January 25, 2024 • 46 mins
Join Dr. Lewis in a conversation with Jen Ryan. Jen is the Founder of Life First Coaching. She coaches high-achieving women whose success at work is costing them personal happiness. Through one-on-one coaching Jen helps women create better boundaries, build satisfying relationships, and find fulfillment outside of work, all without losing their edge. Jen has coached leaders and individuals in one way or another, for most of her professional life. Email: jen@lifefirstcoaching.com
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on the fast track to success.Well. Hello, and welcome to the
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Success for Women's Show, where youcan view us on Talk for TV and
listen to us on the Women forWomen Network. I am doctor Madeline Ann
lewis your host, and my missionis to help women accelerate the path to
success. Well. Today is thefirst episode of twenty twenty four and the
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topic for today is life First Coachingand my guest is Jen Ryan. So
when we talk about bringing people ontothe show, especially in the beginning of
the year, I am going todo with just a little bit of change.
This time, I'm going to bringJin on and I'm gonna and how
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I always give you the standard bioon our guests, Well, this time
I am going to let her tellus what she wants us to know about
Jen Ryan. So welcome Jen Ryanto the Success for Women Radio and TV
show. Tell us tell the viewersand the listener what you want them to
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know about Jen Ryan. Oh mygosh, where do I begin? Well,
thank you, that's such an excitingopportunity. I'm very delighted to be
here. There's lots I'd love toshare about myself. I've got a kind
of an interesting story in that I'mclearly not from around here. So I
moved to the US with my husbandin twenty twelve. I had a long
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career in human resources in Australia andgot the opportunity to take on a job
in the headquarters of the organization thatI worked for at the time. Goodness,
so my hair is annoying with today, and so I joined the company
in the US and had ten yearswith MasterCard, actually in the corporate head
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office in New York. And afteroh gosh, in just last year actually
we moved here to Colorado, andwe've changed up our lives completely and we
now have a mountain kind of lifestyleas opposed to the urban lifestyle of New
York. But of course all ofmy life is back in Australia and one
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of the big challenges is managing familyfriendships, circles in Australia and family friendships,
life and the corporate a career nowhere in the US, so I
live constantly with the foot in bothcamps. And having just come back from
excuse me, from Sydney this Christmasperiod, you know, it just reinforces
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how it is a challenge to liveacross two countries and yet it's such an
honor as well. Absolutely, Sothat really forms part of who I am
and a lot of what I bringto the work that I do too.
So I could go on and onabout who I am. I don't actually
to do a lot of coaching,so talk to us about that. Why
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do you coach and what is yourpassion for coaching? Yeah, definitely.
Well, after a long it's nearlymore than twenty years excuse me, of
human resources jobs, corporate American,corporate Astralia, it really stood out for
me that the one thing I lovethe most, excuse me, what's working
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in the coaching way with managers,with team members, with senior executives,
et cetera. Realizing that the workthey we're doing is really can really be
enhanced by sitting down, spending timewith them and understanding what the challenges are
that are behind the work that's sittingin front of them. So, for
example, a manager that's struggling tomotivate his team so often we really sat
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down and talked about it. Therewas something else going on in the background
of his or her life, andyou'd be able to understand that and help
them bring that to the fore.A deal with that was an important part
of the work that I did.And then on the other end of the
scale, there would be a teammember wanting to once their career not having
any idea how to begin that process. I mean, human resources were have
lots of structures and tools, youknow, things to make that possible for
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them. But when you sit downand really spend time with somebody and understand
what the motivators are and help themmove that forward, the career forward because
of those motivators, then it changesthe story. So you know, that's
really been a big part of it. And then the third thing that's motivated
me, honestly to become a coachis that I have had my own coach
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had a challenging life story from apersonal perspective, which I'm very happy to
share, as well as a toxicwork relationship at one point, and those
things motivated me to get my owncoach. And when you see what coach
you can do for yourself, it'sjust really I want to leave. Essentially.
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Yeah, now you mentioned that youhad your own coach, So how
you know having your own coach,how are really coaching? How did that
really impact your life? Because whatif you mentioned you do have your own
coach? Also? Yes, absolutely, in fact, just what every coach
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I know has their own coach,and it's all about what you can bring
to the experience you share them withothers, and so that becomes an important
part of it. The shift wasthat I was able to step back from
the issues that were just crowding mein and helping really making me struggle.
Essentially, like coach helped me seedifferent perspectives, helped me see that what
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I had inside me to shift thechallenges that were in front of me was
all, as I said, wasall there. And I you know,
I'm resourceful and creative and whole,and I can bring the things that I
need to to challenge the situation.I can bring those to the four I
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just need somebody to bring them outof me as a client or as a
you know, as somebody needing thatsupport. And I find that's the case
with every coaching session that I have. Where As humans, we're all really
I hold that we are all reallycreative and resourceful and whole, and we
just can't get out of our ownway sometimes. So, you know,
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being able to think about things differentlybecause I'm being asked a really big challenging
question and open question, you knowthat I can sit with and kind of
think through the answers to just reallyhelp you bring that stuff out of yourself.
And we often say in coaching actuallythat the real work gets done in
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between the sessions because I will aska client big question, and I will
invite them to sit with that questionas sort of like homework essentially, and
then you know, journal on it, think about it, see what comes
up for them, and when thatoccurs that they take the time to do
that, as I did in myown experience, nine times out of ten,
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you get the answer, you geta new idea, you see a
new perspective. I kind of liketo say that it's like opening a window
and letting all the light and aircome in so that underneath that issue you've
got all this new way of thinking. So that was the impact my own
coach had, and I'm loving I'mto share that with others too. Now.
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I noticed when I was reading aboutyou one of the things you said
that you uh, when you're coaching, you help them to build better boundaries,
world satisfying relationships, and find fulfillmentoutside of work without in their edge.
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So most of your clients, theclients that you coach, are most
of them women? Or do youhave men too that you go majority of
the women. I have had acouple of very brave, amazing male clients
who because unfortunately we don't see alot of men stepping into coaching. That's
been my experience anyway, certainly notin the in the non leadership space.
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But yes, most of my clientshave been women, and they are most
typically experiencing lots of success at work, doing great things, shooting the lights
out, and yet they're miserable outsideof work. They step back for a
moment and realize that they have andthey don't have a life that they hope
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they would have. Perhaps they don'thave a partner in the point of life
that they thought they would have beenable to enjoy that don't have a family
that is working really long hours,it's impossible that they feel it's impossible to
say no to the demands of work. They can't stop because that impacts So
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they think that impacts their ability toget a promotion or the pay rise,
or to to it'll make them lookvulnerable or aren't able to perform the job.
