October 8, 2024 • 45 mins
Continuing where we left off last week … Learn how to discover who you really are, what you feel, what you need, what you want, and then be able to express that to others in healthy appropriate ways. When you are living authentically, you can have healthier and joyful loving relationships with others and create an inspired and empowered life!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:52):
Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Tuesday mornings at
eleven am Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W four WN
dot com and my YouTube channel, and today we will
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be talking about the Steps to an Authentic You. Part
four will continue where we left off last week. Learn
how to discover who you really are, what you feel,
what you need, and what you want and then be
able to express that in healthy, appropriate ways. When you
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are living authentically, you can have healthier and more joyful,
loving relationships with others and create and inspired and empowered
life together. Let's create a life you love. I'm your host,
Nancy Deutsch, licensed Clinical Social Workers, certified hYP not therapist,
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and Intuitive breakthrough Expert, and I combine my counseling, coaching
and intuition to transform your life and the show is
not a replacement for therapy or counseling. It is for
educational purposes only. And I see that we have Ali
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in the house. Good morning, Ali, welcome, glad to have you.
And I want to answer some questions from last week,
so hopefully we'll have our regulars joining in, and just
to review what we've been talking about is first let's
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talk about what is really authentic. What is your authentic self?
Your authentic self is the real you. And I see
we have Charles. Welcome Charles, glad to see her in
the house. And your authentic self, So what is your
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authentic self? It's the real you. Last week I was
talking about your soul and your soul's light shining through
because at the core of who you are is soul,
and you are this being of light and love. Now
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it's hard to understand when we have a body full
of flesh and bones, and.
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Yet there's this spark inside of us that wants to
shine through and allow yourself to be the brilliant being
that you are.
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And then I talked about last week how we have
these clouds, the clouds that cover up the sun that
we are, and it's clearing the clouds so that you
can allow the light of your soul to shine through.
And so last week, we had Anastasia and she asked
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about we can we be sure we are connecting to
the correct things? And she also asked, how do we
know we are connecting to the things we are meant
to be involved in. So the way that you know
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that you're connecting and that you're on the right path,
so many of you wonder, Okay, you're being you, and
you think you're being authentic and you're trying to be authentic,
and then you wonder, am I on the right path?
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And the best way to know that if you're connecting
to the right path, if you're on the right path.
And here's the thing. Sometimes paths can change and you
may be on the right path for the moment, and
then all of a sudden, Let's say, like when you're
in your twenties or thirties, you could be on one path,
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and then all of a sudden, you start in the
forties or fifties, you start realizing that that's not where
I need to be anymore. So things start shifting and
transforming and changing, and you can be going going through
transitions and it doesn't mean you were on the wrong
path they are before, or it means you are shifting
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you're changing, you're moving to a different place or a
different level. And Anisata says, thank you for answering my question.
I and and if you have anything else that you
want to ask, let me know so I know you're
in the house. Thank you, Anastasia, And if you were so,
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It's it's really about knowing when you're on the path
that you're meant to be on in that moment, in
that time frame, it feels right. And what I mean
by feeling right, it's you feel perhaps again, the best
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way to know if you're on the right path is
by your feelings. If you're feeling a sense of peace,
if you feel fulfilled or satisfied or content, then you
know you're on the right path. Now if you're starting
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to feel something feels like it wants to come through,
something new. And that's what happens for me, is that
I am working with the people that feel there's something more,
something else that wants to come through, and I'm coaching
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them to find that new the new way of being
for them so that they can move to where their
soul is guiding them to be their destiny, so to speak.
And I also want you all to know that if like,
I'm going to give you an example. What's something that
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occurred to me is if you're a parent and you
were raising your kids and it felt like that's where
you need to be, that's what you need to be doing.
You are on the right path, and then your kids
grow up and they start having their own lives and
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you start wondering, h what about me, what's in it
for me? Or what do I need? And you're starting
to wonder starting to explore no, that the next path
or what the transition. The transition is where you are,
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and you in the transition, you'll be guided to where
the next steps are. And I work with a lot
of people, especially women who want career changes or they
want to add to their career. And I'll give you
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an example. So for many years, I've had my own
business for almost twenty years, and I've been a holistic psychotherapist,
and I was doing the counseling and I think I
talked about this last week, and then what started happening
was my guidance, my intuition was guiding me there's more,
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there's something else that I need to be doing, and
I started feeling called to do more coaching. Now I
had actually taken a course to be an intuitive coach
and now, and it was a few years before after
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that I had taken the course, I started feeling, ooh,
maybe there's something here. And so what ended up happening
was I started finding out more about what do I
have to do to be a coach and how does
that look now? I haven't given up. I still have
a handful of holistic clients, and I'm also being led
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by spirit. It's pulling me and teaching more people, more
women and helping more women to go to another level
or a different place in their business than they were
or their practice. And that's what I'm doing now. So
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my intuition was guiding me to something different. And the
reason why I am telling you the story is because
I want you to realize that your intuition is guiding you. Okay,
so we have a question that came in from Misty.
