The Dr. Daliah Show 10-07-25 Hr. 2 | ATC Staffing, Prenuptials

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All right, we are back up the doctor Dollie shoud
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A L I. So we're being told that a pilot
was at Hollywood Burbank Airport, California, was radio in air
traffic troll because you want to take off, and the
response he got not usual one is the tower is

(00:57):
closed due to staffy. So this made huge headlines as
you cannot operate airport without air traffic control. Our air
traffic controllers are paramount, and government shutdowns are affecting air
traffic trollers. Now in addition to that, we already had

(01:21):
air traffic control shortage. So if somebody's not getting paid
because of the government shutdown, how much incentive do they
have to go to work? I would still go to
work because you know there's that Government Employee Fair Treatment
Act of twenty nineteen that guarantees that they're going to
get their money back. But many individuals are kind of
hearing the back and forth, you know where Trump said,

(01:42):
not all furload employees guarantee they get their money back,
and he's saying that because he wants the federal employees.
You know, one thing that I think frustrates a lot
of Americans is the federal employees that get furloughed, they
get paid days off, and so they're going to be
a no ruse to They're not going to be pushing

(02:02):
their senators to vote the Continuing Resolution Act, which they
had voted for in the past. That now Schumer's trying
to use, you know, as part of the Schuber shutdown
to you know, make some headway and gain some popularity
so he doesn't lose his Senate seat later. But but
you know, the you knows as it pertains to, you know,

(02:25):
getting people to pressure their senators. If the federal workers
are like, I get no time off and I'm going
to get back pay anyway, so I'm in no hurry. Uh,
Trump is saying, it's that's not guaranteed. Now Congress didn't
pass this act, so yes, they will get back pay
and they should but you know, in order for this

(02:48):
shutdown to end, the eight Democrats, there's three Democrats that
have voted to keep the government going, but eight Democrats
are kind of holding the line with the other ones.
And to make eight Democrats say, you know what, we're
going to vote again to keep the government funded, they
might need pressure from their constituents. Were told that twelve

(03:12):
FAA facilities saw staffing shortages on Monday. Control towers in Burbank, Phoenix,
Denver had staffing triggers quote unquote reported in the public
FA Operations Plan. Other facilities that handle air traffic around
airport's Newark, New Jersey, Jacksonville, Florida, Chicago, d C, Indianapolis
were also short staffed, but Burbank airports shut down at

(03:34):
four fifteen. Flights could take off at land but had
to follow procedures typically use at small airports without control towers.
Delays of more than two and a half hours, then
I guess we're reported at one point Denver saw ground delays,
ground delays new work, although they always do. But still
and they say the number of controllers calling out sick

(03:54):
of increase since the star of the shutdown. Why, well,
because they're not getting paid. And this is very frustrating,
and you know people are trying to blame you know,
they're they're they're trying to blame the Republicans for this.
It's the same cr it's out there, twenty four pages,

(04:15):
same thing that the Democrats voted on before. They call
it a clean one where there's not anything injected into it.
But what the Democrats want to do is use this
as an opportunity to make some gains. That's a problem.
So you know they're the and and if they feel

(04:36):
like they have nothing to lose and making this shutdown
longer than it has to be, they think they could
use that as political pull in the midterms. Let's say
you see what happened, look at look at the longest
shutdown in history was under the Republican old Senate. Well,
you need sixty votes and Republicans don't have sixty votes,

(04:57):
I think with the latest vote was fifty two to
forty two. So if you are about to travel, you know,
pack your patients now without air traffic controllers. I mean
there's if the money I guess how it works. You
all know this more than I, but I guess if
the money's not flowing, in. Then you can't access the money,
you can't pay. I don't know if you've ever worked
for a company or a university, for you to in

(05:18):
order to pay for something, it has to come from
a spicket. And if the spickets are shut off, it's
not like the money's in the bank and anybody could
just access it. If there's no money coming in, there's
no money. So then Trump passed its side. The executive
branch has that's side what they're going to spend money on.
So Trump has announced today that he's going to start

(05:42):
eliminating programs, some permanently. I don't want him to say
that in form of retaliation. I mean, you don't have
to retaliate onto I understand people want to retaliate because
what the Democrats are doing is ridiculous. But you know,
you could just say, look, there's no money, so which
are the least important and the lead essential things and

