January 10, 2023 • 48 mins
Becca is back from visiting her family and apparently… Tanya has a LOT to catch her up on.
We cover Harry and Meghan, crying in movies, and we hear the outcome of Tanya’s definitive apple taste test!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I
Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We
are scrubbing in because is it a wet one today?
It is, well, not in here, but out there out there. Yeah,
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it's um it's raining in l A. Which we've had
a lot of a lot of I missed it. I
went to Florida to see my family, but I always
leave when it's like, this is my ideal weather. Well,
don't you worry because it is sticking around all weeks. Yeah,
this is now a weather podcast so much. Let us
know where you are. Russure system coming through. That's gonna
reak havoc on the barometric pressure. What he said, Well,
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I don't know if that's a bad thing, But I,
for one love this weather. It's just a nice break.
I love the sun like I live in l A
for a reason. I paid to live in l A
for a reason. But I do love these like burst
of cozy. Cozy. Cozy is nice when you're not when
you don't have things to do. I agree, I agree.
And when you have things to do, it becomes a
little problematic in Los Angeles because people don't know how
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to drive. Rocks are in the roads, things are bursting
in the streets. Yeah, like we it's not made for this,
but we are. We are made We're made for anything.
We are made for anything. Yeah, what's up? What's up?
And I also have like the craziest um cramps going
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on right now, But it's all good because I just
took two more and so we're here. So motorin does
it for you? Oh yeah, I thought that you had
conquered your cramps by So there's only so much you
can do with um at a time, you know what
I mean. Like I have I'm on my Hashimoto's pursuit,
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focusing focusing on that food and like what I need
to be eating and consuming for that. It's just it's
too much energy to do it all simultaneously whilst cycle sinking. I,
for one, I am happy to hear you say that
I'm still cycle sinking in the sense that, like I'm
aware of my phases of the cycle, and I'm like
eating like more red meat when I'm on my period
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and like relaxing more on my period. But like that's
pretty much the extent of it. But we still need
a little assistance from the mo Trin the mo Trint
Mo Trin is my best friend. I luckily got my
period while I was in Florida, which was so exciting.
You know, we're not We're about a week off. A
couple of days and I literally was dying. I never
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really had bad cram sertay. I have one day of cramps.
I think I got like a little bit of food
poisoning or something, or a stomach bug. It was just
it was. I had a rough few days in Florida,
but it was really great. I surprised my parents and
UM got to meet my niece, my brother's baby for
the first time, and it was really great. I'm glad.
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I glad I went to the day before. So how
less hectic was that than traveling during the holidays. I
feel like that might be your new move, Like maybe
you're like, hey, family, let's celebrate Christmas like after the
New Year. I actually was talking to my mom about
this because if if moving forward, every holiday season looks
like it did in the airport this year, I don't
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know if I want to tackle that, Like I don't
know if I want to go through the process of
booking a flight, getting canceled, panicking it's it just might
be nicer to like do it after the fact because
the airports were chilling, chilling villain. I part also what
a luxury I parked. I drove my car to the
airport and parked it there, so then I got homeless night.
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I just got in my car and it was so nice.
But it was about the same as I would have
paid to get totally totally. Well, the rest of us
like parking ramps near by, you know, well even that's
a luxury though. You just get on a shuttle right right.
I'm just saying it's world's cheaper than an uber or
parking at the airport. Really, is it like thirty bucks
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a day? It was like ten dollars a day. Yeah,
you can find pretty good deals, but that's what most
people do. Oh look at me, Like I literally uber
Haley takes me and she has the like availability if
she's like even she I got there at five thirty
or something the other morning and she was like I
can take you. Im like, don't worry about it, it's fine. Also,
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my ubers used to be like fifteen bucks when we
were living at No No. Now that umbers from the valley,
or like two bucks it's like, so I've never experienced
anything like that, right, Plus we have four kids and
massive suitcases because we're gone for two weeks, so it's
uber is not really feasible. Yeah, you'll have to get
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x X and I didn't get tubers and I also
packed a carry on. Can you believe that I got
to the airport well on time? Yes? Did I made
my flight? Yes? Was there some rushing happening, yes, especially
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after I missed my turn to go into my parking
garage and I had to go all the way back around.
That was. That was, But I haven't done that in
a long time. Like, I've actually been pretty consistent because
here's my thing. If I'm traveling with someone who was
like airport anxiety, I will meet them in the middle
like we I'm like, I'm not getting there two and
a half hours before, but I'll get there an hour
and a half before. That makes you comfortable. So I've
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been trying to be better about that. But when it's myself,
I'm reckless. That gives me anxiety that you missed your
entrance to the parking if you if you don't know
L A X, there's seven different terminals and then there's
an oval you drive through to hit each terminal. So
if you miss your terminal and there's so many cars
in there, you are stuck going all the way around
again with a million other cars. That sounds awful. I
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certainly was. I certainly was, and I was I was
just going. You know what, This is what I did.
I didn't tell the only person who knew I was going.
I don't even know if I officially told you I
was going. Yeah, I knew you were going, okay, because
I saw the day before. Yeah, but I was. I
hadn't even booked my flight at that point. Yeah, but
I knew I had gotta vibe, gotta get Tanya and
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Haley were like the only people who knew. So in
my mind, I was like, the worst case if I
miss it, I'm just gonna go back home and go
to sleep. Oh my god, go back home and go
to sleep, she says, because no one has expectations of
me coming. Did you want to gas recently? Yes, that's
that's another thing that I can't even fathom too. That
was unfortunately cannot live. I could never live my life
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like that. Neither of these the airport or the gas
situation like your car will count down. How does it
said zero? When I ran out it said zero? For
a while it was a hard zero. People would pay
more attention to it. Said it's not a hard zero.
People think and that's on us, the people who this
is making me anxious for my flight. I haven't flown
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in a minute. I'm flying at the end of No,
I'm sorry, I'm flying at the beginning of February. I'm
already like stress. Yeah, I would get there some time. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I'm not. I don't like risk it. I don't like
roll the dice. I'd give myself plenty of time. Do
you have t s a pre check? Yes, yeah, I don't.
I don't know why I don't have that. I should,
I don't. I know, Tanya, I know these are just
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eighty dollars for three years, but you do have to
go get like your fingerprints and stuff like that. Yeah,
they have one right on riverside here in Burbank. Well,
I'm just saying, there's it's not quite as easy as
you're making out to be because we've been meaning to
get it for our kids and we haven't gone around right.
I mean, it is a step. It's a step it's
a step, and I typically don't like avoid step. You
just like Johns like chaos, chaos and chaos like long lines,
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and just like I love having to untie my shoes,
and yeah, I honestly do too. That's why I ch
I mean, they want to do a strip stearch on
me every time I welcome them. I hate taking off
my shoes at the airport, and like, I just don't
like it. Nothing makes me feel more stressed than when
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I see someone barefoot. Yeah, it's very like even if
I was barefoot, which I remember one of my worst
angles because I was going on a tropical vacation, I
brought socks to put on during the security line. I
did a full sock put on so I didn't have
to go. That's the real benefit. We were leaving from
Milwaukee on New Year's Day and there was no line
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for non pre check, and there was a little bit
of a line for pre check. Yeah, so my wefe
was like, there's no line, why would you do the regulars?
If you want to take off your shoes, go ahead,
The cares are probably cleaner over there. Well, you didn't
miss Do you know how many I've done poles on
my Instagram, or you would be shocked by how many
people don't wash their feet too. I don't really wash
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my feet. That's so upsetting, but pedicures every two weeks.
Down there, it's fine. And the water, the water, the
clean didn't know to my I don't wash a lot
of my body. Who are you? I shower often hot
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water does the trick. You don't need soap all over
your body. I think I'm closer to Dean than anybody here. Yeah,
it doesn't don't really soap themselves either. They just top
in the shower, let the water do its thing, and
I do. I could see you getting to a point
where you're using like apple cider vinegar stuff on your
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hair to like not have chemicals or somebody. Yeah, it's like,
I'm really walking a fine line right now because I can't.
I'm not disrupting my hair or my like facial products,
but I'm like doing all clean body lotions and like
body stuff. But I'm like, I don't want to mess
with my face and my hair. Yet I have to
say I applaud people who can do this because I'm
sure it is so much better for you. I just
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don't know that I'll ever be there or Mela Cunas
has a fun rhyme that sheet for what she washes,
and that's believe me, if you need to go ahead
at pits and tits and soles and holes, that's all
she washes, yes, says I washed my armpits and cross
daily and nothing else ever. Yeah but what but listen, souls,
that's the bottom of the foot. Those are feet, so
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that that's important. Everybody armpits and then yeah, and they
were doing a nice little face wash. Yeah. But you know,
I was going to fill you in on what you
missed while you were home, and it's about thirty headlines
about Prince Harry. I gotta say I could not care less. No,
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I'm dead serious, Like when I see it, kind of
like me too. They have turned me from team them
to team not Them. I'm I'm so indifferent that it
doesn't even matter, Like my opinion is so indifferent that
it shouldn't even exist. I was like, I've never seen
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more headlines. I couldn't even keep them straight. What is it?
