October 30, 2025 • 38 mins
Do you tend to stay in familiar relationships even when there is a deep knowing that they are not aligned? And when you finally have the courage to leave these relationships, how do you cope? In this episode, Jenna talks about leaving a familiar relationship; the real emotions she has experienced with this loss and one of the ways she is staying healthy these days with food combining! Food and Relationships; both need to provide nourishment and love!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Always consult your physician before beginning any new diet, exercise,
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I'm the host of today's show. I'm
also the author of the book titled Love Your Body,
Love Your Life, Fifty two tips that will radically change
your health. You can find my book on Amazon and
on Barnesandoble dot com. And welcome to today's show, you guys.
I'm happy to be live. Always love to be here
(00:47):
live with you guys. I tried to go live about
three weeks ago, and I had technical difficulties. So I
wanted to preface today's show with anybody returns to this
live show. And you were on my live show titled Soulful.
Sorry Soulmates about four weeks ago, I would say, and
(01:12):
you have unanswered questions, Please feel free to chat in
your questions in regards to that show four weeks ago.
It's called Soulmates. It was a show on Soulmates because
I tried to go live three weeks ago to answer
some unanswered questions that I couldn't get to in the
(01:34):
part one of the Soulmate episode. So I planned to
do a part two, but then I had technical difficulties.
So if anybody's returning, please you guys, feel free to
chat your question in and I will answer that probably
mid to end of show today. So and thank you
(01:56):
to whoever returns live, because I know I have not
been consistent here. I needed to get my internet upgraded
so that I did that, and I've been busy, you guys,
I've been busy, so I wanted to catch you up.
I've let's see, I have been food combining, which we
(02:19):
will get to in a little bit, so I've been
doing that, and I've also I've been just working on
my brand. I've been actually working on my brand, my
Jena Lobos brand all year, and I've been doing little
videos to promote the podcast here, the show and my music.
(02:41):
And so two weeks ago I did a mini video
to continue to have my music be in the conversation
because I'm actually back in the studio recording an original song.
So I just kind of want to keep my mut
music in the conversation. So I did a little mini
(03:03):
video which Rebel has so we'll play that for you
guys in just a bit. But so those videos are
always super fun. I did a video based on my
original song that's already on Spotify. It's already dropped. It's
called real Me Back In. I've done a full music
(03:24):
video on that song, but I was inspired to do
this little like one minute like clip I guess on
that same song and just kind of announced that I
have a new original song coming out and I'm super
excited about that. So on that note, I, like I said,
(03:47):
I've been really busy this whole year, you guys, and
I haven't really slowed down, if I'm honest, Like I
have not had like a good break, meaning like like
not exercising and not like even leaving the house kind
of thing, just kind of taking like a whole rest day.
(04:08):
I haven't done that pretty much the whole weekend, like
the whole year. Sorry. So so let's see. So two
weeks ago, I do this video and I already see
questions in the chat, and I just want to say,
please chat in all your questions and I will get
to them. I will. I'm just going to finish out
this little piece and then I'll get to your questions.
(04:32):
So two weeks I ago, I did this video. Then
then actually the following day, I left to go see
my dad, which was great. He lives about an hour
away and we got to spend some time together, and
then came back home just kind of got back in
the groove with my week and stuff, and and I
(04:53):
just get in this in this groove and I'm just like,
you know, no downtime. So last weekend, I just came
to a complete pause. And I haven't done that, Like
I said, probably this whole year. I haven't even gone
on vacation, which normally I go on with my family.
(05:14):
We go on like two vacations in a year, but
this year it just didn't happen. For other reasons I
won't get into, but this year, we just we didn't
take a family vacation like normally we do, like something
in the summer where I have complete downtime for a week.
I'm single, so I normally have my own hotel room
(05:38):
and I'm just like I treat it like as a
reset because I'm not in my ennment, and I'm like,
you know, just really alone in a hotel room and
we kind of just do our own thing as a
family and then meet up for dinner. So I normally
have like a whole day to like just chill, you know,
do whatever. Lay on the beach. Or last year we
(06:01):
went to San Diego and like I found this great
like fish taco place on the beach, so I would
just go have fish tacos and just be on the
on the sand and just people watch. They had a
live musician there. And so my point is is that
I normally get some sort of reset that's kind of
(06:23):
like blocked out for me. And this year, because I
didn't have that blocked out time, I just didn't take it.
I like didn't give myself permission to take it. And
so last weekend I come to this pause and I
literally like had to rest, like rest for three days.
(06:44):
And so it was like a Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and
then it was already Sunday, so I thought I'll just
take the Sunday off too. And I've talked about this
on the show a lot, you guys. I'm a big exerciser,
So I exercise every day or do some sort of
move meant with my body and last weekend, I didn't
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do that. I took a full three day rest, and
then Sunday I did something really light. And what was
interesting is that I had these emotions come up that
honestly I didn't even think we're there, and I really
(07:24):
started to crave like familiate familiarity, Like I just kind
of wanted like like a like a hug, you know,
like I was by myself. I talked to my friend
about it. She knows how I was feeling. But I
really started to like almost like get emotional, like cry,
(07:45):
like I have all these like tears come up. And
so you know what I think I'm gonna I'm gonna
pause right there in my story, and I'm going to
answer these questions because I kind of want to get
into that piece of the show. So let me let
me pause and answer questions. Kathy, why don't you take downtime?
I think I answered that, Kathy, thank you for your question.
(08:08):
I didn't take downtime this year because it wasn't blocked
off for me. Lesson learned. Kathy, I feel like if
we don't take family vacation next year, then I know
for myself, I probably should block off in my calendar Okay,
I'm going to take my own summer vacation, you know,
like whatever dates August seventh, rough fourteenth or whatever. But
(08:30):
that was kind of I feel why I didn't take
like a full week of downtime this year. So yeah,
to answer that question, Kyle, do you think people should
change things up and take a staycation? At least? I
feel so yeah, we did that. Yeah, well we went
on like a vacation. But a staycation is really cool.
(08:55):
That's a great idea, actually, Kyle, because I can just
I live in a beautiful place seventy eight degrees today here,
I can just really get into a different environment and
go stay at a hotel. So I love that, and
I think I agree. I think people should do that, Bonnie.
How should we plan time for ourselves in our schedules?
Any suggestions? Oh? I don't know your particular schedule, Bonnie,
(09:22):
but I feel like I would if I were you.