And you know what I help themdo is see that those things aren't
necessarily true, and that if youwant a life that is more fulfilling and
has time for family, friendships,you know, good health, etc.
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Outside of work, then got tostop. Something's got to change, and
putting some boundaries in place helps you, helps you say no to the things
that just are not serving you andare impacting the way you know you truly
want to live. It seems tobe most of us can put up with
that for a period of time,that sense of you know, this doesn't
feel good, but look, Idon't know what to do to change it.
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There comes a point in time whereyou sit back and reflect and say,
I'm missing out. I'm not gettingthe things that I want and I
feel miserable and potentially, you know, what I've even seen with some clients
is that they're drinking too much,they're certainly eating the wrong things. So
their health and lifestyle issues have beenreally impacted. And that's when it hits
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them in a poor sleep, notenough sleep, probably on an international phone
call. And actually the one verybrave male client that I had was a
really clear example of the same thing. He was a family guy, he
was in a global job that tookhim two different markets all around the world
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and tippy and he was based heactually was based in Australia and typically the
phone calls and teammates that he hadworked three a m. In the morning.
Now, something's got to give.You can't take doing that as a
you know, as a as ahuman essentially, and that was week in,
week out constantly. So that wasone of the creators for him to
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find a way to try and makesome change. Now, you you mentioned
a lot of what I think aretheir pain points. Uh were going over
some of the things that you Sohow do you help them to deal with
some of these things? Because kindof went and through went, you know,
and through a lot of things thatyou've been seeing as you've been coaching
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these ladies. How do you know, especially you know, you know you're
coming out of an old year intoa new year, and people start making
these resolutions, and you know,because we want to change stuff that was
going on and you know that thelast year. So how do you help
them through that? How do youget them to deal with these things?
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It's a great question. One ofthe one of the things I've held true
for this year particularly is that it'snot about goals. It's about growth.
And I read that somewhere and Ican't remember that, but I loved the
essence of that. So so youknow, it's definitely not about making these
amazing these resolutions that which don't think, you know, we won't be able
to stick to. That's one ofone of the key things that we do,
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one of the first things that wedo together in our program of work,
and it's typically if I just goback and step, it's typically either
a three month program or a sixmonth program, because what we know is
the change doesn't happen overnight, andyou have to connect. If you find
a way to step in, takeownership of the journey you want to take,
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and make the changes that you wantto make, and that does not
happen in one or two sessions,so typically over the course of three or
six months, will work on oneof the first things around the values,
So identifying your values, what theymean to you, how they show up
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in your life, and how youlive them when you are sustaining those values
in your life, and understanding andbecoming very aware of when those values are
being stomped on, Like the valuesare those things that are so intrinsically inside
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us that are they must must notbe squashed. They must then unsquashable if
you like. And somebody gave youthat to me, I love that,
so you know that that sense thatI need in tech, for example,
in tech is critical to me.Honesty, adventure, exhilaration, creativity,
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joy, what you know, thereare many all those beautiful words. We
actually go through a couple of exercisesaround identifying those values and naming them,
and then we start with a biglong list and you can bring them into
about ten that really start to resonatewith you. And then I encourage my
clients to really sharpen that down toat least so rather than at the most
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five key values that they absolutely knowthey cannot not have in their lives so
that they become really guiding minds andguiding points for their lives. Once you
know what your values are, thenyou can see where it's all going wrong.
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Because, for example, if Ivalue this is a part example,
if I can value cree creativity andI'm in a job that gives me no
spare hours in my day, myvalue of creativity is being squashed. I'm
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tolerating something that's not working for me, and that's why I feel miserable.
It's why I often say it feelslike sand in your shoe rubbing on you.
You can kind of put up withit for a while, and then
at some point it just you can'tany longer. And that's when that a
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critical value, an important value inyour life is not being honored, and
that gives you a sense of whatneeds to change. So then we work
on all right, Well, thatset of values, those five or six
doesn't know in that whatever the numberof key values are that are really important
to you must be present in yourlife. How do you create and preserve
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them? And so what boundaries doyou need to put in place to stay
in that creativity example or I'm notgoing to work past seven pm two or
three nights a week, or Imean hopefully five nights a week. But
you know, let's start somewhere.I'm going to allow for some space in
my time. I have to bereally clear about that. So I have
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to create a boundary and I needto stick with it. So the extension
of that then is I encourage myclients to create what I call a boundaries
manifesto and sit down together and wetalk about what boundaries are really important and
we were manifesto essentially is when westate that what's truly important to us and
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we write it down and make acommitment we do that, then it's the
starting point. There won't be somuch you can do, you know,
to help somebody get to that place. It's all the last to honor those
boundaries, then expect that of us. Now you talked about the boundaries,
the gning you know, their personalvalues and setting boundaries. So this is
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obviously important. So in the inyour coaching with them, does this take
a long time for them to youknow, get through this? Is it?
Is it something that's really difficult fora lot of people to to try
to figure sit down and actually say, Okay, this is exactly what my
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personal values are, this is exactlyhow I'm going to set my boundaries.
And how important is it? Orwhy do boundaries matter? Because I know
you hear people say, you knowa kind of gloss over that a lot
of times, you know, don'tcross the boundary or something like that is
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something that really does matter to youknow, and people, especially as you
go to life, to make surethat you have those boundaries. Yeah,
they absolutely matter. So to answerthe first part of your question, the
exercise of finding values, miney forour values, understanding what they are,
and then setting the boundaries takes aslong as it needs, quite honestly,
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and for some people achieving those anunderstanding of those things in their life might
take weeks because I generally meet witha client every two weeks, sometimes a
little more frequently, So if they'veonly we're together for three months, that's
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six weeks, and it might welltake that period of time to get to
that place. But it's a greatlaunch pad then to either work together a
little bit more or for them tofeel comfortable to go out into the world
and kind of get started in implementingthem. So it doesn't really matter how
long it takes, but it's animportant part of the process. Why boundaries
matter is because they really establish acontainer for us to work in. They
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establish a sort of a framework thatwe can put around ourselves, our families,
our work lives to say this iswhere I this is where I hold
my space, and this is what'simportant to me. They give you a
sense of control. That's the othervery important thing. And you know,
anybody who is finding that, theypeople tend to know what that their boundaries
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have been shifted or they've lost thesense of their boundaries. So we kind
of all understand when we don't havethem anymore. And the challenge is to
have them back in our lives andto create a sense of control again,
be able to say no, andto stand up and say no with confidence,
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with a sense of clarity of purpose, like why is that important to
me? And to not feel youhave to explain them away. That's the
other really important thing about boundaries.You don't need to justify them. You
know those boundaries are important to me. They may be different to your boundaries.
