Episode 423: Relationship Deposits (Feat. Cocktales Dirty Discussions)

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
What's up a slip service.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
I'm into the ye.

Speaker 3 (00:04):
I'm Maguire, I'm Stephanie Santiago.

Speaker 1 (00:07):
Oh and I'm Kiki set So Gina Monroe and we're
in cocktail.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Okay, we're ready to have some dirty discussions now. Listen.
I saw somewhere where y'all said, well, you know, we're
trying to, you know, tame it down and clean up
your act. That's just her, you know what.

Speaker 4 (00:22):
I keep slipping and failing because I'll be trying and
she's like, what I think about it might not be
that clean.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Okay, all right, fair enough turned down for what I know.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
I'm both of y'all just have birthdays too, Yeah, oh wow,
have youthday.

Speaker 3 (00:39):
Or Virgo and Nebro Virgo.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
And Libro though, because I'm on the cuts. Yeah, so
you steel you're Virgo again, that's cud. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
So first of all, I love that you guys are
in New York and I know you had said you
were going to start taking the train and you did.

Speaker 5 (00:55):
Yes, you did, I did, he said, you did.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
I've done the train in New York before, and I
went to Howard and so when I was at Howard,
I used to train all the time. I don't like
being down there under there with the turtles and the
rats and the people could Yeah, that's what I was
thinking about.

Speaker 4 (01:14):
I'm super excited to be here in New York kicking
off our third tour. We were at Sony Hall last
night and it was a flood but exciting.

Speaker 1 (01:23):
Well still made it out.

Speaker 6 (01:24):
I was surprised, and that's the ready show up.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
That's dedication. And I know I'm sure some people couldn't
because you couldn't even get an uber the train was
shut down. But like I was saying, that's memorable for
the people who were there to be like remember when
they had that big flood and right, and.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
Y'all still came out to listen to talk whole shit,
Like it's amazing.

Speaker 2 (01:43):
It's so funny to me because I think, like the
way we started lip service and then what you guys
do with cocktails, people sometimes have like a judgment against
depending on who it is, you know, some people love
it and then some people be like why is that
all y'all talk about? Like we talk about a lot.

Speaker 5 (01:58):
Of never going to get married, who would ever want
to watch people net?

Speaker 6 (02:04):
Well, how do you think you got here?

Speaker 7 (02:05):
Girl?

Speaker 2 (02:06):
Right?

Speaker 1 (02:06):
You got here seven.

Speaker 6 (02:08):
It's like when Bag and your dad okay and he's
slipped up, and.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
It's like, this is a show, and we do talk
about sex. So if you want to watch something else
or listen to something else, there's plenty of other shows.
There's millions of podcasts out there, change it. You don't
have to listen to us.

Speaker 6 (02:23):
Why do y'all think that people feel so shameful when
it comes to sex.

Speaker 1 (02:27):
I don't know. I try to figure that out. It's like,
what is it? It's just like something that people have
been taught for so long, but it's crazy because people
have to have sex for society to continue. So it's like,
why why be ashamed of finding pleasure and happiness in
sex and exploring it and figuring out what you like?
What's wrong with that?

Speaker 4 (02:47):
Sometimes I also think it's it's it looks like they
are ashamed of it, but you really are jealous because
you wish that you were having your best blown out.

Speaker 2 (02:57):
It's kind of like when senators have issues but gabe
people in gay marriage but secretly they gay.

Speaker 6 (03:02):
Yeah, exactly, have you got a problem with thee but
you got to see your whole inside?

Speaker 4 (03:08):
You don't know how you want to try some stuff,
and you don't have the confidence to try certain things
or say what you want.

Speaker 2 (03:15):
Let me ask you something because I had thought about this, right,
but everybody talking about AI and things that could happen.
If it was a potential that like, let's just say,
an AI robot could automatically make you like come multiple
or I guess right, let's just say, and they could
you know and see like exactly what you like, how
much your spot is?

Speaker 1 (03:34):
Would you try it?

Speaker 2 (03:35):
Hell?

Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yeah, I use a vibrator like daily, So I mean
that's like the next step I think I would do it.

Speaker 5 (03:41):
I'm not going to really want to give you. Also
really like like what I love most.

Speaker 4 (03:47):
About sex is touching bodies, like feeling all those things
leading up to the orgasm.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
But if he looked real and he was like touching you.

Speaker 6 (03:53):
That's weird.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
Speaking we always I've always.

Speaker 6 (03:58):
Been living in the Jetsons, but I don't want to
live there. For when I.

Speaker 7 (04:02):
Pictured a robot, not that what I was thinking of,
Like an EI intelligence vibrator. It would be like a
vibrator bok like knows you you're like connected to your phone,
you put your finger print or some ship.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
That's what I'm pictured.

Speaker 2 (04:15):
Exactly like squirting today or a regular.

Speaker 5 (04:22):
It's crazy you would try it.

Speaker 1 (04:25):
I would try, but I don't want the one that
looks like a person. I would just want it to
be like a toy, you know, but it just but
not a person. Yeah, more like a vibrator where it
already knows. I don't have to keep pushing the button
to get to the setting that I like, like I
currently have to do.

Speaker 2 (04:39):
It's just program, you know, when you get in the
car and it has automatic setting on the seat.

Speaker 6 (04:46):
Yeah, exactly. I don't know to be onto something.

Speaker 2 (04:52):
With that teating Like if you were with the guy
and he had a robot that could make him do
that and he used it. It was a robot, It
wasn't real person. Would you look at that as cheating?

Speaker 1 (05:02):
The robot looks like a person though, Yes, because why
do you have that? And now wrong?

Speaker 5 (05:07):
Like like who it looked like?

Speaker 1 (05:08):
Right? Is it like your celebrity crushes? It look like
your ex girlfriend, your baby mama.

Speaker 3 (05:17):
It's cheating?

Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah, now none of the timely. Thing that just happened,
And I wanted to get everybody's opinion on this.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
The Travis Kelsey Tailors swift.

Speaker 2 (05:25):
Thing with Maya been Bury right, that's the woman that
he used to date that she is now like warning
till a swift he cheated. You know he's not good.
She's like, I see him talking about this relationship publicly,
and he's a narcissist. And I dated him. I thought
we were going to get married. All of these things.
If you had dated a guy and you felt like
he was terrible, you know as a human being, he

(05:47):
was a narcissist, He did all of those things. Would
you want to warn the next woman or no?

Speaker 4 (05:54):
Because at the end of the day, it's like you
you kind of look like you kind of wanted back.
Still you want to just right, because why do you
It's not your business no more. And I don't know
unless it was something we're like, maybe he was physically abusive.
Maybe then you might warn somebody, But I'm not sure
I would go out of my way to be like,
hey girl, this is what he did to me. Watch out,
we're looking corny. We are old women.

Speaker 1 (06:15):
Yeah, I mean, I mess you vibe I want with
one person is not always You're not always right that
people can be different. He wasn't working with you, and
that's why he did that and sometimes got to let
a sasquatch.

Speaker 6 (06:28):
I mean, sometimes you just gotta let it wreck.

Speaker 2 (06:32):
Sometimes this is personal.

Speaker 6 (06:35):
Yeah, you think you want girl.

Speaker 5 (06:38):
But maybe that focused on you. You're so worried about
trying to mess up with.

Speaker 8 (06:41):
You, you're too worried about trying to be me and
you can't never and you're looking very let's.

Speaker 2 (06:48):
Yeah, that's funny though, because like she's been doing interviews
and everything, and I don't think anybody's like, yes this,
thanks for warning him.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
Everybody's like, girl, like.

Speaker 5 (06:58):
Do you have coming up? Do you have some business?

Speaker 4 (07:01):
But let me ask you all this, have you ever
done that? You know how you always you grow, you grow.
We've all been young and dumb and did some things
we maybe regret. Have you ever done anything like that?
Like I'm going to contact the girl and tell her how.

Speaker 2 (07:12):
Well, I contacted a girl. So my boyfriend, my ex
ex ex boyfriend, cheated on me, and I contacted the
girl's fiance who he cheated with and sent him like
the evidence, so they both got put Yeah, but he
still married her after that. But I just did that
and then I never said nothing else again. And then
he responded like oh, you know, like I could tell you.

(07:35):
You know, I don't know what ended up happening with them,
but I just put it out there and I broke
up with him, So it wasn't like I was gonna
stay with him after that. But I did have a
guy who cheated on me with the girl and then
ended up being with the girl because I broke up
with him, and then kept still trying to talk to me,
but I never contacted her. I actually thought it was
amazing that because I was like, this is what you get, Like,
who knows who else this man is contacting. He ain't shit.

(07:57):
She ended up having a kid with him, and he
still ain't shit, And I think they broke up now,
But I knew it all along. But I would actually
prefer to not tell you because you get what.

Speaker 4 (08:06):
You because sometimes like looking at it with a different eye,
I've done. It wasn't the same exact situation, but there
was a guy I was dealing with and he was
my boyfriend.

Speaker 5 (08:14):
Let him tell it. He wasn't, but he was.

Speaker 4 (08:16):
Anyway, we were supposed to be exclusive with each other
and he was dealing with this other person.

Speaker 5 (08:21):
It ended up coming out on my birthday. He broke
with me. It was really sad.

Speaker 4 (08:24):
I was so and I was I couldn't believe that
he did what he did, and he was like someone
who he would contact my mom, take my mom out
to dinner. He was just doing all these extra things
to show that he was this great man and everybody
was believing him, and I needed people to know you, actually,
he's he is crazy. So I contacted the girl. My
friends found the girl that he had cheated on me with.
I contacted her, not messy, not anything. I was like,

(08:47):
I would love to talk to you because there's some
missing pieces to this puzzle and I just needed to know,
like did she know? He said she knew about me,
and she was okay with being the side chick, but
it just wasn't It didn't feel right. Said, if you
don't want to talk, it's totally fine, but he one Mber,
I would love to talk.

Speaker 5 (09:00):
She ended up calling me.

Speaker 4 (09:01):
We had an amazing conversation and we actually did a
bonus episode on Cocktails with.

