December 19, 2024 • 46 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I am the host of your podcast
today and Always, and I'm also the author of the
book titled Love Your Body, Love Your Life, fifty two
Tips that will radically change your health. And you can
find my book on Amazon and on Barnesonnoble dot com.
So welcome to the show, you guys, Happy holidays. To
(00:51):
be honest, I didn't think I was going to go
live today. So I had prepared somewhat during the week
this early in the week, and I had some bullet
points as to what I was going to talk about.
And then I didn't get my link to the show
until this morning, so I kind of, you know, put
(01:12):
the show out of my mind and didn't think really
about it until I saw the link, and then I
was like, oh, Okay, I'm going live today, so the
show must go on. I could have easily canceled. I
could have easily said, you know what, I'm not in
the mood. I can't do it. I'm not prepared. But
(01:33):
I just, you know what, that's more like being in
the mind versus like your gut, right, Like we overthink
things a lot, and so I just I'm kind of
like a little bit of my New Year's resolution, to
be honest, because I am an overthinker. I think way
(01:54):
too much about things. So and we're going to get
into New Year's resolutions and talk about holidays and deep
brief all of that in the show, but I am
going to be making that as kind of a resolution
or a goal for twenty twenty five because it doesn't
serve me anymore, you know, like the overthinking, it just
(02:14):
doesn't serve me. So instead, I did what I know
to do, which are some tools to calm my nervous
system down and get more into my body and just
kind of talk myself out of any kind of negative
thinking around going live without being completely prepared. So we're
(02:37):
going to talk about that too, and what I do
to calm myself down. And I think it'd be helpful
right now for holiday season because there's a lot going on,
you know, and so it's kind of funny how the
universe works. Because I had a late night last night,
and if I would have known I was going to
(02:59):
go live today, I number one probably wouldn't have stayed
out or stayed up as late as I as late
as I did, and number two, I probably wouldn't have
been as present with my friend who I went out with.
With my girlfriend who I went out with, I probably
(03:19):
would have just been more thinking about today and thinking
about what I was going to talk to you guys about,
and again overthinking and in my mind. So it all
worked out because I had a great night last night.
I had a good time, and you know, I stayed
up later than I normally would. I stayed up a
(03:42):
way past my curfew, but it was fun. So I'll
tell you a little bit about what I did last night.
So I went to I live in Newport Beach, California,
Orange County, California, and I'll get you I'll get to
the questions as well, because I know that someone just
typed into question, so I will answer that. But I
(04:05):
wanted to just tell you guys, So I go to
the boat parade in Newport Beach last night, and it's
it's a thing. So every year they have a boat
parade here in Newport Beach and people decorate their boats
and then they just like basically drive the boats up
and down the ocean and they're all decked out in
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the lights, and who has ever invited on that boat
gets to like enjoy the boat, and I guess they
have you know, music and dancing or whatever they decide
to do on their own personal boat. But I've lived
here for the longest time, like over twenty years, and
this is like the first time I've ever gone to
the Newport Beach boat parade. So my girlfriend invited me
(04:48):
kind of last minute. One of her friends got us
tickets to the Balboa Bay Club, which is a prestigious
like boat club here on the water, and he got
his tickets to go and like have dinner there and
(05:08):
you got two drink tickets and you can watch all
the boats go by, and it's a very beautiful night
with all the lights and very festive. Right. So again,
I had never been, so I was like, all right, yeah,
let's go, Like I wanted to check it out. And
I had never met her friend. So my girlfriend invited me,
(05:31):
but I had never met the guy that bought us
the tickets to get into this like little special area
to watch the boat raide, and so I was going
to be meeting him for the first time, so I'll
just share this kind of funny stories. So we go
and I meet the guy you know, her friend, and
(05:55):
it's you know, it's kind of like awkward, right, you're
meeting somebody for the first time. And we go and
we're sitting at the table, which is a great view
of the boat parade, and dinner is being served. It's
a buffet and you can have soup and grilled cheese,
sandwich and hot chocolate, and then you get to drink
(06:16):
tickets for alcohol or whatever you want. So my friend's like, well,
I'm hungry, let's go get something to eat. So we're
like okay, So we all go up to the little
like bar area, get in line. It's buffet. So we're
getting our food and I just wanted like hot soup.
They were having soup and grilled cheese, but I just
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wanted the hot soup and it just felt like, really,
you know, it's warm. I just wanted like a soup
to like you know, drink and sip on. So I
get my soup I didn't get the grilled cheese. So
I'm standing in line to get a drink, and I'm
having my soup, you know, in my hand. And it's
(06:58):
cold outside, so I'm already kind of sipping my hot
soup because I don't want it to get cold by
the time I get to my table after standing in
line for my drinks. Right, So I'm sipping my hot
soup while I'm standing in line for my drink. By
the time we get back to the table, all of
us are bringing our food, you know, we all sit down.
(07:19):
They the two people I was with, my friend and
her friend, have got grilled cheese, and so they're eating
their grilled cheese and I'm just kind of having my soup.
So I picked up my soup and I took a drink. Right,
So this is how I was drinking it. The whole time.
I wasn't using a spoon and her friend says to me,
(07:41):
don't do that, and I was like, uh, don't do
what And he was like, don't drink your soup like that.
And I was like, oh wow. Like inside I'm thinking,
oh wow, okay, am I doing something wrong? Like I
was drinking get kind of like a cup, like soup
(08:01):
out of a cup. And I'm looking at my friend like,
is she gonna back me up right now? Or like,
am I on my own on this? And I was
on my own? So I was like, wow, okay, I
don't even know this guy, like, and he's telling me
how to drink my soup. So I was like okay,
and I'm a good girl, right. I don't like talk back,
(08:23):
you know, people that I don't know, and I'm like,
you know, I have manners. I'm like, oh my gosh,
how embarrassing kind of you know. He was referring to
the fact that it was a prestigious place to be.
Don't drink your soup from like without a spoon. So
I was like, okay, fine, whatever. So I picked up
(08:44):
my spoon. I only had like a little bit left
because I had been drinking it like this the whole time,
like I said, So I'm drinking it now out of
my spoon. He was like, I was kidding, and I
was like, oh, all right, so we have a kid
around our hands, do we? So okay, I took the joke. Whatever,
and I'm drinking my soup. I was like totally done.
(09:08):
And then like my friend went back up to the
bar to get another drink, and now it's just me
and the guy, right, and he's like like throws a
jab at me again, and I just kind of jab back.
So now I'm like, Okay, you want to banter, we'll banter, right.
So I'm bantering now with him. I don't remember what
I said, but my point is, you guys, is it
(09:32):
I totally broke the ice. Like once I was just
myself and I was like, you know what, I'm going
to give this guy shit back, right, like he's trying
to make me feel uncomfortable, and I'm like, I'm going
to give it back to him. So I did, and
it broke the ice. And then after that we were
just like giggling and having fun and it was just
(09:55):
a good time. And I don't know why I thought
I would share that, because if I would have just
been like in my shell and not like giving this
guy like what he wanted, I guess was banter. I
think the night the vibe would have been totally different,
like it would have been uncomfortable, almost like awkward, like
(10:18):
you know, kind of like Jenna's kind of like the
third will or you know, because they knew each other
and I didn't know him. My point is is that
it was a great night. We had so much good fun,
like hardly I took like one drink of wine, which
I'm not a drinker really, and so I'm like, you
know what, I don't even need this wine. I'd rather
(10:39):
have the hot chocolate. My friend really doesn't drink. He
doesn't drink, which is all good. Right. So his name
is James. So if James was watching this or whatever,
if if he listened to this later on, it's all good.