So let me answer the question. What if we don't
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have a direction to go in or don't see the
direction because we don't want to give up what has
moved on? Okay? So, Missy, when you say you don't
want to give up what has moved on? Is it
that you don't want to give I need more clarity
to answer the question to really support you. So when
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you say you don't want to give up what has
moved on? Do you mean you don't want to give
up up the where you're at or that you feel
like you're done with where you're at, but you don't
want to let it go. So can you give me
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more clarity about what you mean by that so that
I can answer your question. And so hopefully an assaysure
I answered your question about being on that path and
making the connection. And again, the best way to know
that you're on the right path, that you're in that
authentic zone, is that you are feeling more happy, fulfilled,
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content or you feel like you're moving in the direction
that you're being guided by your intuition. Okay, So Misty says,
for instance, if the kids have moved down out and
you now have to adjust. Okay, So if the kids
have moved out and you now have to adjust, you
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may be going through a process of grief. And this
is real. I mean, there is something called empty nest syndrome,
and it's real. It's real because if you've been a
mom and that's how you identified your self, and then
all of a sudden, it's not like you give up
being a mom. Okay, So even if the kids have
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moved out and moved on, you'll always be a mom,
but they don't need you the way they used to.
And there is a change and an adjustment period that
you or people who are in the empty nest syndrome
or adjusting or working on adjusting to a different role,
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a different identity. Because if you were all about being
a mom and giving all your kids and giving your
attention to your kids, and very often moms don't take
care of themselves, and when the kids are grown or growing,
and then all of a sudden, you realize what do
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I want? What do I need? What do I feel?
And now may this may be any of you, Okay,
So I just really want you to know that if
you're in a transition point in your life, and if
the kids have moved out or moved on, then you're
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in a transition. Or if you're getting a divorce, you're
in a transition. Or if you are working wanting to
switch careers, you're in a transition. So know that transitional
points are really important aspects and important points in your life,
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and that this is a time for you to connect
more deeply to who you really are, which is that
authentic self, and so misty if you need to. It's
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working on knowing that you're in this trend transition and
that adjustment doesn't prove happen overnight, that it takes time,
and so you're in your own journey. You're in a
process that is actually an exciting process because as you
explore more of who you are and what you want,
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then you can connect more deeply to what is it?
What is it I really want? What is it that's
going to fulfill me? What will help me create that
my inspired and empowered life. And that's when I invite
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all of you to think about to get really into
more of your authentic self. It's connecting more deeply to
your thoughts, to your feelings, to what it is you
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really want, what it is do you really need? And
sometimes when your givers or you keep giving to others,
you don't even think about you. And I call this
essential self care. It's learning to start thinking about what
you want and need and feel because that your needs,
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your wants, your feelings are real and you deserve to
have them fulfilled so that you can feel more fulfilled
in your life. Now, I know Country Corners came in
with something. Okay. So Country Corner says, can you do
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a show about these transitional points? What are they? And
when in life do they come about? How do we
know it's a point to make a change? Sure, you
know what. I thank you because I know this is
the last show of this piece and I'm like, okay,
I don't know what's next. So transitional points. Sure, I
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will definitely and definitely do shows on that. And Anathasia says,
thoughts and feelings are very the very things that are
throwing things off. Okay, all right, So okay, so I
hear thoughts and things. Thoughts and feelings are the So
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thoughts and feelings, how do you know when they're real
and when they're from what I call the ego? So,
first of all, all feelings are real, okay, So I
want to make that clear. And feelings are a guide post.
They really are. And that's why I'm always talking about
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feelings because they're a really important guide post to guide
you perhaps in new directions, or to say that you're
on the right path. So, if you are feeling fear
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or sadness or grief. Now if you in a transitional
point or you've had some type of loss, now, it
doesn't Loss doesn't always mean the loss of your loved
one or a beloved pet. Loss can be loss of
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a job, loss of an identity of what I was
talking about before, like the loss of being a mom
where the kids meet you because they were younger and
now they don't need you, and you need to grieve that.
That's a real loss. And if anybody says, oh, just
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get over it, I am going to tell you one
of the things that's really important for all of you
to know, feelings are real and you need to value
and acknowledge those feelings. And so and if you're feeling
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like antsy, antsy, and there or there's something else that
wants to come and you're not sure, that means that
there's something else there, something else there that is wanting
to come through. And it's okay if you don't know
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what it is yet. You just have a sense that
something's coming through. Now the thoughts part now, Anithasia, if
you want to give me a little bit more of
an example, then that would be helpful for me to
help you more. And I'm thinking that what you're talking
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about is is it that your thoughts and your feelings
are different or your thoughts okay? So anaesthesia says, what
should you do when people are not understanding your feelings
and they think they know things better than you. So
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I am gonna say to you, no one has a
right to say that they know better than you what
you are feeling. And if people are trying to put
or thoughts in your head or in your mind thinking
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they know better than you, then that's not healing and
it's not helpful. And I would really support you to
let them know listen, you know and they may be
wanted helpful. Thank you for sharing, but this is my journey,
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this is what I'm feeling. Or if you're not sure
what you're feeling and you're working on exploring it, but
you know that you to want other people saying this
is what you need to feel or this is what
you're feeling, that's not okay. It's not And so ily
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want to acknowledge you for being able to realize that
and know that you have a right to your feeling
and any of your feelings. And if you're not really
even sure or clear, that's okay as long as you're
on the journey to understand you know, you just know
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that you don't want other people telling you what you're feeling.
