September 19, 2025 • 36 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Broadcasting live from the Abraham Lincoln Radio Studio, the George
Washington Broadcast Center, Jack Armstrong and Joe, Katty arm.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
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My brother and I Kayla. This was their first time
to Burning Down. Kayla woke up, wasn't filling. My brother
Casey ran all and said I need help. Within minutes
they had like an ob G I n and there
in his under helping. There were no signs of pregnancy
or at the lake the weekend before.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
She was in a swimming suit. She did not look pregnant.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Yeah, that's a woman talking about how her niece, I
guess because it's the end, had a baby at burning
Man and didn't know she was pregnant. So that's a
good story for the kid when the kid grows up. Yeah,
I had you at Burning Man. Thank god there happened
to be a doctor there.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
I didn't even know I was pregnant while I was
partying at Burning Man.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
That's good story right there. That's why I saw.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
That's for ninety nine point nine percent of women on Earth.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
That story is just ahead screen. No kidding, you didn't
know from women to men.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
This is going to lead me into my nearly getting
in a fight on a plane story front page USA
Today cover story, Male anger finds a new home online,
dun Dunton, here's the thing to be afraid of, all right,
And it's about how the online focus on masculinity comes
(02:02):
at a time when study after study shows men in
America are experiencing unprecedented levels of loneliness, fatigue, depression, in suicide.
That is all true and probably should be discussed more.
I wonder if that has anything to do with the
fifty five shootings in Chicago over the weekend.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Eight deaths so far.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
They're still counting, because I haven't got all the numbers
in yet. I don't know how it is at the
end of the summer.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
You're just yelling at us, yourself earlier on how it's
time to get down to business and do you get
serious and the rest of it. You know, you get
to the end of the summer, you realize, God, there's
like five six people I've meant to shoot the summer
and I haven't yet. I've got to get this done. Yeah,
you say to yourself, going to be snowing soon.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
You say to yourself, where did summer go?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
So many rivals I haven't shot, And here it is
so many minor conflicts I'm meant to settle with deadly force.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I better get to it.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Anyway, back to the USA today, and all those awful
statistics about men coming to their apparent rescue are groomed,
muscular men in polished videos, smoking cigars, sitting in a
private jet doing push ups, and whispering that men's pain
is because of women. Women are greedy, untrustworthy, weak and inferior,
these influencers say. And then they get into how this
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is affecting young men. I don't have any idea. I
know that exists.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
I don't have any idea now how big an influence
that is on the men of the world. I really
don't know. I personally don't know any that are into
that one. Oh, I have a great, great story about
the whole online influencer thing that I want to get
to later. But yeah, I mean that sort of thing
does exist, and some of these guys have followings, absolutely true.
But the number of men who are demonized merely for
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being men and told that their masculinity is by definition.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
In itself toxic.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
It doesn't have to be toxic, just to be masculine
as ugly, and they're given that message as little boys
at school that they need to sit down and shut
up and act like the little girls.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Blah blah blah.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
The number of guys who have to deal with that
crap as opposed to the vanishingly small number that want
to go all tape Brothers on womankind just please please.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
It's an elephant and an ant. So that's an odd
lead into this. I don't know if it has anything
to do with it, but there was an angry man
on a plane I got on you so flying domestically
over the weekend. One charming thing that I learned with
a couple of different airports was nobody has any idea
what the new rules are for what you put on,
(04:34):
what you take off what you take out of your bag,
what you can leave in your bag. Nobody has any idea,
apparently including the TSA agents, because it just it varies
from person to person. Even had one TSA agent say
to me, you can leave that on, then the next
TSA agency said you got agents said you got to
take that off, And then behind me rolled is is,
oh okay. Here he goes again, like, if y'all can't
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get together on anyway, what do you want out of
us anyway? So I get on this plane and I'm
walking down the aisle headed back to my proletariat seats.
I don't sit up in the first class section. I'm
back with the restless. And I'm walking back to my seat,
and there is a mom who I had seen in
the waiting line in the airport. She's got like a
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one and a half year old, and she's, you know,
doing the bouncing up and down, trying to keep the
one and a half year old calm and all that
sort of stuff. And she's sitting there, and then there's
this guy, and I see the whole thing. I end
up seeing the whole thing because I'm just standing right
there waiting to get back.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
She says.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
My husband's not booked to be sitting with us. Would
you mind trading seats with him?
Speaker 4 (05:42):
And he said, plan better, and she said, I'm sorry
what he said, plan better? And she said, you don't
need to be so plan better. All I did was
that plan better. What is wrong with you, Sarah, I'm
just plan better. I mean, he's screaming and he is
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right next to my elbow.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I mean, his head is right next to my elbow.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Because I'm standing in the aisle and he's about like
mid late thirties, skinny guy, shaved head, dressed like he's,
you know, not a crazy person, but with the look
of as the expression of a crazy person. Anyway, everybody
was like immediately on edge because this guy was clearly unhinged.
And I thought, if he touches that woman holding that baby,
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I am going to choke this guy out.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
I mean, because I was right there. I mean, I
put my bag in my other arm. It would have
taken nothing to do this.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
But then then her husband, who's two rows further up,
same exact seats, so it would have changed this guy's
life not at all.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
He doesn't have to change seats.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
He could have said no, thank you, or or he
could have done what I would have done and said, sure,
it's exactly the same seat to Wars Forward, what do
I care? But the husband said, hey, you don't need
to You.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Don't need to talk to my wife like that plan better.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
I phot with my kid before I plan better.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
Wow, this guy's some sort of motivational speaker, evidently with
a very narrow focus to his consentation.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
It can be summed up in two words. And so
he was so over the top, so quick.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
I think everybody was stunned, like what do you even
where do you even go with this conversation. My favorite
part of the whole thing was though, coming from behind
me as a British accent, you all the reason that
society is breaking down.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
There's people like you and acting like this that is
a problem with society.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
It's like what he said, and it sounded like we
had a narrator. It was like David Attenborough from the
Wilderness Shows. Here we see the young man in his
natural habitat angry at a woman who has a kid.
Or that is so funny that it was a print
because while I was in England, then you can get
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on with the story. While I was in England. I
thought I was to be British. I'm more comfortable here.
Oh wow, everybody's a bit more restrained her fight and considerably.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I want to hear. So the only thing left of
the story is so the guy.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
It makes it pretty clear that he is not going
to do anything physically, and the line's moving, so I
got a move.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
So I get back to my seat.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
I sit down, and I say to the two seat
mates I've got, including this one guy who turns out
to be wound so flip and tight. I mean this guy,
he was chomping his gun the whole time, tapping his
fingers on his keyboard. I don't know if he like
did cocaine before he got on the plane, or if
that's just the way he rolls all the time. Big, tall, strong,
young dude. And I'm telling him the story and he says, oh,
(08:42):
where is he?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Where is he?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Man, he's I don't care if I get on CNN.
