April 24, 2025 • 39 mins
Your voice is more than just words — it's how you lead, inspire, and magnetize your dream clients.
In this episode of Inspired & Empowered Living, I’m sharing soulful strategies and intuitive tools to help you:
Speak with confidence
Communicate with compassion
Share your truth with clarity and purpose
If you've ever felt afraid to speak up, struggled to articulate your value, or held back your message—this one's for you. Your voice is your power. Let’s activate it.
The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show is broadcast live Thursdays at 5PM ET on W4WN Radio - Women 4 Women Network (www.w4wn.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com). The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show TV Show is viewed on Talk 4 TV (www.talk4tv.com).
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In this episode of Inspired & Empowered Living, I’m sharing soulful strategies and intuitive tools to help you:
Speak with confidence
Communicate with compassion
Share your truth with clarity and purpose
If you've ever felt afraid to speak up, struggled to articulate your value, or held back your message—this one's for you. Your voice is your power. Let’s activate it.
The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show is broadcast live Thursdays at 5PM ET on W4WN Radio - Women 4 Women Network (www.w4wn.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com). The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show TV Show is viewed on Talk 4 TV (www.talk4tv.com).
The Inspired and Empowered Living Radio Show Podcast is also available on Talk 4 Media (www.talk4media.com), Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com), iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, Pandora, Spotify, Audible, and over 100 other podcast outlets.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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information only. Content presented on any show by any host
or guest should not be substituted for a doctor's advice.
Always consult your physician before beginning any new diet, exercise,
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Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Thursdays at five
pm Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W FOURWN dot com
and my YouTube channel. And today we are going to
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be talking about the power of your voice. Communicate with confidence, clarity,
and compassion, and we will explore how effective communication can
elevate every part of your business and personal life. And
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whether you're on stage on a sales call or in
a solo line conversation, or whether you're connecting with friends, family,
or your partner. Your voice is your superpower. Learn how
to use it with intention, integrity, and impact. To Welcome
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and this Nancy Deutsch on the host of the show,
and I combine my counseling, coaching and intuitive abilities. I'm
a licensed clinical social worker, certified hinnotherapist, and an intuitive
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business coach. And this show is not a replacement for
therapy or counseling. It is for educational purposes only. So
some of you may remember that we were going to
have a show where we were going to have guests.
I mentioned it last week. Unfortunately we had to change plans,
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and so now you have me this week for communication.
I was getting really clearly guided that we needed to
talk about communication and the power of your or voice
and how to communicate, Like I said, with that communication
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with compassion and clarity and speaking up with confidence. So first,
let me share with you your voice. Your voice conveys
what you're feeling and what your energy is really clearly,
and you can hear, feel and sense what somebody is
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communicating through the voice and what you're communicating. And what
happens with your voice is not only are you communicating
from that conscious place, but your voice is also communicating
from that subconscious place. So for those of you who
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may just be joining in, let me do a quick
recap psych one oh one, so that we're all on
the same track. Your conscious mind is the part of
you that the moment you. It is the part of
you that's made the decisions and that made the decision
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to come on today to be here. So thank you
conscious mind, and it is that part of you that
empowers you to make those decisions. And I see we
have Misty in the house. Hi, Misty, glad you're here.
And then you have your subconscious mind. And your subconscious
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mind is the part of you from the moment you
were conceived to present. Time has recorded everything that you
have when you've been alive, and your subconscious mind is
what we need to understand more when we're in communicating
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with our voice, and because those patterns get communicated without
you consciously realizing it. And then you have your super
conscious mind, which is the part of you that is greater.
It's your higher self, the wise, unconditionally loving part of you,
your soul, and also the angels and guides and beings
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of light. And I know that we have Anastasia in
the house too, because she said, I'm listening to So
thank you for letting me know you're here too, Anastasia.
I love when you let me, you guys, let me
know that you're listening, so that I know that you're here.
I really do appreciate it, So thank you. And so
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your voice is conveying what's going on for you consciously
and subconsciously all the time. So for example, when you
are I'm going to say trying, when you're trying to
act confident, but you're really not feeling that confidence, and
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your voice will convey it and you will there will
be subtle subtleties in that communication and people can pick
it up that you're not feeling confident. And I also
know your voice when you go into reaction and what
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I mean, when you get triggered or when you're reacting
to someone or something and all of a sudden, like
you'll be fine, and then you'll have this tone in
your voice, so you're feeling scattered, or you're feeling disconnected,
or you're feeling fear, or you're feeling angry. I mean,
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how many of you when you get triggered you notice,
and maybe you don't even notice, your tone of voice changes,
Or when you're communicating with someone and you may say
something that really pisses them off and makes them angry,
and all of a sudden, you hear a tone in
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their voice, or when you hear somebody's tone of voice
and you get really triggered. And I know, I know
that that's happened for me when I'll be with certain
people in my life, Like I have a really close friend,
I'll call her Suzanne, and Susanna can have this tone
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in her voice. And as soon as she has that
tone in her voice and it's like this angry tone,
I get triggered. And I don't always react. Sometimes I do,
sometimes I don't. I'm working on it too, just want
you all know I'm human, working on my stuff. And
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so when that tone of void, when I hear it,
I get really triggered. And so what happens is that
I need to take a breath, and sometimes I may
need to disconnect from her. I may need to take
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a time out, a break and discover what's being triggered.