Maybe get up an hour earlier at like if you
get up at seven, maybe get up at six and
plan for the six to seven to be something that
you really enjoy. I get up earlier to do like
a meditation or a yoga. I'm a bath girl. I
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love baths, so I take a bath in the morning
versus like a shower, and so something like that, Bonnie,
Like you're to answer your question, how should we plan
time for ourselves? Getting up earlier always a good thing.
If you can't do that, If you love sleep like
I do, then block off time after work. You know,
(10:09):
I don't know. I'm assuming you have kids or you
have a big family, maybe that you're prioritizing. But I
always tell women, I mean, you have to at least
have an hour to yourself a day, so block it
off in your calendar. Ask for help. If you have kids,
if you have a partner, then maybe voice what you
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need or take a look at your calendar and just
block off. You know, I'm going to take off Wednesday,
Wednesday and Thursday. I'm going to go do this for
myself kind of thing. But I feel like you just
have to prioritize you. So I hope that helps, Bonnie,
And thank you for the questions. You guys just keep
chatting in. I love them. So I'm going to get
(10:52):
back to where I was this weekend. I paused, I
took some downtime, Like I said, I haven't done that
all year, and with that slowing down came these emotions
that I didn't know, I didn't expect. I really just
was very emotional and I started to miss my ex husband,
(11:15):
and not because I know that, not because I want
the relationship back. It's because he's he's the he's the
most familiar that I've had in a relationship type thing
in my life. He's like the most familiar, right, So
(11:35):
I started to like get emotional over started thinking about
the relationship, and I really was starting to miss him,
quote unquote, and I knew consciously, like I knew, like no,
like I don't want the relationship back, but it was
just something that I was observing in myself, Like it
(11:56):
was interesting, you know, like I'm I'm craving a famiamiliarity.
I'm not craving him particularly, but I'm craving something familiar
because I wanted comfort in my downtime and it wasn't helpful.
The weather over here was really like gloomy over the weekend,
so it wasn't like helpful to like for my mood
(12:16):
kind of thing. But I wanted to kind of bring
that up you guys, you know, because I always title
our shows together, my live shows with you guys, something
that I've been experiencing or something that I've been doing.
And so I titled it unhealthy yet familiar relationships because,
like I said, he he's very familiar to me, and
(12:38):
I wanted that comfort so much this weekend, and so
I wanted to kind of talk out loud. And I
don't know if anybody has experienced that where you know
this person is no longer like fits in your life
or what you want or is even healthy for you.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Right.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
I did not call him, Thank you Frank for your question. No,
I did not, because I knew that it was just
my emotions, you know, like I needed to just sit
with my own emotions. This relationship was a big, big
heartbreak for me, you guys, and I've talked about it
(13:19):
several times, but it was it's been my most heartbroken.
I think I've been the most heartbroken over this relationship.
And trust me, I've had a lot of heartbreak a lot,
and not just from like romantic relationships, from friendships, even
from women where they betray me or they just kind
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of like turn they turn on me for whatever reason.
And so I wrote in my notes when I was
preparing for this show, like I really had to dig
deep over the weekend and be honest with myself. And
my truth was was that I knew it wasn't him,
It was just my emotions. I was creating something familiar
(14:03):
and comforting. But I also kind of like work through it.
And what I remembered, what I've learned throughout a lot
of heartbreak, and what I remembered and I wanted to
share with you guys, is that heartbreak to me, like
what I've experienced has always brought me back to me.
(14:24):
What does that mean when heartbreak? When you have heartbreak,
it cracks you open, right, it does? It cracks you open.
You're vulnerable. The world looks different for a little bit,
you know, at least in my in my experience, Like
I'm super sensitive, so the world just my world looks
different for a little bit. I don't want to listen
(14:44):
to music, which I love music, but if I'm in
a heartbreak, I don't want to listen to music because
music art always triggers me, and I don't want to
be triggered. I don't want to cry, you know. And
so but what I've learned throughout all of my heart
since I was a teenager or younger, even as a kid.
(15:05):
Is that I'm very almost grateful for it, to be honest,
because it's always brought me back to me what do
I mean? It's made me stronger, It's made me dig
deep into what I love to do, like who who am? I?
(15:25):
I guess kind of thing. I was alone a lot
as a kid. I didn't really have a lot of
time to explore my what I love to do, which
is this podcast and my music and you know, coaching women.
I love that. I love this one on one conversation.
And I was alone a lot. I was an only child,
(15:46):
grew up as an only child, and then I had
to grow up fast because my mom was a single mom,
and I just had to grow up fast. I had
to move out of the house early, I had to
get a job. And it's like you're in this survival
almost mode, and you don't you can't explore your creativity
because number one, I had no idea that I could
(16:08):
even do that, Like that was never modeled to me,
you know, And so I'm so grateful that. And I
was always looking for something outside of myself, right, like
this love outside of myself instead of loving who I
am and loving my talents and gifts and really pouring
(16:29):
into my heart of hearts kind of thing. You know.
I hope I'm making sense you guys. But yeah, so
I at the end of the day am grateful for heartbreak.
Not that I want to continue this like cycle of
heartbreak all the time. I'd love to find somebody that
(16:53):
is a good partner and is stable and you know,
knows what they want and is mature enough to give
me what I give them, I guess. But at the
end of the day, I feel like if anybody is
going through heartbreak, try to look at it like that.
From that perspective, is it's breaking you open to get
(17:14):
to know more of you. I call it the soulful self.
More of your soulful self that you get to know,
get to dive deep. You know, when I'm feeling down,
I always go inward. And I don't know if you
guys do or not. Everybody, everybody like goes through grief
and they do it differently, you know. So I know
(17:36):
that the way I do it is I turn inward.
I start asking questions. I want to know more about
what I'm feeling. I start journaling, I talk to our
mentor you know, that's the way I deal with grief
and heartbreak. But everybody's different. You know, I'm definitely more
of an introvert, but maybe you're more extroverted and you
(17:58):
want to go out and like play, maybe get drunk
or do drugs or whatever to like numb that pain.
And I feel like that if we numb that pain,
it just prolongs the heartbreak and it makes it worse.
To be honest, I don't see where if you're in
(18:20):
heartbreak and you go out and try to numb that
with another relationship or alcohol or drugs or food or
whatever shopping, I don't see how that would help you
long term. So on that note, I wanted to share
that that that happened to me last weekend, and it
(18:43):
just brought up all these thoughts and I wanted to
share them with you guys, just in case anybody is
going through heartbreak. I wanted just to be open and
so on that note, and what I just said, which
is if you turn learn to like kind of destructive behavior,
(19:04):
it will prolong the heartbreak. So on that note, I
will switch gears and I'll talk about food combining, because
if you are going through heartbreak, it is helpful to
eat right, like healthy as healthy as possible, and exercise.
