Almost Famous In Depth: Demi Burnett

Ben and Ashley go In Depth with Demi Burnett for a raw and vulnerable conversation. 

Demi tells us about her early life and how her journey with sexuality changed her perspective. We hear about her relationship with her mother after she was released from prison. 

Demi reveals how she first met Kristian and how are things between them since breaking up. 

This is an In Depth like you’ve never heard before, because Demi puts it ALL on the table.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous in Depth.
Ashley and I are back this time with a guest
that I know you all are going to be excited about.
Bachelor Nation has wanted to hear from our next guest
for a long time. This is another in depth episode
of the Almost Famous podcast. Ashley, without giving out a name,

(00:23):
how pumped are you for today's sit down? When I
came when I usually come up with questions, in the
amount of questions never flows the way it did for
me today, Like I just had question after question after
questions question. So this person is definitely an interesting person. Uh,
this is gonna be a great sit down. I'm pumped.

(00:44):
Without delaying it any further, She's known from Colton Underwood
season of The Bachelor. She later went onto Bachelor in Paradise,
where she was pursued by Derek Paith, but ended up
getting engaged to Christian Haggardy At the end. Christian and
our next guest announced on Instagram Live that they were

(01:04):
splitting up on October one of two thousand nineteen. She
is so much more than a Bachelor Nation contestant. Her
life is something that we all are going to learn
from the day welcome the podcast, Demi Burnett. Hello, thank
you for having me. Hello. Hello, we are so excited

(01:28):
to have you. I was on your podcast last week
which just started. It's called Big Demi Energy. Yes, because
you want us to tell you want to tell us
what that's all about. What are you guys going to
be covering over there? Yeah? Big Demi Energy is just
about like, you know, shooting the having fun, having fun guests,
being confident. You know, it's like the beginning of it.

(01:48):
So I'm still talking about a lot of ideas that
we can do. Uh, it's pretty intimidating, but I'm like
starting to have a lot of fun with it now,
Like the more that it keeps going with time and
stuff awes. Um all right, well, we are going to
get everyone to get to know you so well today
that they're going to want more and more of you,
and they'll have to go to your podcast to get that.

(02:09):
So let's start from the very beginning of your life, Demi. Gosh,
can you tell us about growing up in your childhood? Um? Yeah,
So my childhood was interesting. I don't think I've ever
really talked about this before. Um. I grew up with
the single dad, so whenever I was three, my dad
and my mom got divorced and my mom uh moved away.

(02:34):
She like always was I don't know. We were in
Virginia and she moved to like New Mexico, and my
dad always took care of us. He was an amazing father.
Whenever I was younger, he was working in the White
House and work in a full job and taking care
of me and my brother. And my mom was, you
know somewhere out there. We would see her like on

(02:55):
holidays and stuff like that, and like, we loved seeing
her so much because like, even though she wasn't present
for a lot of it, whenever we did have time
with her, she was like such a good mom and
like so sweet to us and like, you know, she's
just very motherly and loving. Um. So we really liked
spending time with her, and it was always so much fun.
But it was never stable, Like we never knew when

(03:18):
we were going to see her. We never knew what
was going on with her, Like you know, she's messed
up in drugs, messed up with men. Uh. And my
dad always had a really really stable environment for us.
So we've always been with him, and uh, he's a
rock star. And so that's like early childhood living in Stafford, Virginia.

(03:38):
And then my dad got remarried to this woman and
she had two sons. So that's whenever I was about six.
So I had three brothers and like this awesome new
step mom and it was so funny. We would like
me and all my brothers would like have this lineup
of computers and we would just game all day long together. Um.

(03:58):
And so they were together about five years and then
whenever I was eleven, something happened I don't really know what,
and they split up then and my dad and my
stepmom at the time, and that was a pretty big
bummer because I mean I had like grown so close
to these people, you know, and like these were my brothers,
and like all of a sudden they were gone. And
so that was really tough and it was hard on

(04:20):
my dad and my brother too, and hard on them.
So whenever I was eleven, we moved from Stafford to
Texas to be closer to my dad's family, and we
like moved to Fort Worth with his mom and dad,
or his mom and his stepdad, and we started going
to school there. Uh. It was it was really hard,

(04:42):
but like my dad was like really solid rock through
all of it, you know, and like just always made
sure we were taken care of, and it was It's
just really cool because like I know, as a parent
you have an obligation to do that, but like you
know a lot of people fall short, and he like
never fell short as a dad, Like we were always
this priority and like meanwhile, all this is going on,
still no idea what's going on with my mom, and

(05:02):
no idea where she is, like randomly seeing her um
she had a like whenever I would go see her.
She had this one house in California. It was in Fresno,
like right outside of Fresno in the mountains, and she
it was like a huge ranch. It was called like
Crazy Horse Ranch, and we had like all these horses
and any animal we wanted, like we could have it.
So we just had so many animals and we were

(05:24):
always just going to round out there and like having
a blast with her. Like new Man who ended up
being a complete psychopath, but you know, he had like
a good facade of like making us feel like he
was awesome, but he was really trash. Um. But yeah,
so that's like I love like even smelling horse poop
now because it just like takes me back to those

(05:45):
fun summers and it's just special. Um. So, then whenever
we were like at my dad's house, we moved to
this little town called Red Oak whenever I was in
seventh grade, and it was a problem. It was in
the beginning, like the worst like memories that I have.
Like it's like you know, middle school, you know, stuff
like that, because I had come from this place in

(06:07):
Virginia where like everyone was so nice to me. I
had never like been bullied. I'd never had anyone be
mean to me. And I moved to this Red Oak
town in seventh grade, I'm like going through an awkward stage,
and I like was so bullied. These girls were so mean,
threatening to like kick my ass, and like I was
twelve years old, I had no idea what they were
talking about. I was like, what do you mean You're

(06:29):
gonna kick my ass? You want to fight me? Like why?
It was bizarre, and so then I kind of had
to like toughen up and like I don't know, it
kind of made me a little hard, and you know,
like I was. It was weird because I was just
so innocent, and then like I was it hurt me
so bad. And so then I was like okay, like

(06:49):
I dog eat dog world, like I've got to figure
out how to survive. Um, and girls are just so mean.
And then you know, middle school like got through it it.
Then I went to high school and it was the
same thing. Um, I played volleyball all throughout all of this.
That was my life and that's like all I ever did.