That's of course, that's fine,and so we're individual we don't need
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to explain them. So that becomesa really explaining and justifying them is probably
a better word, you know.Now having said that, I realized that
in a work context, it's notall it's not a better roses. It's
not easy to say to your bossand sorry, I'm not going to be
available for that nine pm phone callor that ten pm font call, whatever
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it might be. So finding away to say it's important to me,
for my clarity, for my health, for my whatever it is, my
family situation, and just step intoit and own it. And nine times
out of ten what happens with whenyou set a boundary for yourself, step
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into it and owner giving permission toother people to do the same. And
nine times out of ten, youknow, so many people have said,
you know that worked for me,and actually others took the lead as well
or now done the same. AndI just realized I gave them a gift
in that sense. So it's it'sinterestingness when you stand up for yourself,
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others admire that it has the potentialto change others. Absolutely. Yeah,
So with your coaching programs, becauseI know, you know, everybody come
to you have different you know thatthey're trying to work through well, how
do how do you tailor the strategiesfor for them individually? How do you
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do Yeah, it's really it's nota science, it's an art. And
by that what I mean is thatis up to me to listen clearly and
to hear what the topic is.And there's no I mean, whilst most
of my clients that are going toget value out of doing work on their
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values and their boundaries and you know, other elements of who they are,
if that's not relevant, then that'snot going to happen, you know.
So it's entirely I'm not doing myjob if I'm not listening to hear what
the big topic is and see what'ssitting under that. And it's almost well,
that's actually how I do think aboutit. There's always like a big
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heading a topic, you know,I'm unhappy, I'm unfulfilled, i hate
my job, whatever, and sittingunderneath that are several other topics, and
on any given day it's my jobto create space for those other things to
come up. And gender that's theone big thing that I think about a
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lot. I think about a lotthat it's important to say, is not
my agenda and it's not going tobe my solutions that agenda, and the
solutions will come through your own thinkingand me helping you get there. Mm
hmmm. So so you literally guidethem through some of the challenges and opport,
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you know, opportunities. That's that'sa part of your program, right
absolutely. Yeah. And when Iand when we say guiding them through,
I'm hearing that we might need totake it apart this way or this way,
and I'm going to go like that, because honestly, every coaching session
for one person can have a numberof different elements to it, but what
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is important is getting to that topic. And then it's about the questions that
I ask, that open questions.And you know, most of us,
I hope no supposed we know thedifference between an open and a close question,
which is one that has tell meabout or how is or what about
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you know, why blah blah blah, rather than a yes or no answer
because something, And so that opensup a whole lot of opportunity for thinking
differently. One of the other importantthings as I ask those sorts of questions
is to create space for the answer. And honestly, there are times in
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some of our sessions where there isa beautiful silence that just needs to sit
there and needs to needs to permeatethe space so that as a client,
they are able to just sit withwhat's going on in their minds. And
it's important for me to encourage thatspace as well and encourage emotion will allow
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for question at least, you know, and that nine times out of ten
that will happen as well. Soan honoring that's those spaces and those emotions
and honoring you know, celebration andchampioning people as they go through their the
answering of the questions and thinking aboutthings. So does that kind of give
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you a sense of it? Absolutely? Absolutely so. I guess my next
question then would be how has yourown background and work experience and influence the
way you understand and support your clients. Yeah, that's where that's where I
think. I mean, some ofmy challenges have been tough, like we
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all have had, of course,but they definitely build an empathy. I
think that is that I found veryvaluable. So, I mean I had
a successful career in human resources,and at the very end of it,
in the last six months of essentiallyI had a very toxic work situation that
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meant I needed to change obviously thework situation itself, but along the way,
I had a charlat big challenge inmy relationship that created well, my
husband and I separated for ten years, so during that time I was very
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vulnerable and I was feeling very unsureand lost confidence and the only thing that
I was good at actually was thejob for a time, and I put
up with an awful lot of toxicityuntil there came a time when I just
knew this is not healthy, helpfuland not healthy. And having a coach
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at that time to just ask thequestions, open up what else is possible?
Change the way I thought about thingsallowed me to number one, leave
that job with confidence and step intomy own coaching work. And number two,
more recently from that, my husbandI came back together again, and
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you know, we have a verydifferent life now as a result. And
I know that it would not havebeen possible with coaching, because I would
have held all sorts of judgments andchallenges with frustrations close to my chest and
told nobody about them, your friendsand he's important being actually the coaching coaching
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with actions and homework and that sortof stuff. When I can talk more
about that in a minute. Butthat is very different from having a really
great coaching, a really great conversationwith a girlfriend. The straight is there,
you know, the willingness to challengeyour client to bring something out of
them, or to remind them thatthey said they wanted to change something and
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you're doing it again. Is thatwhere you want to go? Do your
client? That loving challenging is reallyimportant. And I experienced all that coach
that helped, and that part ofmy life became really an important driver for
what I know. I want tohelp other women achieve, which is fulfillment
and enjoy it. M hm.So do you know your work has had
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an impact on your class? Imean, you know what kind of feedback
do you get for The one bigthing I love is referrals, of course,
So whenever I get a referral,that's brilliant, and that tells me,
yeah, that's a good thing.Somebody has appreciated what I've done.
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The other thing I do, actuallypart of my my community and reaching out
to my community and sharing my thoughtswith my community is that I do have
a weekly newsletter and I get lotsof lovely responses from that because I write
in a very heartfelt, vulnerable kindof way. So that's, you know,
that's an important feedback tool. Andhonestly, it is feedback along the
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way and the coaching journey. AndI really welcome a client saying to me
that question, don't ask me thatquestion that's too hard, or please don't
go there. I don't want to, you know, give me homework,
give me more homework. And whenI say homework, give me a journaling
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exercise to do or give me somethingto think about, a question to ponder.