Speaker 5 (09:05):
Her and I talked about our experience with this man.

Speaker 4 (09:07):
He ended up doing something really dirty to her, and
she was like, I never knew about you at all.

Speaker 5 (09:11):
That's a lie. He told me you were a family friend.

Speaker 4 (09:13):
A family family friend, And I was just like, I
had to contact the girl because I was just like,
I need to know you.

Speaker 6 (09:25):
You definitely contacted somebody twice.

Speaker 2 (09:29):
I got to know a situation where you did this.
When I standing in the girl and sent her all kinds.

Speaker 1 (09:36):
She's had voice.

Speaker 6 (09:37):
Recording everything because he took you there. But that ain't
even what I thought about. I thought about the other one.

Speaker 8 (09:45):
Oh.

Speaker 6 (09:46):
I thought about the other one because he told her
that we was just friends. See, and you'd be like something,
don't but you got to keep to my house, you
got acquire my garage. Friends, we exchange. I love you.

Speaker 5 (09:57):
Let me tell you the truth.

Speaker 6 (09:58):
We have graw sex. We're friend and it was like
four years we're friend now?

Speaker 2 (10:05):
Were we exclusive?

Speaker 6 (10:05):
Were we ever in a relationship now? But we're just
doing all the relationship shit. We're friends.

Speaker 4 (10:10):
Yeah, yeah, there are some things that push you to
like you playing with me And I'm not even trying
to mess up with y'all got going.

Speaker 5 (10:15):
But I do need you to know I'm not a
family friend.

Speaker 6 (10:18):
So this is why I told her, because he allegedly
came to my city to visit and brought her with him.
And like his whole he moved just different than he
normally did, and I knew something was wrong. And the
reason why he didn't tell me about this girl they
were in a relationship, and the reason why he didn't
tell me is because he knew that I knew her,
and I wouldn't about to do that, Like I'm not
about to be fake smiling this girl face knowing I'm

(10:38):
fucking her. Niggas what I don't know, don't hurt me.
But now that I notice, now I know that that's
your girlfriend, it's right. No, So me and the girl,
we aren't friends, but we know each other. And I
definitely slid in her dms like girl resided into the
picture of them when I knew they were together, like girl.

Speaker 2 (10:54):
A lot of the times when you do that, the girl,
the girl don't leave or nothing.

Speaker 6 (10:57):
She didn't.

Speaker 1 (10:58):
Yeah, they don't leave.

Speaker 6 (10:59):
She told me she was it. Yeah, she told me
she wasn't. And I'm like, well, I'm good.

Speaker 2 (11:03):
Like, have you ever had a girl contact you about
somebody you were dating? You really left this guy alone?
Because she it?

Speaker 7 (11:08):
Never Girls contact me about almost every guy that I dated,
no contact.

Speaker 4 (11:19):
I had a woman contacting me about a guy that
I was in, but I actually did leave him alone
because it was it was crazy, like his at home
situation was horrible, like he was spending all this money
on everything else but his family.

Speaker 5 (11:28):
I didn't know he had a wife.

Speaker 4 (11:29):
I didn't know he had kids well, and it was
just a thing where I was like, I can't do this.

Speaker 5 (11:33):
These guys about his name.

Speaker 6 (11:36):
Oh my god, he just made.

Speaker 4 (11:40):
And she told me he played basketball for some school
in Texas. And when all this started coming out and
this woman kept calling me, we looked up the roster
and I was like, you're not on there. And then
she when I talked to his wife, she was like,
grooms to go. And he does this all the time.
He said his name was Kobe because he loves Kobe Bryant.
That is not that niggas name.

Speaker 1 (11:59):
And I was like, names Kobe and.

Speaker 6 (12:04):
Was Calvin, Wow, still working McDonald's. You can move up
the rooms.

Speaker 2 (12:19):
But you know something interesting you had said before. It
was about like standards, right, and realizing that, like you
have to have higher standards when it comes to who
you're dating. So what made you come to that realization?

Speaker 4 (12:31):
So I don't necessarily think you have to have higher standards.
I think that a lot of women who are in
situations where you don't like how you're being treated, or
you might not.

Speaker 5 (12:39):
Like what types of dates you're going on, you just won't.

Speaker 4 (12:42):
You're dating and you're sad and you don't know why,
and it's because whatever you're attracting, you're attracting.

Speaker 5 (12:47):
That your standards might be low and you just might
not realize you.

Speaker 6 (12:51):
Not have any standards and you need to have had them. Yea,
you have these men some women might.

Speaker 4 (12:58):
Some women be okay, But if you yourself complaining a lot,
then clearly you don't.

Speaker 5 (13:02):
You need to maybe raise up a little bit.

Speaker 1 (13:05):
I think far too often people will just accept whatever
is your lonely or you feel like that's going to
give you some sort of validation to be attached to somebody.
But if you're unhappy and the attachment was the point when.

Speaker 2 (13:17):
You're dating someone, do you recommend that they listen?

Speaker 6 (13:20):
Oh no, wait, what listen to your I was like,
what the stide? I get nervous about it.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
Please don't listen, because.

Speaker 2 (13:28):
It can help them understand you better too.

Speaker 5 (13:31):
You're talking drinking tequiba, something might come out. They just
was loose.

Speaker 6 (13:35):
Lipped and I just told the man he might learn
a little thing or two about watching lip services going
to come to me because I'm open book watch.

Speaker 1 (13:42):
Lip service, don't watch listen to other women. But it's
it's kind of like unfair too, because it's like you
can hear all of these things and I'm just having
a conversation with my friends and I'm speaking very raw
and honest, and then you're listening to that, but then
you get mad about you figure it out, or you're
questioning certain situations that have happened with me and somebody

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else and I never you would never would have known,
And it's not your business. It has nothing to do
with you. It wasn't during the time that I was
dealing with you. And there's nowhere that I can go
and hear all these things about you, like I'm not.

Speaker 6 (14:13):
Reading a diary, and it's like a guy that you're
talking about them, but you're talking about somebody else.

Speaker 3 (14:18):
Right, And you're a good person for even explaining it
like that.

Speaker 7 (14:21):
I just be telling them, like listen, I'm lying, I'm lie.

Speaker 3 (14:26):
Lies the whole time. Why are you listening to.

Speaker 6 (14:29):
But you know, and even when.

Speaker 7 (14:33):
I'm so mad, I've had problems in every single relationship
I've been in since I've done this show, every relationship
I've been in, they have a problem with me being
on this show.

Speaker 5 (14:42):
What is their problem?

Speaker 6 (14:43):
Their problem is that.

Speaker 7 (14:44):
I'm sitting on the show talking about having sex next
to celeries.

Speaker 3 (14:51):
Yeah, next to men.

Speaker 2 (14:54):
What if a guy you were dating was had his
own show and was like talking about.

Speaker 4 (15:00):
I'm I would never date somebody who's doing this, that's
what you think I think I could Like. There have
been times when like, wait, cute, and I'm like, I
don't think we should both be in the same industry
doing this.

Speaker 5 (15:11):
It's like, really, I don't think I might.

Speaker 2 (15:13):
Make it kind of fun. Then you'll end up doing
a couple of little cross marketing episodes.

Speaker 4 (15:18):
Then we break up and everybody's now everybody's talking about it.

Speaker 7 (15:21):
Yeah, I didn't know if you show like this will
definitely bring out the insecurities and a man, But.

Speaker 2 (15:27):
What to like for you if your man was doing
a podcast that I think.

Speaker 5 (15:31):
It's more acceptable for me because I do.

Speaker 4 (15:33):
I don't think I would be upset. I understand this
is a job, especially when you take it to certain levels.
It's like, I actually commend you for taking talking about
fucking to a level of success.

Speaker 5 (15:44):
Yeah, I love that. That's amazing. I don't need to
listen to I.

Speaker 7 (15:48):
Never thought about getting a guy who's on a podcast,
but maybe I need that because then he can understand
my life, like be.

Speaker 6 (15:54):
Like I'm lying to and exactly and you hear me exactly.

Speaker 7 (15:58):
But like literally, we do the show, Angel and you
know this, are sitting in the corner, like all the
way in the corner, and then as soon as we're done,
I run out the door. It's just not this is
a fact for years.

Speaker 2 (16:10):
Sometimes you might get some flowers or something. Okay, would you.

Speaker 5 (16:15):
Didn't come to your.

Speaker 1 (16:16):
Life showing.

Speaker 4 (16:25):
The live show?

Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah, yeah, I've.

Speaker 6 (16:28):
Invited I don't care a guy to come like here incident,
but it hasn't happened.

Speaker 1 (16:34):
But as a matter, that's ex.

Speaker 2 (16:35):
Boyfriend wanted her to do this show when I first started.
He was like, that's how when I first started this,
I I met because I knew her ex. And then
he was like, I went, you know, let's let's put
G on there.

Speaker 1 (16:48):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (16:49):
I'm like, okay, I'm cool with that. And I was like,
but if you all break up, I don't want to
hear and I was like, no, no, blah blah blah.
And then Stephanie I met through Sean Malcolm. Yes, it
used to be the editor in chief of King Magazine,
and I was like, who else do you think would
be good? So that's how and that's from the first episode.

Speaker 1 (17:08):
Yea, we are.

Speaker 3 (17:12):
Yeah relations.

Speaker 4 (17:17):
But I also wanted to add in about like men
having a problem with women that do shows like this.
I do think if you meet somebody that you really
do care about the concern I do understand the concerns.
It's like we are I don't know about y'all, But
sometimes Keik and I really go there to some of
the levels, like I could see where somebody would see
this floating around on a clip, or maybe their sister
sees it or their mom, and they want to talk

(17:38):
to you about certain things. If I really care about
you and I respect you, I'm okay with discussing certain things.

Speaker 2 (17:43):
Right.

Speaker 4 (17:44):
It's not I don't always look at it like you're insecure.
It's like my booty hall is cussing you.

Speaker 1 (17:49):
Want to talk.

Speaker 6 (17:50):
I agree with that, you know what I meant to me.

