August 8, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m dating a man that is so tied to his past that it won’t let him last. We are not going to make it because he’s always talking to his ex-girlfriends and his ex-wife. He has a child in his life that’s not his, but he told me that the boy will always be a part of his life. His ex-girlfriend was pregnant when they started dating and he raised the child for 3 years. Then they broke up and he got married...................................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM by
clicking Submit Strawberry Letter, we could be reading your letter
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it could be yours. It could be yours. Buckle up,
(00:23):
hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it
is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject his past won't
let him last. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm dating a man
that is so tied to his past that it won't
let him last. We're not going to make it because
he's always talking to his ex girlfriends and his ex wife.
He has a child in his life that's not his,
(00:45):
but he told me that the boy will always be
a part of his life. His ex girlfriend was pregnant
when they started dating, and he raised the child for
three years. Then they broke up and he got married.
The ex wife let the boy come over and spend
time at the house. Now that I'm married, I don't
have time for the boy because his mother is not
nice to me. She calls my boyfriend and expects him
(01:09):
to talk to her until she gets home, and if
she's out, she drops her location to him or shares
her uber information with him, like he's her protector. He
says he is nice to her because she is a
single woman and he wants to be sure she's safe.
I feel like he is out of line and she
is too. Then there's his ex wife that he's had
(01:30):
sex with in the past six months, right before we met.
He is honest about everything, and I can't take it.
On one hand, I appreciate his honesty, but then I
can't handle it once I know what he's done. I'm
not friends with any of my exes and they can't
call me. That's just me. My boyfriend doesn't understand why
(01:51):
I can't be friends with my exes, and he thinks
it's a character flaw. We can't get on the same
page about anything when it comes to his past and mine.
I thought I was being respectful by cutting off my exes,
and he said that's not normal. It's a crazy conflict
we have, and it seems like we are compatible in
every way, except that I don't want to fall in
(02:12):
love with him and have to share him with these
women from his past. I'm thinking of leaving him. Is
this a wise decision or not? All right? Is anybody
else confused? I'm so confused. Are you dating this man?
Are you married to this man? Is he is he
your husband? Is he your boyfriend? Are you married and
(02:33):
writing us about your boyfriend? I'm very confused right now,
And yes, leaving him would be a wise decision. You're unhappy.
Your man is still talking to his exes. He's not
gonna stop. If he was that into you, he would
respect your wishes about not communicating with these women. None
of them respect you. He doesn't, for sure, and you
know that. But the girl that's calling him all the time,
(02:55):
dropping her location and all that, she has no regard
for what you and him have going on. He probably
didn't even tell her. I don't know. I don't know
what's going on in this letter. I have no idea.
You say you don't want to fall in love with him, Well,
don't fall in love with him because he doesn't love you.
And you better hope your husband doesn't find out. Steve,
(03:16):
what is going on? I'm so damned confused. She married?
Does she have a boyfriend? Let me just read the
letter back and maybe you all can help me and
Shirley out his past, won't Lady Malet did Stephen Shirley,
I'm dating a man that's so tied to his past.
It won't let him last. We are not going to
(03:38):
make it because he's always talking to his ex girlfriends
and his ex wife. He's got a child in his
life that's not his, but he told me that the
boy will always be a part of his life. His
ex girlfriend was pregnant when they started dating, and he
raised the child for three youths. Let's stop right here
for a minute. What actual confused too? You know he
(04:01):
always talking to you because ex girlfriends and the next wife.
I ain't got no conversation with none of them. They
excess for a reason. A lot of people can't move
forward because they because because they keep living in the past.
Hit a part that got me. His ex girlfriend was
pregnant when they started dating, and he raised what excuse me,
(04:22):
say what you want to say about me? I ain't
that good a man. I meet you, you pregnant? Were dating? What? No?
No, no no, we're dating and congratulations y'all that's not mine?
Doog at the gate? No, no, no, no no, no, no,
I'm not gonna say that. Man, y'all look so happy together.
(04:46):
Well we just got together. That's somebody else, dab I ain't.
