October 9, 2025 • 37 mins
Discover how to live and lead authentically — in life, relationships, and business. Learn how to uncover who you truly are, what you feel, what you need, and what you want, and then express that in healthy, empowered ways. When you are authentic, you naturally attract healthier relationships, more joy, and a thriving business aligned with your purpose.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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information only. Content presented on any show by any host
or guest should not be substituted for a doctor's advice.
Always consult your physician before beginning any new diet, exercise,
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Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live on Thursdays five
pm Eastern on talk for TV dot com, W FOURWN
dot com, and my YouTube channel, and today we are
(01:13):
going to be talking about the steps to an authentic
life and business. Discover how to live and lead authentically
in your life, your relationships, and your business. Learn how
to uncover and discover who you truly are, what you feel,
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what you need, what you want, and then express it
in healthy, appropriate ways and empowered ways. When you are authentic,
you naturally attract healthier relationships, more joy a thriving business
that is aligned with your purpose. So find out more
(02:00):
how to align your personal and professional life with your
authentic self. Express your needs and vision in clear in
your relationships and in your business, and create an inspired
and empowered life and business that truly reflects who you are.
(02:21):
And I am your host, Nancy Deutsch licensed clinical social worker,
certified hypnotherapist, and intuitive business expert. I combine my counseling, coaching,
and intuition to inspire and empower you to transform your
life and your business. And the show is not a
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replacement for therapy or counseling. It is for educational purposes only.
So let's talk. Let's talk in and empowering authenticity. What
does that really mean? Being authentic? Being true to yourself.
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When you are living in your truth, you're authentic to
your values, your needs, your wants, your feelings, and your essence,
and you're able to express your authentic self in very clear,
communicative ways. And you're not listening to others' expectations of you,
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the family expectations, society expectations. You are listening to your
inner truth and living from that place and expressing from
that place, being authentic. And it's interesting because when I'm
working with the women that I'm coaching, one of the
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most important things that I keep hearing again and again
is how much they want to live authentically and be
authentic and share their authentic self. And that one of
the biggest values that I keep hearing again and again
is about being authentic and how important being authentic is
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in your life and in your business and in your relationships,
because that is when you allow yourself to be your
authentic self, you're really shining your light. You're being your
true essence the way that I look at it, You're
being your what I call your higher self, that wise,
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unconditionally loving part of you and your soul you're expressing,
and you're radiating your soul's light and shining that light
so that you're you're expressing your core values. You're expressing
more love and harmony and peace and whatever your core
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values are. And that is a game changer on every level.
And so what are signs that you are inauthentic? How
do you know when you're not living authentically? So I'm
going to share a few ways that you could be
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inauthentic so that you can get more clarity on that,
and then we're going to go over ways of how
to be authentic in your life, in your relationships, and
in your business. So one of the ways that you
could be inauthentic, and this is something and we've been
talking We've talked about this before, but this is something
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if you're what we call a people pleaser. And I
want to remind you that a lot of the times
you create the a people pleaser because that was a
survival mechanism that you needed when you grew up. And
now to live in or to live authentically, it's about
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letting go of being a people pleaser and saying no
when you need to say no, and yes when you
want to really say yes. And I see, we have
a question from Misty. Misty, some days the light might
not be so bright. Okay, so Misty says, some days
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the light might not be so bright. So yes, And
here's the thing. So I'm going to use this example.
You may not feel that your light is bright, but
your light doesn't change. So I want you to imagine
it's it would imagine that you your soul is the sun
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and you're radiating like authentically. When you're being authentic, you
are radiating that light out and you're expressing your light.
You're shining, you're living in that place. And what happens.
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You may not feel right, your light doesn't change, but
it's you know, have the sun when it's a cloudy day.
So you can imagine your soul's light when you have
a lot of feelings that are coming up, or you
feel really sad or you're grieving and it feels like
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you're not shining your light. Your light hasn't dissipated, it's
kind of in hiding because it's a cloudy day, or
you're feeling a lot of feelings may be coming up,
and then your job is to process through and work
through the feelings so that you can come back to
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that authentic place, the authentic self that you are, so
that you're shining your light again in authentic ways. So
thank you for sharing that mystic. And we have Nicky
who says hard to determine what is authentic at times,
So Nicky, what I'm gonna I'm hoping that as I
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go through the show, you'll get more clarity on what
is authentic and what is not authentic, and you'll start
becoming more aware of perhaps when you are authentic and
when you're not, because you can't change it if you're
not aware. So thank you, Micky. And Anastasia says feeling
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overwhelmed or not feeling at all could be an issue. Yes,
that is true. So if you're feeling overwhelmed, thank you, Anastasia.
If you're feeling overwhelmed. That's you're kind of like let's
say funny clouds, it's or it could feel pretty cloudy.
