October 22, 2024 • 45 mins
Join us for a transformative episode where we dive into turning transitions into transformations! Whether you're facing personal or professional shifts, this episode will equip you with the mindset and tools to embrace change as a pathway to growth. Discover how to navigate uncertainty with confidence, overcome fears of the unknown, and turn life’s transitions into opportunities for alignment and empowerment.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:52):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Tuesday mornings at
eleven am Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W four WN
dot com, and my YouTube channel, and today we will
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be continuing to talk about embracing change and turning transitions
into transformations Part two. Join us and as I said,
we're continuing where we left off last week, so join
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us today as we dive in turning transitions into transformations.
Whether you're facing personal or professional shifts, this episode will
equip you with the mindset and the tools to embrace
change as a pathway to growth, Discover how to navigate
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uncertainty with confidence, overcome fears of the unknown, and turn
life's transitions into opportunities for alignment and empowerment. Don't miss
this empowering conversation that will inspire you to step boldly
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into the next chapter of your journey with clarity.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
And Grace.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Tune in and start mastering the art of change today. Together,
let's create a life you love. Hi. I'm your host,
Nancy Deutsche, licensed Clinical social worker, certified hypnotherapist, and Intuitive
breakthrough Expert. And I combine my counseling, coaching and intuitive
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ability to inspire and empower you to transform your life.
This show is not a replacement for therapy and counseling.
It is for educational purposes, is only. And I see
we have Ali in the house. Good morning, Ali, and
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I wish you all a good.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Morning from New York. You can tell by my accent.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, Now, anyway, So what I want to do today,
and of course all of you you know I love
answering your questions, So if you have any questions, please
feel free to ask them. What I want to do
today is talk about why do people have so much resistance?
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Why do you have so much resistance to change? And
what are the issues that change can bring up for you?
So we're going to be starting to talk about that, okay.
And the first thing is is that you may have
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a fear of the unknown, that the known is familiar.
You know what you're going to get with what you
have but to have change happen. And you're like, oh,
I don't know what's it's the fear of the unknown,
fear of uncertainty. And okay, I'm going to get to
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your question Country Gone As in a sec. So so
there's this fear of what will happen if I make
this change, that fear of the unknown, the unfamiliar. Okay.
And and so it's learning. And it may also be
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have to do with a fear of failure or not
knowing how to navigate the new situation effectively. So as
I go through the show today and perhaps future, we
will talk more about how to navigate those changes. First,
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I want to get through why there may be resistant.
So let's get to the question from Country Corners Gazette
and then we'll continue on. So the question is is
change a good thing or a bad thing to deal with?
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
So change is something. First of all, what I want
to remind you is change is constant. There is nothing
and no one that will go through life without change. Okay,
So change happens. Now there are good changes where things
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are improving, or you.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Get a better job, a better.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Position, more money, you enter a new relationship, relationship gets better,
improves this like major, having a child, having a child,
get married, you're getting married, Like, there's a lot of
different changes. Now I just talked about a lot of
positive changes. Now there's the change can also involve laws.
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So it's not here's the thing, You're going to have
change no matter what it is, it is a there
is one thing that is certain, okay, and that is
life is full of changes and transitions. That just is
okay now. And it's not a matter of what the
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change is okay, it's how do you handle the change?
Speaker 3 (06:48):
How do you handle the change? What are you thinking?
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Are you automatically thinking the negative even if it's a
positive change, That fear of the unknown that I just
talked about, even if it's a positive change, if you
have fears of the unknown, a fears of failure. Like
I've had clients that said, oh, you know, I'm entering
a new relationship. What if it happens that we get
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you know, divorced. You know, they're getting married and they're
thinking about divorce. So so here's the thing. It's all
about how are you thinking? What are you saying to yourself?
The self talk can make the hugest difference when we're
talking about navigating change effectively. Okay, so changes really need
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the good of bad. You're going to have positive change,
positive experiences which has changed and still can be stressful.
And then they're the negative changes. There's the uncertainty with
what we have in the world. There's natural disasters, there's
political goals, unrest, there's concern about more and all different
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kinds of things that there is uncertainty wherever you are
in this world.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
And so it's again it's.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Not what the change is, but learning new coping skills
and tools to navigate the changes, and that's how you
turn transitions into transformations. But before we go into that,
I want to talk more about possibilities of what can
happen and what are those resistances. And before I do that,
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we have a good number of questions that came in.
So I want to get to your questions and then
we'll go back to more of why you may be
resistant to change. So Misty ask why why is it
hard to change for some people? So, Misty, what I'm
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going to be talking about is the resistance to change
and why it's hard. So one of those one of
those changes is that.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
That fear the unknown.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Another one is comfort with familiar, familiar larity, and being
comfortable with the familiar. It's it's so much easy, easier
for all of us, okay, as human beings, to stay
with what we know, with the familiar, than to have
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to risk change. So that is another reason why people
resist changing. And usually a lot of times change can be.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Put upon you.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Rather than you choosing it, because again, it's so easy
to be in the familiar then have to do unfamiliar
territory and so hopefully so change. And as I go
through these other issues about resistance to change and the
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fears of change and what those bring up, that should
also help you answer the.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
Question more misty.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
So and again if hopefully I answered your question, and
if there's anything else that you would like to ask
around what's what I'm bringing, definitely ask away. And then
we have a question from Micky. Some things are thrown
at you and it's hard to navigate through it. Yes, Micky,
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that is so true.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
And that's what I.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Was talking about, is that people resist change, and you
may resist and resist, and look, I understand that because
I've been there a lot of times. When I had
a move, it was because I need to move. I
didn't want to move, moving my house, moving my home,
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and so and including natural disaster. I mean, I was
here with Hurricane Sandy and I had to move out
of the place where I lived, which was Long Beach,
New York. So I understand the resistance to change really
well for my own life. And I also want to
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let you all know that it's pretty human that we
all have these fears of changes, and very often we
resist the change, resist the change. It's it's your intuition.
