April 24, 2025 • 40 mins
Springtime is in the air, let's feel refreshed, renewed and rejuvenated.... all new beginnings, even when faced with uncertainty!
Jenna Lobos
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Jenna Lobos
Love Your Body Love Your Life
Buy My Book: https://a.co/d/dCu5hXr
Learn More; jennalobos.com
@JennaLobos on IG
Music on YouTube
https://youtu.be/ktG3pWaPtJ8?si=nwtxNpBxCjXtzN4E
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I'm the host of today's show, and
I'm also the author of the book titled Love Your Body,
Love Your Life, Fifty two Tips that will Radically change
your health. You can find my book on Amazon and
on Barnesenoble dot com. So welcome to today's show, you guys. Yeah,
(00:49):
so I titled it a Sense of Renewal, Hope, Faith
and Truss Springtime, Happy Spring. I hope everyone's having a
good springtime so far. And perhaps there are some things
that you intended or some intentions that you set back
(01:10):
during holiday season that are blooming now in April. Everything
is fresh and new and they call it like spring
cleaning and everything like that. So I thought it would
be kind of a good topic. And what's interesting is
that I wrote, like some content or whatever to talk
(01:31):
on today's show, and then I just said, you know what,
I'm just gonna ditch it, ditch all of what I
wrote down, and I'm just going to really talk for
my gut, in my heart and kind of walk you
guys through my week. And I feel like once I
do that, like I share these personal stories and walk
you through my week, that the hope, faith and trust
(01:53):
will definitely come on board here. So we already have
a question. So Beth wrote in or called in and said,
too hot already. But it's nice to see the spring.
I know it really is. I don't know where you're at, Beth,
but I'm in Orange County, California, which is by the beach,
(02:14):
and it today it's it's overcast, it's pretty cloudy, but
a couple of days ago super sunny and lots of
green trees. So yeah, just keep enjoying those spring colors.
And I think they remind us a lot. They remind
us to be present, right, to be present with every day.
(02:37):
So that's a good reminder. Thank you for that, Beth.
But anyways, so I so, like I said, I wrote
content for the show, and then I said, I'm gonna
ditch it and just talk about my week and tell
you guys a little bit about just what I've been
up to, and again I think that Hope, faith and
(02:57):
trust is going to intertwine with the show. So so
on Monday, I had a call with one of my mentors,
and it was the day after Easter, so hopefully everybody
had a good Easter Sunday with their family or friends
or whoever you enjoyed it with. So so I had
(03:17):
a call with my mentor Monday after Easter Sunday, and
we hopped on the call. It's a zoom call, and
right away she brings up Hope John Paul. Right, so,
he passed away Monday, and we started talking about him
right away and his passing, and basically the premise of
(03:42):
our conversation was that, you know, because everybody saw him
have Mass on Easter Sunday and then the following day
he's gone. So we started to talk about, you know,
the preciousness of life and how it can change, you know, instantly,
(04:03):
and basically what he brought to us, what kind of
light he brought to us, the way he would he
was a wayfair right, he walked in a certain walk,
he spoken for certain words, he was he was definitely
an impactful person in our lives. So we started to
talk about that in general, you know, just walking the walk,
(04:24):
walking in faith, walking and trust, walking in hope. And
that's basically, you know, part of the reason why I
picked this topic, because if we have hope, then we
have faith, and if we have faith, we have trust,
and somebody like Pope John Paul showed us that, right.
So yeah, so we started talking about that, and we
(04:45):
started talking about she was She's basically teaching me right
now a lot about how embracing my aloneness, embracing my
solitude in life. I've all always felt like I've either
been in relationship or I've said before I've shared on
(05:06):
here that I've been married, and I'm in this season
of my life where i need to walk the path alone.
And so she's obviously I have her to talk about,
talk through my feelings with and everything that I go
through during my week. But that's one thing that we
(05:26):
are we're working on because you know, I launched my
new website with my coaching business. You guys, I've been
doing this personal development work for eons, it feels, and
now I feel like I'm in a place where I
have something of substance to share with other people. So
if you guys want to check that out, it's Jenalobos
(05:47):
dot com and you can get kind of a better
feeling of what I'm coaching on. But you know, so
my point is is that you know, this year I
decided to go in a different direction. I'm walking this
path by myself and really entrepreneurial wise, it can get
really lonely at times, you know, like you really have
(06:10):
to take action from inspiration. You know, sometimes you don't
know what the next step is. I guess is what
I'm trying to say. And again this is coming back
to the hope, faith and trust, right you guys, because
I'm in this new place where I'm having to really
deep dive into my gut, into my intuition and take
(06:33):
these next best steps to what I feel is right
for my business. So what's interesting is that, you know,
I am trying to create another pathway for my business
and I still have my real estate also, so I'll
share this funny story too. It's like it's almost like
(06:53):
somebody's listening, right, somebody's listening. The universe is always listening
to what you want. Because that I intended back in
during the holidays when I what I mentioned at the
beginning of the shows. I intended this new business, this
new route for myself, and so sometimes I feel like
you're kind of tested, right. So two weeks ago I
(07:14):
run into a client, a real estate client, and he
makes this appointment with me for last weekend, the Saturday
before Easter, and he's like, yeah, come to my office
and we're going to talk about where you want where
he wants me to show properties where he wants to
live next. So I said, okay, I can come Saturday,
(07:34):
Saturday prior to Easter, and he's like okay. So he
makes the appointment with me to go to his office
at four on Saturday. So I did. I went to
his office at four and his sister was there. He wasn't,
so I said, well, is he going to be back?
And she says, well, yeah, he'll be back in like
I don't know, maybe an hour or so. And I'm like, oh,
(07:57):
that's interesting because we have the appointment at four o'clock.
So she's she's like, she reassures me he'll be back.
I'm like okay. So I went to a local, like
natural food store that I love called Mother's Market, and
I bought little things that I needed, but I didn't
need to buy eggs, but I didn't want to buy
(08:17):
the eggs if I was going to go back and
they were going to sit in the car while I
was with my client, right, my real estate client. So
I told the cashier guy, I'm like, you might see
me again because I have an appointment. I don't want
eggs to sit in the car, so I might have
to return, and he's like, oh, laughing at me, right, haha, okay,
I'll see you again. So okay, fine. So I go
(08:39):
back to his office at four olock like an hour later,
five o'clockish, and it's completely locked. You guys. So the
door was locked, nobody was there, and like I felt duped, right,
Like I feel duped. Like the sister obviously was in
on it, like he knew he made the appointment with
(09:00):
me at four. He took off, pulled the sister to
like play this little cat and mouse game. Sorry, I
almost cussed, played this little game with me, like, oh,
just tell her I'll be back, but really no, that
was bullshit. And now they're just going to close up shop.