Because when that tone of voice happens for you or
someone else, there's something that has been that you're reacting
to and you've gotten triggered, and that trigger comes from
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your subconscious mind. Now, so when you're feeling confident and
you know what you're talking about, or you're feeling really
loving a kind and your compassionate, your voice, your energy,
your love comes through. You can't hide your voice. You
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may try, but the truth of the matter is the
truth comes out. And so for example, what you want
to do is you want to be able to make
sure that you're speaking from alignment. And I know that
we talk about being grounded and centered and aligned, and
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when you're in the alignment, then you can speak with
confidence and clarity and compassion. And when you're feeling grounded
and centered, and when you're not, like when you get
triggered or you're reacting to something and you start like
totally getting distracted, it's learning how to come back into
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that alignment, iman back into that place of peace peace,
or coming back into the place of I got this,
I'm feeling confident now. When you're doing something new, or
when you're doing something whether it's your business or whether
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it's you're a conversation that you have with someone and
you're really nervous about that conversation. Now, in business, very
often conversations around money or around sales even and I
will tell you money conversations, whether it's business or life,
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those conversations can really trigger that a certain tone of
voice and maybe the scary tone of voice, and maybe
that it depends on who you are or what who
you're talking to, and when you have those money issues,
that tone of voice is going to come through. And
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here's the thing. This is not about being perfect and
always having the perfect voice, because that's not real. The
real truth is you're human and the most important thing
here is for you to become aware of what's happening
for you, because when you become aware, then you can
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take an action to self correct. So Missy has a
question or a comment. It's not easy to judge. It's
not easy to judge the tone in some people's voice.
It's best to ask if you aren't sure. So, Missy,
that is a really good point. Okay, So what I'm
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going to say is you are correct if you're not
sure what the tone of voice is. Yes, definitely, you
want to ask somebody. You don't want to jump to
a sump shit, Especially when you're having an important conversation
with someone and you're not sure what they're feeling or
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what they're thinking, and what they're implying by the tone
of their voice, you are recknessy. It is best to
ask whether you feeling what's going on. And here's the
thing you want to ask in a way this is
really important in the tone of voice and communicating with
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compassion and clarity and confidence. Is you want to ask
from a curious place I'm wondering what you're feeling right now.
And if somebody says, no, I'm not feeling anything, well,
then they name be in denial of what they're feeling,
because that sounds like really angry to me. Now, hopefully
they're aware now once you once they acknowledge what they're feeling.
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Here's the thing. It's it's about acknowledging or helping someone
to express what they're feeling in a healthy way. And
then have you express what you're feeling in a healthy
way so that you can have healthy communication. And we're
going to talk more about that shortly. Okay, So, so
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and when you are in communication, Charles says, I misread
my wife's voice all the time. Apparently. Okay, so, Charles,
last thing for you to do is to keep asking,
I wonder, what are you really feeling or what is
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it you're trying to communicate? And here's the thing I
will tell you that And this is something, this is
something that it's important to become aware of. Sometime there
have been communication patterns in people, especially women, when they
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don't know how to communicate in a clear, healthy way,
and they may sidetrack or miscommunicate or go around and
what I really want to support all of you in doing.
And this is not just women, but sometimes there I
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know from those that I have worked with, not just
me as a woman, but those that I've worked with
that women have women have had a challenge in communicating
clearly because it wasn't okay for a woman to speak
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her truth or have a voice. Now, thank you that
that is changing, but some women may still be in
that pattern to be aware of, and or it may
be a pattern you may still have if you're a woman,
or even if you're a man, like if you didn't
have a voice as a child, you may very well
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be expressing in a way that's not clear. There's something
called mixed messages, and mixed messages you may have one
intention and then communicate in another, so the listener is confused.
So that's why it's really important that when you want
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to communicate clearly, that you are really clear, that you
are communicating from an aligned space, communicating with clarity and
confidence and also compassion. And I know, Charles said, I know,
I know what she means, but I don't always listen,
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so I know it's on me. So Charles, I really
want to acknowledge you for owning that. So what I'm
hearing and to see if this is true, is that
and this isn't only you, is that in partnerships what
happens is sometimes we start not listening to our partner
and we start ignoring or maybe you're not being present.
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And what I want to support all of you in
doing is that if let's say you're busy doing something else,
but your partner starts and this is not only partners,
but friends or important conversations that you have, and if
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there is something that you want to make sure that
both of you are communicating in a or confident, compassionate way,
you want to make sure that both of you are present.