(06:02):
then list them and if it ends up being something
that has to do with uh what uh sesame street
in Iraqi? I I, then then so be it. But
I gas Democrats want Republicans to extend enhance Obamacare subsidies
as part of any stopgap funding bill. The GOP said,

(06:24):
we could do this after you do the cr This
is you know, this isn't the time to start adding
extra things, adding more spending, plus something that could and
essential help pay for illegal immigrants. The Obamacare is Abolacare
is a mess. It needs to be fixed, and we
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exit Doctor Dohlia, Facebook, The Doctor Dahlia Show and on YouTube,
click like and subscribe. So I had a friend of
mine who was identified as gay, who had grown up
not being able to come out. And when he did
out and he did have conversations with his family, they

(11:04):
thought that this could be something that could be quote
unquote cured or converted, and had wanted him to go
through treatment. And you know, when I hear that, it's
it sounds barbaric. And as a doctor, anytime, you know
you had parents, who are you know, what should we do?
I think he's gay? You you support him? That's what

(11:27):
you do. Hey, you support the child. You don't make
them change it to something they're not. You know, you
be there to guide him. And people are going to
fall in love with who they fall in love with.
And by the way, people who have children or you know,
teens who are heterosexually inclined, you also need to give
them the same advice about protecting themselves. And you know,

(11:50):
your your lover, you know, can be somebody who is
the most amazing person and life partner, or they could
be somebody who stabs you in your sleep. It doesn't
matter what the same actual uh uh choices they make.
It's it's you know, it's who you fall in love with,
and so gay conversion therapy. I am surprised that this

(12:12):
still exists. But unfortunately, where we were almost at the
point where I thought we got you know, all of that,
that was now you know, unfavored, and and doctors would
recommend it, and and everybody was in unison from the
medical community and from public health officials say no, no, no, no.

(12:34):
You have a child that you know is is one
way and that doesn't fit with your religious beliefs, and
you want to make them not gay, and you're you know, no,
that's cruel to them. You're putting them through something that
is not science. There's no scientific basis. Unfortunately, I think
it's coming back as we have more and more now

(12:59):
medical except of you know what, we can change kids.
We could change kids if they don't want to be
a girl, we could change them to a boy. We
could change a boy to a girl. And of course,
as a medical professional, I'm like, okay, I this is
dangerous with conversion therapies. How do you know this isn't

(13:20):
dangerous and painful for them and traumatizing from a transgender standpoint,
But what they've done is from a transgender standpoint, they've
you know, they've opened it up to therapy. We could
do hormones, we could do surgery. Meanwhile in the UK
they're like no, no, no, no, no, not on miners. The

(13:42):
EU is starting to be strict or none no, not
on miners. You know. Yet in America there's this fight. Well,
the Supreme Court now has a case in front of
them that has to do with conversion therapy. But I
don't believe it's transgender conversion. It's I think sexuality conversion.

(14:03):
And they say the Supreme Court is now debating whether
a state can block therapists changing a young person's sexuality
or gender identity. And so why would this come up, Well,
because I believe there's a counselor in Colorado that says

(14:24):
the ban on conversion therapy violates her free speech rights.
Colorado has a law from twenty nineteen similar to restrictions
in half of the states because there is quote overwhelming
evidence that conversion therapy harms young people, increasing risk of
depression and suicide. But a lawyer for counselor Kaylee Childs

(14:50):
says the Colorado law infringes on her free speech rights
because Child's treatment of patience only involves talking. Colorado's Solicitor
General site studies, according to USA Today, that your conversion
therapy to be harmful. So where this is starting to
I think confuse people, and I see doctors kind of
falling all over each other on what to do is

(15:10):
if it's been established that taking a child who might
not want a heterosexual relationship and might have an affinity
towards being in a homosexual relationship, If conversion therapy has
been proven to be harmful and leading to more depression
and suicide, which I think we all agree with, then

(15:33):
why are people also looking at the studies of making
a child convert with their sex and their gender And
I am worried about a young child's inability to fight
off the depression and anxiety. If they feel like, oh,
I could do this and I'm gonna look like Beyonce,

(15:54):
I'm gonna look like Taylor Swift, or I'm gonna look
like Timothy Chela May Yeah, I mean I'm gonna look
like that when we're done. And if they don't and
if they don't feel like they are who they thought
they could be and the conversion failed, who is there
for them? Especially if some of these treatments are affecting

(16:19):
their fertility, affecting their bone, affecting their their clots, vasculature,
affecting their hearts, and affecting their their body physiques. Some
people have lost their breast, they've lost their their their
you know, their parts that can help them breastfeed and

