October 21, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 47 and I’ve been dating a man that is married to a woman with a very nasty personality and she is ugly inside and out. I went to college with her and she had a few fights with women over her boyfriend back then. She has made my current boyfriend miserable for 12 years and they are finally getting a divorce. Since I’ve been dating her husband, I see that he’s being bullied by her. I didn’t want to believe it at first but she talks to him like he’s a weakling and he won’t say anything to her because she hits below the belt............................
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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It is thank you nephew. Subject she is going to
make me pop her. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm forty seven
and I've been dating a man that is married to
a woman with a very nasty personality, and she is
(00:43):
ugly inside and out. Do I need to read that
again for anyone? I went to college with her and
she had a few fights with women over her boyfriend
back then. She has made my current boyfriend miserable for
twelve years and they are finally getting a divorce. Since
I've been dating her husband, I see that he's being
(01:05):
bullied by her. I didn't want to believe it at first,
but she talks to him like he's a weakling, and
he won't say anything to her. Because she hits below
the belt. Recently, she shattered his cell phone and he
came to my house upset. I put him on my
phone plan and that's when she found out about me.
He called her one day and my name came up
(01:26):
on the caller ID at their house. If he feels threatened,
he comes to my house. He thinks she is going
to put her hands on him one day, and I
can't allow that to happen because he's a calm and
even tempered man. She has passed by my house. She
sat in my driveway before we let her. We let
her sit and look stupid because her marriage is over
(01:48):
and we're hoping she just goes away soon. This morning,
she was behind me in the drive through and I
was very nervous. I'm telling you that if she comes
in my face, I'm going to pop her. I have
everything to lose, but it will be worth it because
I've seen her mess with people for years. What she
doesn't know is I take boxing lessons as part of
(02:10):
my workout. She has one more time to crush my
man's spirit or damage his property. I know I'm wrong
for having this affair, but I love this man. Would
I be wrong? If I popped her one good time.
I can't even believe you're asking that question. Seriously, lady, seriously,
I really think this letter is a waste of our time.
(02:32):
What you're asking the first line in this letter is
totally ridiculous. You're dating a man who is married to
a very nasty woman, A very nasty woman with a
nasty personality. Blah blah blah. Whatever you said. Is she
supposed to be nice and pleasant and kind to you.
You're dating her husband. You're the other woman. You have
(02:55):
no leg to stand on here. If he's planning on
divorcing her, well, why hasn't he done? It sounds like
he's scared anyway. And in the meantime, who named you
his bodyguard? You're out of line on this one. You
sound crazy. And if this man continues to let you
fight his battles and can't stand up for himself, why
(03:18):
would you even want to be with him? Go ahead,
you can pop her if you want to. But I
don't think it's gonna go like you think it's gonna go.
You were very nervous when she was just sitting behind
you at the drive through. She hadn't even gotten out
of the car or anything. And please don't expect any
help from him, mister Coleman and mile tempered because he's
(03:39):
scared of her. He's hiding behind you. I think it's
a good thing you're taking boxing lessons, because it sounds
like you might need them real soon. I say, leave
him alone, leave her alone until they get divorced. That's
the proper way to handle a situation like this. But
I know it's too late for that advice because you're
all in now, Steve. Well, lady, the subject is she
(04:04):
gonna make me poper. Now what I see in this
letter's just been building up for a while. Forty seven
dating a man that is married. Once you say that,
whatever you say after that, really, really it don't even
have to be because see, if you just wasn't dating
(04:26):
the man that's married, we don't have this letter, right.
So see, you complicated your life by complicating a situation.
I've been dating a man, this man that's gonna come
with some situations, that's gonna come with the stipulations, problems.
But she's married to a woman with a very nasty personality.
(04:49):
She is ugly inside and out. And you know how
she noticed because she went to college with her, and
she had a few fights with women over her boyfriend
back then. Well, now let's go over this please. She
(05:11):
obviously you are calling her ugly in and out, but
seemed to me like according to this letter, she keep
a man. She didn't had a man in college. She
got a man. Naw, you didn't hand no man in college.
