Ben's Hot Mess of an Engagement Party

We’re throwing an engagement party for Ben and Jess, but it turned out more like a bachelor party straight out of The Hangover! 

Our Napa trip got cancelled, but Dean, Caelynn, Nick Viall and Tanya Rad went anyway! They’re all hanging with Ben and Jess virtually and are ready to party. 

Ashley’s doing her best to hold it together in between throwing up.

And Wells comes in to save the day and hold it all together!

This is an engagement party you do not want to miss!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
with our radio. Hey everyone, can you see me? Can
you hear me? Hey? Everyone? Ashley and it is Ben
and just our couple of the hour right now. This
is supposed to be an engagement party, but for some

(00:21):
reason it didn't exactly turn out that way. It's kind
of a hot mess. We're going to call this Ben's
hot messive engagement party. And Ben, do you want to
explain why? Then? Yeah? I would love to. Uh. This
was so a little backstory here. Jessica had this incredible
idea that she was going to do her bachelor at
party in Napa and uh our amazing producer and he

(00:46):
was kind of helping her with that. Well. Unfortunately, due
to the massive amount of people that are getting married
this year in Jessica's life, bachelor parties became very expensive,
and so she decided, because she's incredible, that she was
going to try to do a uh an amazing bachelor
party with the lowest amount of costs. So Nappa was
then out of the question. So Amy and I Heart

(01:07):
was sweet enough to say, okay, well how about we
through your engagement party in Napa and uh we were
all super excited about it, like incredibly incredibly excited about it.
A couple nights ago, we get a text from my
heart that says, hey, unfortunately this trip is not uh
looking good. Uh, you know, with California's new restrictions, um,

(01:31):
with everything going on in the world, it feels like
a lot for my heart to send people to um
Napa and uh. And so the trip unfortunately got canceled.
Well was that twenty four hours ago when we got
texted it was canceled. We find out today that some
people still went to NAPA. But but Ashley, Jared, jess

(01:55):
and myself are still at home, and so we're gonna
do a virtual engagement party not in Napa. But I
promised Jessica this we would be going to NAPA at
some point very soon because she deserves it. So that's
we had a lot of confusion, a lot of things happening.
But we're still in Denver hanging out. It'll happen soon.

(02:18):
And Jared is having a problem. If you see him
mouthing things, that's because he doesn't realize he's muted. I
can see that he's muted, but he says he's not.
So he'll be back in a second, Jesse looks so pretty.
Thank you pretty? Um. Yeah, so it seems like Nick
in Dean, who will be joining us today, did end

(02:40):
up going to NAPA. So we'll see how it is
from there. It'll be funny. Um. But jess you'll make
you'll make it there sometime soon. I'm sure. I give it.
I said, it will be the perfect time and worth
the wait. And here's the big thing about tonight. So
as as we're getting prepped for tonight, Jessica through on
this incredible denom dress that her friend, my friend Tasia

(03:03):
made it for me for the chips. So I was like,
I'm still gonna wear it. Not not Tasia Artasha No okay.
Another friend named What's what's her brain called tp dinnam
so cool little startups. That was cool. So she gets
still got to do that. She still got to pour
us up a little drink. But before we get started
with night, Um, and I know this is gonna be

(03:24):
a great time. We always love these live shows as
we always afterwards text each other like that was so
much fun because we need to talk to people listening.
It's pretty engaging. Um. But you aren't in NAPA either, Uh,
you are also you mentioned on the podcast to other day,
So I don't think I'm in trouble for saying this,
but if I am, you'll make sure to tell me. Um,

(03:45):
you're not feeling great still, like things aren't like ideal
for you right now? Still not ideal. Um, yeah, no,
it's it's still kind of like a daily struggle grind
hopefully soon. Uh. Jared, if you see, he's in our
apartment in Rhode Island and I'm at my parents. I'm
kind of getting babied here. I can get a little

(04:07):
bit of different care here than I can over there
because my dad's a doctor. Um. But Jared is up
in Rhode Island, and I want him to tell the
like the new the other big news that we have,
so because it's kind of like his baby, I mean,
like he's got this baby and then he's got like
another baby he's been working on, which means that you
have to be a part a little bit right now.

(04:27):
But I but we'll wait for him to get on here.
I'm getting some questions from the audience for you guys.
Do you mind if I got a couple of questions
for you, Let's do that, okay, Um, yes, or any
of your friends and family skeptical that you're dating a celebrity.
My little he actually said in an interview the other

(04:50):
day because he plays, he's in the minor leagues in baseball. Um.
And then maybe the other day, like I don't know
what it was, from your radio show or something, they
asked him about been and he was like, I was
pretty skeptical. So it was funny. He was so cute
that he texted me off and he's like, did that
hurt Vince feeling? So I was like, no, no, did

(05:11):
Was that the first time he ever said anything like that?
Like just now after you guys have been together for
so long publicly publicly, he's talked to me. We get
to play golf together quite a bit and he always
on the golf course X. But but but he did say something,
and if he's watching this, he's gonna kill me. Um.
But he did say something like I would say, six
months after Jessica and I hadn't met her family, and

(05:35):
we've been around him quite a bit because we ended
up quarantining with him because if you remember, I got
off the tour and we were back in Franklin, and
so the whole family was there We're on the golf
course one day and he goes, as, I'm around you
and Jess, It's why I'm so picky, because I want
the relationship you guys have, were your best friends very
so he was skeptical, but we want him over in fact,

(05:57):
interesting fact, and her mom was actually the one that said, hey,
you should. You should message him back like yeah, so
she wasn't askeptical. Yeah. I mean my family was more
just surprised that I would be in this position ever
so getting married, finding so body that would marry me
in general, so I believe me, but they still can't

(06:19):
believe that I'm married. And as time goes on, I
think they're more and more surprised that Jared still seems
very happy with me happy. Sorry about the audio mixed up,
Apparently Safari is not that good with audio anyway, Safari,
I know I was on Safari in the waiting where
everything was fine. Then I signed on. I couldn't hear
your beautiful voices as someone that you know, I'm wearing

(06:41):
the almost famous You're goodie bag. It wasn't my goodie
bag along with these to which I've been going around
the house listening to the speed theme by myself. I
don't know. Oh my god, you guys. When he was little,
he would go around with a play gone pretending like
he was kanaves and speed and nothing is. I wanted
to be a top still do um. Any who, It's

(07:04):
not about myself. It's not about Ashley for the first
time in your life, it's not about you. This is
about ben In Yes, your engagement. It's very exciting. I
was engaged. Life been any different, nothing's changed any different
than dating life, yes, because that's big um, and our

(07:24):
conversations are a lot of people. Yeah, I would say
it's also um. Dating for us was kind of different
because I think early on and we've said this like
either this was gonna be the best thing ever or
was gonna end in like tragic heartbreak. Like we knew
it was serious from the very beginning, and so there

(07:45):
was never this time like because it never ended in
tragic heartbreak. There was never this time that I, at
least for me, it really ever doubted that we were
gonna get married. Um. And so it always kind of
felt like we were engaging. They were dating in fact,
like putting like I'm here leading up to when I
was proposing to her. Everybody's like, are you excited? Are
you nervous? Are you anxious? And I was like, well,

(08:06):
I did cry a lot during it. I didn't think
I would, but it was like not really like it
just kind of feels like natural. It just feels like
the thing that's gonna needs to happen so that we
can start playing wedding. It's also been really fun to
be engaged, Like I think I'm actually gonna miss being
engaged and having people like anticipating the wedding, and it's