Love you, James. It was fun. We ended up going
back to his He had a room there with a
view of boat Parade, and we ended up singing and
(11:02):
like having this good fun, like you don't even need alcohol, right,
just to have a good time, and like I call
it good fun, like you don't need to be high
or need to be drunk to have a good time.
So that's my little like holiday story. So let's see,
let me do quick questions. Do you feel people actually
keep resolute? Ah? Yeah, I know. I was kind of
(11:26):
hesitant to say resolution, Tim, thank you for your question.
I was hesitant to say that because I definitely know
I don't keep resolutions and so I rarely like make them.
I make more like lists of what I want to do,
(11:47):
like more goals. I think I said that earlier I
used the word goal. I kind of like corrected myself
because resolutions, I don't know. Yeah, they they're great, like
in you know, like the intention I is good, but
you know, come on, like by February March, it's like
who remembers them? You know? So I think goals are
(12:08):
like maybe setting like a theme for your year. Like
I know a lot of people that think of a
feeling that they want to feel like through the whole year.
Mine is definitely I want to be like out of
the overthinking mind. You know. The feeling I guess would
be a little bit empowered, you know. So maybe that's
(12:30):
kind of my theme for twenty twenty five is more empowerment.
But yeah, to answer your question, Tim, no, I don't
think they keep them. I think for a little bit.
But made me make a list of goals. Okay, Whindy
ass Was he a good guy after you've got some? Yeah?
Actually he was. I think he was just I don't know.
(12:52):
Maybe it was his way of trying to break the
ice with me. And like I said once, we did.
We were like best friends, so he was fun. It
was fine, like I'm sure all three of us will
go out again. They actually invited me to go to NAM,
which is like a music convention here in LA or sorry,
(13:13):
Orange County, Anaheim, California. So I'll probably go with them
in January to NAM show. So if you guys follow along,
I'll come back in January and talk all about that
when I reconnect with James, and I'll let you know
how he is. So we'll continue on the James story.
Sounds like it was a lovely time. Yeah, Chris, it was.
(13:33):
It was. It was a lovely time. I had fun.
But yeah, so let's see, so holidays, holidays, you guys,
I will tell you this other story and then we'll
get into like what I do to keep calm during
the holidays. But it's cold right now. It's you know,
(13:57):
well at night it's like low sixties, and then in
the morning my temperature reads like sixty one, sixty two,
sixty three, and so it's funny. My my water heater
broke recently, like well two weeks ago, my water heater broke,
So I have been taking cold showers, well, actually cold baths,
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because I'm a bath girl and I've had the gas
company out twice and I had a plumber come out
finally a couple days ago, and basically what happened was
is my control panel and my water heater went out
as a safety precaution because apparently I had a gas
(14:43):
leak in the control panel. So the water heater was
like a smart water heater smelled the gas leak and
turned it off. So thank god for that, right, But
I don't have I don't have hot water right now.
So I've been taking cold, cold bass. And at first
(15:04):
I was like, Okay, this is this kind of sucks, right,
Like it's freezing cold and I'm having to take a
cold bath. Obviously they're very fast, fast baths. But then
I'm like, you know what kind of low key liking
this because honestly, you guys like, I'm not a cold
person at all at all. Whoever knows me well knows
(15:25):
I'm always cold. I always need something hot. I'm always
drinking hot tea or something warm. I always need a
blanket or a jacket. But I've been taking cold bass,
and I will tell you that I feel great. I
really do. They're they're fast obviously they're not as long
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as my warm baths that I normally take, but they
you know, the cold plunge. Everybody, I'm sure I've heard
of cold plunge and the benefits of that if you
haven't googled it. I googled it. There's so many, there's
so many to list, there's so many to talk about.
There's mental health benefits, there's physical health benefits. I mean
(16:08):
one of a couple of them are energy wise. It
burns fat. They burn fat, so weight loss. It stimulates
your mind, It gives you the good endorphins that you need.
And I can attest to that, Like I get out
and I'm my body is heated up because your body
(16:31):
automatically needs to heat up when after a cold like
bath or shower, or like if you go in the
deep in the ocean or you jump in a pool
and you come out, it's that same feeling like you're
like exhilarated and your body feels great. So anyways, that's
kind to my little water heater slash cold plunge or
(16:53):
cold bath stories. So if you guys want to try that,
try it so so so yeah, So how do you
guys stay calm during the holidays. I'm just curious if
anybody's listening or wanting to type in, like how do
you guys stay calm, because I definitely have things that
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I've done for years actually, which I'll get into. So,
first of all, and I don't know if this stems
from childhood, and I think it does. Christmas and holidays
to me are not like that big of a deal
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really truly, like, and again I don't know if it's
because as a kid, like I was kind of bounced around.
I grew up with a single mom and I'd see
my dad, you know, when I can, when I could,
and then I'd bounce back to my mom's and I
don't know, it was kind of more like stressful way,
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like I didn't really look forward to that holidays. So
I think as an adult, I kept it going that
way in my mind, Like, so I don't really think
of the holidays as like I'm excited, like, oh, I'm
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SAT's gonna bring me all these gifts, Like that's not
my mentality. As it wasn't my mentality as a kid,
it still isn't. So I think I have one up
on that in the fact that I just really keep
my schedule the same, like truly the same. Like I
I work out daily if I can, if that's on
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my schedule. I work, I eat the same. I don't
like indulge. It's just truly like another day to me.
You know, last night when I went out, that was
a treat because, like I said, and I had never
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been to the boat parade, and I hadn't seen my
girlfriend in so long, and we rarely go out, her
and I both we rarely like you know, go out
like have a good time, you know, so I hadn't
seen her like whenever we get together for like tea,
we can debrief and talk about our life and what's
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going on in her life, what's going on in my life,
So like I don't know, as single girls, we just
wanted to kind of go out and have fun. And
that was kind of a treat for me. But I
so that's number one. I first of all, I keep
my life really the same. I just do my same
schedule and it may kind of may sound boring to
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some people, but I like it because I don't overextend myself,
you know, I don't burn myself out, so you know, know,
like flu season is here, I rarely get sick, thank God.
So I don't overextend myself. I don't and I feel
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like if I have a choice in saying no to
something that I don't want to do, then I just
say no, you know. Like, so that's one thing. That's
one thing I do. And somebody commented that they meditate
and they garden, so that's amazing, Like that's really good.
I think the meditation piece is something that I do too.
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It's kind of like in my repertoire of everyday stuff,
so that kind of comes natural to me. I do
more like breath work as well. I do breath work,
which I can kind of show you guys. One like
breath exercise that's really easy that you can do. And
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this is like if you're going to like holiday party,
or if something's coming up, even like a family gathering
that is going to stress you out, this breath exercise
will immediately calm your nervous system down. So it's really easy.
You just cover one nostril and you take a breath
from this one, and then you close this one and
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you breathe out, and then you keep this one closed,
breathe in and breathe out. I mean, honestly, guys, I
feel so much like Palmer just by doing that one
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breath exercise. So that's nostril breathing. That's actually in my
book I wrote about it. So that's another good tip,
is just to breathe and you can do that one.
I picked that one to show you, guys, because you
can do that when when you're driving, when you're at
a stoplight, when you're right about to go into a
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party or you know, into a family gathering that's going
to stress you out. So that's a really good tip
or technique. Meditation, obviously, like the caller suggested, is always good.
I mean, if you have the time and you can
pull over and do like a little meditation, that's good.
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I think prayer is good too. You know, prayer is
a form of meditation, and that's what I believe, you know,
asking for you know, whatever kind of feeling you want
in going into a party or stressful situation. Maybe it's
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more like a loving energy that you want to attract,
or you want to be that loving energy for somebody else,
or maybe patience or laughter or fun or humor or
just keeping it light. So that's something that you can do.