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And if you're in that overwhelmed and then when you're
when you're not feeling at all, or you're feeling numb,
then that also could be a way that you're not
allowing that light to shine. And again I want to
remind you your authentic self is always there, your soul,
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your higher self is there, whether you are aware of
it or not. And the challenges is being able to
become more aware so that or working through the feelings
or the numbness or the overwhelmed so that you can
get back to your light, back to your authentic self
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to shine your light and radiate your light. So another
way that you may be inauthentic is if you start
feeling really drained in a relationship or you're resentful. So
if you start and this could be this could be
in your life, it could be in your relationships, and
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also it could be in business relationships. So if you
notice that you're having an issue with someone in your work,
whether it's someone who works for you or someone you
work for, or it could be another person that you're
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dealing with maybe a consultant and you're starting to feel
drained or you're feeling resentful, that is a red flag.
It's a warning sign. It's saying to you, you need
to look at what's going on in that relationship so
that you can then take action to get back into
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your authenticity, what feels true to you, what you need,
what your wants are, because being inauthentic is staying in
that resentment and not expressing yourself in healthy ways. And
we're going to go more into all of that as well,
and also not being able to if you're feeling drained,
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that is also something to look at. Anastasia says, not
always easy to bounce back. So it is true, it
is not always easy to bounce back, and that what's
most important. And as I talk more about how to
get back to that authentic self and how to do
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that for yourself, it's step by step being able to
gain the awareness that, oh, I am not being my
authentic self in this relationship. I'm not even being my
authentic self with myself. So if you are feeling I
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don't even know how to get back to my authentic self, now,
you may need to start doing some kind of activities
like journaling and or meditating or doing something those self
care activities that will help bring you back. And it
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depends on how far you've come from your authentic self.
There are some some people, and if this is you,
I want you to know that you're not alone. That
when you were growing up and this is all of us,
and I see the question came in Misty. I'll get
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to you in a second. When you were growing up,
you had to create survival mechanisms. You had to create
perhaps masks or ways of being like that, people pleasing
saying yes when you really meant no, because it was
a survival in your family. And what I encourage all
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of you to do is to listen to the show
and to start looking at the ways that maybe you
have been inauthentic, and to start starting to shift and
take those steps, even if they're baby steps, on asking
yourself how to come back to being more authentic, step
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by step. And we're going to talk more about that.
And again, if you have any questions, whether you're listening
live or you're listening at another time, you can ask
me the questions on YouTube. You can come to my
YouTube channel and tab me and I'm happy to answer
your questions. More So, Misty asked, do you find people
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delude their self at time? And the answer to that
question is yes. And the reason why people delude themselves
is if someone is what I say, wearing and I'm
putting this in air quotes, wearing a mask, it may
not be so easy to remove the mask. So, if
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you've been a people pleaser, there's a reason why you're
a people pleaser, and it's for you to understand what
is the reason that you are a people pleaser? Are
you being a people pleaser because that was the way
you got attention? Is that the way you got loved
and that it's hard for you to say no because
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you really want to be loved, you want to be
approved of, and so you became a people pleaser. But
it's about learning that little by little you can start
taking steps to learn how to speak your truth, to
learn how to start coming out of the mask or
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out of the delusion. And and sometimes it's really scary
to remove those masks. It may not only be people pleasing,
you know, there are there are a lot of different
kinds of masks that someone can wear, like that you
could wear that you may not even be aware. And
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if you want, we love the list lately, maybe we
can maybe if you want next week's show, let me
know in the chat if you want me to make
a list of ways that you may be inauthentic without
you realizing, the way that you may have masks that
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you wear. So stay tuned, and I see anesthesia. Is
it a bad thing to be a people pleaser? And
is it bad not to know you are people pleasing? Okay,
so one thing I really really really want you to
know not about bad. It's about, first of all, learning
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it's not bad to be a people pleaser. It's not
helpful to you because what happens when you become a
people pleaser. When you are a people pleaser, what ends
up happening is that it's hurting you. The people that
you're people pleasing, they're like, oh, please go right ahead.
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Oh it's hurting is you? Because what happens if you're
feeling drained, or you're feeling inauthentic, or you're feeling exhausted,
or you're feeling resentful, that energy is hurting you. More
than it's hurting, it can hurt your relationship because if
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you start acting out our resentment or you start getting
angry or and angrier and then act out the anger.
That can hurt the relationship. But ultimately it's not bad.
It's about how it's not helpful for you. So so
it's about learning how to take better care of yourself,
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and learning how to take better care of yourself is
learning how to say no instead of the yes and
being authentic to you because when you empower yourself, when
you empower yourself and say no when you need to
say no, then you it frees you. You feel freer,
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and the other thing is is that you end up
feeling more empowered. And it doesn't mean you're going to
say no all the time. It may mean that in
a certain instance, if you're feeling overwhelmed, and you're feeling
overwhelmed because you've got a lot on your plate in
the moment, and then somebody asks you to do this
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or that or whatever, and you know in your heart
like if you add another thing on your plate, you're
going to go totally off the charts, off the wall.