(08:27):
very pressing. After like three weeks you're married and you're like, wow,
we're just husband and wife. We're not even cool anymore.
I've always preferred saying husband and wife then fiance. Yeah fun, like,
oh my wife actually cool. Still, it's still pretty cool.
I'm not gonna lie about that. But it was, like,
to Ben's point, pretty fun when we're engaged and people

(08:49):
were like, oh, when's the wedding and oh, buppapa up
and you guys are engaged, so exciting, and now then
it's like immediately transition to what are you guys having kids?
That's more annoying than being asked about your wedding. Well,
now they know for you it's very soon. Hey. Before
we continue on, Jared, I do want to take a second,

(09:10):
uh and highlight what you have going on. That actually
was just mentioning um a second ago. Also throughout the podcast,
we're gonna have some incredible guests. Those guests are celebrating
our engagement in the place that we wish we were
at right now. But uh, in fact, after this tonight,
h Jessica and I are gonna go on a little
date and then tomorrow night we're gonna have an incredible

(09:30):
date invert because we've been apart for a long time,
so we are going to take advantage of this celebratory
weekend still even though we aren't in Napa UM. So
we do have some incredible guests coming on. We're gonna
talk wedding details as much as we can uh during
the podcast, but before we get there, I do want
to take a second actually because we had some incredible
people who sponsored this event for Jessica and I and

(09:53):
sponsored some of the gift bags that we get uh
in this whole show. So I'm gonna name throughout the podcast.
We're gonna start with the Marritage Resort and spat in Napple,
which I believe is where everybody's at right now. The
resort features nine on site wine tasting rooms, a micro brewery,
grocery store, the Food and Wine Center, and the waln
with games for all ages. Meritage's signature restaurant, Olive and Hay,

(10:15):
which is incredible, is Napa Valley's newest Italian restaurant for
farm fresh fair position at the gateway of Napa Valley.
The Marritage Resort and Spa welcomes guests tonight. Uh. I'm
never sorry, guys. I Hey, this happens no editing here,

(10:36):
set against rolling hills and its own private vineyards. Also,
if you look behind us here and if you look
at Ashley screen, uh, this is something that Ashley and
myself have enjoyed many times, uh over the last few years.
And it's you know, we are I'd say we're experts
at Roses. Uh. And if we're gonna get Roses, we're
gonna get it from Rosebox, New York City. Rosebox NYC

(10:57):
aims to bring you an exceptional floor experience us with
longevity so you can sustainably enjoy their beauty for over
a year, their perfect over a year. Yeah, and can
we talk about the smell of these, these are the best.
You know how there's a lot of companies and do
box flowers and the smells supposedly last for a year. Yeah,
now the best out of all of them. They really do.

(11:18):
Like that's pretty that we need it to um in
this house. They're perfect for any occasion or guaranteed the
last you so you can live your special moments again
and again. All right, Actually that's the first group of sponsors. Again,
thank you for everybody that came out and support us.
These will stay with us the whole time. Ashley, I
know we have some special guests coming up. But before

(11:39):
we do, Jared, what do you have going on? What
is that Jared? Talk about what you're working on up
there in Rhode Island. Well, Ashley and I just needed
some time a part, so I figured that. Actually was
so concerned that when we came on the zoom separately,
She's like, people are going to paint that. We're like,
we're arguing and we don't want to be around each other. Listen,
Ashley is down in Virginia. Ashley been very sick throughout

(12:01):
the entire pregnancy, so I've been going back and forth.
We do have some very exciting news. We are opening
our own establishment in Rhode Island in South Kingston is
going to be a coffee house and lounge. We have
much more to tell you guys coming very soon, which
of course using generous coffee because it's great. And there's
a lot, I mean right now, there's so much going

(12:21):
on because I'm the full owner and operator right now,
and so it's just trying to get through all the
red tape of opening an establishment, obtaining a liquid license,
changing the interior, buying the equipment, talking to the health department,
talking to different lawyers, getting the LLC set up. There's
just like a lot to be done. And with the
coffee vendor vendor, who's a complete I can't say j's

(12:45):
doing the job. Like there's so many logistics and that
stuff is so overwhelming to me. But he's like really
got under control. He's doing amazing jobs. And just to
like clarify, it's a coffee house that at night turns
into like a martini lounge. Um. And we're getting some
you guys, We're getting questions in our event chat and
we want to answer them throughout the live but just

(13:07):
keep the questions coming. We really. Um, we have fun
with the questions. Somebody asked Trish to saying, what's the
new place is going to be called. It's actually named
after my mom. It's gonna be called Audrey's Coffeehouse and Lounge.
So well, we're gonna answer those questions at the end
of the podcast too, so we will save time for that. Um,
congratulations you too. That's a big deal, and um, we're

(13:31):
gonna highlight it and talk about it a ton because
this is super exciting. I know. I just Dean. How
Dean's in the comments? That classic Jared sharing big news
everywhere but his own podcast. Everybody watching right now, definitely
go check out help I suck at dating in our
Heart Radio podcast. It's amazing. I think, Well, I have

(13:52):
a stuck army hat in the other room, but I work. Wow,
I really just promoting your podcast, aren't I. I shouldn't
be wearing a stuck army Okay, that's where you are
right now? Yeah, all right, Hey speaking to Dean. Let's
bring Dean and Kylen into the chat. Hey, guys, how's NAPA.

(14:17):
Well we just arrived. We got into the hotel room
and open up the computer right away to say how
do you guys, but the same. You know, I feel
it feels a little empty inside just because you guys
aren't here, but we feel it was. It was a
hectic twenty four hours, a lot of confusion, but we

(14:37):
are glad you made it and we did just talk
about the resort that you're staying at. I know you
only see got to see a piece of it, but
is it is? Is it as incredible as it seems? Yeah?
Here I'll show you. Actually we got a nice vineyard
view if you can see out the window. I don't
know if the camera will adjust. If there's a nice there.
The bell staff, that's my guy, Cole. He was really

(14:57):
nice when he checked us in. Haven't seen much of
it yet, but we're excited to check out. I couldn't
got nine venues here a micro brewery on location, so
you know, maybe maybe we'll be able to check in
afterwards and give you guys an update. Well, Dean Kalen,
do you have any questions that you've been dying to
ask Just and Ben about their relationship that you had
never have yet? Oh? Yeah, actually at the car and

(15:23):
I have got a lot of questions on that about it? Um,
do you guys. I know you guys have sent out invites, right,
so that means you've got a date set. You got
a venue set. Yes, you guys didn't get the invite.
I guess I say, I know that you said invites.
I have no I'm just assuming you did because Ben
asked for my address. I haven't received anything yet, but Benny,

(15:45):
I'm pretty care Dan just doesn't check his mail. I
could have a mailbox. Yeah, I mean my mail gets
sent to like not even my old address, but like
my old old address, and so it's like I'm giving
me out like five different locations right now, so hopefully
I get it. Dean, your life gives me anxiety every time. Hey,

(16:06):
by the way, uh healing. Hello, you look beautiful as always.
You're an incredible human. You made just feel super special
when you text her and said we wish you were coming.
You have no clue what we were doing last night
as we were trying to figure out what the heck
was going on with this trip. It was a roller
coaster of emotions. But yeah, thanks for thanks for text her.