And if one or both of you are trying to
multitasking or you're distracted, that is not a good time
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to communicate. So, Charles, I don't know what's going on
in the relationship, but if you're trying to focus on
something else and she's wanting to talk to you, what
if you were to communicate, you know, honey, I really
want to hear what you have to say, and can
you give me I'm watching my show, or I have
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this piece of work that I need to do or
let's talk in about a half an hour. Or if
it's a really serious conversation or a really more in
depth conversation, then maybe you need to plan it or
schedule it for another day. But if it's something where
it's about connection time, then then you want to be
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present to really connect with your loved one, whether it's
a partner, a friend, a relative in some way, you
want to be present, whether it's a child, whether it's
a young child or an adult child. It's really important
to have present presence. That's being able to really be
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in the moment with the person as they're speaking. So
hopefully and hopefully that helped Charles. And the other thing
is is there are times where I know I have
clients and they've had a busy, crazy day at work
and they need to decompress before they can communicate to
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anybody in the family, whether it's a child or a partner,
a spouse. They're like, I need time, and I've said
you need to communicate with your family. You need to minutes,
fifteen minutes and a half an hour decompression time where
you give me space so that I can regroup. And
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again that's all important communication. And we're going to talk
more about boundaries also and communicating your boundary. So the
bottom line is, whether it's in your life or in
your business, you want to make sure the way you
want to be communicating with confidence and clarity and compassion
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is from that aligned place, from a place where you
are feeling present, centered and acted. And the feelings would
be you're feeling confident, you know what you want to say,
or you're feeling peaceful. Now, when you're having hard conversations,
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you may not always go into the conversation feeling that.
And what I taught, what I coach my clients to
do is before they go into a conversation that could
be a really difficult one, I say, imagine sending light
to that conversation. Imagine and ask for your guides and
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your angels and most of all, your higher self, the wise,
unconditionally loving part of you that communicates with confidence, clarity
and compassion. You want to be communicating from an adult,
high yourself place. So, and that's really important when you
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have those important conversation and when you and here's the thing,
you want to communicate from a heart centered place. Now,
when you're in a relationship, any relationship, and it could
be a partner, loved one, family, friends, or it could
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be it could be and I see your question, Charles.
I'll get to in this or a statement, it could
be a business relationship. You want to make sure that
you're in that compassionate, arn't centered place. And again, the
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best way to do that is to call in your
higher self and to come from that place. And we'll
talk a little bit more about that shortly. And I
just want to get to Charles, no issues in our relationship.
I just like to pick on my wife and I
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know she is listening to your show. Okay, So I
am glad Charles that you don't have any really deep
issues and that's good. But I do also want you
to know that whether you have issues or not in
your relationship, there are going to be times where you're
going to want to communicate and you want to have
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that communication time. So make time for yourself. Like I
know in this crazy busy world, one of the biggest
things that couples that one of the best things for
your relationship, your partnership is to make time for each other.
And when you make time for each other and you
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have that real communication time, it grows the relationship intimacy grows,
and so I really want to support you all to
be able to make that time for your partner, and
whether you have issues or not, that something to keep
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in mind because in our crazy busy life, you have work,
and you may have kids, and you may have other
relation it is, or other demands on your time, and sometimes, unfortunately,
couple time becomes the last on the list. And so
I am supporting all of you. If you are in
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a relationship, make couple time, make partnership time. Okay, Charles goes.
Listening to your show is fun for us. Even though
we are not in the same place, we listen at
the same time. I love that, you know what, Thank
you so much, Charles, and thank you Charles's wife. By
where you are. That really feels really good to know
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that you're both listening even though you're not in the
same place, and that I appreciate hearing that. So thank
you Charles and Charles's wife whatever your name is true.
So I'm really glad to hear that. Thank you. You know,
I want you to know and you can hear it
in my voice like you. I do not Okay, I
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do not have a poker face, nor do I have
a poker voice, and you can hear and feel the
tones in my voice when I'm feeling different things. And
I really want you to know how much I appreciate
all of you who listen live. I appreciate all of
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you who are listening to the podcast or watching YouTube
at a later time. Your contributions. You're listening to me
makes a difference for me to know that I'm making
a difference for you. So I just really want to
say thank you. I just wanted to express my gratitude,
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thank you Charles for bringing that on. So and there
was a heart scentered communication right there, and I get
really touched by all of you, you listeners. I mean,
I am so I appreciate of you. I really am
so thank you for being here now later. So, what
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happens when you're speaking from your heart and you're able
to speak from that place of heart, what happens is
you know that you're speaking from your heart and you're
conveying integrity, You're conveying honesty and truth. And what happens
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when you do that, It builds rapport, It builds that
place where people get a sense of who you are
and how you are quickly. So if this is if
it's your business and you're wanting to be better in
your business, you want to make sure that you are
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communicating from that aligning space and in your life. I
want you all to know that when you communicate that
from a place of presence, whether it's a coworker or
a friend or a partner, you make a difference in
someone's life. Like you, listeners and viewers, you make a
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difference in my life. And I want you to know
that when you do what you do and you're being
present with someone else, and you're communicating with that intention
of integrity and clarity and heart, and you communicate emotions
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in a safe way and you're able to really express
yourself from that safe place, you make a difference. And
you make a difference. And those of you who have
to listen to the show and have been listening and
that you start communicating differently, I want you to know
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that it makes a difference in the people in your life.