That's when you need to say the no. But there
may be a time where it's like, oh, you know what,
I really want to do this It's being authentic is
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saying no when you mean no, and yes when you
mean yes, Yes, when it feels right, yes, when it
feels like an authentic thing, being able to be a
giver and you want to give, and it's coming from
that place of your authentic self rather than the have
to place or the should place. When you're in hafter's
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and shoulds, then you're not being authentic, all right. Anathasia said,
let's are good, all right, so we will. We'll make
a list, all right, we'll make a list of ways
that ways you could be an authentic and I'll start
so that you can start looking at yourself and seeing it.
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Misty said, let's see. Lizard said, I don't need to
be a people pleaser when I have you Okay, well,
thank you? Well, I you know, definitely, I definitely. I
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don't know what to say to that. Oh yeah, Misty,
When you stop people pleasing, you see true colors of people.
You know what, mistery, You're right, You're totally right, because
what happens is when you start saying no when you
need to say no, and you start setting boundaries, you
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start seeing who's really wanting to work with you or
who really cares about you, who really respects you. Now,
you may need to have conversations in your relationships, whether
it's in your personal life or your business. If they're
not respecting you, and they're not respecting your no, and
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they're not respecting your boundaries, then you may need authentic
conversations where you start talking about what is your truth?
And you're right, people's true colors come out. You start
seeing what's real. Now, Hopefully most of you or many
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of you are in relationships that are supportive and encouraging
and they may, you know, when you say no or
when you need to say no, they can hear your no.
But if you are in relationships that don't hear your
know and you talk to them about it and again
and again, your no is not being respected, then you
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need to look at one, what made you bring this
relationship into your life, like what is it teaching you?
What lesson do you need to get from it? And
two is this someone that you want to continue with
in your life? Is this relationship serving you? And it
may be serving you? You know, sometimes our greatest teachers
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are relationships that give us the biggest challenges, the ones
where it's hardest to say no to and then you
learn to say no, and then you feel so empowered.
And I'm going to share a relationship for example, and
this is a relate. This is an example from my
personal life. And there's a person in my life who
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and will call her Josephine. And Josephine and I have
been in friends for a very long time and there
are times where I say I, you know, I'm saying no,
and then sometimes Josephine has her own needs and she
doesn't hear my no then and then I get angry
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and upset. But I am able to communicate that in healthy,
appropriate ways, and we're able to communicate and talk it
through so that she can then start respecting my know
and then you know the relationship as potential. And that
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is an example like when you are able to communicate
and express your authentic self, express your real feelings, your wants,
and your needs and they're able to hear you, that
is a good thing and it's also an empowering thing
and helpful for your growth. So Nicky says, some people
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don't know their truth. So Nicky, that is true. Some
people don't know their truth. And you can't change somebody
if they're not willing to know their truth, but hopefully
they're willing to maybe learn, and maybe you can send
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them the show if they're open. If they're open. If
they're not open, then you're not going to change someone.
One of the things that living authentically is is it's
not about changing another person, but it's about changing yourself
so that you feel more inspired and empowered, and then
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making the changes in your behavior, including speaking up for
yourself and being more appropriate and healthy, so that you
can hopefully transform your life and your relationships, whether it's
in business or in your life. And I want you
to know that relationships are everywhere. You cannot have a
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business without relationships. So when I'm talking about relationships in life,
we're also talking about business relationships as well. So Misty says,
not everyone, not everyone hears you when you speak to them.
So that is correct. Not everyone hears you when you
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speak to them. And so one, you want to make
sure that you're speaking in a clear, healthy way, communicating
in a clear, healthy way, because you're more likely to
be heard when you're speaking from that place. However, if
and I'm going to tell you, and I've said this before,
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if you're in a situation where you or the other
person is raging or really angry, or really upset or
really emotional in any way, they will more than likely
not hear you, and so it would be only it
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will only be to your benefit not to have a
conversation when either one of you are in that space.
It's about taking the time, a time out and then
coming back later for you to be in your process
so that then you can express yourself in a healthy
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way and hopefully they can be present enough to hear you.
So let's see what before we go to the next point,
I want to share. I have a free virtual masterclass
coming up on October twenty second at seven pm Eastern
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or women coaches, therapists, nurses, hollistic practitioners and professionals, and
I'm very excited to be presenting the Sole Advantage how
to attract clients and increase your income with purpose and confidence.
And we're going to be talking about the three Seeds framework,
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and the three seeds is learning how to release that
self doubt so that you're embodying and trusting yourself and
your gifts so that you can show up powerfully and
magnetically to the clients who need you most. I'm in
clarity so that you're making the soul led decisions without
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hesitation or overthinking, and consistency so that you're showing up
with purpose and presence and you're creating steady momentum that
naturally increases your visibility, your income, and your client flow.
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So come, Rebel's going to put the lane in the chat.