(07:09):
My dad was pretty strict on me, so like I
didn't ever party or drink or anything. I just went
to school, made great grades, played volleyball, went home like
it was pretty much all I did. I had some
time with friends, but oh and then, um, like my
dad was always super super like strict about us going
to church. So I spent a lot of time going

(07:31):
to church like three times a week, like Sunday morning,
Sunday night, Wednesday night. Uh. And so I kind of
got like once I graduated high school, I was like
pretty much over that, and I was like, I'm not
gonna go anymore. Um, I'm gonna like, you know, I'll
see where life takes me and like where I'm drawn
to if I want to get back into that stuff,
but yeah, I don't know. Then I graduated and went

(07:52):
to college, and since I never partied in high school,
I partied so hard in college, and uh, I was wild.
But that's kind of whenever I found myself because in
high school I was really I was friends with everybody
and stuff, but I wasn't confident in myself, and so
like I wasn't myself all the time, Like I was

(08:13):
just kind of like quiet or like I thought, you know, insecure,
thinking people didn't want to talk to me, or like
people didn't want to be friends with me, or scared
that somebody was going to try to fight me. Um.
And so then I went to college and I like
got this confidence because I was like, you know what,
I'm a pretty cool person. Like people like to be
around me, and if they don't, then they don't have
to be around me. And I just gotta like, you know,

(08:34):
make sure like I treat people well if they treat
me well. And you know, it's still something I work
on today, is like treating people well no matter what. Um.
And you know, sometimes I just take jokes too far.
But yeah, and then after that I feel like I'm rambling. No. No,
I love it awesome. Well, and I think this is

(08:58):
a good place here too. Is you're definitely not rambling.
This is what this is. So this is a lot this,
this whole setup is about this you personally, so that
everybody can out there kind of connect the dots between. Okay,
this is the Demmi we saw on television, this is
the Demmi we've rooted for, but we've only got to
see a very small piece of her life, what brought
her to this point today, and so to some up

(09:19):
all of that and to also walk us into this
next phase of kind of your life story. Um as
I as I'm sitting here listen to you, I'm like, Okay,
there's so much here to unplug, right, Like I would
love to talk to you about your faith now and
where that stands. I would love to talk to you
about the impact that your family has had on you
through all these changes. I would love to talk about

(09:40):
and just say, like, holy cow, Demmi at seventh grade,
you've gone through all of this, Like, there's gotta be
a lot there that you've learned and realized. So in short,
this is what I want to ask you to take
us in the next phases. If there's three things that
people need to know about you as a human that
would help them understand you. What would those three things be, Um.

(10:04):
One of them would be that I am ultimately pretty
dang sensitive and I try to cover that up because
in the past, whenever I had shown my emotions like
this is kind of in regards to like my ex
stepdad that my mom was with that guy, like you know,
if I would cry about something like, he would be
so mean to me about it, Like you know, there

(10:25):
was just no like sympathy. There was no like never
felt bad for me or anything, never wanted to make
me feel better, just was like, stop crying your baby,
like all this stuff. And so it's just kind of
like shaming me out of my emotions all the time.
So like I do have like this hard shell around me,
but like I am very sensitive, UM, and I feel

(10:45):
things like very very strongly. I just kind of pretend
like I don't, which you know isn't healthy. Um. Another
thing is is that I pretty much of in my head. Uh.
I Like I overthink a lot of things. I'm I'm

(11:06):
constantly in my head, and uh I can misinterpret a
situation by overthinking too much about it. But I always
will hear you out. And like I I'm not stubborn
on that, like I I'm willing to change my mind
very like quickly and like logically, um, I'm not irrational.

(11:27):
Um another thing mm hmm. I'm very very protective and
loyal and stuff. But sometimes that can get to a
point where like I'm so protective and loyal that it's
and I I feel very uncomfortable if I have no

(11:51):
control over situation or like you know, like I have
a little bit of like a control thing that I'm
very aware of, and I have to be like okay,
like it's okay if you're not control of like the
dinner plans for tonight or something, or it's okay that
you're not in control of how somebody's making you feel
right now. And just that's something because I know that

(12:11):
that's caused issues in the past with me and like
friendships and stuff like that and relationships, and it's, uh,
it's something that like I I need like the people
in my life to have a little patience with me
on it, because like I understand that that's really hard
to deal with somebody who can be a little controlling
and I don't want to be that way, but it's

(12:34):
I don't know, it's like embedded in my brain. It's
like it must be genetic or something. I don't know,
but I think it's I haven't been in control of
so many situations in my life that now like it
has this obsession with me, like wanting to be able
to control it now that I like feel like I can,
and uh, yeah it's tough. Let's let's see. Look at

(12:54):
me always in my brain like overthinking everything, trying to
make sense of situations, like trying to figure out the
right thing to do or the right way to handle it,
or like you know, be self aware and yeah, I
just live in this brain. So I mean, just to
close that thought to me? How often? Actually I talked
about this sometimes, but how often is it that you

(13:16):
will be in a situation? And I think it's funny
because the show is obviously the most relatable example for
all of us, But how often can you be in
a situation and you you like say something, do something
and you look back and you like have this like
guilt or shame or just like you in your own
brain questioning like every like I did it last night, right,

(13:37):
I went out with some friends. I don't know what.
We did a bourbon tasting, so I drink a bunch
of bourbon and I'm talking and I'm just talking all
night and I woke up this morning like what in
the world did I say last night? Like I got
so vulnerable that, like they're probably scared to death today.
And I say this because of relating it back to
the show. How hard was it to watch some of
this stuff back? Um? I probably do that, Like on

(13:58):
a daily basis. I say something and I'll just like something.
Sometimes I also just say the wrong things, but I
will say something and I'll walk away from the situation.
I'm like, oh, dear god, what did I just say?
Like what did I just do? Like are they going
to interpret that weird? Are they going to be mad
at me? Like I do it every day? Um, watching
the show back, there's so many times where I just

(14:19):
cringe and I'm like, oh, I can't even watch it,
Like you know, I'm hard on myself. And whenever I
guess it was less sufur bachelor because I'm the bachelor.
They just kind of had me be funny and stuff
like that. I mean, there were some things that you know,
offended some people, but uh, I don't know. In Paradise
for me was like cringe, e I don't know why.

(14:40):
I just I can't even watch it again. All right, Demmy,
I want to get back into your childhood before we
move on to your bachelor experience. But we're going to
do that right after this break. DEMI, what age were

(15:06):
you when your mom went to prison? Um, So that's
a little unclear for me. Um. You know, parents like
I want to protect you whenever you're a kid, and
that kind of information, you know, like especially me, like
I was just this super adorable little blonde girl like
running around. I think the last thing they wanted to
tell me it was like, your mom was going to prison.

(15:26):
So it was sometime whenever I was younger. She went
for a couple of years, Like I didn't see her
for a while, and I didn't know why. Um. But yeah,
so whenever I was under ten, Like I really couldn't
even tell you how old I was because I didn't
even know until after years after it had happened. Um,
and then she went back, Uh it was it was, yeah,

(15:50):
so I was twenty two, I guess whenever she went
in the second time, one or twenty two. Um, and
then she got out, you know, whenever I was on
the show, and then Um, she she went back. She's
in prison right now. Oh no, I'm so sorry. Yeah,
it is what it is, um, but she'll be out
in May. It was just she like violated probation or something,

(16:14):
failed a drug test or something. Are you comfortable sharing
with us why she went to prison the other two times? Um?
Like sorry, did you ask me why she went to
prison the other two times? Yeah? Because you can google
it and find out. I'm not exactly sure. It had
something to do with like embezzlement, fraud and you know,

(16:35):
something to do with that stealing money from somebody. It's weird,
right because when I was prepp just an alter, when
I was prepping for this podcast, I was like, I'm
gonna laugh my brains off talking to you, and I
think we still will. There's a lot of funny things here.
But the beauty of you is that you're complex, and
we all are, right, We're all complex at some level.