I want that, and so Iwelcome the two the conversations that go
on. Mm hmmm hmm. Sotell us, do you have anything coming
up on the horizon, any trainingor any you know thing that you want
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to let us know about. Yeah, I want to. I'd like to
say I have more than I dobecause I'm doing some other I've got projects
in place that are not quite readyto land yet. I am for anybody
in the Colorado area. I willbe working with a colleague on a workshop
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coming up just after Valentine's Day andwe'll be sorry, there's some noise in
my background. I hope that's notnot hearing that. So this is this
workshop coming up on the fifteenth ofFebruary is a workshop where we will be
going through values and boundaries and lookingout where at parts of our life.
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We call it the wheel of life, where we'll be looking at those elements
of our lives that are fulfilled andnot and be fairly high level. But
it'll be fun journey. We haven'tgot our details all lined up yet,
but that's coming, so I couldcertainly share that in due course. The
main thing is that I truly welcomehaving a discovery conversation with potential clients,
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and so people are interested in findingout more about coaching with me, what
our programs, my programs look like, sharing a little bit about their challenges
and seeing whether coaching is the rightthing for them. I really welcome a
discovery conversation and they are complimentary.So for certainly for your listeners here,
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really welcome you to pick up thephone or jump on the website and book
a session with me. As Isaid, it's complementary and over the course
of thirty or forty minutes together wecan get a sense of what's going on
for you and how coaching can helpyour situation. And you know, I
say, even though you're not youmay have different talent challenges to the sorts
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of things we've discussed here. Asa life coach, you know, we
go there and there's really no limits, so I really welcome and invite.
So if you had one piece ofadvice to leave with our viewers and our
listeners, what would that piece ofadvice be. Oh, that's a great
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question. So much. One bigthing that is on my heart is to
say, don't sit with things thatare bothering you, don't let them overwhelm
you. And so that you gointo twenty twenty four feeling the way you
did in twenty twenty three, startafresh, take the opportunity. And I
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will say, even if there issomething that is a potentially good opportunity or
a good something good coming that youdon't know how to get to or don't
know how to achieve or obtain,that's also worth coaching on as well to
help you get there. So it'snot only about struggling and challenging the challenges,
it's about stepping into new opportunities aswell. So don't be the person
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you were or the things that don'tlive into the things that were holding you
back in community to get some coachinghave a conversation. Absolutely believe it.
If our viewers and our listeners wantedto reach out to you, how can
they do so? Yes, Ithink you'll be posting the website my website,
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and that's really the most efficient wayI think at this point. With
that, you'll be able to jumponto my email, my network and get
the usual newsletter sorry every week.So that'll be wonderful and I really welcome
that. And then that gives youaccess to who I am a little bit
more about me. So between mywebsite and then jumping on and sharing your
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email address and picking up the newslettereach week, that's fine. The other
thing I'd absolutely welcome, of course, is that people just contact me directly
on jen at life first coaching dotcom. I love that too, so
and I really welcome that, andyour social media platforms also too. Yes,
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And I just just dropped last week'swell, just dropped my most recent
newsletter on Facebook and leaked in today. Now that I will say is new
Jennifer me. So I'm going toI've committed myself to doing that much more
this year. It was good.Yes, I don't want to just oh,
absolutely well, it has been apleasure to have you as our first
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guest of twenty twenty four on thesuccessful Women's Show this year, and let
talk more about what you're doing,and you know, having you on some
of the other things that we havecoming up. But it's been a pleasure
having you on. Thank you somuch for taking time out of your schedule
to be here. Appreciate it.Oh gosh, I appreciate it. Off
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a really honor to be number onefor the year. My goodness, Yeah,
thank you doctor. Good to seeyou again. By now okay,
now, I'm just going to giveeveryone just some upcoming events for some things
that I'll be participating in. Butfirst of all, make sure that you
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the journal three hundred and sixty fiveDays to Transformation. If you'd like to
purchase these books, if you wantto, you can purchase one or both
as a set. To do so, please go to my website, which
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can purchase one or both of thebooks as a set. If you'd like
to find out more about any informationon the book, you can email me
of course at info at EXWSI dotcom. Also make sure to tune in
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ninth. It's the Black Business Olympics, and as you know, the Black
Business Olympics is a fundraiser to providescholarships and laptops to high school seniors going
to college and k through twelve entrepreneurs. The Black Business Olympics showcases black businesses,
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to be a speaker or to showcaseyour business, you can email me at
info at EXWSI dot com. Andif you'd like to donate for the scholarship
or to the fundraiser, then youcould go to Black businessxpousa dot com and
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my YouTube channel, our YouTube andput in my name, actually no,
put in Black Business Olympics and watchthe live session so you'll be able to
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see me speaking at seven pm tonight. Also running right now and I am
very excited is my show up toRise Up Summit. It is running.
It started today January twenty fifth,and it will run through the twenty seventh,
which is Saturday. And to watchit live, you can go to
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topic for today is life First Coachingand my guest is Jen Ryan. So
when we talk about bringing people ontothe show, especially in the beginning of
the year, I am going todo with just a little bit of change.
This time, I'm going to bringJin on and I'm gonna and how
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I always give you the standard bioon our guests, Well, this time
I am going to let her tellus what she wants us to know about
Jen Ryan. So welcome Jen Ryanto the Success for Women Radio and TV
show. Tell us tell the viewersand the listener what you want them to
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know about Jen Ryan. Oh mygosh, where do I begin? Well,
thank you, that's such an excitingopportunity. I'm very delighted to be
here. There's lots I'd love toshare about myself. I've got a kind
of an interesting story in that I'mclearly not from around here. So I
moved to the US with my husbandin twenty twelve. I had a long
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career in human resources in Australia andgot the opportunity to take on a job
in the headquarters of the organization thatI worked for at the time. Goodness,
so my hair is annoying with today, and so I joined the company
in the US and had ten yearswith MasterCard, actually in the corporate head
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office in New York. And afteroh gosh, in just last year actually
we moved here to Colorado, andwe've changed up our lives completely and we
now have a mountain kind of lifestyleas opposed to the urban lifestyle of New
York. But of course all ofmy life is back in Australia and one
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of the big challenges is managing familyfriendships, circles in Australia and family friendships,
life and the corporate a career nowhere in the US, so I
live constantly with the foot in bothcamps. And having just come back from
excuse me, from Sydney this Christmasperiod, you know, it just reinforces
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how it is a challenge to liveacross two countries and yet it's such an
honor as well. Absolutely, Sothat really forms part of who I am
and a lot of what I bringto the work that I do too.
So I could go on and onabout who I am. I don't actually
to do a lot of coaching,so talk to us about that. Why
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do you coach and what is yourpassion for coaching? Yeah, definitely.