Come to my masterclass. You're gonna and for those of
you who are listening in go to this link. Inspired
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Inspired and Empowered Living dot Com Forward Slash Masterclass. M
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the name of the show Inspired and Empowered Living dot
Com Forward Slash master So definitely we want to see
you there. But sole advantage very exciting. I'm bringing more
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of that soul work into everything I do because that
you are your authentic self when you are being and
embodying your soul. So join us. So what else? Okay?
So another way that you you could be inauthentic without
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even realizing, is burning out from doing work that doesn't
light you up. So if you're feeling burnt out from
doing work that's not lighting you up. And then you
need to ask yourself what will light you up? What
does your soul? What does your authentic self want to do?
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How do you want to live your purpose? And so
definitely you want to make sure that you are living
your authentic self and your authentic purpose. And again, this
is taking steps little by little, it's taking steps to
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bring you into who you really are. And again it's
one step at a time, one step at a time.
So if any of you are feeling success on the
outside and yet you're feeling emptiness on the inside, what
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it means is that you're not living your authentic self
or there's something going on. Like the success you may
have may be where you're moving towards authentically, but there's
something inside that needs healing. And that's where it's learning
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to understand. And it's learning to connect with your authentic
self so that you can get more in touch with
your an express your authentic self more and more. So,
how can you be authentic? Ways that you are being
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authentic and would be authentic is in your life and
it's being living from that personal authenticity. So it's learning
to tune into your feelings. Now I know some of
you were talking about feeling numb or feeling overwhelmed, and
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sometimes you can delude yourself into thinking you're feeling one
thing and you may not be in touch with what's
really going on. And again, I want to encourage you,
this is not a quick fix. This is a process.
This is a journey, and it's a journey to the
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like the most important part of yourself because when you
step more and more into your authentic self, when you're
stepping more into your higher self and your soul, and
you're shining that light. And I'm not saying it's an
easy process to get there, but that's why I'm saying,
it's a journey and it's going to take time. But
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the most important thing is you start the journey with
that awareness. So it's having the awareness of what your
feelings are and learning to honor your feelings. That is
being in your authentic self. It's also learning what are
your wants, what are your needs and asking yourself those
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questions and maybe we can even maybe I'll even do
some questions for you next week that well, actually it
won't be next week. It'll be in a couple of
weeks because I have an event that i'll be a
part participating in so allowing yourself to tune in to
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where you may be inauthentic and steps that you can
take to come back to that authentic you. So, and
what happens when you are your authentic self. It leads
to more confidence, it leads to peace, It leads to
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an inspired and empowered life and an inspired and empowered business.
That's what this is about. That's what you are going for.
That's the journey of self discovery. It's the journey of
self awareness. So, and you want to make sure that
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you're spending time with things that light you up, things
that feel really joyful or fun or exciting. And the
other thing is the self care. It's really important that.
And you may be successful, but if you're feeling empty,
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you may need more fun or joy or nurturing or
self care. That you may be overworking yourself or doing
too much. And so you end up being a balance.
And this is learning how to come back into balance
to be your authentic self. Learning balance is an important
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part of being your authentic self in your life and
in your business. And it's really understanding. It's making decisions
based on your values, based on your wants, based on
your needs, not what other people want now is a thing. Ultimately,
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this is about you and your self care, and you're
tuning in to what you need, what you want, what
you desire. Now. If there are sometimes when you need
to support a friend or a relative, then then you
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may say or do something. But ultimately, if you're doing
your self care, you'll be able to say, you know what,
I want to help you, I want to support you. Again.
This isn't when you're feeling overwhelmed. This is not when
you're feeling burnt out. This is when you're starting to
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feel more imbalanced. Learning more of that back, learning more
of your wants, your needs, your desires, and also learning
to know that it's okay to be imperfect. You know,
it's really important for you to give yourself slack and
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to know that you are perfect as you are. But
you don't need to be perfect because that's putting too
much pressure and expectations to perform, and then you're not
being authentic. Then you're putting up a mask about performing.
And we'll get more into that in a couple of
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weeks when I start talking more about that as well.
So it's about being able to learn that you are
really taking that self care and learning what it is
you want and need and then being able to express
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that in healthy ways then and to know that it's
okay to make mistakes, it's okay to be human, and
it's okay to not be perfect and you want to
And again, this has to do with the balance that
I was talking about. It's aligning your lifestyle, your health,
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your relationships, your work that so that you're balancing your
needs and your wants and being able to do that
balance and in your relationships negotiating. And we're going to
talk more about that in the upcoming shows because I
can see there's lots of questions and there's also lists
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that I'm going to share with you about ways that
you may be an authentic without you realizing it, and
ways to be authentic. So we're going to continue this,
So stay tuned for future shows and you'll and we
look forward to inspiring and empowering you more in your
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life and your business and part two of the step
to your authentic self in your life and your business.
So join me on Thursdays at five pm Eastern on
talk for TV dot com, W fourwen dot com, my
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YouTube channel, and you can listen to the podcast on iHeartRadio,
spot by Pandora and Apple, Amazon, and many more. And
I am wishing all of you and inspired an empowered
day and evening and inspired and empowered week. Have a
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great one, everybody, Bye for now,
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or guest should not be substituted for a doctor's advice.