I'm ready to take this guy out. This fantastic there's
like five people on this plane ready to fight right now.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Wow.
Speaker 6 (08:57):
So you've got the Britain who's kind of functioning as
a very restrained, dignified intelligent commentator on the good and
the bad that is laid arrayed before us.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
There's a mother and a young man, a mother and
a baby she needs to protect from the wild man.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Let's see how it goes well. And then the young
man's like, you know, you make a.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Good point, granddad, let's whoop some ass, which you know,
also standing up for decency.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't know what happened. It looked
like a whole bunch of people moved their row, like
all of them, like two entire rows moved to accommodate
the mom, kid and husband because it didn't make any difference.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
They were in that section where all the seats are
the same.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
And then they all stared at Baldy mcrage the rest
of the flight, pretty next to me though. He just
he spent all his time looking down the aisle, like,
come on, do something, guy, do something.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (09:53):
I don't know why he had so much energy he
needed to work out well who he got on the
plane angry at.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
It's funny how I we hear these stories, We talk
about them all the time, where somebody's acting out on
a plane, and I think.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
How is there not some young guy to take care
of this on my plane.
Speaker 4 (10:10):
For whatever reason, just the luck of the draw, there
seemed to be a whole bunch of people that were
looking forward to the opportunity to take care.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
Of waffle House airlines exactly. Exactly.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Waffle House has an airline. Now, yeah, we fly at
two in the morning. Soon as the waffle house closes.
Everybody goes straight from.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
The waffle house, the bar, to the waffle House onto
the plane. That's the way the waffle House airlines works.
And there's a lot of fighting waffle House air Oh
oh no, no, oh, why any who?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Yeah, I gotta remember that line though.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
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Speaker 2 (10:48):
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Speaker 4 (10:49):
Immediately go to eleven exactly. Yeah, shriek that at people
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Right, Jack Armstrong and Joe Gerty Armstrong and Getty show.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
So this is so interesting and crazy. Steve Karnaki at
NBC Polling Put this out. They asked young voters gen
z adults, if you want to use that term, eighteen
to twenty nine years old. What they considered important to
was successful life. What is important to your personal definition
of success? And they gave them a bunch of things
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to choose. They could choose no more than one. The
numbers will make that obvious. But the number one thing
that's important your personal definition of success among men who
voted for Trump, young men who voted for Trump, number
one thing was having children, oh, thirty four percent interesting,
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barely beating out financial independence at thirty three percent, A
fulfilling job and career at thirty percent, and being married
to twenty nine percent. I family success fulfillment, family. I
was four answers. I was joking yelling money. I would
not put that on my list of things that make
you a success. Women who voted for Kamala Harris their
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top four at fifty one percent, fulfilling job and career
number two, having money to do the things you want,
number three, having emotional stability whatever that means thirty nine percent,
and number four using talents and resources to help others,
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which is a lovely idea. Emotional stability, Yeah, so fulfilling
job and career was fifty one percent. Having money to
do the things you want is forty six percent. Having
emotional stability whatever that is, thirty nine percent listed that
in their several choices. Now being married almost the bottom
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six percent. Having children tied at the bottom six percent
list of that is important a personal definition of a
successful life. In contrast to the men who voted for Trump,
having children being married was thirty four and twenty nine percent.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
Well, that's a problem. Obviously, you ain't gonna end up
with many kids in your country, which we don't have
lowest birth rate we've ever had in the United States
of America. I think you just explained it.
Speaker 4 (14:25):
It's not like the whole having emotional stability thing. Men
who voted for Trump that was in last place, probably
one percent of them said the hell are you talking about?
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Yeah, probably with a heap and helping of what. Well,
I don't even know what you mean, So I'm gonna
put this last.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
Isn't that what's weird about that.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
Is isn't that something you just kind of inherently want
every day of your life, starting at birth. I mean,
it's just it's like saying I'd like to have enough
air throughout the day and enough calories to keep me alive.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
I mean, yeah, well, given the fact that not having
emotional stability means you're emotionally unstable, yeah, that's it.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
You don't want that.
Speaker 4 (15:07):
But the fact that really forty percent of women listed
that in their top I mean, it was the third place.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
That's a priority for life.
Speaker 4 (15:17):
Wow, it speaks to the emotional instability of women in
the modern world.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
Very what year did men are from Mars? Women are
from Venus? Come out? Early nineties? It's God. Now it's
men are from Mars and women are from I don't know,
some alternate universe that we've never looked into. I mean,
just how far apart they are. I'm not claiming I
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am claiming this. I guess that I think one is
better than the other, and I agree with one much
more than the other.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
But there's certainly examples of unhinged young men too.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
But put again, without putting a judgment on it, the
two sides are very, very far apart.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
How many times has it come up in recent years
that the engine the bulk of the people screaming like
lunatics at these progressive protests are young women. I mean,
they're just so angry and hostile and misguided and militant.
(16:21):
And there it is right there. I don't know, I
don't know what to make of that, but like I said,
it explains why we've got the lowest birthrate we've ever had,
and it would lead me to believe that we're going
to continue down that road. I'm looking at some of
the other answers.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
It seems to me and this anecdotally, God, it's way
more women than men. Anecdotally, it seems to me anecdotally
that most young women want to have enough money to travel.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
That is your goal in life.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
I want to travel the world and period pretty much period.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Drink after all.
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Sprits is at a good Instagram having children listed by
almost six times as many men as women, or six
times the percentage.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
That's it's a problem. That's crazy. It's a problem that
you ever existed in the history of mankind. That is
the question. I asked that all the time. Has this
ever happened before I won?
Speaker 4 (17:23):
You know, it's probably worth as a caveat mentioning again
it was eighteen to twenty nine year olds. And it's
absolutely the case that many men and women don't really
feel think they would have kids until they get to
a certain point in their lives, which is fine and appropriate.
(17:47):
But given the enormous gulf between men and women on
that question, that's surprising. Yeah, before I make any doom
and gloom judgments, I suppose i'd like to hear those
same questions put to thirty two thirty nine year olds. Well,
we're surrounded by doom and drowning in gloom, so I
don't think you need to make that leap here we are.
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We're not having families, we're not having kids. The hell,
they're not even having sex.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Jack Armstrong and Joey Armstrong and Getty Show.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
Oh. According to a new study, twelve percent of Americans
fine City Sweeney's American.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Eagle ad offensive. The other eighty eight percent are.
Speaker 4 (18:29):
Able to fit in jeans.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Wow. Wow, Gottfeld, the mean boy in high school.
