November 13, 2025 • 41 mins
Jenna Recaps her birthday weekend and getting out of her comfort zone when going out for a late night to a Hollywood Bar; Music, A packed Crowd and Dancing!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I'm the host of today's show. I'm
also the author of the book titled Love Your Body,
Love Your Life, Fifty two Tips that will Radically change
your health. And welcome to the show today, you guys,
and thank you. Thank you for being here with me.
(00:46):
I took last week off, and I know sometimes I'm
not too consistent with being live every week, and to
be honest, sometimes I just feel like I want to
deliver really good con tent for you guys. So I
take a couple weeks off to try to have something
organically download in my mind in order to deliver deliver
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some goodies for you. So this week, the only thing
that actually downloaded was to just keep the show really
light and give you guys a recap of last week
because it was actually my birthday, and that's why I
took last week off going live. My birthday was actually Saturday,
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the eighth of November, and I just took Thursday off
from the show, and so, yeah, so I'm going to
do a birthday recap and I'm going to tell you
and share with you guys what I did for my
whole birthday weekend. But I wanted just to talk about
birthdays and just what they what they what they represent,
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and what you can get from them because this year,
for whatever reason, I just was reminiscing a lot on
past birthdays and I started thinking about how you just
really never know who you're going to be with on
your birthday or how you're going to celebrate it. And
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I feel like we can sometimes forecast what we think
we're going to be doing or who we think we're
going to be spending it with. But at least for me,
and I was thinking about this, it's actually been post
divorce since every year on my birthday it's been something
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totally different, right, because I feel like if you are
married or in a serious relationship with living with somebody,
or you have a significant other, it's kind of like,
I mean, you just kind of expect that you're going
to be spending your special day with that special person. Right,
So I've been divorced, just to give you context, for
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five years, and every year for five years, I've spent
it with somebody totally different, meaning like a friend or
a family member, or I've actually spent birthdays alone. And
so I kind of wanted to like get into that
whole conversation because I started to think about past birthdays
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and to be honest, I've spent a lot of birthdays alone,
even like posts or sorry, pre marriage, and I started
thinking about this one birthday in particular. I was living
in Rancho Cuca Manga, a city called Rancho Cuka Manga,
and I was working in another city called Alhambra. I
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was in sales. I was in mortgage sales, so my
territory was in Elhambra and I was living in Rancho
Cuka Manga. And so just to give you like a
like that drive would look like, because if you're not
familiar with California or at Los Angeles, if you're tuning
in from other states, that would have been like an
hour to an hour and a half, sometimes a two
(04:12):
hour drive with traffic. So imagine I was living in
Raunchakucamonga and driving that distance to go to work. I
was in sales, so I was like on my feet
all day and then I would drive back home. And
so this year, again I started reminiscing about birthdays because
I was trying to really feel into how I wanted
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to celebrate my birthday this year because it fell on
a Saturday. So it's like, that's cool, right, It's like,
you never know when your birthday is going to fall
on a weekend, and it hadn't fallen on a weekend
in a long time, so I thought, I need to
make it special. It's on a Saturday. So I was
reminiscing about old birthdays and I was trying to feel
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into how I wanted to celebrate it. Right, So I
was thinking about past birthdays, and I thought about this
one particular birthday where I worked. I actually worked on
my birthday and I drove the hour and a half
drive you guys to work. I worked my sales job
all day, which I was on my feet in and
out of the car. And it must have been one
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of my clients who gave me a slice of carrot
cake for my birthday. And I remember driving back on
that day, on that particular day in traffic, right back
home and I was eating my cake with a fork.
My cake was in my passenger seat, and I was driving, obviously,
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and I was eating my birthday cake while I was
driving home, and I was just reminiscing on that particular
day and that particular birthday and that particular time, right,
And I was like, that's so sad for me, right,
And I'm not like saying this as woe as me,
because at that time in my life, I didn't think that.
I just thought it was I thought it was just normal, like, hey,
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like I have to work and it just happened to
land on my birthday, no big deal. And I'm sure
I went home and celebrated somehow. I don't remember, but
or maybe I was. I spent that birthday alone, maybe
I did. But I started thinking about that time, and
I started also thinking I wanted to share this with
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you guys, that I would never do that. Now. What
do I mean by that? I would never have a
cake given to me and put that in my passenger
seat and drive while I was eating a cake birthday
or not, right, it wouldn't matter. I just would never
do that now, And to me, it shows I know
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that's a small example, but back then, like I just
wasn't present, Like I really wasn't present, Like I really
operated a lot from survival and my mental body and
just getting through my days, and I really didn't know
how my life was going to turn out. Like it
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was just a lot of survival in that in those days.
You know, I was renting a room, I was alone.
You know, I was just a lot of anxiety. I
was nervous a lot. And so my point is is
that I talk about wellness here right, let's love your body,
love your life. And yes, we're going to get into
fun recap for this year, but I just want to
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point out that those little things like what I just said,
I would never do that now, Like I would never
get a cake and be eating it in my car.
I wouldn't even be doing that with anything, like eating
in my car like that, just totally out of my body,
just not thinking about it, not enjoying the cake. Really,
I was just eating out of probably I was hungry
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and I was probably stressed, had this long drive. And
so it's a level of self care. I just want
to start the show off with that. You know, it's
a level of self care where now I prepare my meals. Right,
I prepare my food and I sit down and I eat.
You know, even if I don't have a lot of time,
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I still prepare and I eat. And what I've learned
throughout the years in my spiritual development work and in
just personal development work, one of my mentors along the
lines has taught me don't ever eat when you're stressed.
Just don't eat, drink water, and so I always remembered
that right once I started to get on this deeper
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spiritual personal path, I always remember that just don't eat, Like, Okay,
you're hungry, but just wait until you can get to
a restaurant and actually sit, or you can get home
and prepare your meal and sit. So like I'll give
you an example. This morning, I just had a protein
shake and like half of an avocado. So it was
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really like something that I would drink, right, it was
a protein shake. But I sat down and I drank
my protein shake and I ate my little avocado, and
I had my tea and a little bit of coffee.
But I was sitting down, you know, I got a
call from my dad, so that was great. You know,
I love talking to him. We caught up for a second,
but I wasn't like rushing. I wasn't doing anything like that, right,
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I give myself time to sit down and eat my meal.
So I just kind of wanted to start off the
show like that because I want to encourage you guys
always to I know, it's a small little way to
show yourself that love and show yourself that attention and
show yourself some good care. But just be mindful. Just
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be mindful of how you eat throughout your day, you know.
And I would never do that, Like I think about
those birthdays now and it is kind of sad that
I wasn't more present with myself. But live and learn
and learn and learn. So anyways, so yeah, I will
get to the comments and the questions. But so so yeah,
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so fast forward. I'm here, I am. I'm reminiscing about
birthdays and I really wanted to make do something fun
for myself. And to be honest, nothing was kind of
exciting me, Like I just I was feeling it out,
like what do I want to do? Like nothing was
exciting me, Like, yeah, okay, I could go treat myself
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to a massage. I could even probably went to Palm
Springs even like and gotten myself a massage, like nothing
was feeling right, you know. So like again, so quote
like after divorce, right, it's been kind of like, Okay,
I wonder what's going to happen this year. Again, I
was married for ten years. I kind of knew I
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was going to be spending it with my husband. He
was going to be doing something special for me, or
we were going to be spending it with friends or
you know. It was more like I knew I had
a person, right, But now post divorce five years, I
don't have that. I don't have that, Like, Okay, I
know we're going I know I'm gonna spend it with him.
