June 12, 2025 • 29 mins
Emotional Intelligence is a game-changer — personally and professionally.
It's one of the most important keys to creating the life and business you truly love.
In this episode, you'll learn how to harness the power of Emotional Intelligence to increase confidence, improve communication, and make soul-aligned decisions.
The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show is broadcast live Thursdays at 5PM ET on W4WN Radio - Women 4 Women Network (www.w4wn.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com). The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show TV Show is viewed on Talk 4 TV (www.talk4tv.com).
The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show Podcast is also available on Talk 4 Media (www.talk4media.com), Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com), iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, Pandora, Spotify, Audible, and over 100 other podcast outlets.
It's one of the most important keys to creating the life and business you truly love.
In this episode, you'll learn how to harness the power of Emotional Intelligence to increase confidence, improve communication, and make soul-aligned decisions.
The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show is broadcast live Thursdays at 5PM ET on W4WN Radio - Women 4 Women Network (www.w4wn.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com). The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show TV Show is viewed on Talk 4 TV (www.talk4tv.com).
The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show Podcast is also available on Talk 4 Media (www.talk4media.com), Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com), iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, Pandora, Spotify, Audible, and over 100 other podcast outlets.
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Any health related information on the following show provides general
information only. Content presented on any show by any host
or guest should not be substituted for a doctor's advice.
Always consult your physician before beginning any new diet, exercise,
or treatment program.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Thursdays at five
Eastern on talkortv dot com, W FOURWN dot com and
my YouTube channel. And today we continue with Part two,
(01:13):
Mastering Emotions, Mastering Life the power of emotional intelligence. Are
you ready to live and inspired and empowered life? So
we are going to be talking about how you can
(01:34):
use the game changer emotional intelligence personally and professionally. You'll
discover three core principles and more of emotional intelligence and
how emotional intelligence transforms your relationships, your career, your health,
(01:55):
your body, your well being, and the number one mistake
that can block you to a path and a life
you love. So let me repeat and define for you
exactly what emotional intelligence is. And it is your ability
(02:17):
to recognize, understand and manage your emotions and to recognize, understand,
and positively influence the emotions of others. In short, we're
calling it emotional mastery, and it's really about learning to
(02:42):
discover what are you feeling right now? What is it
that is happening for you, What is going on for you?
What is the feeling that you Anasazia says night thing
to call it. I guess she likes emotional Bastery because
(03:05):
the bottom line is, I remember one of my mentors said,
and it left such an impact on me, and he said,
it's not never getting upset or getting triggered or reacting,
but how quickly you can come back to center. And
(03:25):
that's really what we want to remember. We want to
support you all in remembering how quickly can you come
back to center and reregulate and manage your emotion And
know that when you are in alignment and when you're
(03:45):
managing your emotions and when you're feeling inspired and empowered,
you become an inspiration for other people. People want to
be around you. People attracted to people where they feel
they feel they're being acknowledge or they're there, or or
(04:07):
you feel like when you feel someone, think about it
in your own life. Think about what happens for you
when you meet someone that really inspires you and empowers you,
and don't you want to be around them even more?
Don't you feel like you gravitate towards them? And it's oh, yes,
(04:32):
I want to connect with that person or I want
to be around them, or I want to hear what
they have to say. And I am hoping that I
can be that for you, because that's what my intention
for this show is to help you to all live
and inspired and empowered life and to create that life
(04:55):
so that you, those of you who want to grow
your business, create the business that you can do that
and be able to create not only and a thriving,
inspiring life, but a thriving, inspiring business. And we have
Mickey who says, Micky says, managing is the issue at times, Nicky,
(05:19):
I totally get it, and you're right. You know what,
Managing the emotion. And here's the thing. Being human, you're
going to get triggered. Okay, it's just a fact of life.
When I say triggered, what I mean is you're reacting.
You're reacting to some kind of stimuli and it could
(05:40):
be another person, it could be something that's going on
in your life. It could be external, or it could
be internal. And when you have that and you it's
it's being able and we talked about this last week
and we're going to go further into it. It's being
(06:01):
able to have the awareness. Now, I created three a's,
three a's that will help you to remember emotional intelligence.