And so keep showing up, keep doing what you're doing,
because you make the changes. When you make the changes
in yourself, you can change your relationships on every level,
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your personal relationships, your professional relationships, in all ways. So
I really really want to support all of you in remembering.
And then there's the voice box, like what would block
your voice? And before we get to that, I am
going to put a plug in for the meditation that
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I created to help you get more clarity, to help
you to tune in and to feel calmer and to
connect with your higher self and then to get in
touch with your ability to discover the communication that your
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high yourself is trying to tell you. And so if
you go the name of the show, Inspired and Empowered
Living dot Com Forward slash Meditation ne d id a
t io n so Inspired and Empoweredliving dot Com Forward
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slash Meditation, and you want to download the meditation, there's
also a PDF for it, and that can really help
you in being able to calm yourself and center yourself
so that you can have the clear, confident communication with
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compassion that you really want and Rebel put the links
in the check. So what happens when there's blocks in
your voice and what kind of blocks could show up? Well,
one of the blocks is a big block is that
fear of judgment. When you have the fear of judgment,
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what might happen is you may stay quiet and not
speak up, or maybe you have that quiet voice or
what I was talking about earlier with women that when
they're not communic clearly, that they'll kind of stay something
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without a very clear direct way of being. That's because
of that fear of judgment. So if you have fear
of judgment and you are afraid to speak up, afraid
to speak your truth, or you're not allowing yourself to
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communicate clearly what your truth is, what your real needs are,
what your real feelings are, what your real wants are.
Or if in your business you are not communicating, you
are not communicating your programs, or you're not communicating with
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clarity because you're not sure of your target market or
your niche, then you may not be communicating clearly and
that will affect your tone of voice or even if
you will speak up. So I know we have a
question from Anastasia. So, Anastasia, why do we care so
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much about what others think of us? Okay, so we
care so much about what others think is because we've
grown up there. Most of us grew up in families
where we wanted to be loved, we wanted to be
approved of, and that is a common human element that
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we and then many of us, if not most of us,
the fear of judgment. Guess who it came from. Your parents,
or your caretakers, or the people who took care of you.
You would know when they were judging you. You would
know when they disapproved of you. That tone, how many
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of you as soon as you hear that tone of voice,
like remember I was talking about my friend earlier, and
she would have that tone of voice and it would
trigger me. I know she was triggering my mother because
my mother would have that critical tone of voice. And
as soon as she had that critical tone of voice,
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I was like, you know, and it would it would
trigger me. Now, I as I got older, I started
getting angry. When I was younger, I went into fear now,
that critical tone of voice, that fear of judgment. And
then there was my father, who and listen, I love
my parents, God bless them. They're in heaven. And but
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I will tell you that I know that my father.
I can tell when my father had that judgment. So
but not only the tone of voice, but what he
was saying. And I could feel that judgment a mile away.
So we are so sensitive, most of us are so
sensitive to the judgment because of how we grew up.
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And one of the basic human needs is the need
for love and the need to be loved and that
need for approval. And one of the important things is
learned learning to let go of the fear of judgment.
And the more that you can let it go, the
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more that allows you to be able to speak your truth,
to speak and express your feeling, to speak and express
your thoughts, your wants, your needs. And I'm going to
give you an example my own life, getting doing examples
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from myself. So when I was first in therapy years
and years ago, when I first went into therapy with
my first therapist, I was terrified of anger. And I
was so scared of anger. And the reason why I
was so scared of anger was because my mother was
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a rager and she would scream and yell at me
and my brothers, and so there was the critical voice
and then there was the raging voice that tone of voice,
and the tone of voice sometimes would come right before
the rage, and I did not want her to go
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into the rage, and so I shut down, and I
totally shut down, and I was terrified of anger. And
it took me a long time in therapy to be
okay with anger. In fact, what really helped me a
lot was not only doing therapy, but I started doing
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more and more emotional release work where I'd start feeling
the sensations of what anger felt like in my body.
And a lot of times you'll feel the anger in
your voice, in your jaw, like if you start feeling
or your teeth and you're like you're clenching, you're holding
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in that anger, and sometimes you don't even realize that
you're anger. And that's also why that tone of voice
can come out. And so it's very common to have
that fear of judgment. Know that you're not alone. Most
people have it. It's common, and so it's learning to
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recognize that you do have the fear of judgment, which
is affect your ability to communicate clearly what you're feeling,
what you're thinking, what your wants, what your needs are.
Like if you're in a relationship and you have different
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different needs and your partner or whether it's a relationship
or romantic relationship or a business partner, and you have
different needs than your partner, if you haven't learned to
communicate clearly, what could happen is you suppress it. You
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suppress it, you suppress it, and then you may explode.
And so that's why what I want to support all
of you in doing is learning to become aware that
you may have that anger so that you then can
start becoming aware of what you can do before you explode.
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Now where that came from. I you know what happens
is I answer a question and I just go in
the flow of what's coming. So I think, and we're
going to you know what, we're going to talk more
about this next week. We're going to have part two
of communication, the power of your voice and communicating clearly
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so that you're feeling more confident that you're communicating with
clarity and compassion and Anastasia, we're going to start more.
