October 8, 2025 • 40 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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I got a guy just sent a text and he said, hey,
does TK law handle divorce cases in other cities like Jacksonville.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
So I don't do a lot of work in Jacksonville,
but I do have a lawyer up there who used
to be a judge, and I can put you in
judge to somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Okay, so yeah, you call Ray. He can handle it,
and if he can't handle it, he'll get you to
the right person.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
I will.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
And talking about divorce, this was an article that I saw.
I'm like, I wonder how much of this Ray has
to deal with?
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Now?
Speaker 1 (01:25):
This is more probably about messing up Well, let's talk
about divorce. Do these things during If you do these
things during divorce, it will mess up your kids. How
much of this do you have to talk to your
clients about and say, hey, don't do that, this is
bad for the kids.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Like, do you get that deep into Oh?
Speaker 5 (01:44):
Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
There's a lot of different ways you could be a lawyer, right, Yeah.
You could wear the lawyer hat and just say I'm
in charge of the law and I'm going to tell
you what the law says, and we're gonna just kind of,
you know, do that. I'm not that kind of lawyer,
you know. What's more important to me is not just
the outcome of your case, but the aftermath and when
I talk to people about how they're going to get divorced,
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one of the very first things I do is I
set goals with them, and almost almost uniformly, every single
person they've got kids, I ask them, hey, how much
of a priority is it for you to protect your
kids throughout this process? And if they say yes, then
I take that as my license to say I'm not
a mental health professional and I'm not a child psychologist,
but maybe you should rethink how you do X.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Look, i'll list you some of these things.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You tell me how many times you have to deal
with it and explain, hey, this is not the Number
One on this list is with holding visitation.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
To punish their ex Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yeah, I'm sure that happens all the time.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
All the time, And there's so much trauma around that.
Because one, children like to have boundaries and expectations, and
if they're expecting to see mom or dad and they
don't get to see mom or dad, that creates that
conflict and that creates trauma for children. But the other thing,
this is, this is what I think people don't talk
about enough when it comes to withholding time sharing. Kids
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need both parents involved in their lives right. There is
very credible, peer reviewed scientific evidence that says both moms
and dads are necessary for successful children.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Don't you find out that a lot of times you
know they're going through divorce. So mom knows that dad
did something absolutely horrible and I don't want.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
My kids being around it. And he was doing cocaine
or whatever it was. And you're not like a cool dad.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
You're not you're not seeing the kids. You're out of control.
And she's so mad that she doesn't realize kids don't
know about your adult argument you're going through.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I had to judge one time tell the other side,
which was great because I won. But she said that
he drank too much on weekends, right, And the judge says,
I don't care if he's cooking meth in the kitchen,
as long as the kids aren't showing up high. I
don't care. He could be a bad person and be
a good dad. Both things can be true. And I
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tell people that story. He was a chief judge for
a long time.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
The other part of that, though, also is that the
kids sometimes need to the need to see these things
for themselves as well, right, so they can come to
their own It's one thing that you're being told all
this person's bad, this person's bad. It's a different kind
of experience when you see it for yourself and themselves.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah, and it could be the other way, like, well,
I don't want you going with your mom. Your mom's
a hole, she was sleeping with another man. And really
the kids have no idea about any of that stuff.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
And they don't need to. They don't need to.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Here's another one. I'm sure.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I'm sure you'd see this all the time as a
divorce attorney. By the way, if you need to get
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Speaker 3 (04:40):
You can talk to Ray Trainlely.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Skipping support payments, yes, so that happens, I'm sure.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
So here's the problem with support And I blame the
legislature a little bit for this. We've conflated this idea
of obligation to support your children with paying money to
your spouse or your ex spouse. And the problem is
is people want to know where that money is going.
What they see is my ex has a nice new house,
a nice new car, she got her nails done, she
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got her nails done, a new bag. Whatever the case is,
that money is not going to my kids. That money
is going to my ex. And and the concept is
is that children are expensive de rays. If you've got children,
I probably didn't tell you a secret there. And and
so the idea of the child's support is, if your
child is being cared for by the other parent, they
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should have equal living situations in both parents' houses. You know,
it's one of those things that when you take that
money away, one you're exposing yourself to having to pay
attorney's fees and additional support and maybe getting in trouble
with the judge.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
But two, the kids are going to look at it
as well.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Dad doesn't care about me or mom doesn't care about
me because they're not supporting you know, the other parent.
And and a lot of times too the parent who's
not receiving the support, and this is not good. Don't
do this is tell the child your dad didn't pay
child support this month. I guess he doesn't care about us.
I guess he doesn't care if we eat crackers.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Well, that goes into number three on it belittally in
your ex within earshot of your children, or basically just
straight up telling them bad things like do you have to.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Tell any of your clients, Hey, you can't do.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
This, not only most of my clients, because I feel
like people don't work with me if they don't want
to follow a lot of these rules. Okay, but most
of my clients know that, so it's not really educating
them so much.
Speaker 5 (06:26):
Is the other side.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I put into my parenting plan contract, so it's a
signed agreement that's enforceable in court that you are not
going to negatively or disparaguly speak about the other parent
in front of or around the minor.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
Children or allow others to do it.
Speaker 5 (06:42):
So you know your mom, you address that right away
with them. Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
I put it in the contract because it's it's unexcusable.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Okay. Going back to the tele support thing real quick.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
One of the best things that from my own personal experience,
and this is Ray and the firm back in the day,
helped me out with my parental plan with my daughter
and her mom. And one of the things that I've
just my own personal experience seeing guys get caught up
in that thing that you're talking about where they're like, oh,
this money is going to the mom, this that whatever
the flip side of that is is if you don't
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handle that then regardless of where you think the money's going,
you're jamming yourself up in the sense that that money
goes into the rears, and then you're then you're even
in a deeper hole. And then it's trying to get
all all that out and the states involved, and then
you're starting to get you know, your your salaries, guardness
and all that kind of stuff. So one of the again,
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the weight that was taken off of my shoulders, is
getting that parental plan with you guys. Uh, my daughter's
mom a green and everything, and just knowing like on
a monthly basis, I don't even see it, it's gone,
and that it's been taken care of. That helps with
everything else because it's gonna help up with the relationship
with the parents. It's gonna you know, do you know
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that your kid's getting taken care of in that regard. Uh.
So that like again that you were talking about how
we've made this a battle between the parents, and it
like it shouldn't be viewed that way.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
I don't think I agree, And I think you give
money too much power when you when you do make
it that battleground.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
So the other one is griping about your ex's family
in front of the kid, like you know, your grandma
and grandpa or painting, you know, like that's you know
that kind of the same, almost the same as uh,
griping about the ex, but including the family as well. Well.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Think about the eternal conflict, you know, internal conflict, not
eternal internal conflict. You know that a child faces like
I love grandpa or I love grandma. They seem really
great to me, but dad says they're a terrible human
being and they shouldn't they shouldn't be around me right now.
Kids are like how do I process both of these feelings?
And they don't have the tools and techniques necessary to
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do that, you know, and so you know, anyway, you're
just putting them in a place of conflict.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
I'm curious about this one.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And if you've had to deal with this at all,
this is asking your children to be your on your
X right like like, so, so what does his new
girlfriend look like? Or you know you or the other
way around, like like have you had that situation?
Speaker 5 (09:08):
Oh, my goodness, I've had.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I've had parents slip recording devices and the kids backpack
during exchanges and then the kids like, hey, dad, I
had to I had to switch this out, how to
recharge or whatever, and it's a it's all on the recordings, right,
And and so I had a case where mom was
doing that to dad and and dad found you know,
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the kids aren't really smart, right, They're not very clever.
And one again, think of psychologically what this is doing,
Like I need to spy on my dad from my mom, right,
but uh so kids aren't really clever about it. And
so like Dad's like, what are you doing? Like what's this?
And so he obviously takes the device and starts listening
to it.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
And then you know, and maybe rightly, so maybe not.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I mean dad asked the question like, why is it
that this recording device is in your backpack?
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Well, mom told me, and and so we played all
these recordings.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, oh no.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
And you can hear the kid and mom talking about
like as she's putting in the backpack, you know, make
sure this only has a twenty four hour batter, like
make sure you recharge it before you go to bed,
so that way the next day, and it's.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
Like you're a terrible parent, that's bad.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
You know, I feel prett I'm not an expert, but
I feel pretty comfortable saying that.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Yeah, there's another one too.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
It says the guilt trip in your kids for enjoying
the time they spend with their other parent.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yeah, so this is what especially for vacations, right, it's like, oh,
they took you where?