(16:30):
That means a lot. She was really excited for this trip. Yeah,
I wish you guys were here, but you know, we
have Vegas and other things. Yeah, all kinds of fun
stuff coming up. I thought that I thought I was
gonna be able to guilt trip you and actually coming
last night. You were close. Uh. There were some other
things that that came up that were non negotiable, but

(16:53):
you're very close. We tried very hard, um, because I mean,
nap was an incredible place to be and we've we've
had some incredible times there. I do have a question
for YouTube because Jessica and I are trying to figure out,
like how to really refine our communication styles for so
for Jared and Ashley and heal anything, how do you

(17:13):
best uh enter into conflict? Uh? Yeah, Cal and I
are really good at the conflict thing. This is I
we just have different communications styles. So we're like figuring
out how to communicate best. I think helped by a
second dating and helping because you guys are taking these quizzes,

(17:34):
like the apology quiz helped because we both have different
apology styles. I need an apology in a certain way
and he needs a different apologies. We're like learning just
takes time. How is how is your apologies different? What
type of apologies does Dee need? Dean needs you to
own up to your mistake, say what you did wrong,

(17:55):
and kind of like fix it, fix it, just say
I'm sorry, and that's it. I like, as long as
you recognize that you had a mistake by saying I'm sorry,
that's all I need. Yes, And we've grown from knowing
those two things about each other immensely. So hey, let's
take a short break here and just mentioned that, Uh

(18:15):
it's really cool because uh, this is something that's pretty
near to all of our hearts and I and I
love you guys for it. But all the proceeds from
tonight's have been are gonna go to Humanian Hope United,
which is an incredible organization that I've been working with.
But they were struck by two hurricanes back to back
UH in November of last year, and over half million

(18:35):
people were just were dispersed from their homes due to
mudslides and flooding. Uh. I didn't get talked about a
lot because I don't know if anybody knew this, but
we had election going on at the same time in
the United States. But it's something super special. So to
anybody that bought tickets tonight, also to the guests that
are gonna be coming on things for doing this, because
it's gonna go along ways for the people of ponder
So I just want to mention that I love that.

(18:58):
Um do you guys have a conflict, Well, how do
you do deal with conflict? Yeh Ben, Yeah, yeah, I
m it literally like conflict. I hate it so much.
I don't do anything for him not to be upset. Yeah.

(19:19):
We actually started this morning. We started premarital counseling. And
it's something that was, you know, not only advised to
us by people that we love, but also it was
something really important to Jessica and I. I have a
weird thing with it because I'm excited for it. I
think it's gonna help, but I do think it might
like some of those big questions are tough to answer

(19:40):
at times. Um. But the thing with me and I
have to be careful of this. Jessica cares so deeply
to not hurt me that I I could have the
ability to like walk all over the right because I
could just like do what I want, say what I want.
And she's not gonna ever bring it up or she's
gonna run from it because she doesn't want to hurt
me and so we're figuring out, like what's that balance

(20:03):
look like where she can like enter into conflict with me,
or she can tell me that she doesn't like something
or she's not appreciative of something. I will respond in
a way that doesn't just completely like heighten the conflict
so that she wants to runt of the room. So
we're figuring that out, which in a in a weird way,
We're on a walk today and she's like, I'm really
excited for this because it's something that I think we
can get better at. Actually has no quarrels hurting my feelings.

(20:31):
I need I need someone to like just tell me, Hey,
this is what's going on, this is what I need,
this is what's wrong, and this is what I need
you to change because I'm such I don't know actually
what the word is to describe me besides perfection obviously,
but it's I'm someone who just like I'm kind of

(20:51):
like Jets where I will deflect, deflect, deflect, and that
doesn't sound anything as I've learned. Yeah, but he's gotten
so much better. I just say, what's bothering him throughout
the years. It's like impressive of how much he's improved.
Have I if I approved upon anything or do I
need to do approve proNT anything. I guess like I'm
just stubborn, and like sometimes I'll just be like, yeah,

(21:12):
but this it's kind of like my mom, right, Yeah,
sometimes you definitely are pretty stubborn and you will just
not like you'll know you're wrong, but you need to
get that word in and uh, that's when I just
know I need to swallow my pride and like, let
you get the last word in and then it's over
because like if then, yeah, it's usually me just trying

(21:35):
to be like it didn't come from a place of malice.
I just messed up like this, Like I messed up.
I know I messed up, but I didn't do it
to be hurtful. I Mean, here's the thing. I believe
that Deen and myself have been friends and Kleen, you've
been around actually long enough that we've all probably gotten
confronted by actually at some point our lives, and it's

(21:57):
always done with love and she always knows best and
we appreciate everything about her. Dean and Kalen, We're gonna
have another guest come on in just a second, but actually,
do you want to ask them one of the questions
that was thinking to us to start, I want a
question for you before we shift gears here, So on
the same topic we were just discussing. We know that
Jess is conflict diverse, which is totally okay, so she

(22:21):
won't approach you about an issue. But let's say you
have an issue with something that she's done. How do
you honor her conflict a version uh style with while
also being able to like bring up the topic that
you want to bring up. You know what I mean?
Not well? Uh, yeah, it's hard. You know what I
do is I I shut down. I get really in

(22:42):
my own head, I have been wrong so many times,
uh that I don't want to react, and so the
fear of like reaction and reacting incorrectly like has caused
me to take a step away, which feels and seems
even to me like I shut down. And so I think,
as we start talking about this, the hope is that

(23:03):
once we both bring it up to each other, then
we both understand about each other and maybe we can
push each other to say, hey, what is actually like
affecting you? Like, what is actually going on? At least
I can recognize that she's hurting it I'm hurting or
that I'm in my own head, but I'm not great
at it. Uh and uh, and it's still something we're
working on and that's the exciting part because we can
still work through stuff. We still love each other deeply

(23:26):
even though um and conflict doesn't happen that often with us,
So it's it's kind of rare. Um. I yeah, so
it's it's been interesting. Uh and it's exciting and it's fun.
Um And hey, I think this would be cool. Ash.
I don't know how you feel about this, but for
those that are watching, if they can, if they can
submit the ways that they deal with conflict in their relationship,
I think that would be really fun to see and

(23:47):
pull back from later. Okay, we have to hurry up here,
so ask this question Dean and Caitlin. You answer it,
and we're gonna bounce to our next guest. Okay, this
is a fun question. What is one thing that your
significant other does that they think they're good at but
they aren't really they are you asking? That'sk that question?

(24:07):
Oh well, I'll answer because Kalin doesn't have an answer,
because I've creative everything. No, I don't know. I thought
you had something. I just just trying to tell time
to be honest. Um, something that she thinks she's great at,
but in reality she's not. Besides driving, that's driver. That's fine,

(24:33):
that's a good answer answer. Do you think you're okay driver? Kalin?
She claims to be the best driver. And it's not
only it's not only when she's driving, but also like
when I'm driving the car, she'll that coach me as
if I haven't been driving for the past fifteen years.
She'll be like, oh, it turns up here, or I'll
watch out for that pull over there. And I'm in

(24:54):
my head, I'm like, obviously all of these things in
my head, I don't I appreciate what you're doing, but
like it's not necessary. In my defense, we've gotten into
two car accidents together, so I just have anxiety. Yeah,
I was driving, all right, Hey, we gotta hurry up.
We're on a time crunch. All right. I see what's
going on to the question, cause I'm actually curious about it.

