5 (00:51):
Like?

Speaker 4 (00:51):
How can it be consistently as good as the three
songs she's put out.

Speaker 1 (00:55):
I think it's going to exceed our expectations because I'm
not gonna lie. When I discovered and I actually meant
to text you because I saw it on TikTok first.

Speaker 3 (01:04):
This theory.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
This the cheerleading outfit that she wore in the music
video The same one Princess Theresa Mandy Moore and the
boyfriend had the same initials and same name.

Speaker 3 (01:14):
As her ex dude that all the stuff is rumored
to be about.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
And when I discovered that, I literally was like, Olivia
Rodrigo is the gift that we don't deserve in this generation.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
Okay, So I have a question for you.

Speaker 4 (01:28):
What, as a massive Taylor Swift fan, do you feel
like there's I mean, she's a huge Taylor Swift fan,
as we all are. Do you feel like there's like
she's like Taylor's led the way for Olivia Rodrigo or
do you think Olivia Rodrigo is going in her own direction?
Do you think there's some Well, here's the thing.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
I mean, I think when you think of Easter Eggs,
you obviously think of Taylor Swift and like she's pulling
a Taylor Swift, which is fine, but it's like Taylor
Swift isn't the only person that can do that, you
know what I mean?

Speaker 4 (01:57):
Right?

Speaker 2 (01:57):
But I'm saying, do you feel like it's all similar? Too?

Speaker 3 (02:01):
Similar? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (02:03):
No, Oh my god, she reminds me. The song reminds
me of Avril Levine, Like.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Oh no, it reminds me of Paramore.

Speaker 4 (02:09):
It sounds just like a It reminds me so much
of a Paramore song. I couldn't tell you the name.

Speaker 3 (02:14):
But I hear she's a little more punky than tailored.

Speaker 4 (02:17):
Okay, so you think she's like doing her own thing,
kind of like having her own style of music and everything.

Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yeah, but her the the deep rooted Easter eggs, such
as the cheerleading outfit to match the Mandy Moore's boyfriend.
I mean that literally, I was like the emoji with
the with the the thing coming out, Like my mind
was blown. I thought it was so good and just
so well done, and I was like, I want to
do more of those things. Like I don't have Easter

(02:45):
eggs to lay for anything in my life, but if
I did, I would do them like that.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (02:50):
I mean, she's she's literally three for three. There's no
miss so even I do, I say. I don't know
if she wrote the songs for the High School Musical series,
but those songs hit too.

Speaker 3 (03:02):
Don't I'm not familiar with those library.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
TikTok, I don't know.

Speaker 4 (03:06):
Ginger Chan talks about the the viral songs on TikTok,
but there was like some viral songs from the musical series.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
I don't know those very well.

Speaker 4 (03:16):
Anyways, I'm really excited about her album and I can't
wait to hear all the songs have been a little different.
Deja Voo took me to Cruel Summer, Taylors of Cruel Summer.

Speaker 3 (03:27):
Yeah, and the drivers.

Speaker 4 (03:29):
This one took me to Paaramore Driver's License. I don't know,
kind of had a mix.

Speaker 1 (03:35):
Of some other I mean, just the timing of the
release of that song couldn't have just hit me more
like it.

Speaker 4 (03:40):
Was just yeah, took you back to your dark Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Something else significant happened and that was all of the well.
I follow Cording Cox and Jennifer Aniston on Instagram.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yeah, okay, we need to talk about that. And then
I also have another thing that I want to talk about.
Don't not let me forget about it.

Speaker 6 (04:02):
What is the topic of the other things?

Speaker 3 (04:04):
Remind you periods?

Speaker 4 (04:07):
Yeah, we didn't know.

Speaker 1 (04:08):
The influx of messages I got from scrubbers with the
same name recommendation for me is wild and so I
did a ill.

Speaker 4 (04:17):
Okay, so friends, Oh I didn't even get there. So
Fortney Cox and.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
Jennifer Aniston released like this.

Speaker 3 (04:27):
Just really distracted by your nails?

Speaker 4 (04:28):
Okay, there, I have so bad to my di y
new life in a second. Oh, I have never seen
this so ugly. I never hold on. You're distracting me.

Speaker 1 (04:41):
I don't need I don't need a manicured hand, but
a dirt under the nails is.

Speaker 2 (04:47):
Spray paint.

Speaker 4 (04:48):
Okay, Tanya doesn't understand the spray paint life.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
Anyways, Back to friends. Back to Friends, So.

Speaker 4 (04:58):
They released like a chilling emotional trailer of the four
of them walking away like the original there's six of them.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
What did I say for some fresh fan? You are.

Speaker 4 (05:14):
Six of them walking away like they are in the
original series promo or whatever, with like acoustic version of
I'll Be There for You, the theme song.

Speaker 2 (05:28):
Yeah, what is it gonna be?

Speaker 1 (05:31):
I have so many questions because I don't know if
it's like I think I'm imagining that it's going to
be a reunion where they kind of are all sitting
on that couch and just kind of talking about their
lives after the show.

Speaker 3 (05:44):
That's what I'm envisioning.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
I didn't think it was gonna be an actual scripted
episode like picking up where we left off, you know
what I mean?

Speaker 6 (05:51):
Like, but I gotta be honest with you. The news
last week that there's gonna be celebrity guests really bummed
me out.

Speaker 1 (05:57):
Can I tell you that's exactly the same issue I had.
I saw the list of names, and at first I
was like, Oh, cute Reese Witherspoon, she was on the show.
That makes sense, yes, like the people who were apart,
like Christina Applegate was on the show.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
Who else is on there? I didn't see this.

Speaker 6 (06:12):
It's like Lady Gaga, bt Sts, Bieber Labor like pass No.

Speaker 1 (06:20):
There's a laundry list of names that are going to
be guest appearances. And I literally was like, friends, is
the six of.

Speaker 3 (06:28):
Them is all we need? Do you know what I mean? Like,
that's all we need.

Speaker 1 (06:32):
We don't need you to pull out celebrities to get
us to watch or be invested. Like it feels very
try hard to me and I and I don't like
that because us friends stands don't need that, do you
know what I mean? We don't need that pull We
don't need your TikTok star to be a guest appearance
on you know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (06:52):
Like it just it just I don't like it.

Speaker 6 (06:55):
It just strikes me as you know, HBO, Warner Brothers,
corporate dudes in a big boardroom saying, oh, where's your
good beat yous thought of that thing? You don't get
some younger viewers in there. Let's get Bieber on there.
You know, it just seems like overthinking this. Anytime spent
on Lady Gaga is time not spent with the original six,
which is all we care about.

Speaker 3 (07:14):
I agree, but I'm with you.

Speaker 4 (07:15):
I think if they brought some of the guest stars
that are like massive celebrities, like like you said, Ellen
Pompeo was even on there, like things like that, of
like that makes people who kind of had like a
small guest dance and then had like a huge career
after that, that would be so cool.

Speaker 1 (07:31):
Yeah, but I don't what I know, it's a long Now,
there's a long list of them.

Speaker 6 (07:39):
I give it to you.

Speaker 3 (07:39):
I have it here if you want to, Yeah, give it,
give it, because he asked.

Speaker 6 (07:42):
Lady Gaga, David Beckham, Justin Bieber, James Corden, Cindy Crawford,
Cara Delaphene, Elliott Gould, makes sense, Mindy Kayling, Thomas Lennon,
Christina Pickeles, Tom Selleck.

Speaker 1 (07:52):
Okay, like, no, no disrespect to those I like all
those people individually. They're all fine, fine, But I just
don't want it with my friends reunion. I want my
friends songs, celebrity guests. I just want the six of
them on a couch drinking some coffee, kicking back with
a coke.

Speaker 3 (08:12):
Beer whatever coffee.

Speaker 7 (08:14):
Are you bummed that it's not like a new episode
like or would you prefer that to like them sitting
around reminiscing about the show?

Speaker 4 (08:23):
Absolutely no, because I would feel so uncomfortable to see
them all all of a.

Speaker 2 (08:27):
Sudden, like trying to now like doing description.

Speaker 4 (08:30):
Because they it was all like I mean, granted from
the pilot it was really good and the chemistry was there,
but like they just built this thing thing that was
so easy and so quick, and I don't know if
i'd want to watch them force it or like try
to bring it back for one episode.

Speaker 3 (08:48):
Like that show like they can't you.

Speaker 1 (08:52):
Yeah, no, they need to not, because I was thinking
about it too. If they picked up where the series
left off, you know, like how they left with the
twins and the keys on the counter.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
But I don't want that. I do want them just
to kind of all can't do that.

Speaker 6 (09:06):
They're all twenty years older.

Speaker 1 (09:08):
Yeah, but I'm telling you the amount of like laughter
that that like. So you know how I watch a
show before I to fall asleep too, and it was
grazed out of me for a while, and then it
was the like dark grazed out of me, and I
was just like, this is not the way to fall asleep,
so I switch over to Friends. Sometimes I'll get to
specific episodes where I literally am laughing so hard that

(09:30):
I can't fall asleep, Like I have to just switch
the episode. And sometimes I fall asleep after Red Star.
And He's like, you literally shake the bed like when
you're watching Friends, Like the bed actually shakes because you're
laughing so hard.

Speaker 3 (09:45):
And I'm like, what other show does that to me? None?

Speaker 2 (09:49):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (09:50):
You said ted Lasso, which oh yeah, and shit's creak.
I feel like you.

Speaker 1 (09:54):
Also different laughs and not shake the bed last Okay, yeah, okay.

Speaker 4 (10:00):
The only thing that I can think of, though, is
I know you have your specific episodes that like you're
how you did with Denny where you just go back
and you.

Speaker 2 (10:07):
Laugh as hard every single time, which.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
There's this episode and I've watched it three times the
last week because it's so funny.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
But there's Joey's dating this like little girl.

Speaker 1 (10:20):
She's like little, she's probably like under five foot, and
she's very petite, and she does this thing where it's.

Speaker 2 (10:26):
Like, oh, she punches them.

Speaker 3 (10:27):
She's like, oh, you're so funny.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
She'll punch him or whatever, and weird like layers and
layers and.

Speaker 3 (10:36):
Sweaters.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
When he's with.

Speaker 8 (10:37):
Her, he's like talking to her, he's holding his coffee.
She's trying to punch him.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
Literally like swings the coffee and it's like spilling everywhere.

Speaker 3 (10:52):
It's the dumbest scene and it makes me cry every
time I see it because his face is so innocent.

Speaker 1 (10:58):
He's just trying to like not get hit by her,
the coffee spilling everywhere.

Speaker 3 (11:01):
He's wearing all these sweaters.

Speaker 1 (11:04):
Then, oh, it's so if you need any form of
smile today, just watch that.