You can say a little prayer or say prayers during
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the holidays, maybe light a candle. It gets dark, you know,
earlier in the day, so light a candle. And that's
actually a good meditation tip too, is just to kind
of if you're not somebody to close your eyes, you
can actually stare into the candle and you know, kind
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of just you know, it's kind of like staring into
a fireplace. You stare into the candle lit, same thing.
So that's something along the lines of meditation. What else
do I do. I don't drink. I don't drink alcohol.
That's something else that I just I don't know, it's
(23:55):
just I don't drink normally, so I just keep that
going during the holiday again. Last night was a tree.
I had two SIPs of red wine because I had
a drink ticket, and I honestly, you guys, like I took.
I got a straw to drink the red wine because
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I don't want to get my tea stained. And I
drank it from the straw and literally I could feel
my throat like tighten up, because it's almost like my
body was telling me it doesn't want this wine. It
really doesn't. Like I do better when I'm not when
I'm not when I don't drink, meaning I do better
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in during the night, when I'm out the next day.
I just I'm not really a drinker. I mean, I
had a stage when I went through that, like a
stage when I was drinking more. But I just it
doesn't serve me well anymore. And I'm not like sober
or anything. I'm definitely could go and enjoy glass of
(25:00):
wine here and there, but it just, I don't know,
it's just something that I feel better when I when
I don't drink. I think vacation. If I'm on vacation,
I tend to I think relax more. That's kind of
I think it's par for the course, right if you're
on vacation and I can have a glass of wine
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and be totally fine. But when I'm at home, I'm
in work mode. I'm you know, I want to have
my all of like my my wheels working so I
can be creative and think about ideas to talk to
you guys about and think about things that I can
bring to the podcast that will be helpful. So my
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point is is that I do not drink alcohol, and
I think holidays is a good time to maybe try it.
Maybe if you normally drink at holiday parties, maybe get
a selter water or I'm a tea person, so I
like caught green tea, a lot, coffee, hot chocolate. Last
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night I had the best hot chocolate. It was so good,
so yummy. So that's another thing I don't do. Another
thing that speaking like on that subject of like drinking,
another thing that I I do at a bare minimum
is drink caffeine. Caffeine, I feel, also taxes your system.
(26:33):
It dehydrates you, It gives you the jitters. Your nervous
system definitely, you know, takes it. Just it's not too good.
It's not too good for the liver. Also on a
health standpoint, So I really try to watch caffeine. Now,
when I say caffeine, i'm talking about coffee. I do
(26:57):
intermitute fasting. So sometimes I like a little bit of coffee.
But what I do to minimize the jitters is I
put butter in my coffee. So butter in the coffee
actually minimizes the caffeine. It like dilutes it, so it
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doesn't give you that full, like jittery feeling. And it
for my system, which is my system, I'm super sensitive.
So if I could do that. I would recommend if
you guys are going to drink caffeine in the morning
or during the day, maybe put a slab of butter
in there. The butter is actually good for you, The
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fat is actually good for you. You can do coconut oil
in there, you can eat butter, you can do ghee.
MCT oil is another really good oil for you for
the skin, for the for your hair, for your nails, whatever.
Somebody asked Stacey, would that be real butter or margarine?
I use carry gold butter unsalted. I've also used vegan
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butter which has coconut oil in it and a little
bit of sea salt, which actually is really good, Stacey.
So if you want to try that, if I'm weird,
I liked it. It was a little bit salty, creamy
and like coffee tasting really yummy to me. But if
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you don't like the salt, I would just get the
carry gold butter unsalted, or like I said, you can
use gee spelled g h e E or mct oil.
Somebody else asked tea. Would that be tea or coffee? Yeah?
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I know tea has caffeine in it, but again it's
a different kind of caffeinated feeling in your body. Green
tea to me doesn't keep me up at night. It
actually green tea is actually known to give you stress relief.
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So you guys might want to try that if you
need a little bit of pick me up. It's a
pick me up, but without all the jitters. That's what
I'm really trying to say here is that the holidays
bring a lot of a lot of things, you guys.
It brings emotions up, family stuff, getting the perfect gift,
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or maybe you're in a new relationship, maybe you're in
a relationship that just ended and your heart broken. Maybe
you're thinking of somebody that passed and you're you know,
you're grieving, and I'm sorry if you are. First of all,
holidays tend to be more intense. So we're talking about
things that will keep you more in alignment with feeling
(30:06):
balanced in your body. So let's just recap. So breath
work I taught you the nostril breathing that immediately will
calm you down. Meditation. Somebody mentioned gardening, and anything with
your hands. I sometimes when I'm overthinking, I'm in my
(30:31):
mind too much. What I'll do is I'll fold laundry.
And that might sound like, Okay, that's not going to
do anything, but it really does. So I feel like
anything with your hands folding laundry for me works. You
can maybe draw or like color or like even like
(30:51):
with crayons. Maybe get something to like play with, you know,
be playful with yourself, anything with your hands. So guard
is good cooking if you guys like cooking, anything to
just enjoy yourself. Get really in your body and out
of your mind. And I mean if you have to
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go to that holiday family gathering that you don't want to,
or you're really in grief or your heart broken, or
you're in a new relationship, that's stressful. Exciting, right, it's
exciting to have a new relationship, but it can be
stressful too. Or if you're out like shopping all day
(31:33):
and you're you know, you're overstressed about getting the new
gift whatever it is. I mean, you guys can type
in and let me know, like what's stressing you out.
I mean I shared with you that my water heater broke.
I don't have hot water, so I could have easily
gotten in my mind, in my head and been like negative, Nelly,
(31:53):
I don't have any water. This sucks, like, you know,
it's cold, like it's holidays, you know, but no, like
I kind of spinned it around, I'm like, you know what,
I actually like this. It's just like pepping me up
these cold baths. Like I'm not in there taking a
warm bath for thirty minutes. I'm ready faster, Like it
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gives me this pep and I'm happy. I'm happy. It
brings me back to being happy. And I think that's
the whole idea of the holidays, is staying happy with
yourself and with other people. Stressing about having to be
around family. I know, I'm so sorry, Charles. Uh, it's hard.
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It's hard. Family can be really tough, you guys, I
got a chrinkle water. Let me see what else do?
What what can I say about that? I think it
just really comes down to being really intentional about staying
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in your body and out of your head and not
reacting and responding like kind of take a breath, take
a beat, wishing more family can be here with us.
Somebody else said, wishing more family can be here with us. Yeah,
So it goes back to either we're stressed out about
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going to the holiday gathering with family, or we're wishing
that family could be with us. So either way, it's
it's hard. I'm telling you guys, it's hard right now
for the person that typed in. You know, they got
to go to the family gathering. They're stressed. I think
I was going on. I was going to say, like,
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make sure you're taking a beat, like before you talk,
like really think, take a breath, you know, go in
the bathroom and do the nostril breathing, or just go
in the bathroom and take a minute to get back
into yourself and ask yourself, am I going to respond
to something that I'll regret saying? Maybe? Or you know,
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like am I gonna regret something that I say? Should
I say something more loving to that person that annoys
me or that triggers me? And by the way, you guys,
triggers are actually good. You know, whoever's triggering you, they're
actually showing you something that you need to work on
for yourself. You know, our family is actually meant to
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trigger us for personal growth. Let's get real. Let's get honest.
They're going to trigger us. But why why are we
being triggered? What's the reason? The reason is for us
to look at ourselves and ask ourselves where do we
need personal growth? In? Okay, Like that's the real reason.