So the first A is that energy of awareness. Okay,
So you want to become aware of what you're feeling.
(06:26):
You want to become aware of what's going on for you.
And I know, Missy, mistery, I see that you said
it helps if you know yourself better, and it's true.
If you know yourself better, you know what's going to
trigger you and what's not, and you also know when
(06:46):
what you need to do to manage your emotions. But
I also want you all to remember that we're all
works in progress. So wherever you are at in your journey,
it's all okay, but start with that energy of awareness
is really crucial. So you can remember these a's awareness,
(07:09):
become aware what it is you're feeling, and that question
what am I feeling right now? How do I feel
right now? So those are two different ways to ask
that a question. And when you have the awareness of
what you're feeling, then you can take action on it.
(07:30):
But what happens is you may have issues from your
past and it may be limiting beliefs or emotions that
need to be cleared or that created that trigger. And
so it's going to be really important for you to
(07:52):
get in touch with the awareness and then really and
then acknowledge. That's the second A is awareness is the
first day, and second A is acknowledge. And it's learning
to acknowledge what you're feeling. Whatever it is you're feeling.
Sweeping it under the rug or denying that you're feeling
(08:15):
it is not going to help you. It actually makes
things worse. And so it's learning to acknowledge whatever it is.
And so here's the thing. You can't act on it
and change it until you become aware of it and
then acknowledge that it's a feeling that's happening. Now I
(08:39):
know that I've talked. The feelings that you really want
to gain emotional mastery over, the feelings that you really
want to work on healing when they come up. Are
the feelings of fear. How many fear? Yes, many of
us are go in and out of fear or maybe
it's anger or frustration, maybe it's grief, or maybe it's
(09:04):
guilt or shame. Now, even guilt or shame, you're like, ooh,
who wants to feel that. You can't heal it till
you feel it. So it's really important to allow yourself
to acknowledge whatever it is you're feeling, and then you
can take action to help it to shift. So once
(09:29):
you take the action to help it shift, it's And
it's funny because as I'm as I'm talking to you
about the a's, so then actually we really have four a's.
I just added an A. So it's awareness, acknowledgement, it's
taking an action so that you then clear it using tools.
(09:55):
And we'll talk more about the tools. I know. Last
time we met, Mistagia had asked for the breathing technique,
so we were working on the breathing learning how to
clear it. So you can use your breath to clear it,
you can journal it out, you can exercise it out.
You want to make sure that you're releasing the feeling.
(10:17):
And when you move the energy, emotion is energy that
wants to move energy emotion, it's the name emotion. So
you want to move your body and you want to
move the energy through your body. When you move the
energy through your body. It will help you to release
(10:40):
it and let it go. And so it's really important
to do those steps. And then once you take some
type of action, the next step and this may be
the actual if you're processing through and going through all
the a's, hopefully this isn't challenging, but it could be challenged.
(11:02):
It's learning to have acceptance and compassion for yourself. Sometimes
having acceptance and compassion for yourself can be challenging. And
what I want you to know is part of emotional
mastery and emotional intelligence is learning to love yourself more.
(11:23):
It's learning to accept who you are and how you
are and have compassion for whereever you are in the
journey now. It doesn't mean that you are, it doesn't
mean that you don't. You can continue to work towards change,
(11:47):
but it's be accepting with where you are right now.
And I'll give you an example. So Louise is a
client that I have and Louise and it's a Suno
name because I always want to make sure that clients
are staying anonymous, and Louise has challenges with anxiety, and
(12:14):
so she gets really upset with herself. In fact, it's
not just Louise. I have few clients that get really anxious,
and they get really upset at themselves for having anxiety.
And what I want to remind you is that anxiety
is actually a protective reaction to stress, and that you
(12:38):
developed anxiety to protect yourself and take care of yourself,
and it was one of the ways that you survived
in your family, in your life. And so when I
work with Louise, I always remind her how far she's
come and how much she has overcome. Already, she was
(13:01):
very anxious in a lot of different ways, but as
we've worked together, she's overcome and healed a lot of that,
and she's moving forward and she's continuing to shift and heal.
