Episode 175: More Nutrients in Butt (Feat. Maliibu Miitch, Michael Arceneaux, & Karen Civil)

Rapper Maliibu Miitch, author Michael Arceneaux, and media maven Karen Civil join the ladies of Lip Service this week and discuss their sexual goals for 2019, corny Instagram captions, crying during sex, and much more. Enjoy!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
What's up? What's up? It's lip service at Manelay. I'm Luria.
Michael Arsenal. Yes, So we have two special guest today.
Jess like vacationing, traveling, running around. So Michael Arsenal is
here and we know him from I Can't Date Jesus. Yes,
And you have a new book coming out that you
announced recently. Yes, it's called I Don't Want to Die
For I need to write that book first. Um, I
Can't Date Jesus is still available, still very affordable, and

(00:26):
some things are still happening with that, but very entertaining. Yes,
it might be very entertaining if all comes through. But yes,
and I have to come. Thank you for having me
because I have to make up for you thinking having
people like I don't suck dick. Okay, you can barely
get it out. Got a lot of flat. He doesn't

(00:49):
enjoy a second day. Really, he sex dick with the
rest in bitch face. Hold on clarity. I don't like
the person enough. I think dicks are ugly. But if
I really really like you, I will suck your dick
and probably enjoy it. I don't like that ugly. I

(01:10):
haven't suck the dick since before teams come on, now,
I haven't liked nobody like that said. I didn't say
I didn't eat a can you eat acid? I was
stuck in a dick. I like that, like asked more
than a dick you can have for me than like, yeah,
I feel like I got to do this. I'm going

(01:31):
to do one. I got to do the other like
I can't. I definitely would before two weeks the last
a little like a little honey on the dick because
I think of a riot carry because that's what they
on the dick. Yes, I've done that, but it's not
since two thousand like must do on the beat just

(01:54):
for you. I will suck a dick in two thousand nineteen,
somebody's holiday is gonna be gag you your dick. Yeah,
that's where it's not fair. That's what I was. I
was shamed for being selfish. Yeah yeah, because they're like, okay,
my turney, You're like I like you knew what you

(02:14):
knew what it was when you came over. It's nothing
worse than when like I'm sure for a guy to
get his dick suck and the person look like they
don't want to do it exactly like I actually realized.
I don't think I'm helping my cars. Maybe I'm making
it worse. Yeah, dates, dick, I'm like, why we hear
no cord on the cup? Right? Why it's just that

(02:38):
you're thinking up But yeah, there's nothing about like I't attracting.
But that's what I'm saying. How you could just go
straight for the butt. But now, I've always been a
picky eater. No, most dicks are ugly. That's all I
got to do account song about this, But this is

(02:58):
mad inspiration I'm getting now, Like it's better than can
we just say it used to be scared to not
with the lips shues. That just sounds better when I
rapid and actually do it. All right, Well, we don't
want you to be scared. No, I'm not scared. This
is ugly. If the right that comes along, I'll put
it in my mouth. I feel you, and I know
what I know what to do when it's there. You

(03:19):
don't know how to do it. No no no no
no no no no no no no no no. It
might not be many, but if I had to yell
with you, I know how to suck dick, because don't good.
I'm not bad at you if I'm gonna do something
up and I'm like Michael Arsenal tried to suck my dack.
I look down, he looked mad. Views The only time

(03:47):
I stuck did badly was the first time, and I
didn't realize how big my teeth work. But once I realized,
I asking to teach me and he wasn't a good teacher. Um,
And then we did it again and he was happy.
Someone we know actually told us that trap told us
that men can suck dick better than women. I've never

(04:08):
got your dick by a woman. No, never in life.
I never. No, I've never had really, So you never
touched a woman at all? Uh you tried? No? Actually,
well you know I write about being afraid of sex
in jail, so that's part of it. But um, women
have tried to fuck. Um. One actually in high school

(04:30):
wanted to funk. It just didn't happen. So that one
time I really just hard and no, it wasn't that
like I just didn't get tour saying jay Z broke up.
Would you have sex with Beyonce? Not Beyonce because she's
my lord and gyrator. I would suck I could get
my dick up. It's just I don't want to funk
women because I'm gay, so like women have even recently,

(04:53):
no recent it is like two years ago someone tried
to funk was like a girl, I'm gay, but they
know this, don't that thinking they could change? Yeah, it's
not gonna It's not as bad as like dumb men
with like lesbians. But some women have been like, you
just need the right one older, just like changing. No,

(05:22):
I don't think every hole as a whole. Some people disagree.
Have you ever had a gaping butt? Because I just
learned about Oh my god, what is gaping? But huge?
Oh god? Oh um. So I'm not getting into that
because then I'll be accused of bottom shaming. I don't
know anything about that. That's not particularly attractive. And y'all,

(05:42):
who's got a tighten up? You don't want to know
who's about? Yeah, I don't. I don't like it in me.
If in a relationship maybe, but I don't know much.
And so for like the bottom again, bottom shaming is
a real thing, so don't put that on me. But

(06:05):
like I tried bottom it didn't it wasn't it. It
wasn't it in the way it thoughted wasn't it wasn't
it like it happened in It's just not it. It
wasn't it. It wasn't good. I feel, oh my god,
that's so crazy. Get to you a little. Yes, my
life is not that interesting. So so do you think

(06:30):
that dicks are ugly? Um, it depends. I've seen a
lot of ugly dicks. Thank you for the support, but
some some acutes. You know, you sounds terrible when it
comes to a dick. It's sad. It's like because they
look kind of weird. But no, I can't get with
the light skinned dicks, and now with it, I like
the ducks. Give me a different color. Yeah, I just

(06:51):
like it. Dog dog, Yeah, like a dark Now I
want the dog. She's gonna for sure, because we never
year what we want, so it's the opposite of what
you think you want. No, I'm not about that lace
skin shirt. I'm about that dark skin. I dated a
light skinned guy that had a brown dick. Happens, Yeah,

(07:15):
it's sure. I don't know why, and I don't know
how that happens. But like your dick could be darker
than your body. He was bleaching the rest of his
body and darker than my face, but it's not like
significantly darker, like everything blends. I want to get to
the sun because we like scrub harder or like, I

(07:36):
don't know, like you could, I don't know. Yeah, jerk off,
it turned the same. What about Asian man? Now and
a bit are both Asian and black? Have you ever
dated Asian man? No, it's I think it's because I'm

(07:58):
so mixed up, Like you know, my whole family's mixed up.
I just like, I don't know. I like a black man,
just dark and just dark. What about a white guy?
So you never dated a white guyl? I never dated
a white guy either. I dated Puerto Rican before. How
was that because they're crazy? I'm I'm crazy, yeah, you know,
but I don't know. Like I date Spanish. I dated

(08:19):
a Spanish Spanish guy, so he did a little bunch
had to move on me, and I was like, I
gotta get out of here, you black niggers on sticks
and black niggers. But the Spanish guy loved to eat pussy,
like that's all they do, say and ship like they
just come home, eat pussy, go to sleep, eat pussy,
wake up. They are good with them. Yeah, when they
got away. That's so crazy, he said here reminiscen, like,

(08:51):
how do you feel about being seen with somebody early on?
You know, being like a public person? Right, And let's
just say it's it's a situation where do you have
a boyfriend? Oh, how long have you been together? Almost
four years? Now, Okay, that's a long time. So let's
just say the first time you all went out because
you've been wrapping, you know, and he knew who you were.
Do you know who you were before then? I knew
whom since back in the days of sixteen, So you

(09:13):
don't even count. Yeah, this question because I can put
on like I'm singing into it. So let's just say
that you're about to go on a first date with somebody, right,
do you think about being seen? And like where you're
gonna go? Does that matter? Like I don't want to
go to a place like this. I'm not really well,

(09:34):
I'm not there yet, but I'm realizing people pay more
attention to me than I thought. Partically, I'm like, my
dating pool isn't that big because I date like black
men or like Latin X men. But the thost parts
so like even doing the breakfast club interview, I was
out with someone and they remember something specifically I said
about a guy and I was like, oh, ship um,

(09:55):
And we're trying to use like the apps. Like that
cannot happen because people will be like, oh and I
don't really want like your book meant so much to me,
or I saw you in some interview like that's really weird.
Like then they're trying to have like a heart to
heart moment when I was trying to get a nut.
Doesn't work, they try to. I've had people's screen grab
conversations I've had and like kind of try to blast me.