We're going to with your question because it's an important
question of why and what to do about that fear
of judgment because, like I said, it's a very common
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human issue, and that fear of judgment shuts you down
and it will affect how you are in your life,
how you are in your business, how you are in
every relationship. So to be continued next week for part two.
And I really want to say thank you again for
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joining us for the Inspired and an Empowered Living TV
show and podcast. We are live Thursdays at five pm
Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W four WN dot com,
and my YouTube channel, and we also you can hear
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us on the podcast. The podcast is on iHeart Radio,
Spotify and Dora, Apple, Amazon and many more. And so
I am thanking you, acknowledging you for being here and
wishing you and inspired an empowered day, inspired and empowered evening,
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and have a great one. By for now,
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or guest should not be substituted for a doctor's advice.
Always consult your physician before beginning any new diet, exercise,
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Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Thursdays at five
pm Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W FOURWN dot com
and my YouTube channel. And today we are going to
(01:14):
be talking about the power of your voice. Communicate with confidence, clarity,
and compassion, and we will explore how effective communication can
elevate every part of your business and personal life. And
(01:35):
whether you're on stage on a sales call or in
a solo line conversation, or whether you're connecting with friends, family,
or your partner. Your voice is your superpower. Learn how
to use it with intention, integrity, and impact. To Welcome
(02:02):
and this Nancy Deutsch on the host of the show,
and I combine my counseling, coaching and intuitive abilities. I'm
a licensed clinical social worker, certified hinnotherapist, and an intuitive
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business coach. And this show is not a replacement for
therapy or counseling. It is for educational purposes only. So
some of you may remember that we were going to
have a show where we were going to have guests.
I mentioned it last week. Unfortunately we had to change plans,
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and so now you have me this week for communication.
I was getting really clearly guided that we needed to
talk about communication and the power of your or voice
and how to communicate, Like I said, with that communication
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with compassion and clarity and speaking up with confidence. So first,
let me share with you your voice. Your voice conveys
what you're feeling and what your energy is really clearly,
and you can hear, feel and sense what somebody is
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communicating through the voice and what you're communicating. And what
happens with your voice is not only are you communicating
from that conscious place, but your voice is also communicating
from that subconscious place. So for those of you who
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may just be joining in, let me do a quick
recap psych one oh one, so that we're all on
the same track. Your conscious mind is the part of
you that the moment you. It is the part of
you that's made the decisions and that made the decision
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to come on today to be here. So thank you
conscious mind, and it is that part of you that
empowers you to make those decisions. And I see we
have Misty in the house. Hi, Misty, glad you're here.
And then you have your subconscious mind. And your subconscious
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mind is the part of you from the moment you
were conceived to present. Time has recorded everything that you
have when you've been alive, and your subconscious mind is
what we need to understand more when we're in communicating
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with our voice, and because those patterns get communicated without
you consciously realizing it. And then you have your super
conscious mind, which is the part of you that is greater.
It's your higher self, the wise, unconditionally loving part of you,
your soul, and also the angels and guides and beings
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of light. And I know that we have Anastasia in
the house too, because she said, I'm listening to So
thank you for letting me know you're here too, Anastasia.
I love when you let me, you guys, let me
know that you're listening, so that I know that you're here.
I really do appreciate it, So thank you. And so
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your voice is conveying what's going on for you consciously
and subconsciously all the time. So for example, when you
are I'm going to say trying, when you're trying to
act confident, but you're really not feeling that confidence, and
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your voice will convey it and you will there will
be subtle subtleties in that communication and people can pick
it up that you're not feeling confident. And I also
know your voice when you go into reaction and what
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I mean, when you get triggered or when you're reacting
to someone or something and all of a sudden, like
you'll be fine, and then you'll have this tone in
your voice, so you're feeling scattered, or you're feeling disconnected,
or you're feeling fear, or you're feeling angry. I mean,
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how many of you when you get triggered you notice,
and maybe you don't even notice, your tone of voice changes,
Or when you're communicating with someone and you may say
something that really pisses them off and makes them angry,
and all of a sudden, you hear a tone in
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their voice, or when you hear somebody's tone of voice
and you get really triggered. And I know, I know
that that's happened for me when I'll be with certain
people in my life, Like I have a really close friend,
I'll call her Suzanne, and Susanna can have this tone
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in her voice. And as soon as she has that
tone in her voice and it's like this angry tone,
I get triggered. And I don't always react. Sometimes I do,
sometimes I don't. I'm working on it too, just want
you all know I'm human, working on my stuff. And
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so when that tone of void, when I hear it,
I get really triggered. And so what happens is that
I need to take a breath, and sometimes I may
need to disconnect from her. I may need to take
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a time out, a break and discover what's being triggered.
