My So-Called Midlife with Reshma Saujani

Tembi Locke has lived many lives, but midlife has pushed her to introduce herself in a whole new way. She tells Reshma how supporting her husband through illness and losing him reshaped everything she thought she knew about identity, ambition, and love. They talk about grief as a turning point, pulling yourself forward, and the idea of renesting (Tembi’s practice of rebuilding an inner home after life has blown the old one ap...

Dr. Kelly Casperson — a urologist, sex educator, and host of a hit podcast — wants you to have great sex. And she knows you probably aren’t. A lot of that, she says, is because most of what we think we know about sex — especially in midlife — is flat-out wrong! She and Reshma get to the bottom of some fundamentals around libido, desire, and hormones, and also give you some tips on how to improve your s...

Dating coach and author Damona Hoffman joins Reshma to break down the real rules of modern love in midlife. They talk about why dating feels so draining today, how to rewrite the old stories that keep women stuck, and why clarity is more powerful than chemistry. Damona shares her most practical strategies for getting offline quickly, protecting the early magic, and designing a relationship that fits the life you actually want. They...

We can’t fix what’s broken for women without fixing what’s broken for men.
Gary Barker, founder and CEO of Equimundo, has spent decades studying masculinity, fatherhood, and care. He joins Reshma to talk about the crisis of connection facing young men, why nearly half say no one cares if they’re okay, and how patriarchy hurts everyone: women, men, and families alike. Together they unpack how to build a ne...

Most monuments celebrate power — generals cast in bronze, heroes carved in stone. Artist and sculptor Molly Gochman builds monuments to something else entirely: the invisible labor, and invisible women, holding the world together. When her father got sick, Molly became his caregiver, and that experience changed how she saw everything — art, time, and what we call valuable. She joins Reshma to talk about what midlife has...

Sometimes the math of modern life just doesn’t add up. Economist Corinne Low has spent her career studying how gender, marriage, and work collide (and she’s lived it, too). A Wharton professor and author of Having It All, she joins Reshma to talk about the “squeeze” so many women feel in midlife, when ambition, family, and love all seem to demand more than the day can hold. She shares what her own reset taug...

With fall sports and activities in full-swing, now's a perfect time to listen back to this episode with Dr. Becky. If your weekends are spent going from one kid’s soccer game to another kid’s dance rehearsal to another kid’s robotics tournament, Dr. Becky Kennedy wants you to know one thing: it’s your weekend, too. The psychologist, mom of three, and founder of Good Inside tells Reshma that not only is it go...

This week, we wanted to highlight one of our favorite episodes this season! For actress, comedian and singer Margaret Cho, being 50 is hot. And she’s here to tell us all about it. Not only is she taking better care of herself these days but she’s also tapping into her goddess energy. So much so that people are paying attention! And she says she owes a lot of this midlife energy to menopause. With hormones no longer ruli...

Sometimes we forget: no matter our age, no door is closed if you dare to try. New York’s Governor Kathy Hochul reminds us of that every day. She's the first female governor of the fourth-most-populated state in this country, and more importantly to her, she’s a wife, mom, and grandmother. She tells Reshma how a particular comment from her dad set her on a path of leadership, her journey running for office during early m...

It’s nice to feel comfortable. But it’s not where a lot of growth happens. Author, actress, and creator Lilly Singh says she’s really grateful to have a high tolerance for being uncomfortable. She tells Reshma about how stepping out of her comfort zone has served her well in her career, why her journey with authenticity hasn’t been a linear one, and the seven-year-long process to create her new movie, Doin&r...

Season 2 of Yvette Nicole Brown's podcast Squeezed premieres today! So let's listen back to Reshma's conversation with her from last fall.

Yvette Nicole Brown says being single with no kids in midlife is something to be proud of. At 53, she’s about to walk down the aisle for the first time and she’s happy she waited. All the while, she’s been busy caregiving for her father. In 2013, her dad first started showing s...

Sex during midlife – wow, there’s a lot to talk about! And Reshma digs in with sex educator and author Emily Nagoski. They get into what it actually means – and takes – to prioritize sex, why Emily says pleasure is more important than desire, and what you need to know about changes in sexual desire during perimenopause and menopause. Plus, Emily recommends some sex-positive podcasts to add to your media diet...

Are you sick of the patriarchy? Same. Author Anna Malaika Tubbs says it’s time to break up with it! Anna offers up a definitive history of the way the patriarchy has oppressed women and denied our contributions in her latest book, Erased: What American Patriarchy Has Hidden from Us. She and Reshma have a riveting conversation about the way the patriarchy was woven into the DNA of the nation and discuss real solutions for crea...

Labor Day had us thinking back to Reshma's incredible conversation earlier this year with Thasunda Brown Duckett about work-life balance. Thasunda was trying to do it all – be a mom, a wife, and a high-powered CEO – when it hit her: work-life balance is a lie. The President and CEO of TIAA tells Reshma how this realization helped her prioritize the myriad things fighting for her time and caused her to become a more pres...

You’ve likely heard of the motherhood penalty – the systematic economic disadvantage mothers face in the workplace. Well it turns out there’s a menopause penalty, too. Leading the research on this is Stanford economist Petra Persson, who talks with Reshma about the economic toll that the menopausal transition takes on women. They also discuss the importance of norms vs policy when it comes to culture change, what ...

Midlife can be both the most challenging and exciting time of your life. Perhaps the things you thought would fulfill you no longer do. Or the shiny objects you’ve chased lose their luster. When this happened for Reshma, she turned to Rasanath Das, who became her monk. Today she talks with Rasanath about what it means to live life with an open heart, her lifelong struggles with rejection, and how to identify – and overc...

Sunday Riley doesn’t let the sun touch her. Protecting your skin from the sun is the skincare brand founder’s #1 tip for people of all ages, but especially midlifers. Reshma asks Sunday for a step-by-step skincare regimen and is shocked by what Sunday has to say about sunscreen. The two of them also discuss how society tries to make women feel invisible as they age and how Sunday learned to practice “intentional f...

Midlife can do a number on your happiness. It’s a time when your kids are grown, your identity is shifting, and the roles that defined you for so long just don't fit anymore. Bestselling author and podcaster Gretchen Rubin has studied happiness for years and talks with Reshma about burnout, discipline, and whether the habits and goals that used to work for you still serve you. Plus, they get into Gretchen’s “four ...

Many women take career pauses when they have children. But Neha Ruch – author of The Power Pause – wants you to know that there are so many other times and reasons to consider a pause. Perhaps a family member needs care. Perhaps you need time to explore where you want to go next in your career. Neha tells Reshma how to prepare for a pause, what to do on your pause, and how to set yourself up for success when you return ...