Speaker 3 (11:12):
You probably just google that scene.

Speaker 1 (11:13):
I don't really like Joey gets hit by petite girls
friend the one with.

Speaker 3 (11:19):
So oh it's so good.

Speaker 1 (11:23):
Like, oh my gosh, wow, that was a hard laugh,
but only because of you laughing.

Speaker 9 (11:31):
Do you know what I'm talking about?

Speaker 10 (11:32):
When he's like this.

Speaker 4 (11:33):
I know I heard the Friends laughter, remember on the plane? Yeah,
so embarrassed like the mom. I don't know, I felt.
I felt like secondhand embarrassment, as if.

Speaker 2 (11:45):
It was me.

Speaker 3 (11:47):
I know, and I don't have to do because I
like Red Star is a Seinfeld guy. I know, I know.

Speaker 6 (11:54):
That's okay. What's for you? Guys act like that's so terrible.

Speaker 3 (11:58):
It's just like a different type of person.

Speaker 4 (12:01):
Oh boy, it seems to be like guys who really
love Seinfeld. I feel like, which correct me if I'm
wrong to all the scrubbers. If you're a Seinfeldt fan,
maybe try to convince me and Tanya why we sho Yeah,
I just I don't like the comparison.

Speaker 1 (12:16):
I'm like, oh, you like Friends, you should watch Seinfeldt.
And I'm like, I've seen an episode or two and like,
it's not the laughter that shakes the bed.

Speaker 4 (12:23):
Did you compare ten Lass out of Friends when you
were trying to sell it to me?

Speaker 3 (12:28):
That's more compa comparable. Johnya, absolutely Seinfeld.

Speaker 2 (12:33):
I haven't even watched Seinfeld.

Speaker 3 (12:35):
Well give it a give it an a.

Speaker 6 (12:37):
For the record, neither one of you have seen seinfeld
So let's not be too judgment Seinfeld.

Speaker 2 (12:42):
Okay, well I've seen clips of it and I didn't want.

Speaker 6 (12:44):
Okay, that's not a thing. That's not You can't judge
a ten season show on clips or even a few episodes.
The idea is you watch it and you get really
into the characters, just like you did the friends. Yeah,
and then it becomes funny because you know them so well.

Speaker 3 (12:57):
It's the same thing, you know.

Speaker 1 (12:59):
You know. What I also two is that in a relationship,
one can have one thing and one can have another,
and it can be cohesive in its own way.

Speaker 2 (13:09):
That's beautiful.

Speaker 4 (13:11):
I've learned that too in my relationship my God talk
about could not be more different and have different opinions
on things.

Speaker 3 (13:19):
Wow, and yet you can celebrate your differences in respect.

Speaker 2 (13:23):
I do both love friends, though.

Speaker 4 (13:25):
Yeah, that is a win, because that could be you know.

Speaker 11 (13:29):
That could be tough, a deal breaker if you will,
that could be that would be tough.

Speaker 4 (13:34):
So yeah, anyways, since you got me so hot and
bothered about my nails because I am such a freak
about my nails and always have them done.

Speaker 2 (13:43):
Have you ever seen me without my nails done?

Speaker 3 (13:45):
Never? I've seen them look a little like jank every.

Speaker 4 (13:48):
Now and the paints like oh yeah yeah, or like
ones missing whatever right I have been, you wouldn't believe
like the effort I've put into this move of like
lifting and moving things and painting things like it's not
it's not even me. I'm a different person as a homeowner. Anyways,
my nails have like ripped off. They're like there's spray

(14:10):
paint on them. They're just looking like they look like
I've done some hard labor.

Speaker 1 (14:16):
Yeah, And I always say the way that you the
way that you live your nails is the way that
you live your life.

Speaker 2 (14:23):
That's right.

Speaker 4 (14:23):
That's me being That means that I've been rough and
tough and an independent woman. Yeah. But I will tell
you the other day, I had the rest of my
stuff moved from my old place, which you know the
soft move. I did a soft move where like I
moved everything I knew I was for sure taking, and
then I left stuff that I needed to go through
because it was all like a last minute scheduled move.

(14:47):
It's been, it's had its pros and it's had its cons. Right,
So I had the guys move like some things that
I needed an actual moving truck.

Speaker 2 (14:56):
So they came back and moved it.

Speaker 4 (14:58):
And there was this one guy and he kept he
would like be carrying these poles and he was like thin, you.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
Know, like I could lift them.

Speaker 4 (15:07):
They were fine, and like Nick, my door like somewhere
in my old door, you know, like stuff like that,
just like carelessness because I'm like I get that moving, like.

Speaker 2 (15:18):
The bulky stuff.

Speaker 4 (15:19):
And ever, I had a really like narrow stairway, so
I knew that would be tough and I was just like,
I'll paint it whatever. He comes to my new house
and he's moving this like pergola canopy thing, same thing.

Speaker 2 (15:30):
The poles.

Speaker 4 (15:31):
Nick's part of my new garage. And I had had
it that day with like everyone, and I was like,
and I hate I don't like confrontation. So I was like,
did you just because you go oh, like it's shocked,
like he knew he did it. I had to go
inside and take deep breaths because I was like.

Speaker 2 (15:52):
I'm about to absolutely lose it. It's not good.

Speaker 4 (15:57):
I'm like in a very tense place right now. Oh no,
So I'm just like my nails are rough. I'm a
little more you know, scared.

Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah it looks peisty today. So yeah, I'm supposed to
hang out tonight, and I'm scared.

Speaker 2 (16:14):
Can we talk about what we're doing tonight?

Speaker 3 (16:16):
Why wouldn't we?

Speaker 4 (16:17):
I don't know, because you didn't. You just said we're
gonna hang out tonight, So I don't know.

Speaker 3 (16:20):
If that's not top secret.

Speaker 4 (16:21):
Okay, okay. So Pink has a documentary. This singer Pink
has a documentary coming out and she has Yeah, the
premiere is tonight, and I got invited. And then Tania
was we were trying to plan the podcast day and
She's like, oh, I'm going to this thing for Pink
on Monday, and I was like me too. So I
think it's gonna be me. Tanya and Red Star.

Speaker 3 (16:44):
Can't come, No, No, just me.

Speaker 2 (16:47):
Third Wheeling great, A third wheel A third Wheel Eve
at the Bowl.

Speaker 3 (16:55):
Yeah, I think it's gonna be I mean, I haven't
been to.

Speaker 1 (16:59):
Anything that involved that many people in a really long time,
so I'm a little like anxious to see how that feels,
you know, like going to the Hollywood Bowl. Even though
everything is going to be obviously it's outdoors and everything,
they're going to keep everybody distanced. I'm interested to see
how I feel.

Speaker 4 (17:17):
Like being in a group.

Speaker 3 (17:19):
Yeah, just like that.

Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yeah, but I think it's so big it's it'll will
be spaced out and stuff.

Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yeah, so we're going to pack a little picnic and yeah,
Red Star is going to pick up a bottle of wine. Wow,
for the two of you, not for me. I'm not
drinking this week. Oh you know, I'm just in game mode.

Speaker 2 (17:36):
Oh oh that's right, that's right, Star. So you're going
to be the DD tonight.

Speaker 3 (17:40):
Yeah, I'm gonna be the d D.

Speaker 6 (17:43):
What game is coming up?

Speaker 3 (17:44):
The Billboard Music.

Speaker 1 (17:45):
Awards And that's why I'm seeing the documentary because I'm
going to be interviewing Pink this weekend. So yeah, so
I was like, yeah, for sure, I'm going to go
to this. Although it starts a little late for me.
It starts at eight pm, it.

Speaker 3 (17:58):
Will make it on a Monday.

Speaker 1 (18:00):
Feel feels yeah yeah, yeah, feels late to start the movie.

Speaker 2 (18:08):
But you know, I think you'll be home and in
bed by ten.

Speaker 3 (18:12):
I think so too. Yeah, I think we're gonna plan
on that.

Speaker 4 (18:14):
Okay, Yeah, so yeah, that's to night.

Speaker 3 (18:18):
Oh okay, but I want to talk about this girl.
So last week I was.

Speaker 1 (18:23):
Talking about my period and how I don't want my period.
I have my period. My period doesn't have me, and
I got inundated with messages from scrubbers, all with the
same name of this woman who goes by the name goes.

Speaker 3 (18:39):
By the name. Her name is, I think it's Elisa Vitti, Okay.

Speaker 6 (18:45):
And.

Speaker 1 (18:47):
Every single scrubber that messaged me gave me this woman's
name because she does she basically that's her entire job
as she talks about women's cycles and how my mind.
So I started to some podcasts that she's done.

Speaker 6 (19:02):
She was on one of ours, she was on Intimate Knowledge.

Speaker 10 (19:06):
She was yes, yes, do you like her?

Speaker 6 (19:10):
I don't remember podcasts.

Speaker 3 (19:12):
So I have to tell you.

Speaker 1 (19:15):
The craziness of it is that we are basically men
and women the way like women, the way we live
our life. Okay, I don't even want to like regurgitate
her information because it's so good and I don't know
these technical terms, so I'm just gonna like layman's. It
is that the layman's is that the right sure terminology.

(19:38):
We are on a cycle, so basically there's like four
cycles and they have names, and it's based on like
when you're bleeding, So there's like a bleeding and then
there's like a non bleeding, and there's like a post bleeding,
and they all have specific names, and you're supposed to
tailor your body, like the way that you work out
and the way that you eat along the same as
your cycle, because your your metabolism speeds up when you're

(20:00):
you know, on your period, so you need to eat
a little bit more, you should eat a little less
when you just finish it, like all of those things.
And we basically do everything the way that men do it,
because that's just what you're told, like wake up early
and grind and work out and do the strength training
and like whatever. That's the way I've been doing it,
you know, like I just kind of do the same

(20:21):
thing every day, and I should really be doing everything
in conjunction with my cycle, the way the things that
I'm eating and all. And that's like kind of like
why I crave burgers around my period, because your body
wants more.

Speaker 3 (20:33):
I am just totally so happy.

Speaker 1 (20:37):
So first of all, thank you guys for the recommendation,
because I've only listened to two podcasts that she's been
on and I'm already like freaking out.

Speaker 3 (20:43):
I'm want to read both of her books.

Speaker 1 (20:44):
I want to have her on this podcast when I
get a little bit more understanding, because I do want
to change my diet and the way that I work
out based on my period cycle, like when I'm bleeding
and when I'm not bleeding and all of those things.

Speaker 4 (20:57):
So is it was she saying, like, it's good to
feed your body what it's craving, like for you to.