Speaker 4 (18:39):
So, speaking of attitudes were supposed to hold you remember
when we were supposed to take seriously for about ninety seconds,
the idea that, oh, no, good jeans, jeans, blue jeans,
jeans with blue eyes. But the white supremacy, but the eugenics,
these people, oh my gosh, they're so nuts. And here's
the key, so few people actually agree with them. So
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we're talking last segment about preference falsification, and I'll describe
to you exactly what it is. This is a great
description from Glenn Reynolds, who's a professor of law at
University Tennessee, one of those southern universities where people are
flocking now because everybody realizes, oh, they like teach you
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stuff there, and don't just indoctrinate you into being a
good Marxist like the Ivy League. Anyway, So here's this
description of a preference falsification to move usually practiced by
authoritarian regimes, but now democracies are catching on to it.
The trick is you make citizens pretend that they believe
what the government says.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Or.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
What the powers that be say.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
He's talking about immigration in Britain, and so the government
is the correct target. We're talking about education, so it's
more the administration the professor stuff. But anyway, the trick
is they make citizens pretend they believe what the administration
says and fake their approval of what it does. You
promote marches and demonstrations and speech in favor of the
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preferred positions, and you severely punish marches and demonstrations and
speech that oppose those favored positions. You give excuses like
stopping racism or fighting hate speech for shutting down any opposition.
You may even have informers that ferret out wrong think
and report it to the authorities or to employers or
to third parties who will engage in extra legal harassment.
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If you do it right, you can have upward of
ninety percent of your population hating you and your policies.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
But doing and saying nothing about them.
Speaker 4 (20:46):
Because everyone in the ninety percent thinks they're part of
a tiny minority, resistance will seem futile. This works until
it doesn't. The problem with preference falsification is that sooner
or later, some event development can make people realize that
what they've been told as popular is in fact very unpopular.
When this happens, this Duke University scholar timierka Ran writes
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in his book Private Truth's Public Lives, the result is
a preference cascade. Let's when a large swath of the
population realizes their dissonant views are in fact widely held.
They become less afraid of the government or the administration,
or the professors or the media and less hesitant about
sharing their true sentiments. And then everybody realizes all of
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a sudden, oh, my gosh, not only have I not
been in a tiny minority all the way, all the time,
I've been in the strong majority.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
And by the way, we're right.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
And my prayer is that this is going to happen
at some point in the American educational system. Although my gosh,
they've got the teachers, they got the faculty, they got
the administration, and they're bullying the kids to wit. Really
interesting Peace in the Hill by a couple of guys,
the researchers for Strom and Kevin Waldman, on today's college campuses,
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students are not maturing, they're managing. Beneath the facade of
progressive slogans and institutional virtue signaling lies a quiet psychological
crisis driven by the demands of ideological conformity. I first
read the right upon this from an opinion writer in
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the Wall Street Journal. I'm very pleased to see this
as in The Hill, which is a very mainstream slash
left leaning, because you know, their readership is people who
work in Washington, d C. Generally in government or lobbyists
and on who depend on government, and that crowd tends.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
To be left leaning. Obviously they like more big government.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
So the fact that this is being published in the
Hill and has gotten a bit of attention is very
encouraging anyway.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
So here's the story.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
Between twenty twenty three and twenty twenty five, these guys
conducted about fifteen hundred confidential interviews with under grads at
a couple of universities, Northwestern and University of Michigan. We
were not studying politics, we were studying development. Our question
was clinical, not political. Quote, what happens to identity formation?
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Which is part of becoming an adult?
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Who am I? What do I believe?
Speaker 4 (23:19):
Right?
Speaker 2 (23:19):
What happens to identity.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
Formation when belief is replaced by adherents to orthodoxy instead
of painstakingly trying to understand the world and coming to
a set of beliefs, instead you're just told you need
to adhere to this point of view.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
What happens to identity formation?
Speaker 4 (23:41):
We asked, have you ever pretended to hold more progressive
views than you truly endorse to succeed socially or academically.
You want to know what percentage said yes? Eighty eight percent?
Eighty eight percent said they pretended to hold more progressive
views than they truly endorse. To succeed socially or academically,
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These students were not cynical, but adaptive. In a campus
environment where grades, leadership and peer belonging often hinge on
fluency in performative morality, young adults quickly learn to rehearse
what is safe. The result is not conviction or beliefs,
but compliance, and beneath that compliance, something vital is lost.
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Quoting now from the authors, Late adolescents in early adulthood
represent a narrow and non replicable developmental window. It's during
this stage that individuals begin the lifelong work of integrating
personal experiences with inherited values, forming the foundations of moral reasoning,
internal coherence, and emotional resilience. Oh my gosh, emotional resilience toughness.
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When belief is prescriptive, meaning you're tol what to believe,
an ideological divergence or disagreement is treated as social risk.
That integrative process stalls, rather than forging a durable sense
of self. Through trial, error and reflection, students learn to
compartmentalize publicly they can form privately.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
They question often in isolation.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
Oh but remember what we were just talking about with
a preference falsification and preference cascade. They only think they're
in isolation. Well, I guess they are in isolation, but
sows everybody around them thinking the same things.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
So insidious.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
This split between outer presentation and inner conviction not only
fragments identity but arrests its development, and the dissonance.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Shows up everywhere.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Seventy eight percent of the students told us the self censor.
On their beliefs surrounding gender identity, Seventy eight percent believe
all that gender pending madness is madness, but they got
to be quiet. Seventy two percent do that on politics
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in general. Sixty eight percent on family values. I mean,
that's a lot smaller number than the seventy eight percent
that are they're soft pedaling their views on gender bending madness,
But sixty eight percent on just general family values are
soft pedaling their views. Our college students are so much
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more conservative insane than you think they are, partly because
who gets amplified and applauded and publicized. They're radical, lefty
lunatic front. The normy kids just they they're afraid, so
they're quiet, and they certainly don't make any noise, and
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if they do, they're they're punished or ignored anyway. More
than eighty percent so they had submitted class work that
misrepresented their views in order to align with professors. For many,
this has become second nature, an instinct for academic and
professional self preservation.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
Listen.
Speaker 4 (27:08):
Maybe it was because I was clueless or stubborn or
something as a youngster. But when I was in school
and I was in a political science, economics, pre law
program that had lots and lots and lots of the
sort of stuff we're talking about in it, I never
once misrepresented my view in order to align with a professor.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Maybe I didn't have of you at that point, but
that's terrible.
Speaker 4 (27:35):
To test the gap between expression and belief, we used
gender discourse, a contentious topic, both highly visible and ideological,
ideologically loaded, right the authors In public, students were echoed
I'm sorry. In public, students echoed expective progressive narratives. In private, however,
their views were more complex. Eighty seven percent identified as
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exclusively heterosexual and supported a binary model of gender. There's
men and there's women, period. That's eighty seven percent. Nine
percent expressed partial openness to gender fluidity. Seven percent embraced
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the idea of gender as a broad spectrum, and most
of these belong to activist circles. Practically nobody believed there's
fifty eight genders and you get to choose what you are.