You ain't married, So I don't know if she really
(05:32):
that ugly. Something going on because she keep a man
and you obviously don't. You didn't hand a man in college.
It ain't work out for you, and you ain't got
no husband, so you got a hoss. She has made
my current boyfriend miserable for twelve years and they finally
getting a divorce. That's a slight uh, ironie in this statement,
(05:57):
she has made my current boyfriend, but your leading out
is her husband. It is her husband. What doesn't she
get about that? That's so confused? Yes, and she's made
him miserable for twelve years, and how do you know
accept that's what they told you and they finally get
(06:18):
into divorce that since I've been dating her husband. See
right there, you keep plugging in information that determines how
bad your life is. You're just saying the real simple
right there. Since I've been dating her husband, I see
he's being bullied by her. Well, when we come back,
we're gonna find out, jest how much a little boy
(06:39):
being getting bullied by the school. All right, hang on, Steve,
coming up with twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll
have part two of your response. The subject of today's
strawberry letters, she's going to make me pop her. We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right,
Come on, Steve, let's recap today strawberry letter. The subject
(07:01):
she is going to make me pop her? For the
seven year old lady Dayton, a married man. We're off
to a rough start in this letter, but that's high stars.
But he's married to a woman who with a very
nasty personality. She ugly inside and out. And the way
she noticed it's because she went to college with her
and she had a few fights with women over her
(07:21):
boardfriend back then. Well, now she keep a man, that's
always the case, and she keep a man that other
women won't. So the lady that you think is so
ugly in and out keep having me and that other
women won't. And now you won't the one she got
(07:41):
now the other women wanted the one she had in college.
Maybe that's why she got a nasty attitude. Everybody want
what she got? Whoa hello? Could this be it? And
then you know they finally getting a divorce now because
he'd made a like miserable for twelve years. And since
(08:01):
I've been dating her husband, she put that line in
there like we weren't gonna notice it. So since I've
been dating her husband, I see that he's being bullied
by her. I didn't want to believe it at first,
but she talks to him like he's a weakling, and
he won't say anything to her because she hits below
the belt. Wait a minute, so you're trying to tell
me that this man won't say nothing back to her
(08:23):
because she treats him like a weakly. You can't treat
nobody like a weakling. That ain't a weekly And then
he won't say anything to her because she hits below
the belt. Well we both swinging low. Then you know
I'd stay with you, but you're too small for me.
(08:44):
Well let's swing back. I'd stay with you, but you're
too big for me. See See how that worked. See
we can all hurt each other. But you don't want
to do that that hurt. She talked to him like
he's a weakling. He won't say anything because she hit
below to it. Recently, she shouted his cell phone. He
(09:05):
came to my house upset. She broke my phone that
was in there talking and I broke it, so I
put him on my phone plan and that's when she
found out about me. He called. He called her one
day and my name came up on the call of
I d at day house. How stupid is this food?
He really he feels threatened, he comes to my house.
(09:30):
If he feels threatened, he come to mama house. Go
tell my mama. He thinks she's gonna put her hands
on him one day and she gonna hit me. And
when she hit me, I don't know what I want
to do. I can't a lot that to happen because
he's a calm and even tempered man. He's a weakling.
She has passed by my house and she said in
(09:52):
my driveway before, yeah, she gonna kill y'all. She yeah,
just coming, just coming. See that her sitting look stupid
because her marriage is over and we're hoping she just
goes away. Soon. This morning she was behind me in
the drive through. I was very nervous, as you should be.
(10:12):
I immediately don't want no chicken naw. I'm telling you
right now, if the enemy is behind me in the car,
I'm getting out this damn lying. And this morning she
was behind me in the drive through, and I was
very mir nervous. Man, here we go. I'm telling you
(10:33):
that if she comes in my face, I'm gonna pop up.