Speaker 2 (17:56):
But at the end of the day, we usually speak
about experiences, which we know is the pay right, and
then we speak about just likes and you know, needs
once and things that we're interested in educational and it's
very education So why down me for expressing. But you're
right about the fact that a clip that circulates online.

Speaker 4 (18:16):
That when we're putting the show together, they don't know
if it's a lie or not. So you know, if
it's somebody that you want to be in a you're
in a serious relationship with, I'm just saying it doesn't
have to be an argument if they were just like,
can we talk about it?

Speaker 5 (18:30):
Because I do kind of want to. When did happen?

Speaker 2 (18:33):
Are you at the and your relationships?

Speaker 6 (18:37):
Right?

Speaker 2 (18:37):
Mediki? Who's more of the I need to talk? Can
we talk about this person?

Speaker 1 (18:42):
You are? Usually okay?

Speaker 8 (18:45):
Wait, can we talk about our issue which is more
likely to be like, you know, can we talk Can
we talk about this like the disgusting Yeah, me.

Speaker 4 (18:57):
In our relationship our relationship with men, but men, oh
me and my boyfriend are both like that. And say,
because I told myself the next relationship I was in,
I really wanted to aim for healthy relationships and for that,
it's a lot of communication. A lot of communication around
things that you didn't even think was going to have
to be an issue. And so like we do therapy.
We're not married, but that's the goal, but it's like

(19:19):
we communication is really important to me and to him.

Speaker 5 (19:22):
So we both are constantly like, do we.

Speaker 4 (19:24):
Need to talk about that? Do we take that joke
too far? Did you get upset the way I had? Like,
I just want to make sure we're good. A lot
of times in relationships, people just harbor on feelings and
it might be small, but now that's growing.

Speaker 3 (19:34):
And you mad.

Speaker 2 (19:35):
So that's something you learned because you didn't do that
in your previous relationship.

Speaker 5 (19:39):
I didn't do it a lot.

Speaker 4 (19:40):
It would be something small that bothered me, and I'm
just like, I'm not gonna bring it up because this
is stupid.

Speaker 6 (19:44):
But at least that's everything.

Speaker 5 (19:45):
Yeah, we need to talk about everything. Why do you
keep no?

Speaker 2 (19:49):
For me?

Speaker 1 (19:49):
It's usually they're bringing an issue to me, and I'm
okay with talking about it if it's going to be
a discussion. But what I don't like is when somebody's
like just running down a list of all the things
that you're not doing right because you chose to hold
on to it, I'm okay with talking about it, And
I find that usually I'm okay with a lot more
things than he is, and so he's usually the one

(20:10):
and it's usually the show that's a big part of it.
And it's like when I say something. I also don't
like repeating myself too many times. So if I've brought
up an issue, I'll bring it up if it's an issue,
and if I bring it up three times after that,
well I'm moving on. Ran Yeah, I don't like doing
that because I feel like, Okay, we're doing all of
this talking, but we're talking in circles. Why do we
need to keep having a discussion about the same issue.

(20:32):
And the things that I'm asking for that I'm bringing
up is not a big deal. Like a guy I
was seeing recently something was I was like, you keep
trying to do like these big, grand things for me,
and I never asked that. I don't know if my
friends are putting that in your ear. I don't know
if you're spending too much time on Instagram. I literally
need you to help me with little things, like on
a daily basis, like take some of the load off

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of me. I have a lot to do every day,
if you could do like something small. You're at my
house and you see I did some laundry and the
towels aren't folded.

Speaker 6 (21:03):
Fold them right, Okay. It's very simple.

Speaker 1 (21:05):
And it's like if I'm saying, if I brought this
up to you already, and I've said it three times now,
don't be mad when I'm done, But.

Speaker 2 (21:13):
They wouldn't be over just you don't like the big
grand gestures like.

Speaker 1 (21:16):
I don't mind them. But it's like the grand gesture
doesn't make me forget that you won't do the small
thing that I actually ask for, okay, Because it's the
little things that really matter. It's the little things that
make me appreciate somebody and make somebody stand out, then
the big stuff, because the big stuff, while it might
be pricier to me, that's easier, it takes It's very
easy to spend money, it's so much easier to do that.

(21:38):
It takes time. That's why I didn't fold the damn towels.
So can you help me out now, you know?

Speaker 2 (21:42):
Would you say that in your experience in relationships, opposites
attract or you like somebody that's similar to you.

Speaker 4 (21:51):
For me, I think it depends on at the moment,
like what I'm dating for. Because now since a little
bit more serious and I want a family and I
want a husband, I look at those family values. So
it's like, I like, I needn't opposite. Yeah, it can't
be opposite. It needs to be like we have this
at our core. We want the same things for kids,
we want the same thing for a household.

Speaker 5 (22:13):
That's really important.

Speaker 4 (22:14):
A lot of times I look at people's relationships now,
and that's normally like where people end up falling out
over things. It's like like core values, core values, or
it's like you're looking at somebody it's like could you
be the could you be somebody's father?

Speaker 5 (22:29):
Because I'm like, oh.

Speaker 6 (22:30):
My god, oh my god, what doing single.

Speaker 3 (22:37):
Baby like?

Speaker 5 (22:39):
And that's your dad, Yetta, tell my kids that's.

Speaker 2 (22:40):
Your dad, your daddy's face on this child.

Speaker 1 (22:46):
Day. I like somebody who kind of balances me out.
So maybe where I'm weak at you can be good
at that. But we do need to have a lot
of similarities. Okay, I think that having somebody that's laid back.
I've dated guys who want to go go all the time.
I don't like that you're gonna annoy me and be stressed.
I don't want to do stuff all the time. I
like being able to be comfortable around somebody enough where

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we can just be at home and chill. Sometimes everything
doesn't have to be a party, it doesn't have to
be a big day, it doesn't have to be all
of that.

Speaker 6 (23:14):
Like, can I actually enjoy your company without all of the.

Speaker 1 (23:17):
Things at it? Because if it's all about these experience,
I can do that with somebody else. It's not really
about you.

Speaker 5 (23:23):
Then, so that's not really real life.

Speaker 4 (23:26):
Instagram will really have you creating a whole dream life
that is not your real life. To be with somebody
married and every day we find the turks. There's gonna
be some days where we are just having a normal life.

Speaker 5 (23:36):
We're going to the grocery store right.

Speaker 1 (23:40):
To do that.

Speaker 4 (23:42):
The makeup is gone, lashes ain't done. Ray can we
sit down and be regular?

Speaker 2 (23:46):
And sometimes people relationships look so perfect and then you
find out they get a divorce, like they put up
stuff and it's like this is amazing this person And
the next thing you know is like what the fuck happens?

Speaker 5 (23:59):
Because everybody some shit going on, even healthy relationships.

Speaker 4 (24:01):
Everybody has there's like an underlying continuous argument about something.
You either learn how to work it out or you
get the people where it's like we've been faking it
for too long and we got to let this go.

Speaker 2 (24:11):
Have you ever argued about sex in a relationship, like
not enough sex or not like being able to orgasm
or not like has that ever been a situation?

Speaker 5 (24:22):
I had an argument in one of them.

Speaker 4 (24:24):
I wouldn't say an argument, but it was an uncomfortable talk,
like all the time, to the point where I just
ended up. I was like, I'm just not going to
be having sex with you. And we lived in the.

Speaker 3 (24:33):
Same and.

Speaker 5 (24:37):
I was going to say so much was the issue.

Speaker 4 (24:39):
It was just I started I wasn't attracted to him anymore,
and I feel so bad. But again, these are some
of those conversations you have to have them. I was like,
I don't want to offend anybody, and this was my situation.

Speaker 5 (24:50):
He had just gained entirely too much weight.

Speaker 4 (24:52):
I'm like, I'm dying under here, like I can't even
he's sweat dripping sweat in my nose.

Speaker 6 (24:58):
This is sweat dripped in I'm trying.

Speaker 5 (25:01):
Here, but it's like I can't do this anymore, like,
do you know who? I could be fucking like? I
didn't say that, but it was just like, yeah, you.

Speaker 4 (25:12):
Don't say mean things, but there were moments where it
doesn't seem like you like it. I was like, I don't,
I'm sorry, and I felt so could be a great guy.
But the sex part just wasn't.

Speaker 2 (25:21):
Was he just eating too like had it? Or was
there anything going on?

Speaker 1 (25:25):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (25:26):
I do think there was maybe like some depression going on.
He had been through a lot in life, but that
was another and nothing. You don't have to go through
those things with people like this sounds really hard somebody
listening to bitch is real. But I just at the
moment in my life, I wasn't the I'm not I
didn't love him enough to be like I'm gonna rock
this out with you.

Speaker 5 (25:42):
I don't want to. I was young and happy and
free and like, I don't really want.

Speaker 1 (25:46):
To be a professional. Like you're not profession you're not
the lady. Okay, you need to go talk to the
lady because what can you really do? And then that's
just gonna bring you down that herd.

Speaker 2 (25:57):
That's a burden when somebody is not happy. I told you,
I dated this guy and he lost his job and
it was kind of early on and he was so
depressed and like angry all the time, and I was like,
I can't do this. I would do I was like,
cause it's one thing if like you fall in some
hard times, but you're working on it and at least
we're still having a good time. But he was not

(26:18):
fun at all. I mean it was every time I
was around him, it was like my spirit was like, yeah,
And it's one thing.

Speaker 4 (26:24):
Also when you I think that's when you also realize
that I don't really care about you. I care about you,
but I don't care about you enough to want to
do these things. Because I could see it where it's
like you love somebody to the point where.

Speaker 5 (26:36):
Will you will go?

Speaker 1 (26:39):
But then it's like it's the thing gonna get thinner
and thinner? Is it ever gonna get back thick? Because
sometimes I think that people like to just stay in
that place or they won't do the things that they
need to do to get out of it. And it's like,
how long do you expect me to ride?

Speaker 6 (26:53):
Yeah, while you're like this.

Speaker 4 (26:54):
If you're not going to anything trying to But I
also you've got to try those types of so people
they show you that they don't fix problems before you
marry them, Like, there are so many different signs. Whe're like,
we already know if we probably if you go through
some hardshap when we get married, you've been not accomplishing anything,
So you don't be shocked when he fall on hard
You still married and you still continue to do this

(27:15):
relationship him and you saw him not checking off not
nam boxes.