So I was like, okay, well here we go. So
(09:25):
obviously I went back to the market. I got my
eggs and I'm mosy on home. But my point is
is that on Monday, when I was talking to my mentor,
I told her this, right, you know, I was telling
her this, so she was reminding me that it's it's
all good. It's just redirecting you. It's just showing you
a different path, something that I actually asked for. So
(09:48):
I wanted to share that with you guys, because life
can feel that way sometimes, where the doors are shut,
or you don't know what your next move is going
to be, or you don't know what to do next
in terms of business or life in general, or your
love life or your health or whatever it is, and
(10:09):
life will always show you what the next step is.
I feel, naturally and organically, if you listen to your
gut and your heart and you follow that, you have
to follow that. In order to get to those places
you have to do. In my opinion, you do have
to do some inner work because most of the time
people are just kind of running on life itself, because
(10:33):
life can pull you in so many different directions, and
your mind is just like a ceiling fan and it
could just go in overdrive, right, and then you're totally
disconnected from your body and your intuition and your gut,
and then you don't know what to do, so it
gets hard. So I'm going to take a little break
(10:54):
because we did get some questions. So I hope I'm
pronoun your name right. I So people need to keep
moving forward, no matter how hard. Yes, of course, yes,
thank you, thank you isoh yes, definitely, yeah, I say
to that. I mean absolutely, we all do, right, We
(11:14):
all have to get up and keep moving. And there
are certain times where it's harder than others, you know,
where you do have to dig deep to find that
that hope, faith and trust. You know. I find that
it's easier for me because I am walking this path
more alone now to have a mentor to talk to somebody.
(11:35):
But if that's not for you, obviously there's other ways,
you know, of just sitting by yourself. Like this morning,
I did some meditation and I haven't done that in
a long long time, you guys, I haven't sat and
just meditated for ten minutes and it felt really really good.
So that really grounded me. And yeah, so that's kind
(11:58):
of one way. But let's see, Greg, it is hard
to notice the universe giving us a redirect at times
it is it is. It is hard to notice when
the universe is redirecting us. But I do feel Greg,
like I said that, if you are grounded in your body,
(12:21):
in your heart, then we kind of know the answers.
We do know the answers deep deep down inside of us.
We do know what is best for us. We do
know when it's time to change, when it's time to
go in a different direction. I feel like it does
(12:42):
take the meditation piece, like getting silent, I say it
all the time, but journaling all these things. I know
they may sound woohoo or whatever, but basically they're just
tools to getting back to your own self and that
way you're able to listen to your little voice when
(13:05):
it's noisy out externally. And so all these things that
I always talk about, journaling, meditation, breath work, talking to
a mentor, all these things they add up and they
make you stop and they make you listen to yourself.
So yeah, thank you for that, Greg, I really appreciate
the questions you guys. So anyway, so I this was Monday.
(13:29):
I talked to my mentor all about this, and she
helped me to calm down and to get back to
center again. And know that I'm making the right decision,
know that I am moving forward to something that's more,
that feels more fulfilling for me at this stage of
my life. And of course I'm going to have a
(13:50):
setback because real estate has been my career for eons.
I moved out at nineteen years old. I got into
real estate at twenty one, so you can imagine, you guys,
it's been it's been years, and it's been so good
to me. And I won't say no to a family
member that needs real estate help, or a really good
(14:13):
friend or a client that's actually going to commit, you know,
I'm not going to say no to that. But this
work that I'm doing now with coaching just feels more
in alignment with who I am now. And so anyways,
so yeah, so then okay, So then I go to
pilates later on that Monday, and I always my PLATES
(14:37):
class is very like intimate and small. There's like me
and like one other girl normally and the instructor or
maybe there's three of us as students and the instructor, right,
so we all know each other pretty well. And so
there's this girl in Plates that same night on Monday
(14:58):
night who she we could tell she was like a
little bit more happy, like preppy, and like normally she's
I don't want to say, I guess she's complaining more normally,
like for the exercises and she's like doesn't really want
to do certain exercises. So she's kind of like in
that mode normally. And then on Monday, she was preppy
(15:22):
and like happy and like even like the teacher was like, whoa,
what happened? Like it seems like you're more yourself or
you're you're just happier. So she kind of played along
with it during class and she was like yeah, you know,
like she felt good. So then after class we sit
down and we normally just talk about our days whatever,
(15:43):
and the same girl shares kind of a kind of
a heavy story, but I'm going to share it with
you guys because it's relating to our topic. So she
shares that recently she went in for like an hour
patient kind of procedure where she had to have local anesthesia.
(16:06):
And you know, she's married with kids and she had
to have this local anesthesia and didn't think anything of it, right,
she just went in for this minor procedure, and she
said she woke up with an oxygen mask on, and
the doctors were telling her that she that something kind
(16:26):
of life threatening happened in this like minor procedure, and
so she shares this with us, and we were just
like whoa, you know, She's like, so, I'm just she
was telling us, she's like, I just feel so like
happy about life now because she realized that she could
(16:47):
have just not been here, and so she was sharing
that with us, like she felt so just happy with life.
And I told her, it's kind of like a rebirth, oh,
because the day after that she got baptized at her church.
It just so happened, like that was just in line
for her. It wasn't like she thought this procedure was
(17:09):
going to happen, but that was just going. That was
what was happening in her schedule, you know. So it
just so happened that she got baptized at her church
like the following day or the following couple days. And
I was like, wow, that's like a rebirth for you,
Like you had this really heavy thing happen, then you
get baptized and it's like now you're rebirth. And she's
(17:29):
like yeah, She's like I just feel like nothing bothers me.
She's like nothing bothers me because she realized how precious
life is, you know, And so again you guys, I
just share that because it was just another like message
to me that like maybe lighting up, don't take things
(17:49):
so seriously. Everything's going to work out. We sometimes don't
know how, but I feel like if we're coming from
a good place and we're intending good things for people
and ourselves, things will always fall in alignment. And what's
interesting is, you know, the Pope passing away and then
like these stories of people coming like near death experiences, right,
(18:13):
and like, I don't know, it's just I feel like
I've been hearing more and more about this around me,
and so it's just I've always kind of lived my
life like this, to be honest, Like I don't know why.