And what I want to and what I've supported her
in is being accepting for where she is right now
(13:23):
and having compassion because those parts of you and this
is something for all of you. No matter what feeling
is coming up, the question you may want to ask
yourself is what part of me is feeling fear or anxiety,
What part of me is feeling angry or resentful or frustrated,
(13:49):
what part of me is feeling the grief, or what
part of me is feeling guilty. What part of me
feels ashamed? Now, very often you will notice, even though
it may feel like it's happening in present time, it's
really not. And I'm going to do my psych one
(14:12):
on one so we're all on the same page. So
your conscious mind brought you here to right here, right now.
Thank you conscious mind. And your conscious mind is what
empowers you when you make conscious decisions, it empowers you.
It's your conscious mind is what helps you to manage
(14:34):
your emotional states. So when you okay, so if we
go through the a's, when you learn to become aware
of something that you're feeling, you've become conscious. Your conscious
mind has made you aware, and then you acknowledge, and
(14:56):
it could be your conscious mind or you're soper a
conscious mind that helps with the acknowledgement. And your super
conscious mind is the part of you that higher self,
your wise, unconditionally loving part of you, and your soul,
and your soul is the light and the love of
(15:18):
who you really are. And so your conscious and your
super conscious mind can be working together to help you
have the awareness taken action and acknowledge, then come to
acceptance and compassion. Now, your subconscious mind is the part
(15:40):
of you from the moment you will conceive to present
time that has recorded every moment that you have been alive.
And your subconscious mind also includes pass life memories and
trauma and limiting beliefs and emotions that could be affecting
you now, and it also could be ancestral trauma emotions,
(16:06):
limiting beliefs that could be affecting you now, and all
of that energy is in your subconscious mind. So when
you're in reaction and you're noticing, oh, I'm feeling fear
or I'm feeling angry or frustrated or shame or guilt
or grief or whatever it is, it's about noticing and
(16:29):
asking what part of you now if and when I'm
talking about grief, grief is an emotion that you need
to process through. If you've had any kind of loss,
you're going to want to move through grief for you
to say, I should just get over it, and I
do feel like grief is one of those emotions that
(16:51):
comes in waves and it's different than depression. So if
you notice you're in grief now and you haven't had
a current loss, and that loss can be someone that
you loved, a deceased loved one. It could be a job,
it could be a relationship that has ended in some way,
(17:16):
whether it be a romantic or a friendship. There are
losses of many kinds, and the feelings of grief may
last for a long time, or they may move you
may move through because even grief itself has stages of emotion.
And so it's being able to honor, to accept and
(17:40):
have compassion for where you are. And so with the
case of Louise, what has happened as we work together,
she started having more compassion for herself when she has
the anxiety, and that that anxiety usually has come from
(18:02):
past trauma, from when she was younger. So when you
ask what part of me is feeling this, even though
it feels like it's present time, it very may well
be your past, the child part of you. Usually it's
the child part. I mean you, you may have s
(18:24):
As I was saying, it's connecting with the parts of
you that may be feeling those feelings. And even though
it may feel like it's happening in current time, more
than likely it's something in your subconscious mind. It's giving
you a message. It's giving you a message so that
you can heal it. I really believe that when we
(18:48):
become aware of our emotions, it's our opportunity to heal
and to feel, or in this case, to feel and
heal so that you can move forward in your life
and in your business. And so those were the a's again,
and remember I added one you saw this live live.