Speaker 5 (10:33):
How much money did they spend? You know they didn't
they didn't give me any of that money.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Sorry, I can't take you to New York City, uh
and take you to the you know, the theater, but
you know glad your dad could do that. And making
kids feel guilty that they can't provide those same opportunities.
I tell people who switch it around, be their big cheerleader.
This is gonna be a great trip. You're gonna have
such a good time. You and your dad are gonna
have a fantastic time. I can't wait to hear about
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all your stories when you come back. Support your kid,
and then they won't feel guilty, they'll be more open
with you, and they won't have all these you know
issues with you know, their personality and their self esteem.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
As they get over yea, yes, and you go one.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
Yeah, Well to that point with what you guys are
talking about and the advent of technology, you know, spying
and this that whatever. This just came in on the
text and uh, ray, what about tracking your daughter or
son on Life three sixty when she's not with or
he's not with their mom or their dad.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
So a couple of ways I like to handle this one.
Uh for the Life three sixty, I think you can
share that with multiple devices so everybody in the family
can have that kid's access. So that becomes that becomes
a safety thing. And I do defer to parents a
little bit on the safety thing.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
So that if mom has it, then Dad, Hey, Dad,
then you should have it too. You should have it too.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Then right right where it gets where it gets excessive.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Is like I had a case where Dad was going
like sixty five miles per hour and a fifty five
mile per hour highway and Mom's sending Dad text messages
because you know, the best thing to do when somebody's
speeding in the car with the text them while they're driving,
and like, I know, you're going sixty five miles per hour,
you need to slow down, and that that is not
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how it's supposed to be used.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
And I think, you know, I think we've.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Gone a long way from how all of us were
probably raised. Where it's like you know, you come home
before the lights turn on, or you know, for my mom,
it was like be home before midnight, you know, and
trusting children to make.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
The revisions midnight.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
I had a very lack of mom.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
And the last one it has on here is that
forgetting and forgetting is in parentheses to call or spend
time with the kids to avoid seeing the other parent
because it's too hurtful to see the other parent in
a in a divorce and split up.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
So this, of all of these, this is probably the
hardest one that I deal with, is it really? Because
for me, what I see that as is it's a
sign of avoidance. And understand there's a lot of conflict
sometimes there's these weird power dynamics and relationships, a lot
of guilt. Maybe I have to encourage somebody to go
talk to a mental health professional because what they're going
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to need to do and this I wouldn't say this
to them this way, but they need to kind of
get over whatever those feelings or emotions are that they're
feeling about their spouse because their kid needs them to
be able to be there and they need to be
able to be there and have those conversations and show
up at the baseball games and do all those things.
And so I really have to push people pretty hard
on this because it's not fun talking about feelings. It's
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not fun talking about why you you know, don't want
to be around your spouse. And there might be a
lot of trauma there. But that's probably of all of these,
the hardest one to talk about, because people have to
be willing to one have that conversation and too being
willing to listen to a third party. I know I've
talked to professionals. I think you've talked to professionals and
you've talked about it on the air. It's important to
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be able to talk about your feelings and to move
past some of your feelings so that you can redirect them.
Speaker 5 (13:54):
And that's you know.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I like to use like the racing metaphor, like you
kind of have to really turn into you know, lean
into the turn and turn into it, otherwise you lose
control of your car. And so when I feel uncomfortable,
instead of avoiding these conversations, I like super lean into it,
which is not everybody's cup of tea, but you have
to have those conversation.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
I bet here we are coming up on the holidays.
How much of a hassle divorce in the holidays has
to be, you know.
Speaker 5 (14:19):
So it's funny you say that.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
At the beginning of October, I start sending out all
these temporary parenting plans because it's like, we've got November
and December coming up, We've got all these holidays. Let's
figure this out now, so it's not an emergency two
days before Thanksgiving, all the judge on vacation.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (14:35):
Yeah, So that's a big part of what I'm doing
right now.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
All right, Well, it's a friendly Ray Trendly.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
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just report the news and you take it wherever you want.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Uh It.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
It looks later that it's it's confirmed that p Diddy
will be going to Fort Dick.
Speaker 3 (17:33):
That's that's all.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
I can't tell me that there's somebody back there that's
having a just.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Last lasting Sean Dinny Coombs. Uh, it's a load of
security prison called Fort Dix Security, and I'm like, of
all the names of all the things, I mean, someone
had fun with that, right, like the Yeah, I'm not
the only twelve year old boy laughing at the fact
that he's going to Fort Dicks.
Speaker 8 (18:03):
How long is he serving for?
Speaker 3 (18:05):
I think it's a four year thing.
Speaker 4 (18:07):
That's federal correctional institution.
Speaker 7 (18:09):
It's for d I X d I X for four
years and Dicks'm person.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
It's a federal low security prison for men.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
But it made me laugh at three this morning.
Speaker 6 (18:21):
Yeah, that is funny.
Speaker 8 (18:23):
Close security means what he can pretty much do what
he wants.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
Like, it's not yeah, I mean he's yeah, it's it's
like a you know, it's when they say country Club
of prisons. Uh, it's going to be like that. So
like he's not going to be under let's say severe lockdown.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
There's no.
Speaker 8 (18:37):
I don't think the rehab center.
Speaker 4 (18:39):
I'm thinking there's a rehab facility as a part of
the of the jail. It's a next it's next to
uh An Army base as well.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
So but just the joke is not the low security,
it's the fact that it's fort.
Speaker 6 (18:54):
It is funny.
Speaker 8 (18:54):
I giggled. I mean, I'm not laughing as much as you,
but I get the Joke's been.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
A bunch of high, high profile people that have been
sent there too. Really.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Yeah, that's the first I've heard of it.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
I'm like, they made that up and I had to
go look it up because there actually is a fort
Dix spelled d i X just you know, but you.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Know, yeah, whatever, okay, so you do the math on that.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Also in the news, uh, Dolly Parton's sister is asking
people for prayers and saying that Dolly is not doing
Oh come on, now.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
This has already been a bad enough year as it is.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
Do we know if this is okay? So this is
let's don't lose. This is the world that I live
in or we living right? Yeah, I saw that. Until
it's been confirmed, I don't want to believe it. I
don't either, Like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
She's seventy nine years old, so I mean, when you're
when you're you know, when you're up there, then you know,
you don't know what can happen what.
Speaker 7 (19:46):
Like at that age, Yes, you could have been having
a great day yesterday and then like.
Speaker 6 (19:49):
One fall one cold Oh dude.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
You want to talk about heartbreaking and exactly what you're
talking about. There's a new documentary on Paramount that has
to do with the Ozzy Osborn.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
It just dropped.
Speaker 4 (20:02):
Oh my god, it's it is heartbreaking. It really it
is heartbreaking. It is hard today, it's going to pull
at your at your heart.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Mary Ellen loves Ozzy and she loves him because not
of the music or because the Aussie that we all love.
She loves the azzy on the on the TV show
and the one that does that show about uh uh,
the Osbourne's want to believe or whatever, and she thinks
he's the most a normble guy.
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And he was still he was still alive.
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So this is basically yeah, this is the basically the
two years leading up to the final show. Obviously they
didn't know what was going to happen, but this the
Rock and Roll Hall of Fame is a huge part
of this. You have we have no idea unless you've
watched this, unless you've seen this, you had no idea,
no idea how of how bad his medical situation was.
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This documents that the fall that like it was just
basically a fall at home that broke his neck, and
from there everything went south for the last four or
five years, maybe even longer than I think they said
nine years of his life, just the incredible amount of
pain that he was in just and that's because so
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it was the fault, but then there's misdiagnosis, there's overreached
by doctors, there's like a bunch of stuff that goes
on there. Obviously he's older at this time. It's there's
a The beautiful part of it is obviously is there
is him and Sharon, and that there's a point there where,
like you could, Sharon breaks and she knows and it
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happens months and months and months and months and months
and months before you know. But there's a scene there
that is is is as hard, as hard as anything
I've ever had to watch, because it was real, you
know what I mean, When an older person like.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
That falls, you don't know how it can make like, no.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
This is in this what Ryan was saying in regardless
of Dolly parton, you know what day, everything was cool,
everything was fine, and then he has this fall and
it had changed the trajectory of the last ten years
of his life.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
And that's what and this is not the same thing,
but sort of adjacent or whatever. But Ace Freely, the
guy from Kiss just fell on stage and uh, you know,
had to rush him to the hospital. And now he's
canceled all of his concerts for the rest of the year.