(25:15):
I don't think I know something that you think you're
good at. Um. Oh gosh, organization. He actually just complimented
my organization skills the other day, So I did I said,
he's a great organized traveler. Traveler. Yeah, this is every

(25:36):
fight I talking like once we were in the hotel. Well,
this is coming far right that has the closet space
and it's all a mess, and of the bathroom space
also all a mess. And yet I'm the one blame
for the mess all the time. This is what we need. Yeah, hey,

(25:59):
have a great time. I'm enjoy NAPA, celebrate for us,
send us some pictures. Thank you for joining us. But
we've got to go because we have the one and
only Nick file come up next, see you guys. So
Jared has also jumped off because he's he's got to
get back to work, so we're gonna leave. Ashley, Ashley, UM,

(26:21):
I appreciate you being here because I know this is
not easy for you right now. I know you're not
feeling but you still want to come here and help
out with this. So thank you. Oh of course, no
need to thank me. Oh there's nig is Natalie in
here too, she's getting ready for the evening. Okay, so
we don't even have a significant other. That means that

(26:43):
you can talk about Natalie to us. So we're talking
about couples things here today and yeah, well, I mean,
I mean they wanted me to put headphones on. I mean,
she could probably jump on if you want her to.
I don't know if she's proper. She was like revealing
and like real emotional on Charlene's podcast the other day.
That was so cute. Something went wrong with um, oh

(27:07):
she's the best? Yeah? Thanks? Yeah? We uh we We
chatted a little bit about how the arduous process of
becoming a couple a very unromantic love story, but one
that turned into the greatest level the time. What now, Nick,

(27:33):
I don't even know if we've got to talk about this,
but you wait a bit to kind of announce your relationship,
and I'm sure that's because of a few factors that
it would be only I mean, we announced a big
of paparazzi inside to camp outside my house and post
pictures of us, and then I was like, okay, well,

(27:55):
I guess it's out, like has the fact that it's public.
Nouch did it all? Uh No, But like you know, whenever,
like before I was in a relationship, you know, regardless,
it was always I was always going to take my
time trying to you know, build a relationship before I

(28:17):
you know, made it a public thing. Um. You know,
I'm a firm believer and I've always said that I
don't think having a quote unquote public relationship has ever
helped a relationship. You know, like it. I think you
can be strong enough of a couple to have it
not hurt a relationship, but I don't know if it
really does anything for the relationship itself. So I think

(28:38):
for me that was really the biggest reason to you know,
make sure that you know the priorities were important, and
because it just it creates added stress and you know, um,
you know, other other opinions and just your your reacting
to things that really don't have anything to do with
the actual relationship. So that was just something I was

(29:01):
this mindful of. Now asked me. We have a couple
of questions, and since Stanley's go around, I would love
you to ask Nick some of these questions that were
submitted us before we begin tonight. Okay, fun Um, Nick,
I kind of want to ask the same thing that
I just asked Dean and Kaylin, because it's like a
great question, what do um, what does Natalie do that

(29:27):
she thinks she's good at but she's really not that
good at? Uh? She's a pretty self aware individual. Um,
she once claimed to be really good at parallel parking,
And the truth is, she's good at parallel parking, in
parallel parking, but she wasn't like I still have you

(29:49):
know there she had this tendency of parking uh like
six inches six inches like to but she she's still
a pretty good parallel parker, but she would brag about it.
And then I was like, well, you're you know, you're
you're pretty good. But it was it wasn't It wasn't good.

(30:11):
What do you think it is about I have fantastic stereo?
What do you think it is about the female brain
that we're just like we can't the parallel parking just
not in our in our DNA. Well again, she's a
very good parallel parker, but she just was like, you know,
six inches into the street. You know what I'm saying.

(30:33):
I don't play into any gender stereotypes, especially when it
comes to driving. I'm not a particularly great driver. I
am a good, uh parallel parker, but I I wouldn't
I wouldn't give me any like my right. My driving
skills are not great at all. Gertally, Yeah, actually, parallel

(30:53):
parking is the one thing that I'm I can do
pretty well driving because but it's because when I ran
across country all the parking at the parks of parallel parking.
So since I was sixteen, I always had to like
every day of the week. So I just got good
at it good. But that's the only thing I can
do well. She loses focus sometimes we have to snapper

(31:14):
out of like just having a really good time and
driving looking down the road. Nick, before I let you
go here, I hope you have an incredible trip. I
hope you guys have a great time and a great evening.
What are you gonna be doing tonight? And then do
you have any advice for Jess and I Because you
are a relationship expert. You have the Vial Files, which
is an incredible podcast, and your TikTok talks about relationships

(31:37):
often and so you do have a lot of insights,
So advice and then also what's your plans tonight, Natalie.
I believe we're going to dinner with Dean in uh
Kalen and an Tanya. Um, it's like the Early Bird Special,
Like when I get off the phone, we're gonna go.
I don't know. I feel like style. I know, Um,

(32:00):
so I think we'll be doing that. Um, and thank
you for saying I. I don't call myself an expert,
just a guy with a handful of opinions. But what
is my advice to you guys? I don't I don't know. Um,
I mean, once you get married, just enjoy well. Well,

(32:21):
I don't know. I don't know enough about your relationship
to give you like general advice, you know, I don't know.
Do you have a specific question I don't like, you know,
be happy and love each other? I don't know. Yeah,
so okay, Um, the specific question is going to be
one that probably resonates to the whole evening here. How
do you best believe to enter into conflict? I think

(32:45):
it's one thing right now. We just did uh some
counseling this morning. We asked Dean and Kaylin, we asked
Ashley and and Jared, like, when you enter into conflict,
how do you believe it's best done in a relationship? Um,
to keep an open channel communications? Well, I think one

(33:05):
thing that Nellly and I do well at and something
I've had to get better at and I've worked at.
She's apparently just always been good at it. Ah, is that.
I think there was really good at acknowledging each other's feelings.
I don't think either of us have ever made the
other person feel like our feelings were wrong. I think

(33:27):
a lot of couples have a tendency of doing that.
You know, they get defensive when someone says, well, I
feel a certain way, and then when they hear the
other person, you know, communicate their feelings, it's easy to
quick to quickly get defensive and make it about them
and project those things as opposed to just listening to
how they feel. Uh. And then we just never make

(33:48):
the other person wrong for having those feelings, and we
try not to make it about our ourselves, and then
we just try to address those feelings. That's something that
seems to work for us. And then in terms of
like conflict, I think, you know, this is something I
learned from my therapist. It seems to be really helpful. Uh.
If you're fighting for more than ten minutes, Uh, we

(34:10):
all tend to I think all of us tend to
turn into children. And if you're fighting for more than
ten minutes and you can't see eye to eye, then
it's best to just pause. Um. I think men have
a harder time with that, um in general, because we
we try to be problem solvers and conflict resolution. But

(34:30):
I think sometimes it's okay to just put a pause
in the fight because I think at that point you're
not really dealing with the actual matter, but you start
bringing in other aspects into the fight, and that's when
those ten and its fights turned into three hour fights.
But and usually those three our fights, you just need
to take a pause either and then you come back
and then you you know, relax, and then you kind

(34:51):
of address the actual problem so that you know, try that,
see if it helps. Awesome. Well, hey, we're gonna let
actually take a little break here. First, they can go
get glass of water. We promised her this moment at
the beginning of the podcast net a little moment before
he send you off here. How is Jeff? Oh my god, Jeff.