(19:11):
I added an extra A. I like threes, but you
know what in this case it's for, and I can
probably come up with five, but I don't know what
the fifth one is yet, so stay tuned, all right,
when I come back, I'll let you know what the
fifth one is. Because I like threes and fives. I
don't ask me why, but it energetically it's whatever. So
(19:32):
but today we came up with four. So we have awareness, knowledgement,
and then we have action. So awareness is becoming aware,
acknowledging the feeling. Action is making the decision to do
something on the feeling, like to move through it, work
(19:53):
through it, heal it, shift it. And then you want
acceptance and compas and I'm getting and that is all
encompassing snapshot. So that's the a's principle. All right. Now,
(20:15):
So let's talk more about what kind of things you
can do. To come back to help you manage and
I know we had listen managing your emotions and having
what they call because part of emotional intelligence is learning
emotional regulation. Emotional regulation, what that means is being able
(20:42):
to bring your emotions back, to bring yourself back into alignment,
to be able to regulate your emotions, to manage them,
there's another word, and learning how to do that. Learning
how to do that can be quite a challenge. And
I'm just going to let you know. I'll share, I
will share, I will share me a little bit more
(21:04):
so you get some listen. For those of you who
know me, you know I'm passionate and I love inspiring
and empowering you all, and I have a big heart
and I want to share information and that passion and
that I am very emotional. In fact, when I was younger,
(21:29):
my father said, oh, you're so emotional, You're just like
your mother, And that was a bad connotation. But what
I want you to know is being emotional is not
wrong and it's not bad because it's part of what
makes me who I am. It's that ability to be
(21:51):
able to channel that emotion into passion, into creativity to
make changes in my life. And in yours, I had
to work really hard, and I still work on it
because I got the message my emotions were too much.
And so yes, I work on emotional regulation, emotional mastery,
(22:15):
emotional management. And sometimes it's much easier than others, and
sometimes it's much more challenging. So I'm going to share
it with you when it becomes more challenging for me
and more than likely probably for you, and when it's easier. Okay,
(22:36):
so when it's e no, let's go with challenging first.
When it's challenging, it's when I feel stuck in my
past trauma. It's when I feel stuck in the emotions
of fear or anxiety, or it's when I feel stuck
(22:58):
in or frustration. But so I become aware that in
having a feeling, and I acknowledge the feeling, or I
acknowledge where I'm at in the moment, and then I
make a decision. And this is where your conscious mind
comes in. I make a conscious decision to take an action.
(23:23):
So what tool can I use to be able to
clear the emotion or move through it? Now, it may
be moving through my body, it may be we talked
about in the past, we talked about breathing, and we
talked about journaling. Or maybe it's exercising it out or
(23:47):
walking it out, going out in nature, or maybe it's
dancing it out or listening to music to help you
either move it out or breathe it out, relaxing music.
Because I talked about this before, it changes your state.
So all of that are ways that you can shift
(24:11):
the emotional state. Your emotional state, so I take action
on it, and then I can come to more acceptance,
acceptance and compassion or where I'm at. And I'll give
you another example. So I have I haven't an event
that I'm doing this week. Last week, I had a
(24:35):
lot of emotions coming up this event, and every single
day I needed to do my work and it wasn't
always alone. I will tell you that it's really helpful,
really important to have supportive people that you can call
upon or go to to help you move through the emotions.
(25:00):
If you don't have supportive people, I'm going to support
you in getting supportive people. And maybe you need a coach,
or if it's really if you're stuck and there's a
lot of trauma, you need a therapist to help you
move through the emotions to help you shift. And so
I had a lot of stuff coming up, a lot
(25:21):
of emotions, and I worked through those emotions and then
this week when the time came, Tuesday was the first night,
and you know what I was noticing. I feel calm,
I feel centered, I feel excited about it. And so
what I want to share with you is that I
was able to process through the emotion and accept where
(25:45):
I was at. So when the old stuff comes up,
and believe me, it was I had fears from the
child part of me. I had issues about not feeling
like I was trusting, trusting my self, trusting God that
it was all going to work out, and usually that
comes from trauma anyway, work through it, and I came
(26:07):
to a place of all, right, God's got me, I'm
being taken care of. Whatever it's going to be, it's
going to be. I came to that acceptance and what
happened Now I feel really positive and really good about
the event, whatever it is. It is that acceptance. Now,
(26:28):
I said, how do you do it? When? When does When?
Is it easier? So it's easier to get back into
that emotional state. The more connected you are to your
super conscious mind, that higher self part of you. You're
so more connected to who you really are. When you're
(26:53):
in that state of a connection or alignment, it's easier
to move through the feelings. Now sometimes a lot of
times you may have to move through the feelings in
order to get back to the alignment. But if you
are able in the morning to come to an easier
state of alignment, maybe it's meditation, maybe it's inspirational reading,
(27:15):
maybe it's listening to the music, whatever helps you to
get back to this center, back to the alignment. Emotional
mastery becomes easier because you're actually in the place of
yourself as the master, as the being, the amazing being
(27:38):
that you are, your soul, your higher self, the wise
one in you. That's what I want to support you
all and remember. And so we will continue next week
for part three because there is more an emotional intelligence,
(28:00):
emotional mastery, emotional regulation and management. So stay tuned for
more inspired and empowered living next week Part three and
emotional intelligence. I wish you all and inspired and empowered
(28:22):
day and inspired and empowered week. Have a great one, everybody.