Well, after a long it's nearlymore than twenty years excuse me, of
human resources jobs, corporate American,corporate Astralia, it really stood out for
me that the one thing I lovethe most, excuse me, what's working
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in the coaching way with managers,with team members, with senior executives,
et cetera. Realizing that the workthey we're doing is really can really be
enhanced by sitting down, spending timewith them and understanding what the challenges are
that are behind the work that's sittingin front of them. So, for
example, a manager that's struggling tomotivate his team so often we really sat
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down and talked about it. Therewas something else going on in the background
of his or her life, andyou'd be able to understand that and help
them bring that to the fore.A deal with that was an important part
of the work that I did.And then on the other end of the
scale, there would be a teammember wanting to once their career not having
any idea how to begin that process. I mean, human resources were have
lots of structures and tools, youknow, things to make that possible for
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them. But when you sit downand really spend time with somebody and understand
what the motivators are and help themmove that forward, the career forward because
of those motivators, then it changesthe story. So you know, that's
really been a big part of it. And then the third thing that's motivated
me, honestly to become a coachis that I have had my own coach
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had a challenging life story from apersonal perspective, which I'm very happy to
share, as well as a toxicwork relationship at one point, and those
things motivated me to get my owncoach. And when you see what coach
you can do for yourself, it'sjust really I want to leave. Essentially.
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Yeah, now you mentioned that youhad your own coach, So how
you know having your own coach,how are really coaching? How did that
really impact your life? Because whatif you mentioned you do have your own
coach? Also? Yes, absolutely, in fact, just what every coach
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I know has their own coach,and it's all about what you can bring
to the experience you share them withothers, and so that becomes an important
part of it. The shift wasthat I was able to step back from
the issues that were just crowding mein and helping really making me struggle.
Essentially, like coach helped me seedifferent perspectives, helped me see that what
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I had inside me to shift thechallenges that were in front of me was
all, as I said, wasall there. And I you know,
I'm resourceful and creative and whole,and I can bring the things that I
need to to challenge the situation.I can bring those to the four I
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just need somebody to bring them outof me as a client or as a
you know, as somebody needing thatsupport. And I find that's the case
with every coaching session that I have. Where As humans, we're all really
I hold that we are all reallycreative and resourceful and whole, and we
just can't get out of our ownway sometimes. So, you know,
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being able to think about things differentlybecause I'm being asked a really big challenging
question and open question, you knowthat I can sit with and kind of
think through the answers to just reallyhelp you bring that stuff out of yourself.
And we often say in coaching actuallythat the real work gets done in
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between the sessions because I will aska client big question, and I will
invite them to sit with that questionas sort of like homework essentially, and
then you know, journal on it, think about it, see what comes
up for them, and when thatoccurs that they take the time to do
that, as I did in myown experience, nine times out of ten,
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you get the answer, you geta new idea, you see a
new perspective. I kind of liketo say that it's like opening a window
and letting all the light and aircome in so that underneath that issue you've
got all this new way of thinking. So that was the impact my own
coach had, and I'm loving I'mto share that with others too. Now.
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I noticed when I was reading aboutyou one of the things you said
that you uh, when you're coaching, you help them to build better boundaries,
world satisfying relationships, and find fulfillmentoutside of work without in their edge.
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So most of your clients, theclients that you coach, are most
of them women? Or do youhave men too that you go majority of
the women. I have had acouple of very brave, amazing male clients
who because unfortunately we don't see alot of men stepping into coaching. That's
been my experience anyway, certainly notin the in the non leadership space.
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But yes, most of my clientshave been women, and they are most
typically experiencing lots of success at work, doing great things, shooting the lights
out, and yet they're miserable outsideof work. They step back for a
moment and realize that they have andthey don't have a life that they hope
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they would have. Perhaps they don'thave a partner in the point of life
that they thought they would have beenable to enjoy that don't have a family
that is working really long hours,it's impossible that they feel it's impossible to
say no to the demands of work. They can't stop because that impacts So
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they think that impacts their ability toget a promotion or the pay rise,
or to to it'll make them lookvulnerable or aren't able to perform the job.
And you know what I help themdo is see that those things aren't
necessarily true, and that if youwant a life that is more fulfilling and
has time for family, friendships,you know, good health, etc.
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Outside of work, then got tostop. Something's got to change, and
putting some boundaries in place helps you, helps you say no to the things
that just are not serving you andare impacting the way you know you truly
want to live. It seems tobe most of us can put up with
that for a period of time,that sense of you know, this doesn't
feel good, but look, Idon't know what to do to change it.
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There comes a point in time whereyou sit back and reflect and say,
I'm missing out. I'm not gettingthe things that I want and I
feel miserable and potentially, you know, what I've even seen with some clients
is that they're drinking too much,they're certainly eating the wrong things. So
their health and lifestyle issues have beenreally impacted. And that's when it hits
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them in a poor sleep, notenough sleep, probably on an international phone
call. And actually the one verybrave male client that I had was a
really clear example of the same thing. He was a family guy, he
was in a global job that tookhim two different markets all around the world
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and tippy and he was based heactually was based in Australia and typically the
phone calls and teammates that he hadworked three a m. In the morning.
Now, something's got to give.You can't take doing that as a
you know, as a as ahuman essentially, and that was week in,
week out constantly. So that wasone of the creators for him to
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find a way to try and makesome change. Now, you you mentioned
a lot of what I think aretheir pain points. Uh were going over
some of the things that you Sohow do you help them to deal with
some of these things? Because kindof went and through went, you know,
and through a lot of things thatyou've been seeing as you've been coaching
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these ladies. How do you know, especially you know, you know you're
coming out of an old year intoa new year, and people start making
these resolutions, and you know,because we want to change stuff that was
going on and you know that thelast year. So how do you help
them through that? How do youget them to deal with these things?
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It's a great question. One ofthe one of the things I've held true
for this year particularly is that it'snot about goals. It's about growth.