Very often can be like that, there's that still small
voice and you hear it and you kind of know,
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kind of know, ooh, I think I need to make
a change.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
But you resist it.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
And then and then it may get a little louder
and you keep resisting until.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Boom, it's thrown upon you.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
And that is common. Okay, So I'm just going to
let you know that it is common. I think there
are more people that resist change than welcome it and
move through it with ease and grace. But I'm hoping
that as we go through this show and these upcoming shows,
because I can feel I know we're going to be
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continuing on okay, because there's a lot of information I
want to share with you, and I want you to know.
I want you to know what would be creating the resistance,
and then we're going to be talking about how to
navigate it.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Okay. So that's what we're talking about today, is.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
What would create that fear of change, the resisting change
so that it ends up being thrown upon us. And
here's the thing. Sometimes you may be someone who welcomes change,
and changes can still be thrown upon you. You know, it's
part of life that there is sometimes certainty and then
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there's sometimes uncertainty.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
And that is life.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
And this is about learning how to cope with those changes,
whether they're thrown upon you.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
And or whether you are.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Moving through it, and it's learning how to navigate it
more easily, more effectively, more gracefully.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
So we're going to be talking about all of that. Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
So hopefully Micky I answered your question and will continue.
If you have any others, let me know so and
then we have we have anastasia. Anastasia as Anasaysia says,
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I guess it is how you choose to handle change.
You got it, anasthesia, So it's it's how do you
choose to handle it? What are you saying to yourself?
What are your coping skills? Because here's the thing. The
bottom line is it's learning new and healthier coping skills,
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and those coping skills can make all the difference in
how you navigate the changes. So yes, Anastasia, you got it.
And George Charles Charles says, what if you don't have
good coping skills? So Charles, thank you for asking that.
And that's also what I want to cover during these
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shows that we're going to talk more about coping skill
that you can use as you navigate the changes, so
that as we work and talk about the changes and
the transitions, well, I'll also be talking about learning new
coping skills and what those look like. Now, one of
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the big coping skills that I talk about okay, and
it's something you don't have to buy, you have it,
and it is okay, I got that. So it's your breath.
And you know, I'm always talking about your breath, and
it's learning how to breathe more deeply, because what happens
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is when you have stress and you have uncertainty, and
you are in the middle of changes and transitions, you
go and you don't even realize you're holding your breath.
You don't even realize that you're shut your breath down.
So the first thing that you can do is take
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a deep breath, belly breath. Remember how I'm always talking
about the belly breath, putting your hands on your belly
and breathing so that your your breath. When you breathe in,
your belly goes out, and when you breathe out, your
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belly goes in.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
And that is belly breath again.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
When you breathe in, your belly goes out, and when
you breathe out, your belly goes in. It's the opposite
of what you think would happen. And the reason why
I suggest putting your hands on your belly is you
can you can watch it happen, and whether you're sitting
up or because I first learned Belle breath with a
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book on my belly laying down, because that is good
practice and I was working on my voice and that
was what my voice coach was teaching me. So I
really want to support you major coping skill. We're going
to get to others as we go on, so I
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know the country corners gize. Someone had a question, how
would I define coping skills.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
What are they? So?
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Coping skills are things, are ways that you deal with stress,
how you cope with change, how you cope with transitions.
And most of us did not learn healthy coping skills.
Most of us learned destructive coping skills. Usually and very
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often they could be addictive coping skills like using food,
using drugs or alcohol, using gambling, using some kind of
addictive substance. That's an unhealthy coping skill. And healthy coping
skills are learning how to breathe, learning how to reframe
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positive self talk, and those are examples of healthy coping skills.
And we're going to get into more healthy coping skills
as we continue on through the program today and future programs,
so hopefully in country Corners that answered, So, coping skills
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are the ways that you navigate change, transitions, your life, stress,
and the healthier you are. Healthy coping skills like exercise
can be a healthy coping skills going out into nature.
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So I'm already giving you some examples and we'll go
deeper into that to help you through change and transitions. Okay, Anastasia,
in the moment, how would we know if we had
the coping skill and which one to use at the time.
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So in the moment, what you just kind of reach
for whatever works for you in the moment. What I
make the suggestion is have a list of different coping skills.
So as we go through this show, I want to
invite you to start writing down all the different things
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that I've mentioned, and I'm going to mention them again
and again because I really want to support you all
in having healthier, better coping skills. It's really crucial that
and because you want to be able to navigate life
with healthy coping skills rather than unhealthy behaviors. So another
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resistance and fear of change is the loss of control.
And what happens is is that when change happens. And
also I want to remind you is that a lot
of this also comes from childhood. So if you, like,
for example, as a child, you didn't have much control
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over things and circumstances, Okay, like your parents got divorced,
you didn't have a say in that it was about that,
and that may have put the whole family into stress.
Or if you had a move and you I mean,
I can't even begin to tell you how many clients
moved from one location to another, and they had friends
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in the old location they were really popular, and then
in the new location they couldn't even make a friend
or they had friend problems growing up, And so then
there's this loss, the fear of loss of control, Like
what's going to happen if you end up doing the changes?
Speaker 3 (21:25):
So as an adult.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
And this is also why people fear change because very
often when you were a child, there were changes that
happened that were out of your control. In fact, the
changes still happen that they're out of our control. I
mean world events or national events or events that are
happening in our lives can be out of control. So
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what do you do? And what you do is you
work on finding your ways to gain the control back
to help you to navigate the changes.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
So what do I mean by that?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
So let's say that a change is imposed upon you
and like for example, let's say you lost your job
and you you know, was freaking out about money, and
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that was a change that you didn't expect.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
It was out of your control.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
What do you do, Well, you find other possibilities to
take your power back, to gain back control. What do
you do you find? Perhaps you work on getting a
resume together, or you look for something different or something new,
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and you work on finding perhaps new ways of making money.