Practically nobody seven percent. How different is this from the
perception we've all formed of what college kids actually think
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because they've been psychologically battered into conformity. I am not
a violent man, but I swear to God, I'd like
to take a bulldozer to a lot of our college campuses.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Metaphorically, of course. Perhaps most telling.
Speaker 4 (28:57):
Seventy seven percent, and these are college kids, said they
disagreed with the idea that gender identity should override biological
sex in domain such as sports, healthcare, or public data,
but would never voice that disagreement allowed. So of the
eighty seven percent that say, no, there's dudes and there's gals,
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that's it eighty seven percent. All but ten percent of
those said I would never say that out loud. Holy crap.
These poor kids are bullied. It's Stockholm syndrome. They're terrified
to speak their minds. Hi Karama. Thirty eight percent described
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themselves as morally confused, uncertain whether honesty was still ethical,
if it meant exclusion, whatever that means. Authenticity, once considered
a good thing for all of us psychologically, has become
a social liability, and this fragmentation does not end at
the classroom door. Seventy three percent of student reported mistrust
in conversations about these values with close friends. They were
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afraid to even talk to their friends.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
That's that.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
Preference falsification, that's its direct fruit. They're sure they're friends,
excuse me disagree with them, even though eighty seven percent
agree with them, They're terrified to say anything out loud.
This is not simply peer pressure. It is identity regulation
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at scale. Being institutionalized, universities often justified these dynamics in
the name of inclusion, But inclusion that demands dishonesty is
not ensuring psychological safety. It is sanctioning self abandonment in
attempting to engineer moral unity. Higher education is mistaken consensus
for growth and compliance for care, and the students know it's.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Wrong when they're given permission is speak freely.
Speaker 4 (31:00):
Many describe the experience of participating as not only liberating,
but clarifying for students trained to perform the act of
telling the truth felt radical. Finally, if higher education is
to fulfill its promise as a site of intellectual and
moral development, it must relearn the difference between support and supervision.
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It must recenter truth, not consensus, as its animating value,
and it must give back to students what has been
taken from them, the right to believe in the space
to become. I don't know how exactly you can join
this fight. Maybe it's by supporting organizations or I don't know, podcasts,
radio shows that are fighting the fight. But man, we've
(31:45):
got to win this for the youngsters. They are being
mentally and intellectually tortured and bullied by these monsters, these
monsters in their ivory towers, and it's got to stop.
(32:05):
You said this many times after your years of trying
a number of different kinds of therapy for me and
my family, kids, marriage, all kinds of different stuff. I
think it's mostly worthless. I really do, I really do.
I think it's mostly a waste of money. Unfortunately, but
this is pretty good from a marriage psychologist who reveals
the number one sign of a future separation. And this
(32:28):
stuff is almost always crap, especially if it's in the
New York Post, which.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Is where I got this, but I thought this was
really good.
Speaker 4 (32:33):
If you want to know if your marriage is heading
to splitsville, don't check your partner's phone, check their face.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
Like any of that.
Speaker 3 (32:39):
You know, there's so many stupid things out there, you know,
the one sign that he's gonna cheat or whatever the
hell I mean, They're just all dumb, but click bait.
The subtle smirk of superiority is the number one red
flag for divorce, according to this psychologist. And they get
into why. Research found that four nasty little habits, criticism, contempt, defensiveness,
(33:05):
and stonewalling are the four horsemen of the apocalypse when
it comes to dooming relationships.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
I'll read those four again.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. But contempt is the kiss
of death. That's the one, and you've said that for years.
That's the one you can't get past.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Done. The largest marriage experiment ever done.
Speaker 4 (33:26):
They think of couples that you know, survive and don't survive.
Body language experts brought couples into a lab and if
one member of the couple shows a one sided mouth raise,
which I had never heard before, as like a physical
contempt thing.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
But I guess we're just programmed. When we're feeling that
feeling of contempt.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
For something, or you know, the oh please er get
out of here with that BS or whatever feeling, you raise.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
One side of your mouth.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
It's funny if one member of the couple shows a
one sided mouth raise towards the other can tell you
if they're going to get divorced because it's contempt. He
could predict divorce with an astonishing ninety four percent accurate fear.
Speaker 4 (34:07):
Now, this is the part I thought was really interesting.
Fear comes in a burst, and then you calm down.
Happiness comes, and then you go back to normal. Anger
comes and then you calm down, but not contempt. If
you feel scorn or disdain for someone else, and if
it's not addressed, it just festers and grows and stays
at the same level fear, anger, and then obviously happiness
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you get back to a normal level.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
Contempt does not go away.
Speaker 4 (34:36):
And you know, in a definition of contempt, the feeling
that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless
or deserving scorn.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Yes, coming back from that.
Speaker 4 (34:45):
I've not felt contempt, but I have been on the
wrong end of contempt, I think, And having read this,
I thought, yeah, that's what was insurmountable. I mean, because
once you have contempt for someone you don't agree, you
don't think they are worthless listening to on anything. This
is how I feel. This is my priority. I don't
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care right. Yeah, that's a tough one to get passed.
So look out for contempt and whatever started to bring
it on. The point is you start to deal with
it right away. Otherwise it does just grow and fester
and then it gets into a situation where it might
might not be reversible. They also believe that many couples
get stuck in an endless loop of the same three
(35:29):
arguments throughout the relationship.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
They just don't realize it. And if you can nail
down what your three most common arguments are you and
your partner, you can solve a lot of problems. Like
you get into something.
Speaker 4 (35:42):
You say, okay, here we're in argument number two again.
We always argue about this, and you can you know,
realize that you know, you don't see eye to eye
in this particular thing, and how you've dealt with it
in the past. Back to the contempt thing discussed, and
contempt are to a relationship with gasoline, and matches are
to a fire. The telltale signs are irolling, mouthcrimping, and
(36:06):
then subtle fidgeting like picking it close or cleaning fingers
mid conversation as signals of disdain. This person said that
they dubbed this move the lint picker, a behavior that
he says, screams contempt louder than words ever could.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
Interesting.
Speaker 4 (36:21):
You know, it's probably worth presenting the other side of
the coin at some point.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
We don't have time now, but how do you prevent
that sort of thing?