I've always known like it's precious, but normally it's just
been louder in my face. And like we had in
(18:37):
my family. I did mention it a couple shows ago,
like we lost somebody really near and dear, and this
just happened in February. So it's just I don't know,
it's closer to my heart and I thought I would
just talk about it more and share that with you guys,
that message. So Nancy asked, that's a good example of
(18:58):
things lining up for a good renewal, like springtime. Thank you,
thank you, Nancy. Yeah, it is, it is. It's a
good time for checking in you guys, for checking in,
for letting go of anything that you feel like doesn't
serve you. Now, like we're almost halfway through the year,
(19:19):
if we think about it, and so it's like, now
is the time to check in, let go of what
doesn't serve you anymore, and intend, intend for something else,
intend for something new. And like I said, we don't
know how it's going to work sometimes, but we have
to have faith and trust and hope. So I'm just
(19:41):
going to look at my notes really quick, because I
do want to talk about the cycle of life because
I feel like it just goes hand in hand with
what we're talking about. And so this is the kind
of work that I've been doing for a long long time,
and this is the kind of work that I will
coach on like one on one with anybody that wants
(20:01):
to talk to me have a session. Again. Jenalobos dot
com is my website, but I do have to like
reference my notes maybe. But so we're talking about springtime,
we're talking about renewal, we're talking about rebirth, and I
thought it would be a good time to talk about
the cycle of life and the cycle of life and
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what I've been taught is creation, sustain destruction, and the void. Okay,
so the creation part is and I'll use myself for
an example. I told you guys back in December, I
decided that, first of all, I let go of two relationships. Okay,
(20:44):
so I'll just be really transparent with you guys. I
let go of two relationships that I was intertwined with
for quite quite time. So I just want to share
that because I myself have to do exactly what I'm
telling you guys to do, which is, we know in
our gut what doesn't serve us anymore. And I know
it's hard because we get attached to people, we get
(21:06):
attached to the norm. We don't as human beings, we
don't like change. Okay, we get attached to people, We
get attached to our jobs, we get attached to our clothes.
I mean, oh my gosh, talk about attachment to clothes.
I have so many clothes I have to get rid
of and that's on my list. But anyways, I won't
go off on that. So we're talking about the cycle
(21:28):
of life. Back in December, I let go of to
relationships and needed to process that, I guess, you know,
process my emotions through that. And then I decided to
create this new business for myself, this new opportunity, and
so I put all of my energy into creating a
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new website. So that's the creation mode. That's the creation
part of the cycle of life. Where you feel like
something new wants to be birthed out of you. It
can be a baby. If you're a woman, it can
be a baby. It can be a new job, it
can be a new relationship. But something you feel new
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wants to be created from you. Okay, So again, go
back to the journaling, the meditation, getting quiet. Figure out
what that is. If you have that instinct, if you
have that gut feeling like I need something new, what
is it we know deep down? And I will say this,
by the way, if you're unsure and if your mind
(22:32):
can't slow down, you just kind of know something needs
to change, but you don't. You can't get quiet during
the day. Here's a good thing to do. Right before
you go to sleep. That is when like our mind
is coming, like it's finally like slowing down, right, because
we're getting ready to sleep for eight to ten hours.
So right before you go to sleep, ask just say, God, Universe,
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whoever you, whatever you believe in, give me a sign,
give me show me a dream. Just come to me
my dream. And then when you wake up is when
you're still lucid, right, You're still half dream state, half awake.
When you wake up, the first things that come to
your mind are clues. You might have the whole answer,
(23:21):
but you might have just clues. I would say, journal
it or voice note it in your phone, something like that. Okay,
so that's kind of a little side note for if
you want to create something new. So okay, so we're
talking about the cycle of life. I just get sidetracked here,
you guys. So okay, so we're in creation mode. So
(23:43):
I'm using myself an example. I so I built the website,
and then now cycle of life is sustaining mode, right,
So now I launched it in February. I believe my
new website, my new business, and now I'm in sustaining mode.
Where you are, you're reaping the benefits of your creation. Right,
(24:08):
you're reaping the benefits. You're Let's say you have a baby.
You're you're now you're cuddling, You're cuddling the little baby.
You're in love. You're in bliss mode in my In
my case, I created a new business for myself. Now
I'm in the sustaining mode where I'm enjoying what I
what I created, and I'm taking inspiration in gut inspiration, action,
(24:34):
instinctual action, using my gut feelings. I'm doing all of
what I talk about to sustain my new creation. Okay,
so that's sustaining mode. Then destruction mode comes, and that
might be a long long time, right, it might be years, right,
So obviously everything comes to an end the cycle of life.
(24:58):
Let's talk about relationship. Okay, Let's say you created a
new love relationship and then you sustain it for ten years,
and then something happens and you're like, you know what,
this is not working anymore, even a business, you know.
I mean maybe I shouldn't use baby as an example,
but relationship or business, you know, you sustain this thing
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for a long long time, and then there comes a
point where it's a destruction mode. Where it just doesn't work.
It's it doesn't feel right anymore. Maybe in a relationship,
one goes one way, the other one goes the other way.
It just that's the way it is. It just needs
to end, It needs to end. So that's the destruction
mode and cycle, the cycle of life. And then what
(25:45):
happens after destruction mode is you're in the void. Okay,
So the void is where we don't like to be.
We don't like to be in the void because we
want some thing concrete as humans. We want to relationship.
For example, we want to know that this person is
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going to be with us till death do us part right,
We want to know, we want certainty. So in the void,
when after destruction happens and we don't have that relationship
or we don't have that business, there's a void where
we need to sit in and it's uncomfortable because we
were so used to this other thing being there as
(26:30):
a concrete thing that we could always count on, you know,
in life, and so we are now in this place
where nothing feels right. Maybe you're you are checking in
in your gut and your intuition and you're like, it
just doesn't feel right. It doesn't feel right, and I
want to tell you guys that that is completely okay,
(26:55):
completely okay. The void is actually a place where there's
a lot of abundance, believe it or not, because you're
basically getting ready to create something new, and so the
universe is basically keeping you in this void to show
you examples of what you may want to create. So
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I'm gonna go out on the line here and just
talk again about myself. I told you guys that I
let go of to relationships, and it's complicated, right. I
won't go into the whole complication of that whole story.
But now I feel like I'm in the void in
terms of a romantic relationship. I feel like I'm in
(27:41):
the void. And prior to me learning all this work
and self development, I would get anxious, you know, I
would be like, Okay, when's my next person coming? When's
my next like a little kid, like, oh, when's my
next person coming? With? And you know, obviously, partially, you know,
that's obviously because of my childhood. You know, I just
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grew up not really receiving the kind of love that
I needed, which I've said lots of times on the show.
So I've always looked for that romantic relationship to feel
to fill that void. Right, So now I'm in the
void in that in that area of my life, I'm
definitely in the void where I feel like I have
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to sit in it. And what helps to calm my
mind down, because the mind wants to know what's next.
What helps to calm my mind down is it's actually
very abundant for me right now, where I'm actually creating
or seeing examples of what I would love to have
(28:43):
in my next romantic relationship. And if because I know this,
you guys, I'm pretty keen on it, you know, like
I'm using my own intuition like, oh I would like that,
you know, or ooh that's cool, you know, I want that.
Oh that feels good. But I mean not that I
have a person yet. But I am noticing that it
(29:05):
is abundant, right, I'm noticing it, and I'm looking at
it in a different way, I guess, is what I'm
trying to say. And I'm sharing that with you guys,
because the void normally is where people want to fill
up that space so fast because they're uncomfortable, so they
look for that other relationship. They look for that other person,
(29:26):
they look for something else to fill that void. And
I will share with you I've been there. I have totally, absolutely,
one hundred percent been there. But I'm so happy that
I've learned this because that's when I've made my biggest mistakes.