Speaker 1 (27:20):
Yeah, I can't do it, okay.

Speaker 2 (27:21):
So how important is sex in a relationship?

Speaker 1 (27:23):
Very okay, I mean it's not the most important, but
it's very important.

Speaker 2 (27:27):
You know, they act like women like we're not. You know,
that's always secondary to us. Have you ever been with
somebody who you only like them because of sex?

Speaker 7 (27:35):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (27:35):
Yeah? To me, sex is like the easiest part of
the relationship.

Speaker 6 (27:40):
It's the other stuff that becomes the issue.

Speaker 1 (27:42):
Sore. I've definitely held on to way too many people
because the sex was great, and it's like I don't
even really want to talk to him because when he
starts talking, I'm annoyed. Or having sex, I'm in love again.

Speaker 5 (27:54):
Have you ever known that someone was only with you
for sex?

Speaker 1 (27:58):
Yeah, because they didn't like when I was talking you
know what, you know, it's like it was a mutual
decision and it's fine, like you just discuss it.

Speaker 2 (28:11):
I don't know if I like, I feel like every
guy that I've been with at least acts like they
like to be around you.

Speaker 1 (28:17):
Disrespect Yeah, like nice, but you can just tell, like
when the conversations are not ever really having any substance,
and it's just like little things, you know, like if
they're not taking you out to eat and we'll eat,
like ask me about my future, asking about my family,
checking in on people, or asking what I want out

(28:39):
of life. It's just like we can go, we can eat,
we can do the things. You can drink and after this.

Speaker 2 (28:45):
Yeah, what makes sex great to you?

Speaker 1 (28:48):
Oh? The passion, the eye contact. I just like the
smell of a man.

Speaker 2 (28:55):
Are pasturbating right now?

Speaker 5 (29:00):
Use my best friend?

Speaker 1 (29:03):
I almost warm mind today. But yeah, I think it's
that and just being able to look at somebody and
just every sexual experience is different and the people that
you're with is different. But when you can really connect
with somebody and both of you are pleasing each other
and it's not like one sided, it's great.

Speaker 2 (29:20):
Have you ever had sex with somebody who didn't even
really like, like as a person.

Speaker 6 (29:23):
Yeah, I stopped doing that.

Speaker 5 (29:26):
But sex was good or the sex was bad, or
you're like, don't you.

Speaker 2 (29:30):
Know, like the sex is good? Person, Yeah, I.

Speaker 5 (29:34):
Don't want where's my stuff.

Speaker 3 (29:38):
For a person I didn't like?

Speaker 7 (29:40):
But I used to like them and then I ended
up having sex with them later and didn't like them.

Speaker 3 (29:45):
My thoughts on right the feeling one away.

Speaker 2 (29:48):
Like if you circle back, like it was good at
first and then you like, let me revisit that years later, and.

Speaker 1 (29:52):
Then you like, I think I raised my standards because
I thought it.

Speaker 2 (29:58):
Was there you go, there was this. This happened to
me one time. This is so embarrassing as I learned
not to do this. But this guy was at my
house and he was really good at like in and pussy.
That was all that I really I didn't really like
him that much. And then one day he just would
not leave, and I was like, oh my god, if

(30:19):
he Because you know when somebody's at your house and
you don't really like them and you can't wait for
them to leave and you don't want to be rude
and you don't know how to be like this is
before Ubers existed, so you can't.

Speaker 4 (30:28):
This is why women are so great, because women we
all like, I don't want to be rude.

Speaker 6 (30:31):
Oh man, out of here?

Speaker 5 (30:35):
What you want to go to work?

Speaker 2 (30:37):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (30:38):
I got, I got, I got moved the man.

Speaker 4 (30:39):
I got.

Speaker 5 (30:41):
Worried about that.

Speaker 2 (30:43):
Finally he left right and I closed the door behind him,
and I was like, oh my god, thank god he
left and he heard me, but I closed the doors.

Speaker 6 (30:51):
I didn't know he terrified.

Speaker 2 (30:55):
He called me and was like, wow, you couldn't wait
for me to leave, and I was like.

Speaker 6 (31:00):
Wow, I really, I'm sorry.

Speaker 5 (31:04):
Did he still come up with each.

Speaker 2 (31:06):
I think after that I probably was too bad. But
I also just didn't like him any I didn't even
really like him. I don't even know why.

Speaker 4 (31:12):
I was like, when you feel that way about man, like,
what is normally like the underlying factor that you don't like?
Because for me, it could be something like slight like you,
maybe you when you swallow it's too.

Speaker 5 (31:24):
Loud and it's like, well, I don't understand why you.

Speaker 6 (31:26):
So it was a guy that I didn't like. I
couldn't really just get into because he was like highly unintelligent.
Yeah that's a deal break because I like everything was
so cool.

Speaker 1 (31:38):
But he.

Speaker 7 (31:41):
Think I was somebody for a long time whose sex
was just incredible.

Speaker 3 (31:45):
It was just really whole. You know, everything sucks mm hm.

Speaker 1 (31:50):
But he was a little girl.

Speaker 6 (31:53):
Yeah, and see I never had like you didn't even
get there.

Speaker 7 (31:57):
And like I, he and I almost every time we
spoke it was like if we had a long conversation,
we were either like having a jokey conversation or I
was teaching him something.

Speaker 6 (32:09):
You're like beat alone with men, it out with it.

Speaker 4 (32:17):
It was the sex was great and he was fine,
but he just I'm not even like a health freak.

Speaker 5 (32:22):
I'm really not. I do the normals.

Speaker 4 (32:24):
I'll do my vitamins, I drink a lot of water,
I have my vegetables all that stuff.

Speaker 5 (32:28):
I'm normal healthy. He was like, I don't like water,
and I was.

Speaker 1 (32:31):
Like, oh.

Speaker 6 (32:37):
Coming out fried.

Speaker 5 (32:40):
It was drowning the lettuce and ranch.

Speaker 2 (32:42):
I can't so I know he didn't taste good.

Speaker 6 (32:46):
That's the steps.

Speaker 3 (32:50):
Have a good diet. I couldn't get.

Speaker 1 (32:52):
With no water.

Speaker 6 (32:53):
Like, no, I don't like water. You don't like yourself.
You don't like water. That's the body is what happened.

Speaker 2 (33:15):
Okay, I don't know anybody who doesn't drink water. I
don't think. I have no idea.

Speaker 6 (33:21):
I don't drink.

Speaker 1 (33:23):
They were.

Speaker 5 (33:26):
Always look unhealthy, something look like, yeah, I don't like water.

Speaker 2 (33:30):
So maybe what is overrated?

Speaker 6 (33:32):
No, it's not.

Speaker 1 (33:35):
I have the question, y'all.

Speaker 6 (33:37):
This didn't happen to me, but it happened to a
close friend of mine, and I want to get y'all's
opinion on it. So imagine your day in the sky
and things are getting serious and you invite him over.
He's from out of town, and you're like, when you visit,
you can just stay at my house and he goes, Now,
I'm ready to get a hotel because I don't know
who slept in that bed. How would you react to that?

Speaker 4 (33:58):
Okay, my reaction will be I can't believe you said
to me, But I also get it. So then I'm
looking at whoever he said that to you? Will Is
there a reason why he do a lot of.

Speaker 6 (34:07):
Well, so personally because I know the guy and not
the girl. So personally for him, he just feels like
he don't want to sleep in the bed that she
another man fucked her. But changing the mattress don't change
her pussy. You're still gonna sit on the toilet. You
still want to eat off the forks in the place.
You're still in the house.

Speaker 3 (34:28):
Excuse first, right.

Speaker 5 (34:31):
Now, there have been times when I don't want to stay.

Speaker 2 (34:36):
I was gonna say if you did he had never
even been to her time that you go like visit him.
I wouldn't want to stay in his house either. I'd
rather get a hotel and maybe go to your house.

Speaker 6 (34:46):
It was the worst time they were. They were getting
serious and she's like, you no longer have to get hotels.
You can start staying with me, and he's like not.
He said, I'll buy you a new mattress first, but
not well, I mean, but that's just oh you know
I I told him he was being ridiculous, and he's
like the real nigga before, because the real nigga go
swap out your mattress. You might out every DWN, but

(35:08):
you can't swap out as the pussy. Yeah, I mean,
I can see like a new pillows.

Speaker 2 (35:15):
But she's okay with you, then you know if she's.

Speaker 6 (35:18):
This, this is what I want to know. And I'm
gonna ask him because I just thought of this in
this moment when your break up because eventually you're probably
gonna break up with her. You'll might not make it.
You're taking the mattress or you letting her keep it
for the next nigga.

Speaker 3 (35:30):
So she.

Speaker 5 (35:33):
Trying to carry out mattress.

Speaker 2 (35:35):
You want to hear something crazy. I dated this guy.
This is the only person before that I ever very
briefly lived with for like two months, you know, And
when we broke up, he tried to take the mattress
with him. Like wrong, He's like, but he had no
place to go with it. I was like, if you

(35:57):
don't just take this.

Speaker 6 (35:59):
Wait, it's a video flirting the round of a guy
trying to look the mattress onto the train here in
New York. I just saw it today.

Speaker 2 (36:09):
And I had just graduated from college. So it wasn't
like a good mattress. It was from a Kia, so
he was extra petty.

Speaker 1 (36:15):
Yeah, he liked try to take it.

Speaker 2 (36:16):
And he was like trying to take it and drag
it down, and I was like, I mean, I don't hear. No,
he didn't because he didn't really have nowhere to go.
He couldn't get it down the steps. But I think
he was just that is so embarrassing.

Speaker 1 (36:28):
Imagine you're struggling with the mattress, you can't eat, and
I was looking like, are you just stuck this clown
right here?

Speaker 5 (36:35):
We sit here and talk about clown ass niggas.

Speaker 4 (36:37):
There used to be a dude that I was fucking
with and he he wasn't even my boyfriend.