(16:57):
But like your story right away is like I'm just
sitting here, I don't know, really happy to be talking
to you. I guess would be the thing, like I'm
gonna learn a lot from you today, and I know
Ashley is as well. Um, how did this? How does
having this is gonna feel so insensitive, but like, how
does having growing up knowing that your mom is in prison? Like,
how does that affect you as a human? Um? Yeah,

(17:21):
that's I guess that's the best way to say it. Um.
I it affected me like not having her like present
and like you know, making bad decisions and stuff like
not having that like nurture. It definitely kind of made
me like a little bit harder and I'm like a
little bit colder. And also like I had to. You know,
my dad took care of me so well, like the

(17:42):
best he ever or he or anyone else ever could,
but you know, he had to work too, so there
was a lot of things that like I had to
do that normally moms would do. And so I did
a lot of things for myself. So like now, if
somebody doesn't do things from the for themselves, they're like,
you know, like they have their mom doing a bunch
of stuff for them. Still, I like jealous that I
didn't have that, and so it makes me a little

(18:02):
bitter and I'm like, you can't do anything yourself. But
then I'm like I'm sorry, I'm just I know that
I'm just jealous that I never got to experience that. Um,
but it I mean it definitely like cause a lot
of like mommy issues, Like me and my brother always
like joke about it. Um, just because like loving, like
putting so much love and having so much love for

(18:24):
this woman who you like, you know, you look up
to her so much and you just want her to
like be around and just like love you back the
way you love her and like constantly chasing her. And
it hurt. It hurt really really bad. And I mean
I used to cry about it like every night as
a kid, but I just now, you know, I I

(18:49):
don't want to ever, like you know, as an adult,
you just kind of get more mature about it. And
it's like I don't want to make my dad feel
discredited because you know, like I feel so bad. I
was always crying about my mom to my dad and
he's over there doing everything for me, and so I
don't know because I feel guilty about that. So um
now I just like sing his prices and you know,

(19:10):
he's like my best little buddy. I love that man.
How was it being raised by a father during your
teenage years when it came to dating, body changes and
all that? I definitely just kept it all to myself. Um.
I didn't really date that much. Like I would have
like two week long little boyfriends that I would just
see in the hallway or something. I didn't really date

(19:31):
anyone seriously. Um, And honestly, I was kind of uh,
I was not a very good person in high school
because I would just they called me heartbreak Demi because
I would just like talk to a guy for two
weeks and then I was like, Okay, I'm over it,
and then I'm like, who's the next one? Who's the
next one? And I don't know why I did that,
but it was cruel. Um. I think I just like

(19:52):
I was into like the chase, and then once the
chase was over, I was like, Okay, like next next chase,
because I mean, I mean, it's a terrible, terrible way
to be and I know that and I would never
do that now. Um. But I think it was just
kind of like liking the attention, and I knew that
I wasn't going to really like hang out with them
probably outside of school that much, because I you know,

(20:14):
I my dad probably wouldn't be too cool with it
unless he knew the guy. And then I was always
doing volleyball stuff and it was kind of just like
I liked crushing on people. Um, but I definitely hurt
some people along the way, and that's you know, I'll
have guilt about that forever. Did you have a mother

(20:35):
figure at all during those high school years? Did your
dad ever remarry? Yes? So, whenever I was thirteen, my
dad started dating this woman, Bobby, And she was the
best thing that ever happened to us. Uh, she's incredible.
They're still together and everything. Um, she definitely helped me
be like more girly and stuff because I was like
a total tom boy because I was just growing up

(20:55):
with my dad and my brother and I was like
my dad would try his best, you know, but I
was I don't. I always wanted to like wear my
brother's clothes and stuff. Like I was just a total tomboy.
Um and so like she definitely girled me up and
like loves me so so much. Like it's so cool.
She just took me in as her own, like she
fully believes I am her daughter, and like she is

(21:16):
like my mother, Like she was my mom ever since
I was thirteen. What did that do for you? I
mean to have a thirteen like to have that woman
walk into your life. It was awesome, Like I finally
got to have like a motherly figure and got to
have like somebody to like talk to, like you know,
girly stuff with and like uncomfortable conversations I don't want

(21:39):
to talk to my dad about, you know. Um I
really needed it. And then she has like this amazing
family too, and all like I love all of them,
they love all of me. They took us right in
as well. It was very like healing. You mentioned playing
with boys hearts in high school. When did you realize

(22:00):
you were interested in possibly men and women? Um? I
I kind of like had like whenever I was little,
like you know, whenever you're a young kid and you
start playing on the computer and you're looking at things
you shouldn't be looking at. I was like looking at
naked women, and I was interested in it and I
liked I liked it. And uh that's was probably like

(22:21):
fifth grade maybe started that, and but not much and
then uh, it all started with because one time I
went to demi dot com, like just went to it
and it was like a porn site and I didn't
know obviously, and it gave me so many viruses. But
I was just like, oh, I wouldn't go to my name.
And then I was like, hum, that was interesting. I
didn't mind that. Um. And so then in seventh grade

(22:43):
there was like a rumor that went around that because
it bullies that I liked girls, and everyone was like
making fun of me, and like what is it called?
Is it called? It is ostracizing the right word whenever
you sure, yeah, it works okay, um, and like you know,
it was just torture, and so I was like, no,
I don't know, I don't like whatever. And then that

(23:04):
kind of just like I don't even know who started that,
so weird. But then that just kind of like went away,
and I was like, okay, if you like, nobody nobody
knows about that, Like it kind of just everyone forgot
about it. Um. And then I just kind of like
I thought about it a lot, but I always thought
it was wrong because that's just you know, it's a
different day and age now. Back then it was less okay,

(23:25):
especially like me, little church girl, like that wouldn't have
been chill at the church. Now, I'm sure probably is fine,
but I was scared, you know, I didn't want to
even entertain the thought, so watched a bunch of girl
on girl porn through high school and stuff, and then
made my first like move or like acted on it
my freshman year of college. And it was funny because

(23:48):
it was with a girl. We were in college, but
like we went to school together one year and whenever
we were like in sixth grade or something, and I
was like, hey, funny seeing you here. What was it
like when when you first realized it? So, you know,
you watched uh you know, the videos and you want
look the pictures and it was intriguing you. But when

(24:08):
did you realize, like when did it hit you? Oh,
I'm actually into women as well? Um. I think it
was like the first, like the very first time I
like kissed a girl and not like drunk kissed a
girl at a party, but like intimately kissed a girl.
It's like, I don't know, it was crazy, like fireworks
in my stomach. I was like, oh my gosh, I
loved that. So is that your freshman year? Yeah? Okay,

(24:33):
what was your first kiss with the boy? Uh? Seventh grade?
Did you have fireworks there? No? Well no I did. Uh.
It was just I think about like the first, you know,
the first time you ever make out. You're like, I've
never made out with anyone, Like I don't know what
to do, and I like made out this kid and

(24:53):
it was just a terrible makeout and so it was
just awkward. But like I think that I honestly like
my first kiss with the boils like three the first time.
I like a little three year old boyfriend. I like
to call my kindergarten kiss my first kiss too, instead
of the nineteen year old kiss. Um, you call yourself