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Nip it in the bud, having lint on your shirt,
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My brother and I Kayla. This was their first time
to Burning Down. Kayla woke up, wasn't filling. My brother
Casey ran all and said I need help. Within minutes
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in his under helping. There were no signs of pregnancy
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Speaker 2 (01:05):
She was in a swimming suit. She did not look pregnant.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Yeah, that's a woman talking about how her niece, I
guess because it's the end, had a baby at burning
Man and didn't know she was pregnant. So that's a
good story for the kid when the kid grows up. Yeah,
I had you at Burning Man. Thank god there happened
to be a doctor there.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
I didn't even know I was pregnant while I was
partying at Burning Man.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
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Speaker 4 (01:29):
That's for ninety nine point nine percent of women on Earth.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
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know from women to men.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
This is going to lead me into my nearly getting
in a fight on a plane story front page USA
Today cover story, Male anger finds a new home online,
dun Dunton, here's the thing to be afraid of, all right,
And it's about how the online focus on masculinity comes
(02:02):
at a time when study after study shows men in
America are experiencing unprecedented levels of loneliness, fatigue, depression, in suicide.
That is all true and probably should be discussed more.
I wonder if that has anything to do with the
fifty five shootings in Chicago over the weekend.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Eight deaths so far.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
They're still counting, because I haven't got all the numbers
in yet. I don't know how it is at the
end of the summer.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
You're just yelling at us, yourself earlier on how it's
time to get down to business and do you get
serious and the rest of it. You know, you get
to the end of the summer, you realize, God, there's
like five six people I've meant to shoot the summer
and I haven't yet. I've got to get this done. Yeah,
you say to yourself, going to be snowing soon.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
You say to yourself, where did summer go?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
So many rivals I haven't shot, And here it is
so many minor conflicts I'm meant to settle with deadly force.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I better get to it.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Anyway, back to the USA today, and all those awful
statistics about men coming to their apparent rescue are groomed,
muscular men in polished videos, smoking cigars, sitting in a
private jet doing push ups, and whispering that men's pain
is because of women. Women are greedy, untrustworthy, weak and inferior,
these influencers say. And then they get into how this
(03:19):
is affecting young men. I don't have any idea. I
know that exists.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
I don't have any idea now how big an influence
that is on the men of the world. I really
don't know. I personally don't know any that are into
that one. Oh, I have a great, great story about
the whole online influencer thing that I want to get
to later. But yeah, I mean that sort of thing
does exist, and some of these guys have followings, absolutely true.
But the number of men who are demonized merely for
(03:46):
being men and told that their masculinity is by definition.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
In itself toxic.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
It doesn't have to be toxic, just to be masculine
as ugly, and they're given that message as little boys
at school that they need to sit down and shut
up and act like the little girls.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Blah blah blah.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
The number of guys who have to deal with that
crap as opposed to the vanishingly small number that want
to go all tape Brothers on womankind just please please.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
It's an elephant and an ant. So that's an odd
lead into this. I don't know if it has anything
to do with it, but there was an angry man
on a plane I got on you so flying domestically
over the weekend. One charming thing that I learned with
a couple of different airports was nobody has any idea
what the new rules are for what you put on,
(04:34):
what you take off what you take out of your bag,
what you can leave in your bag. Nobody has any idea,
apparently including the TSA agents, because it just it varies
from person to person. Even had one TSA agent say
to me, you can leave that on, then the next
TSA agency said you got agents said you got to
take that off, And then behind me rolled is is,
oh okay. Here he goes again, like, if y'all can't
(04:58):
get together on anyway, what do you want out of
us anyway? So I get on this plane and I'm
walking down the aisle headed back to my proletariat seats.
I don't sit up in the first class section. I'm
back with the restless. And I'm walking back to my seat,
and there is a mom who I had seen in
the waiting line in the airport. She's got like a
(05:20):
one and a half year old, and she's, you know,
doing the bouncing up and down, trying to keep the
one and a half year old calm and all that
sort of stuff. And she's sitting there, and then there's
this guy, and I see the whole thing. I end
up seeing the whole thing because I'm just standing right
there waiting to get back.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
She says.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
My husband's not booked to be sitting with us. Would
you mind trading seats with him?
Speaker 4 (05:42):
And he said, plan better, and she said, I'm sorry
what he said, plan better? And she said, you don't
need to be so plan better. All I did was
that plan better. What is wrong with you, Sarah, I'm
just plan better. I mean, he's screaming and he is
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right next to my elbow.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I mean, his head is right next to my elbow.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Because I'm standing in the aisle and he's about like
mid late thirties, skinny guy, shaved head, dressed like he's,
you know, not a crazy person, but with the look
of as the expression of a crazy person. Anyway, everybody
was like immediately on edge because this guy was clearly unhinged.
And I thought, if he touches that woman holding that baby,
(06:29):
I am going to choke this guy out.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
I mean, because I was right there. I mean, I
put my bag in my other arm. It would have
taken nothing to do this.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
But then then her husband, who's two rows further up,
same exact seats, so it would have changed this guy's
life not at all.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
He doesn't have to change seats.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
He could have said no, thank you, or or he
could have done what I would have done and said, sure,
it's exactly the same seat to Wars Forward, what do
I care? But the husband said, hey, you don't need
to You.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Don't need to talk to my wife like that plan better.
Speaker 3 (07:01):
I phot with my kid before I plan better.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
Wow, this guy's some sort of motivational speaker, evidently with
a very narrow focus to his consentation.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
It can be summed up in two words. And so
he was so over the top, so quick.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
I think everybody was stunned, like what do you even
where do you even go with this conversation. My favorite
part of the whole thing was though, coming from behind
me as a British accent, you all the reason that
society is breaking down.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
There's people like you and acting like this that is
a problem with society.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
It's like what he said, and it sounded like we
had a narrator. It was like David Attenborough from the
Wilderness Shows. Here we see the young man in his
natural habitat angry at a woman who has a kid.
Or that is so funny that it was a print
because while I was in England, then you can get
(07:56):
on with the story. While I was in England. I
thought I was to be British. I'm more comfortable here.
Oh wow, everybody's a bit more restrained her fight and considerably.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I want to hear. So the only thing left of
the story is so the guy.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
It makes it pretty clear that he is not going
to do anything physically, and the line's moving, so I
got a move.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
So I get back to my seat.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
I sit down, and I say to the two seat
mates I've got, including this one guy who turns out
to be wound so flip and tight. I mean this guy,
he was chomping his gun the whole time, tapping his
fingers on his keyboard. I don't know if he like
did cocaine before he got on the plane, or if
that's just the way he rolls all the time. Big, tall, strong,
young dude. And I'm telling him the story and he says, oh,
(08:42):
where is he?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Where is he?
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Man, he's I don't care if I get on CNN.
I'm ready to take this guy out. This fantastic there's
like five people on this plane ready to fight right now.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Wow.