(16:39):
and not only be fertile, but then take care of
their young And so transgender therapy and conversion therapy, I
think we could collectively agree on can be harmful to
young children. And you're seeing other countries start to say, look,
you know, we just don't have enough data saying the

(17:00):
benefits outweigh the risks. But the Supreme Court, now you know,
has to rule again. And so people say, well, they're
different issues. They're actually not. The conversion of a child
to something else right from a sexuality or a gender standpoint,

(17:21):
can cause harm to them. And so you can't say,
all right, well you cannot convert them and do therapy
if they're gay, but you can if they're a boy
who wants to be a girl. It can still cause
the same trauma. And these kids can't give in form consent.

(17:43):
And I find it very frustrating that you have a
child that is in that much pain. Now, honestly, body
dysmorphic or gender dysphoria, it's rare. True, true gender dystroyer
is rare. And these these people, they suffer waking up
going I'm in the wrong body. This isn't body very
painful what they go through, and and you know it's

(18:07):
it's not easy. But now we have you know, well,
you know you you're born this way, you don't have
to be. We could change you. You're gay, We could
change you to not being gay. No, we can't, that's
not medically sound. Well, we can make you a girl,
we can make you a boy. It lets you know,

(18:27):
if we get rid of the stereotypes you know you
wanted to be who you want to be. You know,
it's something that makes America great. But we're talking about children.
Adults could do whatever they want. And I have transgender
individuals in my family who are are are happy, they're
they're soaring, they're actually doing better than they I think

(18:48):
they ever have and they're glowing and they're happy. But
conversion therapy, whether it's for sexuality or gender, can cause
it can cause harm in a child. And it blows
my mind that here we are now at the Supreme
Court level, because I thought we all collectively agreed that

(19:09):
trying to make a child it could be gay not
gay anymore, was cruel. Trying to make a child who
is a girl into a boy, you know, and promising,
you know, false hope that they will be able to
help be like any other girl or boy. Is is
you know, from a fertility standpoint, and from it it's

(19:29):
it's it can We don't understand that if they don't
get their goals met, how traumatizing that could be. But
I think it's because we're really lacking in terms of
our mental health. You know, you know that not everybody
who you know wants to be fitting the stereotype of
boy and girl. And I didn't. I didn't. I didn't

(19:50):
want to be the stereotypical girl. I didn't like barbies,
I didn't like dresses. I like playing with the guys.
I like sports now, But I didn't necessarily want to
be a boy. I'm glad I was a girl. I
just want to do boys stuff. I mean, it's a
spectrum of things. But if my parents made me go
to a doctor to make me like barbies or to

(20:12):
make me want to wear dresses that would have been cruel,
and thank god they did it. So there's this fine
line that has already now been septated into two separate things,
where conversion therapy for sex sexuality is bad, but conversion
therapy for gender is good, and it's confusing, and now

(20:35):
it's going to be at the courts, and the courts
are going to decide what's the safest thing for kids
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A L. I. So, what's in your prenup? I don't
have a prenup. And it's funny because you hear of
these things that are in people's prenups, and wow, I

(22:45):
would have never thought of that. I don't have a prenup,
and I'm glad. I had no money. My husband really
didn't have anything. We were, you know, I was working
multiple parts of job. I think I was waiting tables
when I decided to start dating him again. I knew him,
but I was dating somebody else and he wasn't ready
to settle down. Then it wasn't until a few years
later that we decided to hook up and start dating,

(23:08):
and then we got engaged pretty quickly, and then we
got married ten months later. Because when you're in medical school,
you don't really have a lot of time off, and
my biological clock was taken. I'm like, well, I'm going
to have to start you know, our family at this time.
And luckily we were able to get everything done along
a timeline that's kind of impossible for a female medical

(23:29):
student and then intern and resident, but we were lucky.
But sign a prenup and if God forbid, anything did
happen and Corey decided to leave me, which I wouldn't
blame him. Now, I'm not the easiest person to live with.
We split everything, and you know, prenups, though, are a
good idea. I mean, I feel like a pretty level

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headed I don't you know, if God forbid, let's say
he and I fight or he cheats or whatever, and
you know I'm mad at him. I don't want the
kids looking at me as evil, so I would want
to look cool, so I would be like, look, okay,
now you need access to the kids. You need you're

(24:13):
their father. Well, I love you even though we're no
longer married. Well, I love you, and let's make this
as easy as possible. So I'm thinking to myself, that's
how it would go. Don't be a piece of cake.
But what I've seen my friends go through and what
you've seen in real life is no. The lawyers get involved,
and then they say, you know you didn't think about this.