Speaker 5 (36:42):
We were just like dating for a moment. He was crazy.
I will never date another Libraman ever again.

Speaker 6 (36:46):
In my life.

Speaker 1 (36:47):
That's my brother.

Speaker 2 (36:48):
He's a Libra.

Speaker 5 (36:49):
I'm a lib to, but the brother.

Speaker 6 (36:52):
Brian cool.

Speaker 4 (36:54):
He ended up writing a Google doc, a six page
Google doc about me, and it had like an intro
and heading, and he wrote this Google doc about everything
that he didn't like that I did, and he put
bullet points. When we were out, you could have suggested
that you were going to pay for the extra, the
extra who could call? Or hey baby, I'm going to
pick you up from the airport this week. It was

(37:16):
so detailed. I'll show you all after the show.

Speaker 5 (37:18):
It was crazy.

Speaker 4 (37:19):
He made a Google doc. Not only did he make
the Google doc, he got on Instagram, found my mom,
found my older brother, my older sister, and my best friend,
and he sent them the Google doc. I didn't even
know it had been created. My sister calls me like
eight am on a Sunday morning. I'm like, what's going on?
She was like, I just sent a Google doc and
he sent it to mom.

Speaker 5 (37:38):
He sent it to you.

Speaker 4 (37:39):
I was like, oh my god, I go to my email.
He emailed it to me because I had blocked him.
I was so embarrassed the depths that these men will
go I'm gonna show you.

Speaker 5 (37:49):
I'm gonna show you.

Speaker 2 (37:50):
I was.

Speaker 4 (37:50):
I couldn't believe that he did this. And it was detailed.
It was like a dissertation. He had all these details.
Every date, he put dates what I should have said,
examples of what I should have said.

Speaker 2 (38:01):
Was any of this in your opinion? Maybe he was right?

Speaker 3 (38:04):
You know, so.

Speaker 4 (38:07):
You in the moment because he came like he really
give me to the point where now and I date,
I guess I should look at it as a positive.
I'm hyper sensitive to like how I treat people because
I had no idea he felt this way.

Speaker 5 (38:20):
But this was ignorant. I couldn't believe he did this.

Speaker 2 (38:23):
God, you know, I'm not gonna lie. When you break
up with somebody, would you like a Google doc of
like what you could have done.

Speaker 6 (38:34):
Talk to me when it happening, how you diegue everything?

Speaker 1 (38:38):
And you like about time? I would like it a thing.

Speaker 2 (38:45):
You should create a document for people to fill out.

Speaker 1 (38:48):
Yeah, like a little.

Speaker 3 (38:49):
Because a Google document of what he wants me to do.

Speaker 1 (38:56):
Yeah, like, let's be because we would You said it's
perfect at the end, when it's over.

Speaker 2 (39:04):
Maybe it would be good to have, like some feedback.

Speaker 1 (39:06):
I would like to do that, because you know, I
would my mom.

Speaker 6 (39:13):
What your mom said almost like baby.

Speaker 5 (39:15):
I just want you to know I did not open
it and read it, and I always she read it.

Speaker 1 (39:20):
She said, she did.

Speaker 2 (39:24):
You know what she?

Speaker 4 (39:26):
He titled it, Hey, smiley face, Why would you do
this to someone utterly embarrassed?

Speaker 1 (39:34):
That is ridiculous.

Speaker 2 (39:35):
I think this is not a bad idea. I don't
think we should really create sometimes. I would like and
it's six pages. May enjoyed your week?

Speaker 1 (39:44):
I like that.

Speaker 2 (39:44):
He said, it's currently Friday, No.

Speaker 6 (39:47):
Five thirty timestamps.

Speaker 2 (39:49):
He actually, it's it's well written. From experience, I've noticed
you don't do well with constructive feedback. So I'm also
helping you curate your cantability cluster. Hence why he's the
where hens while others in your personal circle are included.
We often say feedback is the breakfast of champions, and
without accountability, there's liability.

Speaker 1 (40:11):
I've never seen it.

Speaker 2 (40:12):
Okay, I've noticed position he forgot an s here. I've
noticed position you've taken on social media as quote being
stood up or quote wanting.

Speaker 5 (40:20):
Over those particular situations that happen.

Speaker 2 (40:22):
So here's some factual critique to truly add validity to
the narrative as well as share best practices in dating
so you don't continue fumbling.

Speaker 6 (40:30):
Good man, what does this man do for a living?

Speaker 4 (40:33):
You use a financial advisor? He made to the point
where I'll never date a financial advisor ever again.

Speaker 2 (40:39):
And even if not with me, I genuinely want and
wish the best for you and your love life because
I believe you're an amazing woman that may just need
a little coaching or a glimpse from another perspective besides
your I'm so far it's not bad a one personal
accountability and communication made. It wasn't until Friday October twenty nine,

(41:02):
at three forty five that you finally share logistics about
the party that evening. Not to mention, I am the
one that had to reach out to you at that
time when you finally texted be at your house at
six pm, I called immediately to let you know i'd
be running behind something.

Speaker 4 (41:17):
That's a whole issue with this is y'all won't undertand
because it's a whole situation and he didn't be to it.

Speaker 2 (41:22):
Okay, Oh yeah, he drove out of Alpharetta. See. I
thought back to the week prior where a similar situation happened.
It was Sunday. He has a date, so he has
a diary.

Speaker 3 (41:34):
He has he has.

Speaker 2 (41:40):
Started telling me in the moment it's like a contract.

Speaker 1 (41:44):
All right, comment relation moment.

Speaker 2 (41:48):
I got to tell you how he starts up to
a as aforementioned.

Speaker 6 (41:52):
Let's remain ur my last email, right ooh, he said.

Speaker 2 (41:57):
Purpose of this interaction was to express my concerned with
the relationship deposits or lack thereof. I felt we're being
made on your end during the discussion. You took that
as me saying you don't spend money on me. That's
not at all what I look exactly what he said.
I'll share some examples of what we mean by relationship deposits.
I haven't never heard.

Speaker 1 (42:15):
Of relationship relationship therapist, right, I.

Speaker 4 (42:20):
Know we go out of home, so we were not
in a relationship that I'm this man for one girl.
I knew him for one Did you guys describe knew
him for one month?

Speaker 2 (42:30):
He would have described your cooking skills.

Speaker 4 (42:34):
No, he's sort of saying he wanted me to cook
for him, and I was like, Okay, one day I
was making some chicken wings and I was like, you
could come over it.

Speaker 5 (42:40):
Again, he's not my boyfriend.

Speaker 2 (42:41):
Okay, you did make him wings that one time. He
said they were good.

Speaker 4 (42:46):
He was playing, he was I was really looking at
this email to my brother.

Speaker 6 (42:54):
You got it, girl.

Speaker 2 (42:56):
He wanted you to just say this hookah cole refill.

Speaker 4 (42:58):
Is on me now we start. But you talk about
it wasn't about.

Speaker 2 (43:03):
How much ten dollars I want you to be like,
I got us a shot.

Speaker 4 (43:08):
He left out everything that I actually did do for
him that was financial, which is crazy to me. That's
why this accountability thing, it's like put in your part
in it also.

Speaker 3 (43:17):
Though, But what did you do that he's not mentioned.

Speaker 4 (43:19):
He's not mentioning the Dior cologne for his birthday. Again,
I knew him for one month, and I was like, oh,
he's really sweet.

Speaker 1 (43:25):
Surprised. That's a sugar.

Speaker 2 (43:29):
You're not good at listening, he.

Speaker 4 (43:30):
Said, I did a scavenger hunt around his place, like
I was like a rob romantic.

Speaker 6 (43:36):
On this.

Speaker 2 (43:36):
This is amazing by listening is number three and the
book Never Split the Difference author describes listening as the
greatest form of currency you can give a person. I
don't believe it's productive to list the countless examples of
where I told you something and you just flat out
forget or attempt to explain to me that I never
said it.

Speaker 1 (43:55):
That's so mean.

Speaker 2 (43:58):
I will forget some ship now, okay.

Speaker 4 (44:00):
Especially and told me that I need to allow him
to spend the night in my house during the week
days because I live in the city and his office
was in the city and he lived in bumba.

Speaker 2 (44:11):
Fuck.

Speaker 6 (44:12):
I don't know how much how much you have to drive,
so you're paying my rent and right, And he started
really having me believed that.

Speaker 5 (44:20):
I was doing they so I was like, okay, maybe
you should. I was dumb.

Speaker 2 (44:25):
Was the last question?

Speaker 1 (44:26):
Did you call him corny? I did good.

Speaker 6 (44:31):
I lived from the airport and my boyfriend at the
hour and a half from the airport, so he would
come to my house and like use my house as
to jump off point to go to the airport when
he had to travel. And after a while I was
just like, is this the only time I'm going to
see you?

Speaker 1 (44:43):
Right? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (44:46):
Well he did say you're amazing. Okay, after all that,
he said, YO, always attractive man.

Speaker 6 (44:51):
He said he was a good woman.

Speaker 2 (44:53):
You even shared or insinuated with me over text that
you haven't moved on, go speed racer.

Speaker 6 (44:59):
You know what? So was there anything that she was like,
did you from this constructive criticism?

Speaker 5 (45:04):
There was.

Speaker 1 (45:06):
There anything?

Speaker 2 (45:08):
Quote, let me just do this quote. I've been called
a lot of things in my days, but never corny.

Speaker 5 (45:14):
I should have had a big booty. He also had
a big old block.

Speaker 6 (45:19):
I'm not like.

Speaker 1 (45:20):
Big, like like you can have a little football.

Speaker 4 (45:24):
And he better be glad that I didn't take my
platform and really rip them apart.

Speaker 5 (45:33):
I could have happened. I was like, I'm not even
gonna do that. He wasn't a little bit.

Speaker 1 (45:36):
I wish she would. I wish you would have.

Speaker 2 (45:38):
I would.

Speaker 5 (45:41):
Booty anybody. Glad I didn't contact his company.

Speaker 4 (45:43):
There's just so much that could have been done, because
now it turned into harassment.

Speaker 5 (45:47):
Like what are you doing.