I haven't even like and Marco and I just keep going,
I don't even it's so wild. And you know, as
a fellow author, I applaud Prince Harry for the media
tour he's going on for this book, because I too
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will be going on a yes, very smaller media tour
than Prince Harry UM. And honestly, I need to slide
into his d M s and gets some of his
contacts because getting into BuzzFeed and Glamour is treacherous, treacherous
and drafting up and send him and can you get
me into BuzzFeed or Glamour magazine? Thank you? And also
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can you talk to the New York Times bestsellersome to
our podcast? They just seemed desperate to keep their names
out there. It's like you can picture people, you know,
putting the caps on the camera saying, all right, Harry,
we're good, thank you very much. And then he goes,
have I mentioned my penis? And it's okay, go ahead,
talk about your penis. It's so weird. Yes, lots of
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different things about the penis. And it's so interesting to
me because I'm like, is you just trying to sell
books or just stay in the limelight. Ah, I don't
know what it is. I'm hoping it's sell books, because
I get it, like you want to sell books, but like,
but I don't know. Here's my thing though, there always
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going to be in the media, Like there's never not
gonna be people wanting to like their best bet would
be too be private because people want to know, like
they're crazy about like the royals and this whole storyline.
So it's like part of me is like, is this
their team that's doing this, like what's going on? Because
they're always going to have a like people are always
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gonna want to know more about them. But I was
just thinking about this the other day. When there's too
much of someone or anything, people internal them like they're
they're want to know everything. But then when they get
too much, like this is kind of how what TikTok's done.
I feel like people kind of are like I'm tired
of seeing them. I'm tired of hearing about them, which
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I think is where we're at with them. It happened
to me. I'm a turner like you personally, Yeah, you
have just heard too much of me? Is it the
worst thing? Because I feel like that happened to Kardashians
many years ago and they have done just fine for themselves.
But interesting point mark the Kardashians have I don't know
if it's Chris General. I don't know how they've been
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able to do it, but there's always been that. But
part of General, that's why I need a call by
my book stuff. Yeah, yeah, you should that and reach out.
I gotta get to She could definitely get me into BuzzFeed,
Glamor in New York Times. One call, one text on text, um,
but you see it all the people. Part of me
wonders if you remember how Taylor Swift said she was
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going to release like we thought that she was going
to release all her videos or something for this album. Yeah,
I thought they were coming kind of like all like recently,
more recent than they have come. And part of me
wonders if there was so much, we got so much
Taylor Swift, like you couldn't escape it for a second,
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which I didn't mind, but like I wonder if her
team was like, let's step back for a second and
get people wanting more again because her team they're smart.
They're smart. That's what I need to call it. We
need a direct Yeah, But like I remember seeing this
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whole theory about how Harry styles like it was like
him on tour for however long then it was that
don't worry darling stuff, and it was like, are we
going to get to a point where it's too much?
Too much and people are going to turn on him?
Because makes a point because the Kardashians, it didn't happen
to them, but maybe it did. Maybe the I think
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it did happen to them, but they's I don't think
it's a death sentence. It's not. But I'm saying like,
I think you almost go Okay, let's take a step
back and not have a headline about us every other
article and get people being like, wait, I haven't seen
much about the Kardashians lately. Where are they? But the
thing with them is they have so many people that
they can kind of like rotate who interesting. I wonder
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if there's somebody back there behind the scenes that's like no,
not just in the Kardashian camp, but like in the
Hollywood world, being like watching all this Harry Meg and
stuff go down, being like this is not a good idea.
It's you. You're the person. I don't know if I'm
the person really, but yeah, I just think it's really
sending me through a feeling of emotions. As a fellow author.
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I want to be there for Prince Harry, you know,
like let him lean on me, say, I got you,
author to author, fellow member. Yeah, but I don't got him. Yeah,
you don't got him. I don't got him. But part
of me I haven't even watch the docuseries because I've
seen so many other things and like, you should watch it. Yeah,
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it's interesting. I would, just because you get to can
read them, you can really like read them through it.
What do you read them? What do you read about them?
I got weird vibes, ma'am, I don't know. I got
some weird vibes. Vibes don't lie. Yeah, as a couple
or as individuals. As individuals and as a couple, you
don't want to share any of those vibes. Well, like
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a vibe. It's like a vibe hard towards exactly the
vibes I felt. But do you feel like they're partners?
I do feel like they're part They're definitely partners. Okay, yeah,
so they as a couple you feel like they're partners.
They're definitely partners. Not like Chelsea Handler and they were not.
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Yeah long ago discovered correct. So that's all that's happened.
While it's gone. That's really all that's happened. I mean that,
And there was one other thing. Was it about lamar
Odin being afraid to shoot his shot with Chloe Kardashian Again,
First of all, it's odum. What did I say, lamar Odin,
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which I'm sorry lamar odom Um. No, it was not
about lamar odom No, Okay, justin Bieber's fashion. Trying to
think of the other step Haley Bieber's Nepos Nepo baby
T shirt. Okay, First of all, I love Haley Bieber
and I love that she wore that T shirt. But also,
were you talking about his fashion and compared to hers?
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Did you see what his blanket that he wore out
or like a crochet blanket? And I'm so excited that
that is like an actual trend. Could you not see
me romping around town with a blanket around me like
a cape? Yeah? I don't do that for you. You
don't know, I would love that. No, I think you're
a little more polished than you give yourself credit for.
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And we looking at the same girl. Yeah, but you're
always matching and stuff. You're never like in a black
sweatsuit by the way, with a hand parent Bundy cohesive.
I do have my hands Bundy, your hands in your pants?
It was in my pants over here? Yeah, because keeping warm. No,
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because like sometimes when I cradle my cramps, they like
feel better when I hands on them. Sometimes Robbie puts
his hands on them. Okay, this is not that kind
of podcast. Tanya makes him feel better. Well, I saw
this thing talking about how Haley is always dressed like
to the nines. She always looks perfect every outfit I
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see her, and I'm like, how can I recreate that?
And then it'll be like a paparazzi shot and he's
behind her with like pimple patches on, and like literally
it almost looks like he's trying to the opposite. Yeah,
And people were like, I just can't imagine being with
someone who just didn't care like that. And part of
me is like, sure, but we don't dress for the
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like I dressed for myself, like I dressed in like
how I feel good, and que I'm not like, oh not.
Every thought is like, what's Haley gonna think of this?
And she mostly likes what I wear. But I just
thought it was an interesting conversation of like it doesn't
who are you I guess it's more of like a
reflective who are you dressing for? Who are you dressing for?
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What are you dressing for? Well? I like to be cohesive,
so if yeah, yeah, so sometimes that's the way I
like to go. So are you dressing for cohesion only? Sometimes? Yes? Correct.
Yesterday we went to a birthday party and he was
like a large like coat and a white T shirt
and jeans, and I wore a white T shirt and
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jeans and a different color overcoat. Is so cute though,
and he likes that kind of is she doesn't when
I When I get dressed first, he's like, oh, you're
wearing that, Okay, I'll wear you know, I know her,
I know who could have guess you'd find someone so
perfectly matched, dude, of thunk it. But you know what's
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not matched is our apple? Uh? We did like the
Grand Test tasting, yeah, because we always argue about it,
and so we got what do you argue about? He says,
honey crisp for the best apples in the and I say,
fuji are the best apples in the world. Then recently
his mom brought over an Envy apple and we were like,
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is this the best apple? In the whole world. And
so we've been wanting to do this like apple taste test.
So we did it this weekend and we like, cut
up five different apples. No, so Robbie did it. He
cut them, skin them, cut them up, and put them
in clear cups and he put the he put the
whatever the tag on apple is on the bottom of
the cup. So then me and the kids did it
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and we wrote down our notes. We ranked him in
order one to five or whatever, and then I blindfolded
him and mixed the order and he did hit yeah,
and hold on, I think we need this. These are
the most anti climactic. Honey Crisp is out, none of
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us like Tony Crisp whatsoever. Cosmic apples are in, and
envy apples are in. I've never heard of cosmic apple.
I think they're new, making new apple, I think. I guess.
So I don't know. I guess they're new. And then
we did a whole separate tastes because we didn't do
Pink Lady in there, and people were really up in
arms messaging me the pink Ladies the best. So we
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did another taste with pink Lady in there, and results
were still the same. Interesting, Wow, so what the cosmic
and I'll have to try that. I'm a Granny Smith guy.
I love Granny Smith in my lunch box right now. Yes,
they're so sour, They're exactly how it should be there perfect.
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I love a Granny Smith apple. Never have bought a
Granny Smith apple. I'm not a huge apple eater, so
I don't know that I would. I mean, but like
apples specifically because I chipped my tooth when I was
a sophomore in high school and after that he was like,
don't bite into apples, into an apple, and so after
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that I just kind of like wrote them off my list.
But so doesn't the skin wouldn't the skin taste, like
the taste of what the skin was be important of
like the taste test, you know. I'm glad you brought
that up a lot of people. A lot of people
were also thrown off by the skinning of the apples.
But I have had a permanent retainer in my mouth
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for many, many years, so I cannot eat the skins
of apples. And again I met my match because I
don't think Robbie's eating a skin of apple since he
was in high school either. But wait, no, I feel
like I can picture you. Over the years, you always
had to cut it up. You would never bite into
an apple, I remember that. But you wouldn't skin them
every time. Yeah, until I got my misiline, which was recent.
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I don't like it all right, because I used to
make fun of you because you would you would find
it impossible to eat your apple because you forgot your knife.
And I would say, you know, humans have discovered another
way of eating apples that might intrigue you. But no, no,
didn't she bring like a full blown, big butcher, giant
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figger than my head. It was scary, because are you red?
I would have walked with its every day to cut
my apple. Washing come with excalibur. I was like, they
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let you in the building with dog like that feels
like a hazard. Maybe I have some weird things, man,
you know you do have some quirks. Yeah, have some
weird things. Yeah. I got smarter and just cut my
apples before I left my house, not to cut them
at the office. Yeah, you got smarter, smart, working, working, working, smarter,
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not harder. I think we should take a break. All right,
(24:38):
we are back, Tanya. What else did you do all going? Well?
You missed Avatar. We did a fun family I missed.