(24:35):
You didn't think about this. You need to protect yourself.
What if she is not cool in a few months,
what if she changes her mind, you need to ask
for this. Well, then it starts to escalate. Well, I
want this, I want this. Oh then then your lawyer said, well, uh,
don't be stupid, And I'm like, why can't we just
have one lawyer that works for both of us. Let's
just make this easy. Well, if you don't have a prenup,

(24:57):
this is where it starts to now get more complicated.
And so you know, we have one a couple friend
where it started out really calm and chill, and by
the time they got done, they lost nearly a million
dollars between the the I mean the lawyers made the
money and how they found the money, but they did,

(25:21):
and so pre nups are pretty important. But when you
look at some of these pre dups of these celebrities,
you're like, say, what, so the latest celebrity breakup is
the Nicole Kidman Keith Urban breakup. And they did have
a prenup. They've been married nineteen years and we don't
know exactly why, but it just no I guess irreconcilable differences.

(25:43):
Who knows, but Nicole Kidman formally filed her divorce petition
last week, and I guess they do have a prenup.
They own I guess a combined fortune of three hundred
twenty five million, and back in six when they got married.
In their prenup Urban Keith Urban gets six hundred thousand
to nine hundred thousand dollars a year for every year

(26:06):
of marriage. Well, with nineteen years, that's anywhere between eleven
mil and seventeen million. Can you imagine my husband saying,
I need money for every year I'm married to you.
I need some money, So I'm like paying him to
be married to me. Maybe that would have been a

(26:28):
good idea, because who knows if he'll ever leave me.
I hope he doesn't. There's also a cocaine clause, which
meant Keith Urban, who had struggled with drugs in his past,
only got the money if he stayed Clay. Now, if
you know, hopefully nobody lies and says, oh, well he
did this and he did this, but if he stayed
off drugs, he gets the money. But I guess Kate Holmes,

(26:53):
who also Verte Tom Cruise, I think they had a
pre nap and I think it restricted her spending, habits
and wardrobe. And I guess the covenant would only pay
out monetary compensation based on the number of children the
couple had. It would award Katie Holmes three million dollars

(27:15):
for every year she stayed married to Cruz a mansion
in Montecito, and half his fortune if she managed to
stay the course for eleven years. I think she only
made it six years being married to him. Beyonce and
jay Z's prenup reportedly gives her a million dollars for
every year they stay married up to fifteen years, and

(27:36):
five million per child, and Beyonce was apparently to be
awarded ten million if jay Z left in two years,
So if the marriage failed in two years, she'd get
ten million. Kim Kardashian's prenup. This is being reported by
hold on what to give credible credits due the Telegraph.

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How they know all this is beyond me, they say.
Kim Kardashians pre up with Kanye West or Yay also
awarded a million dollars per year marriage. The couple married
at twenty fourteen, divorced at twenty twenty two, and reportedly
stipulated that Kim's mother, Chris Jenner, could not make any
career decisions that could impact the couple. Now, that's interesting.

(28:17):
Keeping the mother and the mother in law out of
the marriage, that is I think a big one. I
didn't even think about that because honestly, if I would
have done a pre nup, it wouldn't have had anything
to do with the money. It would have had to
do with, you know, my mom, his mom, and keeping
them out of the that's actually very enticing. Michael Douglas

(28:37):
and Catherine Zata Jones' prenup I had of their two
thousand wedding, reportedly in Tiverte a two point eight million
dollars for every year marriage, plus a straining fee of
five million dollars if Michael Douglas ever cheated on her.
He however, would retaining sole ownership of any wedding gifts
valued at more than twelve thousand. So wrapper iced Tea

(29:02):
and his wife, Coco Austin, they have prenups that gives
him the rights to Austin's breast and buttock implants should
they divorce. Well, that's interesting, what would you do with them?
I guess she has to have them strategically removed. So

(29:23):
kid Mid and Urban are in Tennessee, so it's I
think an equal distribution state. So Mariti property is divided fairly,
but not necessarily equally. So uh, when you look at
some of these things and I don't want to go
into any more of these, you know, oh wait, there
was a weight Oh now this I would have failed. Apparently.