I have everything to lose, but it'll be worth it
because I've seen her mess with people for years because
she don't know though, I been taking boxing lessons right there,
let me tell you somethbody boxing lessons, lady, don't let
(10:56):
them lessons get your ass. Whoop the mis boxing less sense,
less sentence, the bag, don't punch back people, don't fight
like that. You f in the hood. Fight Look, get
a damn but where y'all f in the grab hair?
(11:16):
I fen to put my baby finger in your nostril? Now,
what's your boxing lessen fitting to help you with? With that?
I said, I'm gonna put my baby finger in your nostril, okay,
and then I'm gonna take fight. What is your boxing lesson?
Fitting to do. She don't know. I've been taking boxing
(11:38):
lessons as part of my work. Right, she got one
more time to crush my man's spirit or damage his property. Well,
you can't put him a paper. I know I'm wrong
for having us a fan or thing ding, that's the
whole letters off. But I love this man. Would I
be wrong if I popped up with good one good time?
But you might discover something. Yeah, go ahead, you might
(12:02):
discover to them. You need to get your money back
on the boxing lessons, so you might have to ask
for that. You don't You don't think she didn't have.
You just said in college. Listen to me, I went
to college with her. She had a few fights with
women over her boyfriend back then. Sound to me like
(12:23):
she won. You've been a jump on a woman that's
got fight women experience. You ain't fault nobody. Lady, lady,
I can't help you with this letter right here. I
understand you love him and they probably are gonna get
a divorce. But you know, maybe I don't know. Maybe
it's good to be man to a soft man. I
(12:43):
don't know. I can't help. It's gonna be wonderful. Well,
she's just dating him. No, she loves this man. Yeah,
she got one more time to bully him or destroy
his problem. Break another phone to see what I do?
All right? Leave us your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter
(13:05):
on Instagram and Steve Harvey FM, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now. Coming up next, William
Morris and Endeavors CEO Ari Emmanuel advises companies to stop
doing business with Kanye We'll talk about it right after this.
You're listening to The Stave Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARFM dot com.
Click the Strawberry Letter button and write us and it
could be your letter we're reading today. You never know.
We write us because we always want to hear from
(00:23):
you and help you. You never know, so buckle up,
hold on, Tyke, we got it for you. Strawberry Letter.
It is thank you nephew. Subject she is going to
make me pop her. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm forty seven
and I've been dating a man that is married to
a woman with a very nasty personality, and she is
(00:43):
ugly inside and out. Do I need to read that
again for anyone? I went to college with her and
she had a few fights with women over her boyfriend
back then. She has made my current boyfriend miserable for
twelve years and they are finally getting a divorce. Since
I've been dating her husband, I see that he's being
(01:05):
bullied by her. I didn't want to believe it at first,
but she talks to him like he's a weakling, and
he won't say anything to her. Because she hits below
the belt. Recently, she shattered his cell phone and he
came to my house upset. I put him on my
phone plan and that's when she found out about me.
He called her one day and my name came up
(01:26):
on the caller ID at their house. If he feels threatened,
he comes to my house. He thinks she is going
to put her hands on him one day, and I
can't allow that to happen because he's a calm and
even tempered man. She has passed by my house. She
sat in my driveway before we let her. We let
her sit and look stupid because her marriage is over
(01:48):
and we're hoping she just goes away soon. This morning,
she was behind me in the drive through and I
was very nervous. I'm telling you that if she comes
in my face, I'm going to pop her. I have
everything to lose, but it will be worth it because
I've seen her mess with people for years. What she
doesn't know is I take boxing lessons as part of
(02:10):
my workout. She has one more time to crush my
man's spirit or damage his property. I know I'm wrong
for having this affair, but I love this man. Would
I be wrong? If I popped her one good time.
I can't even believe you're asking that question. Seriously, lady, seriously,
I really think this letter is a waste of our time.