(25:14):
the queer queen. You know you're you're a queer queen
in paradise. Can you tell our audience with the difference
between buy fluid and queer as So I call myself
a queer queen. And what I mean by like queer
is that like I know that I'm different, I know
that I'm not the norm. And then sexual fluidity is

(25:36):
like you're flowing either way. You know you are gonna
change your mind, however you're feeling like whatever your desires are,
your sexuality flows with that. It's never like constant or
like consistent, like flowing around. And then like gender fluidity
is the same concept, except you're just fluid and flowing
with like whatever gender you're feeling like whatever you're identifying as,

(26:01):
like you know, that day or that whatever. It's just
flowing back and forth and maybe flowing forth for a
while and back a little in whatever, just fluid um.
And then bisexual is being attracted to both men and women?
Do you think that was? And you identify as? You know,

(26:23):
I don't. I guess, like this is so hard for
me because like I don't really know what to identify as.
I guess you could say bisexual, But that doesn't mean
that I wouldn't date a trans person, because I would,
you know, like or someone who doesn't want to identify
as any gender. Like I would be open to dating
anybody if I had a connection with them. So that's
why I just kind of say queer because I'm like

(26:44):
just not the norm, like whatever. Okay, So you being
queer never came up on Colton season? Why was that?
I was embarrassed and ashamed and I didn't want to
like weird the girls out or something, you know. Uh,
I just wasn't ready to come out. Honestly, did did

(27:04):
anybody know, like any of the producers in any anybody? Yeah,
some of the producers knew, Um, like towards the end
of it, and then like my closest friends knew, Like
I'm sure, I'm sure I told Hannah at some point, Um,
but I probably, like you know, just kind of try
to do it casually, like, oh, yeah, I've dated women before.

(27:27):
She's like what damny, Uh, your mom got out of
prison for the second time while you're filming The Bachelor
and you were all the way in Asia. How did
it feel not being able to Would you normally have
seen her when she got out of prison? Now that
we see that this is like a thing that she's
done a couple of times, Like would you normally go
and see her right away? Or was the phone call

(27:49):
kind of like pretty much what you would do? Um?
As the like years go on and I get older
and older, I definitely have seen her less and less
if like the right thing to do would have been
to go and see her, you know, Um, it just
wasn't convenient for me, And I just was like a
little bit selfish about it at this point, just because

(28:10):
it's like it hurts, Like there's so many emotions, like
seeing her every time, it's like just so emotional, and
it's just really hard. It's really draining, and so I
was in such like a fun place, you know, like
I was coming off the Bachelor, like you know, my

(28:30):
life is completely changing, like the show is about to air,
and I didn't want to feel those negative feelings, Like
I just wanted to like live in what my life
it was then like and what i'd like you know,
done for myself and like and just kind of like
relish in the joy and like the excitement and not

(28:54):
like be bummed out by this emotional trauma. And uh,
I guess kind of just like avoiding it though, is
really not the right thing to do, and it would
have taken a lot less out of me, out of
my life and like myself than like it. How do
I say that? Right? Like it would have cost me

(29:15):
less then like the amount I would be giving her,
Like I would be giving her such an amazing thing.
She would have loved to have seen me, That's all
she wanted. She wants to see me, and it I
should have done the right thing and like immediately gone.
I just chose to be selfish in that moment, and
I feel guilty about it, um, but I mean I

(29:37):
don't know. I try to do what I can. I
like have a little video calls with her now my brother,
I don't think it's talking to her at all, which
makes me sad because I know she's sad. It's just
like a lot of emotions to take in. There's and
I feel them so strongly, Like I I feel for
her because she's she knows that she's like sucking up,
and she knows that she's not doing what she's supposed

(29:59):
to be doing. She knows that she wasn't there for us,
you know, growing up, and she's done a lot of
people wrong, and I know she has like so much
guilt for that, and like probably a lot of like
self hatred and stuff and depression. And it's just like
taking on all those emotions and like thinking about it
even it's it like makes me want to cry, it

(30:22):
makes me hurt. It's just it's a lot. Do you
take on those emotions personally? Yeah, But that's kind of
why I like avoid thinking about it a lot or
like talking about it a lot. Like it's because it
it does weigh on me like so much, Like I
take them in so much, and I get so worried

(30:42):
about her, and I feel for her, and like, you know,
I just like I don't know what to do to help,
and I you know, I could be angry and I
could like, you know, blame her and all this stuff,
but it everybody in her life is angry with her

(31:03):
always and hurt by her and disappointed, and like she
just I think what she needs for me is just
like I'm never going to be mad at you. I
love you, and all I'm gonna like give you his
love and forgiveness. M Well, speaking of forgiveness, Um, Demi,

(31:24):
I would love to talk to you just a few minutes,
if you're okay with it, about your faith and what
role that plays in your life. Now. I think it's
super would be super interesting for me and the listeners.
Are you good with that? Okay? Perfect? Well, hey, let's
take a break. When we come back, let's talk to
Demmy about her faith, growing up in a conservative household
and where that stands today. We'll be back with Demmy

(31:47):
Burnett on the Almost Famous in depth. We're back with
Demi Burnette. Demi, you had mentioned at the very beginning
how much of a rural faith and a church community

(32:08):
played in your life, and uh, I can relate with that, right,
that is something that I hold very dear to my heart.
People of the podcast definitely know that they're sick of
me talking about it. So I'm not going to get
into my own personal beliefs, but I do want to
hear from you on what role now church plays in
your life, knowing that for so much of it it

(32:29):
was it was a three day a week thing. As
you said, Um, yeah, so I haven't even been to
church since I graduated high school. I don't think, Um,
and it wasn't. It's like it's because I just like
don't know, and I have this thing where I am
like if so I grew up in a Baptist church,

(32:53):
it was they were wonderful people. I had great memories
church camp, you know all that stuff, a lot of
great friends from there. And I I didn't like going
just because it was like, Okay, we always have to
go to church and you gotta be quiet there and
it's like boring as a kid and whatever. But there
was a lot of times where I really really was
into it and I like loved going and I like

(33:14):
loved like worshiping and like all of this stuff. I
loved it. Um, it would be like a post summer
camp high because like we would go to a church
camp and it was it was so fun. It was
amazing and like a bunch of and they made it
so fun at church camp, and so you know, you
would come back and everyone was like, yeah, we're like
super into this now, and like, uh, I got a

(33:35):
lot of really great friendships from it and a lot
of you know, good life lessons and stuff. What I
have a like what I struggle with getting on board
with with church, like with picking a religion or picking
a faith is because if there you know, because who
am I to say this is what's actually the truth,

(33:56):
this is what is right? Because there's millions of people
that are believe a thousand million percent that their faith
is right. So like how do I how can I
be like no, minds right, you know, like no, this
is what happened. But at the end of the day, too,
I want to find some kind of faith because I
know that, you know, it's not necessarily about like maybe

(34:16):
like a logically making sense out of all of it
and like trying to like scientifically prove how this could
be real. I think it's more like a good feeling
and like, you know, a good way to like direct
your life and like keep you on track and you
know and like hold you to a standard and it
feels good to like believe in something. I mean, would