(10:15):
Already that happened a little. I'm learning as I go
that yeah you cautiously yeah, because I just didn't it
or even like dudes, I have this approached them like
they listened to the people watch and pay attention. I
didn't think I'm so under the radar. No one pays
me any more, And like my friends been like no stupid,
Like like I'm thinking, I'm so I swear, swear, I'm regular.

(10:37):
I don't do nothing in my life. I'm just mad regular. No,
but the same thing I like to be low. I'm
out about all of that. Like if I go out
I'm gonna go somewhere Mallow. I'm not gonna go to
Philips and ship like that. I'm gonna go to Kennedy's
and Brooklyn somewhere. That's what I'm okay, you know, like
I'm just mad low key. I don't like all that,

(10:57):
you know, in the beginning nine no no, no, no.
And then it's funny like I used to get like
I'll be thinking I'll be low key. So a lot
of people end up seeing me and she's like that,
you know, back in the day when I was like
single and shot like that. No, I'm not with it,
just be too much. A screenshots videos saying I'm just
like so over, you know, and a lot of the
people I like, it's so funny because I would not

(11:17):
tell people who I was in the beginning, like you know,
like if I would meet them, you know, Jennifer my
first name, Yeah, I said Jennifer and then ask you
what do you do? What do you say? Nothing? Bit
just don't do a lot. I'm just cute. That's my occupation.
And they're like, I'm sorry about man. That's funny because

(11:43):
I think, like if I meet a guy, right, we
do want to know what you do, right, and imagine
that Guys like, I'm like, it's so different, you don't
think that. I feel like in l A, that's the
first question people, I was like, so what do you do?
They don't even have your name. But I feel like
in New York, like you kind of gotta go on.

(12:04):
You're gonna find out a year later and you and
that and whatever, right you go for the guy that
I'm dating to be Google ble And I'm gonna tell
you why. I'm not trying to get raped, kidnapped, killed,
Like I gotta know who you are because if not,

(12:27):
I'll be thinking, like I don't know that Google would
tell you that. No, but somebody that if they're creeper,
that's ain't got no record of me. But if they've
been in jail, I have a record. That's that should
all pop up now. And then your kids where they
go to school. I want to see what's going on
because you could be crazy. But what about you being Google?

(12:47):
That was an original question. Sorry, do I like it?
It don't matter to me. I feel like it is
what it is. The people gonna know who you are
and act like they don't know who you are anywhere.
That's like sometimes people will be like, oh, yeah, yeah,
I'll watch your show, but sometimes in myfucker, well know
exactly who you are, and you gotta show who's angela

(13:08):
you I never heard of, but I listened to the
radio radio. Someone asked me on Tender Howard book sales recently.
No really, I didn't respond. That was very strange. Yeah,
like matches like house book sales. You were like, damn
house Tinder was like my fan page and asked that

(13:28):
that was a weird, real question, right, I was like, no,
I didn't answer. How did after the breakfast coming? You
gotta let people slide into your damns? No, it was
it was mostly like I don't sound like great. It
was people being like they were so happy to see
a queer black person of color on like in that
way being it was like that kind of stuff like

(13:49):
where's the dick slide? Yeah, like the apparently I still
look like a bit even um. But well, a few
people did hit on me. A few people. They were
like younger, though. I was like, no, you don't like
younger guys. I attract younger because I have stunted development,
but not too much younger, Like I'm realizing I probably

(14:12):
don't need to go any lower than twenty eight. Um
more recently was like invaluable bits, I was like, you
missed a cut off. Soon, I'm good soon, I'm forgetting.
I'm getting older, and I just don't realize how old
people are. Within six I'm like, I'm probably gonna attracted you,

(14:33):
but we'll see twenty at least. It's you're in a
different head space to me. And I don't even necessarily
for women, because men are like not that I don't
like man, I'm basically miss Andrews that like has to
a man. But other than that, I don't mean like
we're not that great. Um, sorry, but we're not no man,
And I feel like, yeah, don't mature INTI like at

(14:55):
least thirty five. So like even if you talk like
I could talk to a younger guy, I was talking
to a younger guy or whatever, and like he was bombed,
don't get me wrong, sex with fire. But then when
it came to like conversations and ship, I'm like, we're
talking to this motherfucker about cartoons, you guys since you

(15:15):
guys were young, So how do you feel about that?
Like how difficult is that? Is he mature enough? How
does he handle what you do? Know? He is like
because he you know, he does the same thing. But
he knew me since I was younger, So like like
when we be around each other, it don't be all that,
you know, the whole music thing. I think that's what
it be like when you just meet somebody and they
don't know you, they haven't known you or something. Then

(15:36):
it gets kind of tricky because I remember, like, I
hate talking about music as much as I do it,
like that's my job. So I feel like when I
go right it needs to not be at my house.
Like you know, I would date people and they will
be like, oh, well, how's this person, how's this person,
how's the studio, how's this person. I'm like, motherfucker, I
am not at work right now, you know. So it's
a lot of that. Now. No, I don't have to

(15:57):
worry about none of that. You know, well, he does
what you do, so he does music. Also, did they
get competitive? No, it doesn't, because you know, I'll be
pushing him for him to do it, like when he
was like, no, you know, I want you to focus
on yours, and I'll be pushing him to do his music,
you know, because he's actually good, you know. So no,
not at all. But how about when you're out and
it's like, um, hey, guy over there, can you take

(16:19):
a picture of me and Malibu Mitch? Like you don't
feel no way about It's so funny. People be mad respectful.
I think they'd be scared of me more than like,
and he's standing right there, but they'd be more scared
to come up to me, Like we was on tour
and stuff, and they were like so scared to even
come next to me. And I had to be like,
if you bring your guys over there looking at me
with the Google Yeah, and I do do that looking

(16:42):
at looking on over here. So they just be like, oh,
this bitch is intense, So no, they is. No. Now
we have some questions that people are sening. Um, now
here's one question. Let's see what you think about this. Hi,
I recently got married and my husband is white. Some
of my black friends and co workers have questioned me
because they think that me marrying a white man means

(17:03):
I'm not woke, and then I'm ignoring my culture and
heritage and the oppression that black people are receiving. None
of that is too because my husband is pretty liberal,
and we've had these discussions multiple times. I'm still the
same person. I just happen to love a white guy.
What can I do or say to people who try
to make me feel bad about my marriage? She gotta
cuss her friends out. I don't mean the reality, particularly

(17:24):
like I'm gonna get you in trouble. Black one of
a certain age. If you want children, you want all
this stuff, Like you want someone that you can have
a child with you. If you ideally would want a
black man, great, But if one isn't available to you
and you find it from somewhere else, what are you
supposed to do? I don't necessarily think dating a white
guy means you are like not committed. If it comes
from a place of like self loath and like you

(17:45):
don't want black kids, you don't like yourself, that's something separate.
But if you're just black and comfortable who you are
and you're just so happy to be with a white person, what,
like what do you want? I don't I have that
pressure too, because, like, as a gay black man who
wants to get to a certain level and have certain
next Like what if I end up with a white guy,
would I feel like that'd be the worst thing to
happen to many. Please never do nothing. I'm gonna like,