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Where do we need to grow? If we feel judged,
then where are we judging ourselves? Like let's just say,
for example, somebody triggers me and my family and I
feel judged. How am I judging myself? In order for
me to have a mirror back at me showing me
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that I'm judging myself? Do you understand what I'm saying?
I hope you, guys are. What I'm trying to say
is that everything on the outside, everything that's external, is
a reflection of who we are internally. So whatever is
triggering you externally, there's something internally that we need to
focus on and we need to heal. So that's deep,
(35:38):
you guys. I know it's deep. It's a deeper conversation.
And I'll just say right now, I'm going to be
rolling out in twenty twenty five. I'm going to be
rolling out some great cool stuff, Okay, And one of
the things, and I'll talk more about the things I'm
going to be rolling out when i end the show,
(35:59):
but I'll just plug it in right here because one
of the things that I'm going to be rolling out
is one on one time with me. I am a
certified life coach. I went to through life coaching certification
back in twenty nineteen when actually when I was going
through my divorce and I am ready to really have
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someone on one time and really offer what I've learned
and what I've grown, what I've been taught, and so
I know I have something to offer. And so basically
what I'm saying is that I'm going to be rolling
that out in twenty twenty five more life coaching one
on one with Jenna, So stay tuned for that, and
(36:42):
like I said, i'll announce it else I'm rolling out
in twenty twenty five towards the end of the show.
But so I know I went off on a tangent
on that, but it's true, you guys, if you're being triggered,
you got to look at that. You got to embrace it,
feel your emotions around it. If you're sad, if you're angry,
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if you're whatever, if you feel left out, feel it,
but try not to take it personal. And I don't know,
reach out to me in twenty twenty five and I
will teach you more on that and how to handle triggers.
But let's get to the other question. Wendy. Yes, I
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wish you more family live closer, so we go. I know.
Oh my gosh, I'm sorry, Wendy. Where do they live
and where are you? Is it? Is it a drive away?
I'm assuming it's a plane ride away, because if it
was a drive you'd be there. Are you alone? I'm
sorry if you're alone. If you're alone, then I would
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what would I do if I was alone? Oh gosh,
that's hard. I'm always alone, by the way, I'm definitely.
I grew up as an only child. I have half
brothers and sisters, but I consider myself an only child
because that's how I grew up. So okay, Wendy, we
are in Georgia, isn't and most family is in La Okay,
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so they're near me. Can you not take a plane
last minute? Can you hop on a plane? Maybe not?
Do zoom calls? Can you do zoom calls with your family?
That would be fun a zoom caller. Actually, FaceTime is
really cool too, So maybe, Wendy, if you have an iPhone,
(38:42):
do face times maybe like open gifts together on a
FaceTime call or a zoom call. I think that would
be fun. And at least if you can't like hug
and touch each other, at least you could see each
other's face and be with each other on that day.
And if you're alone, if anybody is alone, god, what
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would I do? If I was alone? I would probably
try to make a reservation somewhere, like at a restaurant,
so I could be around people and eat around people.
Even if I was alone. I would read a good book.
But I'm a reader, so if you guys aren't a reader,
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aren't readers. I would listen to a podcast. Listen to
listen to a good show. You know, it's so good.
I think laughter is so good, you guys. Humor is
always the best. Put on something that makes you laugh.
I like Friends. That's kind of like my nightly show.
(39:50):
I put it on on my computer at night, right
before I go to bed because they're funny and like,
it's fun it's funny, Like I need a good laugh
right before bed thing to like decompress and just laugh
laugh off the day and so do something funny. Okay,
Wendy Louisiana, Okay, I got that wrong. I'm sorry. We
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talk and all, but it's better to be in person.
We just can't manage to schedule every one time at
the same time.
Speaker 3 (40:17):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
Yeah, it would be better to be in person. But
can you guys do FaceTime calls Maybe that would be helpful. Yeah,
I would definitely do FaceTime calls or zoom calls. But
thank you Wendy for sharing that. So yeah, I think
that's all I got for you, guys. Breathing exercises, stay calm,
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take a beat before you say anything back that you
would regret. Yeah, just be loving, Be loving to yourself,
Love yourself, ask yourself what would love do in this moment,
you know, and like, really come from that place. And
I feel like if we come from that place, first
of all, becomes a habit, and second of all, it
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just it like just squashes kind of like the air.
Like my example of James, this guy, like if I
would have come off like a bee to him, like
rude and just be word right, like I would have
Happy Holidays, thank you, thank you, Happy holidays to you,
(41:31):
Merry Christmas, thank you. So yeah, come off from come
come from the place of love you guys. It really
just helps you, know it, It helps you to feel better.
First of all, you will feel better. You will be
more in your power if you come from love. And
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it also maybe will shock the other person, you know,
and then they will not have a comeback, because what's
somebody gonna do if you're not coming off rude. They
can't come off rude, they don't get defensive. It like
squashes their defense. So remember that this Christmas you guys,
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triggers are good for you. Breathe, meditate, use your hands,
come from love and yeah, that's it. That's it. Happy holidays. Enjoy,
be present. We're never going to get this time back.
So whatever is happening, cold showers, water heaters, breaking, rude people,
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people try to trigger you, just be present. Enjoy as
much as you can because this time is not going
to be back. You get a one time chance here
and enjoy it as much as you can. Enjoy yourself.
Be good to yourself, Eat good food, Drink good food,
stay away from alcohol, caffeine. Limit your caffeine. We talked
(42:59):
to about that, so really quick, before I end twenty
twenty five, I am going to be rolling out a
online video course based on my book. So it's love
your Body, Love your Life. Fifty two tips that will
radically change your health. It's going to be an online course.
You're going to be getting also recipes and affirmations from me.
(43:23):
So I'm going to be rolling that out. I already
talked about my one on one offer that I'm going
to be rolling out in twenty twenty five. I'm so
stay tuned for that. I'm excited. I hope I can
have a one on one with you guys, with all
my listeners or some of my listeners that are interested
in being supported through twenty twenty five. Let me support
you and guide you and talk about what you guys
(43:47):
need to you know, what you need more of in
twenty twenty five, health, wellness, beauty, relationship, whatever you guys
think you need more support with, I'm going to be
offering that. And then also, if you guys know me well,
I'm a singer songwriter as well, so I'm going to
(44:08):
be doing a little music video rolling that out in
twenty twenty five, So stay tuned for that. I'm excited
for that. I love it, love it, love it. Singing
and music makes me so so happy, So yeah, tap
into what makes you happy. You guys, stay good and
I shall see you in twenty twenty five. Oh, before
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I forget. Also, I have a good lineup so far
for twenty twenty fives for guests to come on the podcast.
I have a hormone doctor coming on. It's for women
and men. Believe it or not, men do have hormone
situations that they need to, you know, get educated on.
(44:51):
So I'm having a hormone doctor come on, and I'm
also having an esthetician come on. I did a solo
episode a couple of weeks ago on skincare, but I'm
gonna have a professional esthetician come on and talk about skin.
So that's my lineup so far. I might also have
(45:12):
a hair person coming on, and also a card reader,
like somebody that reads tarot. I don't know if you
guys are interested into that, but it's kind of fun,
you know, taro is It can be fun, like we
have free will, you know. So I just use tarot
(45:33):
as fun and I don't know, it's something different, interesting,
So if you guys are into that, I might have
somebody come on to talk about that. Yeah, that's it.
Stay good you guys, and until next time, love your
body and love your life. Take care.
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Bye.
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, welcome to Love Your Body, Love Your Life. My
name is Jenna. I am the host of your podcast
today and Always, and I'm also the author of the
book titled Love Your Body, Love Your Life, fifty two
Tips that will radically change your health. And you can
find my book on Amazon and on Barnesonnoble dot com.