(34:40):
you say then, because as a Baptist, if anybody's listening
and they don't know exactly what that means, it's it
is more conservative, super conservative, more fundamental in nature, so
they would not be uh the church it is uh
liberal and thought thought at all. Baptists would stay more conservative.
And I don't say liberal and conservative politically, like this
is more in terms of like socially, um, but they

(35:03):
do believe in Jesus, so Jesus is at the core
of uh it's a Christian church. So, uh do you
miss Jesus? Like what world does Jesus then play in
your life today? Um? I think like, yeah, I missed Jesus,
like I missed that relationship and like that feeling like
you know that there's something out there that like has

(35:26):
your back and wants the best for you, like no
matter what, and like unconditionally loves you. Um. I think
it's really it's sweet and it's comforting. Um. I guess
I just kind of avoid thinking about it at all
because I feel guilty because it's like, you know, raised
my whole life fully believing in this, like full fledged

(35:48):
no doubts, and then doubting as an adult and like
just avoiding it. Uh. I don't know. It's scary because
it's a part of me is like maybe there's nothing
out there. Then there's part of me that's like maybe
there is, and you're betraying them right now and you're
going to burn in hell. It's like it's so I'm
just like, Okay, I'm not going to think about that,

(36:09):
I guess, and I'll just figure it out along the way,
and you know, maybe one day, like not I don't
want anything like bad to happen to me, but like,
you know, maybe I'll just like find faith one day,
or like you know, find so you know, I go
go to church with somebody or like learn about another
religion and like I feel really drawn to that, and
you know, maybe I'm like, oh aha, this is it.

(36:31):
This is what I want to put like all of
my energy into and like fully believe this or maybe not,
Like I don't know, Um, I really would like to
like have a faith and believe in something whole wholeheartedly.
I'm just your stories your story is not like abnormal, right,

(36:52):
I mean I'm sure there's people out there listening right now,
going yeah, like shaking their heads like this is demmis
speaking my life into me right now. So I just
appreciate you sharing it. Um. It's interesting to me just
to you know, to hear kind of how past go
different directions, both good in their own ways. But thanks
for sharing. I know it's not always easy to talk about,

(37:13):
and I'm sure there is some like you know, thoughts
that come into your head as you're even speaking about it, um,
that do make you feel guilty. But I don't ask
you that to make you feel gilty. I'm just in yeah,
no worries. I like that you're pushing me a little
out of my comfort zone. I like it speaking of
being out of your comfort zone. Colton says in his

(37:34):
book that you took him out of his comfort zone
and that you, especially that first week or two, was
someone that he couldn't really picture developing a romantic relationship with.
How do you feel looking back on your relationship with Colton? Um?
I think it's funny. I think it's really funny. Um.
I really liked pushing him out of his comfort zone because,

(37:56):
like you know, he's so sweet and gentle and I
don't know. I was just having fun with it, Like
I loved making him squirm and be like what are
you doing next? Like what is dem we going to
torture me with tonight? Um? I was really just having
a lot of fun with it, and um it did
like take a serious turn for me. Uh and that

(38:20):
was uncomfortable. But I think it's because you're in that
environment and like all you're doing is thinking about Colton
Underwood for seven and you've got people telling you like
you have to like, you know, you need to show
him that you're serious and like all this stuff, like
you need to, you know, make sure he knows how
you feel. And like, I don't know, it's just a

(38:41):
lot of like in your head and you're just like, gosh,
maybe you're right. Maybe I maybe I do really like
this guy. Maybe I am falling in love with this guy.
And then you get home and you're like, yeah, I'm
not sad at all about him. I miss my friends.
That's how I feel like anyone who's not top four
goes back. I'm feeling when you say that it took

(39:02):
a turn. Was that when you had the first phone
cam with your mom with Colton on the phone with you. Yeah,
it's definitely around then. Um, everything was getting emotional to like,
and then you kind of start getting like insecure because
you're like, wow, girls are dwindling down. I've been really
confident every week that i'd still be here, and I'm

(39:25):
kind of starting to second guess it because I don't know,
I don't feel like we're having these really deep, meaningful conversations. Um,
and so then you know, those insecurities for me just
kind of make me emotional, and then I start feeling
vulnerable and then I start freaking out and yeah, then
my whole personality disappears, and I'm just a wreck. You

(39:48):
were you basically told you can't talk to your mom
unless Colton to the phone with you. Um, no, well
maybe we're gonna maybe maybe I was. I can't really
remember because was just sad. I was like crying because
they told me that they got ahold of her and
so I was just like crying and I was just
really excited. So I don't really remember how the conversation

(40:10):
went down, and I probably was a little tips a
little tipsy. So you leave Colton, he dumps you after
you say I love you. I want not affect you?
Did that affect you more than just a couple of days. Yeah,
I was shot to the ego and then the whole
world how to watch me get rejected? It was terrible,

(40:32):
but it it definitely just made me feel rejected ultimately,
and like the embarrassment of being dumped does not outweigh
like the like hurt in my heart of like wow,
somebody doesn't want me, like you know, And and at
that point in my life, like I had been in
a lot of like short lived like flings and relationships
and things and like where guys ended up not wanting me,

(40:55):
and it just doesn't feel good at all. And it um,
it's embarrassing to watch, but it's it's also like still
to this day, whenever I watch it, I feel emotional,
I feel hurt. Like it's like I can just put
myself right back there and feel that pain of like rejection,
like rejection, I don't know, it's one of the biggest

(41:17):
things that hurts me. Yeah, how how do I say this?
De me? We want again? We started this podcast out
Demmi Burnett is somebody that we think of, we think
of funny and quirky, and I think back in the
day you you confronted me on it. But I think
I called you like the lovable past Um that like

(41:42):
was just always like getting into people and but like
you're lovable at the same time. I don't know how
you do that. That's still beyond me. Um. But what
I'm learning right now after hearing this, and this is
unexpected for me, is that like you feel everything, yeah,

(42:02):
very intensely. How am how am I as a fan
of you supposed to process your story? Then that's been
a part of your childhood now through the show. If
I watch you, and I'm assuming this is how you
are in real life as like this funny pest like
friend that you love and that you just went around
because you always are doing You're always down for anything.