(35:12):
Jeff is great. I love Jeff. I miss him. Um,
he's really he's the best. I'm truly obsessed with him,
and uh, I really enjoy taking care of him like
I bayed them and feel like I really I didn't
think I'd love him that much, but I do. He's
so cute, Like he's the best. He's an Australian copper

(35:42):
dog's part of like the doodle family, but it's a
very specific breed. Apparently I don't even know this, but
they're bred to be therapy dogs. But maybe that he
just he likes to cut off. We're just cuddled buddies.
How big is he gonna get? He's great. I think
like thirty pounds. His dad's thirty pounds and his mom's

(36:03):
around the same. So I don't know a nice kind
of medium, says house Dog. It might have been our
you explained to Nick, our history with the dog so far,
with how these conversations have gone, So I really want
a dog. And beIN still hasn't gotten over his childhood
dog passing away. And so when never being up a dog,

(36:25):
Bin says, but one day it's gonna die. And it's
a pretty negative outlook. It's not exactly how I say it. Well,
I say, I don't appreciate the realism. Yeah, he has
a sweeter way. I appreciate the realism. I'm I'm a

(36:46):
bit of a skeptic myself, so I appreciate that. And
I will say that I've already started to mourn the
loss of Jeff, because like I've already thought about, like
I don't know, like I've had obviously a lot of
friends and family who have had dogs, and I've always
empathized with them when they lost their their dog, but

(37:08):
I never related to how some like how tragic um
it was for some of them. And now I can
relate just because I'm already like worried about um if
that day ever comes, which obviously, um, you know, in
reality hopefully you know, like I hope for a while.

(37:30):
But it makes me sad. Yeah, it's you know, I
was an only child, and so my dog growing up
was like my my closest sibling. It was like this,
she was my girl. And so it's just like I'm
still not over it, and so it's but people always
tell me, I'm sure the comments are flowing in right now.
Uh you know, it's worth it while you while they're here,
And I get that, and so at some point we will.

(37:53):
I mean, just just the only person who's ever loved
me unconditionally, and he likes he likes everything about me,
and there's so much not to like, and I really
I really like that he turned looks the other way
when it comes to my flaws and just wants to cuddle.

(38:14):
So that's what that's what I like about Jeff. Well, Nick,
have a great time. Tell Natalie hello, thank you for
joining us, Thank you for celebrating. I wish you would
have I wish you guys would have came. Yeah, yeah,
it was a we were telling the Dean and Caitlin.
It was a very uh wild evening last night with
a lot of fluctuation. But um, we're gonna still going

(38:37):
to date to celebrate and we wish you could be
a napp with all of you. Well, I can't wait
to see you again. But yes, I can't see you guys.
So uh. Next we're gonna bring on Tanya and a

(38:59):
little secret human hopefully that Tanya's bringing with her. But
before I do, I do want to take another break
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(39:23):
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and welcome. I hope NAPA is a blast for you.
We're gonna have Jessica open up her gift bag, uh

(39:45):
that all of you put together along with my Heart Radio.
So you get to watch your open up the gift bag,
which I think will be very special for I love
watching jess open to get back. Hi, guys, Hi can
miss you? I know I'm so bummed you guys aren't here.
Let's see so you've got It's howel for you. Very cute.

(40:09):
We have baloss I use those best weekend They're very fun.
It's a scrubbing in towel. I just heard it's like
the circus Circus Circle one. Yes, I'll be in on
my bachelor party. What are you going on that? Um?

(40:32):
Next month August augustly to a lake in Nashville. Um,
my matron of honor has like a huge lake house.
So all of my best friends are gonna just pole
in and while the big sleepover to me so fun fun.
Do you know what the like itinerary is going to be?
I have no idea. I actually found out yesterday. Everyone's

(40:53):
a packing list except for me, So I'm trying to
get that so I know what to bring. Oh, jut
the Bachelotte party almost famous T shirt? Wow together? Where that?
All the time? I wanted to put that in there? Sneaky?

(41:13):
Those are fun? Um okay, love that. Thank you Dean
and Jared um army, I get it, I get it.
There you that's incredible. Who's that from? Where's that? Who's
that made by? This is nice? It is nice? That's nice?

(41:42):
That is it? Well? Get back? Yeah? Well, uh, Tanya,
we do appreciate you celebrating with us tonight, and uh
we we love you dearly. You're an incredible human. Now
we before we get you going to ask us questions,
I do want to ask you, how is your relation
chip going? And are you feeling happy? Um? Feeling very happy?

(42:06):
Actually I was just when we were flying out here,
I was talking about like how the last time that
all of us were to get well, not that wasn't
the last time we were all together, but like the
last time that we were all together like a really
fun environment was that Ashley and Jared's wedding, And like
how we kind of have this it's almost like we're
this like weird dysfunctional family dynamic where I'm like, I

(42:27):
haven't seen you guys in so long, but like every
time we get together, it's just like fun and we
just laugh and we'd drank and we just have the
best time. And so I was like, we were flying
over here, and I was like, I'm bummed that you
don't get to experience that with everybody. Um, because I've
been talking about you guys for so long. You know,
it's like we're the pandemic kind of like obviously isolated
all of us, but like we haven't been able to

(42:48):
have that that experience. But aside from that, so I
missed you guys. But my relationship is really really great
and he's wonderful. He's here. Do wanna say hi? Nice
to didn't you. I know, we're really found that we

(43:09):
couldn't get to hang out this weekend. We were so
forward to it for so long. But the way, look,
how cute as shoes are. Can you lift your feet up,
let's see them. That's impressive. Those are some tight wha
They're like they're they're there. I think they're nude. They're new,
so cute. So both of you are here because I

(43:32):
love talking. How how did you two meet? How did
this whole thing get started? We met on a dating app.
We met on Hinge. I love that, like and you guys,
you know more than anyone how hard Like I was
like dating, I was open to it. I was out there.
I wasn't really like on the apps, but I was

(43:53):
on the apps that I wasn't like actually on the apps.
And then my girlfriend you you actually know her, she
works on the morning show with me. Sierra saw him
my Hinge profile and she was like, he seems good, Like,
let's actually go out with him. So technically I actually
met her friend on him, started with her friend. It

(44:14):
wasn't even with her, and then it Yeah, the conversation
pretty much started with Sierra. When I messaged Jessica for
the first time, she didn't know how to respond to me,
so her brother was responding to me on her Instagram. Yes,
but it is what it is, because I think initially

(44:37):
you don't really know you have like you're just kind
of like, what is this? This is a total stranger danger.
And then I went out with him kind of just
like I'm just trying to like, you know, get myself
back out there and met him at by thirty and
I was like, finding New York next day, so it'll
be quick whatever. She thought she was gonna be like
in and out in twenty minutes, half an hour, hal
to drink and leave. Yeah, go home, pack, be done.