Speaker 6 (08:57):
So you've got the Britain who's kind of functioning as
a very restrained, dignified intelligent commentator on the good and
the bad that is laid arrayed before us.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
There's a mother and a young man, a mother and
a baby she needs to protect from the wild man.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Let's see how it goes well. And then the young
man's like, you know, you make a.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Good point, granddad, let's whoop some ass, which you know,
also standing up for decency.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't know what happened. It looked
like a whole bunch of people moved their row, like
all of them, like two entire rows moved to accommodate
the mom, kid and husband because it didn't make any difference.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
They were in that section where all the seats are
the same.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
And then they all stared at Baldy mcrage the rest
of the flight, pretty next to me though. He just
he spent all his time looking down the aisle, like,
come on, do something, guy, do something.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (09:53):
I don't know why he had so much energy he
needed to work out well who he got on the
plane angry at.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
It's funny how I we hear these stories, We talk
about them all the time, where somebody's acting out on
a plane, and I think.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
How is there not some young guy to take care
of this on my plane.
Speaker 4 (10:10):
For whatever reason, just the luck of the draw, there
seemed to be a whole bunch of people that were
looking forward to the opportunity to take care.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
Of waffle House airlines exactly. Exactly.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Waffle House has an airline. Now, yeah, we fly at
two in the morning. Soon as the waffle house closes.
Everybody goes straight from.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
The waffle house, the bar, to the waffle House onto
the plane. That's the way the waffle House airlines works.
And there's a lot of fighting waffle House air Oh
oh no, no, oh, why any who?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Yeah, I gotta remember that line though.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
My wife says, you know, I really should have brought
some heels better.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
Yeah, just and.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
Immediately go to eleven exactly. Yeah, shriek that at people
more often.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
I don't know.
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Speaker 4 (11:13):
All the answers yes, can suckage be measured objectively?
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I think so.
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Speaker 4 (12:11):
So this is so interesting and crazy. Steve Karnaki at
NBC Polling Put this out. They asked young voters gen
z adults, if you want to use that term, eighteen
to twenty nine years old. What they considered important to
was successful life. What is important to your personal definition
of success? And they gave them a bunch of things
(12:32):
to choose. They could choose no more than one. The
numbers will make that obvious. But the number one thing
that's important your personal definition of success among men who
voted for Trump, young men who voted for Trump, number
one thing was having children, oh, thirty four percent interesting,
(12:52):
barely beating out financial independence at thirty three percent, A
fulfilling job and career at thirty percent, and being married
to twenty nine percent. I family success fulfillment, family. I
was four answers. I was joking yelling money. I would
not put that on my list of things that make
you a success. Women who voted for Kamala Harris their
(13:15):
top four at fifty one percent, fulfilling job and career
number two, having money to do the things you want,
number three, having emotional stability whatever that means thirty nine percent,
and number four using talents and resources to help others,
(13:35):
which is a lovely idea. Emotional stability, Yeah, so fulfilling
job and career was fifty one percent. Having money to
do the things you want is forty six percent. Having
emotional stability whatever that is, thirty nine percent listed that
in their several choices. Now being married almost the bottom
(13:56):
six percent. Having children tied at the bottom six percent
list of that is important a personal definition of a
successful life. In contrast to the men who voted for Trump,
having children being married was thirty four and twenty nine percent.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
Well, that's a problem. Obviously, you ain't gonna end up
with many kids in your country, which we don't have
lowest birth rate we've ever had in the United States
of America. I think you just explained it.
Speaker 4 (14:25):
It's not like the whole having emotional stability thing. Men
who voted for Trump that was in last place, probably
one percent of them said the hell are you talking about?
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Yeah, probably with a heap and helping of what. Well,
I don't even know what you mean, So I'm gonna
put this last.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
Isn't that what's weird about that.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
Is isn't that something you just kind of inherently want
every day of your life, starting at birth. I mean,
it's just it's like saying I'd like to have enough
air throughout the day and enough calories to keep me alive.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
I mean, yeah, well, given the fact that not having
emotional stability means you're emotionally unstable, yeah, that's it.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
You don't want that.
Speaker 4 (15:07):
But the fact that really forty percent of women listed
that in their top I mean, it was the third place.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
That's a priority for life.
Speaker 4 (15:17):
Wow, it speaks to the emotional instability of women in
the modern world.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
Very what year did men are from Mars? Women are
from Venus? Come out? Early nineties? It's God. Now it's
men are from Mars and women are from I don't know,
some alternate universe that we've never looked into. I mean,
just how far apart they are. I'm not claiming I
(15:43):
am claiming this. I guess that I think one is
better than the other, and I agree with one much
more than the other.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
But there's certainly examples of unhinged young men too.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
But put again, without putting a judgment on it, the
two sides are very, very far apart.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
How many times has it come up in recent years
that the engine the bulk of the people screaming like
lunatics at these progressive protests are young women. I mean,
they're just so angry and hostile and misguided and militant.
(16:21):
And there it is right there. I don't know, I
don't know what to make of that, but like I said,
it explains why we've got the lowest birthrate we've ever had,
and it would lead me to believe that we're going
to continue down that road. I'm looking at some of
the other answers.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
It seems to me and this anecdotally, God, it's way
more women than men. Anecdotally, it seems to me anecdotally
that most young women want to have enough money to travel.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
That is your goal in life.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
I want to travel the world and period pretty much period.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Drink after all.
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Sprits is at a good Instagram having children listed by
almost six times as many men as women, or six
times the percentage.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
That's it's a problem. That's crazy. It's a problem that
you ever existed in the history of mankind. That is
the question. I asked that all the time. Has this
ever happened before I won?
Speaker 4 (17:23):
You know, it's probably worth as a caveat mentioning again
it was eighteen to twenty nine year olds. And it's
absolutely the case that many men and women don't really
feel think they would have kids until they get to
a certain point in their lives, which is fine and appropriate.
(17:47):
But given the enormous gulf between men and women on
that question, that's surprising. Yeah, before I make any doom
and gloom judgments, I suppose i'd like to hear those
same questions put to thirty two thirty nine year olds. Well,
we're surrounded by doom and drowning in gloom, so I
don't think you need to make that leap here we are.
(18:09):
We're not having families, we're not having kids. The hell,
they're not even having sex.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Jack Armstrong and Joey Armstrong and Getty Show.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
Oh. According to a new study, twelve percent of Americans
fine City Sweeney's American.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Eagle ad offensive. The other eighty eight percent are.
Speaker 4 (18:29):
Able to fit in jeans.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Wow. Wow, Gottfeld, the mean boy in high school.