Because when that tone of voice happens for you or
someone else, there's something that has been that you're reacting
to and you've gotten triggered, and that trigger comes from
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your subconscious mind. Now, so when you're feeling confident and
you know what you're talking about, or you're feeling really
loving a kind and your compassionate, your voice, your energy,
your love comes through. You can't hide your voice. You
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may try, but the truth of the matter is the
truth comes out. And so for example, what you want
to do is you want to be able to make
sure that you're speaking from alignment. And I know that
we talk about being grounded and centered and aligned, and
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when you're in the alignment, then you can speak with
confidence and clarity and compassion. And when you're feeling grounded
and centered, and when you're not, like when you get
triggered or you're reacting to something and you start like
totally getting distracted, it's learning how to come back into
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that alignment, iman back into that place of peace peace,
or coming back into the place of I got this,
I'm feeling confident now. When you're doing something new, or
when you're doing something whether it's your business or whether
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it's you're a conversation that you have with someone and
you're really nervous about that conversation. Now, in business, very
often conversations around money or around sales even and I
will tell you money conversations, whether it's business or life,
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those conversations can really trigger that a certain tone of
voice and maybe the scary tone of voice, and maybe
that it depends on who you are or what who
you're talking to, and when you have those money issues,
that tone of voice is going to come through. And
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here's the thing. This is not about being perfect and
always having the perfect voice, because that's not real. The
real truth is you're human and the most important thing
here is for you to become aware of what's happening
for you, because when you become aware, then you can
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take an action to self correct. So Missy has a
question or a comment. It's not easy to judge. It's
not easy to judge the tone in some people's voice.
It's best to ask if you aren't sure. So, Missy,
that is a really good point. Okay, So what I'm
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going to say is you are correct if you're not
sure what the tone of voice is. Yes, definitely, you
want to ask somebody. You don't want to jump to
a sump shit, Especially when you're having an important conversation
with someone and you're not sure what they're feeling or
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what they're thinking, and what they're implying by the tone
of their voice, you are recknessy. It is best to
ask whether you feeling what's going on. And here's the
thing you want to ask in a way this is
really important in the tone of voice and communicating with
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compassion and clarity and confidence. Is you want to ask
from a curious place I'm wondering what you're feeling right now.
And if somebody says, no, I'm not feeling anything, well,
then they name be in denial of what they're feeling,
because that sounds like really angry to me. Now, hopefully
they're aware now once you once they acknowledge what they're feeling.
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Here's the thing. It's it's about acknowledging or helping someone
to express what they're feeling in a healthy way. And
then have you express what you're feeling in a healthy
way so that you can have healthy communication. And we're
going to talk more about that shortly. Okay, So, so
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and when you are in communication, Charles says, I misread
my wife's voice all the time. Apparently. Okay, so, Charles,
last thing for you to do is to keep asking,
I wonder, what are you really feeling or what is
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it you're trying to communicate? And here's the thing I
will tell you that And this is something, this is
something that it's important to become aware of. Sometime there
have been communication patterns in people, especially women, when they
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don't know how to communicate in a clear, healthy way,
and they may sidetrack or miscommunicate or go around and
what I really want to support all of you in doing.
And this is not just women, but sometimes there I
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know from those that I have worked with, not just
me as a woman, but those that I've worked with
that women have women have had a challenge in communicating
clearly because it wasn't okay for a woman to speak
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her truth or have a voice. Now, thank you that
that is changing, but some women may still be in
that pattern to be aware of, and or it may
be a pattern you may still have if you're a woman,
or even if you're a man, like if you didn't
have a voice as a child, you may very well
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be expressing in a way that's not clear. There's something
called mixed messages, and mixed messages you may have one
intention and then communicate in another, so the listener is confused.
So that's why it's really important that when you want
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to communicate clearly, that you are really clear, that you
are communicating from an aligned space, communicating with clarity and
confidence and also compassion. And I know, Charles said, I know,
I know what she means, but I don't always listen,
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so I know it's on me. So Charles, I really
want to acknowledge you for owning that. So what I'm
hearing and to see if this is true, is that
and this isn't only you, is that in partnerships what
happens is sometimes we start not listening to our partner
and we start ignoring or maybe you're not being present.
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And what I want to support all of you in
doing is that if let's say you're busy doing something else,
but your partner starts and this is not only partners,
but friends or important conversations that you have, and if
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there is something that you want to make sure that
both of you are communicating in a or confident, compassionate way,
you want to make sure that both of you are present.
And if one or both of you are trying to
multitasking or you're distracted, that is not a good time
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to communicate. So, Charles, I don't know what's going on
in the relationship, but if you're trying to focus on
something else and she's wanting to talk to you, what
if you were to communicate, you know, honey, I really
want to hear what you have to say, and can
you give me I'm watching my show, or I have
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this piece of work that I need to do or
let's talk in about a half an hour. Or if
it's a really serious conversation or a really more in
depth conversation, then maybe you need to plan it or
schedule it for another day. But if it's something where
it's about connection time, then then you want to be
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present to really connect with your loved one, whether it's
a partner, a friend, a relative in some way, you
want to be present, whether it's a child, whether it's
a young child or an adult child. It's really important
to have present presence. That's being able to really be
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in the moment with the person as they're speaking. So
hopefully and hopefully that helped Charles. And the other thing
is is there are times where I know I have
clients and they've had a busy, crazy day at work
and they need to decompress before they can communicate to
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anybody in the family, whether it's a child or a partner,
a spouse. They're like, I need time, and I've said
you need to communicate with your family. You need to minutes,
fifteen minutes and a half an hour decompression time where
you give me space so that I can regroup. And
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again that's all important communication. And we're going to talk
more about boundaries also and communicating your boundary. So the
bottom line is, whether it's in your life or in
your business, you want to make sure the way you
want to be communicating with confidence and clarity and compassion
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is from that aligned place, from a place where you
are feeling present, centered and acted. And the feelings would
be you're feeling confident, you know what you want to say,
or you're feeling peaceful. Now, when you're having hard conversations,
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you may not always go into the conversation feeling that.