You know, By Sunday of last weekend, I was feeling better.
(19:25):
I did some yoga at the house. And what I
do is I put I put up this like heater.
It's like almost like a floor heater, and I set
up my downstairs room like a yoga room, and I
almost make it like hot, like I'm doing hot yoga
at home. But I'm anyways, so I did that and
I felt better on Sunday. But so yeah, so let's
(19:47):
let's switch gears and talk about food combining because that's
the name of the show. So what this is what
I've been doing. I've been doing this food combining for
about a month and it's not the first time I've
done it. I I've kind of gone back and forth
with this protocol for years. I'm always doing something new
(20:07):
because I really want to stay top of my game
with health and wellness. So it's really easy, you guys.
And what I've noticed is my digestion has just been
it's just better when I do when I do this.
I don't even know why I stopped doing it, but
I just do. You get you get kind of like
late Lasa daisiol or whatever. But ever since I've been
(20:30):
doing this for about a month, my digestion is way
better and I'm sleeping better. Although last night I couldn't sleep.
I don't know why. I think I drank green tea
later in the day. I drank too much green tea
later in the day, and I think that's why what
kept me up last night. But last night was the
first night that I was like tossing and turning past
(20:50):
ten o'clock for a long time. So okay, So food combining,
it's really simple. What you do is you eat protein
with vegetables and no starches. So protein with vegetables and
no starches, and then starches with vegetables and no protein.
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So to give you an example, let's say you want
to have fish and like salmon and vegetables, don't have
a baked potato with that. And then if you want
a baked potato, that's fine. You could have the baked
potato with the veggies. And so let's say you have
eggs and bacon in the morning, that's your protein meal,
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and then three hours later you can have bread and
pasta if you wanted. You know, so that it's really simple.
You guys, it's protein and veggies together, no starches, and
then starches and veggies together and no protein, and then
you eat fruit by itself alone, separate, without any anything else.
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So like this morning, I had papaya and avocado because
avoca of fruit, and I've been eating that breakfast for
a while now, for a good month since I started this,
and I love that because it's like you get the
healthy fats with the avocado and the fruit, and then
you you can have black coffee, so fruit alone, and
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then am I missing anything? No dairy, No dairy, No dairy,
No dairy, no dairy, because dairy has well there's a
lot of hormones and dairy these days and it can
affect your digestion and bloating. You can get bloating from
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from dairy. So yeah, that's what I've been doing. And
the food combining helps with digestion. It's really good for
the enzymes in your gut to help them stay healthy,
and it also is good for alkalinity, so you want
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to have your pH balance in your body, the alkaline
versus acidic. So like a lot of foods that have acid,
like our meats like beef, just all the meats and
dairy is very acidic. Coffee is very acidic. So just
make sure that you guys are getting like your fruits
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and your veggies in to balance that out. So, yeah,
it can help with allergies, sinus infection obviously, I said,
gut inflammation. It can bring your inflammation down. So there's
a lot a lot of benefits from food combining. And
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so yeah, I wanted to share that you guys, so
maybe right now we can. I want to share this
little video I did. I talked about it about two
weeks ago, so maybe we could share that now, Rebel,
because I wanted to believe. I wanted Alexa please play
(24:12):
real Me back in by Jenna Lobo. Know how really Maggie.
You know how to real Maggy? You know how to
real me Maggy? You know how to real me Maggy?
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That my Denny move no more. So that was my
little one minute video, my one minute clip. You guys
can follow me on Instagram where I post more videos.
I have wellness videos on their more little music videos
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and so my Instagram is my name Jenna Lobos. So
that song is already out, like I said, on Spotify, YouTube,
Apple Music, and that was you know based on a
relationship too, So, yes, it is. It is about an ex, Yeah,
(25:30):
it is. I always write about relationships. I love talking
about them on here with you guys. I feel like
I've been such an open book. Obviously I can't share everything,
but I have so many stories about relationships, so we could.
We'll continue that. But yeah, it's listen. The brain loves
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to romanticize x's or somebody that you felt really comfortable with,
even though maybe it was talks or not healthy for you.
The brain will start romanticizing the good times. You know.
It's funny, like thank you, Kelly. Kelly says, we enjoy
the stories. Yay, I love it you guys, thank you.
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So okay, so I'll share a story. I'll share a story.
So I think it was Saturday night of last week.
I was talking to my friend and she knew how
I was feeling, and you know, she was She's great,
she you know, she always knows what to say to me,
and so, oh, I know what I said. I said,
I miss so and so and she goes, oh, like
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because she knows him right, and she's like oh, and
I'm like no, I'm like no, no, no, no, it's
not like that, like, I'm not going to pick up
the phone and call him because I knew, like I
said it, I knew it was just my emotion. So anyway,
so we have this conversation and I go to bed
(26:57):
that night, slept great. This was I think Saturday, like
I said. And the following morning, I get up and
the first thing I think of is actually this show
that I'm doing with you guys. Here. It just sometimes
when you wake up in the morning, you just like
pop in like those first thoughts, and I always like
write them down. And so I heard food combining and
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unhealthy and familiar relationships to share with you guys. So
I wrote that down, and I was thinking about, you know,
the ex, and this scenario popped in my mind and
I'll share this, and hence this story that I'm about
to tell you is hence the reason why I know
this is not healthy for me. I will not go back,
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you know, in a romantic relationship with this guy. Ever.
So we we were married and this was years ago now, right,
and he is a musician. He's also in real estate,
but he's a musician. And at the time, years ago,
this was before I had any of my origin songs out.
(28:02):
I caught the bug. I So here's the truth. He's
a musician. I would go with him to play music.
And the truth is I remembered through him how much
I loved music. Because I just shared with you guys
that I grew up fast. I wasn't able to like
really find my passions. But as a kid, I love
(28:24):
to sing. I was in the choir and all I
would do in my room at home was sit in
front of my radio and sing. I remember Greece came out.
If anybody remembers the movie Grease and Olivia Newton john
sang that song hopelessly devoted, I would sing that song,
hopelessly devoted, over and over again. It's like, if that
(28:46):
tells you anything about me, I love love so so anyways,
so I love to sing. As a kid, I forgot
that I loved to sing because I had to grow
up fast, go to work, whatever, blah blah. Marry this guy.