So welcome to the show, you guys, Happy holidays. To
(00:51):
be honest, I didn't think I was going to go
live today. So I had prepared somewhat during the week
this early in the week, and I had some bullet
points as to what I was going to talk about.
And then I didn't get my link to the show
until this morning, so I kind of, you know, put
(01:12):
the show out of my mind and didn't think really
about it until I saw the link, and then I
was like, oh, Okay, I'm going live today, so the
show must go on. I could have easily canceled. I
could have easily said, you know what, I'm not in
the mood. I can't do it. I'm not prepared. But
(01:33):
I just, you know what, that's more like being in
the mind versus like your gut, right, Like we overthink
things a lot, and so I just I'm kind of
like a little bit of my New Year's resolution, to
be honest, because I am an overthinker. I think way
(01:54):
too much about things. So and we're going to get
into New Year's resolutions and talk about holidays and deep
brief all of that in the show, but I am
going to be making that as kind of a resolution
or a goal for twenty twenty five because it doesn't
serve me anymore, you know, like the overthinking, it just
(02:14):
doesn't serve me. So instead, I did what I know
to do, which are some tools to calm my nervous
system down and get more into my body and just
kind of talk myself out of any kind of negative
thinking around going live without being completely prepared. So we're
(02:37):
going to talk about that too, and what I do
to calm myself down. And I think it'd be helpful
right now for holiday season because there's a lot going on,
you know, and so it's kind of funny how the
universe works. Because I had a late night last night,
and if I would have known I was going to
(02:59):
go live today, I number one probably wouldn't have stayed
out or stayed up as late as I as late
as I did, and number two, I probably wouldn't have
been as present with my friend who I went out with.
With my girlfriend who I went out with, I probably
(03:19):
would have just been more thinking about today and thinking
about what I was going to talk to you guys about,
and again overthinking and in my mind. So it all
worked out because I had a great night last night.
I had a good time, and you know, I stayed
up later than I normally would. I stayed up a
(03:42):
way past my curfew, but it was fun. So I'll
tell you a little bit about what I did last night.
So I went to I live in Newport Beach, California,
Orange County, California, and I'll get you I'll get to
the questions as well, because I know that someone just
typed into question, so I will answer that. But I
(04:05):
wanted to just tell you guys, So I go to
the boat parade in Newport Beach last night, and it's
it's a thing. So every year they have a boat
parade here in Newport Beach and people decorate their boats
and then they just like basically drive the boats up
and down the ocean and they're all decked out in
(04:25):
the lights, and who has ever invited on that boat
gets to like enjoy the boat, and I guess they
have you know, music and dancing or whatever they decide
to do on their own personal boat. But I've lived
here for the longest time, like over twenty years, and
this is like the first time I've ever gone to
the Newport Beach boat parade. So my girlfriend invited me
(04:48):
kind of last minute. One of her friends got us
tickets to the Balboa Bay Club, which is a prestigious
like boat club here on the water, and he got
his tickets to go and like have dinner there and
(05:08):
you got two drink tickets and you can watch all
the boats go by, and it's a very beautiful night
with all the lights and very festive. Right. So again,
I had never been, so I was like, all right, yeah,
let's go, Like I wanted to check it out. And
I had never met her friend. So my girlfriend invited me,
(05:31):
but I had never met the guy that bought us
the tickets to get into this like little special area
to watch the boat raide, and so I was going
to be meeting him for the first time, so I'll
just share this kind of funny stories. So we go
and I meet the guy you know, her friend, and
(05:55):
it's you know, it's kind of like awkward, right, you're
meeting somebody for the first time. And we go and
we're sitting at the table, which is a great view
of the boat parade, and dinner is being served. It's
a buffet and you can have soup and grilled cheese,
sandwich and hot chocolate, and then you get to drink
(06:16):
tickets for alcohol or whatever you want. So my friend's like, well,
I'm hungry, let's go get something to eat. So we're
like okay, So we all go up to the little
like bar area, get in line. It's buffet. So we're
getting our food and I just wanted like hot soup.
They were having soup and grilled cheese, but I just
(06:36):
wanted the hot soup and it just felt like, really,
you know, it's warm. I just wanted like a soup
to like you know, drink and sip on. So I
get my soup I didn't get the grilled cheese. So
I'm standing in line to get a drink, and I'm
having my soup, you know, in my hand. And it's
(06:58):
cold outside, so I'm already kind of sipping my hot
soup because I don't want it to get cold by
the time I get to my table after standing in
line for my drinks. Right, So I'm sipping my hot
soup while I'm standing in line for my drink. By
the time we get back to the table, all of
us are bringing our food, you know, we all sit down.
(07:19):
They the two people I was with, my friend and
her friend, have got grilled cheese, and so they're eating
their grilled cheese and I'm just kind of having my soup.
So I picked up my soup and I took a drink. Right,
So this is how I was drinking it. The whole time.
I wasn't using a spoon and her friend says to me,
(07:41):
don't do that, and I was like, uh, don't do
what And he was like, don't drink your soup like that.
And I was like, oh wow. Like inside I'm thinking,
oh wow, okay, am I doing something wrong? Like I
was drinking get kind of like a cup, like soup
(08:01):
out of a cup. And I'm looking at my friend like,
is she gonna back me up right now? Or like,
am I on my own on this? And I was
on my own? So I was like, wow, okay, I
don't even know this guy, like, and he's telling me
how to drink my soup. So I was like okay,
and I'm a good girl, right. I don't like talk back,
(08:23):
you know, people that I don't know, and I'm like,
you know, I have manners. I'm like, oh my gosh,
how embarrassing kind of you know. He was referring to
the fact that it was a prestigious place to be.
Don't drink your soup from like without a spoon. So
I was like, okay, fine, whatever. So I picked up
(08:44):
my spoon. I only had like a little bit left
because I had been drinking it like this the whole time,
like I said, So I'm drinking it now out of
my spoon. He was like, I was kidding, and I
was like, oh, all right, so we have a kid
around our hands, do we? So okay, I took the joke. Whatever,
and I'm drinking my soup. I was like totally done.
(09:08):
And then like my friend went back up to the
bar to get another drink, and now it's just me
and the guy, right, and he's like like throws a
jab at me again, and I just kind of jab back.
So now I'm like, Okay, you want to banter, we'll banter, right.
So I'm bantering now with him. I don't remember what
I said, but my point is, you guys, is it
(09:32):
I totally broke the ice. Like once I was just
myself and I was like, you know what, I'm going
to give this guy shit back, right, like he's trying
to make me feel uncomfortable, and I'm like, I'm going
to give it back to him. So I did, and
it broke the ice. And then after that we were
just like giggling and having fun and it was just
(09:55):
a good time. And I don't know why I thought
I would share that, because if I would have just
been like in my shell and not like giving this
guy like what he wanted, I guess was banter. I
think the night the vibe would have been totally different,
like it would have been uncomfortable, almost like awkward, like
(10:18):
you know, kind of like Jenna's kind of like the
third will or you know, because they knew each other
and I didn't know him. My point is is that
it was a great night. We had so much good fun,
like hardly I took like one drink of wine, which
I'm not a drinker really, and so I'm like, you
know what, I don't even need this wine. I'd rather
(10:39):
have the hot chocolate. My friend really doesn't drink. He
doesn't drink, which is all good. Right. So his name
is James. So if James was watching this or whatever,
if if he listened to this later on, it's all good.