Maybe you'll take jobs that you wouldn't have thought of
in the past, but you need to make a living,
so you take other jobs that you want of and
maybe you even liked them. You know, you never know
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what can change can bring. So I'll give you an
example of what happened for me. I think I talked
about this that because of budget cuts, I lost my
jobs as a social worker and I lost my full
time job as a social worker, and I was like,
you know what, the way that I took back my
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power is like I'm not getting.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
A full time social work position again.
Speaker 2 (23:46):
That was me what I decided, I'd rather have two
part time jobs to make a full time job, and
that's what I did, and I got a job.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
I got a job as a social worker doing what
I knew.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
And then I got a job as a marketer, totally different,
making call sales calls for an architect, and it was
totally different than what I could have even imagined. But
I also was like, Okay, I need to be open
to possibilities of what's next. And I allowed myself to
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open to the changes and the possibility. So I really
want to support you and know that change doesn't always
mean negative when you find the ways to take your
power back and take back the control so that you
feel more empowered and find a way to navigate the
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change so that you're taking your power back.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
So hopefully that was helpful. Okay, anesthetia, do we get
to that question. Let's see in the moment.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Oh, we did in the moment.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
How would we know.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Two if we had the coping skills in which one
to use at the time. So, like I said before,
it's being able to use whatever tools come up for
you at the time that will work for you in
the moment, and you can try different ones because one
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may work one time and not another time. So it's
having a variety. Okay, you don't want just one coping skill.
You want a variety of coping skills that will support
you as you navigate change and transition. So another fear
that people have is losing competence. So if you are
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in a certain position or a certain role, and it
could be a personal role or a professional role, a
personal role like motherhood, and how many people moms go
through major identity crisis when their children get old enough
and they're leaving the nest.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
Empty nest syndrome is.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Real, okay, because the loss of identity is you've been
a mom and all of a sudden, you're not. It's
not that you ever give up being a mom, because
you're always a mom, but.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
The kids don't need you like they used to.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
And if they're going off to college, or they're going
you know, or they're moving, they're moving to their own
apartments or out of state or whatever, then you may
have an identity crisis. Let's say you have a certain role,
like for example, when I lost my job as a
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social worker, and when I was on unemployment, it was
like it was I had to go through a whole
process of grief and and and and nw even though
I've got a similar job in another company, another organization.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
I had to learn their rules, that their structure.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
So you may be confident in what you learn and
what you know, whether it's personal or professional, and then
change happens like you lose a job or you're you
get a divorce. You're used to being a wife or
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a husband, and then all of a sudden you're not
and now you're a single parent, or you're you're you're
if you don't have kids. You're figuring out what is
it like to be a single person rather than being
in a couple, And that is a real identity shift. Okay,
So these are real. They're not in your mind, they're
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not imagination. It really happens.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
So what I want to support all of you in
remembering is to be gentle aler with yourself, beating yourself
up because why shouldn't I get this, or why am
I not handling this data, or what's wrong with me?
I really want to support all of you whatever changes,
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whatever transitions that you are going through, that it's really
important to give yourself some slap, to be kinder to
yourself and gentler with yourself, because navigating change and transition
is not something we learned most of us, okay, most
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of us, majority of the population have not learned how
to do it with ease and grace.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
And what I'm hoping is from these shows.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
And remember this was a suggestion from one of you listeners,
so and I love the suggestion because I think it's
so important. This is huge, especially in these times of uncertainty.
This is a huge and important topic. So thank you,
thank you for suggesting, and I love supporting all of you.
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So and Charles asks, what what can it affect when
you have the confident loss? Okay, so Charles, can you
what all.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Can it? I'm Charles, can you.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Ask the question in a different way because I'm not
clear on what exactly the question That question came in
when you were talking about loss of confidence? Loss of confidence? Okay, okay,
thank you. So what can it affect when you have
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the confident laws?
Speaker 3 (30:07):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (30:08):
So when you feel that you have loss confidence and competence,
what happens is it brings up a lot of fears
because if you're used to a certain role in a
way of being and that's what you've known, and then
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all of a sudden you're put in a position where
either a you have to get another job or or
you have to find a new way of navigating the
transition that you're in. Whether it's divorce, whether it's dealing
with crisis, natural disasters, it's all these things can bring
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up the fears of not feeling competent and not being
able to feel confident as you navigate the changes. So
it's learning again what you can do to take your
power back and to feel and to use coping skills
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to help you as you navigate the changes in your
life situations. So, Charles, I hope I answered your question.
If I didn't, can you let me know and ask
maybe the question in a different way or add to
it or so let me know, because I really want
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to support you and answer your question.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
Okay, So before we go on to more.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Information, let's talk about I have a meditation and a
peace So even if you don't meditate, you can download
the PDF and you can you can allow yourself to
use this. This is a coping tool. So whether you
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use a PDF or whether you use the meditation, this
would be a helpful coping.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Tool for you to have.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
And what I do during it is I help you
to clear your energy, calm yourself down, connect to the
higher aspects of yourself that are here to help you,
like what I call your higher self, that wise, unconditionally
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loving part of you, and then helping you make decisions
because when you are in transition, you can have a
hard time making decisions to navigate the changes.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
So this can help you.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Go to the name of the show, Inspired and Empowered
Living dot com forward slash meditation n E d I
t A t io N me e d I t
A t i o n And it's inspired, inspired and
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empoweredliving dot com forward slash Meditation. So you can download
Rebel put the links in the chat so you can
download the meditation to support you in navigating your life changes.
Because that's what I want to help you to do,
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is help you to heal and grow and navigate your
changes life changes. So Charles says, I believe you got it,
But can it affect things in your body?
Speaker 3 (34:09):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (34:11):
So what happens is when you're in fear, when you're
in stress, whether the change in competence or the changes
that life brings the transitions, can it affect your body?
Speaker 3 (34:27):
You bet?