Speaker 1 (21:02):
Eat new Like that's what everybody says, Like everybody blames it.
Everybody's kind of kind of blame. We've just kind of
put blame on this thing, like our period, and it's
just our excuse to do whatever. But no, not to
give in, but that your body does crave certain things,
like you do need to eat more on your period,
but not like a pack of Star Wars, you know.

Speaker 4 (21:24):
Yeah, but I feel like if you're craving a burger,
what's wrong with eating a burger when.

Speaker 1 (21:28):
I don't know, I need to get more into the
weeds of it. I need to get more into the
nutritional weeds of it.

Speaker 10 (21:32):
But the.

Speaker 1 (21:35):
And basically she was saying, like you should do more
cardio during one of these phases versus like less cardio
and more strength, because you could be having it could
be giving you like the reverse effect.

Speaker 3 (21:47):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (21:48):
It was so wild and I think I can make
I think if I figure it out, I can crack
the code and it's not stop having my really crampy
day and my bleeding niagara falls day.

Speaker 2 (22:01):
Yeah. Maybe, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (22:03):
I think so I've seen the light, and I think
I'm gonna be a changed woman.

Speaker 4 (22:08):
I sent Tanya a video of this girl is like
a TikTok and she goes, she goes. I just can't
wrap my mind around the fact that once a month,
like when we have periods, we just walk around we're
literally bleeding, and we just walk around as if everything's
totally fine and normal, like I'm fine, I'm just you know,

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just bleeding.

Speaker 2 (22:31):
I and I was like, we do.

Speaker 4 (22:35):
We just act like it's just part of our you
know what I mean. It is, it is part of
our lives. But there's just I've never really really thought
that deep into it because it's what happens.

Speaker 3 (22:46):
Yeah, and that's what she was saying.

Speaker 1 (22:47):
She's like, we all have just kind of come under
this Oh you're on your period or oh you're pms
ing or oh you're done. It's like, no, those are
actual reactions, like that's like your body's basically saying you're
having a fever. And you would treat yourself if you
were a fever, Like you would take medicine or you
would do something, you know.

Speaker 2 (23:02):
Eat bad because you're supposed to feed a fever.

Speaker 3 (23:05):
Yeah, like that's your body. Like now you're not supposed
to have painful periods.

Speaker 2 (23:10):
Am I supposed to be a raging psycho?

Speaker 9 (23:12):
No?

Speaker 3 (23:13):
Like that's a hormone of balance.

Speaker 1 (23:14):
Like that is like basically your body having a fever,
and you should figure out what's like.

Speaker 3 (23:18):
Causing that, and maybe I should.

Speaker 4 (23:22):
Do you get rageful?

Speaker 1 (23:24):
No, I'm saying because of you. Oh those days are
like Homer Simpson over here.

Speaker 4 (23:29):
When have I ever gone off on you because of
my period?

Speaker 3 (23:35):
It's seldom? Like, seriously, would it's happened?

Speaker 1 (23:40):
When Like when you used to lock the door when
we lived in Brentwood, and you would lock the door
so I couldn't come over.

Speaker 4 (23:44):
No, I would lock the door because I'd go to
sleep at night, and then you would come over early
enough that I hadn't unlocked the door.

Speaker 1 (23:51):
No, that's not true, because the door would be unlocketh
all the time, except for when you were on those
period days it was just mysterious.

Speaker 2 (24:00):
Locked and not with you. I forgot about.

Speaker 4 (24:07):
So my sisters they have a neighbor and she like
will come. She's like literally right next door to show,
like come and knock on their window or just like
walk in the door. And I'm like, wow, that is
so reminiscent of the days Tanya and I lived right
next door to each other.

Speaker 3 (24:21):
The fact that we shared a wall is so crazy
to me.

Speaker 1 (24:25):
Yeah, it's almost like you know those things that you
give your best friend and you like tap it and
then it.

Speaker 2 (24:30):
Like Amy got those for us.

Speaker 3 (24:31):
Yeah, and it like she kind.

Speaker 1 (24:32):
Of it like blinks to your friend whenever, so you're
you're always together. It's like we had that. But it
was just a wall and I could just like knock
on it.

Speaker 4 (24:41):
No, you would never do that. You just knocked on
the door until I answered.

Speaker 1 (24:45):
I could just touch the wall, and I knew that
I could feel your energy.

Speaker 4 (24:49):
Wasn't home Mark.

Speaker 2 (24:55):
You took the words right out of about it.

Speaker 4 (24:57):
I'm excited, and I'm gonna let y'all take the You
don't if we're pretending that this is happening.

Speaker 2 (25:02):
Today last week?

Speaker 6 (25:05):
All right, we did it last week.

Speaker 1 (25:07):
Yeah, We did it last week because she had a
press day where she was doing all her press because
she is what's the word launching, No, not, she's launching voting, yes,
but she is efficient, so she like stacks her day
where she's like, I'm gonna do all my press from
like eight am to eight.

Speaker 3 (25:24):
Pm on one day, and I respect it.

Speaker 4 (25:27):
Oh yeah, she's just I had this moment after we
interviewed her where I was like, I remember so vividly
my old house watched like growing up, watching Laguna Beach
and thinking Kristen, Like I was just.

Speaker 2 (25:41):
Like, she's the cool girl.

Speaker 4 (25:43):
Like she is the like she is the epitome of
what I imagined a California girl being like, and just
thought she was so cool. And I had that moment
of being like, oh my god, like I just got
to hang out and chat with Kristen Cavalary.

Speaker 2 (25:57):
That was really cool.

Speaker 6 (25:58):
Well that's the nice thing of pre recording as interviews,
as we can tell people that this is a really
fun interview with the three of you just hanging out.
It's really doesn't feel like an interview at all.

Speaker 3 (26:06):
Yeah, true, because she's just she is.

Speaker 1 (26:08):
She's just super cool and super open and transparent while
at the same time like she's so degaff which I love.

Speaker 4 (26:17):
Yeah, I think that's something to do with her having
been in this spotlight since she was so young.

Speaker 1 (26:23):
And also efficient, do you know that I that is
a word that I'm going to put on my vision
board next year because I am the opposite of efficient.

Speaker 3 (26:32):
I will be working on.

Speaker 1 (26:33):
A trending rapport and then I'll be making some oatmeal,
and then I'll be listening to a song, and then
I'll get an email and I'll answer the email, and
like my brain, I just kind of I'm always kind
of doing multiple things, and I feel like if I
just focused and did things in blocks and chunks of time,
I could be way more efficient.

Speaker 3 (26:52):
And I think that's how Kristen Cavalariy is.

Speaker 2 (26:54):
I feel like what you just named is efficient.

Speaker 4 (26:56):
You were doing a lot of things at one time.

Speaker 1 (26:58):
But I think it takes me too long to do
all of those things, where if I could just focus,
I can get.

Speaker 2 (27:02):
One done at a time.

Speaker 6 (27:03):
Yeah, I have to stop myself. I'll be in the
middle of something and I'll get distracted by an email
or something and I'll go to that and then I
say stop, stop, stop, finish what you're doing, then deal
with that.

Speaker 3 (27:13):
Yeah, I'm not good at that.

Speaker 4 (27:15):
That's like all my life is like I never have
long enough time to like focus on one thing.

Speaker 1 (27:21):
But think about it, like if you just sat down
and like blocked out your day.

Speaker 3 (27:25):
I really think I could do this. I'm gonna I
want to feel like.

Speaker 4 (27:28):
I'm shocked that you don't. I just be very achievable.

Speaker 1 (27:30):
I have to do lists and I feel like I'm
organizing that way, but I don't. I'm not efficient and
I and I don't like that about myself.

Speaker 4 (27:37):
All Right, Well, we're gonna get into that interview person.

Speaker 2 (27:40):
I'm like, what is the word I'm gonna say.

Speaker 4 (27:43):
We kind of talked about her dating life a little bit,
so that's a little teaser for you, and we'll be
right back with that. Okay, you guys, we have a

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guest on here that I have been so excited to
have on the podcast.

Speaker 2 (28:09):
Please welcome to the O R. Kristin Cavalarie.

Speaker 9 (28:15):
Wow In, Hi, guys.

Speaker 2 (28:19):
I'm so happy you're finally scrubbing in.

Speaker 9 (28:23):
Me too.

Speaker 5 (28:24):
I've been dying to for a long time. I'm such
fans of you, guys. I always say I know you
guys love.

Speaker 9 (28:29):
Me so much, so I'm really excited to be here.

Speaker 1 (28:32):
I am just a huge I feel like I just
ingest everything that is Kristen. So I'm wearing my Butterfly
collection from your jewelry line. I have the earrings and
the ring on right now as we speak.

Speaker 3 (28:43):
I use you do.

Speaker 1 (28:45):
I use your cookbook because I just love all of
your recipes. I wash my hair with your new shampoo
for blondes.

Speaker 3 (28:56):
No, like, it's actually like we have.

Speaker 1 (29:03):
And now I'm about to use your beauty collection because
it really like it's a clean beauty supply.

Speaker 5 (29:11):
Yeah, clean skincare. It's the We're launching with five core
products that I feel like everyone needs in their daily routine.
They're very much a part of my daily routine. And
if you guys want, I can walk you through them
a little bit, or I can just kind of tell
you the overall idea behind it, what works for you guys.

Speaker 4 (29:28):
Yeah, tell us about like, because there's five products total
that you'll launch with, So technically there's five hero products
you're starting with. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (29:37):
Yeah, these are the base of anyone's daily routine, and
so a daily foaming powder cleans are a daily moisturizer.
My favorite product is are pineapple peptide nectar. This is
vitamin C and peptidze in one, so it's hydrating, it's writening,
it's anti aging. We have an I cream, we have
a lip bomb, and then in January of twenty two,
we're going to follow it up with some products that

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are a little bit more fun, very much a part
of the routine. Maybe not every day, but things like
a natural alternative to a retinol. So some stuff that
I'm really excited about as well.

Speaker 1 (30:06):
The lip bomb is very importante because no, I'm serious.
So I have a friend who she models, and so
she's constantly kind of having like makeup and things put
on her. It's part of her job. So every day
she's getting makeup put on. And she recently had her
like metals checked or something, and she had some crazy
amount of metals and the I guess her doctor was saying,

(30:29):
it's because of all the stuff she puts on her lips.
You don't realize if you're not using clean products, you're
constantly putting it on your lips and you're ingesting it.

Speaker 9 (30:39):
It's so it's crazy.

Speaker 5 (30:40):
About a year ago, it's when I started to deep
dive into this clean beauty world and what does it
mean and all of these things, And what I found
out was that you can actually also say that you're
a clean beauty brand and you're.

Speaker 9 (30:51):
Really kind of not.