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I know it's going to be something celebratory. I don't
have that, So I have to either create something for
myself or just know I'm going be spending it by myself.
So memory lane, right, Okay, So twenty nineteen, he pretty
much left the house September of twenty nineteen, so my
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birthdays in November. So in twenty nineteen, my neighbors I
was renting an apartment, and my neighbors around me were
so sweet, you guys, they knew that I was going
through something really hard, you know, really super emotional and
just hard, you know, hard emotionally to be by yourself
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for the first year, for these special days, you know,
holidays and birthdays. It's hard. It's hard after you're you're
with somebody for so many years. So they were super sweet.
Twenty nineteen, they threw me a dinner and I remember
I wore this leopard dress and they made me feel
very special. One of my neighbors gave me a crown,
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like a diamond crown, and they made me wear it
at the dinner, and then they were they put me
up on like they helped me up to like sit
on the bar area of this restaurant, and they were
taking photos of me, and it was just they made
me feel special on my day. And I'll never forget that.
Like I literally had a neighbor text me this year
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and she said the same thing. She's like, I'll never
forget your birthday that year, and I always remember your birthday.
So it's really cool, you know. I had that memory.
And then twenty twenty, obviously I was alone. Everybody was alone,
I'm sure on their birthday unless you had like what
are you call it, They were calling it pods or whatever,
like people that you had together through COVID. I didn't,
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so I spent it alone, had my dog back then,
and I remember I went for a massage that day
that that birthday during COVID, and then twenty two, I
was really trying to think back, like what did I
do those years because I was preparing notes for today
and I couldn't remember. It's kind of a blur, so
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probably something not too memorable. And then I did throw
myself a party one year, a couple of years back,
and that was really fun. I had all my high
school friends come to my house and we we we
had fun. We had fun. So so yeah, so this
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year rolled around and I the thought did run through
my mind too, have another party? Like do I want that? Like?
Do I really want to have another party? Like it
just kind of the thought ran in through my mind,
and I was like, hmm, that would be kind of fun.
Maybe get a DJ and like go dance, like dance.
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I love to dance, And but then I thought, I
don't know, it just kind of ran through my mind
and then it ran out of my mind, like do
people really want to drive maybe sometimes an hour away
just to celebrate my birthday? I don't know, you know,
like maybe not, you know, so I kind of tabled
that idea. I was like, uh, I don't know, I'll
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think about it. And so the time was kind of
passing by, right, and nothing was like normally I'm like
into massages, right, and I'm like, yes, I'm gonna take
the day off. I'm gonna go get a massage, Like
I'm gonna go do that, Like I couldn't. I some
normally I can't wait, but this year, I just for
some reason, I just wasn't into that. For two years
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in a row, these past couple of years, I've spent
it by myself. I did go get massage, had lunch
one year by myself. I literally went to the restaurant,
sat down, I ate my meal. I think I had
a burger that year and like sweet potato fries. And
then a girlfriend of mine came over for tea that night,
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which was totally random. Didn't even like. I wasn't like
planning that at all. It just kind of happened. She
was like off work and on her way home and
she's like, hey, do you want to get together. I'm like, sure,
come over. We had tea The following year after that,
her and I we went to dinner. I like sushi.
I spent the whole day by myself and then we
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went to sushi. But we are no longer friends, which
is another interesting story, you guys, that I want to
get into that at another show. I really want to
talk about women friendships and maybe that's like in in
a couple of weeks after the holiday, I'm going to
get into women friendships as a topic and I really
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want to dive into that. And if there's any men
listening to me right now saying that, I really would
love the men to be present on that show because
I want to pick your brain. I want to pick
your brain men on men friendships and I want to
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kind of compare to women. So just as a little
nugget for what my ideas are for some future shows,
I am going to be talking about women friendships. So anyways,
So yeah, so this year, I was like, Okay, I
don't want to spend it alone. I knew that, like
I knew that wholeheartedly. I don't want to spend another
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birthday alone. But nothing was exciting me and I didn't
really want to plan, Like I just wanted somebody. I
just want I just wanted it to be like rolled
out for me, like it was just gonna magically happen, right,
Like I just I just wanted it to roll out.
So I'm going to get into how that all played out,
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But right now I feel like I'm going to just
answer the questions and the comments. Okay, Jamie, not fun
to work on your birthday. I know, I know it
isn't it's like damn, but sometimes it just happens and
then you kind of roll with it and then you
celebrate on the weekend. Right, So it was fine, it
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worked out. Gene. Uh. Do you feel the way you
grew up made you more absolutely? Okay, so let me finish.
Jane says, do you feel the way you grew up
made you more resilient? Oh? One hundred percent, Geane, Yes,
hands down, hands down. I never understood why there was
so much hardship when I was growing up, you guys,
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there really was. I was alone a lot, I've said
and I've shared with you, guys. I grew up as
an only child. My mom worked a lot, and I
grew up fast. I moved out of the house young.
But man, it made me strong internally, it really did,
and I'm so grateful for that. Internal strength, because that's
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something that can't be taken away from me. And I
am not here saying that I am insensitive at all.
As a matter of fact, I'm highly sensitive, like truly empathic.
I can feel easily. I can feel people's other emotions easily.
I can feel people and where they're at. And I
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have a lot of empathy and sometimes too much empathy.
Sometimes I'm overgiving. And I know I've said that several times,
but it's true. But yes, I had I did grow
up with experiences that have made me have some thick
skin and be resilient and be able to pivot and
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be able to spend birthdays by myself and be totally fine,
you know, maybe not too happy about it, maybe spent
my birthdays with some hard emotions, but knowing deep down
that I will get through this no matter what, I
will get through it. So for that, I totally understand
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my upbringing now in my childhood, and I'm so grateful.
I really am. I really am grateful. So if you
guys want to get more into that another time, I'm
totally fine to talk about that. What kind of dog?
I had a pug. His name was Cody, and he
lived till he was almost eighteen years old, which is
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unheard of because hugs, you know, they don't really are
not known to have long Well maybe they are, I
don't know. But he lived till he was almost eighteen,
and he just passed away from old age. You guys.
He was literally telling me put me down, mom, like
I'm done. I am done. So anyway, So, yeah, I
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hit a pug. His name was Cody. He lived till
almost eighteen. I put him down January of twenty twenty,
right before lockdown. So that was a really sad, bad
time for me. But yeah, he was my baby. I
love him so much. So okay, so back to birthday
and back to how it unfolded. So two weeks prior
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to my birthday this past Saturday, I'm talking to a
mentor of mine. She's much older, so it's kind of
like a mom figure. And I started talking to her
about what do I want to do for my birthday?
And I was telling her like nothing really is dropping in,
I don't know, and thank you, Larry. Larry says happy
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like birthday, thank you. And so this mentor of mine
was telling me, you know, she was really sweet. Again,
she's older she's like a mother figure for me. And
she was like, well, Jenna, you know, some people spend
it getting a massage, you know, having a self care day.
Some people spend it hiking, some people spend it with friends,
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some people spend it And she was super sweet. She
was giving me all these ideas and I was like,
I know, and nothing's sounding right, so okay, fine. A
week before, I talked to her again the same mentor,
and she tells me, okay, so what is your plan?