Always consult your physician before beginning any new diet, exercise,
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Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live on Thursdays five
pm Eastern on talk for TV dot com, W FOURWN
dot com, and my YouTube channel, and today we are
(01:13):
going to be talking about the steps to an authentic
life and business. Discover how to live and lead authentically
in your life, your relationships, and your business. Learn how
to uncover and discover who you truly are, what you feel,
(01:36):
what you need, what you want, and then express it
in healthy, appropriate ways and empowered ways. When you are authentic,
you naturally attract healthier relationships, more joy a thriving business
that is aligned with your purpose. So find out more
(02:00):
how to align your personal and professional life with your
authentic self. Express your needs and vision in clear in
your relationships and in your business, and create an inspired
and empowered life and business that truly reflects who you are.
(02:21):
And I am your host, Nancy Deutsch licensed clinical social worker,
certified hypnotherapist, and intuitive business expert. I combine my counseling, coaching,
and intuition to inspire and empower you to transform your
life and your business. And the show is not a
(02:44):
replacement for therapy or counseling. It is for educational purposes only.
So let's talk. Let's talk in and empowering authenticity. What
does that really mean? Being authentic? Being true to yourself.
(03:04):
When you are living in your truth, you're authentic to
your values, your needs, your wants, your feelings, and your essence,
and you're able to express your authentic self in very clear,
communicative ways. And you're not listening to others' expectations of you,
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the family expectations, society expectations. You are listening to your
inner truth and living from that place and expressing from
that place, being authentic. And it's interesting because when I'm
working with the women that I'm coaching, one of the
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most important things that I keep hearing again and again
is how much they want to live authentically and be
authentic and share their authentic self. And that one of
the biggest values that I keep hearing again and again
is about being authentic and how important being authentic is
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in your life and in your business and in your relationships,
because that is when you allow yourself to be your
authentic self, you're really shining your light. You're being your
true essence the way that I look at it, You're
being your what I call your higher self, that wise,
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unconditionally loving part of you and your soul you're expressing,
and you're radiating your soul's light and shining that light
so that you're you're expressing your core values. You're expressing
more love and harmony and peace and whatever your core
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values are. And that is a game changer on every level.
And so what are signs that you are inauthentic? How
do you know when you're not living authentically? So I'm
going to share a few ways that you could be
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inauthentic so that you can get more clarity on that,
and then we're going to go over ways of how
to be authentic in your life, in your relationships, and
in your business. So one of the ways that you
could be inauthentic, and this is something and we've been
talking We've talked about this before, but this is something
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if you're what we call a people pleaser. And I
want to remind you that a lot of the times
you create the a people pleaser because that was a
survival mechanism that you needed when you grew up. And
now to live in or to live authentically, it's about
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letting go of being a people pleaser and saying no
when you need to say no, and yes when you
want to really say yes. And I see, we have
a question from Misty. Misty, some days the light might
not be so bright. Okay, so Misty says, some days
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the light might not be so bright. So yes, And
here's the thing. So I'm going to use this example.
You may not feel that your light is bright, but
your light doesn't change. So I want you to imagine
it's it would imagine that you your soul is the sun
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and you're radiating like authentically. When you're being authentic, you
are radiating that light out and you're expressing your light.
You're shining, you're living in that place. And what happens.
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You may not feel right, your light doesn't change, but
it's you know, have the sun when it's a cloudy day.
So you can imagine your soul's light when you have
a lot of feelings that are coming up, or you
feel really sad or you're grieving and it feels like
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you're not shining your light. Your light hasn't dissipated, it's
kind of in hiding because it's a cloudy day, or
you're feeling a lot of feelings may be coming up,
and then your job is to process through and work
through the feelings so that you can come back to
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that authentic place, the authentic self that you are, so
that you're shining your light again in authentic ways. So
thank you for sharing that mystic. And we have Nicky
who says hard to determine what is authentic at times,
So Nicky, what I'm gonna I'm hoping that as I
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go through the show, you'll get more clarity on what
is authentic and what is not authentic, and you'll start
becoming more aware of perhaps when you are authentic and
when you're not, because you can't change it if you're
not aware. So thank you, Micky. And Anastasia says feeling
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overwhelmed or not feeling at all could be an issue. Yes,
that is true. So if you're feeling overwhelmed, thank you, Anastasia.
If you're feeling overwhelmed. That's you're kind of like let's
say funny clouds, it's or it could feel pretty cloudy.