Speaker 5 (30:52):
Yeah, there's all these different lists on the market for
what qualifies you to be clean. And so the two
most important things for me were to act be clean.
You know, I wanted these products to be safe enough
that if my kids decided to rummage through my drawer
in my bathroom and lathered it all over their face,
I would have peace of mind knowing that it was
okay then, and that they're also really effective. But what

(31:14):
I learned too, is that the products that I was
using at the time that were high end, you know,
fairly clean, all of these things that they add parabins, petroleum,
you know, all of these things, they actually age us.
So while we sit here using these products thinking that
we're doing a really good thing, we're actually doing the opposite.
So they're actually not effective really at all, which was

(31:35):
really alarming to me. So that was another reason why
I wanted to do uncommon beauty, to have natural skincare,
because I want to make sure the products I'm using
are doing what they're.

Speaker 9 (31:43):
Supposed to be doing.

Speaker 2 (31:45):
Yeah, That's that's some information to take in.

Speaker 4 (31:48):
I'm like, I need to go through everything I'm using
and make sure it's not doing the opposite of what
I'm trying to accomplish.

Speaker 1 (31:56):
Right, No, but I feel like the lifestyle that you live,
just like the way that you eat and the things
that you put like on your body and in your body,
like you're very aware and like that's the level I
strive to be at, you know, Like I'm almost there,
Like I try really, like I try to be super
clean and eat like you know, like no refined things
are processed, and I'm almost there, but like I want

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to be Christen Status.

Speaker 9 (32:20):
I love you. Well, I'll be honest with you.

Speaker 5 (32:23):
The one area of my life that I haven't fully
transitioned over is makeup and hair products. And I think
anytime you enter this clean space, you almost have to
forget everything, you know, because an eyeliner, for example, maybe
won't smudge the same way because there aren't those those
filler ingredients, and so you have to kind of wrap
your head around Okay, I know I'm doing a good
thing for my body, but maybe it's a little bit

(32:44):
different than I'm used to, So I think it's a
bit of an adjustment period and I just like makeup
and hair, sometimes we just gotta do what we gotta do.

Speaker 4 (32:53):
Yeah, that is true. I just like, I feel like
you have been busy since we were watching you on
Laguna Beach, Like.

Speaker 2 (33:06):
I feel like you've never stopped.

Speaker 4 (33:09):
True, like you're just consistently. I mean, it's really cool
to see because a lot of people who are in
the reality TV space don't have that longevity that you've had.
And it's like you just continue to like continue to
do things and like launch products and then it's like
I'm going to do beauty, I'm going to do jewelry,
I'm going to do this. And it's like, where when

(33:30):
do you kick up on the couch and like watch
some trash TV.

Speaker 3 (33:35):
Kick up on the couch?

Speaker 9 (33:36):
Well, thank you?

Speaker 5 (33:38):
I mean, I think because my whole life, I've moved
around so much, I don't really know how to just
sit still and just relax. I have found that when
I actually do sit on the couch with my kids
to watch a TV show or something, then I get tired. However,
all of that being said, I think what I've learned
through the pandemic is to slow down, and I've actually

(33:59):
really enjoyed being at my house and taking a day
to myself. Sometimes I think being the CEO and well,
the founder of Uncommon James, I have had this guilt
of like I need to be in the office Monday
through Friday, which I am there most days. But now
I've gone to a place of being like, you know what,
if I want to stay home for a day and
I don't want to wake up at five to work
out after I drop off my kids at school, I

(34:21):
can come home and work out and I can stay
in leggings all day. I do that more often now,
and I'm giving myself a little bit more grace, and
that feels really nice.

Speaker 9 (34:30):
So I am learning how to just chill out a
little bit.

Speaker 1 (34:36):
I respect it because and I'm actually like, I'm not
even going to ask you this question, because I think
it's so annoying that women get asked this question and
men never get asked the question of like how do.

Speaker 3 (34:43):
You do it all? But I feel like to it's
so it irritates me.

Speaker 4 (34:48):
I mean, a lot of women do, a lot of
women do a lot more than what men are doing,
especially when they have kids, it's like superhuman.

Speaker 3 (34:57):
Yeah, but it is.

Speaker 1 (34:57):
It's like I try to wrap my head around just
kind of everything that you have going on on top
of your children and like on top of making I
feel like you always do you make yourself a priority
and like.

Speaker 3 (35:08):
It's really cool to see.

Speaker 1 (35:10):
I just feel like, and I feel like I've told
you this so many times. I really like admire so
many things about you, because not only is your work
ethic really strong, but I also think you know, like
you're in the tabloids all the time over XYZ, and
you have such a sense of humor about it, like
you can laugh about it and you can just be like,
this is ridiculous, and I know deep down like it's

(35:32):
got to affect you and it's got to impact you,
but you also can kind of roll with it and
laugh at it. And I just think that that's the
coolest thing about you.

Speaker 9 (35:40):
Thank you.

Speaker 5 (35:41):
That's really sweet, I will say. I mean, I've been
in the tabloid world since I was seventeen and before.

Speaker 9 (35:47):
I don't know that it ever gets easier, and I
don't I think the biggest thing for me.

Speaker 5 (35:51):
That drives me nuts is people assuming they know what
they're talking about, and I just want to be like,
you have no clue, no clue.

Speaker 9 (35:59):
I want to shout it from the rooftops and so
but I know I do have to keep a sense
of humor. I have to laugh about it.

Speaker 5 (36:05):
I think it's important to have friends that you can
vent to about that stuff who also understand what.

Speaker 9 (36:09):
You're going through. But it's a real thing.

Speaker 5 (36:12):
And I actually think with the reality shows, especially ones
like Luguna Beach the Hills, not as much very cavalary,
but there still is there's a level of stress that
comes with those. Yeah, And the level of stress for
me is that I don't care what anybody says. No
reality show is one hundred percent real, unless it's like
Jersey Shore where there's cameras on twenty four seven, But

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even then, anyone can play a huge role, and so
I just there's no way you can tell a full
story when.

Speaker 9 (36:41):
They're only filming with you for a few hours a week.

Speaker 5 (36:43):
And so I think for me, people thinking that they
know everything about me and assuming they know everything about.

Speaker 9 (36:49):
A situation, that's the part that drives me crazy.

Speaker 5 (36:51):
And I'm not going to sit here every day and
go on social media and be like, Okay, actually what.

Speaker 9 (36:54):
Happened was this and that, like it's just not worth
my time.

Speaker 5 (36:58):
And energy, but it it never get I don't know.
I don't know how to just completely let it roll
off my shoulders all the time.

Speaker 4 (37:05):
I think if you're someone who is has like empathy
and compassion at all, then I don't think accepting criticism
from strangers, especially when it's hate and people are trolls,
Like I.

Speaker 2 (37:17):
Don't think your brain.

Speaker 4 (37:19):
If you're able to empathize and have compassion for people,
then you're like not able to just ignore that because
everyone's always like ignore the haters whatever. But all those comments,
Like if there's tons of nice comments and two mean comments,
I'm thinking about the mean ones, you know, sure.

Speaker 9 (37:36):
And that's true.

Speaker 4 (37:38):
Yeah, And I'm almost like in a weird way, I
don't know if the word is relief, But because you've
been in this so long, like in my mind, I'm like,
it's something wrong with me that I can't just let
these rude people roll off my back, you know. But
I've kind of through therapy, I have realized that because
I have like compassion for other people and I'm sensitive
to people's feelings, then when people or mean to me,

(38:00):
I'm always going to take it on and feel it
way more personally than I technically should.

Speaker 2 (38:05):
But I mean, and it's so.

Speaker 9 (38:09):
True what you said.

Speaker 5 (38:09):
Though there can be literally five hundred comments going, I
love you, You're amazing, and then there's the one that's like,
you know, whatever it is, but that's mean, and we
only we just focus on that, and it's so bad for.

Speaker 9 (38:21):
Our mental health.

Speaker 5 (38:22):
Also, what I've realized too, and this is what I'm
going to try to teach my kids, is that what
I've learned over the years and through pick therapy probably
as well, and just you know whatever self help book
is that ultimately those negative comments aren't really.

Speaker 9 (38:35):
About us necessarily, it's more about that person.

Speaker 5 (38:38):
Because what I've realized as I've grown into the woman
that I am today and I have actually I do
feel the happiest and most peace that I ever have,
is that when you're you know, loving yourself and you're
happy and you're doing your thing, you're not even worried
about what other people are doing. It doesn't even cross
my mind. And because I don't you're doing your thing,
I don't care. It doesn't affect my life and I'm

(38:59):
not going to sit here in tire to tear you
down because I feel good about me, and so I
think that's sort of what I remind myself of when
people are coming at me, like Okay, this isn't really
about me, and I just have to like breathe through
it and let it go.

Speaker 1 (39:12):
You know something else, it's just going to be like
a You know, Kristen, I love you talk. But another
thing that I love about you is that you are
a public figure. You're you're super public. You're you know
what I mean, Like you're on TV and you people
know you and they know your life. But you've made
this decision to keep your children private. You know, like
we know obviously you have children, but we don't see

(39:32):
their faces and they're around, you know what I mean,
Like we can hear them, we can see them, but
we just don't see like you cover their faces on
social media. And I think that's so cool of you,
and also kind of just like, at what point or
when did you make that decision and are you ever
going to show them down the line?

Speaker 5 (39:53):
Well, thank you, So we made the decision early on.
I actually showed a few pictures of Cam and my
oldest when he was a baby. I think maybe until
he is about six months or so, so there are
a couple images of him probably on my Instagram still.
And then we decided, you know what, we actually want
to keep them private, really for them, because we have
no idea what they're going to grow up and want

(40:14):
to do. They may want no part of a public life.
Maybe they hate social media. We don't know, and so
we want to just give them that opportunity to make
the choice themselves instead of robbing them of that. And
that's really what it is. I mean, my oldest, he's
eight going on eighteen. He wants thanks, he wants a
YouTube channel, and wants to do all of oh okay,

(40:34):
pump the brakes, buddy.

Speaker 9 (40:36):
But yet they get they will get to an age
whatever that is.

Speaker 5 (40:40):
I don't know yet when they're old enough to have
a phone and to be on social media, and if
they want to be, then by all means, you know,
And then selfishly, I'll be happy because I would love
to share my babies too. I would love to share
how proud I am of them and show how cute
they are and all of those things. But again, I
just I want them to have that decision for themselves.

Speaker 2 (41:00):
Yeah, I love.

Speaker 4 (41:01):
That, and I have you know, I follow several people
with kids and that are kind of in the spotlight,
and it's there's always that conversation surrounding like how do
you know what's too much to show? Especially with a
kid who doesn't have, you know, the voice to say
like I don't want to be on camera or I
don't want to be filmed. Like sometimes when I see

(41:22):
my nephews, my youngest nephew will be like no, you know,
and I'm like, okay, yeah.