And I said, I don't know. I don't know, and
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so she says to me a week before, she says, Okay,
that's fine, it's okay that you don't know. And something
inside of me just relax, you know, like she's right,
it's okay that I don't know. It's okay that I
don't have any being planned. And she said to me,
just stay open, just remain open, and I did. I
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was like, okay, I am totally prepared emotionally after she
said that to me, in the way she said that
to me, I'm totally prepared to spend this birthday alone,
even though I didn't want to. I'm going to be
prepared to spend it alone. And just play it by
ear and it's funny how like when you kind of
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surrender to something, it's like you almost like okay, like
it's fine. I'm going to surrender to it and be
okay with whatever happens. And it's interesting because once I
did that, my mom actually invited me to go see
a play in Laguna Beach on Saturday the eighth, which
is my actual birthday, and I accepted because I haven't
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done anything with my mom in over a year. So
I accepted the invite and she said great, I'll buy
the tickets and I was like, okay, perfect. I was
like okay, cool, like I have something planned. It's something
that I haven't done in a long time. I haven't
gotten gone to, like a play in a long time.
It was in Laguna Beach. It was really like it
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was local, about thirty minute drive from where I live,
and downtown Laguna Beach is cool. It's like very It's
like you there's like shops and restaurants everywhere you can
just kind of walk walk to, so the cool area.
So I had that plan. So I did that. On
the day of my birthday on November eighth. We went
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to watch this play and then we went to dinner
at this restaurant called The Forest Restaurant, and she's saying
happy birthday to me. I blew out one candle and
I had one big wish and so that was cool.
And then, oh so after my mom invited me to
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go to a play, right kind of after that, you guys,
I got a call from my friend who is my
neighbor but we become friends, and she invited me to
a concert in La the following night, on Sunday night.
So I was like, oh, okay, awesome, Like it's all
into place exactly what I wanted. I wanted it to
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just fall into place for me. I wanted it just
to roll out like the red carpet, like I didn't
have to do anything, and it did. So I accepted
the offer to go to this concert on Sunday night,
which I titled this show Getting out of the Comfort
Zone because it was totally out of my comfort zone,
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you guys, like, I haven't done this in so long,
where I I'm getting ready to go out for a
late night. The concert didn't even start till eight o'clock PM,
and so we had plans to leave it like six
fifteen because again just for context on like the drive.
We were to have to leave an hour and a
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half before the concert because LA is about an hour
an hour and fifteen minute drive. Then you got to
look for parking and then get into the venue and
so so that was that was interesting, you guys, I
haven't been to LA in a long time. It was
actually in Hollywood, so it was like right in the
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heart of Hollywood. And we get to the we get
into LA, we leave at the right time, we drive
into LA. She's driving, which was great. I got to
be the passenger, which is always awesome. And we get
into LA and it's like, oh mg, such a CD
area of Los Angeles, part of LA or heart of Hollywood,
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like really like, oh my gosh, Like okay, so there's
there's homeless everywhere. There's It's just we were not in
a good area at all at all. Okay. The club
was called the Spotlight in LA. And I'm like, oh
my gosh, like really, like, we're really gonna park and
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walk to this place? Like she and my friend was like,
are you scared? I'm like, uh, have you seen the
people around here? You go? I'm like, you're not scared.
She's like I'm not scared at all. So actually I
felt at least a little bit more secure because she
wasn't scared, but I was scared. I was like, oh
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my gosh, Like I didn't really want to take my
jacket because I knew once we got into the club
it was going to be hot. But you guys, so
I was so scared. What I did was I tucked
my whole hair in my jacket. I put my jacket
over me, and I literally walked with my jacket like
I didn't want to even look like side to side
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at the street or to like right or left. I
just wanted to be like in my zone till we
got to the club in the line. So yeah, just
painting the picture of my of my Sunday night. I mean,
and literally it was like, you know, eight nine o'clock
at night, so it was like prime time for these
people to be out. So we get in the club,
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and once we got in the club, it was totally fun,
totally fine. I'm like, okay, this is cool. I haven't
done this in a long time. You guys know, I
love music. I'm into music. I sing music like I
love music. I love dancing, And so I was like, Okay,
I can vibe with this. This was really cool. It
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was so fun, you guys. They had a big like
disco ball in the middle of the of the bar
of like where the area is were, and it was
like it was Latin jazz, but they played like cool
vibe music to dance to and it was actually a band,
but they made it like a DJ style, so it
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was it was fun. It was really really fun, super cool.
I wish I would have sent Rebel some pictures and
like a video that I did that night so I
could show you guys, like just to get visual But
it was really fun. It was an LA club nightclub
called the Spotline. It was jam packed. It was you
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couldn't really even walk it was that crowded, so you
can imagine it was hot. It was everybody was dancing.
I loved how eclectic it was. It was like, so
just to give you again some context and visuals, like
there were two gay guys that were just dancing right
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in front of us. There were all kinds of different races,
you know, just having a good time. Everybody's themselves and
I just love that vibe. I love that vibe because
where I live in Orange County. You tend to see
kind of same people right all the time, and everybody
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tends to dress the same and to look the same.
But in La it's a melting pot and you get
all of it. And I am I'm a people watcher,
like I love two people watch and I love too,
I love human interaction action and just watching people and
just watching people. It just makes me happy. I can
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do that like all day, and especially in this kind
of environment. It was really cool. So yeah, so that
was kind of like my birthday weekend to wrap it up.
Definitely out of my comfort zone. I hadn't gone out
like that late night since I was married, because, like
I've said several shows, my ex husband is a musician,
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and we would do that all the time. We would
get ready eight o'clock pm, start going out at nine
pm and not come home till two sometimes three in
the morning, you know. And I became such a night
person when I was living with him, you know, and
I thought that I could never I could never be
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a morning person again. But that's not true. I am
definitely a morning person again and not a night person.
But so it was fun because it was it reminded
me of those days, and I forget how much nighttime
can be so fun. And I mean to be honest,
I I come alive at night, and my creative juices
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come out a little bit more, like I can think
more clearly sometimes not like meaning like I can download
poetry more at night. And so it was cool to
be back in that vibe and around music and stuff.
So I should probably be doing that more of that. So, Lance,
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what kind of neighborhood did you go to?
Speaker 1 (30:34):
So?
Speaker 2 (30:35):
I don't know where you're from, Lance, but downtown La
is very It's downtown. It's maybe like a New York vibe,
but probably slower than New York. But if you're familiar
with New York, it's it's really crowded and a lot
of cars, and it's busy, and it's it's it's you know,
(30:55):
nighttime is the right time kind of thing where everybody
just comes out. It's just time to party and people
are out, you know, walking the streets. You know, where
I live right now, nobody would be doing that at night.
You know, everybody's in bed at all the all the
restaurants are closed late night, but in La they're open,
so people are walking the streets, you know, and it's
(31:16):
just not really a safe, too safe of a neighborhood.
My friend was so funny. She was like, you know,
we left, we left late. You know, we walked back
to the car, which was we walked. We parked two
blocks away from this club, and so we're walking back
and I'm like having my jacket on and she's ready, right,
She's like, Jenna, don't worry. I know, moo tie or
(31:39):
some tie moves and she's like, don't worry. I got you.
And I was like, okay, cool, you know, let's just
make it back to the car. And you know, she's funny.