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And if you're in that overwhelmed and then when you're
when you're not feeling at all, or you're feeling numb,
then that also could be a way that you're not
allowing that light to shine. And again I want to
remind you your authentic self is always there, your soul,
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your higher self is there, whether you are aware of
it or not. And the challenges is being able to
become more aware so that or working through the feelings
or the numbness or the overwhelmed so that you can
get back to your light, back to your authentic self
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to shine your light and radiate your light. So another
way that you may be inauthentic is if you start
feeling really drained in a relationship or you're resentful. So
if you start and this could be this could be
in your life, it could be in your relationships, and
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also it could be in business relationships. So if you
notice that you're having an issue with someone in your work,
whether it's someone who works for you or someone you
work for, or it could be another person that you're
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dealing with maybe a consultant and you're starting to feel
drained or you're feeling resentful, that is a red flag.
It's a warning sign. It's saying to you, you need
to look at what's going on in that relationship so
that you can then take action to get back into
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your authenticity, what feels true to you, what you need,
what your wants are, because being inauthentic is staying in
that resentment and not expressing yourself in healthy ways. And
we're going to go more into all of that as well,
and also not being able to if you're feeling drained,
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that is also something to look at. Anastasia says, not
always easy to bounce back. So it is true, it
is not always easy to bounce back, and that what's
most important. And as I talk more about how to
get back to that authentic self and how to do
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that for yourself, it's step by step being able to
gain the awareness that, oh, I am not being my
authentic self in this relationship. I'm not even being my
authentic self with myself. So if you are feeling I
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don't even know how to get back to my authentic self, now,
you may need to start doing some kind of activities
like journaling and or meditating or doing something those self
care activities that will help bring you back. And it
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depends on how far you've come from your authentic self.
There are some some people, and if this is you,
I want you to know that you're not alone. That
when you were growing up and this is all of us,
and I see the question came in Misty. I'll get
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to you in a second. When you were growing up,
you had to create survival mechanisms. You had to create
perhaps masks or ways of being like that, people pleasing
saying yes when you really meant no, because it was
a survival in your family. And what I encourage all
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of you to do is to listen to the show
and to start looking at the ways that maybe you
have been inauthentic, and to start starting to shift and
take those steps, even if they're baby steps, on asking
yourself how to come back to being more authentic, step
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by step. And we're going to talk more about that.
And again, if you have any questions, whether you're listening
live or you're listening at another time, you can ask
me the questions on YouTube. You can come to my
YouTube channel and tab me and I'm happy to answer
your questions. More So, Misty asked, do you find people
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delude their self at time? And the answer to that
question is yes. And the reason why people delude themselves
is if someone is what I say, wearing and I'm
putting this in air quotes, wearing a mask, it may
not be so easy to remove the mask. So, if
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you've been a people pleaser, there's a reason why you're
a people pleaser, and it's for you to understand what
is the reason that you are a people pleaser? Are
you being a people pleaser because that was the way
you got attention? Is that the way you got loved
and that it's hard for you to say no because
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you really want to be loved, you want to be
approved of, and so you became a people pleaser. But
it's about learning that little by little you can start
taking steps to learn how to speak your truth, to
learn how to start coming out of the mask or
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out of the delusion. And and sometimes it's really scary
to remove those masks. It may not only be people pleasing,
you know, there are there are a lot of different
kinds of masks that someone can wear, like that you
could wear that you may not even be aware. And
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if you want, we love the list lately, maybe we
can maybe if you want next week's show, let me
know in the chat if you want me to make
a list of ways that you may be inauthentic without
you realizing, the way that you may have masks that
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you wear. So stay tuned, and I see anesthesia. Is
it a bad thing to be a people pleaser? And
is it bad not to know you are people pleasing? Okay,
so one thing I really really really want you to
know not about bad. It's about, first of all, learning
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it's not bad to be a people pleaser. It's not
helpful to you because what happens when you become a
people pleaser. When you are a people pleaser, what ends
up happening is that it's hurting you. The people that
you're people pleasing, they're like, oh, please go right ahead.
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Oh it's hurting is you? Because what happens if you're
feeling drained, or you're feeling inauthentic, or you're feeling exhausted,
or you're feeling resentful, that energy is hurting you. More
than it's hurting, it can hurt your relationship because if
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you start acting out our resentment or you start getting
angry or and angrier and then act out the anger.
That can hurt the relationship. But ultimately it's not bad.
It's about how it's not helpful for you. So so
it's about learning how to take better care of yourself,
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and learning how to take better care of yourself is
learning how to say no instead of the yes and
being authentic to you because when you empower yourself, when
you empower yourself and say no when you need to
say no, then you it frees you. You feel freer,
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and the other thing is is that you end up
feeling more empowered. And it doesn't mean you're going to
say no all the time. It may mean that in
a certain instance, if you're feeling overwhelmed, and you're feeling
overwhelmed because you've got a lot on your plate in
the moment, and then somebody asks you to do this
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or that or whatever, and you know in your heart
like if you add another thing on your plate, you're
going to go totally off the charts, off the wall.