Speaker 3 (41:27):
Not today, not today.

Speaker 6 (41:32):
I know.

Speaker 5 (41:32):
I mean everyone's different, and you know, it's such a
weird time now to be raising kids with social media
and a lot of people I found will already buy
their baby's Instagram handle.

Speaker 9 (41:42):
I'm like, they're in diapers.

Speaker 4 (41:43):
I know.

Speaker 3 (41:44):
I know, it's so wild.

Speaker 9 (41:48):
It is really Hey, you know what to eat your own?

Speaker 1 (41:51):
And I will judge, Yeah, totally. It's like, yeah, do you.

Speaker 4 (41:58):
I know. I It was a recent article I read
where you were talking about dating life and that you're
single and focusing on being a mom and your kids,
and I was thinking, how does someone like how does
someone like you who is in this weird Spotlight World
for so long?

Speaker 2 (42:16):
How do you even know? How do you date?

Speaker 4 (42:19):
Do you are you on when you have dated in
the past? Are you on dating apps?

Speaker 9 (42:26):
I love Okay, do.

Speaker 2 (42:27):
You really love it?

Speaker 9 (42:30):
I love it.

Speaker 5 (42:31):
I love this question because, Okay, here's the thing, Like
in the real world. Okay, you could go on a
date with someone you're like kind of feeling them out,
like I don't know if I like them, like me,
I'll go out with them again. And then it's like, no,
I'm not don't know whatever, no one knows. You told
a couple of friends, that's great. Well, if I go
on one date with someone, all of a sudden he's
my boyfriend, and the tabloids, it's like, welld on, I

(42:51):
don't even know what's happening with this situation yet. Can
I figure it out and I'll get back to you guys.

Speaker 9 (42:57):
So that can be tricky, and there are ways to
be a little.

Speaker 5 (43:00):
Bit more secretive about it. I think I got a
little lazy last fall.

Speaker 9 (43:04):
And I just was I was having fun. Ye're just
living like I also want to go out and public
that as well. Fine, that's on me.

Speaker 3 (43:15):
I get it.

Speaker 5 (43:16):
But yeah, sometimes it is a little like before everyone
can just you know, everyone jumps the gun and puts
a label on something, and it's like I went on.

Speaker 9 (43:24):
A date, like everyone calmed down. I don't even know
what's going to happen, so that can be a little annoying.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
I'd say, yeah, I feel like, you know, it's just
I do kind of look at it through a different
lens though now, because.

Speaker 3 (43:37):
I obviously I don't have kids.

Speaker 1 (43:38):
My boyfriend has kids, and I feel like there's this
different lens for me even dating somebody that has kids
than I ever have ever experienced before, you know what
I mean, Like I never I guess I was to
dating seriously, but it's just like on a whole other
level at this point.

Speaker 5 (43:54):
Yeah, like it's going to take the guy I marry
next for me to introduce them to my kids, Like
my kids will not meet anybody until I know, like
this is the one which I don't even want to
happen for a long time.

Speaker 9 (44:06):
I'm really enjoying me.

Speaker 5 (44:07):
On my own and figuring out like who I am again,
and I do want to date and I do want
to have fun, you know. I mean I got married
young when I met Jane, when I was twenty three,
I had Camon.

Speaker 9 (44:17):
At twenty five, I got married, and you know, it
was just it was live. So I'm just.

Speaker 5 (44:22):
I'm really enjoying where I'm at right now and I'm
having a good time. But I am one, one hundred
percent single at the moment.

Speaker 4 (44:29):
I mean, you knew what you were doing when you.

Speaker 2 (44:32):
Post that photo with Steven?

Speaker 4 (44:33):
Was that last year?

Speaker 2 (44:34):
When was that? Everyone went it was crazy last year?

Speaker 9 (44:38):
I think it was about a year ago. Yeah, you know, yeah,
I mean sure.

Speaker 5 (44:43):
Did I know that it was going to be a
little bit of a frenzy, Yeah, I didn't know to
what degree. That's actually my highest liked photo of all times.
Love babies over anything. Yes, yeah, so I didn't know
that it would be to that level. But yeah, I
knew fans would be excited. And I adore you, I
love him. We had so much fun in LAGU and
I catching up and so yeah, it was it was fun.

Speaker 1 (45:05):
No, you need like top tier like you need like
the toppest tier man like you.

Speaker 3 (45:10):
I swear no, just because like you you don't need
a man, like you don't need a man.

Speaker 1 (45:16):
But you want someone you want to do life with,
someone you know, and so you need like upper echelon, like,
send some.

Speaker 9 (45:25):
Guys my way.

Speaker 4 (45:26):
Wait, I was gonna say, because who is your celebrity
crush growing up?

Speaker 2 (45:30):
Like who are you?

Speaker 4 (45:31):
Like?

Speaker 2 (45:31):
That's the guy I want growing up? Well, you know
teenager years okay.

Speaker 5 (45:36):
Well, Leonardo DiCaprio, of course, I'm trying to think of you.

Speaker 4 (45:41):
Remember Devin saw remember in Casper and he says, can
I keep you? Oh my god?

Speaker 1 (45:46):
That was wasn't he now?

Speaker 3 (45:49):
And then wasn't he now?

Speaker 1 (45:50):
And then yeah, wait wait there's this scene now and
then where he goes there like they're skinny dipping in
the in the lake and he they go to pick
up he goes to pick up his clothes and uh,
he's wearing like a little thing around himself. And he
goes to pick up his clothes and you can see
his balls and I used to pause. I used to
pause that scene and watch it over and over again

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because his balls were just hanging down under.

Speaker 9 (46:17):
I love side of his bush.

Speaker 3 (46:20):
And I was like, how old were we? Fourteen? Like
how Purby was I at fourteen?

Speaker 2 (46:24):
Like, well you're it? You were making out there and.

Speaker 9 (46:28):
Richardson that little nugget.

Speaker 4 (46:34):
All of a sudden, all the views for now and
then just skyrocket.

Speaker 9 (46:40):
Where all these views coming, all the.

Speaker 11 (46:44):
Residuals, they're like whoa, yeah, okay, Well I was gonna say,
I feel like you're the type of girl like you
could message your celebrity crush and you could be like like, hey.

Speaker 4 (46:59):
You know if they're single, obviously respectfully, hey, like I
you know something cool. Because of what you would say
as a cool girl, Tanya and I would not be
the one we will try to draft the message. But
what I'm trying to say is you could message him,
he'd probably he'd obviously respond in like two seconds, and
then you'd be the type that would like play it

(47:20):
cool and then you'd like kind of got forget to
respond and then he'd be like, hey, like let's go
get a drink or something.

Speaker 2 (47:26):
I just feel like you really have your pick whenever your.

Speaker 9 (47:30):
Game the way that's really good.

Speaker 2 (47:35):
You know what.

Speaker 5 (47:36):
I don't know if I am a little traditional in
the sense where I would want the guy to the first.

Speaker 9 (47:41):
Move, but I don't know, maybe get a drink in
me and I might.

Speaker 2 (47:53):
One spicy Mark and she's she's.

Speaker 9 (47:55):
Doing it's so good.

Speaker 1 (47:59):
Yeah, but I'm with you like no time because you're
just like taking over the world, you know. Yeah, and
let it come when it and let it come when
it comes, you know, like you can't hurry love, you
just have to wait.

Speaker 3 (48:12):
You just have to wait.

Speaker 2 (48:13):
Wait. How are you when you got married? Or how
old were you when you started dating Jay?

Speaker 9 (48:18):
So I got Jay at twenty three twenty three? Maybe
I'm yeah, yeah, so young.

Speaker 2 (48:23):
I realize that.

Speaker 9 (48:25):
So yeah, And then you know, I got out.

Speaker 5 (48:28):
We filed over a year ago and then it took
me a minute, but then I did. I dated somebody
and it was great. He was the perfect guy to
date after Jay was really sweet. It made me feel
really good. But now I'm just kind of I just
want to be by myself and like you said, when
it's the time, it'll happen, I'm not going to force it,

(48:49):
and I just want to I've gotten to a place
too where I just want to enjoy the journey. Like
life to me now is about the journey instead of
always trying to get to the next destination. And I'm
okay sitting in sadness or lonely at loneliness or any
of those feelings and just experiencing it because we all
end up getting to the other side and not that
I'm lonely or sad.

Speaker 6 (49:09):
Right now.

Speaker 9 (49:10):
I have my moments, yeah, just yeah, I have moments,
But right.

Speaker 5 (49:14):
Now I'm feeling really good and it's kind of nice
not even having anyone to text. I don't I don't
want to be on my pH you know what I mean, Like,
I don't want any of that right now.

Speaker 6 (49:23):
I know.

Speaker 1 (49:23):
It's so funny because I think that's it's people all
Like I was single for so many years and everybody
was just like, how are you so happy being single?
And I'm like, because you never know like when you're
gonna find that person, and I don't have that time
to like wake up on a Sunday and do whatever
the freak I.

Speaker 3 (49:37):
Want, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (49:38):
Like you don't you just do whatever you want all
the time, And I'm like, I just have you kind
of have to just yeah, enjoy the journey, because.

Speaker 4 (49:46):
It really it comes fast too, like all of a sudden,
you're just enjoying yourself and single and not texting anyone,
and then you meet someone and it's like, okay, I'll
do it, I'll date.

Speaker 3 (49:57):
Yeah. Do you still believe in marriage? Like do you
want to get married again?

Speaker 9 (50:04):
Yeah? I mean I do.

Speaker 5 (50:05):
I definitely believe in marriage, and yeah, I think that
I will eventually. But like I was like, the thought
of getting married right now is like, oh my god,
it makes me cringe. But yes, I very much believe
in it, and I do think that I'll meet someone eventually.

Speaker 3 (50:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (50:20):
Yeah, It's just funny because I like, I I think
I've I told you, I think, I I think. I
Actually right after I met Red Star, I came to
one of your launches and I was talking to you
about him, and you know, he was newly divorced and uh,
with kids. And it's funny because when I met him,
he was just coming out of something and like I,

(50:41):
you know me, like I'm like all in, like ready
to go. And so it was like this kind of
like we both were just at this weird you know,
just like totally different stages of life, and so we
both had to kind of compromise and be patient with
each other because I was asking all of those questions
like do you believe in marriage? Like is that something
that you want? You know, all those and he was
just like whoa, whoa, whoa.

Speaker 5 (51:01):
Whoa, Like yeah.

Speaker 1 (51:11):
I'm like, so I'm gonna have Charlie Pooth perform at
my wedding. I wanted to play the piano as I'm
walking down.

