Why Is He In My Brothers House

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m writing for my brother because he is too upset to do it for himself. My brother is 38 and his wife is 35 and she has planned a trip for Labor Day with two girlfriends and a guy that has been her friend since they were 18 years old. This guy was married before and he has one child. Now he’s no longer dating women..................................

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
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be guided for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank
you nephew. Subject why is he in my brother's house?
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm writing for my brother because he
is too upset to do it for himself. My brother
is thirty eight and his wife is thirty five, and
she has planned a trip for Labor Day with two
girlfriends and a guy that has been her friend since

(00:46):
they were eighteen years old. This guy was married before
and he has one child. Now he's no longer dating women.
He told my brother that he is a great new
man in his life, but he keeps him away from
his friends because it is not serious yet. My brother
told this guy it's imperative that he meet the boyfriend.
And here's wife. My sister in law is always with

(01:09):
this guy, and my brother thinks she's cheating on him
right in his face. Now the guy is going on
vacation with his wife, so my brother got really skeptical.
But that's not the biggest issue. We need to know
how far another man is allowed up in another man's house.
Last week, my brother came home and this man was

(01:30):
sitting in a shirt and shorts on the patio. His
wife was sleeping on the couch. The guy said they
had gone running in the neighborhood and he jumped in
the shower while she took a nap. The biggest issue
is that he took a shower in my brother's bathroom.
My brother uses the upstairs bathroom so his wife can
have the primary bathroom all to herself. There is a

(01:52):
shower downstairs in the other guest room, but this guy
went upstairs and used my brother's shower. My other feels
that this guy is way too comfortable in his house
and it's his wife's fault for letting him do it.
I agree with my brother and his wife needs to
be checked and this guy should not go on vacation
with her. What if his boyfriend doesn't even exist. I

(02:16):
am trying to stay out of it, So I need
your advice on how my brother should handle this situation. Okay, Sis,
it just sounds like someone might get hurt in this situation.
I don't know. I just feel that in my spirit somehow,
huh of course. Yeah, A lady write the letter or guy.

(02:37):
A sister wrote the letter for her brother because her
brother's too upset to write it. And I was just
going to get to that, Steve. It's confusing. This letter
is really confusing. But from what I gather, the wife
you guys suspect is cheating on her husband your brother
with the guy who she said is gay to throw

(02:59):
every one off. That's kind of what she's trying to
say here. And not only is your brother mad about
the cheating he thinks that he thinks is going on,
he really is angry that the guy is in his house,
using his shower and acting like it's okay because his
wife gave him permission, especially when there are other bathrooms

(03:19):
in the house. You're also asking for yourself and your brother,
how far should another man be allowed in a man's house.
And I'm going to tell you right now you shouldn't
even have to ask that question, because at your house
it's simple. You set the rules. It's a respect thing.
I don't care who it is. If you don't want
him in there, he shouldn't be in there, as simple

(03:40):
as that. I mean. And your wife, his wife, your
sister in law, should know better. She should never let
another man or anyone disrespect the household, especially your husband's things,
your husband's bathroom. She's wrong for this. I think it's
just a matter of time before the truth about her
and her so called gay best friend comes out. So

(04:02):
tell her you're you're going on the trip too, and
that will be nice time for the two of you
to reconnect and have some fun. That's what the husband
should say. See how she reacts. If she protests just
a little too much, that then you'll know that your
instincts are right and you can deal with her accordingly.
But all signs are pointing to she's cheating with this guy,

(04:25):
the so called gay friend of hers. I mean, he
has too much leeway in the house, all of that.
It's just too much. It's way too much, Steve, And
it's very confusing. I know that you know what treasure.
Yeah it is. I'm so darrel confused here. It is
very confused. Because let me read this letter with y'all

(04:46):
and let me just go as I'm feeling this letter. Okay,
we may not ever even get to the end. Why
is he in my brother's house? I'm confused with I'm
not a girl. Let me see this, Steven Shelley, I'm
writing for my brother because he is too upset to

(05:07):
do it for himself. Well, as we go through this letter,
we're gonna find out that your brother is incapable of
doing several things for himself, not only write this letter,
but he's too upset to do it for himself. Okay,
you've been calling in this little boy. My brother thirty eight,
his wife thirty five. She's playing a trip for Labor

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Day with two girlfriends and a guy that has been
her friends since they was eighteen years old. How many
times have I got to tell y'all about these male
friends that y'all keep thinking, just want to be your friend?
How many times we got to go over there? How
many letters do we need for y'all to get off

(05:49):
this trick trail and quit thinking this marriy go around,
don't come around. I'm so sickly up. This guy was
married before, he has one child, now he's no longer
dating women. Hello. Now I've heard of this. We've seen

(06:10):
it in famous people. A person starts living their truth
later on in life. That's lowable, that's doable, that's fine.
But now I don't know at what point he decided
he no longer dating women because he was making kids