(29:44):
Jessica Simpson and Tony Romo's prenup reportedly barred her from
weighing over one hundred and thirty five pounds and required
her to pay him five hundred thousand dollars for every
pounds she gained. Now, I don't think they ever got married.
I think they broke up in two thousand and nine.
But oh my gosh, a prenup saying if you gained weight,

(30:07):
I would be broke I mean, luckily we don't have
that kind of money, but can you imagine if I
gain five hundred thousand dollars for every pound. I don't
think there's a bank big enough to cover that. That's crazy.
So I guess there's some crazy stuff with prenups. You
know we talked about on the show. How do you
bring it up? If you have assets and you've come
from a family where divorces are bad, and so you

(30:28):
want to have a pre nup? How how do you
bring it up? Well, well, it's actually not that difficult.
You know, you don't want to call it a prenup necessarily.
Maybe that term has been kind of tarnish, but you
could say, look, I don't ever plan on leaving you.
You never plan on leaving me, But God forbids something happens.
You know, we should have something down there, whether you

(30:49):
know it's for our medical, whether it's for our our
you know what happens with the kids, but we should
have something laid out while we're all level headed and
before any lawyers you know they'll take over. You know,
what is it that you would want God forbid something
happens well to us? Who knows? You know, I go
crazy or whatever. But what what should you know? Should
we have that in place? And I think somebody who's

(31:11):
calm and rational, level headed would be like, I think
that's a good idea, Because God forbid, we do have
to break up. We got to make it as easy
as possible. Look at Tom Brady and Giselle, Well, they're
they're bunschit bunchit they they're And maybe it's also they
kept the media out of it, but it looked like
they went through a fairly painless divorce because they had

(31:34):
all their ducks in a row. But wow, gosh, if
there was that weight clause, I'd be so screwed. One
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we are back in the Natalie Show. Thank you over
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So one of my listeners is pretty frustrated with her
husband anonymous. So I'm not going to say her name,
because her husband has the opportunity to take a management
position in the company he works for and he doesn't

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want to do it. So she thinks he's being lazy.
It would be more money, you know, uh, And so
she's kind of asking for advice on, you know, how
to bring that up and tell her husband to get
off his butt. Meanwhile, I think I'm on the husband's
side on this. I've and down management jobs. The problem

(35:04):
with management is you're there's there's a lot of problems
with management, and so maybe in the short term it's good,
been the long term and if you need to play
the long game, sometimes that management job could really hurt you.

Speaker 3 (35:20):
You know.

Speaker 2 (35:20):
It's interesting. I waited tables when I was in medical school.
I waited tables at Tony Romas on Virginia Street in Reno, Nevada,
and I think the restaurant's closed since then. That's what
happens on your higher Waitresses like me and uh, there
was a management job, and we were told as and

(35:40):
waitresses that you know, there's going to be a manager job.
You know, some of us might want to consider it
and put her name in. Nobody was putting their name in.
And I was a medical I wasn't gonna have time
to be a manager because you had to put in
eight hours and I was just working, you know, the
swing shift, night dinner service. So I'm like, guys, come on,
it's more money, Like, no, it's not. One you got

(36:01):
to work with corporations, and two you don't get the tips,
and there were wrong about that because I always split
my tips with the bussers. You didn't split tips with management.
And they're like, you actually make more money waiting tables
than being manager. It's like, oh, okay, that's in me.
Nowadays some restaurants, you know, managers get a piece. But
I was like, okay, and so a Dahlia, do you

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want to be manager?

Speaker 9 (36:24):
No?

Speaker 2 (36:24):
I don't, I will pass. I never thought I would
pass up on a management position because I'm thinking, Hi,
well you it helps your resume. Now you have a
manager on your resume. And no. The other thing, too,
is I've worked for places where when there is a
management position available, you need to stop and go why

(36:49):
is that position open? What happened to that person? And
you'll notice some of these management positions keep flipping, whereas
when you're kind of boots on the ground, it might
be a safer a question. I commonly get my show
I do live in the mornings nine to eleven Pacific

(37:14):
Saner time, Yet many affiliates play me later and I've
had listeners say why aren't you having them play you
in the morning, And I'm like, because I don't want
to wake the sleeping giant. These morning shows flip around
a lot. There's a lot yet, Yet if I'm in
a good spot at night and it's solid, I have longevity.