She's like she said, she made a comment to me
when we were driving back. She's like, you know, people
aren't allowed to cross us, Like, people aren't allowed to
violate us. Jenna, Like, people aren't just we just they're
(32:01):
not allowed to do that. They're not allowed to make
us feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (32:05):
Like okay, yeah, like I get that intellectually, but people
don't think like we do, especially if they're on drugs
or desperate for money or you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
So it was it was kind of funny and really
cute and interesting interesting, right, because she's right, you know,
people aren't allowed to violate you point. People aren't allowed
to make you feel uncomfortable. So I thought I would
just say that out loud because also it was out
of my comfort zone. I hadn't done that many, many years.
(32:40):
But it's interesting because when you do get out of
your comfort zone, or when you allow yourself to be open,
remain open to like just things just unfolding organically and naturally,
like my birthday weekend did. It's like the following day
on the tenth, on the Monday, you know, after my weekend,
after really kind of getting out of my comfort I
(33:00):
woke up on the tenth and there there's a certain
kind of confidence that you feel once you do do
something out of your comfort zone. There's a certain kind
of confidence because it's like I woke up and I
feel safe. I'm back home, nothing happened. I wake up
in my bed, I love my bed. I wake up
in my nice room, and I'm confident. It's like, you know,
(33:24):
if I can get through that night last night, I
can I can do this day. Like I can do
something I can I can just I just there's a
little bit more confidence that you walk around with, you know,
like and that's with anything you guys, Like I remember
the first time I started to get on stage and sing,
you know, like I was singing this little band and
(33:45):
I was allowed myself to get out of my comfort
zone to get up on stage and sing. And every
time I did that, the next day I was like, God,
I can If I did that, I can do this,
you know type of thing. So I just want to
share that as well. You know, if anybody is looking
for that time or the moment to do something that
(34:07):
you really want to do and you feel like you
don't have the confidence to do it, I encourage you
to do it. Just do it, Just try it, as
long as you're not hurting anybody, as long as you're
not putting yourself in danger. I mean, we were in
a little bit of danger. I'll be honest, but I
didn't know we were going to that place. I really didn't.
(34:29):
And it's a good thing she didn't tell me because
I probably would wouldn't have gone. And so but if
you do find yourself in those moments, you know, where
you're a little bit uncomfortable, and you get through them,
you know, really stop to maybe just pat yourself on
the back, you know, take a moment, really dive into
(34:50):
what you just did for yourself. You know, even the
little things you guys, making your plate, making your breakfast,
preparing a meal, and sitting down and eating, sitting down
and drinking your coffee, you know, being present with yourself.
All those little things they add up to the self
care and the well being and everything that I talk
(35:11):
about on the show. So yes, yes, yes, yes, I
think that's a rap. Unless you guys have any more questions,
I'm just going to look about any of my notes
that I wanted to share about my birthday weekend. I
think that's that's it. That's a wrap. I hope you
guys got some nugget out of this. Yeah, just as
(35:33):
a recap, you know, get out of your comfort zone,
allow things to unfold organically. If things don't feel right,
just remain open and trust that everything will unfold for
your highest and best good. And I feel like that's
the mantra, right, the mantra is I know that things
(35:54):
are unfolding for my highest and best good. Or maybe
just as a prayer, know, allow my highest and best
good to unfold, you know, maybe make that your mantra.
You know, I want my highest and best good to
unfold or everything is unfolding for my highest and best good.
Maybe say something like that to yourself. Wendy says, thank
(36:16):
you for sharing your night with us. Yes, Wendy, You're
welcome and thank you guys, thank you for being loyal
to me. I know I've seen these. I've seen Wendy's
name before, Larry's name before, Lance's name before, maybe Jamie,
I feel, but I just really want to thank you
again for being loyal to my show. Because again I'll repeat,
(36:39):
I'm not I'm not consistent sometimes and it's not because
I don't want to be. It's because I really want
to bring something that I feel will add value to
your life and to yourself. And I think with that,
with me saying that word value, I think that that's
been my biggest lesson all these years, is valuing myself.
(37:05):
You know. Really I thought about it. It's like, yeah,
my night was out of my comfort zone, but leaving
my ex husband out of my comfort zone, you guys,
I was so scared to do that. I really was.
I thought to myself, how am I ever going to
do music without him? You know, maybe I've said that before.
(37:26):
I was so afraid, even though I knew the relationship
was not aligned anymore, I was so afraid. And I
have so much music now on Spotify. I've done so
much for myself, and I've been afraid, you know. I've
been afraid to make these moves, you know, and be
out of my comfort zone. And I have been out
(37:46):
of my comfort zone, if I'm honest, for five years
post divorce, because I've had to do things by myself.
I've had to navigate life by myself. I've had to
spend birthdays by myself, you know, and really sit with
the emotion and sit with myself. So it's all been
a big, great lessons and out of my comfort zone.
(38:10):
And what I've learned is to value myself in relationships
with other people, but especially with myself, and I think
that's where the whole like making food and sitting down
and being present with my thoughts and really putting, really
loving an attention to what I want to bring here
to the show. So it's all good. It's all good.
(38:33):
It's funny. My dad called me this morning and so
I had this little conversation with him prior to going live,
and I remembered the year post divorce. The first year,
he gave me this cup for Christmas and it said,
snap out of it, babe, you have a world to
take over. So I'll repeat that. The cup that he
(38:55):
gave me for Christmas, it said snap out of it, babe,
you have a world to take over. And at the
time I was like wow, Like I knew I did inside,
but it's like, what was that? What was that world?
You know? I had to figure it out. I had
this whole vision prior to my divorce, and it definitely
(39:17):
wasn't the vision that I was living in twenty nineteen
when my ex husband left, right, So my dad was right.
He was absolutely right. He gave me the cup and
I've kept it. I rarely drink out of it. I
just keep it in my cupboard because I always want
to remember what it said. And I feel like I've
(39:39):
done a pretty good job so far, and I'm not done.
Is the great part about that. I'm not done. There
are things that I'm working on that I'm going to
be sharing with you guys next year. I'm thinking about
how i want to take the show. Maybe I'll have
more guests on next year. So if you guys are
(40:00):
have any ideas of what you want me to talk about.
I'm always open, but I feel like I've done a
pretty good job about exploring that world that I had
inside of me in twenty nineteen. Because there are lots
of ways that you guys can connect with me that
I have created within these five years. So there's my
(40:20):
music on Spotify. There's my book on Amazon called Love
Your Body, Love Your Life, which is the title of
the show. I'm really really active on Instagram, so if
you guys want to follow me there and DM me
with ideas for the show, please do that. And there's
tons of these podcast replays, so if you guys want
(40:40):
to go back, Like I said, I've been doing this
since twenty nineteen, so there are so many replays on
Spotify that you guys can go back to and listen.
So there's a lot of ways to connect with me,
and I really appreciate it. I appreciate you guys listening.
I appreciate you a life allowing me to share my stories.
(41:02):
And like I said, I'm not done. I am going
to be rolling out some other fun projects that I've
been thinking about. And yeah, until next time, you guys,
Love your Body and Love your life, take care, Bye,
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I'm the host of today's show. I'm
also the author of the book titled Love Your Body,
Love Your Life, Fifty two Tips that will Radically change
your health. And welcome to the show today, you guys,
and thank you. Thank you for being here with me.