(18:11):
I'm gonna get it. But if I if I did,
I don't think that would take anything from me necessarily. Um,
it's just hard because people like certain conversations, were you
married to a white man? So yeah, I think it
is not totally fair unless you really just people all
the time like we thought that was probable, but look
at his wife and like people do that all. It's

(18:33):
so mad you see a black man on the red
carpet with a white women when the fun she's taking
our spot, Like that's yeah, you do us too when
they see us with a white man. They hate that
fair because the dating pool right now benefits black men
more than it does like black women. It's a lot
more women who are single and trying to have like

(18:53):
marriage and kids in a partner with four more women
and they are like black men. So so it's a
little one even which it's probably why some times people
get mad at like goes whatever, although ultimately may not
go because said the Tory, and but like, yeah, I

(19:16):
don't have those black men don't pick up like if
they want if they went for a white woman, then
you probably don't want him anyway, because that's the whole
set of issues. Not every black guy, but something that
like Chase that way, like you probably in his defense
and hard. He's been with his wife way before he
had this show, and the kids have been together, so
she has been holding it. Ain't like he got and
they got her. Like, don't judge those relationships. I just

(19:38):
don't want to do it. The only relationship I judge
is Kanye like, and that's because this interview keeps going
when you get on Jli asked for a white girl
and he was trying to be who when he said that, right,
but then he turned around and the motherfucker did you that?

(20:00):
Hip hop David Koresh has been telling on himself for
a long time, So him with Kim Kardashians exactly what
I expected. You know, He's the only person I judge
because I feel like, you know that changed his life.
Everybody else if you wouldn't have you a white everybody,

(20:21):
But because he was pumping his chest, and that was
the thing about me with him, like if you stand
so strong for it, and I feel like maybe that's
the thing with me, like I kind of really stand
strong for it, like I don't want to marry no
white man. So if I turned around and y'all see me,
and I'm marrying a white man, and this is that

(20:42):
she looks so white. I think about it. I think
that helped. That's part of it. But no, it's true
because I'm so like and I'm like, da'ren my poor kids.
But but no, it was things I went through through
my life, Like I lived in like all white areas
and then I lived in like all black areas, and
then like it was the difference, like how things I've
heard people say and how I was treated like versus

(21:04):
you know, on both sides, and I just felt like
that's always taking a toll on me. So like I
don't want to date a white man, you know what
I mean that I would never say never, but I
could see it happening. He gotta be like a gotta
be like he gotta be like sign right here. How

(21:35):
must do our parents relationships affect our relationships? Definitely affected mom?
I think it does. Yes, yes, yes, so malibum. My
father wasn't ship. So for a long time I dated
niggas that wasn't ship and I didn't notice until you know,
when you get older and you you start to realize, like, oh,
ship on my nigga's act like my daddy, Like, so,
what is the definition of like not being shipped, like

(21:59):
you know, not being a round, like you know, not caring,
not being attentive. That's what I think, Like, you know,
if you're not giving me your all, not necessarily like
all your attention, but you know, showing me that you
care and like you know, So that's what I think
it was. I would date a lot of guys that, like,
you know, act like act like they cared and stuff
like that. You know, so we always like guys that
aren't good for us at first all the time until

(22:21):
we get to the point where like I'm you're done
and you're don't getting a bad ress, you don't getting
played all of us. I was done with it, especially
the more I started getting and fake lit and stuff
like that. I would you it's not gonna be at
me like I'm some a bit. I'm like, I'm not
more you Like that's true. I feel like you gotta

(22:46):
take yourself and put yourself in a different event. You
feel like it's more eyes on you, Like you can't
make me look stupid. And everybody's watching me exactly. But
then that starts making you feel better about yourself and
being like, oh, you know what, I'm fake learning my
worth at the same time, like you know, you're fake
starting to care about yourself more. You're not working with
these regular not regular like that, but you know, you know,
the average niggers. I'll do some function, then put up

(23:08):
with and be I Then you'd be mad at the
chick he cheated with if you want to, but you
don't do nothing to him, like, you know, praise him
like a king and ship, but beat the next bitch
as like pashionably late. Look at you looking all good?

(23:30):
She's like, I just got out a flight, just amazing. Well, Karen,
this is Michael Arsenal. I can't date Jesus and he
has a new book coming out. I don't want to
die poor. I don't want to die poor. None of
us want to like you know, Malibu, Mitch, have you
guys first time? Yes? Okay, you got the night shot
out from Nicki Minaj, so yes, I'm living my best

(23:51):
life and I got a shot off from Foxy so
she called me baby fox on that hype Easy. Do
you be feeling like sometimes that it is hard for
women to co sign other women. Yeah, especially for black women,
Like you know, when we start co signing each other,
it's like, oh, it's not genuine, it's not this, it's
not that, you know, or like if we support another female,
especially female rapper or anything like that, we sucking, like

(24:14):
you know, That's all I've been seeing lately. Like you know,
when I showed Nikki Love, I showed Foxy Love, I
show Cardy Love, all of the it's like, oh, you're sucking, dick,
and it's like, no, I'm embracing, Like we never have
this much female rappers coming. It's like back and when
I started rapping, I started rapping with Rough Riders seven
years ago, so it was like, no females butt Nikki,
you know. So and then all the girls that I

(24:34):
did reach out to back in the day, they were
like mat Boogie. They didn't want to reach out because
they were fighting for that dec the second spot too,
you know. So now all these girls they interact with you,
they will reach out like you know, so I'm just
loving it. You know that's good. I love it too.
I love seeing like everything that's been happening for women
because it is true. There's a lot of women right
now that's popping. And then we stop on the radio

(24:56):
like it's not like before I said, oh my god,
was this black as bitch? Like in different Now they're
like getting good like it used to be. As soon
as you hear the voice, you like like, what caring.
I'm glad you're here because we got some questions. Social

(25:18):
media expert also, so what do you do when you're
dating somebody in their Instagram is whacking? They'be having corny
ask captions. Oh yeah, I've been there. Um, it's hard.
I mean, it's it's technically their personality, it is their page.
Depending on the exact content they're posting, it's like, bro,
can you tune it down some or it's you don't

(25:42):
even acknowledge them on social media. But there are people
it's just they're funny on there. They just say stupid
things and you just gotta let it be. But just
for me, I'll just be like, yo, tone it down.
Everybody to print them. But they'd be posting and you're like,
that's not even who you are. Why are you trying
to be this person on social media? But that's really
sometimes with social media is for people though, they get

(26:03):
to be somebody else besides themselves and every day. I mean,
that's what we got trolls and everything else for. So
I'm not even surprised. And we're gonna clown you, like
guys can put a whack corn he's something up and
that we're not gonna screenshot it and send it out test.
Hear me and Karen used to do that and it
was one guy. I'm sorry, I'm gonna tell this story.