Speaker 2 (34:28):
And I mean they have shown studies with the mind
and the body, you cannot separate them out. There's more
stress you are. I mean you can even notice it
in your own life. When you're more stressed, you're more
likely to get cold, you're more likely to get sick.
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And what happens is is stress. If you don't learn
new coping skills, if you don't learn new top techniques
to move the energy of stress and emotions, through your
body in healthy ways. It will affect your body, and
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it definitely like, for example, anger, the emotion of anger.
When you're feeling stressed and you're going through transitions, you
may have.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
A lot of anger coming up. And when you have
the anger coming up, it's.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Learning how to deal with that emotion move it through
your body, like using exercise or breathing so that you're
releasing the energy so that it doesn't affect your body.
So that's why it's really important to learn new coping
skills to be able to navigate change and transition more
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effectively so it's not stressing your body out. So hopefully
that helped answer your question. So another fear reason why
both fear change is the attachment to the past. And
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if you have an attachment to something that you have
to let go of, it's going to be really hard
to let it go.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
So let's say again, a loss.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
Of a job, and you felt like this was your family,
your work family. Okay, sometimes we spend more time with
our work, our coworkers than we do with our family family.
So and you felt really loyal towards the company, and
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then you'll let go because of budget cuts or because
of whatever change is going on in the company, and
it's really hard to let go or like what I
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was talking about before about moms.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
And the empty ness.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Like moms, there are some moms that they love that
their kids needed them when they were younger, and it's
hard for them to adjust to be able to navigate
life without their kids. And because it's a whole identity change.
So that's another example. And so any kind of attachment
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to the past can bring on more stress and harder
to let go of the things that you need to
let go of in order for you to navigate the changes.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
And also it can.
Speaker 2 (37:47):
Trigger grief and mourning and loss, and that's real too,
and then you need to be able to allow yourself
to grieve and more in the past. That's important. And
then another is perceived negative impact. So if you perceive
the change is going to be something negative, you're going
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to stress out even more. So that's why it's learning
how to change how you think about change. Change what
you're saying to yourself.
Speaker 3 (38:24):
Okay, so.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
And the change you may perceive it with financial laws
or like loss of identity or a loss of control,
a loss of status, And what I want to support
you in doing is learning how to take your power back,
empowering yourself, and we'll talk more about that, okay. So
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I'm just going through what the potential fears of change
are right now. So if you think the change is
going to bring something negative, it's going to increase your stress.
And that's why it's going to be learning how to
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think about things in new ways. Remember, and I want
to bring this back to you, change equals opportunity. It's
an opportunity for something new. No matter whether the change
was thrown on you or you're choosing the change, it
is an opportunity, and we're.
Speaker 3 (39:33):
Going to talk more about that, okay.
Speaker 2 (39:37):
So another fear could be fear of increase workload or stress.
So let's say you get a promotion, which is a
positive change, but you're really nervous about what is that
going to mean?
Speaker 3 (39:50):
Is am I going to have no time? Like?
Speaker 2 (39:54):
Is it going to mean too many hours? What does
it mean in terms of my workload, my stress? Or
if there's other people in the company that are being
let go of and then you have to take on
other people's responsibilities again, you could have fears of those
changes as well. So it could be an increase in
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stress and the fear of increase in workload. So that
could be another thing that brings your fears up. And
there's when you have a change that's happening in conflict
with your beliefs or your.
Speaker 3 (40:41):
Values.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
That could create more stress as well. So for example,
let's say let's say you grew up Catholic and your
partner is now wanting to file for Divorceflicks don't believe
in doors, or at least they didn't.
Speaker 3 (41:03):
I mean, now you know it depends on the person.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
And so it may bring up all your like confusion
about this is something that's happening to me now and
I don't understand this is my value about it? How
could this happen? So it could bring up a lot
of conflict for you. That's an example.
Speaker 3 (41:32):
Another another is lack of trust. So if you.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
Don't trust the source or the reason for the change,
it can create more stress and learning. How again, this
is about taking your power back. And then there's fear
of failure. You resist change because of the fear of
the failure. And on the opposite coin, there are people
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you may be fearing success because success and we talked
about that before may mean more work. More things, you
have to do, more responsibility, so you can have fear
of failure or you can have fear of success.
Speaker 3 (42:21):
So that's possible too.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
Now in order to overcome the resistance and these changes,
this is about learning those new skills, learning what you
need to learn in order to help you to navigate
the changes and to move through transition, so you can
transform your life yourself as you move through change more easily,
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more gracefully, and so and it's also looking at transitions
and change in a new way. And we're going to
be talking about all of that in the next live show. Okay,
So we're going to continue this topic. This is a
very important, huge topic, so specially in these times of uncertainty.
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So thank you whoever brought this topic up.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Great and to be continued.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
Now, just letting you know when the next live show
we will be in two weeks, okay, two weeks.
Speaker 3 (43:39):
Next week there'll be a replay. It'll be a.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
Great one, so don't miss it. And in two weeks
we'll continue this topic.
Speaker 3 (43:51):
Okay. So I want to remind all of you.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
That change and transition it's all about what.
Speaker 3 (44:04):
You think about, how you feel about.
Speaker 2 (44:07):
It, and learning to find new ways of coping. And
I talked about breath work, we talked about exercise, we
talked about different things to help you to navigate the changes,
and we're going to continue to talk about more and
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I want to wish you okay, So join us live
Tuesday mornings at eleven am Eastern on talkfortv dot com,
W four WN dot com, my YouTube channel, and.
Speaker 3 (44:45):
Then you can find.
Speaker 2 (44:47):
The podcast on iHeartRadio, Spotify, Pandora, Apple, Amazon, and many more.
And so next time, next live show, Embracing Change and
Turning Transitions into Transformations, Part three. I wish you all
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an inspired and empowered day and an inspired and empowered week.