He happens to be a musician. And I start going
with him to these music studios, and I remembered, oh
(29:09):
my god, I love to sing. Well. I sucked right,
and I'm not the best singer today by any means.
But it doesn't matter. Like what I've learned through that
is that it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. As long
as I love doing it, it doesn't matter. So anyways,
that's a little nugget. So okay, So back to my story.
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So I marry this guy. I go to musician music
things with him, and I remember how much I love
to sing, and eventually I start doing these backup vocals
with him and go to the music studio and I'm like,
oh my god, I love this, like I love everything
about it. I love the camaraderie, I love the music studio,
I love the musicians like I love the all the
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instruments when I'm on stage, Like I love it. And
he didn't like that, you guys, like he did not
like that. I started to love music just as much
as he did. Right, he was my husband. He wasn't
my boyfriend. He was my husband. So that made no
(30:16):
sense to me, Right, does that make any sense? Like
you would think that you would want your partner to
love what you love. So I started loving it, and
I started wanting to take vocal lessons and like get
into it. Like, so this is the story that popped
in my mind after romanticizing and missing him the night
before right, which again I knew was just my emotions.
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So the following morning, this story popped in my mind
as a memory. One time we were in this apartment
we're living in and we had just come home from
like a music gig, and he starts putting me down.
He's like, this is mean, you guys, mean mean. He's like,
(31:00):
you think you're Selene Dion. Like he started like picking
on me. He's like, you think you're Selene Dion or something.
And I'm like, what, Like in my I didn't say anything,
Like I remember it clear as day. We were in
our room. I was laying on the bed like kind
of on my side like this, you know, and he
was like like talking to me, and he was like,
(31:22):
you think you're Selene Dion. He's like, let me tell
you something. He's like, you can't sing. He's like, that's
why nobody invites you to like jam out and you guys.
I was so again heartbroken inside because I knew in
my heart, I knew in my gut that I loved
(31:43):
music and I wanted to express myself in that way.
And I think I was in the middle of writing
my book so I already knew that I could write,
and at that time, I was journaling more and just
being in the flow of writing because I was in
the middle of writing my book and a lot of
times poetry would come out, like poetry would just flow out,
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And so I already knew I could write, and so
in my mind, I thought, I just have to re
introduce myself to my voice, you know, like I know
I'm no good right now, but I love it and
I could write, and so you know, like in my mind,
I just thought, Okay, I need to just stay with
my my vocal lessons. But that's the kind of shit
(32:30):
that he would do, Like who does that to their partner,
Like again, it wasn't my boyfriend, it was my husband,
and so he was like putting me down. I'm like,
what the F you know, like f you like f
you now because you can go on Spotify and look
at all my original songs, you know, like, but this
is why I know you guys like no no, no, no,
(32:53):
no no no. And it also obviously speaks volume as
to where he was amotionally, and he was literally threatened
because think about it, if a man a musician, and
he was a singer. He's a singer. He's a great singer.
By the way, I will prop him up all day long,
(33:14):
great singer, way far better than me. So just because
I'll tell you why. Because he's been in the music
world in like in bands and everything since he was
a kid. So of course he's going to have a
leg up on somebody that started later in life and
found their voice later in life. That's just the way
it is. So. But my point is is that I
(33:37):
look back and I'm like, thank you on one hand,
because you're looking at somebody that doesn't give up. I
have this passion in me that I'm sorry, I was
born with it, Like it just is what it is.
I'm not going to give up on myself. So somebody, oh,
I don't know Anthony, Hi, So I'm not going to
(34:01):
give up on myself. You guys, like I have this
internal passion that, like I said, I think I was
born with it because it's almost like I was heartbroken
in the moment, like he made me cry, like I
was crying and I was embarrassed. I remember feeling like
embarrassed because I felt like because we had this group
of friends that we hung out with right in musician crowd.
(34:24):
I felt like he was telling me that, and I
felt like, oh my god, everybody's talking about me, like
how embarrassing. Like I felt so like he wanted me
to feel bad. He wanted me to be embarrassed. He
wanted me to like stop like pursuing what I love.
And I mean, I know he's not in that same
(34:45):
place now, like bless his heart, Like I know he's
not like in that same place feeling like insecure. I
guess because he's gotten some shit together in other arenas
of his life. But at the time it I was like,
that's both volumes as to where he was at emotionally.
And so my point is is that I was sad
(35:07):
Saturday night, and then Sunday it's like this memory pops
in and I'm like, oh no, like no, thank you.
I will not. I will not because it's like I'm
giving you one example of what this guy would do
to me throughout the marriage a lot. And obviously we're
(35:27):
great times, great times. We were madly in love in
the beginning. Who isn't honeymoon stage, you know, first couple
of years of marriage, But like throughout the marriage, shit
like this would happen and so yeah, that's my personal
story for the day. Guys. So Kelly prompted it. She said,
(35:50):
we don't enjoy the story, so thank you Kelly. But yeah,
so Frankie, yeah, I would not go back to him romantically.
I know, I know, Frankie, I know. So it is
what it is. So I just want to share that
because again, if anybody is romanticizing an ex or somebody
(36:11):
that's very familiar, because he's familiar. He's familiar. He's like
a great big blanket that you just it's so comfy
despite all of that bullshit that I went through, you know.
So yeah, any more questions. I think we had a
comment from Anthony. Thank you Anthony, and any more questions, Kelly,
(36:36):
thank you for sharing. You're amazing. Awe, thank you Kelly.
You guys make sure that if you guys are come
back regularly. Please I'm open to talking about whatever, I mean,
whatever drops in your beautiful minds. Please dm me on
Instagram or chat it in you know, and I will
(36:56):
definitely talk about more relationship stuff do you guys want. Obviously,
if I'm inspired to share some personal stories, I will
in the moment. And yeah, so if there's any there's
not any more questions. We can wrap up today's show.
I hope you guys took a nugget from it. Food combining.
(37:17):
If you're in a heartbreak, eat good and exercise or sure,
keep your spirits up, keep your your mind intact, you know,
get a mentor whatever you need to do. You guys,
keep your spirit up, keep your soulful self, connect it
to your heart, connect it to you again. It doesn't
matter what anybody else thinks about your passions, or what
(37:41):
you're happy about, or what lights you up. It doesn't
matter it. Think of it like an offering, like an
offering without any kind of expectations, like I offer this
show to you, guys, I have no expectations. I love
doing it, so I guess that's my takeaway for you guys.