(44:58):
I'm not even kidding you. I sat down at this bar.
It was like instant chemistry. We talked straight for like
five hours. I looked at it was like ten thirty.
I was like, oh my god, I need still need
a pack and go to bed. Uh and like, I, actually,
what's so crazy is I was going to New York
the next day and I had a date in New
York with someone else. I kept thinking him the whole time.
I just wanted to hang out with him, want to

(45:19):
be with him, and yeah, well. The the interesting side
of this is that I don't know if you knew this,
but Tanya, I honestly believe this still to this day,
is probably the most quoted person that I quote in
my life. I was able to interview Tanya for my book, uh,
you know, One on Plain Sight, and I did a

(45:41):
whole I was thinking about somebody at the time that
was single. They didn't want to be single, Uh, that
was looking for a relationship that was going to be
an incredible partner to somebody, um and just hadn't found
that right person. And I was like, Tanya fits all
of those for me, like all of this. So she
was nice enough to give us some time and allow
us to interview for it. And she has one thing

(46:03):
that she says that continues to come up in my
life because people ask me, hey, how did you meet jess?
If you if I'm single, like what do I do
about it? And Tanya said this simple thing says, just
don't stop dating, like liveing adventure, have good dates, have
bad dates, like put yourself out there until you find
that person that slows life down. And it's cool to

(46:24):
see you guys together. Now, no pressure that, but it's
just cool to see that, like that date that you know,
like when Tanya's first out there ends up with you
guys on this ship show with us. It's pretty cool. Yeah,
it's really crazy. It's like very that's very It's one
of those things where like, yeah, I didn't stop putting
myself out there, but you kind of just like sometimes

(46:46):
you just go through the motions and then it's like
you just kind of stopped me at my tracks, and
I was like, what the hell, this is an unfortunate
time to meet me. Well yeah, but also so like
upset that, like we're all gonn't get together out here.
It was like looking forward to it for so long.
But well, yeah, before you know, and I'll be in

(47:10):
a better state. Hopefully not so great, so great. But
we have a couple of questions that we're asking like
all the couples, and I thought that because we have
like a pop culture expert here, we would ask you
guys this. Yeah, I'm like, maybe not Robbie, okay, everybody

(47:30):
that I mentioned. He's like, who is that? Okay, Well,
let's do two celebrity questions. One anybody would be able
to answer, and that is who's your celebrity hall pass?
This is for you guys and for Bed and Jess.
And we don't like call passes here, but like talked

(47:51):
about hall passes. Who can you make out with? Yeah?
I can answer. I'll break the ice here. Um and
she knows this. There's lead two in my life that
I've always had a thing for. One is Emma Watson.
Um just kind of looks like has that look? Oh
thank you prettier, and then um, Jennifer Aniston has just

(48:14):
always like, I don't know what it is. I'm just like, yeah,
so those two, those two really have always been in
my life. And I had a Jennifer Aniston I think
poster growing up, and so that just sticks in my head.
And if he gets a shot with either of them,
I wouldn't be mad about it. That mean, Um, Harry Styles, Yeah,

(48:38):
he's my biggest crush. Yeah, Harry Styles and Zac Outland
kind of been Higgins, but yeah, Harry Styles. Yeah, I
don't know. I don't you know, I'm gonna say because
I always say that, I say, you resemble him, but
it's not about me, okay here, probably scared for sure

(49:01):
for sure. Yeah, I mean I don't know. I don't
really have a suffer crush. I mean back in the day, no,
I probably. Yeah. Well so like back in the day,
growing up city Crawford is like my thing, okay, uh
yeah yeah, all of you uh and probably today, I

(49:27):
don't know. Uh, Margot Roby, Yeah, yeah, you get what
you're saying. Hey, before I let you guys go, because
I know you gotta be Hey, I think that's endearing
and I appreciate that. To Tanya, you kind of look
like her. So y'all are only sh then Tanga has

(49:50):
that look, so that makes sense. Yeah, you know, before
we let you guys go, I do want to know
has it been difficult at all? Tanya? You obviously have
a very large platform was scrapping in and your radio
show to be dating with people kind of watching it
from a microscope or watching it from a distance, because
people were very invested into your love life for a

(50:12):
long time. I mean, it was not only a segment
on what if not? It might be the most popular
morning show in the country probably or at least up there.
It was a segment so like, has it been hard
for you? Guys? Are weird or awkward? I'll let him
answer that, but but i'll let you answer it. Well,

(50:32):
there's two very different sides to this answer. No, you
can add well, okay, So for me, you guys know me,
I'm like an open book, like I will say I'll
do whatever, And so I think what I realized, especially
like with dating him, I've had a set boundaries in
that world. But I think for me, it's such a
beautiful relationship that I have with all of my listeners

(50:54):
like describe sisters and the morning show listeners like they're
so it's such a beautiful relationship. I don't really get negativity.
It's all like encouragement and love. And so for me,
it's like I just want to keep people hopeful because
I was dating for seven years and dating like loser
after a loser and like getting my heart ripped open,
and like I like people to keep hopeful, do you

(51:15):
know what I mean? And it's like I like to
share that story. And so for me, it's a little
bit different. For him, he's not used to it, and
so I think initially it was like very intimidating or
scary and ask your question though, But doesn't it also
create some pressure for you? The publicity even though everyone
is so positive, even though everyone is so supportive of you,
doesn't like because I'm obsessed with you, okay, So I'm

(51:39):
very private person and not public at all. Uh. And
so that was like a very big issue in our
relationship at the beginning. How does that work and what
does that look like? And how comfortable bou So, yeah,
I was very uncomfortable with for for a long time.
I'm still like not fully comfortable with it. But we've
talked about it a lot, and um and her time,

(52:00):
I've gotten a little bit more, a little bit more
comfortable her USA, her fans, her community, like the people
who watched the morning show that the podcast listeners listen
to the morning show, the podcast listeners, they're like the
most supportive community out there. So it's like actually like
a very positive Like we were swimming in Hawaii, were

(52:24):
like in the ocean right like in Hawaii on vacation,
and these two girls come swimming up to us and
they're like, Tanya, were scrubbers, we love the podcast. Oh
my gosh, it's Red Star. We love you. Like they
were so home and like so sweet and like just
I don't know, like and that's the interact. And so
it's like it's nice because that's what I'm used to,
Like you know, I mean, like that's the interaction that

(52:45):
I'm used to. So I think for some people, I
think it's kind of like you see all the like
negativity on the internet and you get like like breaked
out by it, but it's like really the opposite. Yeah, well,
we appreciate the both of you. Thank you for coming on.
Have a anytime in Napa celebrate from a distance for us.
We told everybody's pleasing this pictures from dinner. Definitely a

(53:07):
bottle of line tonight, love you, love you bye. So
as you a trooper here now? Yeah, I'm not being
like totally unprofessional about eating macarny and she's during this.
It's just if I don't eat every two hours, I
get really sick. Well, hey, we get it, and doing
you kid? Uh So, before we bring on our final

(53:29):
guest of the evening, which is somebody very special and
we don't want to do it yet, we are going
to mention two more sponsors and then I know and
I would love if we could. I mean, we booked
this thing out with guests, which can be good and bad.
They're all going over. I'd love to give Jessica just
an opportunity to talk about her excitement for the wedding
and some of the details that she's com from. It
would be I think it would be a great uh

(53:49):
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(54:33):
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So all right, So Wells is now here, but we're
gonna still give Jessica her moment. Wells, if you don't mind,
I would love for us to talk a little bit
about our wedding details. You share whatever you want about yours,
then in a second, Wells, thanks for coming on, um,

(54:56):
but jess gonna take it away. Um. Well, our wedding
is in November, pandemic permitting we'll have all of our
friends and family there, if not also get married on
that day. Um. But right now, the wedding itself is
gonna be basically just a big party. Um. The ceremony
is under a tip, which is like my only thing

(55:17):
was I wanted some part of the wedding under a tip.
I don't know why. And twinkle lights. There's twinkle lights everywhere,
like it looks like a fairy garden at their reception
hopefully that's the dream. Um. But yeah, it's gonna be.
The ceremony will be really sweet and kind of just
I don't know, that'll be more um reverend I guess.