Have a great one, everybody, Bye for now,
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Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Tuesday mornings at
eleven am Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W four WN
dot com, and my YouTube channel, and today we will
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be continuing to talk about embracing change and turning transitions
into transformations Part two. Join us and as I said,
we're continuing where we left off last week, so join
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us today as we dive in turning transitions into transformations.
Whether you're facing personal or professional shifts, this episode will
equip you with the mindset and the tools to embrace
change as a pathway to growth, Discover how to navigate
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uncertainty with confidence, overcome fears of the unknown, and turn
life's transitions into opportunities for alignment and empowerment. Don't miss
this empowering conversation that will inspire you to step boldly
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into the next chapter of your journey with clarity.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
And Grace.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Tune in and start mastering the art of change today. Together,
let's create a life you love. Hi. I'm your host,
Nancy Deutsche, licensed Clinical social worker, certified hypnotherapist, and Intuitive
breakthrough Expert. And I combine my counseling, coaching and intuitive
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ability to inspire and empower you to transform your life.
This show is not a replacement for therapy and counseling.
It is for educational purposes, is only. And I see
we have Ali in the house. Good morning, Ali, and
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I wish you all a good.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Morning from New York. You can tell by my accent.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Okay, Now, anyway, So what I want to do today,
and of course all of you you know I love
answering your questions, So if you have any questions, please
feel free to ask them. What I want to do
today is talk about why do people have so much resistance?
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Why do you have so much resistance to change? And
what are the issues that change can bring up for you?
So we're going to be starting to talk about that, okay.
And the first thing is is that you may have
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a fear of the unknown, that the known is familiar.
You know what you're going to get with what you
have but to have change happen. And you're like, oh,
I don't know what's it's the fear of the unknown,
fear of uncertainty. And okay, I'm going to get to
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your question Country Gone As in a sec. So so
there's this fear of what will happen if I make
this change, that fear of the unknown, the unfamiliar. Okay.
And and so it's learning. And it may also be
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have to do with a fear of failure or not
knowing how to navigate the new situation effectively. So as
I go through the show today and perhaps future, we
will talk more about how to navigate those changes. First,
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I want to get through why there may be resistant.
So let's get to the question from Country Corners Gazette
and then we'll continue on. So the question is is
change a good thing or a bad thing to deal with?
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
So change is something. First of all, what I want
to remind you is change is constant. There is nothing
and no one that will go through life without change. Okay,
So change happens. Now there are good changes where things
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are improving, or you.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Get a better job, a better.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Position, more money, you enter a new relationship, relationship gets better,
improves this like major, having a child, having a child,
get married, you're getting married, Like, there's a lot of
different changes. Now I just talked about a lot of
positive changes. Now there's the change can also involve laws.
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So it's not here's the thing, You're going to have
change no matter what it is, it is a there
is one thing that is certain, okay, and that is
life is full of changes and transitions. That just is
okay now. And it's not a matter of what the
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change is okay, it's how do you handle the change?
Speaker 3 (06:48):
How do you handle the change? What are you thinking?
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Are you automatically thinking the negative even if it's a
positive change, That fear of the unknown that I just
talked about, even if it's a positive change, if you
have fears of the unknown, a fears of failure. Like
I've had clients that said, oh, you know, I'm entering
a new relationship. What if it happens that we get
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you know, divorced. You know, they're getting married and they're
thinking about divorce. So so here's the thing. It's all
about how are you thinking? What are you saying to yourself?
The self talk can make the hugest difference when we're
talking about navigating change effectively. Okay, so changes really need
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the good of bad. You're going to have positive change,
positive experiences which has changed and still can be stressful.
And then they're the negative changes. There's the uncertainty with
what we have in the world. There's natural disasters, there's
political goals, unrest, there's concern about more and all different
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kinds of things that there is uncertainty wherever you are
in this world.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
And so it's again it's.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Not what the change is, but learning new coping skills
and tools to navigate the changes, and that's how you
turn transitions into transformations. But before we go into that,
I want to talk more about possibilities of what can
happen and what are those resistances. And before I do that,
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we have a good number of questions that came in.
So I want to get to your questions and then
we'll go back to more of why you may be
resistant to change. So Misty ask why why is it
hard to change for some people? So, Misty, what I'm
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going to be talking about is the resistance to change
and why it's hard. So one of those one of
those changes is that.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
That fear the unknown.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Another one is comfort with familiar, familiar larity, and being
comfortable with the familiar. It's it's so much easy, easier
for all of us, okay, as human beings, to stay
with what we know, with the familiar, than to have
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to risk change. So that is another reason why people
resist changing. And usually a lot of times change can be.
Speaker 3 (09:51):
Put upon you.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Rather than you choosing it, because again, it's so easy
to be in the familiar then have to do unfamiliar
territory and so hopefully so change. And as I go
through these other issues about resistance to change and the
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fears of change and what those bring up, that should
also help you answer the.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
Question more misty.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
So and again if hopefully I answered your question, and
if there's anything else that you would like to ask
around what's what I'm bringing, definitely ask away. And then
we have a question from Micky. Some things are thrown
at you and it's hard to navigate through it. Yes, Micky,
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that is so true.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
And that's what I.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Was talking about, is that people resist change, and you
may resist and resist, and look, I understand that because
I've been there a lot of times. When I had
a move, it was because I need to move. I
didn't want to move, moving my house, moving my home,
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and so and including natural disaster. I mean, I was
here with Hurricane Sandy and I had to move out
of the place where I lived, which was Long Beach,
New York. So I understand the resistance to change really
well for my own life. And I also want to
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let you all know that it's pretty human that we
all have these fears of changes, and very often we
resist the change, resist the change. It's it's your intuition.
Very often can be like that, there's that still small
voice and you hear it and you kind of know,
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kind of know, ooh, I think I need to make
a change.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
But you resist it.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
And then and then it may get a little louder
and you keep resisting until.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Boom, it's thrown upon you.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
And that is common. Okay, So I'm just going to
let you know that it is common. I think there
are more people that resist change than welcome it and
move through it with ease and grace. But I'm hoping
that as we go through this show and these upcoming shows,
because I can feel I know we're going to be
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continuing on okay, because there's a lot of information I
want to share with you, and I want you to know.