And they're not saying what's wrong, but a fall like that,
and if it's Dolly, if it's anyone.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
Over they find when they're going in there to let's say,
they thinking they're working on a broken hap and they
find who knows what, you know.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
And and then broken hit. That's what That's what Tom
Petty's problem, right. Tom Petty had a fall and broke
his hip and then started taking the opioids.
Speaker 7 (22:46):
And and I think bigger deal though for Dolly, and
I've seen this happen too many times. It's sad and
it will one hundred happen to me. Is she lost
her husband of sixty years.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
You know, you're right, that's a very good point. He
passed a couple of months ago. And a lot of
times your partner goes and you're just like, yeah, what
the hell, and you know, yeah.
Speaker 5 (23:06):
That will happen to me.
Speaker 7 (23:07):
Having my uncle, I watched him fully deteriorate after my
aunt died. They were together for a long time. Seeing it,
I've just seen. It's just a real ass thing that
can happen. It's like dying of heartbreak. Yeah yeah, so
I can't imagine me sixty years a long time to
wake up with like no one like I'm really your
your mom was what I was worried about when that
when that happened. But she's going strong.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Well, yeah, she sits at home alone by herself watching TV.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
I mean, like ID but it.
Speaker 7 (23:36):
Should do a lot before. It's not like she was
out and about the town that much.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Before she had my dad to talk to. She's just
very lonely right now.
Speaker 7 (23:43):
And that she get her an AI an a high yeah,
like set up like AI robots.
Speaker 6 (23:48):
You can talk to it at her house.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
That's not a bad idea, I know, yeah yeah.
Speaker 8 (23:52):
Or she could just talk to real people. There's women
groups talking about real's women group chat.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
I know.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
But that she comes from the fifties and and and
in West Virginia, and she only served my dad for
sixty years, and she never is great at talking to
people for whatever reason. Because people when they do talk
to her, they like her. But she just she's an introvert.
And my dad was the extrovert that that when people
hung out, they were hanging out with Dad, but they'd
get to know Mo. And she just won't get out
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of the house.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
Man.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
It's just it's it's it's frustrating, but it's just what
it is.
Speaker 8 (24:23):
And she's going to do anything.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
She won't get out and do anything because she's nervous
about talking to people.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
I don't know. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 8 (24:32):
Understand that.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
I don't understand it. But it's because I'm like my dad.
Speaker 7 (24:36):
You know, I could set up a tablet with it's
your dad's head, yes, and he's talking.
Speaker 6 (24:42):
Do you have enough audio where we could clone his voice?
Speaker 3 (24:45):
I got him saying shut the hell.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
I got that.
Speaker 6 (24:50):
Yeah, we could. We could set it up. She could
like talk to him.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Isn't that scary though?
Speaker 8 (24:54):
That that's what the world's coming to, That you can
take someone's voice, clone it and have them say things
that they never said. And then that's where the reality blurs,
the lines of what's real and what's not. With all
this AI that's been coming.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
In my.
Speaker 7 (25:10):
Wife for to pass, I'm not going back out in
the dating pool. I'm never gonna do it is terrible.
I would make this. I would have a picture in
my wall that's an interactive picture I would talk to if.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Dolly Parton passes and I'm not you know, obviously, God forbid.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
That's that's one thing.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
That's that's one thing we all could be in a
great we'd all be sad, right, like a little bit
of unity in America for like one day. No matter
who you are, you love Dolly, right.
Speaker 6 (25:38):
The flag's gotta go half master.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
I can't imagine.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Anybody like I hate that Dolly Parton, like, I don't
think that happens.
Speaker 4 (25:44):
I'll take that bat Oh, well, that.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Person is just not worth anything like like, you can't
you can't dislike Dolly.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
She's sweet, she can be.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
She loves everybody something exactly.
Speaker 8 (25:56):
There's always a negative.
Speaker 6 (25:58):
It's always a negative, guaranteed.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
Because of the last few years of her life and
her social political when she helped COVID, the social political
stances that she has taken on, and seeing some of
the posts that have come out about her before she
was ill, there are people that are going to not
be so pleasant to her. And I'll take I'll take
that one and I'll take that bet from you, Ryan,
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that I would I would be genuinely surprised in the
climate that we are in today, that it would be
asked that a flag goes half staff for her.
Speaker 6 (26:29):
Oh you got to.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
Again, I agree with you, guys, I'm in agreement. I would,
I would expect the same. I would be surprised.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
So I don't even know her political stance, be honest.
Speaker 4 (26:40):
That's what I'm saying. We didn't for the longest time.
And then in the last five years, uh, from the
time in COVID when she stuffed up is she helped
cover some businesses, and she helped pay some things off,
and she's taken care of of some city, some towns
and things like that. We never knew these things about
her and she and it became she made it aware,
and there were she pro No, she's she's very u
(27:04):
she's pro LGBTQ.
Speaker 7 (27:06):
She was offered the Presidential Medal of Freedom from both
Biden and Trump. She declined those both to decline both.
She hasn't had a lot of controversy in her life.
I mean she did she did a duet with Kid Rock,
so well, you know, no, I'm saying, like like she
reaches across the aisle. I think I think Dolly Parton people,
I think you're right. If there's ever a coming together moment,
it's Dolly Parton AND's people celebrating her, I would hope.
Speaker 4 (27:29):
But the Christian right, the Christian fundamentalists, have her on
a list because of her support for LGBTQ list over there.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
That's something wrong with them.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Then you know who's two months away when it's October
number three months away from being one hundred is Dick
van Dyke h son of a gun huh. And he
made a joke, you know, and he's like, wouldn't it
be funny if I didn't make it to one hundred?
And people were like, oh my god, what a horrible.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
Thing to say.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
But he's like doing Joe, like he's thinking that he's
good and he did you know, obviously he wants make
it to a I saw that.
Speaker 7 (28:01):
I saw that, and I was like, that's kind of
funny actually, But then I think I was thinking, like
you get to that age and like you're in the
countdown and you know, and you know what a weird
place to be that must be mentally to know that
like you have I think when.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
You're a hundred, maybe weeks when you're.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
He's not feeble at all, but I think you've accepted
it by then you're like, Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna
transfer over to whatever's next and and and I'll be good.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
I think I see him on TV in a second,
but I don't think. I think it's just out of choice.
But like last time I saw him, he was, I mean,
he was engaged.
Speaker 7 (28:31):
Was It's crazy though for me, Like what I'm saying
is like, okay, like if you have cancer, you get
to genuinely get a diagnosis they give you, like you
have this long to live.
Speaker 6 (28:38):
You're like, this disease is gonna get me or whatever
it is.
Speaker 7 (28:41):
When you're just a hundred, that's just age and it
could be any day for nothing, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (28:47):
That's kind of a weird.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
You can make it to one hundred and five. I
mean people do that, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
But he he seems to be in pretty good health.
And uh, you know, let me ask a question, Uh uh, Amber,
do you know who Dick Van Dyke is?
Speaker 6 (28:58):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (28:59):
You do?
Speaker 6 (28:59):
Okay, what's he do?
Speaker 8 (29:02):
I think he's an actor? Okay, And what it sounds
so familiar. He he did the.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Stuff like you don't know, Yeah, you don't know.
Speaker 7 (29:12):
I feel like she can get it there up brains burning, Yeah,
I mean I mean.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
That I believe my brain's burning.
Speaker 6 (29:24):
I feel that's called thinking.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
He had had a television show it it's called The
Dick Van Dyke Show. And he also is in Mary
Poppins that he did Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, and he
he did.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
I mean I used to love that.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Uh, he did a lot of stuff, but but it
would be much older, so I didn't know if current
people even know who Dick van Dyke is. Everybody knows
who Dolly Parton still is. You know, Dick van Dyke
hasn't done anything. He did the Museum, that the Museum
that night at the museum, he was in a couple
of those. Is a bad guy. What else has Dick
(29:58):
Van Dyke done lately? He's really been slucky. No, no, no.
Speaker 4 (30:03):
Two years ago he was on the mass singer Yeah,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
He always seems like a sweet guy though. He seems
like he's a pretty cool dude and well loved. But uh,
Dolly Parton obviously would be a bigger deal. Who else
is up there? Now that we all will go, oh.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
Man, are we playing Deadpool?