(55:39):
And then they're Exception is just gonna be the best
band ever, NonStop dancing, partying. Great theme because I was
asking Ben the theme and he wasn't like, yeah, it's
not really like a theme. It's more just like I
don't know, I don't want to say like carnival. It's

(56:03):
not a carnival at all, but it is like very fun,
like it's very light. How it did. Yeah, keeping it
casual will be the best thing for us. We've been
to a lot of weddings and we've kind of pick
and chosen what represents us best and for us, it
was like, hey, we want this to be a fun
atmosphere for all involved, so anybody that comes can leave
going him really glad it came to this. We are
One unique thing that we haven't talked about yet that

(56:23):
I think would be cool to share is we're having
um three different pastors stand with us at the wedding
because I have my childhood pastor, she has hers, and
then we have a pastor uh that kind of have
been around us as we've dated and grew grown our relationship,
and so we thought it was important to have them
all involved, which I think is really cool. And I'm
really excited for that um and our our wedding hashtag

(56:47):
because that is something we promised to share. And then
we're gonna get to wells is Benny and the Jets
be in the Jets? Yes? We love Benny in the Jets.
We also love get Higgy with it, so we will
be mad with either of them. Yeah, so we're gonna
choose between those two. Uh, if you have a vote,
please uh right in right now to the comments about
what you vote for. All right, Hey, thank you for

(57:09):
giving us that moment. It was important to do that.
Wells Adams, the star of the Bachelor franchise right now,
one of the kings of the world, amazing and good looking,
incredibly talented, very very good golfer. In fact, in my
bachelor party, Wells and I bet on our round and
he kind of smoked me. I think it was a
three stroke lead going into eighteen. Um, Wells, in fact, no,

(57:32):
you know here, there's a two stroke league going into
the eighteen. Nobody really cares about that much on this podcast.
I'd love for you to tell the audience how the
last tool ended. And then uh yeah, well, um, I
I was overserved that day. Um cart girl. The cart

(57:56):
girl gave me too many fireball um shots, So I
blame I blame her, um and I I think I
I suck. I think I suck like a thirty foot
put for Birdie to win. And then I proceeded to
take my shirt off and run around the green yelling
uh like in your face in that effect. So what

(58:18):
he's missing out on, and I know this isn't that exciting.
What he's missing out on is he was one stroke
on me going into the eighteen. I was wrong. I
made a Birdie uh from like so Wells hits his
thirty footer for Birdie and at that point it clinches
the match. I have like a tin foot that I
still have for Birdie. I make my and as he
runs around with the shirt off, it's my bachelor party,

(58:40):
don't forget. I'm like yes, like incredible, round, awesome. Nobody
high fires me. Wells is taking the attention away for me.
It's absolutely insane, not fun at all. But hey, the
bachelor party was great. Wells, Um, what's going on with
your wedding? Uh? In your life? You have so much
happening right now, just a we want to catch up

(59:01):
with you. First of all, I'm so sorry I did that,
but I had a great time. I just want you
to know that. And I fully expect during my bachelor
party for you to beat me on the golf course
and run around and uh do all that stuff. Take
your shirt off, let everyone see what you got working.
Um In terms of my h in terms of my wedding,

(59:24):
I don't know. We were supposed to have it. I
can now tell kind of everyone what was really supposed
to happen. We were supposed to be married on um
on and like Sarah was like super pumped about this. State.
Here's the thing that I didn't realize until I got engaged,
Like dates really really matter, um. And so she was

(59:45):
like super pumped about that and like and like Jupiter
was in the right spot her fury and things were
astro retro glading. I don't know what was happening. Um.
And then that got pushed fortunately, and then we were
supposed to get married tomorrow. Actually, oh my gosh, and yeah,

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it's weird looking at the counter. Tomorrow is supposed to
be the rescheduled date, and the venue was like, we're
only going to allow like a handful of people because
of COVID restrictions, and we are like, we have more
friends than that, and so we had to push it again.
And so it's looking like it's either going to be
a Vega situation, um, or it's going to be we're

(01:00:31):
going to just do it up next year. And I'm
thinking next year is probably what we're gonna do. I'm
sorry that sucks. UM. As the resident bartender, what member
of Bachelor Nation do you think is going to be
the most drunk at Ben and Jess's wedding? A good question, me,

(01:00:55):
that's a decent answer, and Sarah. Sarah'll be right there
doing the chicken dance with me. I apologize in advance.
Uh friends and family guys, No, my family will be
right there with you. All. I can promise you that
they'll be. Here's uh, here's something I want to want

(01:01:20):
to ask you. Well, because one of the questions I
was sent in is what your celebrity hall passes? And
well I think you were Sarah's and I think no,
And I want to answer this question. It's a good question. Okay,
what is it? Well, so it's funny, so right now then,
just announced today so I can say, so, Sarah's in
Um this isn't my whole past, but this is a

(01:01:40):
funny story. Um. So, Sarah's in Toronto filming a movie
with Dylan Sprouse, who um is uh in a relationship
with Barbara Palvin, who's a very attractive like Victoria's secret model,
And so she was telling me that she was like
having she was going to have like romantic Sea Means
with Dylan, and the director wanted um her and him

(01:02:06):
to get together and like basically like practice chemistry, like
a chemistry read together to make sure that like it
was gonna look it on screen. Or whatever, and so
she's telling me all of this and so that I
was like, so, I think that what needs to happen
is that I, Barbara and I need to talk and

(01:02:26):
we have good chemistry. How it works, and I think
how it should work. That's amazing. You know. My my
one story of Dylan and he said, what's her first name, Barbara,

(01:02:48):
is I was watching an interview with him last year
and she was prepping for the Victoria's Secret Show and
they're like, we've been trying to get really healthy, both
of them. They're both getting prepped for the show, and
they're like, all we've been eating is like salads and
cauliflower and Luckley and I remember her going so the
whole house just smells like nasty farts, and I remember
being like, WHOA, Like this will never get on my head,

(01:03:08):
Like it was like one of the first times that
I thought, well, this really attractive person is just walking
around the house, the two of them, both of them
very attractive, just letting it loose. Um, that's just my
only story from them. Okay, Wells, what relationship do you
have have? Advice do you have for Jess and I
that you've learned in your relationship with Sarah. Um, I

(01:03:33):
don't know. Uh. I think it's important to like continually
be creating, like fun and exciting like dates. I think
that's the one thing that I And also during the pandemic,
it was hard to like get out, um, but like
I wanted to always like um curate like fun little

(01:03:54):
weird dates that like we're uh memory savers like men
read keepers and stuff. UM. So I think that's always
It's it's so easy like fall into that like routine
and everything's the same and it starts to get a
little boring. Um. And so that's one and the other
one that Sarah and I do. And here look actually,

(01:04:15):
uh you can see these are a couple of them
every time we because we aren't around each other a
lot because she work flies away for work and sometimes
I do as well. And we are really good about
we hide notes for one another like very obscure places,
and um, I think that's fun because you know it

(01:04:37):
it's sad to leave, but it's also like fun exciting
to like find the card and read what they wrote.
But we're starting to like really morph into the same person.
And I had found a card we say, uh, like
I love you to Pluto and back a lot to
each other. So I found a card that says I
love you to the moon and back, and I was like,
this is perfect, Oh my god, and so I gave

(01:04:58):
it to her and she found hers before I found
mine for this most recent trip, and she's gonna be like,
you're never gonna believe my card. You're gonna be You're
gonna roll your eyes. And so I found the card
in the sock draw and it wasn't the same card,
but it said I love you to the moving back,
and I was, this is insane. And then we wrote

(01:05:20):
the exact same thing, like almost to a t, because
we're like going on vacation after this. So it was like,
I know, like, uh, I'm gonna hug and kiss the
dogs for you and they're gonna miss you, but don't worry.
I'm gonna take good care of him. And hers was
like make sure you get the dogs all the love
and so much, and then mine was like, but don't
worry when you come back, gonna we're gonna go on
a vacation together. It'll be so amazing. It's be so romantic.