I want you to know what would be creating the resistance,
and then we're going to be talking about how to
navigate it.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Okay. So that's what we're talking about today, is.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
What would create that fear of change, the resisting change
so that it ends up being thrown upon us. And
here's the thing. Sometimes you may be someone who welcomes change,
and changes can still be thrown upon you. You know, it's
part of life that there is sometimes certainty and then
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there's sometimes uncertainty.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
And that is life.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
And this is about learning how to cope with those changes,
whether they're thrown upon you.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
And or whether you are.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Moving through it, and it's learning how to navigate it
more easily, more effectively, more gracefully.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
So we're going to be talking about all of that. Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
So hopefully Micky I answered your question and will continue.
If you have any others, let me know so and
then we have we have anastasia. Anastasia as Anasaysia says,
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I guess it is how you choose to handle change.
You got it, anasthesia, So it's it's how do you
choose to handle it? What are you saying to yourself?
What are your coping skills? Because here's the thing. The
bottom line is it's learning new and healthier coping skills,
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and those coping skills can make all the difference in
how you navigate the changes. So yes, Anastasia, you got it.
And George Charles Charles says, what if you don't have
good coping skills? So Charles, thank you for asking that.
And that's also what I want to cover during these
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shows that we're going to talk more about coping skill
that you can use as you navigate the changes, so
that as we work and talk about the changes and
the transitions, well, I'll also be talking about learning new
coping skills and what those look like. Now, one of
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the big coping skills that I talk about okay, and
it's something you don't have to buy, you have it,
and it is okay, I got that. So it's your breath.
And you know, I'm always talking about your breath, and
it's learning how to breathe more deeply, because what happens
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is when you have stress and you have uncertainty, and
you are in the middle of changes and transitions, you
go and you don't even realize you're holding your breath.
You don't even realize that you're shut your breath down.
So the first thing that you can do is take
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a deep breath, belly breath. Remember how I'm always talking
about the belly breath, putting your hands on your belly
and breathing so that your your breath. When you breathe in,
your belly goes out, and when you breathe out, your
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belly goes in.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
And that is belly breath again.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
When you breathe in, your belly goes out, and when
you breathe out, your belly goes in. It's the opposite
of what you think would happen. And the reason why
I suggest putting your hands on your belly is you
can you can watch it happen, and whether you're sitting
up or because I first learned Belle breath with a
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book on my belly laying down, because that is good
practice and I was working on my voice and that
was what my voice coach was teaching me. So I
really want to support you major coping skill. We're going
to get to others as we go on, so I
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know the country corners gize. Someone had a question, how
would I define coping skills.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
What are they? So?
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Coping skills are things, are ways that you deal with stress,
how you cope with change, how you cope with transitions.
And most of us did not learn healthy coping skills.
Most of us learned destructive coping skills. Usually and very
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often they could be addictive coping skills like using food,
using drugs or alcohol, using gambling, using some kind of
addictive substance. That's an unhealthy coping skill. And healthy coping
skills are learning how to breathe, learning how to reframe
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positive self talk, and those are examples of healthy coping skills.
And we're going to get into more healthy coping skills
as we continue on through the program today and future programs,
so hopefully in country Corners that answered, So, coping skills
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are the ways that you navigate change, transitions, your life, stress,
and the healthier you are. Healthy coping skills like exercise
can be a healthy coping skills going out into nature.
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So I'm already giving you some examples and we'll go
deeper into that to help you through change and transitions. Okay, Anastasia,
in the moment, how would we know if we had
the coping skill and which one to use at the time.
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So in the moment, what you just kind of reach
for whatever works for you in the moment. What I
make the suggestion is have a list of different coping skills.
So as we go through this show, I want to
invite you to start writing down all the different things
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that I've mentioned, and I'm going to mention them again
and again because I really want to support you all
in having healthier, better coping skills. It's really crucial that
and because you want to be able to navigate life
with healthy coping skills rather than unhealthy behaviors. So another
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resistance and fear of change is the loss of control.
And what happens is is that when change happens. And
also I want to remind you is that a lot
of this also comes from childhood. So if you, like,
for example, as a child, you didn't have much control
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over things and circumstances, Okay, like your parents got divorced,
you didn't have a say in that it was about that,
and that may have put the whole family into stress.
Or if you had a move and you I mean,
I can't even begin to tell you how many clients
moved from one location to another, and they had friends
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in the old location they were really popular, and then
in the new location they couldn't even make a friend
or they had friend problems growing up, And so then
there's this loss, the fear of loss of control, Like
what's going to happen if you end up doing the changes?
Speaker 3 (21:25):
So as an adult.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
And this is also why people fear change because very
often when you were a child, there were changes that
happened that were out of your control. In fact, the
changes still happen that they're out of our control. I
mean world events or national events or events that are
happening in our lives can be out of control. So
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what do you do? And what you do is you
work on finding your ways to gain the control back
to help you to navigate the changes.
Speaker 3 (22:08):
So what do I mean by that?
Speaker 2 (22:10):
So let's say that a change is imposed upon you
and like for example, let's say you lost your job
and you you know, was freaking out about money, and
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that was a change that you didn't expect.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
It was out of your control.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
What do you do, Well, you find other possibilities to
take your power back, to gain back control. What do
you do you find? Perhaps you work on getting a
resume together, or you look for something different or something new,
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and you work on finding perhaps new ways of making money.
Maybe you'll take jobs that you wouldn't have thought of
in the past, but you need to make a living,
so you take other jobs that you want of and
maybe you even liked them. You know, you never know
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what can change can bring. So I'll give you an
example of what happened for me. I think I talked
about this that because of budget cuts, I lost my
jobs as a social worker and I lost my full
time job as a social worker, and I was like,
you know what, the way that I took back my
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power is like I'm not getting.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
A full time social work position again.