So and here's the thing, what what like for example?
And here's this is where self awareness. You know how
I'm always talking about how important self awareness is. Now,
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no one has the right to say, oh, you're feeling this,
you must be feeling this, and I also want your okay.
So there's two sides of the road. There's their side
and your side, okay, And there's your part and their part.
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No one has the right to tell you what you
feel or what you should do. And also know that
if you are acting out your feelings like anger on
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someone else, that's not okay either. So and if you're
not doing that, if you're not doing that, then and
they're trying to express what they're feeling, but they're not
maybe doing it in a very healthy way, that's one thing, okay.
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So it's as an authentic self, we need to be
clear how our behavior is affecting other people. However, and
I'm going to reiterate this, no one has the right
to tell you what to feel. So Anisasa says not
only saying, but insisting that I am wrong with the
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way I want to handle things. Everyone keeps saying they
have been through this and they and their way is
the only way to do it. Okay, So anisatia. There's
a few things that are coming to me that I okay.
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So first of all, for someone to say this is
the way that you should be doing it, it is
not okay. And that you have your own journey and
your own path and you need to follow your journey
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and your path. And if you're making mistakes, to make
those mistakes, that's part of your soul and your soul's
learning and experience. So if they're trying to tell you
this is the way you should do it, that's not okay.
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And you may want to say to them, please stop.
I need to follow my journey. I need to follow
my path. And and if they're concerned about you, like
if they see that you're let's say, in the wrong
relationship or you're getting hurt. Now, look, if you're getting
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hurt and someone else is seeing it, they may want
to tell you. But again, ultimately you're the one that
needs to leave an unhealthy relationship and hopefully you'll be
able to see it. If that's it, okay. So I
don't know the specifics or if there's something that is
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unhealthy behavior that you're doing and they're concerned about you.
But if you're doing something that's not hurting yourself or
others and you're wanting to do it your way, no
one has a right to tell you this is the
way you should do it. And so I really want
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to make that really clear. Okay. So Charles says, people
don't always listen when you tell them to stay out
of your business. So here's the thing. People don't always listen,
and that is true. And again there are This is
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about learning boundaries and learning to say stop. And if
they're not listening, you have okay. If it's a family
member and you don't want to let go of this relationship,
then if things are not working out for you and
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it's not feeling right, you can say, you know what
I really am not I don't want to hear this anymore.
And if you're on the phone, say if you don't stop,
I'm going to hang up. And if you don't stop,
if you don't stop, I'm going to If you're in person,
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I need to leave. So there's boundaries, there's boundaries there. Okay,
And now here's the thing. If you're doing a behavior
that's destructive to yourself and to others, that's a whole
nother story, okay. But I'm talking about things that you're
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working on, trying to figure something out about what path
to take or your life or you know, what's next
and your journey. That's for you to understand. That's for
you to really figure out for you, and no one
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has a right to try to impose that on you.
So and and really it's it's your your path, and listen,
I get that setting boundaries can be really hard. In fact,
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that's one of the biggest things in my life and
in the work that I do with clients is learning
to set those boundaries. Boundaries can be really challenging, and
it's learning to set those boundaries, learning to say no,
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learning to say no to other people's behaviors that are
not appropriate, that are not good for you, that are
not healthy, and that you say, this is not good anymore,
this is not working. And it can be really hard
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to say goodbye. If it's someone you need to say
goodbye too because they're not hearing you and they're not
listening to you. That can be really hard. If it's
someone that you want to stay in connected with, it
still can be hard to say no or to walk away.
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But also know that ultimately this is about your journey
and this is learning self care. So I'm hoping that
Anastasia let me know if what I just said was
helpful and if you have any other questions about what
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I just said, and I want to share with you.
I have for those of you who are ready and
you're ready to take your next step and you want
to discover more of what's next on your path, your
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and I look forward to seeing you there. Now back too,
steps to an authentic you. So here's the thing. There
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are going to be people who are going to try
to say you should do this or you should do that.
They want to shoot on you, and the worst thing
is for you to be shooting on yourself. Okay, no
shooting okay. So this is about you learning to take
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your power back. So what does that mean? What that
means is what I was talking about before, which is
learning to set the boundaries, learning to say no, learning
to tell people that you know what, I don't really
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want to hear what you have to say. Now, I'm
going to give you an example of stuff that I'll
give you an example of what happened from me. So
my parents, God bless them, when they're alive. I knew
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that I needed to take certain classes, and I was
always when I knew that there was a class that
I needed to take, I would take it. I would
find a way to find the money. I would find
a way to make it happen because I knew intuitively
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that this was part of my path, this was part
of my destiny, and so I wouldn't find a way
to make it happen. And I would be traveling. Sometimes
I'd be traveling up to Massachusetts. I live in New York.