(26:27):
Dude with like in the background of a picture, in
the background, in the background, back right post the picture
and he's like me and say it with me and
Drake and like he's like, keep clearing the table. But
that's right me and that ship look at this. I

(26:48):
hate that. And when they brow everybody. I hate a
nigger that brows everybody. Don't bro that, you know, me
and my big bro And it's like, no, you just
call him coming out the basket. They don't do it.
Don't do it. People doing that family ship. You know.
I always say, people be like, that's my cousin desk
this and they're not really related and everyone. There's some

(27:10):
people that I could be like, that's like my brother.
But I'm one brother, I'm not gonna be saying And
I hate when people say that and the's somebody they fucked.
A lot of think that, bro. I'm like, you're sucking him.
That's not because they're like fill in the closet and
they don't want nobody to know, so they're saying bro,

(27:30):
not necessarily, but I think maybe because they don't want
people to know. But it's like, our circles aren't that big.
We know y'all, and these pictures are not like platonic y'all. Fus,
it's not bro. Just just don't post this ship if
you got you that now, do you think? Sometimes? And
I love when Karen comes on the service that people
have this impression of you that you can't even talk
about sex, like you're not a sexual person, even because

(27:53):
you're so. I mean, I do get that it's because
of the content and how they see me. So it's
just but at the end of the damn with scorpio baby,
well man, then okay, I was gonna say the man
cheating man, I think the biggest cheaters. Sorry to all
the scorpio. It depends independent it depends your scorpioting everything. Yeah,

(28:19):
definitely know every scorpio, every scorpio, man, I know, it's
like it's crazy. They're very good and sexual, but they're
very like that's never been happy to be in aries?
Why is that? I don't know about your I ain't
never hearing nobody say airy sexist body, and I don't know. No,

(28:39):
you don't suck. So this is how news. Well I don't.
I don't. I will admit that I am growing out
of shower and anybody see my I've not gotten complaints.
So I'm found with that split and splash and grow whatever.
But don't do aries like that. What I just told
them select them So it might just be a couple

(29:01):
of years ago by. But if I play in my mouth,
you're gonna have a good time. I had to avenge
myself from the last one. You know, Okay, you to
act like he liked to dig garen? Do you like
to stop? Um? I mean when you're going through the process.
It's not like I just want to naturally do it.
I want us to pleasure each other time. It's part

(29:22):
of sex. Yeah, it's part of sex. That that wasn't
That wasn't a blowing endorsement. I'm speaking for an understanding.
I don't really like the job part of it. See,
I'm not gonna lie. I like doing it if it's
somebody like that, Like I want to see them feel
good and I know I could do it good. You no,
like I gotta make them. I like it, But I
hate when guys try to like hold back and make

(29:43):
you say they did for mad long. Yes, I want.
I gotta up when I'm done. I'm sucking done and
I'm tired. I'm just stop way no, like you gotta
finish you're feeling like that, but but just when my
jaw starts still, Yes, I have as to be like
holding hold I don't want to come yet you'd be like, yes,

(30:06):
don't hold up, just harder. Therefore he's gonna come. All right, now,
can you date somebody who has different eating habits than
you do? So imagine right, we're trying to be healthier.
Imagine Laura, you're a vegetarian slash vegan sometimes vegan sometimes
but you know, but imagine like and Karen, we know

(30:28):
how you are because your text as if we're eating
badly and be like, yeah, couldn't say somebody that says
that you that likes to eat like mad meat and
all of that. Yeah, I mean that's their that's their
preference in their choice. But I can only guide you
and steer you and be like, yo, maybe you should
switch it up to this or whatnot, But that's going
to your body, You're not mine. I feel like it

(30:49):
depends on the situation. Like I went out on a
date and then the it takes me to somewhere that
has no vegetables or what am I supposed to be?
The kind of place was this child restaurant that I
had like arty choking and like a salad that I
couldn't eat or something, But like I just felt like

(31:10):
he doesn't have to eat exactly what the exactly, but
at least be like open to be conscious. That used
to eat when I was way younger and I went
to he ate pork and that ship bothered the ship
out of me because then am I pork? Now? Basically

(31:30):
on a sucking day? Did you just call it spill?
You ain't getting nobody slid you like you think you
kiss somebody and you like, am I getting pork in
my system? Yes? The nation, dude, I think so. I

(31:50):
think that, like I think that the person should have
similar eating habits as you and you ain't got to
be a vegan and the vegetarian all that. But if
you shoving down pork and beef and but I think
as long as the person you're dating is conscious, say
like and you don't, you don't necessarily like pork. They
shouldn't be eating pork around you or just just in
the environment that you're in, especially if they're gonna be

(32:12):
kissing you or laying up with you. Just ate some pork. Yeah,
if it makes you uncomfortable, because yeah, I don't want
that at all, Rap the ReBs and then come in.
I'm definitely out of the South. Mike was like, I
eat all that ship. No, actually, for a while, I
did not eat beef and pork for like more than

(32:33):
a decade. I didn't. Yeah, we heard you don't eat beef. Um,
I just want to say, there's one person who might
listen to this. I've already told him, and he's not available.
I would suck his day dick every day for the
rest of my life. He's not available. So this is again,
it's a standing offer. Um. I didn't eat a lot

(32:54):
of that for a while, So I actually respect that,
Like I get that, Um, I would just say, having
gone out with some vegans in the work, it's easier
to go out with vegan in New York and I
can find something. If I go back home to the South,
it's a problem. I'm like, where we're gonna eat? Um,
what we're gonna do here? It's like their options, So
I don't really mind. Like that's great vegan, I get it.
But anywhere else I'll be like, well, we can just

(33:15):
do other things for dates, but we'll figure out the
food ship. Like even like Philips and stuff like that.
They've got a little vegan options on the menu here now.
So it's just like be conscious, like, don't just think
of yourself, you know, when you're going on dates and
stuff like that, Like, well I want to stay like
all right, so what are you gonna with us? Actually,
the very first date I ever went on period, like

(33:35):
with a guy he took me to a vegetarian restaurant,
was the first time I ever did it. But it's
not it's not always about you. It's just having a
good time so you can you can find something to you. Yeah.
Now you talk about the circle being small, we all
got small circles, right, Okay, hopefully so what about dating
people that like running the same circle I know each other?

(33:56):
What do we think about that? Um, because I'm just
as a gay guy, Like, the dating pool isn't that
big if you're telling like other because it's not that
many of us, even if it seems like it's a
bunch of gay mens stamping around in Harlem, Brooklyn, but
we all kind of know each other. We're not that
far removed. So eventually you'll find one is connected to
the other. I try not to think about that too much. Well,

(34:18):
one I don't want. I mentioned I don't attract as
many Dominicans remporter. We can typically are more receptive to
me up here and then then what I'm used to
dat and so I've adapted, so that's usually not as
big thing. But I mean, when I am dating somebody
that's like, we'll know a lot of the same people.
It's you can't control it anyway. All I think, I'll
just can you just shut the funk up and not
be telling people our business. But that's one of the things,

(34:40):
like you just have to deal with the world as
it is, not how you wanted to be. So the
pool is smaller, So I'm aware of that. So I
just kind of act accordingly. One of my home girls
is dating this guy and she's friends with his ex,
and he called the X tell her just so you know,
and she was like, okay, she's cool. What would you

(35:02):
have done in that situation, Like would you call the
girl that we used to be your friend, well, that
you're friendly with, to be like just so you know,
I've done that? Like it's just even like dating somebody,
like I know you went out with him, but I
might go out whenever. Usually it's fun. It's that's different though,
That's that's kind of like assid permission. We're not necessarily

(35:23):
it's kind of like we're all gonna go out. But
if you felt that way about it, like I'm sorry
you dating him before, but now, well it wasn't how
a good demand, but it was just like just letting
you know we met because I already knew, like you
didn't like him that much, but just to be clear
to making like I'm not going behind your back because
some people will fell away if you went out with
somebody to say we're out with and you didn't tell him.
I think that ain't that many of us. So it's
like I get it. So just to let you know,

(35:45):
and if anybody feels that bad. No one's ever been like, no,
you can't go. They're not going to tell you that
they're going to tell, but I try to the stand
up things. Yeah, they like this motherfucker gonna go on
a date with the same that's bad. But what do
you think Karen and Mali has a boyfriend. But as
far as dating in the same circle, like, do you

(36:07):
have to tell the other person you think it's um,
it's hard not to do it. It kind of it
kind of depends. I mean just the people that like
data now, I don't know you said the people you're
dating now, yeah, Dave, you could date you find the
one like it's caring in a relationship. Oh no, being

(36:27):
selective right now. But um no, I mean they I
think they kind of know of each other. But I'm
not going on my way to be like, hey, I'm
talking to this but just an f y. I am
not telling on myself. What if they ask you? If
they asked me, yes, then if you ask me, I'm
not offering off the advice because I know you are.
I know you are too, So it's just don't create