By for now,
Any health related information on the following show provides general
information only. Content presented on any show by any host
or guest should not be substituted for a doctor's advice.
Always consult your physician before beginning any new diet, exercise,
or treatment program.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Thursdays at five
Eastern on talkortv dot com, W FOURWN dot com and
my YouTube channel. And today we continue with Part two,
(01:13):
Mastering Emotions, Mastering Life the power of emotional intelligence. Are
you ready to live and inspired and empowered life? So
we are going to be talking about how you can
(01:34):
use the game changer emotional intelligence personally and professionally. You'll
discover three core principles and more of emotional intelligence and
how emotional intelligence transforms your relationships, your career, your health,
(01:55):
your body, your well being, and the number one mistake
that can block you to a path and a life
you love. So let me repeat and define for you
exactly what emotional intelligence is. And it is your ability
(02:17):
to recognize, understand and manage your emotions and to recognize, understand,
and positively influence the emotions of others. In short, we're
calling it emotional mastery, and it's really about learning to
(02:42):
discover what are you feeling right now? What is it
that is happening for you, What is going on for you?
What is the feeling that you Anasazia says night thing
to call it. I guess she likes emotional Bastery because
(03:05):
the bottom line is, I remember one of my mentors said,
and it left such an impact on me, and he said,
it's not never getting upset or getting triggered or reacting,
but how quickly you can come back to center. And
(03:25):
that's really what we want to remember. We want to
support you all in remembering how quickly can you come
back to center and reregulate and manage your emotion And
know that when you are in alignment and when you're
(03:45):
managing your emotions and when you're feeling inspired and empowered,
you become an inspiration for other people. People want to
be around you. People attracted to people where they feel
they feel they're being acknowledge or they're there, or or
(04:07):
you feel like when you feel someone, think about it
in your own life. Think about what happens for you
when you meet someone that really inspires you and empowers you,
and don't you want to be around them even more?
Don't you feel like you gravitate towards them? And it's oh, yes,
(04:32):
I want to connect with that person or I want
to be around them, or I want to hear what
they have to say. And I am hoping that I
can be that for you, because that's what my intention
for this show is to help you to all live
and inspired and empowered life and to create that life
(04:55):
so that you, those of you who want to grow
your business, create the business that you can do that
and be able to create not only and a thriving,
inspiring life, but a thriving, inspiring business. And we have
Mickey who says, Micky says, managing is the issue at times, Nicky,
(05:19):
I totally get it, and you're right. You know what,
Managing the emotion. And here's the thing. Being human, you're
going to get triggered. Okay, it's just a fact of life.
When I say triggered, what I mean is you're reacting.
You're reacting to some kind of stimuli and it could
(05:40):
be another person, it could be something that's going on
in your life. It could be external, or it could
be internal. And when you have that and you it's
it's being able and we talked about this last week
and we're going to go further into it. It's being
(06:01):
able to have the awareness. Now, I created three a's,
three a's that will help you to remember emotional intelligence.
So the first A is that energy of awareness. Okay,
So you want to become aware of what you're feeling.
(06:26):
You want to become aware of what's going on for you.
And I know, Missy, mistery, I see that you said
it helps if you know yourself better, and it's true.
If you know yourself better, you know what's going to
trigger you and what's not, and you also know when
(06:46):
what you need to do to manage your emotions. But
I also want you all to remember that we're all
works in progress. So wherever you are at in your journey,
it's all okay, but start with that energy of awareness
is really crucial. So you can remember these a's awareness,
(07:09):
become aware what it is you're feeling, and that question
what am I feeling right now? How do I feel
right now? So those are two different ways to ask
that a question. And when you have the awareness of
what you're feeling, then you can take action on it.