(42:24):
But yet if I really got to know you, I
would see that you feel everything. Yeah, Um, what is
your question? So how am I supposed to know? Like?
How am I supposed to process that? After seeing your
story play out on the show? Like how am I
supposed to process your Bachelor experience and moving into Bachelor
in Paradise Because that was a huge thing for you too, obviously, Um,

(42:49):
seeing one side of you on TV, but knowing behind
the scenes, there was a deep, deep hurt feelings and
feelings as a fan, like people that are fans of me,
what they can like take away from this story and
like learning all this stuff about me is just learning
that people are complex and just because like you see

(43:13):
somebody and you think, oh, they must have had the
best life ever. They're so happy, they're so funny, they're
like even kind of like you know, a little pesti
or whatever. Uh, they could have a whole other side
of their life and be like, you know, sometimes I
feel like I'm two different people. Like I have like
my deep, vulnerable, emotional feeling side that is a huge

(43:35):
part of me, and then I have this side of
me that just wants to have fun and make fun
of my friends and you know, just goof around. It's
just like people are complex and like have some forgiveness
and like understanding about other people, Like don't just assume
things about people. UM, get to know people better, like

(43:56):
and give I don't know, give them, give people a chance.
That's what we're doing this. This is exactly why we're
sitting here. This is why I love this so much.
Is going to know you really cool? I like this. Yeah,
we are I am eating up every word you're telling us.
So now, can you tell us about the time that
you met Christian off the show and how fast did

(44:19):
that relationship evolved into a romantic one. Yeah. Um, so
I met Christian at Catherine Agro's house. Um, I was
in l A for something bachelor related and then I, um,
we were just friends, Like she was really cool. Then
I just I think I stayed there maybe one night,
and then I flew home, and then I came back

(44:40):
the next time and was hanging out with her again.
And the first night we were hanging out, uh, we
it's just started making out like by the hot tub,
and then we just kind of like started spending every
time I was in l A. Like I'd spend time
with her. Um, and it was just like really easy
and really comfortable and like yeah, I mean it went

(45:03):
it went pretty fast. But like it wasn't ever. It
wasn't ever. Um, like there was no title on it,
there was no rules. Yeah, it wasn't wasn't official, and
I made it clear that like I had plans and
like we were like having fun. I mean it was
definitely emotional like two but um, yeah, like she knew

(45:29):
what it was, and like, yeah, what do you say
to the fans that think that you should have stayed
and pursued a relationship with her off camera since you
were so emotionally involved. Um, I understand that. I could
see why people would say that obviously, Like I get

(45:50):
that side of it. I didn't want to leave. I
wanted to you know, have my free vacation and like,
you know, not have my phone, so like I could
focus on our relationship too, because it's so much different
in the real world. And like, I don't know, I
liked being there and I liked, uh having people talking

(46:11):
to me about my relationship to like producers and stuff
like maybe helping me make sense of things. Like I
had a really great producer and he would just tell me, like,
you're being an a and I'd be like, okay, thank you,
because like I would try to justify it if I
were in the real world, you know, like I would
find some way to be like, well, I'm being an
asshole because she's doing this, because this is like, you know,
instead of just me like I need to just change

(46:33):
the way I'm thinking because I'm being a jerk. Um.
So yeah, it was nice to have that help and
that guidance through your relationship. A lot of fans got
angry at Bachelor production for bringing Christian into Paradise for you.
They said it was one of those few times where
they actually felt that the producers were meddling with a
relationship and they felt that was obvious. How do you

(46:56):
respond to that? I mean, they it it's true, Like
I mean, they brought her into paradise and they totally
like made that happen, and so like, yeah, I'm sorry,
Like I I don't think, like it's not it's hard
because like I'm biased on it. Um, Like I didn't
think that that was that important, like that little detail.

(47:19):
Like I thought what was important was like sharing like
our relationship and like our love story and stuff like that,
and being able to see like you know, I like
being able to see me actually like loving somebody and
like wanting to like be with somebody. Uh, like outweighs

(47:42):
the minor detail that they did bring in an outsider,
but I totally get it. They're they're justified and like
feeling angry about that, Like I get it, and I
apologize for like you know, being there, but like whatever,
I mean, they were making TV at any costs. I guess,

(48:03):
like you know, from my knowledge, I actually tell from
a wrong This is the first time we've seen a
same sex couple on the Bachelor franchise right now in
the US. I think that they've had in other countries
in the U. S Okay, how I mean, how did
you get to the point did me to be a
trailblazer here? Like? How? What? When did it click? I'm

(48:26):
going to be the first and I'm okay with this? Um? Well,
it was really uncomfortable. Um but like I don't know,
I was just like I was ready. I was ready
to talk about it, like I didn't do it on
the Bachelor, and there was like you know, hiding it,
and like having this secrecy was like really getting to
me because it was like what if people find out

(48:47):
not from me, Like I want people to know from
me first, like you know, out of my mouth. I
don't want someone to take that away from me because
this is like my story and this is my life.
So I I've been you know, seeing Christian beforehand, and
like then we started like filming Paradise stuff and I
was like, well, like let me like tell the world

(49:10):
about this because like you know, it's relevant right now
to me, Like I actually am seeing like a woman
right now and stuff. So it's like perfect, I'm like
in the in the vibe of it and everything, you know,
and I'm ready to like not hide it anymore. And yeah,
and then it just it was the most emotional thing ever.
Like I was so scared. I was scared of like

(49:31):
what my parents were gonna say, you know, how they
were going to respond, and then my grandparents and like
all this conservative family that I have, and uh, that
was probably the scariest thing. Like the world. I was like,
the world will probably be pretty accepting of it, because
that's where we're at in this day and age. But
it's like I don't know about my conservative family members,

(49:52):
who like their opinions matter to me and I value them,
Like I don't know what they're gonna think of me,
and I don't want to disappoint them or embarrass them.
But like with coming out with this, so it was
really scary. The other contestants, of course, aren't allowed to
bring in relationships from home and date in Paradise. But
you say, and I think I agree with you, and

(50:12):
this is what I defended you about. When the show
is airing. Is there was really no other way to
introduce the same sex couple onto the show then honestly
manipulating it a little bit and bringing someone in from
the real world. So is that what you're saying, Like
it was the importance should override the unfairness to the
other contestants. Yeah, definitely, I mean that's what I think.

(50:34):
I'm not you know, I don't want to try to
change anyone's opinion on it or whatever. I just that's
what I think. And it's kind of like, let's just
get over it and just like be happy and like
celebrate the fact that we got to see two women
like fall in love with each other. Right, Okay, Well,
you guys doing fall in off and you get engaged
at the end of the show. And I feel like

(50:56):
a lot of people were wondering watching it, if you
continue to date in the real world over that summer
and not in Paradise, would you guys have ever gotten
serious enough to the point that you would get engaged?
No way, probably not, definitely not Okay? So then what

(51:16):
went wrong? You did get engaged? Um? As actually just mentioned,
how did it end? Um? Not good? Definitely not good. Um,
She's Christian is very, very loving and she's like the
best girlfriend, the best partner to be with. She would

(51:37):
do anything for you. And um, I didn't reciprocate that
I wasn't that I wasn't as good to her as
she was to me. I was kind of distant. Um,
I was overwhelmed. I was freaked out, you know, I
was scared and like going through you know, all of

(51:59):
my family and like everyone finding out about um, like
you know, me being open to anything, liking girls, liking boys,
liking whatever. That was stressing me out. And I had
a lot of family that was not a lot, but
a couple people in my family like badgering me, texting
me with how disappointed they were and all this stuff.
And I don't know, like I I don't know. I

(52:24):
just I wasn't. I wasn't in it anymore. I wasn't.
I wasn't in it, and she was so in it
and she was so good to me, And like that
would make me feel guilty because I was like, I'm
not feeling the same anymore, and like I feel bad
that I don't feel the same anymore, because like I
made a commitment to you, and like I feel like
a garbage human being and uh, yeah, I just it