Where I was just so uncomfortable was sitting in that
place that I made mistakes. I made mistakes in relationships
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because I was just so wanting that piece of myself
to be fulfilled. And so my point is is that
don't be afraid of the void. If that's where you're at,
if that's where you feel like you're at in any
stage of your life, sit in it and actually lean
into it, love into it more. How can you love
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into yourself more in that state and also know that
it is a place of abundance. If it's a business
you're wanting to create, even if it's health, you know,
maybe something needs to change in your health routine. You
don't know what it is. Keep your eyes and ears open.
Don't go into like a crash diet or a new
(30:33):
relationship because you don't feel comfortable, or you know, take
a job that's just like, oh, I'm just going to
feel it. You know, if you can Obviously that's different.
We all need to live and make money and pay
our bills. But you know, maybe if you do have
to take this other job, you know, and you're in
you know, you're in that void cycle. That's okay. You
(30:54):
take the job and then you still know you're still
in that void. You're just taking this for right now.
It's temporary, but know that you're in that state, right
So anyways, okay, so Kendra, thank you for calling in
or writing in any advice on how to stop being
scared and just jump to move forward with change, Any
(31:16):
advice on how to stop being scared and just jump
to move forward with change. Yeah, I think I might
have just answered that for you. I get the fear.
I get it. I have it all the time, all
the time. I am a lot of times I'm fearful,
you know, And a lot of times it really is
(31:38):
our mind, like I just talked about, it really is
just the mind chatter. And I don't know your situation,
Kendra and where the fear is coming from, but I
know for me it's a lot of times my mind
chatter and basically my mind telling me like, oh, who
(31:59):
do you think you are? Like really you think this
is gonna work, you know, or like they're really gonna
like you. Oh my god, what I mean? This is
the way our mind talks to us, you guys. It's
it's so negative. It's like we hardly sit and talk
about to ourselves and say, I'm like gonna crush this.
(32:21):
You know, I got this, This is so easy, this
life thing.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
Of course they're going to like me. Of course this
person's gonna like me. Of course my podcast.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Is gonna be good today. I'm gonna have exactly the
right things to say. Like do we ever talk like
that to ourselves? Rarely? Right, We rarely say like I know,
for me, like even if I'm going to like somewhere
where I'm dreading to go right where I know like
I just know like I'm not going to feel comfortable there.
(32:54):
I just I'm not going to feel comfortable in my
skin where I like the people I'm gonna hang out with,
I just they don't get me, like I'm not going
to feel comfortable. And it's like crazy making because what
if I what if I told myself, what if everything
went right? What if everybody just who I'm gonna go
(33:17):
hang out with? What if they just they got me
and they understood me, and they love me for who
I am. Like, we never have that conversation you guys.
It's always negative. So I just want to kind of
check you guys. And because I check myself, everything I
talk about, I do myself. So I hope, hope, hope
(33:39):
that helps you, Kindra, I really do. Because the fear
can stifle us. It can keep us safe, it can
keep us in a box. It can keep us from
moving forward, it can keep us from enjoying this preciousness
of life exactly what I'm talking about from the beginning
of the show. Oh, fear can keep us small, and
(34:03):
we don't want to be small, you know again for
me talking to somebody that's heartfelt, like a mentor, I
need that in my life. I one hundred percent need
that in my life. I if I'm really honest, I
have never really had.
Speaker 3 (34:21):
A genuine, like a true, genuine, unconditional person in my
life that I didn't pay you.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
Like, I've never had a true, genuine, unconditional person.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Say you got this girl, I got your back, do
you know what I mean? Like, I've never had that,
Believe it or not, You guys, I'm not kidding, Like
I've had to really go on my own and get
like get after it on my own. Like even when
I wanted to write this book, I had it in
my heart. I'm like, I want to write something. I
(35:00):
want to write something. I liked writing, I loved writing.
I wanted to write my book. And yeah, so thank you, Jennifer,
she said, so true, thank you for the check. You're
very welcome. So even when I started to write my
book or wanted to write my book, I had a
lot of people tell me that I was. I was like,
(35:24):
what was the quote? Somebody told me that I was
that I was just like had had a butterfly mind,
like in other words, like you're just dreaming away girl,
Like what are you thinking like writing a book? You're
not an author, you know. And I was like really,
So I remember taking that quote and actually writing a
(35:47):
poem based on that person telling me and giving me
that dig Like I literally wrote a poem. I believe
it's in one of my songs on Spotify, that little
like lyric about a butterfly. But anyway, so my point
is to back to Kendre and the fear is that
if I didn't have my mentor back when I want
(36:09):
When I thought I want to write this book, I
just had this gut feeling, this intuition I really wanted
to do this. If I didn't have her to say,
you got this, girl, I would have never been sitting
here you guys, never would have never had my book,
would have never had this show. But because she saw me,
she believed in me. I feel like, you only need
one person, You only need one person to really see
(36:31):
you and get you and be present with you and
really hear what's in your heart. Because without her, I
would have never wrote my book. And you know, I
needed money at the time. I needed to put money toward,
you know, the making of the book. It costs money.
And at the time I was married and my ex
(36:52):
husband didn't want me to do this at all because
we were struggling financially. And so I did it anyways.
I did it anyway. I got a credit card. I
don't even know what I probably got a credit card.
I don't know how I did it, but I did it.
Like do it anyways, I guess that's what I'm trying
to say to Kendra, Like scare okay, feel the fear,
(37:14):
and move forward. Towards change anyways, because you guys, life
is short and we don't know what's going to happen tomorrow.
I'm taking Pope John Paul, or the Pope as an example.
One day he's leading Easter Sunday and the next day
he's gone. So we don't know how life is going
to unfold and how it's going to happen. We think
(37:37):
we know what's going to happen next in our lives,
but really we don't. We don't know what's going to happen.
So I'll get off my soapbox. You guys, if any
of you are still listening, if you guys want to
like call in with any other questions. I feel like
I've talked a lot. I've talked about the cycle of life,
(38:00):
talked about going after your dreams and having that hope
and faith and trust and whatever you need to do
to keep going one step in front of the other,
one breath at a time, one day at a time.
When things get hard, when things get tough, sometimes I
tell myself, one minute at a time, what's right in
(38:22):
front of you, what are you doing right now? And
that's that's what brings us back to the present. Moment
and what we need to do right now, and again
it's about quieting the mind, having a different dialogue with yourself,
asking yourself, what if things did go right this time,
because maybe you've been knocked down a lot of times,
(38:44):
but maybe on that hundredth time or two hundredth time,
things can go right. So I will end on Paula
because she just said, thank you. I needed this advice
today and you're so so well Paula. Yeah, So I
hope you guys enjoy today's show. I will say, just
(39:08):
to kind of break it up, I am probably going
to have on a dating coach in the next couple
of weeks. He just he just responded to my message,
so he said he would love to be on our show.