Love you, James. It was fun. We ended up going
back to his He had a room there with a
view of boat Parade, and we ended up singing and
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like having this good fun, like you don't even need alcohol, right,
just to have a good time, and like I call
it good fun, like you don't need to be high
or need to be drunk to have a good time.
So that's my little like holiday story. So let's see,
let me do quick questions. Do you feel people actually
keep resolute? Ah? Yeah, I know. I was kind of
(11:26):
hesitant to say resolution, Tim, thank you for your question.
I was hesitant to say that because I definitely know
I don't keep resolutions and so I rarely like make them.
I make more like lists of what I want to do,
(11:47):
like more goals. I think I said that earlier I
used the word goal. I kind of like corrected myself
because resolutions, I don't know. Yeah, they they're great, like
in you know, like the intention I is good, but
you know, come on, like by February March, it's like
who remembers them? You know? So I think goals are
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like maybe setting like a theme for your year. Like
I know a lot of people that think of a
feeling that they want to feel like through the whole year.
Mine is definitely I want to be like out of
the overthinking mind. You know. The feeling I guess would
be a little bit empowered, you know. So maybe that's
(12:30):
kind of my theme for twenty twenty five is more empowerment.
But yeah, to answer your question, Tim, no, I don't
think they keep them. I think for a little bit.
But made me make a list of goals. Okay, Whindy
ass Was he a good guy after you've got some? Yeah?
Actually he was. I think he was just I don't know.
(12:52):
Maybe it was his way of trying to break the
ice with me. And like I said once, we did.
We were like best friends, so he was fun. It
was fine, like I'm sure all three of us will
go out again. They actually invited me to go to NAM,
which is like a music convention here in LA or sorry,
(13:13):
Orange County, Anaheim, California. So I'll probably go with them
in January to NAM show. So if you guys follow along,
I'll come back in January and talk all about that
when I reconnect with James, and I'll let you know
how he is. So we'll continue on the James story.
Sounds like it was a lovely time. Yeah, Chris, it was.
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It was. It was a lovely time. I had fun.
But yeah, so let's see, so holidays, holidays, you guys,
I will tell you this other story and then we'll
get into like what I do to keep calm during
the holidays. But it's cold right now. It's you know,
(13:57):
well at night it's like low sixties, and then in
the morning my temperature reads like sixty one, sixty two,
sixty three, and so it's funny. My my water heater
broke recently, like well two weeks ago, my water heater broke,
So I have been taking cold showers, well, actually cold baths,
(14:22):
because I'm a bath girl and I've had the gas
company out twice and I had a plumber come out
finally a couple days ago, and basically what happened was
is my control panel and my water heater went out
as a safety precaution because apparently I had a gas
(14:43):
leak in the control panel. So the water heater was
like a smart water heater smelled the gas leak and
turned it off. So thank god for that, right, But
I don't have I don't have hot water right now.
So I've been taking cold, cold bass. And at first
(15:04):
I was like, Okay, this is this kind of sucks, right,
Like it's freezing cold and I'm having to take a
cold bath. Obviously they're very fast, fast baths. But then
I'm like, you know what kind of low key liking
this because honestly, you guys like, I'm not a cold
person at all at all. Whoever knows me well knows
(15:25):
I'm always cold. I always need something hot. I'm always
drinking hot tea or something warm. I always need a
blanket or a jacket. But I've been taking cold bass,
and I will tell you that I feel great. I
really do. They're they're fast obviously they're not as long
(15:45):
as my warm baths that I normally take, but they
you know, the cold plunge. Everybody, I'm sure I've heard
of cold plunge and the benefits of that if you
haven't googled it. I googled it. There's so many, there's
so many to list, there's so many to talk about.
There's mental health benefits, there's physical health benefits. I mean
(16:08):
one of a couple of them are energy wise. It
burns fat. They burn fat, so weight loss. It stimulates
your mind, It gives you the good endorphins that you need.
And I can attest to that, Like I get out
and I'm my body is heated up because your body
(16:31):
automatically needs to heat up when after a cold like
bath or shower, or like if you go in the
deep in the ocean or you jump in a pool
and you come out, it's that same feeling like you're
like exhilarated and your body feels great. So anyways, that's
kind to my little water heater slash cold plunge or
(16:53):
cold bath stories. So if you guys want to try that,
try it so so so yeah, So how do you
guys stay calm during the holidays. I'm just curious if
anybody's listening or wanting to type in, like how do
you guys stay calm, because I definitely have things that
(17:15):
I've done for years actually, which I'll get into. So,
first of all, and I don't know if this stems
from childhood, and I think it does. Christmas and holidays
to me are not like that big of a deal
(17:37):
really truly, like, and again I don't know if it's
because as a kid, like I was kind of bounced around.
I grew up with a single mom and I'd see
my dad, you know, when I can, when I could,
and then I'd bounce back to my mom's and I
don't know, it was kind of more like stressful way,
(18:00):
like I didn't really look forward to that holidays. So
I think as an adult, I kept it going that
way in my mind, Like, so I don't really think
of the holidays as like I'm excited, like, oh, I'm
(18:22):
SAT's gonna bring me all these gifts, Like that's not
my mentality. As it wasn't my mentality as a kid,
it still isn't. So I think I have one up
on that in the fact that I just really keep
my schedule the same, like truly the same. Like I
I work out daily if I can, if that's on
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my schedule. I work, I eat the same. I don't
like indulge. It's just truly like another day to me.
You know, last night when I went out, that was
a treat because, like I said, and I had never
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been to the boat parade, and I hadn't seen my
girlfriend in so long, and we rarely go out, her
and I both we rarely like you know, go out
like have a good time, you know, so I hadn't
seen her like whenever we get together for like tea,
we can debrief and talk about our life and what's
(19:26):
going on in her life, what's going on in my life,
So like I don't know, as single girls, we just
wanted to kind of go out and have fun. And
that was kind of a treat for me. But I
so that's number one. I first of all, I keep
my life really the same. I just do my same
schedule and it may kind of may sound boring to
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some people, but I like it because I don't overextend myself,
you know, I don't burn myself out, so you know, know,
like flu season is here, I rarely get sick, thank God.
So I don't overextend myself. I don't and I feel
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like if I have a choice in saying no to
something that I don't want to do, then I just
say no, you know. Like, so that's one thing. That's
one thing I do. And somebody commented that they meditate
and they garden, so that's amazing, Like that's really good.
I think the meditation piece is something that I do too.
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It's kind of like in my repertoire of everyday stuff,
so that kind of comes natural to me. I do
more like breath work as well. I do breath work,
which I can kind of show you guys. One like
breath exercise that's really easy that you can do. And
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this is like if you're going to like holiday party,
or if something's coming up, even like a family gathering
that is going to stress you out, this breath exercise
will immediately calm your nervous system down. So it's really easy.
You just cover one nostril and you take a breath
from this one, and then you close this one and
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you breathe out, and then you keep this one closed,
breathe in and breathe out. I mean, honestly, guys, I
feel so much like Palmer just by doing that one
(21:45):
breath exercise. So that's nostril breathing. That's actually in my
book I wrote about it. So that's another good tip,
is just to breathe and you can do that one.
I picked that one to show you, guys, because you
can do that when when you're driving, when you're at
a stoplight, when you're right about to go into a
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party or you know, into a family gathering that's going
to stress you out. So that's a really good tip
or technique. Meditation, obviously, like the caller suggested, is always good.
I mean, if you have the time and you can
pull over and do like a little meditation, that's good.
(22:30):
I think prayer is good too. You know, prayer is
a form of meditation, and that's what I believe, you know,
asking for you know, whatever kind of feeling you want
in going into a party or stressful situation. Maybe it's
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more like a loving energy that you want to attract,
or you want to be that loving energy for somebody else,
or maybe patience or laughter or fun or humor or
just keeping it light. So that's something that you can do.