And I read that somewhere and Ican't remember that, but I loved the
essence of that. So so youknow, it's definitely not about making these
amazing these resolutions that which don't think, you know, we won't be able
to stick to. That's one ofone of the key things that we do,
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one of the first things that wedo together in our program of work,
and it's typically if I just goback and step, it's typically either
a three month program or a sixmonth program, because what we know is
the change doesn't happen overnight, andyou have to connect. If you find
a way to step in, takeownership of the journey you want to take,
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and make the changes that you wantto make, and that does not
happen in one or two sessions,so typically over the course of three or
six months, will work on oneof the first things around the values,
So identifying your values, what theymean to you, how they show up
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in your life, and how youlive them when you are sustaining those values
in your life, and understanding andbecoming very aware of when those values are
being stomped on, Like the valuesare those things that are so intrinsically inside
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us that are they must must notbe squashed. They must then unsquashable if
you like. And somebody gave youthat to me, I love that,
so you know that that sense thatI need in tech, for example,
in tech is critical to me.Honesty, adventure, exhilaration, creativity,
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joy, what you know, thereare many all those beautiful words. We
actually go through a couple of exercisesaround identifying those values and naming them,
and then we start with a biglong list and you can bring them into
about ten that really start to resonatewith you. And then I encourage my
clients to really sharpen that down toat least so rather than at the most
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five key values that they absolutely knowthey cannot not have in their lives so
that they become really guiding minds andguiding points for their lives. Once you
know what your values are, thenyou can see where it's all going wrong.
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Because, for example, if Ivalue this is a part example,
if I can value cree creativity andI'm in a job that gives me no
spare hours in my day, myvalue of creativity is being squashed. I'm
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tolerating something that's not working for me, and that's why I feel miserable.
It's why I often say it feelslike sand in your shoe rubbing on you.
You can kind of put up withit for a while, and then
at some point it just you can'tany longer. And that's when that a
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critical value, an important value inyour life is not being honored, and
that gives you a sense of whatneeds to change. So then we work
on all right, Well, thatset of values, those five or six
doesn't know in that whatever the numberof key values are that are really important
to you must be present in yourlife. How do you create and preserve
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them? And so what boundaries doyou need to put in place to stay
in that creativity example or I'm notgoing to work past seven pm two or
three nights a week, or Imean hopefully five nights a week. But
you know, let's start somewhere.I'm going to allow for some space in
my time. I have to bereally clear about that. So I have
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to create a boundary and I needto stick with it. So the extension
of that then is I encourage myclients to create what I call a boundaries
manifesto and sit down together and wetalk about what boundaries are really important and
we were manifesto essentially is when westate that what's truly important to us and
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we write it down and make acommitment we do that, then it's the
starting point. There won't be somuch you can do, you know,
to help somebody get to that place. It's all the last to honor those
boundaries, then expect that of us. Now you talked about the boundaries,
the gning you know, their personalvalues and setting boundaries. So this is
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obviously important. So in the inyour coaching with them, does this take
a long time for them to youknow, get through this? Is it?
Is it something that's really difficult fora lot of people to to try
to figure sit down and actually say, Okay, this is exactly what my
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personal values are, this is exactlyhow I'm going to set my boundaries.
And how important is it? Orwhy do boundaries matter? Because I know
you hear people say, you knowa kind of gloss over that a lot
of times, you know, don'tcross the boundary or something like that is
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something that really does matter to youknow, and people, especially as you
go to life, to make surethat you have those boundaries. Yeah,
they absolutely matter. So to answerthe first part of your question, the
exercise of finding values, miney forour values, understanding what they are,
and then setting the boundaries takes aslong as it needs, quite honestly,
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and for some people achieving those anunderstanding of those things in their life might
take weeks because I generally meet witha client every two weeks, sometimes a
little more frequently, So if they'veonly we're together for three months, that's
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six weeks, and it might welltake that period of time to get to
that place. But it's a greatlaunch pad then to either work together a
little bit more or for them tofeel comfortable to go out into the world
and kind of get started in implementingthem. So it doesn't really matter how
long it takes, but it's animportant part of the process. Why boundaries
matter is because they really establish acontainer for us to work in. They
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establish a sort of a framework thatwe can put around ourselves, our families,
our work lives to say this iswhere I this is where I hold
my space, and this is what'simportant to me. They give you a
sense of control. That's the othervery important thing. And you know,
anybody who is finding that, theypeople tend to know what that their boundaries
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have been shifted or they've lost thesense of their boundaries. So we kind
of all understand when we don't havethem anymore. And the challenge is to
have them back in our lives andto create a sense of control again,
be able to say no, andto stand up and say no with confidence,
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with a sense of clarity of purpose, like why is that important to
me? And to not feel youhave to explain them away. That's the
other really important thing about boundaries.You don't need to justify them. You
know those boundaries are important to me. They may be different to your boundaries.
That's of course, that's fine,and so we're individual we don't need
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to explain them. So that becomesa really explaining and justifying them is probably
a better word, you know.Now having said that, I realized that
in a work context, it's notall it's not a better roses. It's
not easy to say to your bossand sorry, I'm not going to be
available for that nine pm phone callor that ten pm font call, whatever
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it might be. So finding away to say it's important to me,
for my clarity, for my health, for my whatever it is, my
family situation, and just step intoit and own it. And nine times
out of ten what happens with whenyou set a boundary for yourself, step
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into it and owner giving permission toother people to do the same. And
nine times out of ten, youknow, so many people have said,
you know that worked for me,and actually others took the lead as well
or now done the same. AndI just realized I gave them a gift
in that sense. So it's it'sinterestingness when you stand up for yourself,
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others admire that it has the potentialto change others. Absolutely. Yeah,
So with your coaching programs, becauseI know, you know, everybody come
to you have different you know thatthey're trying to work through well, how
do how do you tailor the strategiesfor for them individually? How do you
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do Yeah, it's really it's nota science, it's an art. And
by that what I mean is thatis up to me to listen clearly and
to hear what the topic is.And there's no I mean, whilst most
of my clients that are going toget value out of doing work on their
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values and their boundaries and you know, other elements of who they are,
if that's not relevant, then that'snot going to happen, you know.