I'd be traveling to Massachusetts. Or I'd be traveling out
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to California, and or I would travel to Rhode Island,
and I knew that I needed to do it. And
my parents would say, you're doing that again? Why are
you doing that again? I don't understand. How can you
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do that? And I would say, this is not up
for discussion, this is something that I need to do,
and case closed. I'm doing it now. Was it easy
for me to do that? No? Did I do it? Yes?
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Because nothing, Nothing was going to stop me from doing
what I needed to do that I knew, I knew
was good for me and what I really want to
support all of you is to Really this is again
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about learning to tap into your intuition and to feel,
because your intuition also goes by your feelings, and to
feel what's right. Maybe it is a class, maybe it's
joining a program. Maybe it's doing art or music or
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something that you haven't done before, or starting a hobby,
or maybe it's going to counseling. Listen if you need
counseling or coaching. Really want to support you in getting
that you know what's ultimately best for you more than
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other people. Again, I'm not talking about behaviors that are
destructive to yourself or to others. Okay, I'm talking about
your journey and your path of self discovery, and it's
about learning to uncover the fogs, those emotions, those thoughts. Now,
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if you're in your head and or obsessing, and you're
in thinking mode, then your job is to calm yourself
down and to be quiet, to come out of your
head and breathe. Remember I'm always talking about the breath,
and come out of your head, and to listen, to
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listen to what you're feeling. Is something feeling uncomfortable, is
something feeling that you need to change, is something feeling
like you need to say stop or no, or maybe
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it's a yes. You know, the biggest thing for you
is to learn how to quiet the thoughts, quiet your mind,
to get into that place of quietness so that you
can then be able to be on the journey of
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what the next steps are, what's the next challenge, or
what's the next step or piece of the puzzle. And
I really want to support all of you in knowing
that you do know that you know sometimes you need
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to reach out for help. You know that sometimes you
know that you're on this path, that you're being guided
by the higher part of you, God or higher power,
your soul, your higher self, that wise, unconditionally loving part
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of you. And those are the authentic parts you want
to be listening to. And so again, how do you know?
How do you know when it's an authentic part you're
listening to and not an ego part. It's learning again,
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it's learning to be conscious and aware. It's learning to
quiet quiet those thoughts, quiet your mind, and ask questions.
Sometimes asking questions can be the most valuable thing that
you can do, because when you ask a question, it
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gives those other aspects of yourself to answer the questions.
So for example, even asking what am I really feeling
and listening and seeing what comes? Or what do I
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really want? What do I really want? Asking? Charles says, yes,
you got it, Thank you, Charles. What do you really want? Asking?
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And this is a real biggie that I share with
clients all the time. What is for my highest and
greatest good? What is for my highest and greatest good?
And yes? And then Anasasia says, how do you know
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what we really want? And so asking the question is
this for my highest and greatest good? Because I'm always
asking that question, is this for my highest good? Or
is this for my highest and greatest good? Because that
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is the path of soul, that is the path you
want to follow, and when you're tuning in to that path,
then you are following. You're following the path of your soul.
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And so what I really want to support all of
you and is asking is what's happening right now from
my highest good? Now? If you get in your gut
like a no, then you then ask what step okay?
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Because you may not know the whole path? What step
can I take for my highest good? Okay? And then
you need to be open to listening. So even If
the answer doesn't come in the moment, it may come
during the day, like someone may say something, something may pop.
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You may get guided to a book or or a
TV show or a podcast, so you are being guided.
So asking those questions really want to support you and
asking them. Now, I know that we had some questions.
I see the question, and I want to answer your
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question more anesthesia and country corners. So all right, So
I am going to continue and ask and answer the
questions next week. And I'm thinking that we're going to
start talking about change and changes and transitions and what
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does that all mean. So we're going to combine change
because I know one of you before had talked about
talking about changes and how to make changes and transitions
or change. They're changes, they're folks in the road. So
we're going to talk about more all of that more
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next week on the Inspired and Empowered Living TV show
and podcast. So if you want remember I have that
masterclass Inspired and Empoweredliving dot com forward slash masterclass starting
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next week and join us for more Inspired and Empowered
Living on talk for TV dot com, W four w
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to and we'll be continuing with the questions. Yes, Anastasia
says change is difficult. We're going to be talking more
about that change and transitions. Okay, so join us next
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Hello everyone, and welcome to the Inspired and Empowered Living
TV show and podcast. We are live Tuesday mornings at
eleven am Eastern on TALKFORTV dot com, W four WN
dot com and my YouTube channel, and today we will
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be talking about the Steps to an Authentic You. Part
four will continue where we left off last week. Learn
how to discover who you really are, what you feel,
what you need, and what you want and then be
able to express that in healthy, appropriate ways. When you
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are living authentically, you can have healthier and more joyful,
loving relationships with others and create and inspired and empowered
life together. Let's create a life you love. I'm your host,
Nancy Deutsch, licensed Clinical Social Workers, certified hYP not therapist,
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and Intuitive breakthrough Expert, and I combine my counseling, coaching
and intuition to transform your life and the show is
not a replacement for therapy or counseling. It is for
educational purposes only. And I see that we have Ali
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in the house. Good morning, Ali, welcome, glad to have you.