So if you guys want to just watch out for that.
I'm going to have a dating coach on in the
next couple of weeks. But until next time, you guys,
(39:31):
take really good care of your body, of your mind,
slow it down, just take good care of yourself. Come
back to yourself again. If anybody wants to reach out
and talk to me, my website Jenna Lobos dot com.
And until next time, love your body and love your life.
Take care, Bye the
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Speaker 2 (00:25):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I'm the host of today's show, and
I'm also the author of the book titled Love Your Body,
Love Your Life, Fifty two Tips that will Radically change
your health. You can find my book on Amazon and
on Barnesenoble dot com. So welcome to today's show, you guys. Yeah,
(00:49):
so I titled it a Sense of Renewal, Hope, Faith
and Truss Springtime, Happy Spring. I hope everyone's having a
good springtime so far. And perhaps there are some things
that you intended or some intentions that you set back
(01:10):
during holiday season that are blooming now in April. Everything
is fresh and new and they call it like spring
cleaning and everything like that. So I thought it would
be kind of a good topic. And what's interesting is
that I wrote, like some content or whatever to talk
(01:31):
on today's show, and then I just said, you know what,
I'm just gonna ditch it, ditch all of what I
wrote down, and I'm just going to really talk for
my gut, in my heart and kind of walk you
guys through my week. And I feel like once I
do that, like I share these personal stories and walk
you through my week, that the hope, faith and trust
(01:53):
will definitely come on board here. So we already have
a question. So Beth wrote in or called in and said,
too hot already. But it's nice to see the spring.
I know it really is. I don't know where you're at, Beth,
but I'm in Orange County, California, which is by the beach,
(02:14):
and it today it's it's overcast, it's pretty cloudy, but
a couple of days ago super sunny and lots of
green trees. So yeah, just keep enjoying those spring colors.
And I think they remind us a lot. They remind
us to be present, right, to be present with every day.
(02:37):
So that's a good reminder. Thank you for that, Beth.
But anyways, so I so, like I said, I wrote
content for the show, and then I said, I'm gonna
ditch it and just talk about my week and tell
you guys a little bit about just what I've been
up to, and again I think that Hope, faith and
(02:57):
trust is going to intertwine with the show. So so
on Monday, I had a call with one of my mentors,
and it was the day after Easter, so hopefully everybody
had a good Easter Sunday with their family or friends
or whoever you enjoyed it with. So so I had
(03:17):
a call with my mentor Monday after Easter Sunday, and
we hopped on the call. It's a zoom call, and
right away she brings up Hope John Paul. Right, so,
he passed away Monday, and we started talking about him
right away and his passing, and basically the premise of
(03:42):
our conversation was that, you know, because everybody saw him
have Mass on Easter Sunday and then the following day
he's gone. So we started to talk about, you know,
the preciousness of life and how it can change, you know, instantly,
(04:03):
and basically what he brought to us, what kind of
light he brought to us, the way he would he
was a wayfair right, he walked in a certain walk,
he spoken for certain words, he was he was definitely
an impactful person in our lives. So we started to
talk about that in general, you know, just walking the walk,
(04:24):
walking in faith, walking and trust, walking in hope. And
that's basically, you know, part of the reason why I
picked this topic, because if we have hope, then we
have faith, and if we have faith, we have trust,
and somebody like Pope John Paul showed us that, right.
So yeah, so we started talking about that, and we
(04:45):
started talking about she was She's basically teaching me right
now a lot about how embracing my aloneness, embracing my
solitude in life. I've all always felt like I've either
been in relationship or I've said before I've shared on
(05:06):
here that I've been married, and I'm in this season
of my life where i need to walk the path alone.
And so she's obviously I have her to talk about,
talk through my feelings with and everything that I go
through during my week. But that's one thing that we
(05:26):
are we're working on because you know, I launched my
new website with my coaching business. You guys, I've been
doing this personal development work for eons, it feels, and
now I feel like I'm in a place where I
have something of substance to share with other people. So
if you guys want to check that out, it's Jenalobos
(05:47):
dot com and you can get kind of a better
feeling of what I'm coaching on. But you know, so
my point is is that you know, this year I
decided to go in a different direction. I'm walking this
path by myself and really entrepreneurial wise, it can get
really lonely at times, you know, like you really have
(06:10):
to take action from inspiration. You know, sometimes you don't
know what the next step is. I guess is what
I'm trying to say. And again this is coming back
to the hope, faith and trust, right you guys, because
I'm in this new place where I'm having to really
deep dive into my gut, into my intuition and take
(06:33):
these next best steps to what I feel is right
for my business. So what's interesting is that, you know,
I am trying to create another pathway for my business
and I still have my real estate also, so I'll
share this funny story too. It's like it's almost like
(06:53):
somebody's listening, right, somebody's listening. The universe is always listening
to what you want. Because that I intended back in
during the holidays when I what I mentioned at the
beginning of the shows. I intended this new business, this
new route for myself, and so sometimes I feel like
you're kind of tested, right. So two weeks ago I
(07:14):
run into a client, a real estate client, and he
makes this appointment with me for last weekend, the Saturday
before Easter, and he's like, yeah, come to my office
and we're going to talk about where you want where
he wants me to show properties where he wants to
live next. So I said, okay, I can come Saturday,
(07:34):
Saturday prior to Easter, and he's like okay. So he
makes the appointment with me to go to his office
at four on Saturday. So I did. I went to
his office at four and his sister was there. He wasn't,
so I said, well, is he going to be back?
And she says, well, yeah, he'll be back in like
I don't know, maybe an hour or so. And I'm like, oh,
(07:57):
that's interesting because we have the appointment at four o'clock.
So she's she's like, she reassures me he'll be back.
I'm like okay. So I went to a local, like
natural food store that I love called Mother's Market, and
I bought little things that I needed, but I didn't
need to buy eggs, but I didn't want to buy
(08:17):
the eggs if I was going to go back and
they were going to sit in the car while I
was with my client, right, my real estate client. So
I told the cashier guy, I'm like, you might see
me again because I have an appointment. I don't want
eggs to sit in the car, so I might have
to return, and he's like, oh, laughing at me, right, haha, okay,
I'll see you again. So okay, fine. So I go
(08:39):
back to his office at four olock like an hour later,
five o'clockish, and it's completely locked. You guys. So the
door was locked, nobody was there, and like I felt duped, right,
Like I feel duped. Like the sister obviously was in
on it, like he knew he made the appointment with
(09:00):
me at four. He took off, pulled the sister to
like play this little cat and mouse game. Sorry, I
almost cussed, played this little game with me, like, oh,
just tell her I'll be back, but really no, that
was bullshit. And now they're just going to close up shop.