So it's entirely I'm not doing myjob if I'm not listening to hear what
the big topic is and see what'ssitting under that. And it's almost well,
that's actually how I do think aboutit. There's always like a big
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heading a topic, you know,I'm unhappy, I'm unfulfilled, i hate
my job, whatever, and sittingunderneath that are several other topics, and
on any given day it's my jobto create space for those other things to
come up. And gender that's theone big thing that I think about a
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lot. I think about a lotthat it's important to say, is not
my agenda and it's not going tobe my solutions that agenda, and the
solutions will come through your own thinkingand me helping you get there. Mm
hmmm. So so you literally guidethem through some of the challenges and opport,
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you know, opportunities. That's that'sa part of your program, right
absolutely. Yeah. And when Iand when we say guiding them through,
I'm hearing that we might need totake it apart this way or this way,
and I'm going to go like that, because honestly, every coaching session
for one person can have a numberof different elements to it, but what
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is important is getting to that topic. And then it's about the questions that
I ask, that open questions.And you know, most of us,
I hope no supposed we know thedifference between an open and a close question,
which is one that has tell meabout or how is or what about
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you know, why blah blah blah, rather than a yes or no answer
because something, And so that opensup a whole lot of opportunity for thinking
differently. One of the other importantthings as I ask those sorts of questions
is to create space for the answer. And honestly, there are times in
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some of our sessions where there isa beautiful silence that just needs to sit
there and needs to needs to permeatethe space so that as a client,
they are able to just sit withwhat's going on in their minds. And
it's important for me to encourage thatspace as well and encourage emotion will allow
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for question at least, you know, and that nine times out of ten
that will happen as well. Soan honoring that's those spaces and those emotions
and honoring you know, celebration andchampioning people as they go through their the
answering of the questions and thinking aboutthings. So does that kind of give
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you a sense of it? Absolutely? Absolutely so. I guess my next
question then would be how has yourown background and work experience and influence the
way you understand and support your clients. Yeah, that's where that's where I
think. I mean, some ofmy challenges have been tough, like we
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all have had, of course,but they definitely build an empathy. I
think that is that I found veryvaluable. So, I mean I had
a successful career in human resources,and at the very end of it,
in the last six months of essentiallyI had a very toxic work situation that
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meant I needed to change obviously thework situation itself, but along the way,
I had a charlat big challenge inmy relationship that created well, my
husband and I separated for ten years, so during that time I was very
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vulnerable and I was feeling very unsureand lost confidence and the only thing that
I was good at actually was thejob for a time, and I put
up with an awful lot of toxicityuntil there came a time when I just
knew this is not healthy, helpfuland not healthy. And having a coach
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at that time to just ask thequestions, open up what else is possible?
Change the way I thought about thingsallowed me to number one, leave
that job with confidence and step intomy own coaching work. And number two,
more recently from that, my husbandI came back together again, and
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you know, we have a verydifferent life now as a result. And
I know that it would not havebeen possible with coaching, because I would
have held all sorts of judgments andchallenges with frustrations close to my chest and
told nobody about them, your friendsand he's important being actually the coaching coaching
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with actions and homework and that sortof stuff. When I can talk more
about that in a minute. Butthat is very different from having a really
great coaching, a really great conversationwith a girlfriend. The straight is there,
you know, the willingness to challengeyour client to bring something out of
them, or to remind them thatthey said they wanted to change something and
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you're doing it again. Is thatwhere you want to go? Do your
client? That loving challenging is reallyimportant. And I experienced all that coach
that helped, and that part ofmy life became really an important driver for
what I know. I want tohelp other women achieve, which is fulfillment
and enjoy it. M hm.So do you know your work has had
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an impact on your class? Imean, you know what kind of feedback
do you get for The one bigthing I love is referrals, of course,
So whenever I get a referral,that's brilliant, and that tells me,
yeah, that's a good thing.Somebody has appreciated what I've done.
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The other thing I do, actuallypart of my my community and reaching out
to my community and sharing my thoughtswith my community is that I do have
a weekly newsletter and I get lotsof lovely responses from that because I write
in a very heartfelt, vulnerable kindof way. So that's, you know,
that's an important feedback tool. Andhonestly, it is feedback along the
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way and the coaching journey. AndI really welcome a client saying to me
that question, don't ask me thatquestion that's too hard, or please don't
go there. I don't want to, you know, give me homework,
give me more homework. And whenI say homework, give me a journaling
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exercise to do or give me somethingto think about, a question to ponder.
I want that, and so Iwelcome the two the conversations that go
on. Mm hmmm hmm. Sotell us, do you have anything coming
up on the horizon, any trainingor any you know thing that you want
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to let us know about. Yeah, I want to. I'd like to
say I have more than I dobecause I'm doing some other I've got projects
in place that are not quite readyto land yet. I am for anybody
in the Colorado area. I willbe working with a colleague on a workshop
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coming up just after Valentine's Day andwe'll be sorry, there's some noise in
my background. I hope that's notnot hearing that. So this is this
workshop coming up on the fifteenth ofFebruary is a workshop where we will be
going through values and boundaries and lookingout where at parts of our life.
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We call it the wheel of life, where we'll be looking at those elements
of our lives that are fulfilled andnot and be fairly high level. But
it'll be fun journey. We haven'tgot our details all lined up yet,
but that's coming, so I couldcertainly share that in due course. The
main thing is that I truly welcomehaving a discovery conversation with potential clients,
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and so people are interested in findingout more about coaching with me, what
our programs, my programs look like, sharing a little bit about their challenges
and seeing whether coaching is the rightthing for them. I really welcome a
discovery conversation and they are complimentary.So for certainly for your listeners here,
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really welcome you to pick up thephone or jump on the website and book
a session with me. As Isaid, it's complementary and over the course
of thirty or forty minutes together wecan get a sense of what's going on
for you and how coaching can helpyour situation. And you know, I
say, even though you're not youmay have different talent challenges to the sorts
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of things we've discussed here. Asa life coach, you know, we
go there and there's really no limits, so I really welcome and invite.
So if you had one piece ofadvice to leave with our viewers and our
listeners, what would that piece ofadvice be. Oh, that's a great
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question. So much. One bigthing that is on my heart is to
say, don't sit with things thatare bothering you, don't let them overwhelm
you. And so that you gointo twenty twenty four feeling the way you
did in twenty twenty three, startafresh, take the opportunity. And I
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will say, even if there issomething that is a potentially good opportunity or
a good something good coming that youdon't know how to get to or don't
know how to achieve or obtain,that's also worth coaching on as well to
help you get there. So it'snot only about struggling and challenging the challenges,
it's about stepping into new opportunities aswell. So don't be the person
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you were or the things that don'tlive into the things that were holding you
back in community to get some coachinghave a conversation. Absolutely believe it.