(01:05:41):
And then it was like, I can't wait to come
back because then we're going to this vacation. I was like, Ship,
we're the same person. Now, Well I'll tell you this. Uh,
and and Jessicin I both agree. You know, when people
ask about our time on this my time on the show, UM,
we always and most will do, but we always talk
about some of the people that came from the show

(01:06:02):
that we've met that have have enhanced our lives. You're
one of those. Actually is one of those, Jared and
all the people that have came on the night one
of those. But you're in a crimble, dude. I get
to see you very soon, I think. Um, and I'm
very excited about that, very excited about that. But we
just appreciate you. Okay before we go. Everybody's gonna just
absolutely destroy us if we don't ask you for a

(01:06:22):
one sentence, uh snippet of what we can expect from
Bachelor in Paradise. Well, I think I teased it. I
don't know if my tea has done. No. I haven't
been on on your Guys podcast since I got back. Um,
so every year in Paradise, the same kind of things happened. Um.
Some people are like dating before the show and like

(01:06:43):
that's an issue, and we get there and people aren't
there for the right reasons and that's an issue. Or
some people are like kind of using people just to
get roses because they're waiting for someone else to come in,
and that's a problem. Um. And all that to be said,
like yes, that's all that stuff happens, but something happens
this seas him that has that has never happened before. UM,

(01:07:05):
And I think that our bagination is going to be
like completely shocked. UM. And when it happened, I was.
I was blown away by it and it was something
I had to deal with. UM. Being the master of
ceremonies now that that was tough. And so I think
that everyone is going to be And I know that
like we fall into the same, like you know, bachelor

(01:07:28):
cliches of what it's going to be the most dramatic
And I won't say it's gonna be the most dramatic,
but something happens that literally has just never happened before,
and people are just gonna be like jaws in the
floor shocked. Wow. That's a great teaser. It's a great teaser.
You're the man. Well, well thanks for joining us. Appreciate
you see you very soon. Thanks buddy, Yeah, buddy, I

(01:07:49):
love you guys. That issue so much. Um. All right,
first off, I have we're gonna close out here. Thank
you to all those who watched. Thank you to those
who supported me an open I did. I am so
excited to marry you. Guys are so cute. She's just
the best. She's the best partner in the world. It's

(01:08:09):
so fun to celebrate. It is so exciting. Um, Ashley,
we're thinking for you because I know you sat through this.
You have a lot going on in your life, you know.
But I'm so pumped to marry this girl. And when
anybody asked me, it just feels very peaceful, very joy filled. Um.
She's my best friend. She's super incredible to me. Nobody

(01:08:32):
gets to see behind the scenes. Um, but she's she's
the best partner and she makes me a better man. Um, Ashley. UM,
we have a couple of questions. I know we have
about a minute left. If you want to, like, maybe
ask two of them, um that have been sent in.
That would be an awesome way to end this, Okay, Um,

(01:08:53):
she's so sweet. UM. Oh yeah, you guys gonna go
away for a honey man. Yes we are, and yeah,
I don't know. I don't think we need to keep
it a secret, right, Yeah, we're gonna go to St. Bart's. Um.
We wanted to go someplace reasonably close to the US

(01:09:14):
because we imagine ourselves being very tired and we're gonna
do a big trip to Israel in March of next year,
and so we're just we're just gonna go to St.
Bart's and be there for a week to an incredible
resort that will announce, um pretty soon. But we're super
excited for that. Yeah, so excited. That's awesome. Yes, and
you're gonna go right away. We were taking a day

(01:09:36):
rest because with the am that's light out and I
was like, I am not getting up to six like
four am after writing. So no, a day in between
is perfect. Um. And then what what is your faith
like going to look like as a married couple. Is
it going to be any different our faith life? It's

(01:09:57):
something that trask Um, you don't ask that. I think
it's gonna be stronger. Um. I think that will come
together and will be better as a team. I feel
like that's the goal of marriage, is to make a
larger impact together. So yeah, and that's something that I
think we both need and it's not never been a
secret that Jesus is at the center of our relationship,
but we always and when we pray it a a night

(01:10:19):
together with dinner, it's our prayer because there's a lot
of complexity. I know right now within the church, our
only prayers that we love people well and that we
represent God well. And together, I think we can hold
ourselves accountable to that, support each other in that. And
if that's at the end of our time in life,
and if that's what we're known for, is that we
loved others well, Uh, then I think it's a couple.

(01:10:42):
It's gonna be worth it. Hey. Actually, there is one
last question that Danielle sent in here that we can
close with. Yeah. I I appreciate that question. It's incredibly
Um it's something we talk about a lot, and I'm
really excited to have a teammate and all of it
and start creating some good stories around that. Um. Okay.
Last question from Danielle is what's been your favorite part
of being engaged and what are you looking most forward

(01:11:04):
to about being married? Um. I love calling them my fiance.
I just think it's so fun. It's like the shortest
I love my ring. That's been a really fun part
of being engaged. Um, And honestly, for engagement, I think
it's there's so many excuses to see all the people

(01:11:25):
that you love. They're like showers like this, like being
able to even though we're not with you, but to
be able to see your face like this wouldn't happen
if we're engaged. So um, his bachelor party, having all
this friends in one place, my bachelor having all my friends,
just all of the celebration. I think it's such a
special time. Our pastor today at premiale Accunseling was like,
the only time you have all the people around you

(01:11:47):
ever that you love is your wedding, and so it's
so stressful when it's over. You're like, I'm already sad
for you. O ye. But yeah. That and then being married,
I think just being able to come home every day
to my best friend and being able to just rest
with one another. And I don't know, I just enjoy

(01:12:10):
enjoy life together, grow together. Yeah. Well, I think I
find like and it just might be my oddness about me,
Like I'm really excited for marriage because I just I'm
excited to get to know jest better and it's odd.
I don't know if you felt this way or if
other engaged couples feel this way. But the more I've
been around one human who I've tried and my best
to let in, the more I've learned about myself. And

(01:12:32):
so I'm kind of just excited to continue to learn
about me and also learn about her um and uh
and and just do this life together. So well, UM,
thank you again. I know what you said it before.
What a cool way to do this. I wish we
could all be together. We are going to get together. Um.

(01:12:54):
This was an odd deal. I can't tell you enough
to all who was watching how hectic last night was
for us and how confused it was. But this worked
out awesome and I hope everybody and napos having a
great time at all the places that supported the trip.
UM you'll see probably a ton of Instagram pictures posted.
Ashley even had to take a break from this podcast
to to go get some food and to go relieve

(01:13:16):
the stomach pains that she was in. Uh and she
jumped back on here with a smile on her face,
which is just the pro that she is. So hey. UM,
that's it though. Thanks for celebrating Jess and I and uh,
Ashley and Jared wherever he's at in the world. Congratulations
once again. Well it's gonna be a fun year. The
engagement to you, guys. Enjoy the time that you have left.

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And we have plenty of wedding advice to give you
at some point too, because a lot about that day.
We need her to suck it up the best as
to your ability. Perfect All right, bad guys, see all
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