If you love to do something, do it. It doesn't
(38:01):
matter what other people think about you, as long as
you are happy and yeah, that's it. Until next time,
love your body and love your life. Bye
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I'm the host of today's show. I'm
also the author of the book titled Love Your Body,
Love Your Life, Fifty two tips that will radically change
your health. You can find my book on Amazon and
on Barnesandoble dot com. And welcome to today's show, you guys.
I'm happy to be live. Always love to be here
(00:47):
live with you guys. I tried to go live about
three weeks ago, and I had technical difficulties. So I
wanted to preface today's show with anybody returns to this
live show. And you were on my live show titled Soulful.
Sorry Soulmates about four weeks ago, I would say, and
(01:12):
you have unanswered questions, Please feel free to chat in
your questions in regards to that show four weeks ago.
It's called Soulmates. It was a show on Soulmates because
I tried to go live three weeks ago to answer
some unanswered questions that I couldn't get to in the
(01:34):
part one of the Soulmate episode. So I planned to
do a part two, but then I had technical difficulties.
So if anybody's returning, please you guys, feel free to
chat your question in and I will answer that probably
mid to end of show today. So and thank you
(01:56):
to whoever returns live, because I know I have not
been consistent here. I needed to get my internet upgraded
so that I did that, and I've been busy, you guys,
I've been busy, so I wanted to catch you up.
I've let's see, I have been food combining, which we
(02:19):
will get to in a little bit, so I've been
doing that, and I've also I've been just working on
my brand. I've been actually working on my brand, my
Jena Lobos brand all year, and I've been doing little
videos to promote the podcast here, the show and my music.
(02:41):
And so two weeks ago I did a mini video
to continue to have my music be in the conversation
because I'm actually back in the studio recording an original song.
So I just kind of want to keep my mut
music in the conversation. So I did a little mini
(03:03):
video which Rebel has so we'll play that for you
guys in just a bit. But so those videos are
always super fun. I did a video based on my
original song that's already on Spotify. It's already dropped. It's
called real Me Back In. I've done a full music
(03:24):
video on that song, but I was inspired to do
this little like one minute like clip I guess on
that same song and just kind of announced that I
have a new original song coming out and I'm super
excited about that. So on that note, I, like I said,
(03:47):
I've been really busy this whole year, you guys, and
I haven't really slowed down, if I'm honest, Like I
have not had like a good break, meaning like like
not exercising and not like even leaving the house kind
of thing, just kind of taking like a whole rest day.
(04:08):
I haven't done that pretty much the whole weekend, like
the whole year. Sorry. So so let's see. So two
weeks ago, I do this video and I already see
questions in the chat, and I just want to say,
please chat in all your questions and I will get
to them. I will. I'm just going to finish out
this little piece and then I'll get to your questions.
(04:32):
So two weeks I ago, I did this video. Then
then actually the following day, I left to go see
my dad, which was great. He lives about an hour
away and we got to spend some time together, and
then came back home just kind of got back in
the groove with my week and stuff, and and I
(04:53):
just get in this in this groove and I'm just like,
you know, no downtime. So last weekend, I just came
to a complete pause. And I haven't done that, Like
I said, probably this whole year. I haven't even gone
on vacation, which normally I go on with my family.
(05:14):
We go on like two vacations in a year, but
this year it just didn't happen. For other reasons I
won't get into, but this year, we just we didn't
take a family vacation like normally we do, like something
in the summer where I have complete downtime for a week.
I'm single, so I normally have my own hotel room
(05:38):
and I'm just like I treat it like as a
reset because I'm not in my ennment, and I'm like,
you know, just really alone in a hotel room and
we kind of just do our own thing as a
family and then meet up for dinner. So I normally
have like a whole day to like just chill, you know,
do whatever. Lay on the beach. Or last year we
(06:01):
went to San Diego and like I found this great
like fish taco place on the beach, so I would
just go have fish tacos and just be on the
on the sand and just people watch. They had a
live musician there. And so my point is is that
I normally get some sort of reset that's kind of
(06:23):
like blocked out for me. And this year, because I
didn't have that blocked out time, I just didn't take it.
I like didn't give myself permission to take it. And
so last weekend I come to this pause and I
literally like had to rest, like rest for three days.
(06:44):
And so it was like a Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and
then it was already Sunday, so I thought I'll just
take the Sunday off too. And I've talked about this
on the show a lot, you guys. I'm a big exerciser,
So I exercise every day or do some sort of
move meant with my body and last weekend, I didn't
(07:04):
do that. I took a full three day rest, and
then Sunday I did something really light. And what was
interesting is that I had these emotions come up that
honestly I didn't even think we're there, and I really
(07:24):
started to crave like familiate familiarity, Like I just kind
of wanted like like a like a hug, you know,
like I was by myself. I talked to my friend
about it. She knows how I was feeling. But I
really started to like almost like get emotional, like cry,
(07:45):
like I have all these like tears come up. And
so you know what I think I'm gonna I'm gonna
pause right there in my story, and I'm going to
answer these questions because I kind of want to get
into that piece of the show. So let me let
me pause and answer questions. Kathy, why don't you take downtime?
I think I answered that, Kathy, thank you for your question.
(08:08):
I didn't take downtime this year because it wasn't blocked
off for me. Lesson learned. Kathy, I feel like if
we don't take family vacation next year, then I know
for myself, I probably should block off in my calendar Okay,
I'm going to take my own summer vacation, you know,
like whatever dates August seventh, rough fourteenth or whatever. But
(08:30):
that was kind of I feel why I didn't take
like a full week of downtime this year. So yeah,
to answer that question, Kyle, do you think people should
change things up and take a staycation? At least? I
feel so yeah, we did that. Yeah, well we went
on like a vacation. But a staycation is really cool.
(08:55):
That's a great idea, actually, Kyle, because I can just
I live in a beautiful place seventy eight degrees today here,
I can just really get into a different environment and
go stay at a hotel. So I love that, and
I think I agree. I think people should do that, Bonnie.
How should we plan time for ourselves in our schedules?
Any suggestions? Oh? I don't know your particular schedule, Bonnie,
(09:22):
but I feel like I would if I were you.
Maybe get up an hour earlier at like if you
get up at seven, maybe get up at six and
plan for the six to seven to be something that
you really enjoy. I get up earlier to do like
a meditation or a yoga. I'm a bath girl. I
(09:46):
love baths, so I take a bath in the morning
versus like a shower, and so something like that, Bonnie,
Like you're to answer your question, how should we plan
time for ourselves? Getting up earlier always a good thing.