(00:46):
I took last week off, and I know sometimes I'm
not too consistent with being live every week, and to
be honest, sometimes I just feel like I want to
deliver really good con tent for you guys. So I
take a couple weeks off to try to have something
organically download in my mind in order to deliver deliver
(01:11):
some goodies for you. So this week, the only thing
that actually downloaded was to just keep the show really
light and give you guys a recap of last week
because it was actually my birthday, and that's why I
took last week off going live. My birthday was actually Saturday,
(01:33):
the eighth of November, and I just took Thursday off
from the show, and so, yeah, so I'm going to
do a birthday recap and I'm going to tell you
and share with you guys what I did for my
whole birthday weekend. But I wanted just to talk about
birthdays and just what they what they what they represent,
(01:58):
and what you can get from them because this year,
for whatever reason, I just was reminiscing a lot on
past birthdays and I started thinking about how you just
really never know who you're going to be with on
your birthday or how you're going to celebrate it. And
(02:21):
I feel like we can sometimes forecast what we think
we're going to be doing or who we think we're
going to be spending it with. But at least for me,
and I was thinking about this, it's actually been post
divorce since every year on my birthday it's been something
(02:41):
totally different, right, because I feel like if you are
married or in a serious relationship with living with somebody,
or you have a significant other, it's kind of like,
I mean, you just kind of expect that you're going
to be spending your special day with that special person. Right,
So I've been divorced, just to give you context, for
(03:03):
five years, and every year for five years, I've spent
it with somebody totally different, meaning like a friend or
a family member, or I've actually spent birthdays alone. And
so I kind of wanted to like get into that
whole conversation because I started to think about past birthdays
(03:26):
and to be honest, I've spent a lot of birthdays alone,
even like posts or sorry, pre marriage, and I started
thinking about this one birthday in particular. I was living
in Rancho Cuca Manga, a city called Rancho Cuka Manga,
and I was working in another city called Alhambra. I
(03:49):
was in sales. I was in mortgage sales, so my
territory was in Elhambra and I was living in Rancho
Cuka Manga. And so just to give you like a
like that drive would look like, because if you're not
familiar with California or at Los Angeles, if you're tuning
in from other states, that would have been like an
hour to an hour and a half, sometimes a two
(04:12):
hour drive with traffic. So imagine I was living in
Raunchakucamonga and driving that distance to go to work. I
was in sales, so I was like on my feet
all day and then I would drive back home. And
so this year, again I started reminiscing about birthdays because
I was trying to really feel into how I wanted
(04:33):
to celebrate my birthday this year because it fell on
a Saturday. So it's like, that's cool, right, It's like,
you never know when your birthday is going to fall
on a weekend, and it hadn't fallen on a weekend
in a long time, so I thought, I need to
make it special. It's on a Saturday. So I was
reminiscing about old birthdays and I was trying to feel
(04:55):
into how I wanted to celebrate it. Right, So I
was thinking about past birthdays, and I thought about this
one particular birthday where I worked. I actually worked on
my birthday and I drove the hour and a half
drive you guys to work. I worked my sales job
all day, which I was on my feet in and
out of the car. And it must have been one
(05:18):
of my clients who gave me a slice of carrot
cake for my birthday. And I remember driving back on
that day, on that particular day in traffic, right back
home and I was eating my cake with a fork.
My cake was in my passenger seat, and I was driving, obviously,
(05:42):
and I was eating my birthday cake while I was
driving home, and I was just reminiscing on that particular
day and that particular birthday and that particular time, right,
And I was like, that's so sad for me, right,
And I'm not like saying this as woe as me,
because at that time in my life, I didn't think that.
I just thought it was I thought it was just normal, like, hey,
(06:06):
like I have to work and it just happened to
land on my birthday, no big deal. And I'm sure
I went home and celebrated somehow. I don't remember, but
or maybe I was. I spent that birthday alone, maybe
I did. But I started thinking about that time, and
I started also thinking I wanted to share this with
(06:26):
you guys, that I would never do that. Now. What
do I mean by that? I would never have a
cake given to me and put that in my passenger
seat and drive while I was eating a cake birthday
or not, right, it wouldn't matter. I just would never
do that now, And to me, it shows I know
(06:49):
that's a small example, but back then, like I just
wasn't present, Like I really wasn't present, Like I really
operated a lot from survival and my mental body and
just getting through my days, and I really didn't know
how my life was going to turn out. Like it
(07:12):
was just a lot of survival in that in those days.
You know, I was renting a room, I was alone.
You know, I was just a lot of anxiety. I
was nervous a lot. And so my point is is
that I talk about wellness here right, let's love your body,
love your life. And yes, we're going to get into
fun recap for this year, but I just want to
(07:33):
point out that those little things like what I just said,
I would never do that now, Like I would never
get a cake and be eating it in my car.
I wouldn't even be doing that with anything, like eating
in my car like that, just totally out of my body,
just not thinking about it, not enjoying the cake. Really,
I was just eating out of probably I was hungry
(07:55):
and I was probably stressed, had this long drive. And
so it's a level of self care. I just want
to start the show off with that. You know, it's
a level of self care where now I prepare my meals. Right,
I prepare my food and I sit down and I eat.
You know, even if I don't have a lot of time,
(08:16):
I still prepare and I eat. And what I've learned
throughout the years in my spiritual development work and in
just personal development work, one of my mentors along the
lines has taught me don't ever eat when you're stressed.
Just don't eat, drink water, and so I always remembered
that right once I started to get on this deeper
(08:38):
spiritual personal path, I always remember that just don't eat, Like, Okay,
you're hungry, but just wait until you can get to
a restaurant and actually sit, or you can get home
and prepare your meal and sit. So like I'll give
you an example. This morning, I just had a protein
shake and like half of an avocado. So it was
(08:58):
really like something that I would drink, right, it was
a protein shake. But I sat down and I drank
my protein shake and I ate my little avocado, and
I had my tea and a little bit of coffee.
But I was sitting down, you know, I got a
call from my dad, so that was great. You know,
I love talking to him. We caught up for a second,
but I wasn't like rushing. I wasn't doing anything like that, right,
(09:23):
I give myself time to sit down and eat my meal.
So I just kind of wanted to start off the
show like that because I want to encourage you guys
always to I know, it's a small little way to
show yourself that love and show yourself that attention and
show yourself some good care. But just be mindful. Just
(09:44):
be mindful of how you eat throughout your day, you know.
And I would never do that, Like I think about
those birthdays now and it is kind of sad that
I wasn't more present with myself. But live and learn
and learn and learn. So anyways, so yeah, I will
get to the comments and the questions. But so so yeah,
(10:09):
so fast forward. I'm here, I am. I'm reminiscing about
birthdays and I really wanted to make do something fun
for myself. And to be honest, nothing was kind of
exciting me, Like I just I was feeling it out,
like what do I want to do? Like nothing was
exciting me, Like, yeah, okay, I could go treat myself
(10:32):
to a massage. I could even probably went to Palm
Springs even like and gotten myself a massage, like nothing
was feeling right, you know. So like again, so quote
like after divorce, right, it's been kind of like, Okay,
I wonder what's going to happen this year. Again, I
was married for ten years. I kind of knew I
(10:54):
was going to be spending it with my husband. He
was going to be doing something special for me, or
we were going to be spending it with friends or
you know. It was more like I knew I had
a person, right, But now post divorce five years, I
don't have that. I don't have that, Like, Okay, I
know we're going I know I'm gonna spend it with him.
(11:15):
I know it's going to be something celebratory. I don't
have that, So I have to either create something for
myself or just know I'm going be spending it by myself.