Speaker 4 (45:47):
He didn't stop contact together. Yeah, it's like, bro, what
are you doing? Take the L and move on.

Speaker 1 (45:52):
Period. That was a lot.

Speaker 2 (45:54):
It was about a couple of grammdical errors. I'm an
English major. But other than that, it was but I
take that.

Speaker 4 (46:02):
You know what, I'm not gonna I did because it
made me think about and when he was talking about like, oh,
like you're not offering things, you're not things and you're
not doing relationship deposits. First of all, I didn't really
like him like that, so I thought that was wek
I knew him for months. I was still getting to
know you, and so it made me realize that, Yeah,
but for me, if I really do care about somebody

(46:23):
making sure I am offering certain things and at least
even if you don't want me to. But he gave me,
like literally he made me be like super high hyper
sensitive to where like even in my relationship now, I'm
always like do.

Speaker 5 (46:35):
You want me to get this? Do you want me
to get my way?

Speaker 1 (46:37):
And you like trying.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
To ladies, let's talk about that for a second, because
you've already had to cope with this in me, Dina,
But Kiki, do you do relationship deposits.

Speaker 1 (46:46):
If I like you, Okay, if I care, I have
no problem doing it. But sometimes I think that men
get confused and they think that we like them more
than we do, and it's like, this is just a
good time right now, So don't expect me to give
a lot. But I have no problem giving. I find
that really I give too much sometimes if.

Speaker 2 (47:01):
I like I saw on TikTok this went viral where
a woman was filming herself. She was on a date
and the guy I guess didn't have enough money to
pay for dinner dishes yeah, and he was like, I
can wash the dishes, and she was just kind of
like she.

Speaker 1 (47:14):
Was just filming.

Speaker 2 (47:14):
People were like, why didn't she offer? What did you
think about that.

Speaker 6 (47:18):
Didn't have it to offer?

Speaker 1 (47:20):
That's what I saw herself.

Speaker 2 (47:21):
To pay for herself, at least, because I've always been
to it since I was young. Don't go out with
the guy if you don't have money to take care
of yourself in case something happens.

Speaker 1 (47:30):
I was taught that.

Speaker 6 (47:31):
I didn't always do that. Yeah, but yeah, this is
definitely where I was talking.

Speaker 1 (47:34):
I would think that if she had it, she would
be like, well, I can at least pay my part,
but it seems also you wanted to have a moment
she tried to do. But then I'm like, well, why
were you all ordering if you had the money, what
is that point? Yeah, and if it's none, it was

(47:58):
ninety seven dollars.

Speaker 2 (47:59):
Yeah, they were times in my life they probably didn't
have ninety.

Speaker 6 (48:05):
Dollars either, But I'm not about to be.

Speaker 2 (48:07):
Sick and crazy. I this time when I first when
I was working at Serious And I don't think he'll
mind me telling this story because I've he's discussed it before.
But when Bob first signed to Atlantic Records, he was
managed by b Rich member be Rich and him and
TJ they were managing Bob. They were like, you know,
after they had did my show, they were like, let's
go get something to eat. And I was like okay,

(48:28):
And they told me way later that when I ordered
a second drink, they didn't have enough money to even
pay because they had just signed a deal and they
were like, look, we had spent all of our money
like trying to get all this done. And then that's
why no one else got a drink but me, because
they were like, oh, you know, we're going to take
you out and I was like, okay, cool. You know,
we went a couple of blocks from the station as serious,

(48:49):
and they just didn't have it at that time. And
clearly things got better after that, but they in retrospect
were looking back and they were like, I just remember
being like, oh my god, how are we going to
pay for this?

Speaker 5 (48:58):
How they paid for it?

Speaker 2 (49:00):
They managed. They just didn't get drinks either, like they
realized they had just enough.

Speaker 4 (49:04):
Like they definitely been in situations like that, especially when
it's like you tend to be a guy.

Speaker 5 (49:08):
Yeah, it's any situation.

Speaker 4 (49:10):
It's tough because even if it's not like a romantic situation,
if you are like in the entertainment industry, and you
meet somebody that you do look up through you want
to work with and you maybe need a moment with
him and you want to take them out, you're not
going to be like, I really don't have any money
to take you out, but I want to take you
outcause I wanted to maybe like pick your brain about
something we all know, like the protocols you're supposed to
do and the points's I've done that before, and it's
like I I hope.

Speaker 5 (49:31):
This don't I hope she don't be trying to order
too much, right.

Speaker 2 (49:34):
We saw that on thesod The Happiness. Remember in the
movie The Happiness where his boss was like he was
entered in and he borrows some money from him. He
was like, shit, that was a lot for him. I
think we got to call this episode of relationship deposit no.

Speaker 7 (49:49):
Seeing of relationship deposits. I feel like I made too
many relationship deposits. I'd be spending money on my boyfriend.
I deposit the whole relationship when i'm but I'm in
a relationship. When I go shopping, I buy my man's
shoes and clothes, and I bring them food.

Speaker 5 (50:07):
But I don't.

Speaker 7 (50:08):
One thing I have to say is that I have
not ever been I've sat at the table with a
man who made me pay for my food.

Speaker 3 (50:15):
Ever happened.

Speaker 4 (50:16):
And what I do want people to take but I
would if I had to, I would I pay for
both of us.

Speaker 3 (50:21):
I'm I'm trick, mama.

Speaker 4 (50:22):
The relationship deposits don't have don't always have money, right,
because I will say there are some there. Sometimes it's
just like sometimes a man just wants you to People
just want you to know. I want to know, like
you care about my well being man. It's you walk
me to the door at night, or you walk me
to the car, you open my car door, Like there
are just certain things you don't you talk about what

(50:44):
you need and what you want to take out my
trash and fold the town for me. Yeah, Like it's
not always so if somebody's listening, they're like, dang, I
only got seven dollars.

Speaker 2 (50:52):
It's nice for a guy to cook for you, because
especially guys, you don't know how to guy except it
might be a nasty but a nice gesture.

Speaker 1 (50:58):
It's a nice gesture. I had a man I remember
in college, but he was bragging about his cooking skills.
So when I got to this, it was not there,
and I was like, this is truly a college struggle meal.
And why why did you invite me all the way
out here to come do this? Because he didn't go
to school with me. He was at like University of Maryland.
So I drove my ass down to Maryland from DC.
But it probably got the ticket on the way. Craft

(51:20):
mac and cheese. It wasn't even real.

Speaker 6 (51:22):
Spaghetti mac and cheese you're discussing it was.

Speaker 1 (51:26):
It was pasta. I thought it was gonna be like
real spaghetti, but it was like some pasta noodles and
like a jar of sauce that he didn't even hook up.

Speaker 6 (51:34):
I saw him sprinkle a dobo in it, and that.

Speaker 1 (51:36):
Was it, and I'm like, that's the play. It probably was,
and I was just like moving. I said, I can't
do this. It's buffalo while wing still open. I'm hungry.
We need to eat something I can't like order he
did and his films were.

Speaker 6 (51:48):
But I'm like, I'm hungry.

Speaker 2 (51:49):
Hear what type of letter he had written about you?

Speaker 6 (51:52):
You should have appreciated the fact that I opened up
the jar and I don't have any food, but I
gave you my last year. I gave you my last jars.

Speaker 7 (52:02):
Yeah, and I did not shouldn't have been bragging about
that cooking.

Speaker 2 (52:08):
That was the part where he before guys who like
think they can cook, but can't. They cannot make tacos
and spaghetti. Those are like the breakfast.

Speaker 1 (52:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (52:20):
Usually my father he made me steak and baked potatoes.

Speaker 2 (52:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (52:27):
I gave him a baby after that.

Speaker 2 (52:31):
Now did you see Tarall Owens talking with Sinko on
on Live and he was.

Speaker 6 (52:36):
Saying that I was talking about it this morning.

Speaker 2 (52:38):
Yeah, so He was saying that he basically had stopped
dating black his experiences dating black women wasn't so good,
and that they were kind of like did you see it?

Speaker 6 (52:50):
He was saying that when he was younger that the
black girls didn't like him. They talked about him being
too dark, and they just he wasn't attractive, and that
kind of pushed him more towards other races women especially,
and he's like, you know me now and he gets
shunned upond because that's what he prefers. But it's just
like back then, you ain't want me. Now I'm hot,
y'all me Like, what am I supposed to do? I mean,

(53:13):
to each their own.

Speaker 4 (53:14):
I mean, when people are honest and they're not, you're
not trying to like just offend somebody with your words.

Speaker 5 (53:20):
That's his honest story.

Speaker 1 (53:23):
You lie.

Speaker 2 (53:24):
Have you had experiences dating like outside your race?

Speaker 1 (53:27):
Yea, No. I tried one time and I was like,
I just I can't.

Speaker 6 (53:35):
Relationship with a Caucasian man. I've been in a relationship
with an Indian man, and I've been in a relationship
with some what are Jamaican.

Speaker 2 (53:44):
But did any of them make you feel like I
would never date this whatever.

Speaker 1 (53:48):
Dan, I felt like he was kind of having a
little bit of a fetish because he it was always
about black stuff, and it's like, I don't talk about
black shit all day every day. We don't have to
just have a conversation.

Speaker 6 (53:59):
I would date a white man. I feel like that
I will probably eventually end up marrying. Really, yeah, just
from past experiences that I've always I've always had the
best times when I was in those relationships. They just
treat you better. It's weird.

Speaker 1 (54:14):
Did it feel any type of fetishization at all?

Speaker 6 (54:16):
Did it feel like fetish to me?

Speaker 2 (54:17):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (54:18):
No, I've dated the rainbow, and it all comes down to,
like how we were talking about earlier, I have got
to feel like my favorite way to be looking in
the house is ugly, Like I like being in my
hair looking crazy, and I just I have learned that
when I've dated outside of my race, I don't feel

(54:39):
not that they did anything to me, it's just the
cultural differences.

Speaker 5 (54:42):
I don't want those in my household.

Speaker 4 (54:44):
I want you to understand that I might look totally
different tomorrow, and I don't want you ask.