If you can't do that, If you love sleep like
I do, then block off time after work. You know,
(10:09):
I don't know. I'm assuming you have kids or you
have a big family, maybe that you're prioritizing. But I
always tell women, I mean, you have to at least
have an hour to yourself a day, so block it
off in your calendar. Ask for help. If you have kids,
if you have a partner, then maybe voice what you
(10:29):
need or take a look at your calendar and just
block off. You know, I'm going to take off Wednesday,
Wednesday and Thursday. I'm going to go do this for
myself kind of thing. But I feel like you just
have to prioritize you. So I hope that helps, Bonnie,
And thank you for the questions. You guys just keep
chatting in. I love them. So I'm going to get
(10:52):
back to where I was this weekend. I paused, I
took some downtime, Like I said, I haven't done that
all year, and with that slowing down came these emotions
that I didn't know, I didn't expect. I really just
was very emotional and I started to miss my ex husband,
(11:15):
and not because I know that, not because I want
the relationship back. It's because he's he's the he's the
most familiar that I've had in a relationship type thing
in my life. He's like the most familiar, right, So
(11:35):
I started to like get emotional over started thinking about
the relationship, and I really was starting to miss him,
quote unquote, and I knew consciously, like I knew, like no,
like I don't want the relationship back, but it was
just something that I was observing in myself, Like it
(11:56):
was interesting, you know, like I'm I'm craving a famiamiliarity.
I'm not craving him particularly, but I'm craving something familiar
because I wanted comfort in my downtime and it wasn't helpful.
The weather over here was really like gloomy over the weekend,
so it wasn't like helpful to like for my mood
(12:16):
kind of thing. But I wanted to kind of bring
that up you guys, you know, because I always title
our shows together, my live shows with you guys, something
that I've been experiencing or something that I've been doing.
And so I titled it unhealthy yet familiar relationships because,
like I said, he he's very familiar to me, and
(12:38):
I wanted that comfort so much this weekend, and so
I wanted to kind of talk out loud. And I
don't know if anybody has experienced that where you know
this person is no longer like fits in your life
or what you want or is even healthy for you.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Right.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
I did not call him, Thank you Frank for your question. No,
I did not, because I knew that it was just
my emotions, you know, like I needed to just sit
with my own emotions. This relationship was a big, big
heartbreak for me, you guys, and I've talked about it
(13:19):
several times, but it was it's been my most heartbroken.
I think I've been the most heartbroken over this relationship.
And trust me, I've had a lot of heartbreak a lot,
and not just from like romantic relationships, from friendships, even
from women where they betray me or they just kind
(13:41):
of like turn they turn on me for whatever reason.
And so I wrote in my notes when I was
preparing for this show, like I really had to dig
deep over the weekend and be honest with myself. And
my truth was was that I knew it wasn't him,
It was just my emotions. I was creating something familiar
(14:03):
and comforting. But I also kind of like work through it.
And what I remembered, what I've learned throughout a lot
of heartbreak, and what I remembered and I wanted to
share with you guys, is that heartbreak to me, like
what I've experienced has always brought me back to me.
(14:24):
What does that mean when heartbreak? When you have heartbreak,
it cracks you open, right, it does? It cracks you open.
You're vulnerable. The world looks different for a little bit,
you know, at least in my in my experience, Like
I'm super sensitive, so the world just my world looks
different for a little bit. I don't want to listen
(14:44):
to music, which I love music, but if I'm in
a heartbreak, I don't want to listen to music because
music art always triggers me, and I don't want to
be triggered. I don't want to cry, you know. And
so but what I've learned throughout all of my heart
since I was a teenager or younger, even as a kid.
(15:05):
Is that I'm very almost grateful for it, to be honest,
because it's always brought me back to me what do
I mean? It's made me stronger, It's made me dig
deep into what I love to do, like who who am? I?
(15:25):
I guess kind of thing. I was alone a lot
as a kid. I didn't really have a lot of
time to explore my what I love to do, which
is this podcast and my music and you know, coaching women.
I love that. I love this one on one conversation.
And I was alone a lot. I was an only child,
(15:46):
grew up as an only child, and then I had
to grow up fast because my mom was a single mom,
and I just had to grow up fast. I had
to move out of the house early, I had to
get a job. And it's like you're in this survival
almost mode, and you don't you can't explore your creativity
because number one, I had no idea that I could
(16:08):
even do that, Like that was never modeled to me,
you know, And so I'm so grateful that. And I
was always looking for something outside of myself, right, like
this love outside of myself instead of loving who I
am and loving my talents and gifts and really pouring
(16:29):
into my heart of hearts kind of thing. You know.
I hope I'm making sense you guys. But yeah, so
I at the end of the day am grateful for heartbreak.
Not that I want to continue this like cycle of
heartbreak all the time. I'd love to find somebody that
(16:53):
is a good partner and is stable and you know,
knows what they want and is mature enough to give
me what I give them, I guess. But at the
end of the day, I feel like if anybody is
going through heartbreak, try to look at it like that.
From that perspective, is it's breaking you open to get
(17:14):
to know more of you. I call it the soulful self.
More of your soulful self that you get to know,
get to dive deep. You know, when I'm feeling down,
I always go inward. And I don't know if you
guys do or not. Everybody, everybody like goes through grief
and they do it differently, you know. So I know
(17:36):
that the way I do it is I turn inward.
I start asking questions. I want to know more about
what I'm feeling. I start journaling, I talk to our
mentor you know, that's the way I deal with grief
and heartbreak. But everybody's different. You know, I'm definitely more
of an introvert, but maybe you're more extroverted and you
(17:58):
want to go out and like play, maybe get drunk
or do drugs or whatever to like numb that pain.
And I feel like that if we numb that pain,
it just prolongs the heartbreak and it makes it worse.
To be honest, I don't see where if you're in
(18:20):
heartbreak and you go out and try to numb that
with another relationship or alcohol or drugs or food or
whatever shopping, I don't see how that would help you
long term. So on that note, I wanted to share
that that that happened to me last weekend, and it
(18:43):
just brought up all these thoughts and I wanted to
share them with you guys, just in case anybody is
going through heartbreak. I wanted just to be open and
so on that note, and what I just said, which
is if you turn learn to like kind of destructive behavior,
(19:04):
it will prolong the heartbreak. So on that note, I
will switch gears and I'll talk about food combining, because
if you are going through heartbreak, it is helpful to
eat right, like healthy as healthy as possible, and exercise.
You know, By Sunday of last weekend, I was feeling better.