(36:47):
a problem. Yeah, until I'm a priority to you. I'm
not gonna put myself off and be like, Okay, I'm
only talking to you right now. We're not exclusive. So
so when you're you're about to get in a relationship,
that's when you're like okay, just so you know, yeah,
and we can have the conversation so they know like hey,
I'm talking to this person or whatever. But if it
comes up to a point of like, oh where were you?
I was out with a friend? Which friend, then I'll

(37:10):
divulge into the information. But I'm not just gonna get
on the phone and be like oh yeah, I wonder
how it's so and so and blah blah blah. Nope.
So what if it's like like a friend, because that's
what you were saying, like a friend dated them before, right,
So would you say to them like would you wait
and tell you all about to be serious? To be
like listen, I've been talking to some and so I
think it's about to get serious. You need to know

(37:30):
or like how would you like because I think I
don't think I would just be like if you are
going out on a date, I'd be like, hey, let
me tell you about dating. I haven't had that experience,
but I've had it happened to me when the person
called me, like, oh, just the heads up, and I
was like, okay, cool, I really didn't care. Yeah, but
you appreciated her telling you that I did. I was like,
you feel like, it's that really my friend going out

(37:51):
with my ex? No, because it was just like it
wasn't one of the ones where it was just like
super serious, I don't in a relationship if we want
out a couple of times and it was like she
only told me because she met him through me, because
we were out, and I was just like, oh, in
my head, I was like, you're a fast little bit, right,

(38:13):
you feel kind of funny girl? No, I just said
in my head real quick, like I just and then
I was like, oh right, it's cool. I chip like
when y'all got the top next, like how did this happen?
But you see stuff like that bothers me. I can't
be with like like, I don't know, it might be
a mature or whatever, but if you're my friend, you
can't talk to. None of the people that I've ever
talked to, I just don't like that, you know, especially

(38:35):
if I like the people that I was serious serious
about I don't like that serious. What if it was old,
like real old like? It just it would depend on
the situation. I think you know that you tell your
home girl complaining about your man or the guy you
went out, because I would never do something like that.
You know, I would never talk to one of my

(38:56):
friends exits. I don't care how. I don't care if
you talked in preschool, like you know that's okay, come on,
I just know I just don't do that. You know
I wouldn't talk to one of my friends exens. I
don't give a funk about none of the niggas I
used to suck with itself apart like too that I
wouldn't want none of my friends. I don't but like
that want Oh you want that white guy's nig good

(39:18):
luck the bag bench, come with it. See. It can
get confusing, though, because I've had this one friend who
literally said she's dated, Like if you were like, oh,
so and so it's cute. Oh yeah, yeah I dated,
I used to him. Yeah you're like, girl, like, you
can't claim everybody like she was literally anybody said it
was cute, or if you liked the picture, if you

(39:40):
left me, yeah, like oh yeah, you're like, yeah, you
had to talk. Yeah, like he wants to buy me out.
I'm like, okay, Sis, you got it. That's all you
all when you haven't like, say you meet a girl
right and like she fucked with somebody that you're actually
talking to, would you like not a friend her? Like?

(40:01):
Would you not be her friend? Because this happened to me.
I had a friend of mine who um it was
a guy that I used to date, but the girl
was currently dating him, and my friend was like, oh,
come hang out with us. I was like, no, bitch,
like I'm not trying to be friendly with her. And
then I look grind me like you know what I mean.
I feel like it's weird and touching in those situations.

(40:22):
So even though I don't know her, you're dating somebody,
I think that's a big deal. That wasn't that had
nothing to do with you. I don't care, But maybe
she might you know that's her. Yeah, they're like, well
does she know the situation. I'm not gonna put it
out there either, so that's another thing. So do you
hide it like oh well, or do I tell my
business to a strange You're like, I didn't talk, I

(40:44):
don't even know her, That's what I'm saying. So I
wanted that way somewhere. If I wanted to go, I
wouldn't not go somewhere because she's going to be there
than I'm not going. I don't, I don't know, I
don't make no sense for me to be there, and
I'm hanging out with her like what we got a
common old dicky No thanks. Now, do you feel like

(41:11):
you guys are getting better with age? Yes? Yes, because
you know people are always like, oh you yeah, oh
this is that, like people have things to say about age,
and people are nervous about getting older. But don't you
feel like as every year goes back, you're getting better.
Definitely feel like I'm getting better with age, just just
how I'm processing things, taking my time with it, not
getting so um emotional and irrational two things, but it's

(41:34):
just understanding, just just overall just developing myself spiritually, mentally, physically.
So yeah, definitely better with age. I'm also I know,
I'm a late bloomer, so I'm kind of more content.
I think sometimes with like at least a lot of gaming,
you don't really get to at least of a certain age,
like I'm thirty four. You don't really get to start
like your whole life until you come out, so you're

(41:55):
learning things later than a lot of people go through.
So you know, I admitately is like I'm still a mess,
but I'm a much clean up mess. And I was
like the year bore ly before that, And I'll be
turning thirty five next year, which I'm walking into it
with a lot of things happening for me and stuff.
Is like, I'm really I'm good with where I'm going
and even late is better than ever. So that's usually
how I look at it. And I would much rather

(42:16):
have dealt with me now than even a couple of
years ago. So I'm fine with getting older. Um I
need a trainer brain. The talk about you because you've
been doing this music thing for years. As you're getting
older now you've got to deal with it. Atlantic you capping?
So what do you think about that? No? I think, yeah,
I'm getting my emotions together. You know. I just recently

(42:38):
realized that I'm super emotional. Like when I'm mad about something,
I'll be extra mad about it, like you know, or
when some bullshit happens to me. I need to chill more.
You know, and I need to go like the business
or out of it rather than like the emotional Bronx
joint that's on the corner, you know. So I think
I'm getting better with it a lot. I think a
little bit it's coming to out there. You know. Maybe

(43:01):
in like two years then I'm gonna be like all
who started. But right now now I'm a little crazy.
Right now crazy. I want to know what crazy means,
Like when somebody tells me something, not that I don't
want to hear, but when I know somebody is wrong
and somebody's telling me the idea of me, I hate that.
Don't tell me your idea of me. Just asked me

(43:21):
what who I am and what you think I you know,
how this these labels and just everything overall, everybody has
their own opinion of you, I think, you know, and
instead of asking, they'll direct you in other different directions.
And that doesn't sell well right with me. Through rough Riders.
When I was signing with Island of Jim, it just
never stuck right well me. So I just you know,

(43:41):
I spas a little bit about it. I feel good now,
yeah good, Now, I'm right. I want to see I'm
at you think, I'm what do you think as you've
been getting older? I think definitely lee way better. I
feel like, you know, my whole life like people used

(44:03):
to be like, you need to focus on yourself, not
like what the fun I am focusing on myself. I
do everything like for myself. But then I think when
I got a little older, I realized would have meant
and like, now that I'm actually focusing on myself, everything
has changes how I am getting better And then um,
I mean, of course your pussy get better as you
get all that, because you like, practice makes perfect, so

(44:25):
like practice the more you like, So like I could
probably suck the best of my life because you think
that you got more sexual as you got older, or
less sexual more sexual? For me, I think that I
probably was easy to have sex with when I was younger.
My whole whole fame, I don't know, but like now

(44:47):
it's like impossible. But back then, yah, it used to
be like I might have it. Yeah, Before I just
felt like I needed instruction. Man, it was like, who
are you supposed to like, yo, how are you supposed
to move and do this? And I think that's same
thing I was back in the day. I was just like,
all right, I'm winging this ship. Let's shine this shut out, like,
oh okay, this is how you do it, you know,

(45:12):
Like I think about that person I had an orgasm.
I didn't even know what was happening, really like, I
didn't know what the it was. You didn't give yourself
your first orgasm? No, for real? You need to nobody
for real, y'all never played with yourself before you have sex? No,
we just talked about instruction. Mars me like I was
already humping things before tampon right, I didn't use dampings