So I was like, okay, well here we go. So
(09:25):
obviously I went back to the market. I got my
eggs and I'm mosy on home. But my point is
is that on Monday, when I was talking to my mentor,
I told her this, right, you know, I was telling
her this, so she was reminding me that it's it's
all good. It's just redirecting you. It's just showing you
a different path, something that I actually asked for. So
(09:48):
I wanted to share that with you guys, because life
can feel that way sometimes, where the doors are shut,
or you don't know what your next move is going
to be, or you don't know what to do next
in terms of business or life in general, or your
love life or your health or whatever it is, and
(10:09):
life will always show you what the next step is.
I feel, naturally and organically, if you listen to your
gut and your heart and you follow that, you have
to follow that. In order to get to those places
you have to do. In my opinion, you do have
to do some inner work because most of the time
people are just kind of running on life itself, because
(10:33):
life can pull you in so many different directions, and
your mind is just like a ceiling fan and it
could just go in overdrive, right, and then you're totally
disconnected from your body and your intuition and your gut,
and then you don't know what to do, so it
gets hard. So I'm going to take a little break
(10:54):
because we did get some questions. So I hope I'm
pronoun your name right. I So people need to keep
moving forward, no matter how hard. Yes, of course, yes,
thank you, thank you isoh yes, definitely, yeah, I say
to that. I mean absolutely, we all do, right, We
(11:14):
all have to get up and keep moving. And there
are certain times where it's harder than others, you know,
where you do have to dig deep to find that
that hope, faith and trust. You know. I find that
it's easier for me because I am walking this path
more alone now to have a mentor to talk to somebody.
(11:35):
But if that's not for you, obviously there's other ways,
you know, of just sitting by yourself. Like this morning,
I did some meditation and I haven't done that in
a long long time, you guys, I haven't sat and
just meditated for ten minutes and it felt really really good.
So that really grounded me. And yeah, so that's kind
(11:58):
of one way. But let's see, Greg, it is hard
to notice the universe giving us a redirect at times
it is it is. It is hard to notice when
the universe is redirecting us. But I do feel Greg,
like I said that, if you are grounded in your body,
(12:21):
in your heart, then we kind of know the answers.
We do know the answers deep deep down inside of us.
We do know what is best for us. We do
know when it's time to change, when it's time to
go in a different direction. I feel like it does
(12:42):
take the meditation piece, like getting silent, I say it
all the time, but journaling all these things. I know
they may sound woohoo or whatever, but basically they're just
tools to getting back to your own self and that
way you're able to listen to your little voice when
(13:05):
it's noisy out externally. And so all these things that
I always talk about, journaling, meditation, breath work, talking to
a mentor, all these things they add up and they
make you stop and they make you listen to yourself.
So yeah, thank you for that, Greg, I really appreciate
the questions you guys. So anyway, so I this was Monday.
(13:29):
I talked to my mentor all about this, and she
helped me to calm down and to get back to
center again. And know that I'm making the right decision,
know that I am moving forward to something that's more,
that feels more fulfilling for me at this stage of
my life. And of course I'm going to have a
(13:50):
setback because real estate has been my career for eons.
I moved out at nineteen years old. I got into
real estate at twenty one, so you can imagine, you guys,
it's been it's been years, and it's been so good
to me. And I won't say no to a family
member that needs real estate help, or a really good
(14:13):
friend or a client that's actually going to commit, you know,
I'm not going to say no to that. But this
work that I'm doing now with coaching just feels more
in alignment with who I am now. And so anyways,
so yeah, so then okay, So then I go to
pilates later on that Monday, and I always my PLATES
(14:37):
class is very like intimate and small. There's like me
and like one other girl normally and the instructor or
maybe there's three of us as students and the instructor, right,
so we all know each other pretty well. And so
there's this girl in Plates that same night on Monday
(14:58):
night who she we could tell she was like a
little bit more happy, like preppy, and like normally she's
I don't want to say, I guess she's complaining more normally,
like for the exercises and she's like doesn't really want
to do certain exercises. So she's kind of like in
that mode normally. And then on Monday, she was preppy
(15:22):
and like happy and like even like the teacher was like, whoa,
what happened? Like it seems like you're more yourself or
you're you're just happier. So she kind of played along
with it during class and she was like yeah, you know,
like she felt good. So then after class we sit
down and we normally just talk about our days whatever,
(15:43):
and the same girl shares kind of a kind of
a heavy story, but I'm going to share it with
you guys because it's relating to our topic. So she
shares that recently she went in for like an hour
patient kind of procedure where she had to have local anesthesia.
(16:06):
And you know, she's married with kids and she had
to have this local anesthesia and didn't think anything of it, right,
she just went in for this minor procedure, and she
said she woke up with an oxygen mask on, and
the doctors were telling her that she that something kind
(16:26):
of life threatening happened in this like minor procedure, and
so she shares this with us, and we were just
like whoa, you know, She's like, so, I'm just she
was telling us, she's like, I just feel so like
happy about life now because she realized that she could
(16:47):
have just not been here, and so she was sharing
that with us, like she felt so just happy with life.
And I told her, it's kind of like a rebirth, oh,
because the day after that she got baptized at her church.
It just so happened, like that was just in line
for her. It wasn't like she thought this procedure was
(17:09):
going to happen, but that was just going. That was
what was happening in her schedule, you know. So it
just so happened that she got baptized at her church
like the following day or the following couple days. And
I was like, wow, that's like a rebirth for you,
Like you had this really heavy thing happen, then you
get baptized and it's like now you're rebirth. And she's
(17:29):
like yeah, She's like I just feel like nothing bothers me.
She's like nothing bothers me because she realized how precious
life is, you know, And so again you guys, I
just share that because it was just another like message
to me that like maybe lighting up, don't take things
(17:49):
so seriously. Everything's going to work out. We sometimes don't
know how, but I feel like if we're coming from
a good place and we're intending good things for people
and ourselves, things will always fall in alignment. And what's
interesting is, you know, the Pope passing away and then
like these stories of people coming like near death experiences, right,
(18:13):
and like, I don't know, it's just I feel like
I've been hearing more and more about this around me,
and so it's just I've always kind of lived my
life like this, to be honest, Like I don't know why.