(37:38):
And I learned that. You know, when I was younger,
I might have been like, no, no, I need to
get the best spot. I need to get them. No, no, no,
I think the best spot is exactly where I'm at
because I want longevity. I want the long game. But now,
what if you are told you're up, we need a manager,
it's you and you're like, oh, hell no. Well. One

(38:02):
of the reasons why management jobs are difficult is because
you're trying to manage people and lead. Now, some of
us are fantastic leaders, and I've tried to lead by example,
but when you have other individuals that are like, no, no,
I don't want to do the work, it's frustrating. I

(38:24):
led projects where all I got was, oh, I don't
want to do that. That's too much work. You don't have
to do it that way. You know, mediocrity is fine.
We're you know, it doesn't have to be one hundred
percent and it'd be six. And I'm not a I'm
not you know, a micromanager and I'm not, but I'm
not a control freak. But you know, if I'm working

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with the customers or if I'm working with a group
of individuals, i can't decide in triage who I'm going
to be half asked with. And I'm like, there's a
process where we could do this, right, it's not really
that hard. But when you're dealing with people who haven't
worked and to and half assed was the the you
know mantra or the work anthem, they might not work.

(39:08):
And if you don't have the ability to get a
whole new team, that's a problem.

Speaker 5 (39:13):
You know.

Speaker 2 (39:13):
It's interesting. One of our physician assistants we hired years ago,
she said what really attracted our office to to her
is everywhere she worked, she had no autonomy. And she
said she was stuck with staff that would never get fired,
and if the staff stunk and was you know, could

(39:35):
possibly hurt her patients, there was nobody to tell and
nobody would do anything. And I'm like, we have you
hire whoever you want because we trust you you want
to do the best job possible. And in fact, there's
been studies showing that, you know, many employees do not
want to become managers. In fact, research shows only thirty

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percent of workers who want to become managers. This is
going to research from LinkedIn. A survey of over ten
thousand LinkedIn users, nearly seven and ten said they would
leave their job if they had a bad manager. Only
thirty percent said they would want to become a people
manager within the next few years. Global consulting firm West

(40:18):
Monroe agrees with the theory of nobody showed them how
to lead effectively. They surveyed five hundred managers and found
that sixty six percent of those received eight hours or
less of manager training. Of those who had been managers
for less than a year a studying, forty three percent
had received no training at all. Well, but here's the
thing I've seen, you know, like I mean true leadership training.

(40:41):
And you know where you lead yourself and others, and
and you know, lead by example and have good work ethic.
If you have somebody calling out, if you have somebody stealing,
if you have somebody who creates a toxic environment, you know,
you you you really have to clean house. And in fact,
a fortunately, you know, the cancer comes back. It's like

(41:04):
it's like, uh, you know, a contaminated Petrie dish, you
could only do so much. You can't cut out the contaminant.
You have to basically start over the new Petrie dish now.
And I had coworkers tell me, look, just you know,
clock in, clock out, and don't you know, don't try

(41:24):
and do a good job because it's not gonna be
appreciated and you're gonna ping the radar. And I'm like,
but people are asking for help. I'm not just coming
in making changes. There's a problem, let me fix it.
And I can't go into too much detail, but you know,
there and the population of people that needed help, you know,
we're really really grateful. And I would just do it

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on my own time. But you know that, to me,
that means you just don't work there. It's you aren't
gonna be able to fix stupid and fix the lazy.
So would I manage other doctors? Absolutely not. Would I
manage you know of a radio hosts or no? No,

(42:08):
because I'm the type of person that if something is
not getting done, I want to fix it, and then
I would just jump in and do it myself. In fact,
running a medical office, I would delegate. I had managers,
I trusted them, and then I would see they weren't

(42:30):
doing the job right. Well, in medicine, you can't be
anything than one hundred percent. Now, I didn't make my
staff do that. I would pick up if they were
eighty percent or seventy nine percent, fine, But if I
had a nurse telling me that the pregnancy test was
negative and it was positive, you know, come on, I
needed to teach you this. You know, you can't be

(42:51):
giving me wrong test results. And it was really, really
hard to manage a medical office because when I did
catch lazy or somebody stealing or they're really there really
wasn't any other option but firing them. One of my
nurses stole the flu shots, stole needles, and not the

(43:15):
number of needles that she should have also taken, which
means I'm worried she reused needles, and then she went
to a part of the city trying to pretend to
be me and selling flu shots. Yeah, luckily I didn't
have to fire her because she was already arrested. One
eight seven seven, Doctor Dollar, I don't go away.

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