(45:36):
until I was no. I masturbated teaballs, touching myself gave
me the curse. Yeah, that music is. I made myself
come before I was ever like not a virgin anymore. Over?
You young young? Like so you were just masturbating. How
did you know how to do humping? Just like I
just feel like I wasn't thinking about them and stuff,

(46:01):
and I didn't have my barbie dolls have sex barbies
and I was he was the parties. I didn't have
my first kiss until I was like fourteen years old,
and then I had sex right after that like a

(46:23):
few months. Is that crazy? Like I didn't have no
tongue kiss I just packed. The first time I guy
tried to tonu kiss me, I would never forget this ship.
I was in sixth grade. I didn't know what it was,
and so we would like do pet kisses, and then
he like tried to tongue kiss me and I said,
oh my god, you think my mouth? That's so discussed.
And I went to the water fountain and like put
the water on my mouth like that. That was weird

(46:48):
back in the day, Like what wasn't nobody just kicked
in and Mino was out, but you didn't know about
I didn't want to get it was like, you know
what I'm but I wasn't doing none of that. She
was like, spin out my mouth, how are you doing?
I wasn't dry humping. That should but I didn't come

(47:10):
from it for real game. Damn. You must have really
had some reference. I don't know if I ever came
from dry humping. Yeah I did. It's kind of designed
for me to do that. You remember your first orgasm, Karen,

(47:33):
I'm trying to think, um, she remembers. It's just want
to say, trying how to say it in trying to
without like like oh, she talking about me. Yeah, well

(47:54):
we want to hear. Yeah, She's like, now we definitely
still um we're Instagram friends. UM. Nice, you know it's
we've known each other for a very long time. Um,

(48:14):
it's probably like the third person I've ever slept with.
Um yeah, did you know what it was when it happened?
I kind of want to say it, but like I
really can't. You holding that, Mike, because for me to
tell the whole overall, the whole, overall experience I got,

(48:37):
it's like it needs the backstory and it's just it's
about it. He was just fine. It's just everything was
just everything was just fine. It just it felt like
just one of those those BT movies or just like
something from lifetime. It should just Chisel Chest just he's
just fine and still is just fine as fuck. And
I'm gonna just say that because he's still get it now. Yes, friends,

(49:01):
did you know? Did you know? What? Was? Like explained
to me? Like when you had an orgasm? Did you
know what was going to you know? But that's why
I was like, it goes into having instructions and I
felt bad because he had to explained a lot to me,
and I'm like, oh, which at the time I'm like, oh,
he must be a hope. But he was a little
bit more seasoned obviously. Um, he was like your teacher. Yeah,
he was basically schooling me to a lot of things,

(49:22):
and I did. I had a lot of first with him.
First you know, no, you know economy put it in
your mouth? Okay, uh huh? Oral on each other pretty
much and just like different positions and stuff like that.
Did he make you come from oral or is it
through sex? Sex? Okay? Really cameras, I'll definitely show you

(49:53):
put you Okay, I can see it. That was an
attraction thing because for women, I think Jasmin is more
mental than it is for you. Michael, Sorry, no I
didn't you know y'all could come. Yeah, be fine when
you think about when you think about that dude, just
like dark skin, just take the top off. You got

(50:14):
the sixth pack happening? Just who should you see in movies?
And it's like in your real life in your bedroom,
you're like, damn, my pool this not to say it
like that, but just super fine, but has that ever happened?
And then like you get to the bedroom and he
has like a little dick or something or a disappointing.
Dick doesn't have to be Yeah, yeah, I've had that one.

(50:38):
He really was like he really was going hard, thinking
he was doing something, and you were like, I can't
feel it, it's not my Look okay, can we can
we give you this process? But I feel like women
all right the best man because we really you still
went through with it, right, you still want the performance

(51:04):
like a global like the Academy Award or something. Quitter
that Dick goes off a certain bitches. Yeah, we gotta
just finish it out. We have not fair. There's a job.
We gotta tax somebody next time. Well what about your

(51:25):
first orgasm? Like, I don't know how to say orgasm, Um,
I just really enjoy nothing. I don't know. I think
that's the not the orgasm the same. No, I don't think.
Well if you time, I like from getting like funk
that did not happen. It's it's not been that good
from that. I just the first time was like bottom
in the not consent kind of so not great. Um,

(51:49):
when I actually enjoy sex a different way, completely coherent
and in a more preferred position, it was a much
better time. What's your favorite position? Um? With which one Um,
this is lazy. It's nice to be roaded. Um yeah
that way to be road. Someone ride and that means

(52:10):
your bottom No, no, no, no, yeah, Um, I'm just
picturing it all side. No, I don't know. It's like
when we ride, we all sitting here trying to picture like,
oh okay, okay, we're not like looking at me like

(52:30):
the other way. That's my favorite. But I do enjoy
it as a It's like an extra Sometimes it's nice
and then I have to like look and make that connects.
You just want to actually enjoy the act. So yeah,
but you like the look, you don't like the look? No,
not all the time. Sometime just like turn around and
just you're still not okay with sex. I feel like, yeah,

(52:50):
I don't want to look at anybody. No, I'm still no,
I'm still I like sex. It's the intimacy part. Yes,
that's what we'll work out through therapy. Yeah, because when
I didn't actually answer your piggyback question, like my parents
are not the best example of marriage. So I'm working
through the thing where I realized that sometimes I would
think that actually entering like a relationship probably could be

(53:13):
more harmful to you sometimes especially if you have like
certain dreams and something you want to accomplish. I think
it's my parents as two people who did not want
to get married and being a family, and they didn't
separate large because my mom didn't want to be on welfare.
And so I find like in these very yes and
this very difficult situation where like I feel like sometimes
like you might be with somebody, might even care about them,

(53:33):
but the circumstances kind of just broke that up. And
so and every time that I've gotten close to somebody
on that level, it hasn't it as it hasn't worked
out with like the sex parter like this or something
that happened. So yes, I like the intimacy part. I'm
still working through trying to actually just find that connection
and enjoy it. But I can at least enjoy the
act now during sex, even I'm not a big crier.

(53:58):
Um No, my ideal for years look like my adeal
sex like sex is like I'm actually in love with
the person that I'm with and we're like it'll be
that way. Like I'm low key kind of like a yes.
So that hasn't really happened for me in the gender

(54:21):
neutral way. How are you going to ever get that?
So we're what I mean was like I haven't gotten that,
so I can. I can at least enjoy the nuts,
like the physical thing, because that was me overcoming my
pair of intimacy about like don of aids and all
that kind of stuff. Now I'm just kind of get
like I actually can make a connection with somebody and
enjoy it the way that I were like more ideal

(54:43):
with like a partner, and I meanwhile, I can enjoy
like the act itself. So that's why I'm like, you
can turn around and do that because I don't really
like to like that I did once, Um, but no,
it's just it's more like a passionate thing. Me. That's
just just that sweat and it just yes, one of

(55:04):
a passionated know but what made you cry? Like what
was that like emotion that brong? Like how because of
the person that I was with that I was mentioned earlier,
it was just like, oh my gosh, this is happening
because we had these feelings for each other, but it
was just like unspoken. So finally this was our first
time together. It was like real magical, just some TV
and it's like it was like some TV shows like

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Whispering in My Ear. It just felt so like it
just it felt so unreal. So I was like, well,
I didn't it work out with him? Right? He's not
like French Charming because he was a home he took
a lot of the stuffs in the ear. But but
he made you feel special when he was with you.