Speaker 4 (18:39):
So, speaking of attitudes were supposed to hold you remember
when we were supposed to take seriously for about ninety seconds,
the idea that, oh, no, good jeans, jeans, blue jeans,
jeans with blue eyes. But the white supremacy, but the eugenics,
these people, oh my gosh, they're so nuts. And here's
the key, so few people actually agree with them. So
(19:03):
we're talking last segment about preference falsification, and I'll describe
to you exactly what it is. This is a great
description from Glenn Reynolds, who's a professor of law at
University Tennessee, one of those southern universities where people are
flocking now because everybody realizes, oh, they like teach you
(19:25):
stuff there, and don't just indoctrinate you into being a
good Marxist like the Ivy League. Anyway, So here's this
description of a preference falsification to move usually practiced by
authoritarian regimes, but now democracies are catching on to it.
The trick is you make citizens pretend that they believe
what the government says.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Or.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
What the powers that be say.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
He's talking about immigration in Britain, and so the government
is the correct target. We're talking about education, so it's
more the administration the professor stuff. But anyway, the trick
is they make citizens pretend they believe what the administration
says and fake their approval of what it does. You
promote marches and demonstrations and speech in favor of the
(20:14):
preferred positions, and you severely punish marches and demonstrations and
speech that oppose those favored positions. You give excuses like
stopping racism or fighting hate speech for shutting down any opposition.
You may even have informers that ferret out wrong think
and report it to the authorities or to employers or
to third parties who will engage in extra legal harassment.
(20:37):
If you do it right, you can have upward of
ninety percent of your population hating you and your policies.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
But doing and saying nothing about them.
Speaker 4 (20:46):
Because everyone in the ninety percent thinks they're part of
a tiny minority, resistance will seem futile. This works until
it doesn't. The problem with preference falsification is that sooner
or later, some event development can make people realize that
what they've been told as popular is in fact very unpopular.
When this happens, this Duke University scholar timierka Ran writes
(21:09):
in his book Private Truth's Public Lives, the result is
a preference cascade. Let's when a large swath of the
population realizes their dissonant views are in fact widely held.
They become less afraid of the government or the administration,
or the professors or the media and less hesitant about
sharing their true sentiments. And then everybody realizes all of
(21:31):
a sudden, oh, my gosh, not only have I not
been in a tiny minority all the way, all the time,
I've been in the strong majority.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
And by the way, we're right.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
And my prayer is that this is going to happen
at some point in the American educational system. Although my gosh,
they've got the teachers, they got the faculty, they got
the administration, and they're bullying the kids to wit. Really
interesting Peace in the Hill by a couple of guys,
the researchers for Strom and Kevin Waldman, on today's college campuses,
(22:04):
students are not maturing, they're managing. Beneath the facade of
progressive slogans and institutional virtue signaling lies a quiet psychological
crisis driven by the demands of ideological conformity. I first
read the right upon this from an opinion writer in
(22:25):
the Wall Street Journal. I'm very pleased to see this
as in The Hill, which is a very mainstream slash
left leaning, because you know, their readership is people who
work in Washington, d C. Generally in government or lobbyists
and on who depend on government, and that crowd tends.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
To be left leaning. Obviously they like more big government.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
So the fact that this is being published in the
Hill and has gotten a bit of attention is very
encouraging anyway.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
So here's the story.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
Between twenty twenty three and twenty twenty five, these guys
conducted about fifteen hundred confidential interviews with under grads at
a couple of universities, Northwestern and University of Michigan. We
were not studying politics, we were studying development. Our question
was clinical, not political. Quote, what happens to identity formation?
(23:15):
Which is part of becoming an adult?
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Who am I? What do I believe?
Speaker 4 (23:19):
Right?
Speaker 2 (23:19):
What happens to identity.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
Formation when belief is replaced by adherents to orthodoxy instead
of painstakingly trying to understand the world and coming to
a set of beliefs, instead you're just told you need
to adhere to this point of view.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
What happens to identity formation?
Speaker 4 (23:41):
We asked, have you ever pretended to hold more progressive
views than you truly endorse to succeed socially or academically.
You want to know what percentage said yes? Eighty eight percent?
Eighty eight percent said they pretended to hold more progressive
views than they truly endorse. To succeed socially or academically,
(24:05):
These students were not cynical, but adaptive. In a campus
environment where grades, leadership and peer belonging often hinge on
fluency in performative morality, young adults quickly learn to rehearse
what is safe. The result is not conviction or beliefs,
but compliance, and beneath that compliance, something vital is lost.
(24:28):
Quoting now from the authors, Late adolescents in early adulthood
represent a narrow and non replicable developmental window. It's during
this stage that individuals begin the lifelong work of integrating
personal experiences with inherited values, forming the foundations of moral reasoning,
internal coherence, and emotional resilience. Oh my gosh, emotional resilience toughness.
(24:57):
When belief is prescriptive, meaning you're tol what to believe,
an ideological divergence or disagreement is treated as social risk.
That integrative process stalls, rather than forging a durable sense
of self. Through trial, error and reflection, students learn to
compartmentalize publicly they can form privately.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
They question often in isolation.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
Oh but remember what we were just talking about with
a preference falsification and preference cascade. They only think they're
in isolation. Well, I guess they are in isolation, but
sows everybody around them thinking the same things.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
So insidious.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
This split between outer presentation and inner conviction not only
fragments identity but arrests its development, and the dissonance.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
Shows up everywhere.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Seventy eight percent of the students told us the self censor.
On their beliefs surrounding gender identity, Seventy eight percent believe
all that gender pending madness is madness, but they got
to be quiet. Seventy two percent do that on politics
(26:08):
in general. Sixty eight percent on family values. I mean,
that's a lot smaller number than the seventy eight percent
that are they're soft pedaling their views on gender bending madness,
But sixty eight percent on just general family values are
soft pedaling their views. Our college students are so much
(26:30):
more conservative insane than you think they are, partly because
who gets amplified and applauded and publicized. They're radical, lefty
lunatic front. The normy kids just they they're afraid, so
they're quiet, and they certainly don't make any noise, and
(26:50):
if they do, they're they're punished or ignored anyway. More
than eighty percent so they had submitted class work that
misrepresented their views in order to align with professors. For many,
this has become second nature, an instinct for academic and
professional self preservation.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
Listen.
Speaker 4 (27:08):
Maybe it was because I was clueless or stubborn or
something as a youngster. But when I was in school
and I was in a political science, economics, pre law
program that had lots and lots and lots of the
sort of stuff we're talking about in it, I never
once misrepresented my view in order to align with a professor.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Maybe I didn't have of you at that point, but
that's terrible.
Speaker 4 (27:35):
To test the gap between expression and belief, we used
gender discourse, a contentious topic, both highly visible and ideological,
ideologically loaded, right the authors In public, students were echoed
I'm sorry. In public, students echoed expective progressive narratives. In private, however,
their views were more complex. Eighty seven percent identified as
(27:57):
exclusively heterosexual and supported a binary model of gender. There's
men and there's women, period. That's eighty seven percent. Nine
percent expressed partial openness to gender fluidity. Seven percent embraced
(28:18):
the idea of gender as a broad spectrum, and most
of these belong to activist circles. Practically nobody believed there's
fifty eight genders and you get to choose what you are.