And I want to answer some questions from last week,
so hopefully we'll have our regulars joining in, and just
to review what we've been talking about is first let's
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talk about what is really authentic. What is your authentic self?
Your authentic self is the real you. And I see
we have Charles. Welcome Charles, glad to see her in
the house. And your authentic self, So what is your
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authentic self? It's the real you. Last week I was
talking about your soul and your soul's light shining through
because at the core of who you are is soul,
and you are this being of light and love. Now
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it's hard to understand when we have a body full
of flesh and bones, and.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Yet there's this spark inside of us that wants to
shine through and allow yourself to be the brilliant being
that you are.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
And then I talked about last week how we have
these clouds, the clouds that cover up the sun that
we are, and it's clearing the clouds so that you
can allow the light of your soul to shine through.
And so last week, we had Anastasia and she asked
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about we can we be sure we are connecting to
the correct things? And she also asked, how do we
know we are connecting to the things we are meant
to be involved in. So the way that you know
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that you're connecting and that you're on the right path,
so many of you wonder, Okay, you're being you, and
you think you're being authentic and you're trying to be authentic,
and then you wonder, am I on the right path?
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And the best way to know that if you're connecting
to the right path, if you're on the right path.
And here's the thing. Sometimes paths can change and you
may be on the right path for the moment, and
then all of a sudden, Let's say, like when you're
in your twenties or thirties, you could be on one path,
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and then all of a sudden, you start in the
forties or fifties, you start realizing that that's not where
I need to be anymore. So things start shifting and
transforming and changing, and you can be going going through
transitions and it doesn't mean you were on the wrong
path they are before, or it means you are shifting
(06:05):
you're changing, you're moving to a different place or a
different level. And Anisata says, thank you for answering my question.
I and and if you have anything else that you
want to ask, let me know so I know you're
in the house. Thank you, Anastasia, And if you were so,
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It's it's really about knowing when you're on the path
that you're meant to be on in that moment, in
that time frame, it feels right. And what I mean
by feeling right, it's you feel perhaps again, the best
(06:55):
way to know if you're on the right path is
by your feelings. If you're feeling a sense of peace,
if you feel fulfilled or satisfied or content, then you
know you're on the right path. Now if you're starting
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to feel something feels like it wants to come through,
something new. And that's what happens for me, is that
I am working with the people that feel there's something more,
something else that wants to come through, and I'm coaching
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them to find that new the new way of being
for them so that they can move to where their
soul is guiding them to be their destiny, so to speak.
And I also want you all to know that if like,
I'm going to give you an example. What's something that
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occurred to me is if you're a parent and you
were raising your kids and it felt like that's where
you need to be, that's what you need to be doing.
You are on the right path, and then your kids
grow up and they start having their own lives and
(08:24):
you start wondering, h what about me, what's in it
for me? Or what do I need? And you're starting
to wonder starting to explore no, that the next path
or what the transition. The transition is where you are,
(08:51):
and you in the transition, you'll be guided to where
the next steps are. And I work with a lot
of people, especially women who want career changes or they
want to add to their career. And I'll give you
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an example. So for many years, I've had my own
business for almost twenty years, and I've been a holistic psychotherapist,
and I was doing the counseling and I think I
talked about this last week, and then what started happening
was my guidance, my intuition was guiding me there's more,
(09:37):
there's something else that I need to be doing, and
I started feeling called to do more coaching. Now I
had actually taken a course to be an intuitive coach
and now, and it was a few years before after
(09:58):
that I had taken the course, I started feeling, ooh,
maybe there's something here. And so what ended up happening
was I started finding out more about what do I
have to do to be a coach and how does
that look now? I haven't given up. I still have
a handful of holistic clients, and I'm also being led
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by spirit. It's pulling me and teaching more people, more
women and helping more women to go to another level
or a different place in their business than they were
or their practice. And that's what I'm doing now. So
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my intuition was guiding me to something different. And the
reason why I am telling you the story is because
I want you to realize that your intuition is guiding you. Okay,
so we have a question that came in from Misty.
So let me answer the question. What if we don't
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have a direction to go in or don't see the
direction because we don't want to give up what has
moved on? Okay? So, Missy, when you say you don't
want to give up what has moved on? Is it
that you don't want to give I need more clarity
to answer the question to really support you. So when
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you say you don't want to give up what has
moved on? Do you mean you don't want to give
up up the where you're at or that you feel
like you're done with where you're at, but you don't
want to let it go. So can you give me
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more clarity about what you mean by that so that
I can answer your question. And so hopefully an assaysure
I answered your question about being on that path and
making the connection. And again, the best way to know
that you're on the right path, that you're in that
authentic zone, is that you are feeling more happy, fulfilled,
(12:22):
content or you feel like you're moving in the direction
that you're being guided by your intuition. Okay, So Misty says,
for instance, if the kids have moved down out and
you now have to adjust. Okay, So if the kids
have moved out and you now have to adjust, you
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may be going through a process of grief. And this
is real. I mean, there is something called empty nest syndrome,
and it's real. It's real because if you've been a
mom and that's how you identified your self, and then
all of a sudden, it's not like you give up
being a mom. Okay, So even if the kids have
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moved out and moved on, you'll always be a mom,
but they don't need you the way they used to.