They all went, yeah you didn't go I did? I
saw it? Yeah, oh I saw it weeks ago, like
the weekend. It came out like two weeks ago. No,
like before Christmas. It came up a for Christmas. What Yeah, yeah,
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I think that time stands still for me, like that
two week period around the Christmas time. Tricky times. So
this is old news to you. Did you cry like
a baby? I cried and I had to like literally
close my eyes at some point. I got so upset. Oh,
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but you were not tired close because you were tired. No, no, no,
I mean I wasn't like a recliner seat, so I
could have was very It was very peaceful to me,
like the water. It was so visually beautiful that I
was like very relaxed. But some of the scenes were
very intent. I had to I realized I can't handle
anything that involves like I guess spoiler alert if you
(25:45):
haven't seen it yet, like animal animal harm. You know
what's interesting even but the whole movie is c G
I or computer somehow, so obviously no real animals like
the storyline. I had the same feeling, so I like again,
I know I have some weird things, so forgive me.
I really um one of the animals without spoiling anything,
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reminded me of my dog's sunny and like I just
like how protective she was, and like I got really
emotional about this animal throughout the whole movie. Like I
was crying when it was hurt and like I was like,
I'm I okay. Well now that in hindsight, I was
pre period, so I think I was just like extra emotional.
(26:31):
But I was crying in many scenes of that movie. Yeah,
that's how I felt too, I know what you're talking.
Not many people's eyes were wet in my theater, so
I was like, am I okay? Did they have their
glasses on them when we were leaving? No, I looked like,
what's the heart cried during a movie like where you're
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just like you know that kind of gasping and weeping.
Mine in a theater was Marley and me. That's what
I was gonna say, I've seen it. Don't want to
know you should not definitely not now that you have
a dog, because like I didn't even have a dog
at the time, and I went by myself because my sister,
my brother in law wanted to see another movie that
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I didn't want to see, So I went and saw
Merlin mean by myself and I came out and I
was like, uncontrollable. It is devastating. God. Mine was because
I was trying so desperately to hold it in for
the whole time, and then finally it was just that
I let that big gasp. It was very embarrassing, but
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real men, crime Mark, I get that cancer. I'm a
c along, but I was trying not to for whatever reason.
Was rough. Yeah, And then on a plane, what was
the worst you've cried in a theater? I mean, I
can't think of one. From sadness, like I cried from
happiness a lot, like like I wept wept pretty enthusiastically
(27:53):
during avengesting game, like from joy and from like seeing
all my friends and stuff on the screen. But that's
not a joke. I was like weeping in the well
the studious theater. But I don't know. I cried during
the Notebook in that theater. I cried during that. Um.
There's this movie that the late Anton Yalkin did called
(28:13):
Like Crazy. It's about like that movie made me weep
a lot. That was a very emotional movie. No one
talked about that enough. No, they didn't even heard of that.
I've never heard of long distance relation. If you're in one,
you like the movie, it might make you, might make
your heart hurt a little bit, but it is beautiful,
beautiful storytelling. All I can think about now when I'm
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in the theaters is when I see the Nicole Kidman
thing I like think of the I think Tea doing
the Nicole kid Somehow, hot breake feels good in a
place like this. I cannot control my laughter every time
I see it now. And people applaud for that, now,
(28:57):
don't they when man, Yes, we saw again Opening Night,
which is fantastic, by the way, and people were going
nuts for the Nicole Kidney Nicola kid me A commercial.
It's such a joy every Yeah, it really is, really
everyone's never time I see it. Sure, Yeah, Sometimes heartbreak
feels good in a place like this. Why she said
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the first time, I'm just gonna Oh the first time
was southern too, And I was like, maybe I missed something.
Sometimes heartbreak feels good in a place like this. No,
that wasn't anything. The first time I was better. I
got it. The first time you know necessarily her Australian accent.
The most in um would come to AMC theatis to laugh,
to cry so funny. Oh and then we watched we
(29:45):
binged Cook It All Costs. It's just like that sounds
like Australian said that. Yeah, we just binged a Cook
It All Costs. It's such a great show. And I'm
finding that I'm loving I love cooking those and I'm
not a cook. What's there? Okay, I'm glad you asked.
(30:06):
It's these three contestants in their home cooks. So they're
like just like you and I like cooking in the kitchen,
you know, but they're good, like they have skills, and
so they have in their bank. And there's three surprise boxes, right.
One of them is a save box, one of them
is a spend box, and one of them is a surprise.
So the first round, they all make bids and how
how much they're willing to spend on like whatever. The
(30:28):
lowest bid gets the save box, like they saving the money.
The highest bidder gets the spend box, and then one
in the middle gets the surprise, and the save box
will have like mashed potatoes in a in a brown
bag and like sardines and like really like the bottom
of the barrel like stuff. And then the spin box
will have like ah he tune on, like really just
(30:50):
like high end stuff. So you'd think, like, then the
second round comes and people will want to spend, you know,
get the spin box, and then then you can auction
off if they bring items down the line that you
can let. It sounds so weird, I'm telling you. It
is like because there's an auction so that they'll be
like Cilantro will be coming down the line and then
people like I need Cilantro, so they're like outbidding each
other to like get the Cilantro for their dish or whatever.
(31:13):
But it's about creativity. So like somebody who made I
got the same box. She made um spaghetti out of
peta chips. She cut up and made spaghetti, and then
she took they had fish and chips and she bawled
them up and made like um spaghetti and meatballs. And
so she won because it was like a creative out
of the box. And then whoever ends up winning wins
all the money left in their bank account. It's amazing
(31:35):
how many different versions of cooking shows they've been able
to come up with it. I mean crime scene, kitchen
like re creating, is it cake? Like? I will watch
anything they bring to me in form of cooking, like
the most of it. Some guy named Jordan. He's a
chef and he's actually really good. Like I watched this
other show about like recreating snacks and the hosts really
bothered me in that one. But this guy is really good.
(31:57):
I liked him. I love a cooking competition. Yeah, and
each episode is like solitary, like you can watch it.
You don't have to watch the one before to the
all new chefs. It's a new judge, so it's like
all you can just like kind of pop in, pop out.
Speaking of watching it in whatever order, did anyone start
or watch Kaleidoscope? Yes, I started. I started it. When
(32:20):
I started with I started with Orange and I did
not like it. Okay, we started with Yellow and I
had the same thing. I was like, this show sucks.
I don't want to watch it. And then we show
on Netflix that doesn't have episodes. You can watch it
in any order you want. They have an order, but
you can start any However, you have to do what
White goes last. Other than that, you can watch any
(32:40):
order you want and it will make sense. I didn't
know that, why I'm glad I didn't start with definitely
could be the only one you have to watch last.
But and so apparently Netflix like gives everybody a different order,
so you're just supposed to kind of watch it in
whatever order you get. But we too. We watched Yellow first,
and I was like, I don't like this, I don't
want to watch anymore. Was like, let's give it one more.
(33:00):
So watched Green next, and Green was actually really good.
And I feel like if I had watched Green first,
I maybe would have wanted to watch more, but I
was so annoyed already that I and then we watched
one more. So I watched Yellow, Green, and Blue. So
will you continue? I could care less to continue, but
I think I'm going to continue because I want to
see white. Like now, I'm just like I want to
(33:21):
be You're ready to get to the end. I want
to finish, Like I'm not excited about it, but I
feel like I need to finish it. See, this is
the difference. This is why you're This is why you
were able to get through season five of Love Island,
because you can just you're like ready I persevere, persevere.
That was my word for two and I really feel
I embodied it was that your work. I can confirm
(33:43):
that was there another word. I've had many words, So
what you want that all in? All in? Okay? That's uh.
(34:06):
I think it was spawned from the trigger event we
broke up and then was all in. Yeah. I was like,
I want somebody that's all in about what's about you
and more about just the energy of bringing in. Yeah,
anybody's coming to my life, they're gonna be all in.
(34:29):
It's nice. Nice. Um, yeah, you persevere. I'm not like that,
Like if I don't like a book, if I don't
like a movie, if I don't like a show, I'm
very checked out and I'm just kind of like, I
don't need to spend my time doing this. If it's
not gonna be something I enjoy. I've already put so
much time into it. No, I put one episode in
the annoying when people say to you, like, you gotta
(34:50):
watch the show, so then you watch it and then
you're like, it's not that great that you just got
to get through the first season. That's awesome after that,
I for me, yeah, I agree, I agree. Everyone Wishi.
It's creek is like once you get past the first season.
Now it's not the first season, it's like the first
few episodes. It's like the first half of the first season.
(35:11):
Did you end up liking it? Yeah, we never finished it.
Oh my god, I give to watch that show with
virgin eyes again. Yeah, it would be happy happily give
mine to you. I've considered getting hypnotized to forget Eternal Sunshine.
(35:32):
That's a good movie. Okay, let's take a break. When
we're going to come back and do emails, we have
a couple of Hey, I'm Lance Bass, host of the
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(35:53):
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(36:59):
couple of emails, the challenging emails before we get to those.
By the way, find East East Awards. I think, thank
you episode with that, but congratulation, thank you Easton with
the East Awards. From what I could tell, you know,
consistent viewers. Is that good, bad, best ever, worst ever
(37:21):
and best ever by my favorite though, because you can
play videos on the East on Instagram live now, so
we saw when you when I first started doing it,
you couldn't do that. So when I had guest presenters,
I'd have to have them join live and it would
bring their followers. And I think Tanya did it once
and I got like two thousand people watching and they
were like, who is this? What is happening? Who's this guy?
(37:43):
Do people still do that now? The joint Instagram's yeah,
I think try to schedule. So I stopped doing it,
but it was a great show, thanks to everyone who
watched it. Tanya presented Top Potato and she did such
a good job. She had an envelope what one I forget?