So memory lane, right, Okay, So twenty nineteen, he pretty
much left the house September of twenty nineteen, so my
(11:36):
birthdays in November. So in twenty nineteen, my neighbors I
was renting an apartment, and my neighbors around me were
so sweet, you guys, they knew that I was going
through something really hard, you know, really super emotional and
just hard, you know, hard emotionally to be by yourself
(11:57):
for the first year, for these special days, you know,
holidays and birthdays. It's hard. It's hard after you're you're
with somebody for so many years. So they were super sweet.
Twenty nineteen, they threw me a dinner and I remember
I wore this leopard dress and they made me feel
very special. One of my neighbors gave me a crown,
(12:20):
like a diamond crown, and they made me wear it
at the dinner, and then they were they put me
up on like they helped me up to like sit
on the bar area of this restaurant, and they were
taking photos of me, and it was just they made
me feel special on my day. And I'll never forget that.
Like I literally had a neighbor text me this year
(12:43):
and she said the same thing. She's like, I'll never
forget your birthday that year, and I always remember your birthday.
So it's really cool, you know. I had that memory.
And then twenty twenty, obviously I was alone. Everybody was alone,
I'm sure on their birthday unless you had like what
are you call it, They were calling it pods or whatever,
like people that you had together through COVID. I didn't,
(13:07):
so I spent it alone, had my dog back then,
and I remember I went for a massage that day
that that birthday during COVID, and then twenty two, I
was really trying to think back, like what did I
do those years because I was preparing notes for today
and I couldn't remember. It's kind of a blur, so
(13:31):
probably something not too memorable. And then I did throw
myself a party one year, a couple of years back,
and that was really fun. I had all my high
school friends come to my house and we we we
had fun. We had fun. So so yeah, so this
(13:52):
year rolled around and I the thought did run through
my mind too, have another party? Like do I want that? Like?
Do I really want to have another party? Like it
just kind of the thought ran in through my mind,
and I was like, hmm, that would be kind of fun.
Maybe get a DJ and like go dance, like dance.
(14:16):
I love to dance, And but then I thought, I
don't know, it just kind of ran through my mind
and then it ran out of my mind, like do
people really want to drive maybe sometimes an hour away
just to celebrate my birthday? I don't know, you know,
like maybe not, you know, so I kind of tabled
that idea. I was like, uh, I don't know, I'll
(14:37):
think about it. And so the time was kind of
passing by, right, and nothing was like normally I'm like
into massages, right, and I'm like, yes, I'm gonna take
the day off. I'm gonna go get a massage, Like
I'm gonna go do that, Like I couldn't. I some
normally I can't wait, but this year, I just for
some reason, I just wasn't into that. For two years
(15:00):
in a row, these past couple of years, I've spent
it by myself. I did go get massage, had lunch
one year by myself. I literally went to the restaurant,
sat down, I ate my meal. I think I had
a burger that year and like sweet potato fries. And
then a girlfriend of mine came over for tea that night,
(15:23):
which was totally random. Didn't even like. I wasn't like
planning that at all. It just kind of happened. She
was like off work and on her way home and
she's like, hey, do you want to get together. I'm like, sure,
come over. We had tea The following year after that,
her and I we went to dinner. I like sushi.
I spent the whole day by myself and then we
(15:43):
went to sushi. But we are no longer friends, which
is another interesting story, you guys, that I want to
get into that at another show. I really want to
talk about women friendships and maybe that's like in in
a couple of weeks after the holiday, I'm going to
get into women friendships as a topic and I really
(16:06):
want to dive into that. And if there's any men
listening to me right now saying that, I really would
love the men to be present on that show because
I want to pick your brain. I want to pick
your brain men on men friendships and I want to
(16:26):
kind of compare to women. So just as a little
nugget for what my ideas are for some future shows,
I am going to be talking about women friendships. So anyways,
So yeah, so this year, I was like, Okay, I
don't want to spend it alone. I knew that, like
I knew that wholeheartedly. I don't want to spend another
(16:48):
birthday alone. But nothing was exciting me and I didn't
really want to plan, Like I just wanted somebody. I
just want I just wanted it to be like rolled
out for me, like it was just gonna magically happen, right,
Like I just I just wanted it to roll out.
So I'm going to get into how that all played out,
(17:09):
But right now I feel like I'm going to just
answer the questions and the comments. Okay, Jamie, not fun
to work on your birthday. I know, I know it
isn't it's like damn, but sometimes it just happens and
then you kind of roll with it and then you
celebrate on the weekend. Right, So it was fine, it
(17:30):
worked out. Gene. Uh. Do you feel the way you
grew up made you more absolutely? Okay, so let me finish.
Jane says, do you feel the way you grew up
made you more resilient? Oh? One hundred percent, Geane, Yes,
hands down, hands down. I never understood why there was
so much hardship when I was growing up, you guys,
(17:52):
there really was. I was alone a lot, I've said
and I've shared with you, guys. I grew up as
an only child. My mom worked a lot, and I
grew up fast. I moved out of the house young.
But man, it made me strong internally, it really did,
and I'm so grateful for that. Internal strength, because that's
(18:14):
something that can't be taken away from me. And I
am not here saying that I am insensitive at all.
As a matter of fact, I'm highly sensitive, like truly empathic.
I can feel easily. I can feel people's other emotions easily.
I can feel people and where they're at. And I
(18:36):
have a lot of empathy and sometimes too much empathy.
Sometimes I'm overgiving. And I know I've said that several times,
but it's true. But yes, I had I did grow
up with experiences that have made me have some thick
skin and be resilient and be able to pivot and
(19:01):
be able to spend birthdays by myself and be totally fine,
you know, maybe not too happy about it, maybe spent
my birthdays with some hard emotions, but knowing deep down
that I will get through this no matter what, I
will get through it. So for that, I totally understand
(19:22):
my upbringing now in my childhood, and I'm so grateful.
I really am. I really am grateful. So if you
guys want to get more into that another time, I'm
totally fine to talk about that. What kind of dog?
I had a pug. His name was Cody, and he
lived till he was almost eighteen years old, which is
(19:44):
unheard of because hugs, you know, they don't really are
not known to have long Well maybe they are, I
don't know. But he lived till he was almost eighteen,
and he just passed away from old age. You guys.
He was literally telling me put me down, mom, like
I'm done. I am done. So anyway, So, yeah, I
(20:05):
hit a pug. His name was Cody. He lived till
almost eighteen. I put him down January of twenty twenty,
right before lockdown. So that was a really sad, bad
time for me. But yeah, he was my baby. I
love him so much. So okay, so back to birthday
and back to how it unfolded. So two weeks prior
(20:25):
to my birthday this past Saturday, I'm talking to a
mentor of mine. She's much older, so it's kind of
like a mom figure. And I started talking to her
about what do I want to do for my birthday?
And I was telling her like nothing really is dropping in,
I don't know, and thank you, Larry. Larry says happy
(20:45):
like birthday, thank you. And so this mentor of mine
was telling me, you know, she was really sweet. Again,
she's older she's like a mother figure for me. And
she was like, well, Jenna, you know, some people spend
it getting a massage, you know, having a self care day.
Some people spend it hiking, some people spend it with friends,
(21:09):
some people spend it And she was super sweet. She
was giving me all these ideas and I was like,
I know, and nothing's sounding right, so okay, fine. A
week before, I talked to her again the same mentor,
and she tells me, okay, so what is your plan?