And there is a change and an adjustment period that
you or people who are in the empty nest syndrome
or adjusting or working on adjusting to a different role,
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a different identity. Because if you were all about being
a mom and giving all your kids and giving your
attention to your kids, and very often moms don't take
care of themselves, and when the kids are grown or growing,
and then all of a sudden, you realize what do
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I want? What do I need? What do I feel?
And now may this may be any of you, Okay,
So I just really want you to know that if
you're in a transition point in your life, and if
the kids have moved out or moved on, then you're
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in a transition. Or if you're getting a divorce, you're
in a transition. Or if you are working wanting to
switch careers, you're in a transition. So know that transitional
points are really important aspects and important points in your life,
(14:34):
and that this is a time for you to connect
more deeply to who you really are, which is that
authentic self, and so misty if you need to. It's
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working on knowing that you're in this trend transition and
that adjustment doesn't prove happen overnight, that it takes time,
and so you're in your own journey. You're in a
process that is actually an exciting process because as you
explore more of who you are and what you want,
(15:21):
then you can connect more deeply to what is it?
What is it I really want? What is it that's
going to fulfill me? What will help me create that
my inspired and empowered life. And that's when I invite
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all of you to think about to get really into
more of your authentic self. It's connecting more deeply to
your thoughts, to your feelings, to what it is you
(16:04):
really want, what it is do you really need? And
sometimes when your givers or you keep giving to others,
you don't even think about you. And I call this
essential self care. It's learning to start thinking about what
you want and need and feel because that your needs,
(16:29):
your wants, your feelings are real and you deserve to
have them fulfilled so that you can feel more fulfilled
in your life. Now, I know Country Corners came in
with something. Okay. So Country Corner says, can you do
(16:50):
a show about these transitional points? What are they? And
when in life do they come about? How do we
know it's a point to make a change? Sure, you
know what. I thank you because I know this is
the last show of this piece and I'm like, okay,
I don't know what's next. So transitional points. Sure, I
(17:15):
will definitely and definitely do shows on that. And Anathasia says,
thoughts and feelings are very the very things that are
throwing things off. Okay, all right, So okay, so I
hear thoughts and things. Thoughts and feelings are the So
(17:43):
thoughts and feelings, how do you know when they're real
and when they're from what I call the ego? So,
first of all, all feelings are real, okay, So I
want to make that clear. And feelings are a guide post.
They really are. And that's why I'm always talking about
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feelings because they're a really important guide post to guide
you perhaps in new directions, or to say that you're
on the right path. So, if you are feeling fear
(18:28):
or sadness or grief. Now if you in a transitional
point or you've had some type of loss, now, it
doesn't Loss doesn't always mean the loss of your loved
one or a beloved pet. Loss can be loss of
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a job, loss of an identity of what I was
talking about before, like the loss of being a mom
where the kids meet you because they were younger and
now they don't need you, and you need to grieve that.
That's a real loss. And if anybody says, oh, just
(19:11):
get over it, I am going to tell you one
of the things that's really important for all of you
to know, feelings are real and you need to value
and acknowledge those feelings. And so and if you're feeling
(19:34):
like antsy, antsy, and there or there's something else that
wants to come and you're not sure, that means that
there's something else there, something else there that is wanting
to come through. And it's okay if you don't know
(19:56):
what it is yet. You just have a sense that
something's coming through. Now the thoughts part now, Anithasia, if
you want to give me a little bit more of
an example, then that would be helpful for me to
help you more. And I'm thinking that what you're talking
(20:20):
about is is it that your thoughts and your feelings
are different or your thoughts okay? So anaesthesia says, what
should you do when people are not understanding your feelings
and they think they know things better than you. So
(20:42):
I am gonna say to you, no one has a
right to say that they know better than you what
you are feeling. And if people are trying to put
or thoughts in your head or in your mind thinking
(21:06):
they know better than you, then that's not healing and
it's not helpful. And I would really support you to
let them know listen, you know and they may be
wanted helpful. Thank you for sharing, but this is my journey,
(21:29):
this is what I'm feeling. Or if you're not sure
what you're feeling and you're working on exploring it, but
you know that you to want other people saying this
is what you need to feel or this is what
you're feeling, that's not okay. It's not And so ily
(21:50):
want to acknowledge you for being able to realize that
and know that you have a right to your feeling
and any of your feelings. And if you're not really
even sure or clear, that's okay as long as you're
on the journey to understand you know, you just know
(22:12):
that you don't want other people telling you what you're feeling.
So and here's the thing, what what like for example?
And here's this is where self awareness. You know how
I'm always talking about how important self awareness is. Now,
(22:36):
no one has the right to say, oh, you're feeling this,
you must be feeling this, and I also want your okay.