If our viewers and our listeners wantedto reach out to you, how can
they do so? Yes, Ithink you'll be posting the website my website,
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and that's really the most efficient wayI think at this point. With
that, you'll be able to jumponto my email, my network and get
the usual newsletter sorry every week.So that'll be wonderful and I really welcome
that. And then that gives youaccess to who I am a little bit
more about me. So between mywebsite and then jumping on and sharing your
(35:34):
email address and picking up the newslettereach week, that's fine. The other
thing I'd absolutely welcome, of course, is that people just contact me directly
on jen at life first coaching dotcom. I love that too, so
and I really welcome that, andyour social media platforms also too. Yes,
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And I just just dropped last week'swell, just dropped my most recent
newsletter on Facebook and leaked in today. Now that I will say is new
Jennifer me. So I'm going toI've committed myself to doing that much more
this year. It was good.Yes, I don't want to just oh,
absolutely well, it has been apleasure to have you as our first
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guest of twenty twenty four on thesuccessful Women's Show this year, and let
talk more about what you're doing,and you know, having you on some
of the other things that we havecoming up. But it's been a pleasure
having you on. Thank you somuch for taking time out of your schedule
to be here. Appreciate it.Oh gosh, I appreciate it. Off
(36:39):
a really honor to be number onefor the year. My goodness, Yeah,
thank you doctor. Good to seeyou again. By now okay,
now, I'm just going to giveeveryone just some upcoming events for some things
that I'll be participating in. Butfirst of all, make sure that you
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get your copy of the On Itanthology It's Your Life On It Unapologetically and
the journal three hundred and sixty fiveDays to Transformation. If you'd like to
purchase these books, if you wantto, you can purchase one or both
as a set. To do so, please go to my website, which
(37:27):
is www dot ex WSI dot com. There's a link on there where you
can purchase one or both of thebooks as a set. If you'd like
to find out more about any informationon the book, you can email me
of course at info at EXWSI dotcom. Also make sure to tune in
(37:53):
this week which is happening this weekJanuary the twenty second through through the twenty
ninth. It's the Black Business Olympics, and as you know, the Black
Business Olympics is a fundraiser to providescholarships and laptops to high school seniors going
to college and k through twelve entrepreneurs. The Black Business Olympics showcases black businesses,
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black business owners and corporations all aroundthe world. And if you'd like
to be a speaker or to showcaseyour business, you can email me at
info at EXWSI dot com. Andif you'd like to donate for the scholarship
or to the fundraiser, then youcould go to Black businessxpousa dot com and
(38:49):
donate. I will be speaking onthe platform tonight at seven pm, so
if you like to watch live thelive talk, then you can go to
my YouTube channel, our YouTube andput in my name, actually no,
put in Black Business Olympics and watchthe live session so you'll be able to
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see me speaking at seven pm tonight. Also running right now and I am
very excited is my show up toRise Up Summit. It is running.
It started today January twenty fifth,and it will run through the twenty seventh,
which is Saturday. And to watchit live, you can go to
www dot Show Up to Rise UpSummit live dot com. That's www dot
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Show Up to Rise Up Summit livedot com and it will take you right
into the live streaming broadcast. Youwill see I'm telling you some incredible speakers
and again it's running for three days, the twenty fifth through the twenty seventh,
will in Saturday around four point thirty, so you'll be able to watch
(40:05):
it up until then. I'm alsogoing to be doing another one in September
of twenty twenty four, so ifyou're interested in being one of the speakers
in the summit, you have alot of time to contact me let me
know. You know, we couldtalk about your topic and your being a
speaker in the event my Show Upto Rise Up Summit, which I'll be
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doing again in September twenty twenty four. To find out more about that,
you can email me at info atEXWSI dot com. I am also going
to be starting and you'll be ableto join the women Show Up to Rise
Up Network and the mission of thewomen's Show Up to Rise Up Network will
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be to empower connect all women intheir career in business, professional and personal
lives by helping them to gain resourceversus gain about buying power, increase their
revenue, and to accelerate their personalbusiness and career growth through a lot of
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opportunities that we hope to bring ontothat network. As a member, you
will have access to coaching, training, events, workshops, resources, networking
opportunities and a lot more. Iam also going to be doing another Show
Up to Rise Up Women's Retreat thisyear for twenty twenty four, and that
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also will be in September. Thedates to be determined. It'll probably be
before we go, before we startthe summit, but the details will follow
and I'll keep you up to dateon that. But as usual, you
can email me at info at EXWSIdot com. Don't forget to view my
(42:01):
TEDx talk that I did in Vancouver, Canada, make sure to do so.
The topic, as as as always, is show Up to Rise Up.
That is the theme Show Up toRise Up. You can watch it
on YouTube and of course to doso, just put in my name my
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name in the search box Doctor MadelenaneLewis, or you can send me an
email for the direct link, whichis email me at info at exwsi dot
com and I'll send you the directlink. So make sure to check it
out. I'm excited because the videois still moving out there. My goal
(42:43):
is to reach a million plus views, so I really want to thank all
of you that have helped to advancethe video and to keep it moving.
Those of you that have been supportedand shared the video. So I'd like
to ask you just to keep sendingit out there, get you know,
keep liking, keep viewing, keepmaking comments, and just keep it rolling
(43:07):
out there until we hit that onemillion mark. And finally, I am
a contributing writer to the own Itmagazine. I This is where I share
nuggets and resources. Every month,I usually write an article on something that's
pertinence in career or in business.Own It Magazine is a resource for personal,
(43:30):
professional and business development and so makesure you get a subscription to the
magazine. For an annual subscription,you can go to my website which is
info I mean www dot exw sidot com. There is a link where
you can get an annual subscription tothe magazine. Again. This has been
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the success for women's show. Asyou know, we are here every Thursday,
and this is a new year.We're excited to be back again in
a new year. I am DoctorMadeleananne Lewis. I'm your host and you
know my mission is to help womenaccelerate the path. If you like to
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reach out to me, of course, I'm at info at exwsi dot com
or my website www dot exwsi dotcom. If you go to my website,
make sure that you download my freethree part video series on three things
(44:40):
every woman should do to position herselffor executive leadership. I'd also like you
to sign up for my online course, which is Cracked the Career Code how
to Lead with Confidence, Charisma andCredibility. To sign up for the course,
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go to www dot crackthcreercode dot com. And of course you can always
reach out to me on all thesocial media sites. Just DM me,
email me and you'll be able toreach me through them. Don't forget to
subscribe to our YouTube channel. Don'tforget this subscribe to the top top four
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TV channel. Don't forget to likeand share this episode with others. We
got some great nuggets today. Oncoaching from our guests missus Jen Ryan from
Life First Coaching. So make surethat you like this episode, share this
episode, and do subscribe to theYouTube channel. Again, this is the
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success of Women's show. We arehere every week. I am your host,
doctor Madlin and Lewis helping women acceleratethe path to success. Thank you
again for joining me. I loveyou all to life and as always,
be well and stay safe out there. I got the eye of the time and
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