And what I taught, what I coach my clients to
do is before they go into a conversation that could
be a really difficult one, I say, imagine sending light
to that conversation. Imagine and ask for your guides and
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your angels and most of all, your higher self, the wise,
unconditionally loving part of you that communicates with confidence, clarity
and compassion. You want to be communicating from an adult,
high yourself place. So, and that's really important when you
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have those important conversation and when you and here's the thing,
you want to communicate from a heart centered place. Now,
when you're in a relationship, any relationship, and it could
be a partner, loved one, family, friends, or it could
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be it could be and I see your question, Charles.
I'll get to in this or a statement, it could
be a business relationship. You want to make sure that
you're in that compassionate, arn't centered place. And again, the
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best way to do that is to call in your
higher self and to come from that place. And we'll
talk a little bit more about that shortly. And I
just want to get to Charles, no issues in our relationship.
I just like to pick on my wife and I
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know she is listening to your show. Okay, So I
am glad Charles that you don't have any really deep
issues and that's good. But I do also want you
to know that whether you have issues or not in
your relationship, there are going to be times where you're
going to want to communicate and you want to have
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that communication time. So make time for yourself. Like I
know in this crazy busy world, one of the biggest
things that couples that one of the best things for
your relationship, your partnership is to make time for each other.
And when you make time for each other and you
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have that real communication time, it grows the relationship intimacy grows,
and so I really want to support you all to
be able to make that time for your partner, and
whether you have issues or not, that something to keep
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in mind because in our crazy busy life, you have work,
and you may have kids, and you may have other
relation it is, or other demands on your time, and sometimes, unfortunately,
couple time becomes the last on the list. And so
I am supporting all of you. If you are in
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a relationship, make couple time, make partnership time. Okay, Charles goes.
Listening to your show is fun for us. Even though
we are not in the same place, we listen at
the same time. I love that, you know what, Thank
you so much, Charles, and thank you Charles's wife. By
where you are. That really feels really good to know
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that you're both listening even though you're not in the
same place, and that I appreciate hearing that. So thank
you Charles and Charles's wife whatever your name is true.
So I'm really glad to hear that. Thank you. You know,
I want you to know and you can hear it
in my voice like you. I do not Okay, I
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do not have a poker face, nor do I have
a poker voice, and you can hear and feel the
tones in my voice when I'm feeling different things. And
I really want you to know how much I appreciate
all of you who listen live. I appreciate all of
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you who are listening to the podcast or watching YouTube
at a later time. Your contributions. You're listening to me
makes a difference for me to know that I'm making
a difference for you. So I just really want to
say thank you. I just wanted to express my gratitude,
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thank you Charles for bringing that on. So and there
was a heart scentered communication right there, and I get
really touched by all of you, you listeners. I mean,
I am so I appreciate of you. I really am
so thank you for being here now later. So, what
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happens when you're speaking from your heart and you're able
to speak from that place of heart, what happens is
you know that you're speaking from your heart and you're
conveying integrity, You're conveying honesty and truth. And what happens
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when you do that, It builds rapport, It builds that
place where people get a sense of who you are
and how you are quickly. So if this is if
it's your business and you're wanting to be better in
your business, you want to make sure that you are
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communicating from that aligning space and in your life. I
want you all to know that when you communicate that
from a place of presence, whether it's a coworker or
a friend or a partner, you make a difference in
someone's life. Like you, listeners and viewers, you make a
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difference in my life. And I want you to know
that when you do what you do and you're being
present with someone else, and you're communicating with that intention
of integrity and clarity and heart, and you communicate emotions
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in a safe way and you're able to really express
yourself from that safe place, you make a difference. And
you make a difference. And those of you who have
to listen to the show and have been listening and
that you start communicating differently, I want you to know
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that it makes a difference in the people in your life.
And so keep showing up, keep doing what you're doing,
because you make the changes. When you make the changes
in yourself, you can change your relationships on every level,
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your personal relationships, your professional relationships, in all ways. So
I really really want to support all of you in remembering.