I've always known like it's precious, but normally it's just
been louder in my face. And like we had in
(18:37):
my family. I did mention it a couple shows ago,
like we lost somebody really near and dear, and this
just happened in February. So it's just I don't know,
it's closer to my heart and I thought I would
just talk about it more and share that with you guys,
that message. So Nancy asked, that's a good example of
(18:58):
things lining up for a good renewal, like springtime. Thank you,
thank you, Nancy. Yeah, it is, it is. It's a
good time for checking in you guys, for checking in,
for letting go of anything that you feel like doesn't
serve you. Now, like we're almost halfway through the year,
(19:19):
if we think about it, and so it's like, now
is the time to check in, let go of what
doesn't serve you anymore, and intend, intend for something else,
intend for something new. And like I said, we don't
know how it's going to work sometimes, but we have
to have faith and trust and hope. So I'm just
(19:41):
going to look at my notes really quick, because I
do want to talk about the cycle of life because
I feel like it just goes hand in hand with
what we're talking about. And so this is the kind
of work that I've been doing for a long long time,
and this is the kind of work that I will
coach on like one on one with anybody that wants
(20:01):
to talk to me have a session. Again. Jenalobos dot
com is my website, but I do have to like
reference my notes maybe. But so we're talking about springtime,
we're talking about renewal, we're talking about rebirth, and I
thought it would be a good time to talk about
the cycle of life and the cycle of life and
(20:22):
what I've been taught is creation, sustain destruction, and the void. Okay,
so the creation part is and I'll use myself for
an example. I told you guys back in December, I
decided that, first of all, I let go of two relationships. Okay,
(20:44):
so I'll just be really transparent with you guys. I
let go of two relationships that I was intertwined with
for quite quite time. So I just want to share
that because I myself have to do exactly what I'm
telling you guys to do, which is, we know in
our gut what doesn't serve us anymore. And I know
it's hard because we get attached to people, we get
(21:06):
attached to the norm. We don't as human beings, we
don't like change. Okay, we get attached to people, We
get attached to our jobs, we get attached to our clothes.
I mean, oh my gosh, talk about attachment to clothes.
I have so many clothes I have to get rid
of and that's on my list. But anyways, I won't
go off on that. So we're talking about the cycle
(21:28):
of life. Back in December, I let go of to
relationships and needed to process that, I guess, you know,
process my emotions through that. And then I decided to
create this new business for myself, this new opportunity, and
so I put all of my energy into creating a
(21:50):
new website. So that's the creation mode. That's the creation
part of the cycle of life. Where you feel like
something new wants to be birthed out of you. It
can be a baby. If you're a woman, it can
be a baby. It can be a new job, it
can be a new relationship. But something you feel new
(22:11):
wants to be created from you. Okay, So again, go
back to the journaling, the meditation, getting quiet. Figure out
what that is. If you have that instinct, if you
have that gut feeling like I need something new, what
is it we know deep down? And I will say this,
by the way, if you're unsure and if your mind
(22:32):
can't slow down, you just kind of know something needs
to change, but you don't. You can't get quiet during
the day. Here's a good thing to do. Right before
you go to sleep. That is when like our mind
is coming, like it's finally like slowing down, right, because
we're getting ready to sleep for eight to ten hours.
So right before you go to sleep, ask just say, God, Universe,
(22:57):
whoever you, whatever you believe in, give me a sign,
give me show me a dream. Just come to me
my dream. And then when you wake up is when
you're still lucid, right, You're still half dream state, half awake.
When you wake up, the first things that come to
your mind are clues. You might have the whole answer,
(23:21):
but you might have just clues. I would say, journal
it or voice note it in your phone, something like that. Okay,
so that's kind of a little side note for if
you want to create something new. So okay, so we're
talking about the cycle of life. I just get sidetracked here,
you guys. So okay, so we're in creation mode. So
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I'm using myself an example. I so I built the website,
and then now cycle of life is sustaining mode, right,
So now I launched it in February. I believe my
new website, my new business, and now I'm in sustaining mode.
Where you are, you're reaping the benefits of your creation. Right,
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you're reaping the benefits. You're Let's say you have a baby.
You're you're now you're cuddling, You're cuddling the little baby.
You're in love. You're in bliss mode in my In
my case, I created a new business for myself. Now
I'm in the sustaining mode where I'm enjoying what I
what I created, and I'm taking inspiration in gut inspiration, action,
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instinctual action, using my gut feelings. I'm doing all of
what I talk about to sustain my new creation. Okay,
so that's sustaining mode. Then destruction mode comes, and that
might be a long long time, right, it might be years, right,
So obviously everything comes to an end the cycle of life.
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Let's talk about relationship. Okay, Let's say you created a
new love relationship and then you sustain it for ten years,
and then something happens and you're like, you know what,
this is not working anymore, even a business, you know.
I mean maybe I shouldn't use baby as an example,
but relationship or business, you know, you sustain this thing
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for a long long time, and then there comes a
point where it's a destruction mode. Where it just doesn't work.
It's it doesn't feel right anymore. Maybe in a relationship,
one goes one way, the other one goes the other way.
It just that's the way it is. It just needs
to end, It needs to end. So that's the destruction
mode and cycle, the cycle of life. And then what
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happens after destruction mode is you're in the void. Okay,
So the void is where we don't like to be.
We don't like to be in the void because we
want some thing concrete as humans. We want to relationship.
For example, we want to know that this person is
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going to be with us till death do us part right,
We want to know, we want certainty. So in the void,
when after destruction happens and we don't have that relationship
or we don't have that business, there's a void where
we need to sit in and it's uncomfortable because we
were so used to this other thing being there as
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a concrete thing that we could always count on, you know,
in life, and so we are now in this place
where nothing feels right. Maybe you're you are checking in
in your gut and your intuition and you're like, it
just doesn't feel right. It doesn't feel right, and I
want to tell you guys that that is completely okay,
(26:55):
completely okay. The void is actually a place where there's
a lot of abundance, believe it or not, because you're
basically getting ready to create something new, and so the
universe is basically keeping you in this void to show
you examples of what you may want to create. So
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I'm gonna go out on the line here and just
talk again about myself. I told you guys that I
let go of to relationships, and it's complicated, right. I
won't go into the whole complication of that whole story.
But now I feel like I'm in the void in
terms of a romantic relationship. I feel like I'm in
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the void. And prior to me learning all this work
and self development, I would get anxious, you know, I
would be like, Okay, when's my next person coming? When's
my next like a little kid, like, oh, when's my
next person coming? With? And you know, obviously, partially, you know,
that's obviously because of my childhood. You know, I just
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grew up not really receiving the kind of love that
I needed, which I've said lots of times on the show.
So I've always looked for that romantic relationship to feel
to fill that void. Right, So now I'm in the
void in that in that area of my life, I'm
definitely in the void where I feel like I have
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to sit in it. And what helps to calm my
mind down, because the mind wants to know what's next.
What helps to calm my mind down is it's actually
very abundant for me right now, where I'm actually creating
or seeing examples of what I would love to have
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in my next romantic relationship. And if because I know this,
you guys, I'm pretty keen on it, you know, like
I'm using my own intuition like, oh I would like that,
you know, or ooh that's cool, you know, I want that.
Oh that feels good. But I mean not that I
have a person yet. But I am noticing that it
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is abundant, right, I'm noticing it, and I'm looking at
it in a different way, I guess, is what I'm
trying to say. And I'm sharing that with you guys,
because the void normally is where people want to fill
up that space so fast because they're uncomfortable, so they
look for that other relationship. They look for that other person,
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they look for something else to fill that void. And
I will share with you I've been there. I have totally, absolutely,
one hundred percent been there. But I'm so happy that
I've learned this because that's when I've made my biggest mistakes.