That's when you need to say the no. But there
may be a time where it's like, oh, you know what,
I really want to do this It's being authentic is
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saying no when you mean no, and yes when you
mean yes, Yes, when it feels right, yes, when it
feels like an authentic thing, being able to be a
giver and you want to give, and it's coming from
that place of your authentic self rather than the have
to place or the should place. When you're in hafter's
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and shoulds, then you're not being authentic, all right. Anathasia said,
let's are good, all right, so we will. We'll make
a list, all right, we'll make a list of ways
that ways you could be an authentic and I'll start
so that you can start looking at yourself and seeing it.
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Misty said, let's see. Lizard said, I don't need to
be a people pleaser when I have you Okay, well,
thank you? Well, I you know, definitely, I definitely. I
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don't know what to say to that. Oh yeah, Misty,
When you stop people pleasing, you see true colors of people.
You know what, mistery, You're right, You're totally right, because
what happens is when you start saying no when you
need to say no, and you start setting boundaries, you
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start seeing who's really wanting to work with you or
who really cares about you, who really respects you. Now,
you may need to have conversations in your relationships, whether
it's in your personal life or your business. If they're
not respecting you, and they're not respecting your no, and
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they're not respecting your boundaries, then you may need authentic
conversations where you start talking about what is your truth?
And you're right, people's true colors come out. You start
seeing what's real. Now, Hopefully most of you or many
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of you are in relationships that are supportive and encouraging
and they may, you know, when you say no or
when you need to say no, they can hear your no.
But if you are in relationships that don't hear your
know and you talk to them about it and again
and again, your no is not being respected, then you
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need to look at one, what made you bring this
relationship into your life, like what is it teaching you?
What lesson do you need to get from it? And
two is this someone that you want to continue with
in your life? Is this relationship serving you? And it
may be serving you? You know, sometimes our greatest teachers
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are relationships that give us the biggest challenges, the ones
where it's hardest to say no to and then you
learn to say no, and then you feel so empowered.
And I'm going to share a relationship for example, and
this is a relate. This is an example from my
personal life. And there's a person in my life who
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and will call her Josephine. And Josephine and I have
been in friends for a very long time and there
are times where I say I, you know, I'm saying no,
and then sometimes Josephine has her own needs and she
doesn't hear my no then and then I get angry
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and upset. But I am able to communicate that in healthy,
appropriate ways, and we're able to communicate and talk it
through so that she can then start respecting my know
and then you know the relationship as potential. And that
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is an example like when you are able to communicate
and express your authentic self, express your real feelings, your wants,
and your needs and they're able to hear you, that
is a good thing and it's also an empowering thing
and helpful for your growth. So Nicky says, some people
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don't know their truth. So Nicky, that is true. Some
people don't know their truth. And you can't change somebody
if they're not willing to know their truth, but hopefully
they're willing to maybe learn, and maybe you can send
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them the show if they're open. If they're open. If
they're not open, then you're not going to change someone.
One of the things that living authentically is is it's
not about changing another person, but it's about changing yourself
so that you feel more inspired and empowered, and then
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making the changes in your behavior, including speaking up for
yourself and being more appropriate and healthy, so that you
can hopefully transform your life and your relationships, whether it's
in business or in your life. And I want you
to know that relationships are everywhere. You cannot have a
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business without relationships. So when I'm talking about relationships in life,
we're also talking about business relationships as well. So Misty says,
not everyone, not everyone hears you when you speak to them.
So that is correct. Not everyone hears you when you
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speak to them. And so one, you want to make
sure that you're speaking in a clear, healthy way, communicating
in a clear, healthy way, because you're more likely to
be heard when you're speaking from that place. However, if
and I'm going to tell you, and I've said this before,
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if you're in a situation where you or the other
person is raging or really angry, or really upset or
really emotional in any way, they will more than likely
not hear you, and so it would be only it
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will only be to your benefit not to have a
conversation when either one of you are in that space.
It's about taking the time, a time out and then
coming back later for you to be in your process
so that then you can express yourself in a healthy
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way and hopefully they can be present enough to hear you.
So let's see what before we go to the next point,
I want to share. I have a free virtual masterclass
coming up on October twenty second at seven pm Eastern
(25:49):
or women coaches, therapists, nurses, hollistic practitioners and professionals, and
I'm very excited to be presenting the Sole Advantage how
to attract clients and increase your income with purpose and confidence.
And we're going to be talking about the three Seeds framework,
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and the three seeds is learning how to release that
self doubt so that you're embodying and trusting yourself and
your gifts so that you can show up powerfully and
magnetically to the clients who need you most. I'm in
clarity so that you're making the soul led decisions without
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hesitation or overthinking, and consistency so that you're showing up
with purpose and presence and you're creating steady momentum that
naturally increases your visibility, your income, and your client flow.
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So come, Rebel's going to put the lane in the chat.
Come to my masterclass. You're gonna and for those of
you who are listening in go to this link. Inspired
and Empowered Living dot Com the name of the show
Inspired and Empowered Living dot Com Forward Slash Masterclass. M
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A s t E r C l A S S
the name of the show Inspired and Empowered Living dot
Com Forward Slash master So definitely we want to see
you there. But sole advantage very exciting. I'm bringing more
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of that soul work into everything I do because that
you are your authentic self when you are being and
embodying your soul. So join us. So what else? Okay?