I ain't there. Excuse me. If anybody had a man
that did that congratulation, you found the real ral one.
I ain't that ral called me, called me regless, and
most me and I know. Anyway, Then they broke up
(05:09):
and he got married. So this guy got married. The
ex wife let the boy come over and spend time
at the house. So I'm assuming that him and the
wife that he married got divorced, but then as an
ex they still let him come over. Then the letter
(05:29):
takes another dog ass turned and it says, now that
I'm married, I don't have time for the boy because
his mother is not nice to me. Who got married?
Who got married? Did you marry the dude that had
the ex wife? And now you ain't got time for
the boy? Okay, I don't know. She called my boyfriend
(05:52):
and expect what boyfriend? Yeah, I thought you got married, right.
She calls my boy boy friend and expects him to
talk to her to she get home if she's out,
and then she drops her location to share her information.
With him. It's too much. Just let us too much.
I'm pissed off at your writing skills. You don't know
(06:15):
how to tell us story. This ignorant asked let us.
We can't help you because you're not telling her. Is
she married with a boyfriend? I don't know who she did.
I'm so confused. We can't help you married. We don't
(06:35):
know who your bard friend is? Who is your husband?
I'm really all right, hold on, I'm starting out to
care about this little bar No damn more, because all right,
we care nothing about. Three minutes after the hour, we
got heart two of the Strawberry Letter. Who pass won't
let him last? We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
(07:00):
Strawberry Letter if we can, and try to finish up
your response. This is confusing. First of all, this woman
says she ain't gonna make it because her man is
always talking to his ex girlfriends and his ex wife.
Then he got a child that's not his because when
he met this girl, she was pregnant. He started dating
the while she was pregnant. Who this guy is? I
(07:21):
don't know that our men who can do that. Those
are special men. Congratulations. I tipped my hat to you.
I ain't that special. You're gonna have to have had
this baby. You're not caring if they did. We're going nowhere.
This is not about you. I'm not feeding all these people,
not right now, right away, all this, all this, all this,
(07:42):
I'm eating for two who. I don't know who? Who? Who?
The who? The two is? I don't know where it
comes from. My damn show didn't help make them, so
I'm not been to help this right here, you stop
now when they live ass human beings I could deal with,
But I ain't enter mbryo business fertilization. No, no, it
(08:04):
don't tell me, Steve this racket ass. That was so confusion.
I got every right to sound like I'm sound frustrate.
Then she come out. They broke up, and he got married,
and the ex wife let the boy come over and
spend time at the house. Now that I'm married, Who
who now? She says, Now I'm married, I don't have
time for the boy because his mother not nice to me. Okay,
(08:26):
somewhere in there, I think the lady and the letter
got married. She calls my boyfriend. Yeah, but now she
calls my boyfriend. So I'm thinking that boyfriend is on
the side. Yeah, it's husband and expects him to talk
to her to she get home and she's out and
she drops on location him or shares her uber information
(08:47):
with him, right, like he's her protective Well, he's married
to him and she's got a boyfriend. He says he's
nice to her because she's a single woman and she
wants he wants to be sure she's safe. I feel
like he's out of line and she is too. Then
as his ex wife that he had sex with in
the past six months right before we met. Oh wait
(09:11):
a minute, so you're not married to this dude. He
had sex with his ex wife six months right before
you met. Now watch this. He is honest about everything,
and I can't take it. Knew you were gonna I
knew you were gonna hone in on that line. I
knew you were did y'all hear this? Yes, Czy, he
(09:34):
is honest about everything. But first of all, she said,
he's honest about everything, and I can't take it. On
the other hand, I appreciate his honesty, but then I
can't handle it once I know what he's doing. That
doesn't make your case in your or your point more.
All of this story is we know everything you've done
(09:55):
because they can't handle it. They said it in the
movie Tommy probably know the name of the movie. You
can I hadn't handled the truth when he said that
the Marines, when he said it was about women. When
I from that line, you can't have We can't get
(10:19):
on the same page about anything when it comes to
his past. In mind, I thought he's being respectful by
cutting off. I thought I was being respectful by cutting
off my axes. And he said, it's not normal. It's
a crazy conflict that we have. And it seems like
we're compatible in every way except that y'all ain't compatible
at all. I don't want to fall in love with him.