You can say a little prayer or say prayers during
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the holidays, maybe light a candle. It gets dark, you know,
earlier in the day, so light a candle. And that's
actually a good meditation tip too, is just to kind
of if you're not somebody to close your eyes, you
can actually stare into the candle and you know, kind
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of just you know, it's kind of like staring into
a fireplace. You stare into the candle lit, same thing.
So that's something along the lines of meditation. What else
do I do. I don't drink. I don't drink alcohol.
That's something else that I just I don't know, it's
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just I don't drink normally, so I just keep that
going during the holiday again. Last night was a tree.
I had two SIPs of red wine because I had
a drink ticket, and I honestly, you guys, like I took.
I got a straw to drink the red wine because
(24:16):
I don't want to get my tea stained. And I
drank it from the straw and literally I could feel
my throat like tighten up, because it's almost like my
body was telling me it doesn't want this wine. It
really doesn't. Like I do better when I'm not when
I'm not when I don't drink, meaning I do better
(24:40):
in during the night, when I'm out the next day.
I just I'm not really a drinker. I mean, I
had a stage when I went through that, like a
stage when I was drinking more. But I just it
doesn't serve me well anymore. And I'm not like sober
or anything. I'm definitely could go and enjoy glass of
(25:00):
wine here and there, but it just, I don't know,
it's just something that I feel better when I when
I don't drink. I think vacation. If I'm on vacation,
I tend to I think relax more. That's kind of
I think it's par for the course, right if you're
on vacation and I can have a glass of wine
(25:23):
and be totally fine. But when I'm at home, I'm
in work mode. I'm you know, I want to have
my all of like my my wheels working so I
can be creative and think about ideas to talk to
you guys about and think about things that I can
bring to the podcast that will be helpful. So my
(25:45):
point is is that I do not drink alcohol, and
I think holidays is a good time to maybe try it.
Maybe if you normally drink at holiday parties, maybe get
a selter water or I'm a tea person, so I
like caught green tea, a lot, coffee, hot chocolate. Last
(26:06):
night I had the best hot chocolate. It was so good,
so yummy. So that's another thing I don't do. Another
thing that speaking like on that subject of like drinking,
another thing that I I do at a bare minimum
is drink caffeine. Caffeine, I feel, also taxes your system.
(26:33):
It dehydrates you, It gives you the jitters. Your nervous
system definitely, you know, takes it. Just it's not too good.
It's not too good for the liver. Also on a
health standpoint, So I really try to watch caffeine. Now,
when I say caffeine, i'm talking about coffee. I do
(26:57):
intermitute fasting. So sometimes I like a little bit of coffee.
But what I do to minimize the jitters is I
put butter in my coffee. So butter in the coffee
actually minimizes the caffeine. It like dilutes it, so it
(27:22):
doesn't give you that full, like jittery feeling. And it
for my system, which is my system, I'm super sensitive.
So if I could do that. I would recommend if
you guys are going to drink caffeine in the morning
or during the day, maybe put a slab of butter
in there. The butter is actually good for you, The
(27:42):
fat is actually good for you. You can do coconut oil
in there, you can eat butter, you can do ghee.
MCT oil is another really good oil for you for
the skin, for the for your hair, for your nails, whatever.
Somebody asked Stacey, would that be real butter or margarine?
I use carry gold butter unsalted. I've also used vegan
(28:09):
butter which has coconut oil in it and a little
bit of sea salt, which actually is really good, Stacey.
So if you want to try that, if I'm weird,
I liked it. It was a little bit salty, creamy
and like coffee tasting really yummy to me. But if
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you don't like the salt, I would just get the
carry gold butter unsalted, or like I said, you can
use gee spelled g h e E or mct oil.
Somebody else asked tea. Would that be tea or coffee? Yeah?
(28:54):
I know tea has caffeine in it, but again it's
a different kind of caffeinated feeling in your body. Green
tea to me doesn't keep me up at night. It
actually green tea is actually known to give you stress relief.
(29:18):
So you guys might want to try that if you
need a little bit of pick me up. It's a
pick me up, but without all the jitters. That's what
I'm really trying to say here is that the holidays
bring a lot of a lot of things, you guys.
It brings emotions up, family stuff, getting the perfect gift,
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or maybe you're in a new relationship, maybe you're in
a relationship that just ended and your heart broken. Maybe
you're thinking of somebody that passed and you're you know,
you're grieving, and I'm sorry if you are. First of all,
holidays tend to be more intense. So we're talking about
things that will keep you more in alignment with feeling
(30:06):
balanced in your body. So let's just recap. So breath
work I taught you the nostril breathing that immediately will
calm you down. Meditation. Somebody mentioned gardening, and anything with
your hands. I sometimes when I'm overthinking, I'm in my
(30:31):
mind too much. What I'll do is I'll fold laundry.
And that might sound like, Okay, that's not going to
do anything, but it really does. So I feel like
anything with your hands folding laundry for me works. You
can maybe draw or like color or like even like
(30:51):
with crayons. Maybe get something to like play with, you know,
be playful with yourself, anything with your hands. So guard
is good cooking if you guys like cooking, anything to
just enjoy yourself. Get really in your body and out
of your mind. And I mean if you have to
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go to that holiday family gathering that you don't want to,
or you're really in grief or your heart broken, or
you're in a new relationship, that's stressful. Exciting, right, it's
exciting to have a new relationship, but it can be
stressful too. Or if you're out like shopping all day
(31:33):
and you're you know, you're overstressed about getting the new
gift whatever it is. I mean, you guys can type
in and let me know, like what's stressing you out.
I mean I shared with you that my water heater broke.
I don't have hot water, so I could have easily
gotten in my mind, in my head and been like negative, Nelly,
(31:53):
I don't have any water. This sucks, like, you know,
it's cold, like it's holidays, you know, but no, like
I kind of spinned it around, I'm like, you know what,
I actually like this. It's just like pepping me up
these cold baths. Like I'm not in there taking a
warm bath for thirty minutes. I'm ready faster, Like it
(32:14):
gives me this pep and I'm happy. I'm happy. It
brings me back to being happy. And I think that's
the whole idea of the holidays, is staying happy with
yourself and with other people. Stressing about having to be
around family. I know, I'm so sorry, Charles. Uh, it's hard.
(32:36):
It's hard. Family can be really tough, you guys, I
got a chrinkle water. Let me see what else do?
What what can I say about that? I think it
just really comes down to being really intentional about staying
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in your body and out of your head and not
reacting and responding like kind of take a breath, take
a beat, wishing more family can be here with us.
Somebody else said, wishing more family can be here with us. Yeah,
So it goes back to either we're stressed out about
(33:20):
going to the holiday gathering with family, or we're wishing
that family could be with us. So either way, it's
it's hard. I'm telling you guys, it's hard right now
for the person that typed in. You know, they got
to go to the family gathering. They're stressed. I think
I was going on. I was going to say, like,
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make sure you're taking a beat, like before you talk,
like really think, take a breath, you know, go in
the bathroom and do the nostril breathing, or just go
in the bathroom and take a minute to get back
into yourself and ask yourself, am I going to respond
to something that I'll regret saying? Maybe? Or you know,
(34:06):
like am I gonna regret something that I say? Should
I say something more loving to that person that annoys
me or that triggers me? And by the way, you guys,
triggers are actually good. You know, whoever's triggering you, they're
actually showing you something that you need to work on
for yourself. You know, our family is actually meant to
(34:29):
trigger us for personal growth. Let's get real. Let's get honest.