What one for Top Potato? Was it the Russet the
red Potato. It was so excited because I got like
(38:05):
the text of like kind of what to do, and
so I like put the winner in it. I had
a red because it was the red potatoes. I was like,
I have a red envelope and like a red card,
so like wrote it in on the car and I
had Robbie like handed to me and I was like
and I had. I did a couple of takes and
he was like, no, no, this time you should like
be like oh wow, you know, and was like I
can make some background. I was like really, it was
(38:32):
so great. I was surprised orange one fruit to the year. Man,
I'm having an orange year. And also why are you
surprised about that? Like vitamin sees that it's prime high. Yes,
that was just thinking would be something a little bit
more less common. You know, apples and orange the most
common fruits. Oh, you thought it was going to be
(38:52):
more of like unexpected Yeah fruit, yes, like a star
fruit stru be a great track fruit jack fruit right,
orange just takes it away. I got really into orange
advertisements this year to like look at the old orange
crates from like the forties. I just stare at those things.
So that pushed him over the top. Give him the win. Yeah,
(39:12):
eating more oranges lately than usual to have a tree
and they bring us bags of the extra oranges. They're
delicious and they're gonna have a great year as the
winner for the Fruit of the Year. But if you
missed it, it's on my Instagram where it we'll live
at The fruit two was no wait, it won Fruit
(39:33):
of the Year. Yes, yes, for twenty two. Yes, so
oranges had a big year, had a big year, but
it shall it's the champion until okay, god o years. Yeah,
you know and what other a word show says that
exactly that's what you get when you come to the
(39:55):
I showed I showed it to my wife and you
were a mid song, you were singing something and she said,
why does he do this? As I just even know
it for a long time because man I thought I
married weird. So there you go, all right, this is
from anonymous, and she says, I've actually I don't know
if it's a she, So they say, I've been with
my partner for six years. She's always been a little
(40:16):
more Type A than me and has O c D
and anxiety, but now it's gotten to the point where
it really affects her home life. We're not sure if
it's age she's forty eight, or having COVID or something else,
but she's got to the point We're always late, which
gives me anxiety. I'm ready in an hour, she digs
two to three. A lot of times she's canceled plans
with my family and or friends, leaving me to go
alone and then having to explain each time why she's
(40:37):
not coming, including my own birthday dinners. Now people just
expect me to come alone. She doesn't want to plan anything.
She'll say, we never do anything or plan anything, but
if there's a concert, a restaurant, a place I want
to go, even mentioning it puts her in a foul
mood because the thought of doing it stresses her out.
I want her to be a part of things, but
she doesn't like me going without her either, so now
(40:58):
we both miss out. She tellsn't one of my best
friends after six years. She's big on the gym and
working up for releasing stress, but she won't go on
meds because of the side effects. How much can you
do for a partner before it's unfair? What is the
next step? I feel like I'm always the gardener in
our relationship, tending to her anxieties, But isn't that what
you do for a partner? Help? Please? That's a tough one. Yeah,
(41:21):
that's really hard. I feel like you need a professional
and not I was gonna say, yeah, we're not gonna
be able to help, But I do think that uh
taking this step and like talking to a couple of
therapists and navigating how to be there for each other,
because obviously, when you have when your partner is going
through something, you need to be able to show up
(41:41):
for them and not just like run when it gets hard.
But I also think that you're missing out on life
and important things due to her um anxiety and o
c D. So I don't think it's fair to you.
So I think you need to actually like make an
effort to do this together and like see a couple
of therapists, because I think this is actually going to
take some something like way more official than us. Yeah, honestly,
(42:06):
because I do, like I don't even know. I can't
even I can't even picture because it's like it's a
real it's a it's an illness, you know. So it's
like you have to to care for it in a
very careful and specific way, but it's also having a
very bad and negative impact on your life. I mean,
(42:28):
he'r not going to your birthday dinners. I think some
would see that as a deal breaker, that she's just
too stressed to make it to your birthday dinners. Yeah,
but if it's stressed coming from like deep rooted anxiety
and like all these things, like it's not like she's
just like, oh I'm too stress, Like it's like it's debilitating.
But how is that anonymous problem? I mean, I feel
like it's too much of an anonymous problems in six years.
(42:49):
I just think it's like I agree, she it sounds
like it's gotten worse though it hasn't been like this
the whole. Since it sounds like it's gotten worse people,
I think it's happened to a lot of people. So
I think it's like have in a conversation of like
going to see someone and also being there worked through
their own issues. For sure, they need to work through that,
but like not like being there for her, but also
(43:10):
not like making yourself miserable in that fact, and also
like ruining and hurting other relationships in your life. So um,
but I wish the best for all that's They don't
mentioned if if they're in therapy or if she's in therapy.
There's mentioned meds, which seems like a step too far.
If I feel like therapy could be very helpful for
both of you together and for each of you individually,
(43:32):
I don't know if that's realistic, but all right. Another
one from anonymous. I was actually on The Bachelor several
years ago. I had gone through a recent divorce and
my act in laws spread some horrible things about me
on social media when they found out I was going on.
It was really hard on me and my family. I
got sent home night one, so luckily it was on
a smaller scale than what other people go through. Making
the decision to do the show felt extremely right at
(43:53):
the time. Everything worked out perfectly for it to happen,
and I'm so thankful for the opportunity, but I had
to give and spend a lot in order to make
it work. Overall, it was a pretty negative experience for me,
so I still struggle wondering what the reason for it
all was. I'm about to turn I'm about to turn thirty.
I've been in a wonderful relationship for two years and
finally feel like I found my person. My boyfriend and
I just moved out of my home state for his
(44:15):
job a few months ago, when it's a place we
don't love, don't know anybody, and I've had a hard
time getting a new job, so I'm struggling to find
my path and my purpose. I still feel a sting
when I see girls from my season and people from
the show in general, living their best life and getting
these amazing opportunities, when I just feel stuck and constantly
I'm reminded of what I missed out on every time
I opened social media. I truly believe that everything happens
(44:36):
for a reason, but how do I move forward without
feeling anger and know that what's meant for me is coming,
even when I feel lost. Well, I think, first of all,
I think looking back and wonder like feeling everything happens
for a reason. It felt like you were It felt
like it was the opportunity to go. I mean, I
if you hadn't gone, you would have always been like, oh,
(44:58):
what if I had gone on the show? Like that's
just the fact, Like you would have always been like,
what if I didn't take the opportunity to go? So
I think you need to let go. They like, what
was the meaning of it all? What did it mean?
Because I think for you the alternative would have been
just as like daunting of like what if? What if?
And now you're in a wonderful relationship with someone that
has worked out. And I think, just like all social media,
(45:20):
comparison is the thief of joy. And I think sometimes
we compare ourselves to like everyone's exciting best moments, But
I think that's a lesson we all are like dealing
with on a daily basis, whether you're compair and despair. Yeah,
whether it's someone that's on the Bachelor or someone who's
just like getting job promotions over you, like in a
(45:40):
corporate world, Like there's always going to be that feeling
of comparison. I think finding contentment and like like worth
in yourself without comparing yourself to others is like very
important no matter what the situation looks like, you have
to like go that. I think anger is like truly
a poison. It can make you do things and say
(46:01):
things that you don't mean or that you don't want
to do, and like when you live in when you
come and live in a place of anger, it's really bad. Um,
So you have to really really really try and let
that go and just know that that wasn't your path,
that it was just wasn't your path. You can't you
can't live in that anger. It's so toxic. Yeah, And
it's not a bad thing to mute people in social media,
like I think I think a lot of people are like, oh,
(46:23):
I don't want to have to go that route. But
if it's causing anger and bitterness and resentment every time
you get on an app and you don't want to
fully delete social media, just mute the people who make
you feel that way round follow them if you don't
have like a close relationship with them. I think it's
just like we put so much stress and weight on
social media and who we follow, and it's like destroying
(46:44):
our confidence in our lives, and we don't even realize
how simple it is just to eliminate it, eliminate the
things that do that. So I agree. I think bitterness
and comparison is literal poison, and I we've watched it
happen more and more with people with social media. So
just be gentle with yourself and know that that good
(47:05):
things will come to you. You're in a happy, loving relationship,
and a lot of people that you're following on social
media are probably still searching for that. So just yeah,
that's a good point. And I find this really interesting
because of all the people you see that we're on
the bachlor and they seem to just be having the
time of their lives. It's interesting to see the other
side of that a little bit. And I wonder about
(47:26):
the in laws who were spreading awful things about her
on social media. I wonder if that's still hurting her,
because I feel like, wh you're applying for new jobs,
they're at least gonna look you up on the internet
and they're gonna see these bad things about you. I
hope not well, hope karma comes back to them if
they're spreading false rumors. Um, wish you the best either way.
It can be hard. Social media is hard. I think
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that's it for today, for today. I think that was
a great show, everybody. That's a great show. Apples. We
talked about a lot of apples and oranges and oranges.
Apples and oranges. Yeah, get much better than If you're
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(48:10):
To Prince Harry, we hit everything, We hit it all.
This hand is back in her pants for the period
cram hand is in the pants on the cradling the cramps.
I have a date tonight. Tonight, have a date with
my boyfriend. We're gonna go to a dinner place that
we enjoy in a while. I know, no, yeah, I
(48:35):
remember when we went to pot one time. Yeah. Alright, Well,
we love you guys, have a wonderful week. We'll be
back Thursday with the one and only Low Bosworth. Um,
So we'll see you then. By love,
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I
Heart Radio podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We
are scrubbing in because is it a wet one today?