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Oh my gosh. Really what about threesome? Have you ever
had a threesome? I'm not there yet. I didn't share
it yet. Now, yeah, I'm not had a three you like, no,
not know the one. I have not had a three.
So like what if like you would never like once
say you're married. I can't say never say never. I

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don't know what the future, um, what's to come in
the future. But just I haven't had it yet, just
like I'm not. I gotta be in a full situation
where I have fully comfortable and we're there. I haven't
gotten to a relationship aspect where it's just like we've
ever discussed that. Like, so, have you ever had a
situation where you've been with the same person for a while? Right,

(56:32):
And y'all want to spice things up a little bit,
what's one thing or a couple of things that y'all
would do to kind of spice it up a little bit,
like with some point is we could give some people, Um,
I'm probably threesomes because I feel like a lot of
people go to threesomes as like that thing to do,
you know, you know in l A, we got this,

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we got the stores, define, we have things for you,
definitely have things for the bedroom. And my birthday shout
out to my friend CC. She gave me the most
I don't want to say ridiculous with sexual toys and everything.
Like I was like, oh, yeah, this is a holster,
this is a dick lock. This is you know what

(57:17):
that it's to lock his like to lock his dick from.
It's just a whole it's a whole thing you put
the lock. We gotta get you know, is okay, It's
basically it's why do you lock a dick? It's basically
this harness thing that you put over you put you're
supposed to put over the dick, like you can keep

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on it, you can keep the key to chastity belt.
I'm sorry particular Bay noting, but that's more for like
women back in the day they used to do. But
it's it's for it's for him, Like she just gave
me the most random things. She's like, she's you need

(58:00):
to get into packages are still closed, but we're gonna
We're gonna get into them. I'm cleaning in my house
Saturday that I found all times. Should I've never used,

(58:20):
like I have this Diry dices. Anybody ever used the
dice where you're we all got dice. That was like
one of the first things I bought, like just yeah,
I got I got the dice. And then back in
the day, like my first kid, I'm on Marion sent
out a kid and then Candy sends out kids get stuff.

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So I should be waiting for them to update me.
Just set me up in the hood. Just set me
up in the bill. Keep it right there. Explain the
dice to the confused game man, what are the dis
like two dice? It's like and you roll, it'd be
like licks on one of them to be like lick
touched whatever deal and then then a body part. Oh yeah,

(59:04):
so you like shake them up group. I hope you
get embarrassed to try to bring up something you want
to try with somebody you're with, Like I want to
try this, but I don't know how to bring it up. Yeah,

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and I don't know how to bring it up. Bring
it up, someone to do it with? What do you
want to do? Uh? No, I'm actually the sex part
stuff is like it's well, I want to achieve like
the R and B version of what I think. I'm
not really a good home I'm just nasty that I
actually I'm really into Okay, what makes you what's nasty? Uh?

(59:51):
If I'm gonna I like to do with like honey,
I like treats the sex. I don't know what sex
shop somebody brought me to, but it was something as
you wrapped around it around. No, it was like a
dick roll up kind of like that. Yeah, that was
a good time you roll up. It reminded me of
my youth. Um, that was fun. But yeah, I guess

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it has been four years. I told you I'm gonna
suck a dick for you in two thousand. You're looking
for a trainer, right, I'm gonna tell you right now,
sucking dick with honey. But time and anytime that you
initiated something that you wanted to try in the bedroom

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that was like a little different, a little freaky. I'll
introduce it like when you're in the process of like
heated sex and then it's just like, oh do this,
do this, like this, or I feel like I'm giving
too much. Um, you know, I like places, if that
makes sense. Sometimes a bedroom was crazy, but like the balcony,

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and like I like a nice view, you know, not
necessarily an audience, but yeah, I want my environment to
be the audience. So like nice patio, just a nice view.
What if you notice somebody watching you but from far,
like they don't have no camera, no nothing, and they're
just watching, like on the balcony. Depends on keep going.

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I'm put on the before many I'm living. I'm living
my best. What about you Malibu being in a relationship,
you know the same thing that she said, It was
different places, Like I didn't give my head in a
cab before, Like so before he was crossing that special experience.

(01:01:54):
You don't have the cab driver watching okay, you know,
you know the cab that had that big clastic thing
over face. So we were good. But no, we was
in traffic. Actually when we had when I just hopped
on them and had sex, it was in traffic. Just
the we have the turtle top things. That's different still

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we got we still got the rock and just see
possible because the cat feel like they you can't hide
in a cab. But that's still kinky. Yeah, like you know,
they barely know English half the time. That time a

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little bit. We had cameras in there now too, Yes,
the watch it later. I would be so nervous. I
don't know that I could do that. That's the whole
chinky part of what about in the elevator? That he
always felt like it's too short? What quickie is that?

(01:03:01):
Like I don't even want it. I mean once you
start kissing or just like start touching some stuff, now
that'until Yeah, that's how you like the ANTICTI patient to
getting into the room or whatever. But doing that offices
and stuff like office buildings, and I'm like, I haven't
done nothing. I'm not big enough. That's not I mean,
the elevator is not long enough ride me personally, but

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some people you can start between floors and stuff like that,
and then you end up stuck in the elevator for
the rest of the day. And that little quickie with
it just seems like a mission in itself. So what
about in about public bathroom? Yeah, ely I would be
down after the club. He's at your nigga, you're not drunk,
you get popping in the bathroom? Yeah, I never. I

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never got that far in to the bathroom. One of
my home girls had sex in the bathmatical get her
because you say, excuse me, mid pomp. No, she was
drunk as hell, and so she had texted me. Happened.
She had texted me and it was somebody she was dating.
She had texted me and was like, Yo, I'm too
junk to John, can you come get me. I was

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at home in bed with my dude at the time.
I was like, I gotta go get my friend. She's drunk,
right because I don't know what was going on. So
I get to the restaurant and I'm like, I'm looking
for my friend. There was no one else in there.
It was like about to close. She was like, yeah,
she's in the bathroom. It's not cool. You need to
go get her. And I was like, oh, ship, now
I'm knocking on the door. She came out and she

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was like, hey, not cool the way I swear to guy.
She was like, it's not cool. Okay, you need to
get her. And I was like, all right, I mean,
I think that's cool. What are some other places that
we could try besides the car, the bathroom, a cab.
I think, yeah, that's pretty much a lot of places.
I asked sex a woman or a park on the

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slide you know how the slide kid came and was
like it was like it was like no, like they
just slit in the custan. What's that? Oh my god,

(01:05:17):
I feel bad. I read the park. I definitely had
sex in the park when I was younger. To the
pool obviously, but that ship is whack ex because you
don't want mutter in your vagina yea, and then it doesn't.
You don't. It's there, and you don't really like if
you feel something, but you don't really feel nothing like

(01:05:40):
I'm like a before the ocean though, definitely getting on
salt water and that's over here. That's an affection. That's
the same, bachel. I see you. I was gonna say,
I can't swim. I thought I have done things in
the public in the restaroom, but public bathrooms are discussed
and especially like to natives, but in New York it's like,

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but you have to touch anything, Yeah, just smell. Every
time I go into a public bathroom, particularly in the city,
I lose a little bit of faith in humanity. It
depends on the public bathroom you're going to. Like in
a certain restaurants, obviously you're the nicest place I'm like
to like. But in a real nice restaurant, you got

(01:06:25):
your whole own ship. Yeah, kind of just like you're good.
But like if it's it depends if you at forty forty,
you gotta be careful. You got that's a that's a
unisex bathroom there, so they'd be sucking up a notion.
Sorry what you have, but you have a lot of
privacy in those bathrooms. You do have privacy in the bathroom,
but everybody's weal getting in and out of them. I

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would be too scared to get caught for some ship
like that. I just depend like how many people around?
How late is it? Is it a place I wouldn't
want to do it as a place I go to
a lot, even it's gonna be like some place I
don't really be at like that, you know, Yeah, they're
gonna be like Angela wasn't here. Fucking you guys feel

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like there's somebody that you dated before they got away,
Like if I could go back in time. He would
have been good. I shouldn't have sucked up. No, you
g that mad quick. There's only one person I was like,
we didn't get today, but the one I said, I
would say, because everyone else know, I'm realizing this is parking.
Know that, like everything was supposed to happen for a reason.