(06:33):
a minute ago, so there had to be some type
of thought. Steve, Oh, girl coming up in twenty three
minutes alf hour time. Coming up today's strawberry letter? Why
is he in my brother's house? We'll be back right
after this. You're listening show, all right? Come on, Steve,

(06:56):
Let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject why is he
in my brother's house? This letter is beyond me ridiculous, y'all.
I ain't even touched on any points, so let me
try to do it quickly. Why is he in my
brother's house? I'm writing for my brother because he's too
upset to do it for himself. Your brother too upset
to righte, He too upset to do a lot of
things in this letter. Let's get to it. Ye, My

(07:19):
brother thirty eight is wife thirty five. She's playing a
trip for Labor Day with two girlfriends. And a guy
that's been her friends since they were eighteen years old.
I'd have told y'all about these opposite sex friends. I
have told y'all about this, but y'all don't believe me.
So this is another strawberry letter to help you understand.

(07:39):
This guy was married before, he has one child. Now
he's no longer dating women, but he's still friends with
your your wife though jo on date women no more,
But he didn't cut your wife out. He told my
brother that he has at new man in his life,

(08:02):
but he keeps him away from his friends because it
is not serious yet. Man, what First of all, if
you are my wife's friend me and you, ain't that
cool you telling me about a new man you got,

(08:23):
but you don't bring him around your friends yet because
it ain't that serious. Wait a minute, we ain't all
discovered the news yet that you don't date women no more,
So then you ain't brought him around your friends because
you don't know if it's serious yet. Have you told
your new friend that you don't date women no more?

(08:45):
Or maybe you've been running in this circle the whole time.
I don't know what's happening right here, but because of
hr I'm not gonna comment. I'm just gonna try to
keep moving. Okay, then my brother, your brother told this
guy's imperative that he meet the boyfriend and his Why what, man,

(09:08):
I don't give a damn what you doing. I ain't
gotta meet your damn Boyfrid. But here's why. Though my
sister in law is always with this guy that didn't
stopped liking women and date me and now and got
a child and used to be married. My sister in

(09:29):
law is always with this guy. My brother in law
thinks he's cheating on him right in his faith. Hold up,
So your brother thinks that his wife is cheating with
the guy that don't don't date women no more? That
then came up to him and now he wants to
meet this guy's new guy. But he didn't told him

(09:50):
and he don't wanted to meet yet because he don't know.
If it says that fam missed me with this, just say,
why is the ass whipping I started yet? Because I'm
trying to figure out if I think my wife is
cheating with a man. And then he come up in
my face and strike up any conversation I want to
meet this new guy? Well, it ain't serious yet, so
I ain't gonna bring her man pop dead in your jaw,

(10:11):
dead in your damn jaw. Now the guy is going
on vacation with his wife, So my brother got real skeptical.
But that's not the biggest issue. What it's more, keep reading.
We need to know how far another man is allowed

(10:33):
up in another man's house. Wait a minute, much. I
needn't know how you ain't allowed in my house, not
how far you ain't. You can't knock on the door,
rang the doughbell, you can't call my damn house. I
wish I would come home and you in it. Pardon
I can't take and all right, let's go. Last week,

(10:56):
my brother came home and this man was sitting in
the shirt and shorts on the patio. His wife was
sleep on the couch, knocked out. Probably that's she sleep
on the couch, knocked out. The guy said they had
gone running in the neighborhood and he jumped in the
shower while she took a nap. What right hold of?

(11:19):
You're so cool and comfortable You and my wife went running.
You didn't took a shower in my house? In my house,
just ain't our house. No more. See when it comes
to a man, the man, no, it's the other man's house.
I don't care what the wife say. You already know
you need to check with this man. The biggest issue

(11:43):
is that he took a shower in my brother's bathroom.
Hold on, dog, you're in my room. Man. My brother
uses the upstairs bathroom to his wife can have the
primary bathroom all to himself. There's a shower down stairs
in the other guest room, but this guy went upstairs
and used my brother's show. You ain't what I'm standing
because that's why the bad room man might as well

(12:03):
go around the corner. Why you think she downstairs knocked
out on the couch? Right man, I'm here, I'm in
here whopping so much. Ask I'm telling right now you
can't count the asses. Let's getting the whoop. Everybody that
got some the lawn boarding, got something on the way
in the milkman, the mail man that got some as
car repair dude and got to ask whoopen? You don

(12:25):
got to ask whoop from right man? He don't even
have ass, no ball. My brother feels that this guy's
way too comfortable in this house and his wife's fault
for letting him do it. No dog is your fault
because you letting him do it. You let this man
come up in your house and sit round and you
ain't at the house. Oh man, This ain't on your wife,
that's on you. You're being disrespected on so many levels.

(12:46):
This is an ignorant ass letter. Should I agree with
my brother and his wife needs to be checked and
this guy should not go on vacation with her. What
is his boyfriend doesn't exist. I'm trying to stay out
of it, so I need your advice on her. My
brothers can't handle this situation. Your brother need to star
Wolman somebody all right, Thank you, Steve. Coming up next,

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