So there's two sides of the road. There's their side
and your side, okay, And there's your part and their part.
(23:00):
No one has the right to tell you what you
feel or what you should do. And also know that
if you are acting out your feelings like anger on
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someone else, that's not okay either. So and if you're
not doing that, if you're not doing that, then and
they're trying to express what they're feeling, but they're not
maybe doing it in a very healthy way, that's one thing, okay.
(23:47):
So it's as an authentic self, we need to be
clear how our behavior is affecting other people. However, and
I'm going to reiterate this, no one has the right
to tell you what to feel. So Anisasa says not
only saying, but insisting that I am wrong with the
(24:10):
way I want to handle things. Everyone keeps saying they
have been through this and they and their way is
the only way to do it. Okay, So anisatia. There's
a few things that are coming to me that I okay.
(24:33):
So first of all, for someone to say this is
the way that you should be doing it, it is
not okay. And that you have your own journey and
your own path and you need to follow your journey
(24:53):
and your path. And if you're making mistakes, to make
those mistakes, that's part of your soul and your soul's
learning and experience. So if they're trying to tell you
this is the way you should do it, that's not okay.
(25:17):
And you may want to say to them, please stop.
I need to follow my journey. I need to follow
my path. And and if they're concerned about you, like
if they see that you're let's say, in the wrong
relationship or you're getting hurt. Now, look, if you're getting
(25:41):
hurt and someone else is seeing it, they may want
to tell you. But again, ultimately you're the one that
needs to leave an unhealthy relationship and hopefully you'll be
able to see it. If that's it, okay. So I
don't know the specifics or if there's something that is
(26:06):
unhealthy behavior that you're doing and they're concerned about you.
But if you're doing something that's not hurting yourself or
others and you're wanting to do it your way, no
one has a right to tell you this is the
way you should do it. And so I really want
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to make that really clear. Okay. So Charles says, people
don't always listen when you tell them to stay out
of your business. So here's the thing. People don't always listen,
and that is true. And again there are This is
(26:50):
about learning boundaries and learning to say stop. And if
they're not listening, you have okay. If it's a family
member and you don't want to let go of this relationship,
then if things are not working out for you and
(27:11):
it's not feeling right, you can say, you know what
I really am not I don't want to hear this anymore.
And if you're on the phone, say if you don't stop,
I'm going to hang up. And if you don't stop,
if you don't stop, I'm going to If you're in person,
(27:34):
I need to leave. So there's boundaries, there's boundaries there. Okay,
And now here's the thing. If you're doing a behavior
that's destructive to yourself and to others, that's a whole
nother story, okay. But I'm talking about things that you're
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working on, trying to figure something out about what path
to take or your life or you know, what's next
and your journey. That's for you to understand. That's for
you to really figure out for you, and no one
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has a right to try to impose that on you.
So and and really it's it's your your path, and listen,
I get that setting boundaries can be really hard. In fact,
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that's one of the biggest things in my life and
in the work that I do with clients is learning
to set those boundaries. Boundaries can be really challenging, and
it's learning to set those boundaries, learning to say no,
(29:01):
learning to say no to other people's behaviors that are
not appropriate, that are not good for you, that are
not healthy, and that you say, this is not good anymore,
this is not working. And it can be really hard
(29:24):
to say goodbye. If it's someone you need to say
goodbye too because they're not hearing you and they're not
listening to you. That can be really hard. If it's
someone that you want to stay in connected with, it
still can be hard to say no or to walk away.
(29:44):
But also know that ultimately this is about your journey
and this is learning self care. So I'm hoping that
Anastasia let me know if what I just said was
helpful and if you have any other questions about what
(30:05):
I just said, and I want to share with you.
I have for those of you who are ready and
you're ready to take your next step and you want
to discover more of what's next on your path, your
(30:26):
career path, because that's what I'm doing is I'm helping coaches, healers, therapists, entrepreneurs,
helping professionals go to another level of what they're here
to do. And this I have a masterclass coming up
very exciting three steps to boost your income in your
(30:50):
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to cover discovering your souls calling. You're going to learn
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(31:34):
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you in your transformation. So I hope you'll join us
and Rebel can you put the links in the chat
(32:21):
and I look forward to seeing you there. Now back too,
steps to an authentic you. So here's the thing. There
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are going to be people who are going to try
to say you should do this or you should do that.
They want to shoot on you, and the worst thing
is for you to be shooting on yourself. Okay, no
shooting okay. So this is about you learning to take
(33:08):
your power back. So what does that mean? What that
means is what I was talking about before, which is
learning to set the boundaries, learning to say no, learning
to tell people that you know what, I don't really
(33:28):
want to hear what you have to say. Now, I'm
going to give you an example of stuff that I'll
give you an example of what happened from me. So
my parents, God bless them, when they're alive. I knew
(33:49):
that I needed to take certain classes, and I was
always when I knew that there was a class that
I needed to take, I would take it. I would
find a way to find the money. I would find
a way to make it happen because I knew intuitively
(34:14):
that this was part of my path, this was part
of my destiny, and so I wouldn't find a way
to make it happen. And I would be traveling. Sometimes
I'd be traveling up to Massachusetts. I live in New York.