Speaker 3 (30:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (30:21):
I don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
It's the topic. It's Dolly Parton.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Saying we all need to pray for Dolly because she's
on her way out, basically is what she's saying.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Uh and uh. That will be very sad if it happens.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Remember, like the one you liked a lot, Betty White
didn't actually make it to one hundred.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
She was like two months.
Speaker 6 (30:38):
Away, a couple of a couple of couple away. I
respect that, Betty.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
There was another one that made it almost too, was
it Bob Bob Barker almost one hundred?
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (30:48):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (30:49):
Bob Barker was a while ago.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
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Speaker 1 (34:08):
Anyway, Today is national or international National Happy National Pet
Obesity Awareness Day. Okay, so for dogs that are obese,
and it says here a third of Americans would put
their dogs on ozimpic question, if you're not Let's say
(34:29):
you know that big great dame and you have uh,
great Danes don't get overweight, do they do?
Speaker 3 (34:34):
They? I've never seen a fat great name. Google just
google fat great name. So they do.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
So if the if the if that dog got.
Speaker 4 (34:44):
Fat obese, would you put it on ozipic if there
was a version for dogs? Sure can't. There can't be
fat there is. He's a legendary's a he's an athletic,
spry dog, so you can't have him be fat out.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
Let's say here ozempic dogs could hit the Ocempic for
dogs can hit the market in three years. Really, yeah,
they're making it four dogs. They're at tracked by three years.
They should have it because obese obesity for animals is
a big deal and people don't know what to do
other than not feed the dog and then that makes
the dog grumpy.
Speaker 4 (35:17):
And they are running that drug for as much money
as they can make off of that thing all over
the place. So they do it. Humans to do it.
Now they're going to get the human to buy their
their dosage and the dog dosage.
Speaker 6 (35:28):
When do you intervene with somebody's fat pet? Though?
Speaker 4 (35:31):
Right?
Speaker 1 (35:31):
Like?
Speaker 6 (35:32):
When is it like like like Okay, you're an enagbler,
you're a feeder. That's not good.
Speaker 7 (35:36):
Like somebody I know who's related to me, who gave
birth to me, has the fattest cat on the entire
the entire planet. And I want you to picture a
fat cat in your brain right now.
Speaker 6 (35:47):
I'm making I got one.
Speaker 7 (35:48):
I've seen many a fact walk into that.
Speaker 4 (35:54):
I'm a huge fan of the fat cat.
Speaker 7 (35:56):
Yeah, but this this is I'm actual fee lion.
Speaker 6 (36:00):
Oh oh, fee lion.
Speaker 7 (36:02):
And uh I'll make that like me oway, Yeah, make
that fee lion bigger because that's how big this cat is.
And he's mean and he's fat, and my mom has
a self feeder for him.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
By the way, Topic not cats right now.
Speaker 3 (36:13):
Topic is dogs.
Speaker 6 (36:15):
Right, it's obesity awareness for animals. It wasn't ab awareness
for dogs.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
You don't listen to it. Thing I say.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
It's obese awareness for dogs.
Speaker 6 (36:24):
Yeah, why just dogs? All people have fat animals. There's
a lot that could be too fat.
Speaker 3 (36:29):
You ever see a fat parrot?
Speaker 4 (36:32):
No, that doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
Now, Actually, you're right, it's it's pet obesity.
Speaker 4 (36:37):
It is. It is just messing with you.
Speaker 7 (36:39):
Yeah, I was listening this time, sort of gotcha, not
enough to why I was confident.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Of cat owners and thirty five percent of dog owners.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
Have an overweight or obese animal.
Speaker 8 (36:55):
Yeah, say that the owner is also obese.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
That's a good question.
Speaker 8 (36:59):
I don't know, sea monkey do what are you saying.
Speaker 4 (37:02):
About Ryan's mom?
Speaker 6 (37:04):
You call my mom fat?
Speaker 1 (37:08):
You great shape.
Speaker 6 (37:12):
But it's too far because you can wear a child's
wrestling belt.
Speaker 7 (37:16):
You think you're better than everybody, right, Yeah, I feel
like I.
Speaker 6 (37:21):
Do have to intervene because, like, and I've made comments.
Speaker 7 (37:24):
I've been trying to like be like mom wet over
the cat and the cat's on like a self feeder,
and that's the problem.
Speaker 6 (37:30):
And the cat has like a sense of time.
Speaker 7 (37:31):
I was unaware of this, Like, so it goes off
with like five in the afternoon and the cat will
come out at like four fifty five and.
Speaker 6 (37:38):
Just wait for it to like go because it knows.
It knows.
Speaker 4 (37:42):
But if it's on a self feeder, that doesn't mean
it's being fed too often. Maybe she's got I mean,
she's got it timed out.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
She can time she should time it back a little.
Speaker 7 (37:49):
Bit, should time it back. I'm thinking one time of day.
But then but then my mom's in an abusive relationship
with this cat. I've said this before. Uh so she's
tried to pull back the food. But then she's like,
well then the cat's like real mean to me, and
she's not wrong.
Speaker 6 (38:03):
This cat is also an asshole. So I don't I
don't know what to do. But this cat is way
way too big.
Speaker 3 (38:13):
Yeah, you know why a parrot doesn't get fat. It
eats like a bird.
Speaker 8 (38:19):
Joke, that's kind of cute.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
I get it eats like a bird.
Speaker 8 (38:27):
She should do the timer thing though, And then when
it gets when it gets, make sure she clips its nails.
Does it bite her? Does it just randomly bite her?
Speaker 4 (38:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (38:37):
Her arm is all cut up and beat up because
this cat bites her all the time.
Speaker 6 (38:40):
Just and I'm like, what were you doing with the
Cat's like, I don't know, I was pet in it.
Speaker 8 (38:44):
You can give the cat catnip and be real happy.
Speaker 6 (38:47):
I don't just drug the cat.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Mean.
Speaker 6 (38:50):
I rarely thinking animals like mean mean. This cat is mean.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
If your dog that you are, are you in love
with your dog?
Speaker 4 (38:55):
Now?
Speaker 3 (38:55):
Are you still madt your dog?
Speaker 4 (38:58):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (38:58):
Let's see what you do yesterday?
Speaker 3 (38:59):
Are you are you in different?
Speaker 6 (39:00):
I love my dog your dog got.
Speaker 3 (39:03):
Fat, would you would you give it ozepic?
Speaker 7 (39:06):
No, no, no, I just feed it less and then
walk it more. I don't need to get into his now.
Speaker 6 (39:15):
I'm in control of my dog's weight one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (39:18):
Well here's that.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
I've got two dogs, right, one she's she's a puppy,
she's skinny, skinny, skinny. And the other one, bo is
getting fat and he eats everything and he'll eat her food.
He's like, I'm like, but he's slowing down right thinking
monkey see monkey do he's watching me, you know, and
it don't sit there, you know, and beg for food
from Mary Ellen. And of course you know when she
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eats her pizza, she'll give him, you know, the pizza bones.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
I'm like, he's getting fat, honey.
Speaker 6 (39:43):
You know, well, it's true.
Speaker 8 (39:44):
Usually like an animal sees you eating, or they smell
of food, they're gonna want to bite. And then your
owner is gonna be like, oh, sure you can have
some of my McDonald's. And that that's where it could
come from. If you're that kind of person that feeds
people food to your dog.
Speaker 6 (39:55):
There's a lot of factors.
Speaker 1 (39:56):
Yeah, I try to tell her, I said all that
extra food you've given him I would eat.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
Give it to me.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
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I got a guy just sent a text and he said, hey,
does TK law handle divorce cases in other cities like Jacksonville.
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So I don't do a lot of work in Jacksonville,
but I do have a lawyer up there who used
to be a judge, and I can put you in
judge to somebody.
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Okay, so yeah, you call Ray. He can handle it,
and if he can't handle it, he'll get you to
the right person.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
I will.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
And talking about divorce, this was an article that I saw.
I'm like, I wonder how much of this Ray has
to deal with?
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Now?
Speaker 1 (01:25):
This is more probably about messing up Well, let's talk
about divorce. Do these things during If you do these
things during divorce, it will mess up your kids. How
much of this do you have to talk to your
clients about and say, hey, don't do that, this is
bad for the kids.
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Like, do you get that deep into Oh?
Speaker 5 (01:44):
Absolutely.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
There's a lot of different ways you could be a lawyer, right, Yeah.