Practically nobody seven percent. How different is this from the
perception we've all formed of what college kids actually think
(28:41):
because they've been psychologically battered into conformity. I am not
a violent man, but I swear to God, I'd like
to take a bulldozer to a lot of our college campuses.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Metaphorically, of course. Perhaps most telling.
Speaker 4 (28:57):
Seventy seven percent, and these are college kids, said they
disagreed with the idea that gender identity should override biological
sex in domain such as sports, healthcare, or public data,
but would never voice that disagreement allowed. So of the
eighty seven percent that say, no, there's dudes and there's gals,
(29:19):
that's it eighty seven percent. All but ten percent of
those said I would never say that out loud. Holy crap.
These poor kids are bullied. It's Stockholm syndrome. They're terrified
to speak their minds. Hi Karama. Thirty eight percent described
(29:41):
themselves as morally confused, uncertain whether honesty was still ethical,
if it meant exclusion, whatever that means. Authenticity, once considered
a good thing for all of us psychologically, has become
a social liability, and this fragmentation does not end at
the classroom door. Seventy three percent of student reported mistrust
in conversations about these values with close friends. They were
(30:05):
afraid to even talk to their friends.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
That's that.
Speaker 4 (30:11):
Preference falsification, that's its direct fruit. They're sure they're friends,
excuse me disagree with them, even though eighty seven percent
agree with them, They're terrified to say anything out loud.
This is not simply peer pressure. It is identity regulation
(30:35):
at scale. Being institutionalized, universities often justified these dynamics in
the name of inclusion, But inclusion that demands dishonesty is
not ensuring psychological safety. It is sanctioning self abandonment in
attempting to engineer moral unity. Higher education is mistaken consensus
for growth and compliance for care, and the students know it's.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
Wrong when they're given permission is speak freely.
Speaker 4 (31:00):
Many describe the experience of participating as not only liberating,
but clarifying for students trained to perform the act of
telling the truth felt radical. Finally, if higher education is
to fulfill its promise as a site of intellectual and
moral development, it must relearn the difference between support and supervision.
(31:24):
It must recenter truth, not consensus, as its animating value,
and it must give back to students what has been
taken from them, the right to believe in the space
to become. I don't know how exactly you can join
this fight. Maybe it's by supporting organizations or I don't know, podcasts,
radio shows that are fighting the fight. But man, we've
(31:45):
got to win this for the youngsters. They are being
mentally and intellectually tortured and bullied by these monsters, these
monsters in their ivory towers, and it's got to stop.
(32:05):
You said this many times after your years of trying
a number of different kinds of therapy for me and
my family, kids, marriage, all kinds of different stuff. I
think it's mostly worthless. I really do, I really do.
I think it's mostly a waste of money. Unfortunately, but
this is pretty good from a marriage psychologist who reveals
the number one sign of a future separation. And this
(32:28):
stuff is almost always crap, especially if it's in the
New York Post, which.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Is where I got this, but I thought this was
really good.
Speaker 4 (32:33):
If you want to know if your marriage is heading
to splitsville, don't check your partner's phone, check their face.
Speaker 2 (32:38):
Like any of that.
Speaker 3 (32:39):
You know, there's so many stupid things out there, you know,
the one sign that he's gonna cheat or whatever the
hell I mean, They're just all dumb, but click bait.
The subtle smirk of superiority is the number one red
flag for divorce, according to this psychologist. And they get
into why. Research found that four nasty little habits, criticism, contempt, defensiveness,
(33:05):
and stonewalling are the four horsemen of the apocalypse when
it comes to dooming relationships.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
I'll read those four again.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. But contempt is the kiss
of death. That's the one, and you've said that for years.
That's the one you can't get past.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Done. The largest marriage experiment ever done.
Speaker 4 (33:26):
They think of couples that you know, survive and don't survive.
Body language experts brought couples into a lab and if
one member of the couple shows a one sided mouth raise,
which I had never heard before, as like a physical
contempt thing.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
But I guess we're just programmed. When we're feeling that
feeling of contempt.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
For something, or you know, the oh please er get
out of here with that BS or whatever feeling, you raise.
Speaker 2 (33:54):
One side of your mouth.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
It's funny if one member of the couple shows a
one sided mouth raise towards the other can tell you
if they're going to get divorced because it's contempt. He
could predict divorce with an astonishing ninety four percent accurate fear.
Speaker 4 (34:07):
Now, this is the part I thought was really interesting.
Fear comes in a burst, and then you calm down.
Happiness comes, and then you go back to normal. Anger
comes and then you calm down, but not contempt. If
you feel scorn or disdain for someone else, and if
it's not addressed, it just festers and grows and stays
at the same level fear, anger, and then obviously happiness
(34:31):
you get back to a normal level.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
Contempt does not go away.
Speaker 4 (34:36):
And you know, in a definition of contempt, the feeling
that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless
or deserving scorn.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Yes, coming back from that.
Speaker 4 (34:45):
I've not felt contempt, but I have been on the
wrong end of contempt, I think, And having read this,
I thought, yeah, that's what was insurmountable. I mean, because
once you have contempt for someone you don't agree, you
don't think they are worthless listening to on anything. This
is how I feel. This is my priority. I don't
(35:06):
care right. Yeah, that's a tough one to get passed.
So look out for contempt and whatever started to bring
it on. The point is you start to deal with
it right away. Otherwise it does just grow and fester
and then it gets into a situation where it might
might not be reversible. They also believe that many couples
get stuck in an endless loop of the same three
(35:29):
arguments throughout the relationship.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
They just don't realize it. And if you can nail
down what your three most common arguments are you and
your partner, you can solve a lot of problems. Like
you get into something.
Speaker 4 (35:42):
You say, okay, here we're in argument number two again.
We always argue about this, and you can you know,
realize that you know, you don't see eye to eye
in this particular thing, and how you've dealt with it
in the past. Back to the contempt thing discussed, and
contempt are to a relationship with gasoline, and matches are
to a fire. The telltale signs are irolling, mouthcrimping, and
(36:06):
then subtle fidgeting like picking it close or cleaning fingers
mid conversation as signals of disdain. This person said that
they dubbed this move the lint picker, a behavior that
he says, screams contempt louder than words ever could.
Speaker 2 (36:21):
Interesting.
Speaker 4 (36:21):
You know, it's probably worth presenting the other side of
the coin at some point.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
We don't have time now, but how do you prevent
that sort of thing?
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Nip it in the bud, having lint on your shirt,
no contempt in your No, I'm strong and getty.
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