Speaker 2 (23:46):
That was me what I decided, I'd rather have two
part time jobs to make a full time job, and
that's what I did, and I got a job.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
I got a job as a social worker doing what
I knew.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
And then I got a job as a marketer, totally different,
making call sales calls for an architect, and it was
totally different than what I could have even imagined. But
I also was like, Okay, I need to be open
to possibilities of what's next. And I allowed myself to
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open to the changes and the possibility. So I really
want to support you and know that change doesn't always
mean negative when you find the ways to take your
power back and take back the control so that you
feel more empowered and find a way to navigate the
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change so that you're taking your power back.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
So hopefully that was helpful. Okay, anesthetia, do we get
to that question. Let's see in the moment.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Oh, we did in the moment.
Speaker 3 (25:04):
How would we know.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Two if we had the coping skills in which one
to use at the time. So, like I said before,
it's being able to use whatever tools come up for
you at the time that will work for you in
the moment, and you can try different ones because one
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may work one time and not another time. So it's
having a variety. Okay, you don't want just one coping skill.
You want a variety of coping skills that will support
you as you navigate change and transition. So another fear
that people have is losing competence. So if you are
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in a certain position or a certain role, and it
could be a personal role or a professional role, a
personal role like motherhood, and how many people moms go
through major identity crisis when their children get old enough
and they're leaving the nest.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
Empty nest syndrome is.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Real, okay, because the loss of identity is you've been
a mom and all of a sudden, you're not. It's
not that you ever give up being a mom, because
you're always a mom, but.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
The kids don't need you like they used to.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
And if they're going off to college, or they're going
you know, or they're moving, they're moving to their own
apartments or out of state or whatever, then you may
have an identity crisis. Let's say you have a certain role,
like for example, when I lost my job as a
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social worker, and when I was on unemployment, it was
like it was I had to go through a whole
process of grief and and and and nw even though
I've got a similar job in another company, another organization.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
I had to learn their rules, that their structure.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
So you may be confident in what you learn and
what you know, whether it's personal or professional, and then
change happens like you lose a job or you're you
get a divorce. You're used to being a wife or
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a husband, and then all of a sudden you're not
and now you're a single parent, or you're you're you're
if you don't have kids. You're figuring out what is
it like to be a single person rather than being
in a couple, And that is a real identity shift. Okay,
So these are real. They're not in your mind, they're
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not imagination. It really happens.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
So what I want to support all of you in
remembering is to be gentle aler with yourself, beating yourself
up because why shouldn't I get this, or why am
I not handling this data, or what's wrong with me?
I really want to support all of you whatever changes,
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whatever transitions that you are going through, that it's really
important to give yourself some slap, to be kinder to
yourself and gentler with yourself, because navigating change and transition
is not something we learned most of us, okay, most
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of us, majority of the population have not learned how
to do it with ease and grace.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
And what I'm hoping is from these shows.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
And remember this was a suggestion from one of you listeners,
so and I love the suggestion because I think it's
so important. This is huge, especially in these times of uncertainty.
This is a huge and important topic. So thank you,
thank you for suggesting, and I love supporting all of you.
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So and Charles asks, what what can it affect when
you have the confident loss? Okay, so Charles, can you
what all.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Can it? I'm Charles, can you.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Ask the question in a different way because I'm not
clear on what exactly the question That question came in
when you were talking about loss of confidence? Loss of confidence? Okay, okay,
thank you. So what can it affect when you have
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the confident laws?
Speaker 3 (30:07):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (30:08):
So when you feel that you have loss confidence and competence,
what happens is it brings up a lot of fears
because if you're used to a certain role in a
way of being and that's what you've known, and then
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all of a sudden you're put in a position where
either a you have to get another job or or
you have to find a new way of navigating the
transition that you're in. Whether it's divorce, whether it's dealing
with crisis, natural disasters, it's all these things can bring
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up the fears of not feeling competent and not being
able to feel confident as you navigate the changes. So
it's learning again what you can do to take your
power back and to feel and to use coping skills
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to help you as you navigate the changes in your
life situations. So, Charles, I hope I answered your question.
If I didn't, can you let me know and ask
maybe the question in a different way or add to
it or so let me know, because I really want
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to support you and answer your question.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
Okay, So before we go on to more.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Information, let's talk about I have a meditation and a
peace So even if you don't meditate, you can download
the PDF and you can you can allow yourself to
use this. This is a coping tool. So whether you
(32:16):
use a PDF or whether you use the meditation, this
would be a helpful coping.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Tool for you to have.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
And what I do during it is I help you
to clear your energy, calm yourself down, connect to the
higher aspects of yourself that are here to help you,
like what I call your higher self, that wise, unconditionally
(32:48):
loving part of you, and then helping you make decisions
because when you are in transition, you can have a
hard time making decisions to navigate the changes.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
So this can help you.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Go to the name of the show, Inspired and Empowered
Living dot com forward slash meditation n E d I
t A t io N me e d I t
A t i o n And it's inspired, inspired and
(33:31):
empoweredliving dot com forward slash Meditation. So you can download
Rebel put the links in the chat so you can
download the meditation to support you in navigating your life changes.
Because that's what I want to help you to do,
(33:53):
is help you to heal and grow and navigate your
changes life changes. So Charles says, I believe you got it,
But can it affect things in your body?
Speaker 3 (34:09):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (34:11):
So what happens is when you're in fear, when you're
in stress, whether the change in competence or the changes
that life brings the transitions, can it affect your body?
Speaker 3 (34:27):
You bet?
Speaker 2 (34:28):
And I mean they have shown studies with the mind
and the body, you cannot separate them out. There's more
stress you are. I mean you can even notice it
in your own life. When you're more stressed, you're more
likely to get cold, you're more likely to get sick.