It is, well, not in here, but out there out there. Yeah,
(00:23):
it's um it's raining in l A. Which we've had
a lot of a lot of I missed it. I
went to Florida to see my family, but I always
leave when it's like, this is my ideal weather. Well,
don't you worry because it is sticking around all weeks. Yeah,
this is now a weather podcast so much. Let us
know where you are. Russure system coming through. That's gonna
reak havoc on the barometric pressure. What he said, Well,
(00:47):
I don't know if that's a bad thing, But I,
for one love this weather. It's just a nice break.
I love the sun like I live in l A
for a reason. I paid to live in l A
for a reason. But I do love these like burst
of cozy. Cozy. Cozy is nice when you're not when
you don't have things to do. I agree, I agree.
And when you have things to do, it becomes a
little problematic in Los Angeles because people don't know how
(01:09):
to drive. Rocks are in the roads, things are bursting
in the streets. Yeah, like we it's not made for this,
but we are. We are made We're made for anything.
We are made for anything. Yeah, what's up? What's up?
And I also have like the craziest um cramps going
(01:29):
on right now, But it's all good because I just
took two more and so we're here. So motorin does
it for you? Oh yeah, I thought that you had
conquered your cramps by So there's only so much you
can do with um at a time, you know what
I mean. Like I have I'm on my Hashimoto's pursuit,
(01:53):
focusing focusing on that food and like what I need
to be eating and consuming for that. It's just it's
too much energy to do it all simultaneously whilst cycle sinking. I,
for one, I am happy to hear you say that
I'm still cycle sinking in the sense that, like I'm
aware of my phases of the cycle, and I'm like
eating like more red meat when I'm on my period
(02:14):
and like relaxing more on my period. But like that's
pretty much the extent of it. But we still need
a little assistance from the mo Trin the mo Trint
Mo Trin is my best friend. I luckily got my
period while I was in Florida, which was so exciting.
You know, we're not We're about a week off. A
couple of days and I literally was dying. I never
(02:36):
really had bad cram sertay. I have one day of cramps.
I think I got like a little bit of food
poisoning or something, or a stomach bug. It was just
it was. I had a rough few days in Florida,
but it was really great. I surprised my parents and
UM got to meet my niece, my brother's baby for
the first time, and it was really great. I'm glad.
(02:57):
I glad I went to the day before. So how
less hectic was that than traveling during the holidays. I
feel like that might be your new move, Like maybe
you're like, hey, family, let's celebrate Christmas like after the
New Year. I actually was talking to my mom about
this because if if moving forward, every holiday season looks
like it did in the airport this year, I don't
(03:17):
know if I want to tackle that, Like I don't
know if I want to go through the process of
booking a flight, getting canceled, panicking it's it just might
be nicer to like do it after the fact because
the airports were chilling, chilling villain. I part also what
a luxury I parked. I drove my car to the
airport and parked it there, so then I got homeless night.
(03:39):
I just got in my car and it was so nice.
But it was about the same as I would have
paid to get totally totally. Well, the rest of us
like parking ramps near by, you know, well even that's
a luxury though. You just get on a shuttle right right.
I'm just saying it's world's cheaper than an uber or
parking at the airport. Really, is it like thirty bucks
(04:00):
a day? It was like ten dollars a day. Yeah,
you can find pretty good deals, but that's what most
people do. Oh look at me, Like I literally uber
Haley takes me and she has the like availability if
she's like even she I got there at five thirty
or something the other morning and she was like I
can take you. Im like, don't worry about it, it's fine. Also,
(04:23):
my ubers used to be like fifteen bucks when we
were living at No No. Now that umbers from the valley,
or like two bucks it's like, so I've never experienced
anything like that, right, Plus we have four kids and
massive suitcases because we're gone for two weeks, so it's
uber is not really feasible. Yeah, you'll have to get
(04:44):
x X and I didn't get tubers and I also
packed a carry on. Can you believe that I got
to the airport well on time? Yes? Did I made
my flight? Yes? Was there some rushing happening, yes, especially
(05:06):
after I missed my turn to go into my parking
garage and I had to go all the way back around.
That was. That was, But I haven't done that in
a long time. Like, I've actually been pretty consistent because
here's my thing. If I'm traveling with someone who was
like airport anxiety, I will meet them in the middle
like we I'm like, I'm not getting there two and
a half hours before, but I'll get there an hour
and a half before. That makes you comfortable. So I've
(05:27):
been trying to be better about that. But when it's myself,
I'm reckless. That gives me anxiety that you missed your
entrance to the parking if you if you don't know
L A X, there's seven different terminals and then there's
an oval you drive through to hit each terminal. So
if you miss your terminal and there's so many cars
in there, you are stuck going all the way around
again with a million other cars. That sounds awful. I
(05:49):
certainly was. I certainly was, and I was I was
just going. You know what, This is what I did.
I didn't tell the only person who knew I was going.
I don't even know if I officially told you I
was going. Yeah, I knew you were going, okay, because
I saw the day before. Yeah, but I was. I
hadn't even booked my flight at that point. Yeah, but
I knew I had gotta vibe, gotta get Tanya and
(06:09):
Haley were like the only people who knew. So in
my mind, I was like, the worst case if I
miss it, I'm just gonna go back home and go
to sleep. Oh my god, go back home and go
to sleep, she says, because no one has expectations of
me coming. Did you want to gas recently? Yes, that's
that's another thing that I can't even fathom too. That
was unfortunately cannot live. I could never live my life
(06:32):
like that. Neither of these the airport or the gas
situation like your car will count down. How does it
said zero? When I ran out it said zero? For
a while it was a hard zero. People would pay
more attention to it. Said it's not a hard zero.
People think and that's on us, the people who this
is making me anxious for my flight. I haven't flown
(06:54):
in a minute. I'm flying at the end of No,
I'm sorry, I'm flying at the beginning of February. I'm
already like stress. Yeah, I would get there some time. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I'm not. I don't like risk it. I don't like
roll the dice. I'd give myself plenty of time. Do
you have t s a pre check? Yes, yeah, I don't.
I don't know why I don't have that. I should,
I don't. I know, Tanya, I know these are just
(07:18):
eighty dollars for three years, but you do have to
go get like your fingerprints and stuff like that. Yeah,
they have one right on riverside here in Burbank. Well,
I'm just saying, there's it's not quite as easy as
you're making out to be because we've been meaning to
get it for our kids and we haven't gone around right.
I mean, it is a step. It's a step it's
a step, and I typically don't like avoid step. You
just like Johns like chaos, chaos and chaos like long lines,
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and just like I love having to untie my shoes,
and yeah, I honestly do too. That's why I ch
I mean, they want to do a strip stearch on
me every time I welcome them. I hate taking off
my shoes at the airport, and like, I just don't
like it. Nothing makes me feel more stressed than when
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I see someone barefoot. Yeah, it's very like even if
I was barefoot, which I remember one of my worst
angles because I was going on a tropical vacation, I
brought socks to put on during the security line. I
did a full sock put on so I didn't have
to go. That's the real benefit. We were leaving from
Milwaukee on New Year's Day and there was no line
(08:21):
for non pre check, and there was a little bit
of a line for pre check. Yeah, so my wefe
was like, there's no line, why would you do the regulars?
If you want to take off your shoes, go ahead,
The cares are probably cleaner over there. Well, you didn't
miss Do you know how many I've done poles on
my Instagram, or you would be shocked by how many
people don't wash their feet too. I don't really wash
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my feet. That's so upsetting, but pedicures every two weeks.
Down there, it's fine. And the water, the water, the
clean didn't know to my I don't wash a lot
of my body. Who are you? I shower often hot
(09:05):
water does the trick. You don't need soap all over
your body. I think I'm closer to Dean than anybody here. Yeah,
it doesn't don't really soap themselves either. They just top
in the shower, let the water do its thing, and
I do. I could see you getting to a point
where you're using like apple cider vinegar stuff on your
(09:27):
hair to like not have chemicals or somebody. Yeah, it's like,
I'm really walking a fine line right now because I can't.
I'm not disrupting my hair or my like facial products,
but I'm like doing all clean body lotions and like
body stuff. But I'm like, I don't want to mess
with my face and my hair. Yet I have to
say I applaud people who can do this because I'm
sure it is so much better for you. I just
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don't know that I'll ever be there or Mela Cunas
has a fun rhyme that sheet for what she washes,
and that's believe me, if you need to go ahead
at pits and tits and soles and holes, that's all
she washes, yes, says I washed my armpits and cross
daily and nothing else ever. Yeah but what but listen, souls,
that's the bottom of the foot. Those are feet, so
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that that's important. Everybody armpits and then yeah, and they
were doing a nice little face wash. Yeah. But you know,
I was going to fill you in on what you
missed while you were home, and it's about thirty headlines
about Prince Harry. I gotta say I could not care less. No,
(10:36):
I'm dead serious, Like when I see it, kind of
like me too. They have turned me from team them
to team not Them. I'm I'm so indifferent that it
doesn't even matter, Like my opinion is so indifferent that
it shouldn't even exist. I was like, I've never seen
(10:57):
more headlines. I couldn't even keep them straight. What is it?
I haven't even like and Marco and I just keep going,
I don't even it's so wild. And you know, as
a fellow author, I applaud Prince Harry for the media
tour he's going on for this book, because I too
(11:19):
will be going on a yes, very smaller media tour
than Prince Harry UM. And honestly, I need to slide
into his d M s and gets some of his
contacts because getting into BuzzFeed and Glamour is treacherous, treacherous
and drafting up and send him and can you get
me into BuzzFeed or Glamour magazine? Thank you? And also
(11:42):
can you talk to the New York Times bestsellersome to
our podcast? They just seemed desperate to keep their names
out there. It's like you can picture people, you know,
putting the caps on the camera saying, all right, Harry,
we're good, thank you very much. And then he goes,
have I mentioned my penis? And it's okay, go ahead,
talk about your penis. It's so weird. Yes, lots of
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different things about the penis. And it's so interesting to
me because I'm like, is you just trying to sell
books or just stay in the limelight. Ah, I don't
know what it is. I'm hoping it's sell books, because
I get it, like you want to sell books, but like,
but I don't know. Here's my thing though, there always
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going to be in the media, Like there's never not
gonna be people wanting to like their best bet would
be too be private because people want to know, like
they're crazy about like the royals and this whole storyline.