Speaker 3 (51:16):
The aisle, you know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (51:18):
So yeah, so I had to like take a moment
and just be like, you know what, It's not about again,
like the destination, Like it's all going to come when
it's supposed to do. It's about like enjoying the process,
finding somebody that you know really matches you. And that's
like what's most important. So it's a good I think
it's a goodnone else too.

Speaker 9 (51:38):
It's also it's that there's no right path. Everyone's path
is different, you know, like maybe maybe what I'm going.

Speaker 5 (51:45):
Through is not what I had envisioned when I was
you know whatever, fifteen sixteen, Right, it's my path, and
I'm okay with it.

Speaker 9 (51:51):
It's just part of my story.

Speaker 5 (51:53):
Maybe you didn't think you were going to meet a
guy that had kids, but it's okay. And I think
that if once we can just kind of accept that
and embrace it, it almost it's it's just fun.

Speaker 9 (52:02):
It's just we're along for the ride.

Speaker 1 (52:04):
It's the best way to be And like, you know what,
it's like, you're the author of your own story and
I think everybody likes to project like oh, this is
gonna be so hard and like blah.

Speaker 3 (52:12):
Blah blah blah.

Speaker 1 (52:13):
But you're like, it's your life, so you can decide
what you want to do with it, and if you're
like positive and upbeat about it, like you can make
it a positive and upbeat experience.

Speaker 3 (52:23):
It doesn't have to be like exact. Yeah, it's very interesting.

Speaker 4 (52:29):
Yeah, it may have been the same article I read
the what other the the other thing.

Speaker 2 (52:34):
I read articles about.

Speaker 4 (52:36):
You and you were saying how you have never gotten
botox or filler, and I was just like, how does
she How does her skin and face look like that
without any assistance? And I was just like blown away,
So like, what are the tips?

Speaker 9 (52:57):
Well, my face moves a lot.

Speaker 5 (52:59):
I mean that was one thing on Very Cavalary that
I noticed right away was I was like, ma, because
you know, we're so used to no one's face moving anymore,
so that'd be the first thing I've noticed.

Speaker 9 (53:07):
I'm like, oh my god, you can really see all
my expressions.

Speaker 5 (53:11):
But I'm okay with it, Like I have some you know,
fine lines and stuff.

Speaker 9 (53:15):
They don't bother me. And I've had people tell me
to get botox. I'm like, why do you care? They
don't bother me, why should they bother you?

Speaker 4 (53:20):
You?

Speaker 5 (53:21):
Yeah, but I know it's ridiculous, but I think, you know,
because I live such a healthy lifestyle, it just.

Speaker 9 (53:29):
Doesn't they make.

Speaker 5 (53:31):
To be honest, botox and everything makes me nervous because
I don't think we know the long term effects of it,
and you're freezing your face. And to me, our muscle,
our face is a muscle, so we need to work
it out the same way we would.

Speaker 9 (53:42):
Any other muscle.

Speaker 5 (53:43):
So I have this little home device called the Picotner,
and it's electric currents and you can just you know,
slap it on with pads or it comes with these
like electric gloves and you can like move it all
over your.

Speaker 9 (53:53):
Face and it literally works out your face.

Speaker 5 (53:55):
You can crank it up and you're like, damn, that hurts,
but like it's doing something, And to me, that just
makes more sense in my head.

Speaker 9 (54:02):
And then also you couple that with you know, drinking
a ton.

Speaker 5 (54:04):
Of water, eating really well, and then using really good
clean products.

Speaker 9 (54:08):
They all work synergistically together.

Speaker 5 (54:10):
And and I also think too, your mental health can
play a large role when people say, like you're glowing
or whatever. I think that comes from here and here
from your accent. Yeah, it's your happiness, it's your it's
your being comfortable in your own skin, loving yourself. And
as cliche as that is, it's honestly the truth. So
it's a combination of all of those things. But listen,

(54:32):
I'm thirty four. When I'm fifty four, maybe I'll be
singing a different tune.

Speaker 9 (54:35):
I don't know. My goals never get those bucks. But
I don't know, but it's true.

Speaker 1 (54:40):
Like I feel like you don't put like you don't
eat refined sugar really, and I feel like that I don't.

Speaker 10 (54:46):
I don't.

Speaker 1 (54:46):
I don't think there's a like, there's no I don't
think there's a scientific link. I mean, I'm no scientist,
but I feel like sugar is definitely no scientists here,
But I think sugar is what really messes with a
lot of things. And if you don't eat any refined
sugar like that, like I I honestly think that plays
a big role in it.

Speaker 5 (55:03):
I do too, So I don't really eat anything white
white flour, white salt, white sugar, unless, of course, I'm
going enough to eat around one vacation.

Speaker 9 (55:10):
I'm human, you know, but at home, I don't.

Speaker 5 (55:12):
Have any of that stuff here, and I really do
think that all of that plays a large role.

Speaker 4 (55:18):
Well, I was in the Taco Bell drive through racing
to get here, so maybe I can.

Speaker 2 (55:24):
Ease up on that gradually.

Speaker 9 (55:29):
Taco Bell and look like you's off to you.

Speaker 12 (55:32):
I know, I I just feel I have been eating
mildly healthier recently, Like I haven't had a ton of
fast food, and I just moved into my new house
and so I've just been like, you know, it's like
I got busy.

Speaker 4 (55:47):
I didn't have any of my food in my new place.
I was like, I'm just gonna swing by Taco Bell.

Speaker 1 (55:51):
Yeah, there's also like plenty of healthy options to swing
by around here about here that's neither here nor there.

Speaker 2 (55:56):
I need a Taco Bell.

Speaker 9 (56:00):
I'm jealous. I miss Mexican pizza.

Speaker 2 (56:02):
Trust me.

Speaker 9 (56:03):
I used to go to talk about all the time
growing up.

Speaker 2 (56:05):
They got rid of the Mexican pizza.

Speaker 9 (56:07):
So I heard, I heard, I don't want to talk
about it.

Speaker 1 (56:11):
Wait, okay, And I just want because everybody does. To me,
you're like ultimate modern woman status. I want you just
to kind of walk us through like a day in
your life, not like a day like today. We we're
doing like tons of press just like a normal, like
normal day.

Speaker 9 (56:24):
Yeah, okay, okay.

Speaker 5 (56:26):
So I typically wake up between five fifteen and five
point thirty to work out.

Speaker 9 (56:31):
I just work out at my house, and I know,
I know, trust me. I never thought in a million years
I would be that girl. But once you have kids, everything.

Speaker 5 (56:38):
Change so that that hour in the morning is my
peace and quiet before my kids wake up.

Speaker 9 (56:43):
It's my time to just get all my stress out
and just it's my knee time.

Speaker 5 (56:47):
Then I come upstairs and I make breakfast for the kids.
I packed their lunches. I go and get ready. I
help my kids get ready. My boys will get dressed
on their own. Sailor once in a blue moon, will
want me to pick out her outfit, which I actually enjoy.

Speaker 9 (57:00):
And then I take the boys to school. Then I
take Sailor to preschool.

Speaker 5 (57:04):
Then I go to the office, and then I leave
around two fifteen to go pick up Sailor. At two
forty five, we come home. We hang out for an
hour or so. The boys take the bus home and
they get home around four fifteen.

Speaker 9 (57:16):
I make dinner. We eat at like five five fifteen.
Every night we.

Speaker 5 (57:20):
Hang out, we do whatever, bath, bedtime routine, boom, and
then I usually have like an hour pull my kids
about at eight. I usually go to bed at like
nine nine fifteen, and so I have an hour to
do you know whatever, clean up my closet, if I've
closed everywhere, you know, just do mindless stuff like Instagram
or whatever it is, and then rinse and repeat. I mean,

(57:41):
it's pretty pretty much the same. But you know, the
flips side is, so now I'm going through a divorce.
I have my kids every other week, so we do
week on, week off. So then I have a week
like this week. I get my kids back tomorrow. But
so this week, I you know, can do press. And
then I was at my friend's house last night and
he colored my hair, and I can go to dinners

(58:03):
and it's freed.

Speaker 9 (58:03):
Up a little bit more of my time.

Speaker 5 (58:05):
Or I can really focus on myself and make myself
a priority, do hot yoga or whatever it is. It's
gonna fuel me and make me then the best mom
that I can be when I get my kids back.

Speaker 4 (58:16):
I was gonna say that blonde is looking fresh.

Speaker 1 (58:20):
Thanks, It's very fresh, I was messaging. I was messaging
Kristen because I use I got fresh highlights before uh
oscars and I had Tawny. I'd just gotten your I
had just gotten your shampoo for the blondes, and so
I had Tawny wash my hair with the Christmi's shampoo
and my hair was so blonde. The next day I

(58:42):
was like, look at this. Sending Christen photos.

Speaker 3 (58:44):
I was like, look at blonde your shampoo made me.

Speaker 9 (58:47):
It looks so good. It looks so good.

Speaker 12 (58:51):
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (58:51):
But that stuff is good and it smells good too. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (58:55):
I mean, what do you do at this point? Like
what's your next busy? This venture? Like what haven't you
done that you still want to do?

Speaker 9 (59:05):
You know what?

Speaker 5 (59:06):
So I'm actually at a place now where i have
no plans to add anything else, and I'm really happy
about it. I have such a great balance right now
between work and life, and I'm just feeling really good
about everything. For so long, kind of how we were
talking about earlier, I was always so hung up on
the future and planning this and planning.

Speaker 9 (59:23):
That, and now I'm just kind of letting go.

Speaker 5 (59:25):
And you know, obviously we're launching Uncommon Beauty today and
that's huge, But I between the jewelry and beauty, and
you know, we have some home products and some other stuff.

Speaker 9 (59:34):
But I'm good.

Speaker 5 (59:35):
I think I want to take what we're doing and
just do them really well instead of spreading ourselves too.

Speaker 1 (59:41):
Then yeah, does it all come like the uncommon It's
it's because it's uncommon beauty uncommon James. What's like the
the is all just uncommon?

Speaker 5 (59:52):
So uncommon James is realig mama. And then everything falls
under it. I mean really, we say, go to uncommon
duty dot com for the skincare, but it just takes
you to uncommon James, just the beauty landing page. So
and then we have little James, but they all fall
under the uncommon James umbrella got it.

Speaker 4 (01:00:10):
Well, I'm so happy for you. I feel like you're
your best self right now. And it was so fun
having you on the pot. I felt like we just
had like girl chat for how long? Thirty five minutes?

Speaker 9 (01:00:24):
I know, I want to hang out.

Speaker 1 (01:00:25):
I want to come over, Like, honestly, when can we
hang do you ever?