Where I was just so uncomfortable was sitting in that
place that I made mistakes. I made mistakes in relationships
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because I was just so wanting that piece of myself
to be fulfilled. And so my point is is that
don't be afraid of the void. If that's where you're at,
if that's where you feel like you're at in any
stage of your life, sit in it and actually lean
into it, love into it more. How can you love
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into yourself more in that state and also know that
it is a place of abundance. If it's a business
you're wanting to create, even if it's health, you know,
maybe something needs to change in your health routine. You
don't know what it is. Keep your eyes and ears open.
Don't go into like a crash diet or a new
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relationship because you don't feel comfortable, or you know, take
a job that's just like, oh, I'm just going to
feel it. You know, if you can Obviously that's different.
We all need to live and make money and pay
our bills. But you know, maybe if you do have
to take this other job, you know, and you're in
you know, you're in that void cycle. That's okay. You
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take the job and then you still know you're still
in that void. You're just taking this for right now.
It's temporary, but know that you're in that state, right
So anyways, okay, so Kendra, thank you for calling in
or writing in any advice on how to stop being
scared and just jump to move forward with change, Any
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advice on how to stop being scared and just jump
to move forward with change. Yeah, I think I might
have just answered that for you. I get the fear.
I get it. I have it all the time, all
the time. I am a lot of times I'm fearful,
you know, And a lot of times it really is
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our mind, like I just talked about, it really is
just the mind chatter. And I don't know your situation,
Kendra and where the fear is coming from, but I
know for me it's a lot of times my mind
chatter and basically my mind telling me like, oh, who
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do you think you are? Like really you think this
is gonna work, you know, or like they're really gonna
like you. Oh my god, what I mean? This is
the way our mind talks to us, you guys. It's
it's so negative. It's like we hardly sit and talk
about to ourselves and say, I'm like gonna crush this.
(32:21):
You know, I got this, This is so easy, this
life thing.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
Of course they're going to like me. Of course this
person's gonna like me. Of course my podcast.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Is gonna be good today. I'm gonna have exactly the
right things to say. Like do we ever talk like
that to ourselves? Rarely? Right, We rarely say like I know,
for me, like even if I'm going to like somewhere
where I'm dreading to go right where I know like
I just know like I'm not going to feel comfortable there.
(32:54):
I just I'm not going to feel comfortable in my
skin where I like the people I'm gonna hang out with,
I just they don't get me, like I'm not going
to feel comfortable. And it's like crazy making because what
if I what if I told myself, what if everything
went right? What if everybody just who I'm gonna go
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hang out with? What if they just they got me
and they understood me, and they love me for who
I am. Like, we never have that conversation you guys.
It's always negative. So I just want to kind of
check you guys. And because I check myself, everything I
talk about, I do myself. So I hope, hope, hope
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that helps you, Kindra, I really do. Because the fear
can stifle us. It can keep us safe, it can
keep us in a box. It can keep us from
moving forward, it can keep us from enjoying this preciousness
of life exactly what I'm talking about from the beginning
of the show. Oh, fear can keep us small, and
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we don't want to be small, you know again for
me talking to somebody that's heartfelt, like a mentor, I
need that in my life. I one hundred percent need
that in my life. I if I'm really honest, I
have never really had.
Speaker 3 (34:21):
A genuine, like a true, genuine, unconditional person in my
life that I didn't pay you.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
Like, I've never had a true, genuine, unconditional person.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Say you got this girl, I got your back, do
you know what I mean? Like, I've never had that,
Believe it or not, You guys, I'm not kidding, Like
I've had to really go on my own and get
like get after it on my own. Like even when
I wanted to write this book, I had it in
my heart. I'm like, I want to write something. I
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want to write something. I liked writing, I loved writing.
I wanted to write my book. And yeah, so thank you, Jennifer,
she said, so true, thank you for the check. You're
very welcome. So even when I started to write my
book or wanted to write my book, I had a
lot of people tell me that I was. I was like,
(35:24):
what was the quote? Somebody told me that I was
that I was just like had had a butterfly mind,
like in other words, like you're just dreaming away girl,
Like what are you thinking like writing a book? You're
not an author, you know. And I was like really,
So I remember taking that quote and actually writing a
(35:47):
poem based on that person telling me and giving me
that dig Like I literally wrote a poem. I believe
it's in one of my songs on Spotify, that little
like lyric about a butterfly. But anyway, so my point
is to back to Kendre and the fear is that
if I didn't have my mentor back when I want
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When I thought I want to write this book, I
just had this gut feeling, this intuition I really wanted
to do this. If I didn't have her to say,
you got this, girl, I would have never been sitting
here you guys, never would have never had my book,
would have never had this show. But because she saw me,
she believed in me. I feel like, you only need
one person, You only need one person to really see
(36:31):
you and get you and be present with you and
really hear what's in your heart. Because without her, I
would have never wrote my book. And you know, I
needed money at the time. I needed to put money toward,
you know, the making of the book. It costs money.
And at the time I was married and my ex
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husband didn't want me to do this at all because
we were struggling financially. And so I did it anyways.
I did it anyway. I got a credit card. I
don't even know what I probably got a credit card.
I don't know how I did it, but I did it.
Like do it anyways, I guess that's what I'm trying
to say to Kendra, Like scare okay, feel the fear,
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and move forward. Towards change anyways, because you guys, life
is short and we don't know what's going to happen tomorrow.
I'm taking Pope John Paul, or the Pope as an example.
One day he's leading Easter Sunday and the next day
he's gone. So we don't know how life is going
to unfold and how it's going to happen. We think
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we know what's going to happen next in our lives,
but really we don't. We don't know what's going to happen.
So I'll get off my soapbox. You guys, if any
of you are still listening, if you guys want to
like call in with any other questions. I feel like
I've talked a lot. I've talked about the cycle of life,
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talked about going after your dreams and having that hope
and faith and trust and whatever you need to do
to keep going one step in front of the other,
one breath at a time, one day at a time.
When things get hard, when things get tough, sometimes I
tell myself, one minute at a time, what's right in
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front of you, what are you doing right now? And
that's that's what brings us back to the present. Moment
and what we need to do right now, and again
it's about quieting the mind, having a different dialogue with yourself,
asking yourself, what if things did go right this time,
because maybe you've been knocked down a lot of times,
(38:44):
but maybe on that hundredth time or two hundredth time,
things can go right. So I will end on Paula
because she just said, thank you. I needed this advice
today and you're so so well Paula. Yeah, So I
hope you guys enjoy today's show. I will say, just
(39:08):
to kind of break it up, I am probably going
to have on a dating coach in the next couple
of weeks. He just he just responded to my message,
so he said he would love to be on our show.
So if you guys want to just watch out for that.
I'm going to have a dating coach on in the
next couple of weeks. But until next time, you guys,
(39:31):
take really good care of your body, of your mind,
slow it down, just take good care of yourself. Come
back to yourself again. If anybody wants to reach out
and talk to me, my website Jenna Lobos dot com.
And until next time, love your body and love your life.
Take care, Bye the
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