You ain't fall in love with who who is nothing
(10:44):
to do with love, and it ain't. You can't fall
in love with him. You got to fall in love
with him and everybody he got because he don't cut
nobody loose your packet and packet, and they have to
fall in love with him. And I have to share
him with these women from his I'm thinking of leaving him.
Is this a wise decision? Now? I'm surprised. Why ain't
you gonna leave? Yeah? Why are you still here? Why
(11:08):
did you write us? So let me tell you what
me and Shirley don't care. Well, let me just speaks
for myself because Sheley at a high level of Christian Today,
let's start with this, right. I don't give him damn
about this dude, about any of his ex girlfriends. I
(11:30):
don't care about his ex wife. I don't really care
for the fact that he met a woman pregnant and
started date. I don't care about that. I don't care
that he raised the child for three years and they
broke up when he got married. I don't care numb
about him sleeping with his ex month ex wife six
months for y'all, man, I don't care if I'm really
(11:51):
sure if your asses is married or not. I don't
care if this dude is your boyfriend on the side.
And the big news is, I'm really starting not to
care about this child. And this child ain't had nothing
to do with the damn about this baby, right, This
baby was born into it. Blee the baby out of it. Yeah,
(12:12):
don't don't put the baby in it. He was born
into the confusion. The baby is not in it. He's
in the letter, and they tired of the baby because
somebody got married in this letter. We don't know who
it is. And they tired of the baby because now
they ain't married, So now everybody tied the baby. Why
I can't be tired of baby. I'm tired of it.
(12:33):
And you're reading the letters. They're married and she's got
a boyfriend on the side. Clearly, this let disaster listen
to me much. Let me say something about if your
life is this jacked up, don't write us because we
can't help and learn how to write, read and comprehend.
(12:54):
You don't nobody know what you're talking about. This low
level ass prison letter. You're sitting me and then you
just learned how to write last summer. If you've been
in literature whole damn life can stay Literally, it ain't
time to write into a national radio show and you
got the writing scale of a fo yo old We
don't type of time is next. You're listening to morning
(13:19):
show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM by
clicking Submit Strawberry Letter, we could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours. It could be yours. Buckle up,
(00:23):
hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it
is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject his past won't
let him last. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm dating a man
that is so tied to his past that it won't
let him last. We're not going to make it because
he's always talking to his ex girlfriends and his ex wife.
He has a child in his life that's not his,
(00:45):
but he told me that the boy will always be
a part of his life. His ex girlfriend was pregnant
when they started dating, and he raised the child for
three years. Then they broke up and he got married.
The ex wife let the boy come over and spend
time at the house. Now that I'm married, I don't
have time for the boy because his mother is not
nice to me. She calls my boyfriend and expects him
(01:09):
to talk to her until she gets home, and if
she's out, she drops her location to him or shares
her uber information with him, like he's her protector. He
says he is nice to her because she is a
single woman and he wants to be sure she's safe.
I feel like he is out of line and she
is too. Then there's his ex wife that he's had
(01:30):
sex with in the past six months, right before we met.
He is honest about everything, and I can't take it.
On one hand, I appreciate his honesty, but then I
can't handle it once I know what he's done. I'm
not friends with any of my exes and they can't
call me. That's just me. My boyfriend doesn't understand why
(01:51):
I can't be friends with my exes, and he thinks
it's a character flaw. We can't get on the same
page about anything when it comes to his past and mine.
I thought I was being respectful by cutting off my exes,
and he said that's not normal. It's a crazy conflict
we have, and it seems like we are compatible in
every way, except that I don't want to fall in
(02:12):
love with him and have to share him with these
women from his past. I'm thinking of leaving him. Is
this a wise decision or not? All right? Is anybody
else confused? I'm so confused. Are you dating this man?
Are you married to this man? Is he is he
your husband? Is he your boyfriend? Are you married and
(02:33):
writing us about your boyfriend? I'm very confused right now,
And yes, leaving him would be a wise decision. You're unhappy.