And then there's the voice box, like what would block
your voice? And before we get to that, I am
going to put a plug in for the meditation that
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I created to help you get more clarity, to help
you to tune in and to feel calmer and to
connect with your higher self and then to get in
touch with your ability to discover the communication that your
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high yourself is trying to tell you. And so if
you go the name of the show, Inspired and Empowered
Living dot Com Forward slash Meditation ne d id a
t io n so Inspired and Empoweredliving dot Com Forward
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slash Meditation, and you want to download the meditation, there's
also a PDF for it, and that can really help
you in being able to calm yourself and center yourself
so that you can have the clear, confident communication with
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compassion that you really want and Rebel put the links
in the check. So what happens when there's blocks in
your voice and what kind of blocks could show up? Well,
one of the blocks is a big block is that
fear of judgment. When you have the fear of judgment,
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what might happen is you may stay quiet and not
speak up, or maybe you have that quiet voice or
what I was talking about earlier with women that when
they're not communic clearly, that they'll kind of stay something
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without a very clear direct way of being. That's because
of that fear of judgment. So if you have fear
of judgment and you are afraid to speak up, afraid
to speak your truth, or you're not allowing yourself to
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communicate clearly what your truth is, what your real needs are,
what your real feelings are, what your real wants are.
Or if in your business you are not communicating, you
are not communicating your programs, or you're not communicating with
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clarity because you're not sure of your target market or
your niche, then you may not be communicating clearly and
that will affect your tone of voice or even if
you will speak up. So I know we have a
question from Anastasia. So, Anastasia, why do we care so
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much about what others think of us? Okay, so we
care so much about what others think is because we've
grown up there. Most of us grew up in families
where we wanted to be loved, we wanted to be
approved of, and that is a common human element that
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we and then many of us, if not most of us,
the fear of judgment. Guess who it came from. Your parents,
or your caretakers, or the people who took care of you.
You would know when they were judging you. You would
know when they disapproved of you. That tone, how many
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of you as soon as you hear that tone of voice,
like remember I was talking about my friend earlier, and
she would have that tone of voice and it would
trigger me. I know she was triggering my mother because
my mother would have that critical tone of voice. And
as soon as she had that critical tone of voice,
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I was like, you know, and it would it would
trigger me. Now, I as I got older, I started
getting angry. When I was younger, I went into fear now,
that critical tone of voice, that fear of judgment. And
then there was my father, who and listen, I love
my parents, God bless them. They're in heaven. And but
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I will tell you that I know that my father.
I can tell when my father had that judgment. So
but not only the tone of voice, but what he
was saying. And I could feel that judgment a mile away.
So we are so sensitive, most of us are so
sensitive to the judgment because of how we grew up.
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And one of the basic human needs is the need
for love and the need to be loved and that
need for approval. And one of the important things is
learned learning to let go of the fear of judgment.
And the more that you can let it go, the
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more that allows you to be able to speak your truth,
to speak and express your feeling, to speak and express
your thoughts, your wants, your needs. And I'm going to
give you an example my own life, getting doing examples
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from myself. So when I was first in therapy years
and years ago, when I first went into therapy with
my first therapist, I was terrified of anger. And I
was so scared of anger. And the reason why I
was so scared of anger was because my mother was
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a rager and she would scream and yell at me
and my brothers, and so there was the critical voice
and then there was the raging voice that tone of voice,
and the tone of voice sometimes would come right before
the rage, and I did not want her to go
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into the rage, and so I shut down, and I
totally shut down, and I was terrified of anger. And
it took me a long time in therapy to be
okay with anger. In fact, what really helped me a
lot was not only doing therapy, but I started doing
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more and more emotional release work where I'd start feeling
the sensations of what anger felt like in my body.
And a lot of times you'll feel the anger in
your voice, in your jaw, like if you start feeling
or your teeth and you're like you're clenching, you're holding
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in that anger, and sometimes you don't even realize that
you're anger. And that's also why that tone of voice
can come out. And so it's very common to have
that fear of judgment. Know that you're not alone. Most
people have it. It's common, and so it's learning to
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recognize that you do have the fear of judgment, which
is affect your ability to communicate clearly what you're feeling,
what you're thinking, what your wants, what your needs are.
Like if you're in a relationship and you have different
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different needs and your partner or whether it's a relationship
or romantic relationship or a business partner, and you have
different needs than your partner, if you haven't learned to
communicate clearly, what could happen is you suppress it. You
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suppress it, you suppress it, and then you may explode.
And so that's why what I want to support all
of you in doing is learning to become aware that
you may have that anger so that you then can
start becoming aware of what you can do before you explode.
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Now where that came from. I you know what happens
is I answer a question and I just go in
the flow of what's coming. So I think, and we're
going to you know what, we're going to talk more
about this next week. We're going to have part two
of communication, the power of your voice and communicating clearly
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so that you're feeling more confident that you're communicating with
clarity and compassion and Anastasia, we're going to start more.
We're going to with your question because it's an important
question of why and what to do about that fear
of judgment because, like I said, it's a very common
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human issue, and that fear of judgment shuts you down
and it will affect how you are in your life,
how you are in your business, how you are in
every relationship. So to be continued next week for part two.
And I really want to say thank you again for
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joining us for the Inspired and an Empowered Living TV
show and podcast. We are live Thursdays at five pm
Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W four WN dot com,
and my YouTube channel, and we also you can hear
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us on the podcast. The podcast is on iHeart Radio,
Spotify and Dora, Apple, Amazon and many more. And so
I am thanking you, acknowledging you for being here and
wishing you and inspired an empowered day, inspired and empowered evening,
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and have a great one. By for now,
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