So it's like part of me is like, is this
their team that's doing this, like what's going on? Because
they're always going to have a like people are always
(12:50):
gonna want to know more about them. But I was
just thinking about this the other day. When there's too
much of someone or anything, people internal them like they're
they're want to know everything. But then when they get
too much, like this is kind of how what TikTok's done.
I feel like people kind of are like I'm tired
of seeing them. I'm tired of hearing about them, which
(13:10):
I think is where we're at with them. It happened
to me. I'm a turner like you personally, Yeah, you
have just heard too much of me? Is it the
worst thing? Because I feel like that happened to Kardashians
many years ago and they have done just fine for themselves.
But interesting point mark the Kardashians have I don't know
if it's Chris General. I don't know how they've been
(13:31):
able to do it, but there's always been that. But
part of General, that's why I need a call by
my book stuff. Yeah, yeah, you should that and reach out.
I gotta get to She could definitely get me into BuzzFeed,
Glamor in New York Times. One call, one text on text, um,
but you see it all the people. Part of me
wonders if you remember how Taylor Swift said she was
(13:54):
going to release like we thought that she was going
to release all her videos or something for this album. Yeah,
I thought they were coming kind of like all like recently,
more recent than they have come. And part of me
wonders if there was so much, we got so much
Taylor Swift, like you couldn't escape it for a second,
(14:15):
which I didn't mind, but like I wonder if her
team was like, let's step back for a second and
get people wanting more again because her team they're smart.
They're smart. That's what I need to call it. We
need a direct Yeah, But like I remember seeing this
(14:36):
whole theory about how Harry styles like it was like
him on tour for however long then it was that
don't worry darling stuff, and it was like, are we
going to get to a point where it's too much?
Too much and people are going to turn on him?
Because makes a point because the Kardashians, it didn't happen
to them, but maybe it did. Maybe the I think
(14:56):
it did happen to them, but they's I don't think
it's a death sentence. It's not. But I'm saying like,
I think you almost go Okay, let's take a step
back and not have a headline about us every other
article and get people being like, wait, I haven't seen
much about the Kardashians lately. Where are they? But the
thing with them is they have so many people that
they can kind of like rotate who interesting. I wonder
(15:20):
if there's somebody back there behind the scenes that's like no,
not just in the Kardashian camp, but like in the
Hollywood world, being like watching all this Harry Meg and
stuff go down, being like this is not a good idea.
It's you. You're the person. I don't know if I'm
the person really, but yeah, I just think it's really
sending me through a feeling of emotions. As a fellow author.
(15:45):
I want to be there for Prince Harry, you know,
like let him lean on me, say, I got you,
author to author, fellow member. Yeah, but I don't got him. Yeah,
you don't got him. I don't got him. But part
of me I haven't even watch the docuseries because I've
seen so many other things and like, you should watch it. Yeah,
(16:07):
it's interesting. I would, just because you get to can
read them, you can really like read them through it.
What do you read them? What do you read about them?
I got weird vibes, ma'am, I don't know. I got
some weird vibes. Vibes don't lie. Yeah, as a couple
or as individuals. As individuals and as a couple, you
don't want to share any of those vibes. Well, like
(16:30):
a vibe. It's like a vibe hard towards exactly the
vibes I felt. But do you feel like they're partners?
I do feel like they're part They're definitely partners. Okay, yeah,
so they as a couple you feel like they're partners.
They're definitely partners. Not like Chelsea Handler and they were not.
(16:54):
Yeah long ago discovered correct. So that's all that's happened.
While it's gone. That's really all that's happened. I mean that,
And there was one other thing. Was it about lamar
Odin being afraid to shoot his shot with Chloe Kardashian Again,
First of all, it's odum. What did I say, lamar Odin,
(17:16):
which I'm sorry lamar odom Um. No, it was not
about lamar odom No, Okay, justin Bieber's fashion. Trying to
think of the other step Haley Bieber's Nepos Nepo baby
T shirt. Okay, First of all, I love Haley Bieber
and I love that she wore that T shirt. But also,
were you talking about his fashion and compared to hers?
(17:39):
Did you see what his blanket that he wore out
or like a crochet blanket? And I'm so excited that
that is like an actual trend. Could you not see
me romping around town with a blanket around me like
a cape? Yeah? I don't do that for you. You
don't know, I would love that. No, I think you're
a little more polished than you give yourself credit for.
(18:01):
And we looking at the same girl. Yeah, but you're
always matching and stuff. You're never like in a black
sweatsuit by the way, with a hand parent Bundy cohesive.
I do have my hands Bundy, your hands in your pants?
It was in my pants over here? Yeah, because keeping warm. No,
(18:21):
because like sometimes when I cradle my cramps, they like
feel better when I hands on them. Sometimes Robbie puts
his hands on them. Okay, this is not that kind
of podcast. Tanya makes him feel better. Well, I saw
this thing talking about how Haley is always dressed like
to the nines. She always looks perfect every outfit I
(18:43):
see her, and I'm like, how can I recreate that?
And then it'll be like a paparazzi shot and he's
behind her with like pimple patches on, and like literally
it almost looks like he's trying to the opposite. Yeah,
And people were like, I just can't imagine being with
someone who just didn't care like that. And part of
me is like, sure, but we don't dress for the
(19:03):
like I dressed for myself, like I dressed in like
how I feel good, and que I'm not like, oh not.
Every thought is like, what's Haley gonna think of this?
And she mostly likes what I wear. But I just
thought it was an interesting conversation of like it doesn't
who are you I guess it's more of like a
reflective who are you dressing for? Who are you dressing for?
(19:27):
What are you dressing for? Well? I like to be cohesive,
so if yeah, yeah, so sometimes that's the way I
like to go. So are you dressing for cohesion only? Sometimes? Yes? Correct.
Yesterday we went to a birthday party and he was
like a large like coat and a white T shirt
and jeans, and I wore a white T shirt and
(19:49):
jeans and a different color overcoat. Is so cute though,
and he likes that kind of is she doesn't when
I When I get dressed first, he's like, oh, you're
wearing that, Okay, I'll wear you know, I know her,
I know who could have guess you'd find someone so
perfectly matched, dude, of thunk it. But you know what's
(20:10):
not matched is our apple? Uh? We did like the
Grand Test tasting, yeah, because we always argue about it,
and so we got what do you argue about? He says,
honey crisp for the best apples in the and I say,
fuji are the best apples in the world. Then recently
his mom brought over an Envy apple and we were like,
(20:31):
is this the best apple? In the whole world. And
so we've been wanting to do this like apple taste test.
So we did it this weekend and we like, cut
up five different apples. No, so Robbie did it. He
cut them, skin them, cut them up, and put them
in clear cups and he put the he put the
whatever the tag on apple is on the bottom of
the cup. So then me and the kids did it
(20:54):
and we wrote down our notes. We ranked him in
order one to five or whatever, and then I blindfolded
him and mixed the order and he did hit yeah,
and hold on, I think we need this. These are
the most anti climactic. Honey Crisp is out, none of
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us like Tony Crisp whatsoever. Cosmic apples are in, and
envy apples are in. I've never heard of cosmic apple.
I think they're new, making new apple, I think. I guess.
So I don't know. I guess they're new. And then
we did a whole separate tastes because we didn't do
Pink Lady in there, and people were really up in
arms messaging me the pink Ladies the best. So we
(21:38):
did another taste with pink Lady in there, and results
were still the same. Interesting, Wow, so what the cosmic
and I'll have to try that. I'm a Granny Smith guy.
I love Granny Smith in my lunch box right now. Yes,
they're so sour, They're exactly how it should be there perfect.
(21:58):
I love a Granny Smith apple. Never have bought a
Granny Smith apple. I'm not a huge apple eater, so
I don't know that I would. I mean, but like
apples specifically because I chipped my tooth when I was
a sophomore in high school and after that he was like,
don't bite into apples, into an apple, and so after
(22:19):
that I just kind of like wrote them off my list.
But so doesn't the skin wouldn't the skin taste, like
the taste of what the skin was be important of
like the taste test, you know. I'm glad you brought
that up a lot of people. A lot of people
were also thrown off by the skinning of the apples.
But I have had a permanent retainer in my mouth
(22:40):
for many, many years, so I cannot eat the skins
of apples. And again I met my match because I
don't think Robbie's eating a skin of apple since he
was in high school either. But wait, no, I feel
like I can picture you. Over the years, you always
had to cut it up. You would never bite into
an apple, I remember that. But you wouldn't skin them
every time. Yeah, until I got my misiline, which was recent.
(23:02):
I don't like it all right, because I used to
make fun of you because you would you would find
it impossible to eat your apple because you forgot your knife.
And I would say, you know, humans have discovered another
way of eating apples that might intrigue you. But no, no,
didn't she bring like a full blown, big butcher, giant
(23:27):
figger than my head. It was scary, because are you red?
I would have walked with its every day to cut
my apple. Washing come with excalibur. I was like, they
(23:50):
let you in the building with dog like that feels
like a hazard. Maybe I have some weird things, man,
you know you do have some quirks. Yeah, have some
weird things. Yeah. I got smarter and just cut my
apples before I left my house, not to cut them
at the office. Yeah, you got smarter, smart, working, working, working, smarter,
(24:15):
not harder. I think we should take a break. All right,
(24:38):
we are back, Tanya. What else did you do all going? Well?