(02:32):
What you're asking the first line in this letter is
totally ridiculous. You're dating a man who is married to
a very nasty woman, A very nasty woman with a
nasty personality. Blah blah blah. Whatever you said. Is she
supposed to be nice and pleasant and kind to you.
You're dating her husband. You're the other woman. You have
(02:55):
no leg to stand on here. If he's planning on
divorcing her, well, why hasn't he done? It sounds like
he's scared anyway. And in the meantime, who named you
his bodyguard? You're out of line on this one. You
sound crazy. And if this man continues to let you
fight his battles and can't stand up for himself, why
(03:18):
would you even want to be with him? Go ahead,
you can pop her if you want to. But I
don't think it's gonna go like you think it's gonna go.
You were very nervous when she was just sitting behind
you at the drive through. She hadn't even gotten out
of the car or anything. And please don't expect any
help from him, mister Coleman and mile tempered because he's
(03:39):
scared of her. He's hiding behind you. I think it's
a good thing you're taking boxing lessons, because it sounds
like you might need them real soon. I say, leave
him alone, leave her alone until they get divorced. That's
the proper way to handle a situation like this. But
I know it's too late for that advice because you're
all in now, Steve. Well, lady, the subject is she
(04:04):
gonna make me poper. Now what I see in this
letter's just been building up for a while. Forty seven
dating a man that is married. Once you say that,
whatever you say after that, really, really it don't even
have to be because see, if you just wasn't dating
(04:26):
the man that's married, we don't have this letter, right.
So see, you complicated your life by complicating a situation.
I've been dating a man, this man that's gonna come
with some situations, that's gonna come with the stipulations, problems.
But she's married to a woman with a very nasty personality.
(04:49):
She is ugly inside and out. And you know how
she noticed because she went to college with her, and
she had a few fights with women over her boyfriend
back then. Well, now let's go over this please. She
(05:11):
obviously you are calling her ugly in and out, but
seemed to me like according to this letter, she keep
a man. She didn't had a man in college. She
got a man. Naw, you didn't hand no man in college.
You ain't married, So I don't know if she really
(05:32):
that ugly. Something going on because she keep a man
and you obviously don't. You didn't hand a man in college.
It ain't work out for you, and you ain't got
no husband, so you got a hoss. She has made
my current boyfriend miserable for twelve years and they finally
getting a divorce. That's a slight uh, ironie in this statement,
(05:57):
she has made my current boyfriend, but your leading out
is her husband. It is her husband. What doesn't she
get about that? That's so confused? Yes, and she's made
him miserable for twelve years, and how do you know
accept that's what they told you and they finally get
(06:18):
into divorce that since I've been dating her husband. See
right there, you keep plugging in information that determines how
bad your life is. You're just saying the real simple
right there. Since I've been dating her husband, I see
he's being bullied by her. Well, when we come back,
we're gonna find out, jest how much a little boy
(06:39):
being getting bullied by the school. All right, hang on, Steve,
coming up with twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll
have part two of your response. The subject of today's
strawberry letters, she's going to make me pop her. We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right,
Come on, Steve, let's recap today strawberry letter. The subject
(07:01):
she is going to make me pop her? For the
seven year old lady Dayton, a married man. We're off
to a rough start in this letter, but that's high stars.
But he's married to a woman who with a very
nasty personality. She ugly inside and out. And the way
she noticed it's because she went to college with her
and she had a few fights with women over her
(07:21):
boardfriend back then. Well, now she keep a man, that's
always the case, and she keep a man that other
women won't. So the lady that you think is so
ugly in and out keep having me and that other
women won't. And now you won't the one she got
(07:41):
now the other women wanted the one she had in college.