(19:25):
I did some yoga at the house. And what I
do is I put I put up this like heater.
It's like almost like a floor heater, and I set
up my downstairs room like a yoga room, and I
almost make it like hot, like I'm doing hot yoga
at home. But I'm anyways, so I did that and
I felt better on Sunday. But so yeah, so let's
(19:47):
let's switch gears and talk about food combining because that's
the name of the show. So what this is what
I've been doing. I've been doing this food combining for
about a month and it's not the first time I've
done it. I I've kind of gone back and forth
with this protocol for years. I'm always doing something new
(20:07):
because I really want to stay top of my game
with health and wellness. So it's really easy, you guys.
And what I've noticed is my digestion has just been
it's just better when I do when I do this.
I don't even know why I stopped doing it, but
I just do. You get you get kind of like
late Lasa daisiol or whatever. But ever since I've been
(20:30):
doing this for about a month, my digestion is way
better and I'm sleeping better. Although last night I couldn't sleep.
I don't know why. I think I drank green tea
later in the day. I drank too much green tea
later in the day, and I think that's why what
kept me up last night. But last night was the
first night that I was like tossing and turning past
(20:50):
ten o'clock for a long time. So okay, So food combining,
it's really simple. What you do is you eat protein
with vegetables and no starches. So protein with vegetables and
no starches, and then starches with vegetables and no protein.
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So to give you an example, let's say you want
to have fish and like salmon and vegetables, don't have
a baked potato with that. And then if you want
a baked potato, that's fine. You could have the baked
potato with the veggies. And so let's say you have
eggs and bacon in the morning, that's your protein meal,
(21:33):
and then three hours later you can have bread and
pasta if you wanted. You know, so that it's really simple.
You guys, it's protein and veggies together, no starches, and
then starches and veggies together and no protein, and then
you eat fruit by itself alone, separate, without any anything else.
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So like this morning, I had papaya and avocado because
avoca of fruit, and I've been eating that breakfast for
a while now, for a good month since I started this,
and I love that because it's like you get the
healthy fats with the avocado and the fruit, and then
you you can have black coffee, so fruit alone, and
(22:19):
then am I missing anything? No dairy, No dairy, No dairy,
No dairy, no dairy, because dairy has well there's a
lot of hormones and dairy these days and it can
affect your digestion and bloating. You can get bloating from
(22:39):
from dairy. So yeah, that's what I've been doing. And
the food combining helps with digestion. It's really good for
the enzymes in your gut to help them stay healthy,
and it also is good for alkalinity, so you want
(23:01):
to have your pH balance in your body, the alkaline
versus acidic. So like a lot of foods that have acid,
like our meats like beef, just all the meats and
dairy is very acidic. Coffee is very acidic. So just
make sure that you guys are getting like your fruits
(23:22):
and your veggies in to balance that out. So, yeah,
it can help with allergies, sinus infection obviously, I said,
gut inflammation. It can bring your inflammation down. So there's
a lot a lot of benefits from food combining. And
(23:45):
so yeah, I wanted to share that you guys, so
maybe right now we can. I want to share this
little video I did. I talked about it about two
weeks ago, so maybe we could share that now, Rebel,
because I wanted to believe. I wanted Alexa please play
(24:12):
real Me back in by Jenna Lobo. Know how really Maggie.
You know how to real Maggy? You know how to
real me Maggy? You know how to real me Maggy?
(24:46):
That my Denny move no more. So that was my
little one minute video, my one minute clip. You guys
can follow me on Instagram where I post more videos.
I have wellness videos on their more little music videos
(25:06):
and so my Instagram is my name Jenna Lobos. So
that song is already out, like I said, on Spotify, YouTube,
Apple Music, and that was you know based on a
relationship too, So, yes, it is. It is about an ex, Yeah,
(25:30):
it is. I always write about relationships. I love talking
about them on here with you guys. I feel like
I've been such an open book. Obviously I can't share everything,
but I have so many stories about relationships, so we could.
We'll continue that. But yeah, it's listen. The brain loves
(25:52):
to romanticize x's or somebody that you felt really comfortable with,
even though maybe it was talks or not healthy for you.
The brain will start romanticizing the good times. You know.
It's funny, like thank you, Kelly. Kelly says, we enjoy
the stories. Yay, I love it you guys, thank you.
(26:16):
So okay, so I'll share a story. I'll share a story.
So I think it was Saturday night of last week.
I was talking to my friend and she knew how
I was feeling, and you know, she was She's great,
she you know, she always knows what to say to me,
and so, oh, I know what I said. I said,
I miss so and so and she goes, oh, like
(26:37):
because she knows him right, and she's like oh, and
I'm like no, I'm like no, no, no, no, it's
not like that, like, I'm not going to pick up
the phone and call him because I knew, like I
said it, I knew it was just my emotion. So anyway,
so we have this conversation and I go to bed
(26:57):
that night, slept great. This was I think Saturday, like
I said. And the following morning, I get up and
the first thing I think of is actually this show
that I'm doing with you guys. Here. It just sometimes
when you wake up in the morning, you just like
pop in like those first thoughts, and I always like
write them down. And so I heard food combining and
(27:18):
unhealthy and familiar relationships to share with you guys. So
I wrote that down, and I was thinking about, you know,
the ex, and this scenario popped in my mind and
I'll share this, and hence this story that I'm about
to tell you is hence the reason why I know
this is not healthy for me. I will not go back,
(27:41):
you know, in a romantic relationship with this guy. Ever.
So we we were married and this was years ago now, right,
and he is a musician. He's also in real estate,
but he's a musician. And at the time, years ago,
this was before I had any of my origin songs out.
(28:02):
I caught the bug. I So here's the truth. He's
a musician. I would go with him to play music.
And the truth is I remembered through him how much
I loved music. Because I just shared with you guys
that I grew up fast. I wasn't able to like
really find my passions. But as a kid, I love
(28:24):
to sing. I was in the choir and all I
would do in my room at home was sit in
front of my radio and sing. I remember Greece came out.
If anybody remembers the movie Grease and Olivia Newton john
sang that song hopelessly devoted, I would sing that song,
hopelessly devoted, over and over again. It's like, if that
(28:46):
tells you anything about me, I love love so so anyways,
so I love to sing. As a kid, I forgot
that I loved to sing because I had to grow
up fast, go to work, whatever, blah blah. Marry this guy.
He happens to be a musician. And I start going
with him to these music studios, and I remembered, oh
(29:09):
my god, I love to sing. Well. I sucked right,
and I'm not the best singer today by any means.