(52:50):
was really like sucking with me and like I was
speaking with her and that wasn't fair to her. She
deserved way better than me, and like I wanted to
be with her more than anything, and like I kept trying,
and I kept trying, and like I just wasn't I
wasn't feeling it anymore, like I wasn't feeling like I
was before. Like I don't know it went away. I

(53:12):
probably let it get away because I was so in
my head and dealing with other things that were going on,
and I missed my friends. You know, I didn't see
my friends that much anymore, like I would try to,
and I was always worried about like hurting her feelings
and stuff. And I just don't think that I was
anywhere near ready for what I signed myself up for,

(53:35):
and like what I did, and I feel terribly about it,
Like I wish I could go back and do it better,
you know what I mean, treat her way better and
like she deserves because she deserves way better than what
I gave her. Um And yeah, I mean she's she's

(53:58):
in a new relationship now and she looks so happy
and so that makes me very happy. I just feel
really bad that I was that person I had become
in the relationship. You know, how rocky was your relationship
when she proposed back to you on the reunion show,
And did that just make you a little bit irritated

(54:19):
that she did that maybe as like a saving grace,
the last ditch effort, you know, I don't. I it
definitely made me angry, but I think it like irritated.
And I think that made me irritated because, um, I'm like,
I'm kind of like, no, not kind of. I'm a
selfish person sometimes and like that was like my thing,

(54:41):
you know. I was like I proposed to you, like
you know, and then I was like why, like why
why did you do it? Like that makes no sense?
Like that was you know, people don't propose to each
other like that normally. Like I don't know, I was
being a bit about it. Essentially. I was just irritated
about the situation. And I was just oh, and like
I'm such a brat, Like I didn't like the ring
at all, and so I was just yeah, so you know,

(55:05):
I was just a brat, and um, I was being
braddy about it and just irritated Uh, in general, because
like once once I start, you know, you start not
to feel it with somebody, you kind of get irritable
with everything they do. Uh. So I mean I feel
really really bad about that too, because it was a

(55:26):
really nice, sweet gesture and I like made her probably
feel like, you know, she shouldn't have done it or
made her feel bad about it, and like that's so
not fair. Mhm, de me um. Let's take a break
here once again. I know a life's been crazy post

(55:46):
breakup with Christian. A little recap. You have a new boyfriend. Uh,
you've made some good friends in Bachelor Nation. Uh. We've
still got a lot more to talk about, but we
appreciate you so far. We'll be back on the Almost
Famous in depth podcast with Demi Burnett. We're back on

(56:14):
the Almost Famous podcast with Demi Burnette. We've sat down
with Demi so far and she's just shared some some
just really amazing things to us. It's it's been complex
and complex and like a good healthy way. I'm saying
that because we all have stories and Dimmi reminded us earlier,
probably the coolest thing to me that I'll take away
from this is you saying that people are just complex

(56:35):
in our stories are complex. I think that's just a
really beautiful reminder to me. So thank you for that. Um.
Did We've talked about a lot of heavy stuff kind
of I think so far, so we're gonna pick it
up a bit and know life's really good for you
right now, at least I think it is. But you've
also made some made some friends and bachelination. You've made
the headlines many times for your friendship with Nick Vile.

(56:56):
Where did that come from? Like, how did that happen?
What was your relationship? Um? So, I was a huge
Nick fan. I loved his season of The Bachelor. I
was like obsessed with him. Um. I remember telling Ashley
that the first time she interviewed me, Uh, it was funny. Um.
And so then he asked me to be on his
podcast and I was like freaking out. I was so excited. UM.

(57:18):
And then we just kind of like developed this like
brother sister relationship. Like he always was like looking out
for me, and he like, you know, helps me out
in the industry. Like he's you know, I got to
go to the Golden Globes because of him. Uh. He's
just a really good friend to me and like, we
always just make sure that we like look out for
each other because I know that we both do controversial
things and you know, a lot of people don't like him,

(57:40):
a lot of people don't like me. Uh, and so
we just have each other's back. Um. Yeah, it's always
been strictly, strictly friendship. We've never ever done anything. Um.
I've definitely asked him to make out with me once
and he said no, what to feel, like, what you

(58:00):
needed that? I had? We ate, uh dim sum or something,
and then I was like drunk off a wine. I
was like, I wanted my gout and He's like, no,
get out of the car. The only place you go
to eat with with Nick would be dim Zum. That's
where he takes all this front where he takes everyone,
takes everyone there. I know. It's so funny. We all
joke about it, like me and all of his other friends.

(58:22):
I'm like, you go to dim Sum with Nick recently?
Is that good? It's good. It's not that good. It's
like it's weakly dim sum. He loves it. I want
to ask you about being a representative for the just
the whole l g pt q Q community when it

(58:42):
comes to the franchise. How has that felt. Are there
any really special stories that you have to share about
breaking down that barrier for the show? Um? You know,
at first it felt really crazy and overwhelming, but now
you know, it just kind of feels like normal. And
also I don't really do anything with like the Bachelor
franchise much recently, you know, Like, uh, I feel like

(59:03):
ever since I got a boyfriend not in Bachelor Nation,
that you just don't want anything to do with me. Um.
But I I can't really say, like, I don't even
know how I feel about it, Like honestly, I I
don't know what to think. The only thing that I
will say, like, I do feel proud because of I've
had people come up to me with their stories about like,

(59:26):
you know, one time, this mother came up to me
at Dancing with the Stars and she said her daughter
came out to her because of me, and she was crying,
Like this mother's crying in front of me, and like
that was just like so moving, and I was just
so proud that I was able to do that for
somebody out there. And there's been like a lot of
stories that are similarly d m s. People thanking me
and stuff like that. So it feels really good that

(59:48):
I can make people feel comfortable with something that is
like one of the most uncomfortable, hardest things to do
in the world. That is awesome. Um, there have been
a lot of fans who wanted you to be the Bachelorette.
How do you feel like they would have casted that
kind of season if you were in a relationship right now,
which we'll get to you in a minute. And um,
how could they integrate more LGBTQ people into the franchise?

(01:00:13):
You think? You know? I don't know what they would
have done. I know what people would have wanted as
like half guys half girls, um, which I mean that
would have been super fun. I would have loved that. Um.
But then they bring up the issue of them hooking
up with each other, uh and stuff like that, which
is like, okay, yeah, maybe that that would happen too.
So I don't, I don't know what they could do.

(01:00:35):
I think about it a lot. Um, I just I don't.
I don't know how they could do it. I I
don't have that. I need a team. I need a
whole team of people to help me come up with that. Well,
you won't be the Bachelor at anytime soon, because we
got Claire Knacks. And you are in a relationship with
a new guy, Slater, Yes, that's him. How did you

(01:01:00):
guys meet? Um? One day Katie texted me and Katie said, Hey,
do you want to go to lunch with me and
my friends? And I was like, yeah, sure, And so
I go up to the car and I opened the
door and there is Slater and my I couldn't even breathe.
I was like, what the hell, Katie, you didn't tell
me this dude was super hot Um, and we like

(01:01:21):
hung out all day. We went to eat because Katie
and him have been friends for years, so it's like
me and him, Katie and this other guy t K
and we went to go eat. Then we went to
the mall. Then we went and got like Gin and Tonics.
Then we went back to Slater's mom's house here in Calabasas,
and then we um drank wine and we made a
TikTok and then we hooked up and then I have

(01:01:46):
been with him every night since then. You are literally
quarantined with your new boyfriend and your boyfriend's a family's house.
How do you go from that early stage of dating
to every single waging moment together. I don't know, because
it's it's so crazy because I'm not normally like this.
I don't I can't really handle this much time with anybody.