Speaker 3 (01:00:31):
Like whenever you come to LA. We're going to be
in Nashville in November.

Speaker 2 (01:00:35):
Oh yeah you are? Yeah, so let me know you fell.

Speaker 9 (01:00:39):
And then I'll let you know when I come out there.

Speaker 3 (01:00:41):
Okay.

Speaker 5 (01:00:42):
Yeah, I love you guys, Thank you so much for
having me.

Speaker 3 (01:00:45):
Oh my gosh, you're the best.

Speaker 1 (01:00:46):
I'm going to continue to wear all my uncommon thing,
all my uncommon things. I'm going to keep using my
Mike Christen's cookbook, and now I cannot wait to get
my hands on uncommon beauty.

Speaker 3 (01:00:58):
So you're the best. We love you. We I just
adore you.

Speaker 4 (01:01:03):
Same.

Speaker 9 (01:01:04):
I love you guys so much. Thank you, bye bye
bye bye.

Speaker 2 (01:01:25):
Oh right, you guys, I hope you enjoyed that. It
was so fun.

Speaker 4 (01:01:28):
I feel like the Hills girl or the girls from
the Hills are good bees. They're also like they feel
like we're just hanging out with a girlfriend because they're
really open to talk about anything and everything.

Speaker 1 (01:01:38):
Yeah, like I never really like I really like Kristin
a lot. Like I think I always used to think
she was kind of a mean girl, like I was
always she.

Speaker 2 (01:01:45):
Was presented that way on the show.

Speaker 3 (01:01:46):
Yeah, and she's not like that at all.

Speaker 4 (01:01:48):
Actually no, Okay, so I think we have an email.
Mark's gonna get right into that.

Speaker 6 (01:01:56):
Yes, this is Amy, and this is a directed primarily
at you, Tanya, but I think the rest of us
can weigh in if need be. She says, I started
hitting a guy about seven months ago who was is
going through a divorce from a ten year relationship. They
didn't have children together, but he was super close with
her daughter. The reason for this separation was because she
cheated on him multiple times. Over the course of the

(01:02:17):
past seven months, We've gone through a couple of week
spells of not talking because he decides he needs to
focus on himself and wrapping up the divorce and selling
their house and finding himself. He's always heavy on the
right now. I just know in my heart that this
isn't a chapter that is or should be closed. He's
the man I've prayed for, other than the baggage he
currently has. Tanya, did you reach out to Redstar eventually

(01:02:41):
or just wait it out? I feel like I need
to eventually say something because his ego was so bruised
from all the cheating. I feel like I need to
show him consistency and authenticity. But I know he needs
space to find himself in heal, so I don't know
what to do.

Speaker 1 (01:02:57):
It's interesting because I feel like you can't really and
I guess the way I approached everything with our breakup
was I can't do anything wrong as long as I'm
doing authentically what feels right to me. And so when
we broke up, it didn't feel like it was over.
I was just like, this is everything just felt right

(01:03:20):
with him, and so, but I did realize he couldn't do.

Speaker 3 (01:03:24):
It at that moment.

Speaker 1 (01:03:25):
There was something else going on in his life that
I just needed to give in that space. So we
kind of kept talking for a while, and then I
realized that I can't move on if we still talk,
so I cut it off cold turkey, and he kept
reaching out and I wasn't responding for quite a while,
but at that same time, I was still praying for

(01:03:47):
him and like writing in my journal about him and
making my honey jar, you know, with intentions for him.
He didn't know any of this, obviously, but I was
still doing those things for him because I felt so
strongly about us in our relationship. And eventually, after a
couple reach outs, I responded and we started talking and

(01:04:12):
that's kind of how that all went down. And then
I did end up eventually telling him and like that
I was doing all of those things like praying for
him and I like sent him a picture of the
thing that I put in the honey jar, and I
think that did like it kind of blew him away
because in his mind he thought I was fully fully
moved on over because I was so cold Turkey, like

(01:04:33):
I was not responding to him. I didn't reach out
to him on his birthday. I was kind of brutal,
and that's just very not Tanya, you know, So in
his mind, I was like moved on and in love
with somebody else. But so I think you can show
him all of that consistency, like that stuff that you're
like what she was saying is she wants to pray

(01:04:53):
for him and all those things. So you can still
do those things. But I think giving somebody space and
letting them figure it out on their own, I think
is important. But at the end of the day too,
I just don't think if you do things that feel
good to you and in your heart, you know, feel good,

(01:05:14):
that's the best thing. Because I think I was doing
a lot of things, and Becca can also weigh in that,
like I was reading Why Men Love Bitches, and I
was doing things to kind of mess with his mind,
and I didn't like that I did those things because
I felt like I needed to, you know, because I
was like, well, he didn't like the taunt, like he
threw away the tauya, So I need to be this
bitch that they say that you know every guy wants

(01:05:36):
and that was not the answer at all.

Speaker 4 (01:05:40):
Yeah, I don't really. I mean I've never been in
this situation, so it's hard to I mean, you know,
it's like such a specific situation. But I do think
when someone is going through something and they're hurting and
trying to heal from a past relationship or anything where
they've been hurt, I do think it's it's like so

(01:06:02):
important and vital for you to give them that space
because I don't think that like without them being able
to heal and have that time, then they're not going
to be able to be what you need them to be,
or it's gonna come it's going to come up eventually
in your relationship. Would you rather them take care of
it now when they're like saying they need the space.
But I mean, like I said, I think it's a

(01:06:22):
very specific thing that I think your advice makes more
than mine.

Speaker 1 (01:06:28):
Also, it is it's like it's so tricky because it's
it's something that, And I think I also came to
the realization that everybody has their projections, and everyone's going
to give their opinions and they're going to say they're things.
But the end of the day, every relationship, in every
situation is so different, and you kind of have to

(01:06:48):
give yourself grace and know that, Like your story is
the way that you it's how you write it, you know,
like if you don't want to close the door, Like
I never closed the door on him, but I started
moving on, like in terms of my life, Like I
wasn't crying as much like I was, you know what
I mean, like moving on in a different way. I
don't mean moving on in terms of like sleeping with
somebody else or moving on to somebody else.

Speaker 6 (01:07:09):
So are you really moving on if you're doing a
honey jar for him, like that seems like not moving on.

Speaker 2 (01:07:13):
I don't think there was.

Speaker 4 (01:07:14):
I mean, I think I think there was the effort
of moving on, But I don't think you ever were
like actually moving into director, because y'all were still talking,
like even when you were cold turkey, like he was
messaging you, and it would kind of you go back
to that place of like even if you didn't respond
of being like, oh, like that's you know, it's hard.

Speaker 1 (01:07:32):
Right, It's so yeah, Like every time he would message
me and I wouldn't respond, which was so freaking hard,
like literally so hard to do. It would it would
take me back to that place and I'd be like, oh, well,
like he's thinking about me the same way I'm thinking
about him, So what are we doing?

Speaker 3 (01:07:49):
And you know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (01:07:49):
But again, it was just I had to kind of
give it that time for him to kind of realize
what he needed to realize, you know, because I think
at the end of the day, you can't force someone
to get to a place where you are.

Speaker 4 (01:08:04):
And I will say, like Tanya's situation doesn't mean that
that happens for everyone where it ends up being a
happy like reunion, you know, like it's worked out and
it was meant to be. But sometimes you have to
know like, Okay, this is taking a while, and I like,
what is my worth? Like what is my what do

(01:08:27):
I deserve out of a relationship? And if you're not
getting that, then I think you let some things go sometimes. Yeah,
And I mean you kind of did that, like you
kind of had a moment of being like Okay, this
is hard and I need to take a step back.
And y'all are just respectful of each other. Yeah, I
think that's the main thing.

Speaker 3 (01:08:44):
Yeah, it's just like.

Speaker 2 (01:08:48):
Like essentially it's free therapy here.

Speaker 4 (01:08:50):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:08:50):
It's like we're like dear Abby.

Speaker 4 (01:08:54):
The isn't that what the old newspaper thing was called,
dear Abby?

Speaker 6 (01:08:58):
I think it's still a thing.

Speaker 3 (01:08:59):
Oh, I don't know it is.

Speaker 1 (01:09:02):
It's so interesting because, like and I said this from
the beginning, when I met Red Star, I felt like
we were each other's karma because.

Speaker 3 (01:09:13):
I almost felt like and I don't.

Speaker 1 (01:09:15):
Mean to say this to say that I'm like, you know,
this angel of a girlfriend or whatever, but I don't
think that I am. But I think to him, I
he didn't think anybody like me existed, do you know
what I mean? And so it would and then vice versa.

Speaker 4 (01:09:34):
I don't think anyone else you exist.

Speaker 1 (01:09:40):
But like in terms of the way that I take
care of him and love him, and I think those
were things that he just was not never thought could
actually be, you know. And so it takes time, Like
I know it sounds silly, but it takes time for
people to actually learn to accept that in a way too.

Speaker 4 (01:09:56):
Oh yeah, I mean that when you are used to
being true a certain way, then it takes a minute
to a just like do I deserve good like this? Right?

Speaker 2 (01:10:07):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (01:10:08):
I mean.

Speaker 2 (01:10:10):
Relationships are hard.

Speaker 4 (01:10:11):
I don't think people really talk about like, relationships are amazing.
Love is amazing, It's like it's really euphoric. But relationships,
all of them are complicated. They take effort and like work,
and sometimes it's bliss and you don't even feel like
you're having to do anything, and then sometimes you're like
this is this is way harder sometimes than being single

(01:10:33):
and free.

Speaker 3 (01:10:34):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:10:34):
And also I think that like for me, going through
breakups in my life have been paralyzingly hard. I could
not imagine going through divorce, like the trauma that that
would do to me would really be an issue. And
so I think I had to kind of give him
a lot of grace in that sense of just kind

(01:10:54):
of you know, realizing. I think also to you, not
so much on yourself, but all the people around you,
you know what I mean. When you have kids, you
don't you know, you think of them more than yourself,
And so.

Speaker 2 (01:11:07):
Yeah, it's pretty wild.

Speaker 4 (01:11:09):
I told ninety five P the other day I said,
if you ever like cheated or anything, I wouldn't even
I would do the worst thing that you can do
to someone, which is just like silence, Like you would
never hear from me again.

Speaker 3 (01:11:21):
Is that what you would do?

Speaker 4 (01:11:22):
Yeah, I would just be like, don't even Like if
I clearly was not enough for you, so like you
go your way, I would just be I'd be sad,
I'd be like heartbroken.

Speaker 2 (01:11:34):
Oh yeah, but I would be deadly silent.

Speaker 1 (01:11:37):
That's so good, I know. And it's almost like when
things like that, when you go through a breakup and
somebody cheats to me, that would be easier in a
sense because you're just like, yeah, there's a screw.