Speaker 2 (54:49):
Some questions like.

Speaker 5 (54:53):
What are we doing.

Speaker 4 (54:55):
I've got great experiences dating outside of my race. So
when it comes down to that, that core again the family
values I don't want to have. I don't want to
have to explain to your white mother why she can't
say the N word.

Speaker 5 (55:04):
You know what, I don't want to like, I just
don't want.

Speaker 4 (55:06):
To have why she's I just don't want to have
to deal with that.

Speaker 6 (55:10):
I just knew it wasn't the future with him, Like
after a while, I was just like, this isn't going
to go past where it is now. And he was
telling cheep, he had a lot of money, but he
always want to get something on discount, and some relationships
I always wanted, like.

Speaker 1 (55:24):
I was gonna forget that. I like that.

Speaker 4 (55:26):
I want us all to go home to tonight and
do some relationship deposits somebody you love or like.

Speaker 5 (55:36):
Already for all of us.

Speaker 2 (55:42):
To be able to do things like that. I'm not
mad at it.

Speaker 1 (55:45):
I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 6 (55:46):
You know, relationship deposits.

Speaker 2 (55:49):
Now, let me ask you this. Let's just say you
were in love, you've been in love before, like he
was going to get married.

Speaker 1 (55:54):
Maybe I thought that and I shouldn't have thought that,
but yes, I have okay, and not good at first,
I didn't last.

Speaker 2 (56:01):
But yeah, what happened.

Speaker 1 (56:04):
He cheated, he had a baby with somebody else, He
had a whole another girlfriend.

Speaker 7 (56:08):
So how did you find out?

Speaker 1 (56:12):
His best friend's wife came to me and told me what.
She was like, I really hit me up on it
was like Facebook, you need to know and.

Speaker 6 (56:23):
She was like I know that.

Speaker 1 (56:25):
Yeah. She was like you need to know this, and
I was like I need to know what. She was like,
call me. So I called because I want to know,
like what's going on? You have anything to do with anything?
Like what's going on? So when I called her, she
was like, he's having a baby and he hasn't told you,
but they were talking about it last night. Yes, And
I loved her message. Yeah, And she's like they're talking
about it and I want you to know. I did

(56:46):
say you need to tell her and if you don't
tell her, I will. And I don't seem like he
told you because I appreciate.

Speaker 5 (56:52):
You every Sunday, so.

Speaker 1 (56:55):
Like I appreciated that, and I'm glad she told me.
I did leave Alona for that, because like, this is
many you're all to have a life with. And it
just made me wake up and realize this is not
your person. Well one, he's not trying to be your person.
He's trying to be everybody's person. And it's not gonna
match up because you're gonna be mad at that baby. Like,
I don't know how people are able to stay in

(57:16):
relationships with somebody when they have a baby with somebody else,
like to eat their own. And if you love that
man real bad and you can do it, but I
know I would be mad every day looking at that
child and the child didn't do anything.

Speaker 2 (57:25):
To do so, And then also have to know that
you have to deal with the mom.

Speaker 1 (57:29):
Yeah, and I still have to deal with you. And
then I'm always gonna wonder I couldn't.

Speaker 3 (57:33):
I couldn't do it.

Speaker 5 (57:34):
Why is Natasha in the corner not eating with everyone else?
Were differently?

Speaker 6 (57:46):
No, I was put on a pedestal. I was the
you got extra child. I was I was the golden
ticket child.

Speaker 2 (57:59):
You know, when you're in that situation when they come
into a little baby, if the other mom can be okay,
you can grow to love and be like okay.

Speaker 1 (58:07):
But because that's the.

Speaker 2 (58:09):
Other mom is a crazy person, then that's a that's
the real obstacle.

Speaker 5 (58:14):
Yeah, you can't because you're now a part of my life.

Speaker 1 (58:17):
And I think it's also different if like you had
a baby with somebody you were in another relationship with,
or if it was just like a y'all were having
sex and this girl got broke, Yeah, that's different, but
you got a whole another relationship.

Speaker 2 (58:28):
Now, Like what if you started dating somebody you really
liked them, and then they had a baby on the
way with somebody they weren't with, could you continue to
pursue that relationship.

Speaker 1 (58:37):
I mean, I might be able to do that.

Speaker 7 (58:41):
I have, I've got that, I've been what I've started
with a guy who has a baby on the way.

Speaker 3 (58:46):
Yeah, and we still.

Speaker 4 (58:50):
Because there's already so much that goes into again, a
healthy relationship. If you're not worried about that, then cool,
the same for you. But like if you are, it's.

Speaker 5 (58:58):
Like, now we have a whole other dynamically.

Speaker 3 (59:01):
But like you said, I was, I feel like it
was in my younger years.

Speaker 7 (59:04):
And yeah, and my younger years, I wasn't even the
furthest I was thinking about the future was maybe the
next twenty minute.

Speaker 5 (59:12):
What are we eating?

Speaker 7 (59:13):
But you know, I don't I don't know.

Speaker 2 (59:15):
If sometimes we stayed way too long and we got
those signs really on it, but like I know, baby
on me.

Speaker 6 (59:23):
We was in an open relationship and he got the
next girl pregnant and I found out because his best
friend thought I knew and was like something something something,
the baby, and I'm like, what baby. You know what's
hard for guys too, because sometimes they be thinking they
don't know if it's theirs or not until.

Speaker 2 (59:36):
That's what he tried to tell Sometimes they try to wait.

Speaker 6 (59:38):
And they'd be like, that was an excuse. When I
asked him, I guess what he said, Well, guess guess
what was happening. The baby had a name, his name no,
but very close to his name because he already had
a junior. The baby had a name that started with
the same initial, and he was transforming the library across
the hall to a nursery. So how are you doing
all this and.

Speaker 5 (59:55):
The baby and you don't you know?

Speaker 1 (59:58):
I would rather like tell me that you think you
might have a baby, but you don't know, and let's
get to damn test communication not getting DNA tests like
you said, No.

Speaker 3 (01:00:08):
I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 7 (01:00:09):
After the baby came, there was a little problem in
between time and the meantime that we had to get over.

Speaker 3 (01:00:16):
We had to move on from out.

Speaker 4 (01:00:17):
Because there's so many Because then you look at it like, Okay,
I'm with you, you have the baby.

Speaker 5 (01:00:20):
You have to be president in the baby.

Speaker 1 (01:00:22):
I can't be.

Speaker 3 (01:00:25):
You know, I can't be mad because I knew it
was coming.

Speaker 6 (01:00:28):
So what if he was like, I really want you
to also like step in.

Speaker 1 (01:00:34):
Step mama.

Speaker 3 (01:00:34):
Yeah, that's a different thing.

Speaker 2 (01:00:37):
There, Like what if the guy wanted to meet his baby.

Speaker 4 (01:00:41):
That's happened that guy that sent that Google doc. That
was one of the reasons why I had to leave
on because he kept trying to force his kid on me.

Speaker 3 (01:00:47):
Child.

Speaker 5 (01:00:48):
I don't want to The baby was five. I didn't
want to meet him though, so I was like, I
don't need to meet him. Why do I need to
meet your child? I personally don't think that's appropriate when
anybody has a baby. You just everybody do you dating
is meeting a child?

Speaker 4 (01:01:02):
Do?

Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
I don't.

Speaker 5 (01:01:03):
I'm not comfortable with it.

Speaker 6 (01:01:04):
I don't know that littlenigga Bye, I don't even want
to meet your kid unless I know we're about to
get married.

Speaker 1 (01:01:11):
That's a big stead.

Speaker 5 (01:01:13):
Because why we're going to do that to the kids
and I love kids. I'm good with kids. I play
with na I'm gonna.

Speaker 3 (01:01:21):
Happen after that. You don't know where Stephanie, She's gone.

Speaker 1 (01:01:25):
Yeah yeah, And you created.

Speaker 5 (01:01:32):
A little monster for someone's daughter to meet and Mary
one day. No, I don't need to meet the baby.

Speaker 1 (01:01:36):
Or I was glad that I met him with the kid,
and I met everybody, and now I see how you
are with the kids, so I can really see, like
how you really are. I can't just listen to what
you say, and.

Speaker 6 (01:01:46):
You might complain about your baby mama, and you might
complain about.

Speaker 1 (01:01:49):
Things, But then what I can see, and I can
speak to him myself or speak to her myself, I
can really get my own opinion. But I need to
know you well and I need to a feeling that
it's more solid than just somebody. I'm just stating. I'm
at a dude's mama and his son. They came down
one time. We had only been talking for a little while,

(01:02:10):
and I'm like, why are we on a family outing?

Speaker 6 (01:02:12):
I did not know so crazy?

Speaker 1 (01:02:15):
Why are we doing this? This is weird? And it's like,
do you introduce your son to every woman that you
deal with?

Speaker 4 (01:02:21):
But then again that goes back to the whole again,
if that's something that you don't think needs to be communicated.
Now in my adult years, I realized I can't be
with somebody that doesn't think a conversation needs to be
had about meeting something your whole offspring.

Speaker 6 (01:02:34):
Right right, and your mother and your man.

Speaker 2 (01:02:37):
When I was in college, this guy I was with
he had a kid. His kid was was only like
three years old, and him and the mom were not
on good terms. And I was living in a dorm
in Manhattan. This is when I was at school at
Barnard and I was thought I was going to be
a teacher, so I was taking these classes at thanks
She College and Education. He left his son with me

(01:02:59):
one day, becau because the mom left a note and
was like I can't take it anymore. Yeah, she didn't
want to be a mother. She was like I can't
handle it. Left the kid home alone with the note,
and then he went over there. I guess she called
or had somebody to call to tell him. Nobody knew
where she went, and so he went to go pick
up his son. But then he was like, man, he
played in like some little basketball league that was like

(01:03:22):
some It was no real one. Yeah, some recreational thing
with his parents, and he left the kid with me
for like overnight day yeah, And I was like, this
is the time for you to be spending some time
with your child, the mom.

Speaker 4 (01:03:42):
You're a good person, and it's like you're just like,
I'm gonna leave you with this stranger.

Speaker 1 (01:03:47):
In my dorm room. That's weird.