Maybe that's why she got a nasty attitude. Everybody want
what she got? Whoa hello? Could this be it? And
then you know they finally getting a divorce now because
he'd made a like miserable for twelve years. And since
(08:01):
I've been dating her husband, she put that line in
there like we weren't gonna notice it. So since I've
been dating her husband, I see that he's being bullied
by her. I didn't want to believe it at first,
but she talks to him like he's a weakling, and
he won't say anything to her because she hits below
the belt. Wait a minute, so you're trying to tell
me that this man won't say nothing back to her
(08:23):
because she treats him like a weakly. You can't treat
nobody like a weakling. That ain't a weekly And then
he won't say anything to her because she hits below
the belt. Well we both swinging low. Then you know
I'd stay with you, but you're too small for me.
(08:44):
Well let's swing back. I'd stay with you, but you're
too big for me. See See how that worked. See
we can all hurt each other. But you don't want
to do that that hurt. She talked to him like
he's a weakling. He won't say anything because she hit
below to it. Recently, she shouted his cell phone. He
(09:05):
came to my house upset. She broke my phone that
was in there talking and I broke it, so I
put him on my phone plan and that's when she
found out about me. He called. He called her one
day and my name came up on the call of
I d at day house. How stupid is this food?
He really he feels threatened, he comes to my house.
(09:30):
If he feels threatened, he come to mama house. Go
tell my mama. He thinks she's gonna put her hands
on him one day and she gonna hit me. And
when she hit me, I don't know what I want
to do. I can't a lot that to happen because
he's a calm and even tempered man. He's a weakling.
She has passed by my house and she said in
(09:52):
my driveway before, yeah, she gonna kill y'all. She yeah,
just coming, just coming. See that her sitting look stupid
because her marriage is over and we're hoping she just
goes away. Soon. This morning she was behind me in
the drive through. I was very nervous, as you should be.
(10:12):
I immediately don't want no chicken naw. I'm telling you
right now, if the enemy is behind me in the car,
I'm getting out this damn lying. And this morning she
was behind me in the drive through, and I was
very mir nervous. Man, here we go. I'm telling you
(10:33):
that if she comes in my face, I'm gonna pop up.
I have everything to lose, but it'll be worth it
because I've seen her mess with people for years because
she don't know though, I been taking boxing lessons right there,
let me tell you somethbody boxing lessons, lady, don't let
(10:56):
them lessons get your ass. Whoop the mis boxing less sense,
less sentence, the bag, don't punch back people, don't fight
like that. You f in the hood. Fight Look, get
a damn but where y'all f in the grab hair?
(11:16):
I fen to put my baby finger in your nostril? Now,
what's your boxing lessen fitting to help you with? With that?
I said, I'm gonna put my baby finger in your nostril, okay,
and then I'm gonna take fight. What is your boxing lesson?
Fitting to do. She don't know. I've been taking boxing
(11:38):
lessons as part of my work. Right, she got one
more time to crush my man's spirit or damage his property. Well,
you can't put him a paper. I know I'm wrong
for having us a fan or thing ding, that's the
whole letters off. But I love this man. Would I
be wrong if I popped up with good one good time?
But you might discover something. Yeah, go ahead, you might
(12:02):
discover to them. You need to get your money back
on the boxing lessons, so you might have to ask
for that. You don't You don't think she didn't have.
You just said in college. Listen to me, I went
to college with her. She had a few fights with
women over her boyfriend back then. Sound to me like
(12:23):
she won. You've been a jump on a woman that's
got fight women experience. You ain't fault nobody. Lady, lady,
I can't help you with this letter right here. I
understand you love him and they probably are gonna get
a divorce. But you know, maybe I don't know. Maybe
it's good to be man to a soft man. I
(12:43):
don't know. I can't help. It's gonna be wonderful. Well,
she's just dating him. No, she loves this man. Yeah,
she got one more time to bully him or destroy
his problem. Break another phone to see what I do?
All right? Leave us your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter
(13:05):
on Instagram and Steve Harvey FM, and check out the
Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now. Coming up next, William
Morris and Endeavors CEO Ari Emmanuel advises companies to stop
doing business with Kanye We'll talk about it right after this.
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