(07:30):
But what happens is you may have issues from your
past and it may be limiting beliefs or emotions that
need to be cleared or that created that trigger. And
so it's going to be really important for you to
(07:52):
get in touch with the awareness and then really and
then acknowledge. That's the second A is awareness is the
first day, and second A is acknowledge. And it's learning
to acknowledge what you're feeling. Whatever it is you're feeling.
Sweeping it under the rug or denying that you're feeling
(08:15):
it is not going to help you. It actually makes
things worse. And so it's learning to acknowledge whatever it is.
And so here's the thing. You can't act on it
and change it until you become aware of it and
then acknowledge that it's a feeling that's happening. Now I
(08:39):
know that I've talked. The feelings that you really want
to gain emotional mastery over, the feelings that you really
want to work on healing when they come up. Are
the feelings of fear. How many fear? Yes, many of
us are go in and out of fear or maybe
it's anger or frustration, maybe it's grief, or maybe it's
(09:04):
guilt or shame. Now, even guilt or shame, you're like, ooh,
who wants to feel that. You can't heal it till
you feel it. So it's really important to allow yourself
to acknowledge whatever it is you're feeling, and then you
can take action to help it to shift. So once
(09:29):
you take the action to help it shift, it's And
it's funny because as I'm as I'm talking to you
about the a's, so then actually we really have four a's.
I just added an A. So it's awareness, acknowledgement, it's
taking an action so that you then clear it using tools.
(09:55):
And we'll talk more about the tools. I know. Last
time we met, Mistagia had asked for the breathing technique,
so we were working on the breathing learning how to
clear it. So you can use your breath to clear it,
you can journal it out, you can exercise it out.
You want to make sure that you're releasing the feeling.
(10:17):
And when you move the energy, emotion is energy that
wants to move energy emotion, it's the name emotion. So
you want to move your body and you want to
move the energy through your body. When you move the
energy through your body. It will help you to release
(10:40):
it and let it go. And so it's really important
to do those steps. And then once you take some
type of action, the next step and this may be
the actual if you're processing through and going through all
the a's, hopefully this isn't challenging, but it could be challenged.
(11:02):
It's learning to have acceptance and compassion for yourself. Sometimes
having acceptance and compassion for yourself can be challenging. And
what I want you to know is part of emotional
mastery and emotional intelligence is learning to love yourself more.
(11:23):
It's learning to accept who you are and how you
are and have compassion for whereever you are in the
journey now. It doesn't mean that you are, it doesn't
mean that you don't. You can continue to work towards change,
(11:47):
but it's be accepting with where you are right now.
And I'll give you an example. So Louise is a
client that I have and Louise and it's a Suno
name because I always want to make sure that clients
are staying anonymous, and Louise has challenges with anxiety, and
(12:14):
so she gets really upset with herself. In fact, it's
not just Louise. I have few clients that get really anxious,
and they get really upset at themselves for having anxiety.
And what I want to remind you is that anxiety
is actually a protective reaction to stress, and that you
(12:38):
developed anxiety to protect yourself and take care of yourself,
and it was one of the ways that you survived
in your family, in your life. And so when I
work with Louise, I always remind her how far she's
come and how much she has overcome. Already, she was
(13:01):
very anxious in a lot of different ways, but as
we've worked together, she's overcome and healed a lot of that,
and she's moving forward and she's continuing to shift and heal.
And what I want to and what I've supported her
in is being accepting for where she is right now
(13:23):
and having compassion because those parts of you and this
is something for all of you. No matter what feeling
is coming up, the question you may want to ask
yourself is what part of me is feeling fear or anxiety,
What part of me is feeling angry or resentful or frustrated,
(13:49):
what part of me is feeling the grief, or what
part of me is feeling guilty. What part of me
feels ashamed? Now, very often you will notice, even though
it may feel like it's happening in present time, it's
really not. And I'm going to do my psych one
(14:12):
on one so we're all on the same page. So
your conscious mind brought you here to right here, right now.
Thank you conscious mind. And your conscious mind is what
empowers you when you make conscious decisions, it empowers you.