You missed Avatar. We did a fun family I missed.
They all went, yeah you didn't go I did? I
saw it? Yeah, oh I saw it weeks ago, like
the weekend. It came out like two weeks ago. No,
like before Christmas. It came up a for Christmas. What Yeah, yeah,
(25:04):
I think that time stands still for me, like that
two week period around the Christmas time. Tricky times. So
this is old news to you. Did you cry like
a baby? I cried and I had to like literally
close my eyes at some point. I got so upset. Oh,
(25:25):
but you were not tired close because you were tired. No, no, no,
I mean I wasn't like a recliner seat, so I
could have was very It was very peaceful to me,
like the water. It was so visually beautiful that I
was like very relaxed. But some of the scenes were
very intent. I had to I realized I can't handle
anything that involves like I guess spoiler alert if you
(25:45):
haven't seen it yet, like animal animal harm. You know
what's interesting even but the whole movie is c G
I or computer somehow, so obviously no real animals like
the storyline. I had the same feeling, so I like again,
I know I have some weird things, so forgive me.
I really um one of the animals without spoiling anything,
(26:10):
reminded me of my dog's sunny and like I just
like how protective she was, and like I got really
emotional about this animal throughout the whole movie. Like I
was crying when it was hurt and like I was like,
I'm I okay. Well now that in hindsight, I was
pre period, so I think I was just like extra emotional.
(26:31):
But I was crying in many scenes of that movie. Yeah,
that's how I felt too, I know what you're talking.
Not many people's eyes were wet in my theater, so
I was like, am I okay? Did they have their
glasses on them when we were leaving? No, I looked like,
what's the heart cried during a movie like where you're
(26:52):
just like you know that kind of gasping and weeping.
Mine in a theater was Marley and me. That's what
I was gonna say, I've seen it. Don't want to
know you should not definitely not now that you have
a dog, because like I didn't even have a dog
at the time, and I went by myself because my sister,
my brother in law wanted to see another movie that
(27:12):
I didn't want to see, So I went and saw
Merlin mean by myself and I came out and I
was like, uncontrollable. It is devastating. God. Mine was because
I was trying so desperately to hold it in for
the whole time, and then finally it was just that
I let that big gasp. It was very embarrassing, but
(27:33):
real men, crime Mark, I get that cancer. I'm a
c along, but I was trying not to for whatever reason.
Was rough. Yeah, And then on a plane, what was
the worst you've cried in a theater? I mean, I
can't think of one. From sadness, like I cried from
happiness a lot, like like I wept wept pretty enthusiastically
(27:53):
during avengesting game, like from joy and from like seeing
all my friends and stuff on the screen. But that's
not a joke. I was like weeping in the well
the studious theater. But I don't know. I cried during
the Notebook in that theater. I cried during that. Um.
There's this movie that the late Anton Yalkin did called
(28:13):
Like Crazy. It's about like that movie made me weep
a lot. That was a very emotional movie. No one
talked about that enough. No, they didn't even heard of that.
I've never heard of long distance relation. If you're in one,
you like the movie, it might make you, might make
your heart hurt a little bit, but it is beautiful,
beautiful storytelling. All I can think about now when I'm
(28:35):
in the theaters is when I see the Nicole Kidman
thing I like think of the I think Tea doing
the Nicole kid Somehow, hot breake feels good in a
place like this. I cannot control my laughter every time
I see it now. And people applaud for that, now,
(28:57):
don't they when man, Yes, we saw again Opening Night,
which is fantastic, by the way, and people were going
nuts for the Nicole Kidney Nicola kid me A commercial.
It's such a joy every Yeah, it really is, really
everyone's never time I see it. Sure, Yeah, Sometimes heartbreak
feels good in a place like this. Why she said
(29:20):
the first time, I'm just gonna Oh the first time
was southern too, And I was like, maybe I missed something.
Sometimes heartbreak feels good in a place like this. No,
that wasn't anything. The first time I was better. I
got it. The first time you know necessarily her Australian accent.
The most in um would come to AMC theatis to laugh,
to cry so funny. Oh and then we watched we
(29:45):
binged Cook It All Costs. It's just like that sounds
like Australian said that. Yeah, we just binged a Cook
It All Costs. It's such a great show. And I'm
finding that I'm loving I love cooking those and I'm
not a cook. What's there? Okay, I'm glad you asked.
(30:06):
It's these three contestants in their home cooks. So they're
like just like you and I like cooking in the kitchen,
you know, but they're good, like they have skills, and
so they have in their bank. And there's three surprise boxes, right.
One of them is a save box, one of them
is a spend box, and one of them is a surprise.
So the first round, they all make bids and how
how much they're willing to spend on like whatever. The
(30:28):
lowest bid gets the save box, like they saving the money.
The highest bidder gets the spend box, and then one
in the middle gets the surprise, and the save box
will have like mashed potatoes in a in a brown
bag and like sardines and like really like the bottom
of the barrel like stuff. And then the spin box
will have like ah he tune on, like really just
(30:50):
like high end stuff. So you'd think, like, then the
second round comes and people will want to spend, you know,
get the spin box, and then then you can auction
off if they bring items down the line that you
can let. It sounds so weird, I'm telling you. It
is like because there's an auction so that they'll be
like Cilantro will be coming down the line and then
people like I need Cilantro, so they're like outbidding each
other to like get the Cilantro for their dish or whatever.
(31:13):
But it's about creativity. So like somebody who made I
got the same box. She made um spaghetti out of
peta chips. She cut up and made spaghetti, and then
she took they had fish and chips and she bawled
them up and made like um spaghetti and meatballs. And
so she won because it was like a creative out
of the box. And then whoever ends up winning wins
all the money left in their bank account. It's amazing
(31:35):
how many different versions of cooking shows they've been able
to come up with it. I mean crime scene, kitchen
like re creating, is it cake? Like? I will watch
anything they bring to me in form of cooking, like
the most of it. Some guy named Jordan. He's a
chef and he's actually really good. Like I watched this
other show about like recreating snacks and the hosts really
bothered me in that one. But this guy is really good.
(31:57):
I liked him. I love a cooking competition. Yeah, and
each episode is like solitary, like you can watch it.
You don't have to watch the one before to the
all new chefs. It's a new judge, so it's like
all you can just like kind of pop in, pop out.
Speaking of watching it in whatever order, did anyone start
or watch Kaleidoscope? Yes, I started. I started it. When
(32:20):
I started with I started with Orange and I did
not like it. Okay, we started with Yellow and I
had the same thing. I was like, this show sucks.
I don't want to watch it. And then we show
on Netflix that doesn't have episodes. You can watch it
in any order you want. They have an order, but
you can start any However, you have to do what
White goes last. Other than that, you can watch any
(32:40):
order you want and it will make sense. I didn't
know that, why I'm glad I didn't start with definitely
could be the only one you have to watch last.
But and so apparently Netflix like gives everybody a different order,
so you're just supposed to kind of watch it in
whatever order you get. But we too. We watched Yellow first,
and I was like, I don't like this, I don't
want to watch anymore. Was like, let's give it one more.
(33:00):
So watched Green next, and Green was actually really good.
And I feel like if I had watched Green first,
I maybe would have wanted to watch more, but I
was so annoyed already that I and then we watched
one more. So I watched Yellow, Green, and Blue. So
will you continue? I could care less to continue, but
I think I'm going to continue because I want to
see white. Like now, I'm just like I want to
(33:21):
be You're ready to get to the end. I want
to finish, Like I'm not excited about it, but I
feel like I need to finish it. See, this is
the difference. This is why you're This is why you
were able to get through season five of Love Island,
because you can just you're like ready I persevere, persevere.
That was my word for two and I really feel
I embodied it was that your work. I can confirm
(33:43):
that was there another word. I've had many words, So
what you want that all in? All in? Okay? That's uh.
(34:06):
I think it was spawned from the trigger event we
broke up and then was all in. Yeah. I was like,
I want somebody that's all in about what's about you
and more about just the energy of bringing in. Yeah,
anybody's coming to my life, they're gonna be all in.
(34:29):
It's nice. Nice. Um, yeah, you persevere. I'm not like that,
Like if I don't like a book, if I don't
like a movie, if I don't like a show, I'm
very checked out and I'm just kind of like, I
don't need to spend my time doing this. If it's
not gonna be something I enjoy. I've already put so
much time into it. No, I put one episode in
the annoying when people say to you, like, you gotta
(34:50):
watch the show, so then you watch it and then
you're like, it's not that great that you just got
to get through the first season. That's awesome after that,
I for me, yeah, I agree, I agree. Everyone Wishi.
It's creek is like once you get past the first season.
Now it's not the first season, it's like the first
few episodes. It's like the first half of the first season.
(35:11):
Did you end up liking it? Yeah, we never finished it.
Oh my god, I give to watch that show with
virgin eyes again. Yeah, it would be happy happily give
mine to you. I've considered getting hypnotized to forget Eternal Sunshine.
(35:32):
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consistent viewers. Is that good, bad, best ever, worst ever
(37:21):
and best ever by my favorite though, because you can
play videos on the East on Instagram live now, so
we saw when you when I first started doing it,
you couldn't do that. So when I had guest presenters,
I'd have to have them join live and it would
bring their followers. And I think Tanya did it once
and I got like two thousand people watching and they
were like, who is this? What is happening? Who's this guy?
(37:43):
Do people still do that now? The joint Instagram's yeah,
I think try to schedule. So I stopped doing it,
but it was a great show, thanks to everyone who
watched it. Tanya presented Top Potato and she did such
a good job. She had an envelope what one I forget?