They're going to trigger us. But why why are we
being triggered? What's the reason? The reason is for us
to look at ourselves and ask ourselves where do we
need personal growth? In? Okay, Like that's the real reason.
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Where do we need to grow? If we feel judged,
then where are we judging ourselves? Like let's just say,
for example, somebody triggers me and my family and I
feel judged. How am I judging myself? In order for
me to have a mirror back at me showing me
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that I'm judging myself? Do you understand what I'm saying?
I hope you, guys are. What I'm trying to say
is that everything on the outside, everything that's external, is
a reflection of who we are internally. So whatever is
triggering you externally, there's something internally that we need to
focus on and we need to heal. So that's deep,
(35:38):
you guys. I know it's deep. It's a deeper conversation.
And I'll just say right now, I'm going to be
rolling out in twenty twenty five. I'm going to be
rolling out some great cool stuff, Okay, And one of
the things, and I'll talk more about the things I'm
going to be rolling out when i end the show,
(35:59):
but I'll just plug it in right here because one
of the things that I'm going to be rolling out
is one on one time with me. I am a
certified life coach. I went to through life coaching certification
back in twenty nineteen when actually when I was going
through my divorce and I am ready to really have
(36:21):
someone on one time and really offer what I've learned
and what I've grown, what I've been taught, and so
I know I have something to offer. And so basically
what I'm saying is that I'm going to be rolling
that out in twenty twenty five more life coaching one
on one with Jenna, So stay tuned for that, and
(36:42):
like I said, i'll announce it else I'm rolling out
in twenty twenty five towards the end of the show.
But so I know I went off on a tangent
on that, but it's true, you guys, if you're being triggered,
you got to look at that. You got to embrace it,
feel your emotions around it. If you're sad, if you're angry,
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if you're whatever, if you feel left out, feel it,
but try not to take it personal. And I don't know,
reach out to me in twenty twenty five and I
will teach you more on that and how to handle triggers.
But let's get to the other question. Wendy. Yes, I
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wish you more family live closer, so we go. I know.
Oh my gosh, I'm sorry, Wendy. Where do they live
and where are you? Is it? Is it a drive away?
I'm assuming it's a plane ride away, because if it
was a drive you'd be there. Are you alone? I'm
sorry if you're alone. If you're alone, then I would
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what would I do if I was alone? Oh gosh,
that's hard. I'm always alone, by the way, I'm definitely.
I grew up as an only child. I have half
brothers and sisters, but I consider myself an only child
because that's how I grew up. So okay, Wendy, we
are in Georgia, isn't and most family is in La Okay,
(38:16):
so they're near me. Can you not take a plane
last minute? Can you hop on a plane? Maybe not?
Do zoom calls? Can you do zoom calls with your family?
That would be fun a zoom caller. Actually, FaceTime is
really cool too, So maybe, Wendy, if you have an iPhone,
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do face times maybe like open gifts together on a
FaceTime call or a zoom call. I think that would
be fun. And at least if you can't like hug
and touch each other, at least you could see each
other's face and be with each other on that day.
And if you're alone, if anybody is alone, god, what
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would I do? If I was alone? I would probably
try to make a reservation somewhere, like at a restaurant,
so I could be around people and eat around people.
Even if I was alone. I would read a good book.
But I'm a reader, so if you guys aren't a reader,
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aren't readers. I would listen to a podcast. Listen to
listen to a good show. You know, it's so good.
I think laughter is so good, you guys. Humor is
always the best. Put on something that makes you laugh.
I like Friends. That's kind of like my nightly show.
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I put it on on my computer at night, right
before I go to bed because they're funny and like,
it's fun it's funny, Like I need a good laugh
right before bed thing to like decompress and just laugh
laugh off the day and so do something funny. Okay,
Wendy Louisiana, Okay, I got that wrong. I'm sorry. We
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talk and all, but it's better to be in person.
We just can't manage to schedule every one time at
the same time.
Speaker 3 (40:17):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
Yeah, it would be better to be in person. But
can you guys do FaceTime calls Maybe that would be helpful. Yeah,
I would definitely do FaceTime calls or zoom calls. But
thank you Wendy for sharing that. So yeah, I think
that's all I got for you, guys. Breathing exercises, stay calm,
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take a beat before you say anything back that you
would regret. Yeah, just be loving, Be loving to yourself,
Love yourself, ask yourself what would love do in this moment,
you know, and like, really come from that place. And
I feel like if we come from that place, first
of all, becomes a habit, and second of all, it
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just it like just squashes kind of like the air.
Like my example of James, this guy, like if I
would have come off like a bee to him, like
rude and just be word right, like I would have
Happy Holidays, thank you, thank you, Happy holidays to you,
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Merry Christmas, thank you. So yeah, come off from come
come from the place of love you guys. It really
just helps you, know it, It helps you to feel better.
First of all, you will feel better. You will be
more in your power if you come from love. And
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it also maybe will shock the other person, you know,
and then they will not have a comeback, because what's
somebody gonna do if you're not coming off rude. They
can't come off rude, they don't get defensive. It like
squashes their defense. So remember that this Christmas you guys,
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triggers are good for you. Breathe, meditate, use your hands,
come from love and yeah, that's it. That's it. Happy holidays. Enjoy,
be present. We're never going to get this time back.
So whatever is happening, cold showers, water heaters, breaking, rude people,
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people try to trigger you, just be present. Enjoy as
much as you can because this time is not going
to be back. You get a one time chance here
and enjoy it as much as you can. Enjoy yourself.
Be good to yourself, Eat good food, Drink good food,
stay away from alcohol, caffeine. Limit your caffeine. We talked
(42:59):
to about that, so really quick, before I end twenty
twenty five, I am going to be rolling out a
online video course based on my book. So it's love
your Body, Love your Life. Fifty two tips that will
radically change your health. It's going to be an online course.
You're going to be getting also recipes and affirmations from me.
(43:23):
So I'm going to be rolling that out. I already
talked about my one on one offer that I'm going
to be rolling out in twenty twenty five. I'm so
stay tuned for that. I'm excited. I hope I can
have a one on one with you guys, with all
my listeners or some of my listeners that are interested
in being supported through twenty twenty five. Let me support
you and guide you and talk about what you guys
(43:47):
need to you know, what you need more of in
twenty twenty five, health, wellness, beauty, relationship, whatever you guys
think you need more support with, I'm going to be
offering that. And then also, if you guys know me well,
I'm a singer songwriter as well, so I'm going to
(44:08):
be doing a little music video rolling that out in
twenty twenty five, So stay tuned for that. I'm excited
for that. I love it, love it, love it. Singing
and music makes me so so happy, So yeah, tap
into what makes you happy. You guys, stay good and
I shall see you in twenty twenty five. Oh, before
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I forget. Also, I have a good lineup so far
for twenty twenty fives for guests to come on the podcast.
I have a hormone doctor coming on. It's for women
and men. Believe it or not, men do have hormone
situations that they need to, you know, get educated on.
(44:51):
So I'm having a hormone doctor come on, and I'm
also having an esthetician come on. I did a solo
episode a couple of weeks ago on skincare, but I'm
gonna have a professional esthetician come on and talk about skin.
So that's my lineup so far. I might also have
(45:12):
a hair person coming on, and also a card reader,
like somebody that reads tarot. I don't know if you
guys are interested into that, but it's kind of fun,
you know, taro is It can be fun, like we
have free will, you know. So I just use tarot
(45:33):
as fun and I don't know, it's something different, interesting,
So if you guys are into that, I might have
somebody come on to talk about that. Yeah, that's it.
Stay good you guys, and until next time, love your
body and love your life. Take care.
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