And I said, I don't know. I don't know, and
(21:30):
so she says to me a week before, she says, Okay,
that's fine, it's okay that you don't know. And something
inside of me just relax, you know, like she's right,
it's okay that I don't know. It's okay that I
don't have any being planned. And she said to me,
just stay open, just remain open, and I did. I
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was like, okay, I am totally prepared emotionally after she
said that to me, in the way she said that
to me, I'm totally prepared to spend this birthday alone,
even though I didn't want to. I'm going to be
prepared to spend it alone. And just play it by
ear and it's funny how like when you kind of
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surrender to something, it's like you almost like okay, like
it's fine. I'm going to surrender to it and be
okay with whatever happens. And it's interesting because once I
did that, my mom actually invited me to go see
a play in Laguna Beach on Saturday the eighth, which
is my actual birthday, and I accepted because I haven't
(22:38):
done anything with my mom in over a year. So
I accepted the invite and she said great, I'll buy
the tickets and I was like, okay, perfect. I was
like okay, cool, like I have something planned. It's something
that I haven't done in a long time. I haven't
gotten gone to, like a play in a long time.
It was in Laguna Beach. It was really like it
(22:58):
was local, about thirty minute drive from where I live,
and downtown Laguna Beach is cool. It's like very It's
like you there's like shops and restaurants everywhere you can
just kind of walk walk to, so the cool area.
So I had that plan. So I did that. On
the day of my birthday on November eighth. We went
(23:19):
to watch this play and then we went to dinner
at this restaurant called The Forest Restaurant, and she's saying
happy birthday to me. I blew out one candle and
I had one big wish and so that was cool.
And then, oh so after my mom invited me to
(23:41):
go to a play, right kind of after that, you guys,
I got a call from my friend who is my
neighbor but we become friends, and she invited me to
a concert in La the following night, on Sunday night.
So I was like, oh, okay, awesome, Like it's all
into place exactly what I wanted. I wanted it to
(24:04):
just fall into place for me. I wanted it just
to roll out like the red carpet, like I didn't
have to do anything, and it did. So I accepted
the offer to go to this concert on Sunday night,
which I titled this show Getting out of the Comfort
Zone because it was totally out of my comfort zone,
(24:24):
you guys, like, I haven't done this in so long,
where I I'm getting ready to go out for a
late night. The concert didn't even start till eight o'clock PM,
and so we had plans to leave it like six
fifteen because again just for context on like the drive.
We were to have to leave an hour and a
(24:44):
half before the concert because LA is about an hour
an hour and fifteen minute drive. Then you got to
look for parking and then get into the venue and
so so that was that was interesting, you guys, I
haven't been to LA in a long time. It was
actually in Hollywood, so it was like right in the
(25:05):
heart of Hollywood. And we get to the we get
into LA, we leave at the right time, we drive
into LA. She's driving, which was great. I got to
be the passenger, which is always awesome. And we get
into LA and it's like, oh mg, such a CD
area of Los Angeles, part of LA or heart of Hollywood,
(25:30):
like really like, oh my gosh, Like okay, so there's
there's homeless everywhere. There's It's just we were not in
a good area at all at all. Okay. The club
was called the Spotlight in LA. And I'm like, oh
my gosh, like really, like, we're really gonna park and
(25:52):
walk to this place? Like she and my friend was like,
are you scared? I'm like, uh, have you seen the
people around here? You go? I'm like, you're not scared.
She's like I'm not scared at all. So actually I
felt at least a little bit more secure because she
wasn't scared, but I was scared. I was like, oh
(26:13):
my gosh, Like I didn't really want to take my
jacket because I knew once we got into the club
it was going to be hot. But you guys, so
I was so scared. What I did was I tucked
my whole hair in my jacket. I put my jacket
over me, and I literally walked with my jacket like
I didn't want to even look like side to side
(26:34):
at the street or to like right or left. I
just wanted to be like in my zone till we
got to the club in the line. So yeah, just
painting the picture of my of my Sunday night. I mean,
and literally it was like, you know, eight nine o'clock
at night, so it was like prime time for these
people to be out. So we get in the club,
(26:57):
and once we got in the club, it was totally fun,
totally fine. I'm like, okay, this is cool. I haven't
done this in a long time. You guys know, I
love music. I'm into music. I sing music like I
love music. I love dancing, And so I was like, Okay,
I can vibe with this. This was really cool. It
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was so fun, you guys. They had a big like
disco ball in the middle of the of the bar
of like where the area is were, and it was
like it was Latin jazz, but they played like cool
vibe music to dance to and it was actually a band,
but they made it like a DJ style, so it
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was it was fun. It was really really fun, super cool.
I wish I would have sent Rebel some pictures and
like a video that I did that night so I
could show you guys, like just to get visual But
it was really fun. It was an LA club nightclub
called the Spotline. It was jam packed. It was you
(28:04):
couldn't really even walk it was that crowded, so you
can imagine it was hot. It was everybody was dancing.
I loved how eclectic it was. It was like, so
just to give you again some context and visuals, like
there were two gay guys that were just dancing right
(28:24):
in front of us. There were all kinds of different races,
you know, just having a good time. Everybody's themselves and
I just love that vibe. I love that vibe because
where I live in Orange County. You tend to see
kind of same people right all the time, and everybody
(28:44):
tends to dress the same and to look the same.
But in La it's a melting pot and you get
all of it. And I am I'm a people watcher,
like I love two people watch and I love too,
I love human interaction action and just watching people and
just watching people. It just makes me happy. I can
(29:05):
do that like all day, and especially in this kind
of environment. It was really cool. So yeah, so that
was kind of like my birthday weekend to wrap it up.
Definitely out of my comfort zone. I hadn't gone out
like that late night since I was married, because, like
I've said several shows, my ex husband is a musician,
(29:28):
and we would do that all the time. We would
get ready eight o'clock pm, start going out at nine
pm and not come home till two sometimes three in
the morning, you know. And I became such a night
person when I was living with him, you know, and
I thought that I could never I could never be
(29:48):
a morning person again. But that's not true. I am
definitely a morning person again and not a night person.
But so it was fun because it was it reminded
me of those days, and I forget how much nighttime
can be so fun. And I mean to be honest,
I I come alive at night, and my creative juices
(30:12):
come out a little bit more, like I can think
more clearly sometimes not like meaning like I can download
poetry more at night. And so it was cool to
be back in that vibe and around music and stuff.
So I should probably be doing that more of that. So, Lance,
(30:32):
what kind of neighborhood did you go to?
Speaker 1 (30:34):
So?
Speaker 2 (30:35):
I don't know where you're from, Lance, but downtown La
is very It's downtown. It's maybe like a New York vibe,
but probably slower than New York. But if you're familiar
with New York, it's it's really crowded and a lot
of cars, and it's busy, and it's it's it's you know,
(30:55):
nighttime is the right time kind of thing where everybody
just comes out. It's just time to party and people
are out, you know, walking the streets. You know, where
I live right now, nobody would be doing that at night.
You know, everybody's in bed at all the all the
restaurants are closed late night, but in La they're open,
so people are walking the streets, you know, and it's
(31:16):
just not really a safe, too safe of a neighborhood.