You could wear the lawyer hat and just say I'm
in charge of the law and I'm going to tell
you what the law says, and we're gonna just kind of,
you know, do that. I'm not that kind of lawyer,
you know. What's more important to me is not just
the outcome of your case, but the aftermath and when
I talk to people about how they're going to get divorced,
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one of the very first things I do is I
set goals with them, and almost almost uniformly, every single
person they've got kids, I ask them, hey, how much
of a priority is it for you to protect your
kids throughout this process? And if they say yes, then
I take that as my license to say I'm not
a mental health professional and I'm not a child psychologist,
but maybe you should rethink how you do X.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Look, i'll list you some of these things.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You tell me how many times you have to deal
with it and explain, hey, this is not the Number
One on this list is with holding visitation.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
To punish their ex Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Yeah, I'm sure that happens all the time.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
All the time, And there's so much trauma around that.
Because one, children like to have boundaries and expectations, and
if they're expecting to see mom or dad and they
don't get to see mom or dad, that creates that
conflict and that creates trauma for children. But the other thing,
this is, this is what I think people don't talk
about enough when it comes to withholding time sharing. Kids
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need both parents involved in their lives right. There is
very credible, peer reviewed scientific evidence that says both moms
and dads are necessary for successful children.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Don't you find out that a lot of times you
know they're going through divorce. So mom knows that dad
did something absolutely horrible and I don't want.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
My kids being around it. And he was doing cocaine
or whatever it was. And you're not like a cool dad.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
You're not you're not seeing the kids. You're out of control.
And she's so mad that she doesn't realize kids don't
know about your adult argument you're going through.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I had to judge one time tell the other side,
which was great because I won. But she said that
he drank too much on weekends, right, And the judge says,
I don't care if he's cooking meth in the kitchen,
as long as the kids aren't showing up high. I
don't care. He could be a bad person and be
a good dad. Both things can be true. And I
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tell people that story. He was a chief judge for
a long time.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
The other part of that, though, also is that the
kids sometimes need to the need to see these things
for themselves as well, right, so they can come to
their own It's one thing that you're being told all
this person's bad, this person's bad. It's a different kind
of experience when you see it for yourself and themselves.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yeah, and it could be the other way, like, well,
I don't want you going with your mom. Your mom's
a hole, she was sleeping with another man. And really
the kids have no idea about any of that stuff.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
And they don't need to. They don't need to.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Here's another one. I'm sure.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I'm sure you'd see this all the time as a
divorce attorney. By the way, if you need to get
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Speaker 3 (04:40):
You can talk to Ray Trainlely.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Skipping support payments, yes, so that happens, I'm sure.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
So here's the problem with support And I blame the
legislature a little bit for this. We've conflated this idea
of obligation to support your children with paying money to
your spouse or your ex spouse. And the problem is
is people want to know where that money is going.
What they see is my ex has a nice new house,
a nice new car, she got her nails done, she
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got her nails done, a new bag. Whatever the case is,
that money is not going to my kids. That money
is going to my ex. And and the concept is
is that children are expensive de rays. If you've got children,
I probably didn't tell you a secret there. And and
so the idea of the child's support is, if your
child is being cared for by the other parent, they
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should have equal living situations in both parents' houses. You know,
it's one of those things that when you take that
money away, one you're exposing yourself to having to pay
attorney's fees and additional support and maybe getting in trouble
with the judge.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
But two, the kids are going to look at it
as well.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Dad doesn't care about me or mom doesn't care about
me because they're not supporting you know, the other parent.
And and a lot of times too the parent who's
not receiving the support, and this is not good. Don't
do this is tell the child your dad didn't pay
child support this month. I guess he doesn't care about us.
I guess he doesn't care if we eat crackers.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Well, that goes into number three on it belittally in
your ex within earshot of your children, or basically just
straight up telling them bad things like do you have to.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Tell any of your clients, Hey, you can't do.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
This, not only most of my clients, because I feel
like people don't work with me if they don't want
to follow a lot of these rules. Okay, but most
of my clients know that, so it's not really educating
them so much.
Speaker 5 (06:26):
Is the other side.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I put into my parenting plan contract, so it's a
signed agreement that's enforceable in court that you are not
going to negatively or disparaguly speak about the other parent
in front of or around the minor.
Speaker 6 (06:39):
Children or allow others to do it.
Speaker 5 (06:42):
So you know your mom, you address that right away
with them. Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
I put it in the contract because it's it's unexcusable.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Okay. Going back to the tele support thing real quick.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
One of the best things that from my own personal experience,
and this is Ray and the firm back in the day,
helped me out with my parental plan with my daughter
and her mom. And one of the things that I've
just my own personal experience seeing guys get caught up
in that thing that you're talking about where they're like, oh,
this money is going to the mom, this that whatever
the flip side of that is is if you don't
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handle that then regardless of where you think the money's going,
you're jamming yourself up in the sense that that money
goes into the rears, and then you're then you're even
in a deeper hole. And then it's trying to get
all all that out and the states involved, and then
you're starting to get you know, your your salaries, guardness
and all that kind of stuff. So one of the again,
(07:35):
the weight that was taken off of my shoulders, is
getting that parental plan with you guys. Uh, my daughter's
mom a green and everything, and just knowing like on
a monthly basis, I don't even see it, it's gone,
and that it's been taken care of. That helps with
everything else because it's gonna help up with the relationship
with the parents. It's gonna you know, do you know
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that your kid's getting taken care of in that regard. Uh.
So that like again that you were talking about how
we've made this a battle between the parents, and it
like it shouldn't be viewed that way.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
I don't think I agree, And I think you give
money too much power when you when you do make
it that battleground.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
So the other one is griping about your ex's family
in front of the kid, like you know, your grandma
and grandpa or painting, you know, like that's you know
that kind of the same, almost the same as uh,
griping about the ex, but including the family as well. Well.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Think about the eternal conflict, you know, internal conflict, not
eternal internal conflict. You know that a child faces like
I love grandpa or I love grandma. They seem really
great to me, but dad says they're a terrible human
being and they shouldn't they shouldn't be around me right now.
Kids are like how do I process both of these feelings?
And they don't have the tools and techniques necessary to
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do that, you know, and so you know, anyway, you're
just putting them in a place of conflict.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
I'm curious about this one.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
And if you've had to deal with this at all,
this is asking your children to be your on your
X right like like, so, so what does his new
girlfriend look like? Or you know you or the other
way around, like like have you had that situation?
Speaker 5 (09:08):
Oh, my goodness, I've had.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I've had parents slip recording devices and the kids backpack
during exchanges and then the kids like, hey, dad, I
had to I had to switch this out, how to
recharge or whatever, and it's a it's all on the recordings, right,
And and so I had a case where mom was
doing that to dad and and dad found you know,
(09:32):
the kids aren't really smart, right, They're not very clever.
And one again, think of psychologically what this is doing,
Like I need to spy on my dad from my mom, right,
but uh so kids aren't really clever about it. And
so like Dad's like, what are you doing? Like what's this?
And so he obviously takes the device and starts listening
to it.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
And then you know, and maybe rightly, so maybe not.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I mean dad asked the question like, why is it
that this recording device is in your backpack?
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Well, mom told me, and and so we played all
these recordings.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yeah, oh no.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
And you can hear the kid and mom talking about
like as she's putting in the backpack, you know, make
sure this only has a twenty four hour batter, like
make sure you recharge it before you go to bed,
so that way the next day, and it's.
Speaker 5 (10:14):
Like you're a terrible parent, that's bad.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
You know, I feel prett I'm not an expert, but
I feel pretty comfortable saying that.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Yeah, there's another one too.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
It says the guilt trip in your kids for enjoying
the time they spend with their other parent.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yeah, so this is what especially for vacations, right, it's like, oh,
they took you where?
Speaker 5 (10:33):
How much money did they spend? You know they didn't
they didn't give me any of that money.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Sorry, I can't take you to New York City, uh
and take you to the you know, the theater, but
you know glad your dad could do that. And making
kids feel guilty that they can't provide those same opportunities.
I tell people who switch it around, be their big cheerleader.
This is gonna be a great trip. You're gonna have
such a good time. You and your dad are gonna
have a fantastic time. I can't wait to hear about
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all your stories when you come back. Support your kid,
and then they won't feel guilty, they'll be more open
with you, and they won't have all these you know
issues with you know, their personality and their self esteem.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
As they get over yea, yes, and you go one.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
Yeah, Well to that point with what you guys are
talking about and the advent of technology, you know, spying
and this that whatever. This just came in on the
text and uh, ray, what about tracking your daughter or
son on Life three sixty when she's not with or
he's not with their mom or their dad.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
So a couple of ways I like to handle this one.