Your man is still talking to his exes. He's not
gonna stop. If he was that into you, he would
respect your wishes about not communicating with these women. None
of them respect you. He doesn't, for sure, and you
know that. But the girl that's calling him all the time,
(02:55):
dropping her location and all that, she has no regard
for what you and him have going on. He probably
didn't even tell her. I don't know. I don't know
what's going on in this letter. I have no idea.
You say you don't want to fall in love with him, Well,
don't fall in love with him because he doesn't love you.
And you better hope your husband doesn't find out. Steve,
(03:16):
what is going on? I'm so damned confused. She married?
Does she have a boyfriend? Let me just read the
letter back and maybe you all can help me and
Shirley out his past, won't Lady Malet did Stephen Shirley,
I'm dating a man that's so tied to his past.
It won't let him last. We are not going to
(03:38):
make it because he's always talking to his ex girlfriends
and his ex wife. He's got a child in his
life that's not his, but he told me that the
boy will always be a part of his life. His
ex girlfriend was pregnant when they started dating, and he
raised the child for three youths. Let's stop right here
for a minute. What actual confused too? You know he
(04:01):
always talking to you because ex girlfriends and the next wife.
I ain't got no conversation with none of them. They
excess for a reason. A lot of people can't move
forward because they because because they keep living in the past.
Hit a part that got me. His ex girlfriend was
pregnant when they started dating, and he raised what excuse me,
(04:22):
say what you want to say about me? I ain't
that good a man. I meet you, you pregnant? Were dating? What? No?
No, no no, we're dating and congratulations y'all that's not mine?
Doog at the gate? No, no, no, no no, no, no,
I'm not gonna say that. Man, y'all look so happy together.
(04:46):
Well we just got together. That's somebody else, dab I ain't.
I ain't there. Excuse me. If anybody had a man
that did that congratulation, you found the real ral one.
I ain't that ral called me, called me regless, and
most me and I know. Anyway, Then they broke up
(05:09):
and he got married. So this guy got married. The
ex wife let the boy come over and spend time
at the house. So I'm assuming that him and the
wife that he married got divorced, but then as an
ex they still let him come over. Then the letter
(05:29):
takes another dog ass turned and it says, now that
I'm married, I don't have time for the boy because
his mother is not nice to me. Who got married?
Who got married? Did you marry the dude that had
the ex wife? And now you ain't got time for
the boy? Okay, I don't know. She called my boyfriend
(05:52):
and expect what boyfriend? Yeah, I thought you got married, right.
She calls my boy boy friend and expects him to
talk to her to she get home if she's out,
and then she drops her location to share her information.
With him. It's too much. Just let us too much.
I'm pissed off at your writing skills. You don't know
(06:15):
how to tell us story. This ignorant asked let us.
We can't help you because you're not telling her. Is
she married with a boyfriend? I don't know who she did.
I'm so confused. We can't help you married. We don't
(06:35):
know who your bard friend is? Who is your husband?
I'm really all right, hold on, I'm starting out to
care about this little bar No damn more, because all right,
we care nothing about. Three minutes after the hour, we
got heart two of the Strawberry Letter. Who pass won't
let him last? We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
(07:00):
Strawberry Letter if we can, and try to finish up
your response. This is confusing. First of all, this woman
says she ain't gonna make it because her man is
always talking to his ex girlfriends and his ex wife.
Then he got a child that's not his because when
he met this girl, she was pregnant. He started dating
the while she was pregnant. Who this guy is? I
(07:21):
don't know that our men who can do that. Those
are special men. Congratulations. I tipped my hat to you.
I ain't that special. You're gonna have to have had
this baby. You're not caring if they did. We're going nowhere.
This is not about you. I'm not feeding all these people,
not right now, right away, all this, all this, all this,
(07:42):
I'm eating for two who. I don't know who? Who? Who?
The who? The two is? I don't know where it
comes from. My damn show didn't help make them, so
I'm not been to help this right here, you stop
now when they live ass human beings I could deal with,
But I ain't enter mbryo business fertilization. No, no, it
(08:04):
don't tell me, Steve this racket ass. That was so confusion.