So another way that you you could be inauthentic without
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even realizing, is burning out from doing work that doesn't
light you up. So if you're feeling burnt out from
doing work that's not lighting you up. And then you
need to ask yourself what will light you up? What
does your soul? What does your authentic self want to do?
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How do you want to live your purpose? And so
definitely you want to make sure that you are living
your authentic self and your authentic purpose. And again, this
is taking steps little by little, it's taking steps to
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bring you into who you really are. And again it's
one step at a time, one step at a time.
So if any of you are feeling success on the
outside and yet you're feeling emptiness on the inside, what
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it means is that you're not living your authentic self
or there's something going on. Like the success you may
have may be where you're moving towards authentically, but there's
something inside that needs healing. And that's where it's learning
(29:30):
to understand. And it's learning to connect with your authentic
self so that you can get more in touch with
your an express your authentic self more and more. So,
how can you be authentic? Ways that you are being
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authentic and would be authentic is in your life and
it's being living from that personal authenticity. So it's learning
to tune into your feelings. Now I know some of
you were talking about feeling numb or feeling overwhelmed, and
(30:13):
sometimes you can delude yourself into thinking you're feeling one
thing and you may not be in touch with what's
really going on. And again, I want to encourage you,
this is not a quick fix. This is a process.
This is a journey, and it's a journey to the
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like the most important part of yourself because when you
step more and more into your authentic self, when you're
stepping more into your higher self and your soul, and
you're shining that light. And I'm not saying it's an
easy process to get there, but that's why I'm saying,
it's a journey and it's going to take time. But
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the most important thing is you start the journey with
that awareness. So it's having the awareness of what your
feelings are and learning to honor your feelings. That is
being in your authentic self. It's also learning what are
your wants, what are your needs and asking yourself those
(31:18):
questions and maybe we can even maybe I'll even do
some questions for you next week that well, actually it
won't be next week. It'll be in a couple of
weeks because I have an event that i'll be a
part participating in so allowing yourself to tune in to
(31:42):
where you may be inauthentic and steps that you can
take to come back to that authentic you. So, and
what happens when you are your authentic self. It leads
to more confidence, it leads to peace, It leads to
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an inspired and empowered life and an inspired and empowered business.
That's what this is about. That's what you are going for.
That's the journey of self discovery. It's the journey of
self awareness. So, and you want to make sure that
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you're spending time with things that light you up, things
that feel really joyful or fun or exciting. And the
other thing is the self care. It's really important that.
And you may be successful, but if you're feeling empty,
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you may need more fun or joy or nurturing or
self care. That you may be overworking yourself or doing
too much. And so you end up being a balance.
And this is learning how to come back into balance
to be your authentic self. Learning balance is an important
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part of being your authentic self in your life and
in your business. And it's really understanding. It's making decisions
based on your values, based on your wants, based on
your needs, not what other people want now is a thing. Ultimately,
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this is about you and your self care, and you're
tuning in to what you need, what you want, what
you desire. Now. If there are sometimes when you need
to support a friend or a relative, then then you
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may say or do something. But ultimately, if you're doing
your self care, you'll be able to say, you know what,
I want to help you, I want to support you. Again.
This isn't when you're feeling overwhelmed. This is not when
you're feeling burnt out. This is when you're starting to
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feel more imbalanced. Learning more of that back, learning more
of your wants, your needs, your desires, and also learning
to know that it's okay to be imperfect. You know,
it's really important for you to give yourself slack and
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to know that you are perfect as you are. But
you don't need to be perfect because that's putting too
much pressure and expectations to perform, and then you're not
being authentic. Then you're putting up a mask about performing.
And we'll get more into that in a couple of
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weeks when I start talking more about that as well.
So it's about being able to learn that you are
really taking that self care and learning what it is
you want and need and then being able to express
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that in healthy ways then and to know that it's
okay to make mistakes, it's okay to be human, and
it's okay to not be perfect and you want to
And again, this has to do with the balance that
I was talking about. It's aligning your lifestyle, your health,
(35:44):
your relationships, your work that so that you're balancing your
needs and your wants and being able to do that
balance and in your relationships negotiating. And we're going to
talk more about that in the upcoming shows because I
can see there's lots of questions and there's also lists
(36:10):
that I'm going to share with you about ways that
you may be an authentic without you realizing it, and
ways to be authentic. So we're going to continue this,
So stay tuned for future shows and you'll and we
look forward to inspiring and empowering you more in your
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life and your business and part two of the step
to your authentic self in your life and your business.
So join me on Thursdays at five pm Eastern on
talk for TV dot com, W fourwen dot com, my
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YouTube channel, and you can listen to the podcast on iHeartRadio,
spot by Pandora and Apple, Amazon, and many more. And
I am wishing all of you and inspired an empowered
day and evening and inspired and empowered week. Have a
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great one, everybody, Bye for now,
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