Uh for the Life three sixty, I think you can
share that with multiple devices so everybody in the family
can have that kid's access. So that becomes that becomes
a safety thing. And I do defer to parents a
little bit on the safety thing.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
So that if mom has it, then Dad, Hey, Dad,
then you should have it too. You should have it too.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Then right right where it gets where it gets excessive.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Is like I had a case where Dad was going
like sixty five miles per hour and a fifty five
mile per hour highway and Mom's sending Dad text messages
because you know, the best thing to do when somebody's
speeding in the car with the text them while they're driving,
and like, I know, you're going sixty five miles per hour,
you need to slow down, and that that is not
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how it's supposed to be used.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
And I think, you know, I think we've.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Gone a long way from how all of us were
probably raised. Where it's like you know, you come home
before the lights turn on, or you know, for my mom,
it was like be home before midnight, you know, and
trusting children to make.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
The revisions midnight.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
I had a very lack of mom.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
And the last one it has on here is that
forgetting and forgetting is in parentheses to call or spend
time with the kids to avoid seeing the other parent
because it's too hurtful to see the other parent in
a in a divorce and split up.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
So this, of all of these, this is probably the
hardest one that I deal with, is it really? Because
for me, what I see that as is it's a
sign of avoidance. And understand there's a lot of conflict
sometimes there's these weird power dynamics and relationships, a lot
of guilt. Maybe I have to encourage somebody to go
talk to a mental health professional because what they're going
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to need to do and this I wouldn't say this
to them this way, but they need to kind of
get over whatever those feelings or emotions are that they're
feeling about their spouse because their kid needs them to
be able to be there and they need to be
able to be there and have those conversations and show
up at the baseball games and do all those things.
And so I really have to push people pretty hard
on this because it's not fun talking about feelings. It's
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not fun talking about why you you know, don't want
to be around your spouse. And there might be a
lot of trauma there. But that's probably of all of these,
the hardest one to talk about, because people have to
be willing to one have that conversation and too being
willing to listen to a third party. I know I've
talked to professionals. I think you've talked to professionals and
you've talked about it on the air. It's important to
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be able to talk about your feelings and to move
past some of your feelings so that you can redirect them.
Speaker 5 (13:54):
And that's you know.
Speaker 2 (13:55):
I like to use like the racing metaphor, like you
kind of have to really turn into you know, lean
into the turn and turn into it, otherwise you lose
control of your car. And so when I feel uncomfortable,
instead of avoiding these conversations, I like super lean into it,
which is not everybody's cup of tea, but you have
to have those conversation.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
I bet here we are coming up on the holidays.
How much of a hassle divorce in the holidays has
to be, you know.
Speaker 5 (14:19):
So it's funny you say that.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
At the beginning of October, I start sending out all
these temporary parenting plans because it's like, we've got November
and December coming up, We've got all these holidays. Let's
figure this out now, so it's not an emergency two
days before Thanksgiving, all the judge on vacation.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (14:35):
Yeah, So that's a big part of what I'm doing
right now.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
All right, Well, it's a friendly Ray Trendly.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
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Shout out to City of Leesburg Monster Mags. Last night
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with him and Ryan. There was a moment there at
the end of the night where this would have completely
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melted your heart. The song Golden that you and I
can't get out of our heads from the Demon Hunters
Netflix show. So I played that for a group of
young ladies, little girls out there. They lost their minds
that they did a whole performance and dance and everything.
It was absolutely just heartwarming nice yeah so, but it
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was getting super fun night out there. Shout out to
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a couple of weeks looking for that. Yeah, yeah, uh
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Speaker 3 (17:05):
Again.
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She put on a great event, all her volunteers and
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was just really fun. And it's the second event I've
done in as many weeks, and I've been having a
blast going out to leeds Burks. So thank you for
having me.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Yeah, good, good good. H heard this this morning. I
just report the news and you take it wherever you want.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Uh It.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
It looks later that it's it's confirmed that p Diddy
will be going to Fort Dick.
Speaker 3 (17:33):
That's that's all.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
I can't tell me that there's somebody back there that's
having a just.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Last lasting Sean Dinny Coombs. Uh, it's a load of
security prison called Fort Dix Security, and I'm like, of
all the names of all the things, I mean, someone
had fun with that, right, like the Yeah, I'm not
the only twelve year old boy laughing at the fact
that he's going to Fort Dicks.
Speaker 8 (18:03):
How long is he serving for?
Speaker 3 (18:05):
I think it's a four year thing.
Speaker 4 (18:07):
That's federal correctional institution.
Speaker 7 (18:09):
It's for d I X d I X for four
years and Dicks'm person.
Speaker 4 (18:15):
It's a federal low security prison for men.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
But it made me laugh at three this morning.
Speaker 6 (18:21):
Yeah, that is funny.
Speaker 8 (18:23):
Close security means what he can pretty much do what
he wants.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
Like, it's not yeah, I mean he's yeah, it's it's
like a you know, it's when they say country Club
of prisons. Uh, it's going to be like that. So
like he's not going to be under let's say severe lockdown.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
There's no.
Speaker 8 (18:37):
I don't think the rehab center.
Speaker 4 (18:39):
I'm thinking there's a rehab facility as a part of
the of the jail. It's a next it's next to
uh An Army base as well.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
So but just the joke is not the low security,
it's the fact that it's fort.
Speaker 6 (18:54):
It is funny.
Speaker 8 (18:54):
I giggled. I mean, I'm not laughing as much as you,
but I get the Joke's been.
Speaker 4 (19:00):
A bunch of high, high profile people that have been
sent there too. Really.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Yeah, that's the first I've heard of it.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
I'm like, they made that up and I had to
go look it up because there actually is a fort
Dix spelled d i X just you know, but you.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Know, yeah, whatever, okay, so you do the math on that.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
Also in the news, uh, Dolly Parton's sister is asking
people for prayers and saying that Dolly is not doing
Oh come on, now.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
This has already been a bad enough year as it is.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
Do we know if this is okay? So this is
let's don't lose. This is the world that I live
in or we living right? Yeah, I saw that. Until
it's been confirmed, I don't want to believe it. I
don't either, Like I don't know.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
She's seventy nine years old, so I mean, when you're
when you're you know, when you're up there, then you know,
you don't know what can happen what.
Speaker 7 (19:46):
Like at that age, Yes, you could have been having
a great day yesterday and then like.
Speaker 6 (19:49):
One fall one cold Oh dude.
Speaker 4 (19:52):
You want to talk about heartbreaking and exactly what you're
talking about. There's a new documentary on Paramount that has
to do with the Ozzy Osborn.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
It just dropped.
Speaker 4 (20:02):
Oh my god, it's it is heartbreaking. It really it
is heartbreaking. It is hard today, it's going to pull
at your at your heart.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Mary Ellen loves Ozzy and she loves him because not
of the music or because the Aussie that we all love.
She loves the azzy on the on the TV show
and the one that does that show about uh uh,
the Osbourne's want to believe or whatever, and she thinks
he's the most a normble guy.
Speaker 4 (20:28):
It's on Plaramountain. It's called No Escape from Now.
Speaker 3 (20:31):
And he was still he was still alive.
Speaker 4 (20:32):
So this is basically yeah, this is the basically the
two years leading up to the final show. Obviously they
didn't know what was going to happen, but this the
Rock and Roll Hall of Fame is a huge part
of this. You have we have no idea unless you've
watched this, unless you've seen this, you had no idea,
no idea how of how bad his medical situation was.
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This documents that the fall that like it was just
basically a fall at home that broke his neck, and
from there everything went south for the last four or
five years, maybe even longer than I think they said
nine years of his life, just the incredible amount of
pain that he was in just and that's because so
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it was the fault, but then there's misdiagnosis, there's overreached
by doctors, there's like a bunch of stuff that goes
on there. Obviously he's older at this time. It's there's
a The beautiful part of it is obviously is there
is him and Sharon, and that there's a point there where,
like you could, Sharon breaks and she knows and it
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happens months and months and months and months and months
and months before you know. But there's a scene there
that is is is as hard, as hard as anything
I've ever had to watch, because it was real, you
know what I mean, When an older person like.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
That falls, you don't know how it can make like, no.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
This is in this what Ryan was saying in regardless
of Dolly parton, you know what day, everything was cool,
everything was fine, and then he has this fall and
it had changed the trajectory of the last ten years
of his life.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
And that's what and this is not the same thing,
but sort of adjacent or whatever. But Ace Freely, the
guy from Kiss just fell on stage and uh, you know,
had to rush him to the hospital. And now he's
canceled all of his concerts for the rest of the year.