(01:07:30):
You learn something from that, or you don't learn anything.
You just move on. Does a significant other know that
you would do that? I don't have one, So I said,
he don't have one? Um, I thought you said he
was in a relationship. I said it was unavailable. Unavailable? Yeah,
not available to me? Yeah? What does that? That would
give it away? But he's not available to me? Uh yeah,

(01:07:58):
I think that would be a problem. I have somebody,
but then you cross that ridgim you get to it.
Um as him? Now, No, that'll be all right. I'm single, Karen.
Is anybody who got away from you that you feel
like you wish you could go back in time? No? No, No,
they're probably thinking that. But for me on this side, No,
did you ever sunk up a relationship and feel like

(01:08:20):
this was my fault? Yeah? I definitely did. My my
first relationship, I definitely funked up. But then he combatd
but sucking up too, so he let my funk up
be the reason, like, oh you was working up, so
now I got to do it too. But um I
look at him now, I'm like, I'm good. Dodge the bullets. Yeah,

(01:08:41):
I'm like that was a good thing on mine. I
do be looking at something of my ex is like,
thank god, yeah that was that. I'm like, yeah, really
texted you know that? She laughs like, bitch, clown the cloudship.
And I'll put and she's like clown. Bit like it.

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She'll tell me all dollar like nah, don't talk to him,
and then we end up talking to the motherfucker anywhere.
We'll go look at this clim We end up we
knew what the funk we were doing. You're always in
retrospect when you look back at how you was going
crazy over somebody, and then you look back at the
when you're in the middle of it, you're like, oh
my god, I'm gonna die now. You won't even pick

(01:09:29):
up the phone for that, were like, I'm good. I
think I don't even have my fing number. When you
get to that point finally, when you're like thank god, yeah,
you we up ones that you were Oh yeah, I
just love that feeling. You just don't even think about it,
like their presence don't even matter. Now we all say
new Year Knew Me? What are some things for nineteen

(01:09:53):
sexually that you feel like you want to improve on
or try that you haven't done? Sucking? Apparently he's getting
can you tell me right after your second dick? I
want to come, like on your face, you know you
got to. I'll give you an update, probably not on

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that time, or just text or something. Just text the
egg plant and next to it. Alright. So second for you, Michael,
what about you can what are some things in the
new year that you feel like New Year knew Me? Sexual?
Just just experienced this period. Um, just experience this period

(01:10:43):
getting older. So I'm I actually enjoyed way more now.
I'm so much more into my body and just and
things like that. So it's just experienced this period a
lot of things. I was just doing a lot of
basic ship right So now recently I'm like, oh you
just sex and I was like, I literally want I
turned into portion, Like what's that specific? And it's homework

(01:11:08):
for you that you haven't done that you feel like
you need to try. I'll be feeling like if I
say that you got to do it something that you
haven't done that you want to do though, it don't
matter who is with um I need to get into
the squirting thing. Okay, yeah, so you've never scored it.
I haven't squirted it never either. It's the guy, not yours.

(01:11:33):
I don't feel they say every woman can square. I
don't know if that's even like a square. It's the
guy that has to make you squirt. Okay, expert over here,
because I wasn't excuse me, I'm not like a squirter,
but like certain person or people whatever you know, I'm
don't worry about many can make you squirt, like and

(01:11:54):
it just is it Sometimes it's just like how their
dick is shaped with your ship to like because it's
a spot that and then yeah so they got it
like research. Okay, so squirting for Karen. When you square,
I also need you to hit me up, okay picture

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yeah what about you? Um So I always talk about
like I don't use toys or anything, and maybe i'd
like to introduce dick locks and I sound like a
fun toys like you pure and where your right right?

(01:12:50):
But yeah, I like that, like maybe like toys and
you didn't get the womanizer. What's that? Okay, we'll get
you that on that'd be good if you're trusting you
was masturbating at three, so yeah, yeah, but I would
be great for you. Yeah. I mean even in the

(01:13:11):
bedroom though, like not just for myself, like some kind
of like a cock ring. I've never used that, like
well not me, but I've never had like the guy
you that. Like, I don't know anything about any toys.
Like actually, Angela gave her little niece whip and she
would not put it down and she had it with

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her and I'm just like, you know, I just keep it. Yes,
she with their little feathers on the end of level
and we were in a restaurant and she wouldn't put
it down and try to think she was going crazy.
I was like, I hope no one knows what this is.
She showed like someone chicken. Alright, So choice for you.

(01:14:03):
I actually have a cock ring for you. Where you
come to l A, we gotta go to the butt plug.
Oh my god, oh wait no, no, no other pugs.
The butt thing is hard for me. I have to
be really drunk and it has to be with somebody
I really really want to like have in my butt.
You don't have to necessarily use it, but just to

(01:14:24):
have it. So you use the butt plug before. I
haven't used it, but to have one, to just have
certain things just like and I tried. I first of all,
I've never done you know, and I wanted to, so
appointing started telling me, like what they do is they
put the butt plug in before they do the scene
and stretches it out. It makes it easier. So I
was like, Okay, I'm gonna try it. So I got yeah,
k Y would be great, and um, you put the

(01:14:47):
butt plug in. You're supposed to like let's sit, you know,
just relax with the butt plug in. And how did
you fail? It felt weird like I had to ship. Yeah,
I should have got choking and put it in. Would
have been up already there. And I think, you know,
like I thought too hard about it, Like I wanted
to do it, but I was trying too hard. You
gotta relt My butt was like just closed off. Yes,

(01:15:11):
your but knew that you weren't ready for that pain
was like what were doing was like what about you? Man? Went,
what are you going to do. I didn't allay, so
I didn't know sex toys was like a thing. So

(01:15:33):
clearly I need to go get my nigga baby over there.
You get again. No, but yeah, chack on toys and
I wanna I want to go, oh see Moore, I
want to go out of the country more. You know,
we just want to Jamaica. So I thought that was
nan let and you know, so I want to probably
travel more to get my sex up there. Like traveling

(01:15:57):
like that. There's a lot of pressure because you feel
when you travel you're supposed to have like great sex. No,
just get drunk and I'll fool like that, like, you know,
get drunk, ran to well, Mike, it's gonna get drunk.

(01:16:24):
You get some honey jack. No, I just know, no props.
I have a bonus. If it helps, I would I
could try public sex again kind of better circumstances. I'll
text you about that one too. Gonna start with dick
and walk away up public. But listen, I want to

(01:16:46):
thank you all for coming through, you know, thank you
New Year. We got a lot of things that we
need to work on. I think what's important is sometimes
people feel like talking about sex is like so taboo,
but I think it's important for us to do it
like in this type of positive environment. But we can
have fun sex. It's fun, you know, So I don't
want people to feel like, oh, you're loosening me up. Yes, well,

(01:17:22):
I'm glad I could be there for you. But yeah,
I think somebody said to me one time, like, it's
hard for me to like, say, to defend certain things
because you have a show called lip service, and the
show is not about being like disrespectful to women at all,
you know, or to men or to anybody. It's really
for us to just talk about sex. It's so important
to have these conversations because there's a lot of things

(01:17:43):
that people might feel weird about themselves that they do
and not have anywhere to talk about it or discuss
those things, and a lot of things that we want
to try. So we try to be educational, right, and
that never gives anybody like the right to feel like
they could talk to you or disrespect you in a
different kind of way. Just because you're open about just sexuality,
that's crazy to me. You should be able to express

(01:18:03):
that with no problem. So with that being said, second,
funk who you want, but crazy and I got a problem.
I receive that received alright left service. Thank youuys so

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much