My friend was so funny. She was like, you know,
we left, we left late. You know, we walked back
to the car, which was we walked. We parked two
blocks away from this club, and so we're walking back
and I'm like having my jacket on and she's ready, right,
She's like, Jenna, don't worry. I know, moo tie or
(31:39):
some tie moves and she's like, don't worry. I got you.
And I was like, okay, cool, you know, let's just
make it back to the car. And you know, she's funny.
She's like she said, she made a comment to me
when we were driving back. She's like, you know, people
aren't allowed to cross us, Like, people aren't allowed to
violate us. Jenna, Like, people aren't just we just they're
(32:01):
not allowed to do that. They're not allowed to make
us feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (32:05):
Like okay, yeah, like I get that intellectually, but people
don't think like we do, especially if they're on drugs
or desperate for money or you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
So it was it was kind of funny and really
cute and interesting interesting, right, because she's right, you know,
people aren't allowed to violate you point. People aren't allowed
to make you feel uncomfortable. So I thought I would
just say that out loud because also it was out
of my comfort zone. I hadn't done that many, many years.
(32:40):
But it's interesting because when you do get out of
your comfort zone, or when you allow yourself to be open,
remain open to like just things just unfolding organically and naturally,
like my birthday weekend did. It's like the following day
on the tenth, on the Monday, you know, after my weekend,
after really kind of getting out of my comfort I
(33:00):
woke up on the tenth and there there's a certain
kind of confidence that you feel once you do do
something out of your comfort zone. There's a certain kind
of confidence because it's like I woke up and I
feel safe. I'm back home, nothing happened. I wake up
in my bed, I love my bed. I wake up
in my nice room, and I'm confident. It's like, you know,
(33:24):
if I can get through that night last night, I
can I can do this day. Like I can do
something I can I can just I just there's a
little bit more confidence that you walk around with, you know,
like and that's with anything you guys, Like I remember
the first time I started to get on stage and sing,
you know, like I was singing this little band and
(33:45):
I was allowed myself to get out of my comfort
zone to get up on stage and sing. And every
time I did that, the next day I was like, God,
I can If I did that, I can do this,
you know type of thing. So I just want to
share that as well. You know, if anybody is looking
for that time or the moment to do something that
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you really want to do and you feel like you
don't have the confidence to do it, I encourage you
to do it. Just do it, Just try it, as
long as you're not hurting anybody, as long as you're
not putting yourself in danger. I mean, we were in
a little bit of danger. I'll be honest, but I
didn't know we were going to that place. I really didn't.
(34:29):
And it's a good thing she didn't tell me because
I probably would wouldn't have gone. And so but if
you do find yourself in those moments, you know, where
you're a little bit uncomfortable, and you get through them,
you know, really stop to maybe just pat yourself on
the back, you know, take a moment, really dive into
(34:50):
what you just did for yourself. You know, even the
little things you guys, making your plate, making your breakfast,
preparing a meal, and sitting down and eating, sitting down
and drinking your coffee, you know, being present with yourself.
All those little things they add up to the self
care and the well being and everything that I talk
(35:11):
about on the show. So yes, yes, yes, yes, I
think that's a rap. Unless you guys have any more questions,
I'm just going to look about any of my notes
that I wanted to share about my birthday weekend. I
think that's that's it. That's a wrap. I hope you
guys got some nugget out of this. Yeah, just as
(35:33):
a recap, you know, get out of your comfort zone,
allow things to unfold organically. If things don't feel right,
just remain open and trust that everything will unfold for
your highest and best good. And I feel like that's
the mantra, right, the mantra is I know that things
(35:54):
are unfolding for my highest and best good. Or maybe
just as a prayer, know, allow my highest and best
good to unfold, you know, maybe make that your mantra.
You know, I want my highest and best good to
unfold or everything is unfolding for my highest and best good.
Maybe say something like that to yourself. Wendy says, thank
(36:16):
you for sharing your night with us. Yes, Wendy, You're
welcome and thank you guys, thank you for being loyal
to me. I know I've seen these. I've seen Wendy's
name before, Larry's name before, Lance's name before, maybe Jamie,
I feel, but I just really want to thank you
again for being loyal to my show. Because again I'll repeat,
(36:39):
I'm not I'm not consistent sometimes and it's not because
I don't want to be. It's because I really want
to bring something that I feel will add value to
your life and to yourself. And I think with that,
with me saying that word value, I think that that's
been my biggest lesson all these years, is valuing myself.
(37:05):
You know. Really I thought about it. It's like, yeah,
my night was out of my comfort zone, but leaving
my ex husband out of my comfort zone, you guys,
I was so scared to do that. I really was.
I thought to myself, how am I ever going to
do music without him? You know, maybe I've said that before.
(37:26):
I was so afraid, even though I knew the relationship
was not aligned anymore, I was so afraid. And I
have so much music now on Spotify. I've done so
much for myself, and I've been afraid, you know. I've
been afraid to make these moves, you know, and be
out of my comfort zone. And I have been out
(37:46):
of my comfort zone, if I'm honest, for five years
post divorce, because I've had to do things by myself.
I've had to navigate life by myself. I've had to
spend birthdays by myself, you know, and really sit with
the emotion and sit with myself. So it's all been
a big, great lessons and out of my comfort zone.
(38:10):
And what I've learned is to value myself in relationships
with other people, but especially with myself, and I think
that's where the whole like making food and sitting down
and being present with my thoughts and really putting, really
loving an attention to what I want to bring here
to the show. So it's all good. It's all good.
(38:33):
It's funny. My dad called me this morning and so
I had this little conversation with him prior to going live,
and I remembered the year post divorce. The first year,
he gave me this cup for Christmas and it said,
snap out of it, babe, you have a world to
take over. So I'll repeat that. The cup that he
(38:55):
gave me for Christmas, it said snap out of it, babe,
you have a world to take over. And at the
time I was like wow, Like I knew I did inside,
but it's like, what was that? What was that world?
You know? I had to figure it out. I had
this whole vision prior to my divorce, and it definitely
(39:17):
wasn't the vision that I was living in twenty nineteen
when my ex husband left, right, So my dad was right.
He was absolutely right. He gave me the cup and
I've kept it. I rarely drink out of it. I
just keep it in my cupboard because I always want
to remember what it said. And I feel like I've
(39:39):
done a pretty good job so far, and I'm not done.
Is the great part about that. I'm not done. There
are things that I'm working on that I'm going to
be sharing with you guys next year. I'm thinking about
how i want to take the show. Maybe I'll have
more guests on next year. So if you guys are
(40:00):
have any ideas of what you want me to talk about.
I'm always open, but I feel like I've done a
pretty good job about exploring that world that I had
inside of me in twenty nineteen. Because there are lots
of ways that you guys can connect with me that
I have created within these five years. So there's my
(40:20):
music on Spotify. There's my book on Amazon called Love
Your Body, Love Your Life, which is the title of
the show. I'm really really active on Instagram, so if
you guys want to follow me there and DM me
with ideas for the show, please do that. And there's
tons of these podcast replays, so if you guys want
(40:40):
to go back, Like I said, I've been doing this
since twenty nineteen, so there are so many replays on
Spotify that you guys can go back to and listen.
So there's a lot of ways to connect with me,
and I really appreciate it. I appreciate you guys listening.
I appreciate you a life allowing me to share my stories.
(41:02):
And like I said, I'm not done. I am going
to be rolling out some other fun projects that I've
been thinking about. And yeah, until next time, you guys,
Love your Body and Love your life, take care, Bye,
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