I'd be traveling to Massachusetts. Or I'd be traveling out
(34:36):
to California, and or I would travel to Rhode Island,
and I knew that I needed to do it. And
my parents would say, you're doing that again? Why are
you doing that again? I don't understand. How can you
(34:59):
do that? And I would say, this is not up
for discussion, this is something that I need to do,
and case closed. I'm doing it now. Was it easy
for me to do that? No? Did I do it? Yes?
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Because nothing, Nothing was going to stop me from doing
what I needed to do that I knew, I knew
was good for me and what I really want to
support all of you is to Really this is again
(35:41):
about learning to tap into your intuition and to feel,
because your intuition also goes by your feelings, and to
feel what's right. Maybe it is a class, maybe it's
joining a program. Maybe it's doing art or music or
(36:07):
something that you haven't done before, or starting a hobby,
or maybe it's going to counseling. Listen if you need
counseling or coaching. Really want to support you in getting
that you know what's ultimately best for you more than
(36:32):
other people. Again, I'm not talking about behaviors that are
destructive to yourself or to others. Okay, I'm talking about
your journey and your path of self discovery, and it's
about learning to uncover the fogs, those emotions, those thoughts. Now,
(36:58):
if you're in your head and or obsessing, and you're
in thinking mode, then your job is to calm yourself
down and to be quiet, to come out of your
head and breathe. Remember I'm always talking about the breath,
and come out of your head, and to listen, to
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listen to what you're feeling. Is something feeling uncomfortable, is
something feeling that you need to change, is something feeling
like you need to say stop or no, or maybe
(37:46):
it's a yes. You know, the biggest thing for you
is to learn how to quiet the thoughts, quiet your mind,
to get into that place of quietness so that you
can then be able to be on the journey of
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what the next steps are, what's the next challenge, or
what's the next step or piece of the puzzle. And
I really want to support all of you in knowing
that you do know that you know sometimes you need
(38:36):
to reach out for help. You know that sometimes you
know that you're on this path, that you're being guided
by the higher part of you, God or higher power,
your soul, your higher self, that wise, unconditionally loving part
(38:59):
of you. And those are the authentic parts you want
to be listening to. And so again, how do you know?
How do you know when it's an authentic part you're
listening to and not an ego part. It's learning again,
(39:21):
it's learning to be conscious and aware. It's learning to
quiet quiet those thoughts, quiet your mind, and ask questions.
Sometimes asking questions can be the most valuable thing that
you can do, because when you ask a question, it
(39:47):
gives those other aspects of yourself to answer the questions.
So for example, even asking what am I really feeling
and listening and seeing what comes? Or what do I
(40:11):
really want? What do I really want? Asking? Charles says, yes,
you got it, Thank you, Charles. What do you really want? Asking?
(40:36):
And this is a real biggie that I share with
clients all the time. What is for my highest and
greatest good? What is for my highest and greatest good?
And yes? And then Anasasia says, how do you know
(40:59):
what we really want? And so asking the question is
this for my highest and greatest good? Because I'm always
asking that question, is this for my highest good? Or
is this for my highest and greatest good? Because that
(41:21):
is the path of soul, that is the path you
want to follow, and when you're tuning in to that path,
then you are following. You're following the path of your soul.
(41:45):
And so what I really want to support all of
you and is asking is what's happening right now from
my highest good? Now? If you get in your gut
like a no, then you then ask what step okay?
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Because you may not know the whole path? What step
can I take for my highest good? Okay? And then
you need to be open to listening. So even If
the answer doesn't come in the moment, it may come
during the day, like someone may say something, something may pop.
(42:33):
You may get guided to a book or or a
TV show or a podcast, so you are being guided.
So asking those questions really want to support you and
asking them. Now, I know that we had some questions.
I see the question, and I want to answer your
(42:56):
question more anesthesia and country corners. So all right, So
I am going to continue and ask and answer the
questions next week. And I'm thinking that we're going to
start talking about change and changes and transitions and what
(43:17):
does that all mean. So we're going to combine change
because I know one of you before had talked about
talking about changes and how to make changes and transitions
or change. They're changes, they're folks in the road. So
we're going to talk about more all of that more
(43:39):
next week on the Inspired and Empowered Living TV show
and podcast. So if you want remember I have that
masterclass Inspired and Empoweredliving dot com forward slash masterclass starting
(44:00):
next week and join us for more Inspired and Empowered
Living on talk for TV dot com, W four w
N dot com and my YouTube channel. And I want
(44:23):
to and we'll be continuing with the questions. Yes, Anastasia
says change is difficult. We're going to be talking more
about that change and transitions. Okay, so join us next
week for more inspired and empowered living. And we're live
Tuesday mornings eleven am Eastern and again on talkfor TV
(44:51):
dot com, W four WN dot com, and my YouTube channel.
And I want to wish you all and inspired and
empowered day and an inspired and empowered week. Have a
great one, everybody. Bye for now.
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!