(01:02:07):
But he just has such a unique personality and he's
just so fun and I just love being around in
my love just watching him because he just interests the
out of me, Like he's just the most fascinating person.
And his family is incredible. I met his mom the
first night that we met, obviously, um, and she's just
a rock star mom. And then he has his sisters.

(01:02:29):
So it's just I don't know. I would have never
imagined I could be doing this because this kind of
thing would really intimidate me. Um, But it just like,
I don't know, it just kind of happened, like we
just got so close and then now I'm so close
with his family and it's I don't know, it's the
craziest thing. It sounds like insane and unhealthy, which it
might be a little bit unhealthy, but UM, I don't know.

(01:02:50):
I wouldn't have it any other way. How's it going
so far? What's it like living with his family? Um,
it's great, Like I get along with that. He went
super well, the person I probably get like, don't get
along with all the time. It's just later because you know,
you just start having stupid little bickers. Um. But yeah,
I mean it's it's so much fun. Like his sister

(01:03:11):
and me, we have so much fun together, like both
of his sisters as older sisters, like my new bestie,
when you just hang out all the time and just
do stupid together, like just get drunk or whatever we
want to do. And then we like we started this
new thing where we're having like theme nights. So the
other day we did like a Gatsby theme night, and
I didn't really expect like everyone to participate, but everyone

(01:03:32):
did and it was so cool and it was so
much fun. Um. Yeah, everyone's very very chill, like a
you know how sometimes you're around people and you're like, oh,
I gotta like watch myself around them, you know, and
like gotta like filter yourself and everything. Not here, like
everyone's accepting of everything, no filters needed. Uh, It's just

(01:03:53):
it's great. It's very very relaxed. So good. That's awesome.
I'm with my I'm with my fiance's family as well,
so I know it can be a test and it's
it's actually been great for us too. So yeah, well, hey,

(01:04:13):
that's you know what, Tommy. We just did like a
wild run through your whole Well, I know those things
we skipped like most of your life to this point.
That is a wild ride, Demi. I I love this
part of the podcast. Uh, since we've gone through everything,

(01:04:33):
it's now your term to turn to take the stage.
There's people out there listening that are just huge fans
of you and they love you dearly, and Ashley and
I are to those people. We're gonna give you like
thirty seconds to a minute here, Uh, to just give
the fans a message before Ashley takes it away with
her famous rapid fire questions, Demi, what would you want

(01:04:55):
to tell your fans right now? I would want to
tell my fans that I love them. I think it's
crazy that I even have fans. It's unbelievable still to me,
I never thought that i'd be here. And I love
how supportive they are to me and how loyal they
are to me. And even whenever I doubt myself or

(01:05:17):
you know, I'm feeling kind of low or something like,
they're always there to reassure me. Like if I'm intimidated
by a situation. I have my fans that are like,
you know, like me starting a podcast, and my fans
are like, oh my gosh, you has We've been waiting
for this best part of like the quarantine, like you know,
like this is what we need right now in uh.
And so it's nice to get reassurance. And so I

(01:05:38):
want to thank them all for the reassurance. And I
want them just to you know, keep up with me
and play animal crossing with me, and also make sure
that they take time to love themselves as much as
they love me and the love the people around them.
You know. I think that everybody needs a bit more
love right now. And yeah, but especially of mhm, thanks Tommy.

(01:06:03):
Al Right, every ready for rapid fire m hmm. Okay,
I'm gonna start out with talking about your Instagram name,
Demi not Lovado. I feel like more people know you
as Demi not Lovado than Demi Burnett. And then Demi
Levado ends up becoming a good friend of yours. Can
you describe your friendship with Demi Lvado in two words? Um?

(01:06:29):
Oh gosh, let's see, my friendship with Demi Lavado wholesome
fun and it was just because she was a fan
of the show, right, and she like wanted to date Mike,
and then she just kind of got chummy with you
guys from that season. Yeah, and then we just started

(01:06:50):
hanging out, Like me and Hannah went over there, and
then I just started going over there more often hanging
out with her. Then we went camping together. Uh, so
we all got really close going camping, and like we've
had like cool like you know, like healing things and
stuff at our house. Like it's really it's really wholesome
and it's uh, it's good energy. What's your favorite ice
cream flavor? Strawberry? Interesting. What is your favorite TV show

(01:07:17):
have all time? Game of Thrones? Uh, the most beautiful,
complex storyline. I love it. What's your favorite physical feature
of Slater his body, Oh my gosh, and his smile.
Your favorite scented body wash Dove coconut jasmine yea um.

(01:07:37):
What are your thoughts of the quarantine crew? Uh? Oh,
Hannah and Tyler and all them looks like they're having
a blast. Also feels like this, you know, like the
random strangers that like nobody knows who they are. I'm
like they are I'm I'm thinking they're cloud Chaser's. They're like, oh,

(01:07:58):
we've got to get these TikTok's going out now. I've
got a hand of Brownie Tyler Cameron in the house.
Let me ride that cloud train. That's funny. And lastly,
what is your favorite beauty product? Mm hmmm, probably lip gloss,
like lipstick lip gloss brand. Um. So what I like

(01:08:18):
to do is I like to take this Gnars lipstick
in the color and the shade Barbara, and I like
just this is just like every every five, like every hour.
I do this pretty much because I hate whenever my
lips have like no color on them, you know. So
I just barely dab it like on there, and then
I take a lip gloss and it can literally be
any lip glass that I have, like live lip oils,
They've got cheap stuff like anything, just to like put

(01:08:39):
a little shine gloss on there and it looks like
slightly natural, but it definitely makes it look so my
lips aren't dead perfect. Well, thank you so much, Demi. Yeah,
this in depth podcast was amazing. We truly got to
know you so much better. I'm was really nice, guys.

(01:09:00):
It was very therapeutic. Oh good, that's what we love hearing. Yeah,
it's like I just went to therapy. Thanks. I mean
this was this was great. Um as actually said thank you.
So hey, follow um, follow the lead here. Let's see
if we can do this right. Sometimes people get it
sometimes not just follow Ashley and I'm we did every time.
This has been the almost Famous in Depth podcast with

(01:09:24):
our one of our favorite Bachelor Nation contestants, Demi Burnett.
We'll be back again very soon with another in depth. UM.
I don't know, Ashley, what do you think next two weeks?
We should try to come out with another next month?
Are you thinking within? I would say within two weeks
we should have another in depth. That's awesome. Hey, well
with that, Demi has actually said you were awesome. I've

(01:09:45):
been Ben, I've been Ashley. I've been Demi. We'll talk
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