I got every right to sound like I'm sound frustrate.
Then she come out. They broke up, and he got married,
and the ex wife let the boy come over and
spend time at the house. Now that I'm married, Who
who now? She says, Now I'm married, I don't have
time for the boy because his mother not nice to me. Okay,
(08:26):
somewhere in there, I think the lady and the letter
got married. She calls my boyfriend. Yeah, but now she
calls my boyfriend. So I'm thinking that boyfriend is on
the side. Yeah, it's husband and expects him to talk
to her to she get home and she's out and
she drops on location him or shares her uber information
(08:47):
with him, right, like he's her protective Well, he's married
to him and she's got a boyfriend. He says he's
nice to her because she's a single woman and she
wants he wants to be sure she's safe. I feel
like he's out of line and she is too. Then
as his ex wife that he had sex with in
the past six months right before we met. Oh wait
(09:11):
a minute, so you're not married to this dude. He
had sex with his ex wife six months right before
you met. Now watch this. He is honest about everything,
and I can't take it. Knew you were gonna I
knew you were gonna hone in on that line. I
knew you were did y'all hear this? Yes, Czy, he
(09:34):
is honest about everything. But first of all, she said,
he's honest about everything, and I can't take it. On
the other hand, I appreciate his honesty, but then I
can't handle it once I know what he's doing. That
doesn't make your case in your or your point more.
All of this story is we know everything you've done
(09:55):
because they can't handle it. They said it in the
movie Tommy probably know the name of the movie. You
can I hadn't handled the truth when he said that
the Marines, when he said it was about women. When
I from that line, you can't have We can't get
(10:19):
on the same page about anything when it comes to
his past. In mind, I thought he's being respectful by
cutting off. I thought I was being respectful by cutting
off my axes. And he said, it's not normal. It's
a crazy conflict that we have. And it seems like
we're compatible in every way except that y'all ain't compatible
at all. I don't want to fall in love with him.
You ain't fall in love with who who is nothing
(10:44):
to do with love, and it ain't. You can't fall
in love with him. You got to fall in love
with him and everybody he got because he don't cut
nobody loose your packet and packet, and they have to
fall in love with him. And I have to share
him with these women from his I'm thinking of leaving him.
Is this a wise decision? Now? I'm surprised. Why ain't
you gonna leave? Yeah? Why are you still here? Why
(11:08):
did you write us? So let me tell you what
me and Shirley don't care. Well, let me just speaks
for myself because Sheley at a high level of Christian Today,
let's start with this, right. I don't give him damn
about this dude, about any of his ex girlfriends. I
(11:30):
don't care about his ex wife. I don't really care
for the fact that he met a woman pregnant and
started date. I don't care about that. I don't care
that he raised the child for three years and they
broke up when he got married. I don't care numb
about him sleeping with his ex month ex wife six
months for y'all, man, I don't care if I'm really
(11:51):
sure if your asses is married or not. I don't
care if this dude is your boyfriend on the side.
And the big news is, I'm really starting not to
care about this child. And this child ain't had nothing
to do with the damn about this baby, right, This
baby was born into it. Blee the baby out of it. Yeah,
(12:12):
don't don't put the baby in it. He was born
into the confusion. The baby is not in it. He's
in the letter, and they tired of the baby because
somebody got married in this letter. We don't know who
it is. And they tired of the baby because now
they ain't married, So now everybody tied the baby. Why
I can't be tired of baby. I'm tired of it.
(12:33):
And you're reading the letters. They're married and she's got
a boyfriend on the side. Clearly, this let disaster listen
to me much. Let me say something about if your
life is this jacked up, don't write us because we
can't help and learn how to write, read and comprehend.
(12:54):
You don't nobody know what you're talking about. This low
level ass prison letter. You're sitting me and then you
just learned how to write last summer. If you've been
in literature whole damn life can stay Literally, it ain't
time to write into a national radio show and you
got the writing scale of a fo yo old We
don't type of time is next. You're listening to morning
(13:19):
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