Speaker 3 (01:11:48):
Yeah, like I'm done.

Speaker 1 (01:11:49):
And when that's not the case and love is still there,
and I think that makes it harder because you're just
like what are we doing?

Speaker 4 (01:11:56):
That's why I always, like with Janna and Mike, I
always just like really couldn't even I like really admire
Janna because I just was like she really.

Speaker 3 (01:12:09):
Just tried, tried, and I could never get past it.

Speaker 4 (01:12:13):
I just I don't think I have I don't think
i'd be able to or like want to honestly, So.

Speaker 1 (01:12:19):
I wouldn't either, because to me, it's not so much
that I guess D cheating, it's the lack of character.

Speaker 3 (01:12:25):
It's the lack of character.

Speaker 1 (01:12:27):
I wouldn't There's no way I would not want to
hitch myself to wagon that had no character.

Speaker 4 (01:12:31):
Well, and I don't think I would be fair to
to the person like I think I would, just it
would constantly be a grudge. And if they were able
to change and like, you know, really see what they
did and try to be better, I don't feel like
I'd be able to give them the chance that they
would need.

Speaker 2 (01:12:46):
To, like be better.

Speaker 4 (01:12:48):
So that'd be the the other part that I'm you know,
self aware enough to know that I would not be
encouraging no.

Speaker 6 (01:12:56):
Same before we move, before we wrap up the episode,
you would talk about some of the Christian cavalary that
I looked into. And we should clarify you did not
see Devin SAWA's balls in the movie Now and then.

Speaker 3 (01:13:10):
Whose balls did I see?

Speaker 6 (01:13:14):
Whatever you saw was not his balls, because he clarified
in an interview a few years ago with the news
that they were wearing socks over like special sock things
over their genitalia, they were not nude for.

Speaker 3 (01:13:32):
A sock cod piece.

Speaker 1 (01:13:34):
I saw saw the sock, Yeah, I.

Speaker 3 (01:13:38):
Saw so queen. Yeah, okay, close enough, close enough.

Speaker 4 (01:13:43):
You must have been real horny for that to do
it for me. She was like had her Kevin Richardson
photo poster and she's like, oh my god, devinss ball.

Speaker 3 (01:13:55):
Oh yeah no I would.

Speaker 1 (01:13:56):
We would pause it and like slow mow that scene
of him like picking up his his whatever his clothes
out of the lake and.

Speaker 6 (01:14:03):
Just like pas what he talks about?

Speaker 3 (01:14:05):
Yeah, Oh it's such Oh it's great.

Speaker 6 (01:14:07):
There's screenshots on this article that I read, so I
know what you're talking about. But yeah, that wasn't it.
That was some sort of cloth appendage.

Speaker 2 (01:14:14):
That mark when did the research? He's like, I'm gonna
see if this is facts.

Speaker 6 (01:14:17):
Sure did? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:14:19):
I love a sockween. I'll take a sockween at thirteen.

Speaker 4 (01:14:24):
Wow, I'll never forget when I googled and saw the
first like male penis like a big one.

Speaker 1 (01:14:33):
When did you see your first in real life?

Speaker 2 (01:14:37):
In real life? Ween, I mean touched?

Speaker 3 (01:14:42):
Touched? They are all different questions.

Speaker 6 (01:14:46):
Let's start with the first. When you googled? Is that
that when you saw your first one?

Speaker 4 (01:14:49):
You googled it, I was, yeah, and I was actually
pretty young, I was. I didn't have my first kiss
un till I was sixteen. I was like, very like, right,
that's like an older age or nine.

Speaker 3 (01:15:04):
I think I was fourteen. When you're a freshman in
high school.

Speaker 2 (01:15:07):
How old are you, like fifteen, fourteen?

Speaker 4 (01:15:08):
Fifteen? Oh?

Speaker 3 (01:15:09):
Yeah, so I was.

Speaker 4 (01:15:09):
Fourteen, yeah, and I was just very like, you know,
I grew up in a very like purity culture in
the church, so like anything related to sex was just like,
don't tempt yourself, you know. And so I googled. I mean,
I got a phone when I was well, no, I
would I would have. I don't think I ever would

(01:15:30):
have done it on my parents like my family computer though,
So I feel like I was older, like when I
really saw like a grown man, like a photo of
a grown man's ween.

Speaker 2 (01:15:42):
Yeah, ween, I don't know.

Speaker 4 (01:15:45):
But my first time to touch one, yeah, nineteen, I think, Wow,
what was yours?

Speaker 3 (01:15:57):
Fifteen?

Speaker 2 (01:15:57):
Oh?

Speaker 4 (01:15:58):
My?

Speaker 3 (01:15:58):
Whoa, that's right.

Speaker 2 (01:16:01):
I wouldn't have even known what to do. I was like, so, well, do.

Speaker 3 (01:16:05):
You want to know what's interesting?

Speaker 1 (01:16:07):
The first ween I ever saw and touched was uncircumcised. Oh,
so you were like, I didn't know that they didn't
that they didn't all look like that.

Speaker 4 (01:16:19):
So what happened when you saw your second one?

Speaker 3 (01:16:22):
Who was my second one?

Speaker 2 (01:16:24):
Should we call him? Ask if he remembers it.

Speaker 4 (01:16:32):
I can only imagine Tanya as like a fifteen year old,
like so spastic, just like she had just watched Now
and then saw the song Queen, and she's just like,
let's go.

Speaker 10 (01:16:45):
Slapping it like a heavy bag or something.

Speaker 1 (01:16:52):
It's actually so scary that like that at that age,
like now that I'm in my thirties, the fact that
I was doing that to some man's wien at that age.

Speaker 4 (01:17:07):
I mean a man, but like a teenager, right.

Speaker 1 (01:17:09):
Actually he was a senior and I was a sophomore,
so he was older. But yeah, it's kind of crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:17:15):
No, I wish, I wish I knew what I did then,
do you know what I mean? Like, I don't even
I would love to.

Speaker 2 (01:17:28):
Know, like what you said verbally.

Speaker 4 (01:17:31):
Me too?

Speaker 3 (01:17:31):
Me do.

Speaker 6 (01:17:34):
I still?

Speaker 1 (01:17:35):
I think I'm still friends with him on Facebook. I
know he's married and he has a child. It's probably
inappropriate for me to go down that path with him.

Speaker 4 (01:17:42):
But yeah, I was joking about reaching out to him
or calling him.

Speaker 3 (01:17:46):
So I would just like to know, you know, he.

Speaker 2 (01:17:51):
Probably doesn't remember as much as you don't remember.

Speaker 4 (01:17:53):
That's true, Well not really, that conversation really took an
unexpected turn. It's just, you know, it's just funny because
like you know, and I think this happens in life,
Like as you get older, you look back on things
and you're just like, oh wow, cringe, cringe, But like

(01:18:15):
it's part of growing you know, It's just all part
of growing up, and everyone has their different times and
experiences and it's fun to like I'll say.

Speaker 6 (01:18:23):
As a dad, this pandemic couldn't have come at a
better time.

Speaker 3 (01:18:28):
Yeah. True, it's like forcing yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 7 (01:18:31):
Can I share one really quick traumatic memory. When I
was a freshman in high school, I had a girlfriend
for many months and I just knew we had made
out and stuff like that.

Speaker 10 (01:18:43):
I knew that touching genitals was the next step.

Speaker 7 (01:18:46):
And we were in a hot tub and I said
to her, well, I'm going downstairs, and I reached down
into her. I didn't know what I was going to do,
and she pulled my hand away and broke up with
me on the spot, as she should have.

Speaker 10 (01:19:02):
And I never spoke to her again.

Speaker 2 (01:19:03):
I'm going downstairs.

Speaker 7 (01:19:05):
I'm going yeah, because I think I saw it in
like American Pie or something like that.

Speaker 10 (01:19:10):
He was supposed to make an announcement like that.

Speaker 9 (01:19:12):
She grabbed.

Speaker 7 (01:19:15):
Yeah, so so Becky Campbell of Afdause, California.

Speaker 10 (01:19:18):
I'm sorry, if you're listening.

Speaker 2 (01:19:20):
That's epic.

Speaker 4 (01:19:21):
That's called some modern moment energy. She said, No, You're
not going down.

Speaker 10 (01:19:26):
No, I'm going home.

Speaker 2 (01:19:27):
I'm going home. Closed, I'm going downstairs. Is so funny,
Like what was I gonna do?

Speaker 3 (01:19:38):
Said weird things like that. I was probably making out
with this guy, and I.

Speaker 1 (01:19:41):
Was like, I'm gonna go downstairs, Like I could see
myself doing that.

Speaker 4 (01:19:45):
Oh my god, I would give anything to hear just
like a recording of Tawny too.

Speaker 1 (01:19:50):
I'm like I was probably so like this is the
same guy that we were like skinny dipping in his
backyard and we were just like playing around back there,
and his neighbors called the cops, and the cops I
came to the backyard and I was like fully nude
in the in his like pool, with like these cops
telling us to like be quiet.

Speaker 3 (01:20:11):
High school, I'm.

Speaker 4 (01:20:12):
Like Tanya was so different than well, not really actually.

Speaker 3 (01:20:18):
Yeah, and he did last weekend.

Speaker 1 (01:20:22):
Not really but pre Pandy, Oh, pre Pandy. Yeah, I've
been in a pool in a minute.

Speaker 4 (01:20:32):
Wow, what an exciting episode we had today.

Speaker 2 (01:20:37):
We give you everything.

Speaker 4 (01:20:38):
We give you know, we give you great conversation, we
give you great advice, we give you just awkward sexual stories. Yeah,
it's you really get it all here on scrubbing In.

Speaker 1 (01:20:50):
Yeah, I'm really excited to explore my period. So thank
you guys for sending me this woman.

Speaker 3 (01:20:54):
I cannot wait.

Speaker 4 (01:20:55):
And we give you period things from Tanya.

Speaker 3 (01:20:58):
If we can empower the period, that is a That
is no.

Speaker 4 (01:21:01):
We don't want to empower the period. The period's already empowered.

Speaker 3 (01:21:05):
We want to empower our period situations.

Speaker 2 (01:21:08):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 7 (01:21:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:21:10):
All right.

Speaker 2 (01:21:10):
Well, on that note, we will be back.

Speaker 4 (01:21:14):
I keep thinking about going down stairs.

Speaker 2 (01:21:18):
We will be back next week with.

Speaker 4 (01:21:20):
Another riveting episode of scrubbing In.

Speaker 2 (01:21:23):
We love you all. I hope you have a great week.

Speaker 3 (01:21:26):
Bye bye,

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