But it doesn't matter. Like what I've learned through that
is that it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. As long
as I love doing it, it doesn't matter. So anyways,
that's a little nugget. So okay, So back to my story.
(29:31):
So I marry this guy. I go to musician music
things with him, and I remember how much I love
to sing, and eventually I start doing these backup vocals
with him and go to the music studio and I'm like,
oh my god, I love this, like I love everything
about it. I love the camaraderie, I love the music studio,
I love the musicians like I love the all the
(29:55):
instruments when I'm on stage, Like I love it. And
he didn't like that, you guys, like he did not
like that. I started to love music just as much
as he did. Right, he was my husband. He wasn't
my boyfriend. He was my husband. So that made no
(30:16):
sense to me, Right, does that make any sense? Like
you would think that you would want your partner to
love what you love. So I started loving it, and
I started wanting to take vocal lessons and like get
into it. Like, so this is the story that popped
in my mind after romanticizing and missing him the night
before right, which again I knew was just my emotions.
(30:39):
So the following morning, this story popped in my mind
as a memory. One time we were in this apartment
we're living in and we had just come home from
like a music gig, and he starts putting me down.
He's like, this is mean, you guys, mean mean. He's like,
(31:00):
you think you're Selene Dion. Like he started like picking
on me. He's like, you think you're Selene Dion or something.
And I'm like, what, Like in my I didn't say anything,
Like I remember it clear as day. We were in
our room. I was laying on the bed like kind
of on my side like this, you know, and he
was like like talking to me, and he was like,
(31:22):
you think you're Selene Dion. He's like, let me tell
you something. He's like, you can't sing. He's like, that's
why nobody invites you to like jam out and you guys.
I was so again heartbroken inside because I knew in
my heart, I knew in my gut that I loved
(31:43):
music and I wanted to express myself in that way.
And I think I was in the middle of writing
my book so I already knew that I could write,
and at that time, I was journaling more and just
being in the flow of writing because I was in
the middle of writing my book and a lot of
times poetry would come out, like poetry would just flow out,
(32:07):
And so I already knew I could write, and so
in my mind, I thought, I just have to re
introduce myself to my voice, you know, like I know
I'm no good right now, but I love it and
I could write, and so you know, like in my mind,
I just thought, Okay, I need to just stay with
my my vocal lessons. But that's the kind of shit
(32:30):
that he would do, Like who does that to their partner,
Like again, it wasn't my boyfriend, it was my husband,
and so he was like putting me down. I'm like,
what the F you know, like f you like f
you now because you can go on Spotify and look
at all my original songs, you know, like, but this
is why I know you guys like no no, no, no,
(32:53):
no no no. And it also obviously speaks volume as
to where he was amotionally, and he was literally threatened
because think about it, if a man a musician, and
he was a singer. He's a singer. He's a great singer.
By the way, I will prop him up all day long,
(33:14):
great singer, way far better than me. So just because
I'll tell you why. Because he's been in the music
world in like in bands and everything since he was
a kid. So of course he's going to have a
leg up on somebody that started later in life and
found their voice later in life. That's just the way
it is. So. But my point is is that I
(33:37):
look back and I'm like, thank you on one hand,
because you're looking at somebody that doesn't give up. I
have this passion in me that I'm sorry, I was
born with it, Like it just is what it is.
I'm not going to give up on myself. So somebody, oh,
I don't know Anthony, Hi, So I'm not going to
(34:01):
give up on myself. You guys, like I have this
internal passion that, like I said, I think I was
born with it because it's almost like I was heartbroken
in the moment, like he made me cry, like I
was crying and I was embarrassed. I remember feeling like
embarrassed because I felt like because we had this group
of friends that we hung out with right in musician crowd.
(34:24):
I felt like he was telling me that, and I
felt like, oh my god, everybody's talking about me, like
how embarrassing. Like I felt so like he wanted me
to feel bad. He wanted me to be embarrassed. He
wanted me to like stop like pursuing what I love.
And I mean, I know he's not in that same
(34:45):
place now, like bless his heart, Like I know he's
not like in that same place feeling like insecure. I
guess because he's gotten some shit together in other arenas
of his life. But at the time it I was like,
that's both volumes as to where he was at emotionally.
And so my point is is that I was sad
(35:07):
Saturday night, and then Sunday it's like this memory pops
in and I'm like, oh no, like no, thank you.
I will not. I will not because it's like I'm
giving you one example of what this guy would do
to me throughout the marriage a lot. And obviously we're
(35:27):
great times, great times. We were madly in love in
the beginning. Who isn't honeymoon stage, you know, first couple
of years of marriage, But like throughout the marriage, shit
like this would happen and so yeah, that's my personal
story for the day. Guys. So Kelly prompted it. She said,
(35:50):
we don't enjoy the story, so thank you Kelly. But yeah,
so Frankie, yeah, I would not go back to him romantically.
I know, I know, Frankie, I know. So it is
what it is. So I just want to share that
because again, if anybody is romanticizing an ex or somebody
(36:11):
that's very familiar, because he's familiar. He's familiar. He's like
a great big blanket that you just it's so comfy
despite all of that bullshit that I went through, you know.
So yeah, any more questions. I think we had a
comment from Anthony. Thank you Anthony, and any more questions, Kelly,
(36:36):
thank you for sharing. You're amazing. Awe, thank you Kelly.
You guys make sure that if you guys are come
back regularly. Please I'm open to talking about whatever, I mean,
whatever drops in your beautiful minds. Please dm me on
Instagram or chat it in you know, and I will
(36:56):
definitely talk about more relationship stuff do you guys want. Obviously,
if I'm inspired to share some personal stories, I will
in the moment. And yeah, so if there's any there's
not any more questions. We can wrap up today's show.
I hope you guys took a nugget from it. Food combining.
(37:17):
If you're in a heartbreak, eat good and exercise or sure,
keep your spirits up, keep your your mind intact, you know,
get a mentor whatever you need to do. You guys,
keep your spirit up, keep your soulful self, connect it
to your heart, connect it to you again. It doesn't
matter what anybody else thinks about your passions, or what
(37:41):
you're happy about, or what lights you up. It doesn't
matter it. Think of it like an offering, like an
offering without any kind of expectations, like I offer this
show to you, guys, I have no expectations. I love
doing it, so I guess that's my takeaway for you guys.
If you love to do something, do it. It doesn't
(38:01):
matter what other people think about you, as long as
you are happy and yeah, that's it. Until next time,
love your body and love your life. Bye
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