(34:50):
And what happens is is stress. If you don't learn
new coping skills, if you don't learn new top techniques
to move the energy of stress and emotions, through your
body in healthy ways. It will affect your body, and
(35:10):
it definitely like, for example, anger, the emotion of anger.
When you're feeling stressed and you're going through transitions, you
may have.
Speaker 3 (35:18):
A lot of anger coming up. And when you have
the anger coming up, it's.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Learning how to deal with that emotion move it through
your body, like using exercise or breathing so that you're
releasing the energy so that it doesn't affect your body.
So that's why it's really important to learn new coping
skills to be able to navigate change and transition more
(35:47):
effectively so it's not stressing your body out. So hopefully
that helped answer your question. So another fear reason why
both fear change is the attachment to the past. And
(36:08):
if you have an attachment to something that you have
to let go of, it's going to be really hard
to let it go.
Speaker 3 (36:19):
So let's say again, a loss.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
Of a job, and you felt like this was your family,
your work family. Okay, sometimes we spend more time with
our work, our coworkers than we do with our family family.
So and you felt really loyal towards the company, and
(36:42):
then you'll let go because of budget cuts or because
of whatever change is going on in the company, and
it's really hard to let go or like what I
(37:03):
was talking about before about moms.
Speaker 3 (37:06):
And the empty ness.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Like moms, there are some moms that they love that
their kids needed them when they were younger, and it's
hard for them to adjust to be able to navigate
life without their kids. And because it's a whole identity change.
So that's another example. And so any kind of attachment
(37:32):
to the past can bring on more stress and harder
to let go of the things that you need to
let go of in order for you to navigate the changes.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
And also it can.
Speaker 2 (37:47):
Trigger grief and mourning and loss, and that's real too,
and then you need to be able to allow yourself
to grieve and more in the past. That's important. And
then another is perceived negative impact. So if you perceive
the change is going to be something negative, you're going
(38:11):
to stress out even more. So that's why it's learning
how to change how you think about change. Change what
you're saying to yourself.
Speaker 3 (38:24):
Okay, so.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
And the change you may perceive it with financial laws
or like loss of identity or a loss of control,
a loss of status, And what I want to support
you in doing is learning how to take your power back,
empowering yourself, and we'll talk more about that, okay. So
(38:52):
I'm just going through what the potential fears of change
are right now. So if you think the change is
going to bring something negative, it's going to increase your stress.
And that's why it's going to be learning how to
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think about things in new ways. Remember, and I want
to bring this back to you, change equals opportunity. It's
an opportunity for something new. No matter whether the change
was thrown on you or you're choosing the change, it
is an opportunity, and we're.
Speaker 3 (39:33):
Going to talk more about that, okay.
Speaker 2 (39:37):
So another fear could be fear of increase workload or stress.
So let's say you get a promotion, which is a
positive change, but you're really nervous about what is that
going to mean?
Speaker 3 (39:50):
Is am I going to have no time? Like?
Speaker 2 (39:54):
Is it going to mean too many hours? What does
it mean in terms of my workload, my stress? Or
if there's other people in the company that are being
let go of and then you have to take on
other people's responsibilities again, you could have fears of those
changes as well. So it could be an increase in
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stress and the fear of increase in workload. So that
could be another thing that brings your fears up. And
there's when you have a change that's happening in conflict
with your beliefs or your.
Speaker 3 (40:41):
Values.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
That could create more stress as well. So for example,
let's say let's say you grew up Catholic and your
partner is now wanting to file for Divorceflicks don't believe
in doors, or at least they didn't.
Speaker 3 (41:03):
I mean, now you know it depends on the person.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
And so it may bring up all your like confusion
about this is something that's happening to me now and
I don't understand this is my value about it? How
could this happen? So it could bring up a lot
of conflict for you. That's an example.
Speaker 3 (41:32):
Another another is lack of trust. So if you.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
Don't trust the source or the reason for the change,
it can create more stress and learning. How again, this
is about taking your power back. And then there's fear
of failure. You resist change because of the fear of
the failure. And on the opposite coin, there are people
(42:05):
you may be fearing success because success and we talked
about that before may mean more work. More things, you
have to do, more responsibility, so you can have fear
of failure or you can have fear of success.
Speaker 3 (42:21):
So that's possible too.
Speaker 2 (42:24):
Now in order to overcome the resistance and these changes,
this is about learning those new skills, learning what you
need to learn in order to help you to navigate
the changes and to move through transition, so you can
transform your life yourself as you move through change more easily,
(42:53):
more gracefully, and so and it's also looking at transitions
and change in a new way. And we're going to
be talking about all of that in the next live show. Okay,
So we're going to continue this topic. This is a
very important, huge topic, so specially in these times of uncertainty.
(43:20):
So thank you whoever brought this topic up.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Great and to be continued.
Speaker 2 (43:28):
Now, just letting you know when the next live show
we will be in two weeks, okay, two weeks.
Speaker 3 (43:39):
Next week there'll be a replay. It'll be a.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
Great one, so don't miss it. And in two weeks
we'll continue this topic.
Speaker 3 (43:51):
Okay. So I want to remind all of you.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
That change and transition it's all about what.
Speaker 3 (44:04):
You think about, how you feel about.
Speaker 2 (44:07):
It, and learning to find new ways of coping. And
I talked about breath work, we talked about exercise, we
talked about different things to help you to navigate the changes,
and we're going to continue to talk about more and
(44:27):
I want to wish you okay, So join us live
Tuesday mornings at eleven am Eastern on talkfortv dot com,
W four WN dot com, my YouTube channel, and.
Speaker 3 (44:45):
Then you can find.
Speaker 2 (44:47):
The podcast on iHeartRadio, Spotify, Pandora, Apple, Amazon, and many more.
And so next time, next live show, Embracing Change and
Turning Transitions into Transformations, Part three. I wish you all
(45:10):
an inspired and empowered day and an inspired and empowered week.
Have a great one, everybody, Bye for now,
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