And they're not saying what's wrong, but a fall like that,
and if it's Dolly, if it's anyone.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
Over they find when they're going in there to let's say,
they thinking they're working on a broken hap and they
find who knows what, you know.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
And and then broken hit. That's what That's what Tom
Petty's problem, right. Tom Petty had a fall and broke
his hip and then started taking the opioids.
Speaker 7 (22:46):
And and I think bigger deal though for Dolly, and
I've seen this happen too many times. It's sad and
it will one hundred happen to me. Is she lost
her husband of sixty years.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
You know, you're right, that's a very good point. He
passed a couple of months ago. And a lot of
times your partner goes and you're just like, yeah, what
the hell, and you know, yeah.
Speaker 5 (23:06):
That will happen to me.
Speaker 7 (23:07):
Having my uncle, I watched him fully deteriorate after my
aunt died. They were together for a long time. Seeing it,
I've just seen. It's just a real ass thing that
can happen. It's like dying of heartbreak. Yeah yeah, so
I can't imagine me sixty years a long time to
wake up with like no one like I'm really your
your mom was what I was worried about when that
when that happened. But she's going strong.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Well, yeah, she sits at home alone by herself watching TV.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
I mean, like ID but it.
Speaker 7 (23:36):
Should do a lot before. It's not like she was
out and about the town that much.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Before she had my dad to talk to. She's just
very lonely right now.
Speaker 7 (23:43):
And that she get her an AI an a high yeah,
like set up like AI robots.
Speaker 6 (23:48):
You can talk to it at her house.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
That's not a bad idea, I know, yeah yeah.
Speaker 8 (23:52):
Or she could just talk to real people. There's women
groups talking about real's women group chat.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
I know.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
But that she comes from the fifties and and and
in West Virginia, and she only served my dad for
sixty years, and she never is great at talking to
people for whatever reason. Because people when they do talk
to her, they like her. But she just she's an introvert.
And my dad was the extrovert that that when people
hung out, they were hanging out with Dad, but they'd
get to know Mo. And she just won't get out
(24:20):
of the house.
Speaker 3 (24:20):
Man.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
It's just it's it's it's frustrating, but it's just what
it is.
Speaker 8 (24:23):
And she's going to do anything.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
She won't get out and do anything because she's nervous
about talking to people.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
I don't know. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 8 (24:32):
Understand that.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
I don't understand it. But it's because I'm like my dad.
Speaker 7 (24:36):
You know, I could set up a tablet with it's
your dad's head, yes, and he's talking.
Speaker 6 (24:42):
Do you have enough audio where we could clone his voice?
Speaker 3 (24:45):
I got him saying shut the hell.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
I got that.
Speaker 6 (24:50):
Yeah, we could. We could set it up. She could
like talk to him.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Isn't that scary though?
Speaker 8 (24:54):
That that's what the world's coming to, That you can
take someone's voice, clone it and have them say things
that they never said. And then that's where the reality blurs,
the lines of what's real and what's not. With all
this AI that's been coming.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
In my.
Speaker 7 (25:10):
Wife for to pass, I'm not going back out in
the dating pool. I'm never gonna do it is terrible.
I would make this. I would have a picture in
my wall that's an interactive picture I would talk to if.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Dolly Parton passes and I'm not you know, obviously, God forbid.
Speaker 4 (25:25):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
That's that's one thing.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
That's that's one thing we all could be in a
great we'd all be sad, right, like a little bit
of unity in America for like one day. No matter
who you are, you love Dolly, right.
Speaker 6 (25:38):
The flag's gotta go half master.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
I can't imagine.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Anybody like I hate that Dolly Parton, like, I don't
think that happens.
Speaker 4 (25:44):
I'll take that bat Oh, well, that.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
Person is just not worth anything like like, you can't
you can't dislike Dolly.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
She's sweet, she can be.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
She loves everybody something exactly.
Speaker 8 (25:56):
There's always a negative.
Speaker 6 (25:58):
It's always a negative, guaranteed.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
Because of the last few years of her life and
her social political when she helped COVID, the social political
stances that she has taken on, and seeing some of
the posts that have come out about her before she
was ill, there are people that are going to not
be so pleasant to her. And I'll take I'll take
that one and I'll take that bet from you, Ryan,
(26:21):
that I would I would be genuinely surprised in the
climate that we are in today, that it would be
asked that a flag goes half staff for her.
Speaker 6 (26:29):
Oh you got to.
Speaker 4 (26:31):
Again, I agree with you, guys, I'm in agreement. I would,
I would expect the same. I would be surprised.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
So I don't even know her political stance, be honest.
Speaker 4 (26:40):
That's what I'm saying. We didn't for the longest time.
And then in the last five years, uh, from the
time in COVID when she stuffed up is she helped
cover some businesses, and she helped pay some things off,
and she's taken care of of some city, some towns
and things like that. We never knew these things about
her and she and it became she made it aware,
and there were she pro No, she's she's very u
(27:04):
she's pro LGBTQ.
Speaker 7 (27:06):
She was offered the Presidential Medal of Freedom from both
Biden and Trump. She declined those both to decline both.
She hasn't had a lot of controversy in her life.
I mean she did she did a duet with Kid Rock,
so well, you know, no, I'm saying, like like she
reaches across the aisle. I think I think Dolly Parton people,
I think you're right. If there's ever a coming together moment,
it's Dolly Parton AND's people celebrating her, I would hope.
Speaker 4 (27:29):
But the Christian right, the Christian fundamentalists, have her on
a list because of her support for LGBTQ list over there.
Speaker 3 (27:38):
That's something wrong with them.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Then you know who's two months away when it's October
number three months away from being one hundred is Dick
van Dyke h son of a gun huh. And he
made a joke, you know, and he's like, wouldn't it
be funny if I didn't make it to one hundred?
And people were like, oh my god, what a horrible.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
Thing to say.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
But he's like doing Joe, like he's thinking that he's
good and he did you know, obviously he wants make
it to a I saw that.
Speaker 7 (28:01):
I saw that, and I was like, that's kind of
funny actually, But then I think I was thinking, like
you get to that age and like you're in the
countdown and you know, and you know what a weird
place to be that must be mentally to know that
like you have I think when.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
You're a hundred, maybe weeks when you're.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
He's not feeble at all, but I think you've accepted
it by then you're like, Okay, I'm gonna I'm gonna
transfer over to whatever's next and and and I'll be good.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
I think I see him on TV in a second,
but I don't think. I think it's just out of choice.
But like last time I saw him, he was, I mean,
he was engaged.
Speaker 7 (28:31):
Was It's crazy though for me, Like what I'm saying
is like, okay, like if you have cancer, you get
to genuinely get a diagnosis they give you, like you
have this long to live.
Speaker 6 (28:38):
You're like, this disease is gonna get me or whatever
it is.
Speaker 7 (28:41):
When you're just a hundred, that's just age and it
could be any day for nothing, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (28:47):
That's kind of a weird.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
You can make it to one hundred and five. I
mean people do that, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
But he he seems to be in pretty good health.
And uh, you know, let me ask a question, Uh uh, Amber,
do you know who Dick Van Dyke is?
Speaker 6 (28:58):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (28:59):
You do?
Speaker 6 (28:59):
Okay, what's he do?
Speaker 8 (29:02):
I think he's an actor? Okay, And what it sounds
so familiar. He he did the.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
Stuff like you don't know, Yeah, you don't know.
Speaker 7 (29:12):
I feel like she can get it there up brains burning, Yeah,
I mean I mean.
Speaker 3 (29:21):
That I believe my brain's burning.
Speaker 6 (29:24):
I feel that's called thinking.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:27):
He had had a television show it it's called The
Dick Van Dyke Show. And he also is in Mary
Poppins that he did Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, and he
he did.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
I mean I used to love that.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Uh, he did a lot of stuff, but but it
would be much older, so I didn't know if current
people even know who Dick van Dyke is. Everybody knows
who Dolly Parton still is. You know, Dick van Dyke
hasn't done anything. He did the Museum, that the Museum
that night at the museum, he was in a couple
of those. Is a bad guy. What else has Dick
(29:58):
Van Dyke done lately? He's really been slucky. No, no, no.