It's your conscious mind is what helps you to manage
(14:34):
your emotional states. So when you okay, so if we
go through the a's, when you learn to become aware
of something that you're feeling, you've become conscious. Your conscious
mind has made you aware, and then you acknowledge, and
(14:56):
it could be your conscious mind or you're soper a
conscious mind that helps with the acknowledgement. And your super
conscious mind is the part of you that higher self,
your wise, unconditionally loving part of you, and your soul,
and your soul is the light and the love of
(15:18):
who you really are. And so your conscious and your
super conscious mind can be working together to help you
have the awareness taken action and acknowledge, then come to
acceptance and compassion. Now, your subconscious mind is the part
(15:40):
of you from the moment you will conceive to present
time that has recorded every moment that you have been alive.
And your subconscious mind also includes pass life memories and
trauma and limiting beliefs and emotions that could be affecting
you now, and it also could be ancestral trauma emotions,
(16:06):
limiting beliefs that could be affecting you now, and all
of that energy is in your subconscious mind. So when
you're in reaction and you're noticing, oh, I'm feeling fear
or I'm feeling angry or frustrated or shame or guilt
or grief or whatever it is, it's about noticing and
(16:29):
asking what part of you now if and when I'm
talking about grief, grief is an emotion that you need
to process through. If you've had any kind of loss,
you're going to want to move through grief for you
to say, I should just get over it, and I
do feel like grief is one of those emotions that
(16:51):
comes in waves and it's different than depression. So if
you notice you're in grief now and you haven't had
a current loss, and that loss can be someone that
you loved, a deceased loved one. It could be a job,
it could be a relationship that has ended in some way,
(17:16):
whether it be a romantic or a friendship. There are
losses of many kinds, and the feelings of grief may
last for a long time, or they may move you
may move through because even grief itself has stages of emotion.
And so it's being able to honor, to accept and
(17:40):
have compassion for where you are. And so with the
case of Louise, what has happened as we work together,
she started having more compassion for herself when she has
the anxiety, and that that anxiety usually has come from
(18:02):
past trauma, from when she was younger. So when you
ask what part of me is feeling this, even though
it feels like it's present time, it very may well
be your past, the child part of you. Usually it's
the child part. I mean you, you may have s
(18:24):
As I was saying, it's connecting with the parts of
you that may be feeling those feelings. And even though
it may feel like it's happening in current time, more
than likely it's something in your subconscious mind. It's giving
you a message. It's giving you a message so that
you can heal it. I really believe that when we
(18:48):
become aware of our emotions, it's our opportunity to heal
and to feel, or in this case, to feel and
heal so that you can move forward in your life
and in your business. And so those were the a's again,
and remember I added one you saw this live live.
(19:11):
I added an extra A. I like threes, but you
know what in this case it's for, and I can
probably come up with five, but I don't know what
the fifth one is yet, so stay tuned, all right,
when I come back, I'll let you know what the
fifth one is. Because I like threes and fives. I
don't ask me why, but it energetically it's whatever. So
(19:32):
but today we came up with four. So we have awareness, knowledgement,
and then we have action. So awareness is becoming aware,
acknowledging the feeling. Action is making the decision to do
something on the feeling, like to move through it, work
(19:53):
through it, heal it, shift it. And then you want
acceptance and compas and I'm getting and that is all
encompassing snapshot. So that's the a's principle. All right. Now,
(20:15):
So let's talk more about what kind of things you
can do. To come back to help you manage and
I know we had listen managing your emotions and having
what they call because part of emotional intelligence is learning
emotional regulation. Emotional regulation, what that means is being able
(20:42):
to bring your emotions back, to bring yourself back into alignment,
to be able to regulate your emotions, to manage them,
there's another word, and learning how to do that. Learning
how to do that can be quite a challenge. And
I'm just going to let you know. I'll share, I
will share, I will share me a little bit more
(21:04):
so you get some listen. For those of you who
know me, you know I'm passionate and I love inspiring
and empowering you all, and I have a big heart
and I want to share information and that passion and
that I am very emotional. In fact, when I was younger,
(21:29):
my father said, oh, you're so emotional, You're just like
your mother, And that was a bad connotation. But what
I want you to know is being emotional is not
wrong and it's not bad because it's part of what
makes me who I am. It's that ability to be
(21:51):
able to channel that emotion into passion, into creativity to
make changes in my life. And in yours, I had
to work really hard, and I still work on it
because I got the message my emotions were too much.