What one for Top Potato? Was it the Russet the
red Potato. It was so excited because I got like
(38:05):
the text of like kind of what to do, and
so I like put the winner in it. I had
a red because it was the red potatoes. I was like,
I have a red envelope and like a red card,
so like wrote it in on the car and I
had Robbie like handed to me and I was like
and I had. I did a couple of takes and
he was like, no, no, this time you should like
be like oh wow, you know, and was like I
can make some background. I was like really, it was
(38:32):
so great. I was surprised orange one fruit to the year. Man,
I'm having an orange year. And also why are you
surprised about that? Like vitamin sees that it's prime high. Yes,
that was just thinking would be something a little bit
more less common. You know, apples and orange the most
common fruits. Oh, you thought it was going to be
(38:52):
more of like unexpected Yeah fruit, yes, like a star
fruit stru be a great track fruit jack fruit right,
orange just takes it away. I got really into orange
advertisements this year to like look at the old orange
crates from like the forties. I just stare at those things.
So that pushed him over the top. Give him the win. Yeah,
(39:12):
eating more oranges lately than usual to have a tree
and they bring us bags of the extra oranges. They're
delicious and they're gonna have a great year as the
winner for the Fruit of the Year. But if you
missed it, it's on my Instagram where it we'll live
at The fruit two was no wait, it won Fruit
(39:33):
of the Year. Yes, yes, for twenty two. Yes, so
oranges had a big year, had a big year, but
it shall it's the champion until okay, god o years. Yeah,
you know and what other a word show says that
exactly that's what you get when you come to the
(39:55):
I showed I showed it to my wife and you
were a mid song, you were singing something and she said,
why does he do this? As I just even know
it for a long time because man I thought I
married weird. So there you go, all right, this is
from anonymous, and she says, I've actually I don't know
if it's a she, So they say, I've been with
my partner for six years. She's always been a little
(40:16):
more Type A than me and has O c D
and anxiety, but now it's gotten to the point where
it really affects her home life. We're not sure if
it's age she's forty eight, or having COVID or something else,
but she's got to the point We're always late, which
gives me anxiety. I'm ready in an hour, she digs
two to three. A lot of times she's canceled plans
with my family and or friends, leaving me to go
alone and then having to explain each time why she's
(40:37):
not coming, including my own birthday dinners. Now people just
expect me to come alone. She doesn't want to plan anything.
She'll say, we never do anything or plan anything, but
if there's a concert, a restaurant, a place I want
to go, even mentioning it puts her in a foul
mood because the thought of doing it stresses her out.
I want her to be a part of things, but
she doesn't like me going without her either, so now
(40:58):
we both miss out. She tellsn't one of my best
friends after six years. She's big on the gym and
working up for releasing stress, but she won't go on
meds because of the side effects. How much can you
do for a partner before it's unfair? What is the
next step? I feel like I'm always the gardener in
our relationship, tending to her anxieties, But isn't that what
you do for a partner? Help? Please? That's a tough one. Yeah,
(41:21):
that's really hard. I feel like you need a professional
and not I was gonna say, yeah, we're not gonna
be able to help, But I do think that uh
taking this step and like talking to a couple of
therapists and navigating how to be there for each other,
because obviously, when you have when your partner is going
through something, you need to be able to show up
(41:41):
for them and not just like run when it gets hard.
But I also think that you're missing out on life
and important things due to her um anxiety and o
c D. So I don't think it's fair to you.
So I think you need to actually like make an
effort to do this together and like see a couple
of therapists, because I think this is actually going to
take some something like way more official than us. Yeah, honestly,
(42:06):
because I do, like I don't even know. I can't
even I can't even picture because it's like it's a
real it's a it's an illness, you know. So it's
like you have to to care for it in a
very careful and specific way, but it's also having a
very bad and negative impact on your life. I mean,
(42:28):
he'r not going to your birthday dinners. I think some
would see that as a deal breaker, that she's just
too stressed to make it to your birthday dinners. Yeah,
but if it's stressed coming from like deep rooted anxiety
and like all these things, like it's not like she's
just like, oh I'm too stress, Like it's like it's debilitating.
But how is that anonymous problem? I mean, I feel
like it's too much of an anonymous problems in six years.
(42:49):
I just think it's like I agree, she it sounds
like it's gotten worse though it hasn't been like this
the whole. Since it sounds like it's gotten worse people,
I think it's happened to a lot of people. So
I think it's like have in a conversation of like
going to see someone and also being there worked through
their own issues. For sure, they need to work through that,
but like not like being there for her, but also
(43:10):
not like making yourself miserable in that fact, and also
like ruining and hurting other relationships in your life. So um,
but I wish the best for all that's They don't
mentioned if if they're in therapy or if she's in therapy.
There's mentioned meds, which seems like a step too far.
If I feel like therapy could be very helpful for
both of you together and for each of you individually,
(43:32):
I don't know if that's realistic, but all right. Another
one from anonymous. I was actually on The Bachelor several
years ago. I had gone through a recent divorce and
my act in laws spread some horrible things about me
on social media when they found out I was going on.
It was really hard on me and my family. I
got sent home night one, so luckily it was on
a smaller scale than what other people go through. Making
the decision to do the show felt extremely right at
(43:53):
the time. Everything worked out perfectly for it to happen,
and I'm so thankful for the opportunity, but I had
to give and spend a lot in order to make
it work. Overall, it was a pretty negative experience for me,
so I still struggle wondering what the reason for it
all was. I'm about to turn I'm about to turn thirty.
I've been in a wonderful relationship for two years and
finally feel like I found my person. My boyfriend and
I just moved out of my home state for his
(44:15):
job a few months ago, when it's a place we
don't love, don't know anybody, and I've had a hard
time getting a new job, so I'm struggling to find
my path and my purpose. I still feel a sting
when I see girls from my season and people from
the show in general, living their best life and getting
these amazing opportunities, when I just feel stuck and constantly
I'm reminded of what I missed out on every time
I opened social media. I truly believe that everything happens
(44:36):
for a reason, but how do I move forward without
feeling anger and know that what's meant for me is coming,
even when I feel lost. Well, I think, first of all,
I think looking back and wonder like feeling everything happens
for a reason. It felt like you were It felt
like it was the opportunity to go. I mean, I
if you hadn't gone, you would have always been like, oh,
(44:58):
what if I had gone on the show? Like that's
just the fact, Like you would have always been like,
what if I didn't take the opportunity to go? So
I think you need to let go. They like, what
was the meaning of it all? What did it mean?
Because I think for you the alternative would have been
just as like daunting of like what if? What if?
And now you're in a wonderful relationship with someone that
has worked out. And I think, just like all social media,
(45:20):
comparison is the thief of joy. And I think sometimes
we compare ourselves to like everyone's exciting best moments, But
I think that's a lesson we all are like dealing
with on a daily basis, whether you're compair and despair. Yeah,
whether it's someone that's on the Bachelor or someone who's
just like getting job promotions over you, like in a
(45:40):
corporate world, Like there's always going to be that feeling
of comparison. I think finding contentment and like like worth
in yourself without comparing yourself to others is like very
important no matter what the situation looks like, you have
to like go that. I think anger is like truly
a poison. It can make you do things and say
(46:01):
things that you don't mean or that you don't want
to do, and like when you live in when you
come and live in a place of anger, it's really bad. Um,
So you have to really really really try and let
that go and just know that that wasn't your path,
that it was just wasn't your path. You can't you
can't live in that anger. It's so toxic. Yeah, And
it's not a bad thing to mute people in social media,
like I think I think a lot of people are like, oh,
(46:23):
I don't want to have to go that route. But
if it's causing anger and bitterness and resentment every time
you get on an app and you don't want to
fully delete social media, just mute the people who make
you feel that way round follow them if you don't
have like a close relationship with them. I think it's
just like we put so much stress and weight on
social media and who we follow, and it's like destroying
(46:44):
our confidence in our lives, and we don't even realize
how simple it is just to eliminate it, eliminate the
things that do that. So I agree. I think bitterness
and comparison is literal poison, and I we've watched it
happen more and more with people with social media. So
just be gentle with yourself and know that that good
(47:05):
things will come to you. You're in a happy, loving relationship,
and a lot of people that you're following on social
media are probably still searching for that. So just yeah,
that's a good point. And I find this really interesting
because of all the people you see that we're on
the bachlor and they seem to just be having the
time of their lives. It's interesting to see the other
side of that a little bit. And I wonder about
(47:26):
the in laws who were spreading awful things about her
on social media. I wonder if that's still hurting her,
because I feel like, wh you're applying for new jobs,
they're at least gonna look you up on the internet
and they're gonna see these bad things about you. I
hope not well, hope karma comes back to them if
they're spreading false rumors. Um, wish you the best either way.
It can be hard. Social media is hard. I think
(47:48):
that's it for today, for today. I think that was
a great show, everybody. That's a great show. Apples. We
talked about a lot of apples and oranges and oranges.
Apples and oranges. Yeah, get much better than If you're
looking for anything else in the podcast world, Why why
are you going else? Avatar to Flying, we hit everything.
(48:10):
To Prince Harry, we hit everything, We hit it all.
This hand is back in her pants for the period
cram hand is in the pants on the cradling the cramps.
I have a date tonight. Tonight, have a date with
my boyfriend. We're gonna go to a dinner place that
we enjoy in a while. I know, no, yeah, I
(48:35):
remember when we went to pot one time. Yeah. Alright, Well,
we love you guys, have a wonderful week. We'll be
back Thursday with the one and only Low Bosworth. Um,
So we'll see you then. By love,
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