Speaker 4 (30:03):
Two years ago he was on the mass singer Yeah,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
He always seems like a sweet guy though. He seems
like he's a pretty cool dude and well loved. But uh,
Dolly Parton obviously would be a bigger deal. Who else
is up there? Now that we all will go, oh.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
Man, are we playing Deadpool?
Speaker 3 (30:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (30:21):
I don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
It's the topic. It's Dolly Parton.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Saying we all need to pray for Dolly because she's
on her way out, basically is what she's saying.
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Uh and uh. That will be very sad if it happens.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Remember, like the one you liked a lot, Betty White
didn't actually make it to one hundred.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
She was like two months.
Speaker 6 (30:38):
Away, a couple of a couple of couple away. I
respect that, Betty.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
There was another one that made it almost too, was
it Bob Bob Barker almost one hundred?
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (30:48):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (30:49):
Bob Barker was a while ago.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Yeah, all right, Well take a little break, we come back.
We got news from the headlines. Don't go anywhere. You're
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Could it be a little chili, and it would be
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It's one of those people though, you know they were
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Un Yeah, he was telling me about the house he
was either built or was building, and uh, all the
bonded over because his family is Carnei's too.
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Yes, and his wife is she's funny. She just funny.
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The first days I moved in, his wife was like,
I want to put sage in your house, you know,
because you've had all these divorces. We're gonna make sure
you don't have another divorce. And she tried to run
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Yeah, I'm still married eight years later, so you know,
shout out to Angelique.
Speaker 6 (34:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
Anyway, Today is national or international National Happy National Pet
Obesity Awareness Day. Okay, so for dogs that are obese,
and it says here a third of Americans would put
their dogs on ozimpic question, if you're not Let's say
(34:29):
you know that big great dame and you have uh,
great Danes don't get overweight, do they do?
Speaker 3 (34:34):
They? I've never seen a fat great name. Google just
google fat great name. So they do.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
So if the if the if that dog got.
Speaker 4 (34:44):
Fat obese, would you put it on ozipic if there
was a version for dogs? Sure can't. There can't be
fat there is. He's a legendary's a he's an athletic,
spry dog, so you can't have him be fat out.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
Let's say here ozempic dogs could hit the Ocempic for
dogs can hit the market in three years. Really, yeah,
they're making it four dogs. They're at tracked by three years.
They should have it because obese obesity for animals is
a big deal and people don't know what to do
other than not feed the dog and then that makes
the dog grumpy.
Speaker 4 (35:17):
And they are running that drug for as much money
as they can make off of that thing all over
the place. So they do it. Humans to do it.
Now they're going to get the human to buy their
their dosage and the dog dosage.
Speaker 6 (35:28):
When do you intervene with somebody's fat pet? Though?
Speaker 4 (35:31):
Right?
Speaker 1 (35:31):
Like?
Speaker 6 (35:32):
When is it like like like Okay, you're an enagbler,
you're a feeder. That's not good.
Speaker 7 (35:36):
Like somebody I know who's related to me, who gave
birth to me, has the fattest cat on the entire
the entire planet. And I want you to picture a
fat cat in your brain right now.
Speaker 6 (35:47):
I'm making I got one.
Speaker 7 (35:48):
I've seen many a fact walk into that.
Speaker 4 (35:54):
I'm a huge fan of the fat cat.
Speaker 7 (35:56):
Yeah, but this this is I'm actual fee lion.
Speaker 6 (36:00):
Oh oh, fee lion.
Speaker 7 (36:02):
And uh I'll make that like me oway, Yeah, make
that fee lion bigger because that's how big this cat is.
And he's mean and he's fat, and my mom has
a self feeder for him.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
By the way, Topic not cats right now.
Speaker 3 (36:13):
Topic is dogs.
Speaker 6 (36:15):
Right, it's obesity awareness for animals. It wasn't ab awareness
for dogs.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
You don't listen to it. Thing I say.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
It's obese awareness for dogs.
Speaker 6 (36:24):
Yeah, why just dogs? All people have fat animals. There's
a lot that could be too fat.
Speaker 3 (36:29):
You ever see a fat parrot?
Speaker 4 (36:32):
No, that doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
Now, Actually, you're right, it's it's pet obesity.
Speaker 4 (36:37):
It is. It is just messing with you.
Speaker 7 (36:39):
Yeah, I was listening this time, sort of gotcha, not
enough to why I was confident.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Of cat owners and thirty five percent of dog owners.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
Have an overweight or obese animal.
Speaker 8 (36:55):
Yeah, say that the owner is also obese.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
That's a good question.
Speaker 8 (36:59):
I don't know, sea monkey do what are you saying.
Speaker 4 (37:02):
About Ryan's mom?
Speaker 6 (37:04):
You call my mom fat?
Speaker 1 (37:08):
You great shape.
Speaker 6 (37:12):
But it's too far because you can wear a child's
wrestling belt.
Speaker 7 (37:16):
You think you're better than everybody, right, Yeah, I feel
like I.
Speaker 6 (37:21):
Do have to intervene because, like, and I've made comments.
Speaker 7 (37:24):
I've been trying to like be like mom wet over
the cat and the cat's on like a self feeder,
and that's the problem.
Speaker 6 (37:30):
And the cat has like a sense of time.
Speaker 7 (37:31):
I was unaware of this, Like, so it goes off
with like five in the afternoon and the cat will
come out at like four fifty five and.
Speaker 6 (37:38):
Just wait for it to like go because it knows.
It knows.
Speaker 4 (37:42):
But if it's on a self feeder, that doesn't mean
it's being fed too often. Maybe she's got I mean,
she's got it timed out.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
She can time she should time it back a little.
Speaker 7 (37:49):
Bit, should time it back. I'm thinking one time of day.
But then but then my mom's in an abusive relationship
with this cat. I've said this before. Uh so she's
tried to pull back the food. But then she's like,
well then the cat's like real mean to me, and
she's not wrong.
Speaker 6 (38:03):
This cat is also an asshole. So I don't I
don't know what to do. But this cat is way
way too big.
Speaker 3 (38:13):
Yeah, you know why a parrot doesn't get fat. It
eats like a bird.
Speaker 8 (38:19):
Joke, that's kind of cute.
Speaker 1 (38:22):
I get it eats like a bird.
Speaker 8 (38:27):
She should do the timer thing though, And then when
it gets when it gets, make sure she clips its nails.
Does it bite her? Does it just randomly bite her?
Speaker 4 (38:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (38:37):
Her arm is all cut up and beat up because
this cat bites her all the time.
Speaker 6 (38:40):
Just and I'm like, what were you doing with the
Cat's like, I don't know, I was pet in it.
Speaker 8 (38:44):
You can give the cat catnip and be real happy.
Speaker 6 (38:47):
I don't just drug the cat.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Mean.
Speaker 6 (38:50):
I rarely thinking animals like mean mean. This cat is mean.
Speaker 1 (38:52):
If your dog that you are, are you in love
with your dog?
Speaker 4 (38:55):
Now?
Speaker 3 (38:55):
Are you still madt your dog?
Speaker 4 (38:58):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (38:58):
Let's see what you do yesterday?
Speaker 3 (38:59):
Are you are you in different?
Speaker 6 (39:00):
I love my dog your dog got.
Speaker 3 (39:03):
Fat, would you would you give it ozepic?
Speaker 7 (39:06):
No, no, no, I just feed it less and then
walk it more. I don't need to get into his now.
Speaker 6 (39:15):
I'm in control of my dog's weight one hundred percent.
Speaker 3 (39:18):
Well here's that.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
I've got two dogs, right, one she's she's a puppy,
she's skinny, skinny, skinny. And the other one, bo is
getting fat and he eats everything and he'll eat her food.
He's like, I'm like, but he's slowing down right thinking
monkey see monkey do he's watching me, you know, and
it don't sit there, you know, and beg for food
from Mary Ellen. And of course you know when she
(39:39):
eats her pizza, she'll give him, you know, the pizza bones.
Speaker 3 (39:41):
I'm like, he's getting fat, honey.
Speaker 6 (39:43):
You know, well, it's true.
Speaker 8 (39:44):
Usually like an animal sees you eating, or they smell
of food, they're gonna want to bite. And then your
owner is gonna be like, oh, sure you can have
some of my McDonald's. And that that's where it could
come from. If you're that kind of person that feeds
people food to your dog.
Speaker 6 (39:55):
There's a lot of factors.
Speaker 1 (39:56):
Yeah, I try to tell her, I said all that
extra food you've given him I would eat.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
Give it to me.
Speaker 1 (40:01):
All right, we're gonna take a break and we come back.
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