And so yes, I work on emotional regulation, emotional mastery,
(22:15):
emotional management. And sometimes it's much easier than others, and
sometimes it's much more challenging. So I'm going to share
it with you when it becomes more challenging for me
and more than likely probably for you, and when it's easier. Okay,
(22:36):
so when it's e no, let's go with challenging first.
When it's challenging, it's when I feel stuck in my
past trauma. It's when I feel stuck in the emotions
of fear or anxiety, or it's when I feel stuck
(22:58):
in or frustration. But so I become aware that in
having a feeling, and I acknowledge the feeling, or I
acknowledge where I'm at in the moment, and then I
make a decision. And this is where your conscious mind
comes in. I make a conscious decision to take an action.
(23:23):
So what tool can I use to be able to
clear the emotion or move through it? Now, it may
be moving through my body, it may be we talked
about in the past, we talked about breathing, and we
talked about journaling. Or maybe it's exercising it out or
(23:47):
walking it out, going out in nature, or maybe it's
dancing it out or listening to music to help you
either move it out or breathe it out, relaxing music.
Because I talked about this before, it changes your state.
So all of that are ways that you can shift
(24:11):
the emotional state. Your emotional state, so I take action
on it, and then I can come to more acceptance,
acceptance and compassion or where I'm at. And I'll give
you another example. So I have I haven't an event
that I'm doing this week. Last week, I had a
(24:35):
lot of emotions coming up this event, and every single
day I needed to do my work and it wasn't
always alone. I will tell you that it's really helpful,
really important to have supportive people that you can call
upon or go to to help you move through the emotions.
(25:00):
If you don't have supportive people, I'm going to support
you in getting supportive people. And maybe you need a coach,
or if it's really if you're stuck and there's a
lot of trauma, you need a therapist to help you
move through the emotions to help you shift. And so
I had a lot of stuff coming up, a lot
(25:21):
of emotions, and I worked through those emotions and then
this week when the time came, Tuesday was the first night,
and you know what I was noticing. I feel calm,
I feel centered, I feel excited about it. And so
what I want to share with you is that I
was able to process through the emotion and accept where
(25:45):
I was at. So when the old stuff comes up,
and believe me, it was I had fears from the
child part of me. I had issues about not feeling
like I was trusting, trusting my self, trusting God that
it was all going to work out, and usually that
comes from trauma anyway, work through it, and I came
(26:07):
to a place of all, right, God's got me, I'm
being taken care of. Whatever it's going to be, it's
going to be. I came to that acceptance and what
happened Now I feel really positive and really good about
the event, whatever it is. It is that acceptance. Now,
(26:28):
I said, how do you do it? When? When does When?
Is it easier? So it's easier to get back into
that emotional state. The more connected you are to your
super conscious mind, that higher self part of you. You're
so more connected to who you really are. When you're
(26:53):
in that state of a connection or alignment, it's easier
to move through the feelings. Now sometimes a lot of
times you may have to move through the feelings in
order to get back to the alignment. But if you
are able in the morning to come to an easier
state of alignment, maybe it's meditation, maybe it's inspirational reading,
(27:15):
maybe it's listening to the music, whatever helps you to
get back to this center, back to the alignment. Emotional
mastery becomes easier because you're actually in the place of
yourself as the master, as the being, the amazing being
(27:38):
that you are, your soul, your higher self, the wise
one in you. That's what I want to support you
all and remember. And so we will continue next week
for part three because there is more an emotional intelligence,
(28:00):
emotional mastery, emotional regulation and management. So stay tuned for
more inspired and empowered living next week Part three and
emotional intelligence. I wish you all and inspired and empowered
(28:22):
day and inspired and empowered week. Have a great one, everybody.
By for now,
Popular Podcasts
NFL Daily with Gregg Rosenthal
Gregg Rosenthal and a rotating crew of elite NFL Media co-hosts, including Patrick Claybon, Colleen Wolfe, Steve Wyche, Nick Shook and Jourdan Rodrigue of The Athletic get you caught up daily on all the NFL news and analysis you need to be smarter and funnier than your friends.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com