Speaker 2 (01:03:49):
And then he was like, he goes to me, man,
I'm not I'm gonna take him to a foster home.
He was like, I'm not doing this. I Am not
with a person who even thinks like that. Yeah, even
not like he was like, I can't handle this. I'm
taking to a fus at home. And I get that
he was mad at the mind for just up and

(01:04:09):
leaving like that, but it was really hard for her,
Like I don't know what.

Speaker 6 (01:04:14):
He was ready to take the baby to the foster
home from day one, and that means he already wouldn't
doing his job as if.

Speaker 1 (01:04:21):
And then he already wasn't playing Angel was.

Speaker 2 (01:04:25):
I'm in the dorm room, but he was.

Speaker 1 (01:04:28):
The baby.

Speaker 2 (01:04:30):
I don't even I remember I took him to the park.
I just remember walking with him in the park and
then being like what am I don't know what to do.

Speaker 1 (01:04:39):
About That's study that right.

Speaker 7 (01:04:43):
I feel like at this point in my life, I
don't want to be with a man that has a
small child, right, yeah I will.

Speaker 3 (01:04:50):
I don't mind kids, but I like them grown like mine.

Speaker 1 (01:04:53):
Okay, like a little adult.

Speaker 7 (01:04:55):
Yeah, I think I'm old enough to date a man
who has a twenty year old kid.

Speaker 6 (01:04:58):
Yeah, you know what I mean.

Speaker 7 (01:05:00):
Be and your son be like cool, we go to
dinner all of us.

Speaker 2 (01:05:06):
Do you think that you're more like in a relationship,
you're more maternal to your man or he's more paternal
to you?

Speaker 6 (01:05:11):
Like, are you more of the person that he's definitely
the me too.

Speaker 7 (01:05:17):
I think I'm more maternal towards my boyfriend. But then
when I get into like my mode if I'm crying,
I want to be like rock to sleep rod turn
into a baby.

Speaker 3 (01:05:26):
So I don't know.

Speaker 6 (01:05:27):
Maybe I'm a mix switch back and forth.

Speaker 4 (01:05:30):
What do you Me and my boyfriend are like, He's
what I need a man to be for me as
a woman, and I am I'm definitely the maternal Like
what do you need? What can we do in the
house to make things more comfortable for both of us?

Speaker 6 (01:05:44):
Okay, yeah, what about you.

Speaker 1 (01:05:46):
I'm more maternal. Yeah, and that's why I say I
give too much sometimes. But I think I would like
somebody who is more paternal. I guess I would like
try that a few times.

Speaker 2 (01:05:58):
Be taking care of like I like that.

Speaker 4 (01:06:04):
Knows how to lead. And it's not like me too.
He just knows, like because a.

Speaker 1 (01:06:09):
Lot of men will stream about it, you don't listen,
but it's like you don't leave. What am I listening to?

Speaker 6 (01:06:14):
An idiot?

Speaker 3 (01:06:14):
Like mind?

Speaker 7 (01:06:15):
You know, being the boss of things that men are
a little when like I could take care of banking
and things in the house and you know, keeping up
with the tissue and the napkins and the normal womanly
things in the in the home, doing.

Speaker 3 (01:06:33):
That exactly.

Speaker 2 (01:06:37):
The times Like I can't tell my man this is
because he's going to be so mad that he might
like wild out, you know, like about somebody else, like
if somebody did something to you, and you like, if
I tell my man, is he about to.

Speaker 6 (01:06:49):
Be I like that I still haven't.

Speaker 7 (01:06:54):
Any of my personal relationship business because he gets in
his feelings.

Speaker 3 (01:06:58):
I got to be like, oh, it's trying right.

Speaker 1 (01:07:00):
Let's this.

Speaker 2 (01:07:02):
I've been talking to all right, ladies, some cocktails, dirty
discussions and by the way, they are on tour right now,
so make sure you check them out because you got
y'all kicked it off in New York. So we came
in on a SAT today and she's flying back out
tonight to be able to sit thank you, you know,
to be able to be here for for this episode today. Okay, So,

(01:07:25):
what is one thing that you have to hide and
do from your significant other in the house and you
don't want him to know that you do this? Besides
taking the ship, if that is one thing, what is
one thing that you don't want a man to know
that you do?

Speaker 4 (01:07:41):
Right?

Speaker 1 (01:07:44):
Always?

Speaker 5 (01:07:46):
No, I'm thinking I.

Speaker 6 (01:07:48):
Don't want them to know every time I'm master every
time I think, yeah, I don't want.

Speaker 2 (01:07:53):
Yeah a couple, have you ever masturbated while he's there?

Speaker 1 (01:07:57):
But like if you won't leave, you don't live, You
gotta go. I mean I got to.

Speaker 6 (01:08:02):
Be when he was watching football, Yeah, like in this.

Speaker 7 (01:08:05):
Sport exciting about that anyway, Like, oh, let me see
it's like this is my personal moment.

Speaker 1 (01:08:10):
Yeah, I don't want you to.

Speaker 3 (01:08:12):
Give me a blanket.

Speaker 1 (01:08:13):
Yeah, I'm hiding under the cover.

Speaker 4 (01:08:17):
Mine would be this is so embarrassing. I sometimes act
out these random scenes that are not real. It's just
like I'll think of something and be like, I'm gonna
fake cry, but I have to obviously be by myself,
and I'll be like acting like something dramatic happening really
like I'm in a movie, and I.

Speaker 5 (01:08:32):
Just do it at random.

Speaker 4 (01:08:33):
Most like I might be in the shower and be like,
oh my gosh, he really did that to me, and
like acting out this whole lie of a scene. If
he ever walked in on me doing that, would be embarrassed.

Speaker 5 (01:08:42):
We have to break up.

Speaker 2 (01:08:44):
He can't hear you though, Okay, yeah they can't.

Speaker 6 (01:08:56):
At least if he walks in, he won't be surprised.
He won't be You don't know what you're doing.

Speaker 2 (01:09:02):
You would say masturbation absolutely, okay, I see. For me,
I wouldn't think you would say that. I would think
you would be like, what, I'm masturbating?

Speaker 6 (01:09:10):
Well, no, because I do it a lot, so it's like,
damn again, you're still in there. So yeah, there's been
times when I like would be on the phone with
my guy and be like, Okay, I'm gonna go back
to eat.

Speaker 2 (01:09:24):
What about you?

Speaker 3 (01:09:24):
Stephanie for me waxing my mustache.

Speaker 7 (01:09:29):
Like imagine you wax your mustache and then your boyfriend
comes in and you got like the redding like that, or.

Speaker 5 (01:09:35):
Like you're trimming you need a wax, but you can't
make it there trimming the head.

Speaker 3 (01:09:40):
See me like all in my box with the razor.

Speaker 1 (01:09:44):
I don't, I don't.

Speaker 7 (01:09:47):
I gotta really be comfortable with a man to smoke
around them, Okay, Like I have to be really really
comfortable because after I smoke weed, I look at everything differently.
I'll start noticing ship, like what is that mark his nose?
Like why does he breathe like that? Why is he talking?

(01:10:08):
I gotta go, So I don't like like smoking weed
and I smoke. You know, I smoke pretty much every day,
he knows a lot of times.

Speaker 5 (01:10:19):
So that's what.

Speaker 2 (01:10:23):
I was thinking about that met when somebody was like,
they were like, your boyfriend leaves you alone in his
his apartment. What are you doing? And they were like,
I'm fighting and shipping and hilarious. Don't do when he's there.
But he's there, right, That's when you know you get
to a good place in your relationship.

Speaker 1 (01:10:40):
Before you get there, I'm definitely waiting till you. Yeah,
questions there.

Speaker 2 (01:10:47):
And you'd be like's not here yet, Harry, do you
want me to call one for you? All right, well listen, ladies,
thank y'all so much for coming through. We had a
really great time and chill, and we are definitely gonna
do it again in Atlanta. All right, that's a plan
because Gj's in Atlanta too, So yes, I am in Atlanta.

Speaker 3 (01:11:03):
Oh, I got my companion pass so I can fly
everywhere everywhere?

Speaker 1 (01:11:07):
Are you?

Speaker 5 (01:11:09):
I just want to say thank you.

Speaker 4 (01:11:11):
We have been able to this time in New York
check off a bunch of goals. Sony was one of them.
That's where our life show was, and coming on lip
Service was directly after it. So we're really happy to
be taking a train, taking the train.

Speaker 1 (01:11:23):
When I was in college, my one of my best
friends Nia, she put me onto lip Service when it
was on serious Oh yep, and lip Service. Honestly, listening
to it in college and all this stuff, I was like,
I should do a show like this but with real people,
well not real people, but regularly regular and it kind
of inspired and so I was like, this is a
full service moment. Can you drive faster and the uber

(01:11:44):
we got to I love it. You know.

Speaker 2 (01:11:46):
When I started lip service, it wasn't with celebrities. It
was actually a segment on serious Costs sled it out.
It was once a week and on the show that
Cipher Sounds had, I was his host, his co host,
and so I had a little segment. But the segment
did so well and it was like regular people. It
was like the receptionist. We had a doctor on one time,
and then they gave me my own show because the

(01:12:07):
segment did so well, and that's how people.

Speaker 1 (01:12:10):
Want to know.

Speaker 4 (01:12:11):
People like talking about set. Yeah, I also wanted to
and I came out with a card game. It's called
I'm Curious to Me. We should have we were both
rushing around. I was like, when you go out in
New York, you really don't have time to go back to.

Speaker 8 (01:12:26):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:12:26):
I was like, so we will definitely like whenever we
meet again, or maybe we can send you one of
the games. So we would love to see the description
so that your listeners can purchase.

Speaker 5 (01:12:33):
It has a cookbook. We're on tour and thank you
so much, so much.

Speaker 1 (01:12:38):
You got to put in the cookbook too.

Speaker 2 (01:12:46):
It relationship, but ladies, I appreciate it, and I love
the entrepreneurship that y'all have going on to I think
it's amazing. You know, we fully support